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Volume 19 Number 6 • December 2020

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Woman’s Health Update

16 Catching Up With Carol (Silva) Thank You God For My Healing

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Deborah’s Favorites Favorite place on Long Island The water outside Cold Spring Harbor. There’s a little bay. The Cold Spring Harbor Labs is right there. It’s just where the fishery is.

else was made to feel special. You get so much more when you give. Scientifically proven.

Your favorite place to shop Honestly, I’m terrified to go to the grocery store. So lately, the favorite place to shop is my computer.

Favorite dessert I love creme brulee’!

Favorite thing that you get from giving It’s knowing you made somebody happy. It’s knowing that someone

Favorite influential person Thoreau

Least favorite of all your hair styles There are only really two hairstyles. There is the long one, and there’s the Mrs. Brady hairstyle. Both of which have had some really awful days.

You know what? I have no answer to that because my hair is like the Chicago weather. Wait, five minutes, it’ll change. Favorite thing you’ve ever knitted Afghans. I make blankets for my kids. I say, “Every time I had this in my hands and was working on it, I was thinking of you!” Favorite thing to do if you’re alone If nobody’s around, I’m cleaning or organizing. And please don’t stop me because I’m in my happy place.

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Breast Surgery Combined with Tummy Tuck and/or Liposuction by Charlotte Rhee, MD, F.A.C.S., P.C. Many of my patients come to me seeking help with the changes that can occur after childbirth. Following childbirth, a woman’s breast can grow to uncomfortable proportions or just the opposite can happen. A woman’s breast can actually lose volume and shrink, resulting in the breast appearing “deflated.” Additionally, a large number of women come to me seeking help with the post partum changes of their abdomen. During pregnancy the skin and abdominal wall muscles are stretched. Following childbirth, the abdomen can protrude and the skin can be loose or sag. In some cases, the abdominal muscles can be so weakened that the individual may look like she is still pregnant. Despite daily workouts including sit ups and crunches, a tummy tuck may be needed to restore these muscles.

ing breast reduction. Both groups of women want to have breasts that are proportional to their body size with the most natural result possible. In certain situations, a breast lift is also needed to tighten lax skin. The laxity can be the result of pregnancy or weight loss. When a breast lift is needed, I utilize the lollipop scar technique. A breast lift procedure is very similar to a breast reduction. The only difference is that with a breast reduction, breast tissue is removed.

Combined Breast/Tummy Tuck and Liposuction Procedures. Many of my patients who have breast surgery also have other procedures performed at the same time. This allows for one surgery and one recovery. The most common combined procedures performed by Dr. Rhee are breast surgery, whether it is a breast reduction or augmentation, combined with tummy tuck, also known as abdominoplasty. For those patients Breast Reduction Many of my patients who desire breast augmentation together with a tummy tuck, I am able to place Women with very large pendulous breasts may experience varied medical the breast implants through the tummy tuck incision, leaving the breasts without who have breast problems including back and neck pain. Also, the weight of large breasts can any scars. cause the bra straps to dig into the shoulders leaving groove markings. Large surgery also have other Liposuction is also commonly performed at the same time. Despite diet and breasts get in the way of physical activities such as running, making exercise exercise, certain areas of the body are prone to carry excess fat. For these areas, liprocedures performed and weight loss very difficult if not impossible. Breast reduction (reduction posuction can help. The most common areas for liposuction are the love handles at the same time. This (upper hip area) and thighs. mammaplasty), is a surgical procedure which makes breasts smaller. There are many different breast reduction techniques. The more traditional allows for one surgery Patients who have combined procedures do surprisingly well. In addition to method (inverted T-scar) leaves the breasts with a vertical, long horizontal having the benefit of just one recovery process, there can also be a significant and one recovery. scar (along the breast crease). “I utilize the Lejour technique, which leaves savings in price. the breast with a single vertical incision (lollipop scar) and, in my opinion, To learn more, please call our Huntington office to schedule a complimentawith a rounder more natural appearing breast and a better cosmetic result.” Breast reduc- ry consultation with Dr. Rhee at (631) 424-6707. Located at 257 E. Jericho Tpke., Huntington tions are performed as an outpatient procedure and are covered by insurance. Station. www.liplasticsurgery.com. Dr. Charlotte Rhee is a board certified plastic and reconstructive surgeon specializing in Breast Augmentation Women who come to me seeking breast enlargement have very similar goals to those seek- breast surgery. advertisement

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december Lighting the Night Nowadays, we could all use some extra light. The Riverhead Holiday Light Show features 1 1/2 miles of drivethrough displays nightly at 149 Edwards Ave. through Dec. 20, starting at 5 p.m. Advance tickets are $23 per car; at the gate, $25. Order at riverheadlightshow.com. The popular Magic of Lights returns to Jones Beach State Park, presenting new LED technology and digital animations in the Blizzard Tunnel along with Winter Wonderland and the Mega Tree Spectacular. Runs through Jan. 2 at Bay Parkway at Point Lookout. Purchase tickets ($25-$125 per vehicle/ limo/bus) at magicoflights.com. Prepare to be dazzled by the Making Seasons Bright Annual Light Show, benefiting the Girl Scouts of Suffolk County. Takes place nightly at 5 p.m. from Dec. 1-30 at Smith Point County Park, William Floyd Pkwy., Shirley. Purchase tickets ($20-$70) at gssc.us.

Monitored by Machines As usual, technology is bounding ahead with solutions for our dilemmas, such as what to buy at the supermarket. Our buying behavior is being surveilled and employees such as cashiers are becoming a dying breed. First, it was in-store video cameras, then came biometric identification: face and iris scans, voice recognition, and fingerprint imaging, all designed to capture data. For instance, when we shop, a computer eye is eyeing how long we linger at a shelf, what we touch, and what we purchase. Recently, Amazon introduced Amazon One, which lets you pay with your palm at two Amazon Go stores. The vein-scanning device uses infrared light to penetrate skin surface layers; customers sign up by inserting a credit card into a scanner that registers their palm. The tech giant’s “Just Walk Out” innovation lets shoppers enter a store by scanning an app, then exit without checking out; the data is stored in the cloud. Cameras and sensors track customer choices and charge them when they leave. An Amazon spokesperson told CNBC that the device will collect data only on where customers shop, but not what they purchase or how long they shop in third-party stores. It plans to sell the technology to retail stores, office buildings (so we

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can ditch our I.D. badges), or ticketed stadium events. But is it secure? Evan Greer, deputy director of the privacy group Fight for the Future, told the Washington Post: “If your credit card number leaks, you can get a new credit card. If a biometric scan of your palm leaks, you can’t get a new hand.”

Dispelling the Darkness Many years ago, people observed each year’s longest night by lighting bonfires to bring back the sun. Today, we light candles on the winter solstice, which falls on Monday, Dec. 21 for the Northern Hemisphere. Globally, observers celebrate differently, according to ReadersDigest.com. In England, revelers meet at dawn the day after the longest night at Stonehenge, to witness the sun rising through the prehistoric monument’s stones. For the Persian festival Shabe Yalda, families read poetry and feast on nuts and fruits, said to protect them from winter illnesses. South Koreans observing Dongji (“Little New Year”) eat patruk, a red bean porridge, to banish bad spirits and bring good wishes, exchange calendars and socks, and wish for cold weather to guarantee a bountiful harvest. One memorable ritual takes place at the Santo Tomas Festival in Guatemala, a blend of Catholicism and Mayan traditions. Besides bright costumes, masks, parades, and fireworks, people attempt the Flying Pole dance by climbing a 100-foot pole, attaching a rope, and leaping from the pole. You can find more ways to mark the solstice at rd.com.

by Annie Wilkinson

Categories include swim lessons ($100), teen memberships ($250), active older adult memberships ($500), and more; they can be used at any one of eight locations. Learn more at ymcali.org. Now is the time to have faith in future productions by ordering a theatergoers gift card from The Argyle Theatre in Babylon (argyletheatre.localgiftcards.com), Engeman Theatre in Northport (engemantheater.com), Madison Theatre at Molloy College in Rockville Centre (madisontheatreny.org), and most other local theatres. s To submit info for FYI consideration, please send it to fyi@liwomanonline.com.

