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SVPs … are they really that big of a deal? I’m just one person; they won’t miss me if I don’t go. Or, it’s just the two of us; they will have enough if we decide to attend. It’s not a big deal. WRONG! I’ll admit, I haven’t always been the best RSVP’er. I always have good intentions — really I do — but time would slip away and, on occasion, that little reply envelope would not make it out of my “to do” pile and into the mail. As a mother of three daughters, I’ve had the pleasure of paying for three weddings, so we know the importance of the RSVP. One week before the most recent wedding, my daughter and I were frantically contacting all those people who had not replied. The reception hall required a final head count three days before the wedding. With phone calls not being returned, we were getting nervous. On top of that, there was assigned seating for all guests, who, by the way, were asked to preorder their meals on the RSVP. The Wednesday before the wedding we headed out to Madison to deliver the final tally, still worried we would have guests show up who did not reply. That was not the case. Instead, close to 30 guests who said they would be there did not attend. At $21 a plate ... well, you do the math. I don’t know about you, but the next time I get an invitation with an RSVP, I am going to check my calendar, talk with my husband (if he is invited) and put it in the mail ASAP because although it might not be a big deal to me, it is a very big deal to my family and friends who are planning and paying for the party. In the process of getting to know one another, I would like to talk with you about the challenges and opportunities life presents. I’ll ask in each issue “can we talk?” If you have something you think would make a great topic, e-mail me at Perhaps I can work it into a future column.

he women on our pages — they’re simply amazing. Here it is just our third issue of She and I’ve been inspired beyond my wildest dreams. I think what surprises me most is how ordinary, yet extraordinary, these women are. They’re everyday people — our neighbors, our colleagues, our mothers, our sisters — and yet they’re rising above the mundane by pushing themselves beyond their comfort zones. Here’s an example. At least four of the women we’ve profiled thus far — two in this very issue — each has lost at least 100 pounds. And here’s the kicker: we haven’t run a single weight-loss story. We never set out to find women who shed significant amounts of weight. We were looking for triathletes (June/ July issue), women who returned to college later in life (August/September issue), women seeking balance in their lives as they age (this issue). It just so happens that several of the women succeeding in these areas also struggle — like so many of us do — with unhealthy eating habits, with high stress, with a lack of motivation. Each of them at some point decided it was time for a change, it was time to get on with life. Easy? No way. Taking that first step never is. But whether your goal is losing weight, taking control of your finances, learning to forgive, starting a business, rediscovering your self-worth, the journey begins with one step. I hope the women in She inspire you to take it. Kathleen Troher She editor

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he magazine would not be what it is without guidance and support from its 10-member Advisory Board. These are women from the community who have helped shape the magazine by providing their insight and recommendations. These women offered initial input as we created the outline for She, and they will meet with us periodically to ensure we’re on the right track. But that is the extent of the contribution we expected. Readers should contact She staff members, not Advisory Board members, should they have questions about content, advertising or subscriptions.

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Make sure this isn’t your last issue of She magazine. We’re preparing to refresh our mailing list. If we’re already delivering She to your home, there’s a pretty good chance you’ll be on our new mailing list. But there’s only one way to be absolutely certain you’ll receive She in 2009. Complete and mail the order form on this page or subscribe on our Web site at www. If you’ve already subscribed, you don’t have to do anything. Don’t leave your She magazine subscription to chance. Subscribe today! Published by the Kenosha News 5800 Seventh Ave. Kenosha, WI 53140 Main phone: (262) 657-1000; Toll free: (800) 292-2700 Web site: © 2008 by the Kenosha News, a division of United Communications Corporation. All rights reserved.

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LETTERS Thank you, thank you, thank you! I thoroughly enjoyed my first complimentary issue of She magazine. I really loved the article on a featured Kenosha resident on page 62 called “In Her Day.” I love to cook and read old shared feelings about Kenosha’s past or area remembrances. You should have a section in each issue on favorite recipes we can all share, like favorite desserts, recipes that take us back in our past, favorite Christmas and Thanksgiving recipes or most unique recipes. I have one for Kool-Aid sherbet. So far in my 61 years everyone I ask has never heard of it, and it’s great. So keep up the good work, and when next month comes I am going to order this magazine. A new fan of She, Jeanine “Ginger” McElvaney Kenosha Write to She magazine by e-mailing she@, or send mail to Kathy Troher, 5800 Seventh Ave., Kenosha, WI 53140


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Ask almost any woman you know how she’s doing and you’re likely to get a one-word answer: Busy. Busy with work. Busy with family. Busy trying to keep all the balls up in the air. Juggling it all can leave women feeling overwhelmed. That’s why we have to remember the importance of balance in our lives. As we progress through our 30s, 40s, 50s, our needs and priorities change, but maintaining that equilibrium personally and professionally grows increasingly significant. In this issue we will explore how three women — one in her 30s, one in her 40s and one in her 50s — are successfully balancing fitness, family and fun in their lives. You’ll be surprised — and inspired — by how they do it all.

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Katie Cullnan, Samantha Polek and Cyndean Jennings talk about balancing their lives as part of the October feature story. (PHOTOGRAPH BY BILL SIEL)

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Always one to follow her passions, Nancy Davies, 49, of Pleasant Prairie, made her dream to join the circus a reality six years ago.

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Three for Me highlights ways for women to improve their lives physically, emotionally and intellectually

Hooping it up You can’t stay in a bad mood for long if you’re hula hooping. Valerie Sereno, 25, hadn’t played with a hula hoop since she was a child, but now she owns several. “It’s just kind of becoming one with the hoop,” she explained. “It’s very freeing, relaxing.” When she needs to unwind, she puts on a favorite CD and gets creative with her hoop. She does tricks, rolling the hoop up and down her shoulders and back to her waist, and hopping through the hoop. Sereno, of Kenosha, got hooked on the hoop a year ago after seeing some young women hula hooping at an outdoor music concert. She decided she had to try it. Over the past year she has taught herself a number of tricks. She performed during outdoor festivals this summer, and her hoops sold like hot cakes at events including Bloomin’ Days in downtown Kenosha. During the summer, she often took her hoop hobby out to the park or the beach, where she admittedly got a few stares. A typical reaction for onlookers: “Wow! Where did you find it? How do you do it?” She builds her own 42-inch hoops from irrigation tubing and sells them for $25 at outdoor festivals. She had one hoop custom-made with LED lighting so she can show her tricks in the dark. Sereno works as a waitress at the Kenosha Country Club and as a substitute teacher when she isn’t hooping. She taught a mini-course on hula hooping at the University of WisconsinParkside, and hopes to offer another one in spring if there is enough interest. For more information about Sereno’s hula hoops, e-mail her at — Kris Kochman

Valerie Sereno, of Kenosha, finds hula hooping a relaxing hobby. PHOTOGRAPH BY DREW THOMPSON

A literary leap Like mom’s recipe for chicken soup, it’s comforting to return again and again to favorite authors. Even before you read the first sentence, you know they’ll keep you satisfied to the end of the story. But sometimes readers should try something new. And if you’re ready for that literary leap, consider some suggestions from Darcy Brewster Wallace, technical and circulation services associate at the Lake Geneva Public Library. “The House at Riverton” by Kate Morton is historical fiction told from the perspec-

tive of the servants in a pre-World War II-era manor house. It’s a murder mystery, and Wallace said she liked that it’s told from a different point of view. “I haven’t read many books about the manor from the perspective of the servant,” she said. “The Host” by Stephanie Meyer serves up a science fiction story with a “body snatcher” theme. Although Meyer is known as a young adult author for her “Twilight” series about vampires, Wallace said she thought adults would enjoy the books as well. She said “The Host” intrigued her as a social commentary. “You can learn important truths from someone you thought of as an enemy,” she said.

Wallace often turns to non-fiction material. Two recent books she recommends both explore issues of health and beauty. “Eat Fat, Lose Fat” by Dr. Mary Enig and Sally Fallon explores the role of fats in the diets of many cultures. It also looks at the history of the food industry in the United States. Enig and Fallon propose that we shouldn’t try to eliminate saturated fat in our diets, saying “that’s what our body craves.” “It’s why when people go on a low-fat diet they can’t lose weight,” Wallace said. And in “The Truth About Beauty: Transform Your Looks and Your Life From the Inside Out,” author Kat James, a make-up artist, writes about exploring beauty from within. — Kris Kochman SHE l Oct/Nov 2008 l 11

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Pamela Grubb offers an oasis of tranquility at her yoga classes, where she instructs her clients to breathe deeply, slow down and let the stress of the outside world melt away. Grubb, 50, has been practicing yoga since she was a teenager, and she credits the practice with improving both her physical Pamela Grubb, left, health and her mental encourages Debby Eisel to feel the well-being. stretch in her body “If we feel good on from her arms to the inside, we’ll feel her legs with this good on the outside,” yoga pose. she said. Grubb said she had to learn how to slow down in order to gain a deeper focus and maximize the joy in life. A former medical social worker for 25 years, Grubb is certified by the Himalayan International Institute of Science and Philosophy and a registered Yoga Alliance Instructor. There are many different methods to practicing yoga, she said. Grubb teaches classes using the Raja form of yoga, which focuses on several different areas including strength, purity and cleansing practices. Yoga is most effective when it moves beyond the physical poses and breathing techniques, Grubb said. “As you move yourself inward, you develop more focus, concentration, clarity,” she said. “It leads you to a more meditative flow of yoga.” The ultimate goal? “Nirvana, blissfulness,” she said. And Grubb doesn’t just mean during yoga class. She asks her students to think about how they function in daily life — from their sleep positions to their postures at the computer. “This is not just an exercise class,” she said. “It’s how to functionally make changes in everyday living.” Grubb teaches classes twice daily at her Kenosha studio, Mindful Yoga, 6127 Green Bay Road, suite 150, and she also teaches classes at Carthage College and the University of Wisconsin-Parkside. Beginning in October, she will offer a new yoga class aimed at reducing stress, anxiety and depression. She also has planned a two-hour yoga workshop for breast cancer survivors in October, in recognition of National Breast Cancer Awareness month. For more information, visit her Web site:, or call (262) 859-2151. — Kris Kochman

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Carla Ward is director of the Racine YWCA’s Empowering Women’s Center.

