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6 FYI 8 Picks/Meet This Long Island Woman 10 Book Corner

Caroline Leavitt’s With or Without You

18 Health

Getting a Mammogram During COVID-19

20 Catching Up With Carol (Silva) But Will You Vote?

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Jodi’s Favorites

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Favorite Broadway Show Old school would be “West Side Story,” and more recently it would be “Hamilton.” It’s just so damn smart. How do you not love “Hamilton?”

Hilderbrand’s books. Josie Silver’s Favorite Music (when you’re “The Two Lives of Lydia Bird” is a light writing) relationship novel that I enjoyed. I don’t listen to anything when I’m writing. That’s kryptonite for me. It’s Favorite Movie funny because I love music and I have Probably “Shakespeare in Love.” It’s it playing in the car when I’m driving Guilty Pleasure Genre the only movie I keep downloaded on and I sing at the top of my lungs. But Young Adult fantasy. I became my devices. I don’t watch it, but it’s I cannot have it in the background obsessed with it when I was writing there in case I need it. when I’m writing because I get “The Book of Two Ways.” I won’t read distracted by lyrics. It’s weird. something that’s similar to what I’m Favorite Pastime (excluding books) writing when I’m writing. Baking. I’m a really good baker, and Favorite Long Island Restaurant my two boys are phenomenal bakers When I was growing up we used to go out to Ben’s Deli. In New Favorite Beach Read as well. I make bread all the time. I would take Jennifer Weiner’s or Elin Hampshire you cannot get good deli. To advertise: 516-505-0555 x1 • liwomanonline.com/advertise


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Breast Surgery Combined with Tummy Tuck and/or Liposuction by Charlotte Rhee, MD, F.A.C.S., P.C. Many of my patients come to me seeking help with the changes that can occur after childbirth. Following childbirth, a woman’s breast can grow to uncomfortable proportions or just the opposite can happen. A woman’s breast can actually lose volume and shrink, resulting in the breast appearing “deflated.” Additionally, a large number of women come to me seeking help with the post partum changes of their abdomen. During pregnancy the skin and abdominal wall muscles are stretched. Following childbirth, the abdomen can protrude and the skin can be loose or sag. In some cases, the abdominal muscles can be so weakened that the individual may look like she is still pregnant. Despite daily workouts including sit ups and crunches, a tummy tuck may be needed to restore these muscles.

ing breast reduction. Both groups of women want to have breasts that are proportional to their body size with the most natural result possible. In certain situations, a breast lift is also needed to tighten lax skin. The laxity can be the result of pregnancy or weight loss. When a breast lift is needed, I utilize the lollipop scar technique. A breast lift procedure is very similar to a breast reduction. The only difference is that with a breast reduction, breast tissue is removed.

Combined Breast/Tummy Tuck and Liposuction Procedures. Many of my patients who have breast surgery also have other procedures performed at the same time. This allows for one surgery and one recovery. The most common combined procedures performed by Dr. Rhee are breast surgery, whether it is a breast reduction or augmentation, combined with tummy tuck, also known as abdominoplasty. For those patients Breast Reduction Many of my patients who desire breast augmentation together with a tummy tuck, I am able to place Women with very large pendulous breasts may experience varied medical the breast implants through the tummy tuck incision, leaving the breasts without who have breast problems including back and neck pain. Also, the weight of large breasts can any scars. cause the bra straps to dig into the shoulders leaving groove markings. Large surgery also have other Liposuction is also commonly performed at the same time. Despite diet and breasts get in the way of physical activities such as running, making exercise exercise, certain areas of the body are prone to carry excess fat. For these areas, liprocedures performed and weight loss very difficult if not impossible. Breast reduction (reduction posuction can help. The most common areas for liposuction are the love handles at the same time. This (upper hip area) and thighs. mammaplasty), is a surgical procedure which makes breasts smaller. There are many different breast reduction techniques. The more traditional allows for one surgery Patients who have combined procedures do surprisingly well. In addition to method (inverted T-scar) leaves the breasts with a vertical, long horizontal having the benefit of just one recovery process, there can also be a significant and one recovery. scar (along the breast crease). “I utilize the Lejour technique, which leaves savings in price. the breast with a single vertical incision (lollipop scar) and, in my opinion, To learn more, please call our Huntington office to schedule a complimentawith a rounder more natural appearing breast and a better cosmetic result.” Breast reduc- ry consultation with Dr. Rhee at (631) 424-6707. Located at 257 E. Jericho Tpke., Huntington tions are performed as an outpatient procedure and are covered by insurance. Station. www.liplasticsurgery.com. Dr. Charlotte Rhee is a board certified plastic and reconstructive surgeon specializing in Breast Augmentation Women who come to me seeking breast enlargement have very similar goals to those seek- breast surgery. advertisement

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Making Strides Online Almost everyone has been affected by breast cancer. By dedicating a tribute to a loved one lost, someone currently battling the disease, or anyone who’s overcome breast cancer; joining an app-based virtual team scavenger hunt; or adding to the online mosaic of small groups of people making socially distant strides in their own way, you can provide valuable support to the American Cancer Society’s Making Strides on Long Island programs during October, which is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. The Society’s mission includes helping a survivor look good so they feel better, or being available to answer a caregiver’s question at 2 a.m. Also planned are online streaming activities with performers and survivor ceremonies, a physical display at Jones Beach State Park, and more. Proceeds from the events help fund the American Cancer Society’s mission to save lives. See how you can participate at secure.acsevents.org.

Surviving Crisis Grief is a natural process, but the isolation of battling the COVID-19 public health crisis has meant postponing healing rituals — funerals, shivas, or memorials — which drastically limits our ability to grieve with others at our side. To find ways to deal with grief, Mount Sinai South Nassau offers a new Virtual Bereavement Group. Register at southnassau.org or call 516-377-5400, option 1. Other groups for those who have experienced the loss of a loved one meet in person, by telephone, or via the internet, to help participants accept their loss, express their grief, and put their lives back together. Through the free information service 2-1-1 Long Island, hospitals, hospices, churches, and other community centers welcome those facing loss in groups such as Adults Mourning the Death of a Grandparent, Handling the Holidays for the Bereaved, Little Stars

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by Annie Wilkinson peak. Biologist/ranger Eric Powers and survival expert Adam Nestor will teach participants how to survive by building shelter, making fire, purifying water, and cooking, from noon on Saturday, Oct. 17 to noon on Sunday, Oct. 18. Social distancing and face mask rules are respected throughout the program. The cost is $85 per person for Sands Point Preserve Conservancy members, $95 for nonmembers. Meet at the preserve Gate House, 127 Middle Neck Rd., Sands Point. The preserve also offers nature activities including Owl Prowl for Adults, where nightwalkers can listen to the preserve residents’ native calls in the forest on Friday, Oct. 23 from 7:30-9:30 p.m. (members pay $15 per car, nonmembers pay $25), and a Forest Therapy Walk on Saturday, Oct. 24, 2-4:30 p.m. (members pay $35 per person, nonmembers pay $40). Register at sandspointpreserveconservancy.org or call 516-3045076.

