BH Seven | November 2021

As we move into thelastmonth of autumn, the treesand shrubsare showingtheir fantasticcolours in the shallowsunshine, the eveningsaregettingdarkerandwe cannow startthinkingabout cosy nights spentat home.

Although it mayseem alittleearly to start thinkingaboutChristmas, time goesby so quickly anditwillsoonbewith usbeforewe know it.Withthisinmindthere are afew thingsto putonyour calendarthismonth: CADArtsareholding aChristmas Boutique from19thNovember -19th December at The Hayloft,Christchurchwhere youwillget some ideas forlovelyuniquegiftsfor allthe family. Therewill also be lots entertainment for everyoneduringDecemberwhenChristchurch Rotaryhave organisedafantastic Living Advent Calendarwitha different live performance takingplace each day ofthe month –seepage 52 fordetails.

Butwherever youare pleasesetaside2 minutessilenceonNovember11th to remember the sacrifices madeby service menandwomen allovertheworld.

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CreamyChickenHotpot

Ingredients:

• 4 baking potatoes, sliced

• 500 grams chicken breast (diced)

• 1 small tin of sweetcorn

• 4 rashers of bacon (sliced)

• 1 red pepper (diced)

• 250 grams (chopped)

• 1 onion (finely diced)

• 200 grams cream cheese

• 0.5 litre chicken stock

• 200ml double cream

• 1 teaspoon of tarragon

• 1 garlic clove (crushed)

• 300 grams of leeks (sliced)

• 1 tablespoon of mustard

• 6 carrots (peeled and sliced)

• 150 grams of peas

Directions:

1 Pre heat oven to 180° C/ Gas 4

2. In a saucepan bring the stock to the boil and season with salt, pepper and tarragon. Reduce the heat and allow to simmer until stock has reduced slightly.

3. Meanwhile add the chicken, mushrooms, bacon, pepper, onion, garlic clove and sweetcorn into a large frying pan and cook through.

4. Par boil potatoes in salted water for 5 minutes

5. Add the cheese, mustard and cream to the stock and mix well. Make sure that it doesn’t boil or overheat. This should soon thicken up, but if not add 1 tablespoon of flour to thicken it.

6 Put the chicken mixture with the carrots, leeks and peas in an oven proof dish and pour the sauce over the top, mix if needed.

7. Place the sliced potatoes over the top ensuring that there are no gaps and they are level then evenly brush the potatoes with oil and bake in the oven for 30 mins or until the potatoes are crispy.

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BookReview

TheLincolnHighwaybyAmor Towles£20(ourprice£16)

Fromtheauthorofthemulti-millionbestseller AGentlemanInMoscowcomesa newnovelsetin1950sAmerica. Withhismotherlonggone,hisfatherrecently deceased,andthefamilyfarmforecloseduponbythebank,Emmettplansto pickuphiseight-year-oldbrotherBillyandheadtoCaliforniatostart anewlife. Butwhenthewardendrivesaway,Emmettdiscoversthattwofriendsfromthe workfarmhavestowedawayinthetrunkofthewarden’scar.Theyhave avery differentplanforEmmett’sfuture,onethatwilltakethefourofthemon afateful journeyintheoppositedirection -toNew YorkCity.Burstingwithlife,charm, richlyimaginedsettingsandunforgettablecharacters,TheLincolnHighwayis anextraordinaryjourneythrough1950sAmericafromthepenofa masterstoryteller.

Wild Waters: AWildlifeand WaterLover’sCompaniontotheAquatic WorldbySusanneMasters£20

Wild Waters is acelebrationofthebreadthofwildlifethatcanbefoundinand aroundourvariedwaterways,fromoceansandriversto rockpoolsandponds. Armchairexplorerscan read afascinatingaccountofhowaquaticplantsand animalsenrichhumanlife.Swimmers,paddleboarders,dogwalkers,families andanyonewith apassionforthegreatoutdoorscanlearnaboutlocalwildlife, includingwhenandwheretolookfordifferentspecieswithoutcausing anyharm.

Everyotherbreathwetakeisfilledwithoxygenprovidedbyocean-dwelling microscopicplants. Atypeofseaweedprovides ameans todirectlytest whetherpeopleareinfectedwithviruses.Roboticsdesigntakesinspiration from apike’sabilitytoacceleratewithgreaterg-forcethan aPorsche.With stunningillustrationsbyAliceGoodridge, Wild Watersprovides atantalising insightintotheworldbeneaththesurface.

