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Taste of Chicago July 10 through 14 Grant Park, Chicago Loop One of the premier outdoor food festivals in the country, the annual Taste of Chicago tempts visitors with a mouthwatering collection of sights, sounds, aromas and flavors. Live music and family-friendly activities round out the event. For more information,

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July 11 through 21 Indiana Convention Center and other Indianapolis locations The annual Indiana Black Expo Summer Celebration honors our local AfricanAmerican culture and heritage with a wide variety of events and activities for all ages, including the Pacers Sports & Entertainment Corporate Luncheon, Music Heritage Festival concerts, and the Indiana Black Expo Youth Media Institute. For more information,

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Jane Austen Festival

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Downtown Fort Wayne Since 1969, the Three Rivers Festival has been bringing families to Fort Wayne to enjoy a schedule of fun events and attractions including a raft race, concerts, a juried Art in the Park Show, an international village, a crafts market, midway rides, food vendors and a bed race through downtown. For more information, Â

Historic Locust Grove, Louisville, KY The 6th annual Jane Austen festival pays tribute to the bicentennial of Pride and Prejudice in high style with two days of events that include afternoon tea, a grand ball, workshops, music and a Regency style show. For more information,

Indy Criterium Cycling Race and Festival July 13 University Park, downtown Indianapolis Mayor Greg Ballard kicks off this active event with a bike ride, followed by the largest USA Cycling-sanctioned bike race in Indiana. Racing categories include men, women, junior, tandem and kids; other activities throughout the day take in bike polo, a tandem race, a food truck festival and free helmet fittings. For more information,

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August 1 through 4

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Jasper town square, Dubois County Now in its 35th year, this German-heritage festival offers vendor booths, food, live entertainment, a parade, a Backyard BBQ contest, train rides and a 5K. For more information,

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July 18 through 28

IndyFringe Festival

Various locations, Indianapolis Movie buffs will want to block off some time to enjoy ten days of feature-length and short independent film screenings to suit all tastes from drama to comedy. For more information,

August 15 through 25


Indy Greek Festival



Mass Ave. This performing arts extravaganza takes over Mass Ave with more than 300 live performances in a range of genres including dance, drama, comedy — even magic! For more information,

August 23 through 25 Holy Trinity Greek Orthodox Church, Carmel Whet your taste buds for Greek food and Greek fun. The 40th annual Greek fest includes church tours, live music and dancing, delicious authentic cuisine

Nickel Plate District Amphitheater, Fishers Bond with fellow dog lovers over a day of shopping, music and four-legged fun. The Parade of Paws dog walk helps raise money for the Humane Society for Hamilton County. For more information,

DigIN August 25, noon to 5 p.m. White River State Park Showcasing all things farm to fork in central Indiana, DigIN gives visitors a chance to sample their way through some of the best food and drink in the region from influential restaurants, producers, wineries and microbreweries. For more information,

Marshall County Blueberry Festival August 30 through September 2 Plymouth, IN Plymouth pays tribute to this humble little fruit with a weekend full of fireworks, live entertainment, hot air balloon launches, carnival rides, family-fun activities, and lots and lots of food. For more information, m Written and compiled by Amy Lynch. 3

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FEATURES Prints, 18 Travel-inspired prints and patterns

Caregiving 101, 43 The first in an ongoing series — meet the experts

Denim, 52 How to wear it

DEPARTMENTS Out and About, 2 Summer festivals

Fashion How To, 14


Summer carry-alls

Fashion How To, 16 Stacking bracelets

Health, 26 A secret little problem — urinary incontinence

Family, 30 Teen anxiety

Fashion How To, 34 Maxi skirts

Home, 38 Meet Jodi Pierrot

Girls Getaway, 59 Indiana Uplands Wine Trail

Passing on Hope, 64 You matter


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Blazing the Indiana Uplands Wine Trail Coping with Teen Anxiety

ON THE COVER: INC International Concepts asymmetrical-hem dress, $89.50, and Haskell necklace, $36.50, both at Macy’s; fedora, $19.99 at Loft Outlet*. *Find Loft Outlet at Edinburgh Premium Outlets in Edinburgh, Ind.

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Summer carry-alls WHETHER YOU’RE HEADED TO THE office or the beach, a roomy tote is a lifesaver in the summer. Try these options to stylishly conceal (or reveal, in one case) water bottles, gym shoes, file folders, lunches, pool towels, tomatoes from the farmers’ market and all of the other belongings we have in tow. BY ERICA SAGON + PHOTOS BY CHRIS WHONSETLER

1. From work to weekend This relaxed, roomy leather tote is perfect for weekdays, and the irresistible punchy hue makes it fun for weekends, too. Painted-edge leather market tote, $130 at Banana Republic.

1. Triple threat Carry-on, beach tote and day bag — this one does it all, making it a smart choice for vacation. We love the combination of low-key neutral linen and neon yellow straps. Stella & Dot “The Classic” linen tote, $98 at

1. Thinking clearly When you’re headed for the water, this see-through tote is a clear winner. Toss in sunscreen, a water bottle and a couple of magazines — it’s all easy to spot when you need it. A detachable pouch holds little things like extra hair ties. Jelly tote, $88 at C. Wonder.

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It’s all in the wrist SAY HELLO TO THE SUMMER STACK, and get to know it well. A watch and a mix of bracelets worn together can really change up your look, especially when you consider the seemingly endless options. Here’s how to pull it off in three easy steps:


Start with your favorite watch and build from there. Chunky watches with oversize faces work well, but any size or style is worth building on.


Add layers of texture, sparkle and color with bracelets. Think eclectic rather than matchymatchy, although it’s perfectly reasonable to stick to one or two accent colors. Combine bangles with flexible bracelets for a mix that won’t overwhelm your arm.


Divide up bracelet sets you already own and play around with unexpected combinations. A key piece that might be missing from your collection is a wrap bracelet that winds two or three times around your wrist, or you could try using a long necklace. There’s no perfect formula for the summer stack, but we think the combination shown here strikes a nice balance with a watch, a wrap bracelet and a bangle or two.


1. Stella & Dot “Wanderlust” triple-wrap leather and bead bracelet, $59 at 2. Michael Kors stainless steel and acrylic “Showstopper” watch, $250 at Macy’s.


3. INC International Concepts coral beaded bangle and rhinestone bangle (part of a set), $29.50 at Macy’s.



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WAIST DEEP Liven up a work outfit with a polished blouse in an abstract print, which can easily layer underneath a blazer. To really make a print pop, pair it with something white, be it a skirt, pants or denim jacket. Printed blouse, $36.99 at Loft Outlet*; “Hollywood” linen side-zip pants, $99 at Talbots; Fossil crossbody bag, $128 at Macy’s; Stella & Dot ‘Kimberly’ gold-tone necklace, $94 at; “Sashay” T-strap heeled sandals, $69.99 at Nine West Outlet*. *Find Loft Outlet and Nine West Outlet at Edinburgh Premium Outlets in Edinburgh, Ind.

