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Volume 20 Number 4 • October 2021

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Lucci

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Susan Lucci at the Garden City Hotel holding copies of the two previous Long Island Woman issues when she graced our covers. (The premiere issue from June 2001 and the January 2012 issue.)

6 FYI 8 Picks for October 10 Book Corner

Jenna Blum’s Woodrow on the Bench

12 The Long Island Woman Interview Exclusive interview with Susan Lucci

16 Health

Adult Vaccines

18 Support Groups 20 Catching Up With Carol (Silva) That Championship Season

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Susan Lucci Favorites Favorite childhood memory Riding horses with my father and some of his friends. I was seven and I didn’t think my horse was going fast enough, so my father broke off a twig and he gave it to me, and said, “Don’t hit the horse with this twig, just put it right here and he will go.” And he did. Favorite aspect of this time of your life We all have been forced to take a pause. I always felt as an adult that I was shot

out of a cannon. I have enjoyed the pause. I’m really sorry that the pause has not been so great for everybody, but for myself, it was the first time in my adult life that I’ve really had a pause. It’s given me a chance to be more thoughtful and to express my gratitude more, to slow down a little bit in a good way and to have the time with the people I love without always rush, rush, rush. You also learn very quickly if you made the right choice in who you married.

Favorite gift you ever received Most recently my two little grandchildren made Mother’s Day cards with their hand-prints and Father’s Day cards for my husband. I always wanted to have a strand of pearls and my husband said, “Oh, those are for old ladies.” I said, “Well, I really like them.” And that was it. Then on Valentine’s Day at breakfast he reached under the table and pulled out this double strand of opera length pearls that were so beautiful.

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ing breast reduction. Both groups of women want to have breasts that are proportional to their body size with the most natural result possible. In certain situations, a breast lift is also needed to tighten lax skin. The laxity can be the result of pregnancy or weight loss. When a breast lift is needed, I utilize the lollipop scar technique. A breast lift procedure is very similar to a breast reduction. The only difference is that with a breast reduction, breast tissue is removed.

Combined Breast/Tummy Tuck and Liposuction Procedures. Many of my patients who have breast surgery also have other procedures performed at the same time. This allows for one surgery and one recovery. The most common combined procedures performed by Dr. Rhee are breast surgery, whether it is a breast reduction or augmentation, combined with tummy tuck, also known as abdominoplasty. For those patients Breast Reduction Many of my patients who desire breast augmentation together with a tummy tuck, I am able to place Women with very large pendulous breasts may experience varied medical the breast implants through the tummy tuck incision, leaving the breasts without who have breast problems including back and neck pain. Also, the weight of large breasts can any scars. cause the bra straps to dig into the shoulders leaving groove markings. Large surgery also have other Liposuction is also commonly performed at the same time. Despite diet and breasts get in the way of physical activities such as running, making exercise exercise, certain areas of the body are prone to carry excess fat. For these areas, liprocedures performed and weight loss very difficult if not impossible. Breast reduction (reduction posuction can help. The most common areas for liposuction are the love handles at the same time. This (upper hip area) and thighs. mammaplasty), is a surgical procedure which makes breasts smaller. There are many different breast reduction techniques. The more traditional allows for one surgery Patients who have combined procedures do surprisingly well. In addition to method (inverted T-scar) leaves the breasts with a vertical, long horizontal having the benefit of just one recovery process, there can also be a significant and one recovery. scar (along the breast crease). “I utilize the Lejour technique, which leaves savings in price. the breast with a single vertical incision (lollipop scar) and, in my opinion, To learn more, please call our Huntington office to schedule a complimentawith a rounder more natural appearing breast and a better cosmetic result.” Breast reduc- ry consultation with Dr. Rhee at (631) 424-6707. Located at 257 E. Jericho Tpke., Huntington tions are performed as an outpatient procedure and are covered by insurance. Station. www.liplasticsurgery.com. Dr. Charlotte Rhee is a board certified plastic and reconstructive surgeon specializing in Breast Augmentation Women who come to me seeking breast enlargement have very similar goals to those seek- breast surgery. advertisement

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For Hikers and Nature Lovers e

The Urban Drain When discussing local populations, new terms are appearing in print and online. From resident migration, to hybrid working experience, to urban drain, they all describe one phenomenon: Fewer Long Islanders and New Yorkers are working and living in urban areas, with many becoming part of the Eastern migration to work and live in rural communities. The trend was first fueled by Covid-19 and more recently by the Delta variant, called the predominant coronavirus variant on Aug. 26 by the Centers for Disease Control. Work-from-home mandates and hybrid workplace schedules mean fewer workers in urban areas: On Sept. 1, a Partnership for New York City survey found that just 23% of Manhattan office workers had returned to their offices; it was estimated that the figure would increase to only 41% by the end of September. With so many Manhattan-based employees continuing to work from home several days a week, waves of homebuyers are breaking real estate sales records: Newsday reports that “In Nassau County, homes sold for a median price of $670,000 in July, up

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If you’re a true hiking enthusiast, you appreciate autumn in October, which gives us spectacular leaves to peep at in comfortable walking weather before the chill-to-the-bone winter winds whip across the island. Some ideas for people who love a good walk can be found at amikewholikestohike.blogspot.com, Mike Ebert’s blog. “Long Island is filled with places for us to escape into nature – from the Gold Coast to the East End,” writes the avid hiker and recipient of a Press Club of Long Island Media Award. He posts information about the many hiking destinations all over the island that include his Top 10 favorites. If you prefer a more manicured, groomed destination to take in at a leisurely pace, visit the Bayard Cutting Arboretum’s extensive collection of trees and shrubbery. The arboretum offers a free, outdoor guided tour on Saturday, Oct. 2 (weather permitting) from 10:30-11:30 a.m.; register for the tour by calling 631581-1002. Walkers are welcome at other times, Tuesday through Sunday from 9 a.m.-5 p.m. Admission to the arboretum, 440 Montauk Hwy., Great River, is $8 per vehicle. See more info at bayardcuttingarboretum.com. 22% from the same period a year earlier…. and Suffolk County home prices soared to a median $525,000, rising 19% annually.”

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“On Broadway.” “Stand By Me.” “Love Potion No. 9.” These are just a few of the 40 songs featured in Broadway’s longest-running musical revue Smokey Joe’s Cafe, the Grammy Award-winning smash that celebrates the songs written by the legendary team of Jerry Leiber and Mike Stoller. The song-and-dance revue runs Wednesday through Sunday through October 31 at the John W. Engeman Theater Main Stage at Northport, 250 Main St., Northport. Tickets are $75. All patrons entering the theater to attend a performance must show a valid ID and proof of full vaccination with an FDA-authorized vaccine. A Vaccination Card or Excelsior Pass are both acceptable forms of proof. See curtain times and schedule of upcoming shows such as Kinky Boots, On Your Feet, Rock of Ages, and more, at engemantheater.com. s

Making Strides walks will return on Sunday, October 17, 2021 at Jones Beach State Park and Saturday, October 30, 2021 on Main Street in Riverhead, providing reimagined and new ways to support and fund the future of breast cancer research and programs. Both events will be held in accordance with CDC and New york State guidelines to ensure the safety of all attendees. Last year’s walk became virtual events due to the pandemic. In 2019, an estimated 65,000 participants joined the effort, raising more than $2.5 million. Advance registration is free and open to individuals, teams, families, and groups at makingstrideswalk.org/longisland. The Society is requesting that all individuals sign up in advance to be kept informed of important details, which will be updated regularly. In its 28th year on Long Island, the Making Strides Against Breast Cancer movement celebrates survivorship and pays meaningful tributes to

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ago, the initiative was extended, providing restaurants with a much-needed lifeline. The initiative has affected available parking, as Harper’s Magazine Index reports: The number of New York City parking spots converted into outdoor dining areas during the pandemic: 8,550. Submissions for Picks should be sent to fyi@liwomanonline.com for consideration.

Virtual Picks must have proof of full Covid-19 vaccination (final dose 14 days before event). Monday, Oct. 25 at 7:30 p.m. at Tilles Center, LIU Post, 720 Northern Boulevard, Brookville. See details at tillescenter.org.

