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M AY 2013

Giving Women a Voice


Kindred Sisters Volunteers: Lynn, Jennifer, Judy, Shewolf, Rainbow

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Our Mission: Kindred Sisters’ mission is to provide a forum of news, events, and ideas for, by, and about lesbians and their kindred sisters of all classes, races, ages, ethnicities, and abilities. Kindred Sisters, PO Box 141674, Gainesville, FL 32614

Kindred Sisters “Giving Women a Voice” May 2013

HRCNCF to Provide Anti Bullying Programs for Parents and Children On Thursday, May 23rd from 6:00-8:00 p.m. the Human Rights Council of North Central Florida (HRCNCF) will provide Bully Proofing Your Child. This program will be presented by Kathryn Kvols. Kathryn is the Author of the book and parenting course "Redirecting Children's Behavior." She is also the president of the International Network for Children and Families. She is known for her way of presenting practical, easy to use parenting tools in a way that is fun and inspiring. The National statistics on bullying report that 1 out of 7 students Grades K-12 is either a bully or a victim of bullying. Therefore, it is imperative that parents and teachers learn methods of dealing with this debilitating epidemic. Kathryn will help parents identify bullying. There are usually 3 parties to every bully situation: the bully, the victim and the by stander. Parents will learn tools to help prevent bullying for each party. We will also have a program for children that runs at the same time: Going BANANAS for Peace--Bullying Has No "A-Peel!" When it comes to bullies, don't "monkey" around—join award-winning children’s “edutainer” Shana Banana and her puppets as she sings about positive words, being powerful versus pushy, friendship, peaceful playing and what to do if someone who is supposed to be a friend doesn't act like one. We'll go BANANAS and create a happier world! These programs are free and open to the public. They will take place at Pride Community Center of North Central Florida 3131 NW 13th St, Suite 62 in Gainesville. For questions please contact Terry Fleming at 352-377-8915 or

Cover: This month’s cover art is provided by Kaylin Kimble, Kimble an 18 yr old living in South Africa. It’s entitled “Phases” and is read from top left, top right, bottom left, bottom right. For more info about this image, please turn to page 23.

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QuARC (Queer Anti-violence Relationship Conversations) First Tuesday of each month at 6:30pm Join Peaceful Paths advocates for an educational workshop series on intimate partner violence (IPV) in LGBTQ relationships. Workshops will be held at 6:30pm on the first Tuesday of each month beginning April 2. Topics will include an introduction to intimate partner violence specific to LGBTQ relationships (April 2 and May 7), healthy relationship skills (June 4), communication and conflict resolution (July 2) and community resources (August 6). The workshops are free and open to all members of the community, including LGBTQ folks, friends, family members, allies, educators, and service providers. Additional advocates will be available for confidential counseling, safety planning, or individual conversation should you need to speak to someone in private or if the workshop triggers anything for you. Location: Alachua County Library Headquarters, 401 E University Ave, Gainesville

NHL Announces Support For Gay Rights The National Hockey League (NHL) has offered its support of gay rights with the announcement of a new partnership to combat homophobia in sports. The NHL has teamed up with the You Can Play Project, an organization that promotes equality in sports, to develop "what appears to be the most comprehensive measure by a major men’s league in support of gay rights," according to The New York Times. The initiative will include training and counseling on gay issues, along with participation in public service announcements. Patrick Burke, president of You Can Play and a Philadelphia Flyers talent scout, expressed how this move represents a huge milestone. In a statement to The Huffington Post, Burke said: Today marks a historic step for LGBT equality in sports. The NHL and the NHLPA [NHL Players' Association] are stepping up to ensure that the hockey community is welcoming -- not begrudging, not tolerant -welcoming to LGBT players, coaches, management or fans. Now with the culture of the hockey community behind us, we can do the important educational outreach to help everyone know how to be accepting. The NHL has long had a slogan -- "Hockey Is For Everyone." We will work alongside our partners in the NHL and the NHLPA to continue to make that true. excerpt from

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Girl Rising Educate Girls, Change the World Girl Rising, a ground-breaking film which tells the stories of 9 extraordinary girls from 9 countries, showcases the strength of the human spirit and the power of education to change the world. Anne Hathaway, Cate Blanchett, Selena Gomez, Alicia Keys, Meryl Streep, Salma Hayek, Kerry Washington and other celebrated actresses contribute voice performances to the film. Around the world, millions of girls face barriers to education that boys do not. And, yet, when you educate a girl, you can break cycles of poverty in just one generation. Removing barriers to girls’ education – such as early and forced marriage, domestic slavery, sex trafficking, gender violence and discrimination, lack of access to healthcare, school fees – means not only a better life for girls, but a safer, healthier, and more prosperous world for all. 10x10 is a global campaign to educate and empower girls – working to create a ripple effect that will transform communities for generations. By sharing their personal journeys, the girls of Girl Rising become our teachers. As one of them says, “I feel as though I have power...I

can do anything. And I have important things to do.” Research shows that investing in girls can transform families, communities and nations. The girls of Girl Rising show us how.

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How To Write a Lesbian Personal Ad by Kathy Belge Writing a good personal ad can be the key to whether or not you ever get a date from your online profile or personal ad. Here are some tips for lesbians on how to write a good personal ad that will attract the kind of women you want to meet. Difficulty: Average Time Required: half hour Here's How: Write a Catchy Title The title or headline is the first thing people will see when they scan the personals. Try to grab their attention. Use humor, but be positive. Don't: "No head games please!" Do: "I love Femmes!"

them everything about yourself. Leave something to talk about on the first date. Don't post an ad unless you're ready to start dating and/or are not over your ex yet. Be Positive Say the things you value and want in a relationship. Don't just make a list of everything that was wrong with your last relationship and say you don't want that. Good: "I want an active partner to ride Race Across Iowa and to hike the Grand Canyon." Bad: "No couch potatoes need apply." Be Unique Most everyone likes walks on the beach and romantic candlelit dinners. Say something that's different about you. "I collect Xena action figures and make my own soap. Member of the Save Karina Lombard online committee."

Be Specific Try to be specific about what qualities you are looking for in a woman. Do children matter? Are Post a Photo you willing to travel? If you have requirements Let's face it, most of us are pretty visual. We about drugs and alcohol state it. "Looking for want to see who we're reading about. When I read a book, I always look for the author's photo in the middle-aged member of a 12-step program who back. Internet ads with photos get more responses likes dogs, but not cats." than those without. Don't be camera shy. Post a photo with your ad. If your ad sounds similar to others, a picture is a good way for them to remember you. Be Honest Don't say you're a brain surgeon if you're not. Don't say you value honesty and then lie about your weight. Be honest, but don't list all your flaws right away. And don't tell

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Check for Errors Double check your ad for spelling and grammar mistakes. If you need to write it off line and spell check through your word processing program, do it!

book?" "What's the last movie you saw?" Keep It Current Update your ad. Don't post an outdated photo or say "Let's go show shoeing," when it's the middle of July. And if you've met someone, for goodness sake, take your ad down!