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Children’s Bereavement, Suicide and Overdose Bereavement Support, Afterlife Science Discussion, and many more. In-person groups meet at locations throughout Nassau and Suffolk. The service connects residents to health and human services needed on a daily basis or during a disaster, and is supported by 2-1-1 Long Island, a project of Suffolk County government, United Way of Long Island, and Middle Country Library (MCL) Foundation. See the groups offered at 211longisland.communityos.org or call 2-1-1; outside Nassau or Suffolk counties, call 1-888-774-7633.

Because the show must go on, Long Island theaters that had to go dark during the pandemic are finding creative ways to keep their audiences by grooming aspiring thespians. The Fall Intensive season at The Argyle Theatre at 34 W. Main St. in Babylon offers a wide variety of limited-size, in-person and virtual children’s and adult classes through Dec. 23. Try your hand at musical theatre tap, hip-hop, acting, playwriting, meditation, and more. See schedule at argyletheatre.com or call 844-631-LIVE (5483). Out East, Bay Street Theater in Sag Harbor is collaborating with AARP (American Association of Retired Persons) Long Island to provide free online seminars via Zoom, focusing on stage acting, improv, creative writing, public speaking, and other classes for adults ages 18 and older. Explore/register at baystreettheater.org or call 631-725-0818. s To submit info for FYI consideration please send it to fyi@liwomanonline.com.

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Who knew? Adventurous Long Islanders will be roughing it, gathering their camping gear and sleeping bags for an overnight wilderness survival training adventure in the woods. There will be some pampering allowed — breakfast in a 116-year-old castle at Sands Point Preserve on the original Guggenheim Estate — and the grounds’ autumn foliage will be at its glorious

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Earth, Wind, Fire, Water “Elements” is the theme of Long Island Photo Gallery’s curated exhibit, on display through Nov. 7. On Thursday, Oct 29, from 6:30-8:30 p.m., an in-person and virtual reception takes place at the gallery at 467 Main Street in Islip. Find out more info at longisland photogallery.com or call 888-6005474.

Boutique Pick

Made on Long Island After spending its first few years as a pop-up store in a restored vintage camper, Hitch Lifestyle Boutique just celebrated its one-year anniversary as an established brick-and-mortar business in Babylon Village, selling handmade goods by more than 70 local artisans. Visit at hitchlongisland.com, 37 E. Main St., Babylon, or call 516-860-5543.

Stargazing Pick

Mars at its Brightest Tour the starry sky, featuring the Red Planet Mars at its most spectacular, at the Custer Institute and Observatory’s program, “What’s in the Sky This Month.” The indoor/outdoor program takes place Saturday, Oct. 10, at 7 p.m. at 1115 Main Bayview Rd., Southold. Purchase tickets (adults $5, children younger than 12 $3, members free) at eventbrite com. Masks and social distancing are required. Learn more at custerobservatory.org or call 631-765-2626.

Festival Pick

Apples, Arts, and History The Apple & Arts Festival will celebrate its 25th anniversary from Saturday to Sunday, Oct. 17 and 18 with outdoor arts and crafts projects for children and adults, including mobile making, pumpkin painting, and scarecrow making. Go to eventbrite. The 217-year -old Nathaniel Conklin House

com to see the schedule and register (required) for the free festival, to be held at the Nathaniel Conklin House, 280 Deer Park Ave., Babylon. Masks are required. Learn more about the 217-year-old house at villageofbabylonny.gov.

Networking Pick Aging Brilliantly

The Transition Network invites professional women with changing life situations, 50 and forward, to explore its programs and workshops. Offerings from TTN’s Long Island chapter include an Overview of Photojournalism, Meditation, and Women Directors. Yearly membership is $100. Visit at thetransitionnetwork.org.

Sustaining Pick

For Those in Need The Nassau County-supported COVID-19 Food Pantry Distribution Center will be open every Monday through December from 12-4 p.m. Located at 650 Magnolia Blvd. in Long Beach, the pantry is sponsored by Long Island Cares, Inc., the Harry Chapin Food Bank and is open to Nassau County residents only; bring I.D. Families are welcome back monthly for food support.

Bakery Pick Sweet Treats

Since 1976, Dortoni Bakery has been creating wedding and specialty cakes, European tortes, Italian pastries, fresh breads, and classic American desserts at two locations: 11 Vanderbilt Motor Pkwy., Commack, 631-623-6999, and 3264 Hempstead Tpke., Levittown, 516-796-3033. Savor buttercream at its best at dortonibakery.com. Submissions for Picks should be sent to fyi@liwomanonline.com for consideration.

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Describe the work you do and how you became involved in this work. I am a trainer, consultant, and speaker. I work with organizations and individuals who want to grow their business and professional brand using LinkedIn and in-person networking. When clients are asked why they work with me, the answer is often: Because she listened! l love helping people who may not be comfortable with technology to embrace its power. What was your biggest challenge? I don’t know if I can think of one challenge that was the biggest, because each person has their own. I think a big challenge for women is often imposter syndrome (the feeling that you don’t belong, that friends or colleagues will discover you’re a fraud, and you don’t deserve your job and accomplishments). Based on your area of specialty, what advice would you give to other women? As a social media consultant in Port Washington, I would advise women to build strong networks of trusted referral partners. My networking group knew I was starting a business before I did. What’s the best life advice you’ve received? This quote by author Joseph Campbell: “You must give up the life you planned in order to have the life that is waiting for you.” What’s the best business advice you’ve received? To “fail fast” and act “as if.” This means that you should behave like the owner of the business you want to have. Also, “give first.” What was your biggest break? Believe it or not, getting laid off was my biggest break, because I never would havetaken the perceived risk to leave a company to start my own business.

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With or Without You – A Captivating and Beautiful Novel

