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12 The Long Island Woman Interview

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6 FYI 8 Picks/Meet This Long Island Woman 10 Book Corner

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Favorite Sitcom Mary Tyler Moore Show Favorite Comedy Album Joan Rivers’ What Becomes a SemiLegend Most Favorite Comedy Movie Waiting for Guffman

it’s changed so much because I can’t work on Fridays and Saturdays now. Usually Friday and Saturday I was working, so my favorite day of the week was usually Sunday, but then Sunday nights get a little funky because everyone’s getting ready for Monday. I think Friday and I love Shabbat.

Favorite childhood Memory I hated my childhood. But I had cousins in New Rochelle and cousins in Connecticut and when they came to visit, I would get so excited. I thought they lived in New Zealand because it was like a two and a half hour drive. Also, riding my bike all over the place. You just leave the house, ride your bike, get home and that was the end of the day.

Favorite Guilty Pleasure Favorite Day of the Week Bread and challah, challah, challah! It I think about that all the time because really is my favorite thing in the world. See page 14 for Judy Gold’s favorite quote from her mother. To advertise: 516-505-0555 x1 • liwomanonline.com/advertise


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Breast Surgery Combined with Tummy Tuck and/or Liposuction by Charlotte Rhee, MD, F.A.C.S., P.C. Many of my patients come to me seeking help with the changes that can occur after childbirth. Following childbirth, a woman’s breast can grow to uncomfortable proportions or just the opposite can happen. A woman’s breast can actually lose volume and shrink, resulting in the breast appearing “deflated.” Additionally, a large number of women come to me seeking help with the post partum changes of their abdomen. During pregnancy the skin and abdominal wall muscles are stretched. Following childbirth, the abdomen can protrude and the skin can be loose or sag. In some cases, the abdominal muscles can be so weakened that the individual may look like she is still pregnant. Despite daily workouts including sit ups and crunches, a tummy tuck may be needed to restore these muscles.

ing breast reduction. Both groups of women want to have breasts that are proportional to their body size with the most natural result possible. In certain situations, a breast lift is also needed to tighten lax skin. The laxity can be the result of pregnancy or weight loss. When a breast lift is needed, I utilize the lollipop scar technique. A breast lift procedure is very similar to a breast reduction. The only difference is that with a breast reduction, breast tissue is removed.

Combined Breast/Tummy Tuck and Liposuction Procedures. Many of my patients who have breast surgery also have other procedures performed at the same time. This allows for one surgery and one recovery. The most common combined procedures performed by Dr. Rhee are breast surgery, whether it is a breast reduction or augmentation, combined with tummy tuck, also known as abdominoplasty. For those patients Breast Reduction Many of my patients who desire breast augmentation together with a tummy tuck, I am able to place Women with very large pendulous breasts may experience varied medical the breast implants through the tummy tuck incision, leaving the breasts without who have breast problems including back and neck pain. Also, the weight of large breasts can any scars. cause the bra straps to dig into the shoulders leaving groove markings. Large surgery also have other Liposuction is also commonly performed at the same time. Despite diet and breasts get in the way of physical activities such as running, making exercise exercise, certain areas of the body are prone to carry excess fat. For these areas, liprocedures performed and weight loss very difficult if not impossible. Breast reduction (reduction posuction can help. The most common areas for liposuction are the love handles at the same time. This (upper hip area) and thighs. mammaplasty), is a surgical procedure which makes breasts smaller. There are many different breast reduction techniques. The more traditional allows for one surgery Patients who have combined procedures do surprisingly well. In addition to method (inverted T-scar) leaves the breasts with a vertical, long horizontal having the benefit of just one recovery process, there can also be a significant and one recovery. scar (along the breast crease). “I utilize the Lejour technique, which leaves savings in price. the breast with a single vertical incision (lollipop scar) and, in my opinion, To learn more, please call our Huntington office to schedule a complimentawith a rounder more natural appearing breast and a better cosmetic result.” Breast reduc- ry consultation with Dr. Rhee at (631) 424-6707. Located at 257 E. Jericho Tpke., Huntington tions are performed as an outpatient procedure and are covered by insurance. Station. www.liplasticsurgery.com. Dr. Charlotte Rhee is a board certified plastic and reconstructive surgeon specializing in Breast Augmentation Women who come to me seeking breast enlargement have very similar goals to those seek- breast surgery. advertisement

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The Paul W. Zuccaire Gallery is proud to present Reckoning, the 2020 online faculty exhibition that expresses the experiences we are living through and how we got to this crossroads. In light of the challenges facing us, creative responses can form a crucial component of activism and illustrate our hopes for the future. The works in the exhibit were specifically created for a virtual presentation and include digital media and text pieces, photography, drawing, painting, sculpture, video, mixed reality, and sound. The free virtual exhibit runs through Dec. 15 at Stony Brook University. A related online student community forum, Reckoning: Student Digital Mural, will include artwork, poems, and writings by Stony Brook University students from across campus and around the globe. Learn more at zuccairegallery.stonybrook.edu or by calling 631-632-7240.

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coholic beverages than before. A RAND Corporation survey of 1,540 people ages 30 to 80, published in the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA) Network Open, reported a 54 percent increase in national sales of alcohol for the week ending March 21, 2020, compared with the year before. In addition, online sales increased even more, up 262 percent from 2019. Alcohol consumption increased by 17 percent among women, while the frequency of drinking among both men and women increased by 14 percent. Among the women who participated in the survey, there was a 40 percent increase in binge drinking (four or more alcoholic drinks consumed within a few hours), along with problems with risky behavior and unhealthy conduct that were linked to over-imbibing. See the full report at jamanetwork.com.

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Smart Home Sweet Home Remember the obsession so many homebuyers and renters had with open floor plans and great rooms in their dwellings? Those design concepts had a good, long run, but they may soon become a thing of the past as the coronavirus pandemic stays around and alters the look and function of the place we call home sweet home. AARP reports that many older Americans and high-risk people who require protection from disease outbreaks, those at lower risk who are complying with stay-athome mandates, and others who have had to switch to working from home will be seeking places to shelter in place that have more separate rooms and doors. Voicecontrolled virtual assistants such as Amazon’s Alexa and Apple’s Siri will be working overtime as more homes add “intelligent” devices to automate those tasks that have normally been handled by humans. According to real estate marketplace Zillow and Realtor.com, the homes of the future will be equipped with smart-home features that can outsmart viruses, including touchless

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light switches and faucets, toilets that clean themselves, bidets, more bathrooms, and bathroom floors and mirrors that contain sensors that can measure body temperatures and other indicators of contagion. Look for larger pantries for long-term food storage and mudrooms off garages that are designed to offer safe places for the essential virus-killing handwashing and shoe removal and sanitizing.

