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In your hands lies the first issue of NUDE Magazine. A creation of thirty international students from all over the world. NUDE Magazine is all about sexuality. Instead of the obvious opinions and facts about this theme, we dug deeper into the stories, the people, the thoughts. Our goal? To make you look beyond your expectations around sexuality, getting rid of prejudice and labels and let you explore this interesting and exciting subject from different views.
The power of sexuality It is NUDE magazine’s dream, or at least mine, to rid the world of prejudice and misconceptions. No more stereotypes, no more judgment. Of course our magazine is not just about social activism and being politically correct. It’s also about reading something interesting and, you’ll never guess, something fun. But before you dive deeper into that world of joy, I’d like to set some things straight. When you turn these pages, one of the things you’ll see are pictures of all different kinds of people. Those people, people like you and me, go through the world with labels stuck on their forehead. Gay. Straight. Prude. Transsexual. Confused. Virgin. Bisexual. Slut. You have a label. I have a label. We both label others. For some reason our sexual preferences, our sexual intentions, our sexual activities, are considered one of our most defining characteristics. Don’t you think that’s rather silly? When you continue reading this magazine, you’ll notice how sexuality is just an inherit part of us, nothing shameful, nothing worth labelling someone over. In the words of the mighty Gaga: “Don’t be a drag, just be a queen.”
Prisoned, captured, caught. Have you ever though about how inmates deal with intimacy? After I saw the documentary Miami Mega Jail by Louis Theroux, I started wondering: if you are heterosexual and locked up for twenty years with only the same gender, what does that do with your sexuality? Curious as well? Turn the pages and read more about changing sexualities in prison. One thing is to be locked behind physical bars, another is those bars that exist in our heads. Those who sometimes are too hard to escape from. If I ask you how many genders there are, what will you answer? Two? Five? Fourteen? No clue? Find page 42, read and be enlightened. Enjoy!
Tine Eide Whether it is with some help our best friend the smartphone or just by walking by those red-tinted windows; getting laid can be organized within a few moments. NUDE Magazine explored the newest dating app Tinder. Rumor has it that this app, where people “flirt” by liking each other’s picture, is ideal for quick dating, and maybe even a quick way into the bedroom. And when we do end up after an exciting date (or maybe before), what do we expect from the other one? Is it going to be mind blowing like in the movies? Is the girl as flexible as the porn star I saw yesterday? Is the guy as sweet as in that romantic comedy I watched this morning? Sexpectations, the big question around the bed-area, read all about it in this issue.
Rose De Bruijn
Sexuality captured behind bars society
This is how we do it culture
How comics boosted sex (or the other way around)
Just another brick poem
Brain beat Heart Wash photo essay
Hijabs: hide or show stereotypes
No distinction between men and women? Think again.
Male, fem or ne society
You can simply have no society
much do gods politics
Women Ru bold be
How desire s allow?
in ussia: or eautiful
One week of Tinder culture
Great Sexpectations lingo
The fetish alphabet culture
Sex to read & to watch
Check your Sextionary society
Reflecting the Red Light stereotypes
Frank Schouten about how to be a real man
Homo. Gay. Lesbian. Bi. Hetero. All sexualities. Weâ€™re all people who live their lives, study, work and love. Who we love and what our sexual preference can differ, but in the end weâ€™re all just another brick in the wall.
By Maud de Groot & Gijs Hoonhout
Name: Bryan Age: 20 Occupation: Student Media, Information and Communication Likes: Men
Name: Wout Age: 25 Occupation: Student Applied Psychology Likes: Women
Name: Ruben Age: 23 Occupation: Student Applied Psychology Likes: Men
Name: Maartje Age: 24 Occupation: Visual Arts Professor Likes: Women
Name: Ankie Age: 23 Occupation: Student Social Work Likes: Men
Name: Arco Age: 24 Occupation: Truck mechanic Likes: Women
Name: Yvonne Age: 23 Occupation: Student Media, Information and Communication Likes: Men
Name: Pedro Jobim Age: 21 Occupation: Student Architecture Likes: Men
Name: Joy Age: 22 Occupation: Student Applied Psychology Likes: Men
Name: Sacha Age: 24 Occupation: Student Language and Culture Studies Likes: Women
Name: Timo Age: 20 Occupation: Student Civil Engineering Likes: Women
female, or neither? Text: Louis Dumoulin, Anna Tauscher & Wafa Harrag Illustration: Ragnhild Heggem Fagerheim
Most societies agree that male or female is the only way to define human genders. However, some of us are neither male nor female, theyâ€™re something in between. European babies that are completely healthy sometimes face surgeries that mutilate their bodies. The reason being that their gender wasnâ€™t obvious after birth. Others have to make one of the most important choices of their lives: which gender will they be? Parents and doctors have to go through a difficult decision while the children have to face the results, which is a surgery and hormone preparations that force them into a gender. According to estimates, one out of five thousand newborns is intersex. Until the nineties, the third gender was not even considered a possibility in Western Europe. Now, in 2013, we can be somewhat optimistic about this status. Since November the 1st, Germany is the first country in Europe to officially recognize the third gender. This law allows babies born with characteristics of both sexes to be registered as neither male nor female. It gives parents the option of leaving the gender section blank on birth certificates, creating a category in the public register for indeterminate sex. The child will be able to choose between F (female), M (male) and X (the third gender) later. It will reduce the pressure for parents to choose the gender for their child, letting the child make the decision. It also raises awareness about intersexuality.
The introduction of the third gender was a big step for the rights of intersex people. Still, there is a lot to improve. The German organization “Intersexuelle Menschen e.V.” states that it’s necessary to stop surgeries on intersex people without their approval when they are nonessential. Children suffer from severe consequences after such procedures. They also want rehabilitation and compensation payments for aggrieved persons. The organization wishes for mandatory standards of care and that the third gender will be discussed in educative institutions. In Asia, it’s totally different. Indeed, in India and Thailand the third gender is widely recognized as different from the other two. The Hijra (India and Bangladesh) and the Kathoeys (lady boys in Thailand) represent a specific gender, a unique social category. Paradoxically, they are not treated better and have issues with being accepted. Some teenagers in India are evicted from home because of their differences. They have to deal with family violence and exploitation. The Association of Transgender/ Hijras in Bengal (ATHB) has already rescued a lot of young people in this situation. Unfortunately, they can’t go much further because the Indian government doesn’t give them any credit. No shelter has been provided and there are no awareness campaigns. Because of the lack of state protection, the teens are sent back home. At this time, a petition is due for a verdict in the Supreme Indian Court, so change is possible. The whole world has to take into account that genders ultimately don’t mean anything. You can be born male and feel female, or the other way around. Rethinking a concept as old as the hills is a huge effort to make for all societies. Germany has already started this revolution, but still a lot has to be done and proven. In Asia, the situation remains terrible, even if some differences are recognized. They don’t have any support from their government and they are still rejected. It’s about human rights and the struggle is universal, meaning everyone is involved.
