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J UNE 2012

Giving Women a Voice

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Kindred Sisters “Giving Women a Voice” June 2012

Hairball 15 A HUGE VARIETY SHOW!

Saturday June 9th 8:00 pm at VILLA EAST, 301 N Main St, Gainesville Tickets: $12/adv; $15/door (ticket price includes munchies during intermission & an AfterAfter-Party at Villa East) Tickets available for purchase at the Pride Center (3131 NW 13th St) & at Wild Iris Books (802 W University Ave)

Cover: This month’s cover art is provided by Woody Blue. She says: “I made my first rainbow flag 10 years ago in response to a scavenger hunt sponsored by the Pride Center. I didn't win first prize, but I hesitantly entered the world of political art. I encourage people to "wave their flags," to stand up for what is important to them. Since that first flag, I have made over 1500 flags. They have spread around the world to places such as Zambia, Kazakhstan, Nova Scotia, Australia, Argentina, Alaska, Vancouver, Germany, UK, and more. I have held art shows, given lectures on Betsy Ross, flag art and more, and have even been a visiting artist at the Univ. of Alabama with Holly Near. If you want to see more, visit me at www.etsy.com/shop/woodybluerainbowflag or my blog www.morewoodyblue.blogspot.com.”

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“Bully” at the Hipp June 8th - 14th Over 13 million American kids will be bullied this year, making it the most common form of violence experienced by young people in the nation. The new documentary film BULLY, directed by Sundance and Emmy-award winning filmmaker, Lee Hirsch, brings human scale to this startling statistic, offering an intimate, unflinching look at how bullying has touched five kids and their families.

Save the date for these HIPP Cinema Special Events: • Reception, book signing Friday, June 8th starting at 5pm with Maureen Duffy, author of “Mobbing”. Dr. Maureen Duffy is an author, consultant, educator, and family therapist working to stop and prevent school and workplace mobbing. Q & A with Dr. Duffy following the 6pm show. • Community forum, Sunday, June 10th following the 4pm show.

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All Things Wild Iris View our full event calendar at wildirisbooks.com

Transgender Support Group 6/6/12, 7-9pm Open meeting for transgender people and allies. Come discuss issues and support each other in a safe space. Pagan Group Meet-Up - 6/13/12, 7-9pm Open meeting for the Pagan community. All are welcome. Feminist Book Club - 6/19/12, 7-8pm This reading group is free and open to anybody who is interested. Join us as we read some of the top feminist books and then come together to discuss how they influence our lives. Mention that you’re purchasing the title to participate in the reading club and you’ll save 10% off the purchase price. Some of us will gather before the meeting from 6-7pm for dinner and drinks from Cafe Colette – and we invite you to join us for good eats to fuel our minds for discussion time. Feminist Open Mic 6/26/12, 7:30pm Calling all performers!! Join us for Feminist Open Mic. All creative performances welcome! Café Colette will have food and beverages available for sale. 802 W University Ave, Gainesville, FL 32601 352-375-7477 ● www.wildirisbooks.com Store Hours: Tue–Sat, 1-9pm Café Colette Serves Dinner: Tue-Sat, 5-9pm Kindred Sisters — June 2012


How Can You Help Wild Iris Books Survive? We’re Making a Call to Volunteers… We love this space, but the truth of it is, we need help. We are growing and stretching in so many ways, we’re hosting more events, and the FoWI nonprofit board has grown to be a beautiful statement of diversity and dedication. This year alone we’ve welcomed five local and independent authors, and we’ve listened to Amy Ray, Zoe Lewis and Maria Carter play intimate shows. We fell in love with six amazing interns and a dedicated board of directors who created projects like Operation Comfort Doll and compiled Recommended Reading Lists for Queer Fiction, Queer Non-Fiction, LGBTQ Families, Body Image Acceptance and Environmentally Friendly Homesteading.

need your skills, love and dedication to keep our momentum going and our doors open. Here’s what we’re asking for: a minimum of 15 Hours a Month, a monthly schedule, and help at 1 event per month. Stop by anytime on Thursdays from 1-9pm or contact us for more information. Once you go through your first 15 hours of training/volunteering – here’s what we’re able to offer. Including of course – our most sincere gratitude.

    

Free Cafe Colette Meal per 4+ Hour Shift Access to the Recycled Reads Program Borrow Hard Cover or Used Books 10% Off All Non-Consignment Purchases $10 Gift Certificate for every 25 hours

So Think About It… How Can YOU Help the Last Feminist Bookstore in Florida Survive?

We co-sponsored two Living History Events, gatherings centered on storytelling about the LGBTQ experiences of coming out and building family, partnering with UF and other community organizations like the Pride Center. Every month we host a Feminist Book Club, Feminist Open Mic, Trans Discussion Group, NOW Board Meeting, and Pagan Meet Up. And we’re always willing to host more. We’ve celebrated and watched Café Colette settle in, find their rhythm and become part of the family. They were a missing piece of the puzzle and they have been an important catalyst in the midst of all this growth. Your help now is critical – do you have 15 hours a month to help make sure Florida’s only Feminist Bookstore continues to be a safe space in our community? We are one of less than a dozen Feminist Bookstores left in the country and we Kindred Sisters — June 2012

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President Obama Announces Support For Gay Marriage On May 9th, President Barack Obama became the first sitting president to announce support for same-sex marriage, making his position on the subject clear. In a sit-down interview with ABC's Robin Roberts, Obama completed what has been a long and often dubious "evolution" on the controversial topic. "I've always been adamant that gay and lesbian Americans should be treated fairly," Obama told Roberts in an interview. Obama's announcement, on the heels of North Carolina's ban on gay marriage in that state, was made after much soul-searching. "Over the course of several years, I have talked to friends and family and neighbors, and I think about members of my own staff who are in incredibly committed monogamous relationships, same-sex relationships, who are raising kids together," he said. "When I think about those soldiers or airmen or marines or sailors who are out there fighting on my behalf and yet feel constrained, even now that Don't Ask Don't Tell is gone, because they are not able to commit themselves in a marriage, at a certain point I’ve just concluded that for me personally it is important for me to go ahead and affirm that I think same sex couples should be able to get married." The statement constitutes an act of political bravery on the president's behalf, as 29 states have now banned gay marriage constitutionally. Page 4

It's also a major victory for the gay rights community, which has been pushing him to declare his support for marriage equality for years. “It’s interesting, some of this is also generational,” the president said. “You know when I go to college campuses, sometimes I talk to college Republicans who think that I have terrible policies on the economy, on foreign policy, but are very clear that when it comes to same sex equality or, you know, believe in equality." "They are much more comfortable with it. You know, Malia and Sasha, they have friends whose parents are same-sex couples. There have been times where Michelle and I have been sitting around the dinner table and we’re talking about their friends and their parents and Malia and Sasha, it wouldn’t dawn on them that somehow their friends’ parents would be treated differently." "It doesn’t make sense to them and frankly, that’s the kind of thing that prompts a change in perspective.” The president's support of same-sex marriage will have little political impact, at least from a practical standpoint, as most states have tackled the issue legislatively and/or judicially, outside the realm of the federal government. Symbolically, the impact is much more profound. As the first president to support marriage equality, he sets the bar for its social and political acceptance and retains the ability to shape public opinion further. excerpt from www.thehollywoodgossip.com

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Logo Design Contest

Obama's LGBT-Friendly Campaign Merchandise It might have divided Washington, but President Obama's endorsement of same-sex marriage has drawn ample praise from many high-profile lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) rights advocates. Accordingly, the Obama 2012 campaign has released a colorful line of new merchandise catering exclusively to the LGBT community and its allies. From mug holders and rainbow posters to a selection of T-shirts emblazoned with an array of designs, you can be sure to find the perfect gift for the gay Obama supporter in your life.

Shop at www.store.barackobama.com/ collections/lgbt-forobama.html excerpt from www.huffingtonpost.com

The Lesbian Health Project is seeking a design from the community! This is our vision (see image). The overall design would be circular and in the place of the words can be an image depicting the meaning behind the word. The ideas we would like represented are the sense of inter-connectedness of people as well as that of the mind, body, and spirit. Please e-mail submissions to: Womens.Health.Pride@gmail.com by June 15, 2012.

