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IN THIS ISSUE
VOL 39 / NO. 5
FEATURE ANDREW TAN
The Man Behind the Curtain of the Lexington Fairness Awards
pages 16 & 17 Meet the man who has been behind all 10 of Lexington Fairness’ annual awards banquets, which will be held on June 23rd this year.
THAT’S WHAT I’M TALKIN’ ABOUT page 4
IMPERIAL COURT OF KENTUCKY NEWS
Helena gets serious when talking about loneliness, even though one may be busy and surrounded by people.
pages 6 & 7
Although H.M.I.M. Emperor XXXV Russell Drake tells us he is wrapping up his reign, things are not slowing down with the Imperial Court of Kentucky.
LIBERAL TRANSPHOBIA pages 8 & 9
This month, Tuesday writes about transphobia and how its sometimes comes from folks who call themselves liberals.
BIRDS OF A FEATHER page 11 For their 20th anniversary, ActOut Theatre Company will present this quirky and humorous tale which looks at relationships through the eyes of three different couples – two avian and one human.
HUMOR ADVOCACY CULTURE
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by Helena Handbasket
oneliness. Who knows what loneliness really is? We all think we know what it is but do we really? So, let me tell you a little story. Not one of my most cheerful but a story that needs to be told nonetheless. Once upon a time there was a beautiful lady who was one of the luckiest people in the world. The blessings for her have been plenty and they continue to come. She has a long-term relationship with someone that the community respects and appreciates for all of the good that he does for others. She has a beautiful home filled with antiques and an amazing collection of sentimental items that she has accumulated over the years from those that she loves. She has a reliable full time job and a part time job that she has the freedom to do only when she wants to. She has the opportunity to perform as much as she likes to and each time she does perform she draws a loving and generous crowd. She has good health. She has a beautiful little fur baby who loves her unconditionally and brings her joy every day. She attends church regularly and is often surrounded by the people of that church who love her and who appreciate the contributions she makes toward her church and community. She gets to write and publish a monthly article in a local magazine even though she has never had any professional training on how to be a writer. She has a good family, most of whom have finally learned to accept her for who she is. She has been 4 LinQ // MAY 2017 . HUMOR
blessed with the gift of empathy and hospitality and works tirelessly to help others with their issues, thoughts, and actions. And, in addition to all of this, she has thousands of memories of the times in her life when she was lucky enough to have life experiences that most people only dream of. When you put all of that together, you just can’t deny that she is very fortunate and she should be grateful for it all. By all accounts she has the perfect life and couldn’t possibly ever get depressed or feel lonely. Right? Why then would someone with so much going for them ever be depressed? How is it even possible
t h at someone could feel lonely with so many people who love her and are around her all of the time? You would be surprised how often people who are always making others smile or laugh are actually suffering from depression themselves. There is a big difference between being alone and being lonely. So, again it is true confessions time. By now you have probably already realized that I am the person I am referring to in my story. I don’t enjoy admitting this but I do sometimes suffer from depression and even paranoia. I sometimes find myself in a room full of people but yet I feel an overwhelming sense of loneliness.
