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The Stop & Go Method Depression. Think about what it does for you. Think about just the word itself. A depression is a place lower than the mean grade surface level, like a depression in the ground, like a hole in the ground and even worse, like a grave in the ground. Is there much difference between depression and death? How do you feel when you are depressed? Do you feel like shouting in joy to the rooftops about the great life that you are experiencing? My guess is no. My guess is that you are focused on certain events in your life which are bringing you down into that state of depressed paralysis. It can be something which is happening or about to happen in the present. It can be things which have already occurred in the past, but are kept ever present in your mind. The scenes seem real, they are always fresh as you replay the tape in your mind of the conversation that went wrong, or what you should have said, or what you should have done. It can be anxiety about a future happening. The bottom line is that when you are in a full blown depression, it is pretty challenging to get motivated to do anything. The easiest thing to do is just to wallow in the mental pain, to revisit and rethink those images that are flowing through your mind. The irony is typically, no one is forcing you to be depressed. Something happens, something is said, and the way that we react to that incident is what fuels our mood down the line. My guess is, that as a person struggling with depressive mood and thoughts, you are probably a pretty sensitive person, perhaps even a hypersensitive person. Has anyone ever said to you "Don't be so sensitive"? I think this is where the depression begins, in the reaction to what has happened or in reaction to the words that were said or not said. And the reaction, means what we think it means. Usually, we think that if this happened or that happened or he/she said this or that, then it means this. Once we have attached a meaning to the event, and the meaning is something which dismisses us or rejects us or we find insulting in some way, that is when the depression begins. Of course this is not true for all cases. But I am speaking in a case of a relatively healthy individual who sulks time to time, becomes sullen or even worse, catatonic where he/she can barely even function. They seem healthy in body, but their mind is like Swiss cheese, they are totally spaced out and can descend into some very deep places. Once it becomes a habit, this mood can hit even without a specific trigger. But to continue my general theory, depression is based on a reaction to events. Our reaction is based on what we think these event mean to us. Once we think that it means something negative

about us, or is against us, or is rejecting us, it is fairly easy for a person prone to depression to fall into the trance of woe is me and the world sucks and there are no cherries in the bowl at all. Why some people are more prone to depression than others? There are probably many factors which can be a source of depression, such as; 1. Environment - what was the home like where the person grew up? Did they experience a lot of love and support. Were their parents present for them? Did their parents speak to them much, make them feel like they were important to them? How did their parents handle stress? Were their parents depressed? 2. Genetic - I imagine that there is a predisposition to depression genetically. My guess is that some people have more of a tilt towards depression than others. People have different coping mechanisms with perceived danger. I will have to do more research online about actual studies which prove that depression is genetic, however I think it is safe to assume that just as we inherit certain physical characteristics from our parents, so do we inherit certain mind characteristics, brain mechanisms, ability to transport the serotonin and tryptophan to neuron receptors in the brain which is critical to relief from depression. 3. Self Learned response - It is also possible that people can pick up this habit, when it is a habit and not a genetic problem, through learned response how to deal with problems. They are probably more of the non confrontational crowd and do not know how to express their annoyance or anger appropriately, so they express it on to themselves. We know that anyone can experience depression at any time. The question is how to deal with it? How to get out of your depression even if you are fully soaked in it? Of course, the best thing is not to get into the hole in the first place, we all know that it is alot easier and faster to fall into the grand canyon than to climb out of it, falling in might only take a few moments while climbing out might be hours or days. I think that both issues, how to avoid depression in the first place and how to get out if you have already fallen in, might have the same approach as a solution. The answer is to approach events in a way where you do not attach meaning in a way which brings you down and keep you there. In a trite example, let's say that you emailed a friend and had not heard back yet, for even three days. Someone prone to depression might react by thinking that this means that their friend is no longer a friend. They don't care about him/her. And as a result, once the frustration inside builds to feelings of rejection and anger, you know what happens next, they delete their email, phone number, Facebook account and throw away any mementos of their memories together. Or you might just get angry and next time you see this friend, have an attitude. There could be a myriad of reasons why your friend did not respond. Not every reason has to be about YOU! So how about we try as a first approach to stop thinking that we know what the other person is thinking. Stop! Stop thinking that you know their motives. Maybe they are ill, or a family member is ill, or they are on a trip, who knows, stop making their behavior about you. Let their behavior be about them and about their own choices.

I know in cases of estrangement or silent treatment where it becomes pretty obvious that they are not speaking to you and do not want to have any relationship with you that is a harder nut to crack. But even in these cases, the truth is that it is about them. It is their mind or some influence on their mind which led them to this conclusion of treating you in this manner. So, I am suggesting that even in this case to not react in a manner where you are sure that you know their motives and thoughts. So many of us don't even really understand our own motives or thoughts and we seek out counsel from friends or shrinks to help us, so it is not a big stretch to concede that we really might not know the motivations of a person estranging us or silencing us. Therefore, the first approach is to let go of the meanings we have attached to the events. No, it does not mean that you suck. No, it does not mean that you are bad, or a fool or a monster. Let it mean as much as you can say about it, and that is that they are behaving in a certain way and that is all you know. #1 Let Go of Meaning Attachment The second idea also comes from the word depression. You have to be in one place to dig a hole for depression. You have to be stuck in one place, then you can keep digging and digging until you have a nice little hole that is difficult to climb out of. #2 Set Goals, Get Motivated and Moving But, if you are moving towards a destination, then it is not as likely that you will be in one place. You will be moving along towards a goal. So, the second strategy is keep creating goals, keep creating definitive images in your mind of what you want to accomplish and them move towards them. Get moving towards some well defined goals. Do not make a goal that says I want to be stronger, that is not specific at all, just a generic statement, rather make a goal which says that by such and such date, I want to be able to do 100 push ups consecutively. I want to get a Masters. I want to earn x dollars in this year. I want to see a movie a week with my kids. I want to learn Spanish. You get the idea, the strategy is to create goals, which are meaningful to you, which are interesting to you and which will keep you excited and motivated to move towards completion of the goal. These two ideas of letting go of the meanings we have attached to other's behaviors towards us and setting goals for ourselves could help prevent us from falling into depression, as well as help us get out of it once we have already sunk into the hole. So, stop assuming, no more meaning attachment and get going. Perhaps I should call this the Stop and Go method of preventing and alleviating depression. I think I will! Good luck to all of us to incorporate them both into our daily living.

This article was written by Richard Levy. He writes about rebuilding body, mind and spirit at based on his experiences, challenges and goals.

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