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Good News , etc. SAN DIEGO COUNTY’S CHRISTIAN NEWSPAPER
September 2012 • Vol. 28, No. 12
North County Edition
Christian theater troupes anchor to mission in tough economic times the 1990s, described the tensions when the non-proﬁts did not know what hit San Diego Christian arts organizations them. “First the opera company saw matchstill reeling from the tsunami of economic recession are responding by holding ing grant money fall off and then other support dried up and by then it was tightly to their core missions. “Sometimes arts organizations are the difﬁcult to recover,” she said. “But now last to catch on to how to respond to a we know ways to trim costs at the ﬁrst devastating economic wave because we signs of trouble.” Wood said Rancho Santa Fe is fortunate are artists, not ﬁnancial analysts,” said Margie Wood, drama ministry director to have kept the drama ministry alive, for the Village Church in Rancho Santa supported by the Village Church, but that Fe. “Yet with experience,” she said, “we the church was wise to cut non-essentials can see the economic ebb and ﬂow and two years ago as soon as the real estate collapse impacted construction costs make adjustments before it’s too late.” Wood, who was on the management just as the church was in the midst of a team of a Rochester, New York, opera building project. “The drama ministry budget was cut, company when the economy plunged in so I stopped paying for a lighting director and a costume designer,” Wood said. “While we used to rent Victorian costumes for Christmas productions, we began using scripts that called for contemporary dress, something we could ﬁnd in our own or a friend’s closet.” Another thing Wood advised in tight times is to choose scripts wisely. “In the Lenten season, we try to ﬁnd something more serious, but at other times of the year we consider musicals because we know it brings in more people,” she said. “Name recognition is a factor for bringing in crowds. Any time you do something unknown you take a bigger risk.” Wood said that the Village Theater production of The Robe drew crowds initially because people had heard of the story, but a later production, A Little Piece of Heaven, had a slow start. “Because it was unknown, attendance was low the ﬁrst weekRun. y the w Ho Please turn to page 10 See s yer Pla A scene from Lamb’s By KIMBERLI COSTABILE
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A mother and child get a close look at replica of a dinosaur at the Creation and Earth History Museum in Santee. The annual Museum Day is Saturday, Sept. 29. See story on page 15.
‘Integrity’ continues to be focus for men at Sept. 7-8 Promise Keepers conference Promise Keepers will hold the last of ﬁve nationwide conferences this year, Sept. 7-8 in San Diego’s Viejas Arena at SDSU. The times are 6 to 9:30 p.m. on Friday and 9 a.m. to noon on Saturday, followed by lunch. Promise Keepers has been around since 1990 and has grown to 6 million men. Started in Colorado and now reaching across the U.S., PK stands strong in its aims to bring men together and teach them “integrity to be better men, husbands, and fathers.” So, what happens when a couple thousand men pull away from the busyness of the day-today grind, connect with some friends or family, and spend a day and a half together pursuing the voice of the Almighty? We call it “Promise Keepers: Called Out.” Attendance at the Dallas and Cleveland conferences in August numbered 4,000 to 5,000 in the revamped ministry to men. “It’s good to be back in the arenas. It feels right to worship God in this environment,” one man said. The line-up for San Diego on Friday includes a concert by Lincoln Brewster. Also on the Promise Keepers welcomes men — and Please turn to page 20 young men — to attend its conference.
New residential recovery home opening for battered women and children By RICK MONROE For 15 years, Damaris Martinez has worked with battered women and others in need of professional counseling. She’s worked for the San Diego Rescue Mission, congregational care for churches, and for the last several years has operated Christian Women’s Counseling International as its CEO.