Nature’sTreasures :TalesOfMoreThan100ExtraordinaryObjects FromNaturebyBenHoare£20.Forages 7-12

Theworldisfilledwithcuriousobjectsmadebyplants,animals,andevenby theEarthitself.Diveintothiscollectionofmorethan100intriguingitemsfrom thenaturalworldanddiscoverthestoriesbehindthem.Learnhowbristly mouthshelphugewhalescapturetinyanimals,howminutescalesmake butterfliesshineinthesunlight,andhowstudying aleafskeletoncantellus howittransportsfood.

Arrangedintofourchapters;Animals;Plants;Fungi,andAlgae;Minerals andRocks,Nature’sTreasurestakesyouon atourofourplanetthrough commonplacebutincredibleobjectsmadebynatureitself.Thisbookisfor everyinquisitivechildwholovestospotthingswhenexploringoutsideand wantstoknowmoreaboutthewonderfulandmysteriousnaturalworld.

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WineoftheMonth

PagosDeGalairGodello £13.49

Thismonthsfeaturedwineisthefantastic PagosDeGalairGodello,it follows inthefootstepsofits redcousinwhichfeaturedearlierthisyear. ThisWhitewineismadefrom100%Godellograpesgrowninthevillageof EntomainGalicia(NWSpain)Naturallyasitisgrown ashortdistancefrom mygirlfriendshometown,itratesveryhighly!

PagosdeGalairGodello isthe resultof arigorousselectionofgrapesfrom oldvineyards.Thesevineyardscontainabout10hectaresofvinesplanted inslateandgranitesoilandlieatmorethan600metresabovesealevel. Theyarecultivatedusingtraditionalagricultureandtheharvestismanual.

Inthewinery,the PagosdeGalir Godello grapesaregentlypressedand the resultingmustfermentsat acontrolledtemperatureof18ºCfor15-20 days.Thenthewineageswithitsleesfor4-5months.

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AreYou Fearing TheInvisible?

Fearisplayingsuch abigpartthesedaysin everyone’slives. Ifeelcompelledtowriteabout fearasmuchaspossible.

We allhavefears. Ihavethemtoo.Thereare things Iwanttodobutmyfearholdsmeback. Buttherehavebeentimeswhenmylackoffear haspropelledmeforward.

Attheageof24 ImovedtoLondonfrommysmall town. Ididnotknowthatmanypeoplethere,only 3infact,sothemovefeltdaunting. Ididnotknow Londoneither.Thiswaslikedivingintothedeep endof aswimmingpool.Itwasgoingtobe acase ofsinkorswim.

Myfriendssaid Iwouldprobablybemugged,and thepeoplewereunfriendly? Ilaughed, Iknewthey weretryingtowarnandtherefore,protectme.My replytothem?“Well,if Idon’t likeit, Iwillcome home,butbettertohavegivenit ago.”Thething is, Icouldnotworryaboutsomething Icouldnot quantifyordidnothaveanyexperienceof. To me theserumoursaboutLondonwerejusthearsay and Iwasgoingtotreatitassuch. Withinmonthsofmoving,havingspentweekend afterweekend,walkingaround, Ifound myselfin lovewithLondonandfeelingconfident, Imustsay. IhadneverexperiencedanypartofLondonthat didnotexciteme,andfearneverplayed apart, untilonenightwhereI couldhavealloweditto surface.

Ifound myselfin apartofSouthLondondeemed ‘rough’. Ididnotknowthisatthetimeandso hadno reason toworry.I hadmetsomeoneon holidayinCreteandweagreedtomeetin alocal pub. Iwasexcited,thiswas anewareaforme and alongtubejourneyfrommyNorthLondon abode.As Igottothetubestationandwalkedup thebusyhighstreet, Irealizedthatthisareawas ratherdifferentfromtheleafysuburb Icamefrom andperhaps Ishouldhavemywitsaboutme.I continuedtothepuband anicetimewashad.

Chuckingouttimecame,anditwasnowpast midnight. Ihadnooptionbuttogetthebusand thatinvolvedmewalkingupthestreettowardsthe nearestbusstop.

