Meeting Up With
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On The Pulse Massacre: Who is Left Out of the Current Discourse?
Books To Transform a Trump Administration PAGE 13
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IN THIS ISSUE
VOL 39 / NO. 7
MEETING UP WITH
PRESIDENT OF PFLAG CENTRAL KENTUCKY pages 14 & 15 Linda Angelo is the President of PFLAG Central Kentucky. Learn about what PFLAG does and who Linda is and why she is so devoted to the PFLAG organization.
THE FIGHT TO SAVE OUR KIDS pages 8 & 9
ON THE PULSE MASSACRE: WHO IS LEFT OUT OF THE CURRENT DISCOURSE?
Tuesday is a tireless advocate for the transgender community, especially transgender youth. She tells us why we must start fighting for the right for these children to be themselves.
page 10 Learn how one group is using the Pulse nightclub tragedy to create division between the LGBTQ+ community and other marginalized groups in an effort to push their oppressive agenda.
BOOKS TO TRANSFORM A TRUMP ADMINISTRATION page 13
Author Bernadette Barton uses ideas contained in feminist science fiction to chart a path of “Good Reality” during the Trump years.
PRIDE CAME AND PRIDE STAYS pages 16 & 17
Photo Credit: Rob Bolson
HUMOR ADVOCACY CULTURE
The 2017 Lexington Pride Festival is now behind us, Photo Credit: Rob Bolson and before we look to the future, we take a look back at just a few pictures from the day. More photos from the day are coming soon and can be found on Facebook at LexingtonPrideFestival.
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by Helena Handbasket
hat if I never existed? Most all of us are familiar with the movie It’s A Wonderful Life where George Bailey, after feeling so sorry for himself and his situation, attempts to kill himself by jumping off of a bridge into the icy water below. (You can always count on Helena for a cheerful article, huh!). Then appears Clarence, George’s very own guardian angel, who pulls him from the water and saves his life. He tries to show George the good that lives in him by giving him a glimpse of what the world would have looked like if he had never existed. Lately, I have been asking myself those kinds of
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questions. Kids… midlife is not the easiest thing I’ve ever dealt with. So, at this point in my article I could list all of the things that I have done and continue to do to help other people. After that list I could make another list of all of the people who admire me or look up to me or just plain enjoy being around me. Then my next task would be to assemble all of the blessings that I have in my life. I could do that… but I won’t. That is all well and good but when you suffer from self-doubt it really doesn’t help matters to make lists.
Instead, I am going to share with you what I do to drag my sad ass up out of the ditch. Oh, I could just roll up in a little ball in the corner and throw myself a big old pity party. But as low as I might feel on the inside sometimes, doing that won’t help me rise above the pain. One thing I have always looked for in order to feel better is food. When I don’t feel good I have always just reached for some good home cooking or a bag of chips or a deluxe pizza or a batch of homemade cookies. But then eventually, my depression would escalate as the size of my waistline increased. . Finally, I discovered that much of my feelings of self-doubt and depression were due to a combination of things. Lack of sleep mixed in with being overwhelmed by wearing too many hats and trying to do too much during a day plus a dash of surrounding myself too often by people that exude negativity or live to create drama. So, it has become clear what I need to do. I need to go to bed earlier at night. I need to pace myself and learn to say NO more often. I need to work to spend my time on things that bring me more joy and allow me to be more creative. I need to find people to hang around with who like to celebrate life rather than just go through the motions acting like they are living their life. I need to focus on the
joy and the happiness and try to avoid those things which cause pain and confusion. After all… if I go through my life and at the end of it I realize that all I had to do to be happy was to should have / could have / might have / would have (fill in the blank), that would be sad to accept. Now… off to apply these words to my life and turn that frown upside down. Until next month… love ya’ll.
