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Family Information Pastor’s Guide Funeral & Memorial Services

Pacific Coast Church 115 Via Pico Plaza Suite 205 San Clemente, CA 92672 (949) 940-2600


FAMILY & CONTACT INFORMATION NAME OF DECEASED

DATE AND PLACE OF DEATH

Name _____________________________

Date _____________________________

Nickname (s)________________________

Time _____________________________

Date of Birth ________________________

City ______________________________

Birth City_______________State________

State _____________________________

Wedding Anniversary _________________

Age ______________________________

MAIN FAMILY CONTACT PERSON Name ___________________________________Relationship _____________________ Address _________________________________________________________________ City ____________________State _______________________Zip Code _____________ Home Phone _____________________Work ___________________ Cell ____________ Name (s) of Children _______________________________________________________ Name (s) of Grandchildren’s _________________________________________________

PARENTS, FAMILY, RELATIVES & CONTACT Name _____________________________________Relationship ____________________ Address _________________________________________________________________ City ____________________State _______________________Zip Code _____________ Home Phone _____________________Work ___________________ Cell ____________ Name (s) of Children _______________________________________________________ Name (s) of Grandchildren’s _________________________________________________

Name _____________________________________Relationship ____________________ Address _________________________________________________________________ City ____________________State _______________________Zip Code _____________ Home Phone _____________________Work ___________________ Cell ____________ Name (s) of Children _______________________________________________________ Name (s) of Grandchildren’s _________________________________________________


FAMILY & CONTACT INFORMATION SURVIVED BY Name _____________________________________Relationship ____________________ Address _________________________________________________________________ City ____________________State _______________________Zip Code _____________ Home Phone _____________________Work ___________________ Cell ____________ Name (s) of Children _______________________________________________________ Name (s) of Grandchildren’s _________________________________________________ Name _____________________________________Relationship ____________________ Address _________________________________________________________________ City ____________________State _______________________Zip Code _____________ Home Phone _____________________Work ___________________ Cell ____________ Name (s) of Children _______________________________________________________ Name (s) of Grandchildren’s _________________________________________________ Name _____________________________________Relationship ____________________ Address _________________________________________________________________ City ____________________State _______________________Zip Code _____________ Home Phone _____________________Work ___________________ Cell ____________ Name (s) of Children _______________________________________________________ Name (s) of Grandchildren’s _________________________________________________ Name _____________________________________Relationship ____________________ Address _________________________________________________________________ City ____________________State _______________________Zip Code _____________ Home Phone _____________________Work ___________________ Cell ____________ Name (s) of Children _______________________________________________________ Name (s) of Grandchildren’s _________________________________________________ Name _____________________________________Relationship ____________________ Address _________________________________________________________________ City ____________________State _______________________Zip Code _____________ Home Phone _____________________Work ___________________ Cell ____________ Name (s) of Children _______________________________________________________ Name (s) of Grandchildren’s _________________________________________________


FAMILY & CONTACT INFORMATION SURVIVED BY Name _____________________________________Relationship ____________________ Address _________________________________________________________________ City ____________________State _______________________Zip Code _____________ Home Phone _____________________Work ___________________ Cell ____________ Name (s) of Children _______________________________________________________ Name (s) of Grandchildren’s _________________________________________________ Name _____________________________________Relationship ____________________ Address _________________________________________________________________ City ____________________State _______________________Zip Code _____________ Home Phone _____________________Work ___________________ Cell ____________ Name (s) of Children _______________________________________________________ Name (s) of Grandchildren’s _________________________________________________ Name _____________________________________Relationship ____________________ Address _________________________________________________________________ City ____________________State _______________________Zip Code _____________ Home Phone _____________________Work ___________________ Cell ____________ Name (s) of Children _______________________________________________________ Name (s) of Grandchildren’s _________________________________________________ Name _____________________________________Relationship ____________________ Address _________________________________________________________________ City ____________________State _______________________Zip Code _____________ Home Phone _____________________Work ___________________ Cell ____________ Name (s) of Children _______________________________________________________ Name (s) of Grandchildren’s _________________________________________________ Name _____________________________________Relationship ____________________ Address _________________________________________________________________ City ____________________State _______________________Zip Code _____________ Home Phone _____________________Work ___________________ Cell ____________ Name (s) of Children _______________________________________________________ Name (s) of Grandchildren’s _________________________________________________


