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The 4th Annual Lake Kaweah Trout Derby hosted by Vox Pop Influentials Magazine and sponsored in part by San Joaquin Valley College was a huge success. A heartfelt thank you to all our sponsors and anglers who made this event possible. The three big prize fish - the F150 truck from Will Tiesiera Ford, the Voyager Pontoon Boat, sponsored by Hans Boat Works and Quality Jewelers, and the $10,000 cash once again eluded anglers. Who said fish werenâ€™t smart?
y Many, man ou r thanks to : s po n so r s San Joaquin Valley College Will Tiesiera Ford Hans Boat Works Quality Jewelers Lake Kaweah Marina Kaweah Delta Trauma Center Bank of the Sierra Central Valley Business Forms Valley Business Bank J.D. Heiskell & Co. Tulare Pediatric Group Eye Surgical & Medical Assoc. Buckman-Mitchell, Inc. Sierra Sporting Goods Visalia Holiday Inn
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CENTRAL VALLEY’S VOICE OF THE PEOPLE - INNOVATIVE, INSPIRATIONAL, INSIDE MAGAZINE
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Creative Director Jennifer Lingard
Contributors Alana Unger, Harvey Mackay, Kurt Eichsteadt, Cathy Humerickhouse, Emily Latronico
As luck would have it, I interviewed Jon
Since coming to town over a decade ago,
Harris in our last issue and we talked about
Tom has done quite a lot for the team and
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Recreation Park. I was fortunate enough to
California Chrome comes along and captures
catch him when he was in town recently. Tom
the 140th Kentucky Derby. Sure enough, this
now splits his time between Visalia and San
horse was bred at John Harris’ ranch by Steve
Diego. In San Diego, he oversees his newest
Coburn and Perry Martin. To top it off, Chrome
ownership venture - the San Diego Padres.
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was the first California-bred horse to win the Derby since 1962. Who knows, by the time this issue goes to press this horse may also have won the Preakness, and eventually the Triple Crown! If there’s a lesson to be learned from this horse, it’s persistence - he only won three races before the Kentucky Derby. He also finished out of the money three times. As far as my lesson is concerned, well that’s another story! Now onto my other favorite sport - baseball. I played little league as a kid, and so did both my brothers. I was a pitcher and I played first
As a brief recap, I’d like to report that the Lake Kaweah Trout Derby last month, hosted by VPI and SJVC, was a huge success. Not only safety; we also were able to provide loads of fun for hundreds of kids and adults as they tried hooking into thousands of dollars in cash and prizes. A generous thank-you to all Derby sponsors and participants! I’d also like to thank Elaine Dakessian who has provided us with
Have a safe and fun summer!
California League baseball since I moved here in the early 1990s. Whether the team was the Visalia Oaks, Rockies or Rawhide, there simply is nothing better than spending
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Our cover story this month is about Tom Seidler, current owner of the Visalia Rawhide and part of the legendary family that at one time owned and managed the Brooklyn Dodgers and later, the Los Angeles Dodgers.
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Harvey Mackay: Whether you’re at the top of the heap, or the bottom of the ladder, you will always have someone to answer to. So, why not have a great relationship with the boss? Kurt Eichsteadt: Ernesto Bertarelli’s grandfather founded the Serono Pharmaceutical Company in Switzerland. When Ernesto became CEO in 1996, he discovered a natural hormone that could be used for growth hormone deficiencies, multiple sclerosis, and female infertility. As a result, he is currently one of the top 100 wealthiest people in the world with a net worth $14.8 billion.
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14 Alana Unger: “Shirataki” means “white waterfall”, which comes from the thin, translucent appearance of the noodles. An entire seven-ounce package (about 1 ½ cups) of a typical ramen-type shirataki noodle contains only 20 calories!! No fat, no cholesterol, and practically no sodium.
Cathy Humerickhouse: Are You Still Looking for Your Soul Mate? It is tempting to think that there is only one perfect person for us. Theoretically, we could make a good life with a variety of people—if we are willing to do the work necessary for any good relationship.
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Kurt Eichsteadt: The Essential Scratch & Sniff Guide to Becoming a Wine Expert, by Richard Betts, offers readers something both unique and fun. His is a kids’ book for adults. Through this book, Betts offers us a painless, unpretentious, and easy way to look at the basics of wine tasting.
Kurt Eichsteadt: Kurt shares with us his insight into several DVD picks this summer including: The Lego Movie, Grand Budapest Hotel, and Lone Survivor His DVD DON’T – Non-Stop
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Tom Seidler Minor league baseball clubs have been part of Visalia since the mid 1940s. But in 2002, when new team owner Tom Seidler arrived on the scene, professional baseball was dying. Recreation Park was in major disrepair and was one of the smallest stadiums in the league. At Seidler’s urging the City of Visalia agreed to spend $11.5 million to remodel the park. Today, Recreation Park, home of the Visalia Rawhide, is a small monument to minor league baseball. What Tom Seidler was able to accomplish in Visalia is only a small part of what he and his family have been able to accomplish in the sport of professional baseball for the past seven decades.
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Have a great relationship with the boss By Harvey Mackay
Jim came into the office one morning and found a note from his boss, demanding that he report to her office right away. When he walked in, the boss told him to close the door.
Don’t try to be best friends. That’s not realistic or even wise. But you must be able to get along. Some conflicts may be inevitable, but most of the time you can stay on your manager’s good side by avoiding these simple workplace mistakes:
“Jim, I understand you called in sick yesterday,” the boss said. He nodded. “That’s right.” The boss smiled, reached into her desk, and took out the morning’s newspaper. Buried on the back page of the sports section was a photo of Jim, holding a third-place trophy in a local golf tournament that had been held the day before. “What do you have to say for yourself?” the boss asked. Jim shrugged. “If I hadn’t been sick, I probably would have won.” Your relationship with your boss is crucial in business. A good relationship with your boss is the foundation of a successful career. Your boss is the person most likely to recognize your contributions and achievements, and potentially recommend you for promotions. Why would you compromise that? In Jim’s case, he demonstrated that he was dishonest, disrespectful, or both. His boss will have good reason not to trust him. Should he have been forthcoming about the reason for his absence? Absolutely, if he wants his boss to rely on him. He should have asked for time off, used a vacation day or skipped the golf outing. Calling in sick was a gamble that didn’t pay off for him. And it will taint his relationship with his boss for a very long time. 6
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Don’t allow your personal life to take over your work. Use good judgment about phone calls and social media at work. Let the boss see you focused on your work, not updating your Facebook status throughout the day. Remember why you are there, and who is signing your paycheck. Frequent tardiness/absenteeism. Don’t get a reputation for always being late to work. Managers want people they can depend on. Punctuality and a solid attendance record show you take your job seriously. Overshadowing your boss. When you do a good job, you get noticed. Some managers can feel threatened by employees with a high profile. Keep doing your best, and don’t try to outshine your boss. Poor communication. Don’t hide from your managers. Ask questions, and just talk sometimes. You want to build positive rapport with your boss, and you can’t do that if you never communicate. On the flip side, there are plenty of positive strategies that should be second nature in your business life. Don’t just save them for your boss. Treating co-workers as well as you treat your boss will demonstrate that you are not just playing office politics.
