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August 2011

Giving Women a Voice


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Equal Rights Amendment Re-introduced On June 22, Congresswoman Carolyn Maloney (D-NY) and Senator Robert Menendez (D-NJ) re-introduced the Equal Rights Amendment. The ERA currently has 160 co-sponsors in the House. Feminist Majority President Eleanor Smeal spoke at a press conference announcing the bill’s reintroduction, stating, “Women and men deserve and need full equal rights. Without constitutional equality, too many women, and thereby too many families, are cheated. Americans overwhelmingly support constitutional equality. It is time - in fact, it’s long overdue - for us to move forward. That’s why the Feminist Majority and other women’s organizations are this year going to score cosponsorship of the ERA as a yes vote for constitutional equality for women; failure to co-sponsor will be on record as a vote against women’s constitutional equality. It is simple as that - do you value women as full equal citizens under the law or not?” The National Organization for Women will also score whether or not a Member of Congress supports the ERA. The passage of the ERA is even more important following Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia’s comment this year that the U.S. Constitution does not protect women from sex discrimination. In an interview with the California Lawyer, Scalia stated that the 14th Amendment to the Constitution, which guarantees equal justice under the law for all persons, does not prohibit sex discrimination under the laws of the United States or its states. excerpt from

Cover: Eliska Been, a French American Indian from the Midwest, has created commissioned art, murals, and originals for homes and businesses that reflect the spirit of her clients. As an artist, she enjoys creating art that is identifiable to the eye and incorporates an alchemist brew of colors, depth of field, and creativity with light that breathes movement into her paintings and photographs. Eliska says, “My goal is to create a visceral experience of the natural world using mixed media materials in the form of digital photography, modeling paste, acrylics and the language of form to express my vision and interpretation of my environment. Ultimately, my passion is to lift the heart, fill the senses and push the eye to see that which it is unaccustomed to seeing.” To see more of Eliska’s art go to

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Moving in for the Wrong Reasons by Kathy Belge Lesbians have a reputation for "U-hauling" - moving in together too quickly. Moving in together too soon can ruin a potentially good relationship. Or it can ruin a potentially good living situation. Don't be one of those U-haul lesbians. Be honest with yourself and listen to those gut feelings. Additionally, here are five reasons NOT to move in with a partner.

come out and say it was a good decision. Most regret it. And then, there you are stuck with someone you probably wouldn’t have moved in with had the situation been different.

3. You're Spending All Your Time Together Anyway When you first meet someone and start to fall in love, it’s natural to want to spend all your time together. The 1. Financial sex is great and you like waking up to her every Money can be the most tempting reason to move in with morning. But that is just the passion and fire at the someone. Who doesn’t want to cut down on expenses? beginning of a relationship. You want to make sure the commitment and desire to be together sustains over the But that’s what roommates are for. Find one. long haul. 2. She/You needed a place to stay. You just ended another relationship and now need a 4. Pressure from your partner place to live. Her ex kicked her out and she has no place This is perhaps the worst reason to move in with else to go. She lost her job and her apartment; it would someone. If you’re not ready to make a commitment, moving in together is not going to change that. She can be kind of cruel to leave her out in the cold, right? Actually, these are all bad reasons to move in together. try and pressure you, accuse you of not really loving her, but until you’re ready to make that leap, you should not I’ve seen couples go down this path and very few every jump. It’s okay if you have “commitment issues,” are still working through feelings about your ex, or don’t know for sure if you’re ready to take this step with this particular person. All valid reasons not to move in with someone.

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5. You Just Want to Spend All Your Time Together What? Isn’t that the reason to move in together? Not necessarily. It all depends on why you want to be together. Is it because you’re jealous that she’s going to be hooking back up with her ex and you want her close to keep an eye on her? Are you meshing too much and not maintaining your own separate interests and circles of friends? Or are you each looking to each other to fill a hole in your life? There needs to be a balance in any relationship of independence and commitment. Finding a balance can take time and moving in before you find that balance can spell disaster. excerpt from

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Lesbian Radio Tune into "My Lesbian Radio" on Wednesday Nights at 9-11pm. All things lesbionic! Spend two hours listening to the funniest lesbians on the internet --- Denise and Donna of The Lesbian Lounge! Donna & Denise dish out a great talk show with gossip, news, interviews, bad personals, and more! Tune in to their live show. You never know which celebrities will show up to be interviewed. Comedian Dana Goldberg is a Fan Favorite and calls in often. The chat room opens at 7pm. You never know who might show up in the chatroom: celebrities, live puppet shows of Denise and Donna via webcam, etc. You have to see it to believe it. To join in on the chatroom fun, go to and click on "chat". When you tune in at, just click on the "Listen Here" button. The show starts at 9pm EST. You won't be sorry and as the girls say, "Get ready to laugh your asses off!" If you miss the show, not to worry, the "Front Page" will give you instructions how to download the podcast so that you can listen to it at your leisure.

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Gay Service Members March In Pride Parade

Hundreds of active duty and veteran gay service members marched in the LGBT pride parade in San Diego on July 16. Rex Wockner, famed journalist, estimated the number of service members in the gay contingent to be about 300, adding most of them were active duty, and called it “a symbolic goodbye to Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, which, while not quite dead-dead, is apparently dead enough!”

In the Spotlight Adrienne Rich Adrienne Rich (b. 1929), who has aestheticized politics and politicized aesthetics, is America's most widely read lesbian poet. Her openness about her life and sexuality and the prodigious recognition her work has achieved have made her an important and very public lesbian-feminist poet. excerpt from

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LGBT in the News SuperGay Videogame Hits iPad

What's it like living a triple life and protecting the world from an evil exgirlfriend? A Barcelona publisher wants you to find out with their new video game for iPod Touch, iPhone, and iPad. Full Story:

New State Law Requires Textbooks to Include Gays' Achievements

Gov. Jerry Brown signed legislation Thursday making California the first state to require that school textbooks and history lessons include the contributions of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender Americans. Full Story:

Feinstein Introduces DOMA Death Bill

Sen. Dianne Feinstein (D-CA) is seeking the demise of DOMA, the federal ban on gay marriage, and she has the President's support. Full Story:

Obama Certifies Repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”

President Obama has formally certified the repeal of the official U.S. policy banning homosexuals from serving openly in the military. Full Story:

First Openly Gay Male to Serve as Article III Judge

The Senate approved the nomination of J. Paul Oetken to the U.S. District Court of Southern New York. Full Story:

Nearly Half of CollegeCollege-Educated Gay Americans are in the Closet at Work

A new study by the Center for Work-Life Policy think tank has found that 48 percent of collegeeducated lesbian and gay Americans hide their sexual orientation at work. Full Story:

Brazil Celebrates First Gay Marriage

The first gay marriage in Brazil was performed on June 28 after a court granted an eight year couple a marriage certificate. Full Story: Page 4

Crones' Cradle Conserve Hosts Fall Organic Garden KickKick-off Saturday, August 27th 9:00am - 3:00pm A large variety of fall garden seedlings will be available from our greenhouse; Delicious, homemade drinks and foods available for purchase; Farm store will feature helpful gardening books, tools, and other farm products, art work, jams, jellies, and pickled items. Admission is $3.00, which includes all workshops, tours, and samples. Please do not bring pets. Crones' Cradle is a non-smoking facility.

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Attn: DRAG KINGS! It's a Drag King Show And we need YOU!!

Show Bois A Drag King Show & Fundraiser for PCCNCF

Saturday, August 27th 8:00 to 10:00 p.m. (Doors Open at 7:30) AT THE PRIDE COMMUNITY CENTER 3131 NW 13th Street in Gainesville The Drag King Show is a fundraiser for the center as well as an opportunity for everyone in the community to get together for a great show and have some fun!

Tickets: $12 / advance $15 / door

There will be a Cash Bar and your ticket includes free admission to the University Club after the show.

Available at Wild Iris Books and the Pride Community Center

If you are interested in performing for this event, please email us at

Tickets may be available at the door if the event does not sell out in advance.