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coma following the birth of your son. How did or me, books have always provided solace— that inform this book and the choices you a way to feel less alone in the world. And made? during the pandemic, they’ve become as I actually wrote two coma books, one vital as eating, sleeping, and–let’s face it– before this, Coming Back to Me, which Netflix. That’s why I’m so eager to spread was about a woman like me, who went the word about Caroline Leavitt’s lumiinto a coma after the birth of her child, nescent new book, With or Without but came out unchanged. I didn’t feel You. Engaging, emotional, and even any better after writing it–as I thought joyous, it may be the perfect novel for I would. (I had been given memory this moment in time. blockers so while my mind didn’t reIt introduces a complicated couple member the experience, my body did, in their forties at a pivotal moment with all sorts of PTSD triggers.) About in their relationship. Simon, a talented five years ago, when I still couldn’t sleep rock musician, is about to head out to and certain sounds and smells would panLA for his big break, but Stella–a bright ic me, my therapist told me that the brain and steady nurse at a New York City hosdoesn’t know the difference between what is pital–isn’t sure she wants to accompany him. real and what isn’t. You tell someone you are They are very much in love, but their relationship putting a match to their skin, their skin will blister. is at the brink, and could go either way. Then Stella Photo: Jeff Tamarkin So she told me to write about a woman different from falls into a coma and everything changes. Literally. When me. So unlike me, Stella remembered everything in her coma. Unshe finally rouses, she is not the same person, and these two–along like me, Stella came out changed completely. And to my surprise, it with her best friend–have new terrain to navigate. The changes are was actually fun to write. I felt this huge sense of wonder and delight shocking and exhilarating, and the prose is so propulsive I nearly got because I was making something lovely (I hoped) come out of somewhiplash turning the pages. thing tragic. I’m delighted to share my conversation with bestStella’s doctor friend, Libby, is distrustful of Simon, but their selling author Caroline Leavitt. relationship changes over time. Can you talk about what drew First, let’s talk about Simon, whose life craters just Libby to Simon? when he’s on the cusp of his biggest break. I reOriginally Libby is looking out for her best friend Stella, and she disally liked his complexity, talent, guilt … the whole approves of Simon’s lust for fame, his self-interest, and she thinks he works. Are you surprised by my reaction to him? needs to grow up. She doesn’t trust him. But then I think she sees him That’s a great question and actually your response grow up a little once Stella is in a coma, to change a little, to be more is the one I hoped for! When some readers originally vulnerable, and she cannot help but be drawn to that, despite the fact read the opening they said things like, “Jeeze, Simon that he’s her best friend’s partner. is a jerk, isn’t he?” and I kept telling them, “No, no, As she recovers from her coma, Stella’s brain rewires to grant he isn’t! He just needs to grow up a bit, but you will her an artistic ability—a plot point that took my breath away. come to understand why he is the way he is.” So How did you get this idea? I absolutely LOVE that you said that. I wanted to It’s true!! I was researching coma with this wonderful scientist Joseph showcase the complexity, and how there are really so Clark at the University of Cincinnati, and he told me that in a coma, our many layers underneath people that you sometimes brains rewire. Neurons fire in all sorts of ways, and people can emerge as have to go through to get to the real person below. Engaging, different people and no one knows why. There was a woman who woke Do you know what would have happened to emotional, and speaking fluent Mandarin, and she quit her job and moved to China. the relationship between Simon and Stella if Another man woke, who had never played an instrument, and suddenly she hadn’t gone into a coma? even joyous, he was a virtuoso playing concert halls! Does coma awaken abilities we I think the resentment would have grown, alas. You it may be the all have? Were these things somehow in the DNA passed down to us as have two people wanting two different things and memory that had been awakened? We don’t know. perfect novel for neither one is willing to budge and wants the other cellular “With or Without You” is a great book club pick. What one to change—it’s never a good mix. So in an odd way, question or issue do you hope readers will discuss? it’s actually a good thing for both of them that coma this moment in What do you owe the person you love, when there is a cost to yourhappened. time. self? And how do you make that decision? l I know that you had your own experience with

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The Long Island Woman Interview

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Photo: Danielle St. Laurent

From Nesconset to Broadway


by Arie Nadboy

by IrIs WIener

Editors Note: This interview was conducted prior to the pandemic and was scheduled to be published in an earlier issue before the opening of her Off-Broadway musical “Between The Lines.” We reconnected with Jodi Picoult in August for an update and asked her to share her thoughts regarding the pandemic and how she was impacted. The update appears on page 16. “The stories of young girls are devalued,” says best-selling author Jodi Picoult of New York’s current theatrical landscape, a place in which she hopes to be making her mark with the Off-Broadway musical, Between the Lines. “I talk a lot about gender discrimination in publishing, but it’s even worse on Broadway.” Picoult adresses that inequity with Between the Lines, which is based on the novel Picoult co-wrote with her daughter, Samantha Van Leer. The musical is centered on Delilah (Arielle Jacobs), a young girl who finds herself an outsider in a new town and school, only to find comfort in the pages of her favorite book. Delilah finds that the fairy tale prince in her book is very much alive and lonely in his own unescapable literary existence–perfect fodder for an intricate musical. The Nesconset-native has seen her novels adapted for film and television (My Sister’s Keeper stars Cameron Diaz and a limited series adaptation of A Spark of Light is set to star Joey King, respectively) but Between the Lines’ page-to-stage adaptation is a first for the author, whose 26 thought-provoking novels are multi-faceted in ways that complement any story-telling experience. Ten of her novels have debuted at number one on the New York Times Bestseller List with good reason. Jodi Picoult spoke with LONG ISLAND WOMAN about the Long Island roots that first lead her to become a high school English teacher, and the extensive journey on which she embarked before helping to create what hopes to be a most magical Off-Broadway musical. How is growing up on Long Island conducive to becoming a writer? I wouldn’t say that there was something specific about Long Island that made me a writer, but there were a bunch of English teachers at my high school (Smithtown High School East) in particular who really encouraged me to write and who knew that I loved to do it. That’s saying a lot because, to be honest, it was a public school, it wasn’t as if they were grooming people to do this kind of thing. I don’t know what it was that made me a writer. I think my parents also had a lot to do with it. How did your parents encourage you? They were super realistic. One of the first things that I remember my mom saying when I told her I was going to be a writer was, “That is so great; who is going to support you?” It was a good lesson because the truth is that most writers don’t support themselves. Many writers teach or they have multiple jobs. For me, that was a total reality check and a really important one. I am so glad that they didn’t say, “Don’t even try it.” They were willing to say, “If this is what you love to do you should do it,” but they also made me realize that it wasn’t going to be an easy path. I think that combination of support and realism was really important to me when I was starting out. I often recall how I was teaching and consider that I have a Masters and I have two kids who are teachers. I’m still teaching, I just think I have a different type of classroom and a lot more students. Pinpoint a moment or lesson that really spoke to your choice to become a writer. The one moment that always sticks with me is when I was graduating. Ed Ehmann was my English teacher. He knew I loved to write. He had these posters in his classroom that were these cool block prints with quotes from Romeo & Juliet, which is my favorite

Shakespeare play. (I know it sounds pedestrian, but if you can meet someone and start speaking in a sonnet, that’s totally true love.) I loved the prints and when I graduated he gave them to me. I put them up in my bunk at Princeton. They were the first thing that I saw when I woke up in the morning, and the last thing I saw when I went to sleep at night. It was a nice carryover from my past to my future in college. How were you originally inspired to become an English teacher? I come from a long line of teachers. I kind of felt like I was pre-destined to be one. The surprise was that I didn’t end up being one! I didn’t go into college thinking that I was going to teach. When I graduated from college I worked on Wall Street. It was before the crash of 1987. I had been hired to write bond offering circulars for Solomon Brothers. They wanted a writer and I was a writer, but I hated every minute of it. Later I moved to Boston and I got a job as a textbook publishing editor. Then I switched to copywriting for a two-person ad agency and got a Masters in Education at the same time. Finally, I got hired to teach 8th grade English in Concord, Massachusetts. The whole time that I had been working in all of those jobs, which was a two-year period, I was writing because I can’t not write. I used that time to get an agent, and she sold the book that I had been working on. It sold right before my first son was born and I never looked back; I just kept writing. Each of your novels forces readers to explore outside the realms of their own moral codes and look at life from different perspectives. Have any of your own feelings changed about the important issues on which your stories are focused? If I am doing my job right you should be able to read a book and not know what I think. For example, with A Spark of Light, I love when people say, “I can’t tell if you’re pro-life or pro-choice.” I am more than happy to tell you that I am pro-choice, but I want someone who is pro-life to be able to read the book and not feel like their opinion doesn’t matter. What I want to do is show you all of the facts on both sides and then ask you to re-evaluate what you believe. That’s really important to me. When I’ve gone into contentious topics for books, I haven’t changed my mind, I haven’t shifted from the more liberal perspective to a conservative one, but I have changed my reasons why as I have learned more about the topic. When I was writing about the death penalty for Change of Heart I was against the death penalty, but by the time I finished doing the research, it was for different reasons. How did you and Samantha begin working on “Between the Lines?” She is 24 now. When she was 13 she called me and said, “I think I have a really good idea for a book. What if every time a book is closed, the characters inside it have lives and personalities different from the ones that they live in the book? What if there was this teenage girl who was kind of shy and who had a really terrible home life, who was obsessed with a children’s fairy tale book because the prince who was illustrated in it was really hot? What if one day he started speaking to her and he wanted out of his story just as much as she wanted out of hers?” I was like, “Okay, you are brilliant.” What she’s really talking about is a literary crush. You don’t have to be a kid to have that. I’m still waiting for Mr. Darcy. Everybody has one. That’s one of the great joys of books. Men are ideal in books the way they’re not in the real world. I said to her, “I think we