Lana Schantl likes the fit of the business suit she selected at the Racine YWCA’s Empowering Women’s Center, which houses Dress for Success Racine. PHOTOGRAPHS BY BILL SIEL

A confidence boost Racine’s YWCA empowers women to dress for success and beyond By Kris Kochman Carla Ward knows what it’s like to lack confidence and motivation during a job search. She found assistance through the YWCA’s Dress for Success and Professional Women’s Group during her employment hunt in 2004.

After furthering both her career and her education, she landed a position as the new director of the YWCA’s Empowering Women’s Center, 1220 Villa St., Racine, and now she’s helping other women find job success. Ward said the former director helped her build her resume-

writing skills and also advised her on how to dress for an interview to get a higherlevel job. Dress for Success and Professional Women’s Group gave Ward the confidence she needed. “It gave me the motivation and boost I needed instead of just going to the interview and

going through the motions,” said Ward, who has a bachelor’s degree in human services and has completed the coursework toward a master’s degree in adult education. “Before, I would go (to an interview) with a blouse and capris and think that was OK for an office job,” Ward said. “My first business suit gave me confidence and made me feel like the professional I could be.” In the past year, the Racine YWCA refined its mission to focus on helping women succeed in their professional and personal lives. The former headquarters on College Avenue was sold, and the YWCA’s goals have shifted from physical fitness to helping women achieve financial fitness and career development. YWCA Racine now consists of programs at three sites: the Empowering Women’s Center on Villa Street, Youth Education Center, 1540 S. Green Bay Road, and River Bend Nature Center, 3600 N. Green Bay Road. Five related programs are housed at the Empowering Women’s Center. They are: Dress for Success Racine, Professional Women’s Group, Women Leadership Institute, Women Out of Poverty Initiative and Training Inc. > Page 14 SHE l Oct/Nov 2008 l 13

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Lana Schantl takes a closer look at a business suit at Dress for Success Racine, which is housed at the Racine YWCA’s Empowering Women’s Center. PHOTOGRAPH BY BILL SIEL

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Dress for Success offers career development advice and professional attire for women to wear on interviews. It provides a network of support and career development tools to women seeking employment. In the past year, 165 women received services from the Dress for Success Racine program. Dovetailing on Dress for Success is Professional Women’s Group, which is aimed at the newly employed. It offers monthly seminars on a variety of career development topics and encourages women to build professional networks. The group meets from 6 to 7:30 p.m. on the third Thursday of each month. The Women Leadership Institute offers monthly workshops by professional women speakers for women who have been in the workforce for 10 to 15 years and are seeking to develop middle-management skills. Women Out of Poverty Initiative helps low-income people begin a savings program with a goal of somebody buying a home, starting a business or attending college. It’s a matchsavings program with Individual Development Accounts (IDAs). There are currently 13 clients in the initiative. “One has bought a house and one has furthered her education,” said Beverly Peterson, YWCA director of development. The Empowering Women Center’s newest program, Training Inc., is a 12-week program focusing on making good choices and improving job

skills in a mock office environment. After the 12-week course, women participate in eight-week internships at local businesses. Peterson said the Center’s five programs build upon each other to bring women to selfsufficiency. “That’s our long-term outcome,” Peterson said. “These unique programs offer a myriad of things: clothing, resume building, one-on-one counseling opportunities. Because we are in an urban setting, clients can get to us.” Lana Schantl of Racine recently visited the Dress for Success program to prepare for her job search for the second time in five years. A Spanish language interpreter, she took several months to study Spanish in Costa Rica and returned to find she had lost her job. Schantl said Dress for Success and Professional Women’s Group helped her on her last job search five years ago. Since then, she moved to a higherlevel job and furthered her education. “It helps a lot. It helps your personal development, it helps you present yourself in a professional way,” said Schantl, whose immediate goal is to find a job and become certified as an interpreter. Her long-term goal is to attain a Ph.D. in psychology.

People seeking assistance from the center can contact the YWCA at (262) 989-YWCA (9922). Volunteers and donations of clothing for Dress for Success Racine are welcome.

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Goodwill Industries Volunteer guardian to assist incapacitated adults in the community by serving as their legal guardians. Sexual Assault Services Call Volunteer Guardian Recruitment Sexual assault advocate: Answer Specialist Peggy Fabiano at (262) 697-4675. 24-hour crisis line via mobile phone for victims of sexual assault, respond to Women and Children’s Horizons hospital when a victim presents for a This group helps provide support, educa- forensic exam; provide crisis intervention, training, and healing for victims of tion, emotional support and referrals. sexual and domestic violence. Call Samantha Sustachek at (262) On Call Advocates — Volunteers work 619-1634.

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From 3 to 300 HOW TO Start a collection By Arlene Jensen

We set out to write a story about the best way to start a collection. But our three subjects all agreed they couldn’t even remember making the conscious decision to begin collecting. It just happened. “Something strikes a chord with you,” said Hoelzel. “You never intended it to be a collection. But the next thing you know you’ve got 300 of them.”

It has long been said that three of anything makes a collection. But no true Close to her heart collector stops at three. Summers’ collection of 40 Madonnas “Saying I don’t want more kaleido— statues of the Virgin Mary, scopes is like saying I have not the pop star — started tasted the best chocolate and with a wedding gift in 1961. I am done now,” said Delores Before her marriage, she regisLiesner of Racine. tered for a Madonna figure at Judy Lichter Summers and a local gift store. Sally Hoelzel would agree, She recalled that first, although their interests difspecial Madonna nearly a half fer greatly. Passions burn century ago, was a gift from brightly, whatever the collectfriends Jim and Mary Iverson. ing focus. Summers, who lives Since then, she has received in Somers, favors Madonnas. many more from family Hoelzel, a Racine attorney, colmembers and acquaintances, lects advertising characters. and she expects to add to her Kaleidoscopes have fascinated collection when she visits Italy Leisner since childhood. Today A Madonna figurine by Goebel her collection numbers 50, and of Germany is part of Judy Lich- later this year. Her collection grew from a she loves to share them with ter Summers’ collection. few to a cabinet-full during family and friends. She even the decade she worked as a keeps one in her car, perhaps to secretary at St. Peter Catholic Church. One briefly enjoy the colorful changing patterns of the parish priests brought her Madonna when stopped by an annoying red light.

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Judy Lichter Summers, of Somers, started collecting Madonna statues in 1961. Now she has 40 of them. statues from his travels abroad. Her first husband, Leo Lichter, died in 1998, and Judy has remarried. When she and her second husband, Charles Summers, moved into a condo, the Madonna collection was put into storage. The china cupboard > Page 17

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that once held her treasured figurines of Mary became a display of Christmas dishes. But something was wrong, she said. She missed seeing her Madonnas, so the collection came out of storage and was returned to the cupboard.

Crazy about kaleidoscopes “And with that,” she recalled, “a peace came over me.” Liesner takes her hunt for kaleidoscopes seriously. She and her husband, Ken, have taken classes in Door County, learning how to make their own. Most kaleidoscopes consist of a tube with

three mirror strips inside, angled toward each other in a triangle to multiply the changing images. On one end is a translucent object, on the opposite end is a hole for viewing. Various objects in the case offer ever-changing views with endless possibilities as the scope is turned. Liesner soon found traditional kaleidoscopes with their slivers of colored glass a bit boring. Now she hunts for different types, oil suspension or black background, with patterns formed by unusual internal materials: feathers, flowers, ribbons, even clay. The kaleidoscope’s case also lends unique charm and can be made of wood, paper, glass, metal or — Leisner’s favorite — alabaster. The alabaster scope is unique because the translucent stone allows the light to

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Delores Liesner’s collection of kaleidoscopes numbers 50. She made a half a dozen herself. Materials include cardboard, top right, alabaster, top left, and wood, bottom right.

reveal the changing designs through the viewing hole. “There is a lot of spiritual significance to the design of the piece,” Liesner said. “I believe that God is light, and when He shines through me His design is also evident.”

A collection of characters Can a collection get out of hand? Yes! Hoelzel said she recently tried to downsize her advertising character collection. Her goal was to keep 50 favorites. “Actually, I managed to get down to about 165,” she said with only a touch of chagrin. > Page 18

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1. Collect what you love.

Gravitate toward things you love, be they teddy bears, vintage handbags, cookie jars, whatever.

2. Love what you collect.

Touch, handle, savor your collection. Mint-in-box is no fun. It’s playtime, so play!

3. Don’t collect for investment.

If you collect because you think it will be worth a lot of money someday, think again. Maybe it will. Most likely it won’t.

4. Upgrade your collection.

Keep upgrading. Sell your lesser examples to others just beginning. Use the money to buy better items for yourself.

