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Christopher R. Bauer PCSO Board President & LinQ Editor-in-Chief Page 16

THIRD ANNUAL PRIDE COMMUNITY PROM Saturday, September 30 • 8 PM - 12 AM Page 18

Dining Out For Life Page 4

This Work Isn’t Ours Anymore Page 10

The Journey Home Page 14

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IN THIS ISSUE SEPTEMBER 2017 VOL 39 / NO. 9

FEATURE CHRISTOPHER R. BAUER PCSO Board President & LinQ Editor-in-Chief

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Meet Christopher R. Bauer, who among many of the roles he plays in the Lexington LGBTQ+ community is both LinQ’s Editor-in-Chief and the PCSO Board President.

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PRIDE COMMUNITY PROM September 30 • 8 PM - 12 AM

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The Pride Community Services Organization is holding its third annual Pride Community Prom. It will be super disco “far out” and is free to those 18 and up again this year.

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What could be better than eating out and raising money for a good cause? Helena Handbasket tells us about AVOL’s Dining Out For Life on September 14.

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In the wake of Charlottesville, Carol Taylor-Shim asks White people what they are doing to dismantle White supremacy.

THE JOURNEY HOME page 14

Stan “JR” Zerkowski recalls his friend Billy, who was not only ravaged by cancer, but also by those who espouse hate in the name of religion.

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TALKIN’ ABOUT

by Helena Handbasket

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urely Miss Helena couldn’t possibly write another article about food, could she? (giggle) Well, I have written about diets and favorite foods and lots of different things around whether to eat or not to eat, but this month is just a tiny bit different. This month I am writing about YOU going out to eat. I feel this is a topic that all of you can identify with because this is Lexington after all. Did you know that we rate at the top of the list for having more restaurants per capita than most other cities in the nation? We do love to eat and we love to go out to eat. This fact makes me very happy because I am going to tell you about an upcoming event that I want each of you to attend. On Thursday, September 14th, AVOL is sponsoring their annual Dining OUT For Life event. For those of you who have not participated in this before, I want to tell you a little about it. Each year the staff of AVOL contacts restaurants in the area and asks them to participate in a fundraiser for this one day of the year. During this fundraiser, the restaurants agree to donate 25% of their proceeds to AVOL and the fight against HIV / AIDS. There are restaurants that participate during one or more seatings whether it be breakfast, lunch, or dinner. So, what am I asking from you? Well...I think it is pretty easy to figure out. On Thursday, September 14th, simply GO OUT TO EAT at one of the participating restaurants. There is no easier way to donate to AVOL than this. Remember that it is always more fun when you eat out with friends, so 4 LinQ // SEPTEMBER . HUMOR MAY 2017 .2017 HUMOR

gather your group together and go out and eat, drink, and be merry and be proud that by doing so you are making a difference in people’s lives. You can find that list of restaurants and what times each one is participating by going to www.diningoutforlife.com/ lexington/restaurants. As important as it is to eat out that day, there are other ways you can help as well. I will be recruiting ambassadors, one or two for each restaurant during each participating shift. What these ambassadors will do is be at the restaurant and approach each table and thank them for the donation they are making just by being there and eating and drinking. Ambassadors will also give each person an envelope and let them know that they can make an additional donation if they choose. When they fill out their information and make an additional donation, their names will be put in a drawing that will happen at the after party at Soundbar. We will be giving away some amazing prizes. If you are interested in being an ambassador, just e-mail me and I will contact you to discuss it. There are also other exciting components to this event this year such as Art for Life. This is happening the night after DOFL, Friday, September 15th during the art crawl. Marjorie Guyon has generously offered to contribute 50% of all prints that she sells during the art crawl. She has some amazing nudes as well as some wonderful pieces inspired by Kentucky history and the horse business. Be sure to go check it out. Her gallery is directly above the

Lexington Diner. Also, the Imperial Court of Kentucky has committed to doing a show the night before DOFL, Wednesday, September 13th at Crossings called Dragging Out for Life. All of the tips collected by the performers that night will be donated to AVOL and added to the totals for Dining Out for Life. Of course, not everyone will be available to go out to eat on that night. You can still help us to achieve our goal of $100,000 this year. If you are not able to participate in our Dining Out for Life event, you can still make a donation. Whether it is $5 or $5,000, please consider donating because every dollar really does make a difference. Just make your check out to AVOL and in the memo line write DOFL - HH. This tells us that you are donating to Dining Out for Life specifically because you read the Helena Handbasket article. All donations can be sent to AVOL at 365 Waller Avenue, Suite 100, Lexington, KY 40504. If we get your check prior to the event, we will enter your name in the drawing for the prize giveaways. You know I am an advocate for helping the community. I am very passionate about this event and would love for everyone reading this to participate and help spread the word so that it is our most successful event ever. However, whatever you do to contribute to the needs of your communities, my hat is off to you. Keep doing good things and fighting the good fight. Until next month ya’ll.