One of the first things that I remember my mom saying when I told her I was going to be a writer was, “That is so great; who is going to support you?”


THE LONG ISLAND WOMAN INTERVIEW Jodi Picoult (right) with her sister in Nesconset.

need to write this book. We’re going to (Courtesy of Jodi Picoult) write it together.” Describe what it means to write a book “together” with a teenager. I really meant together. And Sammy had a full-time job: she was a student. For two summers after that, when she was 14 and 15, we spent three months sitting side-by-side at my desk. We spoke every single word of that book out loud. We would take turns typing. We argued, we laughed, we had a really great time and a really frustrating time. When we sold Between the Lines, Sammy went on a book tour with me the summer when she was 16. We went to three different continents to promote it. It spent eight weeks on the bestseller list. She is truly the only person in my family who understands what I do because of it. How did it begin to evolve into a musical? When the book came out I felt like there was more. I felt like the book sang, like it was musical. I was in musical theater when I was a kid and I run a musical theater teen group in New Hampshire. For years my best friend and I (she’s a composer) wrote family-friendly original musicals that we performed, and now we’re doing licensed shows; all of the money that we’ve raised goes to local charities. In a decade we’ve raised over $130,000. I knew that I didn’t want Between the Lines to be done by my theater group because it felt bigger. I didn’t know anything about writing a musical that was Broadway-bound. What were some of the big questions you faced when adapting the book for the stage? It was a really interesting struggle in the beginning, to figure out whose story this is. Is it Delilah’s, or is it the prince’s? Is it both of theirs? What’s the tone that we want to strike? And we have kind of evolved over a five year period as we’ve written the musical. The message, the heart, the story is something that anyone can relate to. Who hasn’t found themselves in a situation they don’t want to be in? Three years ago we went to Kansas City for our first out-of-town tryout. We broke box office records there. We had people who were coming back repeatedly and we got great reviews. It was amazing to me. It resonated with the people I expected it to, but then there were those who surprised me. For example, the man who was in his seventies who started crying and told me that Delilah reminded him of when he was a shy kid and he used to hide from his brothers in a tree and read. No matter who sees it, people leave moved, energized and singing the songs; there’s something special and magical about this show. It succeeds against all the odds. Most importantly, it’s going to give a lot of young women and mothers a chance to see themselves reflected on the stage in a way that we really do not get to see. What surprised you the most about bringing the show to New York? There is a brick wall that you hit when you realize that the gatekeepers of Broadway are all very similar and looking for a similar story. They didn’t know what to make of ours. It’s not a group that’s dying to tell women’s stories, and that makes me really nervous. We need representation on our stages. We need to see more female creative

JODI PICOULT teams and female creative directors. It would be awesome to see some female theater owners and female critics. How has theater inspired your writing process? One of the things that has come easily to me is dialogue. I see it very visually, almost like a movie. If that’s the way writing is to me, it’s really theatrical already. Writing a script is like the difference between taxidermy and a skeleton. To write a novel you have to include point of view, detail, narrative voice, internal monologue, setting, etc. All of that is layered onto your story and it’s the full, taxidermied animal. If you’re writing a libretto, you’re creating the bare bones of a skeleton, and that’s going to be layered by actors, your director, producer and songwriting team. You’re just creating the structure and the confines of the story. It’s really a very interesting difference. They’re two very different mediums, so it’s hard to confuse them. It’s lonelier to write a novel now without everyone’s brains colliding. How has your life been more fulfilling because you have successfully been able to achieve your goals for your family and your career? I think that I am a better writer because I am a mother and I was a better mother because I was a writer. I know that I function better when I have time to write and to be creative, and having a husband who supported that as my kids were little and allowed me to do something that I loved to do is probably the biggest gift I’ve ever gotten in my life. When I was not writing and I was with my kids I was completely devoted to them because I had my own time. That’s not to say that a stay-at-home mom is a bad person or the working mom is a better person. I just know myself and I needed that balance in my life between the two. I think that having kids and having a family really has helped me evolve as a writer based on my own fears, concerns and worries as a mother. Your new novel, “The Book of Two Ways,” is now on shelves. The concept for it is so intriguing! It’s about love, life and death. It asks the questions, “Who would you be if your life hadn’t turned out the way it had? What if you had made one slightly different choice?” And it also has a lot to do with ancient Egypt. What are people’s biggest misconceptions about female authors and their careers? That we all write romance, chick-lit, or children’s books. There’s nothing wrong with writing those things, but we don’t all do it. I get called a chick-lit author all the time, and I am the first person to tell you that if you are taking A Spark of Light to the beach with you to have a light, fluffy read, you are making a big mistake. I do not write things that are supposed to make you crack up and laugh. I think it’s demeaning to assume that a woman only writes women’s fiction. I can tell you that fifty percent of my fan mail comes from men. There’s nothing wrong with women’s fiction, I just wouldn’t label myself as that. Small Great Things won an award in Poland for Best Romance Novel. I don’t even think there’s a kiss in that book, so I find that fascinating. Update on page 16