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The calendar says it’s time to go out and shop, but many of us are replacing in-store excursions with touchless shopping. The internet offers opportunities, from artist-designed goods to the gift of health to supporting Long Island’s creative arts community. We can still put on a festive face at home, thanks to Artful Home’s made-in-USA goods designed by American apparel designers, jewelers, painters, glassblowers, furniture makers and other artists. This online marketplace supports CERF+, a nonprofit that assists artists during emergencies; see artfulhome.com. Anyone would enjoy receiving a YMCA of Long Island membership. Poppy Jacket by Barbara Poole To advertise: 516-505-0555 x1 • liwomanonline.com/advertise Baiting Hollow Nursery


Good Advice “Consensual” Workplace Sexual Harassment? by Suzanne Leeds Klein, Esq. In the everyday workplace context, even Unlawful sexual harassment in the workplace if the boss doesn’t have the prestige of consists of unwelcome Matt Lauer, the harasser is typically someor unwanted remarks one in a position of power who abuses or physical contact of a that power. The victim may still feel comsexual nature. This can pelled to capitulate to sexual advances include even a seemingly from a supervisor for fear of negative ca“consensual” relationship, because: reer consequences. Such a clear imbalance of power leads to quid pro can sexual relations in the workplace truly be considIn the workplace quo (“this for that”) sexual harassment, i.e., a manager ered “consensual” when context, the offering to advance an emthe balance of power is so harasser is typically ployee’s career in exchange grossly unequal? for sexual favors, or threatTake the example of Matt someone in a Lauer. Brooke Nevils claims position of power ening an adverse employment action for refusing that she was sexually aswho abuses that to accept sexual advances. saulted by Lauer. Lauer’s power. Feeling compelled to have response is that the relationsex to protect your job does ship was instead “consensual.” But with a man as powerful as Lauer, not equal consent – it’s an unlawful form the term “consent” is ambiguous. She of sexual harassment. may have felt compelled to succumb to his If you are a victim of workplace sexual sexual advances for fear that refusal would harassment in Long Island or NYC, please lead to lesser work assignments, termina- contact Leeds Brown Law, 516.873.9550 tion, or even blacklisted in the industry. or leedsbrownlaw.com.

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Ten Squared: North Fork in Winter Local artists turn their eyes and palettes to the snowy season in this virtual online art exhibition and sale that will benefit the Southold Historical Society. Each 10”-by-10” painting can be viewed through Dec. 15 at southoldhistoricalsociety.org. Purchase online or by phone at 631-7655500 for $100 each.

Heavy Snow by Lee Harned

Gardening Pick

Eco-Friendly Pick

Virtual Seed Sowing

Cutting Down on Waste

A Cornell Cooperative Extension representative demonstrates online how to use recycled containers as mini-greenhouses for seeds grown outside in winter. Free. Go to ccesuffolk.org to choose date and time, then register; sponsored by different local libraries (Dec. 5, 9, 16, or Jan. 6).

We love giving and receiving holiday presents, but once the wrapping comes off, the packaging, ribbon, and everything we pitch contributes an extra 1 million tons a week to our landfills, says the Environmental Protection Agency. Find some creative solutions—like choosing ecofriendly gift wrap, recycling holiday waste, and decorating with LED lights (they use 1/150th the electricity of traditional lights)– at northshorelandalliance.org.

Theatre Pick

A Holiday Favorite The popular madcap comedy adventures of a mouse, an elf, and a spunky little girl are back for a third year. Playing through Dec. 24 to small audiences, Ken Ludwig’s ‘Twas the Night Before Christmas will be performed by the Smithtown Center for the Performing Arts at the Brush Barn at the Smithtown Historical Society, 211 Middle Country Rd. See performance dates and purchase tickets ($18) at smithtownpac.org.

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Exercise Pick

Run for the Stage Stay in shape as you support the Patchogue Theatre for the Performing Arts with a virtual 5K or 10K Run/Walk. Register yourself or a group of friends through Dec. 31, choose your outdoor or home treadmill course, and pay $25-$30 at runsignup.com.

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The Screenings Must Go On

Holiday-Themed Designs

Westhampton Beach Performing Arts Center has reopened, showing in-person movie screenings each weekend for a maximum audience of 50 people. Maskwearing and temperature-taking are required, as is the completion of health waivers. Screenings take place at 76 Main St., Westhampton Beach. See the line-up and show times and reserve tickets ($10 to $16) at whbpac.org.

Ellen Renison is sewing up a storm, making themed fleece and baby blankets, placemats, and more. Made locally in Bay Shore, her creations celebrate holidays with Hanukkah and Christmas aprons, surgical caps, and masks. She sells her wares at area farmers’ markets and on her Facebook page (Ellen’s Hot Hand Crafts).

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Describe the work you do and how you became involved in this work. As a writer, I thought it important to get to know the publishing industry. I worked at Borders Books for 11 years before starting my own consulting business, which includes editing, ghostwriting, etc. I am now a published author and working on my fifth novel. What’s the best life advice you’ve received? When I told author and ex-wife of Salman Rushdie, Marianne Wiggins, that I wanted to be a successful writer and asked how I should make that happen, she replied: “Then keep writing.” And so be it! What was your biggest challenge? To be taken seriously. What was your biggest break? Getting the interest of a publisher after they heard how one big-name agent who took me on dropped the ball. They asked to see my novel. They loved it and published it. What has failure taught you? To listen to feedback, consider it and keep plugging along. Giving up is not an option. Based on your area of specialty, what advice would you give to other women? Educate yourself on the publishing industry, if you want to be a writer. I have worked with numerous writers, both men and women, who have unrealistic expectations since they don’t understand the nature of the business. What’s the best business advice you’ve received? Don’t bite off more than you can chew, as clichéd as that sounds.

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by Dilip D. Madnani, MD, FACS before you schedule your procedure. Some of the questions you may want to ask Please briefly define what a neck lift is. A neck lift is a surgical procedure that defines and contours include: Do you typically perform a neck lift on its own—or in conjunction with anthe neck. As we age, the platysmal bands separate and the skin stretches in the neck. This muscle separation occurs due to natural other procedure? I typically perform a necklift with a facelift. Rarely do I perform a neckllift alone. daily movements we make. The two sides of the muscle have an attachment in the midline, which naturally weakens overtime, allow- There are other approaches to defining the neck that include laser liposuction that ing the muscles to separate. This causes the two defined neck bands to appear and removes excess fat and also tightens the skin using smaller incisions or just plain liposuction combined with ultherapy or other energy based devices causes a loss of neck definition and contour as the neck skin stretches. to tighten the skin. These procedures address the fat in the neck and A neck lift addresses this muscle in the neck with or without addressA necklift is great for loose skin without addressing the muscles, so its not for everyone. ing the loose skin. Who are the best candidates for this procedure? (Who is not a If only the muscle is addressed, then an incision is made under the anyone with with good candidate?) chin to suture/tie/bring the two separated bands together. This aplooseness in the A necklift is great for anyone with with looseness in the neck musproach is great if there is minimal loose skin. It can redefine the neck and bring back a youthful contour. neck muscles and cles and skin. This is why its important to see a specialist. If its just there, then other options as mentioned above, are a great idea, If there is excess skin and loose muscle, then an incision is made skin. This is why its fat if there is fat and loose skin/muscle, then a necklift with liposuction around the ears – this allows access to tighten the back part of the important to see a is needed. The necklift approach will also vary depending on the platysma muscle and allows the excess skin to be re-draped and reamount of loose skin. moved from around the ears in addition to an incision under the chin specialist. What kinds of conditions does a neck lift most commonly help to tighten the middle of the muscles together, improve? A third type of necklift, Is called a direct neckflit. I never perform A necklift helps anyone with loss of neck definition from loose skin or muscle or a this as It involves and incison right down the middle of the neck and can leave an combination of the two. Some people are born with a double chin, that can also be unsightly scar. improved with a necklift. Your Surgeon’s Experience To learn more about the neck lift procedure, contact Madnani Facial Plastics today A facelift will provide the best possible results when it is performed by a skilled, experience plastic surgeon. It is important to consider your surgeon’s qualifications at 212-203-8591 or 516.226.1080. drmadnani.com. advertisement

