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DEC 2016 VOL 38 / NO. 12
IN THIS ISSUE IMPERIAL COURT OF KENTUCKY NEWS PAGE 6 Empress XXXV Aurora Cummings
GOD BLESS AMERIKKKA? PAGES 8 & 9
writes about the ICK’s busy holiday schedule helping all of their local charities.
Carol Taylor-Shim writes about her feelings about the presidential election from her perspective as a gay black woman.
FEATURE PAGES 16 & 17 Sarah Brown, LinQ’s design and photography guru, writes about the many ways our community can move on after the devastating election.
BOYCOTTS EXCERPTS FROM BITTEN BY THE FOO-FOO PAGE 14 From her award winning novel, Reinette F. Jones
With calls for more and more of them, Tuesday tells us her feelings about boycotts and their effectiveness.
gives us the 4th installment of the story of one of our favorite characters ever, Foo-Foo.
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by Helena Handbasket
ow I love the moonlight. What an incredible sight it was in mid-November to get to view the “Supermoon” in the night sky. This was the closest Full Moon since 1948 and won’t be that close again until 2034. Did everyone notice? Did each of you take a moment from your TV program or from your cocktails with friends to go outside and look up and see this incredible sight? I sure hope so. These are the gifts that don’t cost anything. Although, I’m glad I didn’t know that it was being called the Beaver Moon or I may have lost interest. ROFL. There the moon is… up in
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the sky for all of us to see. Looking down over us and coming back each night to check on how we are doing. Sometimes the moon is shy and hides behind clouds but I still feel its presence. I still know it is there even though I can’t see it. And sometimes the very sun that illuminates the moon is in such a position in the galaxy that we only get to see a portion of it lit up – thus the half-moon or crescent moon. And yet, from every side and angle, it is just as beautiful and just as breathtaking. I hope I never get too old or too busy to stop and look up at the moon and appreciate that it is there.
I’ve always loved things that light up. The moon lights up the night sky. That led me to think… what other things provide light in my life that I might forget to notice or take for granted? Think about it. The world would be dark and not very colorful without light. We have car lights to show us where we are going and to prevent us from rear-ending the car in front of us. We have spotlights to make me look pretty on stage (well… I’d like to think so). We have all different sorts of light bulbs to light up dark corners or dark rooms and create the mood or ambiance that we desire. Of course, this time of year we
have to celebrate the fact that we have Christmas lights. There are big bulbs, mini lights, LED lights, bubble lights, and a multitude of other types of lights to create the festive holiday of our dreams. So why do we go to all of the trouble to hang Christmas lights? Well, someone once told me that it was in reference to the North Star that lit up the way for the 3 wise men who were on their way to see this new baby they had heard about. Just one light that shined
a little brighter than the other stars to show them the way. I know what you’re saying… there she goes again… getting all preachy. Well, I know that some of you out there reading my article each month believe differently than I do. I get it that not everyone believes in that little baby and that whole story about a manger and those 3 wise men that came to see the baby (which by the way… it is a little-known fact that those three wise men worked as firemen. It says so right in the Bible… 3 wise men came from a far). Anyway… believing in that baby that grew up to be someone that made such a difference to the world might be just a story or a myth to some people but for me, I find comfort in the fact that there is someone that really cares for me that much and really is giving me strength to deal with things that don’t go the way I hope they will or when
tragedies or a crisis occurs. And for me… it is kind of like the moon that I referred to at the beginning of this little article. Sometimes when there are clouds and I can’t see the light up there in the sky, it is nice to know it is still there looking after me as I walk through the darkness of life. Yeah… if I am wrong and that is all made up but that little story helped me get through this thing called life… then I am fine being called a fool. For me though, I’m thankful for that inner light that shines bright enough for me to share with others, wherever that light might come from. Merry Christmas ya’ll and God Bless You. Mamaw loves every last one of you (even those of you that voted for the candidate that I did not support. I just had to go there, didn’t I? LOL).
