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Kindred Sisters “Giving Women a Voice” April 2012
MARK YOUR CALENDARS! The 20th Annual LESBIAN VARIETY SHOW IS COMING! Saturday, April 14th 8:00 pm Where? The Thelma Boltin Center, Gainesville, FL Brainstorm with your friend to write a skit. They make us laugh! Develop a funny story line about our lives. Want to talk about it? Want encouragement? Call one of us and discuss. You will have so much fun!!!! And think of all the adoring womyn who will be watching you up on that stage…… There is nothing like being a room full of 225+ Womyn! •Skits, singers, dancers, comedians, diversity, inter-generational .....FUN! •Be the audience and/or put your act on stage. •Come join YOUR COMMUNITY FOR MORE INFORMATION: 1) email@example.com 2) Check Kindred Sisters and Wild Iris Books 3) Facebook: LV Show
4) to get your act signed up on stage, call Madeline at 352-335-3138 5) to place an ad in the program, call Ruth at 352-538-4927
Cover: Many thanks to Jennifer Wester of Gainesville, FL for the photo on our cover. It was taken in the Butterfly Rainforest at the Florida Museum of Natural History in Gainesville.
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All Things Wild Iris View our full event calendar at wildirisbooks.com Transgender Support Group - 4/4/12, 7-9pm Open meeting for transgender people and allies. Come discuss issues and support each other in a safe space. David Mather, Book Reading/Signing 4/7/12, 1-3pm Join us for local author David Mather as he reads from and signs his new book, One for the Road. Tom Young wants to make a difference in the world. He joins the Peace Corps and is sent to an impoverished farm community in remote southern Chile where a reforestation project is the compesinos' only hope for a better future. One for the Road is Mather’s debut novel. Pagan Group Meet-Up - 4/11/12, 7-9pm Open meeting for the Pagan community. All are welcome. Feminist Book Club - 4/17/12, 7-8pm This reading group is free and open to anybody who is interested. This month we will discuss A Room of One’s Own by Virginia Wolfe. Join this reading group as we read some of the top feminist books and then come together to discuss how they influence our lives. Mention that you’re purchasing the title to participate in the reading club and you’ll save 10% off the purchase price. Some of us will gather before the meeting from 6-7pm for dinner and drinks from Cafe Colette – and we invite you to join us for good eats to fuel our minds for discussion time.
Living History - 4/18/12, 7pm More details to follow – check out the wildirisbooks.com online event calendar and our Facebook page! Wild Iris Books will join up again with UF to host an event dedicated to sharing stories of our lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender members. Come discuss family, and listen to stories of families and families of choice. This is sure to be a night of powerful storytelling and solidarity – so don’t miss it! Feminist Open Mic 4/24/12, 7:30pm Calling all performers!! Join us for Feminist Open Mic hosted by Johnny Rocket. All creative performances welcome! Café Colette will have food and beverages available for sale. Joe Haldeman Book Reading/Signing 4/28/12, 2-4pm Mark your calendars because local author Joe Haldeman will be hanging out with Wild Iris Books reading from his new book Earthbound and autographing copies! If you're not in the know about Joe - he is the youngest writer to be named a Grand Master by the Science Fiction and Fantasy Writers of America and has earned steady awards over his 43-year career. In short, he's amazingly talented. His novels The Forever War and Forever Peace both made clean sweeps of the Hugo and Nebula Awards, and he has won three more Hugos and Nebulas for other novels and shorter works.
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Lesbian Hockey Fan’s HalfHalf-Time Proposal A lesbian couple stole the half-time show at a Canadian ice hockey match with a surprise wedding proposal. During the Toronto Maple Leafs versus Ottawa Senators hockey game, on Saturday 17 March, the lucky girl wearing a Maple Leafs jersey was led onto the ice and shown the scoreboard above the rink that read: ‘My love for you is a journey, starting at forever and ending at never. You’re my world Zing, XOX.’ Her girlfriend, wearing a Senators scarf, made her way onto the ice, got down on bended knee and asked for her hand in marriage. The clever proposal even included the mascot, a lion, who held up a sign announcing ‘She said yes!’
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Earth Pottery by Alicia Lewis Wild Iris Books is happy to announce another relationship with a local vendor… Enter Alicia Lewis and her beautiful handmade pottery! Alicia is a long-time Wild Iris supporter and you can even find her performing her poetry at our monthly Feminist Open Mic. Stop by and check out her pieces, they make perfect gift ideas for someone special or for when you want to treat yourself! What Alicia Wants YOU to Know About Earth Pottery:
I hope you enjoy all my hand made items molded from the mountain earth of West Virginia. I spent many hours perfecting a technique for your visual pleasure.
Each piece was hand built and materialized from my inner creative spirit, each offering its own unique expression in form, shape, size, and color.
My dream is for you to find the one that speaks to you for keeps and/or to share. If you desire something specific please look again; Florida made pieces will be coming next Spring! You can contact Alicia at firstname.lastname@example.org excerpt from www.blog.wildirisbooks.com Kindred Sisters — April 2012
TV's First Bisexual Action Heroine
Emily Deschanel Plays Lesbian by Tracy E. Gilchrist
The pickup of the Canadian thriller Lost Girl by the SyFy channel isn't just good news for series fans, but for fans of complex, grown-up, sexy sci-fi storylines. The series is in its second season on its Canadian home, Showcase. Last year SyFy picked up the show and plans to air at least the first two seasons, starting from the beginning. It has been compared to such cult hits as Buffy the
Vampire Slayer and gained a world-wide following already.
Lost Girl has given us one of TV's first bisexual action heroines. Bo is a succubus who feeds off sexual energy. Bo has had and fed off of male and female lovers, though her primary relationships have been with wolf shifter Dyson and human doctor Lauren. Lost Girl airs at 10 p.m. Mondays on SyFy. It will continue airing its second season at 9 p.m. Sundays on Showcase in Canada. excerpt from www.afterellen.com
The official trailer has dropped for director Anne Renton’s The Perfect Family, the film festival hit that stars Kathleen Turner as Eileen Cleary, a Catholic mom vying for the title of Catholic Woman of the Year. Bones’ Emily Deschanel plays Eileen’s lesbian daughter in the throes of planning her wedding to her partner, played by Angelique Cabral. If a lesbian daughter weren't enough to hinder her shot at the title Eileen’s wayward son, played by Jason Ritter, and alcoholic
husband, add to her woes as she goes up against her nemesis Agnes Dunn (Sharon Lawrence) for a shot at Catholic Woman of the Year. Out actor Richard Chamberlain, who famously played a priest in the mini series The Thorn Birds, dons the robes again to play a monsignor. The film is set for release in theaters May 5. Watch the trailer at: http://www.shewired.com/box-office/2012/03/15/ emily-deschanel-plays-lesbian-perfect-familywatch-trailer
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It All Depends! by Nancy Breeze
Recently I was pushing my shopping cart toward the woman who went to buy some 20-something male cashier in the supermarket. Kotex (no tampons in that era, either.) And the clerk was a Among the items he would be retrieving from the young man, a few years older than I. conveyor belt and ringing up, would be that huge package labeled 'Depend!' When I hesitantly asked him to get the one item I needed, I used the customary euphemism of the I tried not to feel embarrassed / defensive! times, 'sanitary napkins.' And he returned to the And remembered what it was like in the ‘40s for a counter with what we would call 'dinner table’ napkins, the kind you might find under your fork at a young teen to purchase what today would be found in the ‘feminine care’ aisle. restaurant. If you were not of shopping age in the ‘40s, you might not know that supermarkets were yet to be invented. Instead one went to the 'grocery store,' where a clerk stood behind a counter and asked what you wanted. You either told him or gave him your list. First he would go back and search the long shelves behind him to retrieve the needed items and bring them up to the counter. Then he would calculate how much you owed, collect the money, and present you with the (paper) bagged merchandise. (Back then clerks were almost always male.) That's the way it was done, and it worked pretty well. That is, until you happened to BE the 14-year-old
Now, really embarrassed, I had to explain to him what it was that I actually meant. Good thing I was the only customer in the store! And, although I can't remember what words finally brought the correct 'napkins' to the counter, it is a memory which still can bring me a blush today, at least 65 years later! Now, I cheerfully hoisted the 'protection while active, moderate absorbency underwear' up for the clerk. He looked really bored, and seemed oblivious to the whole situation, concluding our interaction with the standard, "Have a nice evening." One of those times when it paid to be an 'invisible old woman?'