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Woman’s Health Update COVID-19 vs. the Flu As Long Island enters the first winter, where both COVID-19 and the flu are significant concerns, doctors are gearing up to address their patients’ mounting anxieties. Is it the flu? Is it COVID-19? Or is it just the winter sniffles? “​The flu season usually starts in October and lasts for six months with a peak in January,” shared Michael Ditkoff, M.D., F.A.C.S., board-certified otolaryngologist and head and neck surgeon of ENT and Allergy Associates, LLP in Manhasset. Unfortunately, the flu and COVID-19 share many similar symptoms, such as fever, fatigue, chest discomfort, and headache. “Flu symptoms are generally worse compared to those of the common cold,” said Ditkoff, “Getting a flu vaccine, avoiding contact with sick individuals, washing your hands often, and not touching your face are all important to prevent the spread of flu.” Much of the same advice given by doctors to avoid COVID-19. “The best way to differentiate between COVID and the flu is to get tested for both. There is considerable overlap in the symptoms,” shared Ditkoff. Although it can be concerning for people over the age of 65 to get the flu, antiviral drugs are available to help combat a flu infection, including Tamiflu and Xofluza. “There is also a high dose flu shot for people over age 65,” shared Ditkoff, “It contains four times the amount of flu protein as compared to the standard vaccine. The higher dose was seen to be beneficial in the older population.”

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“The best way to differentiate between COVID and the flu is to get tested for both. There is considerable overlap in the symptoms.”

It’s a term most people didn’t know before the COVID-19 pandemic – long-haulers. It may even be a term some people don’t recognize now, but it’s becoming a definite problem for some individual patients of COVID-19. Long-haulers are defined as those who haven’t recovered from COVID-19 weeks, or even months, after contracting the virus. It can also refer to those who do recover but then have a relapse of the disease. Formerly healthy individuals suffering from long-hauler syndrome may even suffer strokes and heart attacks. Unfortunately, recent studies show that this phenomenon affects more women than men. According to a Centers for Disease Control (CDC) report over the summer, about 35 percent of COVID-19 patients with mild cases still weren’t back to their normal state of health two to three weeks after their first diagnosis. This is unlike the flu, where 90 percent of cases

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are resolved within two weeks. An article in the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA) cited a study from Paris where women outnumbered men four to one when it comes to long-haulers. “COVID-19 long-haulers appear to experience lingering symptoms for weeks or even months, but it’s unclear why,” shared Emily Ortman, Communications Director for the Society for Women’s Health Research (SWHR), “To truly understand this disease and its impact on women, we need more data and we need studies that identify and follow these long-haulers to monitor their health outcomes.”

Treating Chronic Illness During a Pandemic For those suffering from a chronic illness, the pain and symptoms don’t stop just because COVID-19 is raging. But often, chronic diseases are exacerbated by stress, and COVID-19 has been nothing if not stressful. According to the CDC, six in ten Americans live with at least one chronic illness. For those living with a chronic illness, such as heart disease or diabetes, the anxiety and stress of COVID-19 may overshadow an illness that is just part of everyday life. But that’s not a good idea. “It is important to continue some sense of normalcy during this time, which includes getting in all of your necessary medical appointments, especially for those women with a self or family history of cancer or other chronic illnesses,” shared Jennifer Kolton, LCSW Oncology Social Worker on Long Island. Additionally, already established treatment plans should never be ignored. “For those who are chronically ill, adhering to their treatment plan and their doctor’s medical recommendations is crucial at all times, but especially now, as some pre-existing conditions can put patients at greater risk for COVID-19,” shared Ortman.

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The Long Island Woman Interview

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t was August 17th when I interviewed Deborah Norville, marking her 25 legendary years behind the Inside Edition anchor desk. But on August 17, Deb Norville was far from her anchor desk, her Long Island home, and she hoped, far from New York’s COVID outbreak. From her southern vacation home this humble, fellow Mom started by asking all about me–my long news career, my cancer diagnosis (but not her own 2019 cured thyroid cancer), and my decision to retire. Eventually I got Deb Norville to focus on Deb Norville! Where her distinguished career started, how she navigated bad news when her three now 20-something children were young, and what’s next. Deborah Norville was inducted into The Broadcasting & Cable Hall of Fame in 2016. Prior to Inside Edition, her long and varied journalism carrer has included stints at CBS News as an anchor and correspondent, at NBC as co-host of Today and anchor of News at Sunrise, Deborah Norville Tonight on MSNBC, The Deborah Norville Show on the ABC Talk Radio Network. In addition, she’s a best selling author of Thank You Power: Making the SCIENCE of Gratitude Work for YOU and two children’s books, a contributer to the Chicken Soup for The Soul series, and as a life-long devoted crafter she’s written books about knitting and crocheting. (See deborahnorville.com.)

Who is Deborah Norville? She’s still trying to figure that one out but she’s having a ball in the process. You didn’t grow up wanting to be on television, did you? Oh gosh, no. I grew up in a small town in northwest Georgia called Dalton, Georgia. If you have wall-to-wall carpeting in your house it probably came from my hometown. My dad was part of the carpet industry. TV was nowhere near on my radar screen. I wanted to be a lawyer. During my senior year in high school, I was blown away (in a law class) by the changes from Brown v. Board of Education. I thought, “Oh my God, black kids get to go to better schools because someone had the energy and intellectual curiosity to go through years of legal precedence and arguments.” The research aspect of law got me so excited, I thought, “I want to do that. I want to right wrongs!” When I was a senior, girls were invited to compete in the Junior Miss Contest. You could get money for college, so I signed up. But you had to have a talent and that was a problem because I don’t. I sew. I won the local. I won the state. Then the lady in charge asked, “Well honey, don’t you sing or tap dance while you sew?” She made me learn magic tricks. I get down to Mobile, Alabama and they literally laughed, especially because I came after Miss Utah who sang an aria from La Boheme. But I was blown away by how hard the production guys worked on the telecast, setting up cameras, rigging lights. We’d be leaving at ten at night. They were still working. They were friendly, jolly. I’m thinking, “Man, this production stuff must be a ball.” But nah, I want to be a lawyer. Then I realized it was the research. So, I thought, “Well you can do production and research if you’re a TV reporter!” That’s literally how it happened. Let’s talk about your early jobs. My second year of college I got an internship at Georgia Public Television covering the State Legislature. The last day of the legislative session, the wife of WAGA’s (CBS Atlanta) station manager saw me. She hollers to her husband, “Shelly, look at this girl.” He sees