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IMPERIAL COURT OF KENTUCKY NEWS by H.M.I.M. Empress XXXV of the Imperial Court of Kentucky, Aurora Cummings
e have been so busy over the past couple of months with shows, socials, and traveling to our sister courts in Indiana and Cincinnati that I don’t know where to start. I am so blessed to be a part of this amazing organization that helps so many nationwide. To step back into our community, the Imperial Court of Kentucky is so proud to help so many local organizations such as AVOL, PCSO, JustFundKY, Lexington Fairness, Moveable Feast, Big Brothers and Big Sisters, Scott County Humane Society, and now The Nest Center for Women, Children, and Families. As the Holiday Season sneaks up on us, the Imperial Court of Kentucky works even harder to make sure that those who are less fortunate will also have a holiday to celebrate. The Imperial Court of Kentucky is gearing up for its holiday season full force. We need your help to make sure that some very special children have a very happy holiday. On December 9th
the Imperial Court of Kentucky will be hosting AVOL Kid’s Christmas at 9 P.M. at Crossings Lexington. We would like to invite everyone to come out and help us raise as much money as possible for the kids. Crossings will also be selling Christmas trees that your name will be written on and displayed in the bar for $1.00 or any donation. If you are interested in becoming a sponsor or just making a donation, please visit our website www.imperialcourtkentucky. org. You can also see Emperor Russell Drake or Empress Aurora Cummings at any of our events to make your donations in person. The Imperial Court of Kentucky is also teaming up with the PCSO to bring you A Very Fairy Christmas. On December 15th at Soundbar at 10 P.M. we will have a show to help the PCSO raise funds for the upcoming Pride Festival. Come out and show your support and enjoy an amazing show with a few surprises.
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Do you feel like you are just bursting with Christmas spirit? If you are, then come out on December 18th for our Miss Merry Christmas Pageant. This year we will be holding this pageant at Bogart’s Lounge located in the Campbell House on Harrodsburg Road at 7 P.M. If you think you would like to be the next Miss Merry Christmas, please get with Emperor Russell Drake or Empress Aurora Cummings. Along with this season of giving and thanks, the Imperial Court of Kentucky has teamed up with The Nest Center for Women, Children, and Families to help collect food and toys for their children, newborn to 5 years of age. You can bring your non-perishable food items and toys to any of our events through December 18th. Emperor Russell Drake and Empress Aurora Cummings would like to wish you and your families a very Happy Holiday Season.
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GOD BLESS AMERIKKKA? by Carol Taylor-Shim, MSW
ell, well, well. Look at the absolute mess you’ve made, White folx. Yep, I’m talking DIRECTLY to you. On November 8th you all made the most heinous decision I’ve ever seen by a collective of people with a shared identity. You all decided that a man whose entire platform was built on racism, homophobia, Transphobia, xenophobia, islamophobia, misogyny, and hatred. You all decided that a man who talked about grabbing women by
their genitals with not even a whiff of consent is worthy of being president. You all thought that a former reality TV show personality without a hint of political experience or knowledge was the best choice to be the leader of the free world. You were able to overlook all of that without the slightest bit of hesitation. What on earth made over half of you think this was the best route for THE ENTIRE NATION? You voted for the same candidate that the Ku
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Klux Klan endorsed. Sit with that for a minute, will you? You and THE KLAN have the same opinion on who the new leader of the free world should be. You voted to have elementary children telling their classmates that their entire families are going to be deported. You voted to have Muslims or anyone perceived to be Muslim terrorized even more than they already are. You voted to increase the acts of violence, hatred, and racism people of color deal with
on a daily basis. You voted to make POC and other marginalized groups incredibly leery and mistrusting of so many White people. How can we ever repay you? To the White LGBTQ folx who also voted for racism, you should be 1000% ashamed of yourselves for selling the rest of us out. You made everything worse for Trans folx. You
world. You weakened us. You made us even more vulnerable to domestic terrorism. See, here’s the thing, POC and other marginalized folx know how to function, survive, and often thrive under the blanket of oppression. Our very existence is a revolutionary act. We will be fine. We will come together in solidarity because you
made everything worse for queer people of color. You made it worse for undocumented LGBTQ folx. You made everything worse for everyone. You didn’t think about the global ripples of having an unqualified leader of what used to be the strongest nation in the
all clearly showed us that we have a shared oppressor. For all of you wellmeaning White folx who didn’t believe us when we said racism, Transphobia, xenophobia, and all other types of oppression and hatred are real, I have no time for your tears or your apologies.