CHURCH & MORTUARY CONTACT INFORMATION ANNOUNCEMENT TO FAMILY MEMBERS AND FRIENDS •

Assign people to help make phone calls

Notify surviving family, employer, friends, church family

Ask them to call other friends and keep family in prayer

Give memorial, funeral, gravesite and reception details in full to friends & family

SCHEDULING •

Facilities

Parking

Childcare

Program

Calendar Service

Pastoral Staff

Sound

Reception

Music

Administration

Audio / Visual

Ushers

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Church Contact Pacific Coast Church 115 Via Pico Plaza Suite 205 San Clemente, CA 92672 Wk (949) 940-2600 Fax (949) 940-0312 Pastoral Contact (949)

310-1276


CHURCH & MORTUARY CONTACT INFORMATION MEMORIAL SERVICE INFORMATION Place____________________________________________________________________ Date___________________ Day ________________________ Time_________________ Address__________________________________________________________________ Phone ________________________________Email ______________________________ Directions ________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________

GRAVESITE SERVICE INFORMATION Place____________________________________________________________________ Date___________________ Day ________________________ Time_________________ Address__________________________________________________________________ Phone ________________________________Email ______________________________ Directions ________________________________________________________________

VIEWING Place____________________________________________________________________ Date___________________ Day ________________________ Time_________________ Address__________________________________________________________________ Phone ________________________________Email ______________________________ Directions ________________________________________________________________

FAMILY RECEPTION Place____________________________________________________________________ Date___________________ Day ________________________ Time_________________ Address__________________________________________________________________ Phone __________________________________________________________________ Directions ________________________________________________________________


FAMILY BIOGRAPHICAL & EULOGIES It is recommended that you use a tape recorder during the biographical and family interview process.

PRESENTER OF BIOGRAPHICAL INFORMATION Name ___________________________________________________________________ Family Relationship ________________________________________________________ Address _________________________________________________________________ City____________________________ State __________________Zip Code ___________ Home Phone ________________________Work _________________________________ Cell Phone______________ Email ____________________________________________

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GUIDELINES FOR PRESENTERS •

Take time to gather proper and accurate information about the deceased

Have your information organized and typed out

Be concise and clear

Keep your presentation between 3 and 5 minutes


FAMILY BIOGRAPHICAL & EULOGIES It is recommended that you use a tape recorder during the biographical and family interview process.

FAMILY EULOGIES Name ___________________________________________________________________ Family Relationship ________________________________________________________ Address _________________________________________________________________ City____________________________ State __________________Zip Code ___________ Home Phone ________________________Work _________________________________ Cell Phone______________ Email ____________________________________________ Name ___________________________________________________________________ Family Relationship ________________________________________________________ Address _________________________________________________________________ City____________________________ State __________________Zip Code ___________ Home Phone ________________________Work _________________________________ Cell Phone______________ Email ____________________________________________ Name ___________________________________________________________________ Family Relationship ________________________________________________________ Address _________________________________________________________________ City____________________________ State __________________Zip Code ___________ Home Phone ________________________Work _________________________________ Cell Phone______________ Email ____________________________________________ Name ___________________________________________________________________ Family Relationship ________________________________________________________ Address _________________________________________________________________ City____________________________ State __________________Zip Code ___________ Home Phone ________________________Work _________________________________ Cell Phone______________ Email ____________________________________________


FAMILY BIOGRAPHICAL & EULOGIES It is recommended that you use a tape recorder during the biographical and family interview

Personality & Character Traits

process.

