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during the holidays and it seems the good majority of my holiday season is spent running around trying to get an impossible to-do list checked off or complaining about the running around, so there isn’t a whole lot of reflection upon the things in my life that are actually good. But I’m turning over a new leaf—in the spirit of Turkey Day, I’d like to take this opportunity to list some of the things for which I am thankful. This isn’t your typical list, however. The big things (family, home, health), top my list, of course. But my intention here is to give thanks for the little things in life and the season that I so often take for granted and also to mention a few things for which I’m thankful, well … not so much.

1. I’m very thankful for stylish stretch pants. I can actually look fashionable on Thanksgiving and indulge in multiple helpings of mashed potatoes with extra gravy and pumpkin pie. However, I am not at all thankful for skinny jeans.

2. I am thankful my family has so much fun together. I’m especially thankful for the sound of my sons’ laughter at the dinner table. I am not thankful for the projectile orange soda expelled from their nose when one of them laughs too hard.

3. I’m thankful for a kitchen full of pots and pans and dishes that smell absolutely amazing, with little effort on my part. I am not thankful that those aforementioned pots, pans, and dishes and said kitchen are later cleaned with an effort solely on my part.

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4. I am thankful for red wine. I am not thankful for white sofas or white carpet.

5. I am thankful for the invention of the navigation app, because now I am only lost when I can’t find my phone or can’t read the too-small font. I am not the least bit thankful for lost phones or lost glasses.

6. I am thankful for the DVR, even though 50% of the time when I tell it to record something, it tells me to go take a hike. I am not thankful that the DVR does not understand the power dynamic of our relationship (or that I don’t).

7. I am thankful that with age I’ve outgrown my debilitating shyness and gained some measure of self-confidence in social settings. I’m not thankful that I sometimes blurt out inappropriate things at inopportune times and cannot blame this on Tourette’s or any other syndrome.

8. I am thankful for anyone who truly knows me and yet still finds me endearing. I don’t have a flip side for this one—it is family and friends that make my world go around.

Having a grateful heart can make life flow so much more smoothly, especially during this hectic time of year. The thing is, appreciating what you have is easy enough when things are going well; it’s when the chips are down that it can be difficult. Here’s to an attitude of gratitude and appreciating life as it is. Happy Thanksgiving! w

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Life takes practice! And though they don’t always come wrapped in a shiny red bow, the lessons we learn along the way are invaluable gifts that are worth sharing. Here are a few learned by some of the women featured in this issue: FIND YOUR COURAGE. Katie Moscovitch, owner of Pure

Barre Lake Norman in Birkdale Village and Mooresville, had much to challenge her inner strength when her husband became ill; but she demonstrates on page 42 how to dig deep, face your fears, and come out triumphant—gratitude and faith firmly in tact!

DO IT YOUR WAY. Skip on over to

page 18 to meet Martina Burak, manager and owner of Beautiful Image Anti-Aging, LLC, in Cornelius.

With two of her three children diagnosed with ADD in elementary school, Martina faced an uncertain journey; but her perseverance, research, and proactive approach proved to be something from which we can all learn.

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SISTER POWER! Check out

the dynamic sister duo, Dr. Kara Lembo and Dr. Lindsay Montgomery, on page 54, owners of Lembo Montgomery Cosmetic & Family Dentistry in Mooresville, as they show us the importance of gratitude in their daily lives—especially what they learned from their dad!

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go GREEN g this holiday season!

THIS GIFT GIVING SEASON,

Give the gift of eco-friendly wrapping paper and holiday decorations. Glossy wrapping paper is usually not recyclable, so try and find papers that are made from recycled content. I recently read that if every American wrapped just three presents in re-used wrapping paper, the amount of paper saved would cover 45,000 football fields! Additionally, dried flowers and holiday greens can make for beautiful bow substitutions and can be gathered right from the garden or yard for a more personal accent on a gift package or household décor.

with more and more communal awareness to the environment, I am looking for gifts that promote a healthier planet. There are so many options when switching to positive purchasing with eco-friendly products— the added benefit of “conscious purchasing” is furthering the education of how simple

Swedish dishcloths are another great gift idea. Replacing 17 rolls of paper towels, they absorb twenty times their weight— making them great replacements for sponges. They can be used with just water or with soap/cleaners for streak-free counter tops, stainless steel, and glass. They can be easily cleaned in the top rack of the dishwasher as needed, and they are 100 percent biodegradable, compostable, and recyclable.

changes can make a huge environmental impact!

Here at Rootz, I have been adding products to the gift line that we carry to further my own passion and commitment to Going Green! So, won’t you join me? Here are a few of my favorites: L K N e x p e rt

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Stacy Smith is the owner of Rootz Unique Gifts, Handcrafts and Natural Goods located at 19801 South Main Street, Suite 4, in Cornelius. You may reach her at 704-997-5504, via email at info@weloverootz.com, or visit them now at www.weloverootz.com.

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Wool dryer balls are an organic replacement for dryer sheets and softeners.

A natural softening agent, they reduce static in the dryer very well; one set of three is all you will need and they last for years! If you want to scent your laundry, just add a few drops of your favorite essential oil for an all-natural fragrance.

Dryer balls also help your laundry dry faster, reducing electricity use.

Bees Wrap® is organic cotton cloth coated with beeswax as an alternative to plastic wrap. Made in assorted sizes, it has natural antibacterial properties so that the wraps can be used again and again; after which the wrap can be shredded and composted.