this blonde, Debbie, who goes to Georgia, interviewing some senator and makes it his mission to have me found. I’m back at college. I get a call saying “Channel 5 wants to talk to you about being the weekend weather girl.” I’m like, “Really? That’s awful. I want to work at Channel 5, but I sure as heck don’t want to be the weather girl,” because this is 1978 and the weather girls were weather bunnies. You remember those days, right? Unfortunately, yes. You didn’t want that job, but I’ll do what I’ve got to do. I studied up on occluded fronts and cumulonimbus clouds. I got there and by the grace of God, they’d already found their weekend weather girl. So, they said, “We could use an intern this summer.” I’m like, “Oh my God, yes!” Big money? They paid me $75 a week. On the third day they were low on reporters and said, “Norville, go cover this story.” I’m thinking, “I haven’t done news writing yet. Do I tell them I’m not qualified to cover this, or just shut up and do the best I can?” I got in the car with my cameraman and drove out to Stone Mountain for the DeKalb County Fireman’s Family Picnic. At the very end, I stood there holding the microphone and said, “Debbie Norville, TV-5 Eyewitness News.” I’m like, “Oh my God, I’m going to be on TV!” You’ve certainly earned your stripes. Yeah. Then at the end of the summer they said, “If you’ll work weekends as a reporter, we’ll guarantee you a job when you graduate. But they weren’t paying much. I didn’t have money for hotels. Many weekends I would get up super early on Saturday, drive from Athens, Georgia to Atlanta, report for my job at 9am, work through the 11pm news, and sleep in my car underneath a streetlight at a nearby apartment complex. Then I’d get up early Sunday morning, sneak into the station, freshen up in the bathroom and do it all again. You talked about the “weather bunnies.” Have things changed for women in television? They really have. I think it was Leslie Stahl or Marlene Sanders who said, “Praise be to the FCC,” because it was the FCC in 1972 that decreed that women and minorities “must”—not “should”—“MUST” have a role in broadcasting. It took a federal agency to kick the door open for us, and you and I are the second wave of women! We owe them a huge debt of gratitude. We get to do what we do, because somebody else insisted that they be allowed to do what they wanted to do. What will be really significant is having women in the decision-making arena. Having people like Susan Zirinsky in the president’s seat at CBS News is very significant. We don’t see many women running networks, but the moves are starting. You have been in that “Inside Edition” anchor seat for 25 years. I’m impressed. Are you? What I am is grateful. I am surprised. I don’t think anybody takes a job thinking they’re going to be in that position, particularly in broadcasting, or any industry, for very long. Can we talk about your Mom? Well, my mom died when I was 20, so I didn’t have her nearly as long as I would’ve liked. Years ago a friend asked, “A mother’s voice will ring in your heart forever. What is it you still hear your Mother say?” I thought, that’s really profound. There are two things I still hear my mother say. One was, “Whatever you do Debbie, always be a lady.” And I’m one of four daughters. She said to the four of us, “I don’t

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“I don’t think anybody takes a job thinking they’re going to be in that position, particularly in broadcasting, or any industry, for very long.” care what you girls do for a living, but I want you to have worked so you’ll never be dependent on a man for your survival.” This was the 60s. Before Gloria Steinem or Betty Friedan or anybody had lit the flame, my mom was preaching feminism, independence, self-reliance. What I learned from my mom is to be able to take care of myself, and to always be a lady when doing it. What lessons do you hope ring in your children’s ears in decades to come? That’s easy. I speak in bumper stickers over and over again. Mom Bumper Sticker Wisdom is pretty spot on. When they were little and would do naughty things, I’d say, “First thing you do before you get in trouble, use your brain on the double.” Easy to remember. It means, “Stop, think before you do something because you might get into trouble.” And this works. It’s a whole psychological principle called “thought stopping.” Today if you said to my kids, “First thing you do…” they would finish the rest of it. I love your 2009 book “The Power of Respect.” Boy, I was early on that one, wasn’t I? You sure were. In today’s world, respect has become a big part of the American conversation. Yeah, it’s really disheartening. At the time I wrote Power of Respect there was research that found 79% of the American population believed that a lack of respect was a serious problem. If we took that poll today, I can only imagine what the percentages would be. I’ve discovered most people don’t do the right thing because it’s the right thing. It’s because they see some value boomeranging back to them. Like today I ate a ridiculously healthy lunch. I didn’t particularly enjoy it, but I know it’s right for my health. I knew there was a benefit. So I thought, wouldn’t it be cool if I could find research that showed how when one practices respectful behavior, it boomerangs a benefit back to you? For instance, billions of dollars are spent on settling wrongful termination lawsuits. The majority of that money would not have to have been spent if the terminated employee felt respected in the process of being detached from the company. Half of today’s public-school teachers will be gone in five years, not because they’re retiring. They’re leaving because of the lack of respect they feel in the classroom and from the administration. But when we allow students, faculty, and staff to help define what a respectful environment looks like you see an incredible change to the good in behavior, absenteeism, and academic affairs. In Maryland, they put in a respect-based program for third graders. They found a significant percentage of boys referred for special-needs assessment, in fact, were high achieving students acting out because they didn’t feel respected in the classroom. So, what does respect look like? Students and teachers come together and establish rules to make the classroom better. The teacher says, “I


The Long IsLand Woman InTervIeW expect you to show up on time and have your homework done.” The students say, “We expect to know in advance when tests are going to happen and be addressed in a respectful manner.” When those behaviors are recognized you get “respect points” redeemable for a pizza party, pencils or notebooks, or tickets to the prom! Let’s talk about COVID. What’s changed most in your COVID life, home or work? Or have they merged? Like everybody else, we’ve merged. I’m proud to say we never missed a day of the broadcast. We were literally kicked out of our NYC studios on March 11th. On March 12th we did the broadcast–not live, but from my kitchen. Then (fill-in anchor) Diane McInerney did a couple of days from the L.A. bureau because I was actually relocating. We’ve been remotely broadcasting from my vacation home every day since. It’s weird, but a couple of years ago I bought a camera, tripod, lights, the whole nine yards. I don’t know what I thought I was going to do. The Deborah Norville Show from home? And at the last minute we moved south, (because honestly, I was afraid to be in New York) and I grabbed my sticks and my camera. You never know. And working at home, I haven’t worn shoes in a really long time! I’m barefoot too! In the news business we process a lot of bad news. How did you explain bad news to your children when they were young? Wow. Well, I wouldn’t let them watch the show for starters. I just didn’t think that that was appropriate. If they needed to see TV Mommy, the TV would be flipped on, and “Oh, there’s Mom,” and then we’d turn it off. But on 9/11, my eldest was in fourth grade. My middle was a kindergartner, and my baby was in nursery school or something like that. I was in Washington DC. I scrambled to report from the roof of the Chamber of Commerce with the White House behind me and the Pentagon burning over my shoulder. I found out when I got home that my eldest had been literally sick with worry. He knew I’d had a speech in Washington that morning. He just assumed I was at the Pentagon until my husband, Karl, was able to get to him and say, “Mom’s fine.” One thing I’ve consistently done after that, is any time I’m traveling for work, “I’m going to Philadelphia” became “I’m going to Philadelphia, and I’ll be at Independence Hall.” I’d say where I’m going to be if something happened. But I guess the way you explain (bad news) whether you work on TV or not, is bad things happen in the world. And there are bad people, but there are good people too. We have to remember that. And really the best line ever is Mr. Rogers’, “Whenever something bad happens, look for the helpers. There will always be helpers.” That’s so true. And isn’t that what COVID-19 really is? The story of the helpers? That’s what we’ve tried to make our focus on

deBorah norvILLe Inside Edition. It’s incredibly challenging and somewhat hopeless at a moment when we don’t have a vaccine or a therapeutic. What’s sustaining and heartening is to see the medical personnel, front line nurses travel from hotspot to hotspot caring for people, or firefighters rushing into situations without time to put on their protective equipment because they have to save a life. Or the teachers who make a point of going to the student’s house who’s really struggling, and on the other side of the screen door teaches them one-on-one the way they used to in class. Those moments are happening. Those are the stories we have to be sure to share because it lifts us all up out of a place that’s kind of unhappy. With all the bad news we ingest as journalists, what does Deborah Norville do for fun? What makes you laugh? Oh, probably my dog. We have a wonderful Labrador Retriever named Piper. She’s slightly brain-dead, but we love her anyway. You can always count on Piper. We call it puppy love. And puppy love is a very good antidote for all the sad things. Do you have a guilty pleasure on TV? Oh my God. There’s this series that my husband and I have discovered called Outlander. Have you seen it? We have not seen it all the way through, so don’t tell me anything! Outlander … we call it Scotland. We say, “Do we have time for an hour of Scotland?” That has been our guilty pleasure. I hate to put it this way, but at some point you’re going to turn out the “Inside Edition” studio lights one last time. To do what? What’s left? So just this second what flashed in my mind was a Langston Hughes quote, “Hold fast to dreams. For if dreams die, life’s a broken-winged bird that cannot fly.” I have so many things I want to do. I’ve done prime time talk, network news, local news, weekends, early morning, syndicated. But I haven’t done a daytime talk show. There is an audience that remains unfulfilled. I know what the people want. It’s not about good news like unicorns and butterflies. That’s not real. People want to know that there are ways through whatever the challenge is. And the challenge has changed. Right now the challenge is COVID. But remember before 9/11 happened? We were all worried about getting eaten by sharks! The summer of 2001 was the summer of sharks. And boy oh boy, don’t we long for the days when all we worried about was losing an arm when we got in the ocean? Sharks. Those were the good old days. ◆ Carol Silva's journalism journey started at WBAB and WLIR rock radio stations, took her through New York City and finally 33 years at the anchor desk of ”News 12 Long Island.” Carol is also a motivational speaker.

