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JFS, JF&CS Merger Announced
local news Holocaust Commemoration
Community is invited to a reading of the Megillat HaShoah (Holocaust 2 Scroll)
From left to right, Sy Friedland, Pam Arseneau and Robert Cashman.
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Charlotte Bromberg, outgoing president of the Jack Satter House Tenants Association, passes the gavel to incoming president, Joe Young.
Residents Create Kibbutz-Like Atmosphere at the Jack Satter House
Jewish Family Service of the North Shore (JFSNS) and Jewish Family & Children’s Service of Greater Boston (JF&CS) have announced they are merging, effective January 31, 2011. For several years, both parties have been considering joining forces. JFSNS is a non-profit social service agency that has served the North Shore, from Lynn to Cape Ann, for 114 years. JF&CS is one of the largest non-profits in the nation, and has been serving the Greater Boston region for more than 150 years.
With a similar mission and many parallel programs, the two organizations share a strong synergy. Many consider the merger is a “win-win” for the two agencies, which both stand to benefit from the partnership. According to JFSNS Interim Chief Executive Pamela Arseneau LICSW, her 11-member Board voted unanimously on January 11 to move forward with the merger. JF&CS CEO Sy Friedland said the vote by his 38-member board, taken the same evening, was also unanimous. Arseneau expects JFSNS, and the entire North Shore community, to continued on page 25
Former Salem Resident Was Mentored by Giffords in Tucson
Tracking Politician’s Votes
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Editor’s note: This is part two of a multi-part series on active senior living options. REVERE — When the Jack Satter House opened 32 years ago, Elaine Finklestein of Chelsea was there, working in the office. Last week, when the snow was so deep that employees had trouble getting to work, Finklestein, a resident for the last 11 years, was there again — willing to pitch in as she does several times per week. With a kibbutz-like feel, residents of the Jack Satter House pitch in for the greater good as a way of life, volunteering for all sorts of chores. The Jack Satter House is a subsidized, independent living complex for seniors age 62 and over, sponsored by the Boston-based nonprofit Hebrew SeniorLife. “One of the hallmarks is the volunteer tradition. When we opened in 1978, we created a community by getting people involved in helping to create activities and organize events, rather than depending on management for everything,” said Executive Director Stephen Post. Though not everyone chooses to get involved, those who do believe it helps keep them young. Norma Siegel, president of Congregation 420, the building’s synagogue, also works at the front desk and runs Bingo games. “I’m not at all retired. I believe that keeping busy and involved is more important than sitting around and reading, though I do that too,” Siegel said. The Jack Satter House Tenants Association has a full board of officers, and representation from each floor of the building’s 266 units. Last week Charlotte Bromberg, who has served as president for the last four years, passed the gavel to Joe Young in a ceremony attended by residents, local dignitaries and officials from Hebrew SeniorLife. Mayor Thomas Ambrosino said, “The Jack Satter House represents the highest ideals of civic-mindedness and service.” Located on Revere Beach, the Satter House has been an oasis for seniors seeking an affordable, active community. Residents pay rent 30 percent of their gross monthly income for rent, less medical expenses. The average rent is about $450/month for a one-bedroom apartment that includes heat
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Former Tucson State Representative Lena Saradnik (on left) and Congresswoman Gabrielle Giffords.
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When Lena Saradnik, a volunteer on several local Democratic campaigns, moved from Salem to Tucson, Ariz. in 2002, she was not planning to launch her own political career. But one thing led to another, and she became a state representative.
Congresswoman Gabrielle Giffords, who was recently shot in Tucson, was a political mentor of Saradnik. Ironically, Saradnik represented District 26, where the shooting took place. A former member of Salem’s Temple Shalom and the JCCNS, The Saradniks moved to Tucson after her continued on page 25
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North Shore to Commemorate International Holocaust Remembrance Day BEVERLY — The community is invited to commemorate the Holocaust with a reading of the Megillat HaShoah, the Holocaust Scroll, on International Holo caust Remembrance Day, Thursday, January 27. The program is sponsored by The Holocaust Center Boston North, and will be held at Temple B’nai Abraham, 200 East Lothrop St. in Beverly, beginning at 7 p.m. The Megillat HaShoah is a powerful text that tells the story, in brief, of the Holocaust, com memorating and memorializ ing the millions of lives lost to
International Holocaust Remembrance Day occurs on January 27 because on that date, in 1945, Auschwitz was liberated.
this tragic event. Reading the Holocaust Scroll is one way to ensure that the lessons of the
Holocaust are not lost, and the victims are not forgotten. Declared by the U.N. General Assembly in November 2005, International Holocaust Remembrance Day occurs on January 27, and is the first universal commemoration in memory of the victims of the Holocaust. The significance of January 27 is that it is the date in 1945 when Auschwitz, the larg est death camp, was liberated. This is the second year the Megillat HaShoah will be read in the North Shore. Last year, nearly 200 people turned out.
Books About Terezin Keep its Memory Alive Jessica Chmara Jewish Journal Staff
he poignant and moving poems in “Requiem: Poems of the Terezin Ghetto” are a memorial to the brave Jews of Terezin, a Czech collec tion and transport camp located outside of Prague during World War II. Terezin, or Theresien stadt, as the Nazis renamed the town in the fall of 1941, was unlike other concen tration camps. Hitler con Requiem: Poems of vinced the world that he the Terezin Ghetto had constructed a city to Paul B. Janeczko protect the Jews from the Candlewick Press, 2011 harshness of the war. He even made a film to docu ment how he had created a safe haven for promi nent musicians, artists and writers. He then forced inmates to engage in the arts as a propaganda tool to further the Nazi cause. In reality, it was an illusion. book Terezin was merely a way station for Jews awaiting transport to the gas bytes chambers. Before being liberated in the spring of 1945, 140,000 men, women and children who passed through the gates of Terezin were killed. Paul B. Janeczko wrote this collection of dark, powerful poems as a requiem to those imprisoned at Terezin. They are based on historical events and imagination. The characters are mostly fictitious composites from his research. The book’s dramatic illustrations are authentic
pieces of artwork created by Terezin inmates and found after the war. They are a profound testa ment to the dismal and horrific life that those prisoners were forced to endure. The poems in this book give a voice to the thousands of inno cent victims whose commitment to the arts and culture in the face of such cruelty and adversity is a testament to their strength and courage.
his thorough and indepth look at the his tory of Terezin is a per fect way for young adults to learn about the atroci ties that occurred in this Nazi transit camp during World War II. Told through the voices and artwork of inmates, “Terezin: Voices from the Holocaust” gives children the opportunity to Terezin: Voices from see what living conditions the Holocaust were really like for Jewish Ruth Thomson Candlewick Press, prisoners. 2011 This carefully researched book is filled with stories from survivors of Terezin, as well as diary entries, excerpts from memoirs, and even recordings taken after the war. Readers will learn the his tory of Terezin, what ghetto life was like, how transports occurred, and even what the culture of the camp was like. Complete with a timeline, authentic artwork, photographs and memorabilia from prisoners, readers can fully comprehend the horrific conditions and lives that these innocent Jews were forced to endure. The author leaves no stone unturned to make sure that we never forget these innocent victims.
The service is appropriate for adults and children ages 12 and older. The program is free, and people of all faiths are invited to attend. “You will leave the service a different person,” said David Moldau, one of the program’s co-chairs. Joining Moldau as co-chairs of this year’s program are Deborah Coltin and Deb Vozella. For further information, contact Deb Vozella at 978-927-3211 or email deb.vozella@tbabeverly. org.
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New Website Teaches Youths About The Holocaust
New York, N.Y. — Coming of Age Now, Coming of Age in the Holocaust (comingof agenow.org) is a new, multimedia website to introduce middle and high school stu dents and educators to the stories of young people who survived the Holocaust. This free website, to be launched on International Holocaust Remembrance Day, will help students cre ate a personal connection to history, and discover the rel evance to our world today. Ivy Barsky, Deputy Director of the Museum of Jewish Heritage, said, “As Holocaust survivors age and leave us, we created this meaningful cur riculum to keep their voices alive and to retain the power of their stories for young peo ple coming of age today.” The Coming of Age cur riculum includes 13 stories to help students learn about the Holocaust through per sonal narratives. Students will hear directly from survivors through video testimony, and will read about their lives before, during, and after the Holocaust.
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New Jewish Journal Column Will Track Congressional Voting fine print. The column will focus on our representatives on Capitol Hill, and we will follow major developments on Beacon Hill. As this is the introductory column, here is some background on our elected officials.
On the RecORd Jack Zietman
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During this past election cycle, it became evident that Jewish Journal readers were extremely interested in how our elected representatives stand on international, national and local issues. While such information is public and available online, host sites such as The Washington Post’s Votes Database, GovTrack. us and VoteSmart.org offer a bewildering array of figures that are often difficult to decipher. With that in mind, the Jewish Journal is proud to unveil this new column — On the Record. Each month, we will post how our elected officials in Massachusetts voted in the preceding four weeks on issues concerning Israel and the Middle East. We will also examine their stands on prominent civil rights and tax issues. We aim to track our elected federal, state and local representatives’ votes in their respective chambers, and on the committees they serve. While it is not our intention to focus on general procedural votes or very individualized local issues, we are open to suggestions from readers. We want to stress, however, that the purpose of On the Record is to consolidate information — not to comment upon it. Our readers can debate the issues on our website at jewishjournal.org, or send letters to the editor. Whenever possible, we will attempt to summarize the legislation and committee proceedings, and will link to bill text in the online edition of the column for those who want to read the
Democrat John Kerry has served in the U.S. Senate since 1985. His present term ends in 2014. Called a congressional “leader” by GovTrack.us based on his history of authoring popular legislation, Kerry has been a strong liberal advocate for foreign, domestic and economic issues. He chairs the Senate Committee on Foreign Relations and is a member of the Committee on Commerce, Science and Transportation, the Committee on Finance, and the Committee on Small Business and Entrepreneurship. He is a member of various subcommittees within the above, including the Finance Subcommittee on Health Care. He also serves on the Subcommittee on Oceans, Atmosphere, Fisheries and Coast Guard within the Committee on Commerce, Science and Transportation. Contact Kerry through his website, kerry.senate.gov/contact/.
Scott Brown Republican Senator Scott Brown was elected in January 2010 to fill the late Ted Kennedy’s seat. The only Republican to represent Massachusetts in Congress since 1997, Brown’s term expires in 2012. Brown is a member of Senate Committees on Armed Services, Homeland Security and Governmental Affairs, and Veterans’ Affairs. He sits on numerous subcommittees within these, including the Armed Services Subcommittee on Emerging Threats and Capabilities. Brown has not
Journal Welcomes New Sales Rep The Jewish Journal welcomes Leslie Noymer, of Andover, who is joining the staff as advertising representative for the Merrimack Valley. Noymer, holds a master’s in education from Boston University and a bachelor’s degree in edu- Leslie Noymer cation from SUNY Cortland. She previously worked in sales for Agfa. The Jewish Journal is increasing circulation in the Merrimack Valley and Noymer will to help facilitate the expansion. “I love what the staff has done with the paper. It is so contemporary, and it’s a pleasure to work here. I’m proud to show it off, and very excited to join the team.” A member of Temple Emanuel in Andover, Noymer has lived in the Merrimack Valley for 20 years with her husband and two children.
Services, where he often acted as a bridge between dueling liberals and conservatives through the sub-prime mortgage collapse. In January 3, 2011, when Republicans took majority in the House, Frank was succeeded as chairman of this committee by Alabama Republican Spencer
voted strictly along party lines, voting in favor of financial reform last summer and, during the recent lame duck session, to repeal “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” rules in the military. The senator has described himself as socially moderate and fiscally conservative. Constituents may contact Brown through his website, scottbrown.senate.gov/public/.
Bachus. Contact Barney Frank at house.gov/frank/. On the Record welcomes readers to email ontherecord@ jewishjournal.org with questions, comments or requests for information.
John Tierney Democratic Congressman John Tierney represents the Sixth District, which includes the North Shore from Lynn to Amesbury, and some inland towns such as Burlington and Bedford. He has represented this district since 1997, during which time he has been a strong advocate for green energy, education and health care reform, and has been described by CQ’s Politics in America as “an unwavering liberal.” Tierney sits on the House Committee on Education and Labor, the House Committee on Oversight and Government Reform (for which he is chairman of the Subcommittee on National Security and Foreign Affairs), and the House Permanent Select Committee on Intelligence. Though surrounded by controversy during the recent election due to his wife’s conviction of tax fraud, U.S. District Court Judge William G. Young insisted that Tierney “is not implicated in this in any way, shape or form.” Constituents may contact him at forms.house.gov/tierney/ webform/issue_subscribe.htm.
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Democrat Edward Markey has served as congressman for the Seventh District, comprising the areas west and northwest of Boston, since 1975. Dedicated to energy and environmental issues, he chairs the House Select Committee on Energy Independence and Global Warming. He also sits on the House Committees on Energy and Commerce and on Natural Resources. Voters can email him at markey.house.gov/.
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Israeli Firefighter Rallies Against Antiquated Equipment
Moshe Geffen, Who Battled the Recent Fire in the Carmel Mountains, Appeals to Americans For Help Susan Jacobs Jewish Journal Staff
An Israeli firefighter who was on the frontline in the recent disaster that claimed 42 lives and burned acres of land in Northern Israel is distressed about the old, dilapidated equipment they are forced to use. “We are stuck with fire engines that can’t go up a hill, masks that are worn out and can’t take the heat, and pumps that don’t work,” said Moshe Geffen, a respected 34-year-old commander of Israel’s Kiryat Malachi Fire Brigade. “Israel is known for its technology, but when it comes to firefighting, we’re way behind,” said Geffen, adding “it makes us feel helpless. We give our maximum and are willing to sacrifice our lives. We want our equipment to work.” Geffen bears a facial scar from a burn because a mask didn’t protect him at a recent factory
fire. He maintains that Israeli firefighters need newer tools, updated rescue kits and more modern trucks. According to Geffen, a certified EMT who has served in the Israeli Defense Forces, the country’s antiquated equipment has caused deadly consequences. He personally knew Danny Chayat, one of two firefighters who lost their lives battling the 2010 blaze in Northern Israel. “Danny was driving an old
truck from 1984 that had only 130 horsepower, which is the same as any car in the street. It was loaded down with water, and could not move fast enough,” said Geffen, pointing out that the engine was headed uphill, trying to save a busload of Israeli prison guards. “The truck couldn’t even reach 45 mph. All the odds were against Danny,” Geffen lamented. As soon as he heard about the fire ravishing the Carmel Mountains, Geffen, a married father of four, immediately volunteered to go up north and help fight it. He essentially worked non-stop, from Thursday through Monday, with no sleep, showers or change of clothes. “We had all served in the army, and knew that retreating was not an option,” said Geffen, recalling that some of the exhausted crew fell asleep on top of their engine, in full gear, with their helmets over their heads. With the fire creeping so close that
they could feel the heat on the back of their necks, Geffen and his colleagues were hampered by old Walkie Talkies that couldn’t hold a charge, and hose nozzles that didn’t fit properly. Geffen, born Moshe Gopin in Brookline in 1976, made aliyah to Israel with his family at age four. Although he has lived in Israel for three decades, he came to the United States on behalf of the Jewish National Fund to discuss the recent tragedy and solicit donations for new equipment. By phone from Boston, Geffen reported that Israel’s entire budget last year for purchasing new vehicles and equipment for the entire country was just $5 million. New mini pumpers cost $250,000 each, regular fire trucks run $500,000 each, and engine ladder trucks cost $1.5 million each. He says the Israeli government will match any funds raised, dollar-for-dollar. He acknowledges that the fire
was a huge tragedy, and much of the international attention focused on the environmental devastation. Yet Geffen is convinced that the charred forest will regenerate itself. “We’ve had a rainy spring, and the storms have washed away a lot of the black. The forest will re-grow and come back,” he asserts. Geffen is also not overly concerned about property loss in the region. “Insurance will pay, so the houses can be fixed up,” he remarked. His biggest concern is the loss of innocent lives — lives he believes might have been saved if Israeli firefighters had better equipment. Readers can contribute online at jnf.org, or mail checks to Jewish National Fund, 77 Franklin St., Suite 514, Boston, MA 02110. For further information, call Deborah Budd at 617-423-0999 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.