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IMPERIAL COURT OF KENTUCKY NEWS by H.M.I.M. Empress XXXV of the Imperial Court of Kentucky, Aurora Cummings The Empress of Glitter, Glamour, and Gumption
he Imperial Court of Kentucky has been very busy over the past couple of months preparing for the Bourbon Ball
Coronation 36. Coronation is a time of reflection and celebration for the past reign and welcome of a new. June 11th was a busy day for everyone, not only was it coronation weekend, it was also the day we celebrated the
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National Pride March. As we stood as one in the middle of the courthouse square on a beautiful Sunday afternoon, it gave me time to look around and realize how great our community is and how so many others around us are doing exactly the same thing. I stood proud with my friends and celebrated the rights that we have fought so hard to achieve and deserve. “We are here and we are not going anywhere” was the message being sent out as we walked down Main Street holding flags and signs, hand-in-hand with our friends and loved ones. This event made me realize just how lucky I was to get to share this on such an amazing day as I stepped down as Empress 35 of the Imperial Court of Kentucky. Emperor 35 Russell Drake and I have been so fortunate during this reign to have the love and support of many friends from the Imperial Court System that got to share both of these monumental events with us. The Dates for next year’s ICK Bourbon Ball have been set for June 3rd, 2018. Make your plans now to attend what will be an amazing event as always! With each new reign comes growth
and change! The Imperial Court of Kentucky is forever changing with the times and improving to help our community. We grow the way any organization does, from our mistakes and missed opportunities. With Reign 36 starting, the Imperial Court of Kentucky is taking a fresh new outlook on fundraising and we cannot wait to see how amazing this year is going to be.
OK... SO NOW
WHAT DO WE DO?
by Carol Taylor-Shim, MSW
myself settle back in to the exhausting reality of always doing the most work to get people with the most privilege together. Once we all went home things would go right back to the way things were the day before. People continuing to bask in the privilege of not ever having to think about the impact of their own race ever in life. And for those who do think about it, I bet it doesn’t go like this, “I hope I make it back home.” Black trans women and trans women of color continue to pay the ultimate price for daring to exist in their truth. Femaleidentifying people of color remain at the bottom of the LGBTQQIA totem pole. But I’m a hopeful kind of person. And I can maintain that hope because I know things will get better at some point. At some point we will have as much regard for the lives of Black and trans people of color, Black queer people and queer people of color as we do White gay cisgender men or White women. The amount of work needed to get to that place is what keeps me up at night. What I don’t understand is how much more tyranny do you have to witness, from a distance and up close and personal, to know that racism is killing us. All of us. And we see it every day. People post about it. They knit vagina hats about it. They host galas and hand out awards about it. They grace the covers of magazines touting their good work. White people experience marginalization and bigotry and hatred and disparate treatment of all kinds that are barriers
to them achieving this elusive American dream. But it is not because of their race. Being White has never been a barrier to anything. I say all of this AGAIN because I know that our liberation is tied together. If you aren’t actively and with great intent working to free us all then are you really any different than our oppressors? For the White people who get it or are at least trying their best in spite of how uncomfortable it is, you have a responsibility to gather your people and get them together. Clearly listening to us doesn’t work and we are tired as hell. Q
o back on June 11th we gathered together in community to display a show of solidarity across the mosaic that is our beloved LGBTQQIA (and A is for Asexual, not ally) collection of identities, experiences, magical powers, bedazzled bodies, and everything else you can imagine. It was beautiful and the energy there was powerful. Lots of people offered their testimonies with the hope to inspire, heal, and change whatever and whomever in order for this to be a true family. Audre Lorde made an appearance (you’re welcome) because you cannot speak to our liberation without her. Why? Because she lived and thrived and died under the crippling weight of intersectional oppressions. Like all TQPOC will. I could hear the oohs and aahs as the words dripped from my mouth. I could feel my heart beat in a way that I imagine my ancestors could match me, beat for beat. I remember putting her words in my pockets with so much gratitude and strength. I hadn’t felt that connected to my LGBTQQIA community since the very first Pride we ever had here. I knew it was a rare opportunity for a Black queer woman to be in that space and for me it was a profound moment. I remember walking back to the side and feeling like “Ok, maybe, just maybe…” Then we marched. And I gotta be honest, that was the most lethargic march I’ve ever been in. I know it was hot, but damn we were quiet. Well, correction, lots of us were quiet. At every turn I felt
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TransKY ADVOCATE by Tuesday G Meadows
THE FIGHT TO SAVE OUR KIDS