Comfort in a Bottle Ever since the report came out in September, health experts have been offering possible explanations for the findings: For starters, there’s the seemingly endless stress brought on by the fear of catching COVID-19 or losing loved ones to the disease. Add isolation. Job loss. Depression. Insecurity. Financial upheaval. For whatever reason, people—especially women—are drinking more al-

Have you ever thought about taking a continuing education course? Here’s your chance to expand your vistas and enjoy a wide range of classes presented by Hutton House Lectures of Long Island University, one of the nation’s most distinguished lecture series for lifelong learners. Thanks to virtual technology, you can enjoy a wide variety of classes in the comfort and safety of your own home. Take your pick of subjects that include “The Rodgers and Hart Songbook” (Pal Joey, Babes in Arms); “Royal English Houses,” which delves into palace intrigue and political maneuvering in England over the centuries; “Free Speech and the Constitution;” and “Harvest Table,” a historical and contemporary look at America’s popular holiday, from Thanksgiving’s ancient origins to the Pilgrims’ and Native Americans’ feast to today’s memorable menus. The cost for the online single or multisession Zoom airings, which are scheduled throughout November and December, ranges from $30 to $180. Classes are selling out fast, but you can add your name to a waiting list. Register online by credit card in a web browser at webapps.liu.edu/HuttonHouse. s To submit info for FYI consideration, please send it to fyi@liwomanonline.com. To advertise: 516-505-0555 x1 • liwomanonline.com/advertise Baiting Hollow Nursery


Good Advice Infertility Q&A with Dr. Greory Zapantis

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Legislation to strengthen ployer knew or should have known protections for employees about the unlawful conduct and failed against sexual harass- to take appropriate action. • Expanded Definition of Employer: ment and discrimination was recently signed by Effective February 8, 2020, the definiNew York State Governor Andrew M. tion of “employer” under the New York Cuomo. In a culture where sexual ha- State Human Rights Law is expanded to rassment and discrimination include all employers in the Independent State, including the State in the workplace have become so pervasive, this is a and its political subdivisions, contractors, significant victory for workregardless of size. vendors and ers. These sweeping reforms consultants are • Increased Time to Bring eliminate many of the oba Case: Effective August 12, now protected 2020, the statute of limitastacles victims face in pursufrom sexual ing a claim and will finally tions to file a sexual harassharassment. hold offenders accountable. ment complaint with the Some important changes, New York State Division of already implemented or imminent are: Human Rights will be extended from • Protection for Non-Employees: In- one year to three years. dependent contractors, vendors and If you are a victim of workplace consultants are now protected from sexual harassment in Long Island or sexual harassment and all forms of NYC, please contact Leeds Brown Law, unlawful discrimination where the em- 516.873.9550 or leedsbrownlaw.com.

Women with very Tscar) leaves the breasts with a vertilarge pendulous breasts cal and a long horizontal scar (along may experience a va- the breast crease). I utilize the LeJour riety of medical prob- technique which leaves the breast with lems including back a single vertical incision (lollipop scar) and neck pain. Also, and in my opinion, with a rounder and the weight of large breasts can cause more naturally appearing breast with a better cosmetic result. the bra straps to dig into Breast reductions are the shoulders leaving groove markings. Large The LeJour technique performed as an outpatient procedure and are breasts get in the way of leaves the breast covered by insurance. I physical activities such as with a single vertical you would like to learn running and other sports which can make exercise incision (lollipop scar). more about this procedure, please call our and weight loss very difHuntington office to ficult if not impossible. Breast Reduction, also known as re- schedule a complimentary consultation duction mammaplasty, is a surgical with Dr. Rhee at (631) 424-6707. Dr. Charlotte Rhee is a Board Certified procedure undertaken to make the breasts smaller. There are many dif- Plastic and Reconstructive Surgeon who ferent breast reduction techniques. specializes in surgery of the breast. The more traditional method (inverted Visit liplasticsurgery.com.

On average, women are 80% of women will be solely responliving longer which impacts sible for household financial decisions at a woman’s savings and in- some point in their lives. With all these vesting patterns. For many overwhelming facts, it should be easy to unmarried women over convince women of the vital importance of creating a PERSONAL fi65, including widows, Social nancial plan. Educating yourSecurity comprises about Approximately self about finances is the first 50% of their income. Many women file for Social Secu- 80% of women step towards financial inderity early in their retirement, will be solely pendence. Build an emergency fund- since without one, potentially reducing their responsible the loss of a job or a large benefit and the opportunity to increase the income Social for household unexpected bill could force you to take on high interest Security provides. Women financial credit card debt. Do not let need to address this looming gap in later retirement years decisions at some the fear of losing money stop with increased scrutiny in point in their you from the investment process. Creating a diversified their personal financial planlives. portfolio consisting of stocks ning. and bonds is a key element According to the U.S. Department of Labor, women currently of providing future retirement income. Call Barbara at 866-932-5130 or email control 2/3 or about $12 trillion in annual spending and now make up 57% Barbara@americaninvestmentplanners. of the labor workforce! Approximately com.

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Meet This Long Island Woman by Annie Wilkinson

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Simple Screenings The medical staff of St. Francis Hospital’s Outreach Bus provides free screenings including a cardiac history, cholesterol and diabetes tests, and flu shots, for clients older than 18. No appointments are required. Scheduled stops include Wednesday, Nov. 4 from 10 a.m.-2 p.m. at Magnolia Gardens in Westbury and Thursday, Dec. 10 from 10 a.m.-2 p.m. at Manhasset Valley Residence in Manhasset. Find more screening locations at northhempsteadny.gov or call 311 or 516-869-6311.

Charity Pick

Socially Distant Santa Through the wizardry of image-manipulating computers, families can be photographed next to Santa and Mrs. Claus without being physically near them. These Babylon Breast Cancer Coalition fundraisers take place on Tuesday, Nov. 17 at 236 E. Sunrise Hwy., Lindenhurst, for $25 per family (call for appointment time at 631-225-1515), and at 422A E. Great Neck Rd., West Babylon, for $20 per family (schedule appointment at 631-587-6941). See more events at babylonbreastcancer.org.

Pedaling Pick

Suffolk Bike Rentals Bethpage Ride is back, through the end of November, with 22 Suffolk County locations for renting bicycles. Bethpage Federal Credit Union invites riders to download the Bloom App to check availability of the Pedal Share program. Rental costs $4 hourly, $35 per day, or $59 per year. For details visit ridepedalshare.com.

Book Pick

Greenlights By Matthew McConaughey This unconventional memoir by the Academy Award–winning “All right, all right, all right” actor tells raucous stories, shares outlaw wisdom, and offers lessons about living with greater satisfaction. Available at your local independent bookstore.

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Product Pick

Love That Linguini From homemade pasta to hand-stretched mozzarella—and the best linguini I’ve ever tasted— Bambino Ravioli Pastificio offers pick-up and delivery locally and ships traditional Italian favorites nationwide. See the menu at places.singleplatform. com. Located at 786 Grand Blvd., Deer Park. Order at bambinoravioli.com or 631-940-8490.