What you need to do is get to work on understanding your Whiteness as an identity. You need to recognize Whiteness as a system of oppression that bears down on the lives of so many people and communities. You all have so much work to do. And please don’t ask for our help. We’ve been trying to help you all get it for years. I’m tapped out, folx. My energy has to be directed to my solidarity with others and my own safety and the safety of the people I love the most in this world. And don’t bother with the “but not all White people.” Folx certainly don’t add that caveat about Muslims. Or Black folx or Latinx people. Or Trans folx. You can no longer hide from what it truly means to be White in Amerikkka. You all created this, now you have to deal with it.
Q Follow me on Twitter @ctshim71
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TransKY ADVOCATE by Tuesday G Meadows
“I’m all lost in the supermarket/I can no longer shop happily/I came in here for that special offer/A guaranteed personality” Lost In The Supermarket, The Clash
ost-election, many of us have struggled to find a way to express our complicated emotions at an impending Trump presidency and whatever that might mean for the LGBTQ community. Some march and protest. Some wear safety pins. Some have suggested boycotts. Personally, there are certain businesses that I will not frequent, but if someone uses or shops at those businesses, so be it. Of course, I will inform them why I don’t spend money there or buy that particular product. But, do boycotts make us feel better or are they effective? Not too long ago, I saw someone admonish a teenager for eating Chick-fil-A. This young person had no idea what the other person was talking about, and so I explained the boycott to her and why the other person was angry. But, let’s be clear, one chicken sandwich was not going to bring down the entire LGBTQ community. And we are not going to save it by not eating one. My concerns about boycotts have been longstanding. In 2014, I finally got published in a national publication when I wrote of my concern about boycotts. Specifically, I have noticed that sometimes they
seem to have a paradoxical benefit to the boycott-ee when they claim victimization. I made my point because the site I was published on had been boycotted by a group of transgender writers. A couple of days later I got a private message from one of my transgender activist/writer heroes. I thought she was going to congratulate me on being published on a nationwide site. I thought wrong. She told me that I should shut up and furthermore I should just go ahead and kill myself. I later found out she was the one who had organized a boycott against the site where I was published. For the next three days, I was despondent and even considered de-transitioning. Luckily for me, another transgender hero of mine came forward with the story that this one particular activist/writer had a bad habit of telling people that she disagreed with to kill themselves. Someone else coming forward with a similar story probably saved my life. But, that boycott was just one in a number of ineffective boycotts. The boycott of the state of North Carolina may or may not have brought down the governor but it had little or no effect what so ever on the election of the homophobic
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legislature there. In fact, in certain quarters, people even made the transphobic governor out to be the victim of vindictive activists. Same for the Chick-fil-A boycott, and I have not seen one Hobby Lobby store close because of a boycott either. Also, there are an infinite number of reasons to boycott other businesses for their practices aside from LGBTQ issues. I am sure someone will tell me where a boycott had great success in changing a company, electorate, or the course of history. That’s great that someone had success and I am proud of all of those who avoided actually doing something in order to make things better for the rest of us. But, what can we actually do? We can be active. Disrupt the status quo. Write to our legislators. Donate to things that matter to us, like the Trevor Project for LGBTQ youth. Make your voice heard. Resist. In short, ditch the passive resistance and become active, involved, and engaged. You may write me at email@example.com or follow me on Twitter @trishgigi. Now Tuesday is gone with the wind.
