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August 2015, Vol. 37 No. 8 A publication of the PCSO formerly the GLSO


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TransKyAdvocate Tuesday writes about where the LGBTQ+ community should put their emphasis, now that the marriage equality battle is over

What I Learned At Summer Camp Carol Taylor-Shim tells of her experience at Camp Pride 2015.

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Being Locally Proud Ranada touts the benefits of shopping at the Farmers’ Market and buying locally.

Rural Pride Summit

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Coming to Lexington on August 12, the USDA, NCLR, True Colors Fund, and the PCSO host an event to raise the voices for LGBT people from rural communities.

Lexington Pride 2015 The Chad GLSO Hundley, is conducting 2015 aPride climate Festival survey inChair order torecaps determine the how 2015we Pride can better Festival, serveaour record community. year! Please take the time to fill one out! www.surveymonkey.com/r/GLSO

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Editor-in-Chief

The Pride Community Services Organization seeks to educate,

Christopher R. Bauer

enhance, and empower the community about sexual minority

Assistant Editor - Advertising

and gender expansive issues.

Tuesday G Meadows Copy Editor Paul Brown & Ann Malcolm Photography Jessica Garner & Lisa Ham Calendar Coordinator Chad Hundley Circulation PCSO Board, Chad Hundley, & Rebecca Adams

PCSO Executive Committee and Board of Directors Christopher R. Bauer, President Theodore Meacham, Vice-President Paul Brown, Secretary Jacob Boyd, Treasurer Roberto L. Abreu, At Large Kira Goldade, At Large Amy Hatter, At Large Dena Lee, At Large

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Tuesday G Meadows, At Large

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HUMOR

That’s What I’m Talkin’ About By Helena Handbasket

W

ell... it was bound to

than anyone else.

I just go from

conscience - will never lead you

happen.

knew

my own experiences and try to help

wrong. Does that mean that I have

Mamaw would talk about God

people find their own way, and if

always made the right choices?

at some point, didn’t ya?

Why

they want to use my experiences as

Don’t make me laugh. I’m human,

would I want to take on a subject

a gauge to base their own stuff on,

honey.

that inspires so much debate?

then who am I to stop them.

You

I

People have asked me how I can

guess it is because I just want to

You see, I always believed there

believe in this God thing when I can’t

share my own experience. Many of

was something bigger than myself

see Him (or Her). I can’t touch or

y’all know that I go to church most

out there somewhere that seemed to

hear God. Then why believe? (By

Sundays, but that doesn’t make me

be watching over me. I have been

the way, I do refer to God as Him,

holier than thou. Truth be known,

in so many situations in my life

but in all actuality, I believe that

I am just trying to do my best on

that could have ended tragically

God embodies the perfect mix of all

this journey, and what I get out of

but instead I came out okay. I’ve

that is both masculine and feminine

church on Sunday seems to help me

never been a person who claimed to

and understands everything about

find the strength to endure life’s

have all the answers, but in my life,

us.) My answer is that I exercise

challenges.

It helps me find my

it has seemed that when I needed

my faith and just choose to believe.

center so that I handle things from

an answer about something, it was

What is this FAITH thing anyway,

a place of peace rather than chaos.

always there - right on time. Not

you might ask? A cousin of mine

Does that mean I have my “stuff”

always on my time but at least it

recently defined it as well as I have

together all the time?

Don’t be

was there when I really needed it

ever heard it.

silly. I can freak out just as easily

to be. It was as if I heard or felt

walking around corners.” Think

as anyone... but when I get to my

someone or something guiding me

about it. That is exactly what he

quiet place and try to find my center,

to where I needed to be or what I

said, and he was right. We walk

I can usually talk myself off of the

needed to do.

Someone told me

around corners metaphorically and

ledge. Does that mean that I know

once that when you hear that voice

literally everyday not knowing what

and understand everything about

in your head trying to get you to

is around that corner, but we do it.

God and spirituality? Yeah, right!

choose right over wrong, it is more

We walk around that corner, and we

Not a chance. But I have learned to

than your conscience talking. Many

believe that whatever we encounter,

trust my heart. I know sometimes I

people think that your conscience

we will be able to deal with.

can get a little preachy, and I really

is the voice of God and if we listen

what does it mean to “exercise”

don’t mean to act like I know more

close enough, then your heart - or

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own heart and soul based on your

at 10am at our church: Bluegrass

my faith? For me, I exercise my

own life experiences.