Add a Personal Touch Studies show that ads that show personality attract more attention than those that are just lists Tips: of personal qualities or desires. Don't just rely on  Most sites let you browse the ads. See which one suits your personality. drop-down menus. When given the chance, add  Ask your friends for feedback on your ad. your own unique traits. They're probably less shy about touting your Invite a Response fabulous qualities. Pose questions or invite people to write to you.  Have fun, but don't set your expectations too Put it out like an invitation that they will feel high. comfortable responding to. "What's your favorite excerpt from

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Poetry Corner Ga(s)p/(e) I am trying to hold out, hold myself over you. We are in love like this— weirdly, in competition w/ our sadness. “I am so lonely, look at the way my body trades thunder for the guessing games of your gasps…” “No, I am lonelier, the electricity in my body hums the pressure points of your government name.” You start to forget what you called your lover in the midst of blame, orgasm or solace, you bury your head in breasts, pussies, a headlong sea of boastful drowning, tattoos start to press and mesh into each other, like they are running for the goddamn door, our flesh is in the way though and you are not forthright you are not forthright about anything, we’re in a love-deadlock, testing the vibrations of the conversations that are decomposing in our mouths, you can’t taste the rot like i can, i keep it on the roof of my mouth like my mouth is a house, you choose not to speak, not to let it seep, but i let go of everything or else I am a flood, a fire with the drugs in its throat I can barely keep up with myself contain myself, I am jammed in the multitudinous pathways of my brain, I don’t know how you even love me without rendering what’s sane, what is the most absurd feature of our union, is how I can spit dusk and stretch my body on top of you and you think I am a conquistador but I have a hard time remembering that I am woman and not lion, why I am so far apart from who I actually am but simultaneously maintaining this myopic sense of self. What does it mean that I can lay myself bare between each extreme and not falter, even in the thinnest of breath? Am I my own drug that hasn’t even been created yet? Are you overdosing on me without even knowing? I cannot deem myself this powerful when all I want to do is dream myself up and out of your shadow, I am no more woman than the words you keep stashed in your esophagus, I am no more man than I make myself out to be, all I have ever wanted to do is write and work my way into loving you if this is the destitute earth of pleading that is both audacious and desperate, then this all I’ve ever learned to be. This is me making myself up as I’m going. by Jazmine Davis

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Ruling on Plan B is a Step Backwards in Women's Health by NOW President Terry O'Neill

The Justice Department's decision to appeal Judge Korman's ruling to make Plan B available over the counter to all ages is a step backwards for women's health. Millions of women need access to this safe and effective product, and the prevention of unwanted pregnancy, particularly in adolescents, should not be obstructed by politicians. Study after study has proven that emergency contraception, like Plan B, is a safe and effective method of preventing unwanted pregnancies. Less than a week ago, President Obama was applauded when he addressed members of Planned Parenthood and spoke about the organization, "one core principle has guided everything all of you do - that women should be allowed to make their own decisions about their own health." President Obama should practice what he preaches. NOW calls on the Obama administration to stop this appeal and make Plan B One Step available to women and girls of all ages without a prescription, and without identification.

Poetry Corner LOVE STORMY by Nancy Breeze

Attracting any storm in a port

The path of true smooth never runs love!

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Enthusiastic Volunteers Needed for Gay Days Orlando Girls In Wonderland/Gay Days Orlando (May 31 to June 3) needs enthusiastic volunteers to help out. It's fun, it's rewarding, it's a good time, and a great way to make a difference in your community! Plus, volunteers receive free admission to one event during GIRLS IN WONDERLAND 2013 weekend. If you live in Central Florida and would like to volunteer or sit on the Girls In Wonderland/Gay Day Orlando Women's Committee go to:

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Dignity Project Second Generation, Inc. Giving a Hand UP not Out! The Dignity Project Second Generation is a nonprofit organization dedicated to encouraging selfsufficiency to members of our community by helping fulfill transportation and computer needs. With the help of some generosity, the Dignity Project Second Generation provides job skills training to disadvantaged youth , while refurbishing used cars and computers to donate, or sell for a low price, to those in need of them. The Dignity Project Second Generation is dedicated to restoring dignity to those members of our society who are struggling to survive. We are working with many of the local social service providers to reach out and help as many people as we can. The amount of people we can serve depends on the amount of donations we receive. Vehicles are very important since they are one of our main tools for teaching. We accept vehicles, computers and other motorized equipment in any condition.

Donations are very important to keep our programs going! Please be generous and donate those used computers and vehicles to us. We accept vehicles and computers working or not and of any age or condition! We also can use any monitory contributions you may want to make. All contributions are tax deductable!

1125 SE 4th Street Suite A Gainesville, Fl. 32601 352-371-6792

Why do you need Dignity Project 2 Services?


To provide hands-on training for our youth We provide the following services: Provide Computers for people and  Hands on training in both the Automotive organizations in our community field and the Computer Field  Help Veterans with their computer and  Donate computers to Veterans, Social vehicle needs Programs, and other Non-Profit  To provide low cost repairs on vehicles and organizations computers  Low cost Auto repairs  To help recycle responsibly.  Low cost computer repairs  E waste recycling Our Wish List  Low cost transportation  12 Volt Portable Jump Pack  Battery Charger  Jack Stands Please Help Us Help others by Donating  Floor Jacks your used Vehicles and/or Computers!  Tools

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Home Van Pet Care Project News by Elizabeth Howard, Facilitator

Dear Sisters: Since last month’s newsletter so many things and proud and hopeful again. have happened, so many ups and downs, happiness and tears, so I will just make this brief. We give deep thanks and appreciation to Alachua County Animal Services for their kindness and First, Home Van Pet Care Project had a birthday. Six patience and to the Veterinary Students who promoted the years now we’ve been seeking donations and distributing Spring Fling adoption event for all the animals. Please pet food for the cats and dogs of homeless and low income keep the animals in your thoughts that they may all have people in our community. loving homes very soon. We celebrated our birthday by relocating our primary distribution place from the downtown library over to the Then there is the sadness. Our dear little NipNip, the dog courtyard behind Civic Media Center and the Citizens of our friends Diane and James, has died. He was lovingly CoOp … near Wild Iris new shop. If you want to visit, call treated at UF Shelter Medicine but he could not be saved. for distribution times. It sure feels good there. An extra James is away and cannot return at this time. Diane needs bonus of the location is the Radical Press Coffee Collective our thoughts and visualizations for strength. Bigger, their inside Civic Media Center. other dog is no doubt very sad also, so let’s think of them and hope for the best for them. If you want to buy Diane There were birthday cupcakes donated by SweetTuesdays, some telephone minutes let me know. cold bottles of water and plenty of pet food, donated by a great many generous supporters. Best to you dear and Kindred Sisters and thanks always to this publication for helping us to help the animals. Kitty Jenna who we featured last month, has gotten a home! To volunteer for Home Van Pet Care Project or to donate A lot of people were pulling for pet food, call Elizabeth Howard, 352-473-9423 or email Jenna, and I have it on good Checks can be mailed to Home authority that these were very Van Pet Care Project, Inc., c/o Elizabeth Howard, P.O. Box nice people who adopted her. 14305, Gainesville, FL 32604. Financial donations can also In her most recent photo she be sent by PayPal on our blog, http:// looks like a different kitty, tall