Fresh Air Pick

Orchard Outing Take a trip out East to pick fresh apples, through the end of October. Check to see if the trees are still producing by calling 631929-4327. U-Pick guests must maintain social distancing; anyone with symptoms will not be allowed to enter the fields. 812 Sound Ave., Calverton, lewinfarm.com.

Eye Health Pick

In America: A Lexicon of Fashion at the Metropolitan Museum of Art.

Looking Ahead

Art Pick

Reflecting Our Identity The Metropolitan Museum of Art’s exhibit of 100 individual ensembles illustrating clothing’s deeper associations with issues of equity, diversity, and inclusion opened in September and runs for one year, through Sept. 5, 2022. View “In America: A Lexicon of Fashion” at the Anna Wintour Costume Center, 1000 Fifth Avenue, New York. See details at metmuseum.org.

Gardening Pick

Leave the Leaves Give yourself a break from raking, blowing,

and bagging the autumn leaves that tumble to the ground. Allowing leaf litter that hides insects and larvae, seedheads, and brush piles to stay on the ground will prepare your yard or planting space for winter while providing birds with food and protection all winter long. See more tips at ecosystemgardening.com.

The average American worker spends seven hours a day viewing computer screens in the office or working from home. Observe World Sight Day on Thursday, Oct. 14 by following the 20-20-20 rule, to help alleviate eye strain: Take a 20-second break to view something 20 feet away every 20 minutes, advises the American Optometric Association.

Dining Pick

Book Pick

Repasts Al Fresco

Pulitzer Prize-winner Elizabeth Strout explores the mysteries and secrets of marriage in this live, in-person event. Guests

In July 2020, as a pandemic-fighting tactic, then-Gov. Andrew Cuomo signed legislation for New York State allowing restaurants to use outdoor public spaces such as sidewalks and streets to seat diners. Three months

Oh William! by Elizabeth Strout

Memory Pick

All About Alzheimer’s Practical Information for All Ages, a new virtual series, airs on Wednesday, Oct. 20 at 6 p.m. with “10 Warning Signs.” Presented by AARP New York and the Alzheimer’s Association, the free programs are accessed online via Zoom or through a toll-free number and are intended for those living with Alzheimer’s, families including caregivers of all ages, community members, and professionals. Viewers don’t need to participate in each program. To learn more and see what other installments will take place in November and December, visit states.aarp.org.

Doctor Visit Pick All-Night Telehealth

Northwell Health’s new ER on Demand program allows people to stay home while consulting an emergency physician from 8 p.m.-8 a.m. via video chat, on a smartphone, tablet, or computer. The doctor can arrange an ambulance or write a prescription for home delivery in Nassau County, Queens, or Manhattan if necessary. Insurance covers the virtual visit; copays are less than in-person appointments. Access by calling 833-5566784 or 833-55-NORTH, or by opening the Northwell Health app at northwell.edu and scheduling through the ER on demand tile.

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Good Advice New Islip Arts Exhibition Sponsored by AARP NY Bringing Intergenerational Artists Together by Bernard Macias, Associate State Director, AARP Long Island “Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up.” – Pablo Picasso The great Pablo Picasso may have had something there when he talked about tapping into our inner child. Now a new program from the Islip Arts Council and AARP New York will bring generations together so they may gain valuable skills from each other–and hopefully reignite some of that childhood wonder and awe. Islip Arts is now accepting art submissions for a statewide virtual exhibit, 2-Together: Creating Generational Bonds Virtually, but there is a catch: The pieces must be a collaboration between two people from two different age groups in the medium of their choice. New York State artists, 50 and over, are invited to team up with someone between the ages of 12 and 18 to create one piece of art together. Each pair will be encouraged to share, compare, and contrast their similarities as well as their differences. And, hopefully, discover things they didn’t know about their fellow artist. It’s a way for us to positively embrace the generation gap and enjoy the benefits of creating art. “Staying Engaged: Health Patterns of Older Americans Who Participate in the Arts” analyzed 15 years of health data from nearly 1,500 older adults, looking at art creation and attendance. Those who created or attended art events reported better health outcomes physically and cognitively. This show focuses on finding commonality and respect across generations. According to Islip Arts Council, sharing this creative endeavor will initiate a much-needed dialogue

to diminish negative stereotypes and enhance the experience between both participants and viewers. This juried virtual exhibition, curated by Holly Gordon and Waldo Cabrera from Islip Arts Council, will include interviews of each artist team discussing what was shared, learned, and discovered during this experience. During last year’s virtual art show, titled NEW BEGINNINGS, more than 600 New York State amateur and professional artists over the age of 50 submitted works in various media. This year’s show will be viewable online on the Islip Art Museum’s website at islipartmuseum.org from Nov. 28 until the end of the year. And the whole process will be captured on the IslipArts Live YouTube page. What you should know if you want to participate: • On Oct. 2, from 2 p.m. to 4 p.m., we’re hosting a virtual ZOOM meeting to explain how to submit your artwork. • Submissions will be accepted from Oct. 2 through Oct. 16. • An ice-breaking questionnaire on isliparts.org will be available to get the conversation started between the artists who are working together. • Following registration on the AARP website at aarp.org/ny, you will see the requirements and procedure for digital submission. • For more information, reach out to Holly Gordon at 631-666-8841, 631-835-0697 or holly.isliparts@gmail. com • To learn about other at-home virtual activities, visit aarp.org/nearyou or follow us on Facebook at facebook. com/aarplongisland.

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Book Corner

by Ellen Meister

For The Love of a Dog

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oodrow on the Bench is a beautiful and poignant memoir by bestselling novelist Jenna Blum, and the very book I didn’t know I needed. It gets to the heart of love laid bare and raw, examining what’s left when all else is stripped away. It is, in the end, a book about the humanity of loving a dog with all your heart. I’m delighted to share my conversation about it with Jenna. Your vulnerability was so honest and palpable in this book. Was that hard to write? It was, a little. Being a novelist is all about putting your emotion and experience into a book but encoding it so it doesn’t distract from the story, whereas what makes a memoir powerful is honesty and disclosure. I started describing the process as ‘Hide your underpants’ (novel) and ‘Look, more underpants!’ (memoir). And it’s not the nice underpants, either. It’s the sprung-elastic stretched-out underwear you wear every day. My first draft of Woodrow was very much focused solely on him until my writer friend Mark Cecil, hearing me describe the project, said, ‘But wait, JB, WHY were you initially sitting on the bench all alone with your dog, with nobody to help you?’ He encouraged me to answer that difficult question in subsequent drafts, so the memoir gained the depth about my own life. What are three things you would like us to know about Woodrow? Aw. I’m crying again! How will I ever get through my book tour? Woodrow was a gentleman, a human in a dog costume. He had a tuxedo collar for parties, and he was elegant, supremely intelligent, and a little sly. He drew people to him, especially his beloved LADIES, like a canine tractor beam. Woodrow ate carrots straight from the crisper drawer of the fridge, like a horse. And he would do anything, I mean anything, for bacon. I relate! Can you talk a little about the bench, and what it meant to you and Woodrow? The bench is this typical city park bench across the street from my apartment—the one that’s closest, so it was easiest for Woodrow to get to. Every day, morning and night, I’d carry him across the street—since he had trouble walking. We were like a magnet for anyone who Woodrow was wanted to talk to us, from neighbors to homeless folks to a gentleman, a tourists to friends from other parts of the country who’d seen my social media posts about the bench and walked human in a dog around until they found it. The bench was a lightning rod for community, for goodwill, in a time of incredible divicostume. sion. I’m convinced it was all the love Woodrow received