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Catching Up With Carol

by Carol Silva

Thank You God For My Healing

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eptember 18, 2019, the diagnosis: “You have stage 4 cancer.” Immediately these words spilled out of my mouth, “Thank you God for my healing.” The moment was as simple as that. The more detailed diagnosis: I had a tumor the size of a golf ball in my left lung that had triggered 12 more tumors in my brain. I will never minimize the impact that moment has had on millions of patients before me. But for me it didn’t register as a desperate, “Dear Lord, please save me. Please heal me. I need to be here for my children,” a successful but unmarried oldest child, a daughter whose (now Covid-postponed) wedding was then exactly seven months away and the youngest, then still looking for his first real ‘career’ job. In all of that, my reflex was, “Thank you for what I know is about to happen.” I’ve been asked many times where those words came from. I didn’t look I know for spiritual support. the more It was apparently in “positive” I me already, waiting to shoot out, thanks chose to put to a lifelong search into ME, the for faith and the more positive best in people. Please don’t think I’m bragging, “Well look at me, an elite Catholic school girl morphed into a my life. I Church lady with a positive glow!” I’ve probably made more bad decisions than at least half of you, many I’m believe if you not proud of. But I know I’m growing my soul and that’s want to know the ultimate goal! I believe I reacted with, “God, you’ve how your life is got this. WE’VE got this!” because of what I choose to put into me. going to look Let’s start with the God thing (which my agnostic budin five years, dy calls my “whoo-whoo” thing.) Another dear friend, the God Squad’s late Msgr. Tom Hartman, said there listen to the are many different paths to the top of the mountain words you’re and it really doesn’t matter which we chose. I agree. saying to If God had wanted me to be a Hindu, Buddhist, otheryourself today. Christian, Jew, Sikh, Taoist, etc., I believe I would have been born into one of those traditions. Somehow, I

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landed in a Mexican-Irish family with a Mom who went to Mass every day. She began the build on my foundation, which was reinforced in Catholic school. My husband wishes he had my faith. I explain I didn’t just wake up with it one day; it’s work. It started with my 21-year old hunger for spiritual and fulfilling things. For years I have chosen to consume uplifting things, from the Bible and prayer groups to my car buddy Joel Osteen, plus people who add to, but don’t suck out my spirit. Throw in some inspirational books, news (including bad,) a dash of junk TV and you’ve got me. I’m no expert on others’ faith or positivity. But I know the more “positive” I chose to put into ME, the more positive my life. I believe if you want to know how your life is going to look in five years, listen to the words you’re saying to yourself today. Are you repeating, “My boss is unkind. I’ll never lose that 10-pounds. I’ll never get married. My spouse is a horror?” Or instead, are you repeating, “This job is teaching me to never be like that manager. My 10-pounds starts today with 2,000 steps and one less Snickers bar. Remember, the sun is always behind those dark clouds?” Another go-to in my worst moments, “God, (universe?) what’s the lesson in this for me?” Inspirational speaker Wayne Dyer put it this way, “If you don’t like the way things look, change the way you look at them.” In fact, every one of my doctors told me upfront, perspective and attitude are important to a patient’s outcome. Well 51-weeks later, September 10, 2020, I got a different diagnosis. My doctor said there’s no evidence of cancer! I confirmed, “I can say I’m cancer free?” Yes! So, one more time, “Thank you God for my healing.” l Carol Silva is an award-winning journalist who spent 33 years at the anchor desk of News 12 Long Island. For more than 40 years Carol Silva has had the honor of telling the stories of the people of Long Island and beyond. To advertise: 516-505-0555 x1 • liwomanonline.com/advertise


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Book Corner

by Dina Santorelli

Erin Brockovich’s Urgent Call for Water Safety

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rin Brockovich is still fighting. It’s been 24 years since the multiplaintiff direct action lawsuit— alleging hexavalent chromium contamination of the drinking water in the southern California town of Hinkley—against Pacific Gas & Electric Co. was settled for $333 million, the largest settlement ever paid in a directaction suit in American history. And it’s been 20 years after the release of the Oscar-winning eponymous movie that dramatized that courageous legal case and would make Brockovich, a law clerk, a household name. Yet, in that time the contamination of water systems both in Hinkley and across the United States has only gotten worse. Brockovich, 60, serves as president of Brockovich Research & Consulting and is the founder of the Erin Brockovich Foundation, a nonprofit created to educate and empower communities in the fight for clean water. Last summer, the renowned consumer advocate and environmental activist published her latest book titled Superman’s Not Coming: Our National Water Crisis and What We the People Can Do About It, which is both a reference book, outlining the scope of the problem, and a call to action. She recently spoke to Long Island Woman about the water contamination issue and the importance of making changes before it’s too late. I’m not going to lie, your book scared the heck out of me. Our water is being mismanaged at a municipal level, and that’s really upsetting. They’re making the wrong decisions. They are killing people. We should be angry. We have to realize we have to get involved and that we can’t assume or take anything for granted anymore. “Our water is being We can’t bury our heads in the sand. The book, I hope, is mismanaged at a something that people could reference, or hang onto, and take one bite of the apple at a time and digest it. municipal level, After the film, after the lawsuit, after all the attention and that’s really brought to the problem in Hinkley, I thought the water upsetting. They’re had been cleaned up, but it wasn’t. The Hinkley water still toxic—and what’s worse is there are Hinkleys making the wrong iseverywhere now. decisions. They are I’m very disappointed. Here it is 20 years after the film, 30 killing people. We years after my work, and now I have four grandchildren, and we haven’t addressed the antiquated laws on hex should be angry.” chromium, or corporate pollution, or our infrastructure, and

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we’re making it more political than ever. The division is awful. We are truly going to face a day-zero moment here in the U.S. We are facing more pathogens in the water, more brain-eating amoebas, more Legionnaires’, more lead outbreaks. We know better than this. I’m stunned. I never thought when I got involved with Hinkley that it would be, frankly, the entire country. You write about the pushback you receive, about how you once held up a frog with two heads up as evidence of water contamination, and the response you got was essentially “Oh, that’s normal.” You were gaslighted. And everybody wonders why I drop f-bombs and flip everyone the bird. I’ve always been underestimated because I don’t fit the bill with this Ph.D. or walk this way, act this way, talk this way. I’ve been told, “You’re not a doctor or a lawyer or a scientist, why should we listen to you?” I’m like, Okay, let me snort on that one. “Uh, because this two-headed frog in the green water is f**ked up. You’re not going to convince me that what I see I didn’t see.” One of the major points of your book is that we all have instincts, and we need to learn to trust them. We’re not taught to use them. I know that many women feel this. I’ve walked away from a fight with my now ex-husband, who would say, “Oh, you’re crazy!” And I’d wonder, “Am I? Maybe I am.” Then I’m like, “Wait a minute, no. I’m not.” But you get that voice in your head. The other day I was watching an interview with Jane Fonda. She said she believes that many people haven’t been active about environmental issues because they haven’t been asked. She calls them “the great unasked.” They absolutely are. Ever since the film came out I get tens of thousands of emails, and what people are asking for is permission to act. Well, if you need that from me, you’re going to get it… It’s lonely being a warrior out there by yourself, and nothing, ultimately, gets done. It starts with one, but when we have the support of the collective we make noise and movement, and we’re seen. I was recently in a community in Houston, and there were about a thousand people there. I said I need you, while we have all these agencies here, to be vulnerable with me. I’m going to ask you to do something you’re not going to like. I asked: “How many of you in this room either have cancer, or have a family member or a neighbor with a disease or cancer?” Every hand came up in the room. The moment that happened, something changed. They realized they weren’t alone. We all think we’re so different, and we’re all so lonely, but if we could just let the guard down for a moment, I think we’d all feel the same thing, and it helps when we have the support of each other. We can find empowerment from each other. In each step, we get a little stronger, we rise a little bit more. That, to me, is amazing. l To advertise: 516-505-0555 x1 • liwomanonline.com/advertise