Education of Deceased Elementary School _________________________________________________________ Junior High _______________________________________________________________ High School ______________________________________________________________ Graduation Date___________________________________________________________ College (s)________________________________________________________________ Degree (s)__________________________ Other Schools___________________________

Work Employer __________________________________________Years Employed ________ Employer __________________________________________Years Employed ________ Type of Work _______________________________________Position _______________

Military Branch of Service ________________________________Years Served _______________ Rank _______________________________________Wars/Conflicts Served___________ Recognition/Awards_________________________________________________________


FAMILY BIOGRAPHICAL & EULOGIES It is recommended that you use a tape recorder during the biographical and family interview

Life Stories and Memories

Childhood

Adolescence

High School

College/Career

Marriage

Children

Grandchildren

process


FAMILY BIOGRAPHICAL & EULOGIES It is recommended that you use a tape recorder during the biographical and family interview

Life Stories and Memories

Spiritual Beliefs

Testimony

Songs & Poems

Personality

Vacations and Trips

Hobbies

Special Interests

Volunteer Activities

process


FAMILY BIOGRAPHICAL & EULOGIES

It is recommended that you that use a tape recorder during the biographical and family interview process.

Life Stories and Memories (Cont.) ADDITIONAL STORIES


FAMILY BIOGRAPHICAL & EULOGIES

It is recommended that you that use a tape recorder during the biographical and family interview process.

Life Stories and Memories (Cont.) ADDITIONAL STORIES


SERVICE ORDER SUGGESTED ELEMENTS FOR SERVICE Welcome

______

Musician (s)

______

Scripture

______

Vocalist (s)

______

Prayer

______

Slide Presentation

______

Sermon

______

Audio Presentation

______

Biography

______

Video Presentation

______

Eulogy

______

Pall Bearers

______

Family Sharing

_____

Family Processional

______

Reflective Sharing _____

Reception at Home

______

Solos

Reception at Church

______

______

SCRIPTURE FOR SERVICE Job 14 Man’s days are determined;

Matthew 6 Seek first

Psalms 1 Blessed Is The Man 5 Give ear to my words, O Lord 16 Keep me safe, O God 19 The Law Of The Lord 23 The Lord Is my Shepherd 46 Our God is a Refuge 61 Hear My prayer of Lord 62 My Soul finds rest 63 Oh God you are my God 91 He who dwells in the shelter 95 Come let us worship 116 Love the Lord for he heard me 121 I will lift up my eyes unto 139 Where can I go from your spirit?

John 14 Let not your heart

Proverbs 3 Trust in the Lord

1 Thessalonians 4 Living to please God

Ecclesiastes 3 There is a time for everything

1 Peter 1 The living hope

Isaiah 40 Comfort, comfort my people 57 The righteous perish

Revelation 21 The New Jerusalem

Romans 8 There is no condemnation 1 Corinthians 15 Resurrection of the dead 2 Corinthians 4 Treasures in Jars of Clay 5 Our Heavenly Dwelling Ephesians 3 A prayer of Thanksgiving


SERVICE ORDER AUDIO/VISUAL NEEDS _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ Lighting Tech · Slides/Screen · Power Point · Special Lighting · Sound Tech · Lapel Microphone · Vocal Microphone · Direct plug in Pulpit Microphone · CD · VCR · Cassette · DVD · Stage Set Up

MUSICAL NEEDS & STAGE SET-UP _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ Vocalist (s) · Musician (s) · Instrument (s) · Keyboard Microphone (s) · Music Stands · Boom Stands Straight Stands · Stage Set Up

SERVICE NEEDS _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ Number of Tables · Guest Book · Easel · Personal Articles · Flowers · Pictorial · Seating Pall Bearers · Auditorium · Upstairs · Padded White Patio · Workers · Main Course · Salad Sandwiches · Chips · Desserts/Cookies · Coffee · Soda ·Water · Special Requests


SERVICE ORDER SERVICE ORDER (ROUGH DRAFT)


SERVICE ORDER SERVICE ORDER

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SERVICE ORDER SAMPLE COPY OF MEMORIAL PROGRAM

FRONT COVER

NAME

BIRTH AND DEATH DATE

Picture Here You may have the picture of your loved one on the front, or select a scenic picture for the front cover, with a caption of your thoughts.


SERVICE ORDER INSIDE COVER

NAME

SONG

BORN DIED

SURVIVED BY

SERVICE ORDER NAME AND LOCATION OF SERVICE

WELCOME AND PRAYER SPECIAL SONG BIOGRAPHICAL SHARING MESSAGE SONG CLOSE

FAMILY WISHES, THOUGHTS, RECEPTION, IN LIEU OF, ETC…………………….


