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March 2014 Vol. 36 No. 3

Judge: Kentucky Must Recognize Same-sex Marriages

A publication of the GLSO


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Cover photo by Brian Hawkins Fairness Legislative Rally Day in Frankfort, KY. Wednesday, February 19

That’s What I’m Talkin’ About Helena shares her distate for the season and treats us to an image of her perfect Christmas

Imperial Court of Kentucky

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J.D. Vaughn fills us in on the fundraising prowess of the Imperial Court for the month of February

Sleep; Or, Watch “Looking” Matt Sullivan offers an unbiased and critical review of HBO’s LGBT comedy-drama television show “Looking”

Same-sex Marriage in the US Jeff Jones gives us an update on the altering landscape of same-sex marriage in the United States

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A Minister’s Journey Scott Rollins shares his journey as a minister, including his involvement with PFLAG and educating his congregation


Editor-in-Chief

The Lexington Gay and Lesbian Services Organization seeks

Marc K. Blevins

to educate, enhance and empower the community about

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GLBTQQIA issues.

Brian Hawkins Calendar Coordinator

GLSO Executive Committee and Board of Directors

Chad Hundley

Paul Brown, President

Circulation

Ginger Moore-Minder, Vice President

GLSO Board, Chad Hundley, Kay Garner

Paul Holland, Secretary Jacob Boyd, Treasurer

LinQ is published monthly by and for the Lexington Gay and

Marc Blevins, At Large

Lesbian Services Organization members and community. The

Donovan Jefferson, At Large

Lexington Gay and Lesbian Services Organization envisions

Cynthia Lyons, At Large

a community that accepts and celebrates each individual.

Cindy Sommer, At Large

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HUMOR

That’s What I’m Talkin’ About By Helena Handbasket

H

appy March, ya’ll!

and then flee south to Florida

the bears have it right. No, not

Netflix to avoid the commer-

I am thrilled we

or warmer climates for the

my leathered, sexy, butch boys

cials.

are nearing the

winter. Well, suddenly, I’ve

but actual bears. I’ve always

much that we’re waiting for

end of all of this snowy, wintry

reached the place in my life

heard that bears hibernate

the next season now!

weather that has blessed us

where that concept doesn’t

during the winter months

these last few months. Here’s

sound like a bad idea. We

and honey, they have the

“Scandal.” When I watch

hoping Punxsutawney Phil

could all use a break from the

right idea! They are certainly

Carrie Washington, I gener-

misread the signs and March

insufferable cold winters.

a species with above average

ally feel that I may be a

intelligence on this one.

lesbian trapped in the body

We’ve watched so

Confession

time

about

does not bring any freezing

Close your eyes and picture

temperatures or Springtime

the perfect Christmas with

Let’s talk about the right

of a drag queen. Of course,

blizzards. Strangely enough,

me. I’d wake up next to my

way to hibernate. To start,

the President is hot too.

I’ve had the opportunity to

honey on Christmas morning.

a cuddle buddy is a must.

So, maybe I’m suddenly

sit back and take a cold, hard,

We

nice

My honey and I have done

bisexual... just sayin’.

and even colder look at myself

Christmas breakfast together,

plenty of that lately and I’m

I’ve also realized that some

this winter. Let me tell you, I

put on some shorts and flip

not complaining! *wink* But,

of the best television shows are

have learned a lot.

flops, then take our puppy

we’ve become pseudo-hermits

those from the past. I rekin-

It’s a surprise but I’ve decided

child, Mitchell, for a walk

this winter. Thank goodness

dled my fantasy friendships

that I don’t really like winter.

on the beach. We could sing

for Netflix and TV Land for

with “Will and Grace” and my

I’m just not a cold weather

Christmas Carols with the

keeping us entertained.

boys from “Queer as Folk”.

person. I lived in Minnesota

waves of the ocean as our only

Finding the right enter-

Yes, it’s been a long, cold

for just over 4 years and I can

accompaniment. Who says a

tainment is key. Here, in the

winter. Y’all just have to find

assure you that this Kentucky

traditional Christmas must be

comfort of our own home, we

a way to hibernate and do

winter was just as bad as any

cold and covered with snow?

can watch endless amounts

something productive with

of the winters I lived through

Just because of one tired, old

of movies and shows without

your time. Sometimes the

up north. I used to laugh at

song that’s overused? Honey,

the constant interruptions

most productive thing you

people that claimed to be

I’m dreaming of a warm

from people getting up for

can do is to relax, refuel, and

“snow birds”. You know, those

Christmas, not a white one.

popcorn. We are hooked on

revive. And baby, I can tell you it sure feels good.

would

have

a

people that live here during

Something else I’ve learned

the TV show “Scandal” and

the warm weather months

about myself is that I think

we’ve loved watching it on

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Until next month, love ya’ll.