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Book Corner

by Adina Genn

Mercy House Captures a Nun’s Quest for Social Justice

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Alena Dillon

he words “thriller” and “nuns” may not seemingly go hand-in-hand, but that’s the world Alena Dillon created for readers in her debut novel, Mercy House (William Morrow). Mercy House is a 100-year-old row house in Brooklyn’s Bedford Stuyvesant, where Sister Evelyn and two other renegade nuns provide a desperately needed safe haven for victims of domestic violence. Sister Evelyn and her cohorts aren’t just fighting for the hard-earned trust of skittish victims. They’re battling dark power, specifically that of Bishop Hawkins, whose sordid past entangled Sister Evelyn many years earlier. Dillon’s is a story about faith, street smarts, and never backing down. CBS All Access is adapting the book for a project, executive produced by Amy Schumer and The Good Wife writer Corinne Brinkerhoff. Dillon, whose novel was inspired by the nuns at St.Joseph’s College in Patchogue, where she once worked and still lectures, shared insights with Long Island Woman.

“I had this misconception that religious sisters were stiff, pious, and uninteresting. But of course, that isn’t true; they are people, like anybody else, and so are fascinatingly human.”

How is the CBS All Access adaptation moving along? They are progressing! We are still in the writing stages, so our momentum wasn’t interrupted by the pandemic— except in the way that everybody’s motivation was curbed by existential angst and uncertainty. But unlike projects on the verge of filming that screeched to a halt, social distancing isn’t impeding the logistics of our creation. We are moving forward bit by bit; but, as I’m learning, there are a lot of bits in the film industry. Had you envisioned your characters telling their tale on television while you were writing? I never imagined the project would be adapted for film. This was just the most thrilling, unexpected, miraculous, exhilarating, surprise. It was a big enough dream to get “The Book,” which, after 10 years dedicating myself to the craft of writing, was how I thought of finally getting a novel published. But, when I write, I envision the world, characters, and actions cinematically. I see it unfolding as a little movie in my head. So perhaps that lent the story to be naturally transferable. Who inspired Sister Evelyn’s character? All of my characters are conglomerations of multiple experiences and observations. I take from people I met, my imagination, and research. In this case, Sister Evelyn has some of my grandmother’s wry sense of humor,

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my grandfather’s goodness, but, most significantly, was inspired by religious sisters I worked alongside at St. Joseph’s College in Patchogue. I had this misconception that religious sisters were stiff, pious, and uninteresting. But of course, that isn’t true; they are people, like anybody else, and so are fascinatingly human. I soon came to appreciate all the multi-faceted aspects of their personalities, complete with strengths, flaws, and vices. Yet, they are superhuman in many ways, namely in their extraordinary commitment. They have literally devoted their lives to service. The women I met worked hard. They were between 50 and 80 years old, worked full shifts in highranking positions, for no pay, and when I went home to change into pajamas and watch Netflix, they went on to complete more mission work after hours, like sleeping overnight at a women’s shelter, which is what sparked the idea for the book. Did the nuns in your life know you were writing this book, and were they encouraging? I only began writing after I left the college. (Physically. I still teach there virtually.) I missed working in that environment and penned this story as a letter of gratitude and admiration. I don’t know when I told my former boss about the novel. I may only have confessed it after the novel was purchased by HarperCollins. She was very supportive and even participated in an interview at the end of the book. What gives your characters the gumption to stand up to the Catholic Church? Nuns are fierce; they’ll raise hell if they have to. Has the Catholic Church commented at all on your book? Not as a united body. That would be terrifying. I’ve had varied reviews from Catholic readers. Most seem to identify my reverence for the faith and the faithful, and recognize that there is a difference between admonishing individuals who have done wrong and decrying the entire religion. Why did you select Bed-Stuy as the novel’s setting? I wanted a neighborhood that hadn’t yet been gentrified in 2010. Plus, since the idea for Mercy House came very loosely from Providence House, I thought the location would be appropriate. Tell us about your book slated for 2021. The Happiest Girl in the World is about a gymnast training for the Olympics and all the demands and sacrifices of childhood, mental health, physical body, and ethics that are required to pursue that level of greatness. There are themes of friendship, a thorny motherdaughter relationship, as well as the culture of abuse we’ve heard about in USA Gymnastics. It’s coming out in April, but available for pre-order now. l To advertise: 516-505-0555 x1 • liwomanonline.com/advertise


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Book Corner

by Carol Hoenig

Fiona Davis’s The Lions of Fifth Avenue

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iona Davis’s debut novel, The Dollhouse, was about the Barbizon Hotel for Women, located in Manhattan. I asked Fiona if she had planned that all her subsequent books, which include The Address, The Masterpiece, The Chelsea Girls, and her latest, The Lions of Fifth Avenue, would have a New York City theme. She said, “When The Dollhouse did well, I began keeping an eye out for other possibilities as I walked around New York City, and one day found myself looking up at the Dakota and thinking, ‘Yes, that’s it!’ As a former journalist, structuring a story around a building is reassuring, because I can do lots of research and interviews and let the site’s history guide me. It offers up a framework and points me in the right direction.” Besides being a former journalist, readers may be interested to discover that Fiona began her Photo: Deborah Feingold career as an actress, working on Broadway, off-Broadway and in regional theatre, leading me to ask if those experiences helped her as a writer. “I spent about a decade in New York theater world, and had a blast,” Fiona said. “I read a lot of plays, so dialogue probably came easier to me than if I hadn’t. Also, having been on stage helped when it comes to blocking a scene in a book, figuring out the mechanics of who’s sitting where, when a character should move, so that their physical actions reflect their objectives in the scene. It’s an effective way of communicating to the reader the subtext of a scene.” Fiona’s latest novel, The Lions of Fifth Avenue, hit “When The the New York Times bestseller list and has garnered Dollhouse did well, numerous words of praise, including The GMA Book I began keeping an Club Pick for August, She Reads Best Historical Fiction 2020, and a starred review in Publisher’s Weekly. eye out for other I mentioned that often it is the author’s most recent possibilities as work that is their favorite and asked Fiona if that was the case for her. I walked around New York City, and “It’s so hard to pick, I have to say that I do love them all. Each has been a different journey, and each one day found building and its characters are so distinct from each other. That being said, I’ve been blown away by the myself looking response to Lions from readers around the country. I up at the Dakota think the fact that it’s set in a library, from the point and thinking, ‘Yes, of view of a woman who lives in an apartment deep inside, has struck a chord. All of us who are avid readers that’s it!’ ” want to be Laura Lyons, living in a grand apartment and To advertise: 516-505-0555 x1 • liwomanonline.com/advertise