Tinder Text: Manoela Tomasi & Thomas Datema Photo: Maud de Groot
Is it the new way of finding a date, or is it just a cheap way to look for easy sex? Either way, the new online dating app Tinder is here to stay. Growing more and more popular the app has already been downloaded over 330.000 times in The Netherlands. But does it really hold what it promises? Our reporters, Manoela from Brazil and Thomas from The Netherlands, tested the app for a week to see what happened.
“I’m rather excited!”
I‘m ready to start. After a few minutes I realize there Finally! I found a girl I enjoy talking with. The are way more girls I know in my area who signed up conversation starts with ‘Hi, how are you?’ and is soon followed by ‘What are you doing tomorrow?’. for Tinder then I expected. Phone numbers are exchanged and the conversation continues on Whatsapp. Day 2 My first match! Afraid to start chatting, I wait, and Day 6 I wait, asking myself how to start a conversation like this? Maybe ‘Hey, we both like each other’s pic- We agree to go on a date. I have to say I’m rather excited. ture’. But what’s next?
Today is the big day! We have agreed to meet at Bar Italia in Amsterdam. I arrive early and every time the door opens and a girl walks towards me I feel a bit frightened, even if she looks nothing like my date. Luckily, my mistress was only late, and she turns out to look exactly like her picture. However, things Day 4 don’t go as I expected. There are a lot of awkward More matches and cheesy opening lines, as ‘Are you silences. We run quickly out of interesting things to by any chance a sharpie? Cause you are ultra fine!’ talk about. It is, by far, the most awkward date I’ve I truly start to believe this is nothing more than a ever had. Halfway through we agree this was a bad cheap timewaster. idea, and we split up. A few matches and pointless conversations later, I start chatting with a girl that seems to be really nice and interesting. But after a few hours she says she has a boyfriend, and the search continues.
Conclusion To me, Tinder is nothing but a fun timewaster.
“Shit, what am I going to wear?”
Ok, let’s play this game. Wait, what? They want to use my Facebook account details? Not a chance! Ok then, let’s give this a try. Damn, five pictures for my profile? I don’t have five ‘good’ pictures. Shit!
The date with the Professor is tomorrow. I’m freaking out. What if I find someone better, or if this is it? Shit, what am I going to wear? I need to wax, just in case… but then I won’t have time to paint my nails. Gah, why did I have to be a woman?
Yes, definitely no, no, totally yes! After spending two hours on swiping boys to the left and the right I ask We meet at Dam Square. He has brought me chocomyself: don’t I have something else to do? late. For the love of God, can I pretend I’m sick and go home? I’m not this romantic! The first ten minutes Day 3 are awkward, as usual, but it gets better. Three different bars, and a couple of drinks later we kiss. But I’ve just written ‘I’m a foreigner’ in all conversations. there’s no chemistry, at all. Let’s end it here. Take me Maybe I should add ‘I don’t speak Dutch’ to my home. Yes, walk me home, but don’t you dare to come profile. No, that’s like saying ‘I don’t have friends or upstairs, not even for using the toilet, sorry! family here so I’m vulnerable.’
I’m to lazy to start conversations; I give up, soon. I swear, I’m trying to be nice, but the guys really lack the skills of how to keep a conversation going. Oh, my, God, I just got a match with the hottest guy on Tinder!
38 matches, 20 attempts to conversation and one date; I don’t feel I have achieved anything but it was worth the experience. I believe that you have to be really brave, or very needy, to go on a date with a stranger like this.
Day 5 Finding a day when the Hottie and me can meet is impossible. Well, I just matched with another cute boy, a professor. Unlucky, you handsome, I already have a date.
Tinder is a relationship app that allows interaction between users, but only when the interest is mutual. Once you sign in, you create your profile, which is basically a picture of yourself, your age, gender and your interests based on the information you’ve publicly shared on Facebook. Then the search begins. Pictures of your potential matches pop up and you simply swipe left to decline and right to match. Only when two people swipe right, saying yes, a chat window opens and a conversation can begin.
Text: Loes van Langen & Aslı Bildirici Photo: Belovodchenko Anton In today’s society everything is being labelled, especially people. Media are daily talking about different medical and psychological sexual labels, both new and known. But do you know what these labels really mean? If not, here’s an explanation.
The most widely term used in English to describe romantic or sexual attraction between women.
A person who experiences sexual, romantic, physical, and/or spirituals attraction to people of their own gender as well as another gender.
A straight person who supports all sexualities
The sexual preference of all different gender identities. It’s also referred as omnisexual.
A medical definition for a person who is attracted to someone with the other gender (or, literally, biological sex) than they have, often referred to as “straight”
The combination of letters attempting to represent all the identities in the society. It represents Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Pansexual, Transgender, Transsexual, Queer, Questioning, Intersex, Intergender, Asexual, Ally .
The sexual preference of the same gender. This is considered an offensive/ stigmatizing term by many members of the queer community.
The process of exploring one’s own sexual orientation, investigating influences that may come from their family, religious upbringing and internal motivations.
Queer An offensive word for gay, bisexual or transgender.
Someone who fluctuates between traditionally woman and men gender-based behaviour and identifying without both genders and sometimes a third gender
The sexuality of a person with genitals carrying the characteristics of both the female and the male genitals due to a different chromosomal genotype than the common XY and XX.
A sexual attraction with intensity bordering on insatiability or addiction.
Attracted to males, men, and/or masculinity.
Individuals who feel a lack of fit between their own internal gender and the gender roles made by the society.
Also referred as postmodernism sexual. Individuals who challenge assumptions about gender and sexuality.
Someone who believes their assigned sex at birth is wrong and their correct sex is the one that aligns with their internal feelings.
People who are not gender orientated. They have no perimeters and are happy to try pretty much anything
A gender expression that has elements of both masculinity and femininity; occasionally used in place of ‘intersex’ to describe a person with both female and male anatomy.
The individual difference in the willingness to engage in sexual activity outside of a committed relationship.
The lack of sexual attraction to anyone or low or absent interest in sexual activity. It might be considered the lack of a sexual orientation.
The sexual preference toward several sexes and genders, but not all as Pansexuality refers to.
A person with a set of sexual anatomy that doesn’t fit within the labels of female or male.w
One who finds intelligence the most attractive feature.