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Redefining Intimacy by Sara Beth Brooks It's inevitable: when I come out to someone as asexual they always ask, "So you don't have sex? Ever?" I usually quip that asexuality is the secret to my success as an activist. People laugh, but there is some truth to it: part of the way I get the intimacy I need is through a community. A lot of understanding asexuality is about redefining existing concepts. It's long past time to redefine intimacy. The word intimacy conjures up a candle-lit room and a steamy sex scene, but I believe this definition limits greatly our intimate capacity as humans. In fact, I reject entirely the idea that intimacy should be synonymous with sex. Intimacy is tied to a much deeper set of emotions that guide every part of our lives. Intimacy feeds our humanity by connecting us with the people around us. It is the foundation for empathy, compassion, and love. Sex is one way of expressing intimacy -- but intimacy should not be summed up as sex and sexual acts. Nonsexual intimacy is already all around us in the LGBT community. Let's think about the relationship between gay men and the women of all orientations in their lives. A gay man and a woman can build a very strong bond. They have things they do together that define their relationship -- shopping, for instance. The more time they spend together, the stronger their relationship will become. They may confide in each other or lean on each other for support in times of crisis. Over MARK YOUR CALENDARS! time, they are building nonsexual intimacy. This intimacy serves a purpose in the lives of both people. They get a chance to explore something with each other that maybe they don't explore with anyone else. They make more commitments to each other; maybe they start getting together for brunch every weekend. This Friday, Oct 14th, 6:00pm: goes on for years, brunch and shopping. By now, these Community Awards Dinner two friends have an inseparable bond. They don't need Stay posted for details such as location sex to have their relationship be fulfilling; this and the featured keynote speaker. There relationship is based on something else. They feel happy will be a Silent Auction. spending time together and push each other to grow as people. Their relationship outlives sexual partners who Sunday, Oct 16th, 12-3:00pm: come and go through each of their lives. Pride Picnic Perhaps the woman comes to brunch one morning and Join us for fun & games at Westside Park. suggests that the man be her sperm donor. He agrees. PCCNCF will provide plates of food and Now they're making a big commitment to one another! beverages for a donation to the center. That commitment furthers the intimacy of their relationship; few things are more intimate than parenting Saturday, Oct 22nd, 1:00-9:00pm: a child together. No one questions the closeness of their PRIDE Parade & Festival relationship, even though everyone understands that they The Festival will have dozens of local aren't having sex. They are fulfilled in their close musical acts & vendors lining the plaza relationship with each other and embark on the journey to create a family together. from 2 to 9pm. Preceding the Festival is We build similar relationships across the LGBT the Pride Parade which steps off at 1pm at community all the time, and not just between gay men 7th Street & West University Ave. and women. These relationships have clear boundaries

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and communication. They develop around common interests and shared experiences. Over time, these relationships push you outside of your comfort zone and you grow as a person. Intimate relationships are built on a lot of trust and commitment. For sexual people, sex is a natural step for these relationships to take. For asexual people, it's not. Nonsexual intimacy can also exist between people and communities. An example? Activists. Over time, activists make commitments to their community. As they keep those commitments they inevitably build complex relationships with the people of that community. Activists find people within the community who have similar interests and make commitments with them to build projects together. The commitments continue to grow into a tangled web of complex relationships that contain varying levels of intimacy. That's what I meant above when I said that community is one way I fulfill my need for intimacy. Over time, as I've been involved in the movement, I have felt inspired and passionate. I've made commitments to the community and kept them, and the movement has continued to inspire my passion for equality. It can be any community -- a church, a blog, a band. What does the community make you feel during the time you spend involved in it, and how can you commit to continuing those positive feelings? Intimacy is the connection we all feel between one another. Many times sex is used as a way to express and create further intimacy, but intimacy can be expressed and created in many other ways. Asexual people are constantly examining these ways of redefining intimacy for ourselves. Heteronormative culture generally defines intimate relationships by one activity -- sex - but asexual people realize that intimate relationships can be defined by so much more.

USF to Offer GenderGender-Neutral Dorms, but Not UF

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Sara Beth Brooks recently completed the Leadership, Organizing, and Action: Leading Change program at the Harvard Kennedy School of Government. She is pursuing a degree in Peace and Conflict Studies and lives in Sacramento, CA.

Unlike its neighbor to the south, the University of Florida has no plans to offer gender-neutral dorms. The University of South Florida is launching a pilot program where students of different genders can live in dorm rooms together, the St. Petersburg Times reported. While more than 75 schools nationwide have gender-neutral dorms, USF is believed to be the first in the state to do so. A transgender student who had a hostile housing experience prompted USF to adopt the policy, according to the Times. UF housing administrators say they’re monitoring trends involving gender-neutral and transgender housing assignments, but they say there has been little interest from UF students in such a policy. Individual UF housing residents, including transgender students, can currently request roommate changes for nearly any reason. “We handle all special accommodation requests discretely and confidentially,” said Sharon Blansett, assistant director of housing research and organizational development. Blansett said the policy allows UF to arrange housing for transgender students in a seamless and unnoticed way. While the movement for gender-neutral housing started as a way to accommodate gay, bisexual, and transgender students, the policies also accommodate heterosexual students who are related or platonic friends. Under USF’s policy, students have to know their preferred roommates and rooming with romantic partners is discouraged. Blansett said the traditional residence halls at UF would need to undergo changes in the location of bathrooms to allow such housing. “I don’t think this campus is ready for that yet,” she said.

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Wonderland Adventures Capt. Karen Chadwick Notes: Introduction to Capt. Hope Destination: Horseshoe Beach, Gulf Coast of Florida More women than ever before are obtaining their Captain’s Licenses in an effort to make a living within the boating industry. One by one the ratio of men compared to women in this field is slowly changing. Captain Hope Reinke of Lake City, Florida is a recent addition to the growing population of female Captains. Her license may be new but she has a long history of fishing the Big Bend coastline. Capt. Hope has been fishing the Horseshoe Beach area for more than thirty years and she knows where the fish are. Scalloping season is underway and she has been helping her clients find plenty of the delicious bivalves in the shallow waters between Horseshoe and Pepperfish Keys. Hope and her partner Lynell have a beautiful place on the North side of Horseshoe Beach and they have a special offer to the readers of Kindred Sisters. They are offering free camping on their private property for one night when you book a charter with Capt. Hope. It’s a wonderful spot with the best view of the sunset that Horseshoe has to offer. Capt. Hope is an easy-going and generous host who will make sure you have the best time possible on your boating adventure. I always look forward to seeing Capt. Hope and Lynell when I go to Horseshoe. You can take a look at her website and check out the “Braggin Board” and then email her or give her a call to book your trip soon. Capt. Hope Reinke, 352-498-3713, Cheers! Capt. Karen (

The next date for the Welaka Heritage Tour has yet to be announced. This excursion follows a winding course that has changed very little from the days when early tourists explored the area on ruggedly crafted steam boats. $35/person. Email for info & reservations.

Fresh Water Scarcity by 2030 A recent report by the World Economic Forum warns that half the world’s population will be affected by water shortages within 20 years. Unsustainable conditions are headed toward what the researchers term, “water bankruptcy,” that could incite a crisis greater than the current global financial downturn. Crops and people are in danger, as geopolitical conflicts are expected to rise due to dwindling water resources. During the 20th century, world population increased fourfold, but the amount of fresh water that it used increased nine times over. Already, 2.8 billion people live in areas of high water stress, according to the analysis. A concurring UN World Water Development Report adds that shortages are already beginning to constrain economic growth in areas as diverse as California, China, Australia, India, and Indonesia. The Associated Press reports that the pivotal Ogallala Aquifer, in America’s Great Plains breadbasket, stretching from South Dakota to North Texas, continues to be drained at alarming rates, while the natural recharge rate is considered negligible. excerpt from

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Do YOU enjoy the annual Gainesville Pride Celebration? Each October, PCCNCF produces Pride Days which includes an Awards Banquet, the Pride Picnic, and, of course, the Pride Parade & Festival. The festival alone costs several thousand dollars to produce! For this reason, PCCNCF holds numerous fundraisers throughout the year. The Hairball Variety Show and Show Bois, in particular, are meant to raise the funds needed to produce the festival.

