Page 1

The Gift  of  Applause     Are  you  able  to  celebrate  with  someone  when  they  achieve   success,  or  are  you  the  wet  blanket  type  that  shrouds  other   people’s  joy?  Can  you  congratulate  someone  who’s  gotten  a   promotion,  received  a  raise  or  won  an  event?  If  a  competitor’s   business  is  doing  better  than  yours,  are  you  congenial  or  are  you   jealous?  Do  you  talk  about  successful  people  behind  their  backs  in   an  effort  to  tear  them  down  and  make  yourself  look  better?     Celebrating  with  others  should  happen  more  than  just  at  birthday   or  anniversary  parties.  It  is  better  if  people  are  quick  at  noticing,   honouring  and  celebrating  the  successes  achieved  by  the  people   closest  to  them.  That  means  being  willing  to  pat  someone  else  on   the  back  when  appropriate.  It  may  mean  sending  words  of   congratulation,  even  when  you  don’t  necessarily  feel  like  it.  A  little   praise  for  others  now  and  then  hurts  no  one  and  goes  very  far.     If  you  don’t  feel  like  honouring  another,  you  might  want  to  ask   yourself  why.  Maybe  you’ve  been  hurt  in  the  process,  or  maybe   their  success  has  meant  you’ve  suffered  a  loss.  Someone  always   has  to  lose  the  race  that  another  will  win.  The  cost  of  staying  angry   or  jealous,  however,  is  high.  Being  able  to  celebrate  with  others   takes  courage  sometimes.  It  means  putting  jealousy  aside  in  order   to  act  toward  others  as  you  wish  they  would  act  toward  you,  had   you  been  the  successful  one.     It’s  easy  to  feel  puny  when  others  around  you  seem  to  be  having   success.  You  may  be  struggling  long  and  hard  yourself  to  find   success  of  your  own.  Sometimes  it  seems  others  have  all  the  luck.   It’s  easy  to  feel  threatened  by  the  success  of  others  too,  especially   if  they  are  workmates,  siblings,  neighbours  or  competitors.  You   never  really  know  just  how  hard  a  person  has  had  to  work,  though,   in  order  to  achieve  what  they  have  achieved.  A  little   congratulating  might  give  them  the  boost  they  crave  after  all  the   hard  work  they’ve  put  in.  

To be  able  to  congratulate  others  means  resisting  the  urge  to   compare  yourself  to  them.  Let  their  accomplishments  be  theirs   alone.  To  be  an  effective  cheerleader  means  being  quick  to  douse   any  envy  or  sparks  of  jealousy,  and  to  replace  those  feelings  with   true  happiness  for  the  other  person.     It’s  not  always  easy  to  be  cheerleader,  but  it  is  the  best  way  to   behave  in  relation  to  others.  What  you  do  for  others,  you  will   eventually  reap.  If  you  act  angry,  jealous  or  have  a  habit  of  putting   others  down  so  that  you  can  build  yourself  up,  you  are  fooling  no   one.  You  will  turn  people  off  and  possibly  hurt  their  feelings.  Isn’t   it  better  to  be  well-­‐liked?  Isn’t  it  better  to  be  seen  as  a  team  player   instead?     We  all  like  to  receive  applause.  It  is  a  tough  commodity  to  find.   Being  happy  for  others  when  they  succeed  does  take  maturity  and   it  is  a  trait  that  is  seldom  seen  today.  Why  not  become  the  gem  in   other’s  lives  by  becoming  the  kind  of  person  that  offers  the  gift  of   praise?  If  you  have  the  chance  to  encourage  someone  by   applauding  their  work  or  achievements,  do  it.  You  will  feel  good   about  yourself,  you  will  help  them  feel  validated  and  you  will  reap   good  rewards.  

The gift of applause  
The gift of applause  

Jealousy and envy are very common traits in people. Being able to rise above them to be a cheerleader for others takes maturity. This articl...