United Church of Christ, 500 Don

faith by thanking God for the

thing I would try to get everyone to

Anna Drive.

answer even before I know what

do is to find your quiet place and

drink any Kool-Aid or bite the head

the answer is. I believe or “have

truly listen to what is inside you.

off any chicken (not the first visit

faith” that what I need will be there

Search your heart and be brutally

anyway). Just come and check it

when I need it. That doesn’t mean

honest with yourself. Don’t try to

out. I like to say that we don’t love

I can just sit around and wait for

convince yourself one way or the

you in spite of who you are; we love

God to work miracles. Sometimes

other.

Listen to your heart and

you BECAUSE of who you are. We

those miracles happen through my

listen to that voice in your head.

embrace all of the differences and

own efforts, and I am guided by the

Then and only then will you find

we celebrate diversity. We live this

force that lives within me. Could

your truth.

motto, “No matter who you are or

that be God?

The only

You don’t have to

Anyway,this is what works for me.

where you are on life’s journey...

I leave you with this, my prayer:

you are WELCOME here.” See ya

Well,

that everyone who reads this article

Sunday?

Your faith and your beliefs

will find that force within him or

(Send comments or suggestions to

are yours. They are what you feel

her that leads to a place of true joy.

HelenahandbasketKY@gmail.com)

and what you sense and what you

Lastly, consider this your invitation

choose to believe in inside your

to join me any Sunday morning

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ACTIVISM

Imperial Court of Kentucky News

By H.M.I.M. Empress XXXIV of the Imperial Court of Kentucky Kali Dupree

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ummer is in full swing and I hope

All of the events that the Imperial Court

everyone is enjoying themselves.

plans and hosts are for the community.

During the summer, we find ourselves

We are unique in the fact that we raise

traveling, hanging out, and typically,

money, $1 at a time, to give to our other

just socializing more with our friends

local charities so that they can continue the

and loved ones. We have late evenings,

work that they do. Our relationships are

warm weather, vacation times, and there’s

very important because of this.

typically lots to do. With our relationships

Throughout the many years that the

with friends and loved ones in full bloom

Imperial Court has been established, we

and stronger than ever, I find myself

have been able to put hundreds of thousands

looking at the strong community that I live

of dollars into our charities. This success

in and that I consider my family.

comes from the hard work of many people

The multitude of wonderful organizations

and many organizations. The participation

in Lexington, KY and the surrounding

and collaborations between the different

areas that do incredible things in the

organizations and even some businesses

community is outstanding. All of these

giving back to community is key to

organizations have a relationship with the

bettering and lifting up our community.

community and the community depends

Recently

our

organizations’

on them. Since becoming Empress 34, I

relationships have been stronger than ever,

have personally taken an interest in these

and the plan is to make them even stronger.

relationships - an interest not only in The

The Imperial Court was given the chance

Imperial Court’s relationship with our

to represent at the Pride Festival where I

members or any individual organization’s

was able to perform to raise some money

relationship with its members and clients,

through tips. We were at the Fairness

but in the relationships between the many

Awards where I was, again, able to raise

organizations within our great community.

some money through the opportunity to

Two months have already passed

perform, and again, walking in the Fourth

into reign 34, and The Imperial Court

of July Parade with all my brothers and

of Kentucky has already been moving

sisters from the different organizations.

forward with our fundraising endeavors.

Simply amazing is the feeling of unity.

On August 29 the Imperial Court will raise money to help gather school supplies for children in need. We have been working with AVOL, Fayette County School systems, and the Big Brothers Big Sisters to make sure we are able to help as many of these families as possible. Also in the works is Dragging Out For Life on September 16 at Crossings Lexington, which is a kick off to AVOL’s Dining Out For Life on the 17th. There will be many participating restaurants throughout Lexington. This is a great opportunity for any of you to get out and witness the amazing team work that goes into the events that raise money for this community. For any information for upcoming events, questions, or to donate, feel free to contact me, any board member, follow the Imperial Court of KY on Facebook, or go

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TransKyAdvocate By Tuesday G Meadows

Where Do We Go From Here? “Slip Kid, slip kid, realization… There’s no easy way to be free... It’s a hard, hard world... I am a solider at sixty-three... No easy way to be free.” Slip Kid, The Who

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he Supreme Court of the United

children, who may be subject to harmful

from its list of mental illnesses in 1973.