In the Spotlight Chaz Bono Chaz Bono (b. 1969), the child of one of the most flamboyant couples to emerge from the 1960s rock scene, came out as a lesbian shortly after finishing high school in 1987. By the 1990s, she had become a prominent lesbian activist. Soon after her fortieth birthday, Bono underwent genderreassignment surgery and continues to be a prominent and highly visible advocate for the GLBTQ community. excerpt from www.glbtq.com
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The Very Queer Variety Show Friday, April 6, 2012 8:00 pm For the third year in a row, the Very Queer Variety Show presents some of Gainesville's most sensational and seductive entertainment. Last year's show featured mythical creatures such as mermaids, unicorns, werewolves, and other tranimals. This year's menagerie, Close Encounters of the Queer Kind, welcomes intergalactic cast of characters performing drag, burlesque, live music, skits, circus acts and more. Close Encounters not only showcases fierce local queer artists, but also attracts far-flung entertainers such as SOFUQD, South Florida United Queer Dancers, and Tomfoolery of the Faerie Eggplant Players from Tennessee. Traditionally held in the glow of the full moon, the mothership will land promptly at 8:00 pm on Friday, April 6, 2012 at Spin Cycle (424 W University Ave). Contributions of $5 to $20 (sliding scale) will benefit Gran Lakou an LGBTQ dance troupe in Gainesville's sister city (Jakmel, Haiti) as well as Spectrum, a local organization that raises awareness about transgender issues.
"Just Us" "Just Us" was created for professional women 35+ to meet, mingle, and match up personalities - we meet the last Saturday of the month @ different restaurants, mostly in Volusia county there is no fee to join - so come along for the fun, food & the folks - my motto is "No mess, no men, no fuss, it's "Just Us". Contact Dee @ email@example.com
Performers, earthling or extraterrestrial, should contact Kentucky at firstname.lastname@example.org to sign up. Page 6
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Just For Fun Eve’s Secret with the Creator One day in the Garden of Eden, Eve calls out to God. “Lord, I have a problem!” “What’s the problem, Eve?” “Lord, I know you created me and provided this beautiful garden and all of these wonderful animals and that hilarious comedic snake, but I’m just not happy.” “Why is that, Eve?” came the reply from above. “Lord, I am lonely, and I’m sick to death of apples.” “Well Eve, in that case, I have a solution. “I shall create a man for you.” “What’s a man, Lord?” “This man will be a flawed creature, with many bad traits. He’ll lie, cheat, and be vain and all in all, he’ll give you a hard time. But… he’ll be bigger and faster, and will like to hunt and kill things. He will look silly when he’s aroused, but since you’ve been complaining, I’ll create him in such a way that he will satisfy your physical needs. He will be witless and will revel in childish things like fighting and kicking a ball about. He won’t be too smart, so he’ll also need your advice to think properly.” “Sounds great.” says Eve, with a suspiciously raised eyebrow. What’s the catch, Lord?” “Well…you can have him on one condition.” “What’s that, Lord?” “As I said, he’ll be proud, arrogant, and selfadmiring…So you’ll have to let him believe that I made him first. Just remember, it’s our little secret…You know, woman to woman.” excerpt from www.acelebrationofwomen.org Kindred Sisters — April 2012
Self-Diagnosis, Part One by Woody Blue
These days, trying to dodge chronic illnesses, medical conditions, disorders and infectious diseases is like trying to walk in the rain without getting wet. It can be done---walking under an umbrella or wearing a wetsuit might help. But if the rain is prolonged and never lets up, chances are you’re gonna get wet. So even though I’d like to think differently, realistically I live in a world of toxic substances that have invaded the air, water and soil affecting my body. Environmental pollution isn’t the end of it. Plastics which emit fumes, mercury fillings that never stop emitting vapors to the brain, foods that have been genetically modified and not labeled, electromagnetic radiation stress blanketing the earth in the form of cell towers and satellite dishes. We are walking in the rain; staying dry is a pipedream.
then months, and then worsens, we begin to take it more seriously. We could say the body has been politely pointing out a vitamin deficiency or a stressed out internal organ in small ways. Sometimes the clues are very small… ridges on your fingernails, fungal growth under the toenails, excessive blushing, a receding hairline. Some symptoms are brushed off as age-related, like failing eyesight, rotten teeth, a faulty memory. When people complain about age-related symptoms, I argue that eyes shouldn’t be giving out after 40 years, teeth shouldn’t be crooked, abscessed, or breaking off throughout our lives, that our bones might show some wear after 50 years, but they shouldn’t be brittle, weak, or immovable. It’s not natural for our lungs to be congested, for polyps and cysts to decorate our internal organs, for hearts to seize up, and to be always tired. These are problems we live with because we don’t know how to fix them.
With the introduction of pharmaceuticals, technology-based medicine, and corporate profit for healthcare, we have incorporated inefficiency, malpractice, corporate-controlled science and medical education and a general distrust of the western medicine model for healthcare. Western medical practices are great if you’re in a car accident; not so good at recognizing autoimmune symptoms.
So how do we figure it out? The next few articles will be about self-diagnosis, something healthcare professionals tell us not to do. The way they see it, it makes life difficult for them when someone finally comes in months and years as symptoms are developing. Then it’s too late for preventive medicine practices or easy solutions. A full-blown problem is on their doorstep. What they fail to This article is about self-diagnosis. A nagging take into account is that many people do make headache, a rash, dry eyes, a foggy brain and lifestyle changes that have a positive effect on other symptoms that won’t go away indicate that their health, whether or not it alleviates the our body is unable to ward off something harmful. presenting symptom. In other words they are Health care can run into exorbitant costs, with or practicing preventive medicine without a license. I without insurance. If there isn’t a straightforward say, good for them. problem, like a heart attack, severe vomiting or hemorrhaging, inability to breathe, etc, most of us There remains the problem of symptoms that try to wait out a bothersome symptom. won’t go away; instead they worsen. It’s often quite difficult to come up with a correct diagnosis, If the annoying symptom lingers for weeks and even for a professional. It’s a tricky business Page 8
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without the training or the resources to do so. However, I recognize that people feel forced into taking health matters into their own hands for various reasons and are exasperated with the profit-driven medical system in this country.
me.com/ta-q.html which will help you sort out your symptoms through a 900 question form. The answers are fed into a computer, which sorts it all out and tells you which parts of your body are losing function. Some info is free. If you pay $25 - $77, you can get more information and have a licensed doctor analyze the results and answer The first place many people go questions. I have a similar program that for information is to their family and friends with lists 220 questions and graphs out the results, similar problems to find out what they’ve which has helped many get started on a health uncovered. This often results in some home regime specific to themselves. I’ve found these remedies that relieve the symptom(s) somewhat questionnaires to be a helpful tool for clients to but may not get to the root of the problem. get a clearer idea of their health issues. The next place is the Internet. It’s easy to get bogged down with too much information, especially when the information is conflicting. How can scientific reports conflict so much? Those who believe in science end up reading research papers funded secretly by Big Pharma or by scientists that have not followed good science procedures. There is a lot of anecdotal evidence which isn’t scientifically proven but seems to work. There are a few authentic studies with good information sprinkled into the info biomass. And many scientists and whistleblowers are discredited and punished financially when they publish results that contradict a popular belief. It will eat up many hours of time. It’s difficult to sort out.
