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closest to, your family of choice. Support within your networks may also come from friends, co-workers, neighbors, and community members. If you have been involved with a volunteer organization, spiritual group, gym, senior center, book club etc. and made connections, consider reaching out to those people. You may be surprised how eager people are to show up and help out. Finally, local LGBT community centers or advocacy organizations may be able to help find volunteers to be a part of your care team.

Realize that in the same way you want to help the people you care about, they probably want to do the same for you. Everyone needs help at one point or another, and including people in this process can bring you closer together.

want to do the same for you. Everyone needs help at one point or another, and including people in this process can actually bring you closer to them. You may rely on your family of choice for many things, but these people may not always know their place in your care, and so making a point to clearly request their involvement is very important. When a procedure or illness is on the horizon, members of your family of choice may be concerned about overstepping their bounds. They may be ready to show up, but not know for sure whether you would welcome their involvement.

Make the Ask Once you have made a list of people within your informal network who could be of assistance, it is time to approach them about your care needs. Think strategically about what tasks will need to be accomplished, and who in your network is capable and willing. To make it easier, follow these steps:

Overcome Hesitation It is likely that you will need to overcome your own hesitation in asking for support. Consider your options and anticipate how you will feel going through the procedure alone, as opposed to having people you trust at your side. Remember the times you have shown up and participated in the care of a loved one. Realize that in the same way you want to help the people you care about, they probably

1. Explain your situation and needs 2. Express why you would like them involved in your care 3. Ask if they are available and what they would like to help with 4. Encourage them to take time to think about it, and tell them that if they aren’t able to help you understand People are most successful and engaged when they have specific responsibilities that match their skill set. If you have a

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SAGE Care Plan Workbook  

This workbook provides a detailed overview of what to expect when undergoing a surgical procedure, and how to plan for a successful recovery...

SAGE Care Plan Workbook  

This workbook provides a detailed overview of what to expect when undergoing a surgical procedure, and how to plan for a successful recovery...

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