Gynephilia Attracted to females, women, and/or femininity
Sources: All Deaf, Have a Gay Day, Spuiten en Slikken, Urban Dictionary
Text: Manoela Tomasi & Loes van Langen Illustration: Ragnhild Heggem Fagerheim
Masturbation, sexual relations between inmates, abuse… After working for eighteen years in prison, priest Ferdinand van Melle has seen many different sexual behaviors behind the bars. “It’s difficult to talk about sexuality inside a prison. It hurts, brings shame, and reminds the inmates of their partners outside.” One thing van Melle has observed over the years is that prisoners, who are isolated from society, forced to live in a non-moral or ethical environment for a long time, tend to behave differently. “You have to adapt yourself to the situation. The lack of sexual choices in jail even makes you consider to change your sexuality,” he says. There are different rules about sex in different prisons, a lot due to the origins of the inmates. In the Bijlmerbajes prison, where the main part of the inmates are Dutch men, they’re allowed to masturbate, watch porn movies and have conjugal visits once a month. In the Grenshospitium prison, a detention center for political refugees, the situation is completely different. To respect all the prisoners and make it possible for them to talk ‘privately’ about sex, different cultures are separated. “Some cultures find it offensive to talk about sexual topics,” explains van Melle. Ina van Havere, psychologist at the Katholieke Universiteit Leuven in Belgium, says there’s still a ‘macho culture’ in prison, where people can’t show their problems, especially not sexual problems. “Talking about
sexuality is taboo.” In Brazil, after years of complaints of sexual abuse, both physically and psychologically, the country started to adapt its prisons to prevent abuse. Today gays, lesbians, transsexuals, transgendered people and transvestites have the right to get exclusive cells in five states of the country. Van Havere also tells that most inmates’ sexual life consists of masturbation. “The majority of the men masturbate three times a week.” For a long time, not having sexual intercourse was seen as a normal consequence of the punishment. “Until they realized that the innocent partner outside jail was also being punished”, says van Havere. Since 2002, prisoners in Belgium and the Netherlands are allowed to have one intimate visit of a partner every month. Van Havere talked to fifteen prisoners of the Central prison in Leuven about conjugal visits. According to her the inmates lose most aspects of a relationship during their time in prison. One of the interviewed prisoners said: “There is no one there to whisper sweet sentences in your ear, to touch you or hug you. You’ll have to miss that for years and years. That’s worse than the lack of sexual intercourse.” Another prisoner told her that the emotional impact of imprisonment is an underestimated process. “Affection and the belief that someone understands you, supports you and loves you can make the pain more manageable.”
Brain beat Heart wash Text & photo:Tine Eide
It’s the time of day people eat each other
Let skin towards chest become electricity
Remove your adipose tissue
and awkward acquaintances Mix bacterial flora and hopes for the best The deepest, darkest, softest All for a certain hunger that occurs in chosen hours, in different spheres
open your rib case memories and dark sides Throw away the lump in your throat and the inside scars from your timeline
for their many labels You don’t have one Want one Can’t find it One grabs your arm Sees you’re a non-eater a human - and asks: What do you look like from the inside if you remove your vital organs meters of veins cups of blood and a puzzle of bones The spinal of half your mother half your father; What do you look like then ?
You eat him he eats her she eats it it eats you you kiss him he crushes her she cuts it it breaks you
Tessa de Boer (18), art student in Utrecht, was raised by two mothers. Her upbringing gave her the best things she could ever wish for. “My childhood was quite normal. People often think that a lesbian family will be very different from a ‘normal’ one. But it isn’t. I was probably raised like any other child. The only difference might be that we don’t usually bring up football and beer in our house. We gossip and drink wine instead. I am very open-minded because of my two mothers. When people tell me that they are gay or lesbian, I can easily accept that. Nothing is too weird or strange for me, especially not homosexuality. I’m not easily surprised anymore. My upbringing by my mother’s was quite equal. You might think that one took a more parental role, but that wasn’t the case. Both of them worked really hard and like other families I had a nanny. So there was no clear hierarchy at home.
assume he passed away. Sometimes I wonder how things would be if I did have a father, especially when I see a father and daughter together. For example when I’m at a friend’s house and I see her dad drinking coffee on the couch. It’s so different to have a man in the house. My mothers never talked about my father or my sperm donor when I was little. But it was not their intention to keep it a secret. They thought I would start asking questions about
“ ” If people think I’m weird, I would be surprised
it on the age of 16, but I already asked them during kindergarten! I was a very curious girl. I grew up without a dad so I don’t know what My mom was in shock but she decided to call my sperm donor, Ruud, immediately. Ruud I might be missing. I’m so used to the idea of having two mothers. That’s my reality, my life. gave them the permission to tell the truth. When you tell people you don’t have a father Once in a while I see Ruud. The contact they often jump to the wrong conclusion and with him is very good; we have a good mutual
no father” Text: Özlem Bulgan Photo: Anouk Dalessie
relationship. He comes to my birthdays and he joined me during my graduation. My parents made an agreement with my father: he’s just the sperm donor and doesn’t interfere in my education.
SECRET I’ve never kept my home situation a secret. I think that when you act secretly about it, people might start thinking it’s weird. I’m not ashamed and I’m very open and always tell everybody about my mothers. I would be very surprised when people believe I’m odd. In other countries where it is less accepted, I’m more cautious for my own safety. People still think it’s something special. I often get comments like, ‘Oh you’re really the first one I met with two parents of the same gender, tell me more!’ But mostly I get positive reactions about my mothers. Fortunately, I have never been bullied. It’s strange that people automatically see me as a lesbian too, while I’m attracted to men. When I started thinking about relationships I knew that men and women had relationships too, that it’s even more common. A friend of mine actually just came out of the closet and she was very curious about
how it is to be lesbian and how things go with having children with a woman so she asked if she could talk to my parents. I was very pleased they could help her. Research has shown that teenage children of lesbian parents have a healthy psychological development and have fewer behavioural problems than their peers who grow up in heterosexual families. The study, conducted by Nanette Gartrell (UCLA) and Henny Bos (UvA) was published in scientific magazine “Pediatrics”. Bos says: “The results of the study may be partly explained by the involvement of lesbian mothers even before the birth of their children in the process of parenting and education. The fact that teenagers have less problems in their behaviour could be explained by the parenting style that lesbian parents adopt. For example, they often verbally limit their children, and they use less physical punishment than parents in the heterosexual control group”.
Sexpectations Text: Rose de Bruijn Photo: Ian Moore
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It’s dark. In the background, music is playing. A man and a woman gently kiss each other. The sheets are crackling. The lovers move slow and intimat. They come at the same time and fall asleep, smiling about what just happened. And then the credits start rolling. You look at your partner and decide your sex life should be exactly like this.