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AROUND THE LIBRARY reviewed by Ashley Householder
If You Could Be Mine written by Sara Farizan
veryone has a story, but as I hear more I find it hard to relate. I lied when I said I was born in the wrong body. I don’t always like my body or that I have love handles. I don’t always like that as a woman I have fewer options than men, even men that aren’t as smart as I am. But I never feel like my body is a trap. If anything, I feel like my love is a trap” (Farizan, 2014, p. 143) This was such a heartbreaking story to read, especially because it rings with so much honesty and truth. I’ve always known that the LGBT community faces unspeakable discrimination in other parts of the world, but I’d never stopped much to think about how hard things must be for under-represented groups in other countries. I think it’s very easy to get wrapped up in our own American bubble, forgetting about the hardships that women and minorities (such as the LGBT community) face in other cultures. For all our grievances in the United States, I do think it’s important to remember that, all things considered, we live a very privileged lifestyle when compared to other cultures. Sprinkled throughout this novel are tragic instances of discrimination, reflective of a culture that can, at times, be both beautiful and cruel. The story focuses on seventeen-year-old Sahar, who is hopelessly in love with her best friend Nasrin. There are, unfortunately, many problems with this, however:
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Nasrin a n d Sahar are both girls, and they live in a society w h e r e being gay is not only seen as a sin, but is also completely illegal. For years, the two have been forced to hide their relationship from the world, but have remained relatively content keeping their love a secret. This changes when Nasrin’s parents force her into an
engagement witha wealthy doctor against her will. Because adultery and homosexuality are crimes punishable by death in their country, Nasrin and Sahar know that their days together are ending. When Sahar meets her cousin’s transgender friend Parveen, however, she forms an idea. While being gay is illegal and sinful
in her country, being transgender is viewed as a legitimate illness that can be treated for free by the government. Sahar is then faced with an impossible choice: to give up the girl she loves forever, or to become a man and sacrifice her true self. It’s an impossible, tragic dilemma, and one that sheds light on a reality for many members of the LGBT community in Iran. Although I cannot attest to the accuracy of this portrayal of Iranian culture, this novel did help to open my mind to what daily life might be like in other countries. It was eye-opening to be able to step into the shoes of a young woman who is only a few years younger than myself, but who lives in a culture that is vastly different from my own. In truth, not everything in Sahar’s society was negative, as most Western media would have us believe. There
were several kind, open-minded, sympathetic characters in the novel, including a police officer who helps to protect Sahar’s gay cousin Ali (throughout most of the novel, at least). Religion was portrayed in an extremely realistic manner, as the novel showed glimpses of characters who were both extremely devout, and characters who did not actively practice religion; not everyone is painted with the same stereotypical brush. The novel also showcases an Iranian wedding ceremony, ripe with tradition and beautiful symbolism. Unfortunately, there also appears to be a great deal of sexism and prejudice against those who are different, which I suppose exists in every culture (including our own). I applaud Farizan’s ability to highlight this unique culture without sugarcoating some of the injustices faced by those within it; she gives a very
realistic portrayal of a society that not many Westerners (myself included) have taken the time to understand. Overall, I found it to be extremely intriguing and thought-provoking to leave my world behind and step into another, if only for a short period. I believe this novel is very deserving of its Lambda award, as it reminds us all that equality is worth fighting for, if only so that our children never have to make the impossible choices that the characters in this story (and countless real people all over the world) have had to make. If you’re in the market for a new and unique experience, I invite you to step outside of your comfort zone and give this book a try; I promise you it’s worth the read! If You Could Be Mine can be found in the Young Adult Fiction Section of the PCSO Library under FIC F.
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EXCERPTS FROM BITTEN BY THE FOO-FOO 2000 French Bread Awards – First Prize Published in Pacific Coast Journal, Winter 2002, v.7, no.2, pp.30-38 4th Excerpt Photo Credit: Kopana Terry
by Reinette F. Jones