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and gave at the bench that gave me my last seven months with him. And it— and Woodrow—taught me to open up and receive those good things as well. Do you still miss him? Has it gotten any easier? Every night when I’m having dinner, I toast somebody who has made an extra difference in my life that day—done something really lovely or good. And then I toast Woodrow. Every night. I tell him, ‘Mommoo loves you more than anything in the uni’—the universe—just as I did when he was alive. I miss him terribly. Grief doesn’t necessarily lessen with time; it assumes different shapes and you get used to carrying it. There were so many beautiful human Jenna Blum and Woodrow friendships explored in this book. Was there a message there about unconditional love? Absolutely. I have always been a perfection freak, a public performer but otherwise fairly private about my most difficult experiences and vulnerable emotions. I don’t go out unless I have makeup on—not to walk the dog, not to the gym. I don’t let people into my house unless it’s spotless. Caring for Woodrow when he was old and got sick, caring for an elder, busts all that perfection out of the water. I had to learn to let people in, to see me sitting on the floor with him in the clothes I’d been wearing for days, covered with bits of the only food he’d eat— mac and cheese, chicken salad. I ran outside at night in downtown Boston in my underwear with him when he had stomach issues. I had to learn to let people help me, and I did. I don’t have kids, but I imagine I now understood what my mom friends were talking about all those years—and anyone caring for a dependent elder will understand what I’m talking about, too. I still struggle with opening up and asking for help, but my friends taught me when I was caring for Woodrow and grieving him that it was okay to show my messy side. Whenever I’m tempted to think, ‘Oh, I’ll just do this hard thing by myself,’ I remember Woodrow and the lessons he taught me about people loving you no matter what. I think Woodrow on the Bench would be an outstanding choice for book clubs. What one issue do you hope these groups will discuss after reading it? I hope Woodrow on the Bench encourages readers to talk about those final days with their beloved animals—the incredible difficulty of those days, the intensity of the final valuable joyous moments. Anyone who ever has a pet loses that pet, and it’s such an under-addressed topic. I hope Woodrow helps us take that journey together and keep each other company until someday, on the other side of the river, we see our good pets again. l To advertise: 516-505-0555 x1 • liwomanonline.com/advertise


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Lunch with Lucci Susan Lucci enters the Garden City Hotel for our lunch meeting, a picture of refined elegance and grace, and is greeted like royalty by the adoring staff. And for good reason. Lucci has a long association with the hotel dating back to her college years when she worked there. She still resides in Garden City and has warm feelings for her hometown and the storied hotel. While she is best known for her beguiling role as Erica Kane on All My Children for 40 years, her career has also included a stint as Annie Oakley on Broadway in Annie Get Your Gun, she starred as Genevieve Delatour in Lifetime’s Devious Maids, done live performances including a tour with Regis Philbin, has performed in the hilarious Celebrity Autobiography and also penned a best-selling memoir, All My Life. We were fortunate to have Susan Lucci grace the cover of the premiere issue of Long Island Woman in 2001, and we’re glad that we had the opportunity to catch up with the pride of Garden City and the First Lady of the Garden City Hotel twenty years later–on location. Here are excerpts from our Lunch with Lucci. Could you discuss how the Garden City Hotel has played a pivotal role in your life? The Garden City Hotel has been, yes, pivotal is exactly the right word. We have had so many family celebrations here. I grew up in Garden City. For one thing, I met my husband here. I worked at the Garden City Hotel when I was in college. I had to earn my spending money, so I was a waitress here. They used to hire a bunch of college kids in the summer. He was the executive chef. It was his last year before he became in charge of the food and beverage operations for the whole chain. So that was his last year here–it was my first year. After that I became the hostess in the summertime, because I realized in a minute and a half of being a waitress, I’d rather be the hostess and got to be. Then we had first communions and confirmations and many charity events held here. We were in charge of Little Flower, the Christmas fundraiser, and we did it here for seven years. It was as beautifully done as any event I’ve ever been to at any of the leading hotels in Manhattan. And we live here in this town, so we frequently would come to the Garden City Hotel either with friends or even just the two of us for dinner. It’s a very special place. I got a call one day saying they wanted to make me the first lady of the Garden City Hotel, which was such a tremendous honor. There came a time where you wanted to live in New York City and your husband said it might be a good idea to stay here. Obviously, it would have been a lot more practical to be in the city and not be traveling to work from here. What did he say that convinced you to reside here? When you grow up some place, you don’t really notice that it’s beautiful and it’s a great place to be. He came here from the Austrian Alps, which is pretty beautiful itself. But he opened my eyes to how lovely

a town it was. We had no children at that time, but he said, ‘What a great place to raise children. It offers so much.’ So that’s really what it was. And in the end, it did turn out to be great for me. To have that balance for me was important. To have my life in the city, and be able to do what I wanted to do, but also to come home here and to raise my children in this beautiful place. How have you balanced being part of the Garden City community and maintaining your privacy? The community has been very protective. I would go down to 7th Street and I’d go into the shops and the people from the shops would say to me, ‘You know the paparazzi were here’ or ‘The tabloids were here, and they were asking about you.’ They would try and figure out where I live. But the neighbors would say, ‘Oh, I don’t know.’ Let’s talk about “All My Children.” Daytime dramas don’t always get the recognition that they deserve. You get a new script every day so you must have to have excellent memorization skills. Did you use of cue cards? No cue cards. You had to know it. In the very beginning, they had teleprompters, and there would be crew members holding these little teleprompters hiding behind furniture on the set. Some of the actors and actresses who had been in the genre would use them. I never used them because it felt to me like a singer trying to sing a song and no connection to the lyrics. I had very good teachers from the Yale School of Drama, and I just couldn’t imagine not connecting with the person. And I’m not saying the other actors didn’t connect with the person, but for me it felt better to know what I was doing and to focus on this. As far as the memorizing–I read early and I used to memorize. I would come home from school and say to my mother, ‘Want to hear my book?’ And I knew it by heart. So I think memorizing is just something that came easy to me. My brother and I would play games in the car memorizing license plates. After occupying the character of Erica Kane for decades, was there ever a time that you heard her voice in your head trying to influence you in any way? Definitely. And it’s kind of like which came first, the chicken or the egg? There was a spirit in me that drove Erica, but a lot of times Erica would say with her outside voice what I might be thinking in my inside voice. Like Larry David in “Curb Your Enthusiasm.” Yes. Not to that degree thank heavens, or I wouldn’t be sitting here alive to talk to you. But that is the concept. (By the way, Larry David helped us get through the pandemic watching Curb Your Enthusiasm.) Anyway, I really do think there’s Erica Kane in everybody, men and women. It just depends on the day, how much you’re going to let out and how much you’re going to keep in and what you might choose to do. She sometimes chose to do the wrong things for her own right reasons. She also had a history. That was the beauty of working in daytime, because the genre is five days a week. We were an hour every day. It started as a half hour, but pretty shortly it went to an hour a day five days a week. There’s time for nuance. There’s time for the audience

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the nominations come from people in the industry. There were a number of celebrities that did cameos on the show, including Donald Trump. How was that? It was fine. He was a New York celebrity in a New York very chic restaurant at that time. He didn’t cause any scenes and he didn’t look for a lot of attention. Carol Burnett was a huge fan of the show and she appeared as well. Yes. We did several scenes together, which was a thrill for me. I had to really talk myself off the ledge, you know what I’m saying? “All My Children” dealt with some topical subjects of the time. Agnes Nixon (All My Children’s creator, producer and writer) was writing in terms of Erica as a very modern woman. I was just out of college and what she was writing seemed normal to me. It was only as we went along and suddenly women’s magazines were interviewing me as a feminist, as someone who had been a great

example of a modern woman. I went to a women’s college and nobody was not going to have a career. Everyone was. It just was a matter of how to get there, how to do that. And we all did. But also Agnes wrote things with great nuance, because you could in that genre, and also from everyone’s point of view. So if you had an abortion story line or an anti-war story line, it was from everyone’s point of view, so there’s controversy among the characters speaking too, and it was never like a diatribe. Everything was character-driven and reflected. You held a mirror up to the culture, which is what the arts do, and that’s what she did. But with Agnes, there was also a sense of humor, and that sense of humor was also there and I was a very lucky character who got to do a lot of that. What was it like transitioning after “All My Children?” I got lucky. I had a recurring character on Hot In Cleveland, which allowed me to do some more comedy, and Army Wives, which was not comedy. I didn’t want to get too