Send comments or suggestions to: helenahandbasketKY@gmail.com


ACTIVISM

Imperial Court News

By J. D. Vaughn

F

ebruary

fundraising

contestants competed in the

endeavors progress at

Valentine’s-themed categories.

full steam for Emperor

Jayda Colby won the title Miss

Patrick and Regent Empress

Gay Valentine 2014, while

J.D. of Reign 32. Working in

Lairica Andrews was runner-

conjunction with the Scott

up. Mister Kenneth J. Squires

County Humane Society, the

won the Mr. Gay Valentine

Imperial Court of Kentucky

title. All three contestants will

held the annual “Wags n

advance to the Entertainer of

Drags” event on February 8

the Year Finale in May.

at the Grand Reserve. The event

showcased

Regent

Then on Valentine’s Day, Emperor 29 Clayton Burchell

Empress 32 J.D. Vaughn,

and

Empress 31 Trinity, Empress

Worsham hosted the Single

30 Shotz, Empress 29 Helena

and Bitter event at Crossings.

Handbasket, Imperial Princess

Several court entertainers

Royale 32 Kali Dupree, and

impressed the Friday night

Marquise Aurora Cummings.

crowd at Crossings with their

Court members attended the

Ball. Keep an eye out for

The group entertained a large

Valentine’s musical selections.

Connecticut Court Coronation

April’s edition of GLSO’s LinQ

crowd while guests were

On Thursday, February 20,

in Hartford, CT.

for updates on these events!

treated to a silent auction,

the Court welcomed the North

Imperial Court of Kentuck

March shows no sign of being

a pet parade, and food and

American

members were honored with

less great for fundraising.

drinks. The event raised over

attendees

titles during the visit.

The Court already has several

$6700 to benefit the Scott

show at Pulse Nightlife. The

The Court wrapped up the

events planned. On Sunday

County Humane Society.

crowd loved the event and the

month of February with three

March 16, the court will

proceeds were distributed to

events, the Drag Olympics

host the 18th Annual Falsies

Moveable Feast Lexington.

on Februaru 26, a Kentucky

Awards, a yearly award cere-

The following week, the Court held the Mister and

Emperor

30

Bear with

Fred

Weekend a

kickoff

Emperor 32, Patrick Thompson with Empress 27, Gracie Steeles of the Imperial Court of New York during the Imperial Court of All Connecticut's Coronation.

Several

Miss Gay Valentine Pageant

Later that week, Emperor

Invasion Show on February

mony for local entertainers and

at Pulse Nightlife. Several

32 Patrick and a delegation of

28, and the 2014 Mardi Gras

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year’s ceremony will feature 18

ceremony begins at 8pm.

awards, with such categories

The Court will host a Comedy

as: Outstanding Achievement

Show at 9:30pm on Wednesday,

in a Special Performance,

March 19 at Crossings. The

the Michael Thompson

event will feature comedy

Community Service Award,

performances from the Court

and the New Image Award.

Monarchs and lines of descent.

In addition, nominees for

The Court scheduled two

ABSOLUT Diva of the Year

college outreach events in

will perform the night of the

March. The first is a mini

ceremony and a winner will be

college pageant on March 27

announced from the nominee

at Transylvania University.

with the highest fundraising

The second is a show at EKU

total from tips and dona-

on March 31. More informa-

tions. The doors open to the

tion on all events of Reign

event at 7pm and will be held

32 at the Court’s Facebook

at Bogart’s Lounge, located

(ImpCourtKY) or website:

at the Campbell House. The

www.imperialcourtkentucky.org.

Jo Dee Monroe at Miss Gay Valentine

Current and last 3 Reigning Empresses of Kentucky, from left to right: Her Imperial Majesty Empress 29, Helena Handbasket; Her Most Imperial Majesty Regent Empress 32 and Empress 22, J.D. Vaughn; Her Imperial Majesty Empress 31, Trinity; Her Imperial Majesty Empress 30, ShotZ 6

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A New GLSO Group Un Nuevo Grupo Provides a Safe del GLSO Ofrece un Space for Hispanic Lugar Seguro para LGBT Community la Comunidad Gay Hispana to talk about the problems

La organización para gays

con que los Hispanos gays

Organization

that gay Hispanics face and

y lesbianas (GLSO) va a

enfrentan y celebraremos

(GLSO) is going to start

to celebrate the triumphs

comenzar un grupo dirigido

los triunfos y momentos

a group directed at the

and special moments of

a la comunidad hispana a

preciosos de cada persona.

