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TABLE OF CONTENTS Production team


JIM IYKE- beating the odds


Before marriage


Embracing the odds


Who shall marry my daughter


JAYNE - GE against the odds


Your jokes


Loved or Used


Raise your sights


In the shoe of the victim



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im lyke Esomugha was born in Gabon Libreville to the family of Mr. & Mrs. Stephen Esomugha. Jim Iyke hails from Enugu gidi village of Anambra state Eastern Nigeria. Jim circumstance of birth can only be livened to other great personalities. As a destiny child, Jim was placed between 7 other sisters making him the only son among other siblings of his father's household. His early struggle to create a niche for himself was made manifest by his ability to believe and demonstrate his conviction at any given opportunity . After the completion of his primary and secondary school education he proceeded to the University of Jos in furtherance

of his educational career.

among the best.

After his youth service, Jim lyke Esomugha relocated to Lagos in search of greener fleece but encountered frustration, setback and challenges; however, his early set back was cushioned by his contact with a Lagos based lawyer Barrister. Victor Opurum, who having identified the bundle of talent inherent in this enigma, encouraged him to continue the pursue of his dreams.

Jim lyke has presently produced two international movies called Ebony and Good evening with internationally renowned actress Judy Shekoni and Tangerine Martins. Jim has continued to spread and propagate the ideas of his foundation in his recent 12 country world tour. He desire to give back to the community of which he was a product of is the reason behind setting up this Foundation. Given his background and the traumatic childhood experience, he believe that there is no greater good than to restore hope, lift up the smile and dreams of our children in dire need. to be continued on page 3

Through sheer hard work, humility and unprecedented preservance, Jim survived all odds, excelled in his chosen career and has since proved to be

life is a song, breath is the beat while love is the rhythm ...... anonymous


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BEFORE MARRIAGE‫‏‬ Yes! At last it was so hard to wait! Do you want me to leave? No! Dont even think about it do you love me? Of course! Have you ever cheated on me NO! Why are you even asking will you kiss me? Every chance I get Will you hit me? Are you crazy! Im not that kind of person can I trust you? Yes Darling... (Years later after marriage) READ FROM BOTTOM TO TOP! By Robinson aliero

Kenyan born Ghana based Writer

love is a war easy to start and tough to end BLAX NELSON

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t a tender age, Jim lyke Esomugha has realized purpose in his life and he has chosen no other platform than this foundation to pursue this eternal calling, we therefore urge you to be a partner of our children dreams to restore hope to the needy and humanity. Jim lyke, Actor, model, businessman and film maker, is the founder, initiator and driving force of Jim lyke Foundation for Children with special Disabilities. Jim lyke is one of Nigerian's most popular

actors with a history of over100 movies in his film graph in just five years. Renowned for more than acting skills, he is martial arts specialist and is celebrated for pioneering a lot of first in the home video industry. He is the first actor to produce a mainstream big budget movie abroad. As a businessman, Jim has considerable interest in Real Estate and resource management.

good looking charming playboy roles that movies seem to cast him in, Jim is a focused and disciplined young man who has allowed his passion for children, their welfare and the greater good of society to be expressed via the vehicle of his foundation.

He is an alumnus of the University of Jos with a degree in philosophy. In spite of the


Who shall marry my daughter?


ape is the only crime where the victim pays more than the perpetrator. During the month of June the world was shocked with the accusation of Fr. Kizito having molested a young man who went to him seeking for help. This was not the first time the cleric was facing similar allegations. The video depicting the act was deleted from YouTube citing adult content as the reason. The cleric was acquitted in very unclear cirmstances and his supporters and legal team threatened to sue the victims. Elsewhere in Mombasa Kenya a Muslim religious teacher was arrested for sexually abusing little boys entrusted under his care, as always the matter was down played, who will marry our daughters if our sons are being turned into women. Who is a making a follow-up to state of the victims? Male victims of sexual abuse constitute an extremely underidentified, under-served and frequently misunderstood population. Prevalence rates for males ranged from 3% - 29% (as cited in Barnett et al., 1997, p. 761). Though sexual abuse is underreported by both males and females, males are in a unique position. They are far less likely to disclose sexual abuse due to the issues identified in the table below. Why most sexual abuse cases in boys go unreported A cultural bias maintains that males cannot be victims. Males are expected to be confident,

knowledgeable, and aggressive. To be a victim means one is an inadequate male. If the boy's body has responded sexually, he feels he is somehow responsible for the sexual abuse Male victims of sexual abuse struggle with issues of homosexuality as most offenders are male. Their homophobia plus their confusion and fear encourage silence. Not to mention the social stigma

more than female victims, may fear loss of freedom and independence if the sexual abuse should be made public. Fear of reprisals from the offender plays a role in underreporting. When boys are victimized, they tend to be blamed more for their abuse and are viewed as less in need of care and support.