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We know how easy it can be to feel defeated when standing in front of your closet in the middle of summer, trying to imagine an outfit that won’t make you melt. You’re bored with your clothes and you’re starting to crave the cute fall pieces that are creeping into stores, even though it’s way too soon to actually wear any of them. >> Now’s the time to turn to lightweight pieces in travel-inspired prints — beautiful patterns that remind you of faraway places and lead to inspired and thoughtful outfits. With prints, it’s easy to look pulled together. Finish the summer, stylishly, with these outfit ideas. BY ERICA SAGON + PHOTOS BY POLINA OSHEROV. LOCATION COURTESY INDIANAPOLIS MUSEUM OF ART

CREDITS MODEL: Nicole Hurst/ Ford Models/Chicago MAKEUP: Kathy Moberly (Faces By KLM) HAIR: Philip Salmon (The Blue House) ASSISTANT: Esther Boston ART INSTALLATION Julianne Swartz (American, b. 1967), Terrain, 2008, 14 and 18 gauge colored electrical wire, speakers, and sound, dimensions variable. ©Julianne Swartz


PRINTS CHARMING Want easy summer glamour? A maxidress with a bold, clean print is the answer. It’s a nobrainer for vacation, but spot-on for a weekend barbecue, too. Add an eye-catching necklace and metallic flat sandals, and you’re ready to go. A whisper-thin white cardigan is a chic way to cover up without overwhelming the look. Halter maxi dress, $69.99 at Loft Outlet*; Stella & Dot “Maldives” multistrand necklace, $128 at; Nine West packable sunhat, $40, Alfani “Sunrise” mini-wedge sandals, $69 all at Macy’s. *Find Loft Outlet at Edinburgh Premium Outlets in Edinburgh, Ind.

ART INSTALLATION James Bishop (American, b. 1927), Untitled, 1971, oil on paper. ©James Bishop Indianapolis Museum of Art

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TO THE MAX Sometimes, you wear a simple dress to let your accessories shine; sometimes, it’s the other way around. When you’ve got a beautiful, lively print like this, you can go easy on the jewelry. Count on a few gold bangles to be the perfect finishing touch. Calvin Klein maxi dress, $99, Jones New York hinged gold-tone bracelet, $38, Vince Camuto bracelet set (partial set shown), $65, Alfani “Sunrise” mini-wedge sandals, $69, all at Macy’s.

SLEEPER HIT Pajama-style pants are a bold runway trend that’s made it into stores. We were skeptical at first, but we gave them a shot, and now we can’t get over how incredibly light, fluid and comfortable they are. Best of all, they’re remarkably dressy in an artsy way. No one will confuse these pants with actual loungewear when you pair them with wedges or heels and a cool textured tank. Simply Vera Vera Wang textured racerback tank top, $40 at Kohl’s; “Wynne” wedge sandals, $59.99 at Nine West Outlet*. Calvin Klein wideleg pants, $79.50, Lucky Brand necklace, $42, BCBGeneration bracelets, $20, all at Macy’s. *Find Nine West Outlet at Edinburgh Premium Outlets in Edinburgh, Ind. 22 July+ August 2013

ART INSTALLATION Masahito Katayama (Japanese, b. 1955), For the Windy Day XIII, 1989, ink, acrylic, dry pigments on canvas. Indianapolis Museum of Art. ©Masahito Katayama

LITTLE BLACK (AND WHITE) DRESS A black-and-white print dress is one you’ll reach for again and again until fall. You can even consider dresses with thinner straps, knowing it’s easy

to layer on a bright, summer-weight cardigan (we love warm hues like coral, pink and yellow for a happy, upbeat look).

Printed elastic-waist dress, $69.99, open weave cardigan, $36.99, multi-strand necklace, $29.99, all at Loft Outlet*; “Wynne” wedge sandals, $59.99 at Nine West Outlet*.

*Find Loft Outlet and Nine West Outlet at Edinburgh Premium Outlets in Edinburgh, Ind.


A LEG UP Striking graphic-print pants are the modern pop your closet needs this summer. Slip into a slim, straight pair with a linear pattern, then add a laid-back top, like a lightweight chambray or linen button-down shirt — the twist this season is to tie the hem into a knot. Camden fit ankle-length pants, $89.50 at Banana Republic; beaded wrap bracelet, $14.99 at Loft Outlet*; “Sashay” T-strap heeled sandals, $69.99 at Nine West Outlet*; INC International Concepts button-down shirt, $59.50, Fossil “Georgia” leather and gold-tone stainless steel watch, $135, both at Macy’s. *Find Loft Outlet and Nine West Outlet at Edinburgh Premium Outlets in Edinburgh, Ind.

ART INSTALLATION Heather Rowe (American, b. 1970), Tenuous Arrangements, 2010, Wood, steel, mirrors, plexi mirrors, curtains, curtain hardware, carpet, wallpaper. Indianapolis Museum of Art Commission ©Heather Rowe

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Julie Schneiders, MSN, NP, answers your questions about incontinence.


QUESTIONS ABOUT INCONTINENCE Julie Schnieders, MSN, NP is a women’s health nurse practitioner with a special interest in menopause and pelvic health, and is a breast risk assessment consultant for the St. Vincent Breast Center. By Amy Lynch

Julie Schneiders Nurse Practitioner


What is incontinence? Incontinence is either urinary (loss of bladder control) or fecal (inabilSt. Vincent’s ity to control bowel movements); urinary is Women’s Hospital 8111 Township Line Rd. more common. Indianapolis, IN 46260 Are there different types of incontiSt. Vincent Medical nence? Center Northeast Yes. Stress incontinence is loss of urine 13914 Southeastern when you cough, sneeze, laugh, exercise Parkway or lift something heavy. In stress incontiFishers, IN 46037 nence, the sphincter muscle of the blad317-338-4HER der is weakened. Pregnancy, childbirth and menopause can all contribute. Urge incontiTo schedule a nence is the sudden intense urge to urinate free consultation, usually followed by a loss of some urine. It’s call Julie at the “gotta go” type of incontinence. These (317) 338-4HER or women urinate many times at night. Frequent visit urinary tract infections and bladder irritants Connect with us! (smoking, lots of caffeine) can exacerbate this. If there isn’t a known cause, we use the @338her term “overactive bladder.” Some women have stress and urge together, which is called mixed incontinence.




Is there a stigma surrounding incontinence? Are women embarrassed to talk to their doctors about it? This is a common occurrence, but women hate to talk about it. I think women are afraid of the testing to diagnose the problem, and then are worried about having to have anything fixed. Both urinary and fecal incontinence can be treated; there’s no need to be embarrassed about discussing either with your doctor.


How do doctors evaluate and diagnose incontinence? Getting a good health history is imperative. As a first step, many doctors will use a voiding diary to figure out exactly how

much the patient is urinating through the day or night. After this, a decision about what kind of work up needs to be made. Uro-dynamic testing is a series of tests in which a catheter is placed in the bladder; the patient then performs certain movements. By filling the bladder, we can tell a lot about it and what is happening.


What treatment options are available for incontinence? There are many options, depending on the problem. Pelvic exercises can improve the pelvic floor muscles; there are medicines (in the case of urge incontinence); and there is surgery. Many of the surgeries are outpatient and recovery is minimal. Again, it all depends on the problem. Patients with incontinence need to consult with their OB/ GYN, as most of these physicians deal with these problems in women. In the case of fecal incontinence, your OB/GYN may send you to an urogynecologist (a specialist in both urology and gynecology). Sometimes, your OB/ GYN may consult with an urologist if surgery is needed, and may they operate together.


What can women do to maintain good bladder health and prevent incontinence? Don’t smoke or drink a lot of alcohol. Watch your intake of caffeine and acidic foods. A lot of citrus sometimes can irritate the bladder. Guzzle water every day — this is the best thing for the bladder.