Tu B’Shvat Seder Celebrates Environmental Awareness Ina Resnikoff Special to the Journal
SALEM — What can be more refreshing for the winter weary than a celebration of the New Year of the Trees! Temple Shalom of Salem, and the LynnMarblehead-Swampscott chapter of Hadassah, are co-sponsoring a Tu B’Shvat seder on January 22 at 1:15 p.m. at the temple. The event is open to the community. Across the world, Jews com-
memorate Tu B’Shvat as one of four New Year’s celebrations mentioned in the Mishnah. In Israel, the flowering of the almond tree, which grows wild across the country, occurs in late January/early February, and Israelis feast on Biblical treats like dates, figs, raisins, carob and almonds. In the mid 1600’s, Rabbi Yitzchak Luria of Safed initiated the Tu B’Shvat seder with the idea of bringing communities together around harvest issues.
Traditional fruits were assigned symbolic meaning, and eaten in a prescribed order to create harmony and cohesion. The concept of the Tu B’Shvat seder has been widely revived, using the holiday as a way to focus on environmental awareness and sustainability. Temple Shalom Hazzan Idan Irelander will lead the Tu B’Shvat service, which will follow regular Sabbath services on January 22. He will be assisted by Roberta Kalechofsky, co-author
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of “The Jewish Vegetarian Year Cookbook (Micha Publications). Kalechofsky will supervise the preparation of the seder. The event is free, but organizers are requesting a donation to the Jewish National Fund to help restore and reforest northern Israel. Temple Shalom is located at 287 Lafayette St. in Salem. To reserve a space, call 978-7414880.
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Globetrotting With the Journal
here’s a reason we are known as Wandering Jews. We travel the world! We recently invited readers of the Jewish Journal to schlep copies of the paper with them on their next trip. We have been happily overwhelmed with submissions! Below are some members of
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our community, globetrotting with the Journal. We will keep this feature going. Bring a copy of the Journal with you on your next excursion, have someone snap a picture of you holding it, and your picture may be chosen to appear in the paper! Jews are on the move. Show us your Journal!
Jim and Judy Sherman of Marblehead just got back from a transatlantic cruise and shared their copy of the Journal with several friends. At left, Christ the Redeemer reads the Journal over Judy Sherman’s shoulder in Rio de Janeiro. Below, an ape on the Rock of Gibraltar checks out the headlines.
Israeli Tourism: There’s an App for That JERUSALEM (JTA) — Israel’s Tourism Ministry launched an iPhone application to make visits in the country easier. The application will find the user’s location and allow him or her to receive fast and updated information on sites, tours, accommodations and events taking place in Israel. The system, in English and
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Local Chefs to Showcase Jewish Recipes Getting More Nutritional Bang From Every Bite at ‘Beyond Bubbie’s Kitchen’ Event BOSTON — Some of the Boston area’s most talented chefs will put a new twist on traditional Jewish dishes at the second annual “Beyond Bubbie’s Kitchen” on January 30. The event is being presented by Prism, the New Center for Arts and Culture’s young professional initiative. Chef Michael Schlow of Radius and Via Matta will guide the audience through the evening, as 15 chefs prepare their take on classic Jewish cuisine. Those attending the event will taste each chef’s unique creation, learn more about the cuisine and culture it represents, and take home a book of recipes. Last year’s sold-out event was centered around Rosh Hashanah and featured popular dishes like Ming Tsai’s “brisket potstickers.” This year’s event will feature cookbook author and expert on Jewish food, Joan Nathan, whose latest book, “Quiches, Kugels, and Couscous: My Search for Jewish Cooking in France” features more than 200 recipes and their stories. Participating chefs include Josh Ziskin of La Morra, Jeremy Sewall of Eastern Standard/ Lineage, Julio de Haro of Estragon, Michael Leviton of Lumiere, Tony Maws of Craigie on Main, Diana Kudayarova and
It may be true that “You are what you eat” — but knowing what to eat can be confusing. There’s so much nutritional information out there that it’s easy to get overwhelmed. For those who have felt confused or frustrated trying to sort out nutritional information, take note. The following nutrient basics and dietary tips can help you start eating better today.
Michael Schlow, owner of Via Matta in Boston, speaks with Lara Gavigan and Julio de Haro of Estragon restaurant in Boston. Estragon participated in last year’s event, and will do so again this year.
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Cape Ann Congregation Seeks Past Members and Memories Sandie Horwitz Special to the Journal
GLOUCESTER — In the early morning hours on December 15, 2007, members of Temple Ahavat Achim in Gloucester learned that their beloved 180-year-old temple was gone. During the night, a fire that started in the apartment building next door had spread, and the temple was in ashes by dawn. A few hours later, hundreds of congregants and members of the community crowded into the nearby Unitarian Universalist Church. Expressing their grief and disbelief, they joined in prayers led by Rabbi Samuel Barth, and watched as a solemn procession of local firemen carried in what little was found in the building: a few tattered
yarmulkes and prayer shawls, a small pile of charred books, a broken, antique Chanukah menorah, and several brass plaques. Everything else had been destroyed. The temple building was insured for $1.5 million. The cost of rebuilding in 2008 was estimated at $5-10 million. No one knew if, how, or when the temple would ever be rebuilt. The small staff and several volunteers set up a makeshift office in the basement of a nearby building where temple co-president Carole Sharoff ran her real estate business. As they tried to piece together whatever information they had — some data remained on a laptop the secretary had taken home over the weekend of the fire — an amazing thing happened: dona-
tions began pouring in from around the world. Teachers took up collections and mailed them with students’ letters expressing sympathy; teens sent checks from their bar and bat mitzvah gifts; charitable foundations donated generously. Nearly $500,000 was raised in unsolicited funds. In addition, prayer books, torahs, tallit and furniture were offered and accepted. A larger temporary space was rented, and within months, the board of directors initiated a process for rebuilding. On a mostly cloudy afternoon this past April, the congregation held a groundbreaking ceremony for an anticipated opening of the new temple by the spring of 2011.
The almost-completed new building has emerged in the same spot where the previous temple stood — a contemporary, green building. Is it too modern for the neighborhood? Too ostentatious? Not befitting a religious institution? Not surprisingly, everyone has an opinion. But in March, Temple Ahavat Achim will move into its new home, and sometime before Rosh Hashanah, there will be a dedication. Soon after that, members will bury a time capsule on the property to represent what came before. A history committee is currently collecting written memories, oral histories and miscellaneous memorabilia for the time capsule. They also seek photographs and other artifacts for a library/archive in the new build-
ing. The committee is looking for people whose families once lived on Cape Ann and might have belonged to the congregation. In particular, they seek the whereabouts of Myrna Chernick, Harold or Barbara Oginz, Arnold or Gerald Parker, Barbara Wallace, Suzanne or Tony Wine, Charlotte Greenberg, Susan Greenbaum, Merry Levy, Steven Bloom, Joan Bloom Chatsworth, Susan Clopper, Gloria or Irvin Goldstein, Stephen or Charles Axelrod, Hilton Kramer, Leona Wallace and Alan Cohen. Anyone who has any information about these people is urged to write to the Temple Ahavat Achim History Committee, 33 Commercial St., Gloucester, MA 01930, or email email@example.com.
Jewish Community Foundation Investment Benefits Medford Synagogue Amy Forman Special to the Journal
MEDFORD — Temple Shalom of Medford has much to be thankful for. Not only was it the beneficiary of a $1 million endowment fund from native son Michael Bloomberg back in 2001, but due to its smart investment with the Jewish Community Foundation of the North Shore (JCF), the temple has been reaping the benefit of a steady return of interest and growth of the endowment’s principal for the past decade. Under the auspices of the Jewish Federation of the North Shore, JCF provides planned giving and endowment support, administration and fiscal management for Jewish entities across the North Shore. For 30 years, JCF’s Investment Committee has managed $5-8 million dollars in community funds. Swampscott’s Robert Freedman, now retired from John Hancock Funds where he served as president and chief investment officer, is chair of JCF’s investment committee, and serves alongside longterm members Jack Fischer, Mike Goodstein, Peter Lappin, Howard Rich, George Rooks and Barry Turkanis. According to Herb Sandberg,
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who was Temple Shalom’s president at the time Bloomberg’s endowment was received, Bloomberg grew up at the temple, and his 102-year-old mother Charlotte is still a member. It is now officially named Temple Shalom and the William and Charlotte Bloomberg Jewish Community Center. The endowment, obtained by the late Stan Black of Swampscott, is intended to augment other temple income for annual operating expenses. Black, along with trustees Stephen Baker and David Rosenberg, selected JCF for the investment. A customized investment strategy was created, providing income on an annual basis, with strong longterm performance. This year, the fund has returned over 6 percent through
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Baker, while not a current member of Temple Shalom, maintains a strong connection with the Medford synagogue, and is very pleased with the relationship with JCF. “I think they have done remarkably well, especially in light of the economy,” noted Baker, a Lynnfield-based CPA and financial planning professional. “The investment has produced a reasonable amount of money for the temple, and I thank the investment committee for the work they do on behalf of the temple.” The temple is equally pleased according to Sandberg, a retired aerospace engineer still living in
Medford, and a current board member of Temple Shalom. “The endowment allows us to maintain a level of stability and not be concerned about the dayto-day operations of the temple,” Sandberg said, “There is a positive relationship between the temple and the Federation, which has helped to alleviate our concerns for the future.” Jewish Community Foundation of the North Shore welcomes investments from other Jewish organizations. For more information, contact Marla Levy or Arlyne Greenspan at 781-631-8330.
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A Merger in the Right Direction
ewish Family Service of the North Shore has, to its credit, a history of more than a century of helping local Jews and their neighbors. Over the years, the agency has shown the flexibility needed to respond to the needs of the moment — be it immigrant resettlement, poverty, employment, aging or adoption. In recent years, its small but dedicated staff has worked tirelessly to serve community needs, all on a shoestring budget. At a time of growing demands on social service agencies and dwindling resources, its leadership could have stayed the course and simply tried to survive. But mere survival is not sufficient when there are such great needs to be met. Ultimately, the decision was made to seek a partner with a comparable mission and sufficient resources. The perfect partner was found nearby, in the Jewish Family and Children’s Services of Greater Boston.
JF&CS has its own proud record of providing an impressive and growing list of services to its constituency. By partnering together, the North Shore will become a beneficiary of its many resources, and the new agency will benefit from the assets that JFSNS brings. But in order for this effort to succeed, the local community needs to become an active partner in this endeavor. It will be up to us as individuals to take on responsibilities as volunteers, leaders, and funders of this new operation. In pursuing this merger, the JFSNS board is providing an important precedent. The North Shore has many Jewish institutions that are struggling to survive, and whose futures are in question. The time has come for others to follow the lead of JFSNS, to seek partners who share common missions and synergies, with the hope of leveraging the benefits of such partnerships for the good of the local community.
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Not a Fan of Rosemond
In a recent editorial, the Journal spoke of issues of collaboration, cooperation and possibly merger brought on by necessity. It even made the suggestion that local synagogues consider these strategies, given the published departure of multiple local clerical leaders. In its quest to encourage responsible behavior however, the Journal might have also unknowingly gone too far by its description of local agency condition: “Rather than close, they are cutting services, dipping into endowment funds and laying off staff.” Provision of services and staff reduction aside, the Journal “opened a can of worms” when it publicly made a suggestion of utilizing endowment funds as a means of survival. This statement is put to challenge. By nature,
My wife and I were little short of horrified to read John Rosemond’s “New Year’s Resolutions For The Family” (Journal, January 6). At first, my wife thought the article was in jest, but came to understand the author actually meant what he wrote. Due to a limit of 250 words for letters to the editor, we do not have space enough to
endowment funds are narrowly restricted, and utilization is confined to the mission and purpose of the fund. Access might be granted for an emergency or other purpose, if so allowed and based on the rules of the fund at issue. Usage of endowment, or even other restricted funds for purposes other than allowed, might result in serious criminal and/or civil repercussions to the fiduciaries involved. If the Journal does have explicit knowledge of this behavior as its editorial states, it has an obligation to factually defend its representation. This writer now calls for the Journal to be exacting and not evasive in its statement of accessed endowment funds. Russell S. Grand Salem
A Tribute to Debbie Friedman You must have read that Debbie Friedman died. You don’t know who she is, maybe? Think about how we sing the Misheberach at services every week, or the song that teaches our children the Aleph/Bet. Her music binds the threads of faith and ritual. Though not friends, we often worked stages at the Conference for the Advancement of Jewish Education (CAJE) together, and I experienced the power of her work many times over. She was also someone who absolutely demanded respect for the arts and what they could bring to
Beyond Koufax Sports question: What last name is shared by current players for both the Patriots and the Bruins? Surprise answer: Cohen! Landon Cohen is a defensive lineman for the Patriots, and Colby Cohen, who went to B.U., plays for the Bruins. There’s only one Brady and only one Savard
prayer and community. The only way my son could learn the Aleph/Bet was through her song, and when I told him that Friedman (who he’d met and enjoyed often at these same conferences) had written it, he would not believe that it was anything less than an ancient folk song handed down, from generation to generation. That was her power. Her gift will live on through the melodies for generations to come. Thank you Debbie Friedman. Judith Black Marblehead
in town, but two Cohens playing professional sports here! Those with long memories might recall that Landon is not the first Cohen to play for the Patriots. During their first season in 1960, they had an offensive guard named Abe Cohen, which was also my grandfather’s name. Stuart Cohen Marblehead
rebut or comment on each of Rosemond’s 15 suggested resolutions but, in the main, they could be categorized as (variously) ridiculous, absurd, wrong-headed, counterproductive, insensitive and — I am not using the word lightly here — stupid. These are the suggestions of a man who either is not a parent, or who is oblivious to the needs and nature of
children. To call this piece utter rubbish would be an offense against garbage worldwide. We sincerely hope that readers of the Jewish Journal who happen to be parents as well will ignore Rosemond’s advice, and seek guidance from a less offensive source. Michael Connelly Brunswick, Maine
Revolutionize What Kids Eat John Rosemond
’m making a prediction: 2011 will see the beginning of a revolution in what and where America’s children eat. Over the next decade, it will become more cool for a parent to have a slim child, than a child who makes straight A’s. The childhood obesity problem in this country is a disgrace. We have the best economy and the best health care system in the world, and nearly one in five of our children ages 6 to 19 are obese. That’s up from approximately one in 20 in 1980. Being overweight during childhood and adolescence significantly increases a child’s risk of developing high cholesterol, hypertension, respiratory ailments, orthopedic problems, depression, and type 2 diabetes during his/her childhood years. Furthermore, being obese in childhood greatly increases the likelihood the child will have serious weight-related health problems as an adult. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services says “the causes of childhood obesity are multi-factorial.” No they’re not. The reason so many of our children are obese is because they consume too much bad stuff and move too little. Their diets are high in bad carbohydrates like french fries, sodas and sweets, and low in fresh vegetables, fruits and healthy sources of protein. They spend entirely too much time in front of televisions, video games and computers,
and not enough time in physical activity. In rare instances, a medical issue may precede childhood obesity, but the typical overweight kid has a lifestyle problem. As such, the solution is for parents to begin making their children’s weight a high priority. In the final analysis, childhood obesity is going to be prevented and solved at home. This is not rocket science. Eat at least 90 percent of your meals at home, around the table, as opposed to in front of a television set. If that means taking your kids out of most after-school activities, do it! When your children are hungry between meals, give them apples, cheese and raw vegetables. When they’re thirsty, direct them to the faucet. Garden with your kids. Studies have shown that children who garden with their parents eat what they grow and have, as a consequence, healthier diets. Exercise with your children. Take daily walks and bicycle rides with your kids. Play catch. Throw frisbees. Get a backyard trampoline. Perhaps most important, find out what you should weigh, get there, and stay there. Having an overweight parent greatly increases a child’s chances of being overweight. Good health tends to run in families. Join the next parenting revolution! Be a happier, healthier parent! Have happier, healthier kids! Family psychologist John Rosemond answers parents’ questions on his website at rosemond. com.
