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Leadership Principles from God’s Word:

Winning with People Module 301 D Mario Denton Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


Passage to memorize Acts 2: 44-47 ‌Everyday they continued to meet in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts, praising God and enjoying favour of all the people

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


The Lens PrincipleWho we are determines how we see others

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


Five things that determine who we are • • • •

Genetics Self-image Experiences in Life Attitudes and experience about those experiences • Friends

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


Ask yourself: What is your perception of others? “ I may not be able to change the world I see around me, but I can change what I see within me”

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


The Mirror PrincipleThe first person we must examine is ourselves

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


The mirror test • The first person I must know is myselfself awareness • The first person I must get along with is myself- self-image • The first person to cause me problems is myself- self-honesty • The first person I must change is myselfself-improvement • The first person that can make difference is myself- self-responsibility Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


Ask yourself: Have you examined yourself and do you know who you are? “ Coping with difficult people is a problem, especially if the difficult person happens to be you.”

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


The Pain PrincipleHurting people hurt people and are easily hurt by them

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


Truths about hurting people • There are many hurting people • Those hurting people often hurt people • Those hurting people are often hurt by people • Those hurting people often hurts themselves Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself- Herman Hesse

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


“ He who cannot forgive others breaks the bridge over which he must pass himself” George Herbert

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


Healthy versus hurting people • Healthy people are more willing to change, to admit failure, to discuss issues, to learn from others, to do something about the problem and to travel light

• Hurting people are less willing to change, to admit failure, to discuss issues, to learn from others, to do something about the problem and carrying a lot of baggage

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


Hurting people overreact, over exaggerate, overprotect and over influence

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


Dealing with hurting people • Don’t take it personally • Look beyond the person for the problem • Look beyond the situation • Do not add to their hurt • Help them find help

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


Ask yourself: Do you hurt people or are you to easily hurt by them? “ Whenever someone says or does something hurtful, you need to go beneath the surface.”

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


The Hammer PrincipleNever use a hammer to swat a fly off someone’s head

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


“ The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing at the right place, but to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment” Dorothy Nevill

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


Trade in your hammer for a velvet glove • Let the past stay in the past • Ask yourself: IS my reaction part of the problem

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


Trade in your hammer for a velvet glove • Remember that actions are remembered long after words are forgotten • Never let the situation mean more than the relationship • Treat love one with unconditional love • Admit wrongs and ask forgiveness Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


Ask yourself: Would others say you overreact to small things in a relationship? “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


The Elevator PrincipleWe can lift people up or take people down in our relationships

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


What kind of person are you? • Some people add something to lifewe enjoy them • Some people subtract something from life- we tolerate them • Some people multiply something in life- we value them • Some people divide something in life- we avoid them Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


Take others to a higher level • Lifters commit themselves to daily encouragement • Lifters know the difference between hurting and helping • Lifters initiate the positive in a negative environment • Lifters understand life is not dress rehearsal Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


Ask yourself: Would others say you lift them up or take them down? “Friendship consists of a willing ear, an understanding heart and a helping hand- Frank Tyger.”

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


Prayer Focus • Father, I ask you to give me a complete understanding of what you want to do in my life, and I ask you to make me wise with spiritual wisdom. • I roll my works upon You, and You make my thoughts agreeable to your will and so my plans are established and succeed. • I have the mind of Christ and hold the thoughts, feelings and purposes of His heart. Amen Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


Jesus said: Take what I have given you and change the world!

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


CD-ROM copyright • You are free to copy this material. Should you wish to become part of this winning concept, the following will apply: • Please commit yourself to inform us of the results regarding the effectiveness thereof. • Full acknowledgement must be given to the author(s) in writing. Please bring the following information in at the end of your presentation of any of the material that you used from the CD. Special recognition Denton, M, Self Paced Authentic Leadership Website: http://www.strongmessage.co.za marden@mweb.co.za Cell +27 82 88 29903

Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People


Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Winning with People

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