LET’S PUT AN END TO BULLYING THERE’S A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BEING MEAN OR RUDE AND BULLYING
There are different types of bullying. Be sure that your child is aware. Most kids think that bullying is just picking on someone. There is physical, verbal, cyber, and emotional bullying.
Physical – punching, hitting, socking, spitting…
Verbal – put down, hurtful comments, name calling, make threats…
Cyber – using the internet or social media to say mean things…
Emotional – excluding, spreading rumors or mean gossip, ruining someone’s reputation…
Recognizing A Learning Disability In School-Aged Children By Michelle Marts-Shannon
A learning disability is a general term used to describe different types of learning problems. Learning disabilities look very different from one child to another. There are several different types of learning disabilities. Often, learning disabilities go unnoticed in school-aged children, but teachers usually recognize there is a problem during class. A child with a learning disability may be mistaken for being lazy and not wanting to do the work. They may answer questions wrong or their work may always be done incorrectly. Children with learning disabilities are just as smart as everyone else however, their brains are just wired differently. In fact, they usually have average or above average intelligence. They just process information differently. The difference in how their brains are wired affects the way they process and receive information. As their parent, you may have to change the way you say things to them or change the way they are being taught. Children with learning disabilities may have trouble learning and may see, hear, and understand things differently than children without learning disabilities. Some of the most common learning disabilities may affect your childâ€™s math, reading, writing, speaking, listening, and reasoning skills. Some professionals mistake learning disabilities for ADHD. Some learning disabilities share some common symptoms of ADHD so it can easily be mistaken for ADHD. ADHD, which is Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, can interfere with a childâ€™s learning but is not considered a learning disability. Children with ADHD often have problems with sitting still, staying focused, following directions, and more.
As a parent, the news that your child may have a learning disability can be devastating. One of the first reactions that a parent has is usually denial, but soon you will have to accept it and move forward. The longer you take to accept the fact that something is wrong the longer your child will suffer in school. If your child has been diagnosed with a learning disability it may not be as big of a problem as it may seem. It pretty much means that your child learns differently and you will have to make sure your child is taught in ways that cater to their unique learning styles. Start researching and learn as much as you can before and after your child has been properly diagnosed. Do your own research and be prepared to speak for your child and get them the help they need. You, as the parent, know more about your child than anyone else. Keep in mind that finding help for your child is far more important than trying pin point the learning disorder or labeling your child with a learning disability. Now is the time to provide as much help as possible while the brain of a child is continuing to develop. Every child’s learning disability is different. One child may struggle in math, another may struggle in reading, or another may struggle with spelling. You can have a child that struggles with reading but loves math. There are some children that have difficulty comprehending what others are saying because of processing issues. The problems may be very different but still a learning disorder.
If your child’s teacher has approached you with a concern about their school work or if you have a concern about your child’s behavior or school work, there are things that you need to do at home and things that you need to do with the school to begin to have your child evaluated. Make an appointment to see your child’s pediatrician, and they will refer you to the appropriate specialists within their group. Talk to your child’s teacher and request a special education evaluation. A special education evaluation is usually done to decide whether your child has a disability and whether your child requires special education and related services. If your child attends a private school, you will have to go to your home school (public school near your home) for the evaluation. With accommodations and modifications, many children overcome their issues with learning and can reach their full potential. An IEP, or an Individualized Education Program will help and protect your child. The parent will meet with an IEP team, which usually includes the teacher, to develop a plan and goals for the child. A child who has difficulty learning and who’s struggling in school may qualify for special services and support that will allow them to be taught according to the way they learn. The IEP should be reviewed annually to update the goals and make sure the child’s needs are being met.
If you find out that your child has a different learning style you should learn as much as you can about their learning disability. If it’s in your budget, hire a tutor for your child. There are some organizations in and around Los Angeles that provide FREE tutoring and is not based on income. Keep an open line of communication with your child’s teacher so that you can find out what you can do to help your child at home. Additionally, you should reinforce at home what
your child has been taught at school. Helping your child in any and all ways will create a road to success.
Go online and check signs and symptoms of learning disabilities to see if your child may have trouble learning. There are many types of learning disabilities that some school-aged children are dealing with on a daily basis. I have provided a few learning disabilities along with a brief description for each.