surrounded by books.” Without a doubt, when writing historical fiction, one must do a lot of research. I asked if she found any surprises in hers that helped inform the story and was intrigued by her answer. “I was very surprised to learn about the apartment inside the library, where the superintendent and his family lived for thirty years. That was my way into the story. I was also surprised to read about the Heterodoxy Club, a regular gathering of women in the 1910s in Greenwich Village, where they debated the issues of the day, including the suffrage movement, birth control, and women’s rights. They were far ahead of their time, and passionate about trying to change the world.” That led me to ask Fiona if she has considered writing a contemporary novel with Manhattan central to the theme. “I wouldn’t rule anything out down the road. I read a lot of contemporary fiction and love the novels of Tana French and Fredrik Backman, for example. What appeals to me in writing historical fiction is that it’s easier to create missed connections when you’re writing about pre-technological times, when people aren’t all carrying around cell phones, for example, and that makes plotting a whole lot easier. But I’m in this for a long haul, and a novel set in contemporary Manhattan would be a fun challenge.” For now, though, Fiona told me that her next book is set at the Frick Collection. “It’s a gem of a building on Fifth Avenue on the Upper East Side,” she said. “It was the home for the Frick family. Henry Clay Frick was the head of the household and a highly successful steel magnate during the Gilded Age. After his wife died, the house was made into a museum, full of his works of art. The novel is coming along nicely and should be out in January 2022.” That is good news. One hopes by then that bookstores will be able to host in-person events. Unfortunately, though, Lions was published in the throes of the pandemic. “My publisher, Dutton, quickly pivoted from an in-person book tour to a virtual one, with amazing results. We were supposed to do the launch event at the New York Public Library, but instead, it was zoomed and there were over 350 viewers from all around the country. I’ve been able to ‘visit’ libraries and bookstores that I might not have been able to reach otherwise and meet so many wonderful readers. The one thing I miss is the signing line when I can spend a few minutes with each attendee, one-on-one. But that will be back, I’m sure.” l december 2020 • Long Island Woman • 21


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Islip. good-samaritan-hospital.org •Long Island Recovery Association.....631-552-LIRA •Bereavement (suicide)....................... 631-687-2960 lirany.org. •Breast Cancer........................................ 516-663-2556 Brookhaven Hospice Newly -Diagonosed, NYU Winthrop Hospital •Narcotics................................................. 631-474-6262 •Bereavement ........................................ 516-484-4993 MichelleDecastro@NYULangone.Org St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson Elias Hicks Historical Home, 1740 Old Jericho Tpke., stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1 •Breast Cancer......................................... 516-374-3190 Jericho. copefoundation.org Hewlett House, 86 Rockaway Rd., Hewlett. •Overeaters Anonymous.............516-484-1545 x196 •Bereavement for Children and Families hewlett-house.org Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org ................................................................... 516-626-1971 •Breast Cancer: Newly Diagnosed Stage 4 •Overeaters Anonymous......................631-981-5850 North Shore Child and Family Guidance Center ................................................................... 516-877-4314 John T. 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School of Social Work, Garden City Community Programs Center of L.I., Ronkonkoma Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. miyjcc.org breast-cancer.adelphi.edu cpclongisland.com •Sibling Bereavement............................ 516-484-4993 •Caregivers............................................... 516-374-3190 •Alzheimer’s Family and Caregivers.. 516-593-2424 Elias Hicks Historical Home Hewlett House, 86 Rockaway Rd., Hewlett. 1740 Old Jericho Tpke., Jericho. copefoundation.org Bristal Assisted at Lynbrook hewlett-house.org •Alzheimer’s Caregivers (JASA)...........516-432-0570 •Teen Bereavement (10-17).................516-250-3598 •Huntington Breast Cancer Action Coalition St. Mathew Church, 35 North Service Rd., Dix Hills. Friedberg JCC, 15 Neil Ct., Oceanside. jasa.org ................................................................... 631-547-1518 helpingkidzkope@gmail.com hbcac.org •Alzheimer’s Caregivers .......................631-629-6950 •Widows and Widowers.............631-462-9800 x129 Alzheimer’s Association, 429 Broadhollow Rd., •Islip Breast Cancer Coalition..............631-968-7424 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. suffolkyjcc.org Melville. alz.org/longisland Southside Hospital, 301 E. Main St, Bay Shore •Widow/Widower (ages 50-60) .516-766-434, x170 •Lewy Body Dementia Resource Center •Live, Love and Laugh Again (breast cancer) ................................................................... 516-218-2026 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org ................................................................. 631-476-2776 750 W. Broadway, Ste. 2R, Long Beach. lbdny.org •Young Widows and Widowers (20-54/55-65) John T. 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•Online Young Women’s (under 40) Breast Cancer Support .................................................... 516-877-4314 Adelphi Univ. School of Social Work, Garden City breast-cancer.adelphi.edu •Ovarian Cancer...................................... 516-374-3190 Hewlett House, 86 Rockaway Rd., Hewlett. hewlett-house.org •Strength for Life (exercise class).......631-675-6513. Various locations. strengthforlifeNY.org •Support for People With Oral, Head and Neck Cancer.......................................................800-377-0928 New Hyde Park, Syosset and Stony Brook. spohnc.org •Thyroid Cancer Survivors Hotline.....877-588-7904 •Touchstone Group: (for women who had breast cancer treatment 18 months ago+).... 516-877-4314 Adelphi Univ. School of Social Work, Garden City breast-cancer.adelphi.edu •Upper GI Cancer...................................631-638-0718 Stony Brook Cancer Center, 2nd floor, Stony Brook •Breast Cancer Hotline..........................800-877-8077

Caregivers •Dementia Caregivers........................... 516-767-6856 Long Island Alzheimer’s & Demntia Center. 1025 Old Country Rd., Westbury. lidementia.org •Caregivers...............................................516-292-1300 Family and Children’s Assoc., 100 E. Old Country Rd., Mineola. familyandchildrens.org •Caregivers...............................................516-742-2050 Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. JASA Nassau County Caregiver Resource Center. miyjcc.org •Caregivers.................................... 516-822-3535 x328 Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. miyjcc.org •JASA Caregivers........................631-724-6300 x1600 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack and Bristol Assisted Living, Northport. bsignore@jasa.org •Caregivers .................................... 516-484-1545 x211 Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org •Caregivers...............................................631-807-6819 Paulette Demato, Southside Hospital, 301 E. Main St, Bay Shore •Caregivers.................................... 631-462-9800 x147 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. suffolkyjcc.org •Caregivers of a Loved One with Early Stage Memory Loss................................. 516-484-1545 x211 Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org •Let’s Do Dinner (spouses of Young Onset Dementia patients)....................... 516-484-1545 x211 Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org

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•Senior Caregivers.................................631-385-0754 NAMI, Pederson Krag, 55 Horizon Dr., Huntington

Divorce & Separation

Support Groups

•Divorce......................................................516-476-1774 Alliance to Restore Integrity in Divorce (ARID)

stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

•Divorced and Separated........... 516-822-3535 x328 Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. miyjcc.org

•Brain Tumor Patients and Families... 631-474-2323 Gardian Brown Foundation, Gurwin Medical Ctr., 50 Hauppauge Rd., Commack. guardianbrain.org

•Divorced and Separated 12-Step ......718-740-1684 Community Church of East Williston •Divorced/Separated.................... 516-484-1545 x211 Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org •Divorced and Separated...........631-462-9800 x139 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. suffolkyjcc.org •Separated/Divorced Counseling ....... 516-599-1181 Peninsula Counseling Center, Lynbrook •Separation/Divorce...............................516-634-4010 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org •Singles...........................................631-462-9800 x139 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. suffolkyjcc.org •Singles..................................................... 516-822-3535 Mid Island Y JCC, Plainview. miyjcc.org

