Life In Orpington October 2020

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Welcome to Life in ORPINGTON... ...your local community magazine that has something to suit all tastes Nicky Lauretta


October 2020

As we head firmly into autumn, we’ve got another cracking issue that we’re excited to print. With features ranging from Local Celebs (yes, it’s back!) and how to declutter your home, to what your doodles say about you and a vet’s guide to grooming your pet. We hope you enjoy reading the issue as much as we’ve enjoyed creating it.

Community News

Getting to know Orpington....................... 4 Write it, Say it, Message it PRIZE GIVEAWAY.................................... 6 Noticeboard.............................................. 8 Mayor's Voice........................................... 9 Local Celebs........................................... 10

As usual, we’d love to hear your thoughts as well as your suggestions and stories. We give the ‘star response’ a prize every month. Just email us at As well as being Breast Cancer Awareness Month, there’s also a few other notable dates in October – and we’re not just talking Halloween (31st October!). This month we’ve got International Coffee Day (1st), World Teachers Day (5th), World Habitat Day (5th), World Mental Health Day (10th) and World Food Day (16th).

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Finally, courtesy of, we’ll leave you with a few facts to contemplate about October…

Puzzle Page - PRIZE GIVEAWAY........... 16 Did You Know......................................... 19 Eco News............................................... 20 Parenting................................................ 21 Pets........................................................ 22 Health & Beauty...................................... 25 Short Stories........................................... 26 Classifieds.............................................. 29 Stockists................................................. 30 A Final Thought...................................... 31

1. The Anglo-Saxons called October Winterfylleth, meaning the ‘fullness’ of winter. 2. The Welsh for October is Hydref (originally Hyddfref), a word signifying the lowing of cattle. 3. The ‘October Revolution’ in Russia in 1917 took place in November, but at the time Russians had not yet changed from the Julian calendar. 4. The Hunt For Red October, with Sean Connery, is the only film with ‘October’ in its title ever to win an Oscar (for best sound editing). 5. More US presidents have been born in October than in any other month. Until next month – have a great October and happy Halloween!

Nicky and Lauretta

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Nicky Grant and Lauretta Wright, Editors

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What quality do you admire most in other people? Nicky: Humility Lauretta: Resilience

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Community News

Getting Orpington to know Great Houses of the District Regular readers will know that for the next few issues, our regular article takes a look at some of the great houses in our district.

Tubbenden Lane map

This month we look at the houses along the northeast (station) end of Tubbenden Lane. One hundred or so years ago, if you travelled from the Orpington Station end of Tubbenden Lane through the railway arch, you would have seen a tree-lined lane taking the same route it does today, gradually climbing up towards Farnborough. Several large houses would have been present as you travel up to where Ruskin Drive now joins the lane. On the immediate left you would have seen Tubbenden House, not a manor house but a large house with an estate that belonged to the Maxwell family. This estate would become William H Cook’s (Son of William Cook) poultry farm. The house was rented out surrounded by the farm and the lodge house (where Dalton Close is) was where Mr Cook lived and operated the farm. He sold up in the late 1940s and the estate, including the house, was redeveloped into a housing estate. To the right were 5 well-known local houses: • Sherlies Hotel – a hotel with a good reputation. It was one of Orpington’s only hotels and was demolished in the 1960s • North Holme – a large Victorian house demolished in the 1980s • Alcornes/ Ko Kine – a large Victorian house demolished in the 1960s • Fernbank – another large Victorian house, again demolished in the 1960s • Sunnyside – home to George Allen, publisher of John Ruskin, which was demolished in the 1970s The last of the mentioned five grand houses was Sunnyside. This was an impressive property built for George Allen and his family in 1873/74. This photo is of the owner George Allen in his driveway viewed from the south (from Tubbenden Lane) c1905. The house had terraced lawns, a tennis court, bowling green and rose garden.

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Sunnyside with George Allen

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Star letter Another wonderful magazine. I have enjoyed the Mayor's column. I have noticed the very bright and cheerful murals around the town - mushrooms etc, and (on the corner of Knoll Rise/High Street) an information board on our common 'weeds'. The council's 'real' planting is blooming well, too. All in all, despite all that Corona has thrown at us, Orpington is looking smart and confident! Sylvia Chubbs

POETRY CORNER The Fall Of Autumn Leaves

The leaves which dressed the trees through summer, Are stripped away by autumn’s hand, Once green, now red or yellow or copper, They float to earth and carpet the land.