$25 gift card and 30 minute massage for the wining design!

In the Spotlight Katherine V. Forrest Katherine V. Forrest (b. 1939) is an acclaimed writer and editor who has played a major role in bringing lesbian fiction to the forefront of the mystery and science fiction genres. excerpt from www.glbtq.com

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The New New Queer Cinema by Kathy Wolfe It was 20 years ago that B. Ruby Rich coined the term "New Queer Cinema" to describe the early-'90s revolution in gay and lesbian filmmaking (and yes, they were all shot and released on actual film). It's truly amazing that two decades later audiences have such unprecedented access to lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) films via the vast array of new exhibition platforms extending far beyond the traditional movie theater (or as they say in Great Britain, "the cinema"). Today's New Queer Cinema is a genuine multiplex of digital delivery platforms, traditional broadcast, satellite and cable on-demand channels, DVD, Blu-ray, and more. Want your movies downloadable, streaming, HD, mobile? You name it (just get them from legitimate legal sources, please -don't get me started on the scourge of online movie piracy). Given my 26 years of work as founder and CEO of Wolfe, the top exclusive distributor of LGBT movies in the world, I'm thrilled to announce that we're taking things yet one step further to help LGBT audiences gain better access to all these wonderful and vitally important films. For the past several months Wolfe has been working behind the scenes on an initiative to secure an "LGBT" category heading as part of all digital distribution platforms. This undertaking is just the latest highlight in Wolfe's ongoing mission to facilitate the broadest possible access to our rich cinematic heritage. This month we're thrilled to have achieved not just one but two success stories. I personally want to thank the folks at Hulu.com and YouTube Movies for their vision and leadership in launching new LGBT category headings on their platforms, to help LGBT viewers find the films they need to see. You can browse these categories at the following links: • Hulu Gay and Lesbian - www.hulu.com/genres/gayand-lesbian • YouTube Movies LGBT - www.youtube.com/ movies/lgbt Take a look and you'll see how exciting it really is. At first glance this may seem like a small thing. I'm here to tell you that the addition of these four little letters Page 6

has far-reaching impact. For LGBT youth who are just coming out, this kind of accessibility to diverse and affirming images can have an enormous impact on their self-esteem, serving as a much-needed counterbalance to the bullying and harassment that so many of our young people must navigate. For LGBT people who live outside major urban areas and aren't lucky enough to have access to LGBT film festivals, these films can be a sociocultural lifeline. For anyone who has ever felt isolated or alone in their gay identity, access to films that reflect and celebrate our lives can truly be a lifesaving experience. We've been proudly and diligently doing this kind of cultural advocacy work since we first started our company back in 1985. Lobbying mainstream video retailers to create actual sections for gay and lesbian movies was kind of a radical idea back then. It was not always easy to convince them, but gradually, over time, the "gay and lesbian" category has become a recognized industry category, right alongside "fitness," "reality TV," "independent," and other niches. We're very proud to have been part of making that happen at such platforms and retailers as Best Buy, Amazon, Netflix, and others (whom we also gratefully acknowledge for their longtime support and inclusiveness). We also want to thank our colleagues at the Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD) for providing us with guidance and support as we have been engaging in these efforts. Please stay tuned for ongoing progress in this initiative, and look for announcements of new "LGBT" categories on other digital delivery platforms (as a matter of fact, Wolfe's LGBT films are currently available virtually everywhere, including not only YouTube Movies and Hulu but iTunes, Xbox, Cinema Now, Blockbuster.com, Vudu, Amazon Instant Video, PlayStation Store, BuskFilms, OneMoreLesbian, and more). With the greatest respect and admiration for LGBT filmmakers everywhere: Welcome to the New Queer Cinema! excerpt from www.huffingtonpost.com

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Petition Launched To Change The Dictionary Definition Of Marriage Gay rights supporters have been working to change the definition of marriage for years, trying to get legislatures to pass marriage equality laws and securing more rights for same-sex couples. But New Hampshire resident Mike Raven is looking at the issue more literally: He wants to convince dictionaries to print a more inclusive definition of the word "marriage." Raven was inspired to start a petition on Change.org after seeing how upset his twin sister, who is a lesbian, was in response to North Carolina's passage of a constitutional ban on marriage equality. Raven's petition targets Dictionary.com, which attracts approximately 50 million readers each month. He believes marriage is "two consenting adults, entering into a life-long relationship as husband and wife, husband and husband, or wife and wife, based on love and commitment." Sign the petition at www.change.org/ petitions/dictionary-com-correct-the-definitionof-marriage. excerpt from www.huffingtonpost.com

"I'm sure for some people saying they’re bisexual feels less scary than making a statement that they're gay. For me, it’s not really an issue because I’m someone who believes being bisexual is actually a thing. It’s not made up. It’s not a lack of decision. It’s not being greedy or numerous other ignorant things I’ve heard at this point. For a bisexual, it’s not about gender. That’s not the deciding factor for who they’re attracted to." ~ Anna Paquin (regarding being bisexual)

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Going Wild by Woody Blue

How can we go wild? In the ‘60s and ‘70s we had a gem of a guy who knew all about wilding. Euell Gibbons was a household word and his adventures into eating wild plants was legend. His book, “Stalking the Wild Asparagus” published in 1970 made the bestsellers’ list and many of us went into the woods, looking for wild onions, mushrooms, crab apples, and nuts that we could make into some kind of palatable stew or casserole. Often we were disappointed when wild asparagus didn’t taste like garden asparagus, and crabapples were hard and bitter. Acorn flour never caught on as a wheat substitute. There were some tasty triumphs. One of my friends made violet syrup and we poured it extravagantly over French toast. Another friend and I waded through a local forest gathering fungus, barnacles, mushrooms that we were ‘pretty sure’ were non-poisonous and fried them in scoops of butter. Delicious. The health trend these days is to ‘eat wild.’ There are field guides available in book stores and online. There are local people around to help point out edible plants. If you’re interested in going further than the wilderness in your front yard, I suggest going on a walking tour. Susan Marynowski, sumar@fastmail.com, is a local herbalist who puts on wild herb workshops now and then. Payne’s Prairie also has access to ‘wilding’ tour guides. Many people would like to enjoy wild food but don’t necessarily want to go out there with a gun, fishing pole, herb basket or butterfly net. Fortunately, these people can go hunting in grocery stores, Page 8

specialty shops, and on the Internet to find a wide variety of wild foods. It’s less dangerous but more expensive. Be aware, however, that wild food sellers craft the labeling language to ensnare you. It was easy in Euell Gibbons’ day to figure out the difference between ‘wild’ and ‘cultivated, hybridized, or domesticated.’ These days, thanks to government-imposed guidelines and savvy marketing crews, it’s difficult to know what exactly we’re eating unless we grow or catch it ourselves. Many of us have heard of ‘farmed’ fish as compared to ‘wild’ fish. Farmed fish are kept in holding areas; sometimes a pond, sometimes a tank, and sometimes a netted area in an offshore area of the ocean. They are kept in overcrowded conditions and fed high protein fish pellets. The pellets are made primarily of wild fish but also contain a high amount of PCB’s and other contaminants, as well as antibiotics for keeping diseases at bay. Wild fish, on the other hand, have lived out their lives in their natural setting with no tampering. Wild fish that feed on other fish have a higher concentration of mercury. Large ocean fish, like swordfish, tuna, or shark should be eaten only a few times a month. Other concerns involve overfishing, thereby depleting the fish populations. When we go to buy salmon, the term ‘wild-caught’ pops up. Sounds fishy. What’s the difference between ‘wild’ and ‘wild-caught’? ‘Wild’ means the salmon were born, raised, and caught in their natural environment with no Kindred Sisters — June 2012


tampering. ‘Wild-caught’ means they were spawned in a hatchery which improves the survival rate of the babies. They are released into the rivers at some time in their juvenile growth span where they live a few years before returning to their spawning place where they are “wild-caught.” It’s hard to tell which are truly wild from the ones that are spawned in a hatchery, but they are pretty much a healthy choice of fish. “Farm- raised” salmon are Atlantic salmon ( a separate species), which are raised in pens in British Columbia, next to Pacific salmon. Occasionally they escape putting pressure on the local king and silver salmon populations. If you do decide to go with farmed salmon because of economic and availability issues, it’s best to know where your fish was farmed. These days all salmon contain PCB’s, a carcinogen, but farmed salmon contain 16 times more than their wild cousins. Chilean salmon have the lowest levels, while European, particularly Scottish salmon, contain the highest. North American farmed fish is a good second choice.

