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Kindred Sisters “Giving Women a Voice” May 2012
Hairball 15 A HUGE VARIETY SHOW!
Saturday June 9th 8:00 pm at VILLA EAST, 301 N Main St, Gainesville Tickets: $12/adv; $15/door (ticket price includes munchies during intermission & an After-Party at Villa East) Tickets available for purchase at the Pride Center (3131 NW 13th St) & at Wild Iris Books (802 W University Ave)
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Cover: This image of the Whirlpool Galaxy was taken by the Hubble Space Telescope. The Whirlpool Galaxy was discovered on October 13, 1773 by Charles Messier, and is designated as M51. It is an interacting grand-design spiral galaxy that is estimated to be 23 million light-years from the Milky Way Galaxy in the constellation Canes Venatici. It is one of the most famous galaxies in the sky. The galaxy and its companion (NGC 5195) are easily observed by amateur astronomers, and the two galaxies may even be seen with binoculars. (Image provided by www.exploratorium.edu/hubble/live/index.html) Kindred Sisters — May 2012
All Things Wild Iris View our full event calendar at wildirisbooks.com
Marcey Shapiro, Reading/Signing 5/1/12, 6-8pm Conventional medicine depicts health care as an endless war with germs and disease. What would medicine look like if we were at peace with nature? In her book, Transforming the Nature of Health, Marcey Shapiro, MD invites us to lay down our weapons with her fresh vision for health and health care, based on interconnectedness love, meaning and respect. She invites readers to join in co-creating visionary new science that expresses our wholeness. Join her for a short reading from her book, and talk about new ideas with friends. Transgender Support Group 5/2/12, 7-9pm Open meeting for transgender people and allies. Come discuss issues and support each other in a safe space. Pagan Group Meet-Up - 5/9/12, 7-9pm Open meeting for the Pagan community. All are welcome.
Maria Carter Live! 5/11/12, 7pm Come show your support for independent women's music with the brilliant Maria Carter! Maria will perform old favorites and new gems so don't miss it! $5-10 sliding scale. Ticket sales support Maria's music endeavors and Friends of Wild Iris! Feminist Book Club - 5/15/12, 7-8pm This reading group is free and open to anybody who is interested. This month we will discuss Nickel and Dimed by Barbara Ehrenreich. Join this reading group as we read some of the top feminist books and then come together to discuss how they influence our lives. Mention that you’re purchasing the title to participate in the reading club and you’ll save 10% off the purchase price. Some of us will gather before the meeting from 6-7pm for dinner and drinks from Cafe Colette – and we invite you to join us for good eats to fuel our minds for discussion time. Feminist Open Mic 5/29/12, 7:30pm Calling all performers!! Join us for Feminist Open Mic. All creative performances welcome! Café Colette will have food and beverages available for sale.
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Logo Design Contest The Lesbian Health Project is seeking a design from the community! This is our vision (see image). The overall design would be circular and in the place of the words can be an image depicting the meaning behind the word. The ideas we would like represented are the sense of inter-connectedness of people as well as that of the mind, body, and spirit. Please e-mail submissions to: Womens.Health.Pride@gmail.com by June 15, 2012.
$25 gift card and 30 minute massage for the wining design!
Should the Lesbian Variety Show Continue? Is this event in any form IMPORTANT to you? Come voice your opinion on May 14th, 6:30 pm, at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St, Gainesville. Free pizza and soda pop! For more info or to share your opinion, email email@example.com.
Miss Universe Pageant To Include Transgender Women
Transgender women will be allowed to participate in the Miss Universe beauty pageant next year, officials announced on April 10, a week after they ruled a trail-blazing 23-year-old could vie for the crown this year. Pageant officials said they are working on the language of the official rule policy change but expected final word to come soon. Trials for next year's Miss Universe pageant begin this summer. excerpt from www.bl167w.blu167.mail.live.com Kindred Sisters â€” May 2012
The Hunger Games’ Feral Feminism As a mad fan of Suzanne Collins’s book The Hunger Games, I was totally pysched for the film. Secretly, though, I was prepared to be disappointed, because how often does Hollywood do justice to a book you love? The movie does oversimplify a bit, but then, for a book that reads like crack on paper, The Hunger Games is a complicated story, with many layers and lots of sharply drawn characters. While it has lost the first-person voice of its scrappy heroine, Katniss Everdeen, it’s amazing how much of the book the movie gets right. There are many ways to analyze The Hunger Games. You can see it as a savage satire of late capitalism: in a dystopian future version of North America called Panem, the 1 percent rule through brute force, starvation, technological wizardry and constant surveillance. The Games exemplify these methods: as punishment for a past rebellion, each of the twelve districts of Panem must sacrifice two teenagers, a boy and a girl, to come to the Capitol (sic) and compete in a televised ritual of murder and survivalism until only one is left. Tea Partiers can imagine an allegory of oppressive Washington, and traditionalists can revel in the ancient trope of the moral superiority of the countryside: the district people are poor and downtrodden and wear Depression-style clothes but they live in families, sing folk songs and have a strong sense of community. In the Capitol, which has the dated-futuristic look of a fascist Oz, the lifestyle is somewhere between the late Roman Empire, the court of Louis XVI and the Cirque du Soleil. You can also read the book as an indictment of reality television, in which a bored and cynical audience amuses itself watching desperate people destroy themselves, and the movie plays this angle for all it’s worth. When the unctuous Games host Caesar Flickerman (Stanley Tucci, in a startling blue wig) interviews the teens about to be murdered as if they were trying out for American Idol, you start to wonder when we’ll see Perez Hilton chatting up death row prisoners on Entertainment Tonight (“Any last words for your family?”). The element that is the most striking to me, though, is Katniss, portrayed in the film by the splendid Jennifer Lawrence. Katniss has qualities usually given to boys: a hunter who’s kept her mother and sister from starving since she was 11, she’s intrepid and tough, better at killing rabbits than expressing her feelings, a skilled bargainer in the black market for meat. No teenage vegetarian she! At the same time, she’s feminine: never aggressive or swaggering, tenderhearted and protective of the defenseless—when her little sister Prim’s name is chosen for the Games, Katniss volunteers to take her place; during the games she risks death to protect the lovable girlchild Rue (Amandla Stenberg). Not to get too literary about this most popular of popular fiction, you can see Katniss as a version of the goddess Artemis, protectress of the young and huntress with a silver bow and arrows like the ones Katniss carries in the Games. Like the famously virginal goddess, Katniss is an independent spirit: she is not about her looks, her clothes, her weight, her popularity, gossip, drama or boys. The great Stuart Klawans made a rare slip writing in these pages that Katniss is a typical young-adult heroine, “greatly worried” about whether “guy number one” likes her and what “guy number two might think about that.” The whole plot turns on Katniss being so romantically un interested in Peeta, her fellow District 12 Games contestant, she doesn’t realize he’s in love with her. When she’s not convinced he’s trying to kill her, she believes he’s pretending to be smitten with her to gain Page 4
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sympathy (and help) from the invisible TV audience. She rescues him several times anyway. As for “guy number two” back home, the devastatingly handsome Gale (Liam Hemsworth), Katniss only fleetingly thinks there might be more than friendship there. Mostly she is just trying to survive without becoming a horrible person. Katniss is a rare thing in pop fiction: a complex female character with courage, brains and a quest of her own. She’s Jo March as coal miner’s daughter in hunting boots, the opposite of Bella, the famously drippy, love-obsessed heroine of the Twilight books—and unlike clever and selfpossessed Hermione of the Harry Potter series, she’s the lead, not a sidekick. We’re worlds away from the vicious-little-rich-girls of Gossip Girl and its many knockoffs, where everything revolves around looks, clothes, consumerism, social status and sexual competition. She is a rare thing in real-life girl culture, too, where the latest news is of Dara-Lynn Weiss’s Vogue article—and book deal—recounting the rigid diet regimen she forced on her 7-year-old daughter. (At least Amy Chua browbeat her daughters to read books and play musical instruments!) What does it say about us that so many mocked the slender Lawrence’s Katniss as too “big”? It’s true that in the book, Katniss is underfed, like almost everyone in the districts, but in the movie none of the other Games contestants are skinny either, and they all look fit and healthy, even tiny Rue, who in the book has never even had a whole bird leg to herself. Besides, the anorectic cookie-cutter young actresses favored by Hollywood don’t have the acting chops for this role. Lawrence, who played another hardscrabble heroine in Winter’s Bone, brings to life the hidden tenderness that is one key to Katniss’s character. The other key is Katniss’s moral centeredness. Unlike most of the contestants, she kills only in selfdefense. Life as a celebrity—winners are feted and made rich for life—repels her. When she thinks about fairness and justice, she’s thinking about social class and political power, not about who gets to be prom queen. What would she make of the racist response of some fans to the casting of black actors as Rue and another beloved character, Thresh? I suspect she’d be as contemptuous of them as she is of the hyperprivileged darlings of the Capitol. excerpt from www.thenation.com
In the Spotlight Kate McKinnon Comedian and actress Kate McKinnon has joined the cast of Saturday Night Live, becoming the first out lesbian cast member. Kate debuted on April 7, 2012 with host Sofia Vergara. McKinnon graduated from Columbia University with a B.A. in Theater and has performed stand-up comedy in New York City and was on the first Sweet cruise. excerpt from www.lesbianlife.about.com
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Second-Hand Sales on the Rise A throwaway culture leads to clothing being thought of more like wrapping paper and less like reusable, functional art. It looks nice temporarily, but as soon as it’s used, it gets thrown away. However, our clothing culture is transforming, according to industry statistics from NARTS: The Association of Resale Professionals. Consignment, thrift and resale shops have grown at least seven percent a year over the last two years, the organization concluded in its report. Goodwill Industries alone generated $2.69 billion in retail sales in 2010. Has the stigma of buying used finally been lifted? Perhaps, but there are many factors at work. Being Earth-friendly is certainly a plus, but in an economic downturn, thrift shops look rather enticing. Throw in the prevalence of vintage-inspired fashion and you have a recipe for responsible reuse. Thrifting, of course, is one of the easiest ways to recycle. Some argue that, even though those pants might have been manufactured in China, once thrifted, the only carbon footprint associated with that item is the gas it took the donator to get it to the shop. Between 16 and 18 percent of Americans say they shopped thrift stores in any given year and 12 to 15 percent shop at consignment shops, according to NARTS, compared to 21.3 percent that shop at department stores and the 19.6 percent that shop at apparel stores.