In the Spotlight Lea DeLaria Lea DeLaria (b. 1958) has been a proudly out lesbian since the beginning of her career. As the daughter of a jazz musician, performing came naturally to the versatile DeLaria who has earned accolades for her talents as an actor, a singer, and a stand-up comic. excerpt from

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All CVS Stores Recycle Unwanted Meds CVS announced that all of its 7,200 locations will now offer customers an affordable way to safely dispose of unused, expired or unwanted medications. To take advantage of the new service, customers purchase a Sharps Compliance Corp. postage-paid envelope for $3.99 at their local CVS pharmacy; they then mail their medications through the U.S. Postal Service to Sharps Compliance Corp.’s licensed facility for safe destruction. By law, this program cannot accept controlled substances – illegal drugs or certain prescription medications that are regulated by the government. Both prescription and over-the-counter medication can pollute the environment if disposed of improperly: Drugs flushed down the toilet can contaminate water sources, and drugs thrown in the trash have the potential to leach out the landfill and pollute soil and groundwater. Old medications can also contribute to drug abuse, if they fall into the wrong hands. “Leftover and unused pharmaceuticals are a hazard for abuse and misuse particularly by young people,” said Rhode Island Sen. Sheldon Whitehouse. “I applaud CVS and their partners for providing consumers with an easy avenue to safely dispose of unwanted medications.” Sharps Compliance Corp., a Houston-based medical waste management company, also provides its medication mail-back system in Walgreens, Kroger, Rite-Aid and Winn-Dixie pharmacies. excerpt from

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TV Needed for PCCNCF Pride Community Center of North Central Florida needs a TV for various group’s programs and three movie nights a month. Many of you have probably been to an event at the Center where the TV was used for a presentation. The large screen TV that was donated to the center years ago came to a sudden sad end a few months ago. Since then PCC has been relying on the generosity of COLORTYME and Terry Fleming to loan TV’s when needed but that’s only a short term fix. We need you to step up and help us find someone to donate a TV, at least 60”. Or you can do what one member has done and contribute toward the purchase of a new TV. We want to continue these programs but can only do so with your help. If you have a TV to donate, please contact the Center at 352-377-8915 or Monetary donations can be made at Kindred Sisters — May 2013

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Food Security by Woody Blue

The United States Dept of Agriculture (USDA) was created to assure that there would be enough food available for everyone in the US. It was 1862. Think Abraham Lincoln. A few years later the Morrill Act was passed, giving each state 30,000 acres of federal land per Congressperson to sell or build colleges, called land grant universities, that would educate people in the areas of agriculture and mechanics. Think 27 congressmen multiplied by 30,000 acres. The University of Florida is a land grant university. Hello, IFAS. I caught wind of a free, public conference on Sustainable Economies and Natural Resources taking place at UF on April 2-3. In particular, I wanted to hear a lecture on the "Designing a Resilient Food System for the 21st Century…" by a progressive-thinking University of Iowa professor. I chugged up the steps to the Grand Ballroom in the Reitz Union early on Tuesday, notebook in hand. Imagine my surprise when rounding the corner, I discovered MONSANTO was sponsoring the conference.

Their power points discussed an international liaison with countries and corporations throughout the world, concentrating on the need for a global food security system. This system embraces a triad to include world governments, universities and corporations, with Northrup Grumman, a high-end military arms dealer enlisted to enforce the system. Think drones. Another corporate sponsor included Plum Creek, who is the biggest private owner of conservation lands in Florida. Their main moneymaker is timber and the gist of the lecture I heard was how they are saving our forests. They do this by genetically engineering trees to grow straighter, with less knots, so that the trees can provide more lumber more efficiently. Think Developer…MAJOR.

Another corporate sponsor was Mosaic, the owner of the phosphate mining operations in Florida. Florida supplies 25% of the world's phosphates, a key ingredient in industrial farming I ended up attending most of both days of the and the foremost cause of algae overgrowth that conference. Some speakers were sincerely trying clogs our streams and rivers. The phosphate to figure out how to rebuild sustainable food mines have destroyed wetlands from Dunnellon industries in Florida like the oyster industry. to Northern Tampa. Its reclamation projects are Others were eager to institute new state policies questionably effective at best. It has left behind 1 to use and protect our water, land, forests, and billion tons of low-level radioactive wastes. Plans wildlife. Their charts, slide shows and power are to use this waste for highway construction. points illustrated the successes and failures of The slide show by CH2MHILL, another previous policies and their hopes and concerns in sponsor, was a breath of fresh air. This putting new policies in is an international corporation that place. designs, builds operates and manages Peppered in were large undertakings. the corporate sponsors The slide show demonstrated how they who gave their versions built the superstructure that housed the of what the new food London Olympics. I was impressed with system would look like. this presentation, as they truly did build Monsanto led the way. sustainable parklands, efficient climate Page 12

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controlled buildings and cleaned up a rundown annual environmental film festival. and contaminated area of land. The auditoriums Green Drinks, a loose knit organization, and arenas were built with an eye to the future, meets the first Wed on each month with possibilities of turning them into public to discuss and support sustainable buildings and housing. They used various forms eco-friendly efforts. A similar but of alternative energy to heat, cool and provide different group meets at the power to these buildings. The presenter was the Highland Community Church in NE person In charge of the entire project and quite Gainesville once a month on enthusiastic about sustainable infrastructure Tuesday evenings. possibilities. Farm tours and family days introduce What was dismaying was the idea that plans community members to their local food supply. and policies regarding our food sources are now Organic food is more available. Herb and being worked out by the USDA, land-grant lifestyle classes are being presented in massage universities and agribusiness. clinics and libraries. But all is not lost. Most of the programs listed above rely on Since 2008, there has been a growing volunteers. Grant money is usually allocated to international grassroots movement to address providing supplies or paying fees like rent and the looming catastrophes of peak oil, climate storage. An underlying concept to creating a change and economic instability. Based on a sustainable future is the need to change our permaculture model, communities around the attitudes about the necessity for oil. world have taken on the task of localizing food There are two futures ahead of us. One will supplies. "Transition towns" have sprung up in have global international forces calling the the US, from Portland, OR to Portland, ME. shots. The other gives the power to control the food supply into local hands. As we move In 2010, local activists began meeting in further into an unpredictable world, it's Micanopy to educate themselves and strategize important to use our time, energy and resources on how to become a transition town. As a result, to build a sustainable community that can the greening of Gainesville has been expanding. provide nutritious food for everyone, regardless Efforts to establish community gardens and seed of income. I encourage us all to consider these libraries have gained a foothold, particularly in possibilities and act now. the lower income parts of town. Local businesses that promote energy-saving products NOTE: On May 25th there is a call to march in and services have expanded. Farmers' markets every city against Monsanto. There will be a are flourishing. Master gardeners are finding avenues to re-incorporate native species in our march in Gainesville beginning at the Harn and landscapes as well as remove and educate about marching to Publix. Other Gainesville activists will be marching in Tallahassee. This is a non-native plants. worldwide, citizen-led effort. I urge you to A composting program that collects food make your voice heard. waste from area restaurants has been created. DIY bicycle repair stations are in place in front of Woody Blue is a holistic health the downtown library and the Civic Media counselor specializing in massage Center. A re-purposing center has found ways to and nutrition. You can contact re-use many items that would normally end up her at 352-375-0539 for more in a landfill. This year, Gainesville had its third info. Kindred Sisters — May 2013