Isuddenly realizedthatitwaslate,and Ilooked outofplace,and Iwasonmyown.However,I forcedmyselftonotworryandtosimplykeep smiling. Irecallgettingontothebus,checking that IcouldgetbacktoNorthLondonand climbingthestairstothetopdeck.

Yousee Ihadnothingtofearbutfearitself. Keepingmythoughtspositiveandfocusingon thejourneyhome,helpedmetonotheedthe warningsofmyfriends.

Ifyoufindyourselffearfulrightnow,takeastep backand reflect,whatareyou really frightenedof?

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WheretoHeadforSome WinterSun

Whetheryoulikethebalmy temperaturesoftheMedoutside highseasonorprefersome realheat furtherafield –intheclassicwinter destinationsoftheCaribbean,the IndianOceanortheMiddleEast–Ihavesomethingtotemptyouinto awintersungetawaytoclaimyour doseof Vitamin Dthiswinter.

Barbados

Combiningstunningbeacheswith arichcolonialheritageand aparty spirit,thisisland-paradisehas avery specialatmosphereallofitsown–onethatbringspeoplebackyearafter year.Someofthebestsnorkelling anddivingintheworldisbefound here,aswellassurfing,hikingand someintriguingculturaldiscoveries.

Wheretostay:WavesResort &Spa is anall-inclusiveboutiquehotel beachfront resortbringingtogether asereneadult-onlyareaand alively

communalsectionwith afamilypool andcabanasandbeach. Wellnessis abigfocus,includingcircuittraining andyoga.

SandyLane,aBajanicononthe siteof aformersugarplantation, celebratesits60thbirthdayin2021. Asuperlativespaisamongits fantasticfacilities.

Dubai

Fast-changingandsuper-charged, thebestknownoftheEmiratesisa compellingmixofbeaches,malls, theme-parksanddesertadventures thatmeanallagesandtastescan havefunand relaxastheyplease. Perennialfavouritesincludewater sports,water-parkdaysout,souk shopping,creektoursbytraditional woodenabra,falconryanddunebashing,buthowevermanytimes youcomebackthere’llalwaysbe somethingnewtodiscover.

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Goldensands,thefamed MaspalomasDunes,rugged mountainlandscapes,atmospheric cities,townsandvillagesincluding thecapitalLasPalmas,wonderful cuisine,year-roundsunshine…The third-largestoftheCanaryIslands–almosthalfofwhichisis aprotected UNESCOBiosphereReserve–reallydoeshavesomethingtooffer everyone:beachlovers,thosewho wantanescapeintonatureand gentleormoreadrenaline-fuelled activitiesinthegreatoutdoors,keen golfers,families,foodies,stargazers andspaseekers.Flightsareavailable fromBournemouthAirportto GranCanaria.

Cyprus

Amixtureofsandybayslappedby turquoisewatersand arichhistory stretchingbackthousandsofyears havemadeCyprus ahotspotfor Europeanvisitors.Whilethebeaches arethedrawformany,theisland alsohas astrikingruggedinterior perfectforadventurouspursuits, includinghikingthroughthe Troodos Mountains.

Mauritius

It’sfamedforitspalm-fringedwhitesandbeaches,buttheislandthat Mark Twainclaimedheavenwas modelledonisalsotheunrivalled settingforanactiveholiday,too,with diving,snorkelling,kayaking,glassbottomboattours,catamaransailing andstand-uppaddleboardingallon offer.The beachesarealmostentirely encircledbycoral reefstodiscover, andthereare shipwreckstohappen upontoo.

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Looking ForIvy

By LaraineCousins

Mylifewastochangeforeverwhen Iwas toldonmy19thBirthdaythatmyfather wasadopted.Myfirst reactionwasof shockanddisbelief;everybodythatis affectedbyadoptionwillhaveexperienced thesamefeelings.Itissuch ashockto discoveryouarenotwhoyouthoughtyou were. Youthenrealisethatiftheadopted childhadstayedwiththebirthmotheryou wouldhavebeen acompletelydifferent personwith adifferentlife.

