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 ENTERTAINMENT: Latest news and gossip: 2017 new celebrity couples.

 JOY BEAUTY: A Jamaica inspired bath soak/

 JOY HEALTH: Super foods to eat that will heal you naturally from illnesses/ Amazing healing properties of eating fruits

 SEX AND LOVE: How to tell your boyfriend is a cheat/ best pick up lines for women to try on men/ How to make love to a man so he will never forget you/ 5 ways to make love without having sex in a relationship/ How to have sex with more intimacy and less boredom.


EDITORS NOTE: This is the February love issue. Joy feelings brings you an issue that will set your relationship life afire to new renewed bounds for your love life. Make sure to read up to the last page. You may download this issue and read it over and over again because your going to need it! Best wishes from Joyce Wolayo!


Miss France crowned Miss Universe in Philippines MANILA, Philippines (AP) - A 23-year-old dental student from France won the Miss Universe crown Monday in the annual pageant in the Philippines, burying her face in her hands in shock and joy.


2017 Is Off to a Great Start For These Engaged Celebrity Couples Now that Steven Yeun and Joana Pak have tied the knot, the world is waiting with bated breath for another celebrity wedding. Will Serena Williams be making the trek down the


aisle soon, or will it be Sam Hunt? Perhaps it might even be Kirsten Dunst and Jesse Plemons. Regardless of who it is, it's refreshing to see stars take the next step in their relationships given all the celebrity breakups we had last year.







Why a Jamaica-Inspired Bath Soak Might Be All You Need This Winter

When casting director Larissa Gunn first traveled to Jamaica in the mid2000s, what was supposed to be a couple days at a model friend’s house up in the hills outside Kingston unexpectedly stretched into two weeks. “It was this really incredible 12 JOY FEELINGS!

experience, just staying with her family and being a local,” Gunn recalls of the cell phone-free visit, which included a lesson in cutting wild sugar cane and a ceremonious meal of curried goat. Thus began an ongoing love affair with the West Indies,

played out in frequent escapes and scouting trips (in addition to casting for the runway, editorials, and campaigns, she works with the Jamaican modeling agency Saint International). Now, Gunn has another outlet for her tropical passions: a fivepiece skin-care line called Balmyard Beauty, launching today. Named after a century-old Jamaican term for the neighborhood apothecaries’ that dispensed physical and spiritual remedies, the collection is born out of Gunn’s personal shift to a more natural beauty regimen but also serves as a distinct homage to the Caribbean. Ingredients are 13 JOY FEELINGS!

locally sourced whenever possible. “This place has benefited me and my life in so many ways, and I want to make sure that I’m giving back and stimulating the economy as much as I can,” Gunn explains. The cocoa butter that turns up in the Baby Love Balm, a lip-and-cheek tint, is one such Jamaican find; boosted with coconut oil, the formula doubles down on hydration, while hibiscus flower extract supplies the sheer plum pigment. “It works on everyone—really,” she says of the universal shade, noting that it can be layered for depth. The Moonlight Lover Facial Oil features an ultra-

nourishing combination of prickly pear seed, rosehip seed, and sea buckthorn oils, with a golden hue to rival an island sunset. Meanwhile, the line’s body oil, Romantic Call, sends you walking amid the night-blooming jasmine—or wishing you were—with a hint of ylang-ylang and rose set in a base of coconut, sweet almond, and hibiscus-seed oils. It’s the Bush Baths, though, that harness the everyday connection to nature that Gunn has witnessed in Jamaica, where friends will readily venture into the backyard for plant material to ward off, say, a coming cold. There, certain leaves and 14 JOY FEELINGS!

twigs are often boiled for tea; others—like the two Balmyard blends packaged in muslin bags for easy steeping—are destined for the tub. The Beauty version pairs local cerasee and Spanish needle for a smoothing, calming soak that helps even the skin tone; Detox combines lemongrass, ginger, and Jack In The Bush (also local) to help quell inflammation. Gunn works with manufacturers in and around New York City, but she’s already dreaming of the future. “My goal, and this is also a life goal: I would like to have land and a big farm and be able to grow a lot

of my own [ingredients],� she muses, admitting the plan is a ways off, considering this is just day one of her brand. Till then, a long, restorative bath,

together with a reggae soundtrack, will be a worthy stand-in for a ticket to the tropics.


As part of a healthy diet, whole foods play a significant role in helping our bodies function at their best. There are hundreds of extremely nutritious whole foods, but the dozen on this list do more than contribute healthy nutrients -- they help you heal. In fact, every food on this list boasts multiple healing 16 JOY FEELINGS!

effects, from fighting cancer to reducing cholesterol, guarding against heart disease, and more. Eat these superhealing picks and start feeling pretty super yourself.

Why Kiwifruit Is a Super-Healing Food This tiny, nutrient-dense fruit packs an amazing amount of vitamin C (double the amount found in oranges), has more fiber than apples, and beats bananas as a highpotassium food. The unique blend of phytonutrients, vitamins, and minerals found in kiwifruit helps protect against heart disease, stroke, cancer, and respiratory disease. Kiwifruit's natural bloodthinning properties work without the side effects of aspirin and support vascular health by reducing the formation of spontaneous blood clots, lowering LDL cholesterol, and reducing blood pressure. Multiple studies 17 JOY FEELINGS!

have shown that kiwifruit not only reduces oxidative stress and damage to DNA but also prompts damaged cells to repair themselves. Kiwifruit is often recommended as part of an anticancer and hearthealthy diet, and in Chinese medicine it's used to accelerate the healing of wounds and sores. How much: Aim to eat one to two kiwifruit a day while they're in season, for the best taste and nutrition. Californiagrown kiwifruit are in season from October through May, and New Zealand kiwifruit are available between April and November. Tips:


Kiwifruit contains enzymes that activate once you cut the fruit, causing the flesh to tenderize. So if you're making a fruit salad, cut the kiwifruit last.


The riper the kiwifruit, the greater the antioxidant power, so let them ripen before you dig in.