Do Kegel exercises help? Kegel exercises (a series of strengthening exercises for your pelvic floor) are a must. All women should be doing those every day. If you think about stopping the flow of urine, you are using the Kegel muscles to do that. 25


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ave you ever heard someone say, “I laughed so hard, I wet myself!” How about, “I can’t sleep at night because I get up so many times to go to the bathroom.” These statements are often made with humor, but incontinence is not funny, nor is it normal. Urinary incontinence impacts the social, sexual, interpersonal and professional lives of its sufferers. It’s not a disease; it’s often a symptom of another condition, and women are more than twice as likely as men to suffer from it. Urinary incontinence occurs among women of all ages — even young, active women can experience it, although incidence does

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increase with age. Kathryn Copeland, M.D., a urogynecologist with Urology of Indiana, sometimes even sees women with incontinence in their teens and 20s. She says studies have shown that women are often hesitant to discuss the subject with their primary care doctors. However, physicians are becoming more practiced at asking their patients about incontinence. Stress incontinence is the most common type of incontinence among women. Leakage occurs when you laugh, cough or sneeze, without the urge to actually urinate. According to Dr. Copeland, stress incontinence can be caused by


Urinary incontinence affects women of all ages, even those in their teens and 20s.

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anything that puts pressure on the pelvic floor, such as pregnancy, childbirth, weight gain, heavy lifting, smoking or chronic constipation. “There may be a genetic predisposition as well,” she says. Stopping smoking, maintaining a healthy weight, avoiding caffeinated beverages and doing Kegel exercises with a pelvic floor therapist can improve stress incontinence. “Stress incontinence isn’t helped with medicine,” Dr. Copeland points out. In some cases, Dr. Copeland may recommend managing stress incontinence with a pessary device, similar to a bulky diaphragm, inserted into the vagina. If no other treatment works, surgery may be indicated. Urge incontinence is another form of the condition and can be caused by overactive bladder, involuntary contractions of the bladder muscle that push urine out. With overactive bladder, you may have strong, sudden urges to urinate during the day and night accompanied by leakage. It’s possible to feel these urges even when there’s only a small bit of urine in the bladder, and you may not be able to hold your urine until you get to the bathroom. It’s not clear exactly what causes overactive bladder. “It is very common, but poorly understood,” says Dr. Copeland. “Most of the time, we don’t have a reason.” An overactive bladder can impact quality of life, because you may not always be able or willing to participate in certain activities for fear of embarrassment. Fortunately, Dr. Copeland says many recommendations can improve the symptoms of overactive bladder. “Avoid bladder irritants, such as caffeinated or carbonated beverages; avoid constipation; don’t smoke; and keep a healthy weight,” she suggests.

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Dr. Copeland also advises physical therapy strategies like urge strategies and bladder retraining. If those approaches aren’t successful, medication is the next step. The majority of medications relax the bladder wall to decrease the urge to urinate, but can have unpleasant side effects such as dry mouth and constipation. However, Copeland says new medicines that have come out within the past six months work on the bladder in a different way with fewer side effects. If medications don’t work, neuromodulation or Botox injections into the bladder (FDAapproved for treatment in patients for whom more conservative treatment has failed) may be indicated. Dr. Copeland says neuromodulation can be performed in one of two ways — the first is a surgical procedure in which a wire is inserted in the lower back near where the nerves lead to the bladder and a bladder pacemaker is placed. The second approach is a procedure that involves going to the doctor’s office once a week for 12 weeks, where a thin wire is inserted in your ankle and stimulated for 30 minutes. “Botox, the popular cosmetic drug, is the newest player on the market for treatment of overactive bladder,” Dr. Copeland says. “Botox is a paralytic; it can be injected into the bladder via a cystoscopy and, depending on the dose, lasts six to nine months. Then we can repeat it.” Women no longer have to silently struggle with incontinence. If you experience urinary incontinence, see your doctor or an incontinence specialist for diagnosis and treatment. m Judy Burnett owns and operates Judy Burnett Solutions, a marketing and public relations firm serving small to medium sized businesses, professional practices, non-profit organizations and high profile individuals. Among the services she provides are crisis communication, news and feature writing, publicity campaigns, script and speech writing, special event management and media campaigns.

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atie, age 16, is irritable. She skipped school last week, and isn’t participating in social activities that she used to enjoy. Her mom suspects she is drinking occasionally. Is this typical teen rebellion behavior, or is something else going on? In fact, Katie may be experiencing teen anxiety. According to Linda Elliott, M.A. and a licensed mental health counselor at Fishers-based Living with Intention, anxiety is a reaction to stress that can occur at any age. Elliott defines stress as “the distance between where we are comfortable functioning, and where the situation demands that we function.” Although all kids experience anxiety in some situations, most don’t develop a true anxiety disorder. According to a recent study, about 25 percent of teens ages 13 to 18 will experience an anxiety disorder in their lifetime. Because the teen years are a time of huge change and uncertainty, it’s not surprising that anxiety can occur. Elliott says warning signs of a teen anxiety problem can include declining grades; skipping school or classes; avoidance of social activities; trouble concentrating; procrastination; irritability; perfectionism; and physical symptoms such as muscle tension, cramps, stomachaches and headaches, fatigue, flushed or blotchy complexion, hyperventilation and trouble eating. Some children, especially girls, will experience panic attacks. However, not every child with one or more of these symptoms suffers from problematic anxiety. Some teen anxiety is perfectly normal. But, if anxiety is getting in the way of the ability to learn, socialize or enjoy normal activities that are necessary for growth and development, it can be a problem. Elliott illustrates this with the example of a teen who is afraid of learning to drive. “As a parent, we have to make the decision to cope and find a way to push through it, because not learning to drive is going to make the child less self-sufficient and more out of the loop socially,” Elliott says. “A 17-year-old without a driver’s license has one more way not to fit in.”

The teen brain — under construction Director of CenterPoint Counseling, Dr. David Chaddock is a licensed clinical social worker and a marriage and family therapist. He says the teen brain is a growing brain — in many ways, the brain of a teen doesn’t look like an adult brain until the mid 20s. “We used to believe that the brain was 95 percent developed by age five,” he says. “We now know that with the onset of puberty, there is a massive explosion in brain development.”


Around 25 percent of teens ages 13 to 18 will experience an anxiety disorder in their lifetimes.

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technology in our practice that can adjust for the amount of melanin in our skin and safely and effectively treat all skin types and tones, even those with a tan. Our new Vectus and Icon Lasers features the Skintel™ Melanin Reader, the only FDA-cleared melanin content reader on the market. Skintel allows us to optimize your hair removal treatments. Rather than relying on the laser operator’s judgment to determine your skin color, using a subjective visual tool called the Fitzpatrick Scale, the Skintel device provides an additional element of treatment confidence. It determines the average melanin density of the skin and automatically adjusts the settings on the laser device to enhance treatment and minimize risk of over treatment. This same melanin reader can also be used with other light-based aesthetic treatments such as skin resurfacing, wrinkle reduction, scar removal and more. If you would like to learn more about this state-of-the-art technology and how laser hair removal or other light-based aesthetic treatments might benefit you, call our office for a consultation.

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I’m afraid.

