The Chinese Poem〈白頭吟〉 Jen. Talked about《後宮甄嬛傳》 with Ann, and she shared this poem to us. IDEA PUBLISHED: NOV 11, 2013 | BY JENNIFER
皚如山上雪，皎若雲間月。聞君有兩意，故來相決絕。 今日斗酒會，明旦溝水頭。躞蹀御溝上，溝水東西流。 淒淒復淒淒，嫁娶不須啼。願得一心人，白頭不相離。 竹竿何嫋嫋，魚尾何簁簁。男兒重意氣，何用錢刀為。 愛情，本是最令人迷醉的東西，偏也卻是最難以掌控的事物。兩情相悅的 那一刻是如此歡喜，而當所愛一旦失去，又要痛苦莫名！在漢朝就有這樣一 首詩，它傾訴了一位女子失去丈夫的愛情後，如何勇敢去面對，並充滿尊嚴 地以道義勸勉之。一同欣賞漢樂府〈白頭吟〉。 白頭吟是夫妻相守到白頭的意思，它本是「樂府古辭」，為漢朝民間巷陌 相傳的歌謠。這首詩最早見於《玉台新詠》，題名〈皚如山上雪〉。在《西 京雜記》里卻記載了這樣一個傳說，認為它是漢朝大辭賦家司馬相如的妻子 卓文君的創作。 司馬相如，是漢朝最有名的辭賦家。他年輕的時候滿腹才華，卻無處發展， 也沒有妻室。有一天，他聽說臨邛縣的富豪卓王孫有一位聰慧又美麗的女兒 卓文君，年紀輕輕就不幸守了寡，暫時回到娘家居住，每天求婚的人都絡繹 不絕。司馬相如也想一睹佳人的風采，卻不得其門而入。正好臨邛縣令王吉 是司馬相如的好友，於是兩人商量了一個計策。有一天，縣令王吉突然匆匆 忙忙地出門，迎接一位神秘的貴客，也就是司馬相如；他把司馬相如安置在 城外的館舍，並且每天恭謹地前去問候，而司馬相如卻只是愛理不理地回應 他。很快的，臨邛縣裡的人們都知道縣令請來了一位貴公子，愛好面子的卓 王孫立即將請帖發到了司馬相如手中；司馬相如故意稱病不去，又是縣令王 吉飯也來不及吃的匆忙駕著車子將司馬相如拜託過來。 穿上了華貴衣裳的司馬相如一進到卓王孫府邸：他翩翩的儀錶，不凡的談 吐，立刻就讓四座傾服了。這時，王吉又趁機說：先生一向擅長琴藝，能否 為我們彈奏幾曲呢？司馬相如推辭不過，坐下來彈琴，那幽雅的琴音很快就
把卓文君吸引前來了。眼看佳人就在屏風後偷窺，司馬相如於是彈起了一首 〈鳳求凰〉。 鳳兮鳳兮歸故鄉，遨遊四海求其凰。 時未遇兮無所將，何悟今兮升斯堂！ 有艷淑女在閨房，室邇人遐毒我腸。 何緣交頸為鴛鴦，胡頡頏兮共翱翔！ (凰兮凰兮從我棲，得托孳尾永為妃。 交情通意心和諧，中夜相從知者誰？ 雙翼俱起翻高飛，無感我思使余悲。) 琴歌方歇，已挑動卓文君的心房。鳳凰、鳳凰，相傳鳳是雄的，凰是雌的， 〈鳳求凰〉正是一首表達對佳人思慕的琴歌。當晚，文君就與司馬相如私訂 終生了。 卓王孫發現女婿是個窮光蛋，一怒之下斷絕了父女關係。司馬相如與卓文 君就在縣城裡自食其力地開起了酒館，由文君當罏親自為賓客們暖酒，司馬 相如跑堂打雜；眼看著女兒拋頭露面，卓王孫又氣又不舍，終於認了這個有 才華的女婿。 在卓王孫的經濟支持之下，司馬相如潛心寫作，得到了漢武帝的賞識，不 久便平步青雲了。 故事到此還沒有結束喔，才子佳人的考驗才正要開始呢！ 司馬相如富貴 發達之後，竟漸漸起了貪得無厭之心，他聽說茂陵有一位女子非常美麗，就 想聘她為妾，文君心痛之餘寫下了〈白頭吟〉這首詩以贈夫君。
[語譯] 我的情感光明而純潔，就像山上的冰雪和雲間的明月。現在卻聽說 你有了別的念頭，所以我特地前來跟你訣別。 今天就擺下酒宴和你做最後的 聚會，明天一早我倆就在溝水兩頭分開了。 我徘徊在那環繞宮牆的渠水旁， 望著這渠水各自奔向東西兩方。 悲凄呀悲凄，其實婚嫁又何須傷心哭啼？ 只要能嫁到一心一意對待自己的人，白頭到老永不分離！ 想當初與你情意相 投時，就如那釣竿與魚兒， 釣竿彎延，魚尾抖動著，溫情歡意，魚水交融。 一個男子應當要以情義為重啊，你又何必那麼看重富貴和金錢呢？ 相傳，司 馬相如看完這首詩後，瞬間清醒起來，放棄了納妾的念頭。 這首詩開頭用「山上的雪」，「雲間的月」來說明愛情應當光明純潔，這 個比喻也同時暗示了主人公自己堅貞高潔的人格。人與人的相處貴在一份真 誠，失去了「真心」，所謂愛情也就只剩下低下的慾望罷了。 從「聞君有兩意」開始，女主人公便申明了決絕心意，然而她的語氣雖堅 定，在溝渠上的緩步徘徊，卻也曝露出了不舍的心情；畢竟結髮多年呀，從 此夫妻就像那溝水一般，各自往不同的方向奔流了。這時她的沉痛又轉為深 層的思索，體悟到婚姻並不能只是一時的衝動而已，唯有「一心」之人，才
可能相守終身。兩情相悅的開始不都是美好的嗎？然而青春與容貌都會隨著 時光而消逝，婚姻關係的維持還必需仰賴「恩」與「義」呀。夫妻之間這種 真情與承諾又豈是金錢買賣所能夠取代的呢？ 全詩氣格高華，主人公在此並不像一般的棄婦那樣自怨自艾，反而表現出 高度的清醒與自覺，她主動去脫離這份已經失去純正的關係；結尾也不勉強 挽回或心懷怨恨，反而像朋友一樣的提醒丈夫：人生的價值又豈是一時的慾 望與功利追逐呢！ 看來，卓文君果然不同於一般凡俗女子，或許，當一個人能放下執著的時 候，就會變得堅強勇敢，沒有了私情，反能得到生命的升華，看見最初清澈 的自己。 Read more at: http://big5.soundofhope.org/node/280621
7 Essential Lessons to Feel More Happiness in Your Life Carol Talked about Gabrielle with Ann, and she shared this article to us. IDEA PUBLISHED: APRIL 2014 | BY CAROL