Why Cherries Are a Super-Healing Food Cherries boast a laundry list of healing powers. For starters, they pack a powerful nutritional punch for a relatively low calorie count. They're also packed with substances that help fight inflammation and cancer. As if that weren't enough, in lab studies, quercetin and ellagic acid, two compounds contained 18 JOY FEELINGS!

in cherries, have been shown to inhibit the growth of tumors and even cause cancer cells to commit suicide -- without damaging healthy cells. Cherries also have antiviral and antibacterial properties. Anthocyanin, another compound in cherries, is credited with lowering the uric acid levels in the blood, thereby reducing a common cause of gout. Researchers believe anthocyanins may also reduce your risk of colon cancer. Further, these compounds work like a natural form of ibuprofen, reducing inflammation and curbing pain. Regular consumption may help lower risk of heart attack and stroke.

In Chinese medicine, cherries are routinely used as a remedy for gout, arthritis, and rheumatism (as well as anemia, due to their high iron content). Plus they're delicious. How much: Aim for a daily serving while they're in season locally. And keep a bag of frozen cherries in your freezer the rest of the year; frozen cherries retain 100 percent of their nutritional value and make a great addition to smoothies, yogurt, and oatmeal. Tip: 

Buy organic or wash thoroughly, since conventionally grown cherries can be high in pesticides.


Why Guavas Are a Super-Healing Food Guavas are a small tropical fruit that can be round, oval, or pearshaped. They're not all that common, so they might be hard to find, depending on where you live. But if you can track them down, it's more than worth it. Guavas contain more of the cancerfighting antioxidant lycopene than any other fruit or vegetable, and nearly 20 percent more than tomatoes. Our bodies can't process much of the lycopene in tomatoes until they're cooked; the processing helps break down tough cell walls. However, guavas' cell structure allows the antioxidant to be absorbed whether the fruit is raw or

cooked, and the whole fruit offers the nutrition without the added sodium of processed tomato products. Lycopene protects our healthy cells from free radicals that can cause all kinds of damage, including blocked arteries, joint degeneration, nervous system problems, and even cancer. Although the findings are mixed, lycopene consumption has been associated with lower rates of prostate cancer in some studies. In addition, men with prostate tumors who consumed lycopene supplements showed significant improvements, such as smaller tumors and decreased malignancy, in some studies. Lycopene has also 20 JOY FEELINGS!

been found to inhibit the growth of breast cancer cells, and research suggests that this antioxidant may also help protect against coronary heart disease. This strange-looking little fruit is also packed with vitamin C and other antioxidants. Serving for serving, guava offers more than 60 percent more potassium than a banana, which can help protect against heart disease and stroke. In fact, the nutrients found in guavas have been shown to lower LDL and boost HDL cholesterol, reduce triglycerides, and lower blood pressure. How much: Aim to eat fresh guavas as often as you can when you can

find them in stores. They're not commonly available in the freezer section; and most guava juices are processed and sweetened, so they don't provide the same superior nutrition that the whole, fresh fruit does. One to two guavas a day is a good goal. Tip: 

Opt for the redfleshed variety if you can; both are loaded with antioxidants, but the red type has more than the white-fleshed apple guava.

Why Beans Are a SuperHealing Food Beans are a miracle food. They lower cholesterol, regulate blood sugar and insulin production, 21 JOY FEELINGS!

promote digestive health, and protect against cancer. If you think of fiber, protein, and antioxidants and immediately think whole grains, meat, and fruit, think again -- beans offer all three in a single package. An assortment of phytochemicals found in beans has been shown to protect cells from cancerous activity by inhibiting cancer cells from reproducing, slowing tumor growth. Researchers at the Harvard School of Public Health reported that women who consumed beans at least twice a week were 24 percent less likely to develop breast cancer, and multiple studies have tied beans to a reduced risk of heart disease, type 2

diabetes, high blood pressure, and breast and colon cancers. Beans deliver a whopping amount of antioxidants, which help prevent and fight oxidative damage. In fact, the USDA's ranking of foods by antioxidant capacity places three varieties of beans (red beans, red kidney beans, and pinto beans) in the top four -- and that's among all food groups. Beans are a great source of dietary fiber, protein, and iron. They also contain the amino acid tryptophan; foods with high amounts of tryptophan can help regulate your appetite, aid in sleep, and improve your mood. Many are also rich in folate, which plays a significant role in heart health. And depending on 22 JOY FEELINGS!

the type of bean you choose, you'll also get decent amounts of potassium, magnesium, vitamin B1 and B2, and vitamin K. Soybeans are a great source of omega-3 fatty acids. In Chinese medicine, various types of beans have been used to treat alcoholism, food poisoning, edema (particularly in the legs), high blood pressure, diarrhea, laryngitis, kidney stones, rheumatism, and dozens of other conditions. How much: Aim for a minimum of two servings of beans per week. Tip: Adzuki and mung beans are among the most easily digested; pinto, kidney, navy, garbanzo,

lima, and black beans are more difficult to digest. Why Watercress Is a Super-Healing Food Not only is watercress extremely nutritious, it's about as close as you can get to a calorie-free food. Calorie for calorie, it provides four times the calcium of 2 percent milk. Ounce for ounce, it offers as much vitamin C as an orange and more iron than spinach. It's packed with vitamin A and has lots of vitamin K, along with multiple antioxidant carotenoids and protective phytochemicals. The nutrients in watercress protect against cancer and macular degeneration, help build the immune system, and support bone health. The 23 JOY FEELINGS!

iron helps red blood cells carry oxygen to your body's tissues for energy. The phytochemicals in watercress battle cancer in three ways: killing cancer cells, blocking carcinogens, and protecting healthy cells from carcinogens. They've also been linked to lower risk for lung and esophageal cancer and can help lower your risk for other cancers. In Chinese medicine, watercress is thought to help reduce tumors, improve night vision, and stimulate bile production (improving digestion and settling intestinal gas). It's used as a remedy for jaundice, urinary difficulty, sore throat, mumps, and bad breath.

How much: Eat watercress daily if you can. In some regions, it's more widely available during the spring and summer, when it's cultivated outdoors. But since it can also be grown hydroponically in greenhouses, you can find it year-round in many grocery stores and at your local farmer's market. Tip: 

You can cook it, but watercress is better for you when you eat it raw. Tuck it into a sandwich in place of lettuce.

Toss it with your favorite vegetables and eat it in a salad.

Watercress is great in pesto -- just replace


the basil with watercress -- and soups. 

Use watercress as a wonderfully detoxifying ingredient in a juice or smoothie.