and it’s easier to crisp their skin. They are also larger and fattier. Unfortunately, they are less flavorful than wild meat. Wild meat comes from animals that must work for their meals and run from their prey; therefore, their muscle is denser and less fatty. It’s best to marinate these meats for 12-24 hours to help break down the protein chains. Domestic animals are protected and fed regularly. They are generally younger when killed than their wild counterparts. When a domesticated animal escapes, it’s not wild. It’s feral. When a wild animal is captured, it’s not domesticated, it’s simply living in captivity. My final category is wild bugs…you heard me. No need to go further than under your refrigerator on your hunting expeditions. For those interested in checking out ways to prepare them, there is the Eat-A-Bug Cookbook by David George Gordon, which includes 33 ways to cook bugs, including cockroaches, moths, and spiders. In this regard, we can say Florida is the land of plenty.

I’ve run out of space. Till next How about wild meat? When we talk about month, take a walk on the wild wild meats, a picture comes to mind of a hunter, side. gun in hand, stalking prey. The prey could be deer, duck, rabbit, squirrel, alligator, turkey or Woody Blue is a holistic health other creature minding its own business in the counselor specializing in massage wilderness. If you want this kind of wild meat, and nutrition. You can contact her you must find a local hunter and at 352-375-0539 for more info. beg him or her to share some of their bounty with you. If, on the other hand, you want to buy some regularly, the internet offers lots of options. The wild animal meat they are selling have been raised on ranches. They boast no antibiotics or hormones, etc. Though they advertise these meats as wild, they are really not wild, rather domesticated. In general, domesticated animals have more tender meat, softer connective tissue Kindred Sisters — June 2012

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Water Crisis at Adena Springs by Karen Ahlers and Neil Chonin

Upton Sinclair noted that "it is difficult to get a man to understand something when his salary depends on his not understanding it." That pretty much sums up last Sunday's guest column about Adena Springs Ranch by Ed de la Parte, the attorney for billionaire Frank Stronach and his controversial cattle operation in Marion County. In his May 20 column, de la Parte fails to understand the special feelings residents, and visitors, in North Central Florida have for the beautiful, iconic Silver Springs. He seems not to understand the common sense shared in local communities that existing aquifer withdrawals are contributing to the all-time low flow from the springs and that an additional withdrawal of 13 million gallons per day in the Silver Springs springshed is way too much, especially during this time of extreme drought. Droughts come and go in Florida. In which case, wouldn't it be sensible to plan for the worst rather than bank on the best? According to the Adena Springs attorney, we are all too emotional and uninformed, and we ought sit down, be quiet and get with the science. But the science that de la Parte presents is part of a lawyer's argument, and the "facts" are based on studies Adena Springs commissioned. Studies that have not been completed, accepted or approved by any agency looking out for the welfare of Florida residents. For instance, Adena Springs' groundwater modeling study reported no harm to Silver Springs. But the study was set up improperly, according to the St. Johns River Water Management District. The district told Adena Springs that the model should not have included recharge because the district would only permit enough irrigation water to grow grass, not recharge the aquifer. Even if the Page 10

model was set up correctly, the district says the suitability of the groundwater model to evaluate Adena Springs' withdrawal impacts has "been brought into question," and more investigation is required. According to de la Parte, the results of an aquifer performance test conducted by Adena Springs have not been compiled and submitted, but he already has concluded it would be irrational to expect harm. The district, on the other hand, says further study beyond the aquifer performance test is warranted. The district has stated that a "primary concern is that of nutrients from the site (sources that include manure, urine and inorganic fertilizer) could be transported directly off-site via surface water conveyance or indirectly off-site via groundwater conveyance to an adjacent OFW water body." Two OFWs (Outstanding Florida Waters) are at risk — the Silver River and the Ocklawaha River Aquatic Preserves. Is the water management district also being too emotional? Folks need not be concerned, according to de la Parte, because Adena Springs will use precisely as much water as their grass crop needs. They will manage fertilizer and manure so that only the precise amounts needed by the crop will be used. Some of this precision agricultural science will come from research through the Institute of Food and Agricultural Sciences at the University of Florida's new Frank Stronach Plant Science Center, named for the Adena Springs Ranch billionaire owner and donor who funded the $1.5 million building project. De la Parte is telling us to leave it to IFAS and Adena Springs' private consultants to determine what best-management practices Adena Springs must follow. He believes the Kindred Sisters — June 2012


district can decide what's in the public interest. Unfortunately, organizations such as IFAS and the water management districts are bowing to the pressure of money and business and may not be serving the best interests of residents. The St. Johns district, as well as Florida's other water management districts, have been hogtied by the current administration in Florida, resulting in inadequate budgets, reduced staffing and pro-industry/ anti-environment executive directors and governing boards. The approval by the district of more water withdrawal permits for the Jacksonville Electric Authority and other major water consumers has contributed to the current unprecedented water crisis. They publicly acknowledge this fact. The Adena Springs Ranch application and submittals can be viewed online. So can the modeling correspondence quoted in this column and hundreds of objection letters and emails. Go to https://permitting.sjrwmd.com/ epermitting/jsp/Search.jsp? option=permitNumberOption and type in the permit number 129419. So, don't judge the Adena Springs Ranch permit based on emotion like some people have. There's plenty of good oldfashioned, fact-based doubt to go around.

Karen Ahlers is an environmental advocate who lives in Putnam County, and Neil Chonin is a noted environmental lawyer with Southern Legal Council Inc. in Gainesville.

Dance to Save our Springs! Thursday, June 7 th at 8:00 pm One of Gainesville's favorite dance bands, The Impostors, Impostors will perform to help raise funds to pursue a legal challenge to the Adena Ranch permit. They perform Beatles, Cream, Hollies, Byrds, Beach Boys, Clapton, Hendrix… Ticket Prices: $8 - $10 for the cause OR $20 ($10 of which will go to the cause, and the other $10 would go to a pre-set entree menu) Location: Smokehouse, 104 S Main St, Gainesville

Food Network Star Comes Out "Secrets of a Restaurant Chef" host Anne Burrell has confirmed she's a lesbian and in a committed relationship with a woman. The Food Network star's announcement comes just days after "Chopped" host Ted Allen made a reference to her sexuality in a radio interview with SiriusXM host Romaine Patterson, which aired May 21. "Anne doesn’t feel she was outed," Burrell's rep told Page Six. "She has made no secret of her relationship." The rep went on to note, "Her significant other is a very private woman. They have been together for a couple of years and spend a lot of time together. It is no secret in the culinary world.” Though the Food Network courts a sizable lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) audience, none of its major star chefs have publicly come out until now. Featured "Iron Chef" star Cat Cora, who also serves as host of "Around The World In 80 Plates" on Bravo, is openly gay -- but does not have a cooking show of her own on the Food excerpt from www.huffingtonpost.com Network.