States has made marriage equality a

conversion therapy. Let us make Leelah’s

Gender Identity disorder was removed from

reality. The law is now on our side despite any

law to ban conversion therapy a reality.

the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of

resistance. Now a burning question remains:

The law is named for Leelah Alcorn, a

Disorders when the DSM - 5 was published

Where does the LGBTQ+ community put

transgender teen from Ohio who killed

in May 2013. The people still practicing

its collective advocacy emphasis next? My

herself last winter after experiencing

conversion therapy ignore what the APA

answer is, to paraphrase a bartender or two,

conversion therapy. Banning conversion

has said and act as if being LGBTQ+ were

“You don’t have to go home, but you can’t

therapy would benefit not just transgender

something that needs to be cured.

stay here.” We still need to move forward.

children who are subject to the practice,

Unfortunately, our state Senate has already

Many battles remain in the fight for

but also those children whose families may

proven that they are more than willing to use

equality. Marriage is just one piece of the

not accept their sexual orientation. In fact,

our children as cannon fodder for their own

puzzle. We are all aware of the backlash of

many mental health professionals (including

political pandering to the far right. It will be

recalcitrant county clerks who are virtually

most major associations of physicians and

an uphill battle to break their habit of picking

daring Governor Beshear to fire them for

psychologists) believe that conversion

on LGBTQ+ children when they reconvene.

not doing their jobs. However, instead of

therapy is harmful. Not only is it ineffective,

Of course, there is always push back from

focusing on the small-minded folks, who

it also can cause harm to the victims

progress, be it child labor laws or interracial

history is in the process of leaving behind,

tantamount to child abuse. It can lead some

marriage, but we owe it to the next generation

let us continue to bring the fight forward

to depression, substance abuse, self-harm, or

to protect them and help them flourish.

to make a more equal, just, and fair world

even, like in Leelah’s case, suicide.

I think that a law banning conversion therapy

for all LGBTQ+ individuals. Let us focus

New Jersey, California, Oregon, and

can be accomplished here in Kentucky. Then

on better and more accessible healthcare.

Washington DC have banned conversion

again, we do have a group that wants to use

Let us tackle workplace discrimination. Let

therapy. Those bans have held strong in the

our tax dollars to build Noah’s Ark right up

us challenge the rampant violence against

face of challenges in federal courts. A New

the road from Frankfort. To me, passing

LGBTQ+ people of color. Let us help

Jersey Superior Court noted, “Saying that

Leelah’s law is not only a worthy endeavor

undocumented LGBTQ+ people who may

homosexuality is a disorder is not novel, like

but it should be a top priority. You may write

be fleeing persecution.

the notion that the earth is flat, it is outdated

me at tmeadows828@gmail.com or follow

My personal quest will be to advocate for

and refuted.” The American Psychiatric

me on Twitter Tuesday Meadows@trishgigi.

LGBTQ+ children, especially transgender

Association (APA) removed homosexuality

Now Tuesday is gone with the wind.

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What I Learned At Summer Camp By Carol Taylor-Shim, MSW

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rowing up I thought I was missing out on the rite of

We shared so many experiences together.

Some

were

many people that night. Some campers

kids brag about all the new friends they

downright frightening. We all got a real

couldn’t understand the concept of

made, who they made out with, and all

life lesson on the need for solidarity

intersectionality until they realized the

the cool friendship bracelets they got,

when the campus police showed up to

reason their fellow campers could’ve

made me feel like I was missing out on

engage in state policing of Black and

died right in front of us simply for being

something. Last summer I made up for

Brown bodies. In those moments, the

black. Being anything other than white

my lack of childhood camp experience,

fear of death of some of our own was

in America automatically puts a target on

and I went to Camp Pride and GOT

palpable. They dared to exist in their

your back. But it shouldn’t take seeing

MY ENTIRE LIFE. Camp Pride is

identities as people of color, as trans

it up close and personal to believe that

the

academy

women of color, as queer people of

our lives are at risk. If you are a person

for LGBTQQIA students and higher

color. The white officers, with their state-

of color in America, your life is at risk.

education professionals. My life was

sanctioned power, had complete and

If you are a queer person of color, your

completely changed last year thanks to

total control over the lives and bodies of

risk is even greater. If you are a trans

Camp Pride. They showed me how being

people I cared deeply for. The thought

woman of color, you are at the greatest

a woman of color and a lesbian intersect.