Why Spinach Is a SuperHealing Food You already knew spinach was good for you, but did you know just how good? Spinach protects against eye disease and vision loss; it's good for brain function; it guards against colon, prostate, and breast cancers; it protects against heart disease, stroke, and dementia; it lowers blood pressure; it's antiinflammatory; and it's great for bone health. Spinach has an amazing array of nutrients, including high amounts of

vitamin K, calcium, vitamin A, vitamin C, folate, magnesium, and iron. A carotenoid found in spinach not only kills prostate cancer cells, it also prevents them from multiplying. Folate promotes vascular health by lowering homocysteine, an amino acid that, at high levels, raises the risk of dementia and cardiovascular disease, including heart disease and stroke. Folate has also been shown to reduce the risk of developing colorectal, ovarian, and breast cancers and to help stop uncontrolled cell growth, one of the primary characteristics of all cancers. The vitamin C and beta-carotene in 25 JOY FEELINGS!

spinach protect against colon cancer in addition to fighting inflammation, making them key components of brain health, particularly in older adults. Spinach is loaded with vitamin K (one cup of cooked spinach provides 1,111 percent of the recommended daily amount!), which builds strong bones by helping calcium adhere to the bone. Spinach is also rich in lutein, which protects against age-related macular degeneration, and it may help prevent heart attacks by keeping artery walls clear of cholesterol buildup. How much: Fresh spinach should be a daily staple in your diet. It's available in

practically every grocery store, no matter where you live, it's easy to find yearround, and you'd be hard pressed to find a more nutritionally sound, versatile green. So do yourself a healthy favor and aim for a few ounces - raw, sauteed, or lightly steamed, every day. Tips: 

Add a handful of fresh spinach to your next fruit smoothie. It'll change the color but not the taste.


Conventionally grown spinach is susceptible to pesticide residue; stick to organic.

Why Onions Are a Super-Healing Food Onions get a bad rap for their effect on breath, but 26 JOY FEELINGS!

that's not the only part of the body where they pack a wallop. Onions contain potent cancer-fighting enzymes; onion consumption has been shown to help lower the risk of prostate and esophageal cancers and has also been linked to reduced mortality from coronary heart disease. Research suggests that they may help protect against stomach cancer. Onions contain sulfides that help lower blood pressure and cholesterol, as well as a peptide that may help prevent bone loss by inhibiting the loss of calcium and other bone minerals. Onions have super antioxidant power. They contain quercetin, a natural antihistamine that

reduces airway inflammation and helps relieve symptoms of allergies and hay fever. Onions also boast high levels of vitamin C, which, along with the quercetin, battles cold and flu symptoms. Onions' anti-inflammatory properties help fight the pain and swelling associated with osteo- and rheumatoid arthritis. Onions are also extremely rich in sulfur and they have antibiotic and antiviral properties, making them excellent for people who consume a diet high in protein, fat, or sugar, as they help cleanse the arteries and impede the growth of viruses, yeasts, and other disease-causing agents, which can build up in an imbalanced diet. 27 JOY FEELINGS!

How much: For all the health benefits onions provide, it would be ideal to eat one a day. However, if that's not doable for you, add a few onions to your weekly grocery list and try to eat a little bit every day. All varieties are extremely good for you, but shallots and yellow onions lead the pack in antioxidant activity. Raw onions provide the best nutrition, but they're still great for you when they're lightly cooked. And cooking meat at high temperatures (such as on a grill) with onions can help reduce or counteract carcinogens produced by the meat. Tip: 

Onions should be stored at room temperature, but if

they bother your eyes when you cut them, try refrigerating them for an hour beforehand. Why Carrots Are a Super-Healing Food Carrots are a great source of the potent antioxidants known as carotenoids. Diets high in carotenoids have been tied to a decreased risk in postmenopausal breast cancer as well as cancers of the bladder, cervix, prostate, colon, larynx, and esophagus. Conversely, diets low in carotenoids have been associated with chronic disease, including heart disease and various cancers. Research suggests that just one carrot per day could reduce your risk of lung 28 JOY FEELINGS!

cancer by half. Carrots may also reduce your risk of kidney and ovarian cancers. In addition to fighting cancer, the nutrients in carrots inhibit cardiovascular disease, stimulate the immune system, promote colon health, and support ear and eye health. Carrots contain calcium, potassium, magnesium, phosphorus, fiber, vitamin C, and an incredible amount of vitamin A. The alpha-carotene in carrots has shown promise in inhibiting tumor growth. Carrots also contain the carotenoids lutein and zeaxanthin, which work together to promote eye health and prevent macular degeneration and cataracts. In Chinese medicine, carrots are used

to treat rheumatism, kidney stones, tumors, indigestion, diarrhea, night blindness, ear infections, earaches, deafness, skin lesions, urinary tract infections, coughs, and constipation. How much: Eat a serving of carrots each day if you can, and enjoy them yearround. Carrots are good for you whether they're raw or lightly cooked; cooking helps break down the tough fiber, making some of the nutrients more easily absorbed. For the best nutrition, go for whole carrots that are firm and fresh-looking. Precut baby carrots are made from whole carrots and, although they're convenient, they tend to lose important nutrients during processing. 29 JOY FEELINGS!

Tips: 

Remove carrot tops before storing them in the fridge, as the tops drain moisture from the roots and will cause the carrots to wilt.


Buy organic; conventionally grown carrots frequently show high pesticide residues.

Why Cabbage Is a Super-Healing Food Cabbage is a powerhouse source of vitamins K and C. Just one cup supplies 91 percent of the recommended daily amount for vitamin K, 50 percent of vitamin C, good amounts of fiber, and decent scores of manganese, vitamin B6,

folate, and more -- and it'll only cost you about 33 calories. Calorie for calorie, cabbage offers 11 percent more vitamin C than oranges. Cabbage contains high levels of antioxidant sulforaphanes that not only fight free radicals before they damage DNA but also stimulate enzymes that detoxify carcinogens in the body. Researchers believe this one-two approach may contribute to the apparent ability of cruciferous vegetables to reduce the risk of cancer more effectively than any other plant food group. Numerous studies point to a strong association between diets high in cruciferous vegetables and a low incidence of lung, 30 JOY FEELINGS!

colon, breast, ovarian, and bladder cancers. Cabbage builds strong bones, dampens allergic reactions, reduces inflammation, and promotes gastrointestinal health. Cabbage is routinely juiced as a natural remedy for healing peptic ulcers due to its high glutamine content. It also provides significant cardiovascular benefit by preventing plaque formation in the blood vessels. In Chinese medicine, cabbage is used to treat constipation, the common cold, whooping cough, depression and irritability, and stomach ulcers. When eaten and used as a poultice, as a dual treatment, cabbage is helpful for healing

bedsores, varicose veins, and arthritis. How much: The more cabbage you can include in your diet, the better. A study of Polish women found that those who ate at least four servings of cabbage per week as adolescents were 72 percent less likely to develop breast cancer later in life than their peers who consumed only one weekly serving or less. Tips: 

Try raw sauerkraut. It has all the health properties of cabbage, plus some potent probiotics, which are excellent for digestive health.


