FINDING THE S T R E N G T H RECONNECT
Te x t b y C a n d a c e M a t t i n g l y
Marriage is hard work and staying happy in the relationship is even harder. All things need maintenance to keep them working. We repair our cars and our homes, but for some reason we hesitate to fix our relationships. The divorce rate in the United States still hovers around 50%, even though according to an analysis of Decennial Census and American Community Survey data by Pew Research Center we marry later and fewer of us marry at all. “All couples are made with two different people. No two people in the world are alike,” says Dr. Fran Walfish, Beverly Hills relationship psychotherapist, author, The Self-Aware Parent, and expert co-star on Sex Box, WE tv, “great couples learn to build upon those differences. They build upon each other’s strengths and let each other minimize their weaknesses.” No one person is perfect. Mistakes happen. Communication breaks down. But when all the pressure builds up inside without an outlet, there are pieces of ourselves that start to falter. Perhaps we don’t confront it because we don’t want to hear the worst about ourselves or fear that our partner will respond negatively. Whatever the reasons for the breakdown in the marriage, it is time to recover and reconnect - with yourself and your partner.
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