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Session 9

Session 9: Group Share Begin the discussion by allowing participants to freely ask questions about this or previous sessions during the group discussion.

How to Deal with Unsupportive Family and Friends Across all of our endeavors in life, we are bound to encounter individuals who do not support some of the choices we make. And often, it’s those who are closest to us, like partners, other family members, or friends, who are the most vocal in their lack of support. These individuals may be reacting to an insecurity within themselves or the projection of their own excuses (e.g., if they feel they don’t have enough time to exercise, they make a statement about your likeliness to take time away from family, friends, etc. to accomplish your goals). Your new, healthy self may also intimidate those closest. People who don’t want to change often try to prevent the people around them from changing because it takes the pressure off of them. Or they might be worried that your relationship will change as a result of your new lifestyle. The lack of support may be obvious, or it may occur more subtly. It is reasonable to feel frustrated, disappointed, angry, or saddened by the lack of support you may experience; however, it is important to remember why you started on your journey to become healthier! What are some ways your family and friends might show a lack of support?

► Purposely wave unhealthy food in front of you, and continuously offer it to you ► Noisily comment how wonderful something tastes and/or make comments like “Don’t you wish you could have some of this?” and “I am so glad that I’m not on a diet!” ► Show hostility or irritability over your choices ► Tell you that you cannot change your lifestyle, it does not work (so why even try) ► Make comments like “This is just temporary—you’ll stop exercising soon”, “Live a little!”, “Enjoy life”, or “Have a cheat day” ► Insist on keeping unhealthy foods in the home ► Call you obsessive or extreme Responding Communicate! Explain to your family and friends why you are choosing to live a healthier life, and how important it is to you. Ask for their support, and give them permission to nag you a bit if you start to revert to “unhealthy” living. Invite them along! Find fun ways to be healthier together—for example, cooking a healthy meal together once a week, or taking a walk together each night. Including them in your journey may be all they need.

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