Decluttering Pick

Recycle Your E-Waste Get rid of your old computers, cell phones, power tools, small appliances, and other electronic equipment you’re no longer using at the E-Waste Recycling Day. Arrow Scrap Metal and E-Waste Recycling, a registered state electronic waste recycling facility, will accept items on Saturday, Nov. 7 from 10 a.m.-2 p.m. at the Emma Clark Library parking lot, 120 Main St., Setauket. Free; masks required. See complete list of acceptable items at emmaclark.org.

Creativity Pick

Gym For Crafters Let’s Craft provides training, creativity, and access to equipment to create a community of crafters, from woodworkers to engraving to crocheting and more. Members share space for personal and professional use; fees range from $9.99 to $209.99 per month. Located at 1025 Old Country Rd., Westbury. Explore at LetsCraft.org or call 516-206-2509. Submissions for Picks should be sent to fyi@liwomanonline.com for consideration.

Describe the work you do and how you became involved in this work. Challenging the narrative and influencing social media’s message, I publish a unifying collection of interviews about women. By sharing, we inspire each other, remember who we are, encourage one another, heal a generation, save the next, and celebrate...because every woman is a role model! What’s the best life advice you’ve received? Don’t go through life alone. We are meant for community and together we can do more. Also, I struggled with control, and had trouble giving it up. But the phrase “lay it down” works. I’m much better at laying it down than giving it up!.” What was your biggest challenge? Equality. We must continue the fight our sisters from 100 years ago began, and inspire the next generation to fight for equality when our time passes. Know your worth, know where your identity comes from, and don’t back down. What was your biggest break? Education. It has opened many doors, for my career and for my volunteerism and personal life. What has failure taught you? Failure is not the story’s end; failures are pages in the book, not the whole chapter. Turn the page and continue writing. Write well and edit often! I get down when I fail, and I reach out to my girlfriends to lift me up. Based on your area of specialty, what advice would you give to other women? Love and serve. That may appear to some women to be at odds with equality, but I’m not talking about subservience. I’m talking about loving and serving yourself, your family, your community, and the world — not at the expense of your well-being, but from abundance and gratitude. What’s the best business advice you’ve received? Don’t quit. It’s that simple. Adapt and move forward, but do not quit. Light your world.

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Book Corner

by Rachell Koegel

Joan Lunden’s Why Did I Come Into This Room?

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ward winning journalist, bestselling author, motivational speaker, women’s health and wellness advocate, and breast cancer survivor, Joan Lunden, has been a familiar and trusted voice for more than thirty years. Her newest book Why Did I come Into This Room? tackles the realities of aging and humorously yet candidly addresses the many phases and challenges of growing older. Why Did I Come Into This Room? is an informative, interesting, and entertaining work that incorporates the mind, body and soul of aging. Reading the book feels as if as if one is talking to a knowledgeable, empathetic, and funny friend.

What inspired the idea for this book? I began this book six years ago, as Live Younger, Longer. Then, I went through cancer and learned so much about my body. It’s not about living younger, longer. It’s about understanding your body, what keeps it vibrant and healthy, and then making changes to be the healthiest you can, and how to deal with the different ages/stages of life–the facts about how our female body works and why these things start to happen to us. I wanted these things to be less embarrassing because when they’re embarrassing, women don’t even talk to their doctors about them. Why do women avoid talking about the impact of aging? For women, aging is a taboo subject, but it shouldn’t be. When you don’t talk about the different symptoms of aging then each and every woman experiences those symptoms alone, and women start to feel they’re breaking down. It can make them feel less appealing, less sexy, less female, less relevant. But if we can take some of that stigma away so that they’re more inclined to talk with their doctors or even with other women, the other woman can say, “Oh my God, this same thing’s happening to me.” How did you decide which topics to include? People aren’t This book was pretty much “nothing’s off-limits.” inspired by how When I told my husband that the chapter on urinary incontinence-is called, I Laughed So Hard, Tears Rolled perfect you are; Down My Leg, he said, “You can’t say that.” I said, they’re inspired “Oh yes I can. These are women, they’re going to laugh. Then they’re going to read the chapter because by learning how I will have just 1000% connected with them.” People aren’t inspired by how perfect you are; you’ve handled they’re inspired by learning how you’ve handled imperfections. imperfections. You connect being as candid, raw and

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authentic as possible. Now, they’re saying, “Oh my God, she goes through the same thing. Let me read what she does about it.” The title is also very relatable. If you’re 22 and you walk into a room and you can’t remember why you walked in, you’re not ready to worry yet. When you’re 52 or 62 and you can’t remember, the first thing that goes through your mind is, “Uh-oh, is this the beginning of something bad?” That’s not necessarily the beginning of Alzheimer’s; it is a natural function of the aging process-the shrinking of our hippocampus, that part responsible for memory. In what way has “aging” helped you become more candid? I don’t know if I would have written this same book 10 or 20 years ago when I started writing books. With age comes wisdom and with age comes, I think, permission. It seems very liberating. That’s a good word. You’re liberated; you feel a freedom, and it’s more important to tell those stories. That’s the attitude that I brought to the writing challenge. It was a book that needed to be written, not just for me but for other women, everywhere. I wanted to help other women get into that positive mind-set that they’re not victims. I wanted them to be warriors; I wanted them to be empowered. What do you hope is the takeaway for readers? A lot of people think that “Life just happens to me.” Well, it doesn’t have to just happen to you. You have to let go of mistakes and regrets and take inventory of your life: Be that person you want to be and you want other people to think you are. My mom said, “Always have plans, because half the fun of doing anything is getting excited, anticipating and planning for it, and as long as you have plans, your life will be exciting.” I never forgot that. As we approach the second 50 years of our life, making plans is even more important. Any final thoughts? It is said three things predict how successfully you age: Staying engaged in life. Isolation is as dangerous to your health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. Social connections. These keep you talking, thinking and engaged. A sense of purpose. A reason to get up in the morning, get dressed, go out, and feel like somebody is depending on you for something. It’s really important to have friends. Sometimes, friends that you make in your fifties, sixties, or seventies are the best friends you’ll ever have because you met them at that stage and you have so much in common. Very good rules to live by. Absolutely. l To advertise: 516-505-0555 x1 • liwomanonline.com/advertise