[ wealth and finance ] Ask for advice. Everyone likes to be thought of as an expert, and in most offices, it’s not hard to spot the expert in any given area. Asking for help shows you value the other person’s contribution to the success of the operation. Let the other person win you over. Admit that you have come around to their way of thinking. Let the person be modest. We all love to hear praise, but we don’t want to admit that we’re enjoying it. When you pay a compliment, acknowledge their feelings. Show that you share his or her values. Express your support for the other person’s viewpoint. Recognize achievement at all levels. Managers will be suspicious of your motives if they hear you complimenting only higher-ups. Make a point of praising your own employees, or your co-workers, to demonstrate your sincerity.
Be selective. No one wants a reputation as a kiss-up. Wait until you spot something significant to call attention to so your words sound sincere. Always pull your weight. Nothing will impress your boss and coworkers more than knowing that you will do your share and then some. Demonstrate a stellar work ethic, a positive attitude, and a willingness to go the extra mile. There will always be a place in this world for anyone who says, “I’ll take care of it.” And then does it! Mackay’s Moral: Whether you’re at the top of the heap or the bottom of the ladder, you will always have someone to answer to. Reprinted with permission from nationally syndicated columnist Harvey Mackay, author of the New York Times #1 best seller Swim With the Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive and Use Your Head to Get Your Foot in the Door. The Mackay MBA Of Selling In The Real World is Mackay’s seventh New York Times Bestseller.
[ wealth and finance ] If there is any doubt that the rich are different than you and me, there’s this: The Bertarelli’s have homes in Gstaad and on Lake Geneva. According to the website bornrich.com, the Gstaad Chalet is worth $13 million. It includes outbuildings for the staff, an underground garage, swimming pool, a lake, and pets like horses, goats, donkeys, turtles, llamas and alpacas.
HOW HE DID IT Bertarelli inherited most of it, but he’s no slouch when it comes to business acumen. His grandfather founded the Serono Pharmaceutical Company. Bertarelli became CEO in 1996, and inherited ownership with his sister after the death of his father.
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Business and Boats by Kurt A. Eichsteadt
intro Many people first became aware of Ernesto Bertarelli when his mega yacht, the Vava II, started appearing around the world, including Hawaii, earlier this year. It was seen most recently near Seattle in May.
Bertarelli also served on the board of directors of UBS AG from 2002 to 2009. In 2007, he sold the company to Merck KGaA for $13.3 billion, forming a new company Merck-Serono. Published reports say that his family took in $9 billion, which was in addition to the money from an IPO in 2001.
The Vava II is longer than a football field, has six decks and cost more than $100 million.
Currently, most of their money is in a firm called Waypoint Capital, headquartered in Geneva, with offices in London, Jersey, Boston and Luxembourg. It is for managers and advisers of funds and investments associated with Bertarellis.
If you follow America’s Cup racing, you might have heard of Bertarelli. He competed (quite successfully) in the early 2000s.
They also have interest in a firm called Kedge Capital, which has two main activities: life sciences and managed assets such as real estate.
Ernesto Bertarelli is this month’s “Rich Man and his Money.”
WHAT HE DID WITH IT - SAILING
According to Forbes, Bertarelli is currently one of the top 100 wealthiest people in the world. Bloomberg says his family is worth $14.8 billion.
Besides spending money on yachts, Bartarelli has been heavily involved in sailing’s biggest stage: The America’s Cup Race. He won the America’s Cup in 2003, heading the yachting syndicate Team Alinghi, beating Team New Zealand. This was the first time America’s Cup had been brought to Europe.
Bertarelli was born in Rome in 1965. He later moved with his family to Switzerland (where lives today). Bertarelli graduated from Boston College in 1989, and in 1993 he earned his MBA from Harvard Business School.
Besides winning, what was unusual was that he hired sailors from many different countries. He was Team Alinghi’s only Swiss member, even though he was representing Société Nautique de Genève, a Switzerland-based yacht club founded in 1872.
In 1997, while on vacation in Italy, he met and married Kirsty Roper, a songwriter and a former Miss United Kingdom. Since tying the knot in 2000, they’ve had three children.
In the 2007 race, he successfully held onto the Cup, defeating Team New Zealand by one second.
When he took over, revenues were $809 million. In 2006, revenues were $2.8 billion. The key was the discovery a natural hormone that could be used for growth hormone deficiencies, multiple sclerosis, and female infertility. The emphasis on fertility would later be reflected in Bertarelli’s philanthropic interests.
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[ wealth and finance ] For his troubles, Bertarelli received some special honors. In 2003, he was awarded the National Order of the Legion of Honor by French President Jacques Chirac, and Italy’s highest honor, the Order of Merit of the Italian Republic. Carlo Azeglio Ciampi, President of the Italian Republic, presented this to him. After winning the Cup in 2007, Bertarelli and Society Nautique tried to organize the 33rd America’s Cup, but faced legal challenges from the Golden Gate Yacht Club. Bertarelli’s team lost the race in Feb. 2010, in Valencia, Spain and chose not to participate in the 2013 Cup race in San Francisco.
The depth of the swimming pool can be adjusted. When the pool is drained, the bottom can be raised to deck level to create a dance floor. Four small boats (worth more than $1.5 million each) are used to shuttle guests back and forth to shore. On the practical side, it cost $160 million, requires a crew of 30 to run, and the price of a fill-up is more than $400,000.00.
HOW BIG IS IT? Interestingly enough, the Vava II isn’t even in the top five of biggest private yachts. The biggest is Azzam (590 feet) commissioned by the President of the United Arab Emirates, and launched in 2013.