I’ve learned that most people will work to fix a health problem if they truly understand what the problem is. I’ve run out of space again and there’s loads more to discuss so I’ll give more info in the next article. Take heart, there is a growing community of health-conscious people working to bring the resources to those in need for affordable prices or for free. Remember, healthcare is a right, not a privilege. Woody Blue is a holistic health counselor specializing in massage and nutrition. You can contact her at 352-375-0539 for more info.
Eventually, a person will find the websites they trust to give good, accurate information. I have some personal favorites, which include the Weston A Price Foundation, Dr Mercola, and the orthomolecular society, founded by Nobel Prize winner, Linus Pauling. An offshoot of this last one is one called Doctoryourself.org. I don’t always agree with everything on these sites but I trust them to give good information. There is a website, http://www.diagnoseKindred Sisters — April 2012
Support Starbucks - They Support Gay Marriage Starbucks' support for same-sex marriage has earned the endorsement of the nation's largest lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) civil rights organization. The Human Rights Campaign (HRC) has spoken out in defense of the Seattle-based coffee chain after the National Organization for Marriage (NOM) launched its international "Dump Starbucks" campaign. "Starbucks has been a vocal supporter of marriage equality for loving same-sex couples –views that are in-line with the majority of Americans –- and that enrages NOM," HRC President Joe Solmonese said in a statement. "As a result, NOM is throwing a temper-tantrum and encouraging its few supporters to intentionally harm the economic well-being of Starbucks employees all over the world." Starbucks declared its support for same-sex marriage during Washington state's marriage equality push in January. "This important legislation is aligned with Starbucks business practices and upholds our belief in the equal treatment of partners," Kalen Holmes, Starbucks' Executive Vice President, said in a statement to the Seattle Times. "We are deeply dedicated to embracing diversity and treating one another with respect and dignity, and remain committed to providing an inclusive, supportive and safe work environment for all of our partners." As Solomonese pointed out, Starbucks was joined by other well-known corporations in supporting marriage equality in Washington state that time, including Amazon, Google, Microsoft and Nike. "People like [NOM's president] Brian Brown and Maggie Gallagher no doubt use products from the dozens of consumer-facing brands Apr 13-14: Contra Dance Weekend that have come out in support of marriage equality and Apr 18, 10am: Coffee Talk hosts against Proposition 8 on a daily basis," he added. "Do they not have any Microsoft software in their office? Do they Real Estate Agents & Brokers ban employees from owning iPhones?" All realtors are invited to attend and bring Brown announced the "Dump Starbucks" campaign business cards to hand out. There will be earlier this week. Supporters of the campaign will music, snacks, coffee, and lots of chat. reportedly distribute ads throughout the U.S., the Middle East and southeast Asia calling for customers to boycott Apr 24, 7pm: Celtic Harp & the chain. Bamboo Flute Concert ($10) "We will not tolerate an international company attempting to force its misguided values on citizens," Apr 27, 7:30pm: Brown is quoted by The Miami Herald as saying. "The Patchwork Concert ($10) majority of Americans and virtually every consumer in some countries in which Starbucks operates believe that marriage Apr 28, 7:30pm: is between one man and one woman. They will not be HuDost Concert ($10) pleased to learn that their money is being used to advance gay marriage in society." May 5, 7:30 pm: Peter Rowan Concert ($25) Added Jonathan Baker, head of NOM’s Corporate Fairness Project and a Starbucks stockholder: “It's ironic Refreshments available at all events. that even as Starbucks endorsed gay marriage here, its website on involvement in the Middle East claims the Shake Rag Art & Culture Center corporation does not, 'support any political or religious SR 26 and Grove St in Melrose, FL cause.' Lying to your customers is never a good business 352-475-2924, www.shakeragarts.org model."
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Gainesville Area AIDS Project GAAP was started in September of 1993 when around 25 Persons Living With AIDS (PLWAs), caregivers, and friends joined together to consider the unmet needs of PLWAs in the Gainesville area. Two factors quickly became apparent -- people wanted a location where they could go for support and social activities, and they wanted to avoid the hassles of paperwork! By December of 1993, GAAP had begun a drop-in center at Trinity United Methodist Church, meeting on Tuesdays and Fridays for brown bag lunches, games, and hugs from the "Mothers of GAAP." Today, GAAP is open two days a week; on Tuesdays for lunch from noon to 2 p.m. and on Friday after 5:30 p.m. for dinner, which is served at 6:00 p.m. We are located in the Liberty Center at 3131 NW 13th Street in Gainesville. GAAP is run solely by volunteers and has no paid staff. We have no federal or state grants and rely solely on the generosity of the community for our financial needs. Each month we publish a newsletter, which is mailed to over 600 addresses. Another 200 are distributed throughout the community. Since we are a volunteer 501(c)3 organization, we depend on the community (everyone: local, national, and international) for support in all aspects of our work. Wherever you live, whatever you do, we will be happy recipients of your donations of money, time, food, TREE products, and love.
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TREE Program GAAP runs The Replenishment of Everyday Essentials (TREE) program. Once a month, we distribute necessities that food stamps will not pay for. Just about everything and anything non-food is welcome, but the following list is considered most essential:
Laundry detergent & fabric softener Shampoo and body wash or soap Shaving cream and disposable razors Toothpaste, toothpaste, and dental floss Bathroom tissue, facial tissue, paper towels, adult diapers, and baby wipes Household cleaning supplies (toilet cleaner, scouring powder, tub and tile cleaner, etc) Antibacterial hand sanitizer and bleach
In order to provide these essential household needs, we must rely exclusively on the donations of product and funds from the local community. Please consider making a tax deductible donation today. Product donations may be dropped off at the Pride Community Center at 3131 NW 13th Street (Suite 62) between 3pm and 7pm, Monday through Friday, or by calling 352-373-4227.
Domestic Violence in Lesbian and Bisexual Relationships by Kathy Belge
For Kelly A. Blasko, the issue of lesbian domestic violence is real. She had a close lesbian friend who was in a violent relationship. Kelly A. Blasko is also an expert in the field of lesbian and same-sex domestic violence. Her masters and dissertation research is on same-sex intimate partner violence. Specifically she focused on how therapists can adequately assess same-sex intimate partner violence and provide the necessary interventions. She also wrote a chapter on lesbian intimate partner violence in the book Lesbian Health 101, which is how we found her. Kelly spoke to us about the issue of same-sex domestic violence and intimate partner violence. Lesbian Life: I was quite shocked to read in Lesbian Health 101 that 30-40% of lesbians have been in at least one physically abusive relationship. Is this statistic higher than for the general public? If so, why more violence amongst lesbian couples? Kelly A. Blasko: The actual prevalence of lesbian intimate partner violence has been difficult to determine. Many studies that have tried to determine prevalence include very small nonrandom samples. Based on data from the National Violence Against Women Survey, Tjaden, Thoennes & Allison (1999) reported that 11.4% of female same-sex cohabitants (n =79) were physically assaulted by a female partner. It is believed that the actual incidence is higher but how much higher is unknown. Many lesbians are unwilling to report being physically abused in a relationship for several reasons.
First, intimate partner violence is viewed as a “heterosexual” issue and revealing their own abuse could fuel negative stereotypes of the lesbian community. Second, finding help can be difficult. It is not unusual for professionals, friends, families, and other third-party resources to deny that intimate partner violence is an issue that occurs in lesbian couples. Third, many lesbians fear seeking help because they not only have to reveal that they are in an abusive relationship but may experience homophobia when “coming out” to a someone who could help.