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udy Gold knows how to tackle challenges. She’s a six foot tall woman. She’s a lesbian. She’s Jewish. She has to know how. In her new book, Yes, I Can Say That (When They Come For The Comedians, We Are All In Trouble) she tackles cancel culture and discusses the challenges comedians face today because of it. You can debate whether or not every subject, or everyone, is fair game in comedy. But you may have a harder time arguing that what we need now is less laughter. Judy Gold has been doing standup since 1981, is an actress, television writer (The Rosie O’Donnell Show), has written and starred in two very funny and acclaimed Off Broadway shows (The Judy Show-My Life as a Sitcom and 35 Questions for a Jewish Mother). She also hosts the podcast Kill Me Now. You wrote that you were bullied at age 13 for being six feet tall… Oh, before. I got bullied a lot. I reached six feet at 13 and then I grew more in high school. I was teased and bullied most of my years in school. Did you find that humor was able to deflect the bullies? It’s interesting, because my mother told me to ignore them. She said, “Ignore them. They’re just jealous.” I was like, “Look, Ma, I’ve seen a picture of myself. I know what I look like. They’re not jealous, believe me.” And then years later my therapist said, “Nope, that was the wrong advice.” I always had something in my head and the humor probably could have helped me, but I just kept it in my head. But I grew up in a time where there was no social media. Now, forget it – they can bully you on the internet. There’s no safe space. But I could go to my room and I had music, I had other things that made me happy and I knew it was a temporary situation. I don’t know how I knew, but I knew it was a temporary situation. I think it gave me tough skin and it made me want to be in control of the laughter. Were you funny as a kid? Oh yeah, I was always very funny. It’s so funny that the name of the book is Yes, I Can Say That because I was constantly told, “Judith, don’t say that!” I never knew why no one talked about what everyone was thinking and the elephant in the room. I was always sort of precocious in that way. And that’s what comedians do. They talk about the elephant in the room. They tell the truth. They talk about all the things that make you uncomfortable. True. So years later you’re at Rutgers and you did ten minutes on stage and that was the start? Right. I’m at Rutgers and the first time I ever did it was a Secret Santa dare and I used everyone on the floor as material. I got my first laugh and it was like an out-of-body experience. I always wanted to perform, but I was always too tall, or too this, or too that. Then they had this thing called Campus Comedy and they had some professional comedians come and I auditioned to be able to do five minutes on stage. I did it and I did really well and those comedians told me, “You’re really funny.” If another comedian or someone who works in a comedy club tells you you’re funny, then you’re funny. What did it feel like before you went on stage for the first time? I had diarrhea. I was so nervous, it meant so much to me. I remember I had two days to prepare and I didn’t even go to classes. I took it so seriously. I must have known in some way that this was bigger than a stupid dare. People always say, “That’s the hardest job in the world.” For me, it’s the place I feel the most comfortable and it is scary. You don’t know what is funny until the audience tells you. That’s the scariest part of doing stand up. We get cancelled or are vilified for doing our job. Oftentimes people say, “You crossed the line.” We don’t know where the line is until we’ve crossed it and the audience tells us. The audience sees a work in progress. A painter doesn’t create a 10th of an oil painting and then invite an audience over to tell them, “Should I put the sun here? Should I get rid of the tree?” With comedy, you inform us. We inform you when we have great jokes, but you inform us. So often people laugh and they’re like, “Oh, I shouldn’t be laughing at that,” but you can’t control what you laugh at. No, but you can feel guilty about it. Right, you can feel guilty if you’re offended, that’s a choice. You’re going to be offended.

If you walk into a comedy club and get mad at being offended, then there’s something wrong. It’s like going on a roller coaster and getting mad that you were scared. What did you aspire to do for a living before becoming a comic? I wanted to perform, but I didn’t know in what capacity. I thought I would be a music teacher. I studied music and I come from a lot of teachers in my family and my parents wanted me to be a music teacher. But nope. Comedy and music are so similar. It’s all about the timing. And rhythm. And you get in a rhythm with the audience. That’s why Zoom shows are horrible and outdoor shows are horrible, because it’s meant to be an intimate room. Your pacing and your timing is like an organic thing. Like when you begin the next joke, when you put in a tag line. It’s very much like you’re the conductor of an orchestra. What was most of the humor about in your family? It was dark. I don’t know if we were that funny. A clever quip definitely got a lot of respect. That was the prize. We didn’t talk about our feelings. No one was lovey-dovey, but if you made a funny remark, it was definitely valued more than anything. We never talked to each other in my family. We communicated by putting Ann Lander’s articles on the refrigerator. You knew what was going on by whatever article had a magnet on it attached to the refrigerator. We did like to laugh and sitcoms were a huge part of my growing up. I loved variety shows and I loved Joan Rivers, Totie Fields, Phyllis Diller… When I think of my childhood, comedy was a huge part of it. Laughter is so important. You said that you suffer from anxiety and depression. When you get a bout of anxiety or depression and you have to perform, what does it take for you to get on stage and do your act? It’s interesting because I have diurnal depression, so during the day it’s worse. So when the sun goes down I always feel relief. There had been days when I’m depressed or anxious and I’m like, “Okay, you just got to get through it.” But I tend to feel completely different once I get on stage. I feel it’s my favorite place to be. It’s funny, when you’re physically sick and you have to do a show, somehow you get through it. It’s fascinating that we go there to make other people laugh and so many times we’re just feeling our worst. I’ve had deaths and illness in my family and I’ve had to go on and do a set. ”Smile though your heart is breaking.” It’s such a part of who I am and it’s been my coping mechanism. Getting up there when I’m feeling a little off, getting that laugh is sort of a validation. Anxiety and depression are so awful. And we need to talk about it. Have you been performing during the pandemic? Because of this pandemic, we have no place to perform. I performed on the back of a flatbed truck, at a drive-in movie theater in Queens and the audio goes into the car radio so they were laughing by flashing their lights on the cars. That’s some way to get feedback. Oh my God, it was ridiculous. I’m like, “Audi, what’s your problem?” It was so stupid, but it made me feel better. Comics are doing shows in Central Park. These clubs are closed and we still need to go out and do our craft and we need you guys to be there. It’s sad that the comedy clubs and theaters are closed because it’s sort of the perfect storm for comedy, because we’re all in the same boat. We’re all thinking the same thing and to be able to see it through other people’s eyes is just healing. Why do you think you specifically were approached to write the book? I had been on a segment on Vice News on HBO on college bookers telling comedians what they can and cannot say on their stages. So they were interviewing these bookers and I was the opposing view. I’ve always been very outspoken and just anything goes on stage and I’m sort of brash and fearless. I think after they saw that piece about what’s going on in the comedy community and the fact that I do pretty much have no edit button, especially on stage, an editor at Harper Collins came to me and said, “Will you write about this?” I said “YES!” On the back cover of the book you have some very impressive quotes from other