Hispanic

community

each person. The possibility

partir del 28 de marzo. El

También existe la posibilidad

starting on March 28. The

of meeting new friends

grupo se reunirá el primer

de conocer a nuevos amigos

group will meet the first

and uniting a big group

y tercer viernes de cada mes

y unir un grupo grande de

and fourth Friday of every

of people from Lexington

en el Centro de Orgullo Gay

personas en Lexington y

month in the Pride Center

and the surrounding areas

(Pride Center) a las 7 pm.

áreas alrededor.

at 7 p.m. The Center is

also exists. The group will

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será dirigido por un estudi-

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Desde el principio,

psicología llamado Roberto

the outset, the mission of

named Roberto Abreu. He

la misión del grupo será

Abreu. Él está muy agrade-

the group will be to provide

is very happy to begin this

brindar un lugar seguro para

cido de iniciar este grupo, lo

a safe place for Hispanic gay,

group, which is free to the

que personas hispanas de la

cual es gratis al público. Su

bisexual, and transgender

public. His vision is that the

comunidad gay, bisexual y

visión es que el grupo irá

people

what

group will go developing

transexual puedan discutir lo

desarrollando los temas de

happens to them on a daily

discussion topics and other

que les pasa a diario. Habrá

discusión y otras actividades.

basis. There will be serious

activities. Besides excellent

momentos serios y momentos

Además

moments

discussions, there will be

llenos de risas. En en grupo

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snacks and beverages.

hablaremos de problemas

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PFLAG Lexington Meeting Our meetings are open

documen-

shows both the devastation

to parents, LGBTQs, and

tary “Wish Me Away.” The

of internalized homophobia,

allies. We offer a confi-

film tells the story of Chely

the transformational power

dential, supportive atmos-

Wright. After a lifetime of

of living an authentic life,

phere where you can be

hiding, Chely becomes the

and the conflicting responses

yourself, wherever you are

first

country

from Nashville, the heart-

in your journey.

music singer to come out as

land and the LGBT commu-

The meeting will be 6:30 to

a lesbian, shattering cultural

nity. Due to the length of

8:30 PM on March 11 at St.

stereotypes within Nashville,

this film, our meeting may

Michael’s Episcopal Church,

her conservative heartland

run a little later than usual,

(2025

Drive).

family, and most importantly,

with our support group time

We will be showing the

within herself. The film

being shorter.

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award-winning

commercial

Our April 8 meeting will offer plenty of time for discussion and support, as we will have no formal presentation.


rushed and amateur. Cut to

love everlasting or just a fling,

the next scene and, because

and it ends. Not a lot actually

we barely got to see it, all of

happens, but what makes the

the awkwardness and humor

movie intriguing is the situ-

plotlines. The main char-

is implicated by the droning

ation and what makes the

sit and sleep-watch another

acter

by

conversation he and the two

movie successful is enough

episode of Looking, much the

Jonathan Groff, is a video

other main characters, Dom

time to make us care about

same as I did with Glee and

game designer. He's attrac-

and Agustin, have while they

the characters. Haigh has

The Walking Dead. This new

tive, shy, and romantically

walk to the bus stop and sit

the ability to create a bond

show, airing on HBO, and

and sexually inexperienced,

around smoking. There's a

between audience and char-

having premiered this past

prime material for excite-

lot of talking in the show.

acter in relatively short story

January, follows the lives of

ment. The first time we meet

They spend so much time

time. He struggles to bring

three friends in San Francisco

him he's crawling around the

talking they don't have time

that to Looking. It’s diffcult to

who all happen to be gay. The

woods and we're unsure of

to do anything else (like make

bond with three main char-

show's hook is a promise to

what he's doing exactly. He

Patrick seem more painfully

acters, and therefore three

show gay men realistically. I

gets to a small clearing and

awkward through action).

different

was drawn in by this promise

it turns out another man was

Time is a technical issue for

at first and, so far, they've

following him and he was

the show and I'm not sure why

There is hope, though.

delivered.

characters

cruising. The other man starts

they chose to go with a thirty

Episode five does what the

feel genuine. They have jobs

to unbuckle Patrick's belt

minute airing. Thirty minute

other episodes wouldn't. We

and struggles and hobbies.

and Patrick fumbles around

shows are usually reserved for

follow Patrick on a day-long

None of them seem particu-

for words to say, introducing

comedies or cartoons, forms

date he has with a man named

larly adept at anything, they

himself and trying to get the

of entertainment that don't

Richie. There is no one else to

aren't politicians, or celebri-

name of the man who now

hinge on any real character

interrupt the story. The pace

ties, they aren't ruthless or

has his hand down his pants.