If given the choice to be happy or fearful, I believe we'd all jump into the happy bus blasting our fear into fumes. The only problem: We can't always find our ticket to drive. I sat down with motivational speaker, life coach, and author, Gabrielle Bernstein, to discuss the best way to kick fear to the curb and waltz into the future with our happiness. This amazing lady happens to have a new book, called Miracles Now: 108 Life-Changing Tools for Less Stress, More Flow, and Finding Your True Purpose, that tackles all of these common problems with simple and effective solutions. Sound good? Read on for my Q&A with Gabrielle: Kathryn: What's one sneaky thing that drains our happiness and how can you fix it? Gabrielle: Fear is the sneaky thing that drains our happiness. We get so hooked into the fears from our past and the fears of the future that we disconnect with the present moment. I love this acronym for fear: F Everything and Run, because the moment fear arises we immediately avoid feeling it. But when we run from fear, we often
turn to bad habits to anesthetize the discomfort. When we run we avoid, and this creates a fear cycle that becomes our reality. When we're stuck in fearful beliefs, we're blocking our energy flow, our connection to others, and our happiness. The key to creating more happiness is to release the fears that hold us back. How do you do that? A great place to start is with this exercise from my new book, Miracles Now. Every time you feel your thoughts go into fearful attack mode, say out loud 'Happiness is a choice I make.' Make that your mantra. The more you retrain yourself to choose happiness over fear, the more blissful you will be. Repeating that behavior is what makes it stick. Kathryn: What's something you can do in one minute to improve your life? Gabrielle: The one-minute wonder is to breathe. There's a Kundalini meditation called "the one minute breath." This simple meditation can change your life. For one minute, you take 20 seconds to inhale, hold it for 20 seconds, then take 20 seconds to exhale. If you're new to yogic breath, it's likely that the 20-second cycle will be hard. It's just as powerful if you breathe in for five seconds, hold for five seconds and exhale for five seconds (for up to a minute or more), then you can work up to 20 seconds. This meditation dramatically calms anxiety, fear and worry. MORE: How to De-Stress In Just 10 Minutes Kathryn: What's your favorite in-the-moment stress buster? Gabrielle: Another great tip from Miracles Now is this meditation for beginners. I call it, Peace is in your Pulse. Meditation has proven to be one of the most valuable tools for reducing stress. Many people want to meditate but don't know where to begin. An easy way to begin meditation and access peace is through your pulse. Just by meditating on your own pulse you can calm your mind, balance your brain hemispheres, and recalibrate your nervous system.