Like any good husband, Bertarelli had the Vava II built as a gift to his wife to replace the original Vava, which was only 154 feet long.
Number two is the Eclipse (525 feet). According to the London Daily Mail 2011, it was ordered by Russian billionaire Roman Abamovich. His goal in building this ship was to outdo (by one foot) the 524-foot Dubai, owned by the Sheikh of Dubai.
After sea trials in 2011, it was completed in 2012. It is the largest private yacht ever built in Great Britain. At 314 feet, it’s longer than a football field. It has six decks, and can host about 40 to 50 guests.
Also in the top five (in 2011), was the 475 ft El Horriya built in 1865 and owned by the government of Egypt. It still sails, but usually just goes out for just a day or two at a time.
ABOUT THE YACHT
IT’S ABOUT THE MONEY Most of the mega-yachts are listed for charter, but at an unspecified price. This is generally considered to be a tax dodge, as in Europe, charter yachts are exempt from property taxes.
LEGACY In 1999, Bertarelli established the Bertarelli Foundation and it merged into Foundation FABER in 2006. The foundation’s emphasis is on male and female infertility, reproductive technologies and andrology. Andrology is a medical specialty that deals with male health, mainly the reproductive system and urology. It is considered a counterpart of gynecology. The Bertarelli Foundation partnered with the British government to create the world’s largest marine reserve in Chagos in the Indian Ocean. It is twice the size of the United Kingdom. It is a combination of coral reefs, islands and a large expense of ocean, where activities such as deep-sea mining and industrial fishing are banned. While Bertarelli was successful in business, and in the high priced, highly competitive world of America’s Cup Racing, he will leave behind the Chagos marine reserve that will preserve flora and fauna for generations.
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by Elaine Dakessian
Pan Fried Trout 2-Ways 4 servings 4 whole trout 1-1/2 cups Panko Breadcrumbs 2 tablespoons flat leaf parsley, chopped Zest of one lemon 4 eggs 1-1/2 cup flour Salt and pepper Oil to fry (I use olive oil for this) Shallot-Pistachio Butter 2 cubes butter, softened 1 large shallot, chopped Juice of ½ lemon ½ bag pistachios, chopped 2 teaspoons coarse salt
Place all ingredients in a food processor and pulse. You can place the butter in a bowl or roll into a log with parchment paper. This can be kept in the freezer for up to 4 weeks and works really well on chicken or steak. Meanwhile, preheat oven to 275 degrees. Mix Panko, parsley and lemon zest in a flat container that can hold the size of trout you have. Place flour in another flat pan or tin and season with salt and pepper. Mix eggs with a whisk or fork and place in another flat pan or tin. Prepare your trout. You can leave the head and tail on or remove it. Using kitchen shears, remove the fins and lastly, using the blade of a chef’s knife, go against the grain of the fish and scrape off the scales. Wash the inside and out and pat dry. 12
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Place your three tins in a row. First, place your fish in the flour, then move to the egg mixture and fully coat. Finish with the Panko mixture. Coat a large skillet with 1/2-inch of the oil. Bring to a medium-high heat. Add the fish to the pan and cook until the fish is brown and crispy, about 2-4 minutes on each side. You will need to work in batches to do 4 fish. Place the fish on paper towels and reserve it on a rack in the oven. Desired doneness should be 145 degrees so you can finish in the oven at 350 degrees if the fish is particularly large. To plate, spoon a generous heap of the pistachio butter on top of the fish and let it melt over for a delicious finish. Traditional Pan-fried Trout
4 whole trout 2 cups corn meal 2 cups milk A handful of lemon wedges
Prepare trout as mentioned above. Soak the fish in milk, roll in the corn meal and fry in vegetable oil. Serve with lemon wedges.
Trout en Papillote 4 servings 4 whole trout, prepped Salt and pepper 1 cup sliced onion 1 lemon, sliced 1 cup chopped, fresh flat-leaf parsley 4 stalks fresh thyme 4 tablespoons unsalted butter 4 tablespoons white wine 4 tablespoons minced garlic Olive oil Salt and pepper Parchment paper
Preheat the oven to 425 degrees. Cut four pieces parchment paper large enough to cover the entire fish when folded over. Using a knife, score the prepared fish by cutting slits into the flesh. Season the fish with salt and pepper, inside and out. Rub garlic inside each fish and stuff with the onions and fresh herbs. Place fish on parchment paper, spread butter on each, top with lemon slices and sprinkle with white wine and drizzle with olive oil. Fold the parchment over the fish. Start at one end, begin folding the paper on itself, making sure to seal it completely. At the end, fold it underneath. Place onto baking sheets and cook in the oven for about 15 minutes. To serve, place on a dinner plate at the table for a more dramatic presentation.
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Holy Shirataki! Guilt Free Pasta!
Alana Unger, Registered Dietitian
Pasta lovers of the world – rejoice! If I told you there is a pasta that you can eat guilt-free, would you think it was too good to be true? In this world saturated with supplements and empty-promise gimmicks, are there any true miracle foods that live up to their promise? “Skeptical” is my middle name when it comes to nutrition claims, but maybe – just maybe, we have found a true hero for low-carb lovers. If I had not eaten this guilt-free pasta for myself, I would not believe it either. The “miracle” pasta that I am dangling before you is the shirataki noodle, a traditional Japanese noodle made from the konjac yam, also known as the elephant yam. “Shirataki” means “white waterfall”, which comes from the thin, translucent appearance of the noodles. Without careful scrutiny of the noodles, they pass easily as an ordinary bowl or plate of ramen noodles, angel hair, ziti or fettuccini pasta. They are even available in “rice” form. Substituted for traditional pasta in your favorite recipe, it will easily pass as “normal” pasta in appearance. The flavor is bland but easily perked up with your favorite sauce or flavoring. The texture is, perhaps, the most distinguishing aspect of the noodle, as it is a bit chewy – almost rubbery feeling – compared to traditional pasta. However, I found that after eating the pasta a few times the texture difference became less noticeable. I found that I enjoyed the sauce or flavoring I paired with the pasta, and felt great satisfaction in having a practically calorie free bowl of pasta to fill my stomach.