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‘Who is a Jew’ Debate Continues Rabbi Jason Miller WEST BLOOMFIELD, Mich. (JTA) — As a Conservative rabbi and a member of the movement’s Rabbinical Assembly, I cannot officially consider Jewish descent to be determined patrilineally — from the father. In fact, in its Code of Professional Conduct, the section detailing the responsibilities for membership in the Rabbinical Assembly currently lists four standards of religious practice. The first: “Matrilineality determines Jewish status.” Yet like many Jews who regard Jewish status to require a Jewish mother or proper conversion, I admit to feeling pride when a Jewish athlete or celebrity is successful, even if their “Jewishness” isn’t technically defined by halachic standards. After all, when Major League Baseball player Ryan Braun won the National League Rookie of the Year award in 2007, should the Jewish community have refused to claim the “Hebrew Hammer” as one of our own since only his father is a member of the Tribe? Braun considers himself to be Jewish, and his Israeli-born father lost most of his family in the Holocaust. The 1983 decision by the Reform movement to recognize Jewish status by either the mother or father continues to raise questions for the other streams of Judaism. The debate over “Who is a Jew” is back in the headlines following the shooting in Tucson, that critically injured Rep. Gabrielle Giffords. For Giffords, the daughter of a Christian Scientist mother and a Jewish father who is the grandson of a rabbi, there is no question of her Jewishness. She is a proud Jew who is an active member of her Reform congregation. She was married under a chuppah by a rabbi, albeit to a non-Jewish man. As Giffords lay in a hospital recovering from being shot in an assassination attempt by a domestic terrorist, her Hebrew name has circulated the world to be used in the traditional Misheberach prayer for healing. Some rabbis have even questioned whether her non-Jewish mother’s name should be part of her Hebrew nomenclature for the prayer, while others have referred to her as Jewish, but added the caveat “not halachically speaking.” Giffords co-chaired the Jewish Outreach Institute’s 2007 conference and is active in her congregation. President Obama called Rabbi Stephanie Aaron, Giffords’ rabbi at Congregation Chaverim, to offer his prayers for a speedy recovery for the congresswoman. Since the January 8 shooting, we have learned quite a bit about Gabrielle Giffords and her Jewish pride. Her paternal grandfather, the son of a Lithuanian rabbi, changed his name to Giff Giffords for reasons of anti-Semitism. On her campaign website, Giffords wrote, “Growing up, my family’s Jewish roots and tradition played an important role in shaping my values. The women in my family served as strong role models for me as a girl. In my family, if you want to get something done, you take it to the women relatives! Like my grandmother, I am a lifetime member of Hadassah and now a member of Congregation Chaverim. When I served in the State Senate in Arizona, I had the opportunity to visit Jerusalem. It was one of the most memorable experiences of my life. I will always be a strong supporter of Israel. As the only functioning democracy in the Middle East, Israel is a vital strategic ally of the United States. As a woman and as a Jew, I will always work to ensure that the United States stands with Israel to jointly ensure our mutual safety, security and prosperity.” The Jerusalem Post was the first publication to state emphatically that Giffords’ Jewishness should not be questioned. In fact, in its editorial “Learning Judaism From Giffords,” the Post wrote, “With all our desire for a universally accepted definition of ‘Who is a Jew?’ that would unify the Jewish people, we cannot ignore the complicated reality that many ‘non-Jews’ are much more Jewish than their ‘Jewish’ fellows. Congresswoman Giffords is one of them.” continued on page 10
Being a Messiah Rabbi David Wolpe
t has been aptly said that the history of Messianism in Judaism is the history of failed Messiahs. After all, if we are still waiting for the Messiah, then all the claimants have failed. But there are messianic gestures, and messianic aspirations, even among those who cannot lay claim to the title Messiah. In his novel “The Days of Simon Stern,” Arthur Cohen creates a character who seeks to become a modern Messiah by saving the doomed Jews of Eastern Europe. Theodore
Herzl was, even in his lifetime, hailed by some as a modern Messiah. The task of a Messiah is to save, redeem, uplift the lowly and humble the proud. None of those tasks, on a small scale, is beyond our capacities. We can undertake to be everyday Messiahs, quotidian saviors. “To believe in the heroic,” said Disraeli, “makes us heroes.” Perhaps the most important part of Messianism is the faith that Messianism is real — not only ultimately in history, but daily in our lives. The Messiah is not superhuman, just an exemplar of humanity. And to be fully human is something each of us can aspire to. This column first appeared in the New York Jewish Week.
Massacre, Followed by Libel Charles Krauthammer
he charge: The Tucson massacre is a consequence of the “climate of hate” created by Sarah Palin, the Tea Party, Glenn Beck and Obamacare opponents. The verdict: Rarely in American political discourse has there been a charge so reckless, so scurrilous and so unsupported by evidence. As killers go, Jared Loughner is not reticent. Yet among all his writings, postings, videos and other ravings — and in all the testimony from all the people who knew him — there is not a single reference to any of these supposed accessories to murder. Not only is there no evidence that Loughner was impelled to violence by any of those upon whom Paul Krugman, Keith Olbermann, the New York Times, the Tucson sheriff and other rabid partisans are fixated. There is no evidence that he was responding to anything, political or otherwise, outside of his own head. A climate of hate? This man lived within his very own private climate. His ravings, said one
high school classmate, were interspersed with “unnerving, long stupors of silence” during which he would “stare fixedly at his buddies,” reported the Wall Street Journal. His own writings are confused, incoherent, punctuated with private numerology and inscrutable taxonomy. He warns of government brainwashing and thought control through “grammar.” He was obsessed with “conscious dreaming,” a fairly good synonym for hallucinations. This is not political behavior. These are the signs of a clinical thought disorder — ideas disconnected from each other, incoherent, delusional, detached from reality. These are all the hallmarks of a paranoid schizophrenic. And a dangerous one. A classmate found him so terrifyingly mentally disturbed that, she emailed friends and family, she expected to find his picture on TV after his perpetrating a mass murder. Furthermore, the available evidence dates Loughner’s fixation on Rep. Gabrielle Giffords to at least 2007, when he attended a town hall of hers and felt slighted by her response. In 2007, no one had heard of Sarah Palin. Glenn Beck was still toiling on Headline News. There was no Tea Party or health-care reform. continued on page 10
Tunisia’s Uncertain Impact Daniel Pipes
he sudden and yet-unexplained exit of Tunisia’s strongman, Zine El Abidine Ben Ali, 74, after 23 years in power, has potential implications for the Middle East and for Muslims worldwide. As an Egyptian commentator noted, “Every Arab leader is watching Tunisia in fear. Every Arab citizen is watching Tunisia in hope and solidarity.” I watch with both sets of emotions. During the first era of independence, until about 1970, governments in Arabic-speaking countries were frequently overthrown as troops under the control of a discontented colonel streamed into the capital, seized the presidential quarters and the radio station, then announced a new regime. Over time, regimes learned to protect themselves through overlapping intelligence services, reliance on family and tribal members, repression,
and other mechanisms. Four decades of sclerotic, sterile stability followed. With only rare exceptions (Iraq in 2003, Gaza in 2007), did regimes get ousted; even more rarely (Sudan in 1985) did civilian dissent have a significant role. Enter first Al-Jazeera, which focuses Arab-wide attention on topics of its choosing, and then the Internet. Beyond its inexpensive, detailed and timely information, the Internet also provides unprecedented secrets (e.g., the recent WikiLeaks dump of U.S. diplomatic cables). These new forces converged in Tunisia in December to create an intifada, and quickly ousted an entrenched tyrant. If one exalts in the power of the disenfranchised to overthrow their dull, cruel and greedy master, one also looks ahead with trepidation to the Islamist implications of this upheaval. The first worry concerns Tunisia itself. For all his faults, Ben Ali stood stalwart as a foe of Islamism, battling not only the terrorists but also the soft jihadists in school rooms and in television studios. A continued on page 10
It’s Time to Reject Rhetorical Violence Simon Greer NEW YORK (JTA) — Sarah Palin did not shoot Rep. Gabriella Giffords. Neither did Glenn Beck. Or Rush Limbaugh. Or even Giffords’ opponent in the 2010 campaign, Jesse Kelly. Giffords was shot by a mentally unstable terrorist who, after attempting to assassinate Giffords, kept shooting into the crowd that had gathered outside a supermarket in Tucson, Ariz. Americans reacted with shock and horror. In 21st century America, political violence is rejected wholesale. Now we have to start rejecting rhetorical violence. The media personalities and politicians listed above may not be guilty, but perhaps we should set our bar a little higher. Language sets a tone, creates an atmosphere and points us toward what’s acceptable. In the months leading up to the assassinations of John F. Kennedy, the Rev. Martin Luther King Jr. and Yitzhak Rabin, each man was vilified in the most crass, violent language imaginable, routinely presented as a legiti-
mate target for rage — rage that ultimately robbed the world of great, visionary leaders. This is why the Jewish tradition has long warned against harmful words. We are told again and again that “lashon hara,” evil speech, hurts not only the target but also the speaker, listener and broader community. But it’s not enough to simply not engage in hateful rhetoric. If we don’t actively oppose its use, if we don’t replace vitriol with respect and consideration, we perpetuate the dangerous cycle, and each step down in our public discourse paves the way to the step below it. Palin and Beck specialize in demonizing people and organizations who don’t share their views. Jared Lee Loughner may not have been a devotee of rightwing talk shows, but there are avid listeners and watchers who have resorted to violence. The most horrifying example is Beck-devotee Byron Williams, who last summer loaded up his car with guns and ammunition and drove to San Francisco. Had he not been stopped and arrested by state police after
a highway shootout, Williams might have succeeded in, as he said, “kill[ing] people of importance at the ACLU and Tides Foundation.” His choice of the Tides Foundation was clearly inspired by Mr. Beck’s regular attacks on the otherwise largely obscure institution. We must speak out plainly against extremism and provocation, unafraid to hold our media and our politicians accountable, while presenting real solutions to the very real problems facing millions of Americans. We must recognize the humanity of those with whom we disagree, and honor the dignity of all our fellow citizens. Rather than frame our differences in the starkest of terms, we must find a way back toward reasoned debate and honest engagement. In short, let us demonstrate the same courage, the same resolve as Rep. Gabrielle Giffords. And let us find comfort in the hope that we may yet play a part in healing our nation. Simon Greer is the president and CEO of Jewish Funds for Justice.
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Tunisia’s Uncertain Impact
Massacre, Followed by Libel
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former interior minister, however, he underestimated Islamists, seeing them more as criminals than as committed ideologues. His not allowing alternate Islamic outlooks to develop could now prove a great mistake. Tunisian Islamists had a minimal role in overthrowing Ben Ali, but they will surely scramble to exploit the opportunity that has opened to them. Indeed, the leader of Tunisia’s main Islamist organization, Ennahda, has announced his first return to the country since 1989. Does Interim President Fouad Mebazaa, 77, have the savvy or political credibility to maintain power? Will the military keep the old guard in power? Do moderate forces have the cohesion and vision to deflect an Islamist surge? The second worry concerns nearby Europe, already deeply incompetent at dealing with its Islamist challenge. Were Ennahda to take power and then expand networks, provide funds, and perhaps smuggle arms to allies in nearby Europe, it could greatly exacerbate existing problems there. The third and greatest worry concerns the possible domino effect on other Arabic-speaking countries. This fast, seemingly easy, and relatively bloodless coup d’état could inspire globally Islamists to sweep away their own tyrants. All four North African littoral states — Morocco, Algeria, Libya
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and Egypt — fit this description, as do Syria, Jordan and Yemen to the east. That Ben Ali took refuge in Saudi Arabia implicates that country too. Pakistan could also fit the template. In contrast to the Iranian revolution of 1978-79, which required a charismatic leader, millions on the street, and a full year’s worth of effort, events in Tunisia unfolded quickly and in a more generic, reproducible way. What Franklin D. Roosevelt allegedly said of a Latin America dictator, “He’s a bastard but he’s our bastard,” applies to Ben Ali and many other Arab strongmen, leaving U.S. government policy in seeming disarray. As Washington sorts out options, I urge the administration to adopt two policies. First, renew the push for democratization initiated by George W. Bush in 2003, but this time with due caution, intelligence and modesty, recognizing that his flawed implementation inadvertently facilitated the Islamists to acquire more power. Second, focus on Islamism as the civilized world’s greatest enemy and stand with our allies, including those in Tunisia, to fight this blight. Daniel Pipes is director of the Middle East Forum and Taube distinguished visiting fellow at the Hoover Institution of Stanford University. He lived in Tunisia in 1970.
Finally, the charge that the metaphors used by Palin and others were inciting violence is ridiculous. Everyone uses warlike metaphors in describing politics. When Barack Obama said at a 2008 fundraiser in Philadelphia, “If they bring a knife to the fight, we bring a gun,” he was hardly inciting violence. Why? Because fighting and warfare are the most routine of political metaphors. And for obvious reasons. Historically speaking, all democratic politics is a sublimation of the ancient route to power — military conquest. That’s why the
language persists. That’s why we say without any self-consciousness such things as “battleground states” or “targeting” opponents. Indeed, the very word for an electoral contest — “campaign” — is an appropriation from warfare. When Obama’s first chief of staff, Rahm Emanuel, noted that he once sent a dead fish to a pollster who displeased him, it was considered a charming example of excessive — and creative — political enthusiasm. When Senate candidate Joe Manchin dispensed with metaphor and simply fired a bullet through the cap-and-
trade bill — while intoning, “I’ll take dead aim at [it]” — he was hardly assailed with complaints about violations of civil discourse or invitations to murder. Did Manchin push Loughner over the top? Did Emanuel’s little Mafia imitation create a climate for political violence? The very questions are absurd. The origins of Loughner’s delusions are clear: mental illness. What are the origins of Krugman’s? Charles Krauthammer can be contacts at email@example.com.