Auditory Processing Disorder or CAPD (Central Auditory Processing Disorder) – Difficulty hearing the difference between similar sounds. Difficulty comprehending what has been said. It is not a problem with the hearing, it is a problem with the hearing process. Auditory Processing Disorder is often overlooked and not properly treated. Most children with APD often have trouble understanding in noisy environments, focusing on schoolwork, following multi-task instructions, and problems with every day socializing. APD can be diagnosed by an Audiologist.
Dyscalculia – Difficulty in learning or comprehending math problems. Dyscalculia affects a person’s ability to understand numbers and math facts. They may have trouble counting, memorizing facts, learning how to use money, or understanding time. Talk to your child’s pediatrician if you are concerned with your child’s development.
Dysgraphia- Difficulty with writing. Dysgraphia is a learning disability that affects writing abilities. Children often have problems with organizing thoughts on paper, unfinished or omitted words in sentences, or avoids writing or drawing tasks. They are usually able to express themselves fluently orally, but have trouble writing their ideas on paper. Talk to your child’s pediatrician if you are concerned with your child’s development.
Dyslexia – Difficulty in reading, writing, spelling, and speaking. Dyslexia is a learning disorder that affects reading due to problems identifying speech sounds and learning how they relate to letters and words. Dyslexia is a common learning disability in children with normal vision and intelligence. It often goes undiagnosed for years. There are different forms of dyslexia. Talk to
your child’s pediatrician if you are concerned with your child’s development. The school or clinical psychologist determines whether or not the child has dyslexia and diagnoses the specific type.
Dysphasia/Aphasia – Difficulty with language. Children may have problems with fluency of speech, the ability to retell a story, understanding the meaning of words and directions, and poor reading comprehension. Talk to your child’s pediatrician if you are concerned with your child’s development.
Dyspraxia – Difficulty with fine motor skills. Dyspraxia usually causes problems with handeye coordination and balance. Children may have a problem with holding a pencil, buttoning a shirt, cutting, writing, running, or jumping.
Visual Processing Disorder- Difficulty interpreting visual information. The brain does not process what the eyes see. Children usually have problems with reading, solving math problems, and confusing written symbols. Visual Processing Disorder affects the ability to write within the margins or on lines and aligning numbers in math problems. Also, accurately identifying information from pictures, maps, charts, or graphs. Talk to your child’s pediatrician if you are concerned with your child’s development.
Bills By Dr. Netreia Carroll
Have you ever thought about the true essence of yourself? Who are you? Why were you sent here? Why were you born into the family that you’re in? Why did you have to live in this season? What is your purpose and your being as you exist on this great vast Earth? Most times when we view ourselves we see huge flaws and mistakes. We see that we have over eaten or have gained weight. We see that we had not exercised the way that we should and our energies may be low. Some don’t like the attributes in their own face. Some feel worthless. Your nose, breast, and hips are just too big or whatever the case may be. The point is, we don’t see perfection! We don’t see that we are unique and are just right. Subliminally our judgments cause us to place ourselves in places we should not be, desiring to operate in positions where we should not. Sometimes we look to be in positions that were not designed for us to be in. We look to be in high places in ministry. Before you know it, we become concerned about how others view us and what they say about us. What is most important is how we see ourselves when we look into the mirror. Can you be happily operating in a position that fits you? What is wrong with being a seamstress if you do it well? Even being a maid is not bad if you do it well. It is important to make a conscious decision whether or not you're going to be a survivor in the life that your creator has given you or are you going to be killed within your own battle. If you decide to be killed your
self-esteem drops and you're unable to see purpose in your life. If you are a survivor, then accepts the struggles of life, stand up and fight for your life! Who do you fight? Your destructive self and Satan of course! Satan is no doubt and sometimes ourselves our worst enemy. We fight to be in places we feel are high and mighty. We desire positions and titles. In the world we want to be supervisors, Ceo’s and managers. In the church we want to be Bishops, Pastors, Apostles, and Evangelists. What’s wrong with simply being what we have been chosen to be? There is nothing wrong with being a banker who ministers at every given minute of opportunity. It is the flesh who desires to be in the land lights. It is Satan who passes his desires into us. Living in the light is what he wants to do. He wants to be in Jesus’ Glorified Light. We should be careful of what positions we desire! We should want to be or do anything or place out of the will of God. It’s not always appreciation services and a nice car. People don’t always respect and serve you as it appears. It’s not always as pleasurable and fun as it appears. We should not ever choose ourselves when it comes to ministry. A song writer once wrote; Let Jesus lead you all the way.” We certainly should not let