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know this is a cliché but really…where did the year go? It just seems incredible to me that it’s the end of December and I’m getting ready to publish our first issue of 2014. The New Year is a great time to thank everyone who has been a part of Little Egypt Family Magazine. We’ve had a truly blessed first year!

Little Egypt Family Magazine Editor/Publisher: Karen Hammond Cell 270-559-5840 Office 270-415-9400

Historians tell us that in order to be prepared for the future we have to reflect on the past. For me, what is especially striking about this past year is the spirit of human kindness we so often see displayed and how people came together in times of crisis. It’s an attribute that, while not restricted to Americans, seems especially prominent in our national psyche. It doesn’t seem to matter what the tragedy or disaster is, time and time again we go out of their way to assist those in need. Compassion and empathy are some of humanity’s finest traits. No matter how much bad news is on our televisions each day, there seems is a story of contribution and sacrifice to balance it. I see this each year as I drop off some cans at the local food pantry: There are literally sacks of food donated to our community kitchens to feed the hungry and less fortunate. I was reminded of it as I wrote about the Angel tree Program last month and heard about the toys donated to local children. 2014 is a new year and we have a whole 365 days ahead of us to show that kindness, empathy and humanity to our neighbors and friends…and to total strangers. Life is not always easy but it’s comforting to know that our community will be there if we ever find ourselves facing an emergency. That’s a hopeful thought to start the New Year with - don’t you think. Everyone at Little Egypt Family Magazine send their best wishes to all our readers for a healthy, happy and prosperous New Year!

Contributing Writers: Katie Englert, Rick Epstein, Jamie Lober, Robin Passante, Harvest Prude, Tammy Samples and Rosemary Steele Calendar of Events: Tell our 80,000⃰ +readers about your event, class, group, church or service! Send an email to or call the office at 270-415-9400. Calendar Editor: Kristin Taylor Art Director: Angie Kimbro Advertising: Want to advertise your business in the magazine? Have a question regarding ad rates, billing or your account? Contact our advertising department at 270-415-9400 or by email

Editor’s Pick From time to time our editor selects a premium product to feature in the magazine. We’ve found a product line that we think is safe and effective for treating the symptoms of nausea, motion sickness, gas and bloating, indigestion, and stomach aches in general. It’s perfect for the winter when stomach upsets and intestinal viruses are more prevalent. Mommy’s Bliss, a provider of safe, effective and natural premiumquality products for families, helps to soothe upset bellies with its newest product: Kids Upset Tummy & Nausea Relief. This all-natural herbal supplement is designed to ease nausea and discomfort often associated with stomach ache, stomach flu and indigestion with a fast-acting formula, meaning that you and your child can get back to having fun in as little as five to 20 minutes. Kids Upset Tummy & Nausea Relief is available in single dose packs that do not need to be refrigerated, making this product ideal for on-the-go use. This product is sugar-free, made with all-natural ingredients, 100% vegetarian and vegan and does not contain any dairy, gluten, soy, alcohol, parabens, artificial flavors, colors or dye. Mommy’s Bliss Kids Upset Tummy & Nausea Relief is available for purchase at select local retailers, as well as online at and We’ll have a sample of Mommy’s Bliss Kids Upset Tummy & Nausea Relief to giveaway on our Facebook page this January. For more information about Mommy’s Bliss products, including their line of gripe water, baby wash and massage cream products please visit

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TA B L E O F C O N T E N T S F E AT U R E S The Hugs Project by: Tammy Samples . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .6

Awakening to Wellness and Healthy Living by: Rosemary Steele . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .10

Resolutions by: Katie Englert . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .16

COMMUNITY NEWS Taste of Chocolate by: Harvest Prude . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 13

KIDS BITS Going to College in High School by: Robin Gericke . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .31



Binkies, Blankie and Bottles by: Gina Roberts-Grey . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .39

H E A LT H Y L I V I N G Ear Infections by: Jamie Lober . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .21

ENDING NOTES Advertiser’s Index . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 41 Snapshots . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 42

CHURCH SPOTLIGHT Neighborhood Bible Fellowship by: Harvest Prude . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .34

M O N E Y M AT T E R S It All Adds Up by: Robin Passante . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .37

FAT H E R H O O D F O D D E R Fending off the Bad Friends by: Rick Epstein . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .18

CALENDAR Calendar . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24

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by: Tammy Samples


iving isn't just for the holiday season and unfortunately, once Christmas is over, many of us forget that there are people and groups who need help all year long. A group that always needs our support is our soldiers serving far from home. The Hugs Project of Western Kentucky, Inc. is a totally volunteer organization that supports the armed forces year-round. Every month of the year they send approximately 200 care packages to soldiers deployed to Afghanistan. During the last four Christmas seasons number of packages sent increases to around about 1,000.

From emails to packages The Hugs Project started in 2004 after an Oklahoma couple, Ray and Karen Stark, decided they wanted to offer encouragement to troops serving in the Middle East. What began as an email and letter writing campaign to thank troops for their service soon became a much bigger project. The troops, who serve in hot desert climates, have very little in the way of personal items as all they have has to be carried, including water for drinking. One of the first things The Hugs Project did was to make cooling bandannas filled with crystals that will soak up two cups of water. The soldiers wear it around their neck and it helps them to cool them down. The bandanas inspired the name for the group as the

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ties provided a "hug" around the neck - a reminder that Americans back home care. The group has sent out over 1.9 million “hugs”, 300,000 “kisses” (helmet coolers), and more than 900 tons of care package items. They are committed to improving the quality of life for our dedicated U.S. Military Troops. The Hugs Project has members in every state and 58 foreign countries. They are constantly growing and now have “group hugs” in many other cities including Paducah, KY.

Not just a care package President Gayron "Papa Ferg" Ferguson has invested six and a half years in The Hugs Project and the western Kentucky group has become the largest chapter in the nation. Ferguson used to say that he could simply describe the group as “volunteers from western Kentucky and southern Illinois who send care packages to men and women serving in Afghanistan.” However his description was recently corrected by a chaplain who went by to thank him. "He stopped me and said, 'Oh no, you don't! You send so much more than just a care package. You send things like, hope, love, encouragement, smiles and joy in every box that you pack and send. While you may not see the smiles on the troop’s faces when they get one of our “hugs” boxes, but those of us who have been there have seen many of them.’

The group is always seeking out the names of soldiers who could use a loving reminder that people back home care. "We get names in a variety of ways,” Ferguson told me. “When we have fundraisers or I speak at a gathering of some sort, people will give me the names of family members who are deployed.” Local military recruiters also work with ‘The Hugs Project’ of Western Kentucky to get the word out to families of soldiers. Ferguson explained that the recruiters let the families know who The Hugs Project is and what they do, and will contact the organization when their son or daughter gets deployed. Ferguson also told me that the group has working relationships with many deployed chaplains. The chaplains help them locate and send care packages to soldiers who have little or no support from home. "We are in contact with several chaplains that watch for men and women who are deployed but get no support from home," Ferguson said. "Some have been deployed six or seven tours and never received a letter. When they find a man or woman in that situation, they give us their information and we make sure they get a package every month until they come home."

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We send so much more than a mere care package,'" Ferguson explained.

The Hugs Project has sent out over 1.9 million “hugs” (cooling bandanas), 300,000 “kisses” (helmet coolers), and more than 900 tons of care package items. They are committed to improving the quality of life for our dedicated U.S. Military Troops. The Hugs Project has members in every state and 58 foreign countries. January2014 • 7

What’s in the box?

How you can help

Care packages that are sent to soldiers deployed overseas contain a variety of items. Ferguson said that his group fills each box with magazines, personal care products, snacks and letters from local adults and kids who want to offer encouragement. They also provide blank cards so the soldiers can write to their families.

Anyone who is interested can get involved and help. The group holds fund raising events throughout the year and they have scheduled packing days to prepare the care packages each month. Ferguson said the group is always in need of financial donations as well as items to send. He pointed out that all donated items need to be travel sizes because a

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What’s in the box? Care packages that are sent to soldiers deployed overseas contain a variety of items. Ferguson said that his group fills each box with magazines, personal care products, snacks and letters from local adults and kids who want to offer encouragement. They also provide blank cards so the soldiers can write to their families.

How you can help Anyone who is interested can get involved and help. The group holds fund raising events throughout the year and they have scheduled packing days to prepare the care packages each month. Ferguson said the group is always in need of financial donations as well as items to send. He pointed out that all donated items need to be travel sizes because a majority of the soldiers will not be on base and will be living out of a small backpack. Donations to The Hugs Project of Western Kentucky are tax deductible as the group is a 501 (C) (3) organization. The cost of mailing the packages is one of the biggest expenses for the group as a single box cost $11.30 for postage. Christmas is now past but Ferguson, his wife Donna, together with the volunteers from western Kentucky and southern Illinois will continue to provide hugs and care from back home. "Our men and women serving in harm's way need to know all year that we have not forgotten they are there and need to know we are willing to show them we support them," Ferguson said. v

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By: Rosemarie Steele


s we welcome the New Year, hopeful resolutions and the promise of fresh beginnings abound. Some of us may have over indulged on holiday treats and are renewing our commitment to exercise. Perhaps you’d like to enrich your life and learn more about holistic health. Whatever the case, 2014 can be your year for positive change and starting a balanced plan that is energizing and fun. January is the perfect time to seek expert advice and get a fresh perspective on awakening to wellness, and a healthy lifestyle.

What is integrative medicine? The terms ‘holistic wellness’ and ‘aromatherapy’ invoke a sense of mental, physical and spiritual peace and harmony.