In response to our charity shop feature in last month’s issue (5 charity shop bargain-hunting tricks)

There they lie all sad and brittle, Crunched underfoot like autumnal snow, Or swirled into drifts which never settle, Soon to rot in the earth below. But out of sight a miracle happens, As new life flows through those naked trees, Appearing as buds which turn into blossom, Before unveiling a new coat of leaves.

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MAYOR’S VOICE… Last month we saw a big shift in getting back to (a new) normal, with many people returning to their physical place of work – either full time or on a part-time or rotational basis. We also saw the return of children to school, something that I think is fundamental to a child’s development. I believe that having purpose, a structure to your day and some sort of routine is important to anyone’s mental health, but particularly the next generation. And although most children have seemed to cope really well with lockdown and staying in touch with friends on social media or online, there’s nothing better than face to face conversations. On the subject of mental health, I visited the Transport for London Green Street Green Bus Garage and received a wonderful welcome. It was great to get a tour of each of the departments and see how the bus garage has been so proactive in helping support mental health and wellbeing. My duties this month have been varied and, as usual, really interesting. I paid a visit to Orpington Fire Station to thank them for all that they do to keep us safe. I met with the Bromley Borough Commander and his team and presented them with a welldeserved Certificate of Commendation. Later this month I’ll be meeting the Ambulance service, so it will be nice to have met all three emergency services to be able to thank them in person. Other visits have included thanking a food bank centre, visiting IDVerde to acknowledge their help in keeping all the parks open and safe over lockdown, a service at the RAF Chapel at Biggin Hill to commemorate the 75th anniversary of VJ Day and

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an Olympic Sport prize giving event at the Diagrama Foundation. Last but not least, I’ve been ensuring that the Mayor Of Bromley Facebook Page is updated to bring you the latest news – keeping you informed of my visits and also adding nuggets of information. For example, did you know that the London Borough of Bromley was formed in 1965 and was an amalgamation of the former boroughs of Beckenham and Bromley, the Urban Districts of Orpington and Penge, and parts of Chislehurst and Sidcup Urban District. Prior to 1965 these were all in Kent, with Penge having been in Surrey before 1889 and in the county of London until 1900. We learn something new every day as they say! Until next month…. Cllr Hannah Gray Mayor of Bromley

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Community News

Local Celebs…

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Vicky’s answer to the question ‘Where did you grow up?’ is every kid’s dream – a sweet shop! And that wasn’t the only surprising thing we learned about this much-loved actress who has graced our screens for 30 years when we came to asking about her past. Vicky’s a local girl through and through, remaining in the Bromley borough for most of her life. Born in 1968, she attended St. Georges Primary in Bickley, followed by Bullers Wood School for Girls in Chislehurst and then Orpington College Of Further Education for her A-levels. She now lives in Keston with her husband, Nic, and son Charlie. Here, we sit down to ask Vicky a little more about how she got into acting – and what she gets up to when she’s not learning scripts…

As a young child, when asked what she wanted to be when she grew up, Vicky would reply 'A cartoon!'

How did you get into acting – and how easy was it? At Bullerswood I had the most amazing drama teacher, Ursula Wright. Her and her husband Brian Wright (an actor and writer) encouraged and guided me and at 11 years old my passion for acting began! I auditioned for The Royal Central School of Speech and Drama in 1987 which was so competitive; more than 3,000 students competing for just one place, so I was ecstatic when I got accepted and trained for three years. Those were wonderful memories and halcyon days! This is now my 30th year in the industry as an actress.

What are some of the roles you’ve most enjoyed playing? I've had so many great jobs and have met some truly amazing people. My first job was on 'The Bill" where I got beaten up by a man in a wheelchair! I've worked on EastEnders and Coronation Street (I saved Deidre Barlow 'The Weatherfield One'). And House of Eliott was a big break for me in the early 90s. I had a great run as one of the 'Two Julies' in Bad Girls - this was probably one of

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my favourite jobs where I met my partner in crime, the darling Kika Mirylees, who has become a very dear friend. We had an absolute scream filming with all the other girls, most of whom I am still incredibly close to. Other jobs have included Call The Midwife, The Dumping Ground and People Just Do Nothing. I've worked all over the UK on stage and screen and also in Romania, New Zealand, Amsterdam, Norway and Prague.