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“That’s what comedians do. They talk about the elephant in the room. They tell the truth. They talk about all the things that make you uncomfortable.” comedians. That must have felt nice. I never ask anyone for anything, and when I asked, “Will you write a blurb for the book?,” no one said no. I’ve been around for so long and I haven’t reached the level of Chris Rock or John Stewart or Rosie, but it’s nice to have their respect and that really touched me. Being able to make a living and being respected by other people in my field, that’s pretty darn good. The book is a reaction to the cancel culture and that things have gone too far. A comic does a bad joke and they should be canceled? If a songwriter writes a crappy song, do you then hate every other song? Do you go to a museum and see an exhibit and you love every painting of this artist except for one, and then you decide, “Nope, they should be canceled?” It’s ridiculous. Let’s talk about the boundaries for comedy. You said that the main criteria is that the joke should be funny and well crafted. I don’t know that it’s so black and white. I feel like you’re right. It isn’t black and white. You can talk about any subversive topic, anything uncomfortable, but you have to make it funny. Just humor for shock value without a joke, it sort of cheapens comedy. You don’t stop talking about things because some people may be uncomfortable. Without discourse, there’s no growth. Comedy is such a unifier and it does bring people together. You also say that intent is an important part of the joke as well. Oh, very! But the listener, or the audience, doesn’t always know the intent and they’re not

always able to decode the intent. It can just come off as mean or nasty. Right. So when you take something out of context there’s no nuance and when you take out the intent there’s no comedy there. When you commit murder–because I’m sure you’re going to be committing murder Arie at some point–and you’re on trial for homicide, your sentence is determined by your intent and yet the same consideration is not given to a comedian. We don’t stop to say, “What is this person trying to say?” Instead, it’s like, “Oh you said that word. Can’t listen anymore. Nope, I’m offended.” So in essence, it’s up to the comic to define their own boundaries and then they have to let the chips fall where they may, knowing that we’re living in a society where people get easily offended. Exactly. But if we shut up–if we censor ourselves–that is not the answer. The person has to take responsibility for their reactions. The joke wasn’t written about you. In fact, the comic doesn’t even know you. So you have to do what you will with your feelings but that should not include shutting someone down because you didn’t like what they said or didn’t think something they said was funny. Joan Rivers was a big influence on you and friend of yours. I went back to an interview I did with her in 2002 where I asked her how she defined her own boundaries for comedy. She said, “My own boundaries are everything. I say everything and anything that I think. I get very intimate. The audience becomes a collective friend. It’s as if I’m talking to you. There is no difference. None. I’m never aware I’m talking to a lot of people. It’s like talking to a friend. And therefore I would say


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exactly what I would say to a friend and so there They pigeonhole you. So it became, “Oh, she’s a are no boundaries.” I then asked her if she had lesbian comedian.” And people would say, “Don’t a filter system and if there was anything she talk about the gay stuff.” Too bad. wouldn’t talk about and she said, “Only things But I had way more push back about the Jewish I wouldn’t want to talk about that would filter stuff and mostly from Jews. “You’re too Jewish. through to a friend. In other words, I don’t Straighten your hair, dye it blonde. Don’t talk say ‘Can I say this on stage? Never!’” about being Jewish so much.” I have been The question I didn’t ask her, and perhaps told I’m too Jewish from day one. And you you can answer, is that when you speak to know what? I am Jewish. I am proud of being a friend, you know their boundaries. When a Jew and that’s who I am. That’s how I think, you’re speaking to an audience, you’re asthat’s how I look, that’s what I eat, that’s how I suming their boundaries. talk. That’s me. It’s a gene for God’s sake. Yeah, I get that. But I do agree with her 100%. So you’re the female Jackie Mason. When you’re up there talking to an audience, Well, I wouldn’t go that far. I’m a lot taller than each audience member feels like you’re talking to Jackie Mason. them individually. A great comic really does sound You’ve been a vocal supporter of Israel and like they’re talking to a friend and sharing intimate you’re also liberal-leaning, correct? details. We really do bare our souls on stage. A lot of Yes. it’s autobiographical. But it’s a learning experience. You’re So that must be a very lonely place these days. seeing the world through someone else’s eyes and yes, there I think there are a lot of people who feel the same way as I do. are boundaries that people have. I feel like we should have a meeting or something. Joan had a joke about Willie Nelson and Willie Nelson’s daughter I don’t think Israel is perfect. There’s no perfect country, or nation, wrote to her and said she was getting teased at school and Joan took or state. But when you look at the contributions Israel has made to the joke right out of her act. the world, there’s no comparison. Your clean water, your cell phone, your cancer treatment... I think there are many facets to Israel, but So then what if somebody would have written to her that they the anti-Semitism is so palpable with every newscast or report about were offended by something because something happened to a Israel. It’s as if they shouldn’t defend themselves. I wrote a Facebook member of their family? post that if you hate Israel so much then live in the world without Too bad. any of the contributions they’ve made and see how your life is. If you But then what’s the difference with Willie Nelson’s daughter? hate African Americans, live in the world without them and see what It was about her father specifically and she was impacted by the joke the world’s like. Same with gays. If you hate Israel and you’ve never and she’s a child. I think that was why Joan did that. been there, then there’s a problem. When she was doing the Elizabeth Taylor fat jokes, she called a If you have an Israel stamp on your passport there are so many mutual friend of theirs to see how Elizabeth had felt because everyone places you’re not allowed to go. There are Arabs in the Knesset. Just learn about it, then was commenting, “Oh you shouldn’t be doing that,” and Elizabeth said, “I don’t care.” If I get in a car accident on the way to a gig and I get a stage and I’m like, “Oh, I just got have an educated opinion. The way people report on Israel, they don’t look at all sides in a car accident,” and someone in the audience just lost a member of their family in a of the situation. car accident a week before... I’m sorry, but I’m not going to not talk about my experience What’s life been like for you since the pandemic? because you had something happen to you that triggers you. It’s not about you. So there were some good things. I got to spend a lot of time with my son before he It’s this idea that we can never feel uncomfortable and that everyone gets a trophy, left for college. It was so great getting that time that I didn’t think I would have. He plays that everyone’s feelings are as valid. You win a trophy for winning the race and breaking basketball for Tulane. the record, and you get a trophy for smiling while he did it. They’re not equal. It’s funny, because as a comic I would eat dinner and then I would go out and go to Can you detail some of the prejudice you’ve experienced as a result of being work. I was staying home and it’s so interesting for me. I’m like, “So this is what you do? You just relax? Oh, we watch TV for the rest of the night?” By 9 o’clock I was like, “Hey, Jewish and a lesbian? how’s everyone doing?” But it gave me time to just stop and do other things that I never I’ve experienced way more anti-Semitism than anti-LGBTQ stuff. had time for. Of course, I didn’t do half the things I said I was going My mother said, “They all hate us. Everyone hates us. The minute Favorite Line from Her Mom to do. And...I’ve been making challah. you leave the room they call you a dirty Jew.” And I used to say, “Ma, There was a guy who was throwing you’re overreacting.” She wasn’t overreacting. What do you miss most from the pre-pandemic days? It’s hard for a woman in any profession, so let’s just start there. darts at women’s asses on the I think hugging and just being close and not having the layers of Except for maybe being a flight attendant or a nurse or a teacher. subway. He was known as the “Dart my skin come off of my hands because I washed them 8,000 times And there’s a double standard with what women can say on stage. Man.” It was 1990 and he was all a day. I just feel like I miss just being comfortable and not having I came out in the mid-90s as a gay parent. It definitely had an effect over the paper. I got home one day to worry about being in close quarters. But it’s just so sad, too. This on my career, but I wasn’t going to not talk about my family. There and there was a message from my pandemic has brought out the best and the worst in people. mother on my answering machine was so much material there. And just wear a f**ing mask! 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n a purple tank top and white leggings, headset professionally perched, Cara D’Orazio, owner of C.G.M. Fitness for Women in West Hills, adjusts the volume on her sound system as she welcomes students into the Zoom room. Twenty tiny boxes pop up on the screen, faces peer in to see who’s here, and conversations start up. After greeting her gathering of women ranging in age from 30 to 60, Cara gets us going with jumping jacks and jogging, curtseys and curls. Her 8 am Friday Bandcamp class is tough, but totally accessible with modifications for every level. It’s fun and conversational, and Cara regales the group with tales of kitchen renovations, sushi dinners, and her husband’s trepidation at her swinging heavy weights in their living room, all while keeping count of lunges and deadlifts. The class is continuously moving and Cara rotates around, giving us views of all sides, because, besides all the fun, form is of the utmost importance. She gets off her mat and close to the screen to check out the moves, praising us effusively for reps well done. It all feels very personal, powerful, and approachable. An hour goes by fast and as Cara unmutes us, our faces and bodies glisten. We come closer, smile our goodbyes, and the boxes pop off one by one. Despite the mask on her face and the laptop in front With people of her, Leslie Luft’s live yoga classes have a familiar spending more depth and warmth to them that is immediately embracing and welcoming. Absolute Yoga, the Woodtime at home bury studio she’s owned for almost twenty years, is one of the rare survivors, and Luft is deeply committed or in outdoor to keeping it thriving. She stays in touch with many of pursuits, the her regulars, even those that choose not to show up business model online, nor masked in person. Participating students, who don’t feel ready to be inside, continue to show up for studios and on Zoom and she projects their images up on the wall during her indoor classes to instill the sense of comgyms has to munity that she has so deliberately cultivated over the change. years, and that is even more precious now. Although