Finding a present that someone can use over and over again is an extremely satisfying feeling. Not only are they handy items to have, but the recipient is reminded of you every time they use it … and Mother Earth gets a gift too! w

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FEATU R E

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What do you wish to share with LKNWomen? We bought Beautiful

What has been something fearful you faced head-on? My son and youngest daughter

developed ADD in elementary school. We felt pressured by pediatricians and school administration to medicate them, but it created a lot of overwhelming guilt for me. We were already eating healthy, so I decided to find an alternative path. We found a naturopathic physician who helped my children thrive without the medications. My son graduated from college in 2017, and my youngest daughter graduates this year. I completely believe in being able to apply good nutrition and alternative, natural medicine to create a preventative lifestyle!

How did your career path lead you here? I have had many careers—I was in sales, then a stay-at-home mom/part-time designer, to fulltime designer, to health coach, and I now own a holistic facial toning spa. God has blessed me greatly. My passion truly lies in inspiring people to be their own health advocate and live their best life. As Dr. Mark Hyman, a functional medicine doctor, once said, “What you put on the end of your fork is the most important thing you will do today.” It all ties together! A healthy diet (rich in antioxidants) improves the skin, its ability to repair itself, and slows down the aging process.

Image Anti-Aging last winter because we saw the growth potential for a noninvasive anti-aging treatment that is more cost-effective than Botox and fillers, and much safer than plastic surgery. My goal is to maximize every opportunity I have to treat clients in our spa. Each treatment is an opportunity to provide a relaxing and therapeutic experience to reduce stress while offering the most advanced and safest anti-aging skincare. Stress is the biggest cause of all health issues today, so minimizing stress and delivering refreshed and younger skin is our ultimate goal!

When making a healthy checklist, what are your essentials? Take care

of yourself first– mind, body, and soul!

Feed your body the nutrients it needs so that you can be fully present for your friends and family. Hydrate your body with at least 64 ounces of purified water each day. Exercise daily, even for 15 minutes, to increase blood flow, endorphins, and minimize stress. Give yourself 10-15 minutes each day to meditate or relax and breathe deeply. Focus on what you are most grateful for. w

Martina Burak is the manager and owner of Beautiful Image Anti-Aging, LLC, located at 19109 W. Catawba Avenue, Suite 122, in Cornelius. You can reach Martina at 704.608.7399 or via www.beautifulimageantiaging.com.

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We’re also excited to share something NEW to our Edible collection of gifts and treats—Freshly baked cookie platters! Yes, we’re now offering fresh-baked cookies at our two Lake Norman locations: Huntersville and Mooresville.

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For even more flavors, our freshly baked cookie and dipped-fruit platters feature an assortment of your favorite dipped fruits PLUS fresh-baked cookies! With our unique selection of delicious and cheerful thank you gifts, you’re sure to find the perfect way to say ““Th Thanks” ffor any occasion. From arrangements with fresh fruit slices hand-dipped in white and semisweet gourmet chocolate to gift boxes with our most-loved chocolate Dipped Fruit™ ---our gift sets are complete with bright, colorful balloons, and more, and we offer a variety of thank you gifts in various sizes so you can make the right statement.

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Plebe year – or Freshman year – at West Point.

Real world situations may be tougher, have higher stakes, or take a greater emotional toll, but the restrictions placed on Plebes and the marathon of that first year intentionally tests the mettle of every cadet. Plebes are exposed to a year of little sleep, long days, and challenges that are designed to scare or stress them.

The scare comes in the form of physical challenges: walk a wobbly log, suspended 50 feet in the air, with a set of 3 stairs in the middle. The stress comes in the form of endless tasks, none of which are particularly difficult but on top of a heavy academic load, with no sleep and not enough hours in the day to complete them you are going to fail, fail badly, and everyone will know it.

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Particularly stressful for Plebes is being limited to four responses: “Yes, Sir (or Ma’am)”; “No, Sir”; “No Excuse, Sir”; and “Sir, I do not understand.” Every Fourth Class Cadet quickly realizes the toughest response is “No Excuse.” Prior to college, teenagers are filled with excuses. It was eye opening for me. Being held responsible for all outcomes regardless of who was at fault sharpened my focus. Incredibly, I learned I could influence outcomes in the toughest of circumstances. The results were terrific.

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creative. It taught me personal responsibility and I learned that leaders – good leaders – take full responsibility for failures while delegating success to their teams. Living the results, I developed an incredible sense of confidence. Confidence beyond that of a good student and varsity athlete; the confidence of someone who knows how to complete the mission.

Everyone should challenge themselves to two months of these responses in their professional and personal lives—and perhaps we could challenge our teenagers!

Imagine replacing the sounds of, “But Mom! It wasn’t my fault…” with “No Excuse, Mom.” And seeing rooms cleaned, grades improved, and curfews met. No really!

Limiting ourselves to these four responses is a clarifying, eye-opening experience.

I challenge my risk teams to assess what is truly within their realm of influence when they develop their response plans.

For example, a contractor threw his hands up and said once their manufactured part leaves Europe it is out of their hands.

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Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), “childhood obesity has more than doubled in children and quadrupled in adolescents in the past 30 years.”

Affecting more than 12 million children and adolescents nationwide, obesity is causing our youth to have health issues that were once only seen in adults. Things like heart disease, high blood pressure, and type 2 diabetes are becoming more common childhood diagnoses. The good news is that childhood obesity is preventable. Here is some food for thought: A C C O R D I N G TO T H E

NUGGETS AND FRIES AND SODA, OH MY! Let us not forget the expression “Monkey See, Monkey Do.” Children learn at a very early age to mimic their parents’ health-related behaviors. In fact, says the CDC, “in a family with one overweight parent, the child has a 40% chance of becoming overweight. If both parents are overweight, the risk increases to 80%, compared with 7% in a family in which neither parent is overweight.”