5. Do your homework.


Sally Hoelzel, of Racine, has been collecting advertising characters for years. A Racine attorney, she became a serious collector during law school. > Collecting, from 17

That collection began in childhood when her sister brought home ad figures of the Jolly Green Giant and Little Green Sprout. Then, during law school, she began collecting seriously. Now she has advertising pieces from the 1930s to the near present. “I think recapturing memories from childhood drives many collectors,” she said. Her favorite advertising figures include the Eskimo Pie Kid, Charlie the Tuna, Speedy

Alka-Seltzer and the Naugahyde Monsters. Her all-time favorite is a Buddy Lee doll wearing Lee overalls. Like many collectors, Hoelzel finds new interests spawn new collections. Besides her advertising characters, she also has vintage Barbie dolls and has just begun a collection of children’s Golden Books, published in Racine. Avid collectors sometimes theorize that they must have been born with some special collecting gene. And if so, Hoelzel said, the genetics

“I think recapturing memories from childhood drives many collectors.” Sally Hoelzel seem to have been passed along to her daughter. At 6 years old, the child already has a collection of nearly 400 stuffed animals.

Knowledge is power, and it can save you money. Learn what makes an item rare or unusual. Know what is a fair price before you buy — or sell.

6. Keep an inventory.

As your collection grows, keep a detailed list. Knowing what you have helps you find what you don’t, particularly if you can’t display your entire collection at one time.

7. Maintain and protect.

Find safe and suitable ways to display your treasures. Consider cabinets, cases, shelves, stands or albums. Dust, direct sunlight, excessive humidity or heat can harm a collection.

8. Birds of a feather.

The treasure hunt is more fun if shared with a buddy, sister or husband. Or join a local club of like-minded collectors.

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The art of decorating Beautiful pieces should be starting points, not finishing touches, for rooms By Kris Kochman


Miriam Hoyum, co-owner with her husband, Roman, of Monfort’s Fine Art Gallery in Racine, is surrounded by impressive artwork in her Racine home, including a colorful piece behind her piano.

When it comes to choosing artwork, go with your instincts and choose pieces you love. Area decorators, designers and gallery owners say people sometimes worry too much about matching artwork to their décor. “Purchase the art — don’t purchase the art to match the sofa,” advised Miriam Hoyum, coowner with husband Roman of Monfort’s “Art should Fine Art Gallery in downtown Racine. be bought Ideally, people should decorate their for art’s sake homes around their artwork instead of because it considering artwork as a finishing touch to speaks to you a decorating project, Hoyum said. and appeals “Art should be bought for art’s sake to you.” because it speaks to you and appeals to Miriam Hoyum you,” she said. Lynda Griffiths, owner of Gallery 56 in downtown Kenosha, has a similar philosophy about choosing artwork: “Artwork should inspire you. It should be a starting point, not a finishing touch.” She advises clients to choose one piece of artwork to serve as a centerpiece of a room. Where to put that great piece of art? Sometimes there’s an obvious focal point in a room, such as a fireplace, or behind the sofa along the biggest wall. Hoyum said one really stunning piece of artwork could make a room stand out. In her home, that piece is an oil painting of a city street scene in Paris. Well-chosen artwork “sets the whole tone to the room,” said Julie McKay, a designer with Paper Dolls in Lake Geneva. McKay suggests people choose a piece of artwork that “moves them in some way.” “It should evoke some emotion, some response….it makes you happy, it makes you think, it just draws you,” she said. McKay said choosing artwork can be a great > Page 21 SHE l Oct/Nov 2008 l 19

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She brings a world of art back home By Kathleen Troher


obbi Gutman’s Lake Geneva home is what you get when you cross an art lover with a world traveler. For years Gutman trotted the globe for Motorola as a corporate vice president and the Schaumburg, Ill.-based telecommunications company’s director of global diversity. She also was executive director of the Motorola Foundation. Retiring in 2000, she started Gutman Consulting Group LLC the following year. Initially Gutman Consulting worked with selected Fortune 50 corporations to resolve global diversity issues. After Gutman’s hus-


Bobbi Gutman’s artwork collection includes “Pagoda in the Woods,” a 19th century Japanese raw silk embroidery Gutman purchased from a Hong Kong gallery.

band, David, retired in 2002, he brought his expertise to the Group, first consulting on marketing projects and now working with companies to help them reduce energy costs and develop alternative energy solutions. While on business trips for Motorola and vacations with David, to whom she has been married 31 years, Bobbi carved out time to indulge her passion for art. Among the treasures she couldn’t resist: a 19th Century Japanese raw silk embroidery purchased from a Hong Kong gallery, Tibetan rugs, large wool African wall hangings and numerous masks and baskets. And then there’s “Masodi,” a bronze statue by black astronaut-turned-artist Edward Dwight. It

has a home among her treasures thanks to a 1991 visit the Gutmans made to a New Orleans gallery along Royal Street. What Bobbi didn’t find on her own or with her husband can be attributed to her longtime interior designer Anna Meyers, who is responsible for some of Gutman’s most impressive pieces, including an ornate carving from a Tibetan temple, a 500-year-old Chinese dowry basket, a pair of large porcelain Chinese Foo dogs and a blown-glass statue from Naples, Italy, now cradled in a powder-room niche. Gutman’s most recent addition is a > Page 21

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painting that hangs on a kitchen wall. It was among many pieces recommended for Gutman’s consideration by interior designer Julie McKay of Lake Geneva’s Paper Dolls home furnishings. For it, artist Terri Hallman used dry pigments and clear acrylic to create a rich mixture of vibrant colors and deep texture. The piece was among a broad selection of artwork for which McKay tapped Lake Geneva’s Gallery Matisse. Gutman, 63, lives in the art mecca with David and their 8-month-old, roughly 100-pound purebred Newfoundland, Sanford, who is well on her way to somewhere between 130 and 160 pounds. And therein hangs a tale. A 100-pound pup surrounded by valuable oil paintings, cotton kneeling rugs, bronze statues, terra cotta masks? Sounds like a recipe for disaster. But not if you’re Bobbi Gutman. Of course she cherishes her treasures, but she also believes a house is meant to be lived in. And the art that decorates its walls and niches and tabletops, well it’s there to be felt not only with the heart but with hands as well. She encourages visitors to touch the statues, to stroke the

fabrics. This is no museum. It’s truly a nest, one well-appointed with inspiration. “I feel wrapped in their beauty,” Gutman said of her works of art. “I feel warmed by the pleasurable experiences they bring to the forefront of my mind and blessed to have lived a life that affords me the opportunity to acquire such treasures.” Her advice to those attempting to navigate the art world: Start by visiting museum stores and museums to help identify the type of art you like. Then, using numerous sources — both expensive and inexpensive — a collection of note can be developed. “A good place to start is in the stores of art museums,” Gutman said. “Try to identify the type of art you like — Asian, primitive, African. Then start collecting using numerous sources including art galleries, Tuesday Morning, TJ Maxx. All pieces collected need not be expensive.” “I think you need to recognize that art is what the beholder sees. Don’t pay attention to what other people say. Pay attention to what you like because you’re the one who is going to pay for it, and you’re the one who is going to look at it every day.” Among the artwork in Bobbi Gutman’s collection are these African terra cotta passport masks.




Some sources for artwork in southeastern Wisconsin Kenosha/Pleasant Prairie Anderson Arts Center, 121 66th St., (262) 653-0481 ArtWorks, 5002 Seventh Ave., (262) 652-5911 DeBerge’s, 2008 63rd St., (262) 654-2032 Gallery 56, 115 56th St., (262) 652-3416 Kenosha Art Association, 5615 Seventh Ave., (262) 654-0065 Lemon Street Gallery, 4601 Sheridan Road, (262) 605-4745 Pollard Gallery at the Rhode Opera House, 514 56th Ave., (262) 657-7529 Seebeck Gallery, 9020 76th St., Pleasant Prairie, (262) 942-8888 Southport Art Gallery & Framing, 3119 Roosevelt Road, (262) 654-0907 Bobbi Gutman and her husband, David, first found the work of astronaut-turnedartist Edward Dwight during a stop in a New Orleans gallery on Royal Street. Dwight’s striking bronze statue “Masodi” is among Gutman’s most cherished pieces.

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way to begin a decorating project, or it could come into play later in a project and complement the existing furniture. Finishing touches such as window treatments, wall color and accessories should complement the artwork. “You need to tie in to the color scheme somehow (but) sometimes people are too concerned about having it match perfectly,” she said. Another common mistake: hanging artwork too high. McKay said pictures should be hung where they appear visually “an-

chored” to a piece of furniture or fireplace mantel below them. And speaking of the fireplace mantel, McKay said designers discourage people from displaying family portraits there because “it has nothing to do with the tone of the room.” “Family photos should be sprinkled throughout a room in frames, or done in a grouping in the hallway,” she said. “I would rather see a wall blank rather than the wrong thing on it.” Carol Cox, owner of Navigazione gallery in Lake Geneva, said artwork is “an interesting way to express facets of your

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personality to guests.” In her own home, Cox enjoys pairing contemporary paintings and sculptures with furniture from the 1950s. “I’m a fan of mixing styles and time periods,” she said. “It makes it eclectic. Everything you like works together.” Cox said she is “a big fan of colored walls,” which can set off artwork beautifully, if the color is chosen to complement the piece. “Don’t necessarily worry too much about what other people think,” she said. “Be confident, be bold. Those gestures make artwork stand out.” SHE l Oct/Nov 2008 l 21

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Before her makeover, Patricia Robbins, above, was self-conscious about smiling because her teeth needed work. Robbins has no problem smiling now that her makeover is complete.