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Addictions •AA/Al Anon Meetings..........................631-669-2827 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org

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•AA/NA/Family Support....................... 516-746-0350 •Memory Support Program..................516-766-4341 THRIVE Recovery Community and Outreach Center 15 Neil Court, Oceanside. pjaffe@friedbergjcc.org 1324 Motor Pkwy, Hauppauge. Ste. 102. thriveliorg friedbergjcc.com •Al- Anon and Alcoholics Anonymous .................................................................. 631-474-6489 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1 •Alcoholics Anonymous........................ 516-292-3040 aa.org •Debtors Anonymous............................ 212-969-8111 Ascension Lutheran Church 33 Bayshore Rd., Deer Park. danyc.info •Families Anonymous.......................... 800-736-9805 familiesanonymous.org •Food Addicts Anonymous................. 772-878-9657 foodaddictsanonymous.org

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•Lung Cancer........................................... 516-374-3190 Hewlett House, 86 Rockaway Rd., Hewlett. hewlett-house.org

•Adelphi New York Statewide Breast Cancer Hotline ..................................................................800-877-8077 breast-cancer.adelphi.edu

•Men With Breast Cancer...................... 516-877-4314 Adelphi Univ. School of Social Work, Garden City breast-cancer.adelphi.edu

•Bereavement......................................... 516-274-0540 Cope Foundation. Cedarmere Estate, Roslyn. copefoundation.org

•Adolescent Support/Mentoring.......... 516-374-3190 Hewlett House, 86 Rockaway Rd., Hewlett. hewlett-house.org

•National Ovarian Cancer Coalition (NOCC) ..................................................................631-838-4357 LI Chapter, Huntington Station. ovarian.org

•Bereavement (March and Sept.).......631-351-2013 Huntington Hospital, Northwell Health. northwell.edu

•American Cancer Society...................800-ACS-2345 cancer.org

•Oncology (for women) ....................... 516-374-3190 Hewlett House, 86 Rockaway Rd., Hewlett. hewlett-house.org

Bereavement

•Bereavement..........................................516-634-4010 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org •Bereavement............................... 516-822-3535 x328 Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. miyjcc.org

•Breast Cancer......................................... 516-877-4314 Adelphi Univ. School of Social Work, Garden City breast-cancer.adelphi.edu •Breast Cancer (under 40).................... 516-877-4314 Adelphi Univ. School of Social Work, Garden City breast-cancer.adelphi.edu

•Bereavement................................516-484-1545 x196 Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org •Breast and Ovarian Cancer................631-462-9800 •Gamblers Anonymous...............516-484-1545 x196 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. suffolkyjcc.org Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org •Bereavement......................................... 516-520-2706 •Breast Cancer........................................ 631-376-4444 St. Joseph Hospital, Bethpage. •Gamblers Anonymous........................855-222-5542 Good Samaritan Hospital Medical Center, Breast stjosephhospital.chsli.org gamblersanonymous.org Health Center, W. Islip. good-samaritan-hospital.org •Bereavement............................... 631-581-4266 x100 •Gam-Anon Hotline..... 516-200-4932/718-352-1671 •Breast Cancer Family and Friends.... 631-376-4444 St. Mary’s Church, 20 Harrison Ave., E. Islip gam-anon.org Good Samaritan Hospital Medical Center, Breast parishofstmary.org Health Center, W. Islip. good-samaritan-hospital.org •Long Island Recovery Association.....631-552-LIRA •Bereavement (suicide)....................... 631-687-2960 lirany.org. •Breast Cancer........................................ 516-663-2556 Brookhaven Hospice Newly -Diagonosed, NYU Winthrop Hospital •Narcotics................................................. 631-474-6262 •Bereavement ........................................ 516-484-4993 MichelleDecastro@NYULangone.Org St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson Elias Hicks Historical Home, 1740 Old Jericho Tpke., stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1 •Breast Cancer......................................... 516-374-3190 Jericho. copefoundation.org Hewlett House, 86 Rockaway Rd., Hewlett. •Overeaters Anonymous.............516-484-1545 x196 •Bereavement for Children and Families hewlett-house.org Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org ................................................................... 516-626-1971 •Breast Cancer: Newly Diagnosed Stage 4 •Overeaters Anonymous......................631-981-5850 North Shore Child and Family Guidance Center ................................................................... 516-877-4314 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson. •Death of a Child....................................631-738-0809 Adelphi Univ. School of Social Work, Garden City matherhospital.org St. Sylvester’s Church, Medford breast-cancer.adelphi.edu •S-Anon Anonymous (Partners of Sexaholics) •GriefShare............................................... 516-561-6150 •Breast Cancer: Newly-Diagnosed .... 631-476-2776 .................................................................. 516-366-4354 Bethlehem Asembly of God Mather Hospital, Port Jefferson. matherhospital.org •Women for Sobriety............................ 215-536-8026 9 E. Mineola Ave., M1 Building, Valley Stream. •Cancer..................................................... 516-256-6025 womenforsobriety.org bethlehemmag.org/whatshappening Long Island Jewish Valley Stream •H.E.A.L. (Help Ease A Loss)................631-265-4520 •Cancer...................................................... 516-734-8817 St. Thomas of Canterbury Church, Smithtown •Alzheimer’s and Dementia................. 516-767-6856 Northwell Health. northwell.edu •Holocaust Survivors and Friends......631-462-9800 Long Island Alzheimer’s & Demntia Center. •Cancer...................................................... 516-374-3190 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. suffolkyjcc.org 1025 Old Country Rd., Westbury. lidementia.org Hewlett House, 86 Rockaway Rd., Hewlett. •Alzheimer’s Association .....................631-629-6950 •Loss of a Child....................................... 516-520-2500 hewlett-house.org St. Joseph Hospital, Bethpage. 429 Broadhollow Rd., Melville. alz.org/longisland •Cancer Excercise..........................516-484-1545 x231 stjosephhospital.chsli.org •Alzheimer’s Caregivers........................ 516-746-0350 Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org •Loss of a Parent.......................... 516-822-3535 x328 Family and Children’s Assoc., 100 E. Old Country •Caregivers for People with Breast Cancer Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. miyjcc.org Rd., Mineola. familyandchildrens.org ................................................................... 516-877-4314 •Alzheimer’s Caregivers.............. 631-585-2020 x261 •Loss of a Spouse......................... 516-822-3535 x328 Adelphi Univ. School of Social Work, Garden City Community Programs Center of L.I., Ronkonkoma Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. miyjcc.org breast-cancer.adelphi.edu cpclongisland.com •Sibling Bereavement............................ 516-484-4993 •Caregivers............................................... 516-374-3190 •Alzheimer’s Family and Caregivers.. 516-593-2424 Elias Hicks Historical Home Hewlett House, 86 Rockaway Rd., Hewlett. 1740 Old Jericho Tpke., Jericho. copefoundation.org Bristal Assisted at Lynbrook hewlett-house.org •Alzheimer’s Caregivers (JASA)...........516-432-0570 •Teen Bereavement (10-17).................516-250-3598 •Huntington Breast Cancer Action Coalition St. Mathew Church, 35 North Service Rd., Dix Hills. Friedberg JCC, 15 Neil Ct., Oceanside. jasa.org ................................................................... 631-547-1518 helpingkidzkope@gmail.com hbcac.org •Alzheimer’s Caregivers .......................631-629-6950 •Widows and Widowers.............631-462-9800 x129 Alzheimer’s Association, 429 Broadhollow Rd., •Islip Breast Cancer Coalition..............631-968-7424 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. suffolkyjcc.org Melville. alz.org/longisland Southside Hospital, 301 E. Main St, Bay Shore •Widow/Widower (ages 50-60) .516-766-434, x170 •Lewy Body Dementia Resource Center •Live, Love and Laugh Again (breast cancer) ................................................................... 516-218-2026 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org ................................................................. 631-476-2776 750 W. Broadway, Ste. 2R, Long Beach. lbdny.org •Young Widows and Widowers (20-54/55-65) John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson .................................................................. 631-241-7237 matherhospital.org St. Mathew Church, 35 North Service Rd., Dix Hills. •Look Good, Feel Better....................... 631-376-4444 arlenepsalm23@verizon.net.org