Who do you admire in the industry? My inspiration is always 'What would Judi Dench do?' I love her. She’s so believable in everything she does and a legend to boot!

What are some of your favourite things to watch? I've watched all sorts of shows recently during lockdown from 'Little Fires Everywhere ' and 'Sex Education' to 'Celebrity Gogglebox ' and re-runs of 'George and Mildred'!

When you’re not learning your lines, what do you get up to? My other business that runs very happily alongside my acting career is ' Acting Up with Vicky Alcock'. I have had amazing support from fellow actors, directors and agents. I run Screen Acting classes two evenings a week in London, Waterloo (and since lockdown), online too! I coach other professional actors who have little or no experience in front of the camera. You can follow us on Twitter @_ActingUp, Facebook - Acting UP with Vicky Alcock and Instagram@actingupvickyalcock

What would be your advice to someone who wants to get into acting? Make sure you want to do it with all your heart because it's a tough and brutal industry, so be prepared. Have a secondary trade that can support you too; out of 30 actors with whom I trained, I think only half a dozen are still going strong professionally. #blessed

What can we look forward to seeing you in next? This month I'll be out of the UK filming on a new movie for Netflix - wish me luck and watch this space! You can contact Vicky for more information on Acting Up via email:

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There's something for everyone! We’re looking to hear about your news, notices and local events! Email us at

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Cost: Free Contact: If you're struggling with the loss of a loved one, contact The Bereavement Cafe to talk with qualified bereavement counsellors. All are welcome.

Bromley Mencap Services

Contact: 020 8466 0790 Helpline open Monday - Friday 9am-5pm Email support: enquiries@bromleymencap/org Call for advice and a friendly voice. We understand many disabled people and their families may be feeling anxious and worried during these difficult times. Please phone our helpline should you require any support or need advice during the coronavirus pandemic.

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7.45pm - 9.45pm Cost: Free Contact: Sandra - 07519 105354 Email: Twitter: @ForgetMeNotSoSl Forget-Me-Not offers support for all those affected by suicide loss. The group is self-led and informal, where you can connect with other survivors.

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Saturday 24th October – Sunday 1st November

9am-5pm 7 days a week Contact: 0300 330 9039 Email: Bromley Well provides help for you to stay emotionally and physically well and to remain independent. Bromley Well is running the following workshops in October (these workshops are free but you need to be registered as a Bromley Well service user, see website for details). Friday 2nd & 16th October Online Fibromyalgia Support Group Tuesday 6th, 13th & 20th October Health and Wellbeing workshop for people with long term health conditions Thursday 8th, 15th & 22nd October Coping with Life - 3 week course to boost your mental wellbeing

10am – 5pm (last admission 4pm) Kent Life, Lock Lane, Sandling, Maidstone, Kent, ME14 3AU Cost: Adult £9, Child (3-15) £8, Concession £8, Family (2+2) £30 Contact: A spooky week of pumpkin carving, trick or treating, creepy bugs and fancy dress competitions. Come along and trick or treat in our historic houses if you dare!

Crofton Roman Villa

Crofton Roman Villa has now re-opened in an adapted way on Tuesdays and Wednesdays from 10am - 1pm until the end of October (subject to any Covid changes). Twitter: @CroftonVilla. Email:

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Christmas Tree Farm

Cudham Road, Downe Village, Kent, BR6 7LF Cost: Adults £5.00 Children aged 2 – 16 £3.00 Contact: 01689 861603 Email: The farm has now reopened, see their website for 'Staying Safe at the Farm Measures in Place for your Safety'.


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Foal Farm

Jail Lane, Biggin Hill, Kent, TN16 3AX Contact: 01959 572386 The farm has now reopened for visitors. See their website for more information.

Biggin Hill Memorial Museum

Family-Friendly Workshops - October Half Term 17th October – 1st November 10am – 3pm Biggin Hill Memorial Museum, Main Road, Biggin Hill, TN16 3EJ Cost: See website for details Contact: 01959 422414 Ever wondered what life was like for a Second World War WAAF plotter in RAF Biggin Hill’s Operations Room? Come and see for yourself with the launch of their brand-new plotting table this October half term. There’s also a Battle of Britain trail and daily activities from code cracking to parachute making.