Perseids Meteor Shower August 9 - 17, 2011 The Perseid meteors were shed from the Comet Swift-Tuttle and appear to have come from a point in the constellation of Perseus. When they hit the atmosphere, they will be travelling at a fairly fast 60 kilometres per second. It is best to look about 50 degrees away from the radiant - the point where all the white lines seem to be coming from. On the nights of the 12th and 13th of August, you stand a good chance of seeing the Perseid meteor shower. The peak will be on August 13th around 07:00 UT. They can be seen all across the sky, but because of the path of Swift-Tuttle's orbit, Perseids are primarily visible in the northern hemisphere. As with all meteor showers, the rate is greatest in the pre-dawn hours, since the side of the Earth nearest to turning into the sun scoops up more meteors as the Earth moves through space. The Moon spoils the party this year being in 100% waxing phase. The Perseid meteor shower has been observed for about 2000 years, with the earliest information on this meteor shower coming from the Far East. Some Catholics refer to the Perseids as the "tears of St. Lawrence," since August 10 is the date of that saint's martyrdom. excerpt from

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Superfoods for Superwomen by Laurie Herr You love to eat, but you also love to feel great. You can do both if you choose foods that make you smarter, leaner, stronger. We’ve made that easy to do with Health’s top 10 superfoods for women. They were selected by our panel of experts for their mega benefits—from bone building and energy boosting to fat busting and disease fighting. Wild Alaskan Salmon “It’s all about omega-3s,” says health guru Andrew Weil, MD, explaining why fish like sockeye top his musteat list for women. All of our experts agreed: wild salmon packs a wallop with two kinds of heart-healthy omega-3s. Omega-3s boost mood, fight depression, and may protect against Alzheimer’s disease and cancer. Add in salmon’s lean protein and vitamin D (a critical nutrient many women lack), and you’ve got yourself a near-perfect food. Eat at least two servings of a fatty fish like salmon a week, the American Heart Association recommends. Wild Blueberries If berries are nutritional treasures, wild blueberries are the crown jewels. Research suggests the tiny gems not only help prevent memory loss but also may improve motor skills and help lower blood pressure. They’re also high in antioxidants that help fight wrinkles. Aim for a halfcup to one cup of any kind of berries a day, but mix in wild blueberries as much as possible. Many supermarkets carry them frozen. Oats We all know that oats can help lower cholesterol. Now scientists say oats, rich in soluble and insoluble fiber, are also good for helping you feel full so you can control your weight. They keep you regular, too. Add oats (and other whole grains) to Page 10

your diet throughout the day. The American Heart Association recommends 25 to 30 grams of dietary fiber a day—that’s about six times the amount of fiber in an average serving of oatmeal. So eat up! Broccoli This humble vegetable is a winner, thanks to research that suggests the chemicals in cruciferous vegetables, especially broccoli, may help prevent breast cancer by fighting excess estrogen. Rich in vitamin C and a good source of vitamin A, broccoli helps you feel full on less than 30 calories per serving. And it gets bonus points for fiber, folate (folic acid), calcium, iron, and potassium. Eat two or more half-cup servings of cooked broccoli per week. Walnuts Eating just a handful of walnuts a day can help you lower cholesterol, boost brain power, sleep better, cope with stress, prevent heart disease, fight cancer, and more. In fact, a new study showed that walnuts appeared to lower the risk of breast cancer in mice. Have one ounce (about 12 walnut halves) daily. Avocados Yes, they’re high in fat. But in this case that’s not a bad thing. The heart-healthy monounsaturated fatty acids (MUFAs) in avocados can actually help you lose belly fat, a risk factor for heart disease. Avocados also pack high amounts of potassium, magnesium, folate, protein, and vitamins B6, E, and K. Add to that fiber and cholesterol-lowering plant sterols, and you have one nutrient-dense food. Limit yourself to one-quarter to one-half an avocado a day. Red Beans Beans of any kind are nutrition dynamos. But red Kindred Sisters — August 2011

Aprons Marinated Salmon with Mango-Kiwi Relish Salmon: 1 tablespoon honey 2 teaspoons low-sodium soy sauce 1 teaspoon olive oil 1/4 teaspoon black pepper 4 (6-ounce) salmon fillets (about 1 inch thick) Cooking spray Relish: 1/2 cup diced peeled mango 1/2 cup cubed peeled kiwifruit 1/4 cup chopped fresh cilantro 1/4 cup fresh orange juice

To prepare salmon, combine first 4 ingredients in a large zip-top plastic bag. Add fish to bag; seal. Marinate 10 minutes, turning occasionally. While fish marinates, heat grill pan or large nonstick skillet over medium-high heat. Remove fish from bag, discarding marinade. Coat pan with cooking spray. Add fish, and cook 5 minutes on each side or until the fish flakes easily when tested with a fork. While fish cooks, prepare the relish. Combine all ingredients. Serve over fish.

beans made our top 10 list for several reasons: they’re rich in antioxidants and packed with protein, folate, minerals, and fiber, including resistant starch. Resistant starch seems to have several important benefits, like boosting the body’s ability to burn fat, helping you feel full, controlling blood sugars, and even reducing cancer risk. Enjoy three cups of cooked beans a week.

oil may be good for your brain, too. Also, findings from a 2008 study in Spain suggested that compounds in extra-virgin olive oil seem to fight certain kinds of breast cancer. Substitute olive oil for other fats: use it on bread instead of butter and in the place of less-healthy cooking oils. Get two tablespoons a day; it may lower your risk of heart disease.

Greek Yogurt One serving supplies nearly one-fourth of a woman’s daily calcium needs, and the fat-free variety is packed with twice as much protein as regular yogurt. Fat-free Greek yogurt is also high in probiotics, cultures that can help ease irritable bowel syndrome, a condition that affects mostly women. Have at least three servings of dairy a day; fat-free Greek yogurt is a good choice.

Dark Chocolate Rich in heart-protective antioxidants, dark chocolate can help reduce the risk of stroke and heart disease. It’s loaded with magnesium, manganese, copper, zinc, and phosphorus—all important for strong bones. Studies suggest chocolate may also help hydrate the skin, lower blood pressure, and sharpen thinking. Eat just one-quarter ounce a day. And be sure to look for kinds made with at least 70% cocoa.

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What Makes a Healthy Breakfast Healthy? by Woody Blue Most everyone has their favorite breakfast. It’s the most important meal of the day and should be treated with respect. Dashing off to work with an Egg McMuffin is downright uncivilized. We can influence our brains, bodies, wellbeing, and work performance every day by the type of fuel we give it after a good sleep. How nutritious is your breakfast? What’s better? A) Half a bagel with margarine and jam and a glass of orange juice B) A full bagel smothered with cream cheese C) A croissant topped with salmon and a cup of coffee

butter instead of margarine, squeeze your own organic fruit for juices, use raw dairy rather than pasteurized. Coffee is an addictive drug; not a food. What’s better? A) Instant oatmeal and a pop tart B) Raisin bran and a cup of skim milk C) Cheerios with soy milk and two slices of whole wheat toast with soy margarine.

Choice A: Instant oatmeal is about as nutritious as eating powdered cardboard. The pop tart is worse than If you choose ‘A,’ prepare yourself for a sugar crash in the oatmeal, containing mind-altering food dyes and 1-2 hours. You will need a full thermos of coffee to get high fructose corn syrup. If you have a job where you you thinking again. This choice is mostly sugar with a have to think or be patient with people, do not eat this little transfat thrown in. breakfast. If you choose ‘B,’ your energy will last a little longer. Unfortunately, most cream cheese is made from pasteurized dairy products and makes your body work hard at digesting it. The fat you absorb from it will give you a little more time before you’re hungry, but it won’t last till lunch.

Choice B: You’ve been brainwashed to believe a low fat diet is a healthy diet. Your brain needs nutrients. These foods have been emptied of most nutrients and have a high glycolic value.

Choice C: Regardless of the ads, Cheerios aren’t heart healthy. They’re a sugar trap. Unfermented soy products like milk, tofu and margarine contain a trypsin inhibitor which prevents the bean’s long chain amino acids from If you choose ‘C,’ you are on the right track. The salmon contains good protein and good omega3 oils to breaking down into smaller absorbable chains. The result is a help your brain work. The coffee works against digestion. leaky gut, leading to allergies and worse. To improve any of these choices, find breads that are organic whole grain or eliminate them entirely. Use To make any of these better, it’s advisable to soak whole grains like oatmeal overnight with a dash of whey or apple cider vinegar to release enzyme inhibitors that block the absorption of vitamins and minerals within the grain. It makes prep time longer, but gives whole Licensed Massage Therapist grains nutritive value. Using raw milk and butter gives your brain the healthy fats it needs to get through the work day. Soy Relaxation margarine, Earth Balance, Better than Butter, etc. are transfats and contain artificial Pain Relief flavorings. Not good. Use butter instead, and Stress Reduction it’s best if you find a source from healthy, pasture-raised cows. Injuries

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B) A granola bar with organic fruit and nuts C) A multivitamin, a probiotic, and a glass of mineral water Choice A: This combo would be better used as a snack, rather than starting off the day. Store bought granola is a processed grain that often contains additives to give it a longer shelf life. The fruit is sugar. Full fat yogurt is the saving grace of this breakfast.