Sometimes I allow myself to doubt and question the sincerity of others. I fear that there are reasons or motives for people being nice to me. I worry that people only like me as long as I am doing something that they need from me. I let myself feel taken advantage of and taken for granted. This can lead to resentment and bitterness. Listen, I’m not proud to admit these things but I know that I cannot be the only one who feels this way. I would love to say that I have developed skills and methods to overcome and conquer those feelings but in reality it is something I continue to deal with. I have good times and bad times. I have learned that I cannot control the actions or motives of others but I can control my own actions and reactions to people and their objectives. So, I try each day to put good out into the world. I try to smile and bring joy to others and in doing so I find a little joy for myself. I try to talk myself out of feeling used or manipulated and hold on to the fact that no one can make me do or feel anything that I don’t want to. The struggle, as they say, is real. I must strive to find time to do positive things for myself and not rely on others to supply my happiness. I vow to persevere. I will try to do my best each day and hope for a day when selfdoubt will be replaced with confidence in myself and a trust in the intentions of others. To those of you who share in my feelings, let’s stand together and refuse to be broken. Okay? Send comments or suggestions to helenahandbasketKY@gmail.com
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IMPERIAL COURT OF KENTUCKY NEWS ADVOCACY
by H.M.I.M. Emperor XXXV of the Imperial Court of Kentucky, Russell Drake
hat an amazing journey, Lexington! I cannot believe I’m writing my final Imperial Court of Kentucky update for the LinQ magazine. Your support of Reign 35 has been an inspiration to me at every turn and I truly could not have done it without the love and generosity of the Central Kentucky community. We’ve had great success over the past month and tons of fun along the way. Manhattan played host to Imperial Prince Royale Daniel Honeycutt and me as the Imperial Court of New York hosted the thirty first Night of A Thousand Gowns! Representing the Bluegrass State was an incredible honor and we joined hundreds of revelers from across the United States and Canada. I was thankful to be invited to accompany Emperor Tree Sequoia, himself a veteran of the Stonewall Riots, as a guest to the dais to witness the presentation of a
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Lifetime Achievement Award to actor Sir Ian McKellen during the festivities at the Times Square Marriott Marquis! Meanwhile, back at home, the Board of Directors voted to increase our monthly shows at Soundbar to a bimonthly affair, hosted on Wednesday nights prior to karaoke and our first month was a rousing success. Queen Mother Nicole Diamond produced the first installment, dubbed Fundraising With Friends and we were joined by fabulous entertainers from Cincinnati, Ohio to raise money for the International Court System’s homeless initiatives. The next show, Soundbar Spectacular, was such a fun night for everyone, and we can’t wait to return in May for more great entertainment! Additionally, we were invaded on March 31st by our friends from the Imperial Sovereign Queen City
Court of the Buckeye Empire, who came to Lexington and helped produce a wonderful Friday night show at Crossings Lexington. The drinks flowed and a dozen entertainers took the stage for a hilarious night of camp and glam. Each opportunity that we’ve had to party with our Ohio family has led to an epic evening! Coming up on May 3rd, the Imperial Court of Kentucky will produce our fourth pageant of the Reign, Miss Derby Pride, and we’re looking forward to seeing what our contestants will bring to the contest. Interested competitors should contact Empress Aurora Cummings or Empress Eve St. Mychal. Then, the winners of all of our pageants this year will compete
for the title of Ultimate Entertainer on May 21st! Make your plans now to attend The Bourbon Ball, Coronation 36, on June 11th at the Lexington Downtown Hilton. Tickets are available at www. imperialcourtkentucky.org. This event will sell out, so plan ahead! Guests from across the country will be joining Lexington Fairness, PCSO, Bluegrass Black Pride, AVOL and many other of our community organizations for Kentucky’s National Pride March that afternoon and then adjourn for a sparkling evening at The Bourbon Ball. All are welcome! It’s been a privilege to serve Kentucky as Emperor 35! Let’s go out with a bang!
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TransKY ADVOCATE by Tuesday G Meadows
“I used to rule the world/Seas would rise when I gave the word/now in the morning I sleep alone/ Sweep the streets I used to own… Next the walls closed in on me/ and I discovered that my castles stand/upon pillars of salt and pillars of sand.” Viva La Vida, Coldplay
have had many slings and arrows from right-wing haters thrown at me too often to mention. Not that one ever gets used to it but I’ve come to expect it. When the hate starts flowing from the left or my own community, it can still take me by surprise. Recently, there has been a spate of hateful articles and comments that have come from some well-know feminists, gay and lesbian-identified groups and leaders, and even from some well-known transgender people. In other words, people who should support our community and who should know better than to spit hate. Much of the nastiness seems to revolve around those who scream male privilege at transgender women. Many recognize that transgender women do not have male privilege once they transition but the debate gets heated over whether or not we had it before we transitioned. And much has been said about those who do not fully
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transition because they can’t or don’t want to because of various reasons. It’s been 4 years now that I started living outwardly as my true-self and started my medical transition. Before I began HRT and other medical options, my outward appearance was that of a cisgender male. The problem arises when we talk about privilege as a zero-sum game. Just because we have certain areas where we may have privilege, it is not allor-nothing, and this is the thrust behind intersectionality. For instance, although we share many problems, transgender women and cisgender women can also have different challenges. For instance, reproductive rights and choices may affect one group more or less than the other. Obviously, transgender women have different challenges that cisgender women do not. But we also have lots and lots of similar problems with our society. One group’s challenges are not more or less worthy than the other.
