each other. Listen carefully to what your partner has to say. Kiss each other often. Hold hands and put your arms around each other. Get back to just enjoying each other’s company.
Read erotic articles or books alone or together, go skinny dipping, watch a sexy movie together. Get out of the bedroom. You have a whole house to yourselves so take advantage of every room, staircase, kitchen table, floor, guest bed – you get the idea. After a few weeks of bringing the romance and variety back into your relationship, you will revive the intimacy between you and your partner. Your partner will love the excitement of being heard, the physical closeness, the flirting, and new experiences. You will love how sexy it makes you feel to look forward to your special dates and time together with just each other. If you already have a strong intimate relationship and are ready to try some new ideas together, talk about what might be exciting. It may surprise you what your partner would like to try and their ideas may be very arousing for you as well.
With the “50 Shades of Grey” movie coming out this month, you would have to be living under a rock to not know about it. Over 100 million copies of the “50 Shades of Grey” trilogy have been sold globally and, if you are like me, I’ve passed my copies around to my sisters and friends after I was finished reading them, so it is probably more like 150 million. With all the buzz about this film, please keep in mind that bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism and masochism are a part of a fetish lifestyle choice and not mainstream. Remember, “everyone” is NOT doing it. In fact, it has been reported that less than two percent of the population actually likes this type of activity, at least on a regular basis. That said, if you are also like me, you may be curious to try some of the things “50 Shades of Gray” explores. If so, talk to your partner, see what he or she may be willing to try. Again, it can be very arousing and exciting if your partner would agree to some light spanking, bondage or dominant/ subservient role playing. The most important thing when trying something new is to openly communicate with
your partner, have fun, giggle, enjoy and don’t take it that seriously. Who knows? It could turn out to be an epic fail, but it could also be a new source of pleasure and excitement. At least you tried something different, got out of mundane routines and brought some life into the bedroom. Another idea I have to share is one that is a part of my business, www.XploreHer.com, and that is to subscribe to a monthly pleasure kit that arrives at the same time every month filled with ideas for you to explore alone or with your partner. The kits are filled with books, DVDS, devices, personal lubricants, and toys that will help you enjoy activities like erotic massage and bath time together. At www.XploreHer.com we sell monthly kits that each include different items. Just think how much fun it would be to have “the box” show up each month for you to try something “out of the box.” By the end the year, you will have a collection of 12 months’ worth of fun and new exploration. Some items will become new favorites, some items might be a bust for you and your partner, but again, at least you can say you tried them.
Get Ready To Do Some Xploring K.Renee is the founder and owner of www.XploreHer.com, an online retail intimacy boutique and self-help site for women and couples to improve and maintain sexual health and wellness. K.Renee is a former Fortune 100 executive who found herself suddenly single after decades of marriage. She wanted to help other women and couples navigate the world of sexual health in middle-age and beyond and believes her own marriage may have been saved if she had reached out to a resource like www.XploreHer.com for advice and information. Her business is an upscale website dedicated to the business of passion and play whether you are in a relationship or not. The site is very secure, private and discreet and your e-mail address and other information will never be sold. K.Renee demands discretion, especially given the sensitive and private nature of these purchases. She highly recommends browsing her book list on numerous topics such as sex after menopause, guide books on how to try something new, and sex after 50. She also recommends looking through the products to “xplore” useful and sexy items like the extensive “50 Shades of Grey” products for those wanting to try something new. Can’t decide what to get? You can order a subscription to the monthly kits and get something new and exciting shipped to you at the same time every month. The site even offers you choices for secured storage. K.Renee was inspired to create this business and website after scouring the Internet looking for a safe, non-pornographic, non-vulgar place to shop for intimate items. “Just because you are interested in learning more about sexual health and well-being, doesn’t mean you want to see pornographic images of 20-yearold models,” she says. “This site was built by a woman for other women to feel comfortable and safe viewing the articles and products and to make purchases that will arrive on your doorstep in a plain U.S. Postal Service box.”
For more information, click on www.XploreHer.com.
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