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A portion of the sale of selected prints by Marjorie Guyon will be donated to Dining Out For Life. Join Marjorie and AVOL at Gallery Hop on Friday, September 15th at 122 N. Upper Street, directly above Lexington Diner, from 5 to 8 pm. More information at www.marjorieguyon.com “Blue2016 Moon of//Kentucky” HUMOR . OCTOBER LinQ 5


IMPERIAL COURT OF KENTUCKY NEWS by Daniel Honeycutt, Board Member

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t seems that summer is ending and I don’t know where the time has gone. I can’t begin to explain how grateful I am for the generosity our community has shown by giving at our annual Back-to-School show. I was rewarded even more by volunteers who then showed up to help us go school supply shopping for our future leaders. With a month that started with headlines of groups that represent hate, it was heartwarming to see individuals give their time and money to neighbors that are in need of a hand. The next board meeting for the Imperial Court of Kentucky will be on September 6th at 5:30 p.m. at the offices of Winterwood, Inc. (3245 Loch Ness Dr, Lexington, KY 40517). For directions or further information, please contact our

Facebook page. All are welcome and encouraged to attend board meetings and let their voices be heard. On September 13th, the night before AVOL’s Dining Out for Life, the Imperial Court of Kentucky will be out in drag at Crossings Lexington raising money for AVOL. So, come out and tip a queen with us while we help The ICK dropped off backpacks to the amazing group at Big Brothers Big Sisters of Lexington. Lots of children are going to be ready to grow those young minds. an organization that has done so much for Lexington! never performed on stage for Have you ever wanted to tips before to come out and get dressed up and perform on show us what you’ve got. For stage? If so, enter the Imperial more information, message us Court of Kentucky’s Closet Ball on Facebook or email us at info@ on September 17th at Crossings imperialcourtkentucky.org. Lexington, for an all-inclusive Until next time! pageant for anyone who has Q

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TransKY ADVOCATE by Tuesday G Meadows

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leaves no shadows/Only scars carved into stone/we run like a river/we run like a river to the sea/and when it’s raining/raining hard/That’s when the rain will/Break my heart...raining in your heart/to the sea.” One Tree Hill, written by U2 after the death of a friend

eath is something we all must deal with, the death of our friends, our loved ones, and eventually our own. In his song Imagine, John Lennon asks us to “imagine all the people living for today.” I think the gist of this song was that there are too many good people who are so focused on the next life that they are willing to treat people in the here and now like garbage. Unfortunately, we even see families treat their loved ones with much disdain based on their sexuality or gender identity. It’s been two years this month since my wife Linda left us. For me, it’s still as raw as if it was two hours ago. I woke up in a panic just the other morning thinking today was her funeral. I’m guessing it will always be raw for me and for anyone else who has lost someone that was so close to them. Linda and I were like two parts of a whole. Even with all of my sorrow and grief I know that I am lucky. She loved me unconditionally, as I did her. I’m lucky to have not only known and loved Linda, but also many other people who have passed through my life that are no longer with me. My family has had a lot of death and sorrow for the August/ September time of the year. My dad and younger brother both passed

in August. Not only did Linda die in September, but so did both of her parents along with my mom and my older brother. That’s a lot for one family. My dad’s family had 9 children and my mom’s family had 11 children. It seemed as if many of these parts of my family also died in the same period of time, which I am guessing is just coincidence. Most of my aunts and uncles have passed now, along with several cousins with whom I was once close. Both families were wonderful, hard working, and very loving. With the 6 children in my family, you can imagine how crowded the house was during the holidays. For whatever reason we got together, our home was full of joy. Our joy for being with each other extended from the earliest time that I can remember through the time that my siblings and I were adults with our own children. There are many of you who know that I didn’t come out until later in life and it was due to circumstances that were never related to my family knowing the true me. It is just speculative to think what this person or that person who is no longer here would have thought of me revealing to the world what I kept hidden. I tell my sisters all of the

