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A few months back, I overheard the conversation of these approximately 14 years old kids talking about sex. Teenagers these days only know that sex is all about feeling good and neglect what harm it might bring if they do it wrong. What is sex? What does teenager these days know about sex? Do they know about the consequences about unprotected sex? Generally speaking, teenagers know nothing much about sex. This publication will be talking about what sex is all about to a teenager and what harm as well as some interesting facts that you do not know about – suitable for teenagers, young adults and parents who are concerned about their children. It might be inappropriate and provocative to some but just enjoy reading! Ng Jun Heng


Other than the 3 main reasons: to have children, to experience sexual pleasure, and to cement relationships. There are much more reasons why teenagers have sex. Inner drives Normal adolescents have sexual interests and feelings. They also deeply need love and affirmation. As a result, they can become emotionally and sexually attracted to others around them and drawn toward physical intimacy. Seductive messages Virtually all popular media as well as educational and governmental organizations have been influenced by the sexual revolution of the 1960s. As a result, unless they live in complete isolation, adolescents are regularly exposed to sexually provocative material that expresses immoral viewpoints, fires up sexual desires and wears down resistance to physical intimacy. Even in the “safe� confines of the classroom, a teenager’s natural modesty may be dismantled during explicit presentations about sexual matters in mixed company.

Lack of supervision Because of fragmented families, complex parental work schedules, easier access to transportation and at times, carelessness among adults who should know better, adolescents today are more likely to find opportunities to be alone together for long stretches of time. In such circumstances, nature is likely to take its course, even when a commitment has been made to wait until the wedding night for sex. Overbearing, overprotective supervision Adolescents who are smothered in a controlling, micromanaging, suspicious environment are strong candidates for rebellion once the opportunity arises. Ironically, a big rebellion may represent an effort to break loose from an overabundance of trivial constraints. Parents can set appropriate boundaries while still entrusting adolescents with increasing responsibility to manage themselves and their sexuality. Other than these reasons telling us why there is an increase in teenagers involved in underage sex, there are other factors which includes peer pressure and the lack of reasons and desire to wait.

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“Our exhaustive research clearly confirms that U.S. youths between the ages of 13 and 18 who drink and/or use drugs are more likely to be sexually active,” said Dr. Gerald Eckersley, director of the Boston-based organization.”Our research shows that the inhibition-lowering properties of vrecreational drugs and alcohol cause those who use them to behave with less restraint, making sex among young people more likely to occur,” Eckersley continued. The report went on to state that some teens may actually seek out drugs and alcohol for the express purpose of lowering their inhibitions and facilitating sex—a phenomenon well known to parents and teens alike for countless generations. “Teens are not only having sex drunk or high, but they’re also getting drunk or high to increase their chances of having sex,” Eckersley said. “Interestingly, we found that this phenomenon also occurs among adults, as well as among every population everywhere in the world that has ever existed since the dawn of time.”

Plain and simple, alcohol alters your ability to think clearly. When you drink, at some point you will begin to see the world through “beer goggles”; i.e., you likely will become less picky about selecting whom you hook up with, how you go about having sexual experiences, and when you have sex with someone. A study conducted in Great Britain revealed that: After drinking alcohol, one in seven 16-to-24-year-olds have had unprotected sex, while one in five have had sex that they regretted. One in 10 have been unable to remember if they had sex the night before. Mixing sex with alcohol or other drugs increases the chances of unintended pregnancy, and exposure to sexually transmitted infections. This is because if you have sex when you are drunk or high, you are much less likely to be thinking clearly enough to use condoms, or use them correctly. One study has shown that 60% of young adult women who are infected with a sexually transmitted infection report that they were under the influence of alcohol at the time that they had sex with the infected person.

Many stimulant users report that their use of cocaine or methamphetamine is strongly associated with sex. Male users in particular report that stimulant drugs increase their libido and decrease their sexual inhibitions. Stimulant drug use may engender compulsive masturbation, prolonged sexual encounters involving numerous partners, promiscuous sex, and unsafe sex practices. In addition, the disinhibiting effects cocaine or methamphetamine opens the flood gates to sexual adventurousness leading some users to engage in sex acts they either do not find appealing or are too inhibited to try when not high on stimulant drugs.