What are some factors that contribute to domestic violence for lesbians? Intimate partner violence is about power and control. Feeling out of control in a lesbian relationship can be a big factor in contributing to physical abuse. Many abusers retain a feeling of control by physically or psychologically abusing their partners. Control is thought to be a contributing factor to violent behavior given the context of lesbians living in a community where they may feel both internal and external oppression related to their sexual orientation. Lesbian relationships that are enmeshed can often be abusive. A lack of autonomy can result in a power struggle where one partner may end up being abusive. What is psychological abuse? Psychological abuse can be used as a control tactic in abusive relationships and can often precede physical abuse. Psychological abuse refers to behavior that threatens or harms a partner just short of Page 12
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physical abuse. Some types of psychological abuse include verbal threats, isolation from friends, demeaning comments, or destruction of property. In all cases, these tactics are used to maintain control and power in the relationship. One psychological threat unique to lesbian relationships is the threat of outing their partner to family, friends, or co-workers. Often this is a big enough threat to maintain secrecy of the abuse. Lesbian couples can be isolated from the community and a partner psychologically abusing their partner will use that isolation to their advantage. What can a friend or co-worker of someone who is in an abusive relationship do? A friend or co-worker can help by working with their lesbian friend to figure out ways to be safe. Usually this means looking at ways for them to escape from harm. It is important for a friend or co-worker to believe their friend when they report their abuse. A lesbian reporting abuse is quite a big step and if they are not believed they may give up from trying to get help. Work with your friend to find help. Many areas do not have domestic shelters or police forces that recognize lesbian intimate partner violence. Therapists and health professionals may be good referrals as a first step in the help seeking process. Empower your friend to make choices about what they want to do. Offering choices and options can help a friend see ways to get out of the harmful situation they are in. Where can lesbians turn for help if they are the victim of domestic violence? Unfortunately not many services exist to help lesbians in violence situations. Some domestic violence agencies specific to lesbians are available in urban areas but not usually in rural areas. Domestic violence shelters often accept lesbians seeking help. Sometimes they are faced with a dilemma because both the victim and perpetrator may ask for help at the same time. Many lesbians seek help from friends and family. This may be a good first step so they have an ally to help them find ways to be safe until they can get the professional care they may need. More domestic violence hotlines are becoming helpful to lesbian victims when they reach out. Can the relationship ever be saved? This is a really tough question. Within the mental health profession there are mixed views on this. Obviously when there is intimate partner violence the power in the relationship is unbalanced. One partner is controlling the other through physical or psychological harm. An outside observer could automatically think, “They need to leave the relationship.” As a psychologist I would not want my client to be physically harmed and would do everything to keep her safe. Each relationship is different and whether it can be “saved” really depends on reestablishing balance in the relationship and removal of all physical and psychological controlling behaviors. excerpt from www.lesbianlife.about.com Kindred Sisters — April 2012
WhatÊs Happening? Apr TBA: Moonhaven Mystery School for Women Check www.flashsilvermoon.com for dates. The class will meet for 4 consecutive Mon evenings 79:30pm at Moonhaven in Melrose. $62 for 4 sessions. Call Now to Reserve Your Space! If you have always wanted to join a wonderful group of women to learn and develop your psychic and healing abilities in an empowered and safe space, This One's For You! Apr 1, 5pm: Women’s Dinner & Movie Relax with the gals, enjoy a nice dinner, & catch a movie -- all for just $5! Can you think of a better way to spend a Sunday evening?! See full details on outside back cover. Apr 3, 6-8pm: Silver Springs’ Future Public forum on water consumption & the Adena Springs Ranch water permit. Get Informed! Stay Involved! It’s YOUR water! Ewers Century Center Klein Conference Room at College of Central Florida. Free & open to the public. Apr 6, 6pm: Full Moon in Libra Jam Potluck and music at Moonhaven in Melrose. RSVP and get directions: 352-475-2432. Apr 6, 8pm: The Very Queer Variety Show The Very Queer Variety Show presents some of Gainesville's most sensational and seductive entertainment. This year's menagerie, Close Encounters of the Queer Kind, welcomes intergalactic cast of characters performing drag, burlesque, live music, skits, circus acts and more. Held at Spin Cycle, 424 W University Ave. Sliding Scale: $5 to $20. email@example.com Apr 6, 10pm: Get Spunky at Spannks w/the Roller Rebels Come out for a night with the girls of GRR. Help support the teams travels!!! Arrive early to enjoy the Free Keg. Pre-sale tickets from Derby Girls and through Paypal @ sponsorships@gainesvillero llerrebels.com. $5/adv, $7/door. There will be dancing, shot bottles, dancing, derby girls, and more dancing!! Spannk, 15 SW 2nd St, Gainesville.
Apr 7, 11-2pm: Easter Adventure to Benefit Paws on Parole and Gainesville Rabbit Rescue! Prize Eggs will be hidden all over the store for you, your kids or your dogs to hunt and find! There will be a prize in every egg so everyone gets something! Special prizes include free stuff for both people and pets! Free Easter goodies for kids. Lots of Coupons & Giveaways. All proceeds to benefit Paws on Parole and Gainesville Rabbit Rescue. Come support your community and have a day of fun! Earth Pets, 404 NW 10th Ave. 352-377-1100 Apr 7, 1-3pm: David Mather Book Signing Join us for local author David Mather as he reads from and signs his new book, One for the Road, at Wild Iris, 802 W University Ave, Gainesville. 352-3757477 Apr 7: Queer Queens of Comedy Sarasota Pride and ProSuzy presents Queer Queens of Comedy! Who are the Queens? Poppy Champlin, Jennie McNulty, & Vicki Shaw performing at Palladium Theater, 253 5th Ave N, St Petersburg, FL. Tickets: $25/General & $50/VIP (available at www.spcollege.edu/palladium). www.queerqueensofqomedy.com Apr 8, 1pm: Annual LGBT Easter Potluck Join us for a day of Food, Games, Fun, and good Friends. We will have the Toilet Paper Relay Race. Get your creative juices flowing and bring out your Easter Bonnet and you may win best Bonnet. This is a BYOB and Potluck. At David and Sean's house: 6814 NE 35th Ln, Silver Springs, FL. 352-390-8790 Apr 12, 6-8pm: Peaceful Paths Cocktail Party The 2012 Guest Chef Cocktail Party will feature Celebrity Chef Host Dr. Richard Buciarelli and co-host Storm Roberts in a party offering dishes from 35 local kitchens. Amateur and professional chefs will show off their favorite recipes alongside live jazz, a silent auction, an exceptional wine bar with a signature drink and exciting live auction. Tickets: $50 (available at www.peacefulpaths.org or at the door). Apr 12, 6-9pm: Museum Nights Visit the museum after hours and enjoy an interactive evening of entertainment, activities and Asian cuisine celebrating the opening of the Cofrin Asian Art Wing.