O R ADVOCACY
“Dear God, sorry to disturb you but... I feel that I should be heard loud and clear. We all need a reduction in amount of tears/and all the people that you made in your image, see them fighting in the street ‘cause they can’t make opinions meet about God.” Dear God, XTC
ecently, I read an opinion piece published in one of those hateful right-wing rags that proclaimed anyone who supports transgender kids—including doctors who treat and parents who love—should be arrested and imprisoned for child abuse. I guess the author was trying to scare people into not supporting our transgender youth. I am sure that some of the people who read this hate will believe these awful and dangerous opinions. However, I have also heard from members (mostly older) of the LGBTQIA community, who one might think would know better, that they also believe letting transgender kids transition at an early age is wrong. Where are these views coming from? Research tells us over and over that supporting youth in their gender identities has positive benefits for mental and emotional health. Furthermore, families, friends, and communities that do not support these kids can do terrible harm. I believe we should not be silent on this; it’s time to fight for our kids. Part of being a family means to sometimes love even that which we do not understand. Any parent who has done their research realizes that supporting their child is more likely to have a better outcome than dismissing their child as confused or misguided. In fact, a landmark
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study in the journal Pediatrics in 2016 suggested that those preadolescent gender variant youth who had familial support had better mental health outcomes. The National Center for Transgender Equality (NCTE) found a reduction of 33 percent in the lifetime suicide attempts among those whose family relationships remained strong after coming out. However, even with family support, there remains a significant stigma that impacts access to medical care. The same NCTE study found that 60 percent of transgender children had been refused treatment by a doctor or healthcare provider. Although some insurance companies have labeled medical and surgical treatment as “elective,” hormones and surgical interventions are lifesaving for transgender individuals. The Williams Institute at UCLA also found that stressors such as housing insecurity, education, employment, and mental health disabilities contribute to the vulnerability to suicide and suicide attempts in transgender individuals. The survey by the NCTE showed that the 18 to 24-year old group had the largest number of suicide attempts. We seem to be failing this group more than any other. This certainly is a hard age for many of us without the added stress of not being able
to access life-saving healthcare or opportunities for advancement. According to a recent Center for Disease Control (CDC) survey, nearly 10 percent of all people in the 13 to 25 years old age group identify as gender variant with the largest portion of that group in the 15 to 17 years age range. Although, it must be noted that these numbers are according to data based upon selfidentification. Transgender youth have greater challenges than us older transgender people; the dating years seem to be particularly difficult for transgender young people. Not only do transgender adolescents face losing a potential boyfriend or girlfriend, but many also fear violence. It is imperative that we support our transgender youth but also teach our kids who are not transgender to respect individuals who are. Acknowledging the fact that transgender youth face significant barriers is the first step in beginning to advocate for change. The bedrock of advocacy is fairness—in employment, housing, and public accommodations. Things as simple as getting our proper name on our driver’s license or on school transcripts can make a world of difference. Frankly, it should not be as hard as our institutions have made it. When a school tells a child that they
have to use the teachers’ restroom because they were not assigned the correct sex at birth, it is just wrong. When a Boy Scout Troop or a Girl Scout Troop rejects someone because their birth certificate says something that contradicts the child’s real life, it’s wrong. When a church rejects someone, even though they preach acceptance, because they transition to be themselves, it’s wrong. Please stop praying that these kids will change, and start fighting for their right to be themselves. I have no respect for adults who pick on kids and I have even less respect for those in power who want to make laws against transgender youth. We all have the responsibility to protect our youth, and our transgender youth are the most vulnerable and marginalized group of people that I know. We must insist that our schools, representatives, and government officials do all that they
can to reduce the stressors for our gender variant youth. I will keep fighting for all transgender individuals, particularly the young ones, until the day I die and I hope that more of you will join me in giving them a fighting chance at life. You may write me at tmeadows828@ gmail.com or follow my blog at tuesdaysgonewiththewind. wordpress.com. Now Tuesday’s gone with the wind. Q
Join TransParentLex and UK LGBTQ* Resource’s Workshop on July 29th—Support provided by the Pride Community Services Organization, JustFundKentucky, and Lexington Fairness—The Gender Revolution Workshop is free and lunch is provided. Seating is limited to 55 attendees, so sign up today at the TransParentLex Facebook page.