oo-Foo did not blink and neither did Pinks. They stood tense and ready to pounce. Several women hurried toward the door for fear that things were about to get mighty ugly. Then, for no apparent reason, FooFoo backed away and raised her arms with her palms wide open. Pinks went back behind the bar and slammed the stick into place on the shelf next to the sink. She resumed washing glasses. Everyone breathed a sigh of relief, and for more than the obvious reason. Pinks’ place is the only lesbian bar within a 100mile radius, and it would be a shame if it were ever shut down. The sheriff had let it be known that if another all-out brawl occurred, she would see that the place was closed for good. The sheriff and Pinks had a mutual dislike for each other. Wenny and Liz were the sheriff ’s nieces, and Pinks didn’t care too much for either of them. Liz didn’t frequent the bar that often, especially after Pinks flat out rejected her love offerings. Liz and her friends preferred the big dyke joints in Cincinnati and Dayton. It was a coincidence that Liz was in Pinks’ Bar the same morning that Foo-Foo showed up. The early morning was becoming even more bizarre. Once Pinks had re-established calm, Liz and her friends strutted back toward their seats. Every few steps one of them would stop to imitate Foo-Foo’s fighting stance,
then they would all double over with laughter. They jokingly dubbed her The Spitting Tiger from Mars! Somebody put a quarter in the jukebox and the voice of Tracy Chapman was heard from speakers around the room singing Give Me One Reason. Everyone was trying to do or say something to help erase the tension. Foo-Foo had put her hands down, but she was still standing in the middle of the floor staring at Pinks. Crazy Betty eased from behind the counter and led the newcomer back to her seat. Foo-Foo was still staring; she had been plucked by the bold woman who had a plural color for a name. You had to admit that Pinks was a one of a kind name. Crazy Betty patted Foo-Foo’s hand trying to get her attention. She was trying to tell her that Liz and her friends had more bark than bite. Every so often they crossed the line, but that was the extent of the disagreement. Fighting was not allowed in Pink’s Bar, it had become the code of the community. Betty’s chattering slowly sunk in. Foo-Foo turned to look in the direction of Liz and her friends who were still laughing, then she turned back to look at Pinks. She had almost let three instigators provoke her to the point of bloodshed, when the whole matter could have been resolved with a caution from Pinks. Foo-Foo realized that it had been a mistake to take matters into her own
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hands. She called out Pinks’ name. The word sounded like “Pankssss” with a slight tongue click at the end. Pinks turned around and Foo-Foo said, “Sorey” followed by another slight tongue click. Foo-Foo added to her apology an earnest smile. Pinks made no facial expression and said nothing. She turned back to the sink and continued washing glasses. But Wenny, who had been jarred awake by the blast of music from the jukebox, took note of FooFoo’s smile. Wenny came running across the room shouting, “Oh, my, Lord! Look at that! Will you look at that!” She was pointing and almost had her finger in Foo-Foo’s mouth, but remembered not to touch. The newcomer had two perfect canine teeth on each side of her smile. A fleshy scrub-pick from under FooFoo’s tongue was working around her teeth, and Wenny’s finger was airchasing after each motion while she shouted ooing and ahhing sounds. Pinks stopped washing the glasses and looked at the reflections in the wall mirror over the sink. She slowly turned around as if to say, “What now?” She asked Wenny to stop shouting and to please take her finger away from near Foo-Foo’s mouth. Pinks shook her head as if exasperated with the lot of them, then turned back to the sink. Q (To be concluded in the next issue of LinQ.)
by Sarah Brown
o how are you feeling post this election… Fearful? Shocked? Hurt? Disillusioned? Bewildered? All of the above? I think, nay, I know we all were taken aback by the overturn in politics at the beginning of November. As much as I tried, the night of the election I couldn’t put my phone down and relentlessly scroll through my social media, hoping all night there would be a sudden shift to blue but instead the opposite and seeing the fear and panic in my community and others rise in real-time. What we had been joking about for the past year has come to fruition. The hate spewing against us in the LGBTQ* community, women, African-Americans, Hispanics, Muslims, and any other oppressed group is now a reality. Our commander in chief, the vice president, congress, and ALL of the house in Kentucky went back 100 years overnight. America, a place we were finally feeling free to be ourselves, wants us back in the closet. Far, far in the closet. I was hoping that at some point whoever invents time travel would show up and stop the whole thing, but it proved that that will never happen either. My reaction the next morning was only to cry out of fear. Growing up and living here, I see what hate can do. I know we all probably have our stories of seeing that hate against LGBTQ* people. Whether it’s being called a f*g walking down the street, being in the wrong bar with an unwelcoming crowd, or hearing homophobic comments come from a family member… whatever the case may be, we’ve all experienced something. At the time we were finally able to take a breath and respond with, “It’s 2016 dude, you can’t act like that anymore.” But now with this new political election, that very much reminds me of the movie Idiocracy, it’s all been reversed. So here we are. Sitting with our mouths agape, clutching our pearls, wondering what the