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Choice B: Bad breakfast. Granola bars contain lots of sugar and additives. They have a lo-o-o-o-ong shelf life. They won’t decay on the shelf and they won’t digest well in your gut. Choice C: We are more than a pile of nutrients. These are all necessary things but our body likes food better. To make any of these better, I advise adding protein like meat or eggs to a morning breakfast. Good dairy fats like full fat raw milk, yogurt, or kefir are good ways to build up the friendly bacteria in the gut. Without that bacteria, we can’t digest well. What’s better? A) A mushroom, onion, and pepper omelet B) Bacon and fried eggs with a side of toast and butter C) A bean burrito with avocado and salsa D) Fish broth with an egg dropped in All of these sound yummy and can be full of healthy ingredients. Choice A: I hope that omelet is made with 2 or 3 eggs from free-ranging chickens raised on a local farm. The cholesterol and choline will feed your brain and your heart. Adding cheese and sour cream will set you up for the morning’s work nicely. Sprinkle with sea salt to get all the flavor. Choice B: Though bacon usually contains nitrates, which can be carcinogenic, there is bacon available that is processed without nitrates. Chicken, fish or beef can be substituted for bacon or sausage if this is easier. Use healthy oils like butter or coconut oil when frying eggs. They add a delicious flavor.

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the morning. Choice D: Though most people have never heard of this breakfast, I must say it ranks high on my list of good foods. I like creamy soft egg yolks and as long as they are from healthy chickens, I don’t worry about salmonella. I’ve never had a problem with it. There’s nothing like the feel of an egg yolk bursting in one’s mouth. The combo of fish and egg is like a supercharger for your brain and the meal lasts until lunchtime.

If all else fails, eating last night’s leftovers for breakfast the next day is probably easy for most people. There are lots of choices for the first meal of the day. I encourage all of us to upgrade our breakfast and make this a better world. Choice C: Vegetarians benefit by starting the day with lots of healthy proteins and fats. Beans should be Woody Blue is a holistic health soaked and cooked the day before to make it an easier counselor specializing in massage breakfast to prepare and digest. No tortilla is necessary but it does add a little structure to the meal. and nutrition. You can contact her at If you eat dairy, I suggest adding a scrambled egg and 352-375-0539. sour cream to this breakfast to make it last throughout Kindred Sisters — August 2011

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WhatÊs Happening? Aug TBA: Welaka Heritage Tour Travel back in the past on the "Palmetto," a beautifully restored 1930s 27' Elco Cruiser. Your excursion will take you to the boil at Welaka Spring on the St. John's River and into the mouth of the Ocklawaha following a winding course that has changed very little from the days when early tourists explored the area on ruggedly crafted steam boats. $35/person. Email for info & reservations.

bring a little bit of Wisconsin to Florida. Free; donations appreciated. CMC, 433 S Main St, Gainesville. 352-373-0010 Aug 4, 10-1pm: Recycled Art Workshop Shakerag Artists’ Collective presents a children’s art program in downtown Melrose. Make art from discarded items! All materials provided. Ages: 8Adult. Bring your lunch & a drink. You will take home the finished artwork! Cost: $20. To register call June Beverly 352-475-3347.

Aug 1: Lammas, Lughnasadh Aug 1, 7pm: “Vanishing of the Bees” Filming across the US, Europe, Australia and Asia, this documentary examines the alarming disappearance of honeybees and the greater meaning it holds about the relationship between mankind and mother earth. $3-5 donation requested. Presented by the Civic Media Center at 433 S Main St in Gainesville. 352-373-0010, Aug 2-7: Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival This is a music & performing arts festival that stirs up a steady mix of emerging artists & returning faves. Mingle with thousands of womyn in a village inspired by feminist values. Aug 2: Rainbow Bingo Play bingo on the 1st Tuesday of every month at the Pride Community Center, 3131 NW 13th St. Fun, Cash Prizes! Early bird bingo at 6:30pm. Regular bingo at 7pm. $15 at the door includes all early bird & regular games. Food available for purchase. Aug 3, 7pm: Reportback from the Wisconsin Uprising The Civic Media Center will host an eyewitness/ participant reportback from the recent months-long political battle over labor and economic issues in the state of Wisconsin. Come join in a discussion of the state of the movement, the practical lessons to be learned from the fight, how to move our struggle forward, and how we might be able to Page 14

Aug 6, 1pm: Explore Florida's Outdoors Do you want to know where you can camp on a quiet beach or where you can take a long walk in the woods? Author, traveler, and photographer Sandra Friend will be at the library to share information about enjoying the great outdoors without leaving the Sunshine State. Florida offers thousands of miles of hiking trails and nature walks on public lands, in wilderness areas, and in urban neighborhoods. In pictures and words, outdoor writer and hiking expert Friend will present an overview of our state's outdoor bounty, from quiet riverfront campsites to misty swamp fields. Headquarters Library, 401 E University Ave, Gainesville. 352-334-3900 Aug 7, 10-4pm: Release and Renew - The Ultimate Breathwork Experience Breathe Part I - Reconnect with the Lower Three Chakras Through Breath, Release Trauma, Pain, Hurt, Let Go of the Past, Clear, Free Yourself! Breathe Part II - Open the Heart, Reconnect with Your Life Purpose, With Vitality, With Intention, Move Forward Powerfully! Breathe Part III Intentions Healing Circle. There will be time for breaks, discussions, and a lunch break. Bring a lunch or leave and come back. Tuition is $50. Experience limited to 8 participants. Pre-registration is required for attendance. Call 352.226.4093 or email to register or with any questions. Sacred Earth Center, 1313 NW 31st Ave #41, Gainesville.

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WhatÊs Happening? Aug 7, 5pm: Women’s Dinner & Movie Relax with the gals, enjoy a nice dinner, & catch a movie -- all for just $5! Can you think of a better way to spend a Sunday evening?! See full details on outside back cover. Aug 8-12: FREE Spay for Strays Operation Catnip of Gainesville offers free spay/ neuter clinics for community cats in Alachua County. Community cats will be neutered, vaccinated, flea-treated, de-wormed, and eartipped! Don't miss this opportunity to control your colony! Space is still available! Call 352-380-0940 today! UF Vet School, 2015 SW 16th Ave, Gainesville. Aug 11, 6-9pm: Museum Nights: Staycation It’s the last Museum Nights of the Summer and your last opportunity to take a vacation. Travel the world through the art on view and participate in fun activities relating to travel. Free. Harn Museum of Art, 315 Hull Rd, Gainesville. Aug 11: Cruise on the Victory III The St. Augustine Lighthouse & Museum Guild invites you to join them for an evening of fun aboard The Victory III. Come experience the beauty of St. Augustine's historical landmarks from the water while enjoying spectacular views, live entertainment, complimentary light hors d'oeuvres, a cash bar, and prize drawings. This wonderful evening takes place from 7pm to 9pm. Boarding will begin at 6:30pm from the downtown City Marina. Fee: $35/person. Please make your reservations for this unique event as soon as possible! Contact Pam at 904-829-0745 ext. 210 or email Aug 12-14: Key West Lobsterfest Festivities include Friday's Lobsterfest Duval Crawl, Street Fair and FREE concert Saturday, and Sunday Lobster Brunch. The festival commemorates the start of the Florida Keys lobster season. 305-7449804

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Aug 13, 7-11pm: Decades Dance Dance to the music of the ‘50s to the present. Dress for your fave decade - Prizes for best dressed! Cash Bar! Held at the United Church of Gainesville Fellowship Hall, 1624 NW 5th Ave. Tickets: $10/ adv, $15/door. Sponsored by the UCG Open and Affirming Committee; proceeds go into the LGBT & Friends fund in order to support UCG’s membership in the Pride Center, contributions to the Gainesville Gay Pride events, & other civic causes. 352-3783500 Aug 17, 6pm: Incense Making 101 In this class we will make both stick and powdered incense with dried herbs, essential oils, and resins. This is a hands-on class where you will make your own herbal incense to take home. Fee: $25. Advance Registration Required. Wild Iris Books, 802 W University Ave, Gainesville. 352-375-7477 Aug 18, 5pm: Commission Vote on Meal Limit THIS IS A TENTATIVE DATE. IT IS STILL LIABLE TO CHANGE. The Gainesville City Commission will finally be voting on the petition that will change the numerical meal limit into a time-frame in which everyone can eat. Come join the Coalition to End the Meal Limit NOW in a rally at City Hall, where we will then go in for the final vote on the issue. Gainesville City Hall, 200 E University Ave. Aug 20: Picnic & Tubing Don’t miss the 2nd Annual Potluck Picnic & Tubing down the Ichetucknee with the LGBT Ocala group! Come for the tubing & the picnic or just for the picnic...but come for a good time! We’ll make our first run down the river at 10:30am and plan on eating around 1pm. Bring your favorite dish to share & what you want to drink (no alcohol). Ichetucknee Springs State Park, SW Hwy 27, Fort White, FL. 386-497-4690