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WhatÊs Happening? May 1: Beltane, Beltaine, May Day May 4, 7pm: Equality Florida Gainesville Gala Please join us at the Florida Museum of Natural History for this wonderful event! There will be an open bar, delicious hors d'oeuvres and an exciting program - including a "State of the State Address" by Equality Florida's Deputy Director, Stratton Pollitzer. Tickets: $50 (100% of the proceeds raised fund the fight for LGBT equality right here in Florida). Buy your tickets and RSVP at http:// May 4, 10pm: Queerotic Dance Nite Join us for our once a month event + please invite your friends! Dance under the stars!! The Courtyard in back of the Civic Media Center, The Citizen's Co-Op, The Sequential Artists Workshop + Wild Iris (433 S Main St, Gainesville). These local businesses are Queer positive and we want to bring them Queer business! BYOB ok, but beer will be available for a donation which goes to CMC, Co-op, etc. May 7, 6:30pm: Queer Anti-violence Relationship Conversations (QuARC) Join Peaceful Paths advocates for an educational workshop series on intimate partner violence (IPV) in LGBTQ relationships. Topics will include an introduction to intimate partner violence specific to LGBTQ relationships (May 7), healthy relationship skills (June 4), communication and conflict resolution (July 2) and community resources (August 6). Workshops are free and open to all members of the community, including LGBTQ folks, friends, family members, allies, educators, and service providers. Meets at Library Headquarters, 401 E University Ave, Gainesville.

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May 9, 6-9pm: Kimmy & the Tease Rockin' Lightnin' Salvage! Satchel's Pizza, 1800 NE 23rd Ave, Gainesville. May 11, 6-11pm: Gainesville Jazz Festival Free Concert at The Square in Tioga Town Center! Line-up: 6:00 Hot Club de Ville, 7:00 Zac Chester Quartet, 8:00 Ben Champion Quartet, 9:00 Gruv therapy, 10:00 Little Jake Mitchell and the Soul Searchers. Plus Jazz Jam at 11pm-1am at World of Beer! May 17: International Day Against Homophobia & Transphobia The International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia (IDAHOT) aims to coordinate international events to call respect for lesbians and gays world-wide. May 17 was chosen as the day of the event because homosexuality was removed from the International Classification of Diseases of the World Health Organization (WHO) on May 17, 1992. May 18: Newberry Watermelon Festival The 68th Newberry Watermelon Festival will be held at Destiny Community Church’s future location in Newberry, FL. May 18: Community Talent Show Trinity MCC presents an evening of a Lasagna Dinner and Super Talent Show! Doors open at 5:30, Dinner at 6:00, Entertainment to follow. TMCC, 11604 SW Archer Rd, Gainesville. Menu: Regular, Vegetable, or Chicken Lasagna; Salad; Bread; & Dessert. Tickets: $12 each or $20 for 2. Can you sing, play an instrument, juggle or maybe you are a stand-up comic, or twirl a baton, dance or any other type of entertainment. Prizes will be awarded. To enter, please contact Marge Syth at for a Talent Show Entry Form. This will be a fun evening and a great way to get together with friends to enjoy dinner and entertainment.

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WhatÊs Happening? May 18, 7-11pm: Moonlight Walk Kanapaha's Moonlight Walk is a magical experience where there will be twinkle lights, lanterns, and approximately 2000 luminaries along a 1.25 mile walkway. There will also be live entertainment, food, and refreshments. Feel free to bring out a blanket or lawn chairs. The Alachua Astronomy Club will be out with telescopes to view the cosmos. $12 for adults, $6 for children. Kanapaha Botanical Gardens, 4700 SW 58th Dr, Gainesville. May 18, 7-11pm: Hipp Birthday Celebration! You’re invited! The Hipp is turning 40. Come celebrate with us! We would be honored by your presence as we celebrate 40 years of artistic achievement. Tickets are just $40. The purchase of your ticket will help fund Hipp programming. Call the Hipp Box Office 352-375-4477 to purchase your ticket today. Guests will enjoy marvelous food and wine, mingle with friends and neighbors, experience world class entertainment while supporting the Hippodrome and our 40 year mission of artistic excellence. The event will include premium catering by Mark’s Prime Steakhouse and Seafood, distinctive wines by 8 local distributors, sneak peek performances by the cast of Avenue Q, live musical entertainment, Hipp stars, artwork, prizes, and birthday cake! May 22: Harvey Milk Day Harvey Milk Day is celebrated globally each year on May 22 in memory of Harvey Milk, a gay rights activist assassinated in 1978. In California, Harvey Milk Day is recognized as a legal state holiday. The holiday was established by Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger in 2009 following the success of the award-winning feature film “Milk” retracing Milk's life. May 23, 6-8pm: Bully Proofing Your Child This program will be presented by Kathryn Kvols, author of the book and parenting course "Redirecting Children's Behavior." She will help parents identify and prevent bullying. Running at Kindred Sisters — May 2013

the same time will be a program for children: Going BANANAS for Peace--Bullying Has No "A-Peel!" These programs are free and open to the public. They will take place at Pride Community Center, 3131 NW 13th St, in Gainesville. 352-377-8915, May 25, 1-5pm: Mini Healing & Psychic Fair at the Sacred Earth Center, 1029 NW 23rd Ave, Gainesville. May 25, 8pm: Women’s Roller Derby! Join the Gainesville Roller Rebels as they take on the Greenville Derby Dames in a battle of the -villes! Doors open at 7:30pm. Tickets: $10/adv, $15/door (available at Volta, Sweet Dreams, & Bring a chair or brave the suicide track-side seating. Skate Station Funworks, 1311 NW 76th Blvd, Gainesville. May 31, 7-9pm: Artwalk Craft + Cottage Food Fair We believe food=art! Join us in The Courtyard for art, food, music and drinks. Peruse art, crafts and food offerings from local vendors, brick oven fired pizzas from Humble Pie, BBQ by Go Go Stuff Yourself, and more! Citizens Co-Op, 435 S Main St, Gainesville.