hell do we do from here. Thinking things like, “what’s the point?” and “it’s going to get worse before it gets better,” and “we’ve failed.” But slowly, like a flower growing out of the crack in a rock, after the election I also began to hear people saying, “We have to stick together, now more than ever,” “I’m not giving up.” and “The fight has just begun.” And it gives me a view into the bigger picture we were all lost to the night of the election. We. Will. Rise. We must, we don’t have a choice now. We know what we have to lose. Still trying to figure out what to do now? Here are some suggestions… 1. GET INVOLVED: I know, I know… for some that sounds scary, and maybe you don’t have the time. But believe me, whatever schedule you have or anti-social personality you own, I PROMISE there is place for you in our community organizations. All of which will need your help now and in the next four years, more than ever before! Flip to the last page of this magazine really quick (I’ll wait here)… did you see the calendar and directory of ways you can get involved? See, as promised, there is something for everybody. 2. DONATE: I’m on a very tight budget, just like everyone else (student loans don’t pay themselves) but money talks. Giving some of your personal earnings is always nice, but there’s even more you can do. Talk with your place of employment and see if they’re LGBTQ* supportive. If so, see if they’re willing to donate to organizations or sponsor LGBTQ* events within our community (The Lexington Pride Festival, PCSO, Bluegrass Black Pride, AVOL, Lexington Fairness, PFLAG, TransLex, etc…) Even buying an ad in this magazine supports our community! 3. PROTECT EACHOTHER: Like we’ve heard before, “if you see something, say something”. If you witness hate toward any minority happening, don’t ignore it. Now let me be clear, this isn’t me promoting violence or asking you to put yourself in harms way. You can do simple things to prevent hateful situations… go with your transgender friend to the bathroom, don’t let a friend who’s part of a minority group walk to their car alone after a night out, call someone out for using a derogatory term, etc. We can’t turn a blind eye to situations because
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unfortunately, hate crimes will likely rise, especially in our area. With that being said, please be careful my friends. I think we can now call our country The United States of Anxiety, and out of that anxiety produces fear, and violence comes from fear. So channel your inner Marsha P. Johnson, Gloria Steinem, or Bayard Rustin… and be brave, but be wise, and take no shit. 4. GET OUT OF THE HOUSE: It’s going to be really easy to lay-low until it gets better. But it won’t get better if we all hide away. Make your voice heard! Go to a rally and show your support, not only for the LGBTQ* cause, but for Black Lives Matter and all other communities that are being oppressed. I feel like we’re about to go back to some serious 1960’s marching and I for one am excited to start drawing out my protest signs. Or if you’re more comfortable along the quiet path… go to a PFLAG meeting at St. Michael’s, or the next Dining Out for Life presented by AVOL, or a Team Lex Volleyball game at the Bluegrass Volleyball Center, or go to drag show, grab a drink with friends, and show your support for these safe spaces and meet new people in this community! These are all easy ways to help. You have no excuse to do nothing.
Although I complain sometimes, I’m still an optimist. I know we can pull ourselves up by our Converse laces, dust off our best skinny-jeans that make our butt look amazing, style our hair with that great Lush styling balm so we feel fabulous, and make our way in the world. Politics will never ever shape who we are, remember that. Waking up in the morning I will still be a White, blue-eyed, sarcastic, tattooed lesbian who drinks too much coffee, likes to draw, and is super ambitious. No politician or political process will change that. Nor will it change who you are now, and who you are meant to be. We need you. We need your talents, we need your friendliness, we need your determination, we need your strength, and we need your wisdom. We need you NOW. I hope to see you at the next Lexington Pride Festival meeting where I will be more determined than ever to make our voices be heard. Until then, let’s put aside the cattiness that we’re negatively known for sometimes and hold each other a little closer these days, there’s going to be a lot of ups and downs the next four years and I’m right there with you, so hold on. And let’s hope the Notorious Ruth Bader Ginsburg can hold out for the next 4 years as well. Q FEATURE DECEMBER FEATURE OCTOBER COMMUNITY .. .SEPTEMBER OUT & ABOUT . MAY 2016 OUT & ABOUT . MARCH 2016 // // LinQ LinQ 17 17
by Paul Brown, 2017 Lexington Pride Festival Chair
his year’s election left many people in the queer community feeling hopeless and desperate; afraid of what the future holds in terms of repression and bigotry. Unfortunately, some are wondering if it is time to return to the closet. The pain is multiplied for those whose intersectionalities represent other minority issues. However, it is in times of worry that the underrepresented must stand together. They must hold hands and chant, “You can’t rob us of our pride. We will be proud today. Tomorrow. And every day.”