Through this simple meditation you can develop your ability to concentrate. It will also help you control your reactions in all situations and bring calm to even the most scattered mind. First, sit comfortably in your chair and lightly close your eyes. The hand position is simple: Place the four fingers of your right hand on your left wrist and feel your pulse. The fingers are in a straight line, lightly pressed on the wrist so you can feel your pulse in each fingertip. On each beat of your pulse, mentally recite the words: "peace, now." You can do this meditation during your commute to work, before a big date or at any moment throughout the day when you feel yourself getting stressed out. Kathryn: How can you not only create intention but stay motivated to pursue it? Gabrielle: I believe the best way to stay motivated to pursue an intention is to commit to it first thing in the morning. Upon waking set your intention, "Today I am committed to pursuing this goal _______." Put it out there and make a commitment the moment you wake up. Your morning intention will dictate the direction you flow in for the rest of the day. Start off with the right vibes and you will be carried. Then throughout the day when you notice yourself misaligned with your intention, simply say to yourself, "I recommit to this intention now." What you focus on grows. Practice committing to your intentions throughout the day and your follow through will be awesome! Kathryn: What are some things women should do to avoid burnout? Gabrielle: Learn how to say NO! My best friend Latham Thomas always says, "No is a complete sentence." It's very easy to get caught up in the behavior of people pleasing, which inevitably leads to burnout. Practice saying no with love. Don't be afraid that you'll let people down. Trust that the more you honor your own needs the more energy you will have to support others. Kathryn: How can you combat negative comments to preserve your drive and happiness?
Gabrielle: Have compassion for these folks. Let's face it: Happy people don't post negative comments on the web or put you down to your face. Compassion will reconnect you to a sense of oneness and defenselessness, which will help you put down the boxing gloves and settle into a new perspective. Just let go fully and forgive. To really seal the deal, I suggest you use prayer. Simply say, "I pray to forgive you and release you." Then feel free to block or delete the user or hide the comment. If you have the power to clear the feed, let that become part of your practice. And when you're dealing with Internet haters there's no reason to let negative comments linger. Simply forgive and delete. Kathryn: I always teach my students to 'aim true'. What does this mean for you? Gabrielle: First off, I LOVE this message. I believe that our truth is our greatest source of power. The sexiest thing about us is our authentic truth! For me, "aim true" means that I commit to a daily practice of releasing all the fear and negativity that blocks me from being myself. Aim true means that I must always bring my truth to all situations, relationships, and encounters. Aim true means that I am always on a path of personal growth and expansion. Read more at:http:/www.womenshealthmag.com/author/kathryn-budig
The Chinese Poems By 扎西拉姆．多多 Ann Talked about The Chinese Poems with J.& C., and she shared these poems to us. IDEA PUBLISHED: APRIL, 2013 | BY ANN
(1)班扎古魯白瑪的沉默 你見 或者不見我 我就在那裡 不悲不喜
你念 或者不念我 情就在那裡 不來 去 你愛 或者不愛我 愛就在那裡 不增不減 你跟 或者不跟我 我的手就在你手裡 捨不棄 來我的懷裡 或者 讓我住進你的心間 默然 相愛 寂靜 歡喜 (2)如此愛你 飛鳥愛上飛鳥 不是自由 天空愛上飛鳥 才是擁有 允許你來 允許你走 我的愛就這麼無怨這麼無憂 落花愛上落花 無法守候 大地愛上落花 才能永久 陪著你喜 陪著你愁 我的愛就這麼深沉這麼濃厚
我願如此 如此愛你 給你天空 給你大地 然後靜靜 靜靜化作風景 去裝點那 最美麗的你 讓我如此 如此愛你 做你的天空 你的大地 然後默默 默默給你勇氣 讓你去做 做你自己
Published on Apr 23, 2014