ON THE PULSE MASSACRE: WHO IS LEFT OUT OF THE CURRENT DISCOURSE?
by Minnah W. Farook, M.A., Ed.S., Roberto L. Abreu, M.S., Ed.S. & James J. Garcia, M.S.
year ago we mourned the loss of 49 LGBTQ+ victims (58 wounded) during the Pulse nightclub massacre, most (90%) of whom were of Latinx and Puerto Rican heritage. Since then, the LGBTQ+ community, especially queer Latinx and people of color (PoC), have struggled to heal while fostering resilience and finding ways to work through fear and hypervigilance. Needless to say, both the Latinx and LGBTQ+ community at large have, and will continue, to mourn. Additionally, there have been repeated attempts by conservative politicians to co-opt this traumatic experience for the LGBTQ+ and Latinx community in order to advance an antiMuslim agenda. This has contributed to a sociopolitical narrative that allows the media and politicians to scapegoat the Muslim community by promoting antiMuslim rhetoric and policies and does not recognize the complexity of internalized homophobia and heterosexism, mental health issues, and gun control legislation that may be factors in the Pulse attack. On June 10, 2017, ACT for America, a group that has been identified as a hate group by the Southern Poverty
Law Center, organized a “March Against Sharia” in 20 states and 28 cities across the country. Although described as defenders of Muslim women and human rights, the founder of the group, Brigitte Gabriel, has equated all Muslims with terrorists, claimed that Muslims cannot be loyal to America, and has spread hate speech to demonize all Muslims. In close proximity to the march, and timed with the anniversary of the massacre at Pulse nightclub, members of the group took the opportunity to connect their anti-Muslim message with support for LGBTQ+ rights. This opportunistic ploy has attracted misinformed LGBTQ+ individuals and LGBTQ+ allies to these marches and to the thinly veiled anti-Muslim agenda of ACT for America. Given the current sociopolitical climate, including the proposed “Muslim Travel Ban,” and the media’s focus on Islam in relation to ISIS, it is easy to fall into the trap of scapegoating Muslims for social problems that we must all work together to resolve. However, it is very important for LGBTQ+ individuals to be aware of the displaced anger toward Muslims and recognize the tactics being used to create
division among marginalized groups to maintain the status quo. This anti-Muslim rhetoric further serves to alienate Muslim LGBTQ+ individuals from both the Muslim and the LGBTQ+ community. As Lilla Watson, an indigenous Australian artist and activist, said, “…if you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together.” We need to remember that the liberation of LGBTQ+ individuals is tied to the liberation of other marginalized groups, including Muslims. We must work together to fight for our rights and advocate for social justice by being allies to each other when we are attacked. We can achieve this through communication and meaningful engagement within and for our communities. For LGBTQ+ and allies, let us remember that the current sociopolitical rhetoric is and will continue to attempt to create division among us. For those who identify as Queer or Queer PoC, it is important to remember that we have lived (and will continue to live) in survival mode just to exist. It is our responsibility to speak up, but more importantly to stand up, in the fight against Islamophobia and resist being pitted against one another.