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WhatÊs Happening? Activities include martial arts demonstrations, sumo wrestling, garden and gallery tours, music performances, art-making activities, and a tea ceremony. Harn Museum of Art, Hull Rd, Gainesville. www.harn.ufl.edu Apr 13, 8pm: Andrea Gibson UF’s Pride Awareness Month proudly presents acclaimed spoken word artist Andrea Gibson! Event is free, open to the public, and being held in the UF Reitz Union Amphitheatre in Gainesville. Doors open at 7:30pm. There will be up to 30 minutes of opening student poetry prior to Andrea Gibson taking the stage. Apr 14: Sacred Earth Bazaar Vendors, readers, healers, & more at the Sacred Earth Center, 3131 NW 13th St, Gainesville! www.sacredearthcenter.org Apr 14, 1-5pm: 3rd Annual International Gay Polo Tournament at Grand Champions Polo Club, Wellington, FL. www.gaypolo.com Apr 14, 1-6pm: Hogtown Craft Beer Festival Enjoy great beer and food and learn more about the amazing diversity of beer produced at the local and regional level! Held at Kanapaha Gardens by Hogtown Brewery. Tickets: $35. www.hogtownbeerfest.com Apr 17, 7pm: Feminist Book Club April’s selection is “A Room of One’s Own” by Virginia Wolfe. Group is free and open to anyone & meets at Wild Iris Books, 802 W University Ave, Gainesville. All are invited to meet at Wild Iris at 67pm to enjoy dinner/drinks at Café Colette before the reading group begins. www.wildirisbooks.com Apr 17, 6pm: Food For Thought A “Taking PRIDE in Health” Workshop presented by the Pride Community Center and The Vibrant Alternative. Develop an understanding of how food directly affects your thoughts and actions while learning how to prepare quick, delicious & affordable meals with nutrient rich whole foods. FREE and open to the public. www.TheVibrantAlternative.com Kindred Sisters — April 2012
Apr 17, 7pm: PFLAG Gainesville Presents Nadine Smith Join us for a wonderful evening with Nadine Smith, executive director of Equality Florida, at the United Church of Gainesville, 1624 NW 5th Ave. 352-3403770 Apr 18, 7pm: Living History More details to follow – check out the wildirisbooks.com online event calendar! Wild Iris Books will join up again with UF to host an event dedicated to sharing stories of our lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender members. Come discuss family, and listen to stories of families and families of choice. Wild Iris, 802 W University Ave, Gainesville. April 20: Day of Silence The genesis of the Day of Silence, held annually in late April (date varies each year), was a class project at the University of Virginia in 1996. Assigned to create a non-violent protest event, students devised the Day of Silence to call attention to the situation of GLBTQ youth who are silent about their sexual orientation because of fear of harassment from classmates and lack of support from instructors and administrators. Apr 20-22: Halcyon’s Women’s Weekend A great weekend of music, women, and fun at Roy's Hideaway in Collins, GA. Performers include Halcyon, Sarah Peacock, & others TBA! $20 ticket price for the whole weekend! Camping fees extra but very reasonable. www.royshideaway.com Apr 21, 1pm: Sleep -- Count the...ZZZzzz Lesbian Health Project presents a program at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St, Gainesville. For more info, email lhpPRIDE@gmail.com. Apr 22: Earth Day Apr 22, 3-8pm: FETA 2012 We celebrate earth day and inclusive activites for those of all abilities. Celebrate Mother Earth, highlight local musicians and artists, and raise money to benefit a very worthy local organization. All proceeds from this event benefit: Noah's Endeavor, Inc.: Inclusive Community Recreation (www.facebook.com/ NoahsEndeavor). Ages 18+. Tickets: $6/adv, $8/door. Florida Theatre, 233 W University Ave, Gainesville. Page 15
WhatÊs Happening? Apr 23, 6pm: Community Voices The Hippodrome Theatre hosts the 2nd annual Community Voices public theatre event. This year’s theme is Monologues on Change. We’re inviting residents of Gainesville and surrounding communities to explore the idea of global, local or personal change through monologues. After the performance, attend the community action fair & light reception courtesy of Willy Mexicana Grill. www.thehipp.org Apr 24, 7:30pm: Feminist Open Mic Our aim is to create a safe space where individuals can celebrate, challenge and express their artistic personas! Hosted by Gainesville’s own poet and queer activist Johnny Rocket. We encourage all poets, musicians, and other artist types to attend. Café Colette will be open with food and beverages! Wild Iris, 802 W University Ave, Gainesville. Apr 28, 12-2pm: We are Women March Help defend women’s rights and the pursuit of equality. Join Americans all over the United States on April 28th as we come together, in solidarity, to tell members of Congress in Washington DC, and legislators all over the country: enough is enough! All people should have the freedom to make medical decisions about their own care and well-being without intrusions from the government, businesses or religious ideologies. In Orlando, gather at Senator Beth Johnson Park. In Tallahassee, meet at Florida Historic Capitol Museum. Apr 28, 2-4pm: Joe Haldeman Book Signing Mark your calendars because local author Joe Haldeman will be hanging out with Wild Iris Books reading from his new book Earthbound and autographing copies! 802 W University Ave, Gainesville. 352-375-7477 Apr 30: May Eve Celebration Celebrate Beltane at Moonhaven under the generous arms of the Grandmother Tree with the Sisters of the Moonhaven Mystery School. 6pm - potluck, 7pm Ritual (weather permitting we will have a fire). RSVP and get directions: 352-475-2432.
Apr 30, 7:30pm: Home Van Pet Care’s 5th Anniversary Celebration! Home Van Pet Care Project, Inc. celebrates five years of providing pet food for the companion animals of homeless and low income citizens of our community. In honor of this anniversary, Cinema Verde Environmental Film & Arts Festival is co-sponsoring 2 award-winning environmental and compassioncentered films at the Civic Media Center, 433 S Main St, Gainesville. See full details on pg. 18.
Ongoing Events AA Meetings in Gainesville LGBT Alcoholics Anonymous Meetings on Sundays at 7:30pm at Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St. AA Meetings in St. Augustine LGBT AA Meetings held at 7pm on Saturdays at Flagler Hospital in the Alicia room. Buy Local at the Weekly Farm Market! Everything Fresh. Everything Local. Every Sunday, 25pm. Fresh baked bread, Farm fresh eggs & produce, Unique ethnic cuisines, Homemade soaps, candles, & more! Citizens Co-op Courtyard, 435 S Main St, Gainesville. www.citizensco-op.com Confidential HIV & STD Testing - FREE 1st & 3rd Thursdays of each month at 4-6pm at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St, Gainesville. Farm Stead Saturday Saturdays, 9am-3pm, at Crones’ Cradle Conserve, 6411 NE 217th Pl in Citra, FL. Farm Tours & Organic Produce! 352-595-3377 Gainesville Area NOW Meetings Gainesville Area National Organization for Women meets on the 4th Thursday of each month at 6:30pm at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St. Public Welcome. www.gainesvillenow.org Gainesville Area Women’s Network GAWN is the friendliest networking in town. Supportive women gather for lunch, to network & learn from each other & guest speakers. Meetings are Kindred Sisters — April 2012
WhatÊs Happening? the 3rd Wednesday of each month at the Sweetwater Branch Inn. 352-215-1621, www.gawn.org Interweave A group for lesbian, gay, bisexual, & transgender individuals & their heterosexual allies. Meets at 6:30pm on the 2nd Sunday of each month at the Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Gainesville, 4225 NW 34th St. Potluck, presentation, & discussion. Lesbian Readings & Potluck We have a good time together! Come and eat good food, bring something you have written that you want to share, and/or come and listen to others read. Some womyn come just to the potluck, some just to the readings, and some to both. It's good communion with a small group of womyn as we share our stories and food. Time: 6:30 - Potluck; 7:30 - Readings. Date & Place: TBA. Info: Madeline 352-335-3138. Melrose Music & Refreshments CoffeeTalk at the Shake Rag Art & Culture Center every Wednesday, 10am - noon, in the Old Gothic Church, 301 SR 26, downtown Melrose. Join us for cool art, great music, stimulating conversation, poetry, & maybe dancing. We have the coffee…bring fruit or pastry to share. 352-475-2924 www.shakeragarts.org PFLAG Gainesville PFLAG (Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians and Gays) meets monthly (3rd Tuesday) at 7pm to realize our goal of moving equality forward. United Church of Gainesville, 1624 NW 5th Ave. 352-340-3770, www.pflaggainesville.org PFLAG Ocala Group meets on the 3rd Thursday of each month at 6-8pm at the Ocala Public Library (Room B). FMI 352-857-1739. Queerotic Dance Nite! 3rd Wednesday each month at 10pm at The Backyard at Boca Fiesta & Palomino, 232 SE 1st St, Gainesville. $3 cover