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WhatÊs Happening? Aug 20, 9pm: Derby Dancing! Women’s Roller Derby: Gainesville Roller Rebels vs. Ft. Myers Derby Girls' Palm City Punishers! Doors open at 8:15 at Skate Station, 1311 NW 76th Blvd, Gainesville. Tickets: $8/adv, $12/door (available at Sweet Dreams Ice Cream, 3437 W University Ave in Gainesville, or at Aug 21, 7pm: Blues Society Monthly Jam North Central Florida Monthly Blues Jam at Kickin' Devil Café, 2017 NE 27th Ave, Gainesville. Come with your instrument and be prepared to play the blues or just enjoy a nice dinner with some great music! Free. Aug 24, 7:30pm: HippieFest In a special collaboration, HippieFest features a five-member powerhouse, comprised of seasoned performers from the 1970s and 1990s. The five members all have their own story of how they reached the top of the Billboard charts along with touring and recordings with their respective bands. Tickets: $30-40. Phillips Ctr, 315 Hull Rd, Gainesville.

Crones’ Cradle Conserve, an organic farm located at 6411 NE 217th Pl in Citra, FL. 352-595-3377, Aug 30, 7:30pm: Feminist Open Mic Don’t miss the Feminist Open Mic hosted by "Gay"nesville poet extraordinaire Johnny Rocket! We meet the last Tuesday of every month with the intention of providing an open, welcoming, and respectful venue for people to perform music, poetry, etc. Event generally lasts until 9pm. All genders/sexual orientations welcome. Please contact for more info. Wild Iris Books, 802 W University Ave, Gainesville.

Ongoing Events AA Meetings in Gainesville LGBT Alcoholics Anonymous Meetings on Sundays at 7:30pm at Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St. AA Meetings in St. Augustine LGBT AA Meetings held at 7pm on Saturdays at Flagler Hospital in the Alicia room.

Aug 25-28: National Black Lesbian Conf. at Disney World in Orlando, FL.

Confidential HIV & STD Testing - FREE 1st & 3rd Thursdays of each month at 4-6pm at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St, Gainesville.

Aug 27: Show Bois Drag King Show Show Bois features the hottest Drag Kings Gainesville has to offer! This is a vital fundraiser for the center as well as an opportunity for everyone in the community to get together and have some fun! Doors open at 7:30, show at 8:00pm. There will be a Cash Bar and your ticket includes free admission to the University Club after the show. Show held at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St Ste 62, Gainesville. If you are interested in performing for this event, please email us at or call 352-377-8915.

Farm Stead Saturday Saturdays, 9am-3pm, at Crones’ Cradle Conserve, 6411 NE 217th Pl in Citra, FL. Farm Tours & Organic Produce! 352-595-3377

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Gainesville Area NOW Meetings Gainesville Area National Organization for Women meets on the 4th Thursday of each month at 6:30pm at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St. Public Welcome. Gainesville Area Women’s Network GAWN is the friendliest networking in town. Supportive women gather for lunch, to network & learn from each other & guest speakers. Meetings are the 3rd Wednesday of each month at the Kindred Sisters — August 2011

WhatÊs Happening? Sweetwater Branch Inn. To register, call 352-2151621. Gainesville Women's Choir All are welcome; no experience needed. Rehearsals every Wednesday at 7pm at Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St Ste 62. For more info email or call Ruth at 352-538-4927. Interweave A group for lesbian, gay, bisexual, & transgender individuals & their heterosexual allies. Meets at 6:30pm on the 2nd Sunday of each month at the Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Gainesville, 4225 NW 34th St. Potluck, presentation, & discussion. Lesbian Readings & Potluck Come and eat good food, bring something you have written that you want to share, and/or come and listen to others read. Some womyn come just to the potluck, some just to the readings, and some to both. It's good communion with a small group of womyn as we share our stories and food. Normally every 3rd Saturday of the month (sometimes changes). Time: 6:30 - Potluck; 7:30 Readings. Held at different womyn’s houses, always handicap accessible. Info: Madeline 352335-3138, Bridget 352-485-1453.

Transgender Gainesville Discussion Group Meets on 1st Wednesday each month at Wild Iris Books, 802 W University Ave, & focuses on education for the public. Meetings on 2nd & 4th Wednesdays are closed support meetings held at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St. What the Animals Tell Me Every Wednesday at 8:30pm Flash Silvermoon hosts a live internet radio show for animal lovers. Listen to the live stream or check the archives later: Youth Discussion Group PCCNCF hosts a weekly “Youth Discussion Group” for GLBT youth between the ages of 14 & 18 years old on Wednesdays from 3:30-4:30pm at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St, Gainesville. FMI call 352-377-8915

Melrose Music & Refreshments CoffeeTalk at the Shake Rag Art & Culture Center every Wednesday, 10am - noon, in the Old Gothic Church, 301 SR 26, downtown Melrose. Join us for cool art, great music, stimulating conversation, poetry, & maybe dancing. We have the coffee… bring fruit or pastry to share. 352-475-2924 Stonewall Democrats of Alachua County LGBT Democrats & supporters meet monthly on the 4th Wednesday of each month at 6pm at the Alachua County Democratic Headquarters, 901 NW 8th Ave Suite A-3.

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Feminist Foodies Location: “Limerock Road Grill” Feminist Foodies visited the Limerock Road Grill this month. It was a small group - only Fifi, Francine, and Felix - but we had a

Rolls with Gator Tail meat. When they arrived, they looked and tasted way more like toquitos than spring rolls. If you were expecting an Asian style food, then you would have been very good time. disappointed. If you like toquitos, then you’d The Limerock is in Haile Plantation Village like these. They were slightly spicy, and served Center and it's always nice to see how the other with a chipotle dip. Quite good, but not spring half lives once in a while. Street parking was rolls. At one point the waitress came by and ample, maybe because it is summer, and it was a said that the kitchen had made a mistake and pleasant short walk to the restaurant. We chose made Gator Bites instead of the spring rolls with indoor seating and were seated right away, gator tail. So she gave them to us. Very nice of which was good because we had reservations. them to do that. The gator bites were the best The restaurant has both indoor and patio we’d ever had. Nice little chunks of gator, which seating and a nice long bar along one side. The tastes like chicken, deep fried and also atmosphere was bipolar, though, with half the accompanied by the chipotle dipping sauce. This restaurant trying to be intimate and quiet and happy accident was the high point of the half trying to be a sports bar. There were three appetizer portion of the meal. Felix had the TVs, and they were all playing the same Shrimp Bruschetta with Grilled Baguette. It was channel. The Foodies agreed that if there are also an ample amount of food. Four triangles of going to be 3 of them, they should baguette were covered in a be playing 3 channels. The mixture of tomatoes, olives, and intimate, quiet side had carpeting, capers, and 4 shrimp. It was good cushioned chairs, and was tucked if you really like olives. And salt. out of the way of viewing the TVs. Really like. The sports bar side was loud. Salads arrived next, and they Really loud. The Foodies honestly were a big pile of mixed greens, had to shout to be heard across shredded carrots, one cucumber the table. The service was slice and one tomato slice. impeccable, however. Quick to Francine’s house vinaigrette turned take orders, quick to bring drinks, out to be merely oil and vinegar. and always there to ask how The salads were fine, but some things were and if we wanted homemade dressings would be a anything more. nice touch for the Limerock to consider. Francine was pleased to see that the Limerock Entrees were another mixed bag. Francine offers many micro-brews, some local, on the ordered the Pan-Fried Catfish which she menu. She settled on a Cigar City Maduro from proclaimed good but oily. Francine felt that the Tampa, and was not disappointed. Appetizers highlight of her meal was the side of fresh were a varied affair. Fifi ordered the Fried Green vegetables. All of the Foodies received the Beans with Creamy Tomato Dip. There were a veggies and they were tasty. A mix of summer whole lot of green beans, coated with a tempura squash, zucchini, and onions cut into straws and style breading that was having trouble clinging sautéed to an al dente perfection. The entrees to the beans, especially when they were dipped were also accompanied by some roasted in the dipping sauce. The sauce itself, while potatoes that Fifi loved. Fifi decided to splurge tasty, was too thin and ran right off the limp, and get the Herb Roasted Prime Rib. It was very overcooked beans. Francine requested the Spring good, and cooked perfectly. The herb crust was Page 18