Q This article is an adaptation of its original version. Please visit: www.gradpsychblog.org/on-thepulse-massacre-who-is-left-out-of-the-currentdiscourse/#.WUqNk-z2bcs Minnah W. Farook, M.A., Ed.S. & Roberto L. Abreu, M.S., Ed.S. are Counseling Psychology Ph.D. candidates at the University of Kentucky and PCSO Board Members. James J. Garcia, M.S. is a Clinical Health Psychology Ph.D. candidate at the University of North Texas. 10 LinQ // JULY 2017 . ADVOCACY
AROUND THE LIBRARY reviewed by Kamryn Wies
I’ll Give Youwritten The Sun by Jandy Nelson
read the very popular young adult book, I’ll Give You the Sun, by Jandy Nelson, which chronicles the lives of twins Noah and Jude during different timelines. Noah is 13 and Jude is 16. Both are struggling with their own challenges as their parents separate, Noah recognizes and comes to terms with his sexual orientation and both twins must recognize themselves as separate people. For many years, they had been considering themselves as one person, best friends, not allowing themselves to explore their differences. A family tragedy forces them to reconsider how they view themselves and each other as people and as twins. Jude, the popular twin, is accepted to a prestigious art school in California, while Noah, the artistic twin, yearns to attend the same art school and ends up at the public school instead. Jude’s timeline chronicles her experience of creating a stone sculpture with a challenging professor as her mentor. Noah’s timeline chronicles his experiences recognizing his sexual orientation and yearning for the same opportunities provided to his sister in her sculpture classes. Overall, this book tried and succeeded in exploring many issues (divorce, relationships, family, coming out, coming of age) to name a few. I think Nelson does this well, weaving the issues together to make a cohesive, engaging story with strong characters. However, I did find that the parents were more flat characters, while the twins and the teenage characters were more developed. Like many young adult novels, the book is a plot driven story and has some insta-love in it. I enjoyed this book so much that I would recommend it to book lovers of young adult books, especially for those who like the LGBTQ+ genre. But this book is so much more than that. It explores many heavy topics. Overall, a great read! As a bonus, the cover is gorgeous and eye-catching. The cover helped me pick up the book and the reviews encouraged me to read it. This book can be found in the Young Adult section of the PCSO Pride Library under YA FIC N.
BOOKS TO TRANSFORM
A TRUMP ADMINISTRATION I
by Bernadette Barton, Ph.D.
in sociology. Burdened with hundreds of pages of weekly seminar reading, I still made time to gobble up Starhawk’s much-anticipated 500-page novel. In it, the characters use their wits, imagination, talents, and magic to invite their wouldbe captors to join rather than conquer them. Through this plot device, Starhawk explores the nature of transformation. As the free citizens of the north prepare for a brutal invasion, the character of Maya reflects on the close relationship between “the Bad and Good Reality.” They vie with each other, Maya explains: “In the Good Reality you have a mild headache; in the Bad Reality you have a fatal brain disease… We walk in the Good Reality as if we were treading the thin skin on warm milk. It’s always possible to break through and drown (p. 44).” On November 9, 2016 I woke, like many others, into the Bad Reality. Americans chose a racist, fascist, sexual predator with the vocabulary of a 10year old over the most qualified person to ever run for president. Even my body rejected the outcome: I couldn’t sleep, I had no appetite, and my stomach was in knots for days. Demented with rage and grief, I found solace re-reading City of Refuge (2016), the long-awaited sequel to The Fifth Sacred Thing that I had binge read in March of 2016. After the election, I took my time combing through the book, savoring the story. In City of Refuge, the characters actively engage in what another favorite author of mine, feminist activist Suzanne Pharr calls “the politics of liberation.” Sprinkled throughout City of Refuge is a handbook, a manual even, of wily and brilliant strategies for progressive social change. The book’s title is itself a
guide to transformation. How does one build a new world when still enmeshed in a structure of domination? The answer: “build a city of refuge in the heartland of the enemy.” I continue to be heartsick and stunned by the election outcome. Even now, I see the Good Reality so clearly—a calm, peaceful continuation of progressive social change, a chance for little girls across the country to envision themselves as leaders, to watch Hillary Clinton do the work of president rather than audition for the role. I return to The Fifth Sacred Thing for solace and guidance. Maya offers hope to those trapped in the Bad Reality. She says, “Even in El Mundo Malo [the bad world], the Good Reality is always just on the other surface of things. If you can learn to reach and pull yourself through, you can make miracles (p. 44).” As the giant fascist shadow of a Trump administration looms over the present and future, I remind myself that the Good Reality is nearby, adjoining the thin surface of now, and I can help create a city of refuge here where I live, in deep red Kentucky. Feminist science fiction offers a path to the Good Reality, showing us that perception is simultaneously, and paradoxically, both fiercely stubborn and instantly changeable. In collaboration and solidarity with feminist thinkers, I will continue to do the work of imagining and creating a bright, safe, and kind future.