PCCNCF Selects 2012 Pride Theme:
“Pride Without Borders” Borders” Show your Pride by entering the Gainesville Pride 2012 Logo Design Contest! $100 Cash Prize for the design selected by PCCNCF for use as the official 2012 logo. This logo will appear on the 2012 t-shirts, website, Pride Program, and other promotional literature. The specifications are as follows: \ 11” by 12” maximum size \ Six colors maximum (including black) \ Submit finished color copy along with electronic file (preferably vector graphic) on CD or DVD \ Design should at least contain the words “Gainesville, FL” & “Pride” & “2012” \ Design should be visual representation of Pride 2012 theme: “Pride Without Borders” \ All submissions become the property of Pride Community Center of North Central Florida. All designs must be submitted to Pride Community Center at 3131 NW 13th St, Suite 62 by 7:00pm on May 10th. 10th For questions about the logo contest, please email firstname.lastname@example.org.
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'50 Shades Of Grey': Ellen Narrates E.L. James' Erotic Novel We thought that Ellen Degeneres had reached peak genius when she inserted herself into “The Bachelor: The Women Tell All.” However, the talk show host seems to have outdone herself again -- this time by narrating the bestselling (and by the author's own admission, not well written) erotic novel, “50 Shades of Grey.” The book, originally conceived as "Twilight" fan fiction by author E.L. James, is about the relationship between billionaire Christian Grey and college student Anastasia Steele. The novel is known for its fairly explicit sex scenes, and it’s these bits that have piqued the interest of so many female readers. (If you want to get a taste, check out Buzzfeed’s round-up of the “15 Best/Worst Lines” from the book.) However, when Ellen starts reading, she acts a little unprepared: “Oh my god -- I’m not gonna say that! … Is it OK if I paraphrase so that I don’t say the exact words …?” she asks. Hilarity ensues. Ellen's "audiobook" involves sound effects she creates using a whip, chains, handcuffs … and a Paddle Ball game, as well as her promised attempts at "paraphrasing": “He guides his hands across my … secret garden.” “Suddenly he took out his … ball-peen hammer?” “Panties.” (Embarrassed grin.) and a little commentary: “Well, I don’t think you should use a spatula for that.” Ellen also leaves her audience with some important words to live by: “If you go to Anastasia’s house, don’t eat the pancakes.”
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Self-Diagnosis, Part 2 by Woody Blue
Recently my sister in NC sent me a letter with a crude drawing of her hand. She circled the fingernail of her third finger and said she had a crack down the middle of it. “What does this mean?” she asked. “How do I fix it?” Truth be told, a cracked fingernail can be caused by a range of things, from adrenal failure to doing too much yard work. Could be a vitamin A or Vitamin D deficiency. It could be the result of taking a baby aspirin everyday to stave off a heart ailment. Could be the liver is starting to go.
doctor’s office, you would be working primarily with signs rather than symptoms. That’s why the doctor wants to keep running tests to determine what category, and ultimately, what “disease” is presenting. If the signs all fall within a ‘normal’ range, you may be told…”There’s nothing wrong with you, despite your symptoms.” However, at home, the next step could be determining if there are other symptoms you could group together to point you in the right direction.
Going to the info-laden Internet can be time-consuming and shuffle you to nail clinics and My sister recognizes that her body is telling distracting web pages that won’t her something; she just doesn’t speak the be especially helpful. However, language and she’s not about to go to the doctor you may eventually come to the with a fingernail crack for a diagnosis. Where does conclusion that brittle, weak or a person start to unravel the language? ridged nails are a sign of a nutritional deficiency. A lot of To answer that question I want to give you the same nutrients that feed the some background information concerning the fingernails also feed the skin and difference between a sign and a symptom. hair. Is the skin dry? Is there a history of persistent rashes, eczema or dandruff? Split ends? In medical jargon, a symptom is a SUBJECTIVE Thinning hair? Oily skin? If some of these other body distress indicator that is not measurable. A conditions are also prevalent, we can turn our broken fingernail, foggy brain or a painful joint attention looking at the nutrients that make up falls into this category. When trying to come up healthy skin, nails and hair. To correct these with a diagnosis, most western medical doctors things, a person would start working on building look for ‘signs’, not symptoms. ‘Signs’ are up healthy collagen and keratin levels. OBJECTIVE body distress indicators that CAN be measured, such as EEG’s, X-rays, RBC counts and There may be other subtle signs of a body blood pressure. In order to make a diagnosis, breaking down that can catch a person unawares. there have to be a group of signs Night blindness and brittle nails can be a sign of a and symptoms that add up to a Vitamin A deficiency, which, in turn, could be a medical condition. symptom of a damaged liver. Looking up Vit A deficiency on the Internet will acquaint you with a When sitting at home trying to host of other possible symptoms that are helpful figure out why one of your in determining if this is the problem. fingernails is brittle and cracked, you mostly have to work with There are other reasons why my sister’s symptoms, not signs. In the fingernail could be cracked, but let’s say she’s Page 8
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decided, after looking into it, that there is a vitamin A deficiency. What’s the next step?
throw off lots of evidence. We are a web of health conditions all playing off each other. Tug one string here and the whole web is affected.
Eating liver from healthy, pastured animals is the easiest way to boost Vitamin A. Another good way is to supplement with fermented cod liver oil. For vegetarians, eating LOTS of carrots or orange vegetables might help, but be aware that the beta-carotene is a PRECURSOR to Vitamin A and the conversion process is somewhat inefficient. It would be more prudent to take a therapeutic dose of a vitamin A supplement, meaning that you would take more than the recommended dosage on the bottle.