‘Who is a Jew’ Debate Continues from page 9
In her In the Mix blog at The New York Jewish Week, Julie Wiener wrote of how Giffords’ Jewishness is shining a spotlight on the “Who is a Jew?” debate. In an article titled “Plight of the Patrilineals,” Weiner cited blogger Kung Fu Jew, who posted an angry rant about how Giffords is “Jewish enough for the Jewish community to own a side-show of the media circus. Jewish enough to be our martyr, it seems, but not Jewish enough to be treated equally in life.” Kung Fu Jew has a point here. I’m sure many synagogues have offered prayers of healing for Giffords, yet they would be vio-
lating their own religious policy if they ever called her to the Torah for an aliyah honor.
Many synagogues have offered prayers of healing for Giffords, yet they would be violating their own religious policy if they ever called her to the Torah for an aliyah honor I really wish we had a consensus on what determines Jewish status through lineage, even if only in the non-Orthodox Jewish
community. If Rep. Gabrielle Giffords considers herself Jewish because her father is Jewish and she lives a Jewish life, then she’s Jewish. May Rep. Gabrielle Giffords — Gavriela bat Gloria v’Spencer — be granted a speedy and complete recovery. Rabbi Jason Miller is a “Rabbi Without Borders” who serves as the year-round rabbi of Tamarack Camps. He is the founder and director of Kosher Michigan, a kosher certification agency. This article first appeared on The Huffington Post.
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Serenitee Catering Stays on the Creative Culinary Edge
erenitee Catering is the catering division of Serenitee Restaurant Group, a collection of seven distinctive restaurants, taverns and bistros in the suburbs north of Boston. Their renowned restaurants include Cala’s, Hale Street Tavern, Minglewood Tavern, 15 Walnut, Alchemy, Latitude 43 and the Backstage Bistro. As the North Shore’s largest restaurant group, Serenitee offers a wide variety of options for sophisticated, sit-down rehearsal dinners, casual cocktail parties, family style buffet luncheons and dinner parties. They also handle full service planning and catering for offsite weddings hosting 15 to 200 people. The company prides itself in staying on the creative culinary edge. Their experienced chefs will create menus for all levels of formality — from a fourcourse formal seated dinner,
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azel tov! If it’s time to celebrate, then the experienced staff at The Holiday Inn & Suites Boston Peabody is ready for you. They will work with you, each step of the way, to custom design your event from the initial planning stages to the joyous festivities. “No matter the size of your party, we offer personalized attention and affordable options that are ever so important these days,” said Shellie Wallace, director of catering. A native-born Israeli, Wallace has over 12 years of experience in event coordination, and the creative flair for making each function unique and one that will be talked about long after the last guest has left.
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bar and bat mitzvah packages, as well as wedding packages. It is proud to be partnering with Catering By Tevya (of Peabody) to offer fully kosher catering. Kosher-style menus are also available. “Please call to arrange a free consultation and tour of our
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Tips to Ensure a Worry-Free Wedding Day
riends and family are gathered together to witness your big day. The limousine ride, the toasts, the wedding cake and the first dance — it’s all coming together for the perfect day. But wait! Before you say: “I do,” there are a number of important things that you and your future spouse must do to become officially married. A marriage is a legal contract. While many couples focus on the ceremony and reception, there are a number of legal steps that newlyweds must consider as part of the process. To help you and your partner have a worry-free wedding day, here is a prenuptial checklist from FindLaw.com. Changing names It’s often one of the first big dilemmas facing a new bride: Keep your maiden name, or take his last name? It’s a big decision because if you decide to change your legal name, it means changing your name on everything from your driver’s license to stock certificates. While thinking this through, also think about the last names of children you may have in the future. Marriage requirements Each state has its own requirements for couples wishing to be married, some of which include marriage licenses, blood tests or residency
requirements. Make sure you and your future spouse know what the requirements are in your state, and have fulfilled all marriage requirements before the big day. If either you or your future spouse has been married before, make sure you have obtained all legal documents to ensure that your new marriage is valid and legal. Marriage ceremonies Most states have legal requirements pertaining to the marriage ceremony itself, including who may perform the marriage ceremony and whether witnesses are required. Check with your county or state government website about these requirements. Prenuptial agreements A prenuptial or pre-marriage agreement can help define the property and financial rights and obligations of marrying spouses, including what will happen if the marriage ends. If you are considering entering into a prenuptial agreement, you should be aware of the legal requirements that must be met in order for the agreement to be considered valid and enforceable. Marriage, money and property When you get married, your property and finances will, to a certain extent, merge with those of your spouse. Based on the laws of the state in which you marry and/or intend to estab-
lish your permanent residence, you should become familiar with what is and is not considered marital or “community” property, and understand how to keep certain assets as separate property. You also should become familiar with your obligations as a new spouse in taking on the debts and tax liabilities of your partner, and agree on how you’re going to handle finances as a newly married couple. Wedding day contracts In preparing for your big day, you will sign a number of contracts for items such as wedding day photos, the reception hall and a honeymoon package. Now is a good time to start working together as a team to carefully identify credible wedding day vendors, to negotiate these contracts together, and to decide in advance how you will handle a problem if something goes wrong. Will and health care directives As you and your new spouse work together on merging your finances and assets, now is a good time to write a will together that also incorporates endof-life health care directives. This is especially important for previously married individuals who may be merging families together. — Article courtesy of ARAcontent
Frugal Yet Fabulous Weddings
t’s no secret that weddings can be expensive. Though finances may be tight, it doesn’t mean that today’s brides- and grooms-to-be have to sacrifice on their big day. It’s easier than ever to have a budget-friendly dream wedding. Be thoughtful and unique Apply the simple law of supply and demand to your advantage. Seasons, times and locations that are “hot” for weddings will inevitably break the bank. Avoid paying a premium by considering options like a cozy mid-winter Sunday brunch, or an outdoor Thursday evening cocktail reception in early fall. You will find that it pays to be different. D-I-Y Small investments of time can save hundreds of dollars in wedding planning. From invitations to seating cards, programs to reception decorations — an abundance of do-it-yourself project kits are available online and at popular retailers. Consider saving money by purchasing flowers from an online wholesaler and then assembling bouquets yourself. If you’re not set on floral centerpieces, buy ornate glass bowls and fill them with beautiful items (rose petals, sea shells, floating candles, etc.) that coincide with your theme. Think ahead When it comes to bridal beauty, timing is everything. If a bright white smile is on your checklist,
prep a couple of months before your wedding and take advantage of less expensive tools versus more expensive, last minute teeth whitening. Also, a few months before the big day, consider consulting a make-up specialist about your wedding day make-up, and then keep an eye out for major department store sales to stock-up on the necessary beauty essentials. Be your own disc jockey Bands and DJs can be expensive. Instead, load your mp3 player with everyone’s favorite tunes, and rent speakers from a local party store. Choose your music-obsessed teen cousin or a juke box-loving friend to be in charge of the music during the reception in case the system freezes, or you need to accommodate a special song request. Keep your mix upbeat, and include classics as well as modern songs, so you’re sure to appeal to all crowds. Clip coupons Virtually everything in stores can be bought online, and often for less. Coupon websites provide discount codes to online merchants, and can be easily found by typing the retailer’s name and “coupon code” in your search engine. Rehearsal dinner dresses, bridesmaids’ gifts, even centerpieces can all be found online. — Article courtesy of ARAcontent
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a helicopter flying over Boston. To celebrate, Jeff’s family flew in from Baltimore, and the Krafts and Farbers gathered together for dinner at Golden Temple, the ominous site of the couple’s first date. Kraft and Farber, who currently live in Washington, D.C., will marry July 17 at Peabody Essex Museum in Salem. “Marrying in a museum is a dream come true for me,” said Farber, who is associate director at Hemphill Fine Arts, a commercial art gallery in Washington, D.C. Although much of the wedding is already planned, Farber has a conflict regarding her shoes. “Do I get them from my dad, or from Jeff’s dad?” she ponders. Her diplomatic resolution is to get two pair — one to wear during the ceremony, and another for the reception.
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At age 48, Jeff Shapiro of Danvers has also found love a second time. The divorced father of two sons recently tied the knot with Lynn, 42, for whom this is a first marriage. Fixed up by a friend, the Shapiros refer to their union as “beshert,” the Yiddish word for “destiny.” The couple studied Kabbalah together with Rabbi Nechemia Shusterman at Chabad in Peabody, and found that in studying together, they connected at a deeper level. Jeff did not introduce his boys, now ages 13 and 9, to Lynn until he was sure the relationship was serious. Having already been married, Shapiro says he knew “a little more about myself the second time around.” When they were ready to marry, the Shapiros thought long and hard about how they would do it. Both were raised in
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traditional Jewish homes, and they chose to have an Orthodox ceremony. “We wanted to take it to the highest power,” Lynn said. “We felt an Orthodox wedding was the most respectful of Hashem, and the most comfortable way for us to do it. It was really about how we came together,” Jeff said. Jeff grew up in a very traditional home and attended Jewish day school in Rhode Island. Lynn’s family was strongly Zionistic — her father had assisted in bringing Jews from Europe to Palestine. As they planned their wedding ceremony and reception, they were careful to honor their forebears by placing pictures of their ancestors on the tables. They used Jeff’s father’s tallis as the chuppah, and Lynn carried something in her bouquet from her grandmother. These traditions, and new ones, will be part of their Jewish home together. “This is to recognize what beshert really means, and how an infinite number of things had to happen perfectly for us to come to be. For us, it is awe inspiring because we do feel really perfect for each other,” Lynn said.
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Couple Celebrates 70 Years of Togetherness Susan Jacobs Jewish Journal Staff
fter being together for more than 70 years, Ruth and Irving “Honey” Stepner know a little something about how to keep a marriage strong. “Have a crisis every day,” advises Honey. “Then, you won’t argue,” he says with a smile. Whether it’s setting up a humidifier in their Danvers apartment (a small crisis) or undergoing brain surgery (a large crisis), the loving couple meets (and overcomes) obstacles as one. For seven decades they have lived and worked together, raising two children, four grandchildren and five great-grandchildren. They are still very much in love. He gushes with pride reciting poems she has written. Her eyes fill with love when he tenderly holds her hand. Honey (everyone calls him by this nickname) and Ruth were both born and raised in Revere, and were introduced by their mutual friend, Miriam Ostrovitz. “Although I was involved with someone else at the time, I liked his personality,” said Ruth, who agreed to a date with him. “When I rang the doorbell, she had a shoe in her hand,” Honey said. “She didn’t have the heart to tell her mother about the date because of the other young man. So instead, she told her mother she was going to the shoemaker. Our first date was she, me, and a shoe.” On the second date, Ruth left the footwear at home. The theater-lovers went into Boston to see the play “George White’s Scandals.” By the time it was over, Honey admits he was “smitten.” “She was a sensible, intelligent and good-looking girl. Even though I was young, I thought to myself, ‘This is what you’re looking for,’” he said. Honey was in college, studying to become a pharmacist. Although Ruth’s mother feared that marriage might interfere with his career, the couple became engaged. They tied the knot 16 months later, on November 3, 1940. Honey was 21; Ruth had just turned 20. They had a simple wedding in her mother’s living room, with a kosher dinner catered by Schwartz’s Restaurant on Shirley Avenue. “Even back then, many weddings were overdone. We were not given to big, plush affairs. We wanted to be sensible,” Honey said. Like many other couples in that era, they moved in with Ruth’s mother following the wedding. They both worked in stores on Shirley Avenue, in the heart of
Ruth and Irving “Honey” Stepner
Revere’s Jewish district. “Shirley Avenue was like a ghetto, but not in a derogatory type of way. It was totally and comfortably Jewish,” Ruth recalled. They had two daughters; Sharyn and Judy. In 1945, the young family migrated to Swampscott, where they remained for 38 years. Honey put his training to good use, opening three local pharmacies with a partner: Richmond Pharmacy in Lynn, and Center and Wellington Pharmacies in Medford. For 23 years, Ruth worked alongside Honey, running the cosmetics counter in one of the Medford stores. “If you can work together and still get along, that’s a real test under fire,” she said. The Stepners were active members of Temple Israel, with Ruth being appointed the first female on its board of directors. She also served two-terms as president of the Swampscott-Marblehead Chapter of B’nai B’rith, and Honey served on the Massachusetts Board of Pharmacy. Although business was steady, Stepner and his partner weathered innumerable burglaries and a shooting in the Lynn store. “We eventually decided enough was enough,” he said.
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They sold the stores, Stepner retired in 1988 and the couple moved to The Village in Salem. For a decade they were “snow birds,” and then moved permanently to Florida in 1998. For 10 years, they enjoyed the Florida lifestyle. But several health scares and a longing for their close-knit family lured them back to the North Shore. In 2008 they settled into a sunny condominium at Brightview, an independent senior living facility in Danvers. Although they are now in their nineties, the Stepners remain active and engaged. Honey still drives and moderates a senior discussion group at Brightview, and Ruth still pens poetry. They are acutely aware that in this era, where half of all marriages end in divorce, they clearly have something special. When asked how they have managed to stay together so long, Ruth said, “You really have to love and respect each other. You can have opinions of your own, but don’t go out of your way to hurt the other person’s feelings.” Honey sums it up a little differently. “It’s very simple. The Jewish ketubah says to love, honor and cherish each other. If you adhere to those three simple words, you’ll have a wonderful marriage,” he says. And he has one final tip for staying together. “Have a crisis everyday,” he says with a wink.
The Stepners pose on Honey’s 90th birthday.
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ost of us, if we aren’t already, will end up getting married. How many of us plan on getting divorced? If statistics are right, there’s a good chance half of us will. The relationships in our lives largely determine the amount of happiness we have in life. Who we choose to marry is arguably the most important decision we will make in determining our happiness. We train and license people for almost every conceivable activity. But for the big issues in life there really is no training. We approach the key questions — What is marriage? How do I find the right person? How do I ensure a happy, fulfilling marriage? — alone, making all sorts of mistakes as we try to figure it out and get it right. Today, marriage seems to be a kind of evolutionary accident. After a period of getting acquainted, dating and becoming romantically involved comes the stage of restlessness. The couple confronts the terrifying question of: What next? The default answer puts them on the altar of marriage, vowing to live happily ever after. Hopefully. Jews believe that God created the world for man to have a life of meaning and pleasure. He wants us to have it all. And He gave us an instruction book telling us how to get it. How do you think the Torah describes the
state of being married? Eternal bliss? Chained? The Jewish idea of marriage is two halves becoming one, completing each other. “A man should therefore leave his father and mother and be united with his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). Marriage is the process of becoming one flesh. Marriage is not two people coming together to form a partnership, nor an agreement to be roommates permanently. It’s not a method to get a tax break, or a way to share household chores. The Jewish idea of marriage is two halves becoming one, completing each other. In describing Adam, the first human, the Torah says, “Male and female He created them” (Genesis 1:27). We learn from here that originally Man was created as male and female in one complete entity. They were then separated, and brought together again as a couple. Marriage is the unification of two halves into one complete entity, described as “one flesh.” What does the couple need in order to accomplish this sense of unification? Destination: They have to know where they’re going in order to commit to go together. Commitment: Two people won’t arrive at their destination if one can back out at a second’s notice. Affinity: If they can’t stand each other, it’s going to be an intolerable ride. Life Goals: The essence of
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marriage is the commitment to pursue life goals together. Shared values and priorities provide a structure that unites the couple and allows them to work on becoming “one flesh.” Couples may argue over a stray toothpaste cap or whose turn it is to get up with the baby, but no matter how heated these run-ins become, they should never destroy a marriage. Know your own goals in life. Then you can talk about whether or not the person you’re dating is moving in the same direction. Marriage demands a lot of work and pain. Marriage requires confronting yourself, and that is hard. Marriage doesn’t decrease demands and responsibilities — it adds to them in heaps and bounds. Marriage forces you to get out of your self-centeredness. It demands an emotional intimacy that for many of us is new and frightening. Squeezing two people together to form one flesh is bound to create some tension. Marriage requires work and commitment. So maybe you’ll ask: Why bother getting married? Marriage makes a person into a full human being. By oneself, a person is destined to remain a self-centered egocentric being. Marriage gives an individual the chance to overcome all that and become, instead, a giver — one who is concerned about another person’s needs. Marriage is the way to build a family and a home, share your life with someone you love, deepen your emotional capacities, and open yourself up to another like you never have before. When we talk about love we have to make a distinction between “love” and “infatuation.” Infatuation is blind; love is a magnifying glass. Love comes from really knowing a person and seeing his/her beauty, strength of character and what he/she is really made of. Which brings us to a shocker: True love comes after marriage. Love should grow continuously as your appreciation of your spouse grows. So when thinking about marriage, find a partner with the same life goals and then commit to marriage as the vehicle to get you there together. It is life’s most precious journey.