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time that I believe that most of my family, the ones who have died and didn’t know about Tuesday, loved me and would have accepted me. Of course, I won’t ever know, and with rigid norms and doctrinaire religions, it’s possible that I’m wrong. I know my mom and dad loved me and I believe they both would have struggled with me coming out to them, but I don’t think that their love would have wavered. My parents came from a different generation—the pictures weren’t the only things that were black and white. My two older brothers, whom I have often said beat the girl out of me when I was young, are a different story. I believe that much of the way my brothers treated me when I was young caused me to bury the real me deep inside and caused me great pain throughout my life. I just can’t say for certain how they would have handled me coming out four years ago, but I think they both loved me and would have accepted me. I am glad that my three sisters and I are still close and we truly do love each other. Families, friends, churches, and others that we have been around our entire lives all too often still throw out LGBTQ+ individuals because of who we


are. I will never understand this. Treating our children with kindness and understanding should be paramount to being a parent. If you have a child, a brother, a sister, a cousin, or whatever, please consider reaching out to them. If any of the above people do not accept you for who you are, then go find a new family, friends, or church that will accept you. You don’t have to put up with someone loving you despite who you are, they should love you for who you are. Quirks and all. We are all different. The parents or families who do not love us for ourselves do not deserve our love. Death is certain for all of us. Our time is very short and the end often comes with no notice. Hold those that you love close to you. It’s easier to love those who love you, and those will, no doubt, be the ones that will hurt the most when they pass. It also hurts when those people pass that you’ve had disagreements with or have hurt you in the past. I knew that to be able to live with myself and move on with my life I needed to forgive my brothers in spite of all the pain that they caused me my entire life. My brothers and I were then able to be friends as adults up until their untimely deaths. Learn to forgive those who have done you wrong, not for them but for yourself. You may write me at tmeadows828@ gmail.com or follow my blog Tuesdaysgonewiththewind. wordpress.com. Now Tuesday’s gone with the wind. Q


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‘m writing this with a level of exhaustion and racial battle fatigue that is becoming a much more frequent state of being for me. I’m writing this as I think about the parents who brought their children to Charlottesville, VA to indoctrinate them into White supremacy before they take their first steps or say their first words. I wonder what group their first words will target. I can only imagine. I’m writing this as the image of the Black man in

the air tossed by a car driven by a White supremacist rolls around in my mind. That Black man risked his life to move his fiancé out of harm’s way. Now let me just get ya’ll together right now. Because I know someone reading this is thinking, “Why is she not talking about the White woman that got killed?” I know a young White woman lost her life due to White supremacy. Do YOU know that is the question? She died doing what so many people are

afraid and unwilling to do. She died doing what so many of us have to do every millisecond of our lives just to survive. And let me tell you, survival isn’t always a picture of resiliency. She put her words into actions. Some people only wear them on a t-shirt, or pull them out of a file folder full of memes. Some crochet hot pink inadequate representations of womanhood. HOT PINK. SMDH. Heather Heyer paid the ultimate price for standing up to


and Brown bodies or do they restate their unwavering support for law enforcement? These are the things that rattle around in my head all of the time but especially in the context of Charlottesville. This is what happens when people don’t want to talk about racism and bigotry and hatred and anti-Semitism until it’s far too late. This is what happens when people make the choice to ignore all of the things all around them. But what gets me the most is the REFUSAL to believe QTPOC when we gift you with our truth. A young White woman had to lose her life in order for people to wake up to what the rest of us have been drowning in for generations. This work of dismantling White supremacy no longer lays at the footsteps of the same people trying to survive it. To expect people of color to

continue to do the heavy lifting of dismantling White supremacy is wrong, offensive, and contributes to our trauma. People have no concept of the risk we take when we speak truth to power. We risk everything. Our careers. Our reputations. Our ability to provide for ourselves and our families. We risk it all every single time we leave our homes. This work isn’t ours anymore. It is now yours. I have to have faith in people I don’t even know because they are the ones who are responsible for dismantling all of these systems that are destined to destroy us all. What will you risk to do what is right?

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the same propaganda and hate that some of you, your friends, family, and co-workers probably have hidden somewhere. She did what some of you could and would never do. Someone asked me a while ago why I thought there was such a disconnect between LGBTQ orgs and QTPOC. And my response was this, “Do they talk about us when we aren’t there?” Do these organizations talk about intersectional oppression, racism, and hatred of QTPOC within the LGBTQQIA community? Do they talk about us as more than photo ops for a host of “unity” programs? Do our names only come up when they need someone to talk to other White LGBTQQIA folks about racism because they can’t or won’t do it themselves? Do they talk about the destruction caused by the policing of Black


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SEPTEMBER IS A BIG MONTH FOR SISTERSOUND!