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ome healthcare appointments shouldn’t be avoided, even during a pandemic–the dentist, the gynecologist, and the yearly mammogram. For most women over the age of 40, the mammogram comes once a year, and while they may dread it, the actual appointment is rather quick and safe. In America, breast cancer is the most common cancer among women after skin cancer. According to the Centers for Disease Control, around 250,000 cases of breast cancer are diagnosed in women each year. A mammogram is the first line of defense in detecting breast cancer or breast abnormalities, which is why women need to get their yearly mammograms. During the COVID-19 pandemic, it’s understandable that women may be hesitant and even afraid to walk into a medical office. Concerns about safety and cleanliness are understandable, but are they valid? “Yes. It is safe to get your mammogram during COVID-19,” assured Nina S. Vincoff, M.D., Chief of Breast Imaging for the Northwell Health System and Vice-Chair of Radiology for Patient Experience, “During the early peak of the pandemic, back in March and April, some centers stopped doing routine mammograms for a short while. But today, most breast imaging centers are back open for mammograms and have put processes in place to make sure that patients will be safe and comfortable.” “Today, most As New York and Long Island’s COVID-19 numbers conbreast imaging tinue to remain low and even decline, safety remains a priority for most labs. “At Northwell Health, all of our breast centers are imaging centers are open, and patient safety is our number one priority,” shared Vincoff. “I believe the biggest fear back open for would be exposure to the disease at the appointment,” mammograms shared Jennifer Kolton, LCSW Oncology Social Worker on Long Island, “It is a valid fear, but again the risks outweigh and have put the consequences because early detection saves lives. If processes in you have a medical condition that puts you at higher risk for COVID, speak with your gynecologist or primary mediplace to make cal doctor about your concerns.” But even with infection rates below 1 percent, women still sure that have concerns. “Women have the same kinds of fears about patients will having a mammogram that they might have about going to the grocery store or any public space,” said Vincoff, “It can be safe and be scary to come into contact with other people, or touch comfortable.” surfaces that others have touched.” Vincoff said women

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should remember that healthcare facilities are one of the safest places to be since most healthcare workers understand how COVID-19 spreads and the precautions that need to be taken to protect their patients. If women consider postponing or delaying their mammograms, checking out the lab’s safety precautions may help give some peace of mind. “You should expect to be asked questions about possible COVID exposure before entering the building,” shared Vincoff, “You should expect to see that all patients and staff are wearing masks and that hand sanitizer is readily available. It’s important to realize that you may not see that all the safety precautions are taken, such as cleaning the rooms and equipment between each patient. So if you have concerns about what safety measures are in place, you should ask.” Additionally, women can take some of their own precautions before visiting a lab for a mammogram. “The most important thing is to stay home if you might be sick or have recently been exposed to COVID,” said Vincoff, “You should wait to have your mammogram until you are feeling well.” She also suggested wearing a mask while at the breast imaging center and washing your hands upon entering and leaving the appointment. She also said to try and go to the appointment alone. “Having visitors in the waiting room makes social distancing difficult,” said Vincoff. Lastly, she suggested wearing clothing that can quickly and easily be removed during the appointment. Kolton also reminded patients that they should be sure to keep their distance from others in the waiting room. “Most importantly, I believe is that all of the staff are wearing the appropriate PPE such as masks, gloves, and keeping their distance as much as possible,” said Kolton, “Again, if you feel uncomfortable at any time, do not hesitate to say something. Your health is in theirs and your hands.” Yearly mammograms are vital to ensuring a woman’s health. “Mammograms save lives, and they work best when they are performed regularly,” Vincoff said. Kolton added, “Keeping your regularly scheduled appointments could save your life. Early detection is the most preventative way to reduce a woman’s risk of dying from breast cancer.” According to Vincoff, research shows that having mammograms regularly helps reduce a woman’s risk of dying from breast cancer up to 40 percent. “Protecting yourself from contracting COVID is important, but it shouldn’t take priority over everything,” said Vincoff, “Women need to continue to take care of their health so that they can live long healthy lives after this pandemic has passed–and that includes having annual mammograms.” l To advertise: 516-505-0555 x1 • liwomanonline.com/advertise


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will never forget the first time I voted. My polling place was in a portable trailer on the corner of South Oyster Bay Road and Woodbury Road on the Hicksville/ Plainview border. I remember my heart pumping as I stood outside on the metal steps waiting for my turn to do something so incredibly adult, responsible, and American. I felt the power as I pulled that little lever on a 1970s election booth that may still have been in service a few years ago. It was November 7, 1972. I had just turned 18. I was voting because I finally could, but it also felt like America was on fire. We were still in the grips of the Vietnam War. My brother, just 11-months older, had his draft lottery number. It felt like there were demonstrations everywhere, on campus and in the streets of America, anti-war, pro-military, anti-abortion, pro-choice, women’s rights, racial equality in education, racial justice, save the environment, save the Donald Trump whales. And more. I was also pumped to go to the polls in the first wave of 18-year old Americans who could vote in a Presidential election. Only a year earlier, July 5, 1971 the 26th Amendment was adopted into the U.S. Constitution, granting us the right to vote. In 1971 eighteen-year-olds could get married, work, pay taxes, and go to war. Many of the soldiers in ‘Nam were just 18 and 19. The slogan of It was November 7, the day, “Old enough to fight, old enough to die,” also meant “Old enough to vote” – for the elected leaders 1972. I had who sent “the boys” to war. In 1971 eleven-million new, just turned 18. young voters were added to the electorate. The next year half of us new, young voters used our power in the 1972 I was voting presidential election. The Richard Nixon administration because I lasted less than two more years until President Nixon finally could, resigned under the weight of the Watergate scandal. Nixon remains part of the dark side of America’s story, but it also felt but I haven’t missed an election since, nor will I this year. like America 2020 has been an ugly political year. The war of words seems to be invigorating some people to vote no matter was on fire. what, but others seem weary with political fatigue. Then 20 • Long Island Woman • October 2020

there’s concern about getting sick by going to the polls, the validity of mail-in-ballots, or whether each vote really matters. So midway between the Democratic and Republican National Conventions, I posed the question on Facebook: “Will you vote?” There were memes, passion and commitment. Susan is among those hell-bent on casting a ballot. “I’ll crawl over broken glass to vote this year and NOT for the current occupant.” There was also a steady stream of endorsements for the incumbent President, two with the same sparkling, thumbs-up picture of Donald Trump, saying “Yes. Trump 2020!!” and “Hell yeah, I will be voting!” Not as many people publicly vowed loyalty to Democrat Joe Biden, but there was some #BidenHarris2020 love. In between, there were fighting words. Casanova warned, “TRUMP Joe Biden 2020! If Sleepy gets in, this country is screwed.” Then other talk of, “socialism, communist and evil imperial capitalism, plus racism, bigotry, morals, intelligence, experience.” But most of all was a commitment to vote. Emily will be there in person, writing, “YUP! voting at our voting booth!” Among the long list of others who can’t wait, Cindy posted an American flag with her promise, “I will be voting. Nothing will stop me.” Said Donna, “We have two crappy choices, but I WILL vote. In person. Even if I have to wear a hazmat suit.” Finally, Glen looked at the fire on Facebook, saying, “Geez folks. Carol is the most amazing sweet woman in the world. She didn’t want us to crap all over her post. C’mon. Yes, I’m voting. I hope I’m part of history. Well, maybe her-story.” Well, thanks Glen. And that “her-story” mention evokes visions of a female American President. But that’s a story for another day. l For more than 40 years Carol Silva has had the honor of telling the stories of the people of Long Island and beyond.