Nowhere in the region are those qualities as professionally practiced and deeply experienced as at Integrative Medicine of Kentucky (IMK). This is the medical practice of Dr. Christi Bonds-Garrett, MD; a respected family medicine physician, noted author, gifted teacher and inspirational speaker. This local resident is considered one of the foremost leading experts in the integrative medicine/holistic health movement. Integrative Medicine is a healing-oriented approach to healthcare that takes account of the whole person–body, mind and spirit–as well as all aspects of our lifestyles. It incorporates the appropriate use of both conventional and alternative methods of medical care to facilitate the body's innate healing response. Trained in both Eastern and Western approaches to medicine, Dr. Bonds-Garrett has been offering integrative medical care since 1995. She opened her practice in Paducah in January 2008, where she combines natural therapies with appropriate conventional medical treatments in a safe manner. “Western and Eastern medicine are like two wings of a bird,” explained Dr. Bonds-Garrett. “Both wings need to be strong and healthy for the bird to fly.”

Aromatherapy Over the past decade, Dr. Bonds-Garrett has focused on the use of essential oils (also known as aromatherapy) in her medical clinic. “The sense of smell is important to emotional healing since smell connects directly to the limbic system…our emotional brain,” explained Dr. Bonds-Garrett. A sense of tranquility begins the moment you walk through the door of her clinic in Paducah’s LowerTown Arts District. The scent of infused clove and rosemary, blended with soft harmonic sounds reminiscent of nature or sacred temples, permeate the air. A quick visual survey of the surroundings soon reveals that Integrative Medicine of Kentucky is a sophisticated center for healing and a complete holistic health learning resource. It’s the perfect place to begin your 10 • January2014

wellness journey. Help yourself to a cup of organic tea and browse! You’ll find many healing tools including a vast array of Young LivingTM Essential Oils and a wide selection of educational videos, and books for your enjoyment.

Women’s Health Care Dr. Bonds-Garrett specializes in Women’s Health Care, utilizing unique combinations of acupuncture, herbs, oils and other forms of vibrational medicine to help her patients attain an optimal state of internal balance. She has specialized in Women’s Health Care since opening her first private practice in 1994, and has enjoyed great success integrating the use of herbs, acupuncture and other supportive therapies with western hormonal medication when it is needed. In the area of women’s hormonal balance, “one shoe does not fit all,” she explained. Finding the best balance among the many options available is an art at which Dr. BondsGarrett excels. She frequently speaks on Women’s Optimal Health to both the general public as well as medical professionals. She is currently writing a book about natural therapies and women’s health that is expected to be published in Fall 2014.

FREE one-hour talks Dr. Bonds-Garett shares her wealth of knowledge willingly and readily with her patients, her students and audiences across the globe. A highly regarded motivational speaker, she is beginning a series of free one-hour talks in 2014 at her Paducah location. The talks will focus on enhancing emotional health with Young LivingTM Essential Oils. Dr. D. Gary Young, who shares the stage with hundreds of doctors who use some form of natural medicine in their practice, speaks very highly of her presentations. “I have never been more proud to share the stage with someone as I have with Doctor Christi Bonds-Garrett,” said Dr. Young. “She walks her talk, lives it, practices it, and teaches it. We all can learn from her. She makes me proud to be her friend.”

The series entitled Introduction to the use of Essential Oils: New Year, New You! is the perfect opportunity to begin or enhance your holistic health journey. The FREE one-hour sessions will be held in her clinic at 233 N. 7th Street in Paducah, every Thursday from 5-6 PM. The schedule and topics are:

January 9 - Essential Oils for Ideal Weight January 16 - Essential Oils for Stress Reduction January 23 - Essential Oils for Skin Care January 30 - Essential Oils for Optimal Immune System

Vibrational Raindrop Technique: non-invasive sound healing therapy With the publication of her first book, Vibrational Raindrop Technique, in March 2011, Dr. Bonds-Garrett completed the rigorous requirements to become a Certified Acutonics Practitioner (CAP), a non-invasive sound healing therapy. Raindrop Technique is an anointing protocol applying nine different essential oils to the feet and back. The technique was originated by Dr. D. Gary Young, founder of Young LivingTM Essential Oils, in 1991 and is taught throughout the world. “The Vibrational Raindrop Technique (VRT) differs from the classic Raindrop Technique in that it adds specific frequencies of tuning forks to amplify the healing effect,” explains Dr. Bonds-Garrett. “Combining specific frequencies with the healing properties of essential oils, and applying them to ancient Chinese acupuncture points brings together multiple healing modalities, each with its own powerful morphic field.” Teachers and medical professionals from many diverse cultures come to Paducah to participate in her continuing education certification programs in AromaSounds® Raindrop Harmonics. Her expertise draws students from all over the United States and as far away as Malaysia, Singapore, Japan, Hong Kong, Australia, New Zealand and Canada. January2014 • 11

Why Western Kentucky? So, why did one of the world’s foremost leading experts in the integrative medicine/holistic health movement leave a successful private practice in Reno, Nevada and move to Western Kentucky? Interestingly, it was her connection to the fiber arts and quilting world that brought her to Paducah. The doctor was an artist long before she was a healer. Years ago she was attending a workshop in Reno taught by internationally recognized art quilter Caryl Bryer Fallert-Gentry of Bryerpatch Studio in Paducah. Gentry had injured her neck and was experiencing pain. Dr. BondsGarrett told her she could relieve her pain if she had 45 minutes to spare before dinner. Gentry agreed. The doctor/fiber artist performed acupuncture at her clinic; the muscles relaxed and the two became fast friends. But it wasn’t until a year later when the pair encountered each other again that the Doctor agreed to come to Paducah for the annual Quilt Show and take a look at Lower Town. The vibrant arts and culture scene was intoxicating, especially during Paducah’s annual quilting event. By early 2007 she had

bought a home, relocated to Paducah and opened the HeART of Healing Gallery and clinic. Dr. Bonds-Garrett’s art quilt creations and her large collection of ethnic textiles, that include vintage Japanese kimonos, and colorful molas and molitas, are on display at Integrative Medicine of Kentucky.

Part of the VA When not at her medical clinic in Paducah, Dr. BondsGarrett is a Family Medicine physician for the Veterans at the VA Medical Center in Paducah, Kentucky. In May 2012, she was appointed one of a small group of “Clinical Champions” nationwide for the Office of Patient Centered Care and Cultural Transformation of the Department of Veterans Affairs. Caring for the Veterans primarily as a Family Practitioner, she also strives to introduce integrative medical concepts into their excellent care. To join the movement and awakening to wellness and healthy living in 2014 contact Integrative Medicine of

Christi Bonds-Garrett, MA, MD, CAP, CCP - While working as Medical Director for three Native American Clinics near Yosemite, California in the 1990s, Dr. Christi Bonds-Garrett pursued advanced studies in Chinese Herbs, Nutrition, Medical Acupuncture at UCLA, and Homeopathy at the National Center of Homeopathy in Washington DC. She received both her Master's Degree (MA) in Counseling and her Medical Doctor degree (MD) from the University of Nevada in Reno. While living in Nevada, she was a licensed Homeopathic Physician and testified to the Nevada State Board of Medical Examiners on behalf of the merits of Integrative Medicine. More recently, Dr. Bonds-Garrett completed a 2-year fellowship in Integrative Medicine in Tucson, Arizona under Dr. Andrew Weil, author and internationally recognized expert on medicinal plants, alternative medicine, and the reform of medical education. 12 • January2014

by: Harvest Prude


Taste of Chocolate A Benefit for the Women’s Center


ot a sweet tooth? Anyone who loves chocolate will adore the “Taste of Chocolate” fundraising event held each year by The Women’s Center in Carbondale Illinois. The “Taste of Chocolate” is a fundraiser that hosts a live and silent auction and all kinds of delicious food and mouth-watering chocolaty concoctions. What makes the event special is revealed in its name; “Taste of Chocolate.” Every food item will have a bit of chocolate

somewhere in the dish. How the restaurants choose to present that hint of chocolate is up to them, and they always find creative and stunning ways to present their food. Sandra Ursini, Development Specialist, for the Women’s Center, was happy to tell me all about the event. “Taste of Chocolate is one of our biggest fundraisers,” she said. “It’s easy to see why, who doesn’t love chocolate? It’s a really fun January2014 • 13

and social evening: People are always busy eating, talking and bidding. In past years, the event has raised around $30,000. This is the year I would love to see us meet and even exceed that amount!”

Not just for individuals Individuals are not the only ones interested in attending, businesses are eager to bring food or items for the auction. “We have so many businesses represented at the event,” said Ursini. “Great Boars of Fire, Tres Hombres, Fat Patties, Thai Taste, Larry's House of Cakes, One Hot Cookie and Cristaudo's are all regular participants. Each business always brings their own unique spin to the table. Last year, for instance, Thai Taste brought a delicious chicken wing with a mellow chocolate infusion, just to give it a little hint of that taste.” The guests get a kick out of all the creative ways both sweet and savory, chocolate-laced foods are prepared and donated by local restaurants and food vendors.

Don’t miss out on the auction! A lot of people like to attend the auction, which boasts over two hundred items. There is something to interest everyone, whether you’re interested in gift bags or jewelry, art or memorabilia. There are always neutral items like gift certificates, sports memorabilia, and wine and wine baskets. You’ll find a lot of unique, creative things to bid on, There are even things like certificates for hotel stays, and a few Valentine Items since the event is right before Valentine’s Day. “This is a good opportunity for local artists to get their name out there, and there are always a lot of original artisan items in the mix,” said Ursini. “Last year we had a beautiful handmade walking stick. As more men attend the event with their wives, we’ve put together a men’s gift basket, kind of a Boston Legal theme with cigars etc.”

Thank you sponsors The Women’s Center would like to thank the sponsors who have made the event possible. Penn Aluminum, Carbondale Elks Lodge 1243, River Radio, 1187 Creative, and Sandon L.L.C. are the five main sponsors. Ursini explained that they usually have 15 to 20 table sponsors as well, and are always happy to accommodate more.

How to get tickets “Taste of Chocolate” has been running for over 14 years. It is one of The Women’s Center’s biggest fundraising events and one of their most popular. Each year it sells out at around 400 people. The “Taste of Chocolate” event is held on the first Friday of February, so this year it’s on February 7th,

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at the Carbondale Civic Center in Downtown Carbondale. The event takes place from 6 to 10 p.m. Individual tickets are $35 dollars. Tickets are now available at The Women’s Center and at the Furniture King in Carbondale! Ursini urged interested people to buy their tickets now! “We sell out every year so we encourage people to get their tickets early!” This event is only for ages eighteen and up. Bear that in mind as you reserve your seats.