EASIER SAID THAN DONE Parents know they need to incorporate more fruits and veggies, but the kids are not always so willing.

However, children enjoy experiences—different colors, tastes, textures—so explore creative ways to engage your children in food preparation.

For example, have a cooking contest where the children can prepare and present their dish, explaining health benefits and nutrients in doing so. Also, teach children how to read food labels and how to decipher the appropriate information.

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MOVE IT OR LOSE IT The CDC suggests that children and teens should have one hour of moderate exercise daily, and this is good news for the entire family. Plan walks around the neighborhood after dinner; toss the ball around the backyard; take family hikes on the weekend or take up a group sport like tennis or golf.

TECHNO-TIME With all the technological distractions these days, it’s a wonder kids get any exercise at all. The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests parents limit leisure time in front of electronic devices (including television) to two hours per day. Let the eye-rolling begin!

COME TOGETHER Childhood obesity is a nationwide epidemic; communities must come together to promote and encourage healthy living as a whole. Ask yourself these questions: Does the design of our neighborhood encourage physical activity? Are there recreation facilities in the area that are affordable and safe?

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For more information on childhood obesity, visit the American Academy of Pediatrics at www.aap.org or the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention at www.cdc.gov.

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kim o'tuel SCOUT & CELLAR CLEAN-CRAFTED WINE Mooresville

on LOVE AND FAMILY: I’m a midwestern girl.

I grew up in Monticello, Illinois, and graduated from Eastern Illinois University. My husband, Bryant, and I have just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. We met in Chicago at Wrigleyville, in fact. I was with some girlfriends and he was with Jim Harbaugh – any football fans out there? We have three children in college right now – William (23) at NC State University, Charlie (20), and Delaney (18), both at Clemson University. In January, we lost our beloved 15-year-old Labradoodle, Sadie. I still expect her to meet me at the back door when I come home. on STARTING NEW CHAPTERS: We moved to Mooresville in August of 2000. It was the most stressful experience I’ve ever had! Truly, it was the great unknown – no local family, no friends, new neighborhood with no neighbors, and my pilot husband was gone most days. I had two boys under the age of 4 and was pregnant! We made the decision to move to the Lake Norman area from Chicago because we wanted a different lifestyle for our family – away from the cold and fast-paced big city. This move forced me to step out of my comfort zone, but it was so worth it! on CELEBRATING LIFE: Being introduced to Scout & Cellar in January 2018 has changed my life. I have always been challenged by public speaking, and most people would be surprised to know that I struggle with self-confidence; however, having this business has encouraged me to overcome my fears and explore something that I enjoy. Scout & Cellar is a brand-new company that is making a difference in the lives of consumers, consultants, farmers, and wine-makers. I also get to travel while doing wine tastings, leading and motivating people—as well as getting to meet new friends. I celebrate everything!

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on WHAT LIES AHEAD: My long-term goals are to grow the clean-crafted wine movement. I want to travel the world and watch my children live their best lives. My short-term goals are to embrace every opportunity as they appear.

Whatever lies ahead, I know that it is in God’s plan, and He will help me through it. For the bucket list…tea with Princess Kate? Or maybe a glass of clean-crafted wine! w Kim O’Tuel is the executive director at Scout & Cellar Clean-Crafted Wine. You can reach Kim at ScoutandCellar. com/KimOTuel or call her at 704.224.6388.

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W H AT W A S I N T E N D E D TO B E E A S Y H A S T U R N E D I N TO S O M E T H I N G D I F F I C U LT, F O R M A N Y.

When the Affordable Care Act launched, consumers in North Carolina had a choice of several different carriers when choosing a health plan. Over the last few years, however, individuals and small businesses have not had a choice in their healthcare carrier if they had a pre-existing condition.

Next year those options will change for residents in Mecklenburg, Gaston, Cabarrus, and Rowan counties, with the addition of Bright Health (A Novant Health partner).

Unfortunately there will still only be one provider (Blue Cross Blue Shield of North Carolina) in Iredell and Lincoln counties. Insurance plan designs are becoming more localized and narrower and will not allow for as much choice on the provider level or allow you to cross hospital systems as insurers and hospitals work together to reduce costs.

However, for many, competition still does not bring a resolution to the high cost of health insurance.

There are nontraditional health plans available,

and with the marketplace driving employees to businesses that can provide comprehensive benefits, there are group insurance plans that fit the growing employee healthcare needs of small business owners as well.

It’s my opinion that your health is your most important asset next to your financial well-being, and it should be protected. It is imperative that the right healthcare plan is found that best fits your needs, whether you are just starting your family or going on Medicare, there are customtailored solutions out there. Yearround support from your agent is a must, so be sure to do your research and find one that can help you get the exact package that works for your specific needs and budget. w L K N e x p e rt

Kent Pike is a licensed insurance agent in North and South Carolina. Kent can be reached at 704.437.4038 or visit his office at 862 Brawley School Road in Mooresville. HealthMarkets Insurance Agency, Inc. is licensed as an agency in all 50 states and DC.

Not all agents are licensed to sell all products. Service and product availability varies by state. Sales agents may be compensated based on a consumer’s enrollment in a health plan. Agent cannot provide tax or legal advice.

Contact your tax or legal professional to discuss details regarding your individual business circumstances.

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begins with learning about a client and what makes them tick. Going beyond the surface and really getting to the core of who they are and what they desire. It could be function and a clutter-free life, travel, family, color, nature, hobbies, passions, work, fashion, art, movies, racing, shapes; You get the idea……. the list is endless.