By Kris Kochman Patricia Robbins has a lot to smile about this fall. As the winner of a complete makeover package from Racine area businesses, Robbins received extensive dental work free of charge, along with other health and beauty treatments. The Racine Dream Team, which has offered an annual makeover since 2005, decided this year’s package would go to a survivor of domestic violence. The Women’s Resource > Page 23


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Raylene Bernotat of Photography by Raylene shoots photos of Patricia Robbins at Racine’s DeKoven Center.

Arriving by limousine at Charcoal Grill and Rotisserie, Patricia Robbins is greeted by family members and friends.

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In recent years she hadn’t focused on caring for herself, and she gained weight due to stress and depression. Her new healthier habits have helped her sleep better and improved her self-esteem. Kind-Bauer came up with the idea for Dream Team makeovers in 2004 after watching

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bridal theme in 2007. This year, Kind-Bauer thought it would be good to focus on helping a survivor of domestic violence. Kind-Bauer said she was touched by Robbins’ gratitude for the Dream Team experience and how she has seemed so much happier as her treatments progressed. “She’s really blossoming as an individual and starting to leave the past behind her,” Kind-Bauer said. At the end of August, Robbins’ new look was celebrated with a dinner with family and friends at Charcoal Grill and Rotisserie. Earlier in the day she received a hair and make-up session, a massage, manicure and pedicure and a professional photo shoot. Transportation for the day was provided by limousine. Earlier that week she had spray tanning sessions. A year after her Dream Team experience, Tina Petersen, of Sturtevant, said she still is thrilled with her new look. Petersen was chosen from among a group of brides-to-be prior to her July 2007 wedding. Like Robbins, she had extensive dental work, and she lost 40 pounds before the makeover. She credits Kind-Bauer with giving her “confidence I hadn’t had in years.”

“I’m not sitting there hiding anymore. I am radiating happiness.” Patricia Robbins “My dental work was the biggest thing for me,” she said. Before the makeover, “I didn’t really open my mouth when I talked or smiled.” Robbins said talking with a personal insight coach coupled with the physical improvements of the makeover have helped her put the past behind her and focus on the future. “I’m not sitting there hiding anymore,” Robbins said. “I am radiating happiness. “I’m so grateful I was chosen. This was just a blessing.” Kind-Bauer said she already is thinking about next year’s Dream Team project, in which she hopes to help a cancer survivor. If any area businesses would like to participate in the 2009 makeover, they can contact KindBauer’s office at (262) 554-1600. “I’d like to encourage other businesses to think of ways they can do something for someone in the community,” she said.

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favorite place to relax with a cup is Wilson’s Coffee and Tea in Racine. The music on my iPod is: More music than I could listen to in a lifetime. My favorite playlist is full of upbeat songs — everything from the ’80s, but I especially like Prince and Run DMC. I also have the first two seasons of “Ugly Betty” on my iPod. The movie I love to watch over and over is: The John Hughes film “Sixteen Candles.” Or any John Hughes film. I’m all about the ’80s. The book on my bedside table is: A book a friend gave me for my birthday titled “Pen on Fire: A Busy Woman’s Guide to Igniting the Writer Within,” by Barbara DeMarco-Barrett. Otherwise, mostly magazines of all kinds. The piece of clothing and pair of shoes I’ll never part with are: My husband’s answer would be “All of them!” But I especially like a certain, totally beat-up jean jacket that I begged my stepbrother to give me years ago. It goes in and out of style, but I keep it in my closet next to the clothes I wear all the time. When I go to a store with bath, body and beauty items, I always buy: Cover Girl Super Stay Lip Color. The color really does stay on all day — without drying. I recommend it to everyone. When I’m trying to impress my significant other I make sure to:

I’m lucky I guess … I’ve never felt like I’ve had to impress him. He takes me as I am and always treats me like I’m beautiful. If I had a day with no responsibilities I would: Pick up a chai latte, take a swing through the garden center to dream a little, and end the day with a massage. Or spend a day shopping, or have a day hanging out in Lake Geneva with my mom. The room in my house that makes me feel most centered: It’s actually the patio because I can get outside, relax, look around and not feel like there is anything that I HAVE to do. It’s a great place to escape to. When I have visitors from out of town, I like taking them to: The UWParkside campus. It’s so beautiful and peaceful. I like to act like a tour guide and show them around Racine and Kenosha, too. The most important item in my purse is: My wallet because it holds pictures of my husband and sons. I’d be lost without: My computer. I love e-mail and staying connected to people near and far. I’m also an information junkie and love to Google. The best advice I ever received is: Well, I tend to want to be the advicegiver. I like to research things and figure out the best options and solutions. I want everyone to have what they need to be happy. 686709



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When I’m trying to impress my significant other I make sure to stop: At the butcher shop to pick up a good rib eye and New York strip steak. I usually have a favorite bottle of wine at home to go with it. If I had a day with no responsibilities I would spend it: Washing, waxing and polishing my motorcycle — it > Page 29

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Natasha Bedingfield and Sugarland among my favorites. The movie I love to watch over and over again is: My favorite movie is “Good Will Hunting.” When I need a few laughs, I put in “Miss Congeniality.” Although it’s not a movie, I could watch old episodes of “Will and Grace” over and over. The book on my bedside table is: “Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz. The book was given to me by my mother and I refer to it regularly. I try to live by the four agreements which are: Be impeccable with your word; Don’t take anything personally; Don’t make assumptions; Always do your best. If everyone practiced the four agreements, the world would be a better place. The piece of clothing and pair of shoes I’ll never part with are: I am not sure if this counts as a piece of clothing,


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Name: Daphne Ursu of Racine A little about me: I am a human resources professional who loves to read, exercise and listen to music. My favorite thing to do is spend time with my loved ones as they are a great support system. I am a volunteer at the Blood Center of Wisconsin and have applied to be a mentor through the Kenosha Area Business Alliance for a student within the Kenosha Unified School District. I have a passion for working with children and previously considered a position in teaching. I am a huge football fan and love Dan Marino, Peyton Manning and, yes, even Brett Favre, still. My idols include Audrey Hepburn and Jackie Kennedy because of their class, grace and timelessness. The music on my iPod is: It varies. I love all different music and can list Maroon 5,



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but I recently purchased my first Coach purse. It cost a pretty penny, but I’ve always wanted one. When I go to a store with bath, body and beauty items I always buy: I’m pretty basic when it comes to this, but I love a good moisturizer and Carmex — can’t go a day without my Carmex. If I had a day with no responsibilities I would spend it: I rarely get a day all to myself, but if I did I would get up and enjoy “Good Morning America,” “Oprah” and “The View” while I have my morning coffee and breakfast. I’d meet a friend for lunch and a movie and then stop by the bookstore. I would spend the rest of the day outside. I love the outdoors and love to spend time at either Petrifying Springs or Pringle Nature Center. Birds chirping, children playing, leaves rustling and other outdoor sounds are music to my ears. The room in my house that makes me feel most centered is: My office. I have all the essentials there — my computer, TV, music,

movies — and am surrounded by my favorite books. When I have visitors from out of town I like to take them to: I would take them to the park, the marina and then to the Racine Art Museum. Dinner would be at Jose’s Blue Sombero or Olive Garden. The most important item in my purse is: My keys. I’d be lost without: My blackberry. I feel naked without it. The best advice I ever received is: I received so much advice throughout my life that it is hard to pick just one. I will say it is important to treat people as you would like to be treated. Every day we are all walking around with our own internal struggles that may cause us to have a bad day. It’s important to not let your bad day interfere with your interactions with others in the workplace or at home. Try to set your personal issues aside and give people the attention and time they deserve and you will get the same in return. It is also important to think positive and know that you have to give love to get love.

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Katie Cullnan, 43, spars with one of her students at the YMCA Callahan Family Branch, where Cullnan’s Kenosha ATA Black Belt Academy classes are held. PHOTOGRAPH BY BILL SIEL

Busy women take the time to find the good life — at any age By Deneen Smith When Katie Cullnan lost her corporate job, she was blindsided. For years, Cullnan said, she had been working in an administrative position at Jockey International. It was a high-powered job, one requiring plenty of time and travel. Her kids were elementary school-aged then, and she tried to focus on her family as well as her job, coming up with elaborate organization plans to keep the household running.

“I color-coded everything,” she said. “I would make all the meals for the week ahead of time and have everything organized by color.” Her whole life was a mad dash toward perfection she was never quite able to reach. Then, Cullnan said, she was fired. She had no idea it was coming. And she was devastated. Until she had a talk with her children. “After I got fired I was home for about a week when my kids said, ‘Wow mom, you’re nice again,’” Cullnan said.