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Bromley libraries are reopening. Due to coronavirus, there are some new safety measures in place, as well as some changes to our library services, that you should know about. Visit to view the video containing all the information you need about our libraries reopening. We suggest familiarising yourself with the new measures, but don’t worry – when you arrive there will be plenty of signage and helpful staff on hand to guide you. Together, we can keep our libraries safer, better and stronger than ever.

What's changed?

Your experience may look and feel a little different than usual, but as always, our team will be there to guide you through. You will notice the following changes: • Some services and activities will be unavailable, including print newspapers, magazines, and study and seating areas. • All room bookings, study spaces, events and programmes such as children’s story time sessions and book clubs, remain suspended until further notice. • Our social media programmes will continue, as will access to our online resources including eBooks, eAudiobooks, eMagazines, online newspapers and learning resources. View our online resources here. • To meet the government guidelines for gathering limits and social distancing, entry into each of our libraries will be limited, depending on the size of each location. • Strict hygiene and social distancing rules will be in place, including time limits on library visits and a concierge at the door to manage visitor numbers. • You are required to wear a face covering if you’re visitIng a library.

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what's on - OCTOBER 2020 sports & nature Cray Wanderers Community Scheme Saturday Football & Multi-skills Every Saturday (during term time)

10am-11am Ages 5-15 Hoblingwell Recreation Ground, Leesons Hill, Orpington, BR5 2SG Cost: £5 Contact: Email, phone07756 826105, Facebook @craywandscs, We offer football coaching and multi-skills. Our multiskills sessions focus on skill development through fun games based on running, jumping, catching, leaping, kicking, power, strength, agility, balance and hand/eye co-ordination. Places must be booked in advance. Your children’s safety is paramount. We will be following the latest COVID-19 government guidelines which are subject to change. Hygiene practices will be rigorously followed, and toilets/equipment cleaned after use.

October Half-Term Sports Camp Monday 26 – Friday 30 October

10am-12pm (early drop off available), 1pm-3pm, or stay all day Ages 5-15 Hoblingwell Recreation Ground, Leesons Hill, Orpington, BR5 2SG Cost: £12.50 half day, £25 all day or £65 for the full week Optional extras: 8am drop off with breakfast - £8, Lunch provided - £5 Contact: Email, phone07756 826105, Facebook @craywandscs, Join us for guaranteed fun and games with a choice of football or multi-sports. Children can bring their own packed lunch or book a hot or cold lunch. Your children’s safety is paramount. We will be following the latest COVID-19 government guidelines which are subject to change. Hygiene practices will be rigorously followed, and toilets/equipment cleaned after use. Places must be booked in advance.

Flin's Online & Group Fitness Classes See website for class dates and times

Cost: PAYG from £4 - £7 Contact Fran: 07976 412027 Online streaming plus Live offerings - 50 classes a week, starting at 6.30am right through the day and over the weekend. Classes include: HIIT, Body Conditioning, Cardio, Strength, Pilates, Yoga, Teens, Zumba, Low Impact Fitness & much more!

Parks and Open Spaces Downloads

A selection of trail leaflets around nature reserves in Bromley can be downloaded here: downloads/200073/parks_and_open_spaces

Dolphin Model Boat Club Saturday 11th October

10am to 12:30pm Boating pond by the Poverest Road/Kent Road junction on the Cray Avenue (A224), Orpington, BR5 4AB. Cost: Free Contact: David 01689 850723 or Paul 01322 615980 Web: Last sailing event of 2020 - come and watch DMBC members sailing a wide variety of model boats, for the final time this season.

Heritage walking trails in the Bromley area

Contact: Bromley council has put together some illustrated leaflets showing walks around historic and interesting places in the Bromley area.

Bromley Mencap Bike Workshop Every Tuesday, Thursday & Friday 10am to 1pm


9am to 12pm Norman Park, Hook Farm Road (just of the A21) Contact: Ring The Lodge doorbell for assistance or phone 020 8466 0790 A bike workshop open to anyone who is looking to buy a refurbished bike, have their bike repaired or use the free cycle hire scheme around Norman Park. They also accept donations of unwanted bikes - all bikes received are used to teach their disabled students bike maintenance skills.