Let’s face facts: the challenges are real. Transgender people as a whole are often portrayed in our society as mentally ill for no apparent reason except that we are trans. In a recent nationwide survey, a majority of transgender people say that they have faced discrimination in the workforce, with 1 in 3 quitting their job because of discrimination. Cisgender women and transgender women both have to fight misogyny in our society. Our society values masculinity more than femininity, and that is the crux of many of our similar problems in the workplace and society. For outed transgender women, we have the added burden of fighting transmisogyny as well as misogyny inside and outside the workforce. Cisgender women, who often support each other in hostile work environments, will leave us out of their cliques because they perceive us as being different. Often, as the lone transperson in a work setting, we are left to fend for ourselves against harassment from male coworkers and bosses who say that we make them or someone else feel “uneasy.” Often, we are told that we are the ones to blame for any trouble on the job. Let’s not even get started with potential bathroom conflicts on the job, but the bottom line is that transwomen struggle and at times our struggles are different than those of our cisgender sisters. What about my experience? I hit what I would call a glass ceiling early in my career when I had a chance to move up the ranks. The promotion went to someone with much less experience and knowledge of the job. My evaluations were good but I was told that I was “too easy” on my employees and that I didn’t have “that killer instinct” that they wanted. I always treated everyone with respect regardless of their status, from salespeople, to employees, and especially customers. I was once told that I was going to get fired, even though my numbers were outstanding, because I was too nice to my people. Yes, too nice! I
think what my bosses were really talking about was my femininity and they perceived it as a weakness. Even in my life experience, I did not fit the mold of toxic masculinity and, like many women who are seen as weak by their male bosses, I was also. In the end, I am proud of the way I treated my employees and I lived my values as best as I could at the time, even though I did not fit into the rigid box of a “boss” by our culture. Even though I was male-bodied at the time, I felt more like I was in a prison than a privileged castle. It was those pressures that helped me to stay in the closet so long; in fact, I was later told by my former boss that he would have fired me if I had come out. Getting caught up in discussing who has had more privilege or more adversity only builds walls between us as allies. Whether we are discussing race, ethnicity, culture, or other biases, all are an important part of the conversation, but none should be used to cause us to fight one another. In the LGBTQIA community we are stronger together and right now we need to be fighting the alt-right zealots who despise us all and our notions of social justice. Transpeople are an important part of the conversation and we have experienced various forms of oppression and privilege; those that focus on what potential “male” privilege means to transwomen are just serving to discriminate against and further marginalize us. I love all of my siblings in the LGBTQIA community. I believe that we are much stronger together than we are apart. Are there haters in our community here in Lexington? Yes, but it’s a small portion. As I did in my career, I try to treat everyone with respect regardless of their status. All I ask in return is please don’t use my past to beat me up with it because you didn’t have to live it. You may write me at tmeadows828@ gmail.com or check out my blog tuesdaysgonewiththewind.wordpress. com. Now Tuesday is gone with the wind.