I’ve used the example of my sister’s split fingernail to illustrate some of the complications involved when we try self-diagnosis. Doctors warn against this, but most of us make the attempt when we have some physical ailment. Diagnosis is tricky. However, if you go through the process and wind up at the doctor’s office, you’ll have more personal health information to help with a clear diagnosis.
A dietary fix is good but how do you know when it’s enough or not enough. Nutritional changes take time to take hold. Fingernails take 3-6 months to grow out cuticle to tip. It’s a long time to be supplementing if this isn’t the problem. If overall symptoms improve in the meantime, then ingesting extra Vitamin A might have been necessary anyway. A blood test for Vitamin A will determine a baseline before supplementation and a follow up test in 3 months would determine if the levels rose. There are many reputable blood clinics online that can do testing without a doctor’s prescription. They are affordable, and provide ways to consult with medical professionals to interpret and define results without added costs.
Regardless of the condition, my best advice is to turn to healthy eating practices. Get rid of the processed foods which put chemicals, neurotoxins, preservatives and other chemicals into our bodies. Take the time to shop at farmers’ markets for fresh vegetables and pastured meat sources. Buy eggs from local free range chickens. Learn about organics. My motto is, education is the key to good health… Till next month.. Woody Blue is a holistic health counselor specializing in massage and nutrition. You can contact her at 352-375-0539 for more info.
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'Gay Days at Disney World' Under Fire By Florida Right-Wing Group Walt Disney World's unofficial "Gay Day" tradition is coming under fire yet again from a rightwing Floridabased group. The Florida Family Association (FFA), which has previously claimed that gays and lesbians lead "immoral lifestyles," claims to have raised $4,100 to hire an aircraft company to fly a banner warning families about the June 2 event at the Orlando resort. At present, the banner can be flown for 10 hours, although organizers are aiming to have it flown for 20, which will cost $8,400. The group writes: "How would you feel if you entered the Magic Kingdom anticipating a normal day of fun with your family only to witness thousands of same-sex couples holding hands, hugging, kissing and wearing tee-shirts that promoted their lifestyle?" The group claims the banner is "the most cost effective manner" to warn families before they "expose their children to same-sex revelry" and "commit a day for fun now ruined" by entering the theme park during the A group of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender unofficial event. (LGBT) rights activists is firing back at an anti-gay The tactic is nothing new; as group's planned protest of Walt Disney World's Towleroad reported, FFA officials claim unofficial "Gay Days" event. to have spent $7,000 to fly banners that Deeming themselves the "Non-A-Holes," or "average read "Warning Gay Day at Disney 6/4" Americans against hatred," the group is hoping to over Orlando for two full days. raise enough funding to have a banner flown over the Organizers of Gay Days at Disney Orlando-based resort which reads, "WARNING: World have deemed their event, which Homophobes Loose in Orlando. Hide Your was first held in 1991, as "the world's Kids," on June 2. most popular gay and lesbian The motion would act as a direct rebuttal of the celebration," and report that it draws Florida Family Association's plan to fly a banner above "over 150,000 gay and lesbian travelers" the resort warning "traditional" families that the "Gay to Orlando each year.
Pro-LGBT Group Plans Rebuttal to Florida Family Association
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Days" are approaching. "Let's show them that this one isn't theirs," the group announces. "Haters can be haters, but to quote 'The Lion King II: Simba's Pride' -- 'Love is never wrong, so it never dies.'" excerpt from www.huffingtonpost.com
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Adrienne Rich, Influential Feminist Poet, Dies at 82 by Margalit Fox
Adrienne Rich, a poet of towering reputation and towering rage, whose work — distinguished by an unswerving progressive vision and a dazzling, empathic ferocity — brought the oppression of women and lesbians to the forefront of poetic discourse and kept it there for nearly a half-century, died at her home in Santa Cruz, Calif. She was 82. Widely read, widely anthologized, widely interviewed and widely taught, Ms. Rich was for decades among the most influential writers of the feminist movement and one of the best-known American public intellectuals. She wrote two dozen volumes of poetry and more than a half-dozen of prose; the poetry alone has sold nearly 800,000 copies, according to W. W. Norton & Company, her publisher since the mid-1960s. Triply marginalized — as a woman, a lesbian and a Jew — Ms. Rich was concerned in her poetry, and in her many essays, with identity politics long before the term was coined. She accomplished in verse what Betty Friedan, author of “The Feminine Mystique,” did in prose. In describing the stifling minutiae that had defined women’s lives for generations, both argued persuasively that women’s disenfranchisement at the hands of men must end. For Ms. Rich, the personal, the political and the poetical were indissolubly linked; her body of work can be read as a series of urgent dispatches from the front. While some critics called her poetry polemical, she remained celebrated Spring is for the unflagging intensity of her vision, and for the constant formal reinvention that kept her verse — often always too fast for me jagged and colloquial, sometimes purposefully shocking, who wishes slow always controlled in tone, diction and pacing — sounding at least for time to sing like that of few other poets. what's speeding by. All this helped ensure Ms. Rich’s continued relevance I swear, yesterday long after she burst genteelly onto the scene as a Radcliffe there was no sign of green senior in the early 1950s. today a budding fuzzyness Her constellation of honors includes a MacArthur buzzing too with attending Foundation “genius” grant in 1994 and a National Book bees and flies. A color of Award for poetry in 1974 for “Diving Into the Wreck.” not-quite-green. There must be That volume, published in 1973, is considered her tiny flowers there. I know there's masterwork. pollen, I just sneezed. There's Ms. Rich’s survivors include her partner of more than 30 a yellow dust on everything. years, the writer Michelle Cliff; three sons, David, Pablo Hallelujah. and Jacob, from her marriage to Professor Conrad; a sister, Cynthia Rich; and two grandchildren. johanna jordan 3-15-10
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NOW Applauds Senate Passage of VAWA by Terry O'Neill, NOW President
On April 26, the U.S. Senate passed the Violence Against Women Reauthorization Act (S. 1925), which includes funding for services to previously underserved populations. The act has transformed the nation's response to domestic and sexual violence, and has saved innumerable lives. NOW applauds the senators who bravely rejected amendments that would undermine the act and would have blocked efforts to provide services to immigrant women, the LGBT community and women on reservations. Shamefully, in contrast to prior reauthorizations, there were 31 senators who voted "no", effectively turning their backs on the women who need this life-saving legislation. NOW calls on the House of Representatives to take up S. 1925 and reject attempts to water down the bill or exclude victims in immigrant, Native American and the LGBT communities. It is time to promote policies that serve women's needs and stop playing politics with women's lives. excerpt from www.now.org
Lesbian Story Line Coming to 'Bold and the Beautiful' CBS’ The Bold and the Beautiful plans to bring back a popular character from Guiding Light to help launch its first-ever lesbian story line. EW has learned that Crystal Chappell — who was last seen playing Olivia, the popular lesbian lover of Natalia on Guiding Light — will portray Danielle, the other mother of Caroline Spencer. The episodes that will include Chappell’s debut will air in mid-May. The CBS soaps have aired gay story lines before: Besides the popular Olivia-Natalia storyline on Guiding Light, there was also Luke and Noah on As the World Turns. But this is a first for B&B, CBS’ half-hour sudser that’s been on the network since 1987. Meanwhile, NBC’s Days of Our Lives is struggling to gain traction with its first-ever gay story line that began last summer. Though the soap ended up making far sexier moves, bringing back fan faves like Deidre Hall, Drake Hogestyn, Patrick Muldoon and Christie Clark, the changes haven’t made a huge impact on the bottom line. excerpt from www.insidetv.ew.com
LGBT Conference on Aging Monday, May 7th The White House LGBT Conference on Aging will provide advocates, community leaders, and members of the public an opportunity to engage with the Obama Administration on the health, housing, and security needs of aging members of the LGBT community. Hosted by The White House Office of Public Engagement in partnership with the University of Miami Center on Aging. www.whitehouse.gov/webform/whitehouse-lgbt-conference-aging Kindred Sisters — May 2012
Equality Florida to Honor Jeanna Mastrodicasa and Terry Fleming Equality Florida Institute will honor Commissioner Jeanna Mastrodicasa and community leader Terry Fleming with the Voice for Equality Award at the organization’s annual Gala on Saturday, May 5 at 7 PM at the Florida Museum of Natural History. Celebrating its 15th year, Equality Florida Institute is the largest civil rights organization dedicated to securing full equality for Florida's LGBT community, “Our honorees have been pioneers in securing equality and giving a voice to the LGBT community,” said Nadine Smith, Executive Director of Equality Florida. “Both Commissioner Mastrodicasa and Terry Fleming have has been steadfast allies and advocates for Gainesville’s LGBT community for more than a decade.” Commissioner Mastrodicasa is Assistant Vice President of Student Affairs at the University Of Florida. She began her tenure at UF in 1997, and in 1999, in her role as Assistant Dean of Students, she served as the first UF liaison to the LGBT community. She was re-elected to the Gainesville City Commission for a second three-year term in May 2009. A resident of Gainesville, Fleming runs the Pride Community Center of North Central Florida. He served ten years in the Navy under policies banning openly gay men and women to serve, forcing him to keep his sexuality secret. In 2011, he was invited to the White House, along with other community activists, where he personally thanked President Obama for the long awaited repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.” More than 250 May 5, 7:30pm: Peter Rowan Concert ($25) lawmakers and community leaders are expected to attend the May 12, 7:30pm: Dim Lights Equality Florida with Karen Newman ($5) Tallahassee Gala, which promises to be a spectacular even. Nadine May 18, 7:30pm: Smith will present a State of the State Address, Grant Peeples CD Release Concert recounting the incredible strides made this past year throughout the state, as well as detailing how much work is yet to be done. May 24: Angela's 2nd The Gala takes place on Saturday, May 5 Annual Swing Dance from 7 ‘til 9 PM at the Florida Museum of Extravaganza Natural History, University of Florida Cultural Plaza, at SW 34th Street and Hull Road. Refreshments available Suggested minimum contribution is $100. at all events. Further information is available online at www.eqfl.org/gainesvillegala or by calling (813) Shake Rag Art & Culture Center 870-3735. Proceeds from the event benefit Equality SR 26 and Grove St in Melrose, FL Florida Institute, a tax exempt, 501(c)(3) non352-475-2924, www.shakeragarts.org www.eqfl.org profit organization.