Use the whole cabbage; the outer


leaves contain a third more calcium than the inner leaves. 

Both are nutritional stars, but red cabbages are far superior to the white variety, with about seven times more vitamin C and more than four times the polyphenols, which protect cells from oxidative stress and cancer.

Why Broccoli Is a SuperHealing Food You'll find it difficult to locate another single food source with as much naturally occurring healthpromoting properties as broccoli. A single cup of steamed broccoli provides more than 200 percent of the RDA for vitamin C

(more than oranges), nearly as much of vitamin K, and about half of the daily allowance for vitamin A, along with plentiful folate, fiber, sulfur, iron, B vitamins, and a whole host of other important nutrients. Calorie for calorie, broccoli contains about twice the amount of protein as steak -- and a lot more protective phytonutrients. Broccoli's phytochemicals fight cancer by neutralizing carcinogens and accelerating their elimination from the body, in addition to inhibiting tumors caused by chemical carcinogens. Studies show evidence that these substances help prevent lung and esophageal cancers and 32 JOY FEELINGS!

may play a role in lowering the risk of other cancers, including gastrointestinal cancer. Phytonutrients called indoles found in broccoli help protect against prostate, gastric, skin, breast, and cervical cancers. Some research suggests that indoles also protect the structure of DNA and may reduce the risk of prostate cancer. Extensive studies have linked broccoli to a 20 percent reduction in heart disease risk. In Chinese medicine, broccoli is used to treat eye inflammation. How much: If you can eat a little broccoli every day, your body will thank you for it. If you can't swing it, aim for eating it as regularly as possible. Like

many other vegetables, broccoli provides fantastic nutrition both in its raw form and when it's properly cooked. Cooking reduces some of broccoli's anticancer components, but lightly steaming it will preserve most of the nutrients. Broccoli is available fresh year-round in most areas, but if you can't find it where you live, frozen broccoli is a good substitute. Tip: 

Steaming or cooking broccoli lightly releases the maximum amount of the antioxidant sulforaphane.

Why Kale Is a SuperHealing Food


Kale is highly nutritious, has powerful antioxidant properties, and is antiinflammatory. One cup of cooked kale contains an astounding 1,328 percent of the RDA for vitamin K, 192 percent of the RDA for vitamin A, and 89 percent of the RDA for vitamin C. It's also a good source of calcium and iron. Kale is in the same plant family as broccoli and cabbage, and, like its cruciferous cousins, it contains high levels of the cancer-fighting compound sulforaphane, which guards against prostate, gastric, skin, and breast cancers by boosting the body's detoxification enzymes and fighting free radicals in the body. The indoles in kale have been

shown to protect against breast, cervical, and colon cancers. The vitamin K in kale promotes blood clotting, protects the heart, and helps build strong bones by anchoring calcium to the bone. It also has more antioxidant power than spinach, protecting against freeradical damage. Kale is extra rich in beta-carotene (containing seven times as much as does broccoli), lutein, and zeaxanthin (ten times the amount in broccoli). In Chinese medicine, kale is used to help ease lung congestion. How much: Like cabbage, the more kale you can eat, the better. A daily serving is ideal. Eat it as much as you can, as long as you can find it fresh at your local grocery or farmer's 34 JOY FEELINGS!

market. In some areas, it's available all year; in others, it only makes an appearance during summer and fall. Tips: 

Kale's growing season extends nearly yearround; the only time it's out of season is summer, when plenty of other leafy greens are abundant.

Steam or saute kale on its own, or add it to soups and stews. Cooking helps tenderize the leaves.

Kale is also a great addition when it's blended in fruit smoothies or juiced with other vegetables.

The same pesky weed known for ruining lawns has a long history of being used as a healing herb in cultures around the globe. One cup of raw dandelion greens provides 535 percent of the RDA of vitamin K and 112 percent of the RDA for vitamin A. Dandelion greens are also a good source of vitamin C, calcium, iron, fiber, and potassium. Among all foods, it's one of the richest sources of vitamin A; among all green vegetables, it's one of the best sources of betacarotene.

cirrhosis. It's routinely prescribed as a natural treatment for hepatitis C, anemia, and liver detoxification (poor liver function has been linked to numerous conditions, from indigestion and hepatitis to irritability and depression). As a natural diuretic, dandelion supports the entire digestive system and increases urine output, helping flush toxins and excess salt from the kidneys. The naturally occurring potassium in dandelions helps prevent the loss of potassium that can occur with pharmaceutical diuretics.

Dandelion has been used for centuries to treat hepatitis, kidney, and liver disorders such as kidney stones, jaundice, and

Dandelion promotes digestive health by stimulating bile production, resulting in a gentle laxative effect.

Why Dandelion Is a Super-Healing Food


Inulin, a naturally occurring soluble fiber in dandelion, further aids digestion by feeding the healthy probiotic bacteria in the intestines; it also increases calcium absorption and has a beneficial effect on blood sugar levels, therefore being useful in treating diabetes. Both the dandelion leaves and root are used to treat heartburn and indigestion. The pectin in dandelion relieves constipation and, in combination with vitamin C, reduces cholesterol. Dandelion is excellent for reducing edema, bloating, and water retention; it can also help reduce high blood pressure. On top of all that, dandelion contains multiple antidiarrheal and antibacterial properties. 36 JOY FEELINGS!