Resources THE TEEN BRAIN: STILL UNDER CONSTRUCTION, National Institute of Mental Health. To order a free hard copy or to download, go to THE PRIMAL TEEN: WHAT NEW DISCOVERIES ABOUT THE TEENAGE BRAIN TELL US ABOUT OUR KIDS, 2004, Barbara Strauch. Available on SECRETS OF THE TEENAGE BRAIN, 2009, Sheryl G. Feinstein. Available on MY ANXIOUS MIND: A TEEN’S GUIDE TO MANAGING ANXIETY AND PANIC, 2009, Michael Tompkins et al. Available on

According to Dr. Chaddock, the brain grows more dense from back to front. The cerebellum, which is the lower back part of the brain, is the coordination and activity center. Dr. Chaddock says it’s this part of brain development that allows children to become more aware of and comfortable with their bodies. The nucleus accumbens is the part of the brain that controls motivation, sense of humor and pleasure seeking. “If the teen participates in certain activities and gets pleasure from them, those activities will become second nature,” Dr. Chaddock says. “If those activities or behaviors are negative — for example, drinking — but give them pleasure, they will continue them into adulthood.” The National Institute of Mental Health concurs, citing drinking during youth and intense drinking as risk factors for later alcohol dependency. The amygdala is the part of the brain that controls sense of safety and emotional well-being; it also triggers the fight-or-flight response. Dr. Chaddock says that added testosterone in the systems of both boys and girls during puberty causes more anxiety, and can result in a real disconnect between parent and child. “Parents think they are giving advice, but the kids see that as anger or hostility,” he explains. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, the parts of the brain involved in emotional responses are fully developed in teens, yet the parts of the brain that keep impulsive responses in check are still reaching maturity. This explains risk-taking behaviors such as drug and alcohol abuse and sexual experimentation. Dr. Chaddock says early onset of alcohol abuse results in a 10 to 15 percent diminishment of the hippocampus area of the brain, which affects memory. This area, located near the pre frontal cortex, is the area of the brain that develops last, reaching maturity in the mid 20s. The hippocampus acts as the executive function of the brain that controls planning, evaluation, judgment and decisions, and impulse management — all characteristics of adult behavior. Because the teen brain isn’t fully mature, Dr. Chaddock says the hippocampus can easily become overwhelmed by the other areas that govern emotion.

Treatment Anxiety disorder is a very treatable problem. Elliott says a good first step is to talk to your child. Ask open-ended questions about how things are going and how they are feeling. You may want your primary care physician to examine your child to rule out any physical problems. Then, it’s helpful for the parent to speak with a qualified mental health professional. An important part of dealing with teen anxiety is training the parent to cope.

“Sometimes, we can modify the home environment and never have to treat the child,” Elliott says. Diet also can play a role in anxiety. Processed foods, caffeine and energy drinks can produce anxiety; changing your teen’s diet may have a positive effect. Parents should manage their child’s social media time. Elliott believes there is a direct correlation between social media exposure and anxiety. It may be a good idea to limit your teen’s time on the computer and, if necessary, take away their smart phone. In some cases, it may be appropriate to talk with your child’s school counselor, and make sure nothing at school is singling your child out even more. Elliott does not recommend treating a teen with medication in most situations. “The problem I have with medications is that these are developing minds and bodies, and these are chemicals we are putting into them,” she says. Elliott notes cognitive behavioral therapy with a qualified mental health professional works well in cases of teen anxiety. Through this treatment, teens learn to use their thoughts and feelings to change the way they think, and consequently change their behavior. “Asking for help is a strength,” Elliott adds. Make sure your teen understands that talking to someone only makes them stronger; it doesn’t mean they are weak or crazy. If you have had therapy at some point in your life, consider sharing that fact with your teen. Remember, you are the role model. m

Elliott’s tips for parents 8 Validate your teen’s fears and empathize. 8 Don’t problem-solve for your teen. 8 Don’t rescue them; let them work it out for themselves unless it becomes necessary to intervene. 8 Don’t let your anxiety become your teen’s anxiety. 8 Be a good role model, acknowledge your own anxieties and demonstrate how you work through them. 8 Allow trial and error. 8 Use positive words when speaking with your teen.

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Mastering the maxi skirt


MEET THE STYLISH SISTER OF THE maxi dress — the maxi skirt. Comfy and lightweight, this flattering, floor-skimming piece says relaxed-chic. Plus, it cleverly covers your legs. Pulling together an outfit is as easy as adding a simple T and a fitted jean jacket. BY ERICA SAGON + PHOTOS BY CHRIS WHONSETLER

1. Jean jackets are back! A fitted dark-wash version is a must-have — wear it with the sleeves rolled up, too. Tommy Hilfiger denim jacket, $79.50 at Macy’s. 2. Short-sleeve shadowstripe woven top, $36.99 at Loft Outlet*. 3. Maxi skirts should graze your ankle — go any shorter and that dramatic sweeping effect will be lost. Maxi skirt, $48 at Karisma*.

4. Wedges or flats? Both look great; wedges might give you the boost you need to keep the skirt from dragging. “Wynne” wedge sandals, $59.99 at Nine West Outlet*. 5. Balance a striking graphic print with curvier, organically shaped accessories. Aviator sunglasses, $88 at Ann Taylor.


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Don’t Ruin Your Summer Vacation

Summer Travel Can Increase Your Risk for Deep Vein Thrombosis

D Jeffery P. Schoonover, M.D., FAAFP, RVT, RPVI Indiana Vein Specialists

eep vein thrombosis, or DVT, is the formation of a blood clot inside a vein deep in the body, especially in the legs. DVT may not have any symptoms but can cause pain, swelling and warmth in the leg. If untreated, people with DVT are at risk for developing a pulmonary embolism in which the blood clot breaks away and travels to the lung, which can be fatal. Approximately 600,000 people in the United States have a pulmonary embolism each year and more than 10 percent of them die from it. Pulmonary embolism occurs equally in men and women and doubles for each 10 years after the age of 60. Vacations are a particularly dangerous time for DVT because travel on an airplane, car, bus or train, increases your risk, especially if you have recently had surgery, are pregnant, are overweight or have a history of blood clots. Risk of DVT should not keep you from traveling this summer if you take these simple steps. • Studies have shown that wearing compression stockings while traveling can significantly reduce your risk for DVT. These stockings help increase venous circulation in your legs. Make sure to purchase medical grade stockings. At Indiana Vein Specialists, our staff is specially trained to fit and educate on the use of compression stockings. • Stay hydrated. Drink lots of water and avoid caffeine or alcohol because both are dehydrating. • Wear loose, comfortable clothes during the trip. • Get out of your seat every hour or two. When you walk, the muscles of the legs squeeze the veins and move blood to the heart. In an airplane it is helpful to request an aisle seat so it is easier to stretch out and move around. Get up and walk up and down the aisle as often as you can. In a car, stop at a gas station or rest area and walk around for a few minutes. • Avoid crossing your legs while you are seated because it prevents circulation and can cause blood to pool in the veins. • Move every half hour or so while you are seated. Rotate your ankles, draw circles on the ground with your toes, flex your feet and toes and raise your legs slightly and hold them in the air for a few seconds.

Taking these simple actions will decrease your risk for DVT and provide you with a happier, healthier vacation.

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Jodi at home Jodi’s style is seen throughout her 1926 Colonial Style brick home, which was recently featured on this year’s MeridianKessler Home & Garden Tour.

Jodi Pierrot, at home.

Meet Jodi Pierrot



et’s face it, we all want to look and feel our best. But sometimes we’re too busy, too oblivious, or just too lazy to figure out how to look pulled together. Until now. Kit has just what you need to discover your style and fashion sense. And her name is Jodi Pierrot.


Classic Meets Comfy Jodi’s home reflects both her personality and warm sense of style.