attached to homosexuality. If a boy receives money for sex, he is less likely to be perceived as a victim. If a boy has a homosexual orientation, he is often blamed for the "seduction" of the older male, instead of being acknowledged as a legitimate victim of sexual abuse. Molestation by an older female is often viewed positively as a kind of "initiation rite" into manhood. Cultural pressure encourages participation while denying feelings.

Boys fear negative judgment by family and friends.

Embarrassment and/or confusion prevent male victims of sexual abuse from disclosing. to be continued on page 8

Male victims of sexual abuse,


EMBRACING THE ODDS It’s not only obvious beyond oblivion but also normal for one to brush shoulders with hundreds of Kenyans that grace the boulevards and pavements of Nairobi city and any other major towns in Kenya not to mention Nyeri, Kisumu, Nakuru, Mombasa, Eldoret and the likes. This is something worth appreciating for the embracement of the fact that this is a “working nation” though the walking majority of Kenyans might replace it with a “walking nation”; sincere regard to all that wake up so early and retire to bed so late just to ensure that all their need and those of their loved ones are catered for without failure through justified legal means. However- in the midst of collision with other hard working Kenyans along the busy congested pavements, lanes, streets or avenues-another group of individuals is always evident and their presence on tattered mats, cartons or rags by the walls of buildings such as the Kenya National Archives and around the Globe Cinema roundabout in Nairobi just to mention but a few is always acknowledged by harsh words or luckily by a coin or two thrown in the dirty plastic tins with them. This is despite the lachrymose nature some of them try to force or despite sad but luring words carelessly scribbled on dirty manila papers besides them and there is ever no one to berate them! The one fact that all Kenyans should accept is that there are hundreds (if not thousands) of beggars around Kenya always seen in major town spending days in the labyrinth of lanes, streets and even along avenues waiting for generous passers-by to utilize their exploitative nature and taking “advantage” of their various disabilities( the beggars of course). As thousands of Kenyans struggle to contribute to the economy of our beloved nation, beggars take advantage of generosity Kenyans depict and capitalize on it not knowing that they are becoming a nuisance to the general public.. Most Kenyans have more than paucity of humanity and they keep

on giving out a coin or a number of coins to the beggars having no idea that the kindness is breeding a vice that is turning begging into a profession. At their minds, it’s etched that they helped a needy beggar(s) yet in a way this causes more harm than good to the Kenyan society. I might sound hard-hearted, but the truth of the matter is that a very huge percentage of the same people we see day in day out with dirty cloths and with clinking coins in their messy tins are just embracing parasitism covered by shades of disabilities. They might seem to be having atrocious lives, they might be blind, wounded, and they might have mangled legs, other disabilities or might have medical complications but that doesn’t mean that they are incapable of doing some other useful duties. Neither does it mean lying along the pavements and verandahs is a solution to their medical problems but rather an ingredient of the same.

A variety of things are available at their reach which they can tackle to the best of their abilities like vegetable selling, vending and so many other jobs that require a small amount of capital(which of course surpasses the amount of money they collect in a week). Surprisingly (if you try to be a bit keen in observation), they are never alone in the streets. They are always

accompanied by other people; who keep on hovering around to collect the money from the beggars at intervals to keep themoney at safer places. Some of the beggars come from able families, but it’s only their adamancy, ignorance, laziness, fantasy or parasitism that keeps them fixed on the hard concrete pavements. In fact, most of them are kings and queens in the slums like Korogocho where most of them dwell. Not only the government, the Association of Physically Disabled People in Kenya, the respective local authorities and relevant bodies should bring heads together and discuss the appropriate measures to curb the vice but individuals should also take center stage in the process. If nothing is done about this, generosity of Kenyans will always be misused and there will be an increased influx of beggars into the country from neighboring countries as observed recently by Tanzanian beggars filling the streets of Nakuru town.