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Nutritionally speaking, this little pasta wonder receives top rating. An entire 7-ounce package (about 1 ½ cups) of a typical ramen-type shirataki noodle contains only 20 calories!! No fat, no cholesterol, and practically no sodium. The 6 grams of carbohydrates in 1 ½ cups comes from the 6 grams of fiber it contains. Shirataki noodles are also allergen friendly: gluten free, dairy free, and soy free (unless added). Made of water and fiber, these noodles are a healthy lowcarb, low-calorie option. Let’s compare them to traditional pasta:
Typically, shirataki pasta will come packed in water as a soft noodle. The water may have calcium or lime added to maintain the noodle quality, and often has an “oceany” scent – it smells fishy! Don’t let the smell deter you, though, simply rinse the noodles in a strainer or colander for 30 seconds to remove the odor. I recommend cutting the noodles crossways a couple of times, as they are very long and do not break easily.
Shirataki Pasta Wheat Pasta 1 ½ C cooked 1 ½ C cooked 20 cal 330 cal 6 g carbs 65 g carbs 6 g fiber 2 g fiber
Once drained and rinsed, the noodles may be cooked by microwaving them for 1 minute or boiling them in a small amount of water for a couple of minutes. Boiling may change the texture of the noodle and decrease some of the chewy texture, which is desirable for some. Top with your favorite sauce or flavoring, and enjoy! These noodles can be substituted for regular pasta to give any of your favorite recipes a huge health makeover.
Where Can I Get Some?!? Soluble Fiber, With all the Benefits The fiber in shirataki noodles is glucomannan fiber. This water-soluble dietary fiber from the konjac plant offers the same health-promoting attributes of any other soluble fiber, including increased satiety, blood sugar control, and lowering cholesterol. Numerous studies have been conducted to verify that glucomannan fiber does offer these health-promoting results that play a critical role in managing obesity, diabetes and heart disease. Fiber is also known to enhance digestive health. So, not only are these noodles guilt free, they’re also good for you! Even better!
Shirataki noodles are often found in health food stores, Asian grocery stores, or in the health food section of regular grocery stores. They are also available from numerous sites online. If they are not found in your favorite stores, request that they be carried. If enough requests are received, the store is likely to provide the product. Low-cal, low-carb, high fiber, no guilt pasta. What more can we ask for? Give these noodles a try – get past the slight texture difference, and enjoy!! How long has it been since you dove into a big bowl of pasta? It’s time!
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Shirataki Alfredo 7-ounce bag shirataki noodles 1 wedge Laughing Cow Swiss cheese 2 tsp reduced fat Parmesan cheese 1 tsp fat free sour cream salt and pepper to taste
Sesame Noodles 7-ounce bag shirataki noodles 1 tbsp low sodium soy sauce 1 tbsp peanut butter 2 tbsp rice wine vinegar ½ tbsp sesame oil 1 tsp Asian hot sauce (optional) 2 cups shredded cabbage 1 cup bean sprouts 3 scallions, chopped 1 tbsp sesame seeds
Drain and rinse noodles. Cut cross-wise 2-3 times. Pat dry with paper towels. Microwave 1 minute.
Drain and rinse noodles. Cut cross-wise 2-3 times. Pat dry with paper towels. Microwave 1 minute.
In a large bowl, whisk together soy sauce, peanut butter, vinegar, oil and hot sauce (optional). Add noodles, cabbage and sprouts. Toss.
Cut Swiss cheese wedge onto noodles, and add remaining ingredients. Microwave 1 minute, stir, and enjoy!
Sprinkle on scallions and seeds. Serve cold or heat in saucepan and serve hot.
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Tom Seidler is a grandson of Walter O’Malley. He is the same Walter O’Malley who bought the Brooklyn Dodgers in 1950, and shortly afterwards moved the team to Los Angeles. When O’Malley died in 1979, he bequeathed the Dodgers to his two grown children, Peter O’Malley, and Seidler’s mother, Terry. Tom Seidler is the last link between the O’Malley’s and professional baseball — he is the only family member still involved in the game since the family sold the Dodgers in 1998. We caught up with Tom on a recent visit to Visalia at Recreation Park. Tom still owns this California team, but he now lives in San Diego, and is part owner of the San Diego Padres. Tom has done quite a lot in the past thirteen years to facilitate a rebirth of baseball in Visalia, mainly by sticking close to his family values. Here is his story.
R.J. Latronico: Tom, how long have you been with the organization here?
I was not good enough to play beyond the age of 14, but it has been my full-time career.
tom seidler: The first year we owned the team was 2002. So, it’s now
In what capacity were you involved with these other franchises?
our 13th year of ownership.
How long have you lived in Visalia? I lived here full-time from 2006-2012. Now, I just come to visit. Jennifer Pendergraft is in her 2nd season as General Manager, and 8th overall with the ball club. She was my Assistant GM for several years, and now she does such a good job running the show so that when I visit I can have a hot dog and a beer and just be a fan.
Where were you born and raised? I was born and raised in Pasadena, but I lived and worked in the minor leagues in a lot of different places for 15 years coast to coast: California, Arizona, Montana, Florida, and even Venezuela.
Did you play baseball as a kid? 16
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Usually as General Manager running the minor league club. I ran the ballpark and the promotions, along with the marketing, community events, tickets and sponsorships. The minor league clubs don’t control the players – that is all managed by the MLB affiliate.
Sounds like it was in your blood because of your family ties. For those readers that aren’t aware, Tom is Walter O’Malley’s grandson. That’s O’Malley as in L.A. Dodger fame. How old were you when you were working in the minor league? I started as an intern at age 20, and have been working in baseball ever since.
What is your fondest baseball memory growing up? Baseball was full of memories with family, whether it was spring training games or regular season games at the major league level, or minor league games – the Bakersfield ball club was a Dodgers affiliate when
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I was growing up. I think baseball’s strength is that it is the most family-friendly sport, and the most inter-generational of sports. Football and basketball are more frenetic, action-focused. Baseball is a conversational sport – the pace and flow of the game allow for you to socialize with friends, co-workers, your church group, or your family. While grandpa may be most interested in the action on the field, and comparing a recent Visalia player like Paul Goldschmidt with a former Visalia player such as Kent Hrbek; the grandkids may be more interested in the Mascot, the between-inning activities, getting an autograph from a professional ballplayer, the hot dogs and fireworks. So the specific focus of each is different, but it all happens at a minor league ballpark, and they’re spending time with one another. What is the greatest life lesson you learned from your Uncle Peter O’Malley and his 30 years as owner-operator of the Dodgers? Peter was a leader in the sport, a hands-on President of the organization who took the time to know all the employees, and their families. His teams were exciting and won regularly in the playoffs. He was generous in the community, and the Dodgers were such a big part of the community. Los Angeles is a diverse city, spread out geographically, a melting pot of ethnicities. The Dodgers were perhaps the biggest community bonding component, bringing together all people, all ages, all demographics. Peter did a great job engaging people in the community. We’ve tried our best to do that in Visalia. Affordable prices, fun for all ages, and bringing the community together as one.
