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This year, my family celebrated Mother’s Day a week early. We don’t usually do things early; in fact, the party started more than an hour late. But we wanted to make sure to celebrate my mother and grandmother in style and this year Mother’s Day turned out to be a busy day for everyone, so we pushed it up one week! The barbeque was held indoors (note to self: don’t host a barbeque at the beginning of May) but the kids had a blast and the adults had a great time as well. The best part of the party was when we all held up our (pareve) ice cream cones in a toast to my grandmother and mother and all that they do for us. The Middle East is a volatile area; the past few months have demonstrated that the pressure cooker has exploded in different countries. It seems that Syria may be the next in line to fall. For years, Israel has remained on the sidelines, observing the country’s civil war from a safe distance. But this weekend, it got involved. Susan Schwamm explores the reasoning behind the attack and suggests that perhaps Israel had no other choice. I love reading Dr. Deb’s articles every week and indeed many of our readers have expressed this sentiment to me as well. This week, Dr. Deb highlights seven warning signs for those in an unhealthy relationship. She points out that there is no reason to stay in an unhealthy relationship while dating; if one notices these signs prior to marriage, it’s their chance to leave and save themselves from a destructive and punishing future. I found that the article was not just written for singles; I feel that every person should read it to gain insight into hurtful relationships and be able to prevent their friends and family from falling into a terrible marriage. On the topic of marriage, Rivki Rosenwald, our resident life coach, urges readers to look past externals when dating. Indeed, even though we are all grown up, some of us are still hampered by just seeing the peripherals of a potential spouse. Indeed, if you are looking for a good partner, you have to look on the inside to see what counts. As always, we love hearing from our readers. Feel free to email me at And make sure to buy your mother something special! She certainly deserves it! Wishing you a wonderful week, Shoshana Yitzy Halpern

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Letters to Dear Editor, I live in Brooklyn and read your newspaper as often as I can. (I don’t always seem to find it many times as it is “sold out” before I go shopping.) This week, I was delighted to read Malky Lowinger’s account on her first day at cooking school. The article was a pleasure to read and I feel like I learned a lot about how real chefs cook. It seems to me that although we see chicken consommé as something “easy” to make, we are literally making a “watered-down” version of the real thing. Thank you for highlighting the beauty and science of cooking. Ditza Lesser Dear Editor, Weeks ago, you wrote an article on life in North Korea. It was a long article, but I found it fascinating as I did not know much about what is going on in the country. I found the terror and cruelty shocking. How terrible for so many people to be living in such conditions and for there to be no way out. Just this week I read about an American who journeyed to North Korea and took pho-

tos of starving children there. He was sentenced to a prison camp for 15 years. Officially, the United States government does not have a good relationship with North Korea and therefore a Swiss entity is requesting this American’s release. Silently, I begged the North Korean government to release this man. My heart went out to him. How ironic: He was trying to highlight their suffering and unfortunately, he ended up highlighting the cruelty and craziness of the regime through his own suffering. I later realized that I felt so bad for this American and his fate because I was able to connect with him; after all, he lived in my country. But then I understood that I should feel the same way for every North Korean and hope that

the Editor they soon will taste freedom. After all, they are people who may not speak my language or look like me, but they are people who deserve only happiness. C. Klyner Dear Editor, A few weeks ago, a reader wrote in about the village putting up cameras to prevent and fight crimes that take place in our neighborhood. I grew up in a small town “out of town” and I remember my father going around on the neighborhood watch every week. Practically every man in our community was part of the neighborhood watch; they all considered it important to provide the safest neighborhood for their families. I know that the Bayswater community has

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The United States pressured North Korea to free an American citizen, Kenneth Bae, reportedly arrested for taking pictures of starving orphans. He has been sentenced by the regime to 15 years hard labor for unspecified crimes

against the state. “There is no greater priority for us than the welfare and safety of U.S. citizens abroad, and we urge the DPRK authorities to grant Mr. Bae amnesty and immediate release,” State Department spokesman Patrick Ventrell told reporters, referring to the country’s official name, Democratic People’s Republic of Korea. Ventrell declined to say specifically whether Washington called into question the legitimacy of Bae’s trial, but said Washington has had longstanding “deep concerns about the transparency and due process” in the North Korean legal system. The spokesman did not specify the charges against Bae, who is now 44, or comment on his wellbeing. “We don’t know the facts of the case,” Ventrell said. “There hasn’t been transparency.” Since there is no U.S. embassy in Korea, officials are pressing for access to Bae through the Swedish embassy in Pyongyang, which represents U.S. interests in North Korea. Swedish officials last had access to Bae on April 26, and did not attend the trial, said Ven-

In News trell. Bae was arrested in November for photographing starving children in North Korea. The state-run North Korean news agency KCNA said that Bae “admitted that he committed crimes aimed to topple the DPRK with hostility toward it.”