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Birds of a Feather by Scott Shive and Marcus A. Roland
before the watchful eyes of another real-life bird couple — Pale Male and Lola, male and female red-tailed hawks whose nest on a Fifth Avenue apartment building led to a 2004 battle between residents and animal rights activists. Finally, witnessing all of this is a pair of fictional humans — a female zookeeper and a male birdwatcher. Even though the lead characters are talking animals, Wayman said she loves the realness of the play. “The relationships are true to life and do not always end the way that everyone wants, or expects,” she said. The ActOut production features a host of well-known Central Kentucky actors playing humans and birds: Holly Hazelwood Brady, Mary Brouse, Bill Chandler, Allie Darden, Graeme Hart, Deborah Martin, Marcus A. Roland, Bob Singleton, Burley Thomas, and Kyle Wade. Birds of a Feather is the latest of more than 20 plays by ActOut, including Love! Valour! Compassion! (2001), The Laramie Project (2002), Sordid Lives (2003), Southern Baptist Sissies (2005), Corpus Christi (2006), Lot’s Daughters (2007) and Standing on Ceremony: The Gay Marriage Plays (2016). The troupe’s biggest show, however, was also its first, Elegies for Angels, Punks and Raging Queens in 1997, a collection of free-verse monologues with book and lyrics by Bill Russell set to music by Janet Hood. Elegies “told many stories of
those infected and affected by the AIDS pandemic and helped to inform people of what had happened and was happening,” said Chandler, who founded ActOut as a side program of the Gay and Lesbian Services Organization (GLSO); known now as the Pride Community Services Organization (PCSO). “It was a moving theatrical response to the AIDS crisis.” Chandler first conceived of ActOut Theatre as a fundraising arm of the GLSO. It has since become a stand-alone non-profit organization that produces plays that portray what Chandler calls “the aesthetics of the LGBTQ community in a positive, supportive and non-judgmental manner.” Though ActOut focuses on stories rooted in the LGBTQ community, Wayman said, Birds of a Feather is universal. It’s about relationships — “not gay relationships, just relationships,” she said. “We witness couples who meet later in life; people who might have missed each other had they not had a brief moment to connect; couples tearing each other apart; characters having to be true to themselves; people learning to compromise.” And just like in real life, all these stories take place under the watchful gaze of some animals. “What if we could hear those birds talk?” Wayman said.
IF YOU GO Birds of a Feather Produced by ActOut Theatre Sponsored by Kentucky for Kentucky When: 8 p.m. June 9, 10, 16, 17; and 2 p.m. June 18 Where: Downtown Arts Center Black Box Theater, 141 East Main Street, Lexington Tickets: $20. At the DAC box office or at http://bit.ly/2nPG1sQ. Learn more: www.facebook.com/actoutky CULTURE . MAY 2017 // LinQ 11
t’s no revelation that every relationship has a story. We humans share tales of romances we’ve witnessed and been a part of all the time. But among the eyes watching our love lives flourish and fade, flower and falter are those of animals, some of whom might have their own relationships to contend with. What if those animals could talk? That’s the adventurous and quirky premise of Birds of a Feather, the 20th anniversary production by ActOut Theatre, Lexington’s only theater company focused on telling LGBTQ stories. The show is June 9th to 18th at the Downtown Arts Center theater in Lexington. “There is so much humor, so much real-life love and frustration” in the relationships portrayed in Birds of a Feather, “even if they are penguins, hawks and people,” said director Marty Wayman, who is making her ActOut directing debut after having led, produced and acted in countless Central Kentucky productions. The play, by Marc Acito and first presented in 2011, looks at relationships through the eyes of three couples — two of them avian and true, the third human and imaginary. At the center are Roy and Silo, the real-life male chinstrap penguins who made news in 1998 when they raised a chick together in New York’s Central Park Zoo. (Their story also inspired the 2005 children’s book And Tango Makes Three.) The penguins’ romance blossoms
TO THE MOVIES”!
isterSound, the Lexington Women’s Chorus, continues to celebrate its 21st year of singing together by inviting you to join them as they present many of your favorite songs from movies old and new. Some of the selections include: Little Shop of Horrors, Over the Rainbow, Seasons of Love, Unchained Melody, Dancing Queen, Blue Bayou and many more surprises. It’s an evening you won’t want to miss! SisterSound’s Spring concert is on Saturday, May 20, 2017, 7:00 p.m., at St. Michael’s Episcopal Church, 2025 Bellefonte Drive, Lexington. Tickets are $10 for adults and $5 for children age 4 to 12; those age 3 and under are admitted at no charge. Tickets are available from SisterSound members or at the door. Need tickets and haven’t crossed paths with a SisterSound member yet? Call 859-263-0702. Are you interested in singing with SisterSound? New members are always welcome. All you have to do is be female, 18 years of age or older, be able to match pitch, and enjoy singing with other women. Rehearsals for the Winter, 2018 Concert start on Sunday, September 10, 2017. We will have a “Meet and Greet” from 5:00 – 6:00 p.m. with rehearsal to follow until 8:00 p.m. in the choir room at Centenary Methodist Church, 2800 Tates Creek Road, Lexington. Come and join in the fun! Can’t make the first rehearsal? Come the following week at 6:00 p.m. We will also be having our annual picnic for prospective and returning members during the summer and will make sure that it is on the LinQ calendar!