How did you decide to come to Visalia? After our family sold the Dodgers, my cousin Kevin and I, along with some other siblings, wanted to keep baseball in the family. It was such a part of our family experience that we wanted to keep baseball in the family for the next generation. We’ve always been connected to Minor League Baseball – a focus for the Dodgers during our family’s years. We attended many minor league games. My cousin was married with kids, and I was the bachelor, so I said, “What the heck, I’ll go to Visalia and run the club.”
You’re still in partnership with your cousin today? Yes.
Tell me about some of the challenges you faced when you took over the Visalia Oaks, including the dilapidated ballpark. The size of the park was the first issue. Our first season here was in 2002.
It was not only small, but it was also run down. The city and the ball club had taken their eye off the ball, so to speak, for a couple of decades. The franchise had done well during the local ownership of Stan Simpson and Don Higgins. They brought stability with the Minnesota Twins affiliation and winning ball clubs, along with Kirby Puckett, Kent Hrbek and company. The years of Japanese ownership that followed were not good for baseball in Visalia. The ball club was potentially in its last year, with neither the city nor the ball club looking into the future or investing in maintenance, let alone improvements. They weren’t really doing any forward thinking like asking themselves, “How do we grow baseball here?” When we took over the club in 2002, major league baseball had facility standards for everything, from the clubhouse to the field, to the lighting. It had to meet a certain standard, and we were the lowest ranking ball bark in the country then. So, for good reason, it was difficult to attract a major league team here. The clubhouse was 50 years old, the dugouts were little league size, and nothing was up to par. On top of all that there wasn’t any shade, and with metal bleachers on hot summer days, fans just weren’t going to come out and sit in the hot sun. The overall environment wasn’t good for the players because you just didn’t have any local fan support. There was also a revolving door of www.voxpopinfluentials.com
[ featured story ] affiliates, and every two years it would change. It was a difficult task to convince teams or fans to come to the run-down ballpark. All this changed when the city made its first significant investment in a generation into the ballpark in 2008 and 2009. We then signed a tenyear lease; the Diamondbacks extended their agreement through 2016, which will be a decade with them in Visalia. Unprecedented stability from all angles for Visalia baseball.
I understand that in 2009 you took the award for best ballpark renovation of the year? Yes, we did. It was a terrific collaboration among the City, the ball club, local contractors and the construction team.
The ballpark has come a long way, congratulations. The park looks unbelievable today. It’s a terrific blend of old and new. A truly unique ballpark. There’s not a bad seat in the house and it’s the most intimate ballpark in the country.
How do you look at the game now as an owner? I think the game is great. It’s the great American pastime – especially at the minor league level because it’s in 180 communities. Major League Baseball reaches 27 or so cities. Minor League Baseball is really what separates baseball from the other sports. It has the grass roots and small town presence. If I’m going to attend a baseball game as a fan, I actually prefer Minor League games, where you sit closer, and get a better feel for the action. The fan action also is a cut above, plus you’re still seeing great baseball. Legends like Kirby Puckett and other great players have come through Visalia. It’s kind of special to see all those guys before they are national household names.
Do you have a guiding philosophy in your work? Constant improvement is top on the list. We’re sort of the little engine that could – the smallest ballpark in the country. So we have to do things a little differently than those with ballparks that are two or three times bigger. We work to constantly improve the fan experience, the city-owned ballpark, and our operations whenever possible. We use volunteer manpower from the front office, and “Ranch Hands” (a booster club of sorts) who volunteer time on weekends year-round to maintain and enhance the ballpark. We’ve managed to add over $500,000 in improvements to the city-owned ballpark over the last decade. Something we’re very proud of – fixing up bathrooms, skyboxes, adding historical banners and plaques honoring the Visalia baseball greats, a kids play area, new clubhouse, the iconic Home Run Barn, and even umpire room renovations.
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The commitments by the city, the Rawhide, and local members of the business community have worked together to help extend the life of 68year old Recreation Park. We now have this wonderful little ballpark that the community can be proud of – a community gathering place.
Tell me a little bit about how you became involved with the San Diego Padres? When the Dodgers were for sale in 2012, my uncle, who had been out of the Major League Baseball business for 15 years, led a group that pursued the Dodgers when they were for sale, but it wasn’t a good fit ultimately. Then about the time my uncle’s group was stepping away from the possibility of the Dodgers, the Padres came on the market. My brother, Peter, led a family effort to explore the Padres. The more we looked into it, the more we thought this could really be a good fit. Wonderful community, a great baseball town at all levels from Little League on up, and baseball heritage going back to San Diego’s own, Ted Williams. Petco Park is a great ballpark surrounded by a dynamic neighborhood in downtown San Diego. Anyway, we were fortunate to find the best possible local partner, Ron Fowler, who is our Executive Chairman and leader of the ownership group. Ron is a long-time San Diego business leader, sportsman, and philanthropist. He gave our group what we didn’t have – San Diego roots. We’re now about a year in a half into it and we just love it!
Are you all doing this from San Diego? My brother Peter, my cousins and I now live in San Diego. We are all doing our part to help the franchise improve this year and in the future. We have a long-term outlook and plan to be with the Padres for 30-40 years.
What was the impact from Petco Park on downtown San Diego? We’ve got a great ballpark that’s ten years old, and we’re always looking for ways to keep it fresh. The neighborhood around the park is vibrant. Petco Park was planned as a revitalization catalyst, and it has delivered,
[ featured story ] with several hundred million dollars in private investment into downtown San Diego. The City looked at not just the ballpark, but also the broader neighborhood, and it has been perhaps the most successful ballpark from a city perspective.
When was the last time the Padres were in the playoffs? It’s been eight years since the last Padres playoff team. We know we have work to do, but it’s a great fan base. We’re drawing over 2.1 million fans now, which demonstrates great community support. We owe it to the community to put a winner back on the field. We’re working hard to get that done.