Myfatherhadn’tbeentoldthathewas adopteduntilhewas21whichlefthim feeling rejectedandunlovedforthe rest ofhislife,casting ashadowthatneverleft himandfromwhichhewasneverable to recover.I askedhimmanytimesif hewouldapplyforhisbirth records,but healwaystriedtoavoidtalkingaboutit andsaidhehadnointerestintracinghis birthmother.I continuedtosearchformy grandmotherfor40yearswithoutsuccess butdidn’treallydiscussitwithhim. Ijust wrotelettersfromtimetotimealways receiving repliessaying“sorryno recordsfound”.

Hesadlypassedawayin2011never knowingwhohisbirthfamilywereorwhere hecamefrom.Itbecamemyallconsuming obsessiontofindthetruthforhim.

Ifeltverystronglythatalthoughhehad neverknownwhohetrulywas,everybody thatcameafterhimshouldhavetheright toknowtheirhistory.

Itwasnotuntillaterthat Idiscovered legallytherighttoaccesshisbirth records haddiedwithmyfather.I couldnotand wouldnotacceptthisand Idecidedto challengethelawandtookthecasetothe HighCourt. Ialsodecidedto represent myself.Itwas ahugeundertaking,butI wasabsolutelydeterminedthat Iwould achievetheseeminglyimpossible.

SubsequentlythelawinParliamenthas nowbeenchangedanddescendantsof deceasedadoptedpersonsnowhavethe righttoaccessoriginalbirth records.They havetohaveanintermediarytodothis, buttheyarenow legallyentitled.Ithas changedthelivesofthousandsofpeople andtheynolongerhavetowonderwho theyare.

Aftertakingsometimeto relax, Ithen decidedthewaytobeabletohelpothers, whoseliveshadbeenaffectedbyadoption likemyself,wastotellmystory.Mybook ‘LookingForIvy’hasnowbeenpublished andisavailableonAmazon.Foranybody thathas adream,anythingispossible,if youwantsomethingbadlyenoughyoucan achieveit. Ihad adreamanditcametrue.

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BIRD WATCHING

By ValerieKelly

Birders’havebeentreatedto aremarkable spectacleduringthisautumnmigration withthearrivalofnumerousmajesticwhite storksvisitinglocallyand restingonSway Tower.ThestorkswererewildedonThe KneppEstatein WestSussex. Word soon gotaroundandthemagnificentcreatures werereportedtobe roostingonPeterson’s TowerinSway.

Earlythenextdayand afoggySeptember morningspectatorsheadedtoBarrows Laneandwhilescrutinisingthebirds withbinocularsandcameras,thestorks tookoff.Withgaspsofsurpriseand disillusionment agentlechatterdeveloped betweenon-lookers.Unluckyforsome whohadjustarrived!Asspectators dwindledthosewhohungaroundwere rewardedandastonishedasthebirds swiftly returned,jostlingfor aperchonthe smallerofPeterson’stowers, rooftops and surroundingwoodland.Withthehushof thefoggymorningthesoundofspreading wingsandswooshofthebirdstakingoff wasaccentuatedgivingthespectatora uniqueclose-upsensationastheytook flight.However,itwasnowturnfor the storkstobepatientwhiletheywaitedfor warmthermalssotheycouldleavetheir roostandcontinuetheirjourneywest.

Migrationhasbeenfascinatingandwell capturedbybirdphotographerScott Usher.

(Rarely recordedintheareawas aWryneck onHengistburyHeadwhichstayedfora fewdays. Wryneckscanbetrickytosee butthisone,attimes,showedverywell.

ThenewlyopenedhideonHengistbury Headhasbeenwellusedinthefirstmonth andmanypeopleseemtobeenjoying watchingthebirdsandthesquirrelwho frequentthefeeders.

WhinchatbyScott Usher

Snipe by ScottUsher

Storks by LeoPike

Wryneck by ScottUsher

LOCALHISTORY

Edmund Lyons,1st BaronLyons(1790-1858)

Hehas ashout at beingChristchurch’s most famousson. Edmund Lyons,a.k.a.1stBaron Lyons (1790-1858) wasbornatWhitehayesHouse, Burtonon20thNovember1790and went on to become anotableadmiral,includingduringthe Crimean War, when he commandedtheBlack Seafleet.