irst up, Rehearsals for the 2017-2018 season begin on Sunday, September 10 at Centenary United Methodist Church Choir Room, 2800 Tates Creek Road, Lexington. Join us at 5:00 p.m. for snacks, conversation with rehearsal from 6:00 p.m. – 8:00 p.m. SisterSound is a non-audition women’s chorus for those age 18 and up. If you love singing with other women and can match pitch with those around you, we want you to join us! Can’t come the first night, no problem, just come the following week. Also in September is the annual SisterSound Yard Sale, 8 a.m. – 2 p.m., Saturday, September 16 at 2290

Alexandria Drive, Lexington, 40504. Come and shop ‘til you drop! Want to donate items for the sale? Call Teri at (859) 361-4869. Finally, get out your calendar NOW and plan to attend both of SisterSound’s 2018 Concerts! We have a new venue this season: Crestwood Christian Church, 1882 Bellefonte Dr, Lexington (next to Glendover Elementary School). Concert dates are set for January 20, 2018 and May 19, 2018 at 7:00 p.m. and the theme is Dance. It promises to be a fun season! Have questions or need more information? Give Patti a call at (859) 806-0243. Q

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All The Birds In The Sky Written by Charlie Jane Anders

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new acquisition to the PCSO Pride Library, All The Birds In The Sky, was 2016’s break out hit in science fiction and fantasy. It received the 2017 Nebula Award for Best Novel, was nominated for the 2017 Hugo Award for Best Novel, and was number five on Time’s list of Top 10 Novels of 2016. The book’s critical acclaim and popularity have made author Charlie Jane Anders one of the most successful transgender women working in fiction today. Before devoting herself to writing novels, Anders was the editor-in-chief of the popular science fiction and fantasy website IO9. Her years critiquing and exploring the worlds of both sci-fi and fantasy for the web have given Anders a unique perspective on the genres. All The Birds In The Sky begins with no less a goal than to settle once and for all if science or magic is superior. It does this in the form of two young champions, Patricia, a witch tapped into a magical network of birds and trees, and Laurence, a genius capable of creating both a time machine and a dangerously powerful AI. The story is an intricate ballet around the lives of these two protagonists who seem the best of friends at first, but who, we are told, are destined to lead the opposing sides in the war between science and magic. As the protagonists come of age, we see them sorting out their lives, wrestling with what it means to be shunned for being different or worshipped for being special, and questioning whether or not destiny can be changed. All The Birds In The Sky is located in the YA Fiction, under A. Q

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THE JOURNEY HOME BILLY AND TOMORROW

by Stan “JR” Zerkowski, Founder of Lexington Interfaith Encounters

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y friend, Billy, has been gone a little more than 19 years. We both had cancer; he had testicular cancer. I befriended him during his treatment. I met him in September, soon after I was diagnosed. He was like a brother to me. Cancer and the indignity of some treatments have a way of bonding people. Billy was always smiling; despite the horrors of his treatment and diagnoses, his smile was contagious and his bright eyes were windows into a good heart, a beautiful soul. He was a wonderful musician; a tremendously good person. He played the guitar in his parish’s music ministry for nearly 10 years. He never came out, though, to his pastor or his church. I took Billy for his medical treatment about a week before he passed; he insisted we come back to his apartment and he cook dinner for me. I knew he was in rough shape, but he wanted to — needed to—cook a meal for me. As I look back, I wonder if he just wanted company that evening and didn’t feel like going into a restaurant where everyone stared because he was bald, ashen, and thin. He baked chicken for that last supper. It was delicious. He mashed potatoes and cooked some fresh sweet peas. He offered me a glass of wine. He drank water mixed with Gatorade. We had cookies for dessert. That was a week before he died. A few days later he was taken to the hospital; he was so weak and in pain. We spoke via phone every day—I lived 2 hours away—and I visited a few times, too. Despite the pain, he was smiling and bright-eyed when I visited him. The night before he died, he

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called me because he knew the end of his journey was near; he was terribly frightened that God would reject him because he was gay. He cried as he asked me over and over, on the phone,

if I thought God would damn him. He was scared about leaving this part of the journey because the next part might find him condemned by the very One who created him. It broke my heart. I wonder if he was smiling as he cried and asked me those questions. I wonder if his bright eyes grew dim or still shined through his tears. I cry easily just thinking about that conversation. I assured him that God

could not reject him but loved him. I told him I loved him too. I told him, “Get some rest. I’ll talk to you tomorrow.” That was our last conversation. How many times have we heard “God hates fags” or “Gays will burn in hell?” How many, like Billy, believe this brand of ugliness? If only Billy, then, too many! We’re fortunate, here in Lexington, to have diverse faith communities that welcome and embrace LGBTQ+ sisters and brothers. We’ve seen leaders of these communities at the UNITED Interfaith Encounters and at the Pride Interfaith Service. These faith communities need you; faith communities need us, all of us. They need every LGBTQ+ sister or brother to be out and a vital part of these communities. Together with these communities we can work to make sure no one, ever, feels they are not worthy of God’s love. Or, ours. I told Billy, “I’ll talk to you tomorrow.” I thought that meant April 4, 1998. I don’t know when that “tomorrow” will come when I’ll talk to Billy again. But, in all the tomorrows between now and then, I have a lot of work to do— we all have a lot of work to do—so I can tell Billy that his life and his story made a difference and we worked hard to make sure no one ever feels frightened because someone told them that they are unworthy, unloved, or unwelcome to receive the loving embrace of their Creator, here or in eternity.