development. Since Looking

is slow, but not stagnant. They

morally superior, they are just

Patrick kisses the man, in an

tries to be real, not necessarily

go to Golden Gate Park, they

average people. More impor-

attempt to make the moment

comedic, it requires fleshed

see a fortune teller of sorts

tantly, these characters are

more intimate perhaps, and is

out characters, but with a

who only speaks Spanish, we

not defined by their gayness.

rebuffed. His phone rings and

limited run time they have to

see them being intimate with

Watching characters who feel

Patrick excuses himself

to

revert to talking to move the

each other. When the char-

like an accurate representa-

answer the call. The moment

story forward. Andrew Haigh,

acters aren't rushed, when

tion of me and people I know

tries to be awkward, it tries

an executive producer of the

we have time to see them

is refreshing, but, unfortu-

to

maybe

show, wrote for and directed

change, we can connect with

nately for Looking, this isn't

arousing, but because it lasts

the movie Weekend, a movie

them. You don't really need

enough to save a show from

only a moment, none of that

that is similar in tone and

action then. If Looking would

being dreadfully boring.

comes through. In reality, an

pacing of Looking. Weekend

stop talking and start doing

The problem with Looking

awkward person like Patrick

is about the brief relationship

it wouldn't be so boring. I'll

is that it relies heavily on the

would probably leave as

two men have over, as the title

continue to tune in, for now; I

premise of reality while fore-

quickly as he does, but on

suggests, a weekend. They

like having noise in the back-

going things like exciting

screen, the story comes off

meet, they bond, it could be

ground while I sleep.

By Matt D. Sullivan

Once a week I make myself

The

be

Patrick,

played

humorous,

storylines,

in

a

matter of ten minutes each.

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ENTERTAINMENT

Sleep; Or, Watch Looking?


Revolutionary, I’ll take it…

I’m saying this because this

them, though. What I’m

is what (I thought) I knew

doing, loving a transgender

about transgender persons.

person, should not be inher-

I fostered this belief from a

ently special. The who of

lack of education and experi-

love really shouldn’t matter

ence with trans persons.

to me or anyone else. It’s the

Through my relationship with Alana, I have found

By Bobbie Thompson aka Alana’s Spouse

both experience and a valu-

love that is special, not the “make-up” of the couple. Unfortunately,

in

the

able education. My reason

society in which we live

for sharing “my side of

today, it is something special

I read an Advocate.com

of these “steps in the right

our story” in my memoir

to love a transgender person.

article a few weeks ago that

direction.” Now, back to

(w w w.myhusbandlo oks-

If loving a transgender

identified the most vocal

how my mind works for a

better.com) is my attempt to

person wasn’t special, then

advocates

moment, I am of the opinion

educate through my expe-

no transgender teen would

equality. So, here is how my

that

riences and to advocate for

be rejected by their parents.

mind works: My definition

educated

the

our transgender population.

When a married person

of an advocate is someone

transgender population and

So, I made a comment to

comes out as transgender,

who is in “support” or “favor”

learn that “people are just

that initial article. “I hope to

the next step wouldn’t be

of something and actively

people,” then equality will be

be on this list someday as a

divorce court. Most of all,

speaks out and takes action

one result of that education.

result of my memoir.”

there would be no need

to demonstrate their support.

I’ll be the first to tell you that

Someone responded to

In this instance, the advo-

I knew absolutely nothing,

my comment and said,

cates on the list are in “favor”

not a single iota about

“You’re not doing anything

of transgender equality. The

being transgender when my

special.

article pointed out certain

friend of 25 years (a former

but who you love is not.” At

at the HuffingtonPost.com

steps that these advocates

lover

spouse)

first, I felt rather offended,

and in big bold letters it

have taken to show their

came out as transgender. At

as I took the comment

says, “Loving a Transgender

support, while highlighting

first, it freaked me out and

personally. How could they

Person is a Revolutionary

their results.

I

thought my friend had

say I’m not special?

Act.” It totally confirmed

a

“mental condition.” I’m

As I thought about those

not saying this to be nasty,

words I began to agree with

of

transgender

It made my heart feel good to see the accomplishments

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as

and

people

become

regarding

now

LOVE is special,

for “Transgender Day of Remembrance.” After all this, I found Brynn

Tannehill’s

article

that I am special or, at least, revolutionary. I’ll take it.


