Well, that's how 'worry' is defined! 'Worry' and 'anxiety' cause a lot of suffering to people of all ages, in all walks of life. Worry may stem from a particular threat but anxiety is free-floating. When these conditions persist it can lead to a constant state of tension accompanied by sleep disturbances and inefficient functioning. As the persons become overly sensitive, it can even trigger off interpersonal conflicts and end up in nervous break-downs. HERE ARE SOME OF THE CAUSES Insecurity: A person may have gone through lots of negative criticism, as a result, even before doing something he/she looks for criticism and becomes anxious. Negative Self-talk: Because of the fear of rejection, the interpretation of the responses also becomes hay-wire. The anxious person says, “I don't know what's wrong with me. After sometime my friends will avoid me” instead of thinking, “Well, this is the third time Mr. X is hurrying past me. Is he really busy or is he upset over something I said. I should stop and ask him next time!” Conflicting Expectations: When young people face inconsistent people at home/school they are at a loss. One parent/teacher expects one thing and the other expects the opposite and this can confuse the child a lot and causes anxiety. Fear of Failure and Punishment: When a person is gripped by the possibility of failure, that can trigger anxiety and worry. Likewise, young people worry a lot about committing mistakes and subsequent punishments. WHAT DO WE DO? The human mind, very often, pictures God after the images of parents and parental figures. Hence the mind of an anxious person knows that God loves, forgives, is just and never leaves us helpless. But the seat of the emotions cannot take the leap of faith. As a result however much one prays, anxiety pops its head. Here are some suggestions: Try to do some introspection with the Spirit of God or with the help of an understanding friend. Forgive parents or parental figures who would have unintentionally caused anxiety long before adulthood and thus have contributed towards an anxious personality. Intentionally change the negative thought patterns through positive self-talk. Do personal Bible studies on the character of God and internalize the lessons you learn. If the image of God you have is not Biblical, change it. Take periodical breaks from your routine and learn to relax. Dr. Adalyn George. Adalyn is a retired professor of English, Women’s Christian College, Nagercoil.
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