1.What is Reducing Parental Conflict (RPC)?
2.HowRPCisaffectingchildren?
3.Practiceguidance
4.Bromleyresources&supportfor practitioners
5.BecomeanRPCChampion!
6.Toptipswhenworkingwithfamiliesin conflict
7.Usefullinks&additionalresources
Thereisstrongevidencethatconflictbetweenparents–whethertogetheror separated–canhaveasignificantnegativeimpactonchildren’smentalhealth andlong-termlifechances.Notallconflictisdamaging,butwherethisis frequent,intense&poorlyresolveditcanharmchildren’sdevelopment& outcomes.
TheReducingParentalConflictprogramme–whichfundscouncilsacross Englandtodeliverevidence-basedrelationshipsupporttoparentsintheir communities–hashelpedthousandsoffamiliessince2018.Weaimtosupport everyfamily:
·Parentslivingtogether
·Separatedordivorcedparents
·Step-families/blendedfamilies
·Grandparentfamilies&extendedfamilies
·Samesexfamilies
·Singleparentfamilies
·Adoptedfamilies
Long-termparentalconflictisn’tjustunpleasant&stressfulfortheadults involved-itcanalsoimpactchildreninavarietyofways.
According to research by the Early Intervention Foundation (EIF), it can have a negativeimpacton:
Academic problems
Mental Health:
Depression & Anxiety
Behavioural problems
Substance misuse
Physical Health problems
Social & Relationship problems:
Peers
Future relationships
Low employability
Inter-Personal Violence
InresponsetotheChildrenandSocialWorkAct2017&WorkingTogether2018 tosafeguardchildrenitisthelegalrequirementthatHealthprofessionals,Social Workers,Police,Educationprofessionals&otherpractitionersworkingwith childrenmustfollowinter-agencyworkingtosafeguard&promotethewelfare ofchildren.
BromleyAuthorityhaspublishedthe“EarlyHelpStrategyforChildren(aged frombirthto18)andtheirfamilies;OurVisionfor2030”.
Where“earlyhelp”isdefinedastotalsupportthatimprovesfamily’sresilience& outcomesorreducesthechanceofaproblemgettingworse.Ourearlyhelp servicesarefocusedonprovidingtherighthelpwhenourfamiliesneedit, whatevertheageofthechild.
Relationshipcanshiftandevolveovertime.Itisimportanttounderstand whenrelationshipmovesfromhealthyrelationshiptounhealthyoreven abuse.Wecanuseoneof10RelationshipThought Promptcard(cardnumber 3)to mapparentalrelationshipacross parent's behaviour,child’s experienceand supportavailable inBromley.
PleasevisitBromleyParentingHubwebsitetocheckouttheguidedesigned aroundourthree-stephealthyrelationshipsmodel:
1Stop-quizforparentstoreflectontheirrelationshipforallparentsinthe relationshipaswellasseparatedaswellaschild'spointviewquiz.Wewould recommendthatallparentsshouldstartwiththesamequiz–thechild’s viewpoint.
2Think-usingtheoutcome fromeachquizwehavecreatedself-helpguide: Setof10RelationshipThoughtcards,withsimpleactions tocontinuetomake relationshiphealthy.Aswellas someactivitiesto thinkthroughanyissues and identifythesolutions.
Iftheabove toolkitisusedindependentlybyparentsitneedstobethenrevisited withallocatedprofessionaltoidentifysupportneedsforthefamilyandformalize actionplan tomoveforward.
3Change-whereyoucanfind outaboutthehelpandsupportthatwehaveon offerintheborough.
Click onthelogobelowtoaccesstheBromleyParentinghub
You can download the full guide with all quizzes, tools & activities. https://bromleyparentinghub.info/rpc guideandtoolkit 2023
Making change happen at a local level!
Therearenoextraresponsibilities,you'lljustgrowinconfidence& knowledgearoundReducingParentalConflict&effectivereferralsto appropriatesupport.AsanRPCChampionyouwillhaveyourveryown resourcebag!
Did you hear about our resource bag?
We’vegivenitourveryownnicknamea'GrabBag'.
Weofferfantasticresourcesforallprofessionalsactivelyinvolvedinthe ReducingParentalConflictagenda.Eachofour“GrabBags”ispackedwithfully reusable&verypracticalresourcestotackleparentalconflict.
Quality, hard paper & wipe off style books with 9 activities to offer to parents duringdifferentstagesofyourintervention.
Quizstylequestionsonparentalrelationships.Thedifferentdesignsmean thatitisrelevantforparentswhoarecurrentlyinarelationshipaswellasthose coupleswhohaveseparated&ofcoursethethirdquizisto acknowledgeachild’spointofview.Allinafriendly&accessibleformat!
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Our 'Relationship Thought' prompt cards are designed to be used as a set or individually. Cards focus on communication & tips for families to help them dealwithconflict.Weofferfullsupportonhowtousetheresources!
Are you interested in a 'Grab Bag'? Why not get involved & become an RPC ChampioninBromley,makingrealchangehappenatalocallevel!
Bromley Relationship Thoughtprompt cards
When discussing conflict with co-parents, use ‘coaching conversations’ & helpthemGROW:
1.Listenattentively;remaininquisitive;avoidpreconceptions&judgment
2.Helpco-parentsfocusontheirstrengths
3.Paraphrase,summarise,showempathy
4. Ask open questions to raise awareness, e.g. ‘How does that make you feel?’
5. Noticenon-verbalbehaviour
6.Offerencouragement&support
7.Bringtheconversationtothehereandnow
8.Providechallengewherethoughtnecessary
9.Givefeedback
10.Presentscenarios&options
The grow modelGeneral Enquiries & to make a referral: bcpadmin@bromley.gov.uk
Family Support & Parenting Referrals:
Referralsfor1-1supportarenowviatheChildren&FamilyHub call02084617373/7379. clickheretoaccesstheonlinereferralform
Parenting Courses:
call02084617259or email:parenting.courses@bromley.gov.uk
SEND Information, Advice & Support Service: parentpartnership@bromley.gov.uk
Furtherinformationavailable:
www.bromleyparentinghub.info
02083134779/02084617259
magdalena.dziedzina@bromley.gov.uk
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