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WhatÊs Happening? May 1: Beltane, May Day May 5: International Midwifery Day May 5, 10-4pm: Rock & Mineral Open House Informal gathering of friends, rockhounds, mineral enthusiasts to share and enjoy the fascinating world of stones. Come see new merchandise brought back from Tucson! Hosted by Rock 'n Glass at Wild Iris Books, 802 W University Ave, Gainesville. May 5, 12n-6pm: CMC Book Sale Anastasia Books in St. Augustine, Florida is reducing their stock and has donated books to benefit the Civic Media Center. The sale will include books in a broad range of political topics, science fiction, romance, ecology and more. The sale will also include excess/duplicate books from the CMC library, as well as vast variety of CDs. Paperback $1, Hardback $2, CDs $1. CMC, 433 S Main St, Gainesville. www.civicmediacenter.org May 5, 7-9pm: Equality Florida Gainesville Gala Now in its 4th year, our Gainesville Gala has become a "must attend" event that brings together more than 200 political, business, civic leaders and friends of equality. Held at the Florida Museum of Natural History, 315 Hull Rd. www.eqfl.org May 6, 5pm: Women’s Dinner & Movie Relax with the gals, enjoy a nice dinner, & catch a movie -- all for just $5! Can you think of a better way to spend a Sunday evening?! See full details on outside back cover. May 7-Jun 4: Moonhaven Mystery School for Women The class will meet for 4 consecutive Mon evenings 7-9:30pm at Moonhaven in Melrose. $62 for 4 sessions. Join a wonderful group of women to learn & develop your psychic & healing abilities in an empowered & safe space. www.flashsilvermoon.com
May 8, 7pm: Psychic Development Class Psychometry with Lisa Fadley. $10 each class - all levels welcome. Sacred Earth Center, 3131 NW 13th St #41, Gainesville, 352-275-8537, www.sacredearthcenter.org May 9, 7pm: Gaynesville Queer Reading Group Please join the Gaynesville Queer Reading Group to discuss Audre Lorde's "ZAMI: A New Spelling of My Name," a biomythography of this groundbreaking poet's life. Jasmine will facilitate this discussion! The Queer Reading Group meets every month to discuss a book (or other form of writing) that relates to queerness, including history, theory, fiction, and so on. We meet the second Wednesday of every month at 7pm at the Civic Media Center, 433 S Main St. May 11, 7pm: Maria Carter Concert Come show your support for independent women's music with the brilliant Maria Carter! Maria will perform old favorites and new gems - so don't miss it! $5-10 sliding scale. Ticket sales support Maria's music endeavors and Friends of Wild Iris! Wild Iris Books, 802 W University Ave, Gainesville. 352-3757477 May 12: Windsor Zucchini Festival Family-oriented festival. Arts & crafts show, live music, kids' rides/games, chicken bar-b-que meal, variety of contests, zucchini prepared many ways including ice cream. A great day of fun! www.afn.org/~windsor/page2.htm May 12: The Lesbian Readings & Potluck We have a good time together! Come and eat good food, bring something you have written and want to share, and/or come and listen to others read. Some womyn come just to the potluck, some just to the readings, and some to both. It's a lovely, connected evening with a small group of womyn as we share our stories and food. Please pass this on to other lesbians you know. Time: 6:30 - Potluck; 7:30 - Readings. Place: Portia & Lynne's. Contact: Portia/ Lynn 352-375-8691, Madeline 352-335-3138. Kindred Sisters — May 2012
WhatÊs Happening? May 13: Mother’s Day May 13, 9pm: Halcyon Concert Don’t miss the amazing lesbian duo, Halcyon, as they rock the house with a FREE Mother’s Day Concert at the Hard Rock Café in Tampa! May 14, 6:30pm: Lesbian Variety Show Meeting Should the Lesbian Variety Show Continue? Is this event in any from IMPORTANT to you? Come voice your opinion at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St, Gainesville. Free pizza and soda pop! For more info or to share your opinion, email email@example.com. May 15, 6pm: The Curse of the Nurturer A “Taking PRIDE in Health” Workshop presented by the Pride Community Center and The Vibrant Alternative. Learn how to take time for nourishing and caring for your mind, body, and spirit while carrying the weight of your world on your shoulders. FREE and open to the public. www.TheVibrantAlternative.com May 15, 7pm: Feminist Book Club May’s selection is “Nickel and Dimed” by Barbara Ehrenreich. Group is free and open to anyone & meets at Wild Iris Books, 802 W University Ave, Gainesville. All are invited to meet at Wild Iris at 67pm to enjoy dinner/drinks at Café Colette before the reading group begins. www.wildirisbooks.com May 16, 6:30pm: Lesbian Health Project Meeting at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St, Gainesville. If unable to attend, but interested, please e-mail: Womens.Health.Pride@gmail.com
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May 17: International Day Against Homophobia & Transphobia The International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia (IDAHOT) aims to coordinate international events to call respect for lesbians and gays world-wide. May 17 was chosen as the day of the event because homosexuality was removed from the International Classification of Diseases of the World Health Organization (WHO) on May 17, 1992. May 17, 6:30pm: Gentle Memoirs from Women Writers We will discuss and critique memoirs from women writers, including these four titles: Encyclopedia of an Ordinary Life, A Girl Named Zippy, She Got Up Off the Couch, The Prize Winner of Defiance, Ohio. Please bring your favorite memoir and tell the group why you love it. Headquarters Library, 401 E University Ave, Gainesville. 352-334-3939 May 19, 9-4pm: Blueberry Festival Food, crafts, music, fun, & more in Island Grove. May 22: Harvey Milk Day Harvey Milk Day is celebrated globally each year on May 22 in memory of Harvey Milk, a gay rights activist assassinated in 1978. In California, Harvey Milk Day is recognized as a legal state holiday. The holiday was established by Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger in 2009 following the success of the award-winning feature film “Milk” retracing Milk's life. May 22, 7pm: Moon Astrology Class The Moon has a powerful effect on the ocean tides and also on the waters of our body and on our emotions. Join us to explore how to work with the moon as it moves through its monthly cycle and through the signs of the zodiac. This is a MONTHLY on-going class led by Raven Moondance that can be joined at any time to deepen and expand your connection to the Moon. $15 for your first meeting, $10 for meetings after that. Sacred Earth Center, 3131 NW 13th St #41, Gainesville, www.sacredearthcenter.org Page 15
WhatÊs Happening? May 23-27: WomonWrites Spring Conference Womonwrites is an annual conference of lesbian writers held at a camp in Central Georgia. It is run entirely by volunteers. There are no invited speakers. There are workshops in the mornings and early afternoons, and readings in the afternoons and evenings. Any registered attendee can present a workshop or sign up to do a reading. Cost: $50-175. www.womonwrites.wordpress.com May 29, 7:30pm: Feminist Open Mic Our aim is to create a safe space where individuals can celebrate, challenge and express their artistic personas! All poets, musicians, and other artist types invited to attend. Café Colette will be open with food and beverages! Wild Iris, 802 W University Ave, Gainesville. May 30, 4pm: Cheese Making Do you like cheese? Well come learn how to make your own cheese and get recipes and information, etc. Library Partnership, 1130 NE 16th Ave, Gainesville. 352-334-0165 May 31-Jun 3: Silver Threads North An event for Lesbians 50+ and the women who love them, offering the opportunity to experience the joy of sisterhood in a supportive, respectful, and welcoming environment for emotional, educational and spiritual enrichment. Join us at the Atlantic Sands Hotel on the boardwalk in gayfriendly Rehoboth Beach, DE. www.silverthreadsnorth.com Jun 9, 8pm: Hairball Variety Show Watch your fellow community members strut their stuff on stage! Singers, comedians, drag queens & kings, & more! Tickets: $12/adv; $15/door (ticket price includes munchies during intermission & an After-Party at Villa East). Tickets available for purchase at the Pride Center (3131 NW 13th St) & at Wild Iris Books (802 W University Ave). www.gainesvillepride.org