While nowadays almost every movie that contains some sort of romance between two actors has a sex-scene, it has only been 70 years before the first official porn movie was released. Now, almost 80 percent of all men watch an average 20 minutes of porn every week. Research has also shown that women from twelve to 35 years old enjoy at least four so-called ‘chicklits’ or romantic comedies in one year. Both men and women get to see an image of ideal situations between the sheets. Question is: in what way does this affect our own view on sex? Pornographic images go back as far as The Roman times. However, porn movies as we know it now, were shaped during the 1960s and 1970s. The same applies for the romantic drama scenes. On screen, sex seems to be easy. Ex-porn star Jenna Jameson during an interview for Good Morning New York: “I like the fact that sixteen year old boys watch me. I’d love to teach all of them how to have sex like a porn star.” What message do these movie genres give to their audience? Both teenagers and adults question their (upcoming) sex life and compare their bodies, their partners and the sex itself with actors from the screen. Gauge, a porn star who came back into the industry after eight years: “I see that the line between the screen and real life is getting thinner. What I do during my job is not normal for an average couple. Both men and women expect that they can have this mind-blowing ‘pornish’ kind of sex, just like that. However, it needs practice, flexibility and a good imagination.” Janna Goes, a thirty-five year old woman, has been married for fifteen years to her high
school boyfriend. “He was my first serious partner. I have always been a fan of romantic and dramatic movies, they always make me cry. The first time I had sex, I couldn’t believe it. Was this it?! Instead of the romantic, sweet and tender sex that I was familiar with from the movies, I felt like an awkward animal or something. Of course, it became much better. Now, I can have a realistic view on these scenes, knowing they’re based on a well-written script.” Best-selling author Rachel Van Dyken even gives the main character in her chicklit The Wager these expectations. She wanted a man, like the ones she saw in movies and on TV. A true hero who took care of her. Who’d let her enjoy the times between the sheets. Who didn’t go up and down on her like a panting dog. It can be questioned if porn and romantic scenes have so much influence on our view on sex, that we can’t enjoy a regular missionary position anymore. Research has shown that in Holland, people give their sex life a lean six out of ten. Sexologist Ellen Laan, who performed this research for the AMC and the UvA, says that couples in Holland have higher expectations of their sex life and compare their sex with the stories from other couples. Obviously, no sex life is perfect. We can, however, tell ourselves that if it works for us, it works. Hard, spicy sex or perfect lovemaking that you see on television is only fiction and fully planned in advance. Enjoying a night in front of the television can be exciting and romantic, but it is the missionary position that can be just as great as position 1001.
light Text: Sarah Berna Berends & Anne-Lize Mulder Illustration: Ragnhild Heggem Fagerheim
Amsterdam; canals, coffee shops and of course the Red Light District. The area where thinly dressed women stand behind windows, doing everything to bring out men’s desires. But why are there no men, winking their half nude butts towards the tourists? And what would a ‘Men only’- Red Light District look like? The twenty-six years old Little Suzie from Ukraine works behind one of the most expensive windows in The Red Light District, placed where most people pass. She’s been working there for four years. It has given her a lot of knowledge about the rules of the famous area. “Most men who come here are tourists. They all act tough, until one of us looks at them. Then they’re to intimidated to look back at us,” she says. “We don’t make our living on them. My usual customers are men who come by regularly.” Little Suzie doesn’t think there would be any Red Light District left if it was filled with men. “I don’t think that women would buy a man behind a window, because women look at sex differently than men do. I don’t think there would be enough women willing to pay for sex,” Little Suzie continues. “Men are different than women, in my opinion. Men are more willing to go out for an ‘adventure’, while women rather be ‘adventurous’ at home where they’re safe and no one else sees them. I guess you could say that women are more careful or maybe even scared.” Sexologist Ceryl Janssen, specialized in females, confirms Little Suzie’s thoughts about the difference in how men and women look at sex. “Women like to explore and perform their sexual needs in privacy. It might seem out dated but a majority of all women are still careful with sharing information about their sexuality,” she explains. “Especially when it’s about hiring someone to satisfy their needs. Men are the opposite; they’re more likely to show off when they’ve had sex. They’re also more open about paying for sex.”
Recently the British newspaper The Guardian investigated how many men, who took a free STD (sexually transmitted disease) test at their local municipal health department, had visited a prostitute. The investigation showed that 33 percent of the seven hundred interviewed men had been with a prostitute at some point in their life. The Guardian also asked if the respondents thought their wives had ever visited a prostitute. 16 percent, only half of the amount of men, claimed that their wives had. One man said ‘Women are emotional creatures who only have sex if they have any kind of feelings for the other part,’ a statement Ceryl Janssen can confirm. “The main reason women don’t like to pay for sex is because they want it to be perfect. Women mostly don’t just want sex; they also want a good conversation in a nice atmosphere. They want to be treated in a special way.” It might sound like women will never pay for sex, but that isn’t true. Male prostitution exists, but not in the ‘Red Light District visible’ way. Male prostitutes are often referred to as gigolos and you can find most of them online. Their job is completely different to the women in the Red Light District who just give the customer as little as possible. Gigolos are paid to give their customers whatever they desire. Ceryl Janssen agrees with Little Suzie: A Red Light District for women would look completely different to the one we have today, if there would even be one. “If men would be standing behind the windows they’d have to give their feelings, and not only sexual attention to their customers. But the question is: ‘Are women willing to leave their comfort zone and pay for sex?”
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Meng “Chinese people who are in a relationship for over a year start thinking about marriage. After getting married, they will get their own home. In general, we don’t live together before getting married, because most of us live with our parents. But nowadays people are becoming more open and more and more couples start living together without getting married first. You have to sign documents to declare that you are married, which is important for sure. If I don’t, I wouldn’t feel married and I wouldn’t feel comfortable with that situation. We are still quite traditional. I inherited these kind of ideas from my parents and I would never think about living with someone before marriage. In China, you can have sex before marriage, but you don’t talk about it. Never with your family, and maybe with your very, very close friends. This is not a very common conversation to have.” Kanykei “People get married quite early. After 21, people expect you to be in a relationship that in some way will lead to a marriage in a few years. This happens because in our culture, parents support us for our entire lives. There is no pressure to earn money or to have your own place, because it’s common that young couples live with their parents. I personally would like to live with someone first before getting married, but I know my parents would never understand that. Generally, the girl is expected to be a virgin. When in a serious relationship, it’s common for the man to have sex with other easy girls. The girlfriend is aware and it’s acceptable, only because he wants her to be a virgin. I think it’s absurd, and society is changing. So if people are dating, we know they could be having sex, but you don’t discuss it. I think this is even worse, because then people start to gossip about it.” Haydée “In Brazil, unless you have to move to another city, you live with your parents while
you’re still single until the age of thirty or later. Being married is actually about moving in with someone, sharing a house and the bills. My parents have been together for more than twenty years and they never got married. They never signed any papers and society doesn’t really see any difference because of it. Sex is common when you’re dating, and also if you aren’t. When you are a teenager, it could be a taboo to talk about it, but once you are 18, everybody has sex or is about to have it. People like to discuss it with friends, it’s a common topic in conversations and sometimes the family is also open to it. I told my parents when I had sex and they understood.”