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by TRACEY TRUSSELL, consultant graphologist at Hand Right ( Did you know that doodling is a universal form of expression that cuts across language, education, age and gender. The act of doodling is to relax and think, but the invisible by-product is that we are gifted with valuable insights. Doodle analysis is a short-cut way of uncovering personality and revealing repressed secrets in super-quick time. Shapes in doodles are the most popular form of doodle and imbued with symbolism. Shapes relate to people's state of mind, life outlook, needs, motivations, responses and attitudes. Single, stand-alone drawings represent the doodler themselves.

Most Popular Doodles and Shapes Decoded: Circles – emotion, friendly, sociable, loving, kind, warm, passive, dependence, and femininity. Wiggly Lines – adaptable, rapid thinkers, evasive, indecisive types. Coils and Spirals – creative, individualistic, multiple interests, commitment phobes. Squares – conventional, practical, reliable, materialistic, down to earth, common-sensical Straight Lines – blunt, no-nonsense types, straight talking, determined

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Diagonal Lines – leadership material, strong desire for power

Criss-crossed Lines – worry warts, sexually frustrated

Triangles – adventurous, daring, ambitious, sassy, hardworking, resourceful, rational Zigzags – strong minded, energetic thinking, inflexible Popular Drawings: Flowers – friendships and relationships matter Angels – spiritual awareness Cats – loyal, sensitive, humanitarian Fish – intuitive feelings, intelligence Snakes – wisdom, personal growth, rich inner resources

3D objects – acute perspective, problem solving abilities

Clouds – emotion, daydreamer Face – people’s person Hearts – loving, romantic, innocent Mountains – idealistic, material ambition Stars – dreams, aspirations, optimism Weapons – anti-social tendencies

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Eco News

face masks - an environmental hazard? Are face masks more dangerous than the virus? They are certainly more damaging to the environment and may cause problems that could last a lot longer than the virus. What impact do disposable face masks have on the environment?

As most contain plastic, disposable face masks can have a devastating impact on the environment, leading to a huge heap of waste. They have led to masses more plastic clogging up our rivers and oceans. This has direct impacts on wildlife - a young seagull has been seen in Essex, injured by a plastic mask wrapped around its legs and in Yorkshire, a peregrine falcon was seen with a mask caught in its talons. It has been said that a marine biologist found 171 plastic masks and gloves in just one hour in an estuary in Cornwall. Disposable masks are typically made from multiple layers of polypropylene, which is a type of plastic that can take hundreds of years to break down. They can also shed tiny harmful micro-plastics into our waterways, which can be consumed by fish (which can be passed onto us, when we eat seafood). The string on disposable masks can also be a danger to wildlife so if you do have to use a disposable mask

it's important to cut the string, that goes around the ear, before you dispose of it.

Can disposable masks be recycled?

Regular disposable face masks are not biodegradable, and cannot be recycled as they may carry germs involving Coronavirus so they need to be disposed of safely to prevent spreading infection.

What is a more sustainable alternative?

Obviously, if you are in constant contact with people who are affected by the virus you will have to use disposable masks for safety reasons. But in many circumstances, reusable cloth masks are a good alternative to disposable masks. Studies have found that cotton, reusable face coverings are effective at reducing Coronavirus transmissions and as they are washable, reusable and recyclable. They make an ideal choice for many consumers that care about sustainability.

We need to make sure we keep ourselves and those around us safe, but it's also important to keep our planet safe from the growing problem of single-use plastics.

8 FACE MASK HACKS 1. A pleated shape helps to create a better fit. 2.

Avoid glasses fogging up by washing them in soapy water, allow them to dry before wearing - the soap leaves a thin film on the lenses that repels condensation.

5. Upcycle old clothes into masks to help save landfill waste. 6. Add a fresh scent to your mask - an essential oil can help boost your mood and energy levels.

3. Test the breathe-ability of the fabric and use multiple layers of fabric.

7. Criss-cross each loop before hooking them around your ears if the ear loops are too big.


8. Add a headband with buttons and hook the earloops to it for a more comfortable fit.

Earloops can be uncomfortable; try hooking them together with a paper-clip around the back of your head or a shoelace or ribbon can are good alternatives.