“Nazi Bride”: a Proof of Women’s Rising Involvement in Germany’s FarRight Movement Beate Zschaepe has been dubbed the “Nazi Bride.” The 38-year-old woman is allegedly the sole surviving member of the National Socialist Underground, a neo-Nazi terror cell accused of a sevenyear racist killing spree. Zschaepe will go on trial accused of complicity in the murder of eight ethnic Turks, a Greek and a policewoman, two bombings and 15 bank robberies. 

Although she was playing the role of tagalong fiancée of the gang’s leader, she is alleged to be far more than that. German federal prosecutor Wolfgang Range alleges that Zschaepe gave the terror cell “the appearance of legality and normalcy towards the outside.” Range said, “I am convinced that she wasn’t just an accessory or merely a companion, but was in fact acting on the same level as the others.” 

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female supporters do not exist. Zschaepe has been called “Germany’s most dangerous neo-Nazi.” Since her arrest, the ruthless killer has been silent but prosecutors are hoping that she will testify during her trial. If found guilty, Zschaepe faces life in prison.

Is America Providing Weapons to Rebels Unknowingly? Russia has delivered a list of the names of al-Qaeda members among the Syrian rebels who are receiving arms shipments coordinated by the U.S., according to informed Middle Eastern security officials to the Obama administration. The list demonstrates the U.S. is failing to vet the rebels being supported by the West for ties to al-Qaeda and other jihadi groups. The information suggests that the White House is unintentionally aiding the rebels, a highly controversial topic.

In News Back in March, the New York Times reported that since early 2012, the CIA has been helping Arab governments and Turkey obtain and ship weapons to the Syrian rebels. While the Times report claims most of the weapons shipments facilitated by the CIA began after the latest presidential election, Middle Eastern security officials said U.S.aided weapons shipments go back more than a year, escalating before the Sept. 11, 2012 attack on the U.S. facilities in Benghazi.

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Bangladesh Factory Topples Killing 501 Just the day before the Bangladesh factory building collapsed killing more than 500 people, an engineer warned that the eight-story complex was unsafe. Police are still investigating the matter. Authorities have arrested engineer Adbur Razzak. There are nine people being held in custody in regards to the April 24 devastating disaster. Razzak had been summoned to Rana Plaza in

When the morning shift began the next day, thousands of workers were sent back into its upper story and then disaster struck. Relatives are still gathered at the site in a Dhaka suburb clutching photographs of loved ones attesting to the many more still unaccounted for. The building that collapsed was built on

swampy land. About 3,000 people were inside the complex at the time of the collapse. There are around 2,500 survivors but many are injured and many are still missing. The building’s owner, Mohammed Sohel Rana, his father, four factory owners and two engineers have since been arrested, while the local mayor has been suspended from office and accused of improperly approving its construction. Police said Razzak had been arrested because he had been involved in the original construction of the building. This has turned attention to Western clothing retailers who use Bangladesh as a source of cheap goods. Canada’s Loblaw, a firm whose “Joe Fresh” garments were being produced in the building, said on Thursday it would continue to produce clothes in Bangladesh but promised to improve the facilities it uses there. “I am deeply troubled. I am troubled that despite a clear commitment to the highest standards of ethical sourcing, our company can still be part of such an unspeakable tragedy,” Executive Chairman Galen Weston told reporters. Bangladesh’s garment industry exports $19 billion a year, with 60% of clothes going to Europe. Britain’s Primark and Spain’s Mango and Benetton companies had clothes being made in the factory. About 3.6 million people work in Bangladesh’s garment industry, making it the world’s second-largest apparel exporter after China. Some earn as little as $38 a month in terrible working conditions.

Norway Turns Garbage to Gas Got trash? Ship it to Oslo, Norway. According to a story in The New York Times, garbage incineration is Oslo’s main power source and the efficiently-run city is running out of fuel. The Norwegian city was forced to import trash from other countries to keep their electricity on. Maybe this isn’t surprising with a city of just 1.4 million people. I guess one country’s trash has turned into another’s much-needed energy. Oslo is forming ties with garbagerich countries but the city doesn’t just want any plain old smelly garbage. They prefer England’s “cleaner” waste over Italy’s. Naples has been dealing with illegal dumping for years, and in 2011 it had to call in troops when the piles

of stinky trash overflowed the city’s landfills. According to the Times, all of northern Europe generates 150 million tons of trash, far less than the 700 million tons the incinerating plants can handle in Oslo. Oslo seems committed for the long term. The Norwegian power company Hafslund states on its website, “A significant share of Oslo’s district heating comes from waste incineration, biofuel facilities and heat pumps that extract heat from sewage. These are resources that would otherwise be lost or considered waste.” It adds, “The goal is to replace all fossil fuels for peak loads by 2016. This will make a substantial contribution to Oslo’s environment and cut carbon emissions.” The United States is holding tight to its waste. We have been turning some of our landfill waste into fuel. Two of the largest landfills in the country, in Las Vegas and Los Angeles, convert some of their methane gas into energy. According to the Environmental