A perfect post-holiday event If you are looking for the perfect event for you and your significant other in between Christmas and Valentine’s Day, get tickets now! Or even if you and your women’s club, book club, housekeeping club, etc., want to get together and attend a great event that will help out your fellow women, this is a must attend event that benefits so many people. It’s a chance to enjoy yourself, eat great food, maybe pick up a few unique, beautiful pieces, and have the opportunity to benefit others while you’re having fun! v

ABOUT THE WOMEN’S CENTER The Women’s Center assists victims of domestic violence and sexual assault. The Center is located at 610 South Thompson Street in Carbondale and provides services for over seven counties. Services are confidential, free of charge and available 24/7 to women, men, adolescents, and children. The Women’s Center has helped over 32,000 survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault during the past 40 years. To learn how to help this non-profit organization, please visit for donation options to help end domestic violence and sexual assault in Southern Illinois.

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by: Katie Englert, LPCC, Compass Counseling


elcome to the New Year! It’s a chance to start fresh, get back on track and make some positive changes. We call them resolutions, but what does that really mean? Webster’s defines resolution as “the action of solving a problem”. Many people make resolutions all year long, but it seems that there are more people planning to take action and make changes in the New Year. This is the time of year when we all tend to get very ambitious and put our thoughts about change into practice. Many people resolve to lose weight, exercise more, stop smoking, spend less, etc. While all of these things are fantastic goals to work towards, it is important to have a plan that will get you some success and help you to follow through on your goal. Let’s face it, many resolutions fail because changing how we behave is difficult. It’s hard to change how you behave, change how you think! Putting a bit more thought into getting ready for your New Year’s resolution can make a huge impact. Here are some tips on how to set yourself up for success on your New Year’s resolution by getting enough sleep, setting specific goals, building support, and rewarding yourself.

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Get the right amount of sleep It sounds simple enough, but it can be difficult for adults to regularly get the suggested 7 - 9 hours of sleep each night. We tend to not sleep enough, or too much! When you don’t get the right amount of sleep you can gain weight and are at an increased risk for diabetes and heart disease. Unhealthy sleep patterns can also increase mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, substance abuse, and cause difficulty with focus and memory. If sleep is a roadblock on your pathway to resolution success consider making the following changes. • • • •

Wake up and go to bed the same time every day (even on the weekends). Turn off the TV an hour before bedtime. Make your bedroom a comfortable place to sleep. Don’t drink caffeine too late in the day.

Be Specific Many New Year’s resolution often too general; remember that specific goals have a higher chance of being met. “I want to start exercising more this year,” is an example. To make your goal more specific think about the five W’s - who, what, when, where, and why. An example of a more specif-

working towards your ultimate goal, it will help motivate you to continue. Remember that your rewards need to be planned and in line with your overall resolution. For example, if you had met your goal of working out at the gym 3 days per week until the end of February, you may buy yourself a new pair of exercise shoes. If you meet your goal for the year, maybe a new wardrobe! These rewards will motivate you to continue your new positive lifestyle changes.

ic goal would be, “join the gym and workout 3 days each week.” This gives you a measurable goal and a target to work towards that you can track. This will help you to experience that feeling of success at each trip to the gym. Every time you review that goal you’ll know that you are making clear progress towards your New Year’s resolution.

Remember, to change how you behave you need to change how you think. Tell your friends and family what you’re doing, make a plan and seek support. Reward yourself for keeping on track and reaching your goals. Take action and plan your New Year Resolution to be the most successful one yet! v

Build support Building a support system and making your resolution public will increase your chances at success. Having accountability can push us to do things we may not do on our own. When we tell others about a goal we are working towards it is likely to increase our motivation to see it through. Resolutions usually do not get tough until February or March. This is the time of the year when it is important to rely on support and the accountability of others to motivate you to reach your final goal. Reach out to your spouse, family, friends, group or counselor. Let them know you are serious about making a change and would appreciate their support and/or accountability. Different resolutions require different amounts of support and accountability. Remember that if you are struggling to find support you can find support through faith-based organizations, counseling, groups in the community and online.

Reward Yourself How will you reward yourself if you keep your New Year’s resolution? What about along the way? Everyone does better with an incentive. If you find a way to reward yourself while January2014 • 17


by: Rick Epstein

Fending Off the Bad Friends


pressed a button on the answering machine, and an imperious voice demanded: “Sally, this is Amanda. Call me right away. It’s important.” Hoping to delete the actual child, I pressed another button. But the machine lacked the power for the job. Amanda is the queen of the fifth-grade. But she is not a benevolent queen. Her throne-room is littered with the bodies of her social inferiors. Sally brings home tales of Amanda’s snippy cruelty. “I have a new puppy,” Matt announces at recess.

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“No one cares about your puppy, Matt,” says Amanda acidly, and her worshippers turn their attention elsewhere as Matt, suddenly smaller than a Chihuahua, wonders when fifth-graders quit caring about puppies. So why do Sally and the rest of the fifth-grade girls want to be around Amanda? Well, she’s cute. She has lots of trendy clothes with the right labels. Her mother takes her to Paris and London. She and her friends get to watch R-rated movies in her attic playroom, and she has a two-story playhouse with electricity and a screened-in porch. A sleep-over there is a glimpse of bachelorette paradise.

Plus, Amanda is cool - with flashes of cold! When Sally spends a lot of time with Amanda, she comes home and makes emotional mince-meat out of her little sister Wendy, putting her down, making her feel stupid. Of course, when she brings Amanda home, Amanda does the mincing up of little Wendy herself. “Dad, can Amanda sleep over?” Sally asked one Friday. “I don’t know,” I said, trying to come up with a reason to keep her away. A flash of inspiration: “What do you think, Wendy?”

Amanda isn’t my kids’ first bad friend. When our oldest daughter Marie was 3, she was discovered by a neighborhood 4-year-old named Heather, who suddenly was coming into our house four or five times a day. She would walk right in without knocking and order a little something to eat or drink. We seldom obeyed her, so she regarded my wife and me as her lazy servants. Heather liked to frighten Marie with scary stories about monsters and rabid possums, and drag her into games she didn’t want to play. Whether they were here or at Heather’s, when I’d check on them, I’d often find Heather berating Marie in classic shrew

“No!” said 6-year-old Wendy. “Amanda calls me a brat and is mean to me.” “Dad!” said Sally, “You’re not going to let her decide, are you?” “Yep,” I said. “Wendy lives here. This house is her sanctuary. We’re not going to let an outsider come in and make her feel bad.” “I don’t want Amanda,” said Wendy. “Get Melissa to sleep over.” Melissa is a kind and polite kid whose parents are plainly in charge of her. Sally said, “That’s not fair!” and invited no one. When Sally wants to sleep over at Amanda’s, we say no. I want to tell her why, but my wife says if we do, Sally will tell Amanda, and Amanda will tell her mom, then diplomatic relations between the two families will be strained, and the next thing you know we’ll start sinking each other’s ships, as we are drawn inexorably into a war that none of us really wants. January2014 • 19

pose, leaning forward, hands on hips. Marie would be looking at the ground, shamefaced. (True fact: Heather’s bicycle was painted black and its model name was “Li’l Dominator.”) I made a new rule: They had to play at our house. That way Marie could consult us when Heather was out of line. One afternoon Marie came out of her room and said, “Heather wants me to be the baby in our game and I don’t want to.” “Just tell her what you think,” I said.

out of fashion as Marie’s playmate. I hope adolescence will send them their separate ways. I hope that happens with Amanda. One day last week I was walking Sally home from school, quizzing her about this and that. “So, who would you say is your best friend?” “Melissa,” she said. “Good,” I said, handing her a dollar bill.

“But every time I want to talk, she’s already talking,” she said. We consulted and then Marie marched back into her room and said, “Heather, you think you’re the boss of everyone, but you’re the boss of no one.” For once Heather had nothing to say. She flounced out the door, mounted the Li’l Dominator and rode home. She stayed away for two hours. In ensuing years Heather’s malignant bossiness was complemented by a flair for malicious gossip. And when Marie would come back from visiting her, she’d bring a surly attitude. Heather goes in and 20 • January2014

Her look said: !?? “For having such good taste in friends,” I explained. Maybe I don’t have the intelligence for subtle manipulation, but I have money and opinions – and I’m not afraid to use them. v Rick can be reached at

by: Jamie Lober


Ear Infections


ome pediatric health issues are more common than others and ear infections definitely make the short list. “I do not think you can have children without experiencing them,” said Dr. Ronald Chebiak, Pediatrician with Heartland Regional Medical Center in Marion, IL. Not all kids get ear pain with ear infections. “A 9 month-old may know he has an ear infection but may not communicate it very well,” explained Chebiak. “Older children sometimes do not localize ear pain well and perceive throat or jaw pain.” Unfortunately, the colder months are the prime time to get ear infections. “For the most part, ear infections are much more common in the winter because they are part of the continuum of upper respiratory infections that we see,” said Dr. Paul Schalch, ENT and head and neck surgeon with the Southern Illinois Healthcare Medical Group.

As your child grows up, his risk of ear infections decreases. “Typically as a child gets older the eustachian tube, (the tube that connects and drains the ear,) enlongates and is able to work more efficiently so they get fewer ear infections,” said Chebiak. “For my own children, if they look as if they have a cold and a low grade fever I do not necessarily do a whole lot initially. However, if they start to look worse or have a bimodal illness, for instance a cold that suddenly takes a turn for the worse and then gets better, and then worse again, I am more likely to think they have a secondary process like an ear infection going on.” If a child comes to the pediatrician with a runny nose, cough, and fever and is fussy or complaining of ear pain, he can expect to be evaluated accordingly. “Whenever you have lots of coughing and congestion, it January2014 • 21

backs up and causes the infection in the ear to get worse,” explained Dr. Rachel Lowdenback, pediatrician with Paducah Pediatrics.