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•Online Young Women’s (under 40) Breast Cancer Support .................................................... 516-877-4314 Adelphi Univ. School of Social Work, Garden City breast-cancer.adelphi.edu •Ovarian Cancer...................................... 516-374-3190 Hewlett House, 86 Rockaway Rd., Hewlett. hewlett-house.org •Strength for Life (exercise class).......631-675-6513. Various locations. strengthforlifeNY.org •Support for People With Oral, Head and Neck Cancer.......................................................800-377-0928 New Hyde Park, Syosset and Stony Brook. spohnc.org •Thyroid Cancer Survivors Hotline.....877-588-7904 •Touchstone Group: (for women who had breast cancer treatment 18 months ago+).... 516-877-4314 Adelphi Univ. School of Social Work, Garden City breast-cancer.adelphi.edu •Upper GI Cancer...................................631-638-0718 Stony Brook Cancer Center, 2nd floor, Stony Brook •Breast Cancer Hotline..........................800-877-8077

Caregivers •Dementia Caregivers........................... 516-767-6856 Long Island Alzheimer’s & Demntia Center. 1025 Old Country Rd., Westbury. lidementia.org •Caregivers...............................................516-292-1300 Family and Children’s Assoc., 100 E. Old Country Rd., Mineola. familyandchildrens.org •Caregivers...............................................516-742-2050 Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. JASA Nassau County Caregiver Resource Center. miyjcc.org •Caregivers.................................... 516-822-3535 x328 Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. miyjcc.org •JASA Caregivers........................631-724-6300 x1600 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack and Bristol Assisted Living, Northport. bsignore@jasa.org •Caregivers .................................... 516-484-1545 x211 Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org •Caregivers...............................................631-807-6819 Paulette Demato, Southside Hospital, 301 E. Main St, Bay Shore •Caregivers.................................... 631-462-9800 x147 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. suffolkyjcc.org •Caregivers of a Loved One with Early Stage Memory Loss................................. 516-484-1545 x211 Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org •Let’s Do Dinner (spouses of Young Onset Dementia patients)....................... 516-484-1545 x211 Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org

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•Divorced and Separated........... 516-822-3535 x328 Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. miyjcc.org

•Brain Tumor Patients and Families... 631-474-2323 Gardian Brown Foundation, Gurwin Medical Ctr., 50 Hauppauge Rd., Commack. guardianbrain.org

•Divorced and Separated 12-Step ......718-740-1684 Community Church of East Williston •Divorced/Separated.................... 516-484-1545 x211 Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org •Divorced and Separated...........631-462-9800 x139 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. suffolkyjcc.org •Separated/Divorced Counseling ....... 516-599-1181 Peninsula Counseling Center, Lynbrook •Separation/Divorce...............................516-634-4010 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org •Singles...........................................631-462-9800 x139 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. suffolkyjcc.org •Singles..................................................... 516-822-3535 Mid Island Y JCC, Plainview. miyjcc.org

Domestic Violence, Rape & Sexual Abuse •Brighter Tomorrows............................. 631-395-1800 brightertomorrowsli.org •Child Abuse and Maltreatment Referrals ..................................................................800-342-3720 •The Crime Victims Center/Parents for Megan’s Law............................................................631-689-2672 CrimeVictimsCenter.org •My Sistas: Domestic Abuse Victims.. 631-645-6300 comeawaymybelovedInc.org •Family Violence and Child Abuse...... 516-485-5710 F.E.G.S. fegs.org •The Safe Center Long Island 24 Hour Hotline ..................................................................516-542-0404 tscli.org •L.I. Against Domestic Violence..........631-666-8833 liadv.org •The Retreat (Domestic Violence hotline) ..................................................................631-329-2200 •Victims Information Bureau (VIBS) of Suffolk County......................................................631-360-3606

•Brain Tumor Patients and Families .......................................................516-4442-2250 x110 Neurological Surgery PC. 1991 Marcus Ave., Ste. 108, Lake Success. nspc.com. rvanallen@nspc.com

•Stroke.......................................................631-474-3700 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

•Stroke/TBI Caregivers..........................516-586-4480 Common Ground Alliance, Plainview commongroundall.com

•Post-Bariatric..........................................516-62MERCY Mercy Medical Center, Rockville Centre

•Coma/ Traumatic Brain Injury Recovery Assoc. ...................................................................516-377-5333 South Nassau Community Hospital, Oceanside

•Trigeminal Neuralgia/Facial Pain .......................................................516-4442-2250 x110 1991 Marcus Ave., Ste. 108, Lake Success. nspc.com. rvanallen@nspc.com.