of them becoming a hashtag brings

risk for death, which is the ultimate price

They gave me a sense of pride as a queer

about an overwhelming sadness, fear,

to pay for daring to exist as a full, 100%

woman of color that I never had before,

and frustration that is hard to explain,

authentic person.

and I am forever grateful for that gift.

but I feel it deep in my soul. The need

For me Camp Pride was the first

This summer I came back as part of

for solidarity presented itself again as

time I’ve seen my entire LGBTQQIA

Camp Staff, and I am still reeling and

our campers were harassed by a group of

community come together in the truest

reveling from the beauty of it all. This

misinformed, misguided, and completely

form of solidarity. When I look back, I am

year camp taught me a lot of things like

obnoxious middle-schoolers who threw

so thankful for the time I spent with some

North Carolina humidity is oppressive,

food and ice and called some of our

of the most powerful and courageous

it is possible to sweat your eyebrows off,

campers “disgusting.” Once again, our

social justice activists you could ever

and sometimes bees come in dinosaur

campers were merely existing in their

bring together. They gave me so much

sizes. The best thing I learned at summer

own glorious kaleidoscopes of identities

hope for our future. We cried out of shared

camp was the beauty and necessity of

and living their lives out loud. Some

pain, fear and utter exhaustion, celebrated

solidarity within and across marginalized

folks just can’t handle all that fierceness

one another with love and admiration,

populations. Our community is in

and power.

and committed to each other to work in

desperate

need

of

solidarity

that

one of our own became a reality to so

challenging,

leadership

some

some

passage that is summer camp. Hearing

premiere

and

beautiful,

we were feeling. The thought of losing

not

After both incidents, we came together

solidarity with all oppressed identities. It

yesterday, not next week, not after the

in community as a family to process

is solidarity NOW or nothing at all. That’s

next big thing, but RIGHT NOW!

all that we had experienced and all that

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LIFEST YLE

Being Locally Proud! By Ranada West-Riley

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s a business owner and chef, I find our diner is

elsewhere. Some

other

benefits

include

perfectly located near the Saturday

SNAP, and WIC cards are accepted

Farmers’ Market in downtown

at many locations. Beyond those

Lexington. This gift has opened

things,

my eyes to the beauty of keeping

incredible recipes to use with their

my buying as local as possible.

produce and products. You’ll also

A sad statistic is that there are

have an opportunity to try new

fewer than a million farmers left

fruits and vegetables normally not

in our nation, yet it was what our

available at chain grocery stores.

Since it’s the middle of summer,

nation was built upon. We have

Fresh fruits, in turn, are filled with

I figured a nice fruity and cool

lost nearly 5 million farms in less

antioxidants and phytonutrients -

treat would be the best recipe.

than 75 years.

a hidden benefit.

Buying locally is fun, promotes

farmers

Most

usually

importantly,

have

farmers’

accessories.

RASPBERRY POPS

sustainability of your community

markets boost the local economy

and neighborhood, and stimulates

as well as educate the community

- 2 1/2 cups fresh raspberries

the

essential

about healthy factors of fresh

- 1 cup raspberry juice drink, such

Farmers’ markets are

foods and the impact farming has

as Welch’s

easy to find in cities, and keeping

on our environment.

- 2 tablespoons light corn syrup

it local benefits the community as

essential.

growth

business.

of

an

They are

or creme de cassis

a whole. Farmers give consumers

Local goes beyond just food and

access to foods they normally

farmers’ markets and restaurants.

- In a blender, puree 1½ cups

would not get at local stores for

Seek out local printers for printing

raspberries, raspberry juice drink,

a lesser price than you’ll find

needs, local breweries for some

and corn syrup (or crème de

of the best beers around,

cassis) until smooth.

local salons instead of

- Fold in the remaining cup of

the cookie cutter chain

raspberries.

salons, and even local

- Divide among the molds or paper

boutiques with locally

cups. Cover and freeze until firm,

made

3 hours.

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and

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Happy Being Healthy By Angel Algarin Agua-Fit

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ater is an essential part

plastic waste, but this also allows

a lemon wedge or a low calorie

of

diet,

you to count how many full bottles

flavor shot into your water not only

many Americans

you need to drink in any given day.

changes up the flavor of plain water

today are not drinking as much

When you find that number, make

but it may also satisfy some hunger

as

water

sure to spread the intake throughout

cravings.

is so important in weight loss,

the day so you maintain a consistent

not drinking enough could be a

hydration level.

but

our

ironically

everyday

recommended.