See your doctor right away The doctor’s visit usually goes quickly and should take place sooner rather than later. “The primary reason for seeing a physician is to confirm the diagnosis,” said Schalch. The pediatrician will get vital signs, checks temperature, respirations, weight, listens to the lungs and look in the child’s mouth. “Throat and ear pain can be confused so we want to make sure we are not dealing with a throat infection that is masquerading as an ear infection,” said Chebiak. “The same thing can happen with jaw pain so we also look at the teeth and ear.” Checking the ears out can be a little tricky. “You have to use an otoscope to evaluate the tympanic membrane in the ear,” explained Lowdenback. “If you see fluid behind it, you have to determine if it is infected or present for another reason.” In this country, antibiotic is used universally and ear infections tend to go away in about a week. “60 to 70 percent of children will get better if you do not treat them Chebiak told me. “But you are allowing them to suffer longer if you do not give them antibiotics.”

Viral or bacterial? Every pediatrician has his own philosophy on management and some go as far as to say that it can be controversial. “The

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most recent guidelines, published by the American Academy of Otolaryngology and Surgery, say that ear infections are viral in nature,” stated Schalch. “Viral infections are not to be treated by antibiotics because they do not respond to them. For the first couple of days, they recommend giving what we call ‘supportive treatment’ which is some medicine to reduce the inflammation and to help with pain such as Motrin or Ibuprofen.” The Academy feels that giving antibiotics initially does not make much of a difference in what will happen with the infection and if anything contributes to some of the problems with resistance. “When you have an infection going on longer than a three-day period of time that is accompanied by some worsening symptoms, and anything that might make you think the infection has turned bacterial in nature, antibiotics are indicated,” said Schalch.

Changes in management There have been several changes regarding managing ear infections over the years. “Antibiotic resistance is a nagging problem and the more antibiotics a kid takes, the more resistance you will have,” said Chebiak. The second issue has been positive which is the existence of vaccines that can reduce the risk of having more pathological-type organisms causing ear infections, specifically the pneumococcal conjugate vaccine, called PREVNAR. “Most children get that vac-

cine because it is part of the 2, 4 and 6 month schedule,” explained Chebiak. While it is not marketed for ear infections, it is marketed to prevent meningitis, pneumonia and sepsis. “When we tell parents that we are trying to prevent horrible meningitis or pneumonia, they are on board and the fact that we get other benefits as well is wonderful,” said Chebiak. Some pediatricians more readily turn to antibiotics than others. “We do a 10 day course of high dose antibiotics and it takes care of ear infections most of the time,” said Lowdenback. Sometimes ear infections are harder to treat than others. “Referral to a specialist usually comes after multiple severe infections or after multiple infections seem to be coming back over and over,” said Schalch. At that point, the patient could potentially become a candidate to have ear tubes paced in the ear which would help with managing the infection.

Risk Factors & Prevention Every family wants to know how to prevent ear infections but the truth is that they can happen to anybody and all you can do is try your best to reduce your risk. Some risk factors can be controlled such as sending your child to daycare where you are exposed to more germs, or visiting a relative that smokes. There is a link between smoking and ear infections so smoking cessation can be extremely beneficial. “A lot of people try to smoke out of the house with kids but even if you are a smoker, you still carry smoke particles on your clothes and hair and those are risk factors,” said Lowdenback. “Occasionally we have some kids who have eustachian tube dysfunction and if it is swollen you can have recurrent issues with ear infections.” The good news is that the medical community has their attention on ear infections and is trying to come up with new ideas for prevention and management. “They came out with new guidelines in 2013 for defining ear infections,” explained Lowdenback. “It is a middle ear infection with fever, pain and pus-filled fluid. You do not have to have all three symptoms and they will vary based on the age of the child.” While people of any age can get ear infections, it is a relief for parents to know that kids get fewer ear infections as they get older. Early evaluation and treatment is a great way to overcome this common pediatric health obstacle. v January2014 • 23

EVENTS CALENDAR We make every effort to ensure accuracy of information in this calendar; however, changes and cancellations may have occurred since publication. We recommend that you verify all information. Items may be submitted by e-mailing


618.993.5935 or email for more information. JANUARY 9 JANUARY 10 Affordable Healthcare Act Help at 9:30 a.m. Located at 206 South Market Street at Marion Carnegie Library. Representatives from Bi County Health will be available to help with the Affordable Healthcare Act. Free and open to the public.

JANUARY 1 JANUARY 2 JANUARY 3 First Friday Story Time: Polar Bears and Penguins in the Beck Family Center at Cedarhurst, 10 a.m. Sit under the indoor tree and hear fun stories about animals who are at home in the cold. Polar Bear, Polar Bear by Eric Carle and other fun tales will be read. Free admission. No registration required. For more information call 618.242.1236. Gaia House Interfaith Center, Open mic/comedy night in Downtown Carbondale from 7:00 pm-10:00 p.m. No cover charge. All ages. JANUARY 4 Longbranch Coffee House, Salsa Night, Downtown Carbondale from 8:00 pm-12:00 a.m. Free admission. JANUARY 5 JANUARY 6 JANUARY 7 JANUARY 8 Cedarhurst Book Club will discuss Inferno by Dan Brown in the Schweinfurth House at 12 noon. Bring a sack lunch and dive into this book set in the heart of Italy. Free admission. No registration required. For more information call 618.242.1236. Anime night at Marion Carnegie Library at 6 p.m. Located at 206 South Market Street. Open to adults 18+ who are interested in anime. Call

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JANUARY 11 Members Preview Reception at Cedarhurst, 6:30 p.m. Cedarhurst members are invited to be the first to view new gallery exhibitions during this evening that features the 40th Annual Scholastic Art Awards and Creativity Redefined, an open community exhibition. Cedarhurst provides complementary hors d'oeuvres and cash bar is available during the reception. Non members may attend for $5. For more information call 618.242.1236. Classic Kids' Matinee: "E.T. The Extra Terrestrial" at the Granada. Doors open at 1:30 p.m. and movie starts at 2:00. Free admission! Children must be accompanied by an adult. Drawing for a free kids' birthday party at Froggeez before the movie! For more information call 618.740.0707. ENTICE Scats, Tracks and Habitats Workshop. Join us in this exploration of animal signs and how they relate to habitats through practicing our skills on an outdoor field trip. Although targeted to teachers of grades prekindergarten through six, other educators are welcome to register and attend the workshop but may need to adapt the materials as appropriate. Located at the Forest Preserve District of Du Page County. 1717 31st Street, Oak Brook, IL 60523. Call Valerie Keener 217.524.4126 for more information. Come listen to Dan Barron (folk/rock) at the Blue Sky Vineyard in Shawnee Hills, Illinois from 2:00-5:00 p.m. JANUARY 12 13th Annual Bridal Expo at Centralia Recreation Complex, 115 E. Second, Centralia, 12 noon - 3 p.m. Annual bridal expo featuring a bridal show, vendor booths, and exhibitors. For more information call 618.532.3204.


toward families of all ages. Free admission. For more information call 618.242.1236.

JANUARY 14 JANUARY 15 JANUARY 16 JANUARY 17 Grown ups’ Night Out at the Science Center in Carbondale. $15 for members, $20 for non-members. All ages welcome, but must be pottytrained! Drop your kids off for a night of fun. This month’s movie will be Treasure Planet, rated PG. 5:30-8:30. Call 529.5431 or email to reserve your spot. Marion Chamber of Commerce 93rd Annual Dinner & Awards Fundraising Event. 5:30PM Social Hour and 7:00PM Dinner & Awards. Located at The Pavilion of the City of Marion. 1602 Sioux Drive. $50 Per Person, To Order Tickets or Reserve Your Table. Call 618.997.6311 or email JANUARY 18

A Soundtrack for Wartime: Songs of the Civil War at the Jefferson County Historical Village, 2 p.m. Hear examples of Civil War songs and explore their specific appeal to Americans during the Civil War and beyond. Free event. For more information call 618.246.0033. Come listen to Dom Weir (rock) at the Blue Sky Vineyard in Shawnee Hills, Illinois from 2:00-5:00 p.m. JANUARY 26, 2014 Art Chat: Creativity Redefined at Cedarhurst, 3 p.m. Cedarhurst invites exhibiting artists to offer commentary about the experience they had working with the 12'x12' clayboard canvas as well as their creative concepts. Free admission. Coffee and desert will be served. For more information call 618.242.1236. JANUARY 27 Despicable Me 2 at 5:30 p.m. at 206 South Market Street at Marion Carnegie Library. Gru is recruited by the Anti-Villain League to help deal with a powerful new super criminal. Free and open to the public. Rated PG

JANUARY 19 JANUARY 28 JANUARY 20 Special Lego Club on 2:00 p.m. at Marion Carnegie Library. Come and enjoy making your very own Lego creation. Prizes will be awarded. Open to ages 0-12.


JANUARY 21 JANUARY 22 JANUARY 23 Big Muddy Shorts. Readings of short works by SIU student playwrights located at Moe Theater, 1100 Lincoln Drive in Carbondale from 7:30pm 10:00pm. Contact Vincent Rhomber for more information at JANUARY 24 JANUARY 25 Hospice of Southern Illinois presents the 4th Annual Red Carpet Gala “The Way We Were” at the pavilion of the City of Marion. Enjoy the community leaders as they put on the ritz of some very famous personalities. Pre-Show at 4:45, Dinner at 6:00, Celebrity Performances at 7:00 and after party to follow. Table of 8 for $500.00, Table of 7 for $750.00 or individual tickets are $75.00. Call Jennifer at 618.997.3030 or reservations available at Cedarhurst Family Day: Winter Wonderland Landscapes in the Shrode Art Center, 3 p.m. Beat those winter blues and learn how to make a wonderful winter wonderland of your very own! This make and take art program does not require registration and is geared January2014 • 25

EVENTS CALENDAR JANUARY 30 JANUARY 31 An Evening of Jazz Featuring the Victor Goines Quartet at Cedarhurst, 7 p.m. Victor Goines, jazz clarinetist, saxophonist and educator, is the Director of Jazz Studies and Professor of Music at Northwestern University School of Music. This concert will feature Goines' quartet and is open to the public. Tickets are $35 per person, or $30 for members of Cedarhurst. Hors d'oeuvres and a cash beer/wine bar will be available. For more information call 618.242.1236.