Fairness Legislative Rally in Frankfort By Brian Hawkins

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Yet another Federal judge

NEWS UPDATE

has ruled that a state's ban on offering civil marriage and its benefits and responsibilities to same-sex couples violates the US Constitution. A judge in Texas ruled that the Texas ban was unconstitutional. The ruling has a stay on it while the case can be appealed by the state government. In Kentucky, another Federal judge lifted his stay on an earlier ruling that the Bluegrass State must recognize marriages legally performed in other states. The state's Democratic Attorney General had asked for a 90 day stay so that the state can decide to either appeal or prepare. For KY couples married out of state, confusion abounds about how to complete their taxes. Currently, they can jointly file their Federal returns as married but must submit state returns separately as single. No word yet on how the February 27 decision will affect tax filings. The

increasingly

legal

complexities are making my little map also more complex. I've now added Ohio to the states

recognizing

out-of-

state marriages because the Federal court ruling there orders the state to recognize such marriages on death certificates.

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RELIGION

A Minister’s Journey My name is Scott Rollins, a member of PFLAG, and

By Scott Rollins

with others who might not

my church about PFLAG

that Jesus is Lord means that

have heard it.

and my involvement in it. I

Christ, and not I, am Lord

the minister of Highland

It wasn’t long into my tenure

didn’t betray any confiden-

over my life, everything

Christian Church (Disciples

at Highland when I heard the

tialities by sharing stories I

else about our faith is non-

of Christ) in Frankfort. I am

first rumblings of discontent

heard at PFLAG, but I did

essential as far as member-

writing to share my story.

about my “views on homo-

let my church people know

ship.

I moved to Frankfort with

sexuality.” One person, in a

how horribly LGBT people

we interpret Scripture, how

my family in June, 2010, from

word, went “postal” on me

have been treated by their

we vote, how we understand

Knoxville, TN, to serve as the

at a meeting of our church

church “families”.

God’s role in the life of other

minister at Highland. I knew

leadership. Soon after, he left

We watched the video “For

people…None of these can

very little about Frankfort

the church because I “didn’t

the Bible tells me so,” over

form a checklist of what a

before we moved up here;

believe in the Bible.” Another

several PFLAG meetings and

person must believe.

I didn’t even know that

church leader shared with

I immediately ordered a copy.

the minister of a Disciples

Frankfort was the capital of

me that she felt conflicted

I shared it with several fami-

church, I cannot tell people

Kentucky until I did a Google-

and didn’t know if she could

lies in my church, all of whom

that they must think a certain

search before interviewing

remain in a church where

have gay or lesbian family

way about matters of faith,

at the church. Even though

the minister believed as I

members.

family

but I sure can tell them how I

I didn’t know much about

did about same-sex relation-

who watched it loved it, so I

feel about things. Especially

Frankfort, nor the church,

ships. True to her word, she

decided to present the video

about issues important to me,

I wanted to make sure that

soon left the church.

to our church leadership

who are not “issues” after all

Shortly after moving to

group. Well, that stirred up a

but are people I care about

I made sure that the church

Frankfort, I found out about

few other church leaders, all

and who have been treated

search committee heard my

the Lexington PFLAG group.

of whom were wonderfully

so harshly by the church, a

“Audrey story.” Audrey is a

I was loosely involved in the

involved in the life of our

group who has been charged

dear friend of my family and

Knoxville

group

church, and whom my family

by its Lord to “love your

a former minister co-worker

before moving, so I began

loved. Ultimately, they could

neighbor as yourself.”

at my church in Knoxville.

to attend the local meetings.

not “agree to disagree” on the

Audrey also happens to be

Due to my commitments

issue of homosexuality.

a lesbian. I fully supported

at home (coaching sports,

Let me explain that phrase,

gree” on this, so they left. And

Audrey both in our ministry

running kids to sports and

“Agree to disagree.” In our

I have to admit, that group’s

together and in her sexual

dance and school events,

denomination, the Christian

leaving hurt a good bit. It

orientation. I told that story

etc.), I couldn’t attend every

Church (Disciples of Christ),

hurt personally for my family

openly and freely as I met

meeting but I always felt

our only requirement for

and for me, and even more for

with the search committee.

grateful to be a part of this

membership is our confes-

others in our church who had

After the church hired me,

great group when I could! I

sion that “Jesus Christ is

known these folks a whole

I shared that Audrey story

even began to tell folks from

Lord.”

lot longer than I have. These

they knew about me.

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PFLAG

Every

And while saying

Things such as how

As

But, there were some folks who could not “agree to disa-


folks had also held leader-

sympathy is because, over

faith, baptism and spiritual

share their thoughts on the

ship roles which now would

time, all the wounds that

gifts of all Christians regard-

Ordinance.

be vacant, and of course (not

may have been created from

less of their sexual orienta-

these citizens (actually most

to be crass) they took their

folks

been

tion or gender identity, and

of them), this gave them a

money with them too.

healed over, and, from my

that neither is grounds for

chance to bash GLBT folks.