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be 9 or 10 at night, and he had a married to anything that was not heart surgeon standing by in the going to be something with a real operating room just in case my part. And while I was still at All My actual heart was something to be Children, Marc Cherry (Desperate looked at. As it turned out, I was Housewives creator) and I met. discharged by noon the next day. The fans had been all over the I was told by the nurses that it was internet saying they wanted me a really good thing I went into to be on Desperate Housewives. the hospital to see him because When we met at lunch he said I maybe would have had the it would have been great but it Widowmaker. was already done. It was the last season, it was already written and Did you have to make any lifeit was already shot. But he said, style changes as a result? ‘I’m doing a new show and I’d I asked the doctor that. I asked like to see you in that.’ And so him, ‘Am I going to set the alarms that was Devious Maids. I did four off now in the airports now that years on Devious Maids. I have these two stents?’ He said, I’ve been doing something live ‘No, not with that kind of fabric.’ since All My Children went off the I asked him how was my actual air called Celebrity Autobiography. heart was, and he said, ‘You have I’m playing Elizabeth Taylor from the heart of a 20-year-old. Your “I got a call one day saying they wanted to make me the first lady of the Garden City Hotel, her autobiography. Somebody’s heart’s in really good shape.’ which was such a tremendous honor.” plaque image courtesy of the Garden City Hotel reading from Eddie Fisher’s, The blockage was not somebody’s reading from Debbie Reynolds’ at the what was going on. She asked me what I was feeling cholesterol. It was calcium and it seemed my dad same time, and then all the other characters come in. and I told her, and she very calmly said to me, ‘Susan, had this. So it’s DNA because I had no health issues. It’s such a funny, wonderful concept to have celebrities my car is right outside. Why don’t I just take you to My mother was 101 at the time. We all thought I had reading other celebrities’ autobiographies, and you down to St. Francis? We’ll get there faster than if we call my mother’s genes, so we never even looked at that. can’t believe what you’re reading. an ambulance.’ It turned out that she was a nurse, too. Women should be aware of their family history as So there’s talk about a follow up to “All My Children” I mean, the luck of that and the luck that we were just much as they can and tell their doctors when they go down the street from St. Francis. in for their checkup. with “Pine Valley.” Is that going to be happening? As I said, I had no health issues. My husband has AFib When they put the stent in, they go in through your I wish I had new news on it. The fact that it’s been in the trades seems like it will. I can’t think of being so he has a cardiologist, the amazing Dr. Shlofmitz, groin, and there’s a little plug they told me at the in better hands than with Kelly (Ripa) and Mark Chairman of Cardiology at St. Francis, one of the end, ‘Don’t be alarmed, it’s just collagen.’ And I said, (Consuelos). They know firsthand so much about All best heart hospitals in the country. I called him. I was ‘Collagen?’ They said it will dissolve. I said, ‘Collagen? My Children and the characters. It seems like it’s going reluctant to call him because I felt this is my day off, It’s going to dissolve from the inside out? That’s great!’ I have too much to do. ‘No, this is going to go away. to happen. I do hope so. You’re involved with a number of charitable causes. In 2018 you had surgery for two blocked arteries. I need to go here and there.’ But I did call him. The Any that you’re passionate about that you’d like to talk manager who was driving me (who had the nursing about? What did you learn from that experience? The number one thing I would say is to listen to your degree) was really advising me to call him. He asked The American Heart Association. body. Your body says ‘help me,’ a lot. If your body is me what I was feeling and I told him. He said, ‘Meet me Did that happen as a result your heart issue? not behaving the way it normally does, listen to it, and at the ER, because your symptoms are substantial.’ By It did. This probably sounds way too dramatic, but by that I mean do something about it. I had never had the time I got to the ER to meet him, my symptoms had I had been praying that if there’s something more I any health issues. So assuming you’re going to never gone away just like they had in the past. I was so afraid can do, because I have this platform, to affect people’s have any health issues just because you didn’t have any I was going to be taking up this man’s important time lives... It’s great to entertain people, but I wanted to do and another real heart patient needed him. Anyway, he something more to help people. I called my publicist before is false thinking. I dismissed them. I felt, ‘Oh, they’ll go away.’ And gave me a CAT scan. Afterwards, he came back and to because I felt I’ve got to pass this good luck on and they did right away. Both those things happened in a all of our surprise, he said, ‘You have a 90% blockage talk to women about this. She put me touch with the restaurant. My husband and I were waiting to be seated. in your main artery and 75% blockage in an adjacent American Heart Association and I’m their national We were going to our table, and by the time I got to the artery. But I can fix this.’ ambassador for the Go Red program and movement. table, it was gone. But the third time it happened I was How did you feel when you heard that? You said that you’re 5’2” on a good day. How tall are at a Tory Burch boutique in Manhasset and I felt a very I was so shocked! But I had no pain. He said, ‘I can do you on a bad day? strong pressure on my chest and going around my rib the surgery tonight or I can do it at 6:30 in the morning.’ 5’1” or 5’1/2” but I might be closer to 5’2” now cage to my back, so I couldn’t ignore it. I sat down. I was I said, ‘Isn’t 6:30 in the morning better because your A because I do Pilates. A lot of stretching. ◆ very lucky I was out. If I had been home, I know that team will be in and be all fresh?’ He said, ‘No, my A I just would have said to myself, ‘You probably need team is on their way in now.’ I said, ‘Well, shouldn’t I For more of our interview with Susan Lucci where some water and go lay down.’ Anyway, I sat down on go home and get a good night’s sleep and come back?’ she discuss her childhood growing up in Garden City, this little bench and the manager came over to me and He said, ‘No. I will be up all night thinking you’re having read the bonus page in our digital edition. Link to it at asked me if I was okay. I told her I was trying to assess a heart attack. This is not going to work.’ So it got to liwomanonline.com.

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hen it comes to health, prevention is the best medicine. Many avoidable diseases can cause extensive damage to our health, especially as we age or for those with other medical conditions or a weakened immune system. While many preventable illnesses are treatable, they can nonetheless result in lasting complications. So getting vaccinated against certain diseases is vital to prevent these illnesses from taking hold in our bodies. We all know vaccinations are standard during childhood, but adults need immunizations too. However, adults require different protections or may need booster shots to ensure the vaccines they received in the past remain effective.

How do vaccines work? The goal of vaccines is to reduce your chance of infection by developing immunity through your body’s natural defense system. When bacteria or viruses get into your body, they reproduce and attack your system. Your body’s immune system has various approaches to fight off this infection. For example, white blood cells can learn how to protect your body from particular germs that you’ve been vaccinated against. To do this, vaccines use a small amount of the particular virus or bacteria and introduce it into your system. The antibodies then learn how to fight off the germs in the event you encounter them in a larger The goal of quantity. For this reason, you may have a slight reaction to the vaccine, such as a fever, while your body works to fight vaccines is to it. Still, this is very minor compared to the complications reduce your of getting a preventable disease. There are many types of vaccines, and each can interact with your body differently. chance of Some vaccines require multiple doses or else a booster later infection by on to rebuild your immunity levels. Some individuals are unable to get certain vaccines or developing have weakened immune systems that make them more vulnerable to infection. Herd immunity can protect these immunity at-risk populations, including young children, older adults, through your and individuals with certain health conditions. Herd imbody’s natural munity refers to a large percent of the population being immune to a disease, reducing the risk of the particular defense system. bacteria or virus passing from person to person.