Multi-day Events/Activities First Friday Arts in Cape Girardeau. Take in some culture at the listed locations on the first Friday of every month from 5pm-9pm as they feature talented artisans. Take advantage of the shuttle bus available to travel from gallery to gallery. This event is Free. For more information call the Cape Girardeau Convention and Visitors Bureau at 573.334.6702 or 1.800.777.0068. The Annual Regional High School Student Art Show features the art work of students from over ten different area high schools with the emphasis on variety and creativity. Starting January 3, 2014 through February 28, 2014,Tuesday - Saturday, 10 am - 4 pm at the Sikeston

Depot Museum,116 West Malone Avenue. This event is Free. For more information call 573.481.9967. If you’d like to volunteer with adults learning to read, write, do basic math, or speak English as a Second Language, call the John A. Logan College Literacy Program at 985.2828 ext. 8414 and ask for Colleen Springer. You can also email Mandatory training sessions: January 18th and 25th, 2014 at John A. Logan College. The 40th Scholastic Art Awards at Cedarhurst. January 12, 2014February 9, 2014. Now in its 40th year, the show is an important aesthetic and educational program that serves as a beacon representing Cedarhurst's support for local and regional schools and their endeavors to teach art to young people. For more information call 618.242.1236. Creativity Redefined at Cedarhurst. January 12, 2014-February 9, 2014. This exhibition highlights the creative talents of regional artists and celebrates our unique diversity and perspective. This is an inclusive effort to build a creatively conscious community. Free gallery admission. For more information call 618.242.1236. Guided trail rides. Giant City State Park. Departs 9 AM, 10:30 AM, 12:30 PM, 2 PM, 3:30 PM, 5 PM. Hour ride - $45/person; half-hour ride - $30/person. For more info or to register, contact 618-529-4110 or

Ongoing Events & Notices Lego Club. Marion Carnegie Library, Children’s Department. Monthly on the FIRST AND THIRD MONDAY, 6 – 7:30 pm. Ages 6-12. Call 618993-5935 for more information. Teen Crafts at Marion Carnegie Library, THURSDAYS from 4-7:30 p.m. Fun crafts for teens ages 12-19. Call 618-993-5935 for more information.

Grown ups’ Night Out at the Science Center in Carbondale. $15 for members, $20 for non-members. All ages welcome, but must be potty-trained! Drop your kids off for a night of fun. This is the THIRD FRIDAY OF EACH MONTH from 5:30-8:30 p.m. Call 529.5431 or email si.sciencecente to reserve your spot Free Concert and Dance with Donnie Rush Falknor “The Dinner Singer” performing hits of the 50’s and 60’s. EVERY WEDNESDAY from 5:00-7:00 PM, at the American Legion Hall in Marion. Call 618.922.5540 for more information.

Free Concert and Dance with Donnie Rush Falknor “The Dinner Singer” performing hits of the 50’s and 60’s. EVERY WEDNESDAY from 5:00-7:00 PM, at the American Legion Hall in Marion. Call 618.922.5540 for more information. Lego Club. Marion Carnegie Library, Children’s Department. MONTHLY ON THE FIRST MONDAY, 6 – 7:30 PM. Ages 6-12. Call (618) 993-5935. Brown Bag and Book Discussion Group. Carbondale Public Library, 405 W. Main St., CARBONDALE. WEEKLY ON MONDAYS, NOON – 1 PM.

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Just bring a lunch and one book to discuss. Call Mary Stoner at 618-4570354 ext. 314. Senior Citizens Program. Carbondale Public Library, 405 W. Main St. FIRST TUESDAY OF EACH MONTH, 9:30 – 10:30 AM. Doughnuts and coffee are provided. Each month has a different theme. Contact Mary Stoner at 618-457-0354. Games Group. Marion Carnegie Library, Teen Department. WEEKLY ON SATURDAYS FROM 1-4:30 pm. Games include cheese, checkers, and more. Open to teens of all skill levels. Call (618) 993-5935. National Alliance on Mental Illness educational and sharing-and-caring meetings. Our Savior Lutheran Church, 700 S. Illinois Ave., Carbondale. FIRST TUESDAY OF EVERY MONTH. 7 PM. Contact 800346-4572, 217-522-1403, or Story Hour. Marion Carnegie Library, Event Center. WEEKLY ON WEDNESDAY, 10 -11 AM. Stories, snacks and activities for pre-school age children. Call 618-993-5935. Shawnee Quilters Guild Work Days. Marion Carnegie Library. FIRST THURSDAYS OF EACH MONTH. 9 AM. Bring lunch. $20 for annual dues. Contact Gail Braeutigam at 618-684-3950. Shawnee Quilters Monthly Meetings. First Baptist Church, 406 S. Division St., Carterville. THIRD THURSDAYS OF EACH MONTH. Pre-program begins at 10 AM; refreshments at noon; meeting and program at 12:30 PM. $20 annual dues. Contact Gail Braeutigam at 618-684-3950. Story Hour. Marion Carnegie Library, Event Center. WEEKLY ON WEDNESDAY, 10 -11 AM. Stories, snacks and activities for pre-school age children. Call (618) 993-5935. Open Computer Help. Carbondale Public Library, 405 W. Main St., Carbondale. 9 AM – 2 PM. Open to public. Get help with technology issues, including how to use your computer, cell phone or tablet; see how to use your email or Facebook; assistance with downloading ebooks and audiobooks; practice on our computers or bring your own. Contact Shawnee Quilters Guild Work Days. Jackson Count Extension Center, Murphysboro. FIRST FRIDAYS OF EACH MONTH SEPTEMBER – MAY. 10 AM Bring lunch. $20 for annual dues. Contact Gail Braeutigam at 618684-3950. Video Game Hour. Carbondale Public Library, 405 W. Main St., Carbondale. 3:30-4:30 PM FRIDAYS. Free. For youth 5th grade and older. Includes video games and popcorn. Contact 618-457-0354. Family Swim. LIFE Center pool, 2500 W Sunset Drive, Carbondale. WEEKLY ON FRIDAY EVENINGS. $5 per family up to four people; additional people $1 each. An adult family member must accompany youth; siblings must be at least 21 to qualify as an adult. Call 618-549-4222.

Free monthly electronic/computer recycling. America’s Central Port (Formerly Commissary Parking Lot), Seventh and A streets, Granite City. 10 AM SECOND SATURDAY OF EACH MONTH FEBRUARY – NOVEMBER. Call 314-382-1650 or Teen Games. Marion Carnegie Library, McCoskey Room. WEEKLY ON SATURDAY, 1 – 4:30 PM. Yu-Gi-Oh cards, Super Smash Brothers Brawl, and other games. Ages 12-19. Call 618-993-5935. Teen Games. Marion Carnegie Library, McCoskey Room. WEEKLY ON SATURDAY, 1 – 4:30 PM. Yu-Gi-Oh cards, Super Smash Brothers Brawl, and other games. Ages 12-19. Call (618) 993-5935. Zumba & Zumba Toning Classes-Tishaunda Fitness Contact 618-6384180 for more information or $5 per class or $30 for a VIP pass – unlimited Zumba for a month First Time Free! At 718 Market Square Street in Metropolis. SATURDAYS 10:30-12 and MONDAYS AND THURSDAYS at 6-7:30 p.m.


The Science Center of Southern Illinois, University Mall, 1237 E. Main., Sp 1048, Carbondale. Admission $4/person; infants 2 and younger free. Senior citizen and military discounts available. Annual family memberships ($65) includes admission for up to eight family members, various discounts, free admission to more than 300 museums in the Association of Science and Technology Centers. Closed Monday-Tuesday; 11 AM – 5 PM WednesdayThursday; 11 AM – 6PM Friday-Saturday; Noon – 5 PM Sunday. Contact, 618-529-5431 or Sylvan Learning Center, 402 E. Plaza Drive, #3, Carterville. 618-9854519.


Jefferson County Historical Village and Museum, 1411 North 27th St., Mt. Vernon. 10 AM – 4 PM SATURDAYS and 1 – 4 PM SUNDAYS. Free. Authentic log cabins and museum containing Jefferson County memorabilia. Call 618-246-0033. Union County Museum, 117 S. Appleknocker St., Cobden. 1-5 PM SATURDAYS and SUNDAYS. Free. Operated by the Union County Historical & Genealogy Society. Call 618-893-2865. JANUARY 12, 2014 - FEBRUARY 9, 2014 - Beck Family Center Closed for Renovations. The Beck Family Center is a resource enjoyed by thousands of families each year. Because of its popularity, regular maintenance is needed to keep the center in top condition. Please excuse us while we take this short exhibition period to care for the family center. Gallery Exhibition: Contrasting Landscapes. Southern Illinois Art & Artisans Center, 14967 Gun Creek Trail, Whittington. THROUGH FEB. 14. January2014 • 27


Christ Community Church 473 W. Harrison Road, Murphysboro – 618-684-359 • SUNDAYS – 10 AM Worship

Exhibit will feature colorful ceramic sculptures by Annelies Heijnen, acrylic paintings by Karen Diss-Braden, wood turnings by Michael Kuehl and blown glass by Patrick Frost and Matthew Urban. Call 618-629-2220.

Community Christian Church

Farmers’ Markets

1150 Country Club Road, Metropolis – 618-524-8694 • SUNDAYS – 9 AM Sunday School; 10 AM Worship; 6 PM Worship WEDNESDAYS – 6 PM Bible Study

Vienna Farmers’ Market. Vienna City Park. OPEN WEDNESDAYS AND SATURDAYS 7 AM – noon.