Once we truly learn about a client, we start to see the world through their eyes. Much like an actor, we spend time putting ourselves in the shoes of those we serve. This is the first step toward project inspiration.

• NATURE – God got it right. Color theory and the golden ratio is utilized in all our discussions around placement. Patterns, wood species and organic materials all bring warmth to a space.

The second step is to marry that inspiration with all the tools in our “Inspiration Toolbox.” This toolbox is what makes each designer or design firm unique.

It includes the following:

• POP CULTURE – Old movies, new movies, fashion, books, magazines, Instagram, tv: they all inform and inspire. I can’t tell you how many times I have paused a show and

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• TRAVEL – Inspiration is learned in everything we do. But getting out and experiencing history and historic design is extremely important. How did our predecessors put different materials together and how did they interpret design?

Hotels, planes, trains, ships and rickshaws can all teach us how we move through spaces and how design makes you feel. After 26 countries I have learned a lot and have an evergrowing bucket list of more to see!

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taken a picture of the screen for inspiration.

Set design is my drug of choice. Torn up magazines are all over my desk.

• COMMUNITY – We learn from everyone we meet. It could be how they wear a scarf, how they discuss their lifestyle over coffee or how a restaurant makes them feel. Other designers and trades people all share what they have learned. It makes our community and toolboxes more robust.

• EDUCATION – We are lucky to have a team with different educations that all include a design degree. But we also have a business degree, exercise science degree, and a biology degree. As for design degrees some schools concentrate on the art and concept of design, some focus on architecture and other schools concentrate We just had over 100 people attend the Charlotte Charity Showhouses Muddy Boots Event. This event showcased the homes under construction and functioned as the official groundbreaking of the Showhouse events!

on the practice of design.

Some are heavy into materials and some are heavy into history of design.

We use it all.

• CONTINUING EDUCATION – We, as a team, visit vendors, take classes and keep ahead of the curve. These classes and opportunities provide the opportunity to better serve our clients. I have been on 53 factory tours and can tell you what makes a well-made piece of furniture and who does what and what drives their pricing. Additionally, we learn how to take what our fabricators do and mold it to fit the design we need for a specific client.

Gratitude is a life of learning every single day and finding new inspiration to make each project unique to each and every client! w Stay tuned for a Sip and See event in February, the opening Gala on March 13th and the IDS Charlotte Charity Showhouses open March 14-April 4.

VISIT :

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itude! w hen you live in a paradise like Lake Norman, your hometown is a destination. Folks move away from their bland, cold, dusty places of residence and join you in your temperate waterside nirvana. The first question you learn to pose, upon meeting a new person, is, “Where are you from?”

You get used to certain answers: Ohio. New England.

The Midwest. Every once in a while, you’ll get an outlier: Hawaii. Venezuela. What you rarely hear is, “I didn’t come from anywhere. I stayed here.” But Melissa Lynch, owner of Purefico Med Spa & Therapy in Cornelius (a part of Body Electric Rejuvenation Center), gets to say just that when asked where she grew up.

Born and raised in Denver, North Carolina, Melissa was a middle child in a big family. “I have always been a caregiver at heart,” she says, “raised as a middle child in a family of six kids.”

The thing she loves most about her native Lake Norman home is the kindness of the people. I’ll bet you your OH2VA2NC vanity plate that that kindness is one of the reasons you moved here. You, too, stepped into the crowded vestibule at Showmars at Sunday noon, and were shocked by the parting of the churchclothes chatters, along with their friendly invitation to “Come on through.” That small kindness sealed the deal for you, didn’t it?

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like the elderly and the disabled, who might need support to help themselves. “One day,” she says, “I literally quit my job and began a business in my car.” The good thing about running your business out of a car? “Because there was no overhead,” she says, “I immediately turned a profit.”

Melissa can trace those roots of kindness back three generations. “I had amazing grandparents who were also natives of this area.” she says.

“They taught about faith, hard work, and family.”

Those foundational values are evident in every word Melissa speaks. She cites her faith as the foundation of her everything. When asked how she balances running a business and caring for her family, she comes back with a shocker and a swoon. “I own a second business, Senior Care Carolinas, as well. I have been able to manage my career and my family with hard work, discipline and, first and foremost, my relationship with Christ.” She goes on to share an authentic tidbit, stating, “My family instilled the importance of having a relationship with God at an early age. I had my wild years for sure, but I am grateful God brought me back.”

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When she segues to discussing her work ethic, she speaks again of her family. “My mom was an extremely hard worker,” she says, “staying home to raise six kids. My dad also worked hard; he gave me my entrepreneurial drive, as I watched him open and run businesses to support my family.”

And what a drive Melissa has…both for her work and for helping others.

Seventeen years ago she suffered an injury. “That forced me to not only help myself,” she says, “but sparked a strong passion to help others, from the inside out.” She began her career in critical care nursing, then moved up the corporate healthcare ladder.

But her father’s entrepreneurial spirit, and her mother’s and grandparents’ drive to serve others, eventually caught up with her.

She has a passion for health and wellness, and a desire to help those,

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Melissa brings her strong work ethic and her passion for health and helping together at Purefico/ Body Electric. Grounded in the knowledge that the body has the ability to restore, revive, and renew its own healing energy, Purefico/Body Electric offers a host of services for health and happiness.

The Center represents a new generation of pain management and recovery, fitness training, and beauty treatments. With a glance at its many fivestar reviews online, it’s clear that clients are feeling the quality and care Melissa was raised on.