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Rise Up Singing Group Informal singing for the sheer fun of it! Rise Up Singing song books will be on hand. Meets the 2nd Tuesday of each month at 7-9pm at PCC, 3131 NW 13th St Ste 62, Gainesville. “Sister Song” - Gainesville Women's Choir All are welcome; no experience needed. Rehearsals every Wednesday at 7pm at Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St Ste 62. For more info contact Ruth at 352538-4927 or firstname.lastname@example.org. Stonewall Democrats of Alachua County LGBT Democrats & supporters meet monthly on the 4th Wednesday of each month at 6pm at the Alachua County Democratic Hdqtrs, 901 NW 8th Ave #A-3. Transgender Gainesville Discussion Group Meets on 1st Wednesday each month at 7pm at Wild Iris Books, 802 W University Ave, & focuses on education for the public. Meetings on 2nd & 4th Wednesdays at 7pm are closed support meetings held at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St. Transgender Movie Night Meets 2nd Friday of each month at 7pm at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St. www.gainesvillepride.org What the Animals Tell Me Every Wednesday at 8:30pm Flash Silvermoon hosts a live internet radio show for animal lovers. Listen to the live stream or check the archives later: www.internetvoicesradio.com Youth Discussion Group PCCNCF hosts a weekly “Youth Discussion Group” for GLBT youth between the ages of 14 & 18 years old on Wednesdays from 3:30-4:30pm at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St, Gainesville. FMI call 352377-8915
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Home Van Pet Care Project Update by Elizabeth Howard, Project Coordinator
Home Van Pet Care Project Inc. Will Celebrate Fifth Anniversary with Documentary Film Showing! In April of this year, Home Van Pet Care Project, Inc. celebrates five years of providing pet food for the companion animals of homeless and low income citizens of our community. In honor of this anniversary, through the generosity of Director Trish Riley, Cinema Verde Environmental Film & Arts Festival has agreed to co-sponsor with Home Van Pet Care Project two award winning environmental and compassion-centered films. Civic Media Center will host the showing of these films as part of their Monday Documentary Series on April 30 at 7:30pm at 433 S Main Street in Gainesville.
In Carbon for Water, filmmakers Evan Abramson and Carmen Elsa Lopez introduce audiences to the inspiring people of Kenya’s Western Province who face extreme hardships in their lives and explore one company’s innovative solution for improving the health of millions of Kenyans and the environment in which they live. Admission is by donation and clean, fresh water will be available to drink. Contact person is Elizabeth Howard, 352-473-9423. Update and More:
The big white dog, Bruiser is continuing well and we are continuing to work on our Tent City Tribe relocation. Cardboard (10 minutes) was written & We’ll be present for our weekly pet food directed by High School Freshman Tara-Nicole Azarian, who received an award at this year’s distribution on Wednesdays April 11, 18 and 25 at the Downtown Public Library from 2Cinema Verde Environmental Film & Arts 3pm. You can meet our volunteers and some Festival. This docu-drama asks: “If faced with of our pet food recipients. Sometimes the adversity, what would you do to keep your dogs come also. We’ll have special animal family together?” treats and on the 25th there will be juice and Carbon for Water (22 minutes) relates to cookies for the humans also. water issues everywhere. In our own We hope you will support us on this 5th community, hundreds of individuals and anniversary by donating pet food or funds. You families, can come by the Library and we’ll be out on some of the front bench, to your right as you drive in them living the parking lot; you can mail donations c/o with Elizabeth Howard, P.O. Box 14305, Gainesville beloved FL 32604 or pay by PayPal on our blog, companion www.homevanpetcareproject.blogspot.com animals, and you can Like us on Facebook. To drop pet live food off at our donation spot, call Elizabeth at homeless 352-473-9423. Thank you for all your support and and help. without running We hope to see you at the documentary water. which will be a really smashing event!!!
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Thursday, March 1, 2012 - What to Do With a Body That's Not Yours This is my body. It is not your gift, but I think you need it. Directions: In case of a car accident, you are allowed to drag it out—it is strong. Do not worry. If any of the bones are to break, just kiss them. They will be fine. Go on your way. If you must make love with it, Prepare it. Speak to it. Let it know what’s about to happen. If it is with a man, please Use a condom. If it is with a woman, Bandage the fingers afterwards. Soak them in lemon and honey. Please Let them write. In case it convulses when it finds out its best friend has committed suicide, collect it in a giant cup of plain water. Let it sit there for a day or so. It is small, so it will fit. After, give it a glass of wine, but just one. It has bad habits. Praise it. Never let it go. It will know and it will remember. If you decide to have a baby, please name it Audre if it is a girl or a boy. When the cunt stretches, teach it the lesson of pulling teeth and shoving the gums back into the blood. It will be thankful. It will almost always be thankful. Kindred Sisters — April 2012
If it is mugged in a street in Chicago or New Orleans, let the villain cut the arms and not the legs. You must make sure of this. When you decide you are done with it the body, that is and you are looking for me to return it, treat the body as if it’s a library card. When you finally find me (because it will most likely take a long time), make sure you return everything in good shape, Except the heart. by Jazmine Davis
Feminism Has Fought No Wars! by Dale Spender
Feminism has fought no wars! It has killed no opponents It has set up no concentration camp starved no enemies, practiced no cruelties Its battles have been for education for the vote, for better working conditions, for social welfare, for childcare, for safety in the streets, for rape crisis centers, women’s refuges, reforms in the law.
Artist Spotlight - Karen Chadwick Artist and fossil restorer Karen Chadwick says that fishing is her “favorite thing in the world to do.” When she discovered gyotaku or fish rubbing, about eight years ago, it was the perfect marriage of fishing and art. Chadwick is no stranger to happy coincidences. As a child, she often wondered what to be, an artist or an archeologist. Despite eyeing the backyard family pet cemetery in Sarasota as a possible place to start a career in digging up bones, she finally decided to become one of those who “made things” for others to later dig up. Out of high school she bought a van and planned to head across country. But when the van broke down, she ended up in art school, where she focused on sculpture (stone carving) and oil painting. At the Ringling College of Art and Design in Sarasota (where she graduated with a BFA), Chadwick fell into her lifelong career of fossil restoration when an acquaintance asked if she could use her skills in carving to fill in missing fossil parts. “Fossil restoration just fell in my lap,” she says. “The best of both worlds, art and archaeology, just presented itself.” Although she describes it as more a craft than fine art, she loves being able to sculpt and paint all day while being paid for it -- an artist’s dream. “Not a day goes by that I’m not grateful for it,” she says. When Chadwick decided to get away from city life, she chose a midpoint between the east and west coasts of Florida: Interlachen. From there she travels to the St. Johns River and to Horseshoe Beach – and indulges in her passion for fishing. After discovering gyotaku she set up a studio in her Horseshoe Beach fish camp, a trailer on the water rented from El Sea’s Fish Camp. To create the images, which are so clear that you can “count the scales,” she uses freshly caught fish from the cooler, applies ink in colors that match the actual fish and presses paper (usually rice paper) over the fish to take the impression. After the paper is pulled away, she adds details and the eye to create the finished picture. “It’s kind of funky,” she says of the process, which is described in detail at her website www.fossilrestorations.com. Although she has carried dead fish and ink into libraries to demonstrate the technique to students, the process can be messy. While pressing down, body fluids can be expelled from the fish, often to the delight of any boys in the group. But Chadwick admits to being used to it, besides being a confirmed tomboy. In her job as a fossil restorer, she has often collected road kill as models for missing bones. She says that the process of chemically removing tissue from bones could definitely be called “funky.” “All for the sake of art!” she laughs. Chadwick also sees gyotaku as a way to honor the creature she has caught for her table, giving it permanent life through art. In her part-time business as a fishing and touring guide, she offers gyotaku to customers as a novel way to record their catch. “Each fish is different,” she says. “If there’s a healed a shark bite, it comes out in the print. You can look at a gyotaku print of your catch and say, that’s my fish!” As if art, fossil restoring and fishing were not enough, Chadwick is “always making stuff” and uses found objects to create tools, initially for her own use. Page 20
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Her love of inventing, and a promise to herself to one day hold a patent, was sparked by a childhood visit to the Thomas Edison Museum in Ft. Myers. Not surprisingly, she has patented a clever rod holder that can be molded to fit different items and hung on a belt or around the neck. To purchase Chadwick’s gyotaku prints contact her at email@example.com. For a gallery of prints go to www. northstarcharters.net (click on Photo Gallery) or www.fossilrestorations.com (click on Gyotaku). excerpt from www.creativeartistsguild.org “Create! The Artists' Guild of North Florida” is a non-profit organization dedicated to promoting the arts through education and community service.