Cornerstone Church

Religious Services & Meetings:

Aldersgate United Methodist Church 1201 N. Fair St., Marion -618-997-6065 • SUNDAYS – 8:30 AM Blended Worship Service; 9:30 AM Sunday School for all ages; 10:30 AM Contemporary Worship Service. Nursery is provided during both worship services for kids up to 3 years old. WEDNESDAYS – ACTION (All Church Things in One Night) begins with a meal at 5:45 PM and is followed by Adult Small Group Studies; Friendship Club (through 3rd Grade); CLICK (4th and 5th Grades); Sixth Grade Connection; and Wednesday Night Life (7th-12th Grades).

9835 Old Bainbridge, Marion – 618-997-7884 • SATURDAYS – 5 PM Worship SUNDAYS – 9 AM and 10:45 AM Worship

Cornerstone Church 17466 Route 37, Johnston City - 618-997-7884 • SUNDAYS – 10 AM Worship

Grace United Methodist Church 220 N. Tower Road, Carbondale – 618-457-8785 • SUNDAYS – 9 AM Contemporary Worship; 10:10 AM Sunday School; 11:15 AM Traditional Worship. Nursery available at both services and Sunday school.

Hope Church 7373 Old Highway 13, Carbondale – 618-521-6271 SUNDAYS – 9:30 AM Adult Bible Study; 9:30 AM Children’s Sunday School; 10:30 AM Worship Service

Elm Street Southern Baptist Church 1907 Elm St., Murphysboro – 618-687-1043 • SUNDAYS – 9:15 AM Sunday School; 10:30 AM Service; 6 PM Service WEDNESDAYS – 7 PM Service

First Baptist Church of Marion 401 West Union St., Marion – 618-997-9386 • SUNDAYS – 10 AM Worship; 6 PM Worship WEDNESDAYS – 6 PM Worship

First Baptist Church 401 N. 15th St., Murphysboro – 618-687-1769 • SUNDAYS – 8:15 AM Fellowship with coffee and doughnuts; 9AM Life Groups/Sunday School; 10 AM Worship WEDNESDAYS – 5 PM Dinner; 6 PM Youth Group; 6 PM Adult Bible Study

First Christian Church 306 W. Monroe St., Carbondale – 618-457-6817 • SUNDAYS – 10:30 AM Worship with Children’s Church and Nursery provided

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First Church of God

Neighborhood Bible Fellowship

1409 Broeking Rd., Marion -618-993-6369 • SUNDAYS – 9:00 AM Sunday School; 10 AM Worship; 6PM Enrichment Hour WEDNESDAY – 6:30 Worship

1218 W. Freeman St., Carbondalee – 618-549-7649 SUNDAYS – 10 AM Breaking of Bread Service; 11 AM Teaching Service/Children's Sunday School

First Presbyterian Church

New Hope Church of God

310 S. University Ave., Carbondale – 618-549-2148 • SUNDAYS – 9:30 AM Worship; 10:30 AM Fellowship; 10:45-11:45 AM Adult & Children’s Christian Enrichment

2201 W. Main St., Marion – 618-993-3363 • www.newhopechurchmarion.or SUNDAYS – 9:30 AM Sunday School; 10:30 AM Worship and children are dismissed for Children’s Church WEDNESDAYS – 6 PM Fellowship with coffee, drinks and desserts: 6:30-7:15 PM Whiz Kidz (ages 4-11); 6:30-7:15 PM Teen Bible Study (ages 12-19); 6:30-7:15 PM Adult Bible Study; 7:20-8 PM Adult Choir Practice

First United 214 W Main St., Carbondale – 618-457-2416 • SUNDAYS – Early Service: 8:15-9:15 AM Early Service; 9:30-10:30 AM Sunday School for all ages; 10:45-11:45 AM Late Service with Children's Church (4 years old - Grade 6)

Good Shepherd Lutheran Church 1801 Westminster Drive, Marion – 618-993-3649 • SUNDAYS - 7:45 AM service; 10:15 AM service with staffed nursery available for children through age 3

Ohio Valley Baptist Church 714 Filmore St., Metropolis – 618-638-0901 • SUNDAYS – 10 AM SUNDAY SCHOOL; 11 AM Worship; 6 PM Worship WEDNESDAYS – 7 PM Worship

St. Joseph Catholic Church

670 Airport Road, Metropolis – 618-524-2256 • SUNDAYS – 9:30 AM Christian Education; 10:30 AM Morning Worship; 5:15 PM Corporate Prayer; 6 PM Evening Worship WEDNESDAYS – 6:15 PM Corporate Prayer; 7 PM Worship

600 N. Russell St., Marion - 618-993-3194 SATURDAYS – 5 PM Mass SUNDAYS – 8 AM Mass; 11 AM Mass MONDAYS-THURSDAYS – 7:45 AM Morning Prayer; 8 AM Mass FRIDAYS – 11:45 PM Midday Prayer; 12:10 PM Mass

Marion Church of Christ

St. Rose of Lima Catholic Church

1705 E DeYoung St., Marion - 618-993-5534 • SUNDAYS – 9:30 AM Bible study; 10:30 AM Worship; 6 PM Worship WEDNESDAYS – 7 PM Bible study

315 E. Third St., Metropolis – 618-524-9006 • SUNDAYS – 8:30 AM Mass MONDAY-FRIDAY 8 AM Mass

Lighthouse Assembly of God

University Baptist Church Marion First United Methodist Church 208 W. Main St., Marion - 618-993-5421 • SUNDAYS – 8:30 AM Informal Worship; 9 AM Coffee Spot Fellowship; 9:30 AM Sunday School; 10:30 AM Traditional Worship

700 S Oakland Ave., Carbondale – 618-457-0323 • SUNDAYS – 9 AM Coffee Fellowship and Libraryl 9:30 AM Classes; 10:45 AM Worship WEDNESDAYS – 9:30 AM Morning Bible Study; 7 AM Mid-Week Service

Mt. Horeb Church 906 Pearl St., Metropolis • 618-524-3018 • SUNDAYS – 9AM Sunday School; 10 AM Worship; 10 AM Children’s Church (1-9 years old); 5:30 PM Mt. HYPE (Youth Group for 6-12th grades) WEDNESDAYS – 5:30 PM Fellowship Meal; 6:30 Bible Study THURSDAYS – 9 AM Zumba (Free)

The View Church 1201 S. Giant City Road, Carbondale – 618-351-0841 • SUNDAYS – 10:20 AM Contemporary Worship Service

Vine Church 1445 S. Wall St., Carbondale – 618-351-8463 • SUNDAYS – 9 AM, 11 AM, 5:30 PM Worship Services

Murphysboro United Methodist Church 1500 Pine St., Murphysboro – 618-687-2317 • SUNDAYS – 9 AM Service with children dismissed about half way through for Children’s Church; 10:10 AM Sunday School for all ages; Communion Sunday is the FIRST SUNDAY OF EVERY MONTH

Walnut Street Baptist Church 218 W. Walnut St., Carbondale – 618-457-0479 • SUNDAYS – 9 AM Sunday School; 10:15 AM Morning Worship; 12:30 January2014 • 29


Good Samaritan Food Pantry, 700 S. Oakland, Carbondale – 618-4570323. Open 9-11 AM MONDAYS AND FRIDAYS.

PM Korean Worship; 6 PM Evening Worship WEDNESDAYS – 5:45 PM Dinner by Reservation; 6:30 PM Adult Bible Study; 6:30 PM Youth Bible Study; 6:30 PM Children in Action (Grades 1-6); 6:30 PM Mission Friends (4-5 year olds); 7:15 PM Choir Rehearsal

Grace Baptist Church, 202 E. Oak, West Frankfort – 618-932-2140. Open 9-11 AM THIRD SATURDAY OF EACH MONTH.

Service Organizations Cambria Food Pantry, 302 S. Richart, Cambria – 618-985-6409. Open 8 AM-noon THIRD TUESDAY OF EACH MONTH. Community United Pantry, 130 West Illinois, Carterville – 618-9853171. Open 9 AM-noon TUESDAYS AND FRIDAYS. Friends of Giant City is a not-for-profit group that supports Giant City State Park and is funded by membership donations. Annual dues begin at $5for students and seniors and go up to $100 for organizations. Membership includes newsletters, volunteer activities, annual meeting and programs, education programs. Contact friendsofgiantcity@ or

Hospice of Southern Illinois Inc. – 305 S. Illinois St., Belleville. 618-2351703; 7325 Marine Road, Edwardsville. 618-659-7900; 204 Halfway Road, Marion. 618-997-3030. Care for patients and families facing terminal illnesses includes specialized pain and symptom management, regularly scheduled visits by Hospice team, on-call support available 24 hours a day, emotional and spiritual support, assistance with financial questions, and volunteer services. Keep Carbondale Beautiful’s Adopt-A-Spot Program, Carbondale. Individuals or groups commit to clean litter from their designated area at least once a month while Keep Carbondale Beautiful provides trash bags, annual Certificate of Appreciation, and recognition sign posted in area. Contact Valerie Rasp at or 618-525-5525. Legal Self-Help Center, Carbondale Public Library, 405 W. Main St., Carbondale. Hours 9 AM – 9 PM Monday-Thursday; 9 AM – 6 PM FridaySaturday; 1-6 PM Sunday. Free center focuses on simple divorces, child support/child visitation, domestic violence orders of protection, landlord/tenant matters, links to free legal resources. Charges associated with printing some documents. Contact Marion Ministerial Alliance, 103 East Calvert, Marion – 618-993-8419. Open 8:30-11:30 AM TUESDAYS. Murphysboro Food Pantry, 906 N. 14th St., Murphysboro – 618-6848258 Salvation Army, 906 Tower Square, Marion – 800-993-5854. Open 9-11 AM TUESDAYS-THURSDAYS. Shepherd’s Closet, 704 West Boyton, Marion – 618-993-8694 Southern Illinois BirthNetwork – 618-559-5948. Promotes motherfriendly maternity care throughout Southern Illinois and provides a great community for moms to connect and support each other throughout pregnancy, birth, postpartum, and motherhood. Holds regular meetings, playdates, film screenings, and special events throughout the year. Contact or Amanda Wingerter at The Women’s Center, 610 South Thompson St., Carbondale – 800-3342094. Helps sexual assault and domestic violence survivors by providing a 24-hour crisis hotline intervention (618-529-2324), emergency shelter, food, supplies and transportation; individual and group support, counseling information, referrals, education; case management, legal, medical, and personal advocacy. All services are free confidential. v

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By: Robin Gericke


Going to College in High School Dual Enrollment FAQ Editor’s Notes: I must confess I am a big fan of duel enrollment. My daughter didn’t especially like high school and was not particularly challenged by some of her classes. She was in danger of losing interest in her education and I realized that could negatively impact her future. Like our author, she chose dual enrollment as a way to maximize her credits for college and get through high school a little faster. It’s not for everyone, but a motivated student will find this an excellent option.


have just finished my first semester of college classes, and I am relieved and proud of myself for making it through the past three months. Why is it such a big

deal? Completing your first semester of college is especially meaningful when you are a sixteen-year-old high school student.