But lest you think it’s easy for Melissa to juggle her faith, her family, and her successful businesses, she’d like to share another truth bomb. When asked if she ever feels like giving up, she doesn’t hesitate. “Yes,” she says. “At least weekly. I get tired. I want to spend more time with my son.

Write a book. Volunteer more.” But she soldiers on, driven by her love of seeing her clients leave Purefico/Body Electric feeling physically, mentally, and spiritually transformed.

She wraps our interview with stellar suggestions for the aspiring entrepreneurs among us. “You have to be willing to work hard,” she says. “Make sure the business is something you’re passionate about; make sure you’re solving a problem. You’ll have to create order and structure, and you’ll have to give up a lot in the beginning, but it is oh so worth it!” w

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the new director of development for the “See Her Lead” team.

With over 20 years of experience working with non-profits, Susan recently relocated to North Carolina and immediately became intrigued by the mission and vitality of Young Elites (See Her Lead) under the leadership of Jennifer Shiley.

Hope For The Warriors recently handed out 13 Military Spouse and Caregiver Scholarships for higher education totaling $27,500.

This class of winners includes Charlotte resident

JACQUELINE BRYANT

who received the New Beginnings Scholarship of $1,500, awarded to those pursuing entry level classes or training.

North Carolina native CINDY TREVISAN, coowner of Slice House Pizza, recently won the 2019 Nextdoor Neighborhood Favorite Award.

Cindy has an MBA from Gardner-Webb University and is a current doctoral student and proud mother of two.

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SATURDAY, NOV. 2:

17th Annual Statesville Pumpkin Fest

SATURDAYS & SUNDAYS, THROUGH NOV. 17:

26th Annual Carolina Renaissance Festival This 16th-century European-style art and entertainment festival combines outdoor theater, circus entertainment, arts and crafts marketplace, a jousting tournament, a feast fit for royalty, and much more.

Enjoy pumpkin bowling, pumpkin painting, pumpkin pie eating contest, and even pumpkin smashing! Plus kids’ zone, food and beverage vendors, live entertainment, and classic car cruise-in.

$15-$25 / 10am to 5:30pm 16445 Poplar Tent Rd., Huntersville

Free / 10am to 5pm Downtown Statesville

More information: www.carolina.renfestinfo.com

More information: www.statesvillepumpkinfest.com

SATURDAY & SUNDAY, NOV. 9-10:

22nd Annual Rural Hill Sheepdog Trials & Dog Festival Watch champion border collies compete and enjoy heritage breed livestock, hay rides, historic demonstrations, kids’ activities, the Harry Pawter Quidditch Tournament, and more! $8-$17 / 10am to 5pm Rural Hill 4431 Neck Rd., Huntersville

MONDAY, NOV. 11:

Veterans Day Parade, Ceremony & Celebrations The parade begins at 10am, followed by a ceremony honoring local veterans. Event includes food & beverages, live music, and free activities.

Free / 10am to 1pm Downtown Huntersville

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SATURDAY, NOV. 30:

Light Up Cornelius Christmas at Town Center Enjoy community group performances, holiday songs by local performers, children’s activities, carriage rides, train display, craft & food vendors, and a visit from Santa!

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LAKE NORMAN WOMAN'S PARTY IN PINK LAKE NORMAN WOMAN hosted its Second Annual Party in Pink in celebration of Breast Cancer Awareness last month. We had a full boat of party goers decked out in pink as we set out on the Carolina Grace for a sunset cruise around Lake Norman. The festivities included a Best in Pink contest, fabulous raffle prizes, and special recognition for the breast cancer warriors in attendance. A portion of all proceeds will benefit Wind River Cancer Wellness Retreats & Programs. Thank you, all who attended, for advocating for this amazing cause, and thank you to our generous sponsors:

. South Lake Women’s Healthcare . Mecklenburg Radiology Associates . . Lineberger Or thodontics . Southeast Radiation Oncology Group . . Carolina Age Management . Piedmont Health Care Mooresville Mammography

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she realized that she was not fulfilled. Katie also found her realization somewhat unsettling: her husband, Nanda, was ill and it was not the best time for life-altering career changes or great risk taking. But Katie did not allow her fear to be bigger than her faith. “I felt it was time to take control of our future and go out on our own,” she explains.

“With the support of my family and husband, I was able to open the doors of our first Pure Barre location over six years ago. It is never easy to take a leap of faith in these huge life-changing decisions, but I am so happy we did.”

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And though Katie is obviously not afraid to welcome change, it was the familiarity of the lake that brought her and Nanda to the Lake Norman region. The pair grew up together on Lake Candlewood in Connecticut, and after one year away at college they fell in love over their summer break. Their education and careers took them to California, but a longing to get back on the East Coast eventually brought them to the Charlotte area and once here, deciding on the lake life was easy: “Growing up on a lake, we immediately fell in love ... we are crazy about this amazing lake town!”

Katie is just as passionate about the Lake Norman women who come to her studio as she is about the lake. Though they come for the low-impact workout that uses isometric movements to target typical problem areas, they end up getting much more. “I love that Pure Barre helps women find their best selves—mind and body,” Katie says, adding, “Life is busy and Pure Barre allows us all to escape and really be present. Being able to empower and motivate women in that way is so inspiring.”