Ongoing Events AA Meetings in Gainesville LGBT Alcoholics Anonymous Meetings on Sundays at 7:30pm at Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St. AA Meetings in St. Augustine LGBT AA Meetings held at 7pm on Saturdays at Flagler Hospital in the Alicia room. Buy Local at the Weekly Farm Market! Everything Fresh. Everything Local. Every Sunday, 2-5pm. Fresh baked bread, Farm fresh eggs & produce, Unique ethnic cuisines, Homemade soaps, candles, & more! Citizens Co-op Courtyard, 435 S Main St, Gainesville. www.citizensco-op.com Confidential HIV & STD Testing - FREE 1st & 3rd Thursdays of each month at 5-7pm at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St, Gainesville. Farm Stead Saturday Saturdays, 9am-3pm, at Crones’ Cradle Conserve, 6411 NE 217th Pl in Citra, FL. Farm Tours & Organic Produce! 352-595-3377 Gainesville Area NOW Meetings Gainesville Area National Organization for Women meets on the 4th Thursday of each month at 6:30pm at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St. Public Welcome. www.gainesvillenow.org Gainesville Area Women’s Network GAWN is the friendliest networking in town. Supportive women gather for lunch, to network & learn from each other & guest speakers. Meetings are the 3rd Wednesday of each month at the Sweetwater Branch Inn. 352-215-1621, www.gawn.org
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WhatÊs Happening? Interweave A group for lesbian, gay, bisexual, & transgender individuals & their heterosexual allies. Meets at 6:30pm on the 2nd Sunday of each month at the Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Gainesville, 4225 NW 34th St. Potluck, presentation, & discussion. "Just Us" Created for professional women 35+ to meet & mingle. Meets the last Saturday of the month at different restaurants, mostly in Volusia County. Join us for fun, food, & the folks. "No mess, no men, no fuss, it's "Just Us". Contact Dee, firstname.lastname@example.org Melrose Music & Refreshments CoffeeTalk at the Shake Rag Art & Culture Center every Wednesday, 10am - noon, in the Old Gothic Church, 301 SR 26, downtown Melrose. Join us for cool art, great music, stimulating conversation, poetry, & maybe dancing. We have the coffee… bring fruit or pastry to share. 352-475-2924 www.shakeragarts.org PFLAG Gainesville PFLAG (Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians and Gays) meets monthly (3rd Tuesday) at 7pm to realize our goal of moving equality forward. United Church of Gainesville, 1624 NW 5th Ave. 352-340-3770, www.pflaggainesville.org PFLAG Ocala Group meets on the 3rd Thursday of each month at 6-8pm at the Ocala Public Library (Room B). FMI 352-857-1739. Queerotic Dance Nite! 3rd Wednesday each month at 10pm at The Backyard at Boca Fiesta & Palomino, 232 SE 1st St, Gainesville. $3 cover
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Rise Up Singing Group Informal singing for the sheer fun of it! Rise Up Singing song books will be on hand. Meets the 2nd Tuesday of each month at 7-9pm at PCC, 3131 NW 13th St Ste 62, Gainesville. “Sister Song” - Gainesville Women's Choir All are welcome; no experience needed. Rehearsals every Wednesday at 7pm at Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St Ste 62. For more info contact Ruth at 352-538-4927 or email@example.com. Stonewall Democrats of Alachua County LGBT Democrats & supporters meet monthly on the 4th Wednesday of each month at 6pm at the Alachua County Democratic Hdqtrs, 901 NW 8th Ave #A-3. Transgender Gainesville Discussion Group Meets on 1st Wednesday each month at 7pm at Wild Iris Books, 802 W University Ave, & focuses on education for the public. Meetings on 2nd & 4th Wednesdays at 7pm are closed support meetings held at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St. Transgender Movie Night Meets 2nd Friday of each month at 7pm at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St. www.gainesvillepride.org What the Animals Tell Me Every Wednesday at 8:30pm Flash Silvermoon hosts a live internet radio show for animal lovers. Listen to the live stream or check the archives later: www.internetvoicesradio.com Youth Discussion Group PCCNCF hosts a weekly “Youth Discussion Group” for GLBT youth between the ages of 14 & 18 years old on Wednesdays from 3:30-4:30pm at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St, Gainesville. FMI call 352-377-8915
Mayport Magic Ferry Across the River and Through the Trees.... There is a magical trip at the top of our Florida A1A road, at Mayport Ferry. The ferry is in danger of dying due to funding, so it’s important that we share this secret in order to save the resource. Living at Pagoda by the Sea, I would get a call from my music pal, Tom, up in what we called FernanDAM-dina. He would grab his guitar and drive to his side of the ferry close to the Kingsley Plantation. Leaving his truck in the parking lot, he’d buy a single passenger fare (a dollar) and ride across, meet me at Singletons Fish Camp where we would munch shrimp or fish sandwiches, and enjoy the hand-built boat models in every square inch of space. Then, sitting on the dock of the bay, I’d pull out my dulcimer, to harmonize with my buddy for an hour or two. Cheap date for a big bang - serenading the pelicans! The Mayport destination is maybe sixty miles north of the Pagoda cottages, but you enter a different world. You pull onto the ferry in lines and rows and set your parking brake. You can stroll upstairs or stand at the edge watching the river traffic and the handsome parking attendant taking your fare. I always feel transported in a deep way. It takes a short quarter of an hour, yet, when you drive off, there is a certain smile on your face. Turn right and watch closely for your first turn into the Kingsley Plantation. You’ll approach the beautifully cared for property with a fascinating history - it wound up being owned by an African American woman who won a court case, and was someone you want to know all about: Anna Majigeen Jai Kingsley. The cabins and houses are so interesting, and preserved, and the woman guide who let us see the second floor and answered questions, was a big fan of Gullah Goochee culture. Daughters of the Dust is a movie you’ll want to see before going there. Cross Creek and The Yearling will prepare you for more Florida lore! by Rainbow Williams
GLAAD Media Awards Below is a partial list of the GLAAD Media Award Recipients: Stephen F. Kolzak Award: Chaz Bono Vanguard Award: Josh Hutcherson
Outstanding TV Movie or Mini Series Cinema Verite (HBO)
Outstanding Film - Wide Release Beginners (Focus Features)
Outstanding Newspaper Overall Coverage The New York Times
Outstanding Documentary Becoming Chaz (OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network)
Outstanding Magazine Overall Coverage The Advocate/Out
Outstanding Comedy Series Modern Family (ABC) Outstanding Individual Episode TIE: "Prom" Drop Dead Diva (Lifetime) and "Beards" Hot in Cleveland (TV Land) Page 18
Outstanding Film- Limited Release Pariah (Focus Features)
Outstanding Digital JournalismMultimedia "Injustice at Every Turn" (ITLMedia.org) excerpt from www.glaad.org
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Lesbian Life Readers' Choice Winners Thank you to everyone who nominated and voted in the 2012 About.com Lesbian Life Readers' Choice Awards. This was the first year Lesbian Life participated in the award competition and we had some great nominees and quite a heated competition. Here are the 2012 Lesbian Life Readers' Choice Awards: • Web Series: Between Women (www.betweenwomentv.com) • Blog: Butch Wonders (www.butchwonders.com) • Twitter Feed: @dorothysnarker • Movie: Pariah • Novel or Memoir: Dangerous Pleasures by Fiona Zedde • Musician or Band: Vicci Martinez • Funniest Lesbian Comedian: Marga Gomez • Best Lesbian Travel Destination: Olivia Travel
excerpt from www.lesbianlife.about.com
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Poetry Corner "I don’t love you with possibility" I ask my girlfriend, “Do you think anybody can love me better than you?” She responds. I don’t think it’s a matter of someone’s ability to love you better than I do. If that were the case, then sure. It’s more than possible. It is possible. But it’s not about possibility. It’s about the way my body heaves up and down for you, it’s about me loving you in the way I know how to. We love each of our lovers differently. Some lovers deserve to be loved quietly. You are not one of those lovers, so I do not love you quietly. I love you with noise. Sometimes that noise is blue, sometimes that noise is argument, sometimes that noise is so much of you and not enough of me, and that’s fine. This love is not about percentages. This love is not about competition. Yes. I said that each of our lovers are to be and will be loved differently, but they should never be loved in percentages. There is a higher reason why mathematics and poetry are separate. It’s like they are two people who were lovers in a former life and realized they were making a big mistake. Most of us don’t realize we’re making some of the biggest mistakes of our lives. Yes. I said each of our lovers are meant to be loved differently, but sometimes our lovers aren’t meant to be loved by us at all, but by other people. Poet people and math people get together and automatically think they’re going to work because they are words and numbers, opposites. But as opposites attract, they also distract and detract. And sometimes it’s not about the stickiness of opposition that’s the problem. Actually, I think opposites do work. I think the problem comes when you’re trying to love a person with poetry when they desire to be loved in equations. Just because you loved your previous lover in syllables doesn’t mean everyone wants your haikus. You can’t do this. You can’t love everyone with the same poison. Everyone deserves their own personal shot at death. I don’t love you with leftovers. I don’t love you with what’s left in me, I love you with everything. I don’t love you with the thought that someone can love you better than me because I don’t love you with possibility or percentages, I love you with my body. I love you with poetry. You’re a poet. You should know this already. Mon 4 9 12 I don’t love you with possibility, I love you with my body. by Jazmine Davis Page 19