Gay Days 2013 Thu, May 30 - Animal Kingdom Fri, May 31 - Disney's Hollywood Studios Sat, June 1 - Magic Kingdom Sun, June 2 - Epcot

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WhatÊs Happening? May 31, 10pm: Half-o-ween! Join the Gainesville Roller Rebels for half-o-ween. Put on your costume and come party with us. $7 cover supports your Roller Rebels and the musical talents of: dblWIDE, barebones, and Waylon Thornton and the Heavy Hands. Costume prizes for: Best couple, Best meme, Most useless celebrity, Most repulsive, Best lookalike, Best vintage, Best flora or fauna, Best monster, Funniest, Trashiest. High Dive, 210 SW 2nd Ave, Gainesville.

Ongoing Events AA Meetings in Gainesville LGBT Alcoholics Anonymous Meetings on Sundays at 7:30pm at Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St. AA Meetings in St. Augustine LGBT AA Meetings held at 7pm on Saturdays at Flagler Hospital in the Alicia room. Buy Local at the Weekly Farm Market! Everything Fresh. Everything Local. Every Sunday, 2-5pm. Fresh baked bread, Farm fresh eggs & produce, Unique ethnic cuisines, Homemade soaps, candles, & more! Citizens Co-op Courtyard, 435 S Main St, Gainesville. Confidential HIV & STD Testing - FREE 1st & 3rd Thursdays of each month at 5-7pm at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St, Gainesville. Farm Stead Saturday Saturdays, 9am-3pm, at Crones’ Cradle Conserve, 6411 NE 217th Pl in Citra, FL. Farm Tours & Organic Produce! 352-595-3377 Gainesville Area NOW Meetings Gainesville Area National Organization for Women meets the 4th Thursday of each month at 6:30pm at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St. Public Welcome. Page 16

Gainesville Area Women’s Network GAWN is the friendliest networking in town. Supportive women gather for lunch, to network & learn from each other & guest speakers. Meetings are the 3rd Wednesday of each month at the Sweetwater Branch Inn. 352-215-1621, Gaynesville Queer Reading Group Meets 2nd Wednesday every month at 7pm to discuss a book that relates to queerness, including history, theory, fiction, etc. Civic Media Center, 433 S Main St. 352-373-0010 Interweave A group for lesbian, gay, bisexual, & transgender individuals & their allies. Meets at 6:30pm on the 2nd Sunday of each month at the Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Gainesville, 4225 NW 34th St. Potluck, presentation, & discussion. "Just Us" Created for professional women 35+ to meet & mingle. Meets the last Saturday of the month at different restaurants, mostly in Volusia County. Join us for fun & food. "No mess, no men, no fuss, it's "Just Us". Contact Dee, Lesbian Readings & Potluck We have a good time together! Come and eat good food, bring something you have written and want to share, and/or come and listen to others read. Some womyn come just to the potluck, some just to the readings, and some to both. It's a lovely, connected evening with a small group of womyn as we share our stories and food. Time: 6:30 - Potluck; 7:30 - Readings. Place: TBA. Contact: Madeline 352-335-3138. PFLAG Gainesville PFLAG (Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians and Gays) meets monthly (3rd Tuesday) at 7pm to realize our goal of moving equality forward. United Church of Gainesville, 1624 NW 5th Ave. 352-340-3770,

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WhatÊs Happening? PFLAG Ocala Group meets on the 3rd Thursday of each month at 6-8pm at the Ocala Public Library (Room B). FMI 352-857-1739.

Trans* Movie Night Join Spectrum and PCCNCF on the 2nd Friday of each month at 7pm at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St.

“Sister Song” - Gainesville Women's Choir All are welcome; no experience needed. Rehearsals every Wednesday at 7pm at Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St Ste 62. For more info contact Ruth at 352-538-4927.

What the Animals Tell Me Every Wednesday at 8:30pm Flash Silvermoon hosts a live internet radio show for animal lovers. Listen to the live stream or check the archives later:

Stonewall Democrats of Alachua County LGBT Democrats & supporters meet monthly on the 4th Wednesday of each month at 6pm at the Alachua County Democratic Hdqtrs, 901 NW 8th Ave #A-3.

Youth Discussion Group PCCNCF hosts a weekly “Youth Discussion Group” for GLBT youth between the ages of 14 & 18 years old on Wednesdays from 3:30-4:30pm at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St, Gainesville. FMI call 352-377-8915

Transgender Gainesville Discussion Group Meets on 2nd & 4th Wednesdays at 7pm at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St.

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How to Recover from a Night of Partying The pometini pitchers were flowing, and you which offers short-term pain relief. We love Dr. danced like a star. But today, you’re feeling a wee Scholl’s for Her Cooling Peppermint Lotion ($5.49). bit fried. These feel-better tricks will help, no matter When you must put on shoes again, drag out the most comfortable pair in your closet (read wellwhat you did last night. cushioned with thick soles and good arch-support); they’ll help ease the ache. Soak again at night, wear 1. Those cocktails were really good What to do today: after too much hooch, drink a sane shoes for the next day or two, and you’re good lot of water and at least one for another round of dancing. However, if the ache doesn’t go away, call your doc. serving of fruit juice (any kind, even if it’s not 100% juice)—that will replenish the sugar that's lost when your body metabolizes alcohol. And treat yourself to extra carbs, such as wheat toast, which help your body process the alcohol by delivering extra sugar and absorbing the alcohol's toxins, experts say. If your head hurts, it’s partly because alcohol has an inflammatory effect that makes your blood vessels swell, a common headache trigger. Christine Lay, MD, a headache specialist at The College of Physicians and Surgeons of Ontario, recommends ibuprofen, which not only relieves the pain, but has anti-inflammatory powers that acetaminophen doesn't. 2. You danced all night in stilettos You pulled out your best moves, but now your feet are achy. That happens because high heels strain the balls of your feet and the metatarsals, the long bones in the forefoot, explains Marc A. Brenner, DPM, a podiatrist based in Glendale, New York. “Depending on how pointy the shoe, you may also have pain in your toes,” he says. After you get up, soak your feet in cool water for 10 minutes. Then dry off and massage them with a foot balm containing menthol, Page 18