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thick and flavorful with plenty of au jus for drenching. Felix finally decided on the Zucchini Wrapped Haddock Picatta. It was artfully presented with thin strips of zucchini wrapped around a good size piece of fish. The fish was overcooked, not light and flakey like one would expect. Felix feels that, although he doesn’t want his peas quarantined from his potatoes, the sauce was too strong to just leave the veggies soaking in it. Perhaps a separate smaller plate of veggies would have been better. The Foodies discussed how the Limerock must have had a bumper crop of capers this year, because they were in nearly everything, and boy-howdie, were they salty. Since Felix’s choice of Peanut Butter Pie was no longer available that night, Fifi ordered the only dessert but she shared it with her Foodie companions. The Chocolate Chambord Mousse was a light, creamy, whipped perfection served in a martini glass. With small bits of chocolate Kindred Sisters — August 2011

floating in the cloud of mousse, it was a very nice end to the meal. To sum up: loud atmosphere that can’t decide what type of restaurant to be; too much salt on most of the dishes, big portions, and a few outstanding exceptions can all be had at the Limerock Road Grill. The Foodies also want to say that the prices may be a tad too low. We know, surprising thing to hear, but Fifi had the most expensive item on the menu, the Prime Rib, and it was only 17. She would have expected to pay upwards of 20 dollars at any other establishment. The Beer selection earns 5 fists, while the food was mixed. Francine gave it an overall 3 fists, but the main drawback was for atmosphere. Fifi gives it 4 fists, while Felix bestowed 3 fists. We can recommend the Limerock to Foodie Friends, but choose judiciously.

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Claiming Butch Identity by Rev. Emily C. Heath "So, are you going to transition?" It's the question I get a lot these days. Although I've been a butch since I came out at 18 (and, arguably, for years before that... see my toddler pictures), it has only been in the past few years that I have gotten that question. I moved to Massachusetts from the South in 2008 and suddenly I was no longer a butch to queer folks, but instead some variation of transman. Many of the new people I met heard the androgynous nickname I use, which is actually just my last name, and assumed I had either already transitioned or was about to do so. I want to be clear that I am, as much as an ally can be, incredibly trans supportive. I have lobbied at the state house for trans rights. I know guys who have had transitioned and had gender confirmation surgery and it was the best possible choice for them. I support them and love them and affirm them and honor the fact that they have risked everything to be their authentic selves. However, that doesn't mean that transitioning is the right choice for me. It shouldn't be that one has to defend their gender, but recently I've been challenged on this by people who feel I should transition, and I feel the need to explain why I choose not to do so. First and foremost, I am not male. I may have genderqueer tendencies, and I may enjoy playing in the middle of the two binary genders. It may make me masculine, but that is different than being male. The two are not intrinsically linked. For me transition would be a false claiming of an identity that is not mine. I will admit, I have thought about it. I have processed it, talked with dozens of others, and weighed the pros and cons. I decided that if it felt right I would do it. But, in the end, it didn't. Indeed, for me personally the only reason to transition would be to gain male privilege and greater acceptance. For me, that's the wrong reason to do it and an insult to transmen who transition for other, heroic reasons. I decided that no one is going to force me out of a female biological body because I do not fit the societal definition of what it means to be sexed female. Instead, I claim this space and my body. I choose, as I do in golf, to "play it as it lies" and to live into my full butchness in this body I was born into. I choose not to change myself for the comfort of others or to make things intellectually easier for them. But sometimes I feel frustrated. This may sound like sour grapes, but sometimes it feels like butches are the forgotten remnant of the queer community. There are trans pride flags, scholarships, and celebrations. There was even a documentary made about a FTM minister in my denomination. I think all of those things are great. Really great. But, where is the same recognition for butches who also live with non-binary genders every day? This is not about transmen getting too much. This is about transmen finally starting to get the good things they deserve, and the hope that butches one day will as well. As a theologian I believe that we are all created by God to be our true selves. So long as someone is being their true self, whether butch, trans, or otherwise, I support them. But as a community we owe it to all of God's children to recognize their struggles and their identity. This is true regardless of whether they have ever stood with a needle to inject hormones or gone under the knife for surgery. If you are doing what you can to be yourself, that in itself is worthy of praise. My hope is one day both identities will be celebrated enthusiastically. But before that we will have to look at our own issues with our discomfort with non-binary gender. It's a long road, and it's one that both cisgender, transgender, and genderqueer folks together are going to have to advocate. excerpt from Page 20

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Free Friday Night Concerts From May to October, the Bo Diddley Community Plaza comes alive every Friday night from 8-10 pm as our local and regional bands and performing arts are showcased under the stars. The Plaza is located on the corner of SE 1st St and E University Ave in downtown Gainesville.

Aug 5:

Danny Wooten & Southern Slang (Country)

Aug 12:

Heavy Petty (Tom Petty & the Heartbreakers Tribute Band)

Aug 19:

Other Voices (Pop/Folk/Blues/Jazz)

Aug 26: Uncle Morty’s Rhythm Cream (R&B/Pop/Rock)

You Will Be Missed Sue Olesen (1952 - 2011) Susan Elizabeth Olesen, 59, of Gainesville passed away on Friday, June 17. Susan was born March 19, 1952 in Leominster, Mass., to Clayton Lewis and Rita Olesen. She moved to Gainesville in 1970 where she attended SFCC earning an AA Degree in Agricultural. Susan worked at several nurseries and loved growing plants. Her activities were fishing, surfing, dancing, and playing women's softball. She was an excellent photographer, winning several first place ribbons. She was loved and will be missed by all who knew her. At Susan's request her cremains will be scattered by her family over water. excerpt from

A Fond Farewell to Betty Ford (1918 - 2011) Betty Ford, who called the White House home from 1974 to 1977, fought breast cancer, arthritis, and addictions to drugs and alcohol, died on July 8, at 93. Ford was a self-proclaimed “ordinary” woman who never cared for political life but made a liberating adventure out of her 30 months as first lady. To the surprise of some and the consternation of others, Mrs. Ford evolved as an activist first lady whose non-threatening manner coupled with her newfound celebrity provided the women’s movement with an impressive ally. Undaunted by critics, she campaigned for ratification of the ill-starred Equal Rights Amendment, championed liberalized abortion laws and lobbied her husband to name more women to policymaking government jobs. “Perhaps it was unusual for a first lady to be as outspoken about issues as I was, but that was my temperament, and I believed in it,” she said in an interview at her Rancho Mirage, Calif., home in 1994. “I don’t like to be dishonest, so when people asked me, I said what I thought.” excerpt from

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Call for Nominations It’s not too early to begin thinking about who you’d like to nominate for the 2011 Woman, Man, and Community Person of the Year, and Business of the Year! The Community awards dinner is an annual Pride Days event to honor three individuals and a business who have contributed so much to our community. Awards are presented to the Business of the Year, Man of the Year, the Woman of the Year and the Community Person of the Year. Each recipient is recognized for outstanding involvement, support and contribution to the GLBT community in Gainesville and/or North Central Florida. Nominations for the awards can be made by anyone; the final nominations received are voted on by the PCCNCF Board of Directors. To place a nomination for any one of these awards, please email your awards nominations to and include the name and a very short biography about the individual. If you are not sure which category to nominate for, that’s fine: the PCCNCF Board will determine which category for you. Nomination Deadline: September 26th

Go Paperless! Kindred Sisters now offers a paperless option for the magazine! Please email us at if you would like to read the magazine online rather than have it mailed to you.

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Cyber Connections Florida Gay Campers

A bunch of fun men and women who like to camp and party. group/floridagaycampers

Lesbians of the South

For networking, communication, & mutual support among lesbians of the southern states. group/LesbiansoftheSouth

LEZgo Events

Produces and promotes events for lesbians throughout Florida. group/LEZgoEvents

LGBT Ocala

A social group bringing together the LGBT community in Ocala, FL, Marion county and surrounding areas.