Some drugs, such as marijuana and MDMA, increase sensual and erotic sensations, though MDMA may inhibit sexual intercourse itself by causing temporary erectile dysfunctions. Other drugs, such as alcohol, are notorious for being used to render unknowing victims unconscious or severely sedated and thus easy targets for sexual predators. Perhaps the most common drug used is alcohol. At low concentrations of blood alcohol, social inhibitions are reduced, though in higher concentrations it can also inhibit performance. Many other drugs also inhibit sexual performance. Because drug and alcohol use is commonly presented as an excuse for unacceptable behaviour, it is however necessary to treat the idea of a direct causal relation between drug use and unsafe sex with caution. Drugs may provide a socially acceptable excuse for engaging in sexual behaviours in which people may want to engage but perhaps know that they should not.

Inhibition-reducing drugs and alcohol may possibly encourage unintended sexual activity. It is unknown if the drugs themselves directly influence teenagers to engage in riskier behavior, or whether teenagers who engage in drug use are more likely to engage in sex. The drugs with the strongest evidence linking to teenage pregnancy are alcohol, “ecstasy�, cannabis, and amphetamines. Amphetamines are often prescribed to treat ADHD – internationally, the countries with the highest rates of recorded amphetamine prescription to teenagers also have the highest rates of teenage pregnancy.

Pornographic images, erotic paraphernalia, and raunchy sexual talk are reaching a near-saturation point in the daily lives of teenagers, through television, movies, magazines and the Internet. There seem to be neither boundaries nor taboos any more when it comes to sex. Anything goes – from heterosexual to homosexual to bi-, trans-, poly-, and youdon’t-want-to-know sexual experiences. Sex has become a ubiquitous, cheap, meaningless quest for ever-greater thrills. The guy no longer has to lie to the gal, pretend he likes her or take her out to dinner to get sex – he just has to show up. Moreover, with the evolution of online pornography, every type of sexual experience has literally been shoved under the noses of millions of Americans against their will, who find their e-mail in-boxes filled with hard-core sexual images. It used to be, if you were looking for porn, you had to enter a dingy theater in the seedy part of town or the back room of a video store. The thought of someone seeing you pay for such smut, even if only a cashier at a store, must have discouraged the masses from even thinking about such activities. Added to that, you had to be old enough to get into strip clubs and x-rated theaters.

But now that pornography is ubiquitously available to everyone, the target audience is consuming it in record numbers. Approximately 11 million American children ages 12 to 17 visit porn sites every week, making children the largest group of porn consumers on the Internet. The average age for first-time viewers has now dropped to 8 years old! In today’s world, women or rather teenage girls are being portrayed as sex objects in the Media; especially by pop culture. Sexualisation is defined as occurring when a person’s value comes only from her or his sexual appeal or behavior, to the exclusion of other characteristics, and when a person is portrayed purely as a sex object. The content and effects of television, music videos, music lyrics, magazines, films, video games and the internet has been revolving much about sex. For example, a trainer advert that featured pop star Christina Aguilera dressed as a schoolgirl with her shirt unbuttoned, licking a lollipop. Such images can negatively effect teenagers in many ways. In pop culture, celebrities noted for their sex appeal is called a sex symbol, the term was first used in the mid 1950s in relation to the popularity of certain hollywood stars. Some of the famous sex symbols are Marilyn Monroe, Grace Jones, Kate Winslet, Beyoncé, Katy Perry and Britney Spears.


Am I still a virgin? What does it mean to lose your virginity? In the strictest term; you are a virgin until you’ve had sexual intercourse with the member of the opposite sex. But this definition leaves a lot of people out of the loop. While the social policy makers look to redefine marriage to include same sex partnerships, it is time we revisit what it means to be a virgin. The fact is, the standard definition of virginity lets you get away with having a lot of different kinds of sex was still being able to call yourself a virgin. In theory, under the traditional definition of virginity, someone who is homosexual can have sex every day and still be a virgin. Someone who has oral sex regularly is also still a virgin. What does “losing your virginity” mean to you? Is it a state of mind or a specific act? Is it something that can be taken from you, or does it only count if you willingly give it away? When does “fooling around” end and “having sex” begin?