Since

If you want your lifestyle to continue on a healthy path, make

contributing factor as to why the

2. Eat your way to hydration.

sure to drink plenty of water. Not

obesity rate in our country is so

Some foods like melons and citrus

only does it decrease your appetite

large. Here are three different ways

contain very high amounts of water.

but it also helps rid your body of

you can add water to your diet

By adding these foods to your diet,

the waste of the fat that you are

without feeling waterlogged:

you increase your fluid intake

burning. So go turn on your tap for

without having to drink it all.

your free weight loss supplement!

1. Start carrying a water bottle. Not only does this cut down on

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3. Flavor your fluids. Adding

Coach’s Corner

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oach’s Corner will be featuring

me, volleyball was a very exciting

that supports the acceptance, visibility,

the Captains and Coaches

sport to watch. The way it combined

and participation of members of the

from our various leagues as a chance

speed, strength, and teamwork was

LGBT community in professional,

for you to reach out if you have any

something I wanted to learn more

amateur, and recreational athletic

questions or would like to get more

about and be a part of.

programs without regard to race,

involved. This month, the Volleyball

Favorite Sport Memory So Far:

gender,

League!

Playing in the 2014 Gay Games in

Lexington Gay Sports Commission

Cleveland, Ohio

creates

Coach’s Name: Ben de Jesus Sport: Volleyball (sand and indoor) Why You Became Involved: For 12

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orientation and

or

promotes

age. The programs

Team Lex Volleyball is available

that educate members of the LGBT

for both beginners and intermediate

community about the sports and

players.

recreational

resources

available

For more information on TeamLex

to them. Although the Lexington

Volleyball: email teamlexvb@gmail.

Gay Sports Commission serves the

com or visit www.facebook.com/

interests of the LGBT community, all

groups/teamlexvb/

persons are welcome in the true spirit

The

Lexington

Gay

Sports

Commission is a non-profit 501(c)3

of humanity and sportsmanship.

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SisterSound’s 20th Anniversary Season Begins with Picnic/Rehearsal Startup Y ou’ve heard us sing and visited

Crossing and Kohl’s Shopping Center).

Methodist

our booth at the Pride Festival

If you are female, at least 18 years old,

Choir Room, 2800

in June. Now, it’s time to plan to join

and have thought about singing with

Tates Creek Road,

SisterSound, the Lexington Women’s

SisterSound, come to the picnic and

Lexington.

Chorus, and help celebrate our 20th

meet other SisterSound members. We

looking forward to

anniversary! Kicking things off will be

are a non-audition chorus, and if you

this special concert

a Prospective and Returning Members

can match pitch with those around you,

season and hope to

Picnic on Sunday, August 23, 6 p.m. at

we want you singing with us.

see many new and

Episcopal Church of the Resurrection Pavilion,

3220

Lexington

If you can’t join us for the picnic,

Road,

rehearsals for our 2015-2016 season

Nicholasville (on left side of outbound

begin on Sunday, September 13, 6:00

Nicholasville Road between Brannon

p.m. – 8:00 p.m. at Centenary United

Church

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Estate Planning Basics For Same-Sex Couples - Part 1 By Michael T. Palermo Attorney At Law

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s an ally of the LGBT

partner, and perhaps your children

only (or “estate”), whether you have

community,

or other loved ones.

a will or not. Your probate estate

I share your

joy over the recent Supreme Court

An estate plan almost always

consists of everything you own that

Finally, marriage is an

involves a will, but there are

is not distributed via a non-probate

option in life for same-sex partners.

other aspects to it as well, such

method. This month we’ll review

For those who choose to tie the

as the manner in which you hold

four non-probate techniques for

knot, estate planning will now

title to property and beneficiary

transferring property.

be much the same as for straight

designations forms on which you

couples. Regardless, the need for

specify to whom some kinds of

obvious: if you don’t own something

proper estate planning remains –

assets will pass.

when you die, it’s not part of your

especially for committed partners

people should make arrangements

probate estate.

who choose not to marry. In this

to handle their affairs in the event

your assets to others before you

article, and ones to follow, we

they become disabled. The planning

pass takes it completely out of the

will explore a few key issues that

process should also involve the

realm of probate. Just remember to

middle-aged and seasoned partners

deeply personal medical choices

keep enough for you to live on.

should consider, and the legal tools

that might have to be made as life

that address those issues.

nears its end.

decision.