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Women and their Relationship with Cooking A Stifling, Yet Empowering Connection Food, the centerpiece of many women’s work, is essential to life; biologically, culturally, and spiritually. Anywhere from 200,000 to 1.9 million years ago, women discovered that vegetables and meats could be cooked over a fire. Since then, women have been the nurturers of society’s nutrition. Men did the cooking for aristocrats and royalty, but it was women who dedicated their time and energy to finding, growing, and cooking food for the larger portion of the human race. The human necessity of nourishment has helped shape the very nature of women’s lives. In turn, women have shaped the nature of food. Through food, women have made life better: more delicious, more beautiful, and bearable during dark times. Women provide nourishment for survival through their breasts and their hands. Although a large percentage of women today do not slaughter pigs, preserve fruit, or make their own bread, cooking is still considered to be women’s work and a major force in our lives. Generations of women have stood together in the same kitchen cooking for religious holidays, building a spiritual connection based off love; a love for each other and the food they are preparing. Cooking together is more than just working; it is building a connection with the past and being thankful for humble beginnings. The methods of cooking have changed over thousands of years, but women still cook and care deeply about preparing edible food. Although the words innovation and technology are predominately associated with men, women have altered history and civilization by inventing and changing the art of cookery by developing ways to grow and perfect food that entire religious systems, cultures, and economies are based. The earliest cookbooks of Western society are dramatically different from the ones of today. Next to recipes for turtle and pig are instructions for herbal remedies to cure fatal illnesses. It seems as if women had some sort of mystic power in the kitchen. Still these cookbooks, filled with recipes, magic potions, and herbal remedies, were used as tools to restrict women’s lives. Cookbooks were an unending stream of labor that dictated proper societal attitudes, purity, and obedience to men. Cooking has been a consistent paradox. Throughout history, cooking has been a source of magical power and oppression for women. Cooking has helped women collect a monetary gain, social standing, and admiration. It has also limited women’s lives by filling days doing endless chores and kept them out of public life. Women’s association with food reveals much about the social, political, and economic roles they had historically as well as in a modern context. An important distinction drawn through the study of gender and food is the inclusion of racial and ethnic considerations. We see how women of different socio-economic classes and ethnic background interact with food in different ways. This intersectionality is essential to our understanding of the placement of food in various cultures and in women’s lives. Local author and University of Florida associate professor, A. Whitney Sandford, addresses issues such as these in her piece, Growing Stories From India: Religion and the Fate of Agriculture, which illustrates the value of Hindu contributions to agrarian thought. Food, central to our livelihoods and lifestyles, has a critical role in laying the foundations of who we are, and how we self-identify. The implications of food and its role in society are tremendous creating the foundations for cultural methods of identity development. In other words, “you are what you eat”. excerpt from www.blog.wildirisbooks.com

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Golden Orchid Society: Lesbians in China by Kathy Belge

When we think of same-sex marriage and gay rights, we tend to think of this as a modern issue. But the truth is, for centuries in China, there was a whole society of women who lived together in romantic partnerships with one another. Rainbow Rumpus is an online magazine for children with LGBT parents and they have a great article about the Golden Orchid Society. I spoke with Rene Ohana, the author of the article, and about the Golden Orchid tradition in China. Lesbian Life: This is the first time I’ve heard of The Golden Orchid Society, can you tell me more about it? Rene Ohana: The Golden Orchid Societies, or Mutual Admiration Societies, as they were also known originated in the Guangdong Provence of China and existed from approximately 1644 until 1911. During this time most of China was strictly patriarchal. Women were treated as little better than servants. Marriages were arranged by parents and often a young woman did not see her prospective husband until the wedding. Further, women could not inherit or hold any assets in their own names. However, with the growth of the silk industry in the Guangdong Provence, the women of that area were able to find employment in sericulture. By the 1800s, the silk factories, which produced silk for foreign markets, had grown extensively and often exclusively employed women, allowing the women to not only earn incomes of their own, but also form close personal relationships with each other. According to anthropologists, during this period, resistance to the traditional practices of marriage grew and Golden Orchid Societies thrived. The women who took the Kindred Sisters — June 2012

Golden Orchid Oath in order to join Golden Orchid Societies had similar courtship and marriage traditions as heterosexual couples, such as the wearing of red for the wedding. The primary difference was that their unions were with another woman, rather than a man. Many of the relationships formed in Golden Orchid Societies were close sisterly relationships, while others were sexual relationships. Regardless of whether or not the relationship was sexual, the women were committed to sharing the challenges and rewards of a life partnership. Unlike other female-only groups, often referred to as spinster societies, Golden Orchid families were permitted to adopt orphaned and abandoned girls, who in turn could inherit from their mothers, thus creating financial independence for yet another generation of women. The Golden Orchid Society largely fell apart with the end of the Qing Dynasty, when they were associated with the attempt to overthrow the Manchu Emperor. With the triumph of the Red Army in 1949, they were banned outright. Many of the remaining women fled the Guangdong region and dispersed to Hong Kong, Singapore, and Malaysia. In contemporary China, the term Golden Orchid Friends now refers to friends who are like sisters and for whom one would give one’s life, but the term is no longer associated with homosexuality. Golden Orchid Societies offer an important historical precedent not only for the institution of same-sex marriage, but also for same-sex parenthood. For additional information, read the appendix to Bret Hinsch’s Passions of the Cut Sleeve. While the book is primarily about the male homosexual tradition in China, the appendix does an excellent job of explaining Golden Orchid Societies. excerpt from www.lesbianlife.about.com

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WhatÊs Happening? June is Pride Month! Jun 2, 10-5pm: Every Woman’s Arts & Crafts Festival Don’t miss this wonderful festival full of handmade items! St. Johns County Ocean Pier Pavilion, St Augustine. Rain or shine! www.everywomansart.com Jun 2, 7pm: Butchlesque "Butchlesque" is a showcase of participants displaying their individual perceptions of the "butch" identity. By providing a forum for exploration of "butch" perceptions, we are working to not only dispel old stereotypes of lesbians - and butches in particular - but to also allow butchidentified individuals an evening to feel the community's appreciation for their roles in the LGBT community. Admission: $25; VIP $40. Gulfport Casino Ballroom, 5500 Shore Blvd South, Gulfport, FL. www.Butchlesque.com Jun 2, 8pm: Women’s Roller Derby! The bout you’ve been waiting for – Gainesville Roller Rebels take on the Ft. Myers Derby Girls in what promises to be one of the most exciting Florida vs. Florida team match-ups this season! Doors open 7:30pm at Skate Station, 1311 NW 76th Blvd. Tickets: $8/adv; $12/door (available at Skate Station & www.BrownPaperTickets.com). A fundraiser will be held to benefit Girls Place! www.gainesvillerollerrebels.com Jun 3, 5pm: Women’s Dinner & Movie Relax with the gals, enjoy a nice dinner, & catch a movie -- all for just $5! Can you think of a better way to spend a Sunday evening?! See full details on outside back cover. Jun 4, 8pm: GRR Open House It’s that time again. Recruitment! Do you wanna skate, ref, or be a helper!!! There is so much to do for women’s roller derby, there is something for everyone! Come out and check it out! Alachua County Fair Grounds (www.GainesvilleRollerRebels.com) Page 14

Jun 6-10: Key West Pride www.KeyWestPride.org, www.GayKeyWestFL.com Jun 7, 8pm: Dance to Save our Springs! One of Gainesville's favorite dance bands, The Imposters, approached us offering to do a concert to help raise funds to pursue a legal challenge to the Adena Ranch permit. Ticket Prices (come early and try the BBQ!): $8-$10 for the cause; $20 at the door ($10 of which will go to the cause & the other $10 would go to a pre-set entree menu). Smokehouse, 104 S Main St, Gainesville. Jun 8-14: “Bully” at the Hipp See pg 2 for details. Jun 9, 7-11pm: Mask-You-Made-Ball We all wear “masks” every day as a means for hiding our true selves from the World. Join us for an evening of dynamic transformation by wearing a mask of your creation that shows the mask you present to the World. For example, you may choose the “always happy” mask even though you are not really happy all the time. If you choose not to make your own, a variety of masks will be available at the event so everyone can join in this unique experience. Prepare for a night of fun activities and experience a safe place to reveal your true self and dance in celebration! Light Refreshments! Music & Dancing! Exciting Activities to Mix it up! Open to all - Formal attire encouraged for this special evening! $5 suggested donation upon entrance. www.maskyoumadeball.yolasite.com Jun 9, 8pm: Hairball Variety Show Watch your fellow community members strut their stuff on stage! Singers, comedians, drag queens & kings, & more! Tickets: $12/adv; $15/door (ticket price includes munchies during intermission & an After-Party at Villa East). Tickets available for purchase at the Pride Center (3131 NW 13th St) & at Wild Iris Books (802 W University Ave). www.gainesvillepride.org