As a registered nurse and licensed marriage and family therapist, she sees the special needs of women in peril. “What I’ve dreamed about is having a home in San Diego for battered women,” she said recently. “We’ve been praying about it for several years because there’s such a great need for women to be in a safe place and have time to recover.” There are not enough Christ-centered
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programs for women and children recovering from substance abuse, mental illness, and domestic violence, Martinez noted. “We were not alone in our awareness of this need,” she said. “As God continued to put this concern on our hearts, He was also moving in the hearts of Tami and Mark, parents of a daughter whose life was in crisis, but was without adequate program support. Their call from God was
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Sex in movies influences behavior of teens Get on the same parenting page By ERIN ROACH Exposure to sexual content in movies leads teenagers to have sex earlier and to participate in riskier sexual behavior, a study has confirmed, leading researchers to suggest incorporating media literacy training into sexual education. The study, published in Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science, said roughly 85 per-
cent of movies released from 1950 to 2006 contained sexual content, and only 9 percent of sexual content in movies contained messages promoting sexual health. Sexual explicitness of PG-13-rated and R-rated movies has increased over the past decade, researchers also said. Evidence suggests that adolescents’ sexual attitudes and behavior are influenced more by movies than by other forms of media, the Please turn to next page
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o much marital stress is caused because the husband and wife are not on the same page in the way they deal with their children. One way our marriage has been protected is through the “Learner and Leader” day we do each fall. Years ago, when Bill was a youth pastor and Brock was a baby, I looked around the youth group and then looked at this precious baby in my arms and prayed, “Lord, there seem to be kids that soar and succeed at 18 and others that stumble and fall. What traits, what skills, and what leadership character qualities do we need to train and pass on so that our sons can soar by age 18?” Then I set about creating a long list of traits and skills. The list — and many other tools — are in our book: 10 Best Decisions a Parent Can Make. The list seemed so long that I was a bit overwhelmed so I showed the list to Bill and he said, “Pam, seems like there are really three main categories here. We want our kids to be: 1. Learners — have a teachable attitude. 2. Leaders — be influencers in their own unique God-given style instead of followers. 3. Love God — we want them to own their own faith. We prayed and I asked God to show a fun way to instill the values, because kids respond to fun. So we decided to have a
RED HOT MONOGAMY BILL & PAM FARREL “Learner and Leader Day” each fall and on that day we’d negotiate privileges and responsibilities for the year. (We’ve done this now for more than 20 years!) We also select one trait off the list and focus on training and equipping in that area for that particular child that year. And we select a verse to pray over that child, which has something to do with the trait we have selected. (As the kids entered second grade we taught them how to select their own verse.) Then we give a gift, because we wanted it to feel like Christmas! The gift would be one that would build into their God-given passion or calling as the Lord was revealing their strengths year by year. We have a set of criteria in choosing the gift: It must be practical, something I might have to buy anyway. It must be personal. The child should be able to tell I thought about the gift. It must be prophetic, meaning that it speaks the truth about the uniqueness, the Please turn to next page
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Parenting . . . Continued from previous page calling, or the strength we see God building into each child. The â€œLearner and Leaderâ€? privileges and responsibilities chart is also in our book, along with other tools like a list of what children can be responsible for at what ages (chore ideas), plus a teen relationship contract, driving contract, education contract, and a set of Freshman Foundation questions to use with college students or career-age young adults. We have our children sign the contracts, and included in each are the consequences they will receive if they do not follow through with their commitment. As the children get older (early in elementary school), we have them create their own consequences ahead of time so they know exactly what their punishment will be if they drop the ball on their commitments. By spelling everything out ahead of time, year after year, and having everyone sign off on it (both parents and the children), there is little arguing in our home and the children have never been able to â€œplay one parent against the otherâ€? in our home, thus protecting our marital harmony as well. And because there is a built in relationship time, a fun family activity on â€œLearner and Leader Day,â€? the kids have always been motivated to complete the small yearly assignment (the chart), and because it also has a built in incentive plan (the â€œLearner and Leaderâ€? gift that applauds the childâ€™s
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unique strengths), the child is easier to live with all year! The less child-created stress a marriage has, the more everyone enjoys being in the family. And because we delegate work to our children as they grow, Mom and Dad actually have time to date and stay in love â€” which is the best gift that any set of parents can give their children. And because we are deliberately trying to help our children/teens take on more and more responsibility year after year, by college (or age 21), our children and yours have the opportunity to be leaders owning their own lives and leading others in a positive way. Having responsible adult children is also a great blessing to your marriage. (And your future in-laws will thank you, too!) So this year, before you run to the store for new school clothes and pencils, pens, notebooks, backpacks, and lunchboxes, take time to hold your own â€œLearner and Leader Dayâ€? â€” or if you have college kids, set aside 5 nights to go over the â€œFrosh foundation/dinner and dialogueâ€? questions, and maybe this year, you might even get in a few dates to stay in love! o Bill and Pam Farrel are international speakers, authors of more than 35 books including 10 Best Decisions a Parent Can Make, Got Teens?, and 10 Best Decisions a Graduate Can Make. These books and resources mentioned in this article can be found at www. Love-Wise.com.
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Continued from previous page study said. â€œAdolescents who are exposed to more sexual content in movies start having sex at younger ages, have more sexual partners, and are less likely to use condoms with casual sexual partners,â€? said Ross Oâ€™Hara, who conducted the research with other scientists at Dartmouth College. Richard Ross, professor of student ministry at Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, said allowing a middle schooler to watch sex on the big screen is like allowing a toddler to ride in the front seat with no seatbelt, standing up, at rush hour.
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