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AROUND THE LIBRARY
reviewed by Megan Lucy
Time on Two Crosses: The Collected Writings of Bayard Rustin
Written by Bayard Rustin, Edited by Devon Carbado & Donald Weise
new acquisition for the PCSO Pride Library is Time on Two Crosses: The Collected Writings of Bayard Rustin, by Bayard Rustin, edited by Devon Carbado and Donald Weise. Time on Two Crosses provides a fascinating look into the mind of the brilliant civil rights strategist whose struggles as an openly gay African American in the 1940s-1980s formed the “two crosses” of the book’s title. Over the course of a more than 45-year career in activism, Bayard Rustin was a leader in the African American civil rights movement, anti-war efforts, labor movement, and gay rights movement. He is most remembered as the architect of the Southern Christian Leadership Conference and the co-organizer of the 1963 March on Washington, along with A. Philip Randolph. Time on Two Crosses collects 48 of Rustin’s speeches, essays, and interviews, many of which are hauntingly prescient and provide valuable lessons for current activists. Some of the highlights include: Twenty-two days on a Chain Gang, Rustin’s 1949 account of serving time in a North Carolina prison after having been arrested for challenging Jim Crow laws on interstate buses; Civil Rights, 20 Years Later, a reflection on the March on Washington written in 1983; and Black and Gay in the Civil Rights Movement: An Interview with Open Hands, from 1987. Rustin’s writing is luminescent and profound and may be found in the Biography section of the PCSO Pride Library under the call number BIO AUTO.
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THE MAN BEHIND THE CURTAIN OF THE LEXINGTON FAIRNESS AWARDS “Travel isn’t always pretty. It isn’t always comfortable. Sometimes it hurts, it even breaks your heart. But that’s okay. The journey changes you; it should change you. It leaves marks on your memory, on your consciousness, on your heart, and on your body. You take something with you. Hopefully, you leave something good behind.” Andrew Tan’s favorite quote from Anthony Bourdain explaining his and Jonathan’s love for travel 16 LinQ LinQ // // FEBRUARY MAY 2017 2017 . FEATURE 16 . COMMUNITY
by Tuesday G Meadows
his year will mark the 10th anniversary of the Lexington Fairness Awards Banquet. The Fairness Awards help to recognize those who are making a difference in the LGBTQ+ community and to record and recognize our history in Central Kentucky. While you may not know it from the finished product, it takes a lot of blood, sweat, and tears to put on one of these events. Andrew Tan is currently hard at work for the spectacular 2017 Fairmess Awards, which will be held on June 23rd, the day before the Lexington Pride Festival. In fact, Andrew has been working on the awards from their inception. Andrew came from Malaysia to the University of Kentucky in 1994 to study architecture. He says he was never able to live openly in Malaysia because being gay was then and still is punishable by law. His family is very conservative, with a stoic dad and a tiger mom who pushed him to get an education. During the course of getting that education, however, he fell in love with Lexington, and also later fell in love with his spouse, Jonathan Barker. He says that his and Jonathan’s personalities just complimented each other, and even though they have faced hardships and stigma, Andrew would not change a thing. Although Andrew never planned to be an activist, Jonathan was such a strong advocate for the local LGBTQ+ community that Andrew just naturally joined Lexington Fairness in 2008 and began working on the first Awards event shortly thereafter. The Fairness Awards let Andrew use his creative side but his favorite part has been being able to work alongside wonderful and “fierce” advocates throughout the years. During our conversation, he fondly recalled working with Fairness leaders such as Paul Brown, Craig Cammack, Roy Harrison, and now Josh Mers. There have also been some tough lessons. He still has flashbacks of Lady Bunny doing her “chicken nugget” routine in a room with several cringing clergy members. (He says he has a more careful screening process these days.) He also learned what actually constitutes a vegan meal after one snafu. Andrew laughs about many of those things now and says that they helped him grow a thick skin. As a perfectionist, he struggles to get the design aesthetics just right, which can make him easily frustrated in the days and weeks leading up to the event, but he says he is fortunate that Jonathan is always there as a voice of reason. Throughout the ups and downs of producing the program, Andrew takes the most pride in the