In Chinese medicine, dandelion is used in combination with other herbs to treat hepatitis and upper respiratory tract infections such as bronchitis and pneumonia. The sap from the stem and root is a topical remedy for warts. Imagine -- all this from a lowly weed! How much: How much dandelion to incorporate into your diet boils down to two factors: availability and personal preference. Dandelion greens are considered a specialty item in some areas and therefore can be difficult to find. They also have a pungent taste, and people tend to love or hate the flavor. If you can find fresh dandelion greens and you enjoy the taste, make

them a regular part of your diet. Tip: 

Use the root in soups or saute it on its own.


If the raw leaves are too bitter for you, try them lightly steamed or sauteed.


Fruit is not only enjoyable to eat -- as it should be, considering the very word fruit stems from the Latin word frui, meaning "to enjoy, use" -- but it also nourishes and protects the 37 JOY FEELINGS!

body with powerful, builtin medicinal activity. Fruits are by design a "perfect food," intended to entice animals to consume them in order to help disseminate their seeds, for instance. This means that unlike grains, and other lectin- and antinutrient-rich organisms, e.g. wheat, tomato, beans, we humans have chosen to make into our food, fruits are less likely to come equipped with "invisible thorns," as they benefit as much in being eaten as we do in eating them. Also, like our now hardwired biological dependence on obtaining vitamin C from external sources (unlike most animals we can not produce it from glucose), countless millennia of fruit consumption has left

our genetic infrastructure in need of continual resupply of many of the key vitamins and phytocompounds they contain copious quantities of.

chemotoxic agent 5fluorouracil in killing cancer, in the animal model.

With this symbiotic relationship between fruitbearing plant and seeddisseminating animal in mind, the following healing fruit facts won't seem so unbelievable...

Watermelon – Hypertension: Watermelon contains amino acids, such as Lcitrulline, which help the blood vessels dilate naturally, countermanding endotheli al dysfunction and reducing blood pressure.

Grapefruit – Infection: The seeds of this fruit, at a dose of 5 to 6 every 8 hours for two weeks, have been shown effective in eradicating urinary tract infections, including drugresistant strains.

Cherry – Inflammation/Pain: Compounds within cherries known as anthrocyanins have been shown to be as effective as NSAID drugs in reducing pain and inflammation.

Pineapple – Cancer: The enzyme bromelain, extracted from pineapple, has been shown to be more potent that the

Lemon – Kidney Stones: Lemonade therapy has been shown to be a reasonable alternative for


patients with kidney stones. Papaya – Skin Ulcers: Used in Jamaica as a traditional medicine, new research indicates that topical application of unripe papaya fruit on chronic skin ulcers generates a positive response rate 72% of the time. Pomegranate – Hormones: Pomegranate is the fruiting ovary of the pomegranate plant, contains potent plant estrogens which do not stimulate unregulated cell proliferation, and may function as an ideal "back up" ovary for women's hormone health. Kiwifruit – Cholesterol – When used with hawthorn, kiwifruit extract was found to be superior to 39 JOY FEELINGS!

simvastatin (trade name Zocor) in lowering cholesterol in mice fed a high cholesterol diet. Cranberries – Cranberry: The extract of this berry has been shown as effective as the drug trimethoprim in the prevention of recurrent urinary tract infections in older women, without increasing the risk of antibiotic resistance/superinfection and/or fungal infection. Elderberry – Flu: If you are lucky enough to find elderberry on your produce stand, you will find that it has been used as a natural anti-respiratory infection remedy since ancient times. New research confirms that it contains flavonoids which compare favorably with the

antiviral drug Tamiflu at binding to and preventing H1N1 infection. Coconut – Gastric Ulcers: both the milk and the water of the coconut have been shown to have anti-ulcerogenic properties against NSAID druginduced mucosal erosion. Plantain – Diarrhea: Plantain has been used to treat diarrhea by traditional cultures as a folk medicine, but clinical research now confirms its value in the dietary management of persistent diarrhea in hospitalized children, in relation to diarrheal duration, weight gain and costs. Strawberries – Heart Disease: Many red fruits and berries have now been shown to be valuable for 40 JOY FEELINGS!

heart health, but strawberry is beginning to emerge as uniquely beneficial to cardiovascular health. Strawberry powder has been shown to improve the lipid profile and oxidative stress markers, and markers of atherosclerosis, in women with metabolic syndrome. Strawberry extract has also been shown to relax the lining of the blood vessels, which may reduce high blood pressure and disburden the heart muscle from over-exertion. Even the strawberry leaf extract has been shown to increase coronary artery blood flow in a manner similar to hawthorn extract.

This edition of sex and love will inspire you to be more confident and take control of your love life. 32 EMOTIONAL SIGNS THAT HE'S CHEATING

Anthony Weiner, politician and former Congressman, is in the news again after sexually suggestive photos he had sent a friend were printed 41 JOY FEELINGS!

in the New York Post. His wife, Huma Abedin, announced yesterday that she and Weiner are separating.

Though they're dealing with this crisis in the public eye, it's a situation many people find themselves in, at various stages of life. Think your mate might be having an affair? Find out if he is displaying any of the warning signals described by Raymond B. Green, a private investigator and former police officer, and Marcella Bakur, a psychology professor at Marymount Manhattan College. Here, the 32 emotional signs that he is having an affair: 1. Your mate is more attentive to your needs than usual. This is due to the guilt feelings experienced by the cheater in the early 42 JOY FEELINGS!

stages of his or her affair. The attention will diminish as the affair continues.

2. Your mate begins buying you gifts — lots of gifts. These are "guilt gifts" purchased because your partner feels guilty about betraying you and showering you with presents makes him or her feel better. 3. Your mate's behavior is causing a gut feeling in you that something isn't right. If this happens, pay attention to your instincts. Ignoring them means you want to blind yourself to the truth. You know your mate's habits, routines and

attitudes better than anybody, so be suspicious when these things change. 4. Your mate frequently picks fights with you. Doing this gives him reason to get mad and storm out of the house and thus the opportunity to meet a lover. A cheater may also do this because of mixed emotions he is feeling about betraying you. 5. Your mate constantly talks about your relationship ending when you fight or argue. She says things like, "What would you do if our relationship ended?" or "If anything ever happened to us, I would always love you like a friend." In general, she seems very negative about your 43 JOY FEELINGS!

relationship. Your mate makes these statements because she has a lover to fall back on if your relationship ends. If your partner repeats these kinds of statements often, be suspicious. 6. Your mate becomes very moody. He or she seems very upbeat and excited when leaving you but acts somber and depressed when around you. If your mate is in a long-term affair, he/she will try to keep both relationships running smoothly. Any problems the cheater has in one relationship will spill over into the other relationship as well. This is inevitable. 7. Your mate never talks to you.