How can you be proud when it seems that the country has voted for a team intent on squashing the queer community’s equality? Remember that the country voted for reasons above and beyond the queer community. A vote against established, do-nothing politics or for fiscal responsibility is not a vote against queer equality or any equality. Knowing that means that we can still stand as we are. We know that the number one key to changing minds is being out and visible. People do not fear verbalizing bigotry until someone close to them is the recipient
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of that bigotry. When they have to put a name on people they are oppressing, they often flip over time to acceptance or tolerance. Because of that, we must wear our pride like a coat of arms. We do not have to announce we are queer every time we meet a new person, but we must not be afraid to say we are queer when we need to do so. Being out is being proud. Being visible is being proud. We must be proud today, tomorrow, and every day and remember that pride is one thing no one can rob from us. Where can you be proud? Let’s
start with everywhere. To be cheeky, a lot of us do not need to say too much for the rest to be hip to our game. We can be proud at the post office (buy some Harvey Milk stamps), the doctorâ€™s office (discuss issues pertinent to orientation and identity issues with your healthcare provider), at school (talk about how queer people can be included in the conversation), at work (put a picture of your partner or your queer friends on your desk), and on and on. If you feel up to it, you can be proud in much more vocal ways. You can start by going to A Very Fairy Christmas at Soundbar on December 15th. It is a fundraiser put on by the Imperial Court of Kentucky to support the Lexington Pride Festival. With that event, you are supporting three queer endeavors and showing your pride. What are some other ways? You can make donations to the
Human Rights Campaign (www.hrc. org), theFairness Campaign (www. fairness.org), the ACLU (www.aclu.
org), or Lexington Fairness (www. lexfair.org) for political issues. Donate to the PCSO (www.pcsoky.org), AVOL (www.avolky.org), Moveable Feast (www.feastlex.org), or the Trevor Project (www.thetrevorproject.org) for more direct service providers. If you cannot give money to these organizations, give of time and talent. Beyond donating, go to their events such as the Fairness Lobby Day in Frankfort or the plays put on by Company Q. Tell your friends about their events. Volunteer for their organizations. Ask your friends to volunteer for their organizations. On a personal level, reach out to those who have less. As we go into the holiday season, invite acquaintances who may not have a family to your gatherings. And remember that one thing no one can ever take away is our pride. Be proud today. Tomorrow. And every day.
SisterSound sings ‘Hail, Holy Queen’ at their Speakeasy FUNdraiser RuPaul’s Drag Race contestant, Ginger Minj, performs at The Bar Complex on November 10th, event hosted by Hard Candy entertainment.
2016 Bluegrass Black Pride Honors Banquet Awardees on November 19th L to R : Reverend D. Anthony Everett, Ashante Lamore, Aunsha Hall-Everett, Reinette Jones, Charles Everett Crutcher.
Dominique Diamond performs at ICK’s ‘Divas Through the Decades’ fundraiser at Soundbar on November 17th.
Miss Lexington Pride 2016, Serena Van Daren, performs for attendee, H.M.I.M. Emperor XXXV of ICK, Russell Drake, at the ‘Divas Through the Decades’ fundraiser on November 17th at Soundbar.
SisterSound sings ‘Hail, Holy Queen’ at their Speakeasy FUNdraiser on November 5th.
Charlotte Thompson brought down the house at the SisterSound Speakeasy FUNdraiser on November 5th.
Community members gather for the Transgender Day of Remembrance Ceremony on November 20 at the UK Main Building.
Attendees at the Fayette County High School’s GSA picnic on October 23rd at Shilito Park.
Attendees at the Fayette County High School’s GSA picnic on October 23rd at Shilito Park.
Leah Arrington plays ‘Amazing Grace’ at the Transgender Day of Remembrance Ceremony on November 20 at the UK Main Building.
PFLAG of Central Kentucky attends the Fayette County High School’s GSA picnic on October 23rd at Shilito Park.