programs that the Fairness Awards have been designed to support – programs such as bullying prevention in local area schools, cultural competency training for teachers and law enforcement, stocking local school libraries with LGBTQ+ positive books, Lobby Day and Lobby Day training, Andrew Tan & Johnathan Barker support for our aging community, the Fourth of July Parade March, Fairness in the Park Picnics, etc. With the funds raised from the Fairness Awards, Lexington Fairness is also working with other local organizations on added protections for LGBTQ+ individuals and is sponsoring new activities such as the March for Unity and Pride on June 11th in downtown Lexington. Someday, Andrew dreams of attending the Fairness Awards as just another guest and handing the reins off to the next person that will share his passion. Instead of worrying about every detail of the event, he could relax, enjoy the show, and talk to everyone else in attendance. Until then, he will keep working on the awards because he believes in raising funds for programs that foster an environment of acceptance and fairness for those who are marginalized and empowering them so that they too can have the opportunity and drive to become productive members in an equitable society. I met with Andrew on a warm and sunny day in downtown Lexington. Talking to him about his own personal history and the history of the Lexington Fairness Awards, he maintained a broad smile on his face. Eventually, he admitted that he had just rushed back from Frankfort and his morning had been very busy; he had just come from his U.S. citizenship swearing in ceremony. His smile became even broader as he described the love he has for his spouse, his country, his love of travel, and his community here in Lexington. He told me when we began talking that he is often shy around new people and doesn’t like to do public speaking but it strikes me that his life and his actions speak volumes for themselves. Q FEATURE . MAY 2017 // LinQ 17
PROUD MAMAS & PAPAS
by Paul Brown, 2017 Lexington Pride Festival Chair
he month of May brings us Mother’s Day. Then, we will celebrate Father’s Day in June. Two days to celebrate our parents. Yet, many in the queer community do not feel the need to thank or to celebrate their parents, for their parents have rejected them. I have heard the horror stories. For example, a student told his parents he was gay and they called the Department for Community Based Services to come pick him up because they did not want him anymore. More than one friend of mine has cut all ties with their parents in order to find a place of inner-peace. Obviously, their parents were not proud of their kids and showed it. Most parents look at their newborn children with visions and hopes of what their kids will turn out to be. Most of those have a vision that is based in a heteronormative and cisgender construct. They imagine their kids growing up to marry someone of the opposite sex and giving them grandchildren. They imagine their boys will play sports and be rugged. They imagine their girls will wear makeup and go shopping. The thing about kids is that they do not come pre-programmed for these things. Some of us do not feel comfortable presenting societal gender roles. Some of us do not desire the opposite sex. Some of us just do not fit in society’s nicely crafted boxes. Parents often feel frustrated and wonder what they did wrong when their kids do not match their preconceived vision. Some, like the ones mentioned above, turn their back on their kids at a time when they are needed by them the most—the time when they fit in nowhere and desperately long to belong anywhere. However, not everyone has such terrible experiences. My own parents have
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proven that they accept me for who I am. It is okay that parents feel disappointed but the best parents will realize that we cannot have all parts of the vision—we cannot have our ideals or perfection. It would do us good to keep in mind the same of our parents. No parent is the ideal. The best parents will meet their children where they are and love them for who they are even when they do not meet up with their dream. They will be proud of their kids. In turn, that show of pride will result in their kids being proud of them. My parents are conservative ideologically but they understand that I am gay and love me anyway. I am certain my dad would have loved to have a UK basketball player. Instead, he got a grammar-loving, language nerd who does not care who puts a ball through a hole in the sky. He is proud of me anyway for the many things I do. Because of that, I celebrate him and am proud of him. For those who have had negative experiences, I always say, and believe, that there is a family to which we are born and a family that we make. We can find mentors and adopt them as parents. The concept reminds me a little of how budding drag queens pick drag mamas to guide them to their professional status. There are people in the community who will foster those folks who have had to let go of their biological family. There are people who will be proud of you and of whom you can be proud. We can also pay it forward. Some of my friends in the queer community are fostering and adopting kids. Some of these kids are too young to know their sexual orientation or gender identity. Others know and feel comfortable with who they are. Regardless, these parents