Eroticism and beauty
Haydée “When I went to the beach in France during the summer, I saw a lot of women topless. It’s funny, because when people think about Brazil, they think everything is accepted. It’s not, people never go topless at the beach. You can wear really, really tiny bikinis, but you don’t go topless. In Brazil, there is this
It’s common for the man to have sex with other easy girls. The girlfriend is aware and it’s acceptable, only because he wants her to be a virgin. Kanikey Dordoeva
big thing with the ass. It’s not about being fat, but voluptuous, curvy. Girls should be skinny, but with a big ass. And we do show our bodies a lot, maybe because of the weather.” Kanykei “What I can say is we Kyrgyz don’t wear those little panties, showing our butts. It’s not only about being erotic, but
about bad manners. When we go out, we wear shorts and skirts, though it’s not really common to show boobies. I think it’s more about the big picture: taking good care of yourself, having nice hair and perfect skin. For us it is more about showing you are feminine and delicate, so skinny is considered sexy. We have this idea of a powerful man, so the girl should be skinny and fragile for the man to be the dominant.” Meng “I should say China is very different, people just like different girls. I’ve been talking to some guys and some of them like curvy, others like very skinny girls. Among girls, I think we just have this agreement that you should be skinny, but we never know what guys want. I think it’s sexy for Chinese when you wear very short jeans or a mini skirt to show the legs. However, we don’t use a deep neckline to show breasts, because it is considered too hot. In China, we have this special department of censorship, so we don’t have naked people on TV and if they find some erotic content on the internet, they block it.”
Who cooks better will be the person cooking. I have friends whose mothers work and fathers cook every day, because they cook well. Meng Lang
Sexism Kanykei “At home, women are dominated by men and they have to do the house work. Now, among youth, it is getting more equal, but in many houses women still do these chores while also working. I think women are in a bad position, because they work outside and also work at home. We do have opportunities in our
You can wear really tiny bikinis, but you don’t go topless. In Brazil, there is this big thing with the ass. Haydée Klautau
professional life and our president is a woman. I think it’s harder for women, but we are quite independent in our careers. But, at home, we are clearly dominated.” Meng “It depends on the region. For instance, in south of Beijing, women generally get out of the house and earn the money. However, society still consider men as the most powerful. They are privileged in everything and companies prefer to contract men. Inside a household, women are often very powerful and men have to listen to their wives. Then again, outside they have to respect their husband. In a public restaurant, men will pay the bill even if the woman earns more. It’s a part of society, but not inside our homes. For example, who cooks better will be the person cooking. I have friends whose mothers work and fathers cook every day, because they cook well.” Haydée “In Brazil, I think we are in a phase, in the middle of change. Both men and women work, but usually men make more money than women do. They will never say “I rule this house,” but many times it’s implicated, because they earn more. It’s also very common in Brazil to have someone who cleans the house because it’s cheap. In that case, not only women do the tasks, they are also in charge of the person who cleans the house. I can see that for young couples, the guys are also cooking and helping with domestic tasks. So, I can say for young people it is changing.” a lot, maybe because of the weather.”
hide or show?
“Hijabs suppress women.” “Women who year Hijabs have to hide their body, they can’t show their womanliness.” Not according to these ladies. They wear their scarves with pride and femininity. Tine Eide, Maud de Groot & Gijs Hoonhout
“My scarf means my religion to me.”
“Our scarfs have no influence on our femininity. It was conscious decision we made, brought forward by our religion, nothing else.”
“My scarf has nothing to do with my femininity, it doesn’t really mean anything. I don’t think less of people who don’t wear one.”
“My scarf empowers me. It makes me different, which allows me to believe that I’m able to become whoever I would want to become. When I wear a scarf I definitely feel that I’m respected more. It brings me a confidence that I don’t think I’d ever have without it.”
“I only wear my scarf because it’s part of my religion, but it definitely influences the way I feel as a woman. I feel very feminine.”
“I feel very feminine. But my scarf doesn’t really have anything to do with it. It’s more of a fashion choice, I like to combine it with my clothes, with colours that suit me. Tradition and religion are also part of the choice, but mostly because I think it looks good on me. “
“Wearing a scarf, makes you feel different from the rest of the world. People look at you differently. Sometimes that’s a good thing, but a lot of times it can be really hard. In the end you do it, because you know that the reason behind it, my belief, is worth it. “
desire do gods allow? Text: Madalena Bartmann & Daniela Karina
Forced marriages, genital cutting, homophobic tendencies and celibacy. Most religions have a very uneasy relationship with sexuality. They try to control it. Looking at worldâ€™s biggest religions, it seems like everybody does it but religions donâ€™t always allow the joy. How hardened are the fronts between religion and sex?
society CHRISTIANITY Catholicism Catholics are inhibited. Sex is only for reproduction. The patriarchal society strengthens the sex adverse. However they’re known as strict, cases of child abuses arose lately. Catholicism suffers from double standards. That’s why more and more liberal Catholics today follow their sexually freedom without bothering about the church’s rules. “Catholic boys jerk as much as other boys,” says Godwin Lämmermann, University Investigator of Sexuality in Religion. “Culture has more influence than religion.” Protestantism “The US Evangelicals are more frigid than Europe’s Protestants. This is due to their culture,” Lämmermann explains. Martin Luther, father of the Protestants, however demanded more liberal standards. Sex for pleasure, homosexuality, divorce and prevention are more accepted. “In the New Testament Magdalena anoints Jesus, that’s kind of a sex story,” says Lämmermann. “The naked Jesus on the crux represents a sufferer as well as a male ideal.”
ISLAM Muslims are seen as pretty far away from what we would call sexual revolution. Islam isn’t completely sex-adversarial as long as people have sex within marriage. “Mohammed did appreciate joy,” says Lämmermann. Sex connects people to God and therefore strict believers are pleased to shout ‘Allahu Akbar’, which means ‘God is great’, during the sexual act. Some men marry women just for a few hours to have sex. Potency is also very important and women can divorce if their husband suffers from impotence. The Islam’s problem is the patriarchal society. Men control their wives. Sexual revolution happens in silence and suffers from the public pressure. Some Muslims slowly change to western habits, mainly due the Arab spring period.
7 4 HINDUISM
The erotic exposition ‘Kama Sutra’ might give you the idea of a sexually open culture. The ARTE documentary ‘Sex: Taboo in the Kama Sutra’s country’ (2013) shows the complete opposite. Sex for desire is against Hinduism, even in marriage. India, the formerly open country, has become super conservative when the British Empire took over control and spread its Victorian standards. The old rules are still stuck in India’s culture. Especially in country sides women have no rights. The ambitious middle class in Mumbai and Delhi develops in a different way.
“Orthodox Jews should marry as virgins. In Bride classes women are teached how to practice sex. During their period a couple can’t have sex or even touch each other. After the period women taking a ritual bath, Mitwe, to clean themselves and get ready for sex again,” says Rabbi Goldmann from the liberal Jewish
Tibetan Buddhists experience their religion not only as a religion but also as a lifestyle. Therefore sex is a part of the human nature. Sexual energy can be used for sex. In Tantra it’s used to transform your mind. The aim is, not to think of you, but about others. “There’re drawings where a female and a male are merging but it’s not representing sexuality, it’s the union of compassion and wisdom. Real Tantra is just for very educated believers and mostly teached secretly,” says Marc Grondman from the Tibetan Buddhist Maitreya Institut Amsterdam.