Today, we ask this question, to what extent do you think is counted as having sex? Would you count masturbation, non-penetrative sex, dry humping or oral sex as sex? This is a very difficult question to answer. Biologically speaking, sexual intercourse is a sex act between a male and a female that involves penile and vaginal contact, often indicated by a broken hymen in females. But this is a very outdated way of thinking. If this was the case, if someone have oral sex every night and the other person has sexual intercourse once a week, who is really less “pure” as far as sexual experimentation? Therefore, in this matter you need to follow your heart, what is right for one person may not be right for another.

“Good Morning America” has discovered that blow jobs are the new goodnight kiss! All across the country, teenagers are giving head and having sex parties! Teens believe oral sex is the safe alternative to intercourse, both from pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. The statistics prove otherwise. Millions of teenagers become infected with STD’s such as chlamydia, gonorrhea, HIV and herpes each year and oral sex is a route by which teens are becoming infected. Some of the risks of oral sex: Oral - Penis contact Performing oral sex or “giving a blow job” carries a theoretical risk of transmission for the receptive partner because infected pre-ejaculate fluid or semen can get into the mouth. Oral - Vagina contact Performing oral sex on a woman carries a theoretical risk of HIV transmission for the insertive partner because infected vaginal fluids and blood can get into the mouth.

Diseases you could pick up during oral sex are Gonorrhoea, Syphilis and Chlamydia. Bacterial infections transferred by oro-anal sex(rimming; stimulation of the partner’s anus with tongue or lips) are Bowel Organisms, Hepatitis A, Hepatitis B, Hepatitis C and Worms. Oral sex is risky. You can’t get pregnant, but almost every serious STD can be transmitted through this type of sexual activity. Any sex act involves giving something of yourself to another person -- something you can never get back. Don’t do anything you aren’t 100% sure is right for you and your beliefs.

Every year, more teenagers are having more sex, they are having it with increasing frequency, and they are starting at younger ages. Recent studies indicate that many adolescents who initiate sexual activity experience depression, suicidal ideation, and relationship violence and that these actions and attitudes in turn lead to riskier sexual behavior. Other studies link adolescent sexual activity with decreased school performance, lowered self-esteem, and an increase in drug and alcohol usage. A recent study found that students who engaged in sexual intercourse were more than twice as likely as those who abstained from sexual activity to suffer from partner violence. In addition to increased partner violence, “sexually active adolescents reported high rates of self-harm.” Sexually experienced students were more than twice as likely to be at risk for both suicidal behavior and severe depression. The odds increased dramatically when sexual activity was combined with alcohol or drug use, a common phenomenon among adolescents.

Adolescents postponing intercourse minimizes their exposure to harm. Drug and alcohol use, depression, suicidal ideation, decreased school performance, relationship violence and adolescent sexual activity are all interrelated. While contraceptive usage may prevent some of the negative physical consequences of sexual activity, it fails to address the other important aspects of an adolescent’s life. Other than teen mothers getting fame by joining MTV’s reality show, 16 and pregnant and Teen Mom. They are less likely to complete high school (only one-third receive a high school diploma) and only 1.5% have a college degree by age 30. Also, The sons of teen mothers are 13 percent more likely to end up in prison while teen daughters are 22 percent more likely to become teen mothers themselves.


If you found out that your daughter is pregnant, get support! You might be experiencing emotions ranging from hopelessness to anger to sadness. You’ll need support through this time period, so reach out to family members or consider going to individual therapy. Also, your daughter will need support. A good option is to encourage your daughter to go to therapy to discuss her emotions, choices and future, and attend family therapy together. Discuss Options Also, discuss options with your daughter whether she wants to keep the baby, look into adoption or end the pregnancy. It’s important to have a dialogue around the options, talking about the pros and cons and consider the best option for your daughter and family. Listen to what your daughter feels is the best option, and try to support her even if you don’t believe it’s the right choice. You should definitely give her guidance, but she may not take the path that you think she should. Consider including the baby’s father in these discussions. Medical Treatment No matter what, you should get your daughter medical treatment as soon as possibleThe doctor will be able to discuss your daughter’s options further and give your recommendations for adoption agencies, prenatal classes and therapists depending on the choice your daughter makes.