The best way to curb the habit (though harsh to a few genuine beggars whose only means of survival is begging) is for Kenyans to restrain themselves from giving out money Muge to beggars. Just try it out, ni Ojia mbo and youwrit will observe the outcome er after about three toty fourof months; the univ ersi nairobi streets will be clean and the beggars will have found something useful to keep them busy with!


AGAINST THE ODDS QN 1: Background tell us about your self JG: my full names are Jane Gathoni Njenga {Jayne Ge}; I am a mother of two boys. I was born in village called kianjogu but later moved to karura village where we went to stay with our grand mother after the separation of my parents.I sat for my K.C.PE in Wangunyu primary school in 1991 and later joined Kihara High school where I sat for my K.C.S.E in 95. Qn2: what makes your songs out-standing? I value my fans, I make sure that every song I do is done in a quality studio. And every aspect of a good production is taken into consideration. QN3: why do you prefer singing in vernacular? I like singing in vernacular because. It's easier when composing and easier to promote especially in churches and also in our villages. You call also say it makes me express myself better. QN4: what are your greatest achievements so far as an artist? I credit my success to God, so far I have been able to establish myself as artist in this country, Jayne on the side I have been able to maintain my business and make sure my boys are in a good school. QN5: what is your greatest ambition? My greatest ambition is to reach all parts of the world with the gospel of Christ through music; furthermore I would like to excel in business as the current world calls for greater pool of income that may not be realized solely through music. QN6: what is your take on contemporary Christian music? Why do you think there has been a revolution in the gospel music industry? different times call for different modes of preaching. QN7: does your music support you financially? Yes it does, but as I stated earlier I have a business on

the side QN8: have you taken you music outside the country? Yes but not on a large scale QN9: what else do you do besides singing? Business QN10: What are the challenges you have faced as an artist? It is very difficult to be accepted in the first stages. You don't get to perform at events and the media houses too shun your music. But the more you get established the more you are accepted. Then even established artists have to go through problems for they are unable to get their dues, thanks to piracy, yet the society has its own expectations. QN11: Any words of wisdom for upcoming artistes? Never give up even if you see that your first album has not done well, continue composing and recording promote yourself in Churches and any other Christian occasions and also to be praying for your music

Ge on stage


What to do when sexually assaulted


f you have been sexually assaulted or think you have been, first, you must overcome the stigma of reporting the event. The stigma of reporting a sexual assault or rape for both women and men is not as great as it once was, and this change works in favor of the victim. The women's movement and the media have done a great deal to remove the stigma of being a victim of sexual assault. If sexual assault has taken place, you should report the crime for many important reasons, including the following: To keep the same person from assaulting others To provide psychological closure for you

To be certain about your own health and have an examination to rule out medical problems related to the assault Sexual assault is an emotionally charged crime in which passions for prevention and prosecution run at a high level. Many people involved in sexual assault work have been victims of sexual assault themselves. These people take on the role of advocates and support persons for victims of sexual assault. Special sexual assault examination centers have been set up in most cities to work with victims of sexual assault in a sensitive manner. Report sexual assault to law enforcement as soon as possible. Although you may have many reasons for delay (such as fear, guilt, and confusion), any delay in reporting can and will be regarded as suspect and inevitably used to imply that you are making a false allegation. Tell family and friends immediately, and inform law

enforcement at the same time. Family and friends can be helpful during the most difficult early moments after an assault.

Use these steps in reporting sexual assault: When reporting sexual assault, document as many details as possible, as soon as possible. Accurate recall of events will fade quickly, and documentation in sufficient detail soon after an incident is thought of as more reliable evidence in the legal proceedings that will follow. Note the location and time of any events. Describe the number and characteristics of the assailant or assailants. Write down as much detail as possible about the circumstances surrounding the assault as soon as possible after the assault. Make an effort to recall each and every aspect of what occurred during the assault and turn over this information to law enforcement. Each of these details increases the chances that the suspect will be caught and successfully prosecuted: ยงEach ยงThe


Whether weapons were talked about, used, or seen during the assault Any bodily fluids seen or felt Any injuries that may have been inflicted on the assailant Maintain as much evidence as possible in its intact state. Do not wipe away or throw away any secretions that can be identified. Do not wash or change clothing, bedding, furniture, or any fabric. Put these items into dry paper bags and seal them. Resist the strong urge to clean up by washing, showering, and douching. You will be given a special sexual assault examination by trained health professionals at a hospital, and specimens that will be collected are very important in proving the guilt of the assailant. Many of these specimens contain DNA evidence that can provide conclusive proof of the identity of the assailant.