Are you a virgin? Yes No
Are you saving yourself for a marriage?
community in Amsterdam. In liberal Judaism however sexuality is required and positive. “Due to the Tora women have the right to have an orgasm otherwise they can legally divorce,” says Rabbi Goldmann. It’s all about the interpretation of the Tora. The surrounding culture influences the acceptance of homosexuality and sex before marriage.
Are you married? Yes No
Would you have sex with more than one partner in your life?
Are you gay? Yes No
Do you use pregnancy control?
Is love the most important thing in a marriage?
Would you get divorced when love ends?
Do you think we should enjoy sexual lust?
Yes Is the sex act the most important thing in sex?
No Liar. You are going to hell.
Is sex important to you?
Do couples that make out in public annoy you?
Are you flexible? Yes No
alphabet Text: Thomas Datema & Merle Westerborg Photo: Jesse Therrien
Fetishism falls under the mental-health category of paraphilia, in which a person is (often solely) aroused by a particular object, dynamic or situation. A person who, for instance, must hold a baseball, wear a diaper, be hurt, inflict pain or have a non-consenting partner in order to reach sexual gratification.
A B E F G H I
Agalmatophilia Having an erotic interest in statues, mannequins and immobility. Biastophilia Enjoy raping a non-consenting person, especially a stranger Erotophonophilia Sexual arousal from murdering people, often complete strangers. Formicophilia the sexual interest in being crawled upon or nibbled by small insects. Gynemimetophilia the desire to have sex with transsexual or transgender women. Hybristophilia Getting off on knowing your partner has committed a serious crime. Infantophilia Pedophilia with a focus on children five years old or younger.
C D J
Coprophilia Ever seen ‘Two girls one cup’? Also known as scat, scatophilia or fecophilia.
Kleptophilia A kleptomaniac who has an unhealthy, sexual compulsion to eject their cum on the objects that they steal.
Dacryphilia Getting sexually aroused when someone is crying.
Jack Gagger a husband that goes out and procures men to pay, to have sex with his wife. It is a form of humiliation as a fetish of the wives. Their men can’t please them, so they have to pay someone to please them.
Lactaphilia When people are sexually attracted to breast milk. This is not confined to just men. In studies, between 33 and 50% of mothers found breast-feeding erotic, and only about 25% felt guilty about it.
9 4 lingo
M N O P Q R S
Maiusiophilia People who are extremely attracted to pregnant women, also called ‘preggos’.
Necrophilia Ever had the urge to sleep with a dead person? Occulolinctus The pleasure of licking someone’s eyeballs.
Podophilia Also known as a foot-fetish. Getting off on kissing, licking and sucking feet. Queening Also known as face-sitting.
Retifism Similar to the foot-fetish, only without the feet. Getting off on licking, kissing and sucking (used) shoes.
Sissification Men who like to dress up in women’s clothing, wear make-up and wigs Symphorphilia Witnessing or staging disasters such as car accidents
T U V W X Y Z
Trichophilia Being attracted to someone’s hair, more specifically hair on someone’s head.
Urolagnia The famous Golden Shower. Pretty well known fetish where people like to get peed on or like to pee on someone as a form of foreplay. Voyeurism Someone who likes to watch people have sex. Secretly. Waxing Turns out, there are people who actually like getting a wax and even feel like this is arousing.
Xenophilia People who get excited about having sex with someone (or something) they don’t know. Yoni worship is the worship of female genitalia.
Zoophilia People who are attracted to animals.
Frank Schouten about how to be a
real man Text: Jenny Minderman Illustration: Ragnhild Heggem Fagerheim
Journalist Frank Schouten calls himself a straightforward ‘Rotterdammer’. He notices, questions and investigates everything and he never minces his words. According to him, men have started to behave in a different way since the 1970s. “They’ve started to lose their identity and I don’t like that,” says Frank. That’s why he wrote the book ‘H A R P O E N’. With this book he wants to help the men to make a comeback as, what he calls, real men.
What does H A R P O E N stand for?
Do you see yourself as a real man?
“Harpoen is a Dutch abbreviation for the words: Humorous, adventurous, knightly, passionate, naughty, honest, and sober. There are many words these letters could stand for, but these are the seven criteria I think men should be able to identify with, or at least with a few of them. These are also the guidelines for men so they don’t forget what they really are: Men!”
“I am, but not as much as the guys I’ve interviewed for my book. I don’t possess all the characteristic of the ‘real man’, but I strive to. I know my strengths, so I don’t have to hide behind either macho or metrosexual behaviors. The biggest difference between men and women, for me, is the fact that men have a penis and women have a vagina.”
Do you really believe men need a guideline on how to become real again?
Many metrosexual men use crèmes for their skins. Do you dislike these men?
“When I started to see men walking with the shiny bags of their wives hanging on their arms, I just thought ‘Guys, come on!’ But the pinnacle that made me realize something was wrong was when a former colleague of mine said: Seated urination is quite handy, though. If we, men, can piss while standing, we should do so! Then I knew it was time to write a book. A guide where I, in a humorous but certainly serious way, describe why men need to stay men.”
“Metro men are a monstrous product of our time. They adapt female behavior because they don’t feel enough loved by their partners. Neither men nor women should copy each other behaviors. Research actually shows that women love men who have a passion for something else than their girlfriend.”
Your idea of real men can be seen as a stereotype. Can gay men use your book? “Your sexual preferences don’t matter. If you have some of the above mentioned harpoon-characteristics, you’re a real man.”