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“If we cannot now end our differences, at least we can help make the world safe for diversity.” June 10, 1963 Commencement Address at American University - John F. Kennedy

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hristopher is not only a friend to the community, but he could very easily say that he is the hardest working advocate for the LGBTQ+ community here in Lexington, but you’d have to know that he is very reluctant to brag or even promote all that he does. Christopher is currently President of the Pride Community Services Organization (PCSO), Editor in Chief of LinQ Magazine, and sits on many LGBTQ+ focused committees. He has brought his energy and passion to the local LGBTQ+ community since moving to Lexington from Florida in August, 2013. In his personal life, Christopher has been married to the love of his life, Roberto, for 3 years. Roberto is a PhD candidate in Psychology at the University of Kentucky. They were partners for 7 1/2 years before they were legally married in New York in 2014. Recently, they have begun the process to adopt their 2-year-old foster son who they have had since February. Christopher is an Attorney and is employed as Chief Operations Officer and General Counsel for an investment advisory firm based out of South Florida but with offices in New York, New Jersey, Massachusetts, and now Lexington. When he moved to Lexington, he knew that he wanted to get involved in some sort of advocacy for the LGBTQ+ community to make life better for all LGBTQ+ individuals. He said that, when he moved to Lexington, he simply Googled “LGBTQ+ Lexington” and the first thing that popped up was the Gay and Lesbian Services Organization (GLSO now the PCSO) which led him to get involved with the Lexington Pride Festival in 2014 and 2015 as Logistics Chair and shortly thereafter join the GLSO Board of Directors. He says that working with this organization is just a continuation of his life-long commitment to LGBTQ+ issues and advocacy. Christopher first got involved with LGBTQ+ activism soon after he came out in college and joined True Expressions, a county-wide youth support group in Pinellas County, Florida. He soon became a youth leader and board liaison for the group, helped them grow their membership, begin a youth pride prom, and most importantly. secure funds to open their own drop-in center for at-risk youth. Christopher was instrumental in helping True Expressions partner with Equality Florida in a two-year effort to lobby the state legislature to secure statewide antibullying protections for public schools. This effort involved getting many hundreds of students to go to the State Capitol to talk to their state legislators. While in college, Christopher served on the board of his campus LGBTQ+ student group, SpectrUM, 16 LinQ // SEPTEMBER 2017 . FEATURE


The content and graphics in LinQ have improved under his tutelage along with circulation, including both on-line and print subscriptions. The LinQ magazine, which began in 2013, was originally the GSO’s (original name of GLSO/ PCSO) newsletter, initially called The Gayzette, and has been published continuously since 1979, two years after the organization was founded. As part of celebrating the PCSO’s 40th Anniversary, Christopher worked with the UK Library to have all issues of these newsletters (going back to the first issue published in February, 1979) made available online and they can be found at pcsoky.org/ newsletters. Christopher says that over the course of the next year-and-a-half left in this, his second 2-year term as PCSO Board President, he wants to build on the work his team has already accomplished, and continue to lead the PCSO to have many diverse voices and to bring more people from all walks of life to the table in order to have