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What vaccines do older adults need? The vaccines recommended in adulthood offer yearly protection, are recommended for specific life or health situations or are boosters to keep your childhood vaccinations working effectively. Every individual has different medical needs, but common adult immunization recommendations include: Influenza: The flu shot is recommended yearly for every person over the age of 6 months, especially for those at higher risk due to a weakened immune system, medical conditions, or close contact with those at risk for the flu. Tetanus, Diphtheria, and Pertussis (Tdap): The initial Tdap shot is currently given once, usually around the age of 11-12. Boosters are recommended every 10 years after that, especially if you come in contact with pregnant women or young infants. Measles, Mumps, Rubella (MMR): If you were born before 1957, you are likely immune from MMR. If you were born after 1957 and don’t have evidence of immunity, this vaccination is recommended, especially if you travel internationally. However, if you have a weakened immune system, it is not recommended. Recombinant Zoster (RZV): The Zoster vaccine is the currently preferred shot to prevent shingles. It’s especially recommended for those 50 or older since the risk and the likelihood of complications from shingles increases with age. Even if you’ve had shingles, you can get it again, so the vaccine is still recommended. Pneumococcal Polysaccharide (PPSV23): This vaccine is for pneumococcal diseases like meningitis and bloodstream infections. It’s recommended for everyone 65 and older and for younger individuals with certain health conditions. Pneumococcal Conjugate (PCV13): This immunization also works to prevent pneumococcal disease and pneumonia for those with conditions that weaken their immune system. The CDC offers a vaccine assessment tool to help you determine which vaccines you may need based on your own personal factors such as age or health conditions. The best way to make sure you are up to date on immunizations is to discuss your medical history and needs with your doctor. If you have any concerns about the safety of any particular vaccines, you should express those concerns with you doctor as well. l To advertise: 516-505-0555 x1 • liwomanonline.com/advertise


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october 2021 • Long Island Woman • 17


Catching Up With Carol

by Carol Silva

That Championship Season

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t’s October. World Series others. We became a team that time, when multi-million-dolbelieved in ourselves and each lar athletes try to stake their other.” claim to baseball immortality. The Allied Deli Team! But years before, those “boys of It worked. Those Allied Deli summer,” were the little boys of “leftovers” went from worst to Little League teams. first. They won the 1963 HicksThis is the story of one special ville Little League Championship! team and their coach. Now that’s a sweet Bad News “It was 1963. I was 10 years Bears story, but it doesn’t end old. Not a good athlete. I didn’t there. see well. I didn’t know I needed Fast forward nearly 40-years. glasses.” Our younger brother Brian was That’s my older brother, Kevin, on an Oyster Bay baseball field, remembering the year he tried cheering on his then 8-year-old out for Hicksville Little League. son. “I’m yelling, ‘Go Kevin! Go It was just weeks after our Dad Kevin!!’ SILVA was on the back had retired from 20 years as a of his uniform. One of the dads Naval Corpsman, a medic with comes over from the other side Mom (Carol Silva-the original) in the 1960s hat, Dad, Tony Silva is Coach. Kevin Silva front row, 4th from the left. the 1st Marine Division during of the field and asks, ‘Are you the horrors of WWII. After time in the jungles of Iwo Jima and Guadalcanal, Kevin Silva?’ I said, ‘No, Kevin’s my older brother.’ He says, ‘I played on your then bases in China and Puerto Rico, Dad was finally home. father’s Allied Deli Little League team the year we won the championship. “I went to tryouts. The coaches were all dads and World War II veterans. I was part of the leftover crowd that was sent home because we weren’t Their attitude was like a military draft. They yelled, ‘Everyone muster!’ They good enough.’ picked pitchers, catchers and fielders for as many teams as they had local “This dad tells me, ‘I remember going home crushed. It just reaffirmed business sponsors. all the bad things people had told me. I wasn’t good at sports. I couldn’t “Then, we were the leftovers. It was brutal. The message was, ‘You guys do things. I was a loser. But your Dad took me and the rest of that team suck. You don’t belong here. You have no potential.’ This was long before to the championship. That was a turning point in my life! He got me thinkeveryone got a trophy. They told us leftovers to go home. But we said, ‘We ing, ‘You know what? I really could do things that other people told me I want to play!’ So they told us, ‘We’re out of coaches. If one of your fathers couldn’t. I could be successful.’” will coach, you leftovers will be mustered into another team.’ That Championship Season attitude lives in us Silvas today. The Allied “When I got home, Dad said, ‘I’ll coach.’ I asked, ‘What do you know Deli trophy is a family heirloom. And Dad is still Kevin’s hero. Kevin sums it about coaching baseball?’ He admitted, ‘Nothing. But I know people.’” up this way,“Success is getting ordinary people to do extraordinary things It was true Dad didn’t know baseball. He was born in El Paso, Texas. His and unlock their full potential. Today that’s my purpose as a Chief Human Mom died when Dad was two. His father delivered him to her parents in Resources Officer for a Fortune 500 company–to help others unlock their Santa Monica, California, then moved back to Mexico. full potential.” Dad was essentially orphaned. He joined the military at Brian is also an HR industry giant. “You “Dad focused 17. Now, April of ‘63, Dad was truly and finally “home,” may go through life doing things you think on good. The hit and he had a job: Coach. are little things, just because it’s right. But Kevin: “He tried us out for every position with his usual those random acts of kindness could have we made, the attitude, ‘Anything and everything is possible. You Can an extraordinarily huge impact on someone base we got, the Do ANYTHING!!!’ else’s life. You might make someone’s day. “Our first games were awful. We were all equally unTheir week. Their month. Their life.” way two people qualified to play. We had proven that in tryouts, where It’s worth a try. Every day. l interacted. The the assumption was, we had no potential. But, we were Carol Silva is a multi award-winning focus was always just untested. Unproven. Our potential unrecognized. journalist who spent 33 years at the anchor Dad focused on good. The hit we made, the base we desk of News 12 Long Island. For more than on achievement, got, the way two people interacted. The focus was 40 years Carol Silva has had the honor of always on achievement, not loss. On what we had to telling the stories of the people of Long not loss.” practice. We learned to value ourselves and appreciate Island and beyond.

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linda.martinez@nyulangone.org nyuwinthrop.org/community-health/support-groups Day Haven Adult Day Services ..........................................................631.585.2020 x261 Community Programs Center of L.I., dayhaven.org

AA/NA/Family Support.......516.746.0350 (Nassau) .................................................. 631.822.3396 (Suffolk) THRIVE Recovery Community and Outreach Center Dementia Caregivers............................. 516.767.6856 Long Island Alzheimer’s & Dementia Center thriveliorg Westbury. lidementia.org Alcoholics Anonymous........................ 516.292.3040 Early Stage Dementia Program.......... 516.634.4192 nassauny-aa.org, suffolkny-aa.org Oceanside. pjaffe@friedbergjcc.org. friedbergjcc.com Debtors Anonymous..............................212.969.8111 Lewy Body Dementia Resource Center danyc.info .................................................................... 516.218.2026 Families Anonymous............................800.736.9805 Long Beach. lbdny.org familiesanonymous.org Spouse/Partner.......................................516.663.8220 Food Addicts Anonymous.................. 772.878.9657 NYU Langone, Mineola. foodaddictsanonymous.org linda.martinez@nyulangone.org Gamblers Anonymous................ 516.484.1545 x200 nyuwinthrop.org/community-health/support-groups Sid Jacobson JCC, East Hills. sjjcc.org Gamblers Anonymous.........................855.222.5542 gamblersanonymous.org Gam-Anon Hotline..................................718.352.1671 gam-anon.org Long Island Recovery Association.... 631.552.LIRA lirany.org. Narcotics Anonymous.......... 631.689.NANA (6262) St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1 Nicotine Anonymous............................877.879.6422 nicotine-anonymous.org Overeaters Anonymous............. 516.484.1545 x196 Sid Jacobson JCC, East Hills. sjjcc.org Overeaters Anonymous.......................631.981.5850 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/community-resources S-Anon Anonymous (Partners of Sexaholics) ....................................................................267.295.2795 sanon.org Smoking Cessation................................631.853.2928 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/events/smoking-cessation Smoking Cessation Workshops......... 516.629.2013 St. Francis Hospital, Roslyn stfrancisheartcenter.chsli.org/smoking-cessation-classes Women for Sobriety............................. 215.536.8026 womenforsobriety.org

Alzheimer’s/Dementia Support Alzheimer’s and Dementia.................. 516.767.6856 Long Island Alzheimer’s & Dementia Center Westbury. lidementia.org Alzheimer’s Association .....................800.272.3900 Melville. alz.org/longisland

Bereavement Support

Bereavement............................................516.832.2673 Cope Foundation. Roslyn.copefoundation.org Bereavement Center for H.O.P.E............................................516.216.5194 Lake Success.