Now, if you are still reading

view of things, the vitality of

exclusion from fellowship or

Very often it was a minister

this ramble, please don’t

our congregation is stronger

service within the church,

who did the berating, often

think I am trying to gain

now than it has been in any

but we celebrate that all are

quoting Scripture to suppos-

any pity points with anyone,

of my time in Frankfort. I

part of God’s good crea-

edly prove their point.

nor to have you think, “Poor

have heard more people

tion.” In the weeks leading

couple times, I spoke up

Scott, what a good guy he

speak supportively of GLBT

up to this vote, I had shared

as well, as one of the piti-

must be.”

I’m not really a

individuals and who agree

this resolution, and my

fully few ministers who

good guy (to know me is

with my belief that God

supportive thoughts on it,

spoke openly in favor of the

to know this), but I made

blesses committed same sex

in many ways in our church

Ordinance. One time some

such a public and consistent

relations just as God blesses

(with leadership, among all

of my talk made the paper,

sharing about my views on

heterosexual relations. And

the congregation); not once

but other times I could be

GLBT because, first of all,

while I know that there are

did I hear a comment of

seen on the TV news, the

when I think “GLBT”, I don’t

others in our church who

opposition to this resolution.

balding back of my head

think of letters and issues

may not agree with me on

But the good news doesn’t

very obvious in the commis-

and “them.” I think of my

this, they are willing to agree

end there.

buddy Audrey. I think of her

to disagree.

the

partner Miranda. I think of

leaving

have

this summer, our denomina-

Commission in Frankfort

people from my church who

other gay and lesbian friends

tion, at its biannual General

has debated over a Fairness

attended many of the meet-

I have made over the past few

Assembly

Ordinance for our city, which

ings, wearing their blue

years. And I feel like I need

voted

in

would include “gender iden-

“Another

to be public and consistent

favor of a resolution enti-

tity” and “sexual orienta-

Fairness” t-shirts.

in

especially

tled, “Becoming a People of

tion” in its list of prohibited

the end, it all proved worth

with church folks, because

Welcome and Grace for All.”

discriminations. During this

it, as the City Commission

most churches don’t speak

This resolution resolves that

agonizingly long process,

made Frankfort the 5th

openly about God’s love for

the church is “striving to

citizens of our commu-

city in Kentucky to pass a

all people, including GLBT

become a people of grace and

nity had the opportunity to

Fairness Ordinance!

people.

Plus, I know that

welcome to all God’s chil-

whatever bad has happened

dren though differing in race,

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to me in all of this, it is

gender, age, sexual orienta-

nothing at all compared to

tion, gender identity, nation-

how GLBT people continued

ality, ethnicity, marital status,

to be treated, in churches

physical or mental ability,

and in society at large.

political stance or theolog-

stuff,

Orlando,

overwhelmingly

Another reason why I

ical perspective…” and calls

am not peddling for your

on the church to “affirm the

the

sion meeting. Furthermore, I was grateful for the many

in

summer,

A

City

this

Furthermore,

For much of

For many of

Kentuckian

for

And in

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Spring Cleaning for the Soul By Rev. Marsha J. Moors-Charles We’ve survived the holi-

This article is about more

days and hopefully the snow!

than just cleaning our homes.

What a winter! I know that

We are invited to do a similar

we are all looking forward to

spring cleaning of our lives.

spring. We’ve all had enough

For many of us in the faith

of the cold, long nights! I

community, we observe the

cannot wait to see the blooms

season of Lent which leads

of the flowers and trees; to feel

to Easter.

the sun’s warmth; and to bask

been coupled with feelings of

in the sunshine with friends

shame, guilt, or unworthiness.

on patios, porches, and parks!

That’s very unfortunate.

As we lean into spring, we

Lent offers us an opportu-

come to another important

nity to reflect and do some

season, not just on our calen-

spring cleaning of our souls.

dars, but in our spiritual lives.

Instead of giving up choco-

You may be like me and share

late for Lent (as many do) or

an upbringing that empha-

simply having the discipline

sises both Spring and Fall

to only eat fish on Fridays (as

cleaning around the house.

others do), Lent calls us to a

For us that means cleaning

deeper action. That action is

every nook of the house, from

an important one.

Lent has often

floor to ceiling. We’d pull out

Why not commit this year,

furniture, wash windows, and

whether or not you are a part

scrub floors, baseboards, and

of a faith community, to give

walls. What a chore but there

up something for Lent? Go

wasn’t a spot of dirt aftward!

further than abstaining from

Our reward is a breath of

a particular food. Instead,

clean air and a crispness in

you should strive to give up

the energetic spirit of the

what stops you from being

house. I am not as dedicated

all you are. Give up self-

to these twice-year cleanings

doubt and those thoughts

as my Mom but I still try to

that build a poor self-image.

give a little extra effort.