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facilitating meetings and implementing initiatives to spread awareness on LGBTQ+ issues to the rest of the student body. In Law School, he initially served as Secretary and then for two years as President of OUTLaw, the University of Miami School of Law’s LGBTQ+ activism organization. Christopher says he’s most proud of his group’s efforts in developing collaborations with the Servicemembers Legal Defense Network (now known as OutServe-SLDN) to combat the military’s Don’t Ask Don’t Tell (DADT) policy. These efforts included organizing protests at military and JAG Corps interviews, achieving funding and other concessions for LGBTQ+ students in connection with the University’s acquiescence to the Solomon Act (which required universities to allow oncampus military recruitment) by delivering thousands of letters to both students’ and faculty members’ senators and legislators in opposition to DADT, and co-authoring legal position pieces with other law schools’ activists and legal scholars in opposition to the military’s policies against LGBTQ+ servicemembers. He also interned for the ACLU’s LGBTQ+ division focusing on defeating Florida’s anti-marriage Amendment 2. After joining the Board of the GLSO, Christopher became President in January 2015, soon leading the organization to change its iconic name to the more inclusive name, Pride Community Services Organization or PCSO so that more people in our community would feel welcomed. He has made a concerted effort to have a more diverse and inclusive board and has consistently reached out to build and foster a more collaborative atmosphere with other LGBTQ+ organizations here in Lexington. Under his leadership, the PCSO has addressed many issues impacting the LGBTQ+ community. These include interpersonal violence education, support for a workshop for parents of transgender youth, partnering with groups such as Bluegrass Black Pride to start the dialogue about combating racism in the LGBTQ+ community, providing training on LGBTQ+ issues to schools, prisons, and other community organizations (most recently as a day-long in-service for Fayette County School administrators, counselors, and teachers), and many other important programs that are focused on making the lives of LGBTQ+ persons better. Christopher and the PCSO are both committed to racial, economic, and all social justices, and have reaffirmed that commitment day after day in these trying times. In July 2014, Christopher joined LinQ magazine, which is published by the PCSO, as Editor-in-Chief of the only LGBTQ+ focused monthly magazine in the state of Kentucky. As PCSO President and LinQ Editor, he has worked an enormous number of hours with no pay. Under his leadership, LinQ has gone from being a service that was provided at a tremendous cost to the PCSO to one that now either breaks-even or turns a modest profit.

Christopher (Right) with his husband Roberto L. Abreu in Central Park, NY on their way to their wedding reception.

an organization that is an inclusive mosaic of all races, ethnicities, ages, sexes, and gender identities. He says that he thinks it is also important for the PCSO to continue to partner with other organizations such as Bluegrass Black Pride, Casa de la Cultura, FLACA, AVOL, other LGBTQ+ organizations, and allied groups to build a stronger community for the future. After knowing Christopher for over 3 years now, I don’t doubt that he can achieve anything he sets his mind to accomplish! Q FEATURE . SEPTEMBER 2017 // LinQ 17


THIRD ANNUAL PRIDE COMMUNITY PROM by Christopher R. Bauer, PCSO Board President

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hat was your prom like? Was there a theme? Was it held at a fancy hotel or your high school gymnasium? Did you bring a date or did you go stag? Maybe you didn’t even go at all. Whatever your high school prom experience was, was it the experience you would have wanted? Were you able to wear whatever you want, be who you really are, bring a date of the same gender, be the dancing queen? Many of us look back on those years and wonder, “What if?” Nowadays, as LGBTQ+ acceptance has gained traction, many high schoolers can have the prom they wanted—go with whomever they want and maybe even wear something that does not conform to expected gender “norms.” Even if their school’s prom will not be open and accepting, many kids now have access to “alternative” proms. For example, did you know that the PCSO’s Gay-Straight Alliance group holds a Pride Prom for high-schoolers every year? The increasing number of opportunities for today’s youth to have the prom experience that the more seasoned of us missed out on is a definite sign of progress—at least one day they may not have to ask, “What if?” You may ask, what about me? Well, you’re in luck! The PCSO also has a prom for you—the adult Pride Community Prom—open to all ages from 18 and up! This year, the PCSO is hosting the Third Annual Pride Community Prom on September 30th from 8 p.m. – 12 p.m. at the LexArts Performance Hall. From its very humble roots to a great success last year, we expect this year’s prom to be everything you could have hoped for. Best of all, IT’S FREE! The Pride Community Prom planning committee, led by PCSO Board Members Roberto Abreu, Josh Day, and Mark Johnson and PCSO’s Office Manager Carmen Wampler-Collins, have been hard at work planning a night filled with fun and frivolity. This year’s prom has 18 LinQ // SEPTEMBER 2017 . FEATURE

been relocated from the Lyric Theatre to the LexArts Performance Hall on North Mill Street, in the heart of downtown—next door to a great selection of pre-Prom restaurants and only a few blocks away from the nightlife you may want to experience after the Prom. This year’s theme is “Saturday Night Fever,” a 1970s theme with a costume contest for best ‘70s costume. As in previous years, there will also be an eclectic selection of music—for all ages, a diverse set of hot spot and drag entertainment with Paris Bacall, Crystal Diamond, Uma Jewels, Savion, and Kenneth J. Squires, hors d’oeuvres prepared by one of Lexington’s premier chefs (Shannon Wampler-Collins), and a cash/credit bar. The PCSO is proud to be hosting this event— free of charge, as a service to our community. Last year’s attendance saw a triple increase from the year before and we are planning on expanding even more this year and for years to come! This event is open to all community members age 18+ with a strong emphasis on attracting a wide range of diversity. This is your chance to have the prom you never could have when you were in high school. Bring the partner you’d like—or maybe meet someone out on the dance floor, dress as you see fit, and spend a judgementfree night with us at the Third Annual Pride Community Prom. Don’t miss out and be left thinking, “What if?”