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Creating a new balance in your life

by SID MADGE, author of the ‘Meee in a Minute’ series of books During this year we are finding ourselves being reminded of what is truly important and meaningful in our lives. It’s the micro moments of love, trust, gratitude, a smile or shared laughter. Simple things. Human things. The one important question is whether we will take notice of those lessons and insights and use them to create something better or whether we will all go back to the way it was. There is much talk about a ‘new normal’. I suggest we forget about normal or new normal and instead focus on ‘New Balance’. The question then is, how can you create a new and better balance in life for you and your family as we emerge from the pandemic? Here are some practical ideas for you to use and to share with others: •

Every day get outside, ideally in nature or a local park. Walk, and notice the trees, the bird song, the changing seasons. Use the time even if it’s just a few minutes, to learn to just ‘be’. Listen. Think. Spend time in silence.

Start each day with positivity. Focus on what you want to achieve today. Take a minute to remind yourself what you are already grateful for in your life. Write down six things you are grateful for, and six things you must achieve today. Use these as your focus.

While commuting or eating breakfast read an inspirational book. For example, ‘Meee in a Work Minute’ has 60 one-minute nuggets of wisdom including short exercises to start your day with positivity. There are many great books so pick those that resonate with you.

Connect with people you care about. Find ways (using the tips above) to maintain a connection and to find a balance that works for both parts of your life; work and home. At home, talk, eat together as a family. Maintain the strengthened bonds facilitated by the pandemic.

Eradicate unnecessary activity. Ask yourself does this activity add value and make you feel better or does it detract from your life. Lockdown has taught us what is really important and spending money and endless shopping doesn’t appear to have made the cut. Take some time to consider what’s really important in your life. If something doesn’t add value, eliminate it or seek to cut down that activity in your life. Focus on what matters professionally and personally. Focus on what makes you and your loved-ones happy. And make these things the priority.

Pay it forward to tackle mental health Mental health and wellbeing charity Shaw Mind is calling on the nation to ‘pay it forward’ and make a donation to ensure the next generation has the best mental health support available. Its new campaign, ‘Give Five, Save Lives’ encourages the UK to help fund additional teacher training as mental health and wellbeing becomes part of the curriculum. The WHO reports that half of mental ill health conditions start by the age of 14, though many go undetected and untreated, and 75% develop by the age of 18. Pre-Covid19, British children as young as five years old were being diagnosed with anxiety and depression. To make a donation to ‘Give Five, Save Lives’, visit Shaw Mind’s dedicated Aviva Community Fund page

TOY STORY Although toys might not seem likely contenders for items to invest in, if you come across the right ones and keep them in perfect condition, you may have hit the jackpot. OnBuy looked into some of the most valuable toys and games that could earn you a fortune: •

Hot Wheels have the most monthly searches at 894,500, with the most valuable car said to be worth £134,000.

• Trading Cards have sold for the highest amount, with a Honus Wagner 1909 card being sold for £2.9m. • Disney VHS Tapes have the least amount of monthly searches and have sold on eBay for £11,000.

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A vet’s guide to grooming your pet at home Shedding is connected to daylight hours, with increased sun stimulating the hair to grow, shed and replace itself. If you have house cats, you may find that shedding isn’t too much of a problem as they are affected slightly less by daylight changes. But what can be done to manage and reduce shedding, to help keep your pet comfortable and wellconditioned, and help keep your house fuzz-free? Viovet recommends…

1. Groom often. Despite what you might think, short

haired breeds are often higher shedders, as their hairs have a much shorter life cycle and therefore replace themselves at a faster rate. All breeds shed to an extent, even ‘non-shedding’ breeds will shed a little bit, and hairless breeds will shed skin instead of hair.

2. Remove the loose hair frequently to aid the

hair renewal process and stimulate the hair follicle and skin. This encourages better circulation and also removes dandruff and debris. Not only this, but regular grooming helps enhance condition and improve coat

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shine, for a healthy-looking pet. By paying close attention to the skin and coat, it will allow you to notice problems early, including cases of dry skin and irritation, as well as the presence of unwanted parasites like fleas and ticks. Hairball problems will also be minimised as there will be less loose hair for your cat to ingest.

3. Supplement. If you’re concerned about the health of

your pet’s skin and coat, it is important to consult your vet. It may be that your pet has a food or environmental allergy which is causing irritation and itching. In some cases, a dull coat can also indicate illness, so it is always worth seeking advice.