sex boosted comics Or the other way around
Text & illustration: Luísa Ulhoa During the 1960s, the world began experiencing a great change in thinking and lifestyle. These changes were especially noticeable in comics. Artists embraced counterculture, a second wave of feminism and gay pride. The population started seeing sexuality in a new light, and comic books perfectly portrayed this new way of thinking. Since the 1950s, comics were used for educational purposes with adaptations of great classic novels. The language thus began to be more than just a means to typical shallow superhero stories, it became a mirror of society and human conflicts. Superheroes started to have deep psychological backgrounds, such as Spider-man, a hero born out of guilt. Robert Crumb, an important name in American counterculture, wrote and drew comics depicting social satire, pornographic scenes and drug apologia. In Europe, ‘Barbarella’ by Jean-Claude Forest was a ground-breaking comic with a highly independent and sexual female protagonist. Guido Crepax’s ‘Valentina’ would be a model, not only for feminism and the sexual revolution, but also to the language of comics. In 1962, Jean-Claude Forest introduces Barbarella, an Earth girl who travels the universe fighting enemies with her raging sexuality, in V-Magazine. The self-entitled graphic novel was published in 1964 and its slightly erotic content made it the first ever ‘adult comic-book’. Bar-
barella literally uses sex as a weapon. With her Brigitte Bardot inspired looks, she represents her time well. Violence is discouraged and frowned upon as the Earth extinguished weapons for centuries and war is considered barbarian. Barbarella travels alone in her spaceship and conquers men with their most primary instincts – sex. She is powerful, she is independent and she is intelligent. Not surprisingly, Barbarella became an icon for feminists of her time. Not only was she one of the few female superhero protagonists – even to this day! – but she also personifies a sexually liberated woman. She is not ashamed of her desires and is open to both men and women. Posteriorly, she inspired several artists, such as the French director Roger Vadim, who transformed the comics in a motion picture in 1968 with Jane Fonda as the heroine. Serge Gainsbourg, a French singer famous for his explicitness, mentioned Barbarella on his song ‘Qui est in qui est out’ in 1966. The British band Duran Duran also got its name from an evil scientist in the movie. Another reflection of Jean-Claude Forest’s character is the Italian heroine Valentina, created by Guido Crepax. Her first appearance was in Linus magazine in 1965. She was not the protagonist at first, but the assistant of photographer Rembrandt. Her supporting role in the photographer’s investigations only lasted one story and she became the leading lady ever since. Just like Barbarella, Valentina had a movie star serving as inspiration: the silent actress of the 1920s Louise Brooks. The ‘Valentina’ series revolutionized comics in many ways. She was sensual, but never vulgar. She had a solid identity, with a birthday, height and a precise description. She even aged in the stories as the years went by, being 53 when the last story was published in 1995. She was a mother, she worked and she had sex outside of marriage. There’s erotica and fetishism, reality and illusion. The disposition of frames on the pages was dynamic and innovative. For the first time, someone was playing with the frames and its content. Photography and cinema played a significant role
in this new design of comics. It has a rich cultural background, with references from literature, movies, politics and music. Another important milestone is the work of Tom of Finland, a homoerotic Finnish artist. Although his work started back in the 1940s, he gained fame in the end of the 1950s, with his drawings featured on the cover of athletic magazines such as American Physique Pictorial. While Barbarella and Valentina had their experiences with women, stories by Tom of Finland are about homosexual encounters of huge athletic men with large penises. All his men are physically alike, changing only the clothes – normally related to some fetish – and the color of the hair and skin.
The language thus began to be more than just a means to standard shallow superhero stories, being also a mirror for society and human conflicts.
While Tom of Finland did write stories in the ‘Kake’ series, they are something different than a comic. The structure does not consist of frames in a page, but a collection of one-page pictures, which tell the story. His pre-comics structure became iconic and his drawings are considered works of art. Tom of Finland is considered the most influential gay pornographic artist and is seen as an icon to the gay community. Barbarella, Valentina and Kake are important characters of their time, personalizing the desires of their changing societies. Their importance, however, goes beyond their social mirroring: they also show the evolution of comics and their relevance in society. Kake is a model of pre-comics, Barbarella has a standard comic structure and Valentina breaks all previous frame arrangements, establishing that the language of comics can be more complex, like the stories they were telling.
No distinction between &
men women? Think again. Text: Marije de Roode Photo: Maud de Groot
A lot of people say that in The Netherlands, we live in a modern society where the division of roles between men and women is hardly noticeable anymore. But is this ideality actually reality? When people say that these days you don’t really see the difference anymore between men and women, I find it hard not to laugh. In my everyday life I see a big dissimilarity between so-called equal rights and tasks of men and women. I live in a household of four students, two women (including me) and two men. We all have busy lives as we study and work at the same time. Every day when I come home from a long day of University or work, I walk into my two male roommates being home for hours already, watching the telly while lying on the sofa. Now, you would expect that while they were home they could have gotten some groceries or done some cleaning. But no, all the dirty dishes are still in the sink and the fridge is still empty. While I start cleaning the dishes, my other female roommate calls to ask if she should do the groceries for dinner as she is on her way home anyway. When she comes home, the men come out of their room wondering what we’ll have for dinner. They assume one of us girls will cook, not even considering the possibility they could do so. Again, no problem, I like to cook, and this means I don’t have to clean afterwards. But again, I had my hopes up while I shouldn’t have. Even after dinner, I’m cleaning because the guys really needed to get their study on. Like I don’t. Clearly, in my household, there is still a division of roles between men and women. And that’s just the household situation. At work it’s sometimes even worse. I work at The
Ajax Experience, a museum/fan shop of the football club in Amsterdam. Of course, the football world is a world that is known as a guy’s world. But I actually know a lot about football, thanks to my internship at a sports section of a newspaper and watching six football matches every weekend. However, being a girl makes people assume I don’t know anything about football. Every time I try to participate in a conversation about football, they say something like: “Sorry, this is a guys conversation, you wouldn’t even be interested.” Now, I get that men aren’t used to girls knowing a lot about football, but they wouldn’t even give me a chance. After I got to know everyone better, they started to realize that I actually know a lot about football, so after a view months I was accepted and finally allowed to join the football conversations. However, every day at work, when customers have a question related to the clothes we sell, or gossip about the personal life of football players, they feel at ease asking me. When it is a football related question, the customers don’t even consider asking me. Sometimes I just want to shout at those people: ‘I’m right here! I probably know more about football than every other person in this store right now.’ But I just stay friendly and help the next person with finding the right size of a shirt. So to everyone who thinks that there is no distinction between men and women anymore, think again. Of course it is not like it used to be, women and men have equal rights and more and more women are in high positions at companies. But when it comes to the more simple things in life, like the household or some places that are sacrosanct to men, women will still be automatically put in place. Look around in your everyday life and you will see that the division is still there.