North Central Florida Lesbians

Community networking exclusively for lesbians with ties in North Central Florida. NorthCentralFloridaLesbians


This group is established to give Pride Community Center of North Central Florida a way to make announcements and notify the membership of upcoming events.

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Mission Impossible? Sez Who! Alice Walker wrote a book called Anything You Love, You Can Save or something like that. I was thinking how Pete Seegar took on the Hudson River as his ‘mission impossible’ years ago, and now there is a guy named Jim who is gonna swim the St. John’s as part of his daily health-building regime and to draw attention to the fact that it’s not really swimmable, folks! That’s right and WE are going to rack our brains and figure how to commit ourselves and our resources to getting back our big beautiful resource, by hook or crook. The first thing seems to be stopping the impossible. Georgia Pacific paper mill wants to comply with the EPA by putting their waste in a different place with a new pipeline. Oh sure, the logic of that is unpolluted. There were 77 raw sewage dumps at one time, and we are way, way better, but really, what is it they don’t get? So our riverkeeper is soon retiring, and I personally hope we are all gonna succeed him. Take the hint? There are lots of ways to do this, and I think we are going to each come up with something wonderful that we can do daily. My daily thought for the day said, choose one: victim or gallant fighter. So guess what?,

Clean Water, No Chlorine? Who would have thought that a blend of hydrogen peroxide and vinegar would save the taxpayers of St Augustine money and save the environment at the same time? That’s what the recent tests show. “This is the first wastewater treatment plant in the State of Florida, and possibly the first in the nation, to switch from Chlorine/Bisulfate to Peracetic Acid (PAA) as its primary disinfectant on a treatment plant with a five million gallon capacity.” Resource: “Old City, New Ideas,” Florida Water Resources Journal, April 2011.

by Rainbow Williams

by Rainbow Williams

Service Directory Kickin’ Devil Café ~ LOO Restaurant/Bar ~ 352-505-6660 Beckie Dale ~ Massage ~ 352-335-3138 Woody Blue ~ Custom Flags & Tablecloths, Massage, Nutrition Info ~ 352-375-0539 Peggy Damiano ~ Website Design/Maintenance ~ Elizabeth Howard, M.A. ~ Dream Interpretation ~ 352-337-2723 Melissa Mojica ~ Hauling, Photography ~ 352-359-4119 Lylly Rodriguez ~ Reflexology, Massage, & Reiki ~ 352-870-7922 Chrissy Martinez ~ Photography ~ Beth Karbe ~ Acupuncture ~ 352-375-3080 Maria Chah ~ Massage & Yoga ~ 404-667-7599 Constance Wagner ~ Symbology ~ 407-625-7727 ~ Shewolf ~ Custom Woodworking, Speech Consulting, & Publishing: Directory of Wimminlands/Lesbian Communities ~ 352-475-3722 If you have a skill/service & would like to be added to our directory, please contact Kindred Sisters at (Free!) Kindred Sisters — August 2011

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August begins with the harvest festival of Lammas, a time of gratitude for all the blessings from sweet Mother Earth. At this time we plant seeds literally or figuratively for all the new wonders that we want to manifest in the following season. Here at Moonhaven, we women will gather in gratitude for the grace that has been bestowed upon us this year and we will also do a Prosperity Ritual to plant our seeds for the next year. Couldn't we all use a little prosperity? See note below about joining us for our Lammas Circle We had best get all these seeds planted firmly in our minds and the material world because by August 2, good old MERCURY RETROGRADE shifts our forward motion into a more sluggish gait until August 26. As many of my readers know, this is a time made for introspection, not bursting forth with new ideas and plans that you want to stand the test of time. Quite simply during this passage we rarely have all the information needed to make sound choices that will not bite us later. If you don't care if relationships, jobs, homes or purchases are temporary, then go right ahead no worries. Because Mercury will regress from Virgo to Leo, important details might lose focus being over shadowed by drama. Best thing, do not let grandiose thinking topple your well laid plans. This can be a great time though to collect yourself and your ideas and sort out those that bear fruit and those that do not. This works well with all areas of your life so be brave and thorough. Hard to say for sure just what the Dems and Repugs will do Re fixing the economy in a timely manner but planetarily we are sure staring at a hell of a log jam as several of the major planets are in cardinal signs in stressful aspects. Many may feel stretched and pushed to their limits on many levels. Aggressive Mars enters the watery sign of Cancer on the 3rd which will soften the warlike energy some but may also mobilize some "false flag" event for home and country by the Full Moon. We will see, hope I am wrong but last month I did predict another big corporate fish, would tumble, shrouded in controversy and disgrace; in this case, its Rupert Murdock. For this month we are apt to experience more passive aggressiveness than out and out aggressiveness and this might even be an improvement in these turbulent times. So many energies shifting around this month. On the 4th, Neptune will make is final return into eccentric and ingenious Aquarius. Perhaps some brilliant inventor will offer a way to save the seas that have been so polluted during its sojourns in Pisces. I am after all an optimist and Aquarian technology could offer us many brilliant ways to transmute some of industries hideous by products. On the high side of things, our spirituality and intellect could blend making a most interesting marriage with both sides of our brains sharing the power offering us a more evolutionary way of moving through the material world. This will be all for the good as we hit more planetary white water on Aug 9. On the 9th, Mars will make a square to Uranus which could cause all kinds of rebellions and unpredictable events with too many going off half-cocked. The next day Pluto joins the drama by opposing Mars and squaring Uranus closely...BOOM! These intense energies could manifest as some serious earth changes and or more political unrest. Fortunately stabilizing Saturn in Libra will fill in that Grand Cross to Page 24

some extent even though it is still too far away to do much. The Full Moon in Aquarius on the 13th should bring in a different energy as it is softened and elevated by Neptune as it opposes the Sun, Mercury and Venus in Leo. That combination of energies can ideally blend the Leonine heart and personal passion with the Aquarian mindfulness and passion for the collective. At best, oppositions can create situations that foster compromise, at worst, a tug of war. Hopefully those empowered to bring peace, justice and prosperity to all will chose the former and show themselves to be more elevated than they seem to be. I HAVE STARTED ADDING A NEW RITUAL FOR EACH MONTH. THIS MONTH IS FOR LEO ENERGY! BECOME THE SUN. This one is very simple and a great exercise for those of you who can tend to absorb too much from your environment and or the people and things around you that are not necessarily pleasant. Quite simply, you throw your arms out wide to your sides and imagine the Sun sitting right inside your heart center. [Doing this outside is even better but not necessary.] Once you feel the warmth filling you up, allow yourself to dissolve into the light and heat of the Sun and literally become the sun radiating out to one and all. You can also take a private moment to do this before entering a place or situation where you feel a tendency to absorb negativity. It is impossible to absorb and radiate at the same time. Comprende'! The Sun enters methodical Virgo on the 23rd and she will feel the sweetness as she approaches Venus, but we won't be feeling quite out of the weeds until the 26th when Mercury will be moving forward once again and we can actually expect more clarity and the go ahead for our projects and ideas that we have been judiciously tweaking to perfection during this long hot summer. I am looking forward to this New Moon in Virgo on the 28th as it conjoins lovely Venus. Here is a golden opportunity to correct some of the false moves or mistakes that you bumbled through during the retrograde. Virgo tends to strain the emotions through the mind's lens so don't expect anything too gushy and romantic but you can count on sensibility to run the show and basically make everything feel better and more settled. Expansive Jupiter turns retrograde on the 30th which may even help stabilize the economy. The trick will be to conserve the right things like our natural resources which includes our young women and men who should be out of harms way and helping to rebuild this country. We should conserve human rights, and keep the jobs here for a decent standard of living for all. If your summer is feeling a little dull, perhaps its time for a good reading, Astrology Chart, Mystery School Classes, stone healing, flower essence treatment or even a session for your pet, what better time to do something nice for yourself before the Fall crush of activities!! Call Flash - 3524752432 just 20 min east of Gainesville and as close as your telephone if you are farther away see my website at the Moonmarket to order a phone reading. ARIES - Ready or not, here I come filled with Uranian zeal! OK in plain English I am restless as hell and I want to make something happen already,something good that is. I know that I should cherish these more Kindred Sisters — August 2011