our parents call us because they see something in us or they want to fulfill a lifelong dream that they have always had. Remember this, trials and triumph comes along with the call! In order to operate in leadership, one must be willing to go through something. Remember this also, the enemy is on your trail. He wants to kill you, steal from you (your purpose) and destroy any plan God has for you. He wants to set you up where no one wants to hear, see, or interact with you. The Lord Jesus Christ will choose you if that is your place. He will! Before He does, He will prepare you for the fight. You will survive! But, if you call yourself, you are in for a rude awakening. In my book, All I See, the pages are flooded with true experiences from my life story that God allowed to occur so that He could place me into my unique purpose. All I See is about the struggles I had to endure. I never knew the plan Jesus had for me. If I had known, I probably would have run and said no. Every part of my life had to happen in order to fulfill the work God's planned for me. Take the time out get the book, All I See. You will see why it is wise or not to call yourself into the ministry. You will see why it is important to allow God to do His work in us until due season. My story includes death, molestation, rape, losing children, self-esteem, tough decisions, euthanasia, abuse and more. Stay in your unique lane. Be you and only you! No one else can be you better than you! For the longest time I wanted to share my life experiences, hurts, pains, and joys that shaped my being. This is a true statement of change. I am an artist exploring the world and when I am not acting, singing, creating, or sharing the Love of Jesus with others, I am refashioning my spiritual DNA to in order to become better. Better with my words, thoughts, interpretation of life...a better me. As hamlet once said: “…there is much music in this little organ” and I must play it though I am no pipe. After living a life of hearty laughs hidden behind gapped teeth, and disappointments I have come to grips that “people like myself are meant for extraordinary things and I must understand that I will never fit into the concept of normality. It is okay to break society and culturally set rules and be diverse. That is my statuette, unique.” I wonder how much easier life would be if ordinary was enough and “fitting in” was an option. Understanding the reason why I exist I have learned it’s more than occupying space. I have a space that is designed only for me to fit in. With this thought in mind, we should remind ourselves daily that being who we are is everything to our purpose. The amazing feeling of being one in a million, of knowing no one out there is quite like me, can do it like I do or see what I see give me all the reasons to celebrate the essence of my true womanhood. Breaking the rules is hard. Hearing the criticism is difficult. Look around, we are all essentially equivalent: we all want to be loved. The residency of love can only reside comfortably if it derives from the true love source, Jesus. The Power of His love defines us all, even me. Today I rediscover myself. Tomorrow and each day after, I will revisit the thought of me again. I expose some of myself to you. Every word written removes another layer of dead skin and concealed esteems. Low esteem of others causes them to offend me. Let us get over together. We are one Body is Christ. When others hurt, so do
my body parts. Assurance of identity can be mistaken for bragging or as appearing to be “all that”, when truthfully I am all nothing that makes me something. Jesus said, “The first shall be last and the last shall be first.” I write to share with the world, thin-skinned moments. In every word, my soul listens and my heart speaks. The Truths in my writings has given unknown colors to my life. Colors created by God that others must see. The intensity of the color rays has corrected the vision of me. Today I live free. Today, I honor every trial and tribulation. Yes, they hurt. These birth pains are the beginning of another life that gives worth to me, you, and all. The Corner Stone of these pains fulfill the cracks that lie dormant in the in between places. The motivations behind my writings are to challenge you and your thinking, your efforts, your desires to become a better you. Seek and find you and once you have unearthed your reason for existing, share it with the world. Your existence plays a great part in my destiny…a little more inspiration and a little more… uniqueness. Just Dare to be you or should I ask, “Who are You?” I know as Christians we are victorious, however, we weren’t promised a perfect life without its troubles. In fact, Jesus said we should EXPECT them. .... for in this world you shall endure trials & tribulations, but count it all joy for I have overcome the world John 16:33 ‘Trials and tribulations come with both a purpose and a reward. ‘Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.’ ‘Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial; for once he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life, which the Lord has promised to those who love Him’ James 1:2-4, 12
Dr. Carroll is a publisher, author of many books, philanthropist, entrepreneur having many businesses, and has been dubbed the Mother Teresa of San Diego. Her organizations helps literally thousands of people annually providing them with various items of need. She has her YouTube Broadcast--N I've Got Something to Say which airs and changes regularly with guests speaking on diverse subject matters relevant to the times we are living in. www.Jnetenterprises.com
Published on Dec 10, 2016
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