Ashley Judd Speaks About “The Conversation” The Conversation about women’s bodies exists largely outside of us, while it is also directed at (and marketed to) us, and used to define and control us. The Conversation about women happens everywhere, publicly and privately. We are described and detailed, our faces and bodies analyzed and picked apart, our worth ascertained and ascribed based on the reduction of personhood to simple physical objectification. Our voices, our personhood, our potential, and our accomplishments are regularly minimized and muted. As an actor and woman who, at times, avails herself of the media, I am painfully aware of the conversation about women’s bodies, and it frequently migrates to my own body. I know this, even though my personal practice is to ignore what is written about me. I do not, for example, read interviews I do with news outlets. I hold that it is none of my business what people think of me. I arrived at this belief after first, when I began working as an actor 18 years ago, reading everything. I evolved into selecting only the “good” pieces to read. Over time, I matured into the understanding that good and bad are equally fanciful interpretations. I do not want to give my power, my self-esteem, or my autonomy, to any person, place, or thing outside myself. I thus abstain from all media about myself. The only thing that matters is how I feel about myself, my personal integrity, and my relationship with my Creator. Of course, it’s wonderful to be held in esteem and fond regard by family, friends, and community, but a central part of my spiritual practice is letting go of otheration. And casting one’s lot with the public is dangerous and selfdestructive, and I value myself too much to do that. However, the recent speculation and accusations in March feel different, and my colleagues and friends encouraged me to know what was being said. Consequently, I choose to address it because the conversation was pointedly nasty, gendered, and misogynistic and embodies what all girls and women in our culture, to a greater or lesser degree, endure every day, in ways both outrageous and subtle. The assault on our body image, the hypersexualization of girls and women and subsequent degradation of our sexuality as we walk through the decades, and the general incessant objectification is what this conversation allegedly about my face is really about. A brief analysis demonstrates that the following “conclusions” were all made on the exact same day, March 20, about the exact same woman (me), looking the exact same way, based on the exact same Page 20
television appearance. The following examples are real, and come from a variety of (so-called!) legitimate news outlets (such as HuffPo, MSNBC, etc.), tabloid press, and social media: One: When I am sick for more than a month and on medication (multiple rounds of steroids), the accusation is that because my face looks puffy, I have “clearly had work done,” with otherwise credible reporters with great bravo “identifying” precisely the procedures I allegedly have had done. Two: When my skin is nearly flawless, and at age 43, I do not yet have visible wrinkles that can be seen on television, I have had “work done,” with media outlets bolstered by consulting with plastic surgeons I have never met who “conclude” what procedures I have “clearly” had. (Notice that this is a “backhanded compliment,” too—I look so good! It simply cannot possibly be real!) Three: When my 2012 face looks different than it did when I filmed Double Jeopardy in 1998, I am accused of having “messed up” my face (polite language here, the F word is being used more often), with a passionate lament that “Ashley has lost her familiar beauty audiences loved her for.” Four: When I have gained weight, going from my usual size two/four to a six/eight after a lazy six months of not exercising, and that weight gain shows in my face and arms, I am a “cow” and a “pig” and I “better watch out” because my husband “is looking for his second wife.” (Did you catch how this one engenders competition and fear between women? How it also suggests that my husband values me based only on my physical appearance? Classic sexism. We won’t even address how extraordinary it is that a size eight would be heckled as “fat.”) Five: In perhaps the coup de grace, when I am acting in a dramatic scene in Missing—the plot stating I am emotionally distressed and have been awake and on the run for days—viewers remarks ranged from “What the f--k did she do to her face?” to cautionary gloating, “Ladies, look at the work!” Footage from “Missing” obviously dates prior to March, and the remarks about how I look while playing a character Kindred Sisters — May 2012
powerfully illustrate the contagious and vicious nature of the conversation. The accusations and lies, introduced to the public, now apply to me as a woman across space and time; to me as any woman and to me as every woman. That women are joining in the ongoing disassembling of my appearance is salient. Patriarchy is not men. Patriarchy is a system in which both women and men participate. It privileges, inter alia, the interests of boys and men over the bodily integrity, autonomy, and dignity of girls and women. It is subtle, insidious, and never more dangerous than when women passionately deny that they themselves are engaging in it. This abnormal obsession with women’s faces and bodies has become so normal that we (I include myself at times—I absolutely fall for it still) have internalized patriarchy almost seamlessly. We are unable at times to identify ourselves as our own denigrating abusers, or as abusing other girls and women. A case in point is that this conversation was initially promulgated largely by women; a sad and disturbing fact. (That they are professional friends of mine, and know my character and values, is an additional betrayal.) News outlets with whom I do serious work, such as publishing op-eds about preventing HIV, empowering poor youth worldwide, and conflict mineral mining in Democratic Republic of Congo, all ran this “story” without checking with my office first for verification, or offering me the dignity of the opportunity to comment. It’s an indictment of them that they would even consider the content printable, and that they, too, without using time-honored journalistic standards, would perpetuate with unedifying delight such blatantly gendered, ageist, and mean-spirited content. I hope the sharing of my thoughts can generate a new conversation: Why was a puffy face cause for such a conversation in the first place? How, and why, did people participate? If not in the conversation about me, in parallel ones about women in your sphere? What is the gloating about? What is the condemnation about? What is the self-righteous alleged “all knowing” stance of the media about? How does this symbolize constraints on girls and women, and encroach on our right to be simply as we are, at any given moment? How can we as individuals in our private lives make adjustments that support us in shedding unconscious actions, internalized beliefs, and fears about our worthiness, that perpetuate such meanness? What can we do as families, as groups of friends? Is what girls and women can do different from Kindred Sisters — May 2012