Domestic Violence, Rape & Sexual Abuse •Brighter Tomorrows............................. 631-395-1800 brightertomorrowsli.org •Child Abuse and Maltreatment Referrals ..................................................................800-342-3720 •The Crime Victims Center/Parents for Megan’s Law............................................................631-689-2672 CrimeVictimsCenter.org •My Sistas: Domestic Abuse Victims.. 631-645-6300 comeawaymybelovedInc.org •Family Violence and Child Abuse...... 516-485-5710 F.E.G.S. fegs.org •The Safe Center Long Island 24 Hour Hotline ..................................................................516-542-0404 tscli.org •L.I. Against Domestic Violence..........631-666-8833 liadv.org •The Retreat (Domestic Violence hotline) ..................................................................631-329-2200 •Victims Information Bureau (VIBS) of Suffolk County......................................................631-360-3606

•Brain Tumor Patients and Families .......................................................516-4442-2250 x110 Neurological Surgery PC. 1991 Marcus Ave., Ste. 108, Lake Success. nspc.com. rvanallen@nspc.com

•Diabetes.................................................. 516-520-2500 St. Joseph Hospital, Bethpage stjosephhospital.chsli.org

Mental Health

•Hearing Impaired and Cochlear Implant ...................................................................718-470-7550 Northwell Health Hearing and Speech Center, New Hyde Park •Hearing Support Group.......................516.628-4300 Center for Hearing Health, Mill Neck, centerforhearinghealth.org/events •WomenHeart of Nassau/Queens..... 718-526-0790 Northwell Health, New Hyde Park •WomenHeart of Huntington...............631-499-4160 The Huntington Heart Center, Huntington •Hepatitis C (American Liver Foundation) .................................................................. 631-754-4795 •HIV/AIDS................................................631-691-7080 F.E.G.S. Copiague. fegs.org •Lupus.......................................................516-783-3370 Lupus Alliance of LIQ •Melanoma (Patients/Caregivers)...... 516-352-4227 cmbc1@optonline.net •Multiple Sclerosis (National)..............631-864-8337

•Adhesions (scar tissue pain) ..............631-921-7426 Stony Brook University Hospital, Stony Brook adhesionsfoundation.org

•Muscular Dystrophy............................. 631-474-6300 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

•Alopecia...................................................631-680-0148 naaf.org

•Myasthenia Gravis.................................631-765-2186 Emma S. Clark Memorial Library, Setauket

•Amputee.................................................631-968-3479 Southside Hospital, 301 E. Main St, Bay Shore

•National Federation of the Blind........516-868-8718

•Brain Aneurysm ................................... 516-562-3059 The Brain Aneurysm Center at North Shore Univ. Hospital, Manhasset. nsalant@northwell.edu •Brain Injury............................................ 631-474-6952 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson

•Post-Bariatric..........................................516-62MERCY Mercy Medical Center, Rockville Centre

•Trigeminal Neuralgia/Facial Pain........347-993-2210 1991 Marcus Ave., Ste. 108, Lake Success. nspc.com. mmejia@nspc.com.

•Multiple Sclerosis..................................631-694-4370 Syosset Hospital Conference Room A/B

•Bariatric................................................... 631-474-6876 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

•Stroke/TBI Caregivers..........................516-586-4480 Common Ground Alliance, Plainview commongroundall.com

•Coma/ Traumatic Brain Injury Recovery Assoc. ...................................................................516-377-5333 South Nassau Community Hospital, Oceanside

•Epilepsy/Seizure Disorder.......516-739-7733 x1145 epicli.org

•National Multiple Sclerosis Society...631-864-8337 •Parkinson Disease ...............................631-862-3560 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

•Anxiety and Panic.................................631-226-3900 mhaw.org •Emotions Anonymous......................... 631-474-2090 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org •Families Anonymous (for families and friends of drug abusers)..........................................631-589-3790 Various locations. familiesanonymous.org •Link Age.................................................. 516-746-0350 Family and Children’s Assoc., 100 E. Old Country Rd., Mineola. familyandchildrens.org •Mental Illness Family Support...........516-504-HELP Mental Health Assoc. of Nassau County, Hempstead •Mood Disorder (Peer Support)......... 516-489-2322 Northwell Health (Syosset, Plainview, Valley Stream locations) mdsgli.com •Mood Disorder (Family/Friends).......516-499-6374 Northwell Health (Syosset, Valley Stream, Bayshore locations) mdsgli.com •Mood Disorders....................................631-226-3900 mhaw.org

Miscellaneous •Developmental Disabilities Inst....... 631-360--2900 Smithtown (family support services). ddiny.org •Lawyer Assistance Program (LAP)... 888-408-6222 •NAMI Huntington.................................631-424-4528 •National Infertility Network Exchange (NINE) ...................................................................516-794-5772 •New Mothers......................................... 631-376-4444 Good Samaritan Hospital Medical Ctr., W. Islip good-samaritan-hospital.org •Parenting (Children w/ Cancer) ......................................................... 516-484-1545 x211 Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org •Parents of Young Children, Birth to Five ......................................................... 516-766-4341 x162 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside ParentingResourceNetwork.org •Pregnancy Information and Referral ..................................................................631-853-3033 •Pregnancy and Infant Loss ...................516-562-8422 North Shore Univ. Hospital, Manhasset •Pregnancy Information and Referral...631-853-3033 •Prison Families Anonymous.................631-943-0441 pfa-li.com •Second Generation (Children of Holocaust Survivors)........................................516-484-1545 x196 Sid Jacobson JCC, 300 Forest Dr., East Hills. sjjcc.org

•NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Illness ..................................................................631-385-0754 Suffolk. landsburyhunt@aol.com

•Women’s Issues.................................... 516-746-0350 Hempstead Family treatment and Recovery Assoc., 126 N.Franklin St. familyandchildrens.org

•Parents of Children w/Mental health Diagnosis .................................................................. 516-746-0350 Various Locations. familyandchildrens.org

•Young Widow and Widowers............ 631-495-8541 35 N. Service Rd., Dix Hills. widowednotalone.com

•Postpartum Depression .......................................631-422-2255/855-631-0001 Postpartum Resource Ctr. of NY. postpartumNY. org. •Relatives and Friends of persons with a Mental Illness........................................................631-226-3900 mhaw.org •Suicide Prevention Hotline.................. 800-SUICIDE

Smoking Cessation

•Spinal Cord Injury................................ 516-739-4900 St. Charles Hospital, Albertson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

•Smoking Cessation...............................631-853-2928 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org

•Stroke Club...................516-562-4947/516-562-3111

•Overeaters Anonymous.......................631-473-1320 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org

•NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Illness (Queens/Nassau)....................................516-326-0797 1981 Marcus Ave., Ste. C117. namiqn.org

•Speech Communication......................631-474-6831 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

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Weight Loss •Bariatric and Weight Loss Surgery ... 631-376-3697 Good Samaritan Hospital Medical Center, W. Islip. goodsamaritan.chsli.org

•Stroke Support Groups........................516-629-2013 St. Francis Hospital DeMatteis Center, 101 Northern Blvd., Greenvale

•Epilepsy................................................... 631-474-6489 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

•Smoking Cessation Workshops..........516-629-2013 St. Francis Hospital DeMatteis Center, 101 Northern Blvd., Greenvale

•Stroke and TBI........................... 516-674-7696 x7696 Northwell Health. northwell.edu

•Chron’s and Colitis Foundation......... 516-222-5530 585 Stewart Ave., Ste 304, Garden City ccfa.prg/chapters/longisland

Health Related

•Arthritis ................................................. 631-427-8272 arthritis.org

•Stroke.......................................................631-474-3700 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1

•Nicotine Anonymous...........................877-879-6422 nicotine-anonymous.org

•American Cancer Society.................. 800-ACS-2345 516-921-6016 or 631-436-7070. cancer.org

•Women’s Issues.....................................516-634-4010 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org

All listings for Support Group consideration must be submitted by the first of the month for the following month at: liwomanonline.com/support. Deadline for the January issue is December 1. No information will be accepted by telephone. Listings are published on a space-available basis. To advertise a for-profit support group call 516-505-0555 x1 or liwomanonline.com/advertise If you have a support group listed in this guide that no longer exists or requires updated information, please email us at: support@liwomanonline.com. December 2020 • Long Island Woman • 23


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