Edmund attendedhisfirstschoolinChristchurch Priory. Taken to sea forthefirsttime by his godfather,agedeight, heimmediatelydecided on anavalcareer.Leavingschoolin1801,aged tenoreleven,hejoinedthenavy as afirstclass volunteer.ByAugust1803he’d beenpromoted to midshipmanandservedinthe Med. Edmund still wasn’t 13.Furtherpromotions followedand by November1809he’d receivedhislieutenant’s commission.June1814sawEdmundadvanced to captain,theninJulyhemarried Augusta Louise Rogers.

Abreakfromseaduties followed, thenin1829, Lyonsbecameportentouslythefirstcaptain to take aBritishman-of-warinto theBlack Sea,as hedeliveredourambassador to Constantinople (Istanbul).Greaterfeats awaitedhimtherein thefuture. Lyons wasadmittedtothe Most

HonourableOrderoftheBath,becomingSir Edmundand wasappointedMinisterand Plenipotentiaryatthe CourtofAthens,wherehe remained for15years,departingin1849,then becoming arear-admiral(1850). In March1852 Edmundlosthispartnerof37 years;his ‘beloved wife’.Therewaslittletime formourning.

TheCrimean War(1853-56)sawapolyglot confederation(includingBritainand France) takingonRussia,whichaimed to exploit Turkey’s weakness.Although Lyons wasnotin overall commandoftheBritishfleet,hewas responsible forthearmy’s disembarkationand attackonthe navalbaseof Sevastopol.Healsowouldn’t letthe BritishabandontheportofBalaclava,without whichtheymighthavefound continuingthe war impossible.Lyonssucceededas commander-inchiefinJanuary1855, apositionhehelduntil war’send.

It wastime forLyons’s home-towntoshowits appreciation.On Thursday24thJanuary1856, Lyonssetofffrom WinktonHouse,the homeof his cousin, AdmiralWalcottMP,ina horse-drawn carriage,escortedbythe RoyalHorse Artillery. At Purewell Cross ropes replacedhorses,thecarriage hauled by acompanyofNavalBlueJackets.The cavalcade,including townband, proceeded to the High Street,whereaplatformwassetup.Onthe wayitpassedthroughsix ‘expensivelyadorned, triumphalevergreenarches’. Afteranaddress, Lyons ‘honouredtheinhabitants’by‘partaking withthemof alunch’at Humby’sHotel (today’s Kings Arms).

In June1856 EdmundbecameBaron Lyonsand waselevated to admiralin December1857. In 1858 Lyons wasbackinEngland commandingthe squadronescorting Queen Victoria to Cherbourg (anofficialvisit to France). Sadly,Lyonsdidn’t lastmuchlonger.Whilstvisitinghis youngest daughter, Augusta, DuchessofNorfolk,atArundel Castle,hefellillanddied.Thedate was23rd November1858and Lyonshadjustturned68.

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Depressionisthemostcommonmental healthdisorderinthewesternworldand appearstoberisinginpeopleofeveryage, particularlyinyoungpeople15-25yrs.Half ofallwomenand aquarter ofmenwillsuffer from aperiodofdepressionin alifetime. Reactivedepressionoftendevelopsaftera lifeeventsuchas atraumaticexperience, bereavementoflovedone,birthof achild, lossof ajob,orlossof arelationship.

Depressionismorethanjustfeelingsad……. forthedepressedpersontheworldnolonger seemscolourfulandinterestingandthefuture seemsblack.Theystruggletoconcentrate, feelunmotivated,andconstantlyexhausted. Theyhavetroublesleepingoreatingormay evendotheseactivitiesinexcess.Theymay findthemselveswithdrawingfromsocial interactions,beingirritablewiththoseclosest tothemandperhapsnotevenwantingto leavethehouse.Theymayfeeloverwhelmed andtearfulandin a‘darkplace’withnohope forthefuture.

Indepressiononehashighlevelsof circulatingstresshormonecortisolinthe bloodstream,andthisleadsto ahighly arousedemotionalstatewhereyou loseyour perspectiveonlife.Thesestrongemotions willlockourattention,overwhelmrational thoughts,andcausenegative,blackand whitethinking. We focusentirelyonnegative

events;ontheonethinginthedaythatdid notgoaccordingtoplanratherthanlook atthebiggerpictureandthoseevents, howeversmall,thatmayhavegonebetter. We catastrophizeeventsaswepredict theworstoutcomes. We thinknegatively, takethingspersonally,makepessimistic assumptionsaboutwhatothersarethinking andblameourselvesirrationallyforsetbacks. Relationshipswith relatives,friendsand workcolleaguesareputunderstrainbythe ‘negativityofdepression’.Sleeppatterns aredisturbed,withless refreshingsleep leadingtofatigueandexcessivedreaming (REMsleep),asourbrainstryandflushaway unresolvedemotionsfromtheday.This leavesusexhaustedandunmotivatedon wakingandthecyclecontinues.