•Epilepsy/Seizure Disorder.......516-739-7733 x1145 epicli.org •Hearing Impaired and Cochlear Implant ...................................................................718-470-7550 Northwell Health Hearing and Speech Center, New Hyde Park •Hearing Support Group.......................516.628-4300 Center for Hearing Health, Mill Neck, centerforhearinghealth.org/events •WomenHeart of Nassau/Queens..... 718-526-0790 Northwell Health, New Hyde Park •WomenHeart of Huntington...............631-499-4160 The Huntington Heart Center, Huntington •Hepatitis C (American Liver Foundation) .................................................................. 631-754-4795 •HIV/AIDS................................................631-691-7080 F.E.G.S. Copiague. fegs.org •Lupus.......................................................516-783-3370 Lupus Alliance of LIQ •Melanoma (Patients/Caregivers)...... 516-352-4227 cmbc1@optonline.net •Multiple Sclerosis (National)..............631-864-8337

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•Parenting (Children w/ Cancer) ......................................................... 516-484-1545 x211 Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org

•Link Age.................................................. 516-746-0350 Family and Children’s Assoc., 100 E. Old Country Rd., Mineola. familyandchildrens.org •Mental Illness Family Support...........516-504-HELP Mental Health Assoc. of Nassau County, Hempstead •Mood Disorder (Peer Support)......... 516-489-2322 Northwell Health (Syosset, Plainview, Valley Stream locations) mdsgli.com

•Second Generation (Children of Holocaust Survivors)........................................516-484-1545 x196 Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org

•NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Illness (Queens/Nassau)....................................516-326-0797 1981 Marcus Ave., Ste. C117. namiqn.org

•Amputee.................................................631-968-3479 Southside Hospital, 301 E. Main St, Bay Shore

•National Federation of the Blind........516-868-8718

•Postpartum Depression .......................................631-422-2255/855-631-0001 Postpartum Resource Ctr. of NY. postpartumNY. org.

•Stroke Club...................516-562-4947/516-562-3111

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•Pregnancy and Infant Loss ...................516-562-8422 North Shore Univ. Hospital, Manhasset

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•Myasthenia Gravis.................................631-765-2186 Emma S. Clark Memorial Library, Setauket

•Brain Injury............................................ 631-474-6952 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson

•Pregnancy Information and Referral ..................................................................631-853-3033

•Pregnancy Information and Referral...631-853-3033

•Alopecia...................................................631-680-0148 naaf.org

•Spinal Cord Injury................................ 516-739-4900 St. Charles Hospital, Albertson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

•Parents of Young Children, Birth to Five ......................................................... 516-766-4341 x162 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside ParentingResourceNetwork.org

•Mood Disorder (Family/Friends).......516-499-6374 Northwell Health (Syosset, Valley Stream, Bayshore locations) mdsgli.com

•Parents of Children w/Mental health Diagnosis .................................................................. 516-746-0350 Various Locations. familyandchildrens.org

•Brain Aneurysm ................................... 516-562-3059 The Brain Aneurysm Center at North Shore Univ. Hospital, Manhasset. nsalant@northwell.edu

•NAMI Huntington.................................631-424-4528

•Families Anonymous (for families and friends of drug abusers)..........................................631-589-3790 Various locations. familiesanonymous.org

•Muscular Dystrophy............................. 631-474-6300 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

•Speech Communication......................631-474-6831 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

•Lawyer Assistance Program (LAP)... 888-408-6222

•New Mothers......................................... 631-376-4444 Good Samaritan Hospital Medical Ctr., W. Islip good-samaritan-hospital.org

•Adhesions (scar tissue pain) ..............631-921-7426 Stony Brook University Hospital, Stony Brook adhesionsfoundation.org

•Bariatric................................................... 631-474-6876 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

•Developmental Disabilities Inst....... 631-360--2900 Smithtown (family support services). ddiny.org

•Emotions Anonymous......................... 631-474-2090 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org

•Multiple Sclerosis..................................631-694-4370 Syosset Hospital Conference Room A/B

•Parkinson Disease ...............................631-862-3560 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

Miscellaneous

•National Infertility Network Exchange (NINE) ...................................................................516-794-5772

Health Related

•National Multiple Sclerosis Society...631-864-8337

•Overeaters Anonymous.......................631-473-1320 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org

•Anxiety and Panic.................................631-226-3900 mhaw.org

•NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Illness ..................................................................631-385-0754 Suffolk. landsburyhunt@aol.com

•Arthritis ................................................. 631-427-8272 arthritis.org

Weight Loss •Bariatric and Weight Loss Surgery ... 631-376-3697 Good Samaritan Hospital Medical Center, W. Islip. goodsamaritan.chsli.org

•Stroke Support Groups........................516-629-2013 St. Francis Hospital DeMatteis Center, 101 Northern Blvd., Greenvale

•Epilepsy................................................... 631-474-6489 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

•Smoking Cessation Workshops..........516-629-2013 St. Francis Hospital DeMatteis Center, 101 Northern Blvd., Greenvale

•Stroke and TBI........................... 516-674-7696 x7696 Northwell Health. northwell.edu

•Chron’s and Colitis Foundation......... 516-222-5530 585 Stewart Ave., Ste 304, Garden City ccfa.prg/chapters/longisland

•Diabetes.................................................. 516-520-2500 St. Joseph Hospital, Bethpage stjosephhospital.chsli.org

•Nicotine Anonymous...........................877-879-6422 nicotine-anonymous.org

•Relatives and Friends of persons with a Mental Illness........................................................631-226-3900 mhaw.org •Suicide Prevention Hotline.................. 800-SUICIDE

Smoking Cessation

•American Cancer Society.................. 800-ACS-2345 516-921-6016 or 631-436-7070. cancer.org •Smoking Cessation...............................631-853-2928 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org

•Prison Families Anonymous.................631-943-0441 pfa-li.com

•Women’s Issues.................................... 516-746-0350 Hempstead Family treatment and Recovery Assoc., 126 N.Franklin St. familyandchildrens.org •Young Widow and Widowers............ 631-495-8541 35 N. Service Rd., Dix Hills. widowednotalone.com •Women’s Issues.....................................516-634-4010 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org

All listings for Support Group consideration must be submitted by the first of the month for the following month at: liwomanonline.com/support. Deadline for the December issue is November 1. No information will be accepted by telephone. Listings are published on a space-available basis. To advertise a for-profit support group call 516-505-0555 x1 or liwomanonline.com/advertise If you have a support group listed in this guide that no longer exists or requires updated information, please email us at: support@liwomanonline.com. november 2020 • Long Island Woman • 23


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