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WhatÊs Happening? Jun 11, 10:30am: Essential Oils of Your Ancestors Learn about pure essential oils and their uses throughout history. How many roses does it take to make an ounce of essential oil? What are some common uses of essential oils? What combination of oils can provide headache relief? Join us and create your own oil blend with guidance from our aromatherapy expert. Materials will be provided. Registration for this event is required. Library Partnership, 1130 NE 16th Ave, Gainesville. 352334-0165 Jun 11, 7pm: Lemurs of Madagascar CMC presents 2 Film Screenings: "Silky Sifaka Lemurs of Madagascar" and "Madagascar, Lemurs, and Spies" at the Civic Media Center, 433 S Main St, Gainesville. The films document the giant lemurs, propithecus candidus, one of the rarest mammals on earth. Originally from northeastern Madagascar, these large lemurs are on the verge of extinction and it is critical to understand the threats to their habitats and the role humans are playing in affecting this rapidly disappearing environment off the coast of East Africa. Cost: $3-$5 donation appreciated. 352-373-0010 Jun 13, 7pm: Gaynesville Queer Reading Group The Queer Reading Group meets every month to discuss a book (or other form of writing) that relates to queerness, including history, theory, fiction, and so on. We meet the second Wednesday of every month at 7pm at the Civic Media Center, 433 S Main St. Jun 16, 7pm: Summer Vegan Feast The Summer Vegan Feast is intended to give vegetarians, vegans, and others an opportunity to enjoy a non-meat based meal together. This Civic Media Center fundraising dinner will also be a great opportunity to meet other like-minded individuals and exchange recipes. CMC, 433 S Main St, Gainesville. Cost: $5 donation appreciated. www.civicmediacenter.org

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Jun 19, 6pm: Discovering Abundance A “Taking PRIDE in Health” Workshop presented by the Pride Community Center and The Vibrant Alternative. Identify your limiting beliefs about making money and self worth. Explore what you really want in life, and set clear intentions that will pave the road for a fulfilling life of abundance. FREE and open to the public. www.TheVibrantAlternative.com Jun 19, 7pm: Feminist Book Club Group is open to anyone & meets at Wild Iris Books, 802 W University Ave, Gainesville. All are invited to meet at Wild Iris at 6-7pm to enjoy dinner/drinks at Café Colette before the reading group begins. www.wildirisbooks.com Jun 20: Midsummer, Litha, Summer Solstice Jun 20: Women's Circle Women's Circle to Celebrate Summer Solstice at Moonhaven under the generous arms of the Grandmother Tree with the Sisters of the Moonhaven Mystery School. 6pm: potluck; 7pm: ritual. Weather permitting we will have a fire! Please RSVP 352-475-2432. Bring food, drink, merriment, percussion, outdoor chairs, open hearts, and enthusiasm. No perfumes, bug sprays. Jun 25-Jul 16: Moonhaven Mystery School for Women The class will meet for 4 consecutive Mon evenings 7-9:30pm at Moonhaven in Melrose. $62 for 4 sessions. Join a wonderful group of women to learn & develop your psychic & healing abilities in an empowered & safe space. www.flashsilvermoon.com Jun 25, 6:30pm: Green Acres - Paradise in Your Own Back Yard Join Lisa Finch for an exciting discussion of books about people who have embraced their inner farmers and have turned their lawns and patios into useful green havens. Discuss how they have done so and some of the costs and downsides. Headquarters Library, 401 E University Ave, Gainesville. 352-334-0170 Page 15


WhatÊs Happening? Jun 26, 7:30pm: Feminist Open Mic Our aim is to create a safe space where individuals can celebrate, challenge and express their artistic personas! All poets, musicians, and other artist types invited to attend. Café Colette will be open with food and beverages! Wild Iris, 802 W University Ave, Gainesville. Jun 27: National HIV Testing Day Jun 28: Stonewall Riots Anniversary The Stonewall riots were a series of spontaneous, violent demonstrations against a police raid that took place in the early morning hours of June 28, 1969, at the Stonewall Inn, in the Greenwich Village neighborhood of New York City. They are frequently cited as the first instance in American history when people in the homosexual community fought back against a government-sponsored system that persecuted sexual minorities, and they have become the defining event that marked the start of the gay rights movement in the United States and around the world. Jun 29-Jul 1: 2012 National NOW Conference "A Feminist Wake-Up Call". Hilton Baltimore, 1739 W Nursery Rd, Linthicum Heights, MD. www.now.org/organization/conference/2012/ Jun 30: St. Pete Pride www.StPetePride.com

Ongoing Events AA Meetings in Gainesville LGBT Alcoholics Anonymous Meetings on Sundays at 7:30pm at Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St. AA Meetings in St. Augustine LGBT AA Meetings held at 7pm on Saturdays at Flagler Hospital in the Alicia room.

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Buy Local at the Weekly Farm Market! Everything Fresh. Everything Local. Every Sunday, 2-5pm. Fresh baked bread, Farm fresh eggs & produce, Unique ethnic cuisines, Homemade soaps, candles, & more! Citizens Co-op Courtyard, 435 S Main St, Gainesville. www.citizensco-op.com Confidential HIV & STD Testing - FREE 1st & 3rd Thursdays of each month at 5-7pm at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St, Gainesville. Farm Stead Saturday Saturdays, 9am-3pm, at Crones’ Cradle Conserve, 6411 NE 217th Pl in Citra, FL. Farm Tours & Organic Produce! 352-595-3377 Gainesville Area NOW Meetings Gainesville Area National Organization for Women meets on the 4th Thursday of each month at 6:30pm at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St. Public Welcome. www.gainesvillenow.org Gainesville Area Women’s Network GAWN is the friendliest networking in town. Supportive women gather for lunch, to network & learn from each other & guest speakers. Meetings are the 3rd Wednesday of each month at the Sweetwater Branch Inn. 352-215-1621, www.gawn.org Interweave A group for lesbian, gay, bisexual, & transgender individuals & their heterosexual allies. Meets at 6:30pm on the 2nd Sunday of each month at the Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Gainesville, 4225 NW 34th St. Potluck, presentation, & discussion. "Just Us" Created for professional women 35+ to meet & mingle. Meets the last Saturday of the month at different restaurants, mostly in Volusia County. Join us for fun, food, & the folks. "No mess, no men, no fuss, it's "Just Us". Contact Dee, dee1023@yahoo.com

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WhatÊs Happening? Lesbian Readings & Potluck We have a good time together! Come and eat good food, bring something you have written and want to share, and/or come and listen to others read. Some womyn come just to the potluck, some just to the readings, and some to both. It's a lovely, connected evening with a small group of womyn as we share our stories and food. Time: 6:30 Potluck; 7:30 - Readings. Place: TBA. Contact: Madeline 352-335-3138. Melrose Music & Refreshments CoffeeTalk at the Shake Rag Art & Culture Center every Wednesday, 10am - noon, in the Old Gothic Church, 301 SR 26, downtown Melrose. Join us for cool art, great music, stimulating conversation, poetry, & maybe dancing. We have the coffee… bring fruit or pastry to share. 352-475-2924 www.shakeragarts.org PFLAG Gainesville PFLAG (Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians and Gays) meets monthly (3rd Tuesday) at 7pm to realize our goal of moving equality forward. United Church of Gainesville, 1624 NW 5th Ave. 352-340-3770, www.pflaggainesville.org PFLAG Ocala Group meets on the 3rd Thursday of each month at 6-8pm at the Ocala Public Library (Room B). FMI 352-857-1739. Queerotic Dance Nite! 3rd Wednesday each month at 10pm at The Backyard at Boca Fiesta & Palomino, 232 SE 1st St, Gainesville. $3 cover Rise Up Singing Group Informal singing for the sheer fun of it! Rise Up Singing song books will be on hand. Meets the 2nd Tuesday of each month at 7-9pm at PCC, 3131 NW 13th St Ste 62, Gainesville.