What is estate planning? When

a

person

who

owns

Additionally,

Any

the

Gifting some of

Property owned jointly with right of survivorship: When the first

This month we will look at

of two joint owners dies, his or

property and how to plan for it in

her share automatically passes to

the event of death.

the survivor. This is traditionally

property dies, that property has to go to somebody, somehow.

Lifetime gifts: Remember

how spouses take title to their first Different kinds of property

home, for example.

As for joint

competent adult can arrange his or

and the law: probate and

bank accounts, make sure that it is

her affairs to decide, “Who gets

non-probate transfers

truly jointly owned, i.e., that your

what?” those

The process of making decisions

is

a

minimal

definition of estate planning.

you need to be concerned about:

have signing privileges. Property titled in the name of your

good estate plan provides a legal

district court of every Kentucky

living trust: We’ll talk more about

and practical mechanism to dispose

county

trusts later. For now, just think of a

of your property in a way that

responsible

(i.e.,

living trust as a legal “pot” created

acknowledges your wishes and the

“probating”) wills and overseeing

while you are alive that holds

needs of your spouse or committed

distribution of your probate property

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probate and non-probate.

spouse or partner does not merely

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Continued from previous page property under your control until you die, and then passes control to your designated trustee. Assets

that

have

include

beneficiary

policies,

life

retirement

insurance accounts,

pay-on-death (POD) bank accounts and

transfer-on-death

brokerage accounts.

(TOD)

Be sure you

name a loved one(s). Don’t name “my estate” or leave the designation forms blank. As you can see, almost everything in one’s estate can be transferred without a will, via non-probate means.

a will to pass down as you wish. That said, non-probate transfers can serve you well. No muss, just

designations These

household items, however, require

Furniture, vehicles, and

a little fuss, and, except for real estate, no lawyer. In future articles, we’ll look more closely at the will and the law that applies if you don’t have one as well

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as other estate planning tools such as the Durable Power of Attorney and Living Will Directive. Mike is a general practice lawyer in Lexington and author of the 2005 book, The AARP Crash Course in

Estate

Planning.

For

more

information and advice on estate planning, he can be reached through the PCSO Pride Center.

This

article

is

presented

for

informational purposes only and not for the purpose of providing legal advice. You should contact your attorney to obtain advice with respect to any particular issue or problem.

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FEATURES

Lexington Hosts Next #RuralPride Summit

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he U.S. Department of Agriculture (USDA) and the National Center for Lesbian Rights (NCLR) will host the next #RuralPride summit in Lexington, Kentucky on August 12. The day-long event, co-hosted by the True Colors Fund and the Pride Community Services Organization (PCSO) will be held at PCSO’s office, 389 Waller Avenue, Suite 100, Lexington, Kentucky, from 1:00 p.m. to 4:45 p.m. #RuralPride is an afternoon-long summit being organized across the country to elevate the voices of LGBT people and families in rural communities, explore how these communities are particularly vulnerable, and discuss proposed and enacted federal

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policy changes that can increase equality and access for rural LGBT people and their families. ThespeakersfortheLexington #RuralPride summit include: Michael Aldridge, Director, ACLU of Kentucky; Dan Canon of Clay Daniel Walton Adams PLCL; Ashlee Davis, Director, LGBT Rural Summit, USDA; Dawn Elliot, Fauver Law Office; Chris Hartman, Director, Fairness Campaign; Ming Wong, Supervising Helpline Attorney, NCLR; and Pride Community Services Organization Board Member Roberto Abreu, a counseling-psychology doctoral student with research focused on LGBT youth, especially in communities of color.

The #RuralPride summits center on LGBT experiences in rural America, including increased rates of economic insecurity, lack of family and nondiscrimination protections, the relationship between LGBT and faith communities, and the heightened challenges facing rural LGBT youth and rural LGBT people of color. The #RuralPride summit series is a partnership between NCLR and USDA that challenges the stereotype that LGBT people only live in metropolitan areas by raising awareness of the particular issues faced by LGBT rural communities. This event is free and open to the public.