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Saturday, September 30, 2017 • 8 PM – 12 AM LexArts Performance Hall 161 North Mill Street • Lexington For more information, see the ad on the back cover of LinQ or visit prom.pcsoky.org


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COMMUNITY

THE NEW 2018

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LEXINGTON PRIDE FESTIVAL COMMITTEE by Christopher R. Bauer, PCSO Board President

fter celebrating the 10th Anniversary of the Lexington Pride Festival, by far the best Pride yet, one might think the volunteers who put it together would take a welldeserved rest. One might think incorrectly. The elections for the Lexington Pride Festival Committee for 2018 were held in August, and although many of the volunteer leaders were re-elected, several new leaders have also stepped up to join the Committee. The Committee is excited to get to work on continuing to make the next Festival better than all of the ones before. Please join us in welcoming the new Committee: Chair – Paul Brown Vice Chair – Katherine Wilkie Kennedy Treasurer – Jacob Boyd Secretary – Carmen Wampler-Collins Activities – Jeremy Ellis Entertainment – Anthony Smallwood & Shannon Wampler-Collins

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Food & Beverage - Andrew Morgan Fundraising – Rikki Maher It/Website – Clint Nowicke Logistics – Paulo Raya-Guffin Marketing/Advertising – Sarah Brown & Tiffany Dupont Merchandising – Sarah Brown & Tiffany Dupont Social Media – Dena D. Lee Sponsorships – Lydia Frazier & Morgan Fry Vendor Liaison – Haley Marie Volunteers – Amy Hatter This team is phenomenal, but there are still opportunities to get involved. The Pride Festival will need many volunteers throughout the year, and the Committee welcomes all people who want to lend a hand. Meetings will take place on the fourth Thursday of each month at 6:30 p.m. at the Pride Center. All meetings are open to the public, so feel free to join in. Navigate to www.lexpridefest.org for more information. Q


UK Feast on Equality Committee Meeting. From Left to Right: Amanda Fallin-Bennett,Wes Lyons, Nathan Dickerson, Nelson Fields,Tim Burcham, Lance Poston, & Tukea Talbert.

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Rita Mae Dunn (left) and Stacie Steinbock, M.S. from the University of Louisville’s LGBT Center present at Gender Revolution workshop presented by Trans Parent Lex on July 29th at UK’s E. S. Good Barn.

Transgender Social Justice Educator J’Lissabeth Faughn presents at Gender Revolution workshop presented by Trans Parent Lex on July 29th at UK’s E. S. Good Barn.


Jeri Hahn moderates a panel of parents of transgender children at Gender Revolution workshop presented by Trans Parent Lex on July 29th at UK’s E. S. Good Barn.

The Kentucky Black Pride Planning Committee takes a break to pose for a photograph at their most recent meeting. Photo courtesy of Shawn Ka’Ron Bumpase.

Staff and Volunteers at AVOL’s office prepare for Dining Out For Life, to be held on Thursday, September 14. Photo courtesy of Anthony Smallwood.


SEPTEMBER

COMMUNITY & SOCIAL GROUPS

CALENDAR & DIRECTORY

Saturday, September 2 10:00 a.m.-Grief Support Group (Ahava Center) 2:30 p.m.-Bluegrass Black Pride Meeting (Northside Library) 7:30 p.m.-TransKentucky Meeting Wednesday, September 6 5:30 p.m.-ICK Board of Directors / Membership Meeting (Winterwood, Inc.) 7:00 p.m.-“Heart To Heart” LGBT Discussion Group (PCSO Center) Thursday, September 7 6:30 p.m.-PCSO Board Meeting (PCSO Center) Friday, September 8 Lexington Roots & Heritage Festival Saturday, September 9 Lexington Roots & Heritage Festival 9:00 p.m.-Kentucky Bourbon Bears Board Meeting (Crossings) Sunday, September 10 Lexington Roots & Heritage Festival 1:30 p.m.-Levi Kreis Concert (Ahava Center) 5:00 p.m. SisterSound Rehearsals Start (Centenary United Methodist) Tuesday, September 12 6:30 p.m.-PFLAG Meeting (St. Michael Church) 9:00 p.m.-LGBT Sci-Fi / Horror Group (PCSO Center) Wednesday, September 13 9:00 a.m.-UK CCO Volunteer Fair (University of Kentucky) 5:00 p.m.-Richmond’s Alphabet Soup Support Group (UU Fellowship Hall)