What? Why would you go to college now? First, let me tell you a little bit about my schooling background. I attended public school until 4th grade, and then began homeschooling. When I became a junior, my parents suggested I attend West Kentucky Technical and Community College (WKCTC) for dual enrollment. In August, I started taking two courses, Spanish 101 and English 105, at WKCTC. I continued math, science, and health at home. The idea of dual enrollment appealed to me because I would be earning both high school and college January2014 • 31

COLLEGE TIPS: • Pack snacks – many classes are over normal lunch time • Take a good back pack – colleges don’t have lockers • Get a planner – keep your calendar up to date with events and due dates, and make daily to-do lists: This helps you complete what needs to be done on time • Look at flyers around campus – there’s lot of FREE fun events offered around campus… and many of them have free food too!

credit. It seemed repetitive to receive high school credit and then do the same work again two years later for college credit. I also knew that taking college courses in high school would make the transition from graduation to college easier, especially since the colleges I am looking at are far away from home. Because I will have already experienced ‘college,’ it won’t be quite such a shock.

Were you nervous? Although I was excited, I also had fears about attending college for the first time, especially as a high school student. Before the first day, I wondered, “What will my classmates be like? Will I be lonely? What if the homework overwhelms me? Will I make good grades?” I knew that going to college would be like nothing I had ever experienced before. Looking back, there was no reason for me to be so nervous. My classmates weren’t mean, I was not lonely, the homework was doable (but I can’t say I wasn’t overwhelmed at times), and my grades were just as good as the ones I made in high school. I am now looking forward to next semester.

How did you manage all the homework? College has a lot of homework, especially for someone who is homeschooled. The experience of going to class all day and then coming home and doing more work was new to me, and I can’t say I loved it. However, the tip I would give any high school student doing dual enrollment is to use your time wisely! Plan homework time and breaks so that you don’t surf the internet after getting home and then stay up late doing homework. Enjoying free time feels even better when you know that you earned it with your hard work. Also, when your teacher passes out a class syllabus Day One, keep it! Refer to it often so you know what is coming up in class.

Was it weird being a high school student on a college campus? Honestly, I don’t think anyone noticed I was a high school student until I told them. One thing that was different about college was that being alone was an okay thing. When you put together a large group of high school students, I think there is pressure to find someone to ‘hang out’ with, because being alone isn’t the norm. At college, there aren’t ‘cliques’ or ‘groups,’ so there is nothing to feel excluded from. I enjoyed spending time with the friends I have on campus, but I did not feel pressured to always have someone by my side.

What courses should I take? My friends who did dual enrollment told me was that they wished they had taken more general education (math, English, foreign language) classes so they could have jumped sooner into their college major course work. To

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decide what classes I would sign up for, my mom and I looked at the course requirements for my major at the college I am considering attending. Many of the general education courses were ones I could take at WKCTC. I decided to take my least favorite subjects (i.e. math) now so I could get it over with sooner! I also knew that several general education courses at WKCTC were taught by teachers I knew and liked, and that was a contributing factor to my decision. Because I will already have many of the general education credits required to graduate from college, I will be able to take more classes that have to do with my major once I go there. I might even be able to graduate college a little earlier. This saves both time and money, (and student loans)! and click on ‘JALC A-Z,’ ‘Dual Credit.’ Contact: Vicky Turl: or 618-985-2828, Ext. 8134

How do I enroll? Where do I start?

High school sophomores, juniors, and seniors can apply and must have a B grade point average and a letter of recommendation from their principal. To learn more and apply, visit, and click on ‘Undergraduate Admissions,’ ‘High school students.’

There are many colleges that offer dual enrollment. The best place to start is to look at that college’s program, contact their admissions counselor, and speak with your school guidance counselor. Here are several area colleges that offer dual enrollment:

John A. Logan College: Dual credit can be earned at participating local high schools in classes taught by John A. Logan faculty members. High school juniors and seniors can attend classes on campus an earn college credit exclusively.To learn more and apply, visit

Escrow Program at Shawnee Community College: To enroll in the Escrow program, students must consult their guidance counselor and meet certain academic standards. Tuition waivers and book loans are available to students who are accepted into the Advanced Honors Program. For more information, visit, and click on ‘Prospective Students,’ ‘Special Programs.’ Contact: or (618) 634-3200

High School Concurrent Enrollment at Southern Illinois University:

If you think that you are ready for a challenge, I would suggest dual enrollment for both homeschooled and publicschooled students. It will save you time and money and will leave you more prepared for what happens after you walk across the stage at high school graduation. v

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Neighborhood Bible Fellowship


he Neighborhood Bible Fellowship has been a part of Carbondale since the 1970’s. For over 30 years Glendall Toney has been preaching to worshipers and studying the bible with local residents.

The Toney’s Friday Nights “We began having a Friday night fellowship at the Toney’s house at 801 West Sycamore in Carbondale in the fall of 1976,” Toney explained. Toney attended Rend Lake College and then went on to LeTourneau College in Texas where he majored in Math. In the Spring of 1976 Toney resigned from the American Baptist Campus Ministries where he had served for three years, and had told the students that they were still free follow the ministry of the person who would come next to that position. However, if any chose to return in the fall, the Toney home would still be open to them. The Toney’s

In the summer of 1976, the Toney’s began to commute to Cape Bible Chapel in Cape Girardeau, Mo. When the Friday night fellowship started back up in the fall of that year some of the college students also took the trek with them. The Friday night meeting began to grow as well and take on a dynamic of its own. Expository preaching along with energetic music and authentic prayer touched a need in the hearts of many. The attendance grew to as many as 80 people. They were on the floor, out on the front porch, in the kitchen and even sitting in the bathroom listening to the preaching and singing. On May 8 of 1977, Glendall baptized two SIU students at Cape Bible Chapel during Sunday morning services and four more at Cedar Lake later in the afternoon. On that Sunday there were a total of 12 cars in caravan and one Cessna airplane for the commute to Cape. On December 10, 1978, they met for their first Sunday morning church service. For the next few years the group didn’t have a building and they had to be quite creative; often meeting in homes, rental properties, and various other locations. In 1984 Neighborhood Bible Fellowship acquired their first building which was located on Striegel Road.

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Trinity Christian School Collaboration Education is a large part of the church’s current ministry. In 1986 Neighborhood Bible Fellowship formed a working relationship with Covenant Christian School and opened up their property to an educational facility. But as the church and school grew, the location was not able to accommodate all the families it wanted to serve. In 2003 the school, with the help of the church was able to successfully bid on another piece of property, which was owned by the Carbondale school district. (The building was originally known as Winkler school.) Because the school didn’t have the resources alone to purchase the property the church took out the mortgage so that they could move. The school is now known as Trinity Christian School. The church and the school are separate entities with two different operating boards. Although the church has retained its independence as a matter of principal, there is a spiritual agreement between the two entities and a solid relationship has been there since 1986. Toney described it as; “It’s an informal but an enduring relationship! The commitment to the relationship has increased even more since we moved

together into this facility on Freeman Street.” The church now meets in the gymnasium of the school each Sunday morning.

A Bible-Centered church The preaching service begins at 11:00 a.m. each Sunday. “We do hold a worship service but that’s not the key ingredient to me,” explained Toney. Toney describes them as a ‘bible centered church’. He went on to explain the usual preaching format. “It’s really about the message for us here at Neighborhood Bible Fellowship. The church is nondenominational and is committed to expositional preaching; preaching through the books of the bible, chapter by chapter and verse by verse. “We believe that the best way to feed the Word of God to His people is by a systematic approach,” said Toney. “Finding and unfolding the Mind of Christ in the words of Scripture so that a correct application can be made is the foundational responsibility of the teaching ministry of the local church. Currently we are in a series of expositions we are calling ‘Lifestyles of the Wise and Faithful’. We started the book of James last fall and hope to have it completed by February, 2014.” January2014 • 35

Church members also meet in small groups at a variety of locations to enhance the love and commitment between the members. The small group evolves each semester in response to the needs of the congregation, with fellowship and prayer being the key ingredients for personal spiritual growth.

ing things in a Biblical fashion. The way we designate authority in our congregation is very unique. My role is close to a pastoral-preacher role, but we have a plurality of elders and as a team they carry the oversight and responsibility of leading the congregation. This idea can be found in Acts and the Epistles in the early New Testament churches.”

Breaking of Bread

There is no offering taken during the services. Members who are moved to participate in giving to the work of the church can do so before or after the service at the donation box that is location in the back of the auditorium.

One of their most important events is their weekly communion service held at 10 a.m. before the service. This is a special service totally dedicated to communion. “As a part of this unique service we have a portion of time dedicated to an open microphone,” Toney told me. “During this time, anyone is welcome to share what’s on their heart. Usually it will be a verse or a reading from the scriptures. Occasionally people will read poems or have a hymn request. Sometimes people will want to share about an event or something that God has done for them during the week. We keep it in the context of remembering Christ; who He is and what He has done for us.”