Their joy in finding their mother with time to talk with them rather than frantically color-coding meals and school outfits made Cullnan realize she had been so focused on getting things done that she was making herself and the people around her miserable. “I let my job consume me,” said Cullnan, of Kenosha. “(Getting fired) was the best thing that ever happened to me.” Sometimes, it takes drastic measures to jolt women back on track toward the fulfill> Page 35

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TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF IN YOUR 30s, 40s AND 50s Don’t worry, be happy — and get those health screenings We all know the drill: Eat right, exercise, make sure to get the medical screenings recommended by your doctor. Add to the list another commandment in the quest for good health: Be happy. “I think women really need to be watching out for signs of anxiety and depression,” said Dr. Ellen Spiering, a family practice physician in Kenosha. “The mindbody connection is huge.” Many chronic conditions can worsen with depression, and many medical problems from back pain to headaches to chronic fatigue syndrome and fibromyalgia can be tied to depression and stress. Spiering recommends that patients take care of their mental health in the same way they take care of their physical health, by making time for stress-relieving exercise and time for themselves. Beyond the daily regimen of eating healthy foods and exercising, there are key medical conditions women should be aware of as they age. Here are some to consider. >Within three years of becoming sexually active or at age 21, whichever is first, a woman should begin yearly Pap exams by physicians, although some doctors now believe that after a normal Pap test, a woman in a monogamous relationship can have tests every two to three years. Spiering recommends women 26 and younger receive the cervical cancer vaccine. She also recommends women begin taking a calcium supplement, and take calcium supplements throughout their lives. “Women in their 20s and thereafter should also be doing self breast exams,” Spiering said. “I know people can feel self-conscious about it, but if they do it regularly they get to know what feels ‘normal’ and can get an early warning of signs of breast cancer.” >In her 30s, a woman should begin getting lipid screenings to identify early risk of heart disease. >In her 40s, a woman should begin getting annual mammograms to test for signs of breast cancer, and she should continue with regular Pap tests as well as screenings to detect heart disease risk. >In her 50s, a woman should have a colonoscopy, and after menopause she should get a bone-density scan to test for osteoporosis. Menopause occurs around age 51 for most women, but symptoms of menopause can span up to seven years earlier. After menopause the metabolism slows down, so it is especially important for women to make sure they do not consume too many calories.

Cyndean Jennings, 38, of Kenosha works out at Snap Fitness. Her fitness routine includes exercise and keeping track in a journal of her weight and what she eats. PHOTOGRAPH BY SEAN KRAJACIC

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ment they expected when they were younger. As we progress through our 30s, 40s, 50s, our needs and priorities change, but unlike our years in high school and college, no one is there to help us navigate unless we seek out that guidance. Ask almost any woman you know how she’s doing and you’re likely to get a one-word answer: Busy. Busy with work. Busy with family. Busy trying to keep all the balls up in the air. The push

and pull of everyday life can leave women feeling frazzled, resentful, out of kilter. So when it comes to physical and mental well-being, it’s no surprise experts say striking a balance is key. “Women are the last to take care of themselves because they are always so busy trying to take care of everyone else,” said Dr. Ellen Spiering, a Kenoshabased family practice physician. Spiering said she often hears from female patients that they have not been to the doctor in years, or that they don’t have

Katie Cullnan of Kenosha found balance in her life after losing her corporate job. PHOTOGRAPH BY BILL SIEL

enough time to exercise. Her advice to women: Take time for yourself. “If you are not taking care of your mental well-being, you are probably not taking care of yourself in other ways as well,” Spiering said, adding that it is critical for women to find a form of exercise they enjoy and can see themselves doing every day.

The ‘aha’ moment Denise Valente-McGee agrees wholeheartedly.

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a person who is not in balance in their life, it is going to show up on the outside, whether that be in added pounds or illness.” Valente-McGee advises clients to make fitness a non-negotiable part of their day, as routine as brushing their teeth. Again, this requires giving yourself permission to consider yourself a priority, and not feel guilty about it. Katie Cullnan calls coming to this realization her “aha moment.” Enlightened by an episode of “Oprah,” her perspective became clear when the show’s discussion focused on women taking care of themselves to be physically and mentally healthy enough to take care of everyone else in their lives. “I realized I am just as important as everyone else,” Cullnan said. “I think sometimes as women we tend to forget that.” Though no longer half-crazed with corporate responsibilities, Cullnan, 43, is still busy. Really busy. She works full time as an educational assistant for Kenosha Unified School District, owns and teaches part-time at Kenosha ATA Black Belt Academy, renting space for her tae kwon do school at the YMCA’s Callahan family branch, and she is taking a full-time load of college courses online in pursuit of a teaching degree. She’s the mother of two and a third-degree black belt. Despite her hectic schedule, she is up before dawn every morning working out at the gym with her husband. The active life-

style has helped her maintain her weight at a healthy level after having lost 120 pounds in 18 months roughly 13 years ago. Now that she’s in her 40s, Cullnan finds she no longer falls prey to the pressure she put on herself for perfection. As she has gotten older, she has learned to focus on taking care of herself as well as her job and her family. “I feel much more balanced in my life,” she said. “I’ve been able to do things for me more, which I was never able to do in my 30s. Back then I was left by the wayside, and I felt that was the way it was supposed to be.”

A wake-up call Still in her 30s, Cyndean Jennings of Kenosha is striving for balance in her life, too. A 38-year-old counselor at Gateway Technical College, she found that her health had spun out of control as she dealt with the aftermath of her mother’s shocking death of a heart attack at 45, her own divorce, single motherhood and a stressful job. Jennings was only 26 when her mother passed away. A life-long runner, Jennings always thought of herself as healthy and active. But between the stress of her personal life and the stress of her job, she found little time to exercise regularly, and she dealt > Page 37

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with the rush with hurried meals of junk food and soda. And although she was gaining weight and starting to have trouble with her joints, Jennings still thought of herself as healthy. “Then a couple things happened,” she said. “I was going to a chiropractor and she told me, ‘You can keep coming here and I will help you, but until you take control of your own health it’s all going to be for naught.’” Then Jennings scheduled a doctor visit. During the appointment, she noticed the physician had written “mildly obese” on her medical chart. That was her wake-up call. “I joined Weight Watchers, and that really helped,” Jennings said, adding that she began exercising with a goal in mind, setting her sights on running in the Chicago Marathon. Over the course of about two years she lost 100 pounds and gained a new perspective. Now, she wakes every morning at 4 a.m. and works out for about two hours before her 10-year-old daughter gets up. She weighs herself every day and is careful about what she eats, keeping a journal to track her meals and make sure she isn’t straying back into junk-food territory. “I think it’s important for women to know as you get older your body requires less food,” said Jennings, who counts veggie sandwiches

from Subway and Cousins restaurants among her favorite quick-to-grab meals. “I probably feel better at this point than I did when I was in my 20s,” Jennings said.

Samantha Polek, 55, leads a spinning class at Grand Geneva Spa. PHOTOGRAPH BY BILL SIEL

Being gentle with yourself Samantha Polek, 55, of Lake Geneva, is certainly on good terms with her own life. Polek is principal at Central-Denison in Lake Geneva, a busy elementary school with 670 students. She is also a part-time fitness instructor at Grand Geneva Resort and Spa and is studying toward a doctorate in educational administration. Once Polek hoped to be a professional dancer, a performer on Broadway. Her love of dancing followed her into adulthood, and after several years as a public school teacher she left to open her own dance academy in Lake Geneva, La Dance du Lac. Running her own dance studio gave her flexibility when her three daughters were young. The girls came to work with her, growing up in the studio. But when they got older, Polek decided to return to teaching full time. It was tough to find a job after a decade out of the full-time workforce, but she finally landed one at Bristol Elementary School as a gifted and talented coordinator. From there she worked her way up, becoming a principal in Union Grove for three years

before moving on to the Lake Geneva school district. Now she is in her sixth year at Central-Denison. As she has gotten older, Polek has had to adjust her routine, but she remains diligent about making time for exercise every day, saying the time she spends on fitness pays off not only in better health but in less stress and more energy on the job. “I think fitness helps us keep that desire to do things,” she said. “I always wanted to keep exercising and finding joy in life.” She and her husband try to eat fish at least twice a week, and one of their favorite meals includes tuna steak. They pour a little sesame oil on one side, then sprinke sesame seeds and Asian seasoning on it. They broil for about three minutes, then flip it and repeat the oil and seasoning. Polek eats plenty of fruits and vegetables, and is a firm believer in the power of kindness and patience. Now that she’s in her 50s, she looks at the younger women who work at her school and sees them putting too much pressure on > Page 38 SHE l Oct/Nov 2008 l 37

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Cherish yourself, others with patience, respect Tips from Samantha Polek of Lake Geneva on leading a more balanced life: 1. Go easy on yourself. There is a natural ebb and flow to life. We need to respect ourselves and be patient with ourselves. 2. Cherish your friends and family. My husband and my three daughters are true lights in my life. They add meaning to everything. When life gets tough and presents challenges, friends and family offer true solace. 3. I believe in a good and loving Lord. I am a Christian, and my religious beliefs guide me every day. 4. Respect and protect your body. A simple thing to do is to breathe. Take a deep breath and slowly let it out. This oxygenates the blood and helps relax us while at the same time energizes. Breathing is such a simple yet effective tool. And drinking water costs nothing but can help in many ways. Our bodies consist mostly of water, so helping to replenish our bodies with water prevents fatigue. 5. Look for the good in people. This is helpful when we encounter people who might be different from us. I work with an amazing staff at Central-Denison School. I am constantly impressed with their passion for education and their compassion for children. However, I have worked at other places where I had to remind myself that everyone has something special to offer. Sometimes you have to seek the positive force within others. Samantha Polek of Lake Geneva believes in looking for the good in people.