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COMMUNITY & SOCIAL GROUPS
CALENDAR & DIRECTORY
Thursday, December 1 World AIDS Day 6:30 p.m.-PCSO Board Meeting & Elections (PCSO Center) Friday, December 2 7:00 p.m.-UK’s Feast on Equality (Carrick House) 9:30 p.m.-PCSO Good Giving Guide Challenge Kickoff Party (Crossings) Saturday, December 3 10:00 a.m.-Grief Support Group (Ahava Center) 4:30 p.m. & 7:30 p.m. New Song in the Bluegrass Holiday Concert (St. Michael’s Episcopal Church) 7:30 p.m.-TransKentucky Meeting Wednesday, December 7 1:00 p.m.-“Living with Aging” 60+ Senior Discussion Group (Bell House Senior Citizen Center) 7:00 p.m.-“Heart To Heart” LGBT Discussion Group (PCSO Center) Friday, December 9 9:00 p.m.-ICK presents “AVOL Kid’s Christmas” (Crossings) Saturday, December 10 9:00 p.m.-Kentucky Bourbon Bears Board Meeting (Crossings) Sunday, December 11 6:00 p.m.-Imperial Court Meeting (PCSO Center) Tuesday, December 13 9:00 p.m.-LGBT Sci-Fi/Horror Group (PCSO Center) Wednesday, December 14 1:00 p.m.-“Living with Aging” 60+ Senior Discussion Group (Bell House Senior Citizen Center)
5:00 p.m.-Richmond’s Alphabet Soup Support Group (UU Fellowship Hall) 7:00 p.m.-“Heart To Heart” LGBT Discussion Group (PCSO Center) Thursday, December 15 Editorial & Ad Deadline for LinQ Magazine FInal Advertising & Listing Deadline for Bluegrass Pink Pages 10:00 p.m.-ICK presents “A Very Fairy Christmas” (Soundbar) Friday, December 16 7:00 p.m.-Senior’s Bistro/Potluck (PCSO Center) Wednesday, December 21 1:00 p.m.-“Living with Aging” 60+ Senior Discussion Group (Bell House Senior Citizen Center) 7:00 p.m.-“Heart To Heart” LGBT Discussion Group (PCSO Center) Thursday, December 22 6:30 p.m.-LexPrideFest Planning Meeting (PCSO Center) Saturday, December 24 1st Night of Chanukah Christmas Eve Sunday, December 25 Christmas Sunday, December 26 1st Night of Kwanza Wednesday, December 28 1:00 p.m.-“Living with Aging” 60+ Senior Discussion Group (Bell House Senior Citizen Center) 7:00 p.m.-“Heart To Heart” LGBT Discussion Group (PCSO Center)
For more details on events, view the full calendar at pcsoky.org at the bottom of the webpage
24-Hour Crisis Line
24-Hour Teen Crisis Line
Arbor Youth Services
Council for Peace and Justice
Fairness of Louisville
Gay-Straight Alliance, Teens
“Heart to Heart” Discussion Group
Imperial Court of Kentucky
KY Survivors Area of Narcotics Anonymous
Lexington Fair Housing Council
Lexington Human Rights
Lexington Pride Festival
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
PCSO Pride Center
PFLAG Central Kentucky, Inc.
Rainbow Bowling League
Social Services, Lexington
Transgender Youth Family Allies
Trevor Lifeline 24/7
COLLEGE STUDENT GROUPS Berea College ACE
BCTC Gay-Straight Alliance
Centre College BGLA
EKU Alphabet Center
EKU Pride Alliance
Morehead State University
UK LGBTQ* Resource Center
RELIGIOUS GROUPS Ahava Center for Spiritual Living
Bluegrass United Church of Christ
Faith Lutheran Church
First Presbyterian Church
Hunter Presbyterian Church
Lex Friends, Quakers
Maxwell Street Presbyterian Church
St. Martha’s Episcopal Church
St. Michael's Episcopal Church
Unitarian Universalist Church
Woodland Christian Church
HIV/STD TESTING, SERVICES, & INFO AIDS Volunteers of Lexington (AVOL)
Health Department, Fayette County
Health Department, Woodford County
HIV/AIDS Legal Project
Northern KY Region
UK Adolescent Medicine
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