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COMMUNIT Y By Chad Hundley 2015 Lexington Pride Festival Chair Another Great Year of PRIDE!

consisting of the GLSO rebranding

as you can. I guarantee you will find

ell, what can I say except

and unveiling their new and inclusive

it fulfilling, and you will feel like you

WOW! What a grand event

name

Community

are having an active part in all of our

the 2015 Lexington Pride Festival

Services Organization (PCSO) and

causes! With that being said, I want to

was this year! First Marriage Equality

the announcement of the PCSO Pride

invite any and all who wish to be a part

passed across all 50 states the day before

Center becoming an official “Safe

of this exciting committee to come out

Pride and then led us into the grand

Place.” The committee, PCSO Board,

for the annual Pride Festival committee

celebration on Saturday June 27. We had

and community really showed up and

elections on Thursday, August 27, 2015

a record number of attendees estimated

out for this grand occasion, and I am

at 6:30 pm at the PCSO Pride Center

at 25,000 individuals in the downtown

honored to have been part of it. We also

located at 389 Waller Avenue, Suite

courthouse plaza. We had a little rain

raised a record breaking $38,000+ to

#100, Lexington, KY 40504. For those

shower while setting up for the festival,

help the PCSO Pride Center with it’s

who volunteered with the PCSO and

but I must say that in all eight years of

operating expenses and help to continue

Pride Festival as official volunteers, we

having the Pride Festival downtown,

all of their programs and services they

invite you to come earlier that evening

this had to have been the best weather

offer to the whole community! Without

at 5 pm for a Volunteer Appreciation

we have ever had for our event. With

the monies raised at Pride, we would find

Cookout there at the same location! It

an overcast of clouds and a light breeze,

ourselves without a Pride Center in the

takes an army to lead this revolution, and

the weather was phenomenal!

state of Kentucky and would not be able

I am so thankful that you all entrusted

The celebration kicked off with the

to help out the community effectively

me to help lead this charge this year!

proclamation from Mayor Jim Gray

like we have been able to do for 38+

Thank you, and I Hope to see you at the

announcing to the city of Lexington

years. THANK YOU EVERYONE!

elections!

W

of

the

Pride

that it was “Pride Day!” We also had a

I encourage you to get involved with

couple of other special announcements

our community and programs as much

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PFLAG Central Kentucky Tuesday, August 11 @ 6:30 to 8:30 St. Michael’s Episcopal Church 2025 Bellefonte in Lexington

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ur speaker is from TransYouth Family Allies. She has been a lifelong advocate for her son who is now in his twenties. Learn what it means to advocate for your trans child, friend, or loved one within your family, in the school system, and in the community.. Support group discussion will follow. We welcome LGBTQ persons, friends, families and allies to our confidential group meetings. For more information, go to www.pflagcentralky.org

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Kene Bishop and Daniel Beasley provide a stirring duet during “Draw the Circle Wide” an interfaith blessing of couples at the Lyric Theatre.

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ALL MEMBERS MUST RE-REGISTER NOW! Kroger is donating

3 MILLION

to local organizations

Use your Kroger Plus Card & help us grow! Supporting our organization has never been easier — just shop at Kroger and scan your Plus Card! Here’s how to enroll: 1. Visit www.kroger.com/communityrewards 2. click “Enroll Now” 3. Sign in to your online account, or create an account 4. Find and select our organization, and click “Save” You’ll start earning rewards for our organization right away on qualifying purchases made using your Kroger Plus Card! Learn more at www.kroger.com/communityrewards and thank you for your support. *Remember, you’ll need to re-enroll every August.

ORGANIZATION NAME:

PRIDE COMMUNITY SERVICES ORGANIZATION

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August Calendar & Telephone Directory All meetings are hosted at the PCSO Pride Center unless noted with * Saturday, August 1 7:30 p.m. TransKentucky Meeting Sunday, August 2 6:30 p.m. Team Lex Volleyball* Monday, August 3 7:00 p.m. H.E.A.L. HIV Support Group Wednesday, August 5 7:00 p.m. “Heart To Heart” LGBT Discussion Group Thursday, August 6 7:30 p.m. H.E.A.L. HIV Support Group* Saturday, August 8 12:00 p.m. Entre Nosotros (Between Us) 9:00 p.m. Kentucky Bourbon Bears Board Meeting* Sunday, August 9 6:00 p.m. Imperial Court Meeting 6:30 p.m. Team Lex Volleyball* Monday, August 10 7:00 p.m. H.E.A.L. HIV Support Group