You live together but don't interact. He has become cold and inconsiderate of your feelings. 8. Your mate's taste in music suddenly changes. For instance, she always listened to pop music but suddenly starts listening to country music. Your partner might be listening to and growing fond of this new type of music because her lover listens to it.


9. Your mate lacks selfesteem. This doesn't necessarily mean he will go out and have an affair, but an insecure individual often looks to others for guidance. If an insecure person's needs aren't being met, he might find the desired feelings of security and positive feedback in an affair with someone else.

10. Your mate continually criticizes another person. She is trying to make you think that type of individual would never be of interest to her, although there actually exists a secret attraction. 11. Your mate criticizes things about you that he or she once found attractive and appealing. 12. Your mate easily becomes offended at the comments, however harmless, that you make. 13. Your mate stops paying attention to you, your children and homelife in general. 14. Your mate begins closing doors when you are around, when before 45 JOY FEELINGS!

he or she would leave them open. For instance, the bathroom-door rule: Couples in long-term relationships often leave their bathroom doors open while attending to necessities even if their partners are nearby. As affairs develop, the cheating mates will close bathroom doors, distancing themselves physically and psychologically from their partners. 15. Your mate stops complimenting you on your looks. 16. Your mate stops saying, "I love you." 17. You mate acts guilty when you do something nice for him or her.

You are supposed to be the person who is making life miserable and the relationship untenable. By doing something nice, you force the cheater to think about what he or she is doing. 18. Your mate turns the table and accuses you of cheating but has no evidence. 19. Your mate would rather spend time with friends than be with you. 20. Your mate shows no interest in your relationship's future. 21. Your mate stops being affectionate. 22. Your mate is more interested in reading a book or watching television than talking 46 JOY FEELINGS!

with you or making love to you. 23. Your mate frequently talks about the problems a friend, neighbor, coworker, course instructor or classmate of the opposite sex is having. 24. Your mate begins using new catch phrases. Your mate also starts to tell types of jokes or express opinions that are unusual for him or her. 25. Your mate pays less and less attention to your children. They seem to sense something is wrong and don't seem to be as emotionally healthy or secure as they once were.

26. Your mate has been acting emotionally distant and withdrawn. But when you ask about it, he doesn't want to discuss it and becomes very protective of his privacy. 27. Your mate seems disinterested and distracted during sex. 28. Your mate talks in her sleep and mentions the name of a particular person on more than one occasion. 29. Your mate seems startled or confused when awakened. This uncertainty may be caused by not being sure which bedroom and which lover's bed he or she is in. 30. Your mate's behavior is such that your friends 47 JOY FEELINGS!

begin asking you what's wrong. Close friends and family members often will notice tension or discord between the two of you before you are fully aware of it. 31. Your mate easily becomes offended when you make normal and natural inquiries and may demand to know why you are checking up on him or her. 32. Your mate's sleeping pattern changes considerably from the norm. They may include unexplainable exhaustion, restlessness, frequent nightmares and sleeptalking.


Men aren’t the only ones who get to have a little fun with dirty pick-up lines at the local bar. Here’s how to make him yours with just a few words. There seems to be quite a common stereotype out there that men are the only ones who ever use pick-up lines to attract the opposite sex. I’m sure you’ve been in a bar, minding your own business when a man has walked up to you and dropped what has GOT to be the cheesiest line you’ve ever heard in an attempt you get you. 48 JOY FEELINGS!

There are tons and tons of funny memes circling the internet addressing terrible pick-up lines that, unfortunately, some guys really do use. But have you ever tried to use one on a man before? While it’s not as common for women to use pick-up lines on men, it does still happen. Men love your dirty pick-up lines Women have a reputation for being very coy when it comes to the dating scene. Most of us sit back and let the men come to us. But what if we took charge instead? What if us women threw a few pickup lines in their direction?

Let’s all give it a try. I challenge all women to step up their game and drop a few pick-up lines in a cute guy’s direction. If you’re stuck on which ones to use, these 40 dirty pick-up lines are a foolproof way to get their attention and make them stick around.

#4 Nice shirt! What’s it made out of, boyfriend material?

#1 Hey, what’s your name? I need to know what I’ll be screaming tonight.

#7 Those are some nice pants! Mind if I test the zipper?

#2 Well, hey there! I sure don’t need a spoonful of sugar to swallow you. #3 Are you a candle? Because I want to blow you.

#5 If I told you I worked for UPS, would you let me handle your package? #6 Kiss me if I’m wrong, but isn’t your name Richard?

#8 You look like a really hard worker. I have an opening you can fill. #9 You’re pretty cute. But do you know what would make your face look better? If I sat on it. #10 Do you want to give me an Australian kiss? It’s


like a French kiss, but down under. #11 I’m not wearing any socks. And I have the underwear to match. #12 Do you know what would look really good on you? Me. #13 Are you David Beckham? Because I’d bend for you. #14 I might be wasted tonight, but the condom in my purse doesn’t have to be. #15 You’re the opposite of my homework in high school. *How?* I actually want to do you all night long. #16 *Asks your name* They call me “The 50 JOY FEELINGS!

Truth,”• because quite frankly, people just can’t handle me � #17 If I would’ve known I’d be getting this wet tonight, I would’ve worn my bikini. #18 Breathe if you want to have sex with me tonight. #19 You’re definitely on my to-do list tonight. #20 You look familiar. Have we had sex before? *No* Well, we should. #21 Those pants look great on you. But they’d look even better on my floor. #22 Want to make a porno? We don’t have to tape it.

#23 *What’s your name?* My name is _______, but you can call me tonight. #24 You know what would look really good on you? *What?* Me. #25 Screw me if I’m wrong, but haven’t we met before? #26 Can I borrow a kiss? I swear I’ll give it back. #27 I was feeling a little off today, but you managed to turn me on.

#30 You remind me of my pinky toe because I’m going to bang you on every piece of furniture imaginable. #31 Hey! Do you want to do 68? *What?* You go down on me, and I owe you #32 Do you think it’s loud in here? *Yeah, it is!* Do you want to use my thighs as earmuffs? #33 Roses are red. Violets are fine. I’ll be the 6, if you’ll be my 9.