what boys and men can do? What does this have to do with how women are treated in the workplace? I ask especially how we can leverage strong femaleto-female alliances to confront and change that there is no winning here as women. It doesn’t actually matter if we are aging naturally, or resorting to surgical assistance. We experience brutal criticism. The dialogue is constructed so that our bodies are a source of speculation, ridicule, and invalidation, as if they belong to others—and in my case, to the actual public. (I am also aware that inevitably some will comment that because I am a creative person, I have abdicated my right to a distinction between my public and private selves, an additional, albeit related, track of highly distorted thinking that will have to be addressed at another time). If this conversation about me is going to be had, I will do my part to insist that it is a feminist one, because it has been misogynistic from the start. Who makes the fantastic leap from being sick, or gaining some weight over the winter, to a conclusion of plastic surgery? Our culture, that’s who. The insanity has to stop, because as focused on me as it appears to have been, it is about all girls and women. In fact, it’s about boys and men, too, who are equally objectified and ridiculed, according to heteronormative definitions of masculinity that deny the full and dynamic range of their personhood. It affects each and every one of us, in multiple and nefarious ways: our self-image, how we show up in our relationships and at work, our sense of our worth, value, and potential as human beings. Join in—and help change—the Conversation. Ashley Judd is a prolific actress, who can be seen in ABC’s new show, Missing. Judd most recently appeared in Dolphin Tale alongside Morgan Freeman. Judd is also on the board of directors for PSI (Population Services International), which she joined in 2004 after serving as Global Ambassador for PSI’s HIV education and prevention program, YouthAIDS since 2002. She was the subject of three award-winning documentaries aired in more than 150 countries worldwide. In her role as PSI board member, Judd has graced the covers of countless magazines and been the subject of newspaper and television interviews bringing vital awareness to issues closest to her heart, gender inequality and poverty alleviation. She resides in Tennessee and Scotland with her husband, the international racing star Dario Franchitti. They have 8 beloved pets and enjoy a quiet, rural life. excerpt from www.thedailybeast.com Page 21
A Fond Farewell to Alexis Rivera California's transgender community is mourning the loss of one of its most accomplished and revered leaders. A number of media outlets are reporting that Alexis Rivera, 34, died March 28 of complications related to HIV in San Francisco. Officials for the Transgender Law Center, where Rivera had worked as a policy advocate since 2007, wrote in an email statement: "Alexis advocated for statewide policy change and trained hundreds of transgender community members to build relationships with their elected officials. During this time, Alexis was also a leader of the Transgender Law Centerâ€™s Health Care Access Project and helped secure affordable transgender health care services in several counties across California. Alexis received many awards and honors in recognition of her leadership, including the Trans-Unity Trailblazer and Spirit Awards, the Latino Caucus on HIV Prevention Leadership Award, and the first QUEST Advocacy Pageant sash in 2002." excerpt from www.huffingtonpost.com
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Kickin’ Devil Café Closes Its Doors Well, it is now done. Three years have passed since I became involved with “Kickin’ Devil Café.” We closed last month on sufficient evidence that the business was not viable at that location. The number people told me it usually takes 23 years to make a restaurant business thrive. I GAVE IT THREE! It certainly has been a varied and memorable experience! I will never forget the wonderful customers, musicians and devoted employees who made the magic happen! It was not the kind of financial success that entrepreneurs hope and work for, but we did make a lot of people happy. I do think the name is appropriate…“Kickin’ Devil Blues Café” was the original name, a place to “Kick the Devil out and have a good time,” in these difficult times. Some folks came for the New Orleans style food, some for the music and many for the friendly social atmosphere! I am hopeful we can get the good times rolling at a new location! With a restaurateur-investor and a great location “Kickin’ Devil Café” can rock once more…maybe nationwide! I want to thank every one of you for coming out and having a great time with us! Sincerely, Mary Jane Brunel, 352-281-1968
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AstroFlash The Beltane Fires kick off the lusty month of May on the first of the month. The Eve is also celebrated as we will do here at Moonhaven in Melrose. Earth Religions worldwide enjoy this time of feast and frolic to coordinate with the raising of the sap in nature which extends to our own warming desires and aspirations. A great time for us all to raise the fire within for whatever purpose we might require. In 1976, I had the honor of meeting an Ancient Native Wise Woman by the name of Mello Rye who shared a May Day ritual with a group of us which I have enjoyed over the years. She told us to go to the ocean at dawn and as the sun is rising, the group should stand at the water's edge and stamp our feet all together chanting Awak - nia over and over, this is to awaken the Earth Mother to stand up for Herself and feel the support of Her people. This is a simple ritual practiced in one form or another by indigenous people all over the world. By May 5th, Cinco de Mayo, the moon will be full in Scorpio which always promises a level of intensity for many of us spiritually and emotionally. We are also experiencing an intensification of changes in the electromagnetic field of the planet, which as I have described in last month's Astroflash, has been more challenging to us all. With the Sun in Scorpio's opposite sign Taurus, we are once again invited to contemplate our values and what we hold most dear and how does this motivate us to run our lives. The Full Scorpio Moon says, "Very well, then, how are you willing to transform your beliefs and life to support the times economically, emotionally and how do you use or misuse power and resources?" Important questions that we all must ponder to make all our lives work better. Because these are fixed signs, the energies may feel more rigid and they are. Issues are likely to flare up in one way or another, personally and/or globally. Word to the wise, it is always better to meet the challenge of the changes as you begin to recognize them brewing even if only incrementally rather than wait for the roof to fall on your head. By meeting these shifts before they are full blown you have the gift of meeting the issues on your own terms rather than having them foisted upon you with no alternatives when it is too late. With Mars in Virgo opposing Chiron in Pisces, the asteroid of the wounded healer, we are being invited to find material ways to make changes that move to preserve and heal our water. With Neptune and Chiron both in Pisces, it will be all about our water for a long time. Saturn will be retrograde in Libra all month and Pluto will be retrograde in Capricorn and these two intense celestial bodies can really effect the global theater. When planets are retrograde, their energy has to move inward before it manifests changes outwardly so for better or worse, the fever pitch of revolutionary zeal may slow down for a bit and simmer. Mars is out of retrograde in Virgo so we can expect some wordy saber rattling but not as much "action" as we were seeing some months ago when Uranus and Pluto were in a tighter square with each other. In a way, this is good because these pauses during retrogrades allow us to integrate and digest the transformations that seem to fly into our lives jet propelled. On May 15 till June 27, lovely Venus turns her back and goes retrograde in order that we re-evaluate our relationships or our desires for them. Because Venus is in Gemini, this can be a great time for integrating some deeper communication and reviewing past decisions so that more understanding and fulfillment is possible. Talk Page 24
and talk and you will find yourself in the middle of a happier day. A fun exercise to do with your partner is for each of you to draw up a Top Ten Turn On list (this needn't be sexual but can include sexual things too). You may be delighted by the things you discover to enjoy together. Have some fun with this. We all need to lighten up and enlighten up about now. Good news is that Venus and Saturn are trine which is a flowing relationship so that some relationships are liable to find an even greater security as a result. Very important under that aspect not to let your love become stale and joyless. Make that list and check it thrice and find out if your honey is naughty or nice! This IS NOT a great time to begin a new relationship unless you don't care if it’s a permanent one as you will simply not have all the information needed to choose the appropriate partner. If you are just looking for a fling do your thing but don't look at a Maserati and expect it to turn into a station wagon just because you have a bond! Be that as it may, it is never the wrong time to OPEN YOUR HEARTS WIDE and that is precisely the energy that will help us all move through these times with more grace and fluidity. We are due for a Solar Eclipse on the New Moon in Gemini on May 20. These Eclipses can be quite profound and can signal major shifts personally and politically. Energetically we will be getting a major download of reshaped energy and information. I have noticed that many wars have begun and ended on Eclipses and this can be a time of beginnings and endings. The energetic spiral of change that we are weaving grows ever tighter and hence faster and such times herald this quickening. Embrace the miraculous as it is quite possible that we will see miracles in many realms this year that we heretofore believed were impossible. We may also see some intense seismic upheavals near Japan, the West