Here’s Jodi Chic. Smart. Loads of fun. We couldn’t think of better words to describe our new Style Consultant. She’s got a degree in apparel merchandising, and years of professional experience as a retail coordinator in the fashion industry. Best of all, Jodi knows what it takes to get the look you want (in clothes and home décor) at a price you can afford. We could say a whole lot more, but instead, we’ll just let Jodi do the talking.


You’ve lived and worked in cities like San Francisco and Chicago, how did you end up here?


I was born and raised in Newburgh, Ind., a quaint historic town on the Ohio River. I came back to be close to family.


What did you enjoy about working in the fashion industry?

So many things. I loved seeing the new lines being presented each year. I loved working under designers like Tommy Hilfiger and with stores like Macy’s and Neiman Marcus. It’s a fun, exciting job.


Did you pick up any great style tips along the way?

Definitely. The way I build my wardrobe and decorate my home is the same. I search for bargains and mix them with a splurge item. It doesn’t have to be a designer label; if you love it and it works, buy it!


Have you always loved fashion?

Yes, from a young age. I remember playing department store with my friends. We’d lay my clothes out all over my room and pretend to shop.


What do you hope to bring to Kit readers?

I am a Kit reader, so I feel like it’s a perfect collaboration. As women of a certain age, we still want to look good and fashionable, but be comfortable. I want to bring a different perspective, show people how to pull things together and find the perfect outfit for any occasions.


It all started with a rug. For her dining room, Jodi began with the rug and then accented with a neutral color scheme and classic table. Below: Vases are a perfect adornment for the windowsill.

Your home was on the Meridian-Kessler Home and Garden Tour this year, what was that like?


It was great fun. I decorated our entire home myself and met so many people during the tour.


You volunteer at Dress for Success, tell us a little bit about that.

It’s a fantastic organization [that provides attire and career development for disadvantaged women seeking employment]. I’m a personal shopper, so I help clients put together their look. It’s so rewarding, seeing a client feel so good afterwards. It gives them the extra boost they need for an interview. 39

Relaxed Style Shoes make the outfit. Jodi’s are both stylish and comfortable, a must for us all. Right: A simple wooden table paired with a modern chandelier make Jodi’s kitchen inviting.

MORE BITS AND PIECES ABOUT JODI Fashion mentor: I love Olivia Palermo, and follow a ton of fashion blogs. First fashion item ever purchased: Gloria Vanderbilt jeans. Favorite food: Junk food, it’s the worst habit. I’m trying to break it. Bucket list item: I want to go to Paris! Favorite colors: I love rich grays and camel shades in the winter. In the summer, I love anything bright and colorful. Worst style faux pas: I’ve had several, but who can forget the big hair of the 1980s? Favorite item in her closet: I could not live without my leopard and snakeskin flats; they go with everything. How she met her husband: We grew up in the same town and went to the same high school, but we actually connected years later on Facebook while I was living in San Francisco.

Simple elegance A flower-filled Oriental vase complements a wood-framed mirror. Right: neutral colors and a simple nightstand with clear glass lamp create a soothing environment for Jodi’s guest bedroom.

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Welcome to Caregiving 101

The information you need to make educated decisions as you travel with your loved one along the road ahead Helping aging parents, spouses and loved ones find the support and access the resources they need is an issue many women are currently addressing in the midst of already busy lives. According to the National Alliance for Caregiving in collaboration with AARP, more than 65 million people (that’s 29 percent of the U.S. population) provide care for a chronically ill, disabled or aged family member or friend during any given year. BY AMY LYNCH + ILLUSTRATIONS BY LIVIA CIVES

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FACT The average age of the typical caregiver is 49 years old.

The face of caregiving

Caregivers encompass all ages, ethnicities and socioeconomic strata, although the National Alliance for Caregiving and AARP state that the average age of caregivers is 49 years old (just over half of all caregivers are between the ages of 18 and 51). Typically, caregivers spend around 20 hours a week on average providing care to a loved one; for those who actually live with their care recipient, that number nearly doubles to almost 40 hours a week. It probably comes as no surprise to learn that two-thirds of all caregivers (approximately 66 percent) are women, and more than 37 percent have children or grandchildren still living at home.

How we can help Women who are currently providing care for a parent, spouse, relative or friend know first-hand how challenging the process of trying to balance career, care, family and self can be. kit is here to help. This introduction is the first article in a series we’re assembling called “Caregiving 101” to run in each issue of the magazine throughout the coming year. By providing useful information and practical advice from local experts, it’s our aim to make your caregiving situation a little bit easier. Whether you currently are a caregiver, or are realizing the possibility of stepping into that role in the near future, we hope you’ll find the info we provide beneficial.

Meet the panel

As we progress through our Caregiving 101 series, here are some of the local experts who’ll serve as resources and weigh in with valuable suggestions on a range of topics relevant to caregiving >> 44 July+August 2013

Maureen Lindley Director of Marketing, Flanner Buchanan Flanner Buchanan has been a local fixture for more than a century, providing funeral services and comfort to Indianapolis-area families since the 1880s. “We are experts on end-of-life planning,” Maureen explains. “We help caregivers who may be in the process of making decisions for elderly parents and loved ones, or need referrals for attorneys, skilled care, assistedliving facilities and other service providers. One of the most rewarding things about my job is being able to connect caregivers with the resources they need.” According to Maureen, one in four people will find himself or herself acting as a caregiver at some point during his or her lifetimes. “We’re just at the start of the aging Baby Boomer generation; caregiving is definitely an issue that’s on the rise,” she says. “For us, it’s important to be available to people who are starting to face that process.” For more information about Flanner Buchanan’s services, call (317) 387-7000 or visit

Beth Gehlhausen

Kate Kunk

Marc Adamson

Executive Director, Meals on Wheels of Hamilton County

RN, CIRS-A, Caregiver Options Counselor, CICOA Aging & In-Home Solutions

Administrator, Hancock Regional Home Health

Meals on Wheels of Hamilton County supports local residents by delivering more than 55,000 nutritious meals each year to reduce hunger and improve clients’ quality of life. As executive director, Beth’s day-to-day activities include fundraising, overseeing the meal delivery program, and working to raise awareness about the organization. “The aging population is growing so rapidly and we have to stay ahead of it,” she says. “Hardly a day goes by that I don’t talk to someone who’s dealing with an elderly parent or family member/friend. Resources have to be relevant and readily available for this population.” Through home delivery, Meals on Wheels eases the strain on caregivers. “We allow folks peace of mind in knowing that their loved one is eating a nutritious meal,” Beth says. “And there’s comfort in knowing someone is checking on your family member and providing a few minutes of conversation to brighten his or her day.” For more information about Meals on Wheels of Hamilton County, call (317) 776-7159 or visit

Indiana’s largest Area Agency on Aging, CICOA Aging & In-Home Solutions coordinates and monitors home-care services for clients and caregivers in a number of capacities. As Caregiver Options Counselor for the organization, Kate performs many duties, from responding to caregiver requests and facilitating workshops to coordinating one-on-one counseling and providing referrals. “Caregivers wear many hats and are in virtually every venue,” she says. “Caregiving has a dramatic impact on everything and everyone in this country. We want to be sure that everyone not only knows about, but also cares about and understands how to respond to caregiver issues.” In addition to her professional experience, Kate has personally observed family members providing care for grandparents and other relatives. “I have witnessed some extraordinarily difficult caregiver situations,” she says. “I have also been inspired by caregiver strength and courage.” For more information, visit or call (317) 254-3660.    