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New Laws Against Sexual Harassment (Part 1)

Mid-Year Review

by Suzanne Leeds Klein, Esq.

by Barbara Magor Deel, CFP®,CHFC, MBA – Vice President of Financial Planning

Legislation to strengthen of employment because of their memberprotections for employees ship in a protected class (based on gender, against sexual harassment age, pregnancy, medical condition, etc.). •Required Notice: Employers are now and discrimination was recently signed by New York required to provide employees with a notice State Governor Andrew M. of their sexual harassment prevention poliCuomo. In a culture where sexual harass- cies in the employees’ primary language, which will ensure that all workment and discrimination in the workplace have become so per- These sweeping ers are advised of their rights. vasive, this is a significant victoreforms eliminate •Limited Non-Disclosure ry for workers. These sweeping Agreements: While Nonmany of the reforms eliminate many of the Disclosure Agreements (NDAs) obstacles victims face in pursuhave traditionally restricted emobstacles ing a claim and will finally hold victims face in ployees’ rights to pursue claims offenders accountable. and kept harassers in power by Some important changes, pursuing a claim silencing victims, the new legismany of which became effecand will finally lation mandates that all NDAs tive on October 11, 2019, are: hold offenders include language allowing an •Lower Burden of Proof: employee to file a complaint of accountable. harassment or discrimination To constitute actionable sexual harassment, a worker is no lonwith a state or local agency. ger required to meet the stringent burden If you are a victim of workplace of demonstrating that the harassment was sexual harassment in Long Island or “severe or pervasive.” Instead, employees NYC, please contact Leeds Brown Law, need only show that that they were subject- 516.873.9550 or leedsbrownlaw.com. ed to inferior terms, conditions or privileges Part 2 in the February issue of LI Woman.

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Addictions •AA/Al Anon Meetings..........................631-669-2827 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org

Support Groups

•AA/NA/Family Support....................... 516-746-0350 friedbergjcc.com THRIVE Recovery Community and Outreach Center 1324 Motor Pkwy, Hauppauge. Ste. 102. thriveliorg •Bereavement......................................... 516-274-0540 •Al- Anon and Alcoholics Anonymous .................................................................. 631-474-6489 Cope Foundation. Cedarmere Estate, Roslyn. copefoundation.org St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1 •Bereavement (March and Sept.).......631-351-2013 •Alcoholics Anonymous........................ 516-292-3040 Huntington Hospital, Northwell Health. northwell.edu aa.org •Debtors Anonymous............................ 212-969-8111 •Bereavement..........................................516-634-4010 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org Ascension Lutheran Church 33 Bayshore Rd., Deer Park. danyc.info •Bereavement............................... 516-822-3535 x328 •Families Anonymous.......................... 800-736-9805 Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. miyjcc.org familiesanonymous.org •Bereavement................................516-484-1545 x196 •Food Addicts Anonymous................. 772-878-9657 Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org foodaddictsanonymous.org •Bereavement......................................... 516-520-2706 •Gamblers Anonymous...............516-484-1545 x196 St. Joseph Hospital, Bethpage. Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org stjosephhospital.chsli.org

Bereavement

•Gamblers Anonymous........................855-222-5542 gamblersanonymous.org •Gam-Anon Hotline..... 516-200-4932/718-352-1671 gam-anon.org •Long Island Recovery Association.....631-552-LIRA lirany.org.

•Bereavement............................... 631-581-4266 x100 St. Mary’s Church, 20 Harrison Ave., E. Islip parishofstmary.org •Bereavement (suicide)....................... 631-687-2960 Brookhaven Hospice

Breast & other Cancers

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•Lung Cancer........................................... 516-374-3190 Hewlett House, 86 Rockaway Rd., Hewlett. hewlett-house.org

•Adelphi New York Statewide Breast Cancer Hotline ..................................................................800-877-8077 breast-cancer.adelphi.edu

•Men With Breast Cancer...................... 516-877-4314 Adelphi Univ. School of Social Work, Garden City breast-cancer.adelphi.edu

•Adolescent Support/Mentoring.......... 516-374-3190 Hewlett House, 86 Rockaway Rd., Hewlett. hewlett-house.org

•National Ovarian Cancer Coalition (NOCC) ..................................................................631-838-4357 LI Chapter, Huntington Station. ovarian.org

•American Cancer Society...................800-ACS-2345 cancer.org

•Oncology (for women) ....................... 516-374-3190 Hewlett House, 86 Rockaway Rd., Hewlett. hewlett-house.org

•Breast Cancer......................................... 516-877-4314 Adelphi Univ. School of Social Work, Garden City breast-cancer.adelphi.edu •Breast Cancer (under 40).................... 516-877-4314 Adelphi Univ. School of Social Work, Garden City breast-cancer.adelphi.edu •Breast and Ovarian Cancer................631-462-9800 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. suffolkyjcc.org

•Online Young Women’s (under 40) Breast Cancer Support .................................................... 516-877-4314 Adelphi Univ. School of Social Work, Garden City breast-cancer.adelphi.edu •Ovarian Cancer...................................... 516-374-3190 Hewlett House, 86 Rockaway Rd., Hewlett. hewlett-house.org

•Breast Cancer........................................ 631-376-4444 •Strength for Life (exercise class).......631-675-6513. Various locations. strengthforlifeNY.org Good Samaritan Hospital Medical Center, Breast Health Center, W. Islip. good-samaritan-hospital.org •Support for People With Oral, Head and Neck •Breast Cancer Family and Friends.... 631-376-4444 Cancer.......................................................800-377-0928 New Hyde Park, Syosset and Stony Brook. Good Samaritan Hospital Medical Center, Breast Health Center, W. Islip. good-samaritan-hospital.org spohnc.org