What Makes Neighborhood Unique The Neighborhood Bible Fellowship bases their church’s governance and leadership on the New Testament. “We have a strong commitment in our congregation to conduct-

MEETINGS: SUNDAY SERVICES BREAKING OF BREAD 10 - 10:45AM BIBLE HOUR/SUNDAY SCHOOL 11AM - 12:15PM (The Children are dismissed to their classes at approximately 11:20.) SMALL GROUPS These meet at a variety of locations and schedules to enhance our love and commitment to each other. They change each semester in response to the needs of the congregation, with fellowship and prayer being the key ingredients for personal spiritual growth.

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The Vision of Ministry The main goal of Neighborhood Bible Fellowship is to help develop the character of Christ in every person in the church by using scriptural principles. The ultimate aim for each individual is to have the Life of Christ evidenced in their daily life so that others are attracted to a closer relationship to Jesus Christ. The central focus of the regular church meetings is to incorporate the breaking of bread, Bible teaching, prayer and fellowship. (Matt 28:19-20; Acts 1:8; 1Cor 15:1-5; Eph 4:11-16; Col 1:15-18, 28)

Statement of Faith Neighborhood Bible Fellowship believes Jesus Christ to be the Son of God, sent to the world to die for our sins. He voluntarily laid down His life as a substitute for our judgment. Personal trust in Him is our only hope for salvation and an eternal relationship with God. He also rose from the dead and promises to return to earth to reign as King of Kings. (Jn 3:16; Rom 6:23; 1Jn 5:12; Rev 22:6-17.) They believe the Bible to be the fully, verbally inspired Word of God. It is "Godbreathed" and is the final authority in all matters, and so preaches it and teaches it in a systematic fashion from the viewpoint of the literal method of interpretation. (2Tim 3:16; 2:15; 2Pet 1:20-21) They believe that all those who have truly been born again by trusting in the Lord Jesus Christ are members of His Church. They gather here as a local representation of that Body. The meetings and government include what the New Testament teaches as the purpose and characteristics of a local church. (Acts 2:42; 20:17a; 1Cor 12:13; 1Tim 3; Titus 1; 1Pet 5:1-4) Neighborhood Bible Fellowship is currently located at 1218 West Freeman Street in Carbondale. They meet in the gymnasium of Trinity Christian School each Sunday Morning. Toney and the entire membership invite you to come and worship with them any Sunday. For more information call Glendall Toney at (618) 549-7649. You can also visit their website at: v

by: Robin Passante


It All Adds Up Easy Ways to Keep From Busting Your Monthly Budget


ost of us fritter away money every month. There’s the occasional quick trip for an expensive cup of coffee, or an On-Demand movie on a Friday night. Don’t mention that barely scanned cell phone bill! We effortlessly chip away at our carefully constructed budgets, leaving ourselves vulnerable to overdrafts and end-of-the-month panic attacks. At our house, my favorite saying is “It all adds up,” which drives my husband crazy but keeps us on track. Because swiping your debit card to pay for a $4 mocha latte seems like a well-deserved way to spend pocket change, but doing that six times a month is $24 we could have used to pay down our credit card. In the interest of saving all of us more money every month, I’ve compiled a list of ways to save on the things for which we spend the most senseless cash.

Gas There are two main ways to save on this budget-choker: Drive smarter and pick your pumps wisely. AAA’s Fuel Cost Calculator ( helps you plot out the most efficient route to wherever it is you’re going. And Dad was right: Keep your tires fully inflated, your air filter clean and your engine tuned. Oh, and leave the windows rolled up if you’re going over 40 mph. To save at the pump, get the Gas Buddy app or go to sites such as www.gasprice-,, or to find the cheapest price for gas near you. Also check with your local grocery stores and convenience stores to find out which ones offer rewards cards with discounts at the pump.

Food This one’s easy: Stop using your debit card for all food and drink purchases. The debit card is like invisible money; when we don’t see real dollar bills leaving our wallets, we neglect to add up all our incidental drive-through/convenience store/happy hour purchases. But it does all add up (“See honey!”), often to a number we would not have guessed we spend on caffeine, snacks and lunch. For the next month, keep track of all food-related spending (groceries, kids’ lunch money, and all dining/drinking out) and come up with a workable but frugal monthly food budget. On the first of the month, withdraw this much in cash and keep it in an envelope marked “Food.” Having to remove cash from the grocery envelope to fund your expensive coffee habit will serve as a wake-up call, without the caffeine.

Media We spend a lot of money on technology and media these days, so we need to cut corners where we can. For movies, January2014 • 37

Don’t be passive with your cell phone bill! Two free website services to try are, which sends you a free text message or email when you are nearing your monthly minute limit; and, which compares your plan to most other major wireless providers to find you the best plan for your particular usage habits and needs. You can either upload your online cell phone bill (to their secure server), or just manually estimate your usage, which requires no personal information.

Redbox is your friend. The DVD rental service, with handy red kiosks located in thousands of stores across the area where you pick up (and return) the DVD you order online, will save your family precious dollars on at-home entertainment. For example, ordering “Rio” On-Demand would have cost my family $4.99; ordering it from Redbox and picking it up at the grocery store six blocks from my house cost me $1. (

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If you’re happy with your current cell phone provider, or are stuck in a two-year contract, at least be sure to study your statement each month to see whether you’re using most of your allotted minutes, text messages and data amounts. If you’re consistently under your allotments, it’s time to drop to a lower tier and save some dough. v Robyn Passante is a freelance journalist and mother of two whose husband has threatened to have “It all adds up” etched onto her tombstone someday, which she actually thinks works on more than one level.

by: Gina Roberts-Grey


Binkies, Blankies and Bottles Understanding Security Items


ave you ever noticed a young toddler dragging his teddy bear along side of him in the grocery store? Do you question why your baby pops his pacifier into his mouth the instant you buckle him into the car or if he’s about to go to sleep? A child’s dependency on a security item can create confusing and frustrating moments for parents. Many parents question their child’s reliance on a particular item or find security items a nuisance. Forgetting to pack his stuffed lion for a sleep-over at Grandma’s or not having an extra pacifier for a long day of errands can be a recipe for disaster. It can be difficult to understand why he needs a specific dog or pillow for every nap or at bedtime. In a room filled with toys and child friendly objects, insisting on a certain blanket or toy can seem as though your child is trying to avoid going to sleep. In reality, young children are not exercising a hidden ability to manipulate the situation or cause an unnecessary scene in the mall. They are trying to quash rising feelings of stress, and crying for a pacifier is the only avenue his immature communication skills know to convey the message. While not all children use pacifiers to soothe themselves or need a tattered receiving blanket in order to fall asleep, the fact is nearly all children depend on some type of comfort item. It may be a routine, smell, or sound that he finds comforting. A child may equate the chimes of a grandfather clock he hears at a friend’s house with the one at his home. He may use a stuffed animal as a symbol that ties him to his home and parents. Children see security items as dual functioning objects. A bottle not only provides sustenance for a tot, it quickly triggers his suckling instinct and calms his anxiety. A pillow offers more than comfort during sleep; it brings a piece of his bed to his aunt’s house for an over night visit.

Knowing why your child is drawn to security items, and how they help him build the ability to calm himself in the next stages of his life, give you insightful wisdom into your baby’s life. Realizing the similarities in the actions of you and your baby provides clarity for parents confused by their child’s dependency on a seemingly irrelevant item.

You have a lot in common with your baby When adults feel emotionally wounded or taxed, they go in search of comfort. Whether consciously or subconsciously, you may go for a run, call a friend, or sit down to gather your thoughts and regroup in a favorite quiet spot. You derive security from coming home after a long and trying day. Revisiting a favorite childhood haunt sends memories flooding back and creates a nostalgic and warming feeling. The calmness or refuge you glean from the reassuring words of a good friend is similar to what your baby receives from cuddling up with his blanket. Wrapping comforting words around your stress mimics your baby’s actions of wrapping his blanket around himself in order to feel comfortable in strange surroundings or to fall asleep.

Introducing security alternatives Although it can be comforting as your baby grows, carrying around a blanket may be difficult or impede his social development. Preschool pals may not understand his use of a pacifier or a hectic morning may result in forgetting to pack an emergency bottle for a child who otherwise no longer uses bottles. The risk of losing or leaving behind his security item increases as a child carries it from place to place. Forgetting to toss an extra pacifier in your bag or the absence of a diaper bag to stash his animal can cause the onset of an emotional outburst from your child. Helping a baby transition from binkies and blankets, to the ability to tap into an inner sense of calm, is January2014 • 39

something that requires patience and stamina. Weaning him from a security item is similar to potty training. You have to be consistent while expecting set backs. Some children find phasing a stuffed animal out is easier when done in baby steps, while others find a quick and complete removal best. You can test the waters if you’re not sure which method you child is better suited for. If he’s become accustomed to pacifiers or bottles, choose a day that you can be at home and devote attention to your baby. Remove the pacifiers from his sight and reach, and conduct your day as normal. If out of sight out of mind is working semi-smoothly, you’re already on the way to helping him break the dependency. If he’s excessively or unusually irritable or inconsolable, you’re going to have to ease him at a slower pace. Offering alternatives to his habits such as only allowing a pacifier in bed, or his blanket stays in his room helps him grow accustomed to calming himself while still preserving the sanctity of the item for ‘special occasions’. Even though you may not fully know if he understands, reiterating ‘Your teddy bear will be waiting for you at home’ or ‘Binkies are only for bed time’ will begin to become familiar. He’ll realize that if he is upset at home, he can make the decision to seek comfort in his room. This is an important

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first step toward independent soothing. Substituting a bottle, with reading a book with you, can also help his mood and offer comfort. While your child once looked forward to a bottle at bed time, he will now anticipate the chance to spend soothing time with you. You can occupy your baby by singing songs in the car instead of using a pacifier to quiet him after a busy day. Keep in mind that it is natural to draw comfort from a variety of sources. Introducing your baby to a variety of ways to pacify him will teach him valuable lessons he’ll apply throughout his life. v


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