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Navigating Marriage’s Financial Minefields Say ‘I Do’ To Taking Control of Personal Finances Jason Alderman
s with all challenges in a marriage, often what starts as a small issue can fester and grow into a large problem, given enough time. It’s not surprising that after being together a few years, some couples realize that the financial quirks they initially found amusing or simply ignored in their spouse now dominate their marital disagreements. In fact, money issues tend to top the reasons for divorce. If you’re having financial dif- make matters worse and creficulties, step back long before ate an atmosphere of mistrust. they escalate. Examine your Sometimes it’s best to rip off the financial situation, and explore bandage with one quick tug. ways to ease the tension. Be on the same page. When You’re both busy and have the news isn’t good — say your probably divvied up the chores, 401(k) balances tanked last quarincluding who pays the bills. ter or one of you got laid off — But even if you completely agree communication is all the more on money matters, the family important. Whether you need “accountant” should keep his or her spouse in the loop — if for no other reason than so they can easily take over managing the finances in an emergency. Set up monthly or even weekly meetings to discuss things like bill payments, progress or setbacks regarding savings Comstock goals, budgeting for upcoming expenses (property taxes, insur- to temporarily tighten the budance premiums, back-to-school get or make a major life-altering supplies, etc.), and strategies for decision like postponing retirecoping with unforeseen expens- ment, talk it through and prees (car repairs, emergency dental pare to compromise so neither work, bailing out a family mem- party becomes the bad guy. ber, etc.) Realign your goals. Couples Don’t postpone painful dis- often start out with one game cussions. Say you accidentally plan but then life deals an unexbounce a check or miss a pay- pected hand and goals change. ment. Don’t wait until your next Periodically touch base on how conversation to address it or try you both feel about such major to hide the problem — you’ll only events as family size, home own-
ership, career changes, financing college for your kids (or yourselves), appetite for financial risk, and when and where you’ll retire. Follow your budget. Some of the worst financial battles occur when one or both parties sabotage the family budget. If you don’t already have one, numerous free budgeting tools are available online. Check out the U.S. Financial Literacy and Education Commission’s mymoney.gov, the National Foundation for Credit Counseling nfcc.org under “Consumer Tools”), and mint. com, among other sites. Seek help. If you’re no longer on the same page regarding how to handle your finances and can’t reach compromises, you may want to consider outside help. The National Foundation for Credit Counseling (nfcc.org) can help you find a local non-profit credit-counseling agency. Find a financial planner or advisor at the Certified Financial Planner Board of Standards (cfp.net), the National Association of Personal Financial Advisors (napfa. org) or the Financial Planning Association(fpanet.org). Like any other joint venture, marriages can derail when partners don’t communicate. Make sure that doesn’t happen to you. Jason Alderman directs Visa’s financial education programs. To Follow Jason Alderman on Twitter: twitter.com/ PracticalMoney
arriage is an exciting time for a couple, however, once the honeymoon is over, it’s time to sit down and get serious about finances. After walking down the aisle, Better Business Bureau advises newlyweds to take control of their money, or risk a rocky financial future. According to research by Utah State University, married couples that frequently fight over money are more likely to split up. Even when compared to frequent fights over other issues such as chores, sex and in-laws, fighting about money was a better predictor of a future divorce. “When considering your financial future, it’s important for newlyweds to realize that they are in it together,” said Paula Fleming, BBB spokesperson. “Have the conversation earlier rather than later so that you can develop healthy personal finance habits together.” To start your new life together on the right financial foot, BBB offers the following advice: Let Financial Skeletons out of the Closet. After marriage, any personal debt becomes “our debt” and it’s important to sit down early on and discuss what outstanding obligations exist on both sides including car loans, school loans and credit card debt. Review credit reports to get a better idea of what you are both bringing to the marriage. Build a Budget. After you’ve
gotten a grasp on your debt, it’s time to build a monthly budget. Look at your monthly bills to create a realistic picture of how you spend. Discuss your long term goals — such as buying a house or car and having kids — and figure out how much money you need to set aside every month to reach those goals. Designate a Driver but Travel Together. One person should be assigned to paying the bills every month. This doesn’t mean that the other person takes a back seat role in managing the finances. Have a discussion at least every month about your financial progress in order map your path and nip any bad spending habits in the bud. Plan for Emergencies. Many young couples fail to save money to get them through hard times such as health problems and unexpected unemployment. Experts recommend you set aside three to six months of salary in a rainy day fund — ideally an interest-bearing account that can be easily accessed. Save for the Future. Retire ment may seem like a long way off to newlyweds, but setting aside money now means reaping big rewards later on. Take advantage of both employers’ retirement matching programs if available, or set up individual retirement accounts. For more advice visit bbb. org/us/consumer-tips-finance/.
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There are many Jewish dating websites available today. Most charge membership fees for their services, and many are not exclusively for Jews, nor do they attempt to qualify their members as being Jewish. In addition, many of these sites have members who have not been active for years. A full service Jewish relationship website was created nine months ago that charges no membership fees called myjewishmatches.com. The privately funded site, developed with rabbinical input, is for Jewish singles only, whether never married, widowed or divorced. Members can sort potential matches within a specific age range, distance, religious practice and several other parameters. All profiles are current. The goal is to give everyone the better opportunity to meet their bashert (Jewish soul mate). In the nine months it has been operating, administrator Michael Edelstein points out that there has been one engagement, as well as many friendships and serious relationships. For further information, log on at myjewishmatches.com.
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Questions Interfaith Couples Should Consider Rabbi Lev Baesh Interfaithfamily.com
ou’re about to meet with a rabbi or cantor or other clergy person to prepare for your wedding. How can you be ready to create a ceremony that is the best spiritual and religious fit?
The seven questions below have no right or wrong answers. I offer them as a way to ensure that your first meeting with clergy is a part of a positive interfaith wedding experience.
1. How comfortable do you feel with religious institutions, ritual, prayer and language about God? 2. What do you want to accomplish by having a Jewish
clergy officiate at your wedding ceremony? 3. What are some of the challenges you anticipate in preparing your ceremony with the inclusion of clergy? 4. What are your hopes and concerns in creating a family? (It would be best to discuss these together before you meet with clergy.) 5. What questions would you like your clergy to help you with as you prepare for your wedding celebration? 6. Do you have any hard and
fast “do’s and don’ts” you want to communicate to your clergy person? 7. Where do those requirements come from, and are some of them more important to you than others?
Rabbi Lev Baesh is the spiritual leader of B’nai Or, a Jewish Renewal congregation in Boston. He lives in Malden and conducts interfaith wedding ceremonies. For further information, visit rabbilevbaesh.com.
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Out of Many Beliefs, One Ceremony Cheryl Glantz Nail Interfaithfamily.com
n December 1999, I went to Israel on a Birthright Israel trip. After those two transformative weeks, I could not imagine marrying someone who was not Jewish. As fate would have it, I met the perfect man before I ever made it out of graduate school. But he wasn’t Jewish. He was the son of a Presbyterian minister, and an agnostic. Our difference in religion was FIRST never an issue PERSON in the four years we dated. He was willing to raise Jewish children, and my parents didn’t care who I married as long as he made me happy. It wasn’t until we began planning our wedding ceremony that the differences between our beliefs, and those of our families, became more pronounced. My then fiancé would have been happy to have a secular wedding. As a believer, it was completely out of the question for me to have a ceremony in which G-d wasn’t acknowledged. As we pored over books, websites and programs from favorite weddings we had attended, we realized that our best option was to write our own ceremony. Both my soon-to-be father-inlaw and my chosen rabbi were fortunately willing to officiate an interfaith ceremony and to give up creative control of the wedding ritual. That’s not to say the officiants weren’t included in the writing process; we frequently consulted with them, and they each added their own remarks.
By going to them, though, with draft in hand, they were quickly able to see which prayers and traditions we were comfortable with, and which ones we wanted to avoid. In the end, we included a few Jewish traditions I couldn’t do without: signing the ketubah, marrying under the chuppah, saying the Shehecheyanu and Kiddush, and breaking the glass. The elements we embraced to incorporate my in-laws’ beliefs were nondenominational and respectful to my Jewish relatives. Furthermore, these additions: the call to worship, the prayer of faithfulness, the affirmation of guests, and the prayer over the vows, are rituals that, looking back, meant just as much to me as the Jewish traditions I insisted on having. Perhaps the best part of our ceremony was the secular practice that my fiancé suggested. Instead of lighting a unity candle, my father-in-law joined our hands with a tartan wristband, which was both unique and beautiful, as well as a nod to my fiancé’s Scottish heritage. Our officiants did a wonderful job of explaining the rituals and prayers as we did them, helping our guests understand the aspects of our ceremony with which they might not have been familiar. My husband and I still have family and friends kvelling that our ceremony was one of the most beautiful and moving they had ever attended. Perhaps my favorite comments, though, are the ones made by my Christian in-laws about the Jewish traditions, and vice versa. Both sides
A Couple’s Guide to Considering Their Single Friends Planning a wedding? Mazel tov! You’ve got friends to invite. And some of those guests are likely to be something that until recently, you were yourself — single. By taking your single friends into consideration during your wedding planning, you can make your big event as fun for the uncoupled as it is for those who are coupled up. If a single wedding guest has a steady gal or regular fella, an invitation “with guest” is often expected. While inviting a single person to bring a guest is not de rigueur, it is often appreciated.
Bridal showers, engagement parties, and bachelor/ bachelorette parties all offer excellent opportunities to unite singles from both sides of the family. When they meet again at the wedding, they won’t be strangers. In addition, it gives them the chance to network socially and professionally. When a bride and groom take extra care to make all their guests feel comfortable, regardless of marital or dating status, the wedding becomes more of an affair to remember.
were introduced to new rituals and came away with a greater understanding and respect for one another’s religion. Looking at everyone’s smiles as they danced the hora together, you’d never know there was any difference between us at all. Post-nuptials, my husband and I have found a comfortable balance between our families’ religious practices,’ celebrating Chanukah with my family and Christmas with his. My Jewish relatives send my husband Christmas cards, and my Christian in-laws keep a menorah beside the Christmas tree. Our children (when we have them) will be incredibly blessed with a rich religious history. I know that there will probably be confusion and a lot of questions to navigate without stepping on each other’s beliefs, but I also know that our kids will have a unique, well-rounded view of the world. I look forward to the day we can show them our wedding video so that they can see how beautiful it is when multiple faiths come together.
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Finding Your ‘Bashert,’ or Match Made in Heaven Mark Mietkiewicz Special to the Journal
t’s hard to imagine what the world would have been like if Abram hadn’t met Sarai, and Isaac hadn’t married Rebekah. The story of our matriarchs and patriarchs meetings their basherts is well-known. But what about the rest of us? Translated as “fated,” bashert is often used to mean the predestined soul mate. According to tradition, 40 days before a child is conceived, God has already decided one’s bashert, “literally, a match made in heaven.” But just because a match is made in heaven doesn’t mean that your marriage will
be trouble-free. Marriage, like everything worthwhile in life, requires dedication, effort and energy. Marriages are bashert because God is the matchmaker. The Judaism 101 website quotes the following midrash about a Roman woman who asked a rabbi, “‘If your God created the universe in six days, then what has He been doing with his time since then?’ The rabbi said that God has been arranging marriages. The Roman woman scoffed at this, saying that arranging marriages was a simple task, but the rabbi assured her that arranging marriages properly is as difficult as parting the Red Sea. To prove the rabbi wrong, the Roman woman went home and took a thousand male slaves and a thousand female slaves and matched them up in marriages. The next day, the slaves appeared before her, one with a cracked skull, another with a broken leg, another with his eye gouged out, all asking to be released from their marriages. The woman went back to the rabbi and said, “There is no god like your God, and your Torah is true.” Even if God is the matchmaker, Rabbi Shlomo Riskin says there’s no excuse for just waiting for things to happen. Comparing marriage to the splitting of the Red Sea is how the sages address the doubts and fears all couples face. The comparison tells the questioning and even fearful loving friends at the brink of a critical decision that they have to take the plunge, make the first move, be willing to work hard and to constantly move forward. Neither he nor she may sit back and wait for ‘bashert.’ Rabbi Micah Kelber has problems with the concept. Preoccupation over whether you are with your intended “can usher in regret or even panic — encouraging you to ignore the failings of a relationship or to celebrate, disproportionately, the present stage of your love… Meanwhile, if you’re not currently in a romantic relationship,
the concept of bashert also puts unnecessary pressure on you to find ‘the one.’” One of Emuna Braverman’s students asked her, “How will I know he’s my bashert, my soul mate?” “It doesn’t matter,” she replied. “Make a commitment to him, put in all the hard work and effort necessary and he’ll become your bashert.” Martin Bodek uses a different approach: arithmetic. In “How to Find Your Bashert,” Bodek makes some interesting calculations to prove how there are billions of people in the world who are wrong for you. But don’t despair, Mr. or Ms. Right is out there ... if Bodek’s math is right. Tamar Caspi was once sure she had met her bashert. And then he moved away to attend a university in another state. Ten years later, Caspi believes that she finally has found her bashert, but not because some cosmic force propelled them toward each other. Rather it was because of a mixture of a number of components, including timing, maturation and the willingness to compromise. “Man, am I glad I waited and didn’t settle! Too many people reach their breaking-point and are just so sick of dating that they pick the best of the ‘just okay,’ and figure that may be as good as it gets (and maybe it is for them) instead of getting what they need from the relationship, and then moving on. It may sound daunting, and I’m sure many singletons probably feel like they’re looking down a tunnel and not seeing the light at the end — but it will happen, it (almost) always does,” she said. Mark Mietkiewicz is a Toronto-based internet producer who writes, lectures and teaches about the Jewish internet. He can be reached at email@example.com.
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Alfred Feldman, 97, of Malden, formerly of Everett and Lynn Alfred Feldman, of Malden, formerly of Everett and Lynn, passed away on January 17, 2011. He was 97. He was born in Lynn and attended Lynn schools. Alfred was a resident of Everett for over 35 years. Most recently he had resided in Malden. Alfred was a retired meat salesman. He was a member of the Knights of Pythias Bellingham Lodge #53-Chelsea and a member of the Malden Jewish War Veterans Post #74. He was a WWII U.S. Marine Corps veteran, active in Guam, Siapan-Tinian and the campaign at Okinowa. He was with the first Marines to enter Japan. Alfred was the beloved husband of the late Miriam (Richey)
Feldman. He was also the beloved companion of Laurel Gordon. He was the devoted father-in-law of Richard Staffier. He was the loving grandfather of Jodi and Peter Waddington and Lori Staffier. Alfred was also the dear greatgrandfather of Kayla, Sean and Tanner. Graveside services were held at the Walnut Street Cemetery in Everett on January 20. Donations in Alfred’s memory may be made to Dana-Farber Cancer Institute, 10 Brookline Place West, 6th floor, Brookline, MA 02445-7226, Attn: Contribution Services. Arrangements were handled by Torf Funeral Service of Chelsea. For an online guestbook, visit the funeral home website, torffuneralservice.com.