How many World Series have the Padres gone to? The team has been in two, in 1984 and 1998. That’s the biggest challenge, getting the team competitive on a regular basis. We’re making strides but we still have a lot of work to do. Let’s talk a bit about those early days. I understand that your Grandfather really didn’t want to move the Brooklyn Dodgers to California, is that correct? My grandfather got involved with the ownership of the team in 1946. He worked for ten years trying to find a solution to renovate the ballpark, or build a stadium at the corner of Atlantic and Flatbush in Brooklyn, NY with private money. It was a great location for fans getting to and from the game. After ten years of effort, he realized it just wasn’t going to happen, so he moved the team to Los Angeles. That original ballpark site in Brooklyn remained undeveloped for 60 years until the Brooklyn Nets arena opened there about a year ago.
Why do you think he chose L.A.? I think the time was right, as jet travel was becoming mainstream, and there wasn’t a team west of St. Louis. It was a big risk, and doing it alone would have been really difficult, but the San Francisco Giants were also in need of a new stadium. I think they had looked at Minneapolis, along with some other cities, but having that great rivalry when you have two teams move out together, really made it work. As it turned out, it was great for baseball, making it a national sport.
What is your opinion of the new ownership of the Dodgers? I think they are certainly committed, with the money they are spending, not only on payroll, but also on the stadium. This really shows their commitment to the fans and to the community. I feel they’re definitely the big spending team, and they’re going to be a force to be reckoned with in our division.
Have you personally been a fan of any one team over the years? In the Minor Leagues, as soon as you have a player move on to the Major Leagues, you adopt that team. So, when the Rockies were here, Jeff Francis pitched for Visalia on his way to the Rockies. I was a Rockies fan then for a couple of years. Then I was a Diamondbacks fan for several years as they became the Visalia affiliate. Obviously I’m now 100% Padres. But I keep an eye on the Visalia Rawhide alumni throughout MLB.
Why do you think this ballpark was renovated instead of rebuilt somewhere else in town? We had those discussions with the city, but a new Class A stadium costs about $30 million to build. At the time the cost was $11 million to renovate the existing park. So, it was a $30 million or $11 million decision. If I could chose a location it may not be where it is now, but it is close to downtown, and I feel downtown ballparks today are the smartest. Cities now are typically favoring downtown ballparks. And there’s history also to consider. In Visalia, at this stadium, grandparents are still able to share with their grandchildren stories like seeing Kirby Puckett play in this field… that’s something special.
What challenges lie ahead for the Rawhide? The ongoing challenge is the size – we’re still the smallest professional ballpark in the Country – with only 1,888 seats, compared to the average ballpark seating 5,000 fans. So we have the same operating costs as every other minor league team, but smaller revenues, due to a half-sized ballpark, no parking revenue, and no video board. But we see these shortcomings as future opportunities to enhance the ballpark for the community, both for baseball and the growing number of other events. We will work to keep things improving, so that Recreation Ballpark continues to be a vibrant community-gathering place as we approach the ballpark’s 75th Anniversary in 2021.
How has your attendance been lately? It’s been great! This is the sixth year since the renovations and the total ballpark attendance for us has grown every year. The attendance for baseball has grown five years out of six. The top two attendance years were the last two years and the top single game attendance was actually last night! They packed in over 3,000 fans, which is the all-time record for any game here.
[ featured story ] Let’s address another serious issue, one that many young pitchers are facing that requires a surgery named after a famous ballplayer, Tommy John. We’ve seen it first hand with Jarrod Parker, and this year with Patrick Corbin. These guys lose about 18 months of their career due to this injury. It’s a major focus now in baseball because so much of the damage is done when these pitchers are young.
May I ask what was the in-house promotion last night? It was fireworks – the first show of the year.
And how is the team doing, overall? The team is tied for first! The last big California Championship was in 1978. It would be great for the team to able to hang a Championship banner. The team overall is probably the best team Visalia has had over the 13 years we have been here.
Do you have any favorite baseball players from the Rawhide? I have a great deal of respect for Paul Goldschmidt and Adam Eaton, the way they played the game with hustle and class. They took a lot of their time to sign autographs for kids before and after games. They were involved in the community. They represented Visalia proudly while playing for the Rawhide, and today in the Major Leagues. Visalia now has over 250 alumni who have represented Visalia at the minor league level and played in the Major Leagues. An impressive piece of the 68-year legacy of pro baseball in Visalia.
Do you have any favorite Padre players? That’s a tough one…among recently retired players, Trevor Hoffman is everything a team could ask for. Hall of Fame pitcher on the field, and a class act off the field and in the San Diego community. As a kid, my favorite Dodger to watch was Fernando Venezuela. He was transcendent and captivated two countries.
Let’s talk briefly about performance enhancement drugs in baseball. Have the players learned their lesson yet? The steroid testing has gotten much better and has greatly reduced usage in the sport – evident in the decline of hitting and scoring in baseball. There is still the occasional positive test. The commissioner gets a lot of credit for that, as well as the players union for the testing.
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Now with the growth of baseball, including traveling teams year round, it’s definitely a concern. The surgery was first done to Tommy John in the 70s. Back then it was typically done two or three times a year, now it is being done 40 to 60 times a year. And it takes place in both Major as well as Minor Leagues.
Can you tell us a little bit about Recreation Park’s Hall of Fame area? The Hall of Fame Club is the only fan seating area that has airconditioning, catering and a full bar. It also showcases some of the rich Visalia baseball history. We inherited no archives when we bought the team in 2002. We literally had one folder that was labeled “History” and I remember inside it was two pieces of paper. There was a baseball card of Kirby Puckett and one team photo from 1978. Donny Baarns who is in his seventh year as a broadcaster, researched and authored a terrific book on the history of baseball in Visalia. He reached out to a number of different fans that had collected boxes of Visalia baseball memorabilia in their attics. He did a great job organizing all this and now there is an official published book on the history of Visalia Baseball at Goshen & Giddings. We’ve already inducted twelve of the best of Visalia Baseball into our Hall of Fame. Stan & Wendy Simpson, Kathy & Basil Perch with Tom at a San Diego Padres Game.
With your new involvement with the Padres, have you thought of doing something special with them here? Yes, there are some new possibilities being involved with Major League Baseball, whether there is an event with some Padres or the Arizona Diamondbacks.