t is November 8, 2016 and I am buzzing with excitement, anticipating what I imagine will be Hillary Clinton’s overwhelming presidential victory. I am hosting a “Women Make Herstory” party, and dress in suffragette white, my home decorated in Hillary signs and posters. We all have our stories about what happened next. First there was the unexpected evening news that Trump was winning swing states he had been predicted to lose. By 10 p.m., guests began to file out of the election watch, concerned and confused. I went to bed at 1 a.m., hopeful I would wake to the news that Hillary Clinton had won but instead learned, after a few hours of fitful sleep, that Donald Trump had been elected the next U.S. president. I got up, riddled with anxiety, addled by disbelief. We were in, what Starhawk, one of my favorite authors, describes as the Bad Reality. I first met Starhawk as a participant in a week-long retreat she led on the Big Island of Hawaii in 1990. At the time, she was writing The Fifth Sacred Thing (1993), a spell-binding story exploring how a group of witchy thinkers, dreamers, and weavers resist and transform a large military force. Feminist speculative science fiction was already my favorite genre of writing since I first read Sherri S. Tepper’s novel The Gate to Women’s Country. Bold and visionary writers like Tepper, Starhawk, Octavia Butler, Margaret Atwood, Marge Piercy, Nancy Kress, Doris Lessing, and others introduced me to paradigm-breaking concepts, in particular the life-altering realization that we cannot create change until we can imagine what it looks like. When The Fifth Sacred Thing came out I had just started graduate school
Q Bernadette Barton, Ph.D. is Professor of Sociology and Gender Studies at Morehead State University. Her latest book is Stripped: More Stories from Exotic Dancers (New York University Press, January 2017) CULTURE. .MAY JULY2017 2017////LinQ LinQ13 13 CULTURE
Meeting Up With
Linda Angelo President of PFLAG Central Kentucky
“There is just one life for each of us: our own.” Euripides, Linda Angelo’s favorite quote
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by Tuesday G Meadows
ounded in 1972, PFLAG was originally a support group for Parents, Friends, and Families of Lesbians and Gays. This acronym no longer reflects the work of the 400+ chapters of PFLAG world-wide, as the organization has evolved to be more inclusive of people across the spectrum of gender identities and sexual orientation and chapters now include LGBTQ+ individuals themselves, family members, friends, as well as allies who wish to learn or be supportive. The Central Kentucky chapter was chartered 7 years ago by a group led by Sandy Linville. After Linville’s tenure as president, Linda Angelo stepped in, and has served as president ever since. Linda describes the local chapter as a group effort with many different people working together, volunteering, and supporting one another. As for Linda, she came to Lexington from Philadelphia in the late 70’s after finishing graduate school in Clinical Psychology. She got involved with PFLAG here in central Kentucky after her daughter Hillary came out to her. In Linda’s psychotherapy practice, she had worked with LGBTQ+ people and families and had helped people come out but was surprised when it was her turn. She liked the idea of gathering with other parents and LGBTQ+ people to learn as much as she could about being a supportive parent and get answers to questions about how to inform her own network of friends and family. Linda reminds us that this is just one aspect of her daughter’s identity and her life as a daughter, partner, professor, and all-around lovely human being. Our children are way ahead of us by the time they come out to us, she says, and we have some catching up to do. It is not their job to teach us. Linda