Richard (Dick) Platcow, 82, of Marblehead Richard (Dick) Platcow of Marblehead died January 9, 2011, from pancreatic cancer, at the age of 82. He was born in New Haven, Conn., and moved to Mass. in 1956. Dick was a graduate of the University of Connecticut with an electrical engineering degree and received his master’s degree in engineering from Northeastern University, where he was an adjunct professor after his retirement. He served in the U.S. Army during the Korean War as a first lieutenant and was awarded the Bronze Star. Dick worked for the Mitre Corporation for 32 years in their Bedford, Omaha and Washington, D.C. offices. He retired as a department head in 1993. He loved skiing at Wildcat Mountain and spending time with his family in the mountains of N.H. Dick was the beloved husband for 60 years of Gloria (Germaine) Platcow. He was the devoted father of Ellen and her husband Reid Zavell of Fla., Michael Platcow of
N.C., Joanne and her husband Joseph Robbins of Marblehead, and Daniel and his wife Kathy Platcow of Melrose. He was the cherished grandfather of James and Jessica Robbins, Alec Zavell, and Sophie, Ethan and Eric Platcow. Services were held at the Stanetsky-Hymanson Memorial Chapel in Salem on January 16. Expressions of sympathy in Dick’s memory may be donated to the Kaplan Family Hospice House, 78 Liberty St., Danvers, MA 01923.
Gertrude (Frem) Topson, 88, of Revere Gertrude (Frem) Topson of Revere died on January 7, 2011 at Penacook Nursing Home. She was 88 years old. Gertrude was born in Plymouth and attended Revere schools. She was very dedicated to her grandchildren, and in her spare time loved dancing, shopping, singing and being at the beach. Gertrude was very well liked by all the aides and nurses
Stanley Wolfgang, 80, of Revere
the loving grandmother of Jason Fittingoff, Brian Fittingoff and Jennifer Blair. She was also the great-grandmother of two. Services were held at Torf Funeral Chapel in Chelsea on January 11. Interment followed in Brockton. Contributions in Gertrude’s memory may be made to the Alzheimer’s Association, 311 Arsenal St., Watertown, MA 02472. For an online guestbook, visit the funeral home website, torffuneralservice.com. Risa Buckstein and her husband Jan. He was the loving uncle of nephews and a niece. Services were held at the Torf Funeral Chapel in Chelsea on January 10. Interment followed in Sharon. Donations in Stanley’s memory may be made to the Boy Scouts of America, Minute Man Council, 411 Unquity Rd., Milton, MA 02186. For an online guestbook, visit the funeral home website, torffuneralservice.com.
Stanley Wolfgang of Revere passed away on January 7, 2011. He was 80. Stanley was born in Boston and raised in Winthrop. He resided in Revere for most of his life. He was a veteran of the U.S. Air Force, serving during the Korean War. Stanley was a member of Kearsarge I.O.O.F., Revere Kiwanis, Consolidated Lodge A.F. & A.M., Scottish Rite and of the
Beachmont Yacht Club. He was an avid painter. Stanley was the former owner of Family Jewelers in Revere. He was also a former longtime Scout Leader. Stanley was the beloved husband of the late Naomi (Davidson) Wolfgang. He was the devoted father of Mark Wolfgang and his wife Kerry (Welby) and Seth Wolfgang. He was the devoted brother of Barbara Finkleman and
Alper, Gussie (Axelrod), 96 — late of Winchester, formerly of Gloucester and Beverly. Died January 13, 2011. Wife of the late Leo Alper, former mayor of the city of Gloucester. Mother of Paul (Charleen) Alper of Lexington and the late Robert Alper. Sister of many siblings who predeceased her. Grandmother of Robin Alper of Los Angeles, Calif., and Joel (Lori) Alper of Bedford. Great-grandmother of Gabriel, Jordan and Max Alper. Aunt of numerous nieces and nephews. (Stanetsky-Hymanson)
Michael. Father of Janice Germain and her husband Alan of New Brunswick, N.J., and Deborah Sherrod of Atlanta, Ga. Brother of Robert Michael and his wife Carol of Salt Lake City, Utah, and the late Roy Michael. Grandfather of Sarah Germain, Leslie Germain, Alexander Sherrod and Hannah Sherrod. (Stanetsky-Hymanson)
her husband David of San Diego, Calif. Sister of Ida Brecher, the late Morris Fulman and the late Mary Osteller. Grandmother of Lynne R. Ostrer, Brian G. Ostrer and his wife Merideth and Allison B. Morin. Great-grandmother of Morgan E. Ostrer and Hailey C. Ostrer. (Stanetsky-Hymanson)
RACOW, Edna F. (Fulman), 98 — late of Beverly. Died January 11, 2011. Wife of the late Harold L. Racow. Mother of Susan J. Ostrer and her husband Gerald, and Ann R. Morin and
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BLOOM, Frances R. (Nathanson), 95 — late of Framingham, formerly of Lynn. Died January 6, 2011. Wife of the late Daniel E. Bloom. Daughter of the late Nathan and Celia (Goldberg) Nathanson. Mother of Elynor Clough of Framingham, Stephen Bloom of Okeechobee, Fla., and the late Judith Bern. Sister of Lillian Shapiro of Malden and the late Harry Nathanson. Grandmother of 10, great-grandmother of 14, and great-great-grandmother of one. (Stanetsky-Hymanson) Michael, Julian L. — late of Salem, formerly of Marblehead. Died January 15, 2011. Husband of Elinor (Morrison)
Debbie Friedman Remembered in Words and Song LOS ANGELES (JTA) — Singer-songwriter Debbie Friedman was eulogized at her funeral by friends, rabbis and fellow musicians in words and through her songs. Her acoustic guitar lay on top of her casket during funeral service on January 11 at Temple Beth Sholom in Santa Ana, Calif., the Orange County Register reported. Friedman, whose music transformed Jewish worship in synagogues and summer camps, died January 9 at the age of 59 after being diagnosed with pneumonia and admitted to a hospital a few days earlier. She blended the folk music roots of the 1960s and 1970s and combined them with traditional Jewish prayers and liturgy, and was frequently described as the “Joan Baez of Jewish song.” Mourners at the service joined Craig Taubman and other performers in singing such famous Friedman works as “Sing Unto God,” “Devorah’s Song,” “You Are The One,” “Miriam’s Song” and “L’chi Lach.” Perhaps Friedman’s best-known composition is “Mi Shebeirach,” a popular version of the prayer of healing for the sick.
at Penacook Nursing Home, and the family is grateful for the wonderful care she received during her stay there. Gertrude was the beloved wife of the late Nelson Topson. She was the devoted mother of Francine Blair and the late Sandi Fittingoff, and the dear mother-in-law of Richard Fittingoff. She was the cherished sister of Sally Ann Abel. Gertrude was
During the funeral, Rabbi Heidi Cohen of Temple Beth Sholom described Friedman as a modest artist, despite her fame. “If Debbie were here today, she would say, ‘What’s the big fuss? I don’t need this. I don’t want this,’” Cohen said. Rabbi Richard Levy of Hebrew Union CollegeJewish Institute of Religion in Los Angeles said of his former colleague, “Debbie wanted us to believe that God is good and God takes our prayers seriously. Even though all our prayers did not [heal her], they provided an escort into the next world that sang unto God, this woman is going to rock your throne.” On January 11, the Los Angeles City Council adjourned its meeting in memory of Friedman, whom council member Paul Koretz eulogized saying “Anyone who has ever attended a liberal Jewish synagogue or summer camp or youth group event has been touched by Debbie Friedman.” He added, “She was always ahead of the curve — be it in songs for lifecycle events, Jewish feminist music or interfaith spirituality. May her memory, and her music, be a blessing.”
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Tu B’Shvat Dinner
7 p.m., GLBT celebration at the private home of a Keshet member. $15. keshetonline.org or 617-524-9227.
Thur, Jan. 20 Maria Lyudko
6:30 p.m. Maria Lyudko (soprano) of Russia and Georges Devdariani (clarinet) will perform arias from Mozart, Bellini, Puccini, Lehar and Dvorak. $20. Miriam’s Gallery, 22 Ida Rd., Marblehead. Contact Miriam Gofshteyn at 781-631-0331 or miriamgallery.com/EABC.
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6:30 p.m. Special Shabbat service and seder. All welcome. Temple Emmanuel, 60 Tudor St., Chelsea. 617-889-1736.
6:30 p.m. dinner, 7:30 p.m. service led by women, followed by oneg dessert, $10/adult, $5/child, Temple Ner Tamid, 368 Lowell St., Peabody. firstname.lastname@example.org.
Historic documentary will be shown in two parts, at several times, through Jan. 24. $9/part. Harvard College Library, 24 Quincy St., Cambridge. hcl.harvard.edu/hfa.
Shabbat Celebration for Young Families
5:30 p.m. Service and dinner with Rabbi David Meyer. Community welcome. $10/adult, $5/children, under 3 free. Temple Emanu-El, 393
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Thur, Jan. 27
Tu B’Shvat Singles Mixer
Session A, for ages 35+, from 6:30-8 p.m. Session B, for ages 21-41, from 8:30-10 p.m. Tremont Street Shul, 8 Tremont St., Cambridge. tremontstreetshul.org/cgi-bin/mixer
Schmooze ‘N Shabbat
9:30 a.m. Meet Julia Wajs, an exchange student from São Paulo, Brazil. Kiddish to follow. Temple Emanu-El, 514 Main St., Haverhill. Nancy@TempleEmanu-El.org or 978-373-3861.
Tu B’Shvat Luncheon and Seder
9:30 a.m. Congregation Agudas Achim-Ezrath Israel, 245 Bryant St., Malden. email@example.com.
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Jewish teens in grades 9-12 can play Laser Quest all night long. Bus departs at 9:30 p.m. from Marblehead, with a pick up in Peabody. Breakfast at Denny’s the next day. Return about 8 a.m. $35 includes food, transportation and games. nsteeninitiative.org, firstname.lastname@example.org or smarty@ emanu-el.org.
Sun, Jan. 23, Jewish War Veterans
10 a.m. JWV North Shore Post 220 and Ladies Auxiliary meet. Congregation Sons of Israel, Park and Spring Sts., Peabody. 978-2368435.
Bagels and Coffee Schmooze
2 p.m. David Alan Pihl perofrms at Essex Chamber Music Players fundraiser. $15. Northern Essex Community College, 100 Elliott St., Haverhill. Contact Michael at 978470-1584 or ecmp.org.
8 p.m. Jon Fisch entertains. $30 includes beer, wine, desserts. Temple B’nai Abraham, 200 E. Lothrop St., Beverly. 978-927-3211 x14 or email@example.com.
best bet International Holocaust Remembrance Day
7 p.m. Commemorate the Holocaust with the reading of the Megillat HaShoah, the Holocaust Scroll. Community welcome. Free. Temple B’nai Abraham, 200 E. Lothrop St., Beverly. deb.vozella@tbabeverly. org or 978-927-3211.
10:15-11:30 a.m. Elaine Doroff speaks on health and wellness. Temple Beth Shalom, 489 Lowell St., Peabody. 978-535-2100 or templebethshalom.org.
Mon, Jan. 24 best bet The Boomer Broads
7:30 p.m. Annual Combined North Shore Jewish Women’s Organization’s program features broadcasters Anne-Marie Aigner and Janet Prensky. Free. Temple Ner Tamid 368 Lowell St., Peabody. Contact Arlyne Greenspan at 781-631-8330 x506 or firstname.lastname@example.org, or Lois Black at 978-535-4955 or email@example.com.
Wed, Jan. 26
Parenting From the Heart
7 p.m., Dr. David Stember, a psychologist specializing in cognitive behavior therapy, offers “Pragmatic Advice on Understanding Your Child’s Behavior.” $5. JCCNS 4 Community Rd., Marblehead. jccns. org or 781-631-8330.
7:30 p.m, Watch Season Two’s first three episodes of Israel’s addictive TV series, $12. Stuart Street Playhouse, 200 Stuart St., Boston. 617-244-9899.
9:30 a.m. to 3 p.m. Workshop for families suffering loss. $20. St. John’s Prep, 72 Spring St., Danvers. firstname.lastname@example.org or 978-774-5100.
Symphony by the Sea
Songs of Four Worlds, with talk by Music Director Donald Palma. $30. Show will be performed at three venues. Visit symphonybythesea. com or contact Don Puluse at 781990-3919.
Taste of the North Shore
6:30 p.m. Food tasting, auctions, music. $60. Temple Emanu-El, 393 Atlantic Ave., Marblehead. Contact Judith at 781-631-9300.
Sun, Jan. 30
The Holocaust, A Torch or Memory
9 a.m. Amisrael, a non-governmental peace organization commemorates victims of the Holocaust. Lynn City Hall. 781-718-6514.
Fri, Jan. 28
Beyond Bubbie’s Kitchen
5:30 p.m. Local celebrity chefs showcase Jewish recipes. Moakley Courthouse, 1 Courthouse Way, South Boston. newcenterboston. org or 617-531-4610.
Keshet Shabbat Potluck
Service at 6 p.m. followed by potluck dinner at 7:15 p.m. at a member’s home in South Boston. RSVP by Jan. 25 for address. keshetonline. org or 617-524-9227.
Sat, Jan. 29
10 a.m. to noon. North of Boston Jewish Singles. $5. Temple Emanuel, 7 Haggetts Pond Rd., Andover. Contact Myron.Mann@hanscom. af.mil or 781-396-7165.
Yours, Mine & Ours
10 a.m. to 5 p.m., Two-day workshop for interfaith couples. $150. Temple Tifereth Israel, 539 Salem St., Malden. email@example.com or Joyce Schwartz at 617-928-0012.
1 p.m. Brookwood School, 1 Brookwood Rd., Manchester. firstname.lastname@example.org or 978525-6205.
Hidden Treasures from the German Baroque
4 p.m. $10-$15, Unitarian Church, 26 Pleasant St., Newburyport. frsuu. org or call 978-465-0602 x401.
Big Joe The Storyteller
1-3 p.m. Cohen Hillel Academy open house. 1 Community Rd., Marblehead. cberger@cohenhillel. org or 781-639-2880.
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Tues, Feb. 1
Adult Torah Study
7:30 p.m. Informative introduction to Tanakh, Mishneh, Talmud, Midrash and Halachah in eight sessions. Free/members; $40/nonmembers. Temple Emanuel, 101 West Forest St., Lowell. rabbi@ temv.org or 978-454-1372.
4 p.m. Featuring dozens of cantors and song leaders. Free. Temple Israel, 477 Longwood Ave., Boston. rememberingdebbie.com. 10:15-11:30 a.m. Taught by Eric Feingold. Temple Beth Shalom, 489 Lowell St., Peabody. 978-5352100 or templebethshalom.org.