mellow times when they offer themselves but I feel like some big hand is going to come down and grab me up to meet some extreme challenge and I don't know whether to run away or run to meet it? TAURUS - I am still reveling with Jupiter in my Sun sign. I am taking my trips on the excess express in moderation but I want to get all the stuff that I can for now because at the end of the month jolly Jupiter will start doing the back stroke and it will be much harder to make any headway. Lucky for me I got my cards all payed off and can just relax a bit and enjoy. GEMINI - I must say that I am in a bit of a fog these days. Focus is usually hard for me but lately I can swept up into a fantasy or some wandering thought form in a heartbeat. I am actually entertaining myself quite well but its not working that well for socializing. Boundaries would be nice but hell if I know where I put them. Maybe I should Google boundaries? CANCER - I sure know someone who needs to become the Sun once in awhile as I am such a Moon child! However, with Mars landing in my sign early this month, I will have plenty of Chutzpah to go around so look out, this Crab is comin' out! No more MS Nice Gal. I mean I can't help but be nice to those I love but if you push me or my family you will know what a Mama Bear's wrath can feel like. Now don't go thinkin' I am some crazy Grizzly who is more likely to shoot her own kind or some other mammal from a 'copter. Just sayin' in the words of Tina Turner,"Ya better be good to me!" LEO - I don't have to become the Sun, I am the Sun and everybody knows that Leo is the strongest sign of the Zodiac, that is, the Sun is strongest in my wonderful fire sign.I am lovin' this heat and the power surges that I feel. The Call of the Jungle is moving through every part of me and I am a lioness with my game face on,and honey, I am fierce. VIRGO - Over the top Ms Leo as usual. Don't forget that part of this month is mine. I need to send a memo to Nisaba the Sumerian Goddess of Astrology for allowing Mercury to be Retrograde on my birthday! Not Fair I say...damn or darn its my ruling planet after all. Maybe I am supposed to just let Neptune toss me around in the sea of ambiguity for a while til I get more used to "not knowing." I pride myself in my ability and mental acumen.OK, left brain and right brain shake hands and don't come out fighting. LIBRA - Virgo's whining about "Fair" again. We Libras wrote the book on "Fair." I can feel when one of those pans on the scales of Justice move a fraction of an inch and I want to make damn sure that I am not on the losing end of the deal. That being said, I would never want you to think that I didn't like or trust you or want the upper hand either. Is reciprocity and human kindness too much too ask? SCORPIO - I 'm back! Did ya miss me? I like the Taurus game plan.I just know that there are plenty of sweet surprises for me this month and I want to collect my full share while I can. I know that sometimes less is more but sometimes more is more too. I wish that I could be a fly on the wall at Fox as the Wheels of Justice spin round. Hey Libra, wanna come listen with me? Gotta be stealth girl. Nothing surprises me much anymore and seeing the rich and powerful with their metaphorical pants down does give me a certain thrill. SAGITTARIUS - My inner compass has rarely been so "on it." I can't say that I consciously know what is stretching out in front of me yet in my gut I have this peaceful feeling that all is exactly as it should be and Kindred Sisters — August 2011

that I need not fret over the pace or the space that I occupy. I like to go with the flow when I can and I do feel the friendly winds blowing gently at my back. Anyone up for sailing, I need a good ride? CAPRICORN - I know that the only constant is change but I sure don't have to like it. I'd love to feel the surety of Sagittarius or the Devil may care of Aries but I am after all a Saturn ruled Capricorn and I am just not wired that way. On the other hand I am aware that I am and have been being re-wired for quite sometime and I am some different type of Mountain Goat. I still want to doggedly climb to the top of my mountain but I am willing to slide into a comfy rocking chair when I arrive. AQUARIUS - Back in the water again..Neptune please be my friend..There goes my mental crispness again. I was just getting used to having some boundaries but it won't be for long. I must need another little spate of time to release any and all of the places where I tend to get stuck in my ego or firm ideas of just how my world should be.I know that my ideals are being tempered by compassion and understanding so it is all for the good and sometimes these neat little pictures need to meld with the messiness of reality. PISCES - I guess Chiron is just gonna hold my feet to the fire, in a watery kind of way, so that I really do what I came here to do. This is not time to approximate the work at hand more over it is time to implement the ultimate mission plan. Geez that doesn't even sound like me, which asteroid blew in and took the Pisces and where is she swimming? Maybe Virgo is playing with the brain, or maybe she is tired of "floundering around." MON AUGUST 1 LAMMAS CELEBRATION AND PROSPERITY CIRCLE 6PM POTLUCK 7PM CIRCLE! @ MOONHAVEN IN MELROSE RSVP PLEASE 352 4752432 WHAT TO BRING? food and or drink a new Green Candle and candle holder and a silver or gold $ you must have these things to do the Prosperity Ritual. This is a lot of fun and always brings prosperity to those who are sincere. If you want to read the entire ritual and do it in cyber space or at your home when we do see the description on my website homepage this month Through my MONTHLY HOROSCOPE, ASTROFLASH, I have endeavored to offer more gender neutral astrology to speak to all sexual preferences and identities. If you know your Rising sign, your personal reading will be more accurate if you read the passage for that sign as well as your Sun sign. Next session of Moonhaven Mystery School for Women Monday July 11th - Aug.7th. The class will meet for 4 consecutive Mon evenings 7-9:30 PM only $62 for the 4 sessions. You can then of course continue for another 4 weeks if you like. Call Now to Reserve Your Space! If you have always wanted to join a wonderful group of women to learn and develop your psychic and healing abilities in an empowered and safe space, This One's For You! If you want to come and these dates are not good call me! And yes let your friends know as well. Psychic Development and Empowerment,Women's Magic and Ritual, Stone Healing, Animal Communication, and Healing Potions and much more @ Moonhaven in Melrose call for directions and to reserve your space 3524752432 Page 25

COMMUNITY RESOURCES Civic Media Center (CMC) 433 S Main St, 352-373-0010 CodePink -- Women for Peace, 352-468-2101, Crone’s Cradle Conserve Retreat 352-595-3377 or Flash Silvermoon - Wise Woman’s Fest, 352-475-2432 Gainesville American Civil Liberties Union Gainesville Area AIDS Project (GAAP) 352-373-4227 or Gainesville Community Alliance (GCA) Gainesville Frontrunners 352-336-0456 or Gainesville Iguana Gay & Lesbian National Hotline 1-888-843-4564, Human Rights Council (HRCNCF) 352-372-5192 or LGBT Youth Support Group

National Center for Lesbian Rights Peaceful Paths Domestic Violence Hotline 352-377-8255, 1-800-393-7233 Pride Community Center of North Central Florida (PCCNCF) 352-377-8915, 3131 NW 13th St, Gainesville Pride Student Union 352-392-1665 #326 or Rainbow Families (Gay Parents Group) 352-284-4541, Stonewall Democrats of Alachua County 352-373-1730, PO Box 223, Gainesville Survivors of Anti-LGBT Victimization (SAV)

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Classifieds GAINESVILLE WOMEN'S CHOIR Women's choir forming in Gainesville. All are welcome: no singing or music-reading experience required. Rehearsals weekly on Wednesdays at 7pm at PCC, 3131 NW 13th St. 352-538-4927

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SAVE THE DATE! August 27: Show Bois Drag King Show September 23: Bi Pride Party October 14: Pride Awards Banquet October 16: Community & Friends Sunday at Trinity MCC October 16: Pride Picnic October 22: Pride Parade & Pride Festival November 19: Transgender Day of Remembrance

WomenÊs Dinner & a Movie Relax with the gals, enjoy a nice dinner, & catch a new movie -- all for just $5! Can you think of a better way to spend a Sunday evening?!

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“The Kids Are All Right” Director: Lisa Cholodenko Cast: Julianne Moore, Annette Bening, Mark Ruffalo, Mia Wasikowska, Josh Hutcherson, Yaya DaCosta, Kunal Sharma, Eddie Hassell, Zosia Mamet

A fresh American indie classic, this film showcases Julianne Moore and Annette Bening in stellar performances as lesbian moms whose teenage kids decide they want to meet their sperm donor, Mark Ruffalo. Out lesbian director Lisa Cholodenko brings this unique family drama to the screen with humor and tears — and poignant complexity. (104 min)

Hosted by Kindred Sisters & held at the Pride Center, 3131 NW 13th St, Gainesville. ( Come back in September for “Claire of the Moon”

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August 2011 Issue of Kindred Sisters Magazine

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August 2011 Issue of Kindred Sisters Magazine