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Women Legislators Turn the Tables with “Viagra Bill” Ohio state Sen. Nina Turner (D) isn't happy with bills that seek to control women's access to contraception and abortion. She has joined a trend across the nation by introducing a bill that would require men seeking a prescription for erectile dysfunction drugs to see a sex therapist, receive a cardiac stress test and "get a notarized affidavit signed by a sexual partner affirming impotency." Sex therapists would be required to present the option of "celibacy as a viable lifestyle choice.” "The men in our lives, including members of the General Assembly, generously devote time to fundamental female reproductive issues—the least we can do is return the favor," Senator Turner said. "It is crucial that we take the appropriate steps to shelter vulnerable men from the potential side effects of these drugs. "When a man makes a crucial decision about his health and his body, he should be fully aware of the alternative options and the lifetime repercussions of that decision," Senator Turner said. “Men will be more easily guided through the process of obtaining treatment for impotence so they can better understand and more effectively address their condition.”
The Heavy Secret of Fake Fats Food containing synthetic fats— which taste like natural fats, but with fewer calories—may sound enticing to dieters. However, fat substitutes used in low-calorie potato chips and other processed foods could instead backfire and contribute to weight gain and obesity. Findings by Purdue University scientists published online in the American Psychological Association’s journal, Behavioral Neuroscience, challenges marketing claims that foods made with fat substitutes help with weight loss. Apparently, the hitch is that synthetic fats can interfere with the body’s ability to regulate food intake, leading to inefficient use of calories and weight gain.
Sen. Turner isn't the only legislator to introduce a "Viagra bill" or amendments in response to what mostly male legislators have been proposing around the nation. In Illinois, for instance, state Rep. Kelly Cassidy (D) introduced an amendment to a bill requiring ultrasounds before a woman can get an abortion that would require men to watch an explicit video about the side-effects of erectile dysfunction drugs. And, Missouri state Rep. Stacey Newman (D) introduced a bill that would allow a man to obtain a vasectomy only when not doing so could cause him serious injury or death. Some people may take these proposals as jokes. But the problem they spotlight, the war on women's reproductive rights and privacy, isn't funny at all.
excerpt from www.naturalawakeningsmag.com excerpt from www.dailykos.com Page 22
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Book Review to getting this great IDEA launched. Though I was underage (sixty is their Here is the second minimum), I was overly enthusiastic about helping “homerun” for our home to organize our local scene and meeting these team! A Gift of Age was OLOC pioneers. reviewed by me as a BIG So here came the reservations: names like Kittu, WOW! and I want to proclaim that this one is just Arden, Charlotte, Shaba, Deedee, and more. Soon names became faces as they arrived and convened as satisfying! YUM! for a week at the beach. Does anyone remember Now, in the new book, Without Apology, we 1991? A National Lesbian Conference in Atlanta, Gay meet them in the full flesh of their life stories, nicely illustrated with photos. WHAT Marches in DC and NY, GORGEOUS WOMEN! and in Florida a small gathering of the fairly new OLD LESBIANS This wonderful lesbian reality show is truly our ORGANIZING FOR CHANGE: about 20 story. steering members dedicated to making the idea 22 more stories from the Old Lesbian Oral grow. Two of these, Marilyn Murphy and Irene Herstory Project (www.olohp.org) Weiss, were perched at the Pagoda, and they $19.95, PO Box 980422, Houston TX 77098 connected the dots West Coast, East Coast, and Middle, with a strong dose of Texas, all committed by Rainbow Williams Without Apology: Old Lesbian Life Stories by Arden Eversmeryer and Margaret Purcell
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AstroFlash Spring is in flower and her aroma fills my nostrils with a most sensuous awakening. With the warmth and the new life blooming everywhere, a global feeling of Hope is reawakened. There is nothing more crucial than the preservation of our planet and we are reminded with the energy of the fading Grand Trine in Earth signs how magnificent this world can be. It is no coincidence that Earth Day is in April. We start the month as April Fools and of course there is always some genius inside the Fool's journey and patter. Our genius has been severely challenged during much of March by Mercury Retrograde's regressive style that kept issues kind of murky and our flow fraught with obstacles often of our own making. Fortunately the current test is over with Mercury on April 4 and really the 5th when it finally moves forward allowing our new projects and adventures to fly forward. When Mercury re enters Aries on April 16 we will see life really FIRE UP! All transits do have a silver lining if you look more deeply into the energy. We all just get impatient when we can't get what we want when we want it. That impatient factor couldn't be truer since we have also been dealing with a retrograde Mars in Virgo since January and it will finally be moving forward on April 13th so hold on to your hats and head because the thrust of that shift should be quite profound. There has been a restlessness and more snippy critical words during this transit partly because Mars wants to get moving and Uranus being in the Mars-ruled Aries is egging everyone on so to speak. This energy from Mars encourages us to find what is dead wood in our life and remove it keeping only that which promotes growth and health. Virgo can be picky about that stuff and its all for the good now. On April 10, Pluto will take its intensity and move it more internally as it too goes retrograde. Sweet Venus will move from sensual Taurus to heady Gemini on April 4 so lots of change in a little time with personal planets Mercury, Mars and Venus either changing direction or sign and outer planet retro Pluto taking its revolutionary zeal underground for awhile. Be sure you get your mojo working for love this month because Venus will go retro on May 5. This means that we really need to rock Beltane which can be celebrated on its eve on April 30 which we will do here at Moonhaven in Melrose. May 1, May Day is also a great day to celebrate and let your passionate impulses move freely. Just sayin' if you need to make your move on the partner of your choice, the month of April should offer you some good times so do not procrastinate. Its not that there will not be any opportunities after the retrograde but the energy flow will be more challenged. We will experience a most glorious Full Moon in Libra on April 6; none of the more challenging planets will out shine or dampen her light. Whenever we deal with a Full Moon, it opposes the Sun and gives us the opportunity to gain a balance between the signs of the luminaries. In the case of Libra and Aries, we are dealing with gaining the balance between self and other, always an interesting situation and we are given the light to see the possibilities. Good astrologers do not give up when a hard aspect rears its nasty head rather we find ways to encourage you to use the energy in the most positive ways and there always is a path for that. Last month and for the coming months we are having major influence from strong Solar Flares, some of the strongest in years and Page 24