Mon, Jan. 31
Joan Nathan at Lumiere
Chef Michael Leviton of Lumiere Restaurant hosts celebrated chef Joan Nathan at a four-course meal. $85-$105. Lumiere Restaurant, 1293 Washington St., Newton. lumiererestaurant.com or 617-244-9199.
Introduction to Great Books of the Jewish Tradition
7:30 p.m. “God Talk,” a 13-part series with alternating instructors, runs through May 17. Cong. Shirat Hayam, 55 Atlantic Ave., Swampscott. 781-599-8005 or csh@ shirathayam.org
Thur, Feb. 3 A Taste of Hineini
6:15 p.m. The North Shore Hebrew School introduces its new Hebrew high school program for students in grades 7-8. All welcome. Pizza and salad served. JCCNS, 4 Community Rd., Marblehead. firstname.lastname@example.org.
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8 p.m. “The Blindside” author discusses his newest book. Simucast live from the 92nd Street Y. Free. JCCNS, 4 Community Rd., Marblehead. 781-631-8330.
Jews, Christians and Muslims: Together in Prayer
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gain a lot from the merger. “We are a $1.5 million agency; they have a $25 million budget. A lot of our programming is similar, but they are on a larger scale. They have an infrastructure and development department that will help us expand our services. The merger will enhance the level of programming we can provide,” she said. “We are very excited about the merger. They are committed to our core program, and our values are very similar,” echoed Robert Cashman, president of the JFSNS Board. “This strategic partnership ensures that services here on the North Shore will continue. It also gives us new opportunities to roll out programs that JF&CS are already running, such
as programs for assisting families with newborns, and special Parkinson’s programs,” he added. Cashman and Arseneau stress that JFSNS’s flagship services, such as the kosher food pantry, emergency assistance program, home care program and adoption program, will not be affected by the merger. “We think JFSNS has done a good job of serving people in the North Shore. We are delighted to expand our geography,” said Friedland, whose organization currently serves 30,000 people per year, in 80 communities. The merger will significantly expand JF&CS’s reach on the North Shore. They are also interested in exploring some of JFNS’s programs, such as its pri-
vate pay home care service program, its medication dispensing system, and its personal emergency response system. JF&CS currently has offices in Boston and Waltham. JFNS is located in Salem. Both organizations believe it is important to maintain the North Shore office. At this point, all JFNS staff members will retain their jobs. They have not, at this point, come up with a new moniker for the merged agencies. “Logistically, we are in the process of determining how to transition services. This will all be worked out in the coming months,” Arseneau said. “Our staff, especially Pam, is doing a phenomenal job to ensure a smooth transition,” Cashman said.
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husband retired from the Natick public schools. Congressman John Tierney, a personal friend, urged her to get involved in local politics as a way of getting settled in Tucson. Before long, she was tapped to run for state representative. “The first person I talked to was Gabby Giffords. We were both part of the Jewish Resource Council at the Jewish Federation. She talked to me about the political climate in my district, and said I had a ‘snowball’s chance in hell’ of winning, but she would help me if I ran,” Saradnik said. With the encouragement of Giffords and Tierney, Saradnik announced her candidacy in February of 2006. At the same time, Giffords, then a state senator, decided to run for Congress.
“We had lots of opportunities to campaign together, and we were both victorious. I was the first Democrat in this district in 25 years,” Saradnik said. Unfortunately, one year into her term, Saradnik suffered a stroke and resigned her seat to devote herself to rehabilitation. This year, she got involved again as an advisor to candidates in the 2010 election. She has found that the political climate has changed drastically. “The climate in 2010 was totally different than when I ran in 2006. The vitriolic language was incredible, and the Tea Party was very active. Candidates were reporting an atmosphere that was very challenging. During the health care campaign, Gabby Giffords’s town halls were really horrible. People were disrespect-
ful to her and yelling out ‘shut up.’ Everyone involved noticed the really intense language, but no one predicted this,” Saradnik said, referring to the shooting. She has visited the victims in the hospital and attended services for those she knew who died, including Gabe Zimmerman. “This has been a horrible week for all of us,” Saradnik said. Gloria and Selwyn Bloom of Peabody spend winters in Tucson, and recently joined Saradnik and her husband for lunch. The Blooms have found Tucson to be a friendly place where people tend to get very involved in politics. “Until now, there has never been any violence associated with differences of opinion,” Gloria Bloom said.
Free Grief Workshops/Support Groups DANVERS — The Bertolon Center for Grief & Healing, a program of Hospice of the North Shore, is offering a variety of workshops and support groups for 2011. Free of charge, these groups offer options for people grieving the death of a loved one. Led by experienced grief counselors, the groups and workshops are open to anyone in the community who has experienced a loss, regardless of hospice involvement. All groups meet at the Bertolon Center for Grief &
Healing, 78 Liberty St., Danvers. Advance registration is required. Call 978-774-5100 or email email@example.com.
Loss of a Parent 8-week support group meets Wednesdays, February 9 to March 30, from 6:30-8 p.m.
Pet Loss Workshop Tuesday, February 1, 6-8 p.m.
Loss of a Young Child 8-week support group meets Thursdays, March 3 to April 21, from 6:30 -8 p.m.
Young Widowed 8-week support group meets Thursdays, February 3 to March 24, from 6:30-8 p.m. Loss of a Spouse/Partner 8-week support group meets Tuesdays, February 8 to March 29, from 6:30-8 p.m.
Women Who’ve Lost their Mothers 8-week support group meets Wednesdays, April 13 to June 1, 6:30-8 p.m.
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11 a.m. to 3 p.m. Learn about summer options for children. Glen Urquhart School, 74 Hart St., Beverly Farms.
6:30 p.m. Kosher deli dinner followed by poker. Temple B’nai Abraham, 200 E. Lothrop St., Beverly. RSVP to 978-927-3211 x14 or firstname.lastname@example.org.
Fri, Feb. 4
Second Annual Shabbatini
7 p.m. Martini and dessert buffet. NSJCC, 83 Pine St., W. Peabody. email@example.com or Carol 978-5352968.
Sat, Feb. 5
Havdalah Under the Stars
7-9 p.m. Hors d’oeuvres, dessert and Havdalah at a private home.
Presented by Neverland Theatre through Feb. 13. $10-$20, Temple B’nai Abraham, 200 E. Lothrop St., Beverly. neverlandtheatre.com or 978-500-8832.
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7-10:30 p.m. Contemporary, acoustic, folk, blue, rhythm, blues and jazz. All ages welcome. $10. Temple Ahavat Achim, 33 Commercial St., Gloucester. 978281-0739.
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responsibility of owning her own home, especially after a few break-ins. “I have no worries of shoveling snow, and we are always safe here. This place has a beautiful view,” Moschella said. Frances Hooker of Chelsea appreciates the friendliness of other residents. “If you are alone, someone will sit with you and be your friend for life. I was not even unpacked when Elaine asked me to help in the coffee shop,” she said.
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Moguls & Munchies – Après Ski for a Good Cause
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Moguls & Munchies, an Après Ski party, will take place on Saturday, Feb. 12 at 7:30 p.m. at East Coast Alpine in Danvers. This evening is cosponsored by Cohen Hillel Academy and the Jewish Federation of the North Shore. At left are Cohen Hillel Academy students and friends. Front row, l-r, Gabriel Bookman, Jayden Janock, Toby Bookman, Josh Comito, Jacob Levy and (back row) Ryan Bookman, Emma Waldman and Jacob Aizanman.
NSHS To Offer Hineini to 7th and 8th Graders Amy Sessler Powell Jewish Journal Staff
MARBLEHEAD — The North Shore Hebrew School is launching a brand new seventh and eighth grade religious school program entitled “Hineini,” meaning “Here I am, ready to serve.” It will be open to the community. The North Shore Hebrew School is a consortium of Temple Sinai, Temple Shalom and Congregation Ahabat Sholom. However, enrollment in this class will be open to all students in the community. Formerly, the NSHS relied on Prozdor to educate their students after grade six. The first semester will begin on March 6 and run through May 15. The second semester begins in September. Nicole Levy of Swampscott, who designed the class and will teach, described the class as one that will enable students to “articulate their connections with the Jewish people.” She has divided the class into specific values, including Jewish study, memory, hope, courage,
solidarity of the Jewish people, Zionism, freedom and sharing the holidays with fellow Jews. Ultimately, she wants the students to be prepared to form their own Jewish identity and to be comfortable in the situations that will arise in their future. These values will be taught through discussion, literature, film and art. Judy Sherman, a long-time board member of NSHS, said there is so much to teach children about American Jewish history, and so many wonderful books. She stressed that the NSHS is open to collaboration with other synagogues and schools, and has initiated some early conversations with potential partners. Earlier this year, Hebrew College closed the Marblehead branch of their Prozdor program, which served students in grades seven through 11. Others, such as Chabad, have stepped into the void. Chabad this week launched a class aimed at the same age group entitled “Life in Motion” that explores the life cycle and the lessons learned along the way.
Levy envisions the program to evolve to a place where the students facilitate discussion, and she and other teachers learn as much as the students. “These are the kids that will one day have to be in the discussion,” Levy said. To give students a taste of what is to come, there is an open house at the JCCNS on February 3 at 6:15 p.m. with pizza and salads and a sample of what the class will be like. Sixth through eighth graders and their parents will learn from Nicole Levy and Heather Greenberg about Dona Gracia Mendes, a 16th-century Por tuguese businesswoman who rescued Jews from the Spanish Inquisition, with an art activity included. Parents can attend or drop off. Hineini costs $195 for the first, eight-session, semester. To register or for more information, contact Heather Greenberg, NSHS director, by January 29 at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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Youth With Juvenile Arthritis Doesn’t Kidd Around Susan Jacobs Jewish Journal Staff
SWAMPSCOTT — Several years ago, Rachel Kidd of Swampscott was diagnosed with a form of juvenile arthritis called ankelosing spondylitis. The genetic condition causes the 13-year-old constant pain, especially in her joints. Yet Rachel does not let the disorder slow her down. The Arthritis Foundation recently named the physically active dancer and swimmer this year’s juvenile ambassador of the Beverly Arthritis Foundation Walk. Besides educating and fundraising, the middle school student will serve as an inspiration to other youths coping with the disease. Rachel’s mother, Marla Levy, says she was “floored” when they first received the diagnosis. “I don’t think any of us knew that kids could get arthritis. We had always thought it was an adult disease,” Levy said. Every morning, Rachel must get up early and put warm compresses on her aching joints. She has physical therapy at least twice a week, and must also use ice therapy to deal with the painful inflammation.
But Rachel does not let the treatments, or her discomfort, bring her down. The determined youth participates in all the same activities her peers do. She has been dancing since the age of one, and has been a swimmer for much of her life. She enjoys acting, and is a member of Swampscott Middle School’s drama club. And she is looking forward to becoming a bat mitzvah on January 29. As captain of “The Walking Kidds,” she has motivated her family and friends to participate in the Arthritis Foundation’s annual local fundraising walk. “My life is pretty good, overall,” Rachel said. “It’s been like a fun but scary roller coaster.”
Win a Super Bowl Dream Package and Support Jew Crew The North of Boston Jew Crew is holding a raffle for a Super Bowl Dream package with a cash value of $10,000. The package includes upper level, end zone seats for the Super Bowl on February 6 in Texas, hotel accommodations, airfare for two, Kosher food, limousine service to the game, an official Super Bowl gift bag and gear, a personalized concierge staff, and a pre-Super Bowl party. Raffle tickets are $50 for one,
$180 for four, and $500 for 11 entries. The raffle will be drawn January 23, and the winner can choose either the Super Bowl package, or $5,000 in cash. All of the proceeds will directly support Jewish teen programming on the North Shore. To purchase raffle tickets online, visit nsjewish.com/superbowl. For further questions, contact David Nathan at 781775-7981 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.
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Local Teen Comforts Israeli Fire Victims While on Fellowship Amy Sessler Powell Jewish Journal Staff
MARBLEHEAD — When Halle Watkin received the Diller Teen Fellowship to study in Israel during the recent December break, she had no idea how much was in store. The 16-year-old Marblehead High School junior was assigned to Haifa, and found herself headed there shortly after the deadly fires that ravaged the Carmel Forest and devastated the village at Yemin Orde. The Diller Teen Fellowship is a national initiative to promote Jewish teen leadership. It is a selective, year-long program for 10th and 11th graders, focusing on Israel education, leadership training, community service, and Jewish ethics and identitybuilding. Watkins was encouraged to apply by the head of her Maccabi Games delegation, Tamar Cytryn, who works for the Diller program. The first week in Israel was spent touring and getting acclimated to the culture. Then,Watkin and the group met with their counterparts in Haifa,
who will be coming to the U.S. in April as part of the program. “The fire had just occurred and we had a few kids in our group who lived in Yemin Orde. We saw that half of the campus burned. A lot of them and their friends lost all their stuff. It was really upsetting. At end of trip, they told us that we made getting through it easier,” said Watkin. One highlight of the trip for Watkin was the intense discussions shared by the group at the end of each day. “After each event we would sit in circle and talk about how we felt about things. It was interesting because we all came from different backgrounds and different Jewish denominations. We had preconceived notions about things in Israel. “One of Israelis asked me if I will make aliyah and join the Israeli army. I said I will not make aliyah, even though I love the country. I do not want to join any army. They were baffled by my answer and asked if I felt a responsibility to protect the Jewish state and Jewish people. We were both dumbfounded by others’ responses,” Watkin said.
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Halle Watkin hikes in Haifa during her recent trip to Israel as a Diller Teen Fellow.
In addition to the trip to Israel, the Diller Teen Fellow program includes a trip to Washington where the teens will learn about lobbying for issues related to
Israel. At the same time, the teens are developing important friendships. “The people I traveled with are now my brothers, sisters and
closest friends. Even though it is 20 kids, they all feel like best friends, with no cliques. It’s kind of too good to be true,” Watkin said.
They won’t only become rocket scientists. They will also become teachers, historians, mathematicians and artists.
They won’t always win trophies. They will be champions, captains, teammates and coaches.
They won’t just think of themselves. They will prove their commitment to community and cause.
They will succeed. They will excel. They will soar.
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Panel to Examine Stereotypes Surrounding Shakespeare’s Most Infamous Jewish Character Susie Davidson Special to the Journal
“Hath not a Jew eyes?”
hese five words, which begin Shylock’s most exalted and memorable speech in Shakespeare’s “The Merchant of Venice,” strike a chill in the hearts of many, as they invariably open up a literary, historical and social quagmire regarding the nature of Shakespeare’s most enigmatic Jewish character. Was the role, and the play, anti-Semitic? Does it reflect Shakespeare’s intent, or his times and his audiences? These questions will be addressed at a January 26 panel discussion moderated by author, playwright and A.R.T. Founding Artistic Director Robert Brustein. Produced by ArtsEmerson: The World on Stage, the New York-based Theatre for a New Audience (TFANA) and the New Center for Arts and Culture, the event will explore Shakespeare’s Jewish characters, with an emphasis on the interpretation of Shylock. The panel will include Oscar-winning screen and stage actor F. Murray Abraham, TFANA Director Jeffrey Horowitz, and Shakespeare & Company Founding Artistic Director Tina Packer. The discussion precedes the March 29-April 10 TFANA production of “The Merchant of Venice,” which will star Abraham, at Boston’s Cutler Majestic Theatre. In “The Merchant of Venice,” which scholars estimate was written between 1596-1598, the Jewish Shylock lends money to Antonio, his Christian nemesis, and sets the collateral as a pound
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of Antonio’s flesh. Antonio, who insults and spits on Shylock, later finds himself bankrupt and is forced to default, with a revengeful Shylock demanding his terms. Adding to Shylock’s consternation is the fact that his daughter, Jessica, has eloped with Antonio’s friend Lorenzo and converted to Christianity, taking money and jewels from Shylock as well. The play incorporates tragic, romantic and dramatic elements. Shylock is ruthless, revengeful, and yet also somewhat sympathetic, due to his defensive statements as a member of a long-persecuted people. “Tragically, the lesson of Shylock is perpetually forgotten, as witnessed by the murderous, inhuman treatment of so many, many peoples,” said Abraham. “Any people or nation that chooses to ignore the horrors they visit on their fellow human beings risks the sacrifice of their own humanity.” In Elizabethan England (1558-1603), Jews were only allowed to work in money-lending or as peddlers, and could not outwardly practice their religion. Consequently, there were not many Jews in England, which added to their mystique among Elizabethans.