•Bereavement ........................................ 516-484-4993 •Breast Cancer........................................ 516-663-2556 Elias Hicks Historical Home, 1740 Old Jericho Tpke., Newly -Diagonosed, NYU Winthrop Hospital •Narcotics................................................. 631-474-6262 Jericho. copefoundation.org MichelleDecastro@NYULangone.Org St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson •Bereavement for Children and Families stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1 •Breast Cancer......................................... 516-374-3190 ................................................................... 516-626-1971 Hewlett House, 86 Rockaway Rd., Hewlett. •Overeaters Anonymous.............516-484-1545 x196 North Shore Child and Family Guidance Center hewlett-house.org Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org •Death of a Child....................................631-738-0809 •Breast Cancer: Newly Diagnosed Stage 4 •Overeaters Anonymous......................631-981-5850 St. Sylvester’s Church, Medford ................................................................... 516-877-4314 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson. •GriefShare............................................... 516-561-6150 Adelphi Univ. School of Social Work, Garden City matherhospital.org Bethlehem Asembly of God breast-cancer.adelphi.edu •S-Anon Anonymous (Partners of Sexaholics) 9 E. Mineola Ave., M1 Building, Valley Stream. •Breast Cancer: Newly-Diagnosed .... 631-476-2776 .................................................................. 516-366-4354 bethlehemmag.org/whatshappening Mather Hospital, Port Jefferson. matherhospital.org •Women for Sobriety............................ 215-536-8026 •H.E.A.L. (Help Ease A Loss)................631-265-4520 •Cancer..................................................... 516-256-6025 womenforsobriety.org St. Thomas of Canterbury Church, Smithtown Long Island Jewish Valley Stream •Holocaust Survivors and Friends......631-462-9800 •Cancer...................................................... 516-734-8817 •Alzheimer’s and Dementia................. 516-767-6856 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. suffolkyjcc.org Northwell Health. northwell.edu Long Island Alzheimer’s & Demntia Center. •Loss of a Child....................................... 516-520-2500 •Cancer...................................................... 516-374-3190 1025 Old Country Rd., Westbury. lidementia.org St. Joseph Hospital, Bethpage. Hewlett House, 86 Rockaway Rd., Hewlett. •Alzheimer’s Association .....................631-629-6950 stjosephhospital.chsli.org hewlett-house.org 429 Broadhollow Rd., Melville. alz.org/longisland •Loss of a Parent.......................... 516-822-3535 x328 •Cancer Excercise..........................516-484-1545 x231 •Alzheimer’s Caregivers........................ 516-746-0350 Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. miyjcc.org Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org Family and Children’s Assoc., 100 E. Old Country •Loss of a Spouse......................... 516-822-3535 x328 •Caregivers for People with Breast Cancer Rd., Mineola. familyandchildrens.org Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. miyjcc.org ................................................................... 516-877-4314 •Alzheimer’s Caregivers.............. 631-585-2020 x261 •Sibling Bereavement............................ 516-484-4993 Adelphi Univ. School of Social Work, Garden City Community Programs Center of L.I., Ronkonkoma Elias Hicks Historical Home breast-cancer.adelphi.edu cpclongisland.com 1740 Old Jericho Tpke., Jericho. copefoundation.org •Caregivers............................................... 516-374-3190 •Alzheimer’s Family and Caregivers.. 516-593-2424 •Teen Bereavement (10-17).................516-250-3598 Hewlett House, 86 Rockaway Rd., Hewlett. Bristal Assisted at Lynbrook St. Mathew Church, 35 North Service Rd., Dix Hills. hewlett-house.org •Alzheimer’s Caregivers (JASA)...........516-432-0570 helpingkidzkope@gmail.com •Huntington Breast Cancer Action Coalition Friedberg JCC, 15 Neil Ct., Oceanside. jasa.org •Widows and Widowers.............631-462-9800 x129 ................................................................... 631-547-1518 hbcac.org •Alzheimer’s Caregivers .......................631-629-6950 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. suffolkyjcc.org Alzheimer’s Association, 429 Broadhollow Rd., •Widow/Widower (ages 50-60) .516-766-434, x170 •Islip Breast Cancer Coalition..............631-968-7424 Melville. alz.org/longisland Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org Southside Hospital, 301 E. Main St, Bay Shore •Lewy Body Dementia Resource Center •Young Widows and Widowers (20-54/55-65) •Live, Love and Laugh Again (breast cancer) ................................................................... 516-218-2026 .................................................................. 631-241-7237 ................................................................. 631-476-2776 750 W. Broadway, Ste. 2R, Long Beach. lbdny.org St. Mathew Church, 35 North Service Rd., Dix Hills. John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org •Memory Support Program..................516-766-4341 arlenepsalm23@verizon.net.org 15 Neil Court, Oceanside. pjaffe@friedbergjcc.org •Look Good, Feel Better....................... 631-376-4444

Alzheimer’s/Dementia

Good Samaritan Hospital Medical Center Breast Health Center, W. Islip. good-samaritan-hospital.org

•Thyroid Cancer Survivors Hotline.....877-588-7904 •Touchstone Group: (for women who had breast cancer treatment 18 months ago+).... 516-877-4314 Adelphi Univ. School of Social Work, Garden City breast-cancer.adelphi.edu •Upper GI Cancer...................................631-638-0718 Stony Brook Cancer Center, 2nd floor, Stony Brook •Breast Cancer Hotline..........................800-877-8077

Caregivers •Dementia Caregivers........................... 516-767-6856 Long Island Alzheimer’s & Demntia Center. 1025 Old Country Rd., Westbury. lidementia.org •Caregivers...............................................516-292-1300 Family and Children’s Assoc., 100 E. Old Country Rd., Mineola. familyandchildrens.org •Caregivers...............................................516-742-2050 Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. JASA Nassau County Caregiver Resource Center. miyjcc.org •Caregivers.................................... 516-822-3535 x328 Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. miyjcc.org •JASA Caregivers........................631-724-6300 x1600 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack and Bristol Assisted Living, Northport. bsignore@jasa.org •Caregivers .................................... 516-484-1545 x211 Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org •Caregivers...............................................631-807-6819 Paulette Demato, Southside Hospital, 301 E. Main St, Bay Shore •Caregivers.................................... 631-462-9800 x147 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. suffolkyjcc.org •Caregivers of a Loved One with Early Stage Memory Loss................................. 516-484-1545 x211 Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org •Let’s Do Dinner (spouses of Young Onset Dementia patients)....................... 516-484-1545 x211 Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org •Senior Caregivers.................................631-385-0754

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Divorce & Separation •Divorce......................................................516-476-1774 Alliance to Restore Integrity in Divorce (ARID) •Divorced and Separated........... 516-822-3535 x328 Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. miyjcc.org •Divorced and Separated 12-Step ......718-740-1684 Community Church of East Williston •Divorced/Separated.................... 516-484-1545 x211 Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org •Divorced and Separated...........631-462-9800 x139 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. suffolkyjcc.org •Separated/Divorced Counseling ....... 516-599-1181 Peninsula Counseling Center, Lynbrook •Separation/Divorce...............................516-634-4010 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org •Singles...........................................631-462-9800 x139 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. suffolkyjcc.org

Support Groups •Brain Tumor Patients and Families... 631-474-2323 Gardian Brown Foundation, Gurwin Medical Ctr., 50 Hauppauge Rd., Commack. guardianbrain.org •Brain Tumor Patients and Families .......................................................516-4442-2250 x110 Neurological Surgery PC. 1991 Marcus Ave., Ste. 108, Lake Success. nspc.com. rvanallen@nspc.com •Chron’s and Colitis Foundation......... 516-222-5530 585 Stewart Ave., Ste 304, Garden City ccfa.prg/chapters/longisland •Coma/ Traumatic Brain Injury Recovery Assoc. ...................................................................516-377-5333 South Nassau Community Hospital, Oceanside •Diabetes.................................................. 516-520-2500 St. Joseph Hospital, Bethpage stjosephhospital.chsli.org

•Singles..................................................... 516-822-3535 Mid Island Y JCC, Plainview. miyjcc.org

•Epilepsy................................................... 631-474-6489 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

Domestic Violence, Rape & Sexual Abuse

•Epilepsy/Seizure Disorder.......516-739-7733 x1145 epicli.org

•Brighter Tomorrows............................. 631-395-1800 brightertomorrowsli.org •Child Abuse and Maltreatment Referrals ..................................................................800-342-3720 •The Crime Victims Center/Parents for Megan’s Law............................................................631-689-2672 CrimeVictimsCenter.org •My Sistas: Domestic Abuse Victims.. 631-645-6300 comeawaymybelovedInc.org •Family Violence and Child Abuse...... 516-485-5710 F.E.G.S. fegs.org