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“Sister Song” - Gainesville Women's Choir All are welcome; no experience needed. Rehearsals every Wednesday at 7pm at Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St Ste 62. For more info contact Ruth at 352-538-4927 or gainesvillecommunitychoir@gmail.com. Stonewall Democrats of Alachua County LGBT Democrats & supporters meet monthly on the 4th Wednesday of each month at 6pm at the Alachua County Democratic Hdqtrs, 901 NW 8th Ave #A-3. Transgender Gainesville Discussion Group Meets on 1st Wednesday each month at 7pm at Wild Iris Books, 802 W University Ave, & focuses on education for the public. Meetings on 2nd & 4th Wednesdays at 7pm are closed support meetings held at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St. Transgender Movie Night Meets 2nd Friday of each month at 7pm at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St. www.gainesvillepride.org What the Animals Tell Me Every Wednesday at 8:30pm Flash Silvermoon hosts a live internet radio show for animal lovers. Listen to the live stream or check the archives later: www.internetvoicesradio.com Youth Discussion Group PCCNCF hosts a weekly “Youth Discussion Group” for GLBT youth between the ages of 14 & 18 years old on Wednesdays from 3:30-4:30pm at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St, Gainesville. FMI call 352-377-8915

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Home Van Pet Care Project Update by Elizabeth Howard, Project Coordinator

“Until one has loved an animal, a part of one’s soul remains unawakened.” ~ Anatole France The job of our project is to provide food for pets of homeless and low income persons in our community. This definitely leads us here-and-there. We Went To The Dogs: Two Alachua County Animal Services officers accompanied us to several homeless encampments. We’ve wanted to do this for quite some time so that the officers had a chance to meet the dogs and the people and to give some education about spay/neuter and other issues. Most people were home as were the dog and we all could see that the great majority of people are caring well for their pets. We made sure everyone knows about the benefits of St. Francis Veterinary Clinic and that they know where and when they can pick up pet food from our project. We really appreciate all the hard work of Alachua County Animal Services and that they made time for us. Our Film Screening was a great success. The films, “Cardboard,” and “Carbon for Water” were very well done and informational. Both films reminded us that the hot weather is coming. We ask everyone to carry water with you when you go out and keep an eye open for people who may need a bottle of water. Be sure to ask if they need water for their pets also. Our friend Linda King died unexpectedly this month, returning to us little Cassie, the kitty that Linda adopted a year ago after Cassie was injured while living in Tent City. Linda and Cassie loved each other and Cassie, being well cared for, improved in her balance and hearing. We were very lucky that the 12th Generation Ferret & Cat Sanctuary took her in right away together with one of her playmates, Sweetpea, so they are safe for life. We will miss Linda King, a kind and gentle person who supported our project and loved cats and birds. Linda had three other cats who are in a foster home, so let us know please if you could adopt one of these kitties into your home. Two other kitties, Silver and Gold, remain in foster home while improving from their digestive difficulties. They are well loved there and will no doubt be taken in as permanent residents. Page 18

Sadly, we say goodbye to lovely Tucker, the 8 year old kitty of Debbie N., a Home Van Pet Care helper who is a friend to many animals. Debbie is the person who gives us the use of her carport as a dropoff place for donations. On Thursday morning May 3, two blue heelers invaded Debbie’s neighborhood and killed two kitties, one of them Tucker, who were enjoying the morning in their own yards. We all want to keep our pets safe and we do the best we can, but the dogs, who were wearing collars and tags, apparently got out from somewhere, killed the cats and frightened neighborhood residents who are close to each other and who customarily walk their dogs and children down the streets. Animal Services is trying to locate the owners of the dogs, who need to know what happened. The neighborhood is on the outskirts of the Duckpond. Please call Animal Services if you want more information or know the dogs and their owners. Gainesville Pet Rescue is searching for a blue-nose pit who was separated from his owner during a motor vehicle collision. He was thrown from the vehicle on US 301 near Hawthorne, and in spite of an intense search has not yet been located. Please let us know if you have any information as to his whereabouts. We have a continuing need for bags of dry dog food and cat food and we need volunteers to assist in bagging and sorting food donations. We also need people to accompany us and help with pet food distribution. These efforts start about Noon on Wednesdays and continue till about 3pm. We need volunteers to help feed and supervise the Tent City Tribe of Cats and to seek pet food and financial donations. In closing, we just want to repeat some words of John Lennon, an astute observer of life in his times: “Nobody said there’d be days like these … strange days indeed.” For more information, to drop off or ask for pick up of donations, you can call Elizabeth Howard, Home Van Pet Care Project Coordinator, at 352-473-9423, holisticliz@hotmail.com. To make financial donations, send checks c/o Elizabeth Howard, P.O. Box 14305, Gainesville Fl 32604, or pay by PayPal at www.homevanpetcareproject.blogspot.com. Kindred Sisters — June 2012


Will & Grace Educated the Public by Joyce Eng

Vice President Joe Biden gave a nod to same-sex marriage on Meet the Press and credited Will & Grace for changing public opinion. Biden said he's "absolutely comfortable" with [same-sex marriage] and that the issue is "evolving." He then cited Will & Grace — the most successful prime-time show with a gay lead. "When things really began to change is when the social culture changes," Biden said. "I think Will & Grace probably did more to educate the American public than almost anybody's ever done so far. People fear that which is different. Now they're beginning to understand." Shortly after Biden's interview, Will & Grace star Debra Messing tweeted, "I'm thrilled Biden has come out in support of gay marriage and am beyond proud of what he said [about Will & Grace] #PROUD. Thank you Mr. Vice President for yer [sic] support and yer [sic] words about W&G. #humbled." Eric McCormack later responded by tweeting: "Three cheers for VP Joe Biden! Fantastic interview. Now who ELSE is gonna step up? " excerpt from www.tvguide.com

North Carolina Becomes 30th State To Ban Gay Marriage North Carolina voters approved a constitutional amendment on May 8th that defines marriage as the union of one man and one woman. The amendment makes North Carolina the 30th state to institute a ban on gay marriage. Main supporters, Vote for Marriage and Coalition to Protect All N.C. Families, celebrated with a seven-layer cake. In all, the amendment's supporters and opponents combined spent a whopping $3 million on TV, billboards and messaging. In the end, the public sided against the possibility for gay marriage or domestic partnerships. North Carolina law already banned gay marriage, but the amendment effectively slams the door on the possibility of a additional legislation. excerpt from www.gaylife.about.com Kindred Sisters — June 2012

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Target Launches Gay Pride TT-Shirt Line to Benefit LGBT Advocacy Group Just as debate over the Obama administration's support of marriage equality heats up nationwide, the Target Corporation has followed suit by launching a charitable Tshirt line in support of gay pride. The Minneapolis Star-Tribune is reporting that the Minnesota-based discount retain chain has created a total of 10 T-shirts, including two designed by rock singer Gwen Stefani, as part of a decadelong partnership with the Family Equality Council, a Washington, D.C.-based lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) advocacy group. Target will reportedly donate up to $120,000 of sales proceeds to the Council. "[Target] is 100 percent committed to the goal of families being respected in all communities including parents who happen to be LGBT," Jennifer Chrisler, the council's executive director, told the Tribune. "This is just a continuation of that support." Interestingly, the T-shirts are reportedly only available online through the month of June, a move which comes across as somewhat half-baked to some authorities. "I would have been more impressed if they had actually stocked all their stores with the shirts," ad executive Tim Bennett, who specializes in marketing to the gay community, told Marketplace.org. Two years ago, Target faced a backlash when it was revealed the company had made a controversial political donation to MN Forward, a group supporting Republican gubernatorial candidate Tom Emmer, a vocal gay marriage opponent. Quickly, anti-Target Known groups were created on Facebook, and Lady internationally as the Gaga dropped an exclusive album deal with "Queen of Disco" the retailer in a show of support. and an all-around Even so, Target officials staunchly defended gay icon, Donna their company. As NewsOK reports, the company has continued to be a major sponsor Summer lost her for the Pride festivities in Minneapolis, and battle with lung also scores high on the Human Rights cancer on May 17th Campaign's corporate equality index, which at the age of 63. rates businesses on workplace policies for Donna rose to fame in the ’70s with LGBT employees. songs such as “Last Dance,” “Hot Stuff,” and "Target is not anti-gay," Michael Francis, “Bad Girls.” Her other hits include “She Target's executive vice president and chief marketing officer, told The Los Angeles Times. Works Hard for the Money” and “This "It's important to set the record straight and Time I Know It’s Real.” provide some context."