7:00 p.m.-“Heart To Heart” LGBT Discussion Group (PCSO Center) 9:00 p.m.-ICK Show Dragging Out For Life (Crossings) Thursday, September 14 Dining Out For Life Kentucky Black Pride

Friday, September 15 Editorial & Ad Deadline for LinQ Magazine Kentucky Black Pride 7:00 p.m.-Senior’s Bistro (Potluck) (PCSO Center) Saturday, September 16 Kentucky Black Pride Louisville Pride 8:00 a.m.-SisterSound Yard Sale (2290 Alexandria Drive) Sunday, September 17 Kentucky Black Pride 1:30 p.m.-Kentucky Fried Sisters (PCSO Center) Wednesday, September 20 7:00 p.m.-“Heart To Heart” LGBT Discussion Group (PCSO Center)

24-Hour National Crisis Line

1-800-221-0446

24-Hour Teen Crisis Line

1-800-432-4510

24/7 Veteran’s Administration Crisis Line

1-800-273-8255, Press 1

AA/Alcoholic Teens

859-277-1877

Alcoholics Anonymous

859-967-9960

Arbor Youth Services

859-254-2501

Council for Peace and Justice

859-488-1448

Fairness of Louisville

502-893-0788

Gay-Straight Alliance, Teens

859-221-4396

“Heart to Heart” Discussion Group

859-253-3233

Imperial Court of Kentucky

859-619-7521

KY Survivors Area of Narcotics Anonymous

859-253-4673

Lexington Fair Housing Council

1-866-438-8617

Lexington Fairness

859-951-8565

Lexington Human Rights

859-252-4931

Lexington Pride Festival

859-253-3233

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

1-800-273-8255

PCSO Pride Center

859-253-3233

PFLAG Central Kentucky, Inc.

859-338-4393

PFLAG Louisville

502-223-1323

Rainbow Bowling League

270-404-0211

SAGE Elder Hotline

1-888-234-7243

SisterSound

859-806-0243

Social Services, Lexington

211

TransParentLex

859-230-0409

TransKentucky

cassiemt@yahoo.com

TransLex

eellett@pcsoky.org

Transgender Youth Family Allies

1-888-462-8932

Trevor Lifeline 24/7

1-866-488-7386

United Way

859-313-5465

VA, Lexington LGBT Veteran Care Office

859-233-4511, Ext. 3482

COLLEGE STUDENT GROUPS Berea College ACE

859-958-3633

BCTC Gay-Straight Alliance

859-246-6365

Centre College BGLA

859-238-5332

EKU Alphabet Center

859-622-5041

EKU Pride Alliance

859-622-1027

Morehead State University

606-783-2071

TUnity (Transy)

859-445-3822

UK LGBTQ* Resource Center

859-323-3312

RELIGIOUS GROUPS

Sunday, September 24 3:00 p.m.-LGBT Sci-Fi / Horror Group (PCSO Center) Wednesday, September 27 7:00 p.m.-“Heart To Heart” LGBT Discussion Group (PCSO Center) Thursday, September 28 6:30 p.m.-Lexington Pride Festival Committee Planning Meeting (PCSO Center) Saturday, September 30 8:00 p.m. - Saturday Night FeverPride Community Prom (LexArts Performance Hall)

For more details on events, view the full calendar at pcsoky.org at the bottom of the webpage

Ahava Center for Spiritual Living

859-373-8910

Bluegrass United Church of Christ

859-233-0208

Central Christian Church

859-233-1551

Faith Lutheran Church

859-266-7621

First Presbyterian Church

859-252-1919

Hunter Presbyterian Church

859-277-5126

Lex Friends, Quakers

859-254-3319

Maxwell Street Presbyterian Church

859-255-1075

St. Martha’s Episcopal Church

859-271-7641

St. Michael's Episcopal Church

859-277-7511

Unitarian Universalist Church

859-223-1448

Woodland Christian Church

859-266-3416

HIV/STD TESTING, SERVICES, & INFO AIDS Volunteers of Lexington (AVOL)

859-225-3000

Health Department, Fayette County

859-288-2437

Health Department, Woodford County

859-873-4541

HIV/AIDS Legal Project

502-584-1254

Moveable Feast

859-252-2867

Northern KY Region

859-341-4264

UK Adolescent Medicine

859-323-5643

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September 2017 LinQ  

LinQ is the only monthly magazine that focuses on the Kentucky LGBTQ+ community. LinQ is published monthly by and for the Pride Community Se...