4. Nail clipping. While this isn’t strictly related to

shedding, keeping an eye on your pet’s claws is an important aspect of grooming. If you find nail clipping problematic and not something your pet tolerates very well, your vet can always assist. In the absence of a vet, however, there is more information on nail clipping at home, which you might find useful.

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Expert plant-based chef, presenter and author, Keith Squires, offers his advice for going ‘wholefood vegan'… 1.

Health and nutrition As soon as we give up unhealthy food everyone worries about nutrition (am I getting enough protein and energy etc). Don't worry, there is nothing unnatural about eating natural food. There are a few simple rules to follow. Just combine grains like rice and good bread with pulses to make a great combination of protein and carbohydrates. We need good fats. These are the essential fatty acids omega 3 and omega 6. Luckily these are present in healthy nuts and seeds.

2. Save the earth If you’re worried about the environment, eating a more plant based diet is one of the best things you can do. Pulses are legumes which fertilize the soil by fixing nitrogen and reduce the need for chemicals. After harvesting the beans the plants can be ploughed back into the soil where they decompose and release nitrates for next year's crop. 3. Save money A healthy diet based on pulses, grains and vegetables is very cheap. Lentils, rice and split peas

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can cost as little as 50p or £1 a kilo. When cooked both expand and double or triple in mass making the real cost less than 50p. The other main ingredients are seasonal vegetables which are also great value at around £1 or £2 per kilo.

4. Enjoy less stress Also lining up for food is stressful when you only have so much time. There is always a big queue and it takes longer than you want. Then you end up eating it on the way back to your desk. With easy one pot dishes you can take them to work in a food thermos and just chill. Walk out of your office sit on your favourite bench and calmly crack open your tin. Thinking of the little mini break you can have every month with all the cash you now have. 5. Ethical No one likes intensive animal farms so this is a great way of avoiding it. Even free-range animals have to be killed to produce meat, so lots of people want to take themselves out of that food chain. Really each of these, health, cost, environment and animal suffering are good enough reasons to go veggie or more flexitarian. Put together it is quite compelling!

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Short Stories High Elms

by STELLA EAMES I thought of the solution whilst engaged in the most mundane of tasks – washing the kitchen floor one Saturday afternoon with the radio on. I put down the mop and bucket and took off my apron. It was a perfect day – hotter than most spring days. Leaving the kitchen floor to dry, I put a bottle of water, a sandwich and a book in my bag and walked to the nearby woods at High Elms. I often go there. It’s one of my favourite places, a half hour walk, mainly through a park and then along footpaths. Once there I skirted the car park, noting that it was busy, and settled in a corner of one of the open spaces, resting my back against an old elm tree, enjoying its shade. I could see dog walkers and mothers with children. There was no one near me but I enjoyed their distant voices, watched the children running about and listened to the hum of insects and the birdsong. I never opened the book and, in the warmth of the sun, I admit I nearly dozed off. Nearly, but not quite, because I had chosen this quiet corner for some thinking time. I think best, not in absolute isolation and silence, but when human activity surrounds me, but busy with their own lives. No-one taking any notice of me that’s a big plus. I can understand why J K Rowling wrote in her local café rather than at home. That’s the kind of environment I need to try to work through the solution to a problem that’s been worrying me. The problem – I want to be a writer. But I work and have a mortgage to pay. I can’t just give up work and take a creative writing course. But I need help and direction in how to plan my book. I want to write a crime novel. But how can I fund my course and the time out I’ll need to write the book? And would I actually have the creativity to think up an interesting plot and its solution, plus all the other essentials you have to include – such as the tangled love life, over – reliance on alcohol, childcare problems, rebellious teenagers, or all of the above, of the lead detective? Yet maybe… I could give up my own en-suite bedroom to a lodger and charge £500 a month all in. I would use the so-called box room. She’d be at work all day giving me peace to write. I’ve always been reasonably thrifty and good at saving the modest lump sums which come my way from time to time.