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Katie has also found inspiration in how team member Michelle Accetta has not only accepted but embraced the unexpected changes in her own life as a result L E T ’ S FA C E I T: C H A N G E C A N B E S C A R Y. We like staying in our of a leukemia diagnosis a little comfort zone, where it’s… you know, comfortable. But if there’s one thing more than six years ago. Katie describes this mother of three, who that’s certain to never change, it is change itself—it’s simply a part of life. is now in remission, as “a light on Katie Moscovitch, owner of Pure Barre Lake Norman in anyone’s darkest day” and a constant reminder that we are Birkdale Village (Birkdale Commons Pkwy & Sam Furr Rd, all stronger than we think. But without a doubt, the best Huntersville; BirkdaleVillage.net; 704.895.8744), found this reminder in Katie’s life of how change can be undeniably to be true after a long and challenging seven-year journey good is her 1-year-old daughter, Madison. Says Katie of on a career path to obtain her doctorate degree in physical her “biggest joy”: “She can make me smile on even my therapy. Much to her surprise, after several years in practice, worst day!” w

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area hiking spots to discover this fall

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While our proximity to the Smoky Mountains is a great resource for hikers, the Lake Norman area should not be overlooked! With lots of options and varying difficulty levels, here are a few adventures to discover—

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THE LATTA PLANTATION NATURE CENTER AND PRESERVE is a 1,460-acre facility that draws visitors with its 16 miles of hiking trails, a National Wildlife Certified Backyard Habitat Garden, and the Carolina Raptor Center. Visitors can also horseback ride on the hiking trails. In fact, 13 miles of the 16 miles of trails are designated for hiking and horseback riding.

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Located near Kings Mountain, about 20 minutes south of Charlotte, CROWDERS MOUNTAIN is a 5,126-acre park with 11 hiking trails. From trails just under a mile, to more difficult hikes that are up to seven miles, this area promises lots of fun.

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Mecklenburg County’s oldest nature preserve, MCDOWELL NATURE CENTER AND PRESERVE spans 1,116 acres, and it has more than seven miles of trails ranging in difficulty. With lots of plant and animal life, combined with amazing views of Lake Wylie, this makes a great day trip.

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REEDY CREEK NATURE PRESERVE offers hikers 10 miles of trails that rope around various small ponds and rivers.

There are over 100 species of birds, 15 species of mammals, and more than 30 species of reptiles and amphibians that make the preserve their home. Fishing is allowed, and mountain bikers share the trails in some areas.

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THE U.S. NATIONAL WHITEWATER CENTER (USNWC) is the perfect playground for thrill seekers. With more than 30 miles of hiking trails, outdoor enthusiasts can test their skill levels in many directions. In addition to hiking, the USNWC offers other activities including whitewater rafting, paddle boarding, rock climbing, ziplining, and kayaking. w

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health For the millions who suffer from food allergies, the holidays can be especially challenging. Here are some tips to help you through all the upcoming events where food itself is the celebration—

Food Allergies and Holiday Cooking …

There are more gluten-free products on the market than ever before, but there are naturally gluten-free foods as well such as quinoa and rice. Dips like chutney and hummus on rice crackers with fresh fruits and veggies make a delicious appetizer.

Soups make a great dish with a holiday flair. Try ingredients like squash, pumpkin, leek, or sweet potatoes.

Cornstarch or arrowroot with water and chicken stock are superb thickening agents.

For milk or soy allergies, try substituting coconut milk, rice milk, or nut milks.

For your main meat or even tofu recipes, be sure to avoid premarinated or pre-spiced foods. You can make your own flavorings by using olive oil and fresh herbs such as rosemary, thyme, marjoram, and garlic.

For dessert, focus on fruits that are in season—apples, pears, or cranberries are ripe for the pickin’!

Learn to read food labels carefully and avoid prepackaged foods as they often have trace ingredients and additives that could trigger a reaction.

NINETY PERCENT OF FOOD ALLERGIES

come from

eggs, milk, peanuts, tree nuts, fish, shellfish, wheat, and soy, notes the ACAAI (American College of Allergy, Asthma & Immunology). And food allergies are a tricky business—they can develop at any age; they can persist or disappear altogether over time; they can affect the respiratory system, gastrointestinal tract, or cardiovascular system; onset of reaction can be within minutes or hours; and the duration of the symptoms can vary as can the amount of food ingested to trigger the allergic reaction.

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While labels have helped in the deciphering of ingredients, there is a lot of ambiguity. Phrases such as “may contain,” “might contain,” “made on shared equipment,” or “made in a shared facility” can be confusing, and there are no laws that require those warnings and no standard as to their actual definition.

Eating out requires even more scrutiny as cross-contamination is everywhere.

The best advice here is to speak with your server and the chef to apprise them of the severity of your particular allergy. w For more information on food allergies, visit the American College of Allergy, Asthma & Immunology at www.acaai.org or www.food-allergy.org.

coconut pie GLUTEN-FREE

This is so easy, and it will put everyone in the holiday spirit with all its yumminess and tastes of the season!

INGREDIENTS

1 CUP OF FLAKED OR SHREDDED COCONUT ¾ CUP SUGAR ½ CUP GLUTEN FREE BISQUICK™ MIX ¼ CUP BUTTER OR MARGARINE

DIRECTIONS 1 Heat oven to 350 degrees. Spray 9-inch glass pie plate with cooking spray.

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Bake 50 to 55 minutes or until golden brown and knife inserted in the center comes out clean.

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soul sisters

A Soul Sister is someone you can talk to about EVERYTHING! You reminisce, learn, dance, sing, complain,

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THIS MONTH, LKNW CELEBRATES SOUL SISTERS ROSA POULOS AND JESSICA BABINGTON—

10 YEARS STRONG.

celebrate, play, cry, and

We met through mutual friends over 10 years ago and we are a formidable pair … in general Jess is more easygoing so I encourage her to stand up for herself, and as a redhead, I tend to be more forthcoming so she definitely helps keep me in check! The biggest challenge for us has been to suffer through our husbands’ bromance, lol!

dream. Brought together by fate and kept together by love, Soul Sisters are forever yin and yang … from the very first breath to the very last, they have each other’s back.