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Your jokes Memory Class An elderly couple had been experiencing declining memories, so they decided to take a power memory class where one is taught to remember things by association. A few days after the class, the old man was outside talking with his neighbor about how much the class helped him. "What was the name of the Instructor?" asked the neighbor. "Oh, ummmm, let's see," the old man pondered. "You know that flower, you know, the one that smells really nice but has those prickly thorns, what's that flower's name?" "A rose?" asked the neighbor. "Yes, that's it," replied the old man. He then turned toward his house and shouted, "Hey, Rose, what's the name of the Instructor we took the memory class from?" Meeting the pope A rich American tourist was holidaying in Rome, and was intent on seeing the Pope. There he stood, in a big long line with a rather expensive suit on, hoping the Pope would notice how smart he was and perhaps talk a few words with him. As the Pope made his way slowly down the line, he walked right past the American, hardly even noticing him. The Pope then stopped next to a low-life sot, leaned over and whispered something in the sot's ear, and made his way on again. This really angered the American. After speaking with the drunkard, the American agreed to pay $1000 dollars to exchange clothing, in the hope that the Pope would speak to him the next day. The next morning the American stood in the line, waiting to see the Pope and hopefully exchange a few words. The Pope was making his way slowly up to the American. When he finally reached him, he leaned over to the American and spoke softly into his ear.. "I thought I told you yesterday to get the f**k out of here." I Thought You Were My Wife A completely inebriated man walked into a bar and, after staring for some time at the only woman seated at the bar, walked over to her, placed his hand up her skirt and began fondling her. She jumped up and slapped him silly. He immediately apologized and explained, "I'm sorry. I thought you were my wife. You look exactly like her." "Why you drunken, worthless, insufferable son of a BITCH!" she screamed. "Funny," he muttered, "you even sound exactly like her."


Loved or used

kicked it a lot of times.

While a man was polishing his new car,


His 4 yr old son picked up a stone And scratched lines on the side of the car In anger, the man took the child's hand And hit it many times not realizing He was using a wrench. At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers Due to multiple fractures

By his own

Let's try always to keep this thought in mind:


Things are to be used,

Sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches;

People are to be loved.

The child had written 'LOVE YOU DAD'.

Watch your thoughts; they become words.

The next day that man committed suicide. . .

Watch your words; they become actions.

Anger and Love have no limits; Choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely Life & remember this:

When the child saw his father.....

Things are to be used and people are to be loved.

With painful eyes he asked, 'Dad when will my fingers grow back?'

The problem in today's world is

The man was so hurt and speechless; He went back to his car and My angel

That People are used while things are loved.

Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character; Watch your character; it becomes your destiny. I'm glad a friend said this to me as a reminder.. I hope you have a good day no matter what problems you may face

I will always be there

My dear little gal So little, so cute

Oh little one, every strength in daddy's system

The epitome of my happiness

Is there to keep you safe and warm

The fountain of my joy

If you feel unsafe, to my portrait I call you come

Daddy loves you

Look into my eyes, remember our love I will discipline you sometimes

For daddy will always love you.

I may not say I love you at times

I know the word is evil

But like the shadow by your side

But here we all fall

Ever in the presence of light

The playing field of the devil

Daddy's love is always there for you

But dad will stand by you I love you my angel

I won't be here for ever


But our love will last forever

Blax Oduor Nelson

Look at the morning sun always


In the mirror our similar ways




oes the ever-present threat of disaster surrounding us in the news media sometimes leave you sleepless? Earthquakes, fires, floods and other natural disasters, nuclear war, famine, inflation, job loss and economic failure? Day after day, we are bombarded with threats of all these things. The world's message of hopelessness is clear; we are on the edge of destruction. It's no wonder if we dwell on these things, we can have a very hard time sleeping at night. "What will happen to us? Will our children survive?" Subtle spirits of despair can camp over us like a heavy fog, stifling every urge to worship or seek the Lord. God's Word does not ignore these threats of destruction, but realistically concentrates on giving you the hope and courage you need to deal with them. Psalm 91 is a good example: "You shall not be afraid of the terror by night, Nor of the arrow that flies by day, Nor of the pestilence that walks in darkness, Nor of the destruction that lays waste at noonday. A thousand may fall at your side, And ten thousand at your right hand; But it shall not come