Community and Social Groups

Tuesday, August 11 6:30 p.m. PFLAG Meeting* Wednesday, August 12 7:00 p.m. “Heart To Heart” LGBT Discussion Group Thursday, August 13 7:30 p.m. H.E.A.L. HIV Support Group* Sunday, August 16 6:30 p.m. Team Lex Volleyball* Monday, August 17 7:00 p.m. H.E.A.L. HIV Support Group Wednesday, August 19 7:00 p.m. “Heart To Heart” LGBT Discussion Group Thursday, August 20 All Day Editorial Deadline for LINQ Magazine* 6:30 p.m. PCSO Board Work Session 7:30 p.m. H.E.A.L. HIV Support Group* Friday, August 21 7:00 p.m. Senior’s Bistro (Potluck)

Sunday, August 23 6:00 p.m. Imperial Court Meeting 6:30 p.m. Team Lex Volleyball* Monday, August 24 7:00 p.m. H.E.A.L. HIV Support Group Wednesday, August 26 7:00 p.m. “Heart To Heart” LGBT Discussion Group Thursday, August 27 6:30 p.m. LexPrideFest 2016 Elections 7:30 p.m. H.E.A.L. HIV Support Group* Friday, August 28 8:00 p.m. Pride Community Prom* Saturday, August 29 7:00 p.m. A Night For the Nest* Sunday, August 30 6:30 p.m. Team Lex Volleyball* Monday, August 31 7:00 p.m. H.E.A.L. HIV Support Group

Community and Social Groups

HIV/STD Testing, Services

& Information

24-Hour Crisis Line

1-800-929-8000

Speaker’s Bureau

859-266-5904

24-Hour Teen Crisis Line

1-800-999-9999

TransKentucky

cassiemt@yahoo.com

Alcoholics Anonymous

859-967-9960

Transgender Youth Family Allies 1-888-462-8932

Health Department, Fayette County

859-288-2437

Arbor Youth Services

859-254-2501

Trevor Lifeline 24/7

1-866-488-7386

Health Department, Woodford County

859-873-4541

AA/Alcoholic Teens

859-277-1877

United Way

859-313-5465

HIV/AIDS Legal Project

502-584-1254

Council for Peace and Justice

859-488-1448

Moveable Feast

859-252-2867

“Heart to Heart” Discussion Group

859-253-3233

Northern KY Region

859-341-4264

Fairness of Louisville

502-893-0788

UK Adolescent Medicine

859-323-5643

Gay-Straight Alliance, Teens

859-266-5904

PCSO Pride Center

859-253-3233

Imperial Court of Kentucky

859-619-7521

International Gay Bowling

859-539-3058

KY Survivors Area of Narcotics Anonymous 859-253-4673 Lexington Fair Housing Council

1-866-438-8617

Lexington Fairness

859-951-8565

Lexington Human Rights

859-252-4931

Lexington Pride Festival

859-253-3233

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

1-800-273-8255

PFLAG Central Kentucky, Inc.

859-338-4393

PFLAG Louisville

502-223-1323

SisterSound

859-806-0243

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College Student Groups Berea College ACE

859-958-3633

BCTC Gay-Straight Alliance

859-246-6365

Centre College BGLA

859-238-5332

EKU Alphabet Center

859-622-5041

EKU Pride Alliance

859-622-1027

Morehead State University

606-783-2071

TUnity (Transy)

859-445-3822

UK Gay-Straight Alliance

859-257-8701

UK OutSource

859-323-3312­­

Don’t see your group’s events or contact information? Email it to editor@pcso.org and we will add you to our calendar!

AIDS Volunteers of Lexington (AVOL) 859-225-3000

Religious Groups Ahava Center for Spiritual Living

859-373-8910

Bluegrass United Church of Christ

859-233-0208

Embrace Fellowship

859-358-0580

Faith Lutheran Church

859-266-7621

First Presbyterian Church

859-252-1919

Hunter Presbyterian Church

859-277-5126

Lex Friends, Quakers

859-254-3319

Maxwell Street Presbyterian Church

859-255-1075

St. Martha’s Episcopal Church

859-271-7641

Unitarian Universalist Church

859-223-1448

Woodland Christian Church

859-266-3416

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