ld or beautiful Text: Danielle Van Der Leest Illustration: Ragnhild Heggem Fagerheim
S 58t politics
Aleksandra Yaltonskaya lives in Moscow, works as a research associate for the National Center on Addiction. She studied at the Moscow State University of Medicine and Dentistry. She is one of few women who refuses the rules of society, has gone her own way, and has become an independent woman. But getting to where she is today was rough. “I’m very lucky with my job. Few women have the opportunity to get a job like this in Russia, and I had to work very hard for it. In Russia not everyone can get an education because we don’t have scholarships like the ones in Europe. Most Russian women focus more on their appearances to attract rich men so they don’t have to take care of themselves,” she says. Russian women fight for emancipation and their own rights but we always encounter a lot of difficulties. And a lot of people choose the easy way. According to the Russian writer Ljoedmila Oelitskaja the shortage is not only caused by the many wars, millions of men are in prison and when there set free, it’s hard to integrate in a normal society. A large group is also useless for the society and their families due alcoholism. And since the fall of the Berlin wall, men are leaving the country to find work in West Europe. Marina Nova was born in Russia, but moved with her mother to the Netherlands a few years ago. She explains what it’s like being a woman in Russia today. “If they find the right man, they are settled for life. Appearance is very important, and there’s a lot of competition between the girls, because why would a man choose to take care of an ugly woman? If you’re only pretty and not really beautiful, you can always try to find a foreigner, or a less
wealthy Russian. That’s also why most Russian women wear high heels; it makes you more feminine.” There are also other reasons why Russian women try to attract a foreigner. Research, by the Oxford University and the Russian Cancer Research Centre in Moscow, shows that there is a shortage of men in Russia. According to this study; many men die at a young age due to different kinds of abuse. The Russian Demographic Profile of 2013 validates the study. It shows that there are only 0.65 men for every Russian woman in the age between 24 and 54. This might raise competition for a man in Russia. Hans ten Broeke is a Dutch painter who lived in Russia for several years. “My father served in Russia during the second world war and his stories about the country made me curious about it.” Broeke went to Kazakhstan for the first time in 1990. What surprised him most during his visit were the Russian girls. “They all work so hard to earn money and at the same time they stay focused on their studies. And they were all so beautiful and they really knew how to use their looks. It flattered me when they spoke to me. Their English was good, much better compared to the Russian men.” Broeke met his girlfriend on his visit in Kazakhstan. They have been together for five years and work hard to maintain the long distance relationship they have today. “She’s sometimes worried that I’ll leave her alone. I always try to calm her down. She is the one I’m in love with. I always encourage her to study so she has the possibility to take care of herself, and I do it out of love.”
Sex to read &
to watch Text: Isabela Bonfim & Marije de Roode Graphic: Christiaan van Hattem
Over the years, sex has played a major part in pages and frames of many masterpieces, discussing new social issues, breaking taboos and amusing the audience. For a better understanding of the role of sex in books and movies, we assembled a list of titles to discuss the state of modern publishing and filming markets. Check it out and choose yours to have fun this weekend. The book has different audiences, but mainly Books women aged thirty and forty, creating the new The first milestone in the new era of sexualsub-genre of ‘mommy porn’. ity in the publishing market is the novel ‘100 ‘50 Shades’ is to mommy porn what ‘TwiStrokes of the Brush Before Bed’. First light’ is to the vampire trend. Countless similar published in Italy in 2003, the novel has the titles have been invading bookstores in the last format of a diary and was translated to 24 few years. The latest one is ‘Beautiful Baslanguages. Melissa P. is 15 when she loses her tard’, published in February under the pen virginity. Heart-broken, she decides to have name Christina Lauren. The novel describes the sex with several partners, having experimental hot relationship between intern Chloe Mills and casual encounters, group-sex and sadomasher boss Bennett Ryan, with detailed descripochism. The description of each adventure tions for each dirty scene. This concept, howcomprise a book that could be called “erotic,” ever, responds to female heterosexual demands though Melissa is a teenager waiting for her and ignores other slices of the market. It is hard prince charming while being used as an object. to find anything substantial, in quality or sales, Her self-destructiveness and solitude hardly dedicated to the gay public, for example. arouse sexual desire in the reader. The recently published novel ‘Plan B’, by In 2011, the British E.L. James wrote the S.J.D. Peterson, follows an alternative pattern. biggest success since Harry Potter: the trilogy It shows a 20-year-old man called Danny. ‘50 Shades’. Forty million copies were sold in He’s gay and androgynous, struggling with his 37 countries and there’s a movie to be released straight partner who keeps searching for a fein 2015. In the story, Anastasia is a 21-year-old male figure in Danny’s body. Unlike previously virgin who finds herself deeply attracted to the discussed works, this book is not stuffed with billionaire Christian Grey. The novel is filled pornography. Instead, it focuses on affection with domination and sadomasochism. It shows and self-acceptance. Also concerned with an the changes that affected the publishing market exclusive audience, the American psychotherain the eight years that separate it from Melissa pist Dr. David Ribner wrote ‘The Newlywed P. While Anastasia’s impression of Christian is Guide to Physical Intimacy’ in 2011 for close to that of a god, the language and atmoultra-orthodox Jews. Considering that women sphere break the expectations of a fairy tale.
1999 Boys Don't Cry
2003 100 Strokes of the Brush Before Bed
2005 Imagine Me & You
2005 Brokeback Mountain
and men do not have any physical contact until marriage, Dr. Ribner starts his guide presenting the human anatomy. There are no images, only a sealed envelope with three illustrations of basic sexual positions.
When it comes to movies, ‘Boys Don’t Cry’ (1999) is one of the first appreciated pieces discussing transsexuals. It’s based on the real-life story of Brandon Teena, a transsexual man, played by Hilary Swank. Brandon Teena, anatomically a female, but transformed and living as a man, was beaten, raped and murdered after his male friends discovered his real identity. The film has a high emotional charge and mostly focuses on the relationship between Teena and his girlfriend. While watching the movie, it’s easy to forget that Teena used to be a girl. It’s just about someone trying to find his place in the world, on a search for his own identity, freedom and love. ‘Boys Don’t Cry’ was declared by critics as one of the best films of the year and Hilary Swank received an Oscar for the leading role. Another groundbreaking sexually charged movie arrived in 2005: ‘Brokeback Mountain’. The story takes place in the American West between 1963 and 1981. Two men try to figure out their complex romantic and sexual relationship. The film won three Oscars: best director (Ang Lee), best adapted-screenplay and best original score. It is a dramatic love story about two men who fall in love in a time
it was unacceptable. Multiple movies have discussed this subject, so what was the unique selling point of this particular film? Well, the famous Heath Ledger and Jake Gyllenhaal performed the two leading roles. Actors who are considered sex symbols by many women. Both of them are straight and playing the role of homosexuals. The sex scenes were filmed in a very convincing way, realistically portraying intense love and passion. Also in 2005, ‘Imagine Me & You’ was released. This film tells the story of a woman, Rachel, who falls in love with another woman when she marries a man. The film is not particularly about homosexuality, but about someone finding love. It is romantic, yet funny at the same time. The atmosphere is breezy instead of dramatic, allowing for a rather charming main character. Once viewers start to care about Rachel, it does not really matter if she finds love with a man or a woman, just as long as she is happy. ‘Shame’, a movie with sex as the main topic entered the cinemas in 2011. Brandon (Michael Fassbender) has a sex addiction; the film depicts his struggle with his problem and the people he hurts during the process. Besides the extensive sex scenes, the spectator is oriented to the human relations more than to porn itself. Brandon’s sister tries to help him cope with his addiction, but he only ends up hurting her every time. It even gets so bad that Brandon forgets about the ethical limits within his professional environment. The destructive nature of the character caught the attention of the audience.
2011 The Newlywed Guide to Physical Intimacy
2011 50 Shades
2013 Beautiful Bastard
2013 Plan B
Editors in chief
Rose de Bruijn
Christiaan van Hattem
Bibiana van der Brink
Maud de Groot
Marije de Roode
Roleine Van de Vlasakker
Danielle van der Leest
Loes van Langen