Farewell to the ‘Queen of Disco’

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Poetry Corner Snapshots of an Agoraphobic. #1. You have three minutes to feel better about yourself. You also have an appointment that is ten minutes from where you are right now. It is 9:22. You must leave at 9:25. Look in the mirror. Try not to cry. #2. On the bus, a little girl touches you and tries to tell you she likes the flower on the inside of your arm. “But why does it have a body?” You scream. #3. It is the beginning of the week. The shape of your therapist’s cough is a cholesterol-filled hummingbird. It can fly out of this window, but you can’t. #4. Every party/social gathering you force yourself to go to is a hyperbolic homicide of overlyobvious intellectual antics and skin itching to fuck or sleep. You sit in the backseat of your brain, rock yourself, drink. #5. You have a grocery store in your cabinet. You have a list of people to hang out with. #6. When you are invited to a brunch by a bunch of butch women, you lie immaculately and tell them that your lover is coming from Fort Lauderdale to spend the weekend with you. You tell them with an anarchic smile on your face that the two of you will be too busy eating to eat. You spend the rest of that day fucking yourself until your sheets are the texture of milkweed. #7. You lead yourself into a transvestism of happiness. You kiss your palms as the entire earth slides down your wrists. As long as the door to your room is locked and loaded, you do not have to commit suicide. #8. You lie over and over again when your mother asks you if you’ve found a job. You don’t tell her that your resume is like a gorgeous woman everyone wants to get to. Get inside. Plunge Plummet plunder deep. Your mother may be the sea, but she does not understand analogies that analogize fucking and professionalism. #9. You have fucked, I believe, two hundred and sixty seven people in this bed in your room in this building on the highest floor. Every name is a echo of atavistic proportions. You never go to them. You are getting old. This is getting old. But you’re unsure of how to do anything new without killing yourself first. Open the door. by Jazmine Davis

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Congratulations, Jennifer Wester! PCCNCF thanks all who participated in the Pride 2012 Logo Contest! Jennifer Wester’s submission was chosen for this year’s Pride logo. This image will grace the Pride 2012 t-shirts which will be on sale at the Pride Center and at www.gainesvillepride.org.

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The Difference Between Men and Women? Gertrude Stein Got It Right! Before her death in July 1946, Gertrude completed the libretto for an american opera based on suffragist Susan B Anthony’s life, called THE MOTHER OF US ALL. Gertrude has been called the mother of confusion, because many cannot grasp the simplicity of her writing, or the complexity of her wit. I AM A BIG FAN of some of her work, have my own private interpretation, and enjoy it when folks in this later day CATCH ON to her wisdom and wit. SO, in 2000, in PASSIONATE MINDS, Claudia Roth Pierpont quotes G S, quoting S A: For men are AFRAID, “They fear women, they fear each other, they fear their neighbor, they fear other countries and then they hearten themselves in their fear by crowding together and following each other, and when they crowd together and follow each other they are brutes, like animals who stampede.” As for women, they are afraid not for themselves but only for their children: ‘that is the real difference between men and women.” Stein (at the end of her life) shows Susan B at the end of her life, when she knows that all her work has failed. She has helped to win the vote for black men, but Anthony will die before it is granted to women, white or black. When someone attempts to comfort her by saying that women will vote some day, her despair only deepens: she dreads that when women have the vote they too, will become afraid---THAT THEY WILL BECOME LIKE MEN. NOT US, OKAY MY LESBIAN SISTERS? LET US NOT BECOME AFRAID. AND LET US KNOW THAT APATHY IS AS DANGEROUS AS HATE. by rainbow williams

Service Directory Jenn Wester ~ Pet/House Sitter (references available) ~ jennwester@hotmail.com Kickin’ Devil Café ~ LOO Restaurant/Bar ~ 352-505-6660 Beckie Dale ~ Massage ~ 352-335-3138 Woody Blue ~ Custom Flags & Tablecloths, Massage, Nutrition Info ~ 352-375-0539 Peggy Damiano ~ Website Design/Maintenance ~ www.attleborowebdesign.biz Elizabeth Howard, M.A. ~ Dream Interpretation ~ 352-337-2723 Melissa Mojica ~ Hauling, Photography ~ 352-359-4119 Lylly Rodriguez ~ Reflexology, Massage, & Reiki ~ 352-870-7922 Chrissy Martinez ~ Photography ~ masterphotography@gmail.com Beth Karbe ~ Acupuncture ~ 352-375-3080 Maria Chah ~ Massage & Yoga ~ 404-667-7599 Shewolf ~ Custom Woodworking, Speech Consulting, & Publishing: Directory of Wimminlands/Lesbian Communities ~ 352-475-3722 If you have a skill/service & would like to be added to our directory, please contact Kindred Sisters at KindredSisters@gmail.com. (Free!)

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AstroFlash As Alice said in the beginning of her tour of Wonderland, "Things are getting curiouser and curiouser!" Come to think of it, sometimes this world does resemble Wonderland both in its wondrous beauty and the seemingly arbitrary nature of the rules that Patriarchy lays upon it. If the last Eclipse on May 20th didn't deepen your thoughts and emotions surely the Full Moon Lunar Eclipse in Sagittarius on June 4th should do the trick. Eclipses are interesting aspects and the outcomes and message have a lot to do with what planets are being eclipsed, ie hidden. With a Lunar Eclipse, we are faced with a strong dose of lunar energy without the solar energy to balance and clarify. What is lurking in the shadows? What's real? How do I really feel? Who can I trust to tell the TRUTH? Only you can really answer these questions but do try to seek the wisdom of the heart for the truest answers. Mars will be in a conflicting aspect to this eclipse which could really bring out some angry and or confronting energies personally and globally. Neptune in Pisces tells us that we are all One. Truly it is through an unwavering united connection of our hearts that we can transform the world from one where greed prevails and survival of the fittest dominates to one where the highest good of the group is part of the equation. This is a really important time to have a good talk with yourself and work on defining yourself and your purpose. If not now, then when? We will all have more opportunities for these "defining moments" as this time period shakes us up. Whether we want change or not, it is coming and it is in our best interest to help shape it in the most humane way possible. The Good News, is that Venus, the feminine planet of love and relationship will be conjoining the Sun and making a rare transit across the face of the Sun on June 5th. This won't happen again until 2117. In a year with tons of really important transits, this one alone is the most significant because of its rarity. We might even see this transit of Venus across the Sun as the most defining event of the whole year and that is saying something! Even though this event will be squared by transiting Mars in Virgo, this time could usher in a magnificent space where the Divine Feminine in all will rise up and create a more healing and loving paradigm. The Sacred Feminine connecting with the Sun will enliven all the wonderful female qualities such as intuition, sensitivity, reflection, nurturing, patience, etc and hold them up to the light endowing these qualities with more visibility and creativity for everyone. Hence this could very well be a turning point of Tone. In other words some of the Shift we are seeing and will see more profoundly is a welcoming and inhabiting of a more holistic and gentle way of occupying this planet by a larger majority. When there is a balance with male and female energies on Earth, then the atrocities leveled at our Mother will not be permitted. Venus/Sun energy will mean a more Active resistance against our cultural lack of equality as well as creating a kinder world. The more the hammer of oppression clamps down, the more the spirit of rebellion will flare. This is the nature of the times that we are living. This transit of Venus over the Sun heralds a new flame for the liberation of women as well as a potentially gentler way to solve the problems of the world. Shortly after the eclipse, Neptune will begin its backwards rotation till November 10th. As I have said over and over, these years; it's going to be all about the water and this retrograde sojourn will Page 24