3. You had the richest meal of your life You adored the steak frites and chocolate souffle. The bloat and full feeling 12 hours later? Not so much. As soon as you feel hungry, return to your normal eating habits—maybe a breakfast that includes low-fat dairy (like low-fat cottage cheese), high-fiber whole grains like oatmeal, some fruit, and a little protein like a hard-boiled egg. Then hit the gym ASAP. Experts say that exercise may help gas escape your body, which can ease the bloat. Follow your normal diet the rest of the day; try not to blame yourself or drastically cut back on calories to make up for last night. “One night of indulgence won’t wreck a healthy diet,” says Elisa Zied, MS, RD, a New York City–based spokeswoman for the American Dietetic Association. 4. You took the redeye—and stayed up enjoying the movie Today: Resist the urge to take a nap before work (or keep it Kindred Sisters — May 2013

to 30 minutes or less), says Daniel McNally, MD, medical director of the University of Connecticut Sleep Disorders Center, because it’ll only throw off your sleep clock even more and make it harder for you to fall asleep at night. Instead, get some sun right away; that will help you return to a regular sleep schedule at night, Dr. McNally says. Take a brisk morning walk or jog around the block, too, and be sure to sit outdoors during your lunch hour. If you love coffee, don’t suck down a whole pot at once: sipping small amounts—about a quarter-cup every hour—will actually keep you more alert than that grande latte without ruining your sleep, according to a study from Harvard Medical School.

disposable lenses, throw them out). If your eye feels good, you can put the lenses back in or wear a fresh pair. (Avoid using redness-relieving drops—they can mask signs of serious problems.) Better yet, you may want to give your eyes a break for a day and wear eyeglasses instead. 6. You forgot the condoms

If pregnancy is your concern, emergency contraception is readily available without a prescription. Women with regular cycles usually know when they’re most fertile, but that doesn’t mean you should forgo emergency contraception outside of 5. You crashed in your contacts that window. Experts say that things like stress, It's OK to accidentally sleep in your contacts illness, changes in your workouts, and travel could once in a while as long as you baby your eyes the upset your usual pattern. So as soon as you have next morning. While the box warns that sleeping in unprotected intercourse that isn’t planned, hit the your lenses increases the risk of microbial keratitis, drugstore and ask the pharmacist for Plan B (it’s a painful and potentially sight-threatening infection, behind the counter), says Mary Jane Minkin, MD, a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at studies suggest that the chances of developing Yale University School of Medicine. keratitis from wearing contacts are as low as 1 in 10,000. Usually, overnight wear just leads to some irritation and inflammation. Before you attempt to remove those contacts, add a few drops of eye lubricant. “The lens may adhere to the cornea while sleeping, so without lubrication, you risk pulling off Experts aren’t sure exactly how the pill—which some of the contains the hormone progestin—prevents outermost layer of the pregnancy, but they know it works best when used eye,” says Christine promptly. It’s about 90% effective if taken within the Sindt, OD, associate first 24 hours after intercourse. The effectiveness professor of clinical ophthalmology at the University decreases the longer you wait, but studies suggest of Iowa, Iowa City. Then, immediately disinfect your the pill may work for up to five days after sex. lenses in their case for 4 to 6 hours. (If you have excerpt from Kindred Sisters — May 2013

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Orlando Gay Chorus! Take Two for Me I was WOWed my first time last year, and WOWed again IN CAPS. Second act had me giving STANDING OVATIONS, as the mighty chorus, so strong and colorful, serenaded us in many languages. IT WAS A PERFECT BLEND, and I have seldom heard so much PASSION poured into my POLITICS. Their history began with one visionary gay guy, who was in the audience last night. Another early supporter was our wonderful persian poet SAVIZ, who ran a juice bar in Winter Park, also supported CHANGES NEWSLETTER FOR WIMMIN. BEFORE THERE WAS A CENTER, THERE WAS SAVIZ, and CHANGES. BUT MORE IS BETTER, without a doubt, and there is MORE EACH YEAR, of the TOYS for TOTS collected in the lobby, and dispersed by two wonderful marines (one tall woman and one handsome man) who drive up in a big military truck. VERY MACHO indeed. There was a questionnaire to fill out, to give more audience profile and promote support. TICKET SALES were up over one thousand this year. At 30 a pop they are funding MANY NEEDY FAMILIES and 69 BIKES will be given this year. I LOVED EVERYTHING THEY DID, cannot give an unbiased critical review, it’s just another RAINBOW RAVE REVIEW. by Rainbow Williams Page 20

Basketball Star Brittney Griner Comes Out by Kathy Belge Up until now, Brittney Griner has been most known for her amazing basketball skills, her ability to dunk and for being 6'8" tall. Now that the superstar ball player came out, wait, she's still best known for her amazing basketball skills, her ability to dunk and for being 6'8" tall. Brittney Griner came out in an interview with Sports Illustrated magazine, but the news was taken in stride by most media organizations. The news media and general public seemed to not pay much attention to Brittney Griner's coming out as a lesbian. As a matter of fact, she seemed to get a lot more attention for her basketball skills and her ability to dunk the ball. This is how it should be, yes? She's a smart young woman, an outstanding basketball player, a good role-model for young girls, and oh yeah, she's a lesbian. Even though Brittney Griner's coming out was not treated as big news in the media, it still is a big deal for young people struggling with their sexuality knowing that someone so famous and so important is not worried at all about the impact of her coming out on her career. As Brittney said in an interview with USA Today, "I can't help but cry when I talk about bullying, just thinking about the suicide rate. I know what those kids are going through." Brittney Griner is one of the best basketball players to ever come out of the women's game. She played for Baylor and led them to a national championship in 2012. She's been an three-time All American, AP Player of the year and MVP at the Final Four, amongst other awards. She is one of only seven women to dunk during a college basketball game. excerpt from

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In the News NBA Player Becomes First Openly Gay Male Athlete In A Major Professional Sport NBA center Jason Collins has become the first male U.S. athlete in a major professional sport to come out as gay. Full Story: Rhode Island Embraces Marriage Equality NOW congratulates Rhode Island on becoming the tenth state to embrace marriage equality. With Governor Chafee's signature, all Rhode Islanders will have access to the same marriage rights. Full Story: France Legalizes Gay Marriage After Harsh Debate, Violent Protests France legalized gay marriage on April 23 after a wrenching national debate that has exposed deep social conservatism in the nation's heartland and triggered huge protests in Paris from both sides of the divide. Full Story: NFL Announces Plan to Protect Gay Players The idea of sports clubs welcoming openly gay players on professional sports teams is becoming less of an odd thought to many. For sports organizations, a welcoming environment is the next step forward if they want to continue to attract top talent and stay relevant. Full Story: Same-Sex Marriage Now Legal in New Zealand Add New Zealand to the list of countries that legalized same-sex marriage. Beginning midAugust, same-sex couples will be able to get married in New Zealand. Full Story: America's Gay-Marriage Evolution A recent Washington Post/ABC News poll shows that 58 percent of Americans support legalizing gay marriage and only 36 percent oppose it. Full Story:

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What’s Shakin’ at the Shake Rag? May 1: Keith Peters, AKA Talking Stick Keith Peters, of Hawthorne, Fl, has been writing his own brand of music pushing 5 decades. Over the years, his evolving music has morphed to embrace elements of reggae, calypso, bosa, swing, jazz, eclectic folk, R & R. The songs are engaging and up-beat, often with a message. His music emphasizes rhythmic expression, with a unique sound of its own. 882 State Rd 21 N Melrose, FL 32666