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Shining aLightonPositivity

Living alonglifeis not justdown tothe food we eat andstaying active. Researchershavefoundthata positive outlookon life and theability to stay optimistic, meansyou’llbenearlytwice as likely to reachtheage of 85 thanthose whoare more pessimisticandworldweary. As the daylighthoursdrawin, here aresomesimplewayswecan consciously shiftour mindsetintoa positivestate.

1. Peekat aPic

Averyquickway youcan shifttoa positivemindsetoractivelyfeel happier within yourself is to look at aphoto.Itmay be aphotoofa lovedone wherethelove educeddissolves any negativeemotions youmay be feeling.Ora photoofa funny moment,a beautifulplace, or acutepet that makesyou smile. Theoptions are endlessandit’sa greatwayto instantly tapintopositivity.

Listeningtomusic is agreat waytoboost your positivitywithin minutes.Music is very evocative, so playing musicthat makesyou feel happyand positiveisa greatmood-enhancer.Havefun creatinga positivityplaylist.Ifyou dothis on your phone youcan takeit wherever yougo. Foranextra boost; if youenjoy dancing and singingdo this too.Don’t worry if you aregoodatitornot,justdoit!

Comedy andlaughterisanother wayto release thebody’snatural feel-good hormone;dopamine. Find some YouTube video clipsthatinstantlyand easilymake youlaugh.Ifyou have astressful jobyou canwatch some videos duringyourlunch breakand at theend of theday.Humour naturally decreasesyourstress levels, aids memory andreleasesfeel-good endorphins.

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4. Powerof3

Research showsthatforeverynegative thoughtorincident thereneeds tobeat least3 positiveonesto balanceitout.This principleismoreobviousinrelationships, be it personal orprofessional,whereifthe positive/negativeratioconsistently falls below 3:1, therelationship is likely to breakdownorexperiencesomesortof crisis.Thisisalsoanimportant principleto consider when takingthe time to notice your inner dialogue.Weare oftenpositive toward otherpeoplebut harshon ourselves.Itisimportant to shiftyourinner dialogueto amorepositiveone as if you were talkingtoa friend.

5. Smile

Smilingisoneof thefew universal ways of communicating. Theact of smilingon its owncan makeus feel better.Evenifyou forcedand held asmilefor 2minutes,it cangreatly change your mood.Thereisa big difference inthe number oftimesa childsmiles comparedtoanadult in aday. It issaidthat achild smilesupto20times more than an adult. Agreat thingabout smiling is thatitiscontagiousand we can passiton!

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Those WalkingBoots

By ColinSeager

AftertheaccidentSimonParkinson’s walkingbootsneveragaintroubledthe NewForest.Ithappenedoncebefore, butthendaughterMaryhadbeenstaying withhim,heardhimfallandrushedto the rescue.

Shesawhimthroughtheglasspanel; proppedagainstthefrontdoor.‘Dad, Dad,areyouhurt?’

‘Don’topenthedoor,come roundthe frontandhelp.’

Shefoundhimin aheap,legs, walkingsticksandrucksackentwined in acollapsedlotusposition.Onelong bootlacewastrappedundertheshut door,theother,loose,snakedfromits boot.‘I’mOK, ascrapeonmywrist that’sall,’hegaspedaschuckles replacedcurses.

‘Ridiculous,isn’tit?I’m astupidold foolMary.Mypenknifeisinthepocket ontheundersideoftherucksack,nextto thewaterbottle. Youcan’treachit.Bea goodgirl,goandgetsomethingandcut mefree. Idon’twanttomiss thisevening.’

‘You’remadfather.Whyonearthdidn’t youtiethembeforeyousteppedout, what’sthematterwithyou? Waitthere.’

‘Ithought Ihad,butdon’thangaround. Ican’tmove.’