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Widow/Widowers ................................. 516.634.4010 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org friedbergjcc.org/support-services

Cancer Support

Young Widow and Widowers............. 631.647.5675 widowednotalone.com Young Widows and Widowers...........631.495.8541 St. Matthew Church, Dix Hills smrcc.org/ministry-of-bereavement

Breast Cancer Support Adelphi New York Statewide Breast Cancer Hotline ....................................................................800.877.8077 breast-cancer.adelphi.edu

Lymphedema.......................................... 631.686.7648 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/community-resources

American Cancer Society.................... 800.227.2345 cancer.org

Wellness after Cancer.................................. 516.734.8203 Monter Cancer Center, Lake Success northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups

Breast Cancer..........................................800.877.8077 Adelphi New York Statewide Breast Cancer Support Garden City. breast-cancer.adelphi.edu Women’s Breast & Reproductive Cancers ..........................................................631.462.9800 x151 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. syjcc.org/index.php/adults/

Huntington Hospital....................................... 631.351.2013 North Shore Univ. Hosptal........................ 516.562.4750 Manhasset northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups

Breast Cancer...........................................516.377.5333 Mt. Sinai South Nassau, Oceanside southnassau.org/sn/support-groups

Bereavement............................................ 516.634.4010 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org

Breast Cancer (Newly Diagonosed)... 516.663.2556 Perlmutter Cancer Center, NYU Winthrop Hospital nyulangone.org Breast Cancer (& other cancers)..........516.374.3190 Hewlett House, Hewlett. hewlett-house.org

Bereavement.............................................516.377.5333 Mt. Sinai South Nassau, Oceanside southnassau.org/sn/support-groups

Breast Cancer: Stage 4 ........................800.877.8077 Adelphi New York Statewide Breast Cancer Support Garden City. breast-cancer.adelphi.edu

Bereavement............................................516.520.2706 St. Joseph Hospital, Bethpage. stjosephhospital.chsli.org/bereavement-groups-0

Breast Cancer Survivors.......................631.686.2561 Mather Hospital, Port Jefferson. matherhospital.org/community-resources

Bereavement for Children and Families .....................................................................516.626.1971 North Shore Child and Family Guidance Center northshorechildguidance.org

Breast Cancer: Cafecito (for Latina Women) .....................................................................516.877.4329 Adelphi New York Statewide Breast Cancer Support Garden City. breast-cancer.adelphi.edu

H.E.A.L. (Help Ease A Loss)...................631.265.4520 St. Thomas of Canterbury Church, Smithtown 030acef.netsolhost.com Holocaust Survivors...............................516.569.6733 The Marion & Aaron Gural JCC, Lawrence guraljcc.org/older-adults/chaverim-program-forholocaust-survivors Bereavement..................................631.462.9800 x151 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. syjcc.org/index.php/adults

Cancer.........................................................516.377.5333 Mt. Sinai South Nassau, Oceanside southnassau.org/sn/support-groups Lung Cancer............................................ 631.686.2500 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/community-resources

Breast Cancer.......................................... 631.376.4104 Good Samaritan Hospital, W. Islip. goodsamaritan.chsli.org/support-groups-0

Bereavement..................................516.822.3535 x328 Mid Island JCC., Plainview. miyjcc.net/adult-support-groups

Brain Tumor.............................................631.474.2323 Gardian Brown Foundation. guardianbrain.com

Oral and Head and Neck Cancer......516.734.8203 LIJ Medical Center, New Hyde Park northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups Oral, Head and Neck Cancer..............800.377.0928 SPOHNC (Support for People with Oral, Head and Neck Cancer), Locust Valley. spohnc.org ThyCa: Thyroid Cancer..........................516.608.5113 Manhasset. thyca.org/sg/ny_manhasset

Caregivers Support Caregivers................................................. 516.292.1300 Family and Children’s Assoc., Mineola. familyandchildrens.org Caregivers..................................................516.377.5333 Mt. Sinai South Nassau, Oceanside southnassau.org/sn/support-groups Caregivers.......................................631.462.9800 x151 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. syjcc.org/index.php/adults Caregivers....................................... 516.484.1545 x236 Sid Jacobson JCC, East Hills. sjjcc.org/programs

Covid Support Covid-19 Help Suffolk County............631.940.3700 United Way, Deer Park. unitedwayli.org/covid19helpSuffolk

Coronavirus Digital Resource Center ..........................................................833.4UR.CARE Exercise for Women w/Breast/Gynecologic Cancer. Northwell Health .......................................................... 516.484.1545 x228 northwell.edu/coronavirus-covid-19/surviving-covid-19 Sid Jacobson JCC, East Hills. sjjcc.org Covid and Covid Loss..................631.462.9800 x151 Huntington Breast Cancer Action Coalition Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. Suffolkny-aa.org ......................................................................631.547.1518 Coronavirus Hotline...............................516.227.9570 hbcac.org Long Island Crisis Center, Bellmore Islip Breast Cancer Coalition..............631.968.7424 longislandcrisiscenter.org/coronavirus-covid-19-onislipbreastcancer.com long-island

Alzheimer’s Caregivers .......................800.272.3900 Alzheimer’s Association, Melville. alz.org/longisland

Bereavement.......................................... 631.499.8520 St. Matthew Church, Dix Hills. smrcc.org/ministry-of-bereavement

Live, Love and Laugh Again (breast cancer) ................................................................... 631.476.2776 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/community-resources

Nassau County Coronavirus Call Center .....................................................................516.227.9570

Alzheimer’s Caregivers......................... 516.292.1300 Family and Children’s Assoc., Mineola info@FCALI.org. fcali.org

Widow/Widowers.........................631.462.9800 x151 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. syjcc.org/index.php/adults

Strength for Life (exercise class)......... 631.675.6513 Various locations. strengthforlifeNY.org

Divorce/Separation Support

Moving Forward: Loss of a Spouse .516.634.4010 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org

Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Helpline ............................................................... 800.GO.Komen

Alzheimer’s Disease..............................516.663.8220 NYU Langone, Mineola

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Support Groups Divorced and Separated............631.462.9800 x151 Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. miyjcc.org Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. syjcc.org

Brain Injury...............................................631.474.6952 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

Muscular Dystrophy...............................631.4746489 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

Singles..............................................631.462.9800 x151 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. syjcc.org

Chron’s and Colitis Foundation.........516.222.5530 Garden City. crohnscolitisfoundation.org/chapters/longisland

Myasthenia Gravis................................ 516.663.4593 Winthrop Wellness Pavilion, Garden City myasthenia.org/MGFA-Support-Groups/state/NY

Congestive Heart Failure.......................631.968.3171 South Shore University Hospital, Bay Shore northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups

National Federation of the Blind....... 516.868.8718 nfbny.org

Domestic Violence/Abuse Support Brighter Tomorrows.............................. 631.395.1800 brightertomorrowsli.org Child Abuse Reporting.........................800.342.3720 ocfs.ny.gov/programs/cps National Domestic Violence Hotline .....................................................800.799.SAFE (7233) thehotline.org The Crime Victims Center/Parents for Megan’s Law............................................................. 631.689.2672 24 Hour Crisis Intervention Hotline.....631.332.9234 CrimeVictimsCenter.org The Safe Center Hotline...................... 516.542.0404 cadvnc.org L.I. Against Domestic Violence.......... 631.666.8833 liadv.org The Retreat (Domestic Violence hotline) ....................................................................631.329.2200 theretreatinc.org

Diabetes....................................................516.629.2070 St. Francis Hospital DeMatteis Center, Greenvale stfrancisheartcenter.chsli.org/support-groups-2 Diabetes........................................631.473.1320 x5204 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/community-resources Diabetes.....................................................516.377.5333 Mt. Sinai South Nassau, Oceanside southnassau.org/sn/support-groups Diabetes.................................................. 631.388.47161 South Shore University Hospital, Bay Shore northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups Dialysis........................................................516.377.5333 Mt. Sinai South Nassau, Oceanside southnassau.org/sn/support-groups

matherhospital.org/community-resources Living Hope for Mental Health...........631.675.6831 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/community-resources Families Anonymous (for families and friends of drug abusers)...........................................800.736.9805 familiesanonymous.org

Oncology (cancer)...................................631.351.2013 Huntington Hospital Women’s Health Center northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups

Nassau County’s Behavioral Health Helpline .......................................................516.227.TALK (8255) Mental Health Assoc. of Nassau County, Hempstead mhanc.org

Parkinson Disease.................................. 516.634.4010 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside friedbergjcc.org/support-services

Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance ....................................................................516.499.6374 mdsgli.com/groups

Parkinson Disease ................................ 631.862.3560 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Illness (Nassau) Lake Success..............................................516.326.0797 namiqn.org/programs

Scleroderma............................................ 631.949.8265 South Shore University Hospital, Bay Shore northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups Sleep Disorders.......................................631.968.3150 Long Island Lung Center, Bay Shore northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups Speech Communication....................... 631.474.6831 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Illness (Suffolk) Huntington................................................631.385.0754 namihuntington.org Pregnancy/Infant Loss Group............ 516.634.4010 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside friedbergjcc.org/support-services Postpartum Depression ......................................... 631.422-2255/855.631.0001 Postpartum Resource Ctr. of NY. postpartumNY.org.