Stop trying to convince

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people in your life that you

I admit that often times in

are worthy. Slow down and

our religious circles, we can

forget anxiety or busyness.

make things seem compli-

Give up judging or allowing

cated. Rules and doctrines

yourself to be judged. Give

become

up revenge or self-right-

than people and relation-

eousness. Give up trying to

ships. That is such a mistake!

become something you are

Lent isn’t only for the ones

not. Give up trying to live up

who come to church every

to the expectations of others

week.

who want to define your life.

in this important transition

Sound easy? It’s not! But

from Winter to Spring ‘no

it changes us in a liberating

matter who you are or where

way when we can give up

you are on life’s journey’.

more

important

You can participate

any and all those things or

I like spring cleaning

people who seek to bring us

because I get do it over and

down. Living into ourselves

over again—year after year.

requires

and

It’s the same reason I love

coming to grips with who

the season of Lent in our

we are and what we want to

spiritual lives. I get to do it

be in the world. And then,

over and over again—I get

once we have made that self-

to reflect on things in my

discovery, it takes tremen-

life that I want to change—

dous courage and a lot of

or let go of; or people in my

risks to live into God’s imag-

life I need to forgive—or let

ination for our lives.

go of;

reflection

or involvement in

What lies beneath the surface

my community that I want

that allows grit and smug-

to increase. I get to look

ness to influence our outlook?

deep into my soul and ask

When we move the furni-

meaningful questions. And

ture standing in our way and

then, I get several weeks

pick up the heavy rug that is

to process it all and once

weighing us down, we might

Easter comes, I’m ready for

discover those things that

renewal just as the tulips

need to be swept away. Find

are pushing through the

the closest broom and get rid

ground!

of that baggage that keeps you

you might find time to do

from dreaming, from loving,

some spring cleaning of

from embracing who you are

your own just in case your

and all life can be.

life can use a good dusting.

This year, maybe


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Mr. and Ms. Lexington Pride Pageant

Representing Lex Pride at Louisville Pride Parade

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Help the GLSO: Dine to Donate Mark your calendars for Thursday, March, 13 for a chance to have a good dinner, meet the GLSO Board, and help your LGBT resource center! Dine at BD’s Mongolian Grill in Hamburg between 6:00-9:00pm on March 13 and 10% of your check will be donated to the GLSO. Two GLSO Board members will be guest grilling each hour, so don’t miss this opportunity to get a good meal and get to know the folks who operate the GLSO. We look forward to seeing you there!

Calling All Pride Volunteers

It is now time to start thinking about contacting us for volunteering for the Pride Festival. We have had many individuals help us in previous years and hope that we have the biggest turnout and response for volunteers for the day of and the duties leading up to the Festival. There are many volunteer opportunities in all areas including merchandising, first-aid, services, activities, stage hands, set-up and breakdown and more. All volunteers will receive a little something as a token of appreciation. Take 2 hours to volunteer and then enjoy the rest of the day and know you had a part in helping to make it possible. For any and all Pride volunteer inquiries, please contact volunteers@lexpridefest.org or fill the volunteer application out at www.lexpridefest.org and click on volunteer application.

Mr. & Miss Lexington Pride Pageant

Attention all drag queens, biological women, trans-women, drag kings, biological men, trans-men, and well, EVERYONE! If you would like to represent your community in the upcoming Mr. & Miss Lexington Pride Pageant to become the official representatives of the Lexington Pride Festival, come out and compete for the title, crown and medallion! Contact pridepageant@lexpridefest.org for pageant rules and applications! The event will be held at 9pm on April 13, 2014 at the Bar Complex.

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March Calendar All meetings are hosted at the GLSO Pride Center unless otherwise noted

