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“YOU CAN GET a whole lot further with honey than with vinegar.” Projection, negativity and the fallacy that others can be mind readers can complicate effective communication.

Projection: Sometimes when we are upset, we may be describing to another person what we ourselves are actually feeling or thinking. “You always wear that awful sweater,” may be you saying “I care a lot about appearances and what others think; you should too.” Projection can often lead to conflict or misunderstandings because others don’t always have the same perceptions, morals or values that we have. Negativity: Have you noticed that you tend to be much more negative with or take for granted the people you are supposed to be closest to? It’s amazing how sweet, cautious and kind we can be with an acquaintance or a stranger, but so negative with the ones we love the most. Negative communication is quite common among couples, parents and children. “You will never get a job,” “you are annoying,” “I don’t like you.” Add in expletives, and some of those phrases may sound very familiar. Mind Readers: We tend to expect others to be naturally skilled mind readers. Even if we don’t believe in the legitimacy of psychic powers, we may think that others should know what we are thinking or need. By communicating in a subtle, enigmatic, puzzling manner, you may get upset when others “just don’t get it.” “I told you what I needed but you didn’t listen!” Did you really clearly and explicitly express your needs or desires? These communication issues can limit our happiness, and meaningful long-lasting connection to others. By practicing effective communication, we can avoid some stress and anxiety, and feel more comfortable and confident in every relationship.

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