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Jotting on a pad from my handbag I made a list. Starting with clearing out my bedroom for the lodger. Second – place the advert. Non-smoking professional female wanted etc etc. Distracted from my thoughts by a piercing voice I looked up and saw a well-dressed woman plunging into the woods. I assumed the Molly being shouted for was her dog. I glanced at my watch – half past five, no wonder the sun is going down and it has become a bit cooler. Stiffly I got to my feet, noticing that the green space was empty of people now. I could still distinctly hear Molly, Molly come here girl. Walking alongside the edge of the wood took me past the carpark, now containing just the one car. Molly’s owner’s probably. I’ve noticed that most dogs get driven to their walks by car, few actually arrive at High Elms on their own four paws. I couldn’t help noticing that the rear window had been left open. Not uncommon, I’ve often noticed dogs with their heads out of an open car window. I’ve nearly left a window open myself and I don’t even have a dog. Keeping an eye open, I casually strolled through the car park as though my route naturally took me past the car. Molly, Molly could still be heard distantly and out of sight. Slipping on my gloves (yes I’m good, that’s why I’m inspired to write crime fiction), I reached through the open window and unlocked the car door. No alarm sounded. Good. I sat briefly in the driver’s seat to operate the boot unlocking lever. Then run round to the boot, still no-one in sight, yes there’s a handbag. Empty it out, remove most of the banknotes from the purse, put everything else back, close the boot and walk briskly away, never run. I never hang round to check, but my theory is that Molly’s owner (and all the other idiots who leave money in their cars) won’t notice anything amiss til the next time she uses her purse – and only even then if she knew how much was in it in the first place. As I said, High Elms is my favourite place and no-one notices me there. Would you like to submit a short story? Email for details.

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A Final Thought…


Declutter you home (and your mind!)

by LIZ HAMLET, Spark Succeed Coaching & Consulting Find yourself gathering so much ‘stuff’? Are your cupboards and wardrobes bursting with things you haven’t used in years? Feeling overwhelmed with the amount of information bombarding you online at the moment? Let’s put an end to it! That ‘stuff’ isn’t just cluttering up your home – it’s also cluttering up your mind too! Here are some hints on tackling both – to give you some physical AND emotional space:

Declutter your home It’s often overwhelming to think of decluttering your home as a whole. Work out what approach works best for you – breaking it down into smaller chunks, or tackling it as one big job – a ‘declutter festival’ as it were.

Do you really need to keep hold of that holey rugby shirt you wore 25 years ago at Uni, or that old comfy bra that is fraying at the seams? Consider picking a Declutter Buddy, who isn’t emotionally connected to your possessions, and will help you make objective decisions about letting go of items. This might be a friend or a professional organiser.

Declutter your mind

By following a system, this can make the process easier. So, remember S.P.A.C.E:

One big way to declutter your mind and free up mental space, is to follow the tips above to declutter your physical environment.

S – Sort – This is where you start sorting through what

You should also consider:

you have. A good method to use for this is having KEEP, BIN and DONATE bags. Follow the mantra ‘If I’ve not used this in six months or more, I don’t need it!’.

Limiting the amount of information you’re taking in – unsubscribe from those emails you don’t read and that

P – Purge – This is a good one. Go back through your KEEP bags – do you really need to keep it? When was the last time you used it? Does it need repairing? Will you ever get round to it? – there is always more you can BIN or DONATE.

A – Assign – Assign items by how regularly you use them (for example – in your wardrobe, place work clothes at the front of the wardrobe which are worn most days, and party outfits/clothes for best at the back, which you wear only occasionally).

C – Contain – Buy and organise containers only after you have finished sorting, purging and arranging! Don’t be tempted to buy lots of fancy containers before you start as motivation - otherwise you are just creating more places for junk to go. This also means you will know exactly what spaces you need containers for – ensuring they are the right size and fit for purpose. E – Evaluate – Once you’ve sorted, purged, assigned and contained, you should evaluate what you have every few months. Ask yourself – Is everything in its rightful place? Do I need to do a quick purge? Are my most frequently used items easily accessible? Should some of my items be decluttered?

are taking up space in your inbox, limit your time on social media, decide what information is relevant to you and discard the rest.

Stop multi-tasking – pick one important task and dedicate a block of time to this (I suggest an hour broken down into 20 min sections). During this time, focus on the task only – blocking out any other distractions and mental clutter. Share your thoughts – talk to a loved one, a coach or trusted acquaintance about that thought that’s been going around your head and keeping you awake at 3am. Sharing your thoughts gives you a new and fresh perspective on it, helping you make clearer decisions. And finally, remember to have a sense of humour. Wading through piles of stuff will make you realise just how much mindless things you’ve held onto. Don’t sweat it! And don’t give up! You’re taking action now! So - What’s the first area that you can tackle this week?

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