Saturday, March 1

Tuesday, March 11

Friday, March 21

1:30-3:30PM GLSO Fundraising Committee

6:30-8:30PM PGLAG Meeting*

3:00-4:00PM Outloud! Radio 88.1FM WRFL*

7:30-9:00PM TransKY Meeting

8:00-9:00PM HIV/AIDS Support Group at AVOL*

7:00-10:00PM Senior’s Bistro Potluck

8:30PM-11:30PM Mardi Grad Ball*

Wednesday, March 12

Sunday, March 23

Sunday, March 2

7:00-9:00PM LGBT Discussion Group

6:00-8:00PM Imperial Court Meeting

6:30-9:30PM Team Lex Volleyball*

Thursday, March 13

6:30-9:30PM Team Lex Volleyball*

Monday, March 3

7:00-9:00PM LOVEboldly Board Meeting

Monday, March 24

6:00-9:00PM Company Q Troupe Practice

Friday, March 14

6:00-9:00PM Company Q Troupe Practice

8:00-9:00PM AA Meeting at AVOL*

3:00-4:00PM Outloud! Radio 88.1FM WRFL*

8:00-9:00PM AA Meeting at AVOL*

Wednesday, March 5

Saturday, March 15

Wednesday, March 26

7:00-9:00PM LGBT Discussion Group

1:30-3:30PM GLSO Fundraising Committee

7:00-9:00PM LGBT Discussion Group

Thursday, March 6

7:00-10:00PM LGBT Movie Night

Thursday, March 27

6:30-8:00PM GLSO Board Meeting

Sunday, March 16

7:00-9:00PM 2014 LexPride Planning Meeting

Friday, March 7

6:30-9:30PM Team Lex Volleyball*

Friday, March 28

3:00-4:00PM Outloud! Radio 88.1FM WRFL*

8:30-11:30PM Falsies Awards*

3:00-4:00PM Outloud! Radio 88.1FM WRFL*

Saturday, March 8

Monday, March 17

7:00-9:00PM Hispanic LGBT Discussion Group

9:00-10:00PM KYBourbonBears Board Meeting

6:00-9:00PM Company Q Drama Troupe Practice

Saturday, March 29

Sunday, March 9

8:00-9:00PM AA Meeting at AVOL*

1:30-3:30PM GLSO Fundraising Committee

6:00-8:00PM Imperial Court Meeting

Wednesday, March 19

3:00-5:00PM RagingGrapeApe Planning Committee

6:30-9:30PM Team Lex Volleyball*

7:00-9:00PM LGBT Discussion Group

Sunday, March 30

Monday, March 10

Thursday, March 20

6:30-9:30PM Team Lex Volleyball*

6:00-9:00PM Company Q Troupe Practice

6:30-8:30PM GLSO Board Meeting

Monday, March 31

8:00-9:00PM AA Meeting by AVOL*

6:00-9:00PM Company Q Troupe Practice 8:00-9:00PM AA Meeting at AVOL*

* not hosted at the Pride Center

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Telephone Directory HIV/STD Testing, Services and Information

SisterSound

859 806 0243

AIDS Volunteers of Lexington (AVOL) 859 225 3000

Social Services, Lexington

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Health Department, Fayette County

Speaker’s Bureau

859 266 5904

Health Department, Woodford County 859 873 4541

TransKentucky

cassiemt@yahoo.com

HIV/AIDS Legal Project

502 584 1254

Transgender Youth Family Allies

1 888 462 8932

Moveable Feast

859 252 2867

Trevor Lifeline 24/7

1 866 488 7386

Northern Ky Region

859 341 4264

United Way

859 313 5465

UK Adolescent Medicine

859 323 5643

859 288 2437

Community and Social Groups

Religious Groups Bluegrass United Church of Christ

859 233 0208

24-Hour Crisis Line

800 929 8000

Faith Lutheran Church

859 266 7621

24-Hour Teen Crisis Line

800 999 9999

First Presbyterian Church

859 252 1919

Alcoholics Anonymous

859 967 9960

Lex Friends, Quakers

859 254 3319

AA/Alcoholic Teens

859 277 1877

Maxwell Street Presbyterian Church

859 255 1075

Council for Peace and Justice

859 488 1448

St. Martha’s Episcopal Church

859 271 7641

Discussion Group

859 253 3233

Unitarian Universalist Church

859 223 1448

Fairness of Louisville

502 893 0788

Woodland Christian Church

859 266 3416

Gay-Straight Alliance, Teens

859 266 5904

GLSO Pride Center

859 253 3233

Berea College ACE

859 958 3633

Imperial Court of Kentucky

859 619 7521

BCTC Gay-Straight Alliance

859 246 6365

International Gay Bowling

859 539 3058

Centre College BGLA

859 238 5332

Lexington Fairness

859 951 8565

EKU Alphabet Center

859 622 5041

Lexington Human Rights

859 252 4931

EKU Pride Alliance

859 622 1027

Lexington Pride Festival

859 253 3233

Morehead State University

606 783 2071

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

1 800 273 8255

TUnity (Transy)

859 445 3822

PFLAG Lexington

859 338 4393

UK Gay-Straight Alliance

859 257 8701

PFLAG Louisville

502 223 1323

UK OutSource

859 323 3312­­

College Student Groups

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