SAVED BY THE BBQ!

Early in our friendship, a tree fell on my childhood home during a storm in the middle of the night and landed directly on my room. At that time, I was living with my parents and would have normally been at home asleep. However, Jessica and her husband had a cookout that evening and I had decided to spend the night. To say that my room was destroyed is an understatement. Jessica continues to remind me that she saved my life that day by having a BBQ.

Do you and your BFF want to be featured in an upcoming edition of LKNW Soul Sisters? Email Leslie@lakenormanwoman.com.

STEADFAST AND TRUE.

We have supported and loved each other through career changes, marriages, deaths, and child birth. Our friendship isn’t about one triumph but the triumphs that come from knowing that you have someone by your side cheering you on every day.

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AND A SONG IN THEIR HEARTS.

We competed in a karaoke contest a while back … and WON!!!

DID SOMEBODY SAY GIRLS’ TRIP?

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ALZHEIMER’S— the unforgettable disease!

IN 1983, PRESIDENT RONALD REAGAN DECLARED THE MONTH OF NOVEMBER

as National Alzheimer’s Awareness Month. According to the Alzheimer’s Association, there were less than two million people with the disease when this designation became official. Sadly, through the years that number has grown to more than five million.

While there is no cure for Alzheimer’s, there are helpful medications and, possibly most beneficial, our attitude and behaviors make A LOT of difference for all involved.

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Divert, don’t reason. It is best to change the subject if things are not making sense.

Distract, don’t shame.

Accidents happen, so don’t scold or treat them like a child … just move on to something happy.

Reminisce, don’t ask, “Do you remember.” Reminiscing is much more fun and people with Alzheimer’s often recall their early years and childhood very well, so it is a healthy mind exercise.

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While the following are recommended in dealing with Alzheimer’s patients, one might find these suggestions pertinent to living with aging in general—like how we interact with our aging parents, for example. Here are some things to consider:

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Reassure, don’t lecture/ teach. Focus on the positives by acknowledging what they DO understand; any kind of argumentative or combative language is unproductive.

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Repeat, don’t say, “I already told you that.” No need to point out that they forgot; just tell them again.

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teens aloud!

YOUR TEEN, TRANSLATED

THANKSGIVING FOOD FOR THOUGHT …

and your teens

No, seriously. Check this out. When I was a kid, all my peers had the designer jeans. The Cabbage Patch Kid. The Def Lepard LP. I had rocks and sticks to play with, and a permanent spot on the sidelines, trying to absorb the thrill of I HATE TO name-brand stuff through osmosis. I was not SOUND LIKE thrilled about much back then. But that unBITTER GRANDPA thrill taught me the lessons that shape my IN HIS CREAKY freakishly contented adult life.

FRONT PORCH When you have rocks and sticks for toys, ROCKER, wistfully you build your imagination muscle. describing the bad That, in turn, enables you to create a ol’ days. But if the better reality using nothing but your truth makes me mind. You have an escape hatch Grandpa, so be it. from everyday boredom. A nonTruth bomb about narcotic hope-boosting pill, when things seem hopeless. A deep to hit—you ready? understanding that you can make Okay, um … I grew something out of nothing. up free-lunch poor.

And I’m really The whole world is gaga for psyched about it. a certain elusive, overpriced, name-brand doll, and you stand zero chance of getting one? If you Need, capital Want to have your struggle N, that doll, 11-yearconsidered for an upcoming Teens old you finds a way to Aloud column? Send Cyndy an make money. You email about what’s going on at hustle newspapers and cyndy@theteenlifecoach.com babysitting hours; you sock away your dollars. You

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evaluate the worth of the maybe-someday-for-$500 authentic CPK versus the here-it-is-for-$25 knockoff.

As a preadolescent, you teach yourself business school concepts for which adults go into debt.

You want the hot new music release? You outsmart the system. You join Columbia House Record Club, get those 10 free records, and never follow through on buying six at full price. Then you learn the ugly lessons that come with mail fraud. But that, too, is fantastic, because you won’t scam again as an adult, when Johnny Law will kick you where it counts.

In sum, because I got essentially nothing as a kid, I expect nothing as an adult. The flip side of that coin is that I’m vibrant with gratitude for every little thing I do get. For me, today, a Starbucks latte offers the serotonin spike of a gift-wrapped Audi in the driveway.

So here’s Grampa, offering some Thanksgiving food for thought. If you can’t afford to give your teen everything they want, consider your kid lucky. And if you can afford to? Consider pretending you can’t.

Because the best gift you can give your kid is an opportunity to get what they want, all on their own.

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favorite things

Now with families of their own and a thriving dental practice, the sisters recognize their blessings each and every day. Below they share some of the things that keep their joie de vivre intact— MAMMA MIA!

When it comes to a little comfort food, each has a fav—Lindsay’s is their grandmother’s famous pizza recipe, and for Dr. Lembo it’s her husband’s homemade sauce. “It’s wonderful with everything,” she smiles. “Especially on pizza and homemade spaghetti noodles!”