Discuss about lifestyle changes. Your teen might not know what lifestyle changes she needs to make to have a healthy baby. Teens Health reports that you should talk to her about some of the things she’ll need to do such as quitting smoking, drinking and using drugs if applicable; avoiding caffeine; getting plenty of sleep; eating healthfully; and avoiding unsafe sex in which she could contract sexually transmitted diseases. Prenatal Classes Depending on your daughter’s choice, you should consider enrolling her in prenatal classes. In these classes, she’ll learn what to expect during delivery and practical skills such as changing a baby’s diaper and feeding a baby. Prepare for the baby You’ll have to make a lot of decisions as a family if your teen intends on keeping the baby. For example, you’ll have to decide if your teen will return to high school or go to college as well as who’ll watch the baby during these times and what role each family member will play in the baby’s life. Never push your children away, always be there for your children and support them as much as you can, help them make wise decisions so that they will not have suicidal thoughts just because no one cares about them. Always be there for them and guide them through. As a parent, you know how labouring is tough, so help them!

You should tell your parents immediately if you are pregnant, whether or not you want to keep the baby. Don’t be afraid of how others will react, tell the father of the child and your parents, the earlier you tell, the longer they have time to get use to the idea before the baby is born. More importantly, the earlier you confide your secret, the earlier you can begin receiving prenatal care. If your parents yell or scream after hearing the news, understand what they must be feeling and listen to what they have to say calmly. Explain what happened to them and talk with them. Do not yell back at them or fight their objections or opinions because the problem will only escalate. If you feel that you cannot break the news to them in person, write a letter to them instead. Tell them that you need their support during this time and also write to them about your decision and what made you come to that decision. Educate yourself Most teenagers are not well educated on pregnancy and parenting. To help you feel more comfortable about your pregnancy and upcoming parenthood, read as many pregnancy and parenting books and magazines as you can while pregnant. Save money now If you are old enough to legally work, take advantage of the next few months to earn any money that you can. Once your child is here, you may not be able to work as frequently if you can work at all. So, now is the time to save as much money as possible.

Baby Shower Hopefully, you will be lucky enough to have a loved one throw you a shower. If not, throw yourself one. Your baby deserves to be celebrated like any other child. Accept Help All mothers need help. Do not be ashamed to accept generous offers of clothing, cash, baby items, or childcare. Surround yourself with those offering love and support, and keep your distance from anyone that is bringing you down. Balance The hardest part about being a teen mother is struggling to find your own identity while shaping the life of another human being. While you should not let motherhood stand in the way of your dreams, if you make the decision to be a mother, your dreams will likely alter. You have to balance what you want and need with what your child will want and need.

Condoms will protect you from HIV TRUE. If you are sexually active, consistent and correct use of latex or polyurethane condoms is the best way to protect yourself from HIV. HIV is very small, but it can’t get through these types of condoms. However, if you use lamb or natural skin condoms, which are more porous, HIV could pass through the pores and you may get infected. You’ll know if you have STDs because you’ll have symtoms FALSE. Someone can definitely have an STD and not even know it. So, get tested before you have any kind of sex is a good idea. If you’re going to have sex, always use protection! A woman can get pregnant from swallowing sperm? Not true. Sperm are mighty little swimmers, but if you swallow a guy’s semen, it can only go as far as the stomach where stomach acid will kill them. Even if the sperm did survive, there’s no way they can travel to the fallopian tubes or uterus from the stomach. A girl can’t get pregnant if the guy “pulls out” Not true. A girl can get pregnant if the guy pulls out. During intercourse, a guy has pre-cum that may contain live sperm. Pre-cum can cause pregnancy. 2 condoms are better than 1 FALSE. The condoms rub against each other during sex and increase the chance of one or both breaking or slipping off.

Every STD can be cured Sorry, but after unprotected sex, you can go away with a lovely life-long parting gift: an incurable STD. If I’m on a birth control pill and I take a pregnancy test, will the results work properly? A pregnancy test measures a hormone that is produced when conception occurs.This is a different hormone than the ones in the pill, so the pill won’t affect a pregnancy test. Birth control pills protect you from STDs Birth control pills prevent babies, not STDs. African-American men have bigger penises It’s true! African-American guys are bigger, and their penises are thicker, too. If you’re turned on by the same sex, you must be gay or lesbian Not true. Sexual orientation is a tricky subject because most folks fall into a range rather than an exact category. Because of this, many people have varying degrees of sexual attraction to people of the same gender. Actually, a lot of people who identify as heterosexual may have these kinds of feelings for their own gender, and people who identify as gay and lesbian can have similar feelings about opposite genders.All of this is completely common.