Coast, and weather or other difficulties in Texas too as this eclipse will connect strongly in these areas. If you live near those areas it would be good to have a plan for how to contend with potential Earth Changes. Stocking up on special items and medicines that you want to be sure to have is a good idea just in case. According to astrologer Stephanie Austin, this Eclipse is conjunct the Pleiades Star Cluster which is venerated in many Ancient cultures. This will surely result in some amazing and magical occurrences and a major time of reseeding a new consciousness. If you want to hear more about the amazing beings from the Pleiadies you can Utube ‘The Pleiadians’ and listen to many beautiful videos. Astrologer Barbara Hand Clow also writes some great volumes on the subject as well. To maintain your balance during these rapidly changing times treasure and seek moments of peace and serenity when you can find them and create them for yourself as often as possible. Spend time in nature and with loved ones of the two and four-legged variety and try to spend your free time with those who bring out the best in you and support the positive new beginnings in your life. Many alternative healing techniques can give you relief from stress and pain. Be aware of people who will vampirize your energy and leave you feeling empty. You deserve more and you will serve your best interests by sharing with those who give back. Obviously with illness and age that isn't always possible but you get what I mean. Remember it’s time for more balance...Saturn in Libra demands balance and so does your body, mind, and spirit. Blessings Flash Silvermoon Kindred Sisters — May 2012
Aries - There's no stopping me now with Mercury and Mars moving forward. I have some Big Plans and I finally have just the right time to put them into place. Seems like I have been spinning my wheels a bit lately and haven't been in sync either so I may need to recalibrate this brain with the rest of the planet so I can move forward more effortlessly and harmoniously with others. I just love Spring, it brings out the best in me and lifts my spirits just by looking out my window. Taurus - Move over Aries cause this is at least partly my month and I want to revel in every sensuous moment, every morsel, every warm breadth. The glowing growing greenery that blankets my home and yard evokes such a feeling of happiness and satisfaction that even the difficult things feel better. As the immortal Mae West said, "Too much of a good thing can be wonderful" and lately too much works too fine for me. While expansive Jupiter is in my sign, I am really not feeling much like curbing anything but I suppose after awhile, I will have curb everything but my enthusiasm. Gemini - Oh it's gonna be my birthday soon oh yes it is, and I'm gonna have a party, uh huh and I'll invite all my friends and I will live in a social whirlwind. With Venus in my sign and then going retro right back again, I will be the life of the party. Hmm, this loving little Gemini had better not put too many partners on her dance card or she will find that her popularity might work against her if they all find out about each other. I know this might be all well and good for the single Gemini's [aren't we all at least doubles] but if you want to maintain your relationship, it might be best to encourage some role playing and short trips to kick in some variety. Cancer - I just want to know one thing, why is my system so damn intimate with the planetary process? I mean I don't mind sharing some vibes here and there but these earthquakes and tornadoes more than rock my world. Can't wait to start swimming so I can feel the water in a real way. The waters, they rock me in their arms and clear my energy field of all the junk that I so often pick up from my environment. OK so I'm a psychic sponge. Not much to be done about that but the water is my friend and cleans me up again. Frogs call to bring the rain and fill the Mother where She wanes. Leo - Not a lot happening for me on this map but I will take my fire where I can get it. Fortunately I am a most creative soul and there is just enough juice out there to make my love light shine. Believe it or not this fixed old lioness is finding new ways to awaken a few interests. Don't be surprised if you see some new project with my name on it that screams Leo front and center don't dim the lights! Virgo - Don't complain if I am a little grumpy and fidgety at the beginning of the month because both the Moon and Mars are near each other in my sign.Some people thrive with a bit of chaos but it just drives me crazy. I need some order in this asylum we call life. I suppose if I were a groovier type of person I would enjoy this unbounded more liberated energy but maybe that just isn't me. With so much in Pisces, my opposite, I feel like I am on a growth edge asking me to once again let go a little more and to free my mind, and as those funky Divas said, and the rest will follow! Libra - Damn, I look at the news and my It's Not Fair Button is pushed to the edge. I know that somehow that old Karmic Wheel spins true but once in awhile I would like to see that Cause and Effect relationship in front of me and see things set to right. I also know that sometimes we better be careful what we ask for because that might just be a movie we won't want to watch in 3 D. I know that I am usually not so serious but itâ€™s just how I feel right now. Might make Kindred Sisters â€” May 2012
me feel better if I knew that someone else felt this way too. Scorpio - I am feelin' full of Moon this month I am tellin' you and it's actually kind of nice. New love and feeling a new way of loving has got me singing with the radio and putting a spring in my step. Is it just the Spring? I don't think so but I haven't felt this relaxed in awhile. The weight of the world somehow got yanked off my shoulders and what a gift that is. I know that I am safe with some special people and that I can really share my dreams and aspirations without fear or their resentment. What a world I live in! I hit the jackpot never mind the lottery. Sagittarius - Send in the cavalry. Oh wait, I am the cavalry. How scary is that! Somehow, I am supposed to know just how to navigate this crazy ship of life but nobody gave me a good map or even AAA. My moral compass is pretty good but the rest feels more lost at sea. Thankfully my faith is strong and deep down I do feel like everything will work itself out just fine but between here and there is a whole lot of territory. More meditation will give me a more solid sense of myself and that is just what I need. Somebody give me a piece of smokey quartz the size of a basketball. Capricorn - By the time 2013 rolls around, I am going to have the cleanest karma on the planet. This transformation biz is not for sissies and it can be so much easier to just keep my head down and keep a low profile but I know that we are coming closer and closer to a time when I will have to choose which side of the fence I want to support. I feel a sincere desire to become more of a leader and less of a sheep and I am going to find a way to create that opportunity. Aquarius - Nice to feel so unencumbered. I know this is only momentary but I will take that big release when ever I can. Its time for all of us to run on something other than caffeine and adrenalin. I must confess that I like the buzz and I would have to be asleep to not notice the increasing intensity all around me. These are the times that we were born into and on some level we chose this period of metamorphosis, there I go again getting all philosophical but that's me feeling full of Aquarian Age inspiration. Pisces - Pleiadians, I hear your music on the meadows, and your whispers as I meditate. I know that help is near and that we are all in this together. I can see kindred spirits everywhere that I look and many others who have worn a cloak that rendered them invisible are standing up and clarifying the mission plan. How to piece that together with life as we know it, now there's the rub? I know that I feel most free when music is moving through my fingers on one instrument or another and that is my way to create a link to that wonderful interstellar grid.
Through my monthly Astroflash, I have endeavored to offer gender neutral astrology to speak to all sexual preferences and identities. If you know your Rising sign, your personal reading will be more accurate if you read the passage for that sign as well as your Sun sign. For deeper questions and readings of an Astrological or Psychic nature, feel free to call 352-475-2432 for an appt. or contact me through my website: www.Flashsilvermoon.com Next session of Moonhaven Mystery School for Women: TBA The class will meet for 4 consecutive Mon evenings 7-9:30pm. Only $62 for 4 sessions. Develop your psychic/healing abilities in an empowered & safe space. Psychic Development & Empowerment, Women's Magic & Ritual, Stone Healing, Animal Communication, Healing Potions, & much more. Moonhaven in Melrose. 352-475-2432 Page 25
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