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Joining the circus, almost having a date with George Clooney and starting her own business just part of this Pleasant Prairie woman’s life

In her own words

By Jessica Hansen When her lifelong dream of running away with the circus verged on reality, Nancy Davies decided she couldn’t live with wondering “what if.” Her vow to never live with regret — and a gut feeling that everything would be OK — led her to join the circus when she was 43. The decision also probably led her a few years later to a Florida hurricane shelter, where she met her husband. And had she known who he’d become, the philosophy might have kept her from canceling that high school reunion date with George Clooney. More on that later ... With a backstory like hers, it might be hard to know where to start. But for Davies, 49, of Pleasant Prairie, so much of everything starts with the circus. “I love the circus,” Davies said. The affair started when she was 19, working the summer at the Americana Amusement Park in Middletown, Ohio. “They needed a circus barker,” Davies said. “‘Hurry! Hurry! Step right up! We’ve got elephants!’” The experience planted a seed that she nurtured with circus visits, stints as a publicist for Ringling Bros., side jobs as a ringmaster and, when she was 42, trapeze lessons in Chicago. “At the time I didn’t have a job offer with the circus, but I saw it as one more way to keep connected to my dream,” Davies said. “It wasn’t easy,” she added. “It was scary to climb up 32 feet and jump off of a tiny platform. And the trapeze bar literally ripped up my hands. But I loved every blister.” Acrobat and trampoline lessons followed. By February 2002, two weeks after her 43rd birthday, Davies swapped her Chicago condo for a mobile home with the Big Apple Circus in New York City. Davies worked as the woman behind the circus, arranging housing for the band, taking injured performers to the doctor, whatever it took to keep the show running six nights a week. “I wish that people could see what I saw, to walk back unexpectedly and see a trainer washing an elephant and an elephant playing with the water,” Davies said. She eventually joined Ringling Bros. and, later, left the circus life.



Always one to follow her passions, Nancy Davies, 49, of Pleasant Prairie, made her dream to join the circus a reality six years ago. The former make-up artist, publicist and television host – Davies hosted “Travel Chicago Style” in the mid-1990s – landed in Florida, where she ended up in a shelter during Hurricane Francis in 2004. In that hot, steamy shelter, without power for two days, her red hair pulled back into a tail of frizzy curls, Davies met Hugo Saavedra, whom she later married. The two moved to hurricane-free Kenosha County about a year ago. Davies never expected to find love among the ruins, just like she never expected to join the circus. But, she said, good things have a way of happening if you let them. “I think I’m open to things,” she said. “I think the choices we make all have a consequence. I’d like to think I make good choices.” All except that Clooney thing, maybe. She knew the Hollywood heartthrob long before he became an actor, when Davies worked in television production with George’s father, Nick Clooney. George offered to take Davies to her five-year high school reunion. But she was moving that same day and

As a mentor, what would you tell someone about how to succeed? “I think I would tell them to show up, have fun and care.” How do you live your life to the fullest? “I do my best to find the humor in everything, to be open to new things and to appreciate everyone and everything. And have some chocolate every day. I’d say ride an elephant every day, but that’s a bit harder.” What gadget could you not live without? Why? “Oh, this is tough. I can’t think of anything I can’t live without. Even though I have had to live without it at times, I’d say it’s my hair dryer because it controls the frizzies.” What do you do when no one is looking? “Sing the thing that no man ever wants to hear — Broadway show tunes.” What is your favorite word? “Cocoa, because it sounds so warm and inviting and embracing. Just warm cocoa.” If given the chance, what would you do differently? “Tough for a person who doesn’t live with regret. I guess I would have taken the circus job instead of starting to date that man. Sorry, Jim. Love ya, but I’ve got grease paint in my veins.”

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cancelled. “Who knew?” Davies said and shrugged. And who remembers? Well, maybe Clooney. “It’s been a long time,” he told her sister, Janet Davies, when she interviewed him for ABC7 in Chicago; Janet Davies is an entertainment reporter for WLS-TV. Janet never got to ask Clooney if he remembered her sister, although judging by the “don’t-Iknow-you” look on his face, she figured he confused her with Nancy. Nancy Davies hasn’t seen Clooney in years, unless you count those chance meetings in her living room — on TV. But that doesn’t bother her. She’s happy working as a publicist in Lake Forest, Ill., and working on an idea for knitting boxes with her carpenter husband. She’s also started an at-home business, Barefoot Parties, selling everything from dream journals to inspirational art to help women find the joy in their lives. “I want to encourage people to think bigger,” she said. Her “dream big” workshops remind women — and teach younger girls — how to dream,

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Managing finances plays part in divorce If a woman has immediate income needs, it might help to talk with a financial adviser for direction. Love can be a beautiful thing. They can help determine what And sometimes, despite taking types of accounts and investments marital vows of “for better or will be most suitable given the worse,” differences just cannot financial situation. be resolved, leading us down the During a divorce, there are path of divorce. Two major divorce components several major items that need to be addressed. Re-financing the to deal with home, re-titling the home and are emotional vehicles, and dividing retirement and financial. assets are all starting points. Factor in There are also other more simple children, and things like removing a name naturally both off checking accounts, savings of these comaccounts and credit cards and ponents are changing beneficiary designaintensified. tions. It is a great idea to sit Feelings aside, the divorce process is much down and make a list of all the accounts you need to update: like dissolving a business. As stressful and trying as these chal- bank accounts, retirement aclenging situations can be, the goal counts and any other type of savings accounts you might have. should be to overcome your obAnother important financial stacles and secure closure for your peace of mind. Preparing yourself aspect is insurance, both for you financially for divorce certainly is and your children. Often, parents not something that seems natural, are required to maintain life insurance for the benefit of their but it is important to be aware of children for a period of time as a the situations you might face. support obligation. For this and Having a firm understanding many other reasons you must of all household finances can be know the cost and types of insurthe first step toward comprehending the big picture. It is wise ance to fit your needs. Sitting for you to be aware of the operat- down with an insurance profesing expenses for your household, sional who can help you evaluate your situation might help relieve including balances in your household account, your account this burden. Having gone through a dinumbers and types of accounts/ vorce, it seems most people need plans you have. The best way to get a handle on this is to begin by help understanding and managbudgeting. Being aware of how to ing the complicated financial budget your income and expenses issues involved. It might feel natural to panic about your situwill help prepare you financially ation and wonder how you will for life after divorce. make ends meet. Unfortunately, women often Remember that you’re a survioverlook the need to address retirement income during a divorce. vor and you can begin rebuilding your life with a fresh start that State law and the Wisconsin includes your financial situation. courts work to achieve equity in most divorces, but it is imperative to be prepared. It is important to Kristi L. Schaeffer is a certifeel completely comfortable with the qualifications of your attorney fied senior advisor with The or mediator so you know they will Schaeffer Group LLC, 2315 30th Ave., Kenosha, (262) 551-8900. help you make suitable decisions regarding your financial accounts. Securities offered through Coordinated Capital Securities Inc., a Too often we witness recommendations made to clients that nega- registered broker/dealer member FINRA/SIPC. tively impact their tax situation.

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UNDERSTANDING THE EXES SHE AND HE Names: Deborah and Mark RossCorbett of Pleasant Prairie Number of years of marriage: 29 Number of children: 3 What’s the glue that holds you and your spouse together? Deb: Communication and respect along with admiration. Mark: Commitment, laughter and loyalty. What convinced you that the two of you should be a couple? Deb: We made each other laugh and instant attraction. Mark: When she asked me to marry her! Would your spouse perform better on “Dancing with the Stars” or “Jeopardy!”? Deb: “Jeopardy!” Mark: “Dancing with the Stars.”

If you could replace one piece of clothing from your spouse’s wardrobe, what would it be? Deb: His green shorts. Mark: It wouldn’t be clothing, it would be shoes that hurt her feet. Describe what your spouse did the last time you rolled your eyes over his/her behavior. Deb: He was talking loudly on the cell phone. Mark: She came out of the garage and into the front yard and asked, “Where’s my car?” Funny thing, the car was in the garage. What’s the one thing your spouse thinks he/she can fix but you know he/she can’t? Deb: There is really nothing he can’t fix; If he doesn’t know how, he’ll find out, except his computer. Mark: Dinner.

What advice would you give a couple on their wedding day? Deb: The day of the wedding is fun, and it was a lot of work to have everything beautiful. Remember the work that went into planning, executing and delivering, and remind yourselves everyday that is what a marriage is: the constant work on the details and knowing that your hard work will result in many beautiful events. Mark: Enjoy today because it’s not so easy on the days that follow, but it’s well worth it and it keeps getting better. What do you love most about your spouse? Deb: Thoughtfulness and humor. Mark: Everything.



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Jewelry store owner and self-proclaimed rock hound takes pride in her unique pieces

By Karen Mahoney When Erica Sanchez Hawkins was a child, she’d spend warm summer days scrambling around her Kenosha neighborhood and the Lake Michigan shoreline for rocks to add to her growing collection. Many years later, she continues her search for the perfect rock or gemstone, only now it’s for the fine jewelry she creates. Hawkins, owner of Erica’s Fine Jewelry in Kenosha, always has been a self-described rock hound, but for a number of years she planned to make her living another way. Graduating in 1996 from the University of Wisconsin-Parkside with a bachelor’s degree in English with a concentration in literature, the Keno-

sha native thought she would become a college professor and teach with a focus on literary criticism. Even while finishing her degree, Hawkins was dabbling in her quest for the perfect colors, textures and types of rocks and gemstones, and she found she couldn’t leave that love behind. “My first love is rock hounding, and I knew that goldsmithing could be a way to express myself and keep the gemstones close to me,” she said. “I knew I could appreciate their beauty more if they were close to me.” Training under an old world German master goldsmith, Hawkins began from the bottom up by sweeping the discarded gold dust from the


Erica Sanchez Hawkins, above, won several competitions for this piece, a 14-karat purple, raw amethyst pendant called Flowering of the Spirit. She carved the flowers individually in this, her favorite piece.