have learned from their own experiences and love their kids for who they are. They show them through words and actions that they have immense pride because of them. This Mother’s and Father’s Day, if you can, call your parents or spend time with them and let them know how proud you are to have affirming parents. It is important that they hear they have done good things with their kids. If you cannot, then adopt a mentor parent and tell them how proud you are of their kindness. Or find a parent of someone in the queer community and make it a point to tell them they are doing good work. Pride is like karma—what goes around comes around. Telling these people that you are proud of them makes them feel good and they will be proud of you in return. It is a huge, non-breakable circle of pride that goes around today, tomorrow, and every day. Now, as chairman of the Lexington Pride Festival, I have to promote more than good parents/ role models. I have to mention that we will put on the Bachelor/Bachelorette Auction at Soundbar on May 19th. The door opens at 9 p.m. All proceeds go to the production of the Lexington Pride Festival. Please come. Bring your parents or your “foster” parents. Dig deep and give. It will be a fun time that will go toward a massive community event where parents and kids can go and be proud of each other. Our Pride Festival is a family (in the traditional sense) affair. We want to provide an environment where parents and kids cannot only be proud of who they are but of each other. So, I hope to see you at Soundbar on May 19th.
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Latoya Bacall and dancers perform at ‘Reflections: A Drag Show Tribute to Days Past’, presented by Bluegrass Black Pride, Inc.
Cadillac Seville performs at ‘Reflections’ at the Lyric Theatre on Sunday, April 9th
Miss Lexington 2016 & Miss Lexington Pride 2015, Phoxee Roxx, performs
Mayor Jim Gray declares April 9, 2017, ‘William M. Bowles Day’ John Moses congratulates William Bowles at ‘Reflections:A Drag Show Tribute to Days Past’
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Paris Bacall performs at ‘Reflections’, presented by Bluegrass Black Pride, Inc.
Tiana Love performs at ‘Reflections’ at the Lyric Theatre
Miss Bluegrass Gay Pride 2017, Georgia Peach, at ‘Reflections’
Helena Handbasket performs at â€˜Reflections: A Drag Show Tribute to Days Pastâ€™, presented by Bluegrass Black Pride, Inc.
Company Q practices at the PCSO Pride Center for their next performance
Gilda Wabbit (aka Sam Themer) and mom Anita Themer
NYC drag queen, Gilda Wabbit (aka Sam Themer), spoke to UK’s OUTLaw group as part of Pride Week on campus. Themer, of viral fame, is a UK Alumni
Gilda Wabbit (aka Sam Themer) spoke to UK’s OUTLaw group as part of Pride Week on campus
Barth Hooks (Kat Wilkie) performs at Turnabout, a fundraiser for the Lexington Pride Festival
Jocasta Lots (Jacob Boyd) performs at Turnabout on Sunday, April 16th at Crossings
Caroline performs at Turnabout, presented by and benefiting the Lexington Pride Festival
Jocasta Lots (Jacob Boyd) and Manuel Hung (Dena D. Lee) perform at Turnabout
Barth Hooks (Kat Wilkie), Ida Starr (Paul Brown), Jocasta Lots (Jacob Boyd), and Manuel Hung (Dena D. Lee) at Turnabout
Ida Starr (Paul Brown) performs at Turnabout, a fundraiser for the Lexington Pride Festival
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COMMUNITY & SOCIAL GROUPS 24-Hour National Crisis Line
24-Hour Teen Crisis Line
24/7 Veteran’s Administration Crisis Line
1-800-273-8255, Press 1
Arbor Youth Services
Council for Peace and Justice
Fairness of Louisville
Gay-Straight Alliance, Teens
Monday, May 15 Editorial & Ad Deadline for LinQ Magazine
“Heart to Heart” Discussion Group
Imperial Court of Kentucky
KY Survivors Area of Narcotics Anonymous
Lexington Fair Housing Council
Wednesday, May 17 7:00 p.m.-“Heart To Heart” LGBT Discussion Group (PCSO Center)
Lexington Human Rights
Lexington Pride Festival
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
PCSO Pride Center
PFLAG Central Kentucky, Inc.