Do you have any memorable stories from your years in the minor leagues? So many great memories…breaking attendance records, working to improve the ballpark each year, seeing the bond between the ball club and the community grow each year. Watching the ballpark improve from being on the endangered species list as the worst in professional baseball, to becoming a community-gathering place for Visalia and all of Tulare County. There are so many great community programs now too, from our host families (100% of players live with host families) to our “Reading Club” and “Character Counts” programs that reach thousands of kids. We even have a Grandma Beauty Pageant, which is a fun promotion highlighting our senior citizens.
[ featured story ] How’s Tipper, your mascot, doing these days? Tipper is the face of the franchise. The recognition he gets is amazing when you take him out anywhere where there are kids. Mascots are one of the smarter things that minor league baseball has done for years. The mascot is the face of the franchise, because players come and go.
Besides commuting back and forth to two wonderful cities, what does the future hold for you? Are you still single? I am still a bachelor. I come from a big family (1 of 10 kids) but have not yet started my own family. I guess you could say I have been ‘married to baseball’ for some time.
Here in Visalia, we are approaching the 75th anniversary of the ballpark in a few years. That should be very exciting!
Summer is here and that means for some of us it’s time to enjoy a few
more likely to have a single-vehicle crash than drivers with no
cold beers with the boys after the game, or a refreshing glass or two
alcohol in their system. Twenty-five years of research has shown that
of Chardonnay with the girls after work.
some impairment begins for both males and females even after one drink.
It’s also the same time that local police agencies run DUI checkpoints, and are more vigilant about watching for those who
Proportionately, the largest accident reductions occurred in the hour
driving under the influence of alcohol.
between 2 and 3 a.m., when a relatively high number of drivers are alcohol-impaired (since it is the first hour after California's bars are
If you are a 120-pound woman you can reach a .08 BAC level (the legal limit) after only two drinks. A 180-pound man can be at .08 after only four drinks.
required to close).
Driving Under the Influence A conviction for driving under the influence (DUI) can have lifelong
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wine or one beer, all of which contain the same amount of alcohol.
you may face substantial fines and jail time. A criminal conviction
At a .08 BAC level, drivers are so impaired that they are 11 times
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In my last article, I discussed the theme of dating. So let’s review. There are five steps to dating. Step 1: Know What You Want Dating is a social exchange. There is a trade. What are you willing to tolerate for this person to be involved in your life? Start by making a plan. Determine what your interests may be, and be conscious of what, or if, you are trading anything as you interact. Step 2: Look and Act Your Best It takes seven seconds to make a first impression. The moment someone sees you, their brain makes a thousand computations. Ask yourself; do I come across as being approachable? Do I seem trustworthy? Am I a friend? Step 3: Read and Use Body Language Can you read and notice the signs of others? Watch for any non-verbal signals. Are they making consistent eye contact or are they looking around the room. Is this person talking to me, or through me? How do they display their body position when talking? For example, do they fold or cross their arms? Step 4: Be Brave. Dating is a numbers game Learn to become comfortable in social situations and put yourself out there. Making acquaintances (friends) will help you discover whom you might want to establish a deeper friendship with. Step 5: Ask For What You Want We are responsible for our own happiness. Learn to ask for what you want. Whether it is at the beginning of your dating relationship, or a relationship that has been ongoing for many years. Don’t go through life passively and hope things will work out.
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Is there a “soul mate” or do we have sole mates? Our culture has incorporated an idea that there is just one person who can, “complete us” as stated by the actor, Tom Cruise in Jerry Maguire. The concept of a “soul mate” is actually pretty ancient. Well over two thousand year ago, the Greek philosopher Plato, surmised that a perfect human being was tragically split in two, resulting in a race of creatures sentenced to spend the rest of their lives searching for that missing other who can complete them. (1) A real concern in this line of thinking is that people are still searching for that one and only special life mate. What can be confusing is when we start dating someone and feel the slightest twinge of excitement, our biology gets into, “okay let’s do this” mode. It bombards us with chemicals designed to get us to mate (lust), fall in love (Honeymoon phase), and then commit for the long run (attachment). Our brains can usually override this process if we are just not that into someone. And for all those middle ground cases, where the right move is probably to move on and find someone better. We often succumb to the chemical roller coaster and often wind up getting engaged. This is when couples begin to mistake their strong emotions as the indicator of their sole mate. They marry during a blast of infatuation, without considering a person’s character, compatibility, life goals, family desires, or similar moral compass. When the feelings change, and the relationship requires
work, one or both partners suddenly discover that they were “mistaken.” The person who was thought of as being the “soul mate” now has becomes a “cell mate.” After all, if we were meant to be, why would this relationship become so much work? Panic begins to set in and you start to entertain the notion, “My soul mate must still be out there.” At the start of most relationships we become excited about the possibility of developing a relationship, with the future being marriage. This is true for both men and women. It is easy to overlook things. If it is your desire to be married, then you might find ways to suppress or overlook things that would normally cause you to pause. Sadly, once the infatuation stage leaves and reality sets in, problems begin to spring forth. So, is there just one person for us? Do I just get to choose from the possibilities that come my way? Or, is making a good choice among the options that present themselves? All these are good questions. They are issues that most single people ponder. I don’t think there is only one person for each of us. I do think, theoretically, we could make a good life with a variety of individuals—if you are willing to do the work necessary for any good relationship. How do I know whether this person is the right one? It can be a combination of things—a little bit of art and a little bit of science. Begin by listening to your head. Address some questions. For example, are the two of you in sync on worldviews and
[ health and wellness ] moral values? Do you share compatible views on family and parenting? Are your future dreams compatible? Do those who know you best, such as family and friends, have any serious reservations? These are the kind of questions a couple might encounter in a pre-engagement class. If you are serious enough to be discussing marriage with each other, using a formal way in the line of premarital testing can address these important topics. One such method is called Prepare & Enrich. Prepare & Enrich (P & E) is a customized couple assessment completed on-line. It identifies a couple’s strength and growth areas. It is one of the most widely used programs for premarital counseling and premarital education. P & E is also used for marital counseling, marriage enrichment, and dating couples considering engagement. This inventory will evaluate the two of you
utilizing 12 step relationship scales. These include: communication, conflict resolution, roles, sexuality, finances, spiritual beliefs and more. They also look at personality, and the couple and family connection in conjunction with relationship dynamics. It is tempting to think there is only one perfect person for us. It is certainly a romantic idea, but it is not very practical. Theoretically, we could make a good life with a variety of people—if we are willing to do the work necessary for any good relationship. Of course, you should consider what your family and friends think also. Use wisdom to guide you when choosing a marital partner and be open and realistic. Give yourself time to go through a series of events. That way you will have a better understanding of how things will be handled. It really does matter who you marry!