Mary returnedwithscissorsfromthe kitchen,cutthelace,untangledher windedfather,andheavedhimtohis feet.‘Areyousureyou’realright? You lookpaleandyou’retrembling. You coulddowith acuppa.Let’sgetyou inside,you’vehad abitof ashock.

You’retoooldforallthisgalivanting Dad,youneedtotakeiteasy,please don’tgotonight.’

‘No,no, Ican’tletCharliedown’He’s expectingme,I’llbealright.’

‘Givehim acall,he’llunderstand. There’llbeplentyofothertimes.’

‘You’veneverunderstoodhaveyou Mary.Thisiswhat Ido.Theweatheris perfect.Thistimeofyear,youdon’tget manyopportunitieslikethis.’

Simonstartedtolacehisboots.

‘Youaresostubborn. Iworryabout youfather,that’sall,livinghereonyour own.Lastweekyoutoldmethatyou foundyourcarkeysinthefridge,and nowthis.Pleasedon’tgoouttonight.’

‘StopworryingMary.Everybodydoes somedaftthings.Onlyyesterdayyou couldn’trememberwhereyou’dleft yourpurse.Remember?’

‘VeryfunnyDad,butI’mbeing serious. Youknowwhat Ithink. We haveplentyof room. Tomand Ihave beentellingyouforyearswe’dbe happytobuild agrandadannexe,you’d betotallyindependent;andwe’dbe therewhenyouneedanything.’

Bootstied,Simonstoodup,settled therucksackonhisstillsquare shouldersandtookMary’shands.‘Stop worryingmydear.I’mfeelingfinenow. IpromiseI’llthinkaboutit.OK?I’m goingtocallCharlieandlethimknow I’monmyway.Don’twaitupforme.’

Simonhadbeenright.Thelastfew nightsofMary’sstaylowcloudsand mistcaressedthewholeofthesouth ofEngland.Heseemedtobenoworse forwearafterhisunexpectedencounter withthefrontdoor.Butshe’dseen enough.Drivinghome,she resolvedto persuadehermuleof afatherthatthe

timefor achangecouldnolonger bedelayed.

AyearlaterMarywasinheroffice taking abreakduringanotherbusy daytosignChristmascardswhenher mobilejingled.ItwasSimon’spartnerin crimeCharlie.

Hewaswaitingforanambulance.He wenttopickupSimonfortheirweekly seniors’specialslunchattheirlocaland foundhimsemi-consciousin abloodied heaponthefrontdoorstep:trappedby abootlace.Throughoutthemaddash tohospitalMaryraged.Whyhadn’t Ipersisted.Thisisallmyfault. Isaw thesignsanddidnothingaboutit.By nowwecouldhavebuiltanextension. We’vegotthespaceitcouldhavea haditsowntelescope room.Come onMaryit’snottoolate.He’llbeOK. He’satougholdbird.Whywasn’tIas bloody-mindedashecouldbe?

Simonsurvivedanotherfourdays. Accordingtothemedicshe’dprobably beenstuckoutside agoodnumberof hoursandhypothermiahadled topneumonia.

Thepackedfuneralcongregation reflectedSimonParkinson’slife.As asolicitor,fordecadestheprincipal partnerinthepracticenowrunbyMary, hewaswellknownthroughoutthearea andafter retirementbecameinvolvedin numerouslocalsocieties,mostnotably theForestAstronomyGroup.

Nowonderthathiswilldeclaredthat hewishedtobeinterredat anocturnal ceremonyin acoffinwith atransparent panelinthelidsothatasheleftfor anotherplace,hecouldindulgeinhis favouritepastime:trackingtheheavens.

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AuthenticMediterraneanCuisinewithChefJosé thentic Mediterranean C isine with Chef José

Soft CoconutBiscuits

Ingredients (for 16 biscuits):

200gGratedCoconut

100gSugar

2LargeEggs

IcingSugarfordecoration

Preparation: Preheattheovernto200degrees.

Puttheingredientsin abowlandmix until adoughisformed

Take aportionofdough(25g)and shapeitinto aroundshape.Placethe biscuitson abakingtray.

Bakethebiscuitsfor10minutesat 200degreeswithheatupanddown andnofan.Removeandplaceona wireracktocool.

Fordecoration,sprinkle alittleicing sugarontop.

This recipeissuitableforcoeliacsand lactoseintolerantpeople.

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