demand that we take a second, third and fourth look at how we deal with our most precious natural resource. One of the positive offerings of the Uranus/Pluto Square that is coming closer as we speak is that new ideas, new technologies can suddenly manifest as if out of the blue to tend to these Plutonic potentially tragic situations here on Earth. Uranus is great with surprises and presenting the unexpected and this challenging square that I have been talking about for a year or so will make its first exact square to Pluto on Sun. June 24 so keep this date in mind as we are certainly going to see some big changes on all levels then. I know that some of this sounds so huge and you want to know "How will this effect me?" So glad you asked. We all have places in our lives that are not growing, are too toxic, or simply not life enhancing; be they lifestyles, health, jobs, relationships or whatever. These are the places to look for change and to make the room for it that is needed. We can go kicking and screaming or dancing, that is the choice and you will not lose anything that you really need. With all these planetary and electromagnetic shifts, many of us are discovering that life as we have known it is changing and at a most rapid pace. If you are daily fielding all manner of physical malaise don't worry, much of this is our system's reaction to these changes in vibration and our DNA constantly adapting and transmuting the energies from the Third Dimension, which most still live in, to the 5th Dimension where many of us aspire. As I have said in the last 2 posts of ASTROFLASH these are Ascension symptoms which are also known as Kundalini Rising symptoms. This doesn't mean forget the acupuncture, vitamins, etc. Just use good holistic tools to help you move more gently through these symptoms. The Gemini New Moon on the 19th offers a radical shift in consciousness that will manifest in many ways and all of you who have begun to open yourselves to your more intuitive nature will find that your growth is more rapid than you could have imagined. For those have walked a healing path for many moons, you will find that you are catapulted light years beyond what you thought was humanly possible so this is ALL GOOD! Some aspects of this profound shift began ramping up during the Solar Eclipse in Gemini on May 20th but with the Moon opposing the Galactic Center at 27 Sagittarius we should experience even more fireworks personally and globally. If you are wondering when this will all slow down a bit, it doesn't and this New Moon ushers in the Summer Solstice on the 20th which, like all the Solstices of this year, is most powerful. These energies congeal right before the first of 7 direct squares of Uranus to Pluto beginning on June 25th. If you think that I have been over stating the importance of that planetary configuration just wait and see how life transforms right before your very eyes. Also on the 25th, Saturn takes the proverbial lead out which is pretty hard for Saturn, and we are cut loose from some of the ties that bind for better or worse. It may feel worse at times but it is really better. Venus, the Goddess of Love has been dragging her feet around the kozmic wheel in retro since mid May and by June 27th, She will be on a forward path again so if you have been biding your time about any relationship changes, either beginning or ending one, now is the time for action! Blessings Flash Silvermoon Kindred Sisters — June 2012


Aries - OK, here it comes again. How the hell can I handle dancing with Uranus while fighting with Pluto? Uranus keeps wanting me to stick it Pluto remind him that he's just some little demi-planet, a far away pipsqueak that just wants to get me into more trouble than I can get into on my own. Before I know which end is up, slam I am righteously reminded about what radical change really is all about and I look intro the mirror wondering who I am anymore. Yes I want to get to the bottom of this Arian being that I am but can't I have a moment to catch my breath between each firestorm? Taurus - Well, at least I still have Jupiter in my sign till June 11. It's been a grand run and I will revel in it's splendor for the next week or so. One thing that I know very well is how to make something that I enjoy really last. We Taurians may be slow but we know how to squeeze every ounce of pleasure out of a moment. It won't hurt me any to be less indulgent and practice some measure of austerity... hell no I hate that word and there is no way that I will be austere with or without big old Jupiter. I know how to reel it in, it's been awhile but sometimes you gotta do what ya gotta do. Gemini - What a whirl, what a swirl of activity and it all revolves around me! Eclipses and New Moons wow. So much new information to download on the hard drive of my cerebellum. Thank Goddess mercury isn't retrograde on top of it all. I rarely can remember feeling like I have had too much of a social life but I am actually feeling the need to digest and assimilate all the changes that I am feeling. Yes shocking, even a Gemini can feel overwhelmed once in a while. This will be one hell of a birthday party. Cancer - I guess that a little peace right now is out of the question? Yeah, I thought so, but this is my Birthday month even if I have to claw it out of Geminis many hands. Oy! I can feel Uranus bearing down on my psyche like a well oiled Mix Master shredding my sense of order and priorities. Is it finally time to get better acquainted with Sirius or just be dogged by the Stars? Silly me, I need to submerge myself in the clearest, coolest, crystalline water and settle the cosmic dust that is blurring my vision. There seems to be way too much interference on this channel as if all the stations are sometimes playing at the same time. I am not at all confused, just inundated. Leo - Not a lot happening in the cosmos for me which is OK. I get to lie in the grass and watch everyone else's drama and I do love drama even if I am temporarily not the star of the show. This is going to need to change before the summer's over. I can't stand sitting on the sidelines of life. I can feel all my energies starting to swell with pride as I consider what comes next. I am not a worrier and even though I am not long on patience I do know the magic of waiting for my moment and then pouncing. Yes, I am a lion after all. Virgo - Mars has got me busy and it's a good thing because right now when I am not busy, I tend to worry and my mind fills up with more useless details than you can imagine. I can feel the vibrational shifts shaking my nervous system to the core and I am consuming Calcium like it was candy. Not bad but then I start to worry if I have taken too much. It's the good thing that I have loads of outlets for this nervous energy. Writing is my balm. When I take those words that are crashing around inside me and put them to paper, I do find peace. Libra - Saturn still has me in lock down but not for too much longer. I have really learned so much during these past few months about the use of limitation and how narrowing one's vision can produce much beauty. I usually like to have choices and to be able to sit on one side Kindred Sisters — June 2012

of the fence or the other or ideally both sometimes but I have learned how less is more. Who Knew? When my precious Venus starts dancing forward at the end of the month, I will contemplate getting closer to one special someone who has fascinated me for some time. Scorpio - I thought that I was in deep already but this month has me wondering just how deep one person can go without coming to the other side. Money and love, love and money, can I have them both or must I choose? Seems like with all these new energies bouncing me around like a basketball I should be able to manifest anything that I want and need. I mean I have the Law of Attraction wrapped around my finger. Still I want to feel like I am not forcing anything, like all that I need will simply fall into my lap because. Sagittarius - Starting this month with a Lunar Eclipse in my sign was a bit of a show stopper I must say and even had my expansive mind flying all over the place. Geez do I need to take a vacation, some travel anywhere. Even a good spiritual journey would be great. I simply need to get out of my head and into my heart and float on a magic carpet for awhile destination unknown. Open ended time and space for me to explore and express my evolving dreams and visions. Capricorn - Here we go again with that little anarchist Uranus barking at me to just let go. Fine for it to say, it doesn't even have a gender to hold onto. I don’t like these rules so much either but if we don't have rules then chaos will reign and that won't help anyone. I am really not that stiff, as a matter of fact I have almost become fluid with Pluto stretching my last nerve. I don't even want to tell you the strange places that underworld character has taken me, suffice it to say that I have been made aware of other worlds. I still prefer this one and I am ready to meet all challenges. Aquarius - Finally feeling so very Aquarian. I want to Occupy my ruling planet Uranus and hurl lightning bolts at both political parties til they see the light and chuck all their collective Politrix and pick up plans for a sustainable future with all kinds of Green energy systems. If only I had a magic wand. I could spare the lightning bolts, a little risky what with the drought everywhere. Maybe I should find Timothy Leary and spray LSD everywhere instead of chemtrails and simply elevate everyone's consciousness all at once? Staggers the imagination doesn't it? Better go back to Facebook and form a group for Creative Aquarians. Pisces - I can relate to everyone, and that's the problem sometimes. I can be such an empath that it becomes difficult to know where the world ends and I start. My heart is opening 10 fold and its a beautiful thing as long as I can be focused on the beauty of the world and there is much. The pain part is not so much fun and I need my body to get over the idea that it needs to manifest every kind of malaise under the Sun or the Moon. I have to say, when I am locked into that serene glorious world of golden light and high vibrations, I am in ecstasy and then all that sensitivity is well worth it.

Through my monthly Astroflash, I have endeavored to offer gender neutral astrology to speak to all sexual preferences and identities. If you know your Rising sign, your personal reading will be more accurate if you read the passage for that sign as well as your Sun sign. For deeper questions and readings of an Astrological or Psychic nature, feel free to call 352-475-2432 for an appt. or contact me through my website: www.Flashsilvermoon.com

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