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floors, learning wax and metal carving, and finally becoming a master goldsmith herself. “I wanted a complete education, so I decided to continue on and graduated in 2000 with a gemology diploma from the Gemological Institute of America in Carlsbad, Calif.,” she said. “Then I became a certified gemologist in 2001 from the American Gem Society in Las Vegas.” At the pinnacle of gemological and goldsmithing experience, Hawkins’ credentials place her at the top in her field. She will receive her final certification as a gemologist appraiser from the American Gemological Society in October. Beginning her career in Gurnee, Hawkins worked as the goldsmith for Ventura Fine Jewelers, leaving in 2002 to open her own store. Including her husband, Steve, the store manager, she employs seven people. Walking beyond her store’s glass door surprises most visitors expecting sterile green, 686270

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gray or pale brown walls. It’s pink that catches their attention — pink walls, pink carpeting — and that’s just how Hawkins likes it. “I like stores that are not typical because the bright colors are fun and enjoyable,” she said. “I want this to be a welcoming place.” Indeed, visitors find the store inviting, and they can’t help but make a beeline toward the cases filled with diamonds, rubies, sapphires, emeralds and amethysts. There they find watches, necklaces, rings and earrings in addition to other stunning pieces. Specializing in one-of-a-kind jewelry, Hawkins has a goal: to provide what chain jewelry stores cannot. Whether it is in repairing grandma’s most cherished heirloom or creating a unique set of earrings, an anklet or an engagement ring, she seeks to make her customers happy. “My inspiration is that I see beauty in everything,” she said. “People often think jewelry is the same thing — a jewel surrounded by gold or platinum.

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You can find the same stuff all around. But there is beauty in clothespins, in TV screens, in chairs. In fact, I created a gold pendant that looks like a piece of buttered toast. People see beauty but not always in everyday form. Individual expression is the key.” Using an ancient lost wax casting technique, Hawkins creates pieces that hold a part of her heart in their intricate workmanship. “I prefer pieces that are one-of-a-kind and not mass produced because the mass-produced products have no heart or soul in their designs,” she said. “Mine are special designs for special people.”




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harming historical buildings. Impressive art. Unique home accessories. And a nearby chocolate factory. What more could a shopping diva want? Nestled west of Interstate 94 and north of the road dividing Lake and Cook counties, Long Grove, Ill., has all that and much more. Its quaint shops connected by red brick paths, its nooks and crannies outfitted with cozy outdoor seating, this village invites visitors to relax, soak in her ambience, pull up a chair and spend the day. Yes, Long Grove harkens back to a slower time, but the goods available for purchase there are trendy and stylish. What’s so impressive about Long Grove is that its eclectic collection of fine shops, boutiques

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and restaurants are all situated in a concentrated area. But unlike some villages known for their shopping, Long Grove is not an up-one side-of-thestreet-and-down-the-opposite-side-andyou’ve-seen-it-all kind of place. I like to think of it as the oyster of charming retail — you have to root around and work a little to experience it all. In fact, the map on the village’s tourism brochure shows clumps of stores coded in four separate sections, each with dozens of shops, spas and restaurants. In the blue section, which is closest to the mill pond, you’ll find Back

Fountain Square is a picturesque place to take a break during a visit to Long Grove, Ill. Porch (wind chimes, garden furniture, indoor/outdoor decorations), Long Grove Soap and Candle and the Glunz Family Winery Tasting

Room. It’s also home to Emporium of Antiques and a couple of lovely upscale gift stores: Trillium and Woodland Grove Gallery. And Trio Boutique has unique clothes and jewelry you won’t want to miss. Among the pleasant stops in the yellow section are Long Grove Confectionery Co. (which has a chocolate factory with a gourmet chocolate kitchen tour in nearby Buffalo Gove), The Tuscan Table featuring Italian specialties for your home, and Dakota Expressions with Native American and Southwestern jewelry, arts, crafts and music. Here you’ll also find > Page 50


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Fountain Square, a great space to take a break with and cup of coffee or tea, perhaps a huge chocolate-dipped strawberry from the confectionery and your favorite shopping partner. The purple section is where you’ll step into Long Grove Popcorn Shoppe, Blue Ambience Spa and Red Oaks, which is filled with home furnishings and accessories that

are quite reasonably priced given their exceptional quality. The purple section also is home to Mangel Gifts, which is a must-see if you like giving your imagination a workout with indoor and outdoor home-decorating ideas. The red section has the most international flavor with Irish Boutique, Viking Treasures and Victoria’s Mexican Grill. > Page 51

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Women’s Network to recognize state senator The Wisconsin Women’s Network will honor Wisconsin State Sen. Judy Robson at its annual Stateswoman of the Year award brunch from 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. Oct. 26 at Monona Terrace Community and Convention Center, 1 John Nolen Drive., Madison. The keynote speaker is Georgia Duerst-Lahti, a professor of political science at Beloit College and an authority on gender politics. Duerst-Lahti will speak about Women, Political Campaigns and the Media. As senate democratic leader from 2004 to 2007, Robson advanced the “Wisconsin Families First” agenda relating to veterans, consumer protection, privacy and worker protection. Robson, a registered nurse and Beloit resident, also has spearheaded passage of the Compassionate Care for Rape Victims bill. The Stateswoman of the Year award, established in 1982, recognizes women who, through their civic activities, political work and employment, have advanced the status of women and improved the quality of life for the citizens of their communities and the state. For more information, call (608) 255-9809 or go online to or

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MULTIPLE DAYS Oct. 1 - 31 — Apple Pickin’ & Scarecrow Festival Apple Holler, Sturtevant, (262) 886-8500. Nov. 2 - Jan. 4 — Anderson Arts Center Winter Juried Show Anderson Arts Center, Kenosha, (262) 653-0481; Nov. 14 through Jan. 25 — Geneva Lake Art Association’s “Winter Exhibit” Geneva Lake Art Association, (262) 249-7988; Nov. 23 through Dec. 30 — Christmas in the Country Grand Geneva Resort, 800558-3417; Nov. 30 - Dec. 7 — Gallery of Trees Anderson Arts Center, Kenosha, (262) 653-0481;

ONGOING First Fridays — More than 50 downtown Racine shops, galleries and restaurants are open late on the first Friday of the month. Enjoy music both in the stores and on the sidewalks, horsedrawn carriage rides, outdoor dining and more. Main Street and Sixth Street from 6 to 9 p.m., (262) 634-6002.

Kenosha HarborMarket — On Second Avenue between 54th Street and 56th Street, 9 a.m. to 2 p.m., Saturdays through Oct. 25, (262) 914-1252; www. “Children’s Book Illustrations by Steven Schindler” — Through Jan. 18 at Kenosha Public Museum, (262) 653-4140;

“DeBerge’s” — Through Jan. 3 at Kenosha History Center, (262) 6545770; “Leblanc” — Through June 30 at Kenosha History Center, (262) 6545770;

OCTOBER 2 — Girls Night Out Gateway Technical College’s Madrigrano Center, (262) 412-6279. 2 — Pig Roast, Breast Cancer Awareness Fund-raiser Champs Sports Bar and Grill, Lake Geneva, (262) 248-6008 3 — Folk Music Hootenanny Anderson Arts Center, Kenosha, (262) 654-6840 or (262) 658-1478. 3-5 — Friends of the Library Book Sale Racine Public Library, (262) 636-9170. 4 — The Fat Tire Memorial Tour of Lake Geneva Bicycle tour through Lake Geneva, Fontana and Williams Bay, (262) 2481196; 4 — Domestic Violence Awareness Rally Reuther High School, Kenosha, (262) 656-3500; 4 — Jammin’ the Loop II the Fall Run Various downtown Kenosha locations, (262) 654-5770; 4 — Party on the Pavement Downtown Racine street festival, (262) 634-6002.

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11 — Cinderella Ball LakeView RecPlex, (262) 925-6747; 11 — Shelter Them From the Storm Walk Veterans Memorial Park, Kenosha, benefit for Women and Children’s Horizons, (262) 656-3500; 11-12 — 17th Annual Oktoberfest Lake Geneva, (262) 248-4416. 12 — 31st Annual CROP (Communities Responding to Overcome Poverty) Walk St. Mary’s Lutheran Church, Kenosha, (262) 694-5287. 14 — Fun ‘n Fit Disability Resource Fair Gateway Technical College, Madrigrano Auditorium, (262) 605.6646; 17-19 — Friends of the Kenosha Public Library Book Sale Southwest Library, (262) 564-6130;

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18 — OPUS 2000 Chorus (Racine Chapter of Sweet Adelines International) presents “How Sweet it Is” tribute to Sweetest Day Union Grove High School Auditorium, (262) 553-9106. 18 — Halloween Hullabaloo Kenosha YMCA, Callahan Family Branch, (262) 654-9622; 19 — Journey for L.I.F.E. Surviving with Style fashion show Lake Geneva, (262) 249-4750 ext 3798. 19 — Walk to Defeat ALS (Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis) Veteran’s Memorial Park, Kenosha, (262) 784-5257; 25 — Halloween Fest Prairie Springs Park, Pleasant Prairie, (262) 925-6752; 26 — The Wisconsin Women’s Network’s Stateswoman of the Year award brunch Monona Terrace Community and Convention Center, Madison, (608) 255-9809; or 31 — Racine Symphony Orchestra Classical Concert Racine, (262) 634-6002;

NOVEMBER 1 — Kenosha Coin Club’s 50th Annual Show Kenosha Union Club, (262) 6574653. 2 — Anderson Arts Center Opening Reception: Winter Juried Show Anderson Arts Center, Kenosha, (262) 653-0481; 7 — Women’s Fund of the Kenosha Community Foundation’s Power of a Purse Best Western Harborside Inn, Kenosha, (262) 654-2412. 8 — Twin Lakes Costume Charity Ball Auction Rumpoles Banquet Hall, (262) 8772220; 8 — Downtown Holiday Parade and Tree-lighting Ceremony Main and Sixth streets, Racine, (262) 634-6002; 8-11 — Veteran’s Day Sale Prime Outlets at Pleasant Prairie, (262) 857-3061; 11 — Mother Son Night Masonic Center, Racine, (262) 6346002; 12 — Princess Ball Masonic Center, Racine, (262) 6346002; 13 — Sugar Plum Ball Masonic Center, Racine, (262) 6346002;

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The seventh annual Pleasant Prairie Triathlon at Prairie Springs Park took place on Aug. 17. The event featured two triathlons (one Sprint, one International distance) and a duathlon. Among those participating were Michelle Chiodi, left, Elizabeth Stearns, center, and Amy Bloemke, all of Grayslake, Ill.