near you" (Psalm 91:5-7, NKJV). In the Book of Revelation also, God promises that those who keep His Word and do not deny His Name will be protected! So, as you prepare for sleep tonight, be careful what you concentrate on. Don't focus on all the fears and threats of what Satan wants to do; raise your sights to all God will do when you glorify Him! Heavenly Father, I praise you for the new revelation I have of You as my rock and my shield from harm and devastation. Grant me a greater anointing to boldly proclaim Your Word and not to deny Your Name. Then, "In peace I will both lie down and sleep, for You, Lord, alone make me dwell in safety and confident trust" (Psalm 4:8, AMP). Grant this, dear Lord. In Jesus' Name, Amen. Royston timothy Kenyan born Russia based writer Moscow institute of technology

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IN THE VICTIM’S SHOE Ladies in Kenyan universities have been accused of being in strings of numerous relationships with prominent business and influential men in the society. The rule is that the men have to be rich and those who can comfortably-without straining or complaining of course-cater for the basic if not the many unending needs of the ladies who might soon agitate for the same to be included in the new constitution as their fundamental right. This doesn't exclude the amount of money they are always pampered with which one out of a thousand campus dudes can offer for their upkeep. The ladies are often observed embracing with every ounce of opportunity the dynamic fashion trend that whereby they will ever be seen in expensive outfits and changing hairstyles every week. These ladies are always picked from their hostels every Friday evening and dropped back on Sunday evening for them to prepare for the classes that commence the following morning if not that exact day for those dropped past midnight. The main question here is what makes the university or college lady engage in such unhealthy relationship? We however must consider the fact that being a lady is very expensive especially for one in a high learning institution. The first reason is that the lady will have a strong desire for sense of belonging among her peer while others struggle for the mightiness in the way they furnish their wardrobes; this isn't doe to inferiority complex but just to avoid being looked down on. The other reason is the advanced and rapid change in the fashion industry and they have a nature of appreciating anything or everything new in the market which by themselves they can't even manage half of that. Most ladies will tend to go by the fashion and they will strive in one way or another to change their wardrobe in accommodating the current fashion which is expensive and the “sugar daddies” also known as “sausage fungas” will be the most eligible people to cater for the expenses. The modern lady would want to be treated with dignity and treated as a woman to be loved and adored with a man. What if the boyfriend is not able to give her that? What if the boyfriend can't take her to the posh hotels? This is where the men chip in. These ladies are given everything they want at any time, but unfortunately in exchange for sex. What we ought to understand is that not all these ladies do this for fun. Some have been forced into this as a survival means of survival, others due to peer pressure, others curiosity while others a concoction of greed and fun. The victims so circumstances have to pay their own fees, work for their personal upkeep and without a proper job they opt for the quickest “walking ATM machines” to solve their financial constrains. As far as we might be tempted to raise fingers at them, we must first throw the blame on the men who chase after them and take advantage of their problems to exploit them to the best of their abilities. It's so pathetic to find men the age of the ladies' fathers or even grandfathers having no paucity of respect inthem and shamelessly engaging in sex with children the age of their daughter and granddaughters. It's a high time the society change, and the change starts with me and you. The older people should be in the frontline, however, to provide footsteps for the younger generation to step on. If this doesn't happen, we will always be praying for the day our daughters, sisters, relatives and friends will ever realize other ways of earning a living rather than selling their bodies which should always be treated with utmost respect and treasure. It should also be made clear to the ladies that there are diverse ways of survival as opposed to the engagement of prostitution and relating themselves to “sugar daddies”. They can do part time business and jobs as there are many intelligent and upright young women who are respected , established and admired women in the society who have made it in life through living a morally upright and dependent lives. EMILY AKINYI The writer is a Nairobi based writer, a law student and a gender activist



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