#28 Let’s play Titanic! When I say “iceberg,”• you go down.

#34 Is there a mirror in your pocket? Because I can see myself in your pants.

#29 Are you feeling a little down? I can help feel you up.

#35 We’re like hot chocolate and marshmallows. You’re


hot, and I want to be on top of you. #36 Let’s play carpenter. First we’ll get hammered, and then you’ll nail me. #37 Do you like whales? Because we could go hump back at my place. #38 Is it hot in here or is it just you? #39 I’m not much of a wine girl. I prefer moans �


#40 Are you a fireman? Because you came in hot and left me wet. Using dirty pick-up lines isn’t for every woman, but if you can manage to get some of these out, I can assure you that you’ll be in for an entertaining night.


There's a difference between making love and having sex. You may be nervous at the thought of learning how to 53 JOY FEELINGS!

have amazing, passionate sex with a man, but you shouldn't be.

1. You need to feel comfortable first

In this guide, I'm going to show you exactly how to make love to a man in a way that is super easy and takes all the pressure off you. More importantly, you will learn how to truly enjoy this mind-blowing, emotional sex, too.

We're not talking about the bed or couch here. The single most important thing that you need to take care of before having sex is making sure that you're totally comfortable with what's about to happen.

Of course, you're probably wondering what the difference is between "making love" and "having sex." IS there actually a difference. This hilarious video by YouTuber Arielle Scarcella does a pretty good job explaining:

If you've never had sex before, then you will understandably be nervous and hopefully a little excited. Trust me, feeling comfortable with him is the only way you'll feel safe enough to let go.

OK, moving on to our how-to guide. Let's start from the very beginning ... 54 JOY FEELINGS!

However, if you aren't excited about making love or if you even have the smallest, niggling doubt, then hold off on sex with your man completely.

You should never, ever feel pressured into getting intimate.

While you may hope that he can just "read the signs" you need to also verbally express how you feel. So before you attempt to make love to a man, make sure that you've found one that actually cares about you and respects you. I know this part is not exactly the most exciting,


but the other important aspect of being comfortable is being safe. Whatever you do, don't take any risks whatsoever. So for most people, this also means making sure that your man wears a condom.

2. Understand that it's not just sex — it's a connection on a deeper level.

There is an absolutely massive difference between learning how to make love to a man and just "knockin' boots". Making love is about getting closer to your man and connecting with him, both physically and mentally. But just hooking up with a guy for the sake of it is completely different. Hooking up is more about lust and just getting off. When you are making love with someone, you can go fast or slow, but you will always be paying attention to them. In many ways making love to a guy is a way to show him just how much you care about him. While it's obviously a bonus if you orgasm, you are going to be just as 56 JOY FEELINGS!

focused with making sure that he gets off too. So if you really want to learn how to make love to a guy and connect with him, don't think so much about climaxing as quickly as possible. Think more along the lines of slow, passionate grinding, caressing and embracing. But making love is not just about intercourse. There are a lot of other "loving" things that you can do to your man like massaging him, kissing him and even going down on him.

3. Skin-to-skin contact is crucial for intimacy. Like I just said, learning how to make love to your man is about connecting

with him. Ideally you want to connect with him on as many levels as possible — emotionally, physically and even spiritually. The best, simplest way to connect with him in all these ways is to make as much body contact with him as possible. This is why positions like the missionary position, the coital alignment technique, and spooning are perfect as both of your bodies are


in almost full contact with each other. But just lying on top of each other or beside each other is merely the tip of the iceberg when having sex. You can hold your man's hands and interlock fingers, or you can both physically embrace by putting your arms around each other and hugging each other.

4. Kissing intensifies your bond.

Another very important technique to use when figuring out how to make love to a man is kissing. I'm not talking about regular kissing techniques like a peck on the cheek, or using your tongue like a washing machine — I'm talking about kissing your man with passion.


So kiss your man with both intensity and tenderness. Slowly and gently suck on his lips with yours. Hold his head with your hands while you kiss him. Grab his hair. Bury your head in his neck as you kiss him. Kiss him in a way that shows him how you truly care about him.

5. Telling each other how you feel helps you understand and connect. Letting him know how much you care about him and him doing the same to you is something that will really help you to connect more deeply. It's also important to speak up during sex and let your man know what you like and what feels good. Moans can also work as a signal that you love what he's doing as well as guiding his hand or head to where you'd like it to go. While making love to your man, dirty talk can also massively intensify things if you tell each 59 JOY FEELINGS!

other how you feel about each other. But don't go there unless you've been dating each other for quite a while and both feel really strongly about each other.

HERE ARE 5 WAYS YOU CAN MAKE LOVE TO YOUR PARTNER WITHOUT HAVING SEX: 1. BUILD A STRONG FRIENDSHIP. Good relationships don’t just happen over night. They require mutual love,

trust and respect. Creating a strong foundation as friends, who share everything, will enhance sexual pleasures at a later time in your union. The act of allowing and acceptance is a beautiful bond in human sexuality. Feeling safe is foreplay. When you know your partner has your back and your best intentions you feel happy. This leads to the release of the love hormone called oxytocin. Oxytocin creates a sense of happiness and well-being. This hormone is associated with empathy and trust, therefore releasing even more feelings of love and security in a relationship. Friends don’t require sex. They require acknowledgment, 60 JOY FEELINGS!

understanding and mutual admiration. You cultivate love through the depth of a strong friendship. 2. CONNECT THROUGH FOOD. There is something arousing when someone you love cooks for you. To have a meal prepared with love is a true turn on. Women love men who cook. And it is said that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Even if you cannot cook, just picking out a meal at a restaurant and enjoying the moment together is enough to feel good. Food connects us through cultures, heritage, and social events. We need it for health and fueling our bodies.