“The Jews were expelled from England 150 years before this play was written,” said Horowitz by phone, adding that his company’s 2007 production of the “The Merchant of Venice” was done in repertory with Shakespeare’s contemporary, Christopher Marlowe’s “The Jew of Malta.” It was the first time in America that the two plays were done in rep, he explained. “When you see this play in relation to Marlowe’s play, it’s fascinating,” said Horowitz. During that season, TFANA explored images of Jews as outsiders, while another TFANA company also performed a stage adaptation of “Oliver Twist” featuring the Jewish villain, Fagan. “We examined the issues of stereotypes of all these characters,” Horowitz said. “Shylock is indeed the personification of the stereotypically greedy, evil Jew,” wrote Isaiah Paul, a law enforcement official and English scholar who lives in northeastern Ohio and blogs about literature on Helium.com. “It should be noted that Shakespeare could not have used a Jewish character in any other way,” he continued. Paul contends that the mainly Christian audience would simply not have accepted a benevolent, or even an inoffensive Jew, and concludes that Shylock helped Shakespeare affirm Jewish stereotypes in order to please the audience. Yet Paul also believes that Shakespeare, at the same time, “couches within the motivation of the character a subtle critique of Christian treatment of the Jews.” “I have a concern that we not impose on Shakespeare all of our own social-
political predispositions, as he more often reflected the prejudices of his age,” said Brustein, whose books include 2009’s “The Tainted Muse: Prejudice and Presumption in Shakespeare and His Time.” Indeed, the upcoming panelists tend to classify Shylock’s vilification as a reflection of the times. “‘The Merchant of Venice’ is antiSemitic,” Abraham said. “It is also antiblack, anti-foreign, anti-aged and antijudicial.” “The play for us is about a clash of cultures,” said Horowitz. “It’s about Jews and Christians, and includes homophobia, as well as racial stereotypes.” Packer views the interpretation of Shylock in perspective to all of Shakespeare’s characters, including his women. “I think there is a definite link between the women in Shakespeare’s plays and the ‘outsiders’ Othello, Shylock, Aaron, and The Bastard in King John,” she said. “They all in some way allow you to see the structure of the society in which they are operating because they don’t have full citizen rights, and so the fabric of the law, the customs, the expected/the norm are all exposed by these roles.” “A Panel Discussion of Shakespeare’s Jews” takes place January 26 at 7:30 p.m. at the Paramount Mainstage, 559 Washington St., Boston, and will be followed by a reception. Tickets are $28 for the discussion; or $45 for the panel and reception, and can be purchased online at ArtsEmerson.org or by phone at 617824-8000.
Symphony by the Sea in Concert, at Three Different Venues Heading the list is “Adagio for Strings” by Samuel Barber. This piece, originally a movement from his string quartet, was played at the funerals of Princess Grace of Monaco and Albert Einstein. Various soundtracks have featured the work, includ-
ing Oliver Stone’s “Platoon” and David Lynch’s “Elephant Man.” “Prelude to Capriccio” by Richard Strauss is an opera about an opera. Subtitled “A Conversation Piece for Music,” it addresses the question: “Which is more important in an opera,
Symphony by the Sea celebrates its 30th anniversary with the concert series “Songs of Four Worlds.” Some of the most beautiful music in the world will be heard at three separate concerts during the weekend of January 29.
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disadvantaged composers. This thrust him into the limelight. Under the direction of Maes tro Donald Palma, Symphony by the Sea will present this concert at three different venues. A conductor’s talk will take place 45 minutes prior to each concert. Endicott College in Beverly on Saturday, January 29 at 2:30 p.m. Abbot Hall in Marblehead on Saturday, January 29 at 8 p.m. Governor’s Academy in Byfield on Sunday, January 30 at 3 p.m. Tickets for all shows are $30, and may be purchased at the door, or online at symphonybythesea.org.
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Restoration of ‘The Greatest Courtroom Drama in History’ Debuts Don Stradley Special to the Journal
niversal Studios deemed “Nuremberg,” a 1948 documentary about the historic Nuremberg trial, “too gruesome” for the American public. A decision by the Truman administration further quashed efforts to show it in this country. Now, thanks to the director’s daughter, this remarkable film is finally being shown in American theaters. Originally commissioned by the U.S. War film Department’s Civil Affairs Division, “Nuremberg” was directed by Stuart Schulberg, younger brother of Budd Schulberg. The brothers were part of the Office of Strategic Services, a forerunner of the CIA. Budd, who would later author such Hollywood
classics as “On The Waterfront,” supervised two film compilations to be used by the U.S. prosecution team. Stuart artfully weaved sections from those films into the courtroom footage, creating “Nuremberg.” The film played in Germany before being shelved for various political reasons, including a fear that “Nuremberg” might permanently ruin Germany’s image in America. In 2003, Stuart Schulberg’s daughter, Sandra, and partner, Josh Waletzky, undertook a five-year mission to restore the 78-minute film. With a painstakingly reconstructed soundtrack using original sound from the trial, a new recording of the original music score, and narration by Liev Schreiber (the voice of many HBO documentaries), the restored film is stunning. “Nuremberg” shows how the international prosecutors built their case by
Nine-Hour ‘Shoah’ Documentary to Screen in Cambridge This year marks the 25th anniversary of the release of Claude Lanzmann’s historic documentary, “Shoah.” The nine-hour masterpiece showed the horrors perpetrated by the Nazis against Jews in World War II, and marked a turning point not only in the discussion of the Nazis’ attempt to eradicate the Jews of Europe, but also in the history of non-fiction filmmaking because Lanzmann chose to rely upon witness testimony and memory, as opposed to archival footage. To mark the anniversary, the film Harvard Film Archive is presenting this monumental work in a new 35mm print. The film, presented in conjunction with the Boston Jewish Film Festival, will be shown in two parts over the January 21-24 weekend. Part One will screen Friday, January 21 at 6 p.m.; Saturday, January 22 at noon; and Sunday, January 23 at noon. Part Two will screen Saturday, January 22 at 6 p.m.: Sunday, January 23 at 6 p.m.; and Monday, January 24 at 6 p.m.
“Shoah” will be screened in two parts.
General admission tickets are $9, and each part requires separate admission. Tickets will not be sold in advance, but the box office will open 45 minutes prior to the first show of the day. Harvard Film Archive, a division of the Harvard College Library, is located at 24 Quincy St., Cambridge. Call 617-4954700 or visit hcl.harvard.edu/ hfa.
Shalom TV Surpasses 40 Million Subscribers FORT LEE, N.J. — Shalom TV, the pioneering North American Jewish Tele vision Cable Network, added another 10 million digital homes last year to top the 40 million digital household subscriber mark. It is now watched in over 275 communities. According to Shalom television TV President Mark S. Golub, “It is extraordinary for a free video on demand only network to see this kind of growth.” Shalom TV’s free programming features Jewish C-Span (news, interviews, coverage of major addresses and con-
ventions), a weekly Jewish film festival, children’s programming, Jewish studies (including Hebrew lessons, Talmud study and Kabbalah), exclusive presentations from the 92nd St. Y in New York, an original Jewish dating mockumentary (“From Date To Mate”), a hip look at Jewish culture (“Jewish NYC,”) and other programs that offer a panorama of Jewish life today. Distributing cable companies include Comcast, Cox Communications, Verizon FiOS, Time Warner, Cablevision, Bright House, MetroCast and others. Additional information can be found at shalomtv.com.
Stuart Schulberg was the writer-director of “Nuremberg: Its Lesson for Today.” His daughter, Sandra, worked on a restoration of the historic, 78-minute film.
using the Nazis’ own films and records. The familiar images of mass graves are even more startling here, with the victims
seemingly stacked liked kindling, along with mountainous piles of shoes, gold teeth, and personal items taken from death camp victims. A shot of confiscated shaving brushes seems especially poignant, as if the Nazi’s first step in destroying a person’s humanity was to take their vanity. As critic Roger Ebert said of “Shoah,” the nine-hour documentary that also has resurfaced in recent months, films like this are important in that they allow one generation to tell the next what it has learned. But “Nuremberg” does something more. As the defendants deny culpability, we see what evil looks like when it’s backed into a corner. “Nuremberg” opens at Kendall Square Theater in Cambridge on Friday, January 28. Filmmaker Sandra Schulberg will be available for post-show Q&A’s January 28-30. Call 617-499-1996 or visit landmarktheatres.com.
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uch to the relief of Sandra his niece’s efforts. “He was thrilled,” said Schulberg, Schulberg, “Nuremberg” has been acknowledging that the film’s release well received since its New York preis bittersweet without her uncle being miere in September 2009. alive to see it. “Some of the footage has never been Schulberg plans to make seen before, and even the footage that “Nuremberg” available to human is familiar has a new impact when it is rights groups and secondary schools. viewed within the context of the trial,” A Spanish language version of the Schulberg said. film recently had great impact in A two disc DVD edition of “Nurem nurembergfilm.org berg” is being planned for next year, Sandra Schulberg Guatemala, where human rights issues have surfaced since the Guatemalan which will include the two films superCivil War. It’s a sign, perhaps, that the vised by Budd Schulberg: “The Nazi Plan,” which consists of the German Reich’s own film’s life will extend beyond its current theatrifilms, and “Nazi Concentration Camps,” which cal run. “Personally,” said Schulberg, “I hope it lasts used footage shot by Allied forces. The DVD will another 60 years, to make up for the 60 years it also include interviews. Stuart Schulberg died years ago, and was buried.” although Budd died in 2009, he was aware of — Don Stradley
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In today’s issue of the Russian Chronicle we invite our readers to attend a concert of classical music performed by Maria Lyudko of Russia, a soloist of the Bolshoi Theater. We invite children and parents to free art classes held at the Youth Talent School of Swampscott. We also have a few announcements about upcoming events in the community.
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Amy and Mark Adrian Farber of Gloucester are thrilled to announce the engagement of their daughter, Shira Anne Farber, to Jeffrey Alan Kraft, son of Deborah and Frederic Kraft of Baltimore, previously of St. Louis, Mo. Ms. Farber is the associate director of Hemphill Fine Arts in Washington, D.C. She attended Swampscott High School and Gann Academy. She graduated in 2005 with a B.A. in art history and visual arts from Barnard College in N.Y. Mr. Kraft is a sales and merchandising representative for the Clarks Companies, North America. He attended Parkway Central High School in St. Louis, and Pikesville High School in Baltimore. He graduated in 2005 with a B.A. in political science from Muhlenberg College. The couple resides in Washington, D.C., and is planning a July 2011 wedding in Salem.
Nancy Sarles and Norman Katzman of Marblehead announce the marriage of their son, Jared Andrew Katzman, to Karleen R e b e c c a Engel, daughter of David and Ann Engel of Corpus Christi, Texas. Mr. and Mrs. Katzman were married at the Vintage Inn in Yountville, Cal. on September 5 by Rabbi Samuel Stahl of Corpus Christi. Josh Katzman of New Jersey was his brother’s best man. Niece and nephew Hadley and Drew Katzman were the flower girl and ring bearer; Ariana and Sophie Katzman of Marblehead were also in the wedding party. Karleen’s cousins and friends were her honored attendants. Mr. and Mrs. Katzman are both employed at Federated Media in San Francisco, an online media and publishing company, where Jared is a director and Karleen is an account executive. After their honeymoon in Bali, they are residing in San Francisco.
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Rotman Wins Northwestern Mutual Regional Leader Award Northwestern Mutual is honoring Marblehead resident Ralph J. Rotman, CLU®, ChFC® affiliated with The Boston Group based in Boston, with its 2011 Eastern Region Top 10 Leader Award. The honor recognizes Rotman for an outstanding year of performance with Northwestern Mutual, serving the financial security needs of clients and policy owners throughout the region.
Hillel Academy Alumna Joins Faculty Briana Polan of Danvers joined Cohen Hillel Academy’s faculty to teach and oversee the school’s music program. A 1995 graduate of Hillel Academy, Polan earned a B.A. in music with a certification in music education from Connecticut College, and holds a master’s degree in instrumental coaching from the University of Miami. She has taught at the Boston Children’s Theatre and North Andover High School, and has extensive experience conducting orchestral music and singing ensembles. Polan’s theatre and conducting skills will be incorporated into Hillel Academy’s music program and after school activities.
Over 400 community members gathered on December 12, 2010 to bid farewell to JCRC Executive Director Nancy K. Kaufman, who left after 20 years of service. Co-chaired by Devra Lasden and Ben Sigel, the program featured remarks from Congressman John Tierney, Governor Deval Patrick, former Governor Michael Dukakis and his wife Kitty Dukakis, Mayor Thomas Menino and CJP President Barry Shrage. Ms. Kaufman left the JCRC to become CEO of the National Council of Jewish Women.
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Edith Weinstein, formerly of Swampscott, and now living in Silver Springs, Md., celebrated her 100th birthday with her niece and nephew, Barbara and Arthur Noymer of Marblehead and their family; her son and daughterin-law, Richard and Harriet Weinstein, great-nephew Edward and Leslie Noymer of Andover and their two daughters, Rebecca and Deborah; great-nephew David and Sandy Noymer of Newton and their sons, Jeffrey and Sam. The Noymers all flew down to Maryland on Sunday, January 9, for the luncheon.
Chabad Welcomes New Rabbi Chabad of the North Shore welcomes Rabbi Shmaya Friedman and his family to the North Shore as its newest “shluchim,” or Chabad emissaries. “Rabbi Shmaya” grew up in Crown Heights, Brooklyn, and received his rabbinical ordination in Israel. He is the grandson of Rabbi Yehuda Krinsky, the chairRabbi Shmaya and Aliza Friedman, man of Lubavitch with their daughter, Liba International who was recently voted “Most Influential Rabbi in America” by Newsweek magazine. Rabbi Shmaya and his wife, Aliza, have worked for Chabad centers in Florida, Virginia and New York. Aliza will teach at Cohen Hillel and will assume leadership of Chabad’s Mommy and Me program and the Aleph Bet Preschool. Rabbi Shmaya will work closely with David Nathan and Rabbi Yossi and Layah Lipsker in Swampscott, helping to run Chabad’s Hebrew School, Jew Crew and Camp Gan Israel.
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Temple Emmanuel of Wakefield presented a check for $2,400 to the Wakefield Interfaith Food Pantry. The check included proceeds from the Velvet Elvis Night at the Civic Center this past fall. Additional cash and food donations have also been received by the WIFP from Temple members and friends. Shown in the photo, from left to right are Temple Event chairperson Ben Weiner, Temple President Ken Goldenberg, and Food Pantry Board Members Sue Worden and Jane Good.
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