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Sisters-in-law Sherry Revis, left, and Theresa Revis celebrated their fifth anniversary as owners of TG’s Restaurant and Pub, 4120 Seventh Ave., Kenosha, on Sept. 6. Out & About features women attending local special events. If you have photos you would like to submit for consideration, please e-mail them to To purchase photos, visit

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Modern Halloween: A trick or a treat? Remember Halloween? A simple, one-day holiday, with little expense beyond a few bags of candy and an old sheet with eye-holes cut out of it. If you remember those days, you probably also remember UHF television, 8-track tapes and the Bay City Rollers. Well, UHF vanished with the rise of cable TV, music is now downloaded onto digital files, and “Saturday Night” was a hit 30 years ago. And Halloween? It’s now a billion-dollar, multi-month celebration with themed sweaters and collectible lighted houses. If you want to survive the Halloween juggernaut, which leads directly into the Thanksgiving/Christmas/New Year’s Eve juggernaut, you need a plan. That’s where your trusted She magazine columnist comes in. I offer you a 31-day Survival Guide for Halloween:


OCTOBER ’ Oct. 6 — Drag out sewing machine. Call mother and ask her how to turn it on. And how to thread it. Agree that a few more years of home ec classes would have been more useful than trigonometry. Hang up and eat half a bag of miniature Snickers. Hide the rest in the laundry room under a pile of dirty linens.

Oct. 5 — Go back to fabric store for colored thread and needles. And fabric glue. And felt.

Oct. 12 — Assure Bobby’s teacher he is coming to the school party dressed as a purple T-Rex dinosaur and not as a decapitated Miley Cyrus, despite his boasts at recess. Yes, you read the appoved list of costumes and know all about building self-esteem and avoiding violent images.

Oct. 19 — Spend half the day in the dentist’s office to repair tooth chipped on frozen candy bars. Move remaining three bags of Snickers into hall closet, under winter coats.

Oct. 26 — Run to grocery store and spend $100 on 300 orange-frosted chocolate cupcakes for school party.

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Oct. 13 — Cover shrubs with orange and black lights. Hang motion detector ghost over front door. Spend three hours looking for a grounded extension cord.

Oct. 20 — Volunteer to spraypaint 50 orange luminarias for school party.

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Oct. 27 — Set up brown grocery bag luminarias in school gym. Tell nosy parent that you’re going “green” and refuse to use toxic orange spray paint for the decorations. Doesn’t she care about the planet and our children?

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Oct. 7 — Get ladybug costume half-finished. Tell tearful Betty that, yes, Mommy will convert it into a beautiful butterfly costume for her special girl. Oct. 14 — After Betty learns butterflies start off as ugly caterpillars, convert butterfly costume into an angel. Cover wings with aluminum foil and add halo. Use the Lord’s name in vain many times but offset it by creating a heavenly being.

Oct. 21 — Spend $12 on pumpkin-carving tools and jack-o-lantern patterns for family pumpkins. Make note to self to get cracking on that damn dinosaur costume.




Oct. 28 — Bring cupcakes to school party. In girls’ bathroom, convert Betty’s angel costume into a fairy princess. Assure head of PTA that you are not promoting religion in a public school.

Oct. 1 — Buy five bags of miniature Snickers, for the trick-or-treat kids. Congratulate yourself for thinking ahead this year.

Oct. 8 — Tear out ladybug seams. Get $30 worth of new fabric. Sketch out butterfly pattern.

Oct. 2 — Ask your adorable kids, Betty and Bobby, for costume ideas.

Oct. 9 — Tell husband you will NOT allow the front yard to be converted into a 3-D haunted house. Remind him of the neighborhood petition after last year’s “Frankenstein’s Monster” incident.

Oct. 3 — Buy patterns for the ladybug and T-Rex costumes for the kids. They’ll look adorable!

Oct. 4 — Measure kids, purchase fabric and all supplies. Write a check when total exceeds the $40 in your purse. Remind yourself, they’ll look adorable!

Oct. 10 — Sign up to make 300 orangefrosted chocolate cupcakes for the school party.

Oct. 11 — Finish butteryfly costume, mostly held together with safety pins and duct tape. Tell Betty to stop sniveling about the cardboard wings. Finish that half-bag of miniature Snickers bars. Stash the last four bags in the basement freezer.

Oct. 18 — Tell Bobby he is dressing up as a friendly dinosaur or nothing at all. “Do you hear me, young man?” Nothing. “Don’t you give me that look!” Eat a bag of frozen miniature Snickers.

Oct. 15 — At 2 a.m., go outside and tear down motion detector ghost that shrieks every time the wind blows.

Oct. 16 — Take 30 kids to the pumpkin farm for school field trip. Spend $10 on cider and cookies and $45 on two huge pumpkins, plus Indian corn.

Oct. 17 — Place Indian corn in adorable basket on the front porch, where it will feed squirrels for weeks.

Oct. 22 — Tell Bobby and his friends to stop digging “graves” in the back yard. Don’t ask about suspicious mound near fence. Dig out bag of Snickers and polish off with two mojitos.

Oct. 23 — Help kids design jack-o-lantern faces with patterns and markers. Send them to bed early after “pumpkin wars.” Scrape pumpkin innards off kitchen wall; toss out special tools; carve pumpkin faces with rusty old steak knife.

Oct. 24 — Roast pumpkin seeds and watch spooky movie as a family activity. Sit up with scared kids all night in the living room. Pick pumpkin seeds out of teeth.

Oct. 29 — Warn husband that better not be your new nightgown the “corpse” in the front-yard coffin is wearing!

Oct. 30 — Let Bobby tear Barney costume to shreds and fashion his deranged Godzilla costume.

Oct. 31 — Send kids out to trick-or-treat with their dad. Turn off porch light and hide in the basement with bag of miniature Snickers bars and bottle of merlot.

Oct. 25 — Show up two hours late for work. Eat bag of Snickers at desk during lunch hour while shopping online for a $50 Barney the dinosaur costume.

And remind yourself why you love Halloween: It’s a simple, one-day holiday, with little expense beyond a few bags of candy and an old sheet with eye-holes cut out of it.


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Foundation in faith Cancer survivor finds strength in her mother, relationship with God By Becky Zarletti

“My mom always has been a source of great encouragement to me. Her faith has never wavered, and she took care of my dad until his fight with cancer ended on April 5, 2001.”


y mother, Beverley Quick, is mom to three daughters, grandmother to 10 and great-grandmother to four. She always has been a strong and loving parent and grandparent, remembering every birthday and anniversary with a card and letter. And she would write letters every week to her grandkids away at college. She prays for all of us every day. Her strength and faith were put to the test in 1996. In May of that year, my dad was diagnosed with multiple myeloma, a cancer of the red blood cells. It is a cancer that is treatable but not curable, and so began the monthly trips to Madison for his chemo treatments. In December of the same year, mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. She was treated with a lumpectomy and radiation, so for a while both my parents were undergoing cancer treatment. Through all of this, they both remained positive and fought their individual battles with different courses of treatment. Then in 1999, I was diagnosed with cervical cancer. This was the most difficult news to tell my parents as they knew what going through cancer was like. Even though I was 44 at the time, I was still their child, and I knew they didn’t want me to have to go through this. But they were there with me through all my tests and surgeries and recovery. My mom always has been a source of great encouragement to me. Her faith has never wavered, and she took care of my dad until his fight with cancer ended on April 5, 2001. A couple years after my dad’s death, my grandmother (my mom’s mom) moved in with her.


Beverley Quick, left, and her daughter Becky Zarletti both live in Kenosha. Grandma was 96 years old and lived with mom until her death last fall at age 99. I know these past 12 years haven’t been easy for my mom, but she’s not a complainer, and she took on the role of caregiver without question. She enjoys babysitting for her great-grandchildren and says they keep her young. Growing up was one huge learning experience, not just

from words that were spoken, but from actions that were observed and the life that was modeled and lived in our home. My parents loved each other, and that was evident every day. My mom was the caretaker of everything and everyone: my dad, my two sisters and me, my grandma, our dog, neighbor kids and friends. My parents had friends over a lot,

and when my mom made food, there was enough for everyone and then some! She always made sure there was enough in case more people showed up. My mom has the true gift of hospitality, and I learned that spending time with family and friends were an important part of life. I think the most important thing I learned from her words and her example is how important it is to keep God in the center of our lives, to depend on Him and to talk to Him about everything, no matter how big or how small. We have had our great times and our trials, but through it all we have found God to consistently be there holding us up and carrying us through. My mom is a strong woman, and her strength comes from her relationship with God. In Her day allows readers to share stories of the many ways their mothers, grandmothers and other female relatives influenced and inspired them.

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