now leads PFLAG so that she can help others who love their children get comfortable and learn how to support them. When your child comes out, families come out, too. This process takes time, knowledge, and sometimes patience on both sides. Why PFLAG? Linda says it was a place to freely ask questions, to talk with iothers about adjusting expectations. Beyond support, she developed her capacity to be an ally and advocate. Her partner of 17 years, Larry, is an enthusiastic volunteer with PFLAG, Linda says, and they both support her daughter and her daughter’s partner wholeheartedly. PFLAG Central Kentucky is an affirming family for those coming out, for those without a supportive family, and for families who want to learn to accept and understand their loved ones. As new folks arrive at PFLAG meetings, she and the other members of the Central Kentucky chapter are able to answer questions, listen, and offer up what they have learned from their own experiences. It is also a place for allies and for anyone who would like to learn more about LGBTQ+ issues. In addition to the support group discussion, monthly speakers have included affirming clergy, therapists, activists, and representatives of companies that support diversity. When relaxing, Linda likes to garden, paint, and enjoys art, music and dance. She helped launch The Lexington Children’s Museum, art activities for the Roots and Heritage Festival, and “Take an Art Break” at the Markey Cancer Center. PFLAG’s mission is three-fold: support, education, and advocacy. This spring PFLAG showed the Gender Revolution documentary at Lafayette High School followed by a discussion. The group helps to educate individuals and organizations on everything from
pronouns to vocabulary to how to best help their relatives, neighbors and coworkers in the LGBTQ+ community. Advocating for better protections for all sexual orientations and gender identities is important to the group as well. PFLAG Central Kentucky holds two meetings a month. In Lexington it is the second Tuesday of each month at St. Michael the Archangel Episcopal Church on Bellefonte Drive. They hold another meeting at the Unitarian Universalist Church on Wilkinson Boulevard in Frankfort on the third Monday of each month. Additionally, they love to get together socially and for special events such as the Lexington Pride Festival. The Central Kentucky PFLAG group is always welcoming to new people. If you or someone you know would like to find out more about their support group, you can check out their website at www.pflagcentralky. org or their Facebook page at PFLAG Central Kentucky. Locally, the group has adopted a Dr. Seuss phrase that best describes their attitude: “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”
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PRIDE CAME AND PRIDE STAYS
by Paul Brown, 2017 Lexington Pride Festival Chair
he 2017 Lexington Pride Festival came this year and went, but Pride did not go anywhere. The Festival may be over, but we must remember to be proud of who we are 365 days a year. So, this Festival is in the books, and what can I say? Of course, I can say all the usual “It was fabulous and flawless,” “Everyone had a blast,” “We were overwhelmed with emotion,” and all that would be true. There were some new additions like speed dating, the petting zoo, and the permanent rainbow crosswalks at the corner of Limestone
Headliner Ginger Minj entertains an overflowing crowd at the 2017 Lexington Pride Festival.
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and Short Street. Our entertainment kept everyone enthralled. All of these things are certain. However, what else is true is that old saying “a picture is worth a thousand words.” Recognizing that fact, I will part with the words, and ask you to enjoy the following pictures that speak a truth of joy without saying a word. Remember the good memories. Remember to show Pride today, tomorrow, and every day. Here’s looking forward to LexPrideFest 2018!
Miss Bluegrass Gay Pride 2017, Georgia Peach, performs during the community drag show at the 2017 Lexington Pride Festival.
Hair Nation Salon & Spa gives glitter beards and glitter roots to attendees at the 2017 Lexington Pride Festival and donates all proceeds to Anjay’s Kids, a non-profit that provides hair replacement for children with cancer.
March Madness Marching Band performs in the streets at the 2017 Lexington Pride Festival.
Merle G sings “God Bless Orlando” at the 2017 Lexington Pride Festival.
Miss Lexington Pride 2017, Seven, takes the stage at the 2017 Lexington Pride Festival.
Shady Dior performs during the community drag show at the 2017 Lexington Pride Festival.