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DR. KARA LEMBO & DR. LINDSAY MONTGOMERY Lembo Montgomery Cosmetic & Family Dentistry

Dr. Kara Lembo and Dr. Lindsay Montgomery, owners of Lembo Montgomery Cosmetic & Family Dentistry in Mooresville, are more than sisters—they are best friends and business partners! They grew up in Northern Michigan in a small town named Cedarville which is part of Les Cheneaux Islands near Lake Huron. Later the girls went their separate ways while obtaining their degrees: Dr. Lembo attended Detroit Mercy School of Dentistry in Michigan, while Dr. Montgomery went to Marquette University School of Dentistry in Milwaukee. The lure of Lake Norman and a warmer climate would eventually lead the girls south.

“Both of us loved the Lake Norman community and what it had to offer us and our families, Dr. Montgomery says. “The area reminded us a lot of our hometown, very family oriented … and how the community comes together to help others, especially in small business.

The sisters gained invaluable experience in their youth by working in their father’s dental practice, and his outlook and approach to life made a lasting impression. “He taught us how to achieve goals and do so with a positive attitude,” Dr. Montgomery says. “He led by example,” Dr. Lembo adds, “and he showed us how to be kind and work hard. He epitomized love, team work, and leadership … and we carry that with us in everything we do.” w

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Take these ladies and their respective families anywhere there are sandy beaches! “The ocean calms your mind and relaxes your body. We enjoy packing up the kids and heading to the beach … we hike, bike, play in the surf … we just love it!”

I JUST CAN’T LIVE WITHOUT …

Dr. Montgomery: My sunglasses Dr Lembo: My lip gloss

DON WE NOW OUR FAVORITE APPAREL. Dr. Montgomery: “Shoes, makes me feel taller …”

Dr. Lembo: “Dresses, since I wear scrubs all week at work, makes me feel good about myself.”

WHAT MAKES YOU SMILE? “CREATING SMILES FOR OUR PATIENTS! … BEING AROUND FAMILY AND FRIENDS, WARM WEATHER, VACATION!”

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S D R O W matter

Words are magic. They actually change our brain chemistry! As wordsmiths here at LKNW, we are

“WHEN I STARTED

counting my blessings, turned around.

MY WHOLE LIFE

especially fond of words

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–WILLIE NELSON

gratitude

helps you to grow and expand;

gratitude

brings joy and laughter into your life and into the lives of all those around you.

–EILEEN CADDY

that will resonate with

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our readers, in hopes they will help guide & inspire you:

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“Developing an attitude of gratitude is one of the simplest ways to improve your satisfaction with life.”

–AMY MORIN

“I’LL BE SPENDING THE HOLIDAYS WITH MY FAMILY.

NOTHING SPECIAL, JUST SOME LIGHT BICKERING AND BITING SARCASM.”

“At the end of the day, let there be no excuses, no explanations, and no regrets.”

– R AY R O M A N O

–AUTHOR UNKNOWN

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self

BETTER ME … BETTER YOU … BETTER WORLD

MIND body SPIRIT

By mixing the ingredients of attitude and action, we can change the flavor of our own lives. Learn to nurture your body and soul to lead a more balanced life.

PERSPECTIVE from a

porch swing FIXATION V. FOCUS I try not to allow the past to paralyze me. I fixate on the future. And when I say fixate, I don’t just mean intently focus.

I mean detrimentally obsess.

For the better part of 30 years, I’ve been striving for more. To be more. To have more. To do more. But life’s philosophies have a way of catching up with you.

Don’t worry—this isn’t a diatribe, dissecting every trial and tribulation that’s surfaced throughout my life; it’s simply to set the stage for one of my greatest lessons learned.

When you spend three decades in the Northeast surrounded by snow mounds and blustery winds, living in the South seems out of reach.

You resign yourself to the fact that the closest you’ll ever get to Southern living is sweet tea and watching Southern Charm reruns. That is until you abruptly find out life has other plans for you, and you’re being swept off to live in a land you once only experienced vicariously through your taste buds, reality TV, and vivid daydreams.

When my family and I relocated to the Lake Norman area from snowy Syracuse, New York, I immediately set my priorities straight. In the first 90 days, I needed to: 1) curate a classic, Southern porch swing and 2) adopt an authentic Southern accent. Fast forward four years and the accent is still a work in progress. But the porch swing? That’s where this story really begins.

One summer night, I sat on our porch swing after a run, trying desperately to catch my breath.

Clocking in at a not-so-stellar time, I found myself spiraling. If I could have just hit my benchmark time, I’d be happy. If I could have just run another half mile, I’d be even happier.

As I sat there lamenting, I started scrolling through my phone, reviewing my run log.

WRITER ELISE GINKEL

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When I reached the first recorded run, a revelation washed over me: I fixated so intently on where I wanted to be, I had forgotten how far I’d come. All that work, all that effort, had retired itself to my past, never to be celebrated again.

I realized my feelings of never being, having, or doing enough went far beyond my lackluster running career … they blurred the people, places, and things in the peripheral of the present. But aren’t the people, places, and things what it’s all about? The people who are rallying around me, showing up for me day after day, deserve more than just the periphery of my life.

They deserve to be the focus of my life.

The porch swing may have begun as a symbol of idyllic existence—one where the snow mounds melted away under the warm and welcoming sun, and the blustery winds died down into a soft, sweet breeze. Now that metaphor has morphed into a sweeter-than-tea reality, packaged up with friends who feel like family and a lakeside community that feels like home.

It’s true: sometimes life requires a dead sprint just to keep up. But more times than not, in order to recognize and appreciate where you are, you just have to grab a glass of tea and swing for a while. w

Originally from Central New York, Elise now resides in Denver with her husband and 8-year-old daughter. Alongside her corporate marketing role, Elise is a freelance writer and graphic designer. To read more from Elise, check out her blog at www.lanternlaneblog.com.

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