•Hearing Impaired and Cochlear Implant ...................................................................718-470-7550 Northwell Health Hearing and Speech Center, New Hyde Park •Hearing Support Group.......................516.628-4300 Center for Hearing Health, Mill Neck, centerforhearinghealth.org/events •WomenHeart of Nassau/Queens..... 718-526-0790 Northwell Health, New Hyde Park •WomenHeart of Huntington...............631-499-4160 The Huntington Heart Center, Huntington •Hepatitis C (American Liver Foundation) .................................................................. 631-754-4795

•The Safe Center Long Island 24 Hour Hotline ..................................................................516-542-0404 tscli.org

•HIV/AIDS................................................631-691-7080 F.E.G.S. Copiague. fegs.org

•L.I. Against Domestic Violence..........631-666-8833 liadv.org

•Lupus.......................................................516-783-3370 Lupus Alliance of LIQ

•The Retreat (Domestic Violence hotline) ..................................................................631-329-2200

•Melanoma (Patients/Caregivers)...... 516-352-4227 cmbc1@optonline.net

•Victims Information Bureau (VIBS) of Suffolk County......................................................631-360-3606

•Multiple Sclerosis (National)..............631-864-8337

St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1 •Stroke and TBI........................... 516-674-7696 x7696 Northwell Health. northwell.edu •Stroke/TBI Caregivers..........................516-586-4480 Common Ground Alliance, Plainview commongroundall.com

•Nicotine Anonymous...........................877-879-6422 nicotine-anonymous.org •Smoking Cessation Workshops..........516-629-2013 St. Francis Hospital DeMatteis Center, 101 Northern Blvd., Greenvale

Weight Loss •Bariatric and Weight Loss Surgery ... 631-376-3697 Good Samaritan Hospital Medical Center, W. Islip. goodsamaritan.chsli.org •Post-Bariatric..........................................516-62MERCY Mercy Medical Center, Rockville Centre

•Stroke Support Groups........................516-629-2013 St. Francis Hospital DeMatteis Center, 101 Northern Blvd., Greenvale

•Overeaters Anonymous.......................631-473-1320 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org

•Trigeminal Neuralgia/Facial Pain .......................................................516-4442-2250 x110 1991 Marcus Ave., Ste. 108, Lake Success. nspc.com. rvanallen@nspc.com.

Miscellaneous

Mental Health

•Lawyer Assistance Program (LAP)... 888-408-6222

•Anxiety and Panic.................................631-226-3900 mhaw.org •Emotions Anonymous......................... 631-474-2090 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org •Families Anonymous (for families and friends of drug abusers)..........................................631-589-3790 Various locations. familiesanonymous.org •Link Age.................................................. 516-746-0350 Family and Children’s Assoc., 100 E. Old Country Rd., Mineola. familyandchildrens.org •Mental Illness Family Support...........516-504-HELP Mental Health Assoc. of Nassau County, Hempstead •Mood Disorder (Peer Support)......... 516-489-2322 Northwell Health (Syosset, Plainview, Valley Stream locations) mdsgli.com •Mood Disorder (Family/Friends).......516-499-6374 Northwell Health (Syosset, Valley Stream, Bayshore locations) mdsgli.com •Mood Disorders....................................631-226-3900 mhaw.org

•Developmental Disabilities Inst....... 631-360--2900 Smithtown (family support services). ddiny.org •NAMI Huntington.................................631-424-4528 •National Infertility Network Exchange (NINE) ...................................................................516-794-5772 •New Mothers......................................... 631-376-4444 Good Samaritan Hospital Medical Ctr., W. Islip good-samaritan-hospital.org •Parenting (Children w/ Cancer) ......................................................... 516-484-1545 x211 Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org •Parents of Young Children, Birth to Five ......................................................... 516-766-4341 x162 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside ParentingResourceNetwork.org •Pregnancy Information and Referral ..................................................................631-853-3033 •Pregnancy and Infant Loss ...................516-562-8422 North Shore Univ. Hospital, Manhasset •Pregnancy Information and Referral...631-853-3033 •Prison Families Anonymous.................631-943-0441 pfa-li.com

•NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Illness (Queens/Nassau)....................................516-326-0797 1981 Marcus Ave., Ste. C117. namiqn.org

•Second Generation (Children of Holocaust Survivors)........................................516-484-1545 x196 Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org

•Multiple Sclerosis..................................631-694-4370 Syosset Hospital Conference Room A/B

•NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Illness ..................................................................631-385-0754 Suffolk. landsburyhunt@aol.com

•Women’s Issues.................................... 516-746-0350 Hempstead Family treatment and Recovery Assoc., 126 N.Franklin St. familyandchildrens.org

•Adhesions (scar tissue pain) ..............631-921-7426 Stony Brook University Hospital, Stony Brook adhesionsfoundation.org

•Muscular Dystrophy............................. 631-474-6300 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

•Parents of Children w/Mental health Diagnosis .................................................................. 516-746-0350 Various Locations. familyandchildrens.org

•Young Widow and Widowers............ 631-495-8541 35 N. Service Rd., Dix Hills. widowednotalone.com

•Alopecia...................................................631-680-0148 naaf.org

•Myasthenia Gravis.................................631-765-2186 Emma S. Clark Memorial Library, Setauket

•Amputee.................................................631-968-3479 Southside Hospital, 301 E. Main St, Bay Shore

•National Federation of the Blind........516-868-8718

•Postpartum Depression .......................................631-422-2255/855-631-0001 Postpartum Resource Ctr. of NY. postpartumNY. org.

•Arthritis ................................................. 631-427-8272 arthritis.org

•Parkinson Disease ...............................631-862-3560 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

Health Related

•Bariatric................................................... 631-474-6876 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1 •Brain Aneurysm ................................... 516-562-3059 The Brain Aneurysm Center at North Shore Univ. Hospital, Manhasset. nsalant@northwell.edu •Brain Injury............................................ 631-474-6952 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

•National Multiple Sclerosis Society...631-864-8337

•Speech Communication......................631-474-6831 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1 •Spinal Cord Injury................................ 516-739-4900 St. Charles Hospital, Albertson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1 •Stroke Club...................516-562-4947/516-562-3111 •Stroke.......................................................631-474-3700

To advertise: 516-505-0555 x1 • liwomanonline.com/advertise

•Relatives and Friends of persons with a Mental Illness........................................................631-226-3900 mhaw.org •Suicide Prevention Hotline.................. 800-SUICIDE

Smoking Cessation

•American Cancer Society.................. 800-ACS-2345 516-921-6016 or 631-436-7070. cancer.org •Smoking Cessation...............................631-853-2928 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org

•Women’s Issues.....................................516-634-4010 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org

All listings for Support Group consideration must be submitted by the first of the month for the following month at: liwomanonline.com/support. Deadline for the November issue is October 1. No information will be accepted by telephone. Listings are published on a space-available basis. To advertise a for-profit support group call 516-505-0555 x1 or liwomanonline.com/advertise If you have a support group listed in this guide that no longer exists or requires updated information, please email us at: support@liwomanonline.com. October 2020 • Long Island Woman • 23


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