Victims Information Bureau (VIBS) of Suffolk County...................................................... 631.360.3606 vibs.org

Diabetes....................................................516.520.2500 St. Joseph Hospital, Bethpage stjosephhospital.chsli.org/st-joseph-diabeteseducation-services

Health Related Support

Epilepsy/Seizure Disorder...................516.739.7733 epicli.org

Adhesions (scar tissue pain)................ 631.921.7426 World Adhesion Foundation, Port Jefferson adhesionsfoundation.org

Center for Hearing Health...................516.628.4300 Mill Neck. centerforhearinghealth.org

Spinal Cord Injury..................................516.739.4900 St. Charles Hospital, Albertson Campus, Albertson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

Alopecia.....................................................415.472.3780 naaf.org/find-support/support-groups

BraveHearts..............................................516.562.6785 St. Francis Hospital, Roslyn stfrancisheartcenter.chsli.org/support-groups-2

Stroke..........................................................516.377.5333 Mt. Sinai South Nassau, Oceanside southnassau.org/sn/support-groups

Amputee....................................................516.562.4750 Southside Hospital, Bay Shore North Shore University Hopital. Manhasset northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups

WomenHeart of Nassau/Queens......516.384.7665 Katz Institute for Women’s Health, Lake Success facebook.com/womenheartofnassauqueens

Stroke.........................................................631.476.5542 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

Arthritis Foundation.............................800.283.7800 arthritis.org

HIV/Aids................................................... 516.562.4280 Center for AIDS Research & Treatment, Manhasset northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups

Stroke (Caregivers).................................631.474.6952 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

Bariatric and Weight Loss Surgery...... 631.376.3697 Good Samaritan Hospital Medical Center, W. Islip goodsamaritan.chsli.org/seminars-and-supportgroups-weight-loss-surgery

Laryngectomy ........................................ 718.470.8631 LIJ Medical Center, New Hyde Park northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups

Stroke (Survivors and Caregivers)..... 516.562.4947 North Shore University Hospital, Manhasset northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups

Lung Disease...........................................631.968.3124. South Shore University Hospital, Bay Shore northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups

Living with Stroke................................... 631.968.3172 South Shore University Hospital, Bay Shore northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups

Leukemia and Lymphoma........................ 516.734.7682 Monter Cancer Center, Lake Success northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups

Stroke Survivors...................................... 516.629.2013 St. Francis Hospital DeMatteis Center, Greenvale stfrancisheartcenter.chsli.org/support-groups-2

Medicare Counseling............................631.476.2723 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/community-resources

Trigeminal Neuralgia/Facial Pain...... 347.993.2210 NSPC, Lake Success To advertise a for-profit support group call nspc.com/news/trigeminal-neuralgia-support-group 516.505.0555 x1 or liwomanonline.com/advertise

Multiple Sclerosis (National)..............800.344.4867 nationalmssociety.org/Resources-Support

Mental Health Support

Bariatric..................................................... 631.474.6876 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1 Brain Aneurysm ..................................... 516.562.3815 North Shore University Hopital. Manhasset northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups Brain Aneurysm ..................................... 516.562.3815 North Shore University Hopital. Manhasset northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups Adults 50+ Virtual BFRB (Body Focused Repetitive Behaviors) .................................................516.924.3778 adults50plus@gmail.com. bfrb.org Brain Injury.............................................. 631.968.3330 South Shore University Hospital, Bay Shore northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups

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Spinal Cord Injury..................................631.474.6489 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

Multiple Sclerosis (L.I. Chapter)......... 631.864.8337 Melville. lbove2496@optonline.net

Mental Illness...................................... 631.471.7242 x2 Mental Health Association, Ronkonkoma mhaw.org/family-support-groups

MS Recreation & Socialization...........516.376.7644 South Shore University Hospital, Bay Shore northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups

Emotions Anonymous..........................631.474.2090 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson

Suffolk County’s Behavioral Health Helpline ............................................................... 631.471.7242 x2 mhaw.org/programs/mental-health-help-line Suicide Prevention Lifeline... 800.273.8255 (TALK) suicidepreventionlifeline.org

Miscellaneous Support Developmental Disabilities Inst........ 631.366.2900 Smithtown (family support services). ddiny.org Resolve: National Infertility Assoc.....703.556.7172 resolve.org/support Prison Families Anonymous..................631.943.0441 pfa-li.com Women’s Forum ................................... 516.634.4169 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org/adults/programs

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Whose Live Anyway?: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury Justin Heyward: Nights: 8pm. The Paramount Toad The Wet Sprocket: 8pm. Patchogue Theatre Ultimate ELVIS: 8pm. Suffolk Theatre A Rock n Doo-Wop Spectacular: 8pm. Tilles Center

Eileen Ivers

Joyful Christmas

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Rufus Wainwright: 8pm. The Paramount The High Kings: 8pm. Suffolk Theatre Justin Willman: 7pm. WHBPAC

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The Marcus King Band/Leah Blevins: 8pm. The Paramount

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Jorman Kaukonen: 7:30pm. Landmark on Main St. Mary Chapin Carpenter, Marc Cohn, Shawn Colvin: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury Brian Wilson: 8pm. The Paramount

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The Clutch: 8pm. The Paramount Escape to Margaritaville: 8pm. Tilles Center

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Masters of Illusion–Live!: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury The Official Blues Brothers Revue: 8pm. Patchogue Theatre Anthony Rodia: 8pm. WHBPAC

Air Supply

Wayne Brady

The Lost In Love Experience

Best known for his outstanding improvisational skills that won him an Emmy award on the television series Whose Line Is It Anyway?, Wayne Brady is a multi-talented entertainer, actor, and musician. He has appeared on television shows as varied as the daytime soap The Bold and the Beautiful, the superhero drama Black Lightning and the comedy Mixed-ish. He also performed in the shows Chicago, Hamilton and starred in Kinky Boots. Wayne’s show promises to be an irrepressible evening filled with song and laughter!

From a time when you were “Lost In Love”...Air Supply brings it all together again. The Lost In Love Experience is coming to NYCB Theatre at Westbury on Saturday, November 20th. The trademark sound of Russell Hitchcock’s soaring tenor voice and Graham Russell’s simple but majestic compositions created a unique sound that has forever been recognized as Air Supply.