If you desire to evaluate your current relationship or may be ready to take the next step, you can contact me for an assessment using Prepare & Enrich. The information provided does not constitute any therapeutic advice. If you feel you need a therapist, please contact one in your area. You can always reach me at: email@example.com or call (559) 625-6752 for more information. (1). Plato’s “Symposium” in The Portable Plato, Scott Buchanan, Ed (New York: Penguin books, 1948) pp. 146-148.
Cathy Humerickhouse RN, LMFT
As a Registered Nurse and Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, I believe in treating the whole person which encompasses aspects of the individual’s biological, psychological, social and spiritual needs.
• Reproductive Grief (Infertility/Miscarriages) • Medical Illness/Diagnosis • End of Life Issues • Marital/Relationship Issues • Blended Families • Anxiety/Depression
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The Essential Scratch & Sniff Guide to Becoming a Wine Expert, by Richard Betts Review by Kurt A. Eichsteadt
This is the Father’s Day Edition of our column. The Essential Scratch & Sniff Guide to Becoming a Wine Expert, by Richard Betts, is a great gift for dad. It’s something unique and it’s fun for everyone.
It’s only 20 pages long, but the pages are thick and lavishing illustrated. While that might not seem like much, there’s plenty of information presented in an airy open way rather than pages of dense text.
The publishers say it’s the first scratch and sniff book about wine and even if it isn’t, it is fun and actually pretty informative.
It’s laid out like a children’s book with a couple of sentences in each page, complimented by excellent color illustrations.
Wonder why people enjoy wine? It tastes good with food, that’s for sure, but here’s a word from the author of the book.
It’s also a painless, unpretentious, easy way take look at the basics of wine tasting.
“I was well on my way to becoming an attorney when I stuck my nose in a particular glass of wine that would vividly recall specific memories. One sniff and I was transported to a restaurant with my wife, I recalled what she ate, and what she wore – all nearly five years later.” Memories of special times. What’s better than that? Betts is one of 214 people around the world to be a Master Sommelier, awarded by the Court of Master Sommeliers. The Court is an independent British organization established in 1977. Its goal is to improve standards of beverage services, particularly wine and food pairings in hotels and restaurants. An American chapter was formed in 1986 and gives exams to students of wine both in the United States and Canada. Even though Betts is a master sommelier, he hates wine talk and wine snobs. He says think of The Essential Scratch and Sniff Book as kid’s book for adults.
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In an interview with the Huffington Post last year, Betts talked about “de snobifying” the enjoyment of wine. He stated, “You can have a cheeseburger and a chardonnay. No one tells you who to vote for, right? You decide who you vote for, you decide which flavor of floss to use, or what’s for dinner. You decide all of that, so feel empowered to do the same with your wine. There are no mistakes, there’s only new learning and enjoyment.” He starts with the basics including the fact that tasting is actually smelling. We only taste sweet, sour, salt and “a savory thing the Japanese call umami.” The rest is aromas or smells. Then he breaks smell down on the main groups: fruit food, earth and “other.” Betts economically moves through the other basics of tasting wine, including fruits
used, the role of barrels to age wine, and terroir (the influence that the ground has on grapes). He touches on cork, and how some wines are transitioning to screw tops. While this is a move away from some wine’s tradition, it can help exert a more precise control over the aging process of wine. He caps it all off with a handy folding chart, “The Map to Your Desires.” Betts knows what he’s talking about. His writing has been published in the New York Times, the Wine Spectator, Food & Wine, GZ and Details. He founded his first wine label in 2003: Betts & School. He co-founded Sombra Mezcal and has a new label. Betts’s website is www. myessentialwine.com.
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[ entertainment ] by Kurt A. Eichsteadt It’s the Father’s Day Edition of DVD Diary. June is a good month for video releases. Our mission is to tell you what’s worth your time and money in home video.
THE LEGO MOVIE
This movie is splendid, animated fun for all ages. Although almost all computer-generated, this film is created to appear as if it was made in the old school stop-action manner. Very visually exciting. And you haven’t lived until you’ve seen gigantic waves and smoke depicted with thousands of Legos. Super-normal Emmet (Chris Pratt) is enlisted to lead the resistance against the evil Lord Business and fulfill the prophecy handed down by the wizard Vitruvius played by, (who else) Morgan Freeman in his best God voice. 100 minutes. Rated PG.
GRAND BUDAPEST HOTEL
Grand Budapest Hotel is a wonderful, funny, artful package of entertainment written and directed by Wes Anderson. In the 1930s, The Grand Budapest hotel in the fictional Republic of Zubrowka, has seen better days. Hotel concierge Monsieur Gustave (Ralph Fiennes) runs the hotel and deals with invading Germans, while sexually servicing some of his ancient female clients. A magnificent cast includes Bill Murrary, Adrian Brody, Jeff Goldblum, Edward Norton and more. 100 Minutes. Rated R for language, sexual content and violence.
Director Peter Berg has created the most uncompromising, unsettling depiction of the horrors of war since Saving Private Ryan. At the same time, Lone Survivor presents a story of great bravery and intense loyalty among four Navy Seals lead by Marcus Luttrell (Mark Wahlberg) who set out on a mission that goes horribly wrong. The violence is graphic, but this is a story of heroism and hard choices. It leaves the audience with increased respect for the soldiers who serve our country. 121 minutes. Rated R for strong, bloody war violence and pervasive language.
DVD DON’T: NON-STOP
Besides being a great actor, Liam Neeson has developed into a star of kick-butt action films at an age when many of his contemporaries are playing with their grandchildren. Non-Stop, the story of an air marshal dealing with a complicated situation on a New York-London flight, is his least successful effort in this genre. Save your money and skip it.106 minutes. Rated PG-13 for intense sequences of action and violence, some language, sensuality and drug references.
FROM THE VAULT: MOONRISE KINGDOM
Wes Anderson directed Moonrise Kingdom, which features many of the same actors from Grand Budapest Hotel. It is a charming, yet offbeat story of a 12-year old boy attending a scouting camp who runs off with a girl into the wild of a tiny island. 94 minutes. Rated PG-13 for sexual content and smoking.
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