Try taking a cooking class together. Make dessert for one another. Turn off all phones, get a glass of wine and enjoy the culinary arts. The simple act of feeding is stimulating and

arousing. “Food is symbolic to love when words are inadequate.� ~ Dr. Alan D. Wolfelt

Share a bucket list of things you want to do with each other. Finding ways to interact outside of the bedroom is romantic. You

can hike in the rain, chase a sunset, or take an art class in town. Make time to do the things that you like to do alone and share



them with your partner. Teach each other new things. Read to one another. Have playtime and a picnic in the park. Go to a baseball game. Go roller skating and return to places that you enjoyed in your youth. Being silly and laughing with each other is precious. Sharing these parts of yourself enhances your emotional connection. Exercising together can be sexy. You are interacting in a physical level that also mimics the actions of sex. Your union will be stronger because you are sharing what you love. 4. BE VULNERABLE AND OPEN UP ABOUT YOUR DREAMS AND FEARS. 62 JOY FEELINGS!

Research professor for the University of Houston, Dr. Brene Brown, has dedicated the past thirteen years to researching vulnerability, courage and shame. She has found that,“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” Being able to mentally bond is a huge release to our emotional and physical bodies. Ask questions about the past and present.

Get to know each other by breaking down the barriers of embarrassment and shame. Be courageous with one another about those things that scare you. To fully give of

yourself to another requires the expansion of vulnerability. It forces you to put down your walls and give all of yourself.

Cuddling, kissing, snuggling and hugging are all forms of physical connections that are needed in relationships. There are also ways of mentally stimulating your partner with a love letter, a handmade note, or just a post-it note on a mirror.

Sending a sweet playful text during the day creates a feeling of sentimental devotion.



There are ways to be physical without having intercourse. A back massage, a nice foot rub, or even the stroking of

your partner’s arm while watching television is enough to send those hormones into the love canal. We feel loved when we are touched. We feel wanted when we receive kind words of encouragement from a partner. Affection is a point of contact that enhances emotional, spiritual and physical relief.

How To Have Sex With More Intimacy And Less Boredom

1. Explain your desires in greater detail 64 JOY FEELINGS!

It sounds like your boyfriend doesn’t fully understand what you mean by intimacy, so try sharing more details about what you want. You might say something along the lines of, “I want to feel like you’re here with me when we’re having sex. Sometimes it feels like you’re off somewhere else mentally. I don’t need you to be really slow or gentle, I just want to feel like it’s you and me having sex together.” Try reading some of the suggestions from this article to him, and have him pick the two he’s most interested in trying. Ask him what his experience is like when he’s having sex; it would be interesting to see if he

feels disconnected too. The act of having this conversation in and of itself will naturally create more intimacy between the two of you. 2. Minimize disruptions

It’s hard to be intimate with each other when your cell phones are buzzing or you’re trying to be quiet so your roommates don’t hear. Try to set yourselves up for success by creating a distraction-free atmosphere. Make your bedroom comfortable and inviting. Turn off electronics, lock your door, and kick pets out of the room. 3. Make the moments before (and after) sex intimate too 65 JOY FEELINGS!

Try to create intimacy before the two of you start having sex. Lots of people need time to unwind and relax before they’re ready to be intimate. Spend time talking to each other and making each other laugh. Take your time working up to intercouse, and don’t start until you feel connected. After you’ve had sex, keep holding each other, and talk about what you really liked about that particular session. 4. Play the stop-and-go game One way you and your boyfriend can practice being more present with each other is to play a little game called stopand-go. Every time you

feel your boyfriend drifting off, gently say “stop.” You both have to immediately stop whatever you were doing and focus on trying to connect with each other. When it feels like he’s more present, say "go," and resume your activities. Your boyfriend gets to call “stop” and “go” at his discretion too. You can make this feel like a sexy, teasing game, and it sure serves as a good incentive to learning how to be more present! 5. Talk to each other during sex Being more vocal is a great way to usher yourselves into the present moment. You can share the things you’re enjoying, for example, “wow, this 66 JOY FEELINGS!

position is hitting all the right spots for me.” You can talk about your feelings, like, “I love having sex with you” or “I feel so close to you right now.” You can playfully tease each other with inside jokes. You can also use your words to gently call back his attention, like, “hey, where’d you just go?” 6. Change positions If your boyfriend is jackhammering away, it can be easy for him to get lost in the rhythm and start to space out. He may also be going somewhere else mentally to try to distract himself from orgasming too quickly. Regularly changing your position, speed, or thrusting pattern will help bring his

attention back into the moment. If you sense him starting to go somewhere else mentally, take the lead and ask to get on top for a while. Keep in mind that certain positions are more conducive to intimacy than others. It’s hard to feel very connected to your partner when you’re bent over the bed in doggystyle! Try positions where your bodies are close and you’re able to hold each other. Missionary is usually a good bet, or you can try climbing onto his lap and having both of you sit up. 7. Make eye contact Eye contact is one of the fastest ways to feel intimate. Looking 67 JOY FEELINGS!

someone in the eye and having them return your gaze can be a deeply vulnerable and connecting experience. Try kissing each other while keeping your eyes open, or maintaining eye contact as you touch each other. You can also try to make eye contact (even if just for a second!) while you’re orgasming. 8. Try something new together When you experiment with something you’ve never tried before, you’re naturally prevented from going into autopilot. You have to pay attention to what you’re doing, walk each other through it, and give feedback. You can try a new position or sex toy, incorporate some

kink, or talk about a specific fantasy. Plus, trying new things together is a sure-fire way to prevent boredom. 9. Touch each other more It may sound silly to recommend touching each other during sex, but a lot of couples don’t actively try to touch each other when they’re being intimate. Make a conscious effort to stroke each other’s arms, backs, chests, and faces while you’re being intimate. You can also take brief breaks from intercourse to focus on just touching each other. 10. Don’t try to force intimacy every time Sex comes in a thousand different flavors. You’re 68 JOY FEELINGS!

not always going to have the right conditions for intimacy, and that’s totally OK! Sometimes sex can be just about getting off. Other times it can be about relieving stress. If you don’t put pressure on you and your boyfriend to have deeply intimate sex every single time, you’ll find that those moments will emerge more naturally. 11. Readjust your expectations Sex in the movies is a far cry from sex in real life. Try to remember that movies and TV shows are entertainment, and aren’t even trying to accurately portray sex. It’s perfectly fine to want to feel more connected to your boyfriend, but don’t

expect Titanic-style sex every time. Instead, focus on finding your own unique kind of intimacy with your boyfriend. Think about what feels intimate between you and your boyfriend, rather than picturing Jack and Rose. Nurture inside jokes, favorite positions, and your own ways of connecting. That said, that scene holds up.




2017: February Love Issue


2017: February Love Issue

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