SERVICE ORDER

Psalm 116:15 Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of His Saints.

BACK COVER

Scripture

Directions to the gravesite or the reception

Sample of Map Quest


GENERAL INFORMATION RECOMMENDED MORTUARIES O’Connor Laguna Hills Mortuary 25301 Alicia Parkway Laguna Hills, CA 92653 (949) 581-4300 Jeff Turner www.oconnormortuary.com

Lesneski Mortuary 640 S. El Camino Real San Clemente, CA 92672 (949) 492-1717

McCormick & Son Mortuary 25002 Moulton Pkwy Laguna Hills, CA 92653 (949) 768-0933

Dilday Brothers Funeral Directors Beach Blvd & Talbert Huntington Beach, CA 92646 (714) 842-7771

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MORTUARIES & CEMETERIES Balts-Bergeron, Costa Mesa

CEMETERIES (949) 646-9371

Brothers Funeral Directors, H.B. (714) 842-7771 Brown-Colonial, Santa Ana

(714) 542-3949

Bell-Broadway, Costa Mesa

(949) 642-9150

Daly-Bartel, Anaheim

(714) 828-6440

Forest Lawn, Cypress

(714) 828-3131

Forest Lawn, Glendale

(818) 414-4151

Forest Lawn, Long Beach

(562) 424-1631

Forest Lawn General Number

(800) 204-3131

Harbor Lawn- Mt. Olive, C.M.

(949) 540-5554

Heritage Memorial, H.B.

(714) 842-2400

Hilgenfield Mortuary

(714) 535-4105

Luyben Family, Long Beach

(562) 425-6401

MacDougal Family, Santa Ana

(714) 543-9351

Mettler Family, Garden Grove

(714) 537-1038

Pierce Brothers, H.B.

(714) 536-6539

Saddleback Mortuary, Tustin

(714) 544-1450

Westminster Memorial

(562) 893-2421

Ascension Cemetery 24754 Trabuco Rd. Lake Forest, CA 92691 (949)837-1331 El Toro Memorial Park 25751 Trabuco Road Lake Forest, CA 92691 (949)951-8244 Pacific View Memorial Park 3500 Pacific View Drive Corona Del Mar, CA (949) 644-2700 Fairhaven Memorial Park 1720 Fairhaven Av Santa Ana, CA (800) 653-2287 Rose Hills Memorial Park 3888 South Workman Mill Rd Whitter, CA 90601 (562) 692-1212


GENERAL INFORMATION CHECK LIST FOR IMPORTANT DOCUMENTATION

Notes

Secure Proper Documentation Obtain multiple copies of death certificate (varies) Make copies of dated obituary notice Make copies of newspaper articles Make copies of marriage certificate Make copies of birth certificate (s) Locate military records Life Insurance Policies Real Estate Retirement checks Social Security V.A. Pension

CHECK LIST FOR FINANCES Secure Benefits Call all life insurance companies and request a claim form or ask for assistance from your insurance agent. You must send a certified copy of the death certificate with all claim forms. Assemble life insurance policies and file for life insurance benefits. Review life insurance policy beneficiaries. Be sure to notify all health insurance companies of the death and stop coverage for the deceased.

Social Security offers a one-time lump sum death benefit of $255 that is separate from any other benefits received from disability or retirement benefits. (800) 772-1213

File for employer benefits. File for Fraternal, Union and Association benefits. File for veteran’s benefits (800) 827-1000. Contact all sources of retirement funds, including IRA, that the deceased was receiving, and apply for any benefits that are due to you.


GENERAL INFORMATION PASTORAL FOLLOW-UP Administration Start a file for the deceased Schedule to send a note of encouragement to family (two weeks after service) Send a note to the widow or widower on key dates

Family Offer to be with the family when the headstone is placed at the grave Offer to visit the grave with the family Visit the family at home occasionally Offer to visit the gravesite with the family on the anniversary death date

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GENERAL INFORMATION ADDITIONAL NOTES


Master Pastor's Guide for Memorial Services