Rainbow Bowling League
SAGE Elder Hotline
Social Services, Lexington
Transgender Youth Family Allies
Trevor Lifeline 24/7
VA, Lexington LGBT Veteran Care Office
859-233-4511, Ext. 3482
CALENDAR & DIRECTORY
Wednesday, May 3 7:00 p.m.-“Heart To Heart” LGBT Discussion Group (PCSO Center) Thursday, May 4 6:30 p.m.-PCSO Board Meeting (PCSO Center) Saturday, May 6 10:00 a.m.-Grief Support Group (Ahava Center) 7:30 p.m.-TransKentucky Meeting Sunday, May 7 7:30 p.m.-Being LBGTQ in the Bible Belt presented by Woodford Co. Fairness Coalition (Midway Christian Church)
Thursday, May 18 6:30 p.m.-PCSO Board Work Session (PCSO Center) Friday, May 19 7:00 p.m.-Senior’s Bistro/ Potluck (PCSO Center) 8:00 p.m.-Bachelor/ette Auction (Soundbar Lex) Saturday, May 20 7:00 p.m.-SisterSound concert Let’s Go to the Movies (St. Michaels Church)
Tuesday, May 9 6:30 p.m.-PFLAG Meeting (St. Michaels Church) Sunday, May 21 9:00 p.m.-LGBT Sci-Fi/ 1:30 p.m.-Sisters of Perpetual Horror Group (PCSO Center) Indulgence in Central/ Eastern Kentucky Wednesday, May 10 (PCSO Center) 5:00 p.m.-Richmond’s Alphabet Soup Wednesday, May 24 Support Group 7:00 p.m.-“Heart To Heart” (UU Fellowship Hall) LGBT Discussion Group 7:00 p.m.-“Heart To Heart” (PCSO Center) LGBT Discussion Group (PCSO Center) Saturday, May 27 10:00 a.m.-Librarian Work Saturday, May 13 Session (PCSO Center) 7:30 p.m.-New Song in the Bluegrass concert Sunday, May 28 The Story of Love 3:00 p.m.-LGBT Sci-Fi/ (St. Michaels Church) Horror Group (PCSO Center) 9:00 p.m.-Kentucky Bourbon 6:00 p.m.-ICK’s Board of Bears Board Meeting Directors/Membership (Crossings Lex) Meeting (PCSO Center) Sunday, May 14 6:00 p.m.-Imperial Court Meeting (PCSO Center)
Wednesday, May 31 7:00 p.m.-“Heart To Heart” LGBT Discussion Group (PCSO Center)
For more details on events, view the full calendar at pcsoky.org at the bottom of the webpage
COLLEGE STUDENT GROUPS Berea College ACE
BCTC Gay-Straight Alliance
Centre College BGLA
EKU Alphabet Center
EKU Pride Alliance
Morehead State University
UK LGBTQ* Resource Center
RELIGIOUS GROUPS Ahava Center for Spiritual Living
Bluegrass United Church of Christ
Faith Lutheran Church
First Presbyterian Church
Hunter Presbyterian Church
Lex Friends, Quakers
Maxwell Street Presbyterian Church
St. Martha’s Episcopal Church
St. Michael's Episcopal Church
Unitarian Universalist Church
Woodland Christian Church
HIV/STD TESTING, SERVICES, & INFO AIDS Volunteers of Lexington (AVOL)
Health Department, Fayette County
Health Department, Woodford County
HIV/AIDS Legal Project
Northern KY Region
UK Adolescent Medicine
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