Mr. Lexington Pride 2017, Kendryck Heart, flips with pride at the 2017 Lexington Pride Festival.
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Crowd at the Georgetown Fairness Ice Cream Social held at Royal Spring Park on June 3rd.
Attendees Clare White, Mary Lou White, and Danny Woolums at the June 3rd Georgetown Fairness Ice Cream Social.
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Homer White,Vicki Stanley, and Mayor Tom Prather enjoy the day at Royal Spring Park in Georgetown at the Georgetown Fairness Ice Cream Social.
Friends pose during the 2017 Lexington Pride Festival in front of the rainbow crosswalks on Limestone and Short Street photo by: christinas_journey1 via Instagram #LinQbyPCSO
Scotty Clark, Jacob Boyd, Dena D. Lee, Lydia Frazier, and Andrew Morgan cross the new rainbow crosswalks on Limestone and Short Street.
Alicia Ferrere sings her way to winning the 2017 Lexington Pride Festival Pride Idol preliminary at Crossings on June 20th.
Meredith Sunley, Jeri Hahn, and Janet Vessels from Trans Parent Lex attend the Woodford County Fairness picnic.
Elizabeth Gent, representing Woodford Reserve, addresses the group at the Woodford County Fairness Picnic held on June 4th.
Issac Jones, Chase Bush, Robert Hansel II, Dena D. Lee, and Jacob Boyd serve as Judges and host of the 2017 Lexington Pride Festival Pride Idol preliminary at Crossings.
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Miss Uma Jewels performs in the illusion of Liza Minnelli at the Imperial Court of Kentuckyâ€™s Bourbon Ball Coronation XXXVI.
Miss Chelsea Pearl gives a command performance at the Imperial Court of Kentucky Bourbon Ball on June 11th.
H.M.I.M. Empress XXXIV Kali Dupree entertains the crowd at the Imperial Court of Kentucky Bourbon Ball at the Downtown Hilton.
H.M.I.M. Empress XXXV Aurora Cummings and H.M.I.M. Emperor XXXV Russell Drake prepare to step down as their reign comes to an end at the Imperial Court of Kentuckyâ€™s Bourbon Ball.
COMMUNITY & SOCIAL GROUPS
CALENDAR & DIRECTORY
Saturday, July 1 10:00 a.m.-Grief Support Group (Ahava Center) 7:30 p.m.-TransKentucky Meeting Wednesday, July 5 7:00 p.m.-“Heart To Heart” LGBT Discussion Group (PCSO Center) Thursday, July 6 6:30 p.m.-PCSO Board Meeting (PCSO Center) Saturday, July 8 9:00 p.m.-Kentucky Bourbon Bears Board Meeting (Crossings Lex) Tuesday, July 11 6:30 p.m.-PFLAG Meeting (St. Michaels Church) 9:00 p.m.-LGBT Sci-Fi/ Horror Group (PCSO Center) Wednesday, July 12 5:00 p.m.-Richmond’s Alphabet Soup Support Group (UU Fellowship Hall) 7:00 p.m.-“Heart To Heart” LGBT Discussion Group (PCSO Center)
Sunday, July 16 1:30 p.m.-Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence in Central/ Eastern Kentucky (PCSO Center) Wednesday, July 19 7:00 p.m.-“Heart To Heart” LGBT Discussion Group (PCSO Center) Thursday, July 20 6:30 p.m.-PCSO Board Work Session (PCSO Center) Friday, July 21 7:00 p.m.-Senior’s Bistro (Potluck) (PCSO Center) Sunday, July 23 3:00 p.m.-LGBT Sci-Fi/ Horror Group (PCSO Center) 6:00 p.m.-ICK’s Board of Directors/Membership Meeting (PCSO Center) Wednesday, July 26 7:00 p.m.-“Heart To Heart” LGBT Discussion Group (PCSO Center)
Saturday, July 15 Editorial & Ad Deadline for LinQ Magazine For more details on events, view the full calendar at pcsoky.org at the bottom of the webpage
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