Wedding Planning - Planning Your Ceremony Many aspects of wedding planning can engage your interest. You want the catering at the reception to be just right. You want to select just the right wedding favors. You need to coordinate the transportation very carefully. But the wedding ceremony is the very heart of the entire enterprise, in both senses of the word. But, far from creating anxiety, this task can be carried out with great success by anyone who takes it one step at a time. Those first steps will involve considering the decorations for the actual ceremony. That can be something as simple as colorful bows tied onto the pew. Or, it can involve an entire sub-contractor completely decking out the venue with flowers, ribbons, a lovely arch or chuppah, and more. Much depends on the venue you reserved. Most will want to give some thought to music. While reading poetry or literature is an honored and delightful custom, the music helps set the mood from the moment the first guest enters. It can be the traditional tunes or it may be your favorite Beach Boys song to enhance your chosen theme. Whatever you choose, don't overpower everyone with it. It should be in the background. You are in the foreground. You'll want to sketch out and rehearse the processional. The ring bearer and flower girl are still part of many ceremonies. The parents of the bride and groom often walk down the aisle. Naturally, the entrance of the bride needs to be coordinated. Many choose to add personal touches within each of these standard steps. For example, the priest and groom may enter from the side door, then the groomsmen and bridesmaids enter. Usually those furthest from the bride and groom go first. But there are many variations depending on religion, custom and personal choice. You'll want to plan out your vows. Many choose to follow the tradition of repeating the chosen words of a priest or pastor. Others prefer a more contemporary ceremony in which the bride and groom read or speak something that carries a deep personal meaning for them. You may create your own small speech from scratch. Or, you can choose from hundreds of sources. There are the classics of Shelly or Keats, and the modern poets and writers to help you find those words just out of reach. That part of the ceremony may include actions as well. Lighting a pair of candles, pouring different colored sands into a single container and many more simple actions all help convey the symbolism involved in the wedding ceremony. Then there are the actions that are still part of nearly every ceremony, an exchange of rings. This is easily ironed out in rehearsal, but take care to ensure that all are informed of and practice their roles. The best man
fumbling for the ring for two minutes is only amusing in the movies. And, don't forget that all important moment: the first kiss. Practice removing any veil, how long the kiss will last and other actions. Some things about the wedding should be spontaneous. This part should be choreographed so that the guests remember what you want them to remember.