May 3: Melrose First Friday Art Walk Interlachen High School 2013 Student Art Show

May 8: Ron Schmidt and Walter Jones Ron Schmidt and Walter Jones are the founding members of the Peoples Band, which plays at The Yearling Restaurant on Sunday afternoons (in season). Ron and Walter both retired from the University of Florida to pursue their music careers (okay, they are also old, so there is that). Ron (vocals, guitar, and accordion) grew up in Minnesota, just down the road from Lake Wobegon, which may be his primary link to music fame. Walter (percussion) grew up in Gainesville, FL. He is more famous for his music in that he was born in Columbus, GA (about the time of the writing of “Columbus Stockade Blues”) and also played clarinet in the US Army band during military service. They play a diverse array of music, perhaps best categorized as a “folk/country mish”. May 15: Al Poindexter and River Rise Al sings and plays Americana, Folk Songs, original songs, songs about Florida, plays Bottleneck slide guitar, finger style guitar, clawhammer banjo. Eric Wendorf sings, plays the harmonica and Didgeridoo (oldest musical instrument from Wind Family that exists), native to Australian Aborigines. Joining Al and Eric will be bass player Ron Spencer. Al Poindexter and Eric Wendorf competed against 12 other highly electric blues bands at the St Johns River Blues Festival in Palatka on November 12, 2011 and won First Place. May 22: Emmett Carlisle Emmett will soon be releasing his 6th CD of original Americana and Florida folk songs. Some of the CDs available are Young Man’s Dreams, Walkin’ The Line, Florida Spirit and Gamble’s Choice. He plays at most of the big Festivals including the Florida Folk, Will Mclean, and Gamble Rogers and many others. Musicians are always welcome to sit in or play a song or two with Emmett.

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Rationale for “Phases” by Kaylin Kimble The image is read from top left, top right, bottom left, bottom right. The first frame there is a very feminine looking woman with a confused look on her face. The first image is the confusion I went through when I began to realize I wasn’t heterosexual anymore after dating the hottest guys. The subject begins to lose her identity as the world begins to fall to pieces shown in the background as cracked glass. During the loss of her identity she begins to feel less feminine as represented by the facial hair in the picture and facial hair is linked to masculinity and is not considered beautiful in the western beauty culture, the culture I was born and raised on even though she still has feminine qualities to her such as eyeliner, lipstick and earrings. The next frame is a further loss of identity as the subject is plummeted into the next emotion, hatred; she begins to become careless about her appearance such as scraggly fringe and eyebrows with notches. She begins to lay blame on everything and everyone around her, including herself noted by the self mutilation on the arm, looking to justify this sudden and shocking change. The 3rd frame is acceptance, coming to terms with what she is, realizing that she’s still woman, hence the removal of the facial hair as she begins to take care of her appearance, dollying herself up, gelling and styling the hair in the bathroom. In the final frame there is a very lonely atmosphere, the picture itself is very empty and feels as though it’s missing something or something needs to be added which represents the solitary confinement in a homophobic society. Everything looks normal but on closer inspection the subject is missing a mouth, without a mouth you cannot speak, when you can’t speak you can’t voice your emotions and what you’re going through. So even thought the subject has come out amongst straight people hence the upside-down triangle earring representative of lesbians and the feminine pink shirt, there is no one for the subject to connect to, no one to explain what the subject is going through, no one to confide in that understands and the loneliness that comes with not being able to find love for the others like the subject are in hiding and because of the two faced nature of society exclaiming that its okay and then condemning it in the presence of a closet case, the subject is forced to live in silence. Kindred Sisters — May 2013

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AstroFlash ARIES – There’s no place like home and at times I really do feel like I am being blown around with Dorothy and Toto. Maybe Oz would be a really cool place to be? My inspiration mojo is really cranking and I want to take it where it can go far. I am shedding so many layers of disillusion and frustration that this new born babe has some tender places. Makes me want to keep my distance and fire off rounds of words that can create a firmer boundary but when I see myself using that behavior I can see how destructive it can become. Clearly I am becoming more intimate with myself and digging deep. It’s not that I was superficial before but I just found action more fascinating than getting a bird’s eye view of my insides.

that could carry me for months. After all, I am a lion and the Sun fills our souls. If your energy is flagging, just hang out with a Leo for a bit and they will have you running like a top. My creative juices are about to spill into a new project. I am not the secretive type and I usually like to roar my news from the roof top but this time Saturn urges me to keep the lid on this one and so I will. Got to make some time now for my more sexual needs so welcome to my jungle. Leo wants to play and I always play nice c’mon over and see me some time!

VIRGO – I am not known for being will full but something seems to be stuck in my craw these days and I feel like resisting everybody and everything. Well maybe my mate gets a bit more of this than anyone else but you understand what I mean. I guess I have been feeling that my TAURUS – With Venus still in my sign for a little longer I better pack in all mutability makes others think that I am a push over so I am tending to the sensuous experiences that I can find and believe me I can find some be more stubborn but honestly it just isn’t me. Oh the mind twists of a ways! That’s the thing, you can give anything that sweet sparkle if you Virgo, we do give ourselves so much more of a hard time than anyone have a mind to and it just makes life so much more enjoyable. I say find else would. This is me and for better or worse I must operate in the a sexy way everyday, no need for a holiday to make it special and the world as I am but getting a hold of my endless mind chatter would be a end result is a life well lived. Try it you will like it and if ya need some fine thing to do. Neptune in my opposite sign Pisces is trying hard to nice Taurian to show you the ropes in making your life more sensuous release me from this and redirect the energy towards meditation and and overall more pleasant give me a call. We could do everything from music which is lovely and brings me peace. shopping, eating, going to a museum, tasting wine and chocolate……the mind just wanders and the body, well the body has some even better LIBRA – Everything feels so extreme these days and that just doesn’t ideas but then there is that Saturn thing opposing your sun that just work for me. I like the even keel with everyone in pleasant agreement feels like a lead wet blanket but this Bull will prevail. but I rarely have that option. I am not a fence sitter, I have opinions just like everyone else but I share mine with respect and maybe even a little GEMINI – I’m in the middle of everything and that’s just the way that I bit of grace. Ever since Uranus started knocking old Pluto around my like it. Intimate gatherings are way over rated when variety is the spice peace has been shattered. Aries is enough to contend with on a good of life and I really enjoy savoring all the fine flavors one can find in food day but letting wild and crazy Uranus be in Aries, well that was just and people. Actually there is a method to all of this flitting around; by beyond the pale. I know that all of this madness is beyond my control experiencing what I am not, I have a clearer sense of what I am. That and I need to at least look like my world is in order. All right, breathe may seem convoluted to many but it sure works for me. I love astrology Libra breathe, you are an air sign it will all be fine. because it allows for individuality and for all the permutations of what that is. I just want to be the best me that I can be with all my craziness SCORPIO – I think it must be time to make friends with Saturn as he isn’t and idiosyncrasies. Ya got to admit that I am fun and never boring. Don’t going anywhere fast. I just hate having to answer to anyone and there you just hate boring? he sits shaking his narrow little finger in my face, NO, do it this way. I can feel my anger rising because frustration is simply not my favorite CANCER – I thought I had finally found my quiet pool in which to float flavor. I am a water sign and I like to flow whether it be through some around and soothe my soul. Seems like all the intensity and turmoil from deep dark cavern or a clear bubbling spring and Saturn just plunks an the last 2 months has sent me seeking peace and rest because my impenetrable damn blocking me. I am over it. One good thing for us empathic self seems to get way too intimate with the planet and all its Scorpios is that being water and fixed determined water sign at that, we eruptions. My heart is willing but the rest of me wants to go back to bed. can flow around the dam. It is slower but we will get to our goal and Water in any way shape or form is my balm and it’s a good thing for me just maybe we can learn something from this about perseverance or at to remember as it makes everything else work better. Filling my own least a new map. cup is likely the best medicine for now and I must follow my own advice. The harsh Uranus/Pluto energies are revving their collective engines SAGITTARIUS – With so much hot air flying around over in Gemini, my and I had best be ready for that onslaught before the next round comes opposite, I figure why fight it like stubborn Scorpio, I can just pretend to around zapping my psychic field. be a Gemini. I am flexible and a good ride is a good ride. I see my ruling planet Jupiter sitting over there happy as a clam, and how happy are LEO – I’m not sure why but I feel great. Can’t complain about that. Just clams any way? Well I have been feeling pretty bored sitting around with the warmth of the sun on my face brings a renewed sense of inspiration no planets in my sign and you do not want to see a bored Saggie, we can Page 24