they not only mess with the earth, tectonic plate shifts, tornadoes, tsunamis and the like but they effect us and our animals as well. I have certainly felt this and my dog has been very affected by this also and she is very level usually yet also very sensitive. If your animals are behaving differently, acting scared or nervous this could be the cause. The list below is a very fine piece of work that will help you understand if you or your friends or animals are being troubled by some of these symptoms. I offer Denise Le Fay's work to you so that you won't feel crazy or sick. You can read her full article on her link at the bottom of this list. Here’s a list of some 2012 ascension solar symptoms I’m experiencing and know you are too: * severe head and skull pains and pressures—not traditional “headaches” * severe eye pains and pressures, blurred vision, sensitivity to light * sinus pains, pressures and soreness * head pains and pressures radiating down into the temples and side jaw area * constant ringing in the ears * dizziness, sense of tipping or falling, feeling ungrounded * exaggerated sense of smell * ultra-sensitive hearing * hot flashes, cold flashes * vivid weird dreams, psychically dreaming other people’s dreams * sore, bruised, tender scalp * hair loss and/or thinning hair * Crown chakra – top of head pains and pressures * Brow chakra – forehead pains and pressures * pain and stiffness in spine * body and legs/feet swelling and/or fluid retention * pain in tailbone and hip area * heart palpitations, heart pounding while at rest * easily becoming breathless or winded * exhaustion * feeling like you only have an 1/8th of a tank of fuel (energy) in you & once it’s gone you’re exhausted again * seeing brilliant white light or light flares emanating from around your head and/or upper body * seeing brilliant colored lights or balls of colored light * increasing knowing over linear thinking * perception of linear time further disintegrating into increasing spherical “NOW” consciousness * growing happiness, joy, confidence, peace
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The New Moon in Taurus brings that earthy vibe even more into our world. April 22 is Earth Day. On April 23 Uranus and Mercury conjoin to bring brilliant ideas and solutions so be sure to catch the magic in the air and gather up your bright ideas. April 30 is May Eve and by this time we will be ready for a joyful party and take the time to provide good food and drink of a healing nature to aid in our physical transformation. This can still be delicious because this holiday encourages all aspects of pleasure. Merry May Eve, All. Blessings Flash Silvermoon Kindred Sisters — April 2012
Aries - If it's Spring, I am singing, can't help it , I am feeling the joy and all the new growth. There is something in the air and I can feel it in my bones solar flares or not, its electric and I feel more optimistic than I have in a year or so. Look out world this Ram is ready for some action and when Mars finally gets the lead out I will be flying! OK I will have some flight plan and backup because Uranus in my sign still can be unpredictable. A good parachute is never a bad idea. Taurus - Move over Aries and let this Bull live large and in charge. Ooh loving this sensuous energy, the fragrance alone is enough to make me have a hot flash. There are so many things that I want to do for my birthday month and now I have the resources to do it too thanks to Venus and Jupiter playing ball last month. I want to sing and dance and snuggle up with my honey all day and night. Do I have to wait till Beltane? Please, please I have waited long enough. Gemini - Ooh Venus comes into my sign soon! Yippee! Yes I know I better move fast as soon as my ruler Mercury get's the hell out of retrograde geez, pain in the butt that one and then I gotta make it happen before May 5?.Fortunately I can move that fast and have a few honies lined up for some good times. Now don't go thinking that I am a slut or anything crude like that but I always like to have a selection before I make my choice because Goddess knows I do not like to be bored! Cancer - Tell you what, I like this more water thing so nice to have more Piscean energy to float around. Uranus in Aries gave me a real kick in the consciousness and raised the bar on many levels but Neptune in Pisces is sweeeeet and I know some of you find it confusing but I find it soothing. Goddess knows I needed some balm for my soul after 2011. I don't need peace all the time and a little buzz puts some fun waves in the pool. This Spiritual Warrior likes to have a challenge as long as home feels like a mellow sanctuary. Leo - Nothing really clicking in my sign just yet but like the lion that I am, some good sun brings out the diva in me and I can feel drawn to that light like a moth to a flame. Somehow my heart has opened more through this winter and I am quantum leaping through the fields of joy like a little cub. I am getting older but it seems lighter can that be? All good with me I am not attached to a linear world that would tend to test my patience. Virgo - I don't mean to be a party pooper but when will I feel a little peace inside this nervous body? I feel settled and it only lasts a minute. I thought that I had it more together than that. I know that I should not be so hard on myself and Worry is not any kind of meditation except to bring me down to the what-ifs and the worst case scenario. Mars is sunning the show and running me ragged. I don’t need to do more; I need to be more. Libra - Will the scales of Justice ever balance and will the Goddess that sits with the American scales ever strip off her blindfold and see the Light? OK so I am being philosophical now but sometimes one must speak out for injustice when it is right in your face. As Ella Baker said, "Until the killing of Black men, Black mothers' sons is as important as the killing of white men white mothers' sons; we who believe in freedom cannot rest until this happens" Off my Soap Box and snuggling with my partner. Scorpio - Libra that's pretty deep and if I was on FB I would Like it! The vibes are sure getting thick out there and I can really feel the Kindred Sisters — April 2012
Shift coming from a mile away in fact my psyche is working overtime to process and react to all of this stimulus. Am I on the brink or are we all on the brink of a major download of new information, Are the Greys landing or is Japan falling into the ocean? Solar Flares or do I need to get off gluten? Spinning and rolling in the deep as it were. Sagittarius - Ooh baby ya know that it’s a wild world.....and I surely am ready to see more of it. Maybe I can just afford a good brownie or a psychic magic carpet ride but whatever I can get would be great about now. The mundane is just not working for me anymore. I want to rub that lamp and have Jeanie or Genie pop out and grant me just one wish. I would be generous, I would share whatever I got. OK time for some lottery tickets. I could take a good gamble, 'cause something has got to turn my life into the magical mystical tapestry of my dreams. Capricorn - Good, Pluto is going retrograde, I like that so he can get off of my back for awhile at least. If the little demoted dude has to walk backwards for awhile maybe I won't be tormented by his idea that constant transformation is fun and games. How many times does one person need to shed their skin, I ask you? I tend to like rules and floating around in this limbo makes me feel agitated. Hard work I can do but cosmic free fall is a dimension that leaves me feeling totally ungrounded. Maybe some stones would help this too fragile earth sign feel more centered and I can build on that. Aquarius - I am happy that Neptune finally got out of my sign and allowed me to feel much more like my airy self however, now with so many planets in earth signs I can't feel the buoyancy and bounce in my step that I like. I don’t mean to whine that's really out of character but I figure that I should be able to define my world a bit better, after all I have that ability to manifest my reality by creative visualization and I think I will creatively manifest a journey to the Pleiades and dance among the 7 Sisters. Pisces - Find the Water, that is what Spirit said to me last week and I definitely need to get myself in some H2O soon. My dolphin spirit needs to frolic in a way that I can only be in the water. On another level I am being told to find the FLOW, find the way I can be as water in all situations to make life more beautiful and gentle. I like that idea and with Neptune and Chiron in my sign this should be pretty easy as long as I allow for that possibility, let go of the wheel and only take out the oars to guide myself when I need to steer around the boulders.
Through my monthly Astroflash, I have endeavored to offer gender neutral astrology to speak to all sexual preferences and identities. If you know your Rising sign, your personal reading will be more accurate if you read the passage for that sign as well as your Sun sign. For deeper questions and readings of an Astrological or Psychic nature, feel free to call 352-475-2432 for an appt. or contact me through my website: www.Flashsilvermoon.com Next session of Moonhaven Mystery School for Women: TBA The class will meet for 4 consecutive Mon evenings 7-9:30pm. Only $62 for 4 sessions. Develop your psychic/healing abilities in an empowered & safe space. Psychic Development & Empowerment, Women's Magic & Ritual, Stone Healing, Animal Communication, Healing Potions, & much more. Moonhaven in Melrose. 352-475-2432 Page 25
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