When: October 30th. 8pm Where: Staller Center for the Arts, Stony Brook Tickets: stallercenter.com

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Westbury One Funny Lisa Marie: 8pm. The Paramount Steve Tyrell: 8pm. WHBPAC

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Jake Shimabukuro: 7:30pm. Landmark on Main St. Rain: A Tribute To The Beatles: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury Rumours of Fleetwood Mac: 8pm. The Paramount

Grammy® winning Celtic fiddler Eileen Ivers is a founding member of Cherish the Ladies, and musical star of Riverdance. Her Irish and American roots shine throughout theevening’s beautiful mix of traditional, story-filled, age-old Wren Day songs, poems, and of course, foot stomping and hollerin’ roots music. Eileen and the ensemble’s plethora of instruments and voices weave throughout the evening, coupled with Ivers’ signature warmth, inviting listeners in for a tuneful, soulful celebration capturing the true spirit and joy of the season. When: Friday, December 10th at 8pm Where: Patchogue Theatre for the Performing Arts Tickets: $28-$58 plus fees. PatchogueTheatre.org. advertisement

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Todd Rundgren: 8pm. The Paramount Emerson String Quartet: 7pm. Staller Center WAR: 8pm. WHBPAC

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David Foster: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury Ministry: 8pm. The Paramount Million Dollar Reunion: 8pm. Suffolk Theatre

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Best Of Broadway: 8pm. AUPAC 7th Annual Louder Than Love: Hail to the Two Queens & Tribute to Coro: 7:30pm. Theatre at Westbury Benny The Butcher: 8pm. The Paramount Troubadours: The Music of Carole King & James Taylor: 8pm. Suffolk Theatre

venue Directory The Argyle Theatre

34 West Main St., Babylon 844-631-LIVE (5483). argyletheatre.com

AUPAC (Adelphi Performing Arts Center) 1 South Ave., Garden City 800-233-5744. adelphi.edu

CMPAC (CM Performing Arts Center) 931 Montauk Hwy., Oakdale 631-218-2810. cmpac.com

John W. Engeman Theater

250 Main St., Northport 516-323-4444. engemantheater.com

The Patchogue Theatre

Theatre Three

71 East Main St., Patchogue 631-207-1313 • patchoguetheatre.org

412 Main St., Port Jefferson 631-928-9100. theatrethree.com

Madison Theatre

The Space at Westbury

Tilles Center

250 Post Ave., Westbury 516-283-5566 • thespaceatwestbury.com

720 Northern Blvd., Brookville 516-299-3100. tillescenter.org

NYCB Theatre at Westbury

Staller Center

Westhampton Beach Performing Arts Ctr.

The Paramount

The Suffolk Theater

Landmark on Main St

232 Main St., Port Washington 516-767-6444. landmarkonmainstreet.org 1000 Hempstead Ave., Rockville Centre 516-323-4444. madisontheatreny.org 960 Brush Hollow Rd., Westbury 516-334-0800. thetheatreatwestbury.com 370 New York Ave., Huntington 631-673-7300. paramountny.com

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100 Nicolls Rd., Stony Brook 631-632-2787. stallercenter.com

776 Main St., Westhampton Beach 631.288.1500. whbpac.org

118 E. Main St., Riverhead 631-727-4343. suffolktheater.com October 2021 • Long Island Woman • 21


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Howie Mandel: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury Alan Cumming: 8pm. Staller Center Under the Streetlamp (cast members of the Jersey Boys): 8pm. Suffolk Theatre Jose Feliciano: 8pm. WHBPAC

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The Linda Ronstadt Experience A Musical Journey of Smash Hits

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Natural Woman, A Night of Soul With widespread comparison to the vocal expertise of legendary Whitney Houston, and the piano prowess of Alicia Keys, it’s no surprise that artist and actress, Sheléa (pronounced shuh-lay-yuh), has garnered co-signs from the likes of Stevie Wonder, Mary J.Blige, Missy Elliott, David Foster, Queen Latifah, Jamie Foxx, Jennifer Hudson, Quincy Jones, and more. When: November 12th, 8PM Where: Madison Theatre at Molloy College Tickets: Tickets available now at MadisonTheatreNY.org. 516.323.4444

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Sir Duke (Stevie Winder tribute): 7:30pm. Landmark on Main St. Indigo Girls: 8pm. The Paramount

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Best Of Broadway: 4pm. AUPAC Steel Sensation: 3pm. (free) Landmark on Main St. Postmodern Jukebox: 8pm. The Paramount Rob Schnieder: 8pm. Suffolk Theatre Laura Benanti: 8pm. WHBPAC

Indigo Girls: 8pm. The Paramount

Book Corner • Health • Carol Silva • Support Groups • Entertainment

Ledisi: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury

South Shore Symphony: 7:30pm. Madison Theatre Mike DelGuidice & Big Shot: 8pm. The Paramount Motown Memories: 8pm. Patchogue Theatre Wayne Brady: 8pm. Staller Center Blue Oyster Cult: 8pm. Suffolk Theatre Elvis Costello and The Imposters: 8pm. Tilles Center

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Paul Anka: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury Rick Wakeman: 8pm. The Paramount That 70s Band: 8pm. Suffolk Theatre Robyn Hitchcock: 8pm. WHBPAC

Little River Band: 8pm. The Paramount Imani Winds: 7:30pm. AUPAC Zen Tricksters: 8pm. Landmark on Main St.

Stone Temple Pilots: 8pm. The Paramount Cabaret: thru Oct. 24. Argyle Theatre The Wolves: Oct. 5-10. AUPAC Holiday Inn: The New Irving Berling Musical: Oct. 9-30. CMPAC Smokey Joe’s Cafe: thru Oct. 31. Engeman Theater Grease: thru Oct. 30. Theatre Three Send Entertainment listings to liwomanonline. com/whattodo by the first of the month for the following month. (Oct. 1 for Nov. issue). Listings published on a space available basis.

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susan lucci

Growing Up in Garden City “I had a very happy time growing up here. It was just that I felt a little bit the outsider because I wasn’t looking like everybody else.” Can you talk about how Garden City has evolved since you first came here as a child? Well, I think it probably has a bigger population. But what it always did was offer a really good school system and wonderful sense of community, which still exists. It’s the kind of town where multigenerations live, where kids grow up, as I did, come back and raise their children here because it has so much to offer, and that has continued. People maintain their homes beautifully. There are many more restaurants now, which we all love. 7th Street is the main street where you’ll run into everybody you know. During Hurricane Sandy, for example, they didn’t lose power, and so it became a place where we would go. There was a bakery called Riesterer’s and we all used to meet at and everyone would ask each other what they had heard. La Nonna Bella, the Italian restaurant here, stayed open late. The Orchid, the Chinese restaurant, stayed open late. Everyone was welcoming everyone. That sense of community continued and has continued since then. In your memoir you wrote that when you first came here as a child that you were dark-skinned, dark eyed, and people thought your father was the help at your house. That he was the gardener. Did that have any impact on you? Certainly. In what way? When you’re growing up anywhere and you’re a child, you want to be like everybody else. That’s one thing. So I used to sit in front of the TV and push my nose up. I hoped it would be a little turned-up nose. It wasn’t. I had a very happy time growing up here. It was just that I felt a little bit the outsider because I wasn’t looking like everybody else. I could see what I could see. My mother was from a Swedish background and very fair, my dad was very dark and very handsome–movie star handsome. I watched the Miss America pageant with my mother and she legitimately would always pick the brunette to win, and she knew that I had olive skin and dark eyes and dark hair and not like my friends. But I had all these friends. It’s not like I was treated poorly. But my mother would encourage me to be myself, to be an individual, that that was a good thing. Looking back, I’m so happy she told me those things. It seems you had a very stable background and good parenting. So what were some of the values and life lessons that you learned from your parents that you passed down to your children? Just do your best. My dad valued education so much. My dad encouraged me with education and he gave me his time, and that became one of the main things that I took away. He spent time with me–horseback riding or ice skating. He taught me to draw. He was very talented with charcoal and pastels actually, and taught me appreciation of the arts. My dad grew up in kind of a tough neighborhood in Yonkers, so he had a heavy New York accent. He was a first-generation Italian-American and had so much

appreciation for this country, such a reverence and gratitude for the history of this country. We would go for drives in the car in the summertime and my dad knew where every Civil War battle was fought. I grew up with a great love of this country and a great appreciation for the time he spent with me. My dad was the first one out after a hurricane or a snowstorm to see if he could help people, and he was that generous and that warm. And he would take me with him. I was eight, sitting in the front seat. That was a very big deal. My mother was very soft-spoken but very active, very spunky, a great combination of things. Loved fashion. They were in every audience for me, whether it was a Girl Scout play when I was little or whether I was a cheerleader at the high school, they would be at all the football games… Whatever I did, they were in the audience for me. So these were takeaways for me to be that way with my children too. If there was any privilege involved, it was the privilege of they being my parents and giving me so much of themselves and their time. u

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