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get ourselves into some trouble! For the sake of my better judgment, I will take a page from Gemini’s playbook and start a journal and write about exotic places that I have gone or want to go and maybe even turn it into a musical comedy. There I am inspired already. CAPRICORN – You other astrological signs can complain about how hard it is to live with Saturn, Uranus and Neptune but I have to contend with the slowest mover of them all, Pluto, and its weird elliptical orbit. I can’t say that this association has been without any compensation for my trouble. I have learned how to polish the floor with my tears when frustration seemed beyond me and how to look death in the eye and say hell no and after that was all said and done, I finally learned to surrender to my higher power and stop flailing around frantically. Has it been fun? Hell no. But these hard won lessons are mine to keep and I have gained a level of self respect that is priceless. AQUARIUS – So, how about gay marriage? Come on, you don’t really think that a bunch of people loving each other is going to rock your world? On the other hand it might really rock ours to finally feel like our love is as special and as protected as anyone’s. Do you think that if you block our unions we will suddenly say “What were we thinking, let’s all go get opposite sex partners and forget all about it? Gays may be some of the couples that actually plan their pregnancies and while we are on the subject of children, kids without families are not looking for the right religion or sexual preference of those who would adopt them, they are looking at the quality of the hearts of potential parents. OK Juno, the asteroid of marriage is in my sign and I just got carried away. Who would have thought even 10 years ago that this issue would get any where near a national ballot so, Gay Marriage is coming to a neighborhood near you and it can’t hurt you or change your life but it will sure change mine. PISCES – If I could truly live a most Piscean life it would be so easy and it would keep me in the total flow of the planet. I do try to stay in that Neptunian haven of fluidity and ecstasy but the harshness of the world seems to conspire to shatter my peace at every turn. I know the NEWS rarely tells us what is really happening and it might as well be called the OLDS because by the time we hear it,, it has been spun and undone from any reality that even laid near the truth. Do you see how my peace gets broken? Rant over, what I really want to say is do not allow yourself to be dragged down to the lower vibrations and ruin your buzz. There are more people than ever before who are willing to reshape our future with wisdom and spirit so join up with the army of Spiritual Warriors and revision and empower a Healing New World and RAISE THE VIBE FOR THE TRIBE.

Trinity Metropolitan Community Church Presents...

Community Talent Show SATURDAY, MAY 18, 2013 Let’s all get together and enjoy an evening of a Lasagna Dinner And Super Talent Show Doors open at 5:30 Dinner at 6:00 Entertainment to follow 11604 SW Archer Road, Gainesville MENU Regular, Vegetable, or Chicken Lasagna Salad, Bread, and Dessert Tickets are $12.00 or $20.00 for 2 Can you sing, play an instrument, juggle or maybe you are a stand-up comic, or twirl a baton, dance or any other type of entertainment. To enter, please contact Marge Syth at for a Talent Show Entry Form. Prizes will be awarded: 1st place - $50.00 2nd place - $25.00 3rd place - $10.00

This will be a fun evening and a great way to get together with friends to enjoy dinner and entertainment.

Through my monthly Astroflash, I have endeavored to offer gender neutral astrology to speak to all sexual preferences and identities. If you know your Rising sign, your personal reading will be more accurate if you read the passage for that sign as well as your Sun sign. For deeper questions and readings of an Astrological or Psychic nature, feel free to call 352-475-2432 for an appt. or contact me through my website: Kindred Sisters — May 2013

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Classifieds FOR SALE: BEACH COTTAGE AT PAGODA! The historic lesbian community rarely sees one of the original twelve fishing cottages, built by Shorty Rees, pilot for the Flagler Heiress in the thirties and forties, available for purchase. Rainbow Williams, artist and writer, lived there for over twenty years, and is offering it. Vintage & charming. 2 bedroom, 2 bath, carport, shed, deck with ocean view, & a large bonus room, for $350, 000. Call 904-347-6448 for a private showing. A rare opportunity. SURVEY PARTICIPANTS NEEDED: Georgia Southern University is conducting a research project designed to help describe the unique health needs of LGBT people living in urban and rural areas. This online research study aims to examine the relationship between geographic location, experiences with healthcare providers, and physical and psychological well-being in individuals who identify as a sexual or gender minority. Responses are entirely anonymous. To participate, you must identify as a sexual or gender minority (i.e., lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, pansexual, queer, etc.) & be over the age of 18. Access the survey at

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Cyber Connections Florida Gay Campers

A bunch of fun men and women who like to camp and party. group/floridagaycampers

Lesbians of the South

For networking, communication, & mutual support among lesbians of the southern states. group/LesbiansoftheSouth

LEZgo Events

Produces and promotes events for lesbians throughout Florida. group/LEZgoEvents

LGBT Ocala

A social group bringing together the LGBT community in Ocala, FL, Marion county and surrounding areas.

North Central Florida Lesbians

Community networking exclusively for lesbians with ties in North Central Florida. NorthCentralFloridaLesbians


This group is established to give Pride Community Center of North Central Florida a way to make announcements and notify the membership of upcoming events.

Kindred Sisters — May 2013

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Kindred Sisters - May 2013 Issue  

May 2013 issue of Kindred Sisters Magazine