Hancock Regional Home Health strives to empower its clients, families and caregivers through a variety of physician-directed services and support mechanisms. The organization assists clients in the transition from home to a hospital, rehab or skilled nursing facility; educates clients about their medical conditions; and continuously evaluates clients’ progress, adjusting treatment plans as necessary to achieve the highest quality of life and health. “Our ultimate goal is to provide our clients with greater independence, increased safety, and improved health management in the home environment,” Marc says. As a physical therapist who has worked in both hospital and home settings, Marc has devoted his career to providing care and education for patients and their families/caregivers. “In home health, you really develop close relationships with your clients and their families,” he says. “It’s very rewarding to have such an impact on someone’s life.” For more information, call (317) 468-4522 or visit 45

FACT Approximately 65 million people per year are providing care for a chronically ill, disabled or aged family member or friend.

Jill Rusk

Carol Applegate

Tina McIntosh

Director of Business Development, RN and Case Manager at CarDon and Associates

Nurse, elder law attorney and owner, Applegate Elder Law

President and Founder, Joy’s House Adult Day Service

Applegate Elder Law safeguards the well-being of its clients by providing legal services that pertain to health, legal documents, housing and other aspects of elder care.

Joy’s House offers adult day services devoted to the safety, comfort and care of its guests (clients).

At CarDon senior living communities, associates share a commitment to enhancing clients’ wellbeing through every stage of life. CarDon and Associates also provides short-term rehabilitation services after illness, injury and surgery. The foundations of Jill’s CarDon role lie in serving as an advocate for her clients, whether she’s working on the nursing floor or acting as a case manager. “Our mission is to help patients transition in life, and still be able to maintain as much quality and function as they can,” she says. “Within that gray area where things start to change as you age, we want to keep people as safe and independent as possible. We help patients thrive in the right place at the right time.” Jill also provided care for her own mother and father through their aging processes. “Parenting a parent is when you realize the full circle of life,” she notes. CarDon offers caregiving seminars and workshops. For information, call (812) 332-2265 or visit

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Carol is not only an elder law attorney, she’s also a nurse with more than 20 years of experience, and she has served as an administrator in a longterm facility in addition to teaching psychiatric nursing. “I’ve experienced personally the task of caring for my elderly parents,” she says. “This background has prepared me to offer services for caregivers — I have compassion for my clients and for their family members who are facing this task of caring for loved ones.” Carol examines each client’s situation in a holistic way to speak to physical, emotional, financial and legal issues, and she prides herself on helping caregivers get the tools they need to address the challenges they face. Applegate Elder Law conducts educational seminars, and Carol is planning a caregiving conference in 2014. For more information, call (317) 522-1325 or visit

“Adult day service is the least expensive form of health care, and is incredibly helpful for our guests and their caregivers,” Tina says. “Caregivers know that their loved one is happy, safe and enriched, which gives them peace of mind and helps them be more productive personally and professionally.” Tina predicts the need for adult day services will grow as the population ages. “About 15 years ago, I helped care for my father long-distance, and got a taste of what it was like to be a caregiver,” she says. “Caregiving is not something everyone talks about, or knows how to talk about. I want to change that culture so that the people who are in those roles know there is support in place and they not alone.” Joy’s House offers support and education for caregivers through a number of retreats and programs. For more information, call (317) 254-0828 or visit   

Pat Fox President and CEO, Riverview Hospital Based in Noblesville, Riverview Hospital is comprised of a full-service hospital and 20 primary, immediate and specialtycare facilities located throughout Hamilton and Tipton counties. “As caregivers, we recognize the hard work and dedication that’s required to care for someone in need,” Pat says. “The demands placed on caregivers can be substantial. Because of this, we make sure to include caregivers in the conversation. And as part of our ongoing community outreach efforts, we provide them with the resources and services necessary to help them make more informed decisions.”

Are you a caregiver?

Many people who act as caregivers may not even realize that’s what they’re doing. Ask yourself, do you:

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As a nurse, Pat knows there is great joy in being able to help a loved one. “As a recent caregiver to an elderly parent, I remember the overwhelming emotional journey of guilt, hope, joy and compassion that comes with the experience,” she says. “While the struggles can be tough on our patients, it can be even harder on their loved ones. For this reason, we make sure we take the time to answer their questions and support them in their efforts.” For more information, call (317) 773-0760 or visit

Frequently call or stop by to check on a friend or loved one? Provide rides for doctor appointments, grocery shopping or errands? Cook, shop or perform chores for a loved one or friend? Help someone with bathing or dressing? Offer assistance with personal business affairs such as banking and paying bills? Provide input and support when it comes to making healthcare decisions?

If you’ve answered yes to one or more of the above questions, you are a caregiver, and you’re not alone.


Upcoming events for caregivers Strike Out Hunger Bowl-A-Thon Sunday, Aug. 18, 2 p.m. to 4:30 p.m. Meals on Wheels of Hamilton County will host its 13th annual Bowl-A-Thon at Coopers Stardust Bowl, 845 Westfield Rd. in Noblesville. Put a team together and join the fun to raise money for this worthwhile organization; proceeds will benefit the Sponsor-A-Senior Program, which provides financial assistance to those who otherwise would not be able to receive a nutritious meal. For more information, call (317) 776-7159.

A Day Away Caregiver Retreat Saturday, Aug. 24, 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. This free one-day retreat is designed to empower and educate attendees as they care for their loved one. Caregivers will find access to community resources, participate in educational sessions and receive some much-needed pampering. Lunch is included. To register, call (317) 254-0828 or email tina@

CICOA workshops CICOA offers ten workshops for caregivers, including Managing Work and Care, Managing Home and Care, Seniors and Poison: How to Stay Safe®, CICOA Services:  An Overview for Caregivers, and CareAware Options for People of Faith.

FACT Caregivers typically spend around 20 hours a week on average providing care to a loved one.

To learn more about coordinating a workshop for your group or organization, email caregivers@ or call (317) 803-6002.

Riverview Seminars Riverview Hospital sponsors a number of seminars, events and support groups to help educate and provide information to patients and their caregivers, such as participation in community events to provide health screenings. Upcoming events include joint pain seminars at the Renaissance Indianapolis North Hotel, Carmel on Aug. 27 from 6 to 7 p.m. and at the Krieg DeVault Conference Room in Riverview Hospital on Sept. 12 from 6 to 7 p.m.; a diabetes support group that meets on the second Thursday of each month; a cancer support community that hosts bi-weekly support groups; and Mended Heart meetings for heart patients, their families and caregivers on the third Thursday of each month at Riverview Hospital from noon to 2 p.m. For more information, call (317) 773-0760 or visit

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What does it mean to have a family-first philosophy? It means being committed to delivering what’s most important to seniors and their loved ones. Listening, understanding, anticipating needs and being there when you need us. We’re the CarDon family of care, with senior living communities throughout South Central Indiana. We’ve been family owned and operated since 1977, and we take as much pride in caring for your family as we do our own. Learn how putting family first bridges the gap between home and high-quality care. For information on your local CarDon community, go to

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CROPPED. . SKINNY. When it comes to denim, there’s no shortage of fits and trends to choose from this summer. If you find yourself eyeing certain jeans and thinking “Should I? Could I?” then read on. From essential cuts to this season’s trendy picks, here’s a look at what’s hot in denim and how to wear it. BY ERICA SAGON

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The fit: Very fitted throughout. What you’ll love: These are the sleek, modern balance to summer’s flowing tops and longer tunics. Leggings might seem like tricky territory, but, as with skinny jeans, it’s simply about getting the proportions of the outfit right. 


Try this: Black denim leggings are a smart buy now because they’re wearable through fall and winter with boots. And, they’re a nice alternative to stretch leggings, which can often be too casual.   In the fitting room: Try on leggings with a top you’d wear them with; it’s helpful to see the jeans at their best.


Pairing tops and shoes: Again, balance is key here, so choose loose-fitting tops. Heeled and wedge sandals are best for elongating legs.


1. Calvin Klein Jeans leggings, $69.50 at Macy’s; 2. silk paisley-print sleeveless blouse, $89.50 at Talbots; 3. Mossimo three-quarter-sleeve cardigan, $22.99 at Target; 4. “Chalyn” mini-wedge sandals, $39.99 at Nine West Outlet. 5. necklace, $24.99 at Loft Outlet*. *Find Nine West Outlet and Loft Outlet at Edinburgh Premium Outlets in Edinburgh, Ind.

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The fit: Relaxed or slim-fitting throughout, cropped to mid-calf. What you’ll love: In the middle of summer, there are days when just thinking about wearing a pair of jeans makes you sweat. Enter the cropped fit, a stylish way to keep cool. Try this: Brightly hued crops feel really fresh this season, and this time of year, you should have no trouble finding a pair on sale. Go ahead, give coral a try!


In the fitting room: Look for a pair that hits just below the widest part of your calf for the most flattering fit. Pairing tops and shoes: Navy prints and stripes are both ideal matches for summer brights, as are neutral wedges or sandals with chunky heels. 1. Calvin Klein Jeans crop fit, $69.50 at Macy’s; 2. ikat-print voile button-down shirt, $78 at C. Wonder; 3. Via Spiga “Karissa” sandals, $139.95 at DSW; 4. Cross-body bag, $34.99 at Nine West Outlet.* 5. Michael Kors sunglasses, $110 at Macy’s.

*Find Nine West Outlet at Edinburgh Premium Outlets in Edinburgh, Ind.


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The fit: Slim throughout, with a straight leg opening.


What you’ll love: Somewhere between skinny and bootcut lie straight-leg jeans, an ultra-versatile silhouette that will magically mesh with the rest of your closet. We love this styling trick that lightens up the look for summer: Roll the hem a couple of times to make a casual, not-too-perfect cuff. Try this: A dark-wash pair that hits at the ankle will become your new go-to jeans simply because you don’t have to think too hard about how to make them work.  In the fitting room: Ask yourself, “Do these jeans look polished?” The answer should be yes, even though you might dress them down from time to time.


Pairing tops and shoes: Wear these with nearly any top and shoes of any height. The narrow leg opening means that even with high heels, you won’t get that high-water look. 1.

1. Not Your Daughter’s Jeans anklelength denim, $110 at Macy’s; 2. eyelet tunic, $98 at C. Wonder; 3. Alfani silvertone stretch bracelet, $38 at Macy’s; 4. CL by Laundry “Total Thrill” wedge sandals, $39.95 at DSW. 5. Ralph by Ralph Lauren sunglasses, $124.95 at Macy’s. 4.



The fit: Semi-fitted through the thigh, with a gentle flare below the knee to the ankle.


What you’ll love: The shape is universally flattering because the extra width below the knees balances out the thighs. Avoid embellishments (whiskering, distress marks or rhinestones); you’ll find that a cleanlined pair can easily be dressed up or down. Try this: A dark-wash pair is an absolute essential for your closet, but they can feel heavy and hot in the middle of summer. Instead, try crisp white denim to freshen up your look. Nervous about wearing white? Don’t stress. The bootcut fit makes things worry-free.  In the fitting room: Check for substantial fabric, especially if it’s white — you shouldn’t be able to see the outline of the front pockets through the denim. Also, there should be no obvious pulling, stretching or rippling across the hips and thighs. 


Pairing tops and shoes: Both blousy and fitted tops work with bootcut jeans. With white jeans, a pop of color on top is the way to go. Heels and wedges in whatever height you’re comfortable with will lengthen your legs and enhance the slimming power of the bootcut fit. 1. Michael by Michael Kors bootcut denim, $79.50; 2. Tommy Hilfiger sleeveless blouse, $69.50; 3. Lauren by Ralph Lauren “Indigo” elastic-strap espadrille sandals, $69 all at Macy’s. 4. necklace, $29.99 at Loft Outlet*. *Find Loft Outlet at Edinburgh Premium Outlets in Edinburgh, Ind.

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Stats (from May 2012 to May 2013) When thinking about selling a home and how long it will take, “days on market” is at the top of any seller’s mind. Take a look at the numbers in Noblesville and compare to last year. The average number of days a listing stayed on the market in May 2012 was 97. In 2013, it was 53. What does this mean? Properties are selling quicker! Noblesville homes for sale in May 2012 totaled 202; in May 2013, that number was 193. The number of homes sold during the same time frame was 37 in 2013, compared to 26 in 2012. In short, the supply is beginning to shrink compared to years past as the demand is increasing. The average sales price-to-list price in May 2012 was 95.7 percent. In May 2013, it increases to 96.4 percent. This means Noblesville is certainly starting to see a climb in pricing. There also was a 7.7 percent increase in the median home price in May 2013 as compared to the year prior. 58 July+August 2013



Rosie’s Place – There’s nothing better than breakfast at Rosie’s on the square, with fresh baked goods, hot coffee to start the day, and several eggs Benedict dishes to choose from (good luck deciding on just one).


Matteo’s Ristorante Italiano – With delicious authentic Italian food, choosing a favorite dish is a hard decision. I love the Italian wine list as well.


Forest Park – Besides boasting the third best nine-hole golf course in Indiana (according to Golf Digest), I love this park for great hikes and picnics.


Stores on the square – With Karisma’s unique clothing and Corner Cottage’s cards, gifts and housewarming presents, the stores that line Noblesville’s town square offer a variety of material for browsing and shopping.


Stonycreek Farm and Nursery – They offer a large selection of plants for landscaping and gardening, but my favorite time of year to visit is during the pumpkin harvest when visitors can riding a hay wagon and pick the perfect pumpkin. The Country Christmas activities are worth checking out as well. Always something fun going on here to bring the family to.

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Pruning the vines at Creekbend Vineyard results in a better grape yield.

CONTRARY TO MANY POPULAR BELIEFS, CALIFORNIA’S NAPA VALLEY IS NOT THE BIRTHPLACE OF THE great American wine industry. A Swiss immigrant named Jean Jacques Dufour gets the credit for establishing the first U.S. commercial winery in the tiny southeastern Indiana town of Vevay back in the early 1800s. Although the Ohio River Valley provided an ideal terrain and climate for grape growing, Indiana’s fledgling winemaking industry declined sharply during the 1860s when farmers left their land to fight in the Civil War, and then took another hit when mildew and diseases stunted the crops. In the 1920s and early 1930s, Prohibition set the industry back yet again, and it wasn’t until the 1960s that Indiana’s winemaking efforts finally began to rebound. 59

Creekbend Vineyard supplies grapes for Oliver Winery products.

IN THE DECADES THAT HAVE FOLLOWED, A RENAISSANCE of sorts has led to the rebirth of Indiana wine. These days, the Indiana Uplands Wine Trail offers a great way to experience some of the best products the state has to offer. Ten wineries strong, the trail traverses through the south-central portion of the state from Bloomington and Brown County down through French Lick and Uniontown, then across I-64 east to New Albany. Founded in 2003, the Uplands trail strives to promote the wines and winemakers of this prolific region. Perhaps the most recognized winery in Indiana, Bloomington-based Oliver Winery is the largest operation among the list of Upland participants. Founded in the 1960s, the winery’s humble beginnings stem from the basement hobby of William Oliver, 60 July+ August 2013

a law professor at Indiana University. As Oliver’s vines grew, so did his aspirations to create a full-fledged wine enterprise. His efforts were instrumental in passing Indiana legislation that laid the groundwork for the creation of new small wineries within the state. Oliver Winery officially opened for business in 1972, with William’s son Bill taking over the reins in 1983. The rest is a Hoosier success story. Oliver Winery produces 386,000 cases of wine annually, and more than 40 varieties of Oliver wine are sold wholesale in 20 states throughout the country. The sweet Soft Red remains the company’s bestseller, followed by the Soft White and Soft Rosé. “We’ve received very high marks for our Cabernet Sauvignon,” adds Kathleen Oliver, the winery’s general manager. “In

Indiana Uplands Wine Trail stops at Oliver Winery for tours and tasting. Bill and Kathleen Oliver, left.

the estate-grown Creekbend line, our Ice Wine, Chardonnay, Chambourcin and Traminette are considered among the best for those styles.” Oliver Winery is also one of the founding members of the Uplands Wine Trail. “For us, it’s a wonderful collaboration with fellow wineries within our geographic region to highlight what we have to offer,” Kathleen describes. “Being a part of a successful wine trail

means more potential guests who are seeking out distinctive wines and winery experiences. With our recent federal designation of American Viticultural Area for the Indiana Uplands growing region, we have something special to highlight.” In addition to sourcing grapes from California, Michigan, New York, Washington and Oregon, Oliver Winery grows a full range of varieties right here in Indiana on its own Creekbend Vineyard grounds in Ellettsville. “Our climate is ideal to ripen our grapes fully,” Kathleen explains. “This allows us to create wines with bright flavors, soft acidity and full body reminiscent of wines from other warm areas such as California and Australia.” On select dates in August and September, Oliver offers guided walking tours of Creekbend Vineyard. “These tours are a unique opportunity that give guests an exclusive, up-close experience with our winemakers in the vineyard, which is rarely open to the public,” Kathleen says. “The beautiful landscape and opportunity to learn so much more about the fruit from which we make our wines make this a pre61

Cheeses and Smoking Goose meats make great wine pairings at Oliver Winery’s sleek new downtown Bloomington tasting room. 62 July+ August 2013

Industrial-chic decor lends itself to a trendy tasting experience.

mier winery experience.” Beyond the winery’s scenic original location on U.S. 37, Oliver’s new tasting room that opened on the Bloomington town square late last year provides yet another outlet where customers can enjoy wine flights, cheese, charcuterie and desserts in a modern urban setting. Never content to rest on its laurels, Kathleen says the winery is always striving to achieve new innovations and create new products. “We are currently working on packaging design changes for our multiple lines of wine,” she says. “These, along with new products, will be rolled out over the next six to 12 months. For our main tasting room, our ultimate goal is to recreate the winery into one that is not only spectacular, but functionally efficient — hopefully within the next five to eight years.” Centrally located with great restaurants, beautiful natural scenery, and charming bed and breakfasts, Bloomington makes an ideal base for an Indiana Uplands Wine Trail adventure. Round out a day or weekend on the trail with a restful stay at rustic Walnut Street Inn on the square. For sustenance, Restaurant Tallent, FARM Bloomington, Finch’s Brasserie and Feast all prove solidly satisfying choices. m Born in Richmond, Ind. and a graduate of Indiana University in Bloomington, freelance writer Amy Lynch now makes her home in Indianapolis with her young son. A member of the Midwest Travel Writers’ Association, Amy’s main hobbies include food and travel; read more about her adventures at

INDIANA UPLANDS WINE TRAIL WINERIES INDIANA’S SIGNATURE GRAPES In 2009, the Indiana Wine Grape Council unveiled the state’s first signature wine called “Traminette,” made with hybrid grapes that have been adapted to thrive in Indiana soil. Many Indiana wineries produce a Traminette varietal. The fragrant, fruity white wine is an ideal pairing for light summertime fare like chicken, fish and vegetable dishes. Other popular Indiana wine grape plantings include Chardonel; a chardonnay/ Seyval blanc blend, and Chambourcin, a hearty red grape variety.

Best Vineyards Winery 8373 Morgan’s Lane SE, Elizabeth (812) 969-9463 Brown County Winery 4520 S.R. 46 East, Nashville Nashville (812) 988-6144 Butler Winery 6200 E. Robinson Rd., Bloomington (812) 332-6660 Carousel Winery 6058 Lawrenceport Rd., Mitchell (812) 277-9750 French Lick Winery 8145 W. Sinclair St., West Baden Springs (812) 936-2293 Huber Winery and Vineyard 19816 Huber Rd., Starlight (812) 923-9463 Oliver Winery 8024 North S.R. 37, Bloomington (812) 876-5800

Creekbend Vineyard This map represents the different varietals grown at Creekbend Vineyard. Where to stay The Walnut Street Inn offers restful accommodations in downtown Bloomington.

Owen Valley Winery 491 N. Timber Ridge Rd. Spencer (812) 828-0883 Turtle Run Winery 940 St. Peters Church Rd. NE, Corydon (812) 952-2650 Winzerwald Winery 26300 N. Indian Lake Rd., Bristow (812) 357-7000




hen I set out to write my book Passing On Hope, one of the greatest odysseys of my life, my confidence was rocked. I believe it was actually an act of grace that I had no idea the extremes I would endure between the first time I put pen to paper to the moment I would hold my book in my hands two and a half years later. I had to lose myself to find myself, and boy oh boy, being lost sucked. There were lows when I felt like my existence in the world had no impact and it wouldn’t matter if I dropped off the face of the earth. One afternoon, I went into my late-husband’s office in tears. He was on the computer and when he looked up to see me upset, he immediately asked, “What’s the matter?” He reached out to hold me, which was just what I needed as I descended into a full-on meltdown. In my crying voice, I tried to explain all that was bubbling up — missing my old life in which I knew what I was doing, wondering what I was thinking when I decided to write this stupid book and ultimately, feeling like my shit doesn’t matter. In a husband-of-the-millennium moment, he assured me that my shit DOES matter. Saying it over and over again until I believed him, until I remembered. He didn’t try to stop my emotional explosion that needed to come out, and he didn’t jump on the crazy train with me. He simply reminded me that I mattered, and that my life was meaningful. Later that day, renewed and full of hope, I went back into my office to write. John had left me a gift. Scrolling across my laptop screen in bright bold red letters was a message that said “Gee, your shit matters... I love you, John xoxo.” Those words are forever written in my heart. To be human is to be insecure. All of us have moments when we question the value of our own lives and forget the magnificence we are. What a wonderful act of love and service we give each other in reminding each other that we matter. We all matter.  m Kathy McHugh is the author of Passing On Hope, a book of healing stories about her walk of liberation from the pain of the past through the transformative power of love. Kathy reminds others to “love your life” every single day, no matter what. You can contact Kathy at and check out her website:

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Who is the one person you can always count on to mirror the beauty of who you are and to sing the song that lies in your heart when you have forgotten the words? 


Remind yourself as you climb out of bed every morning — I matter. Remind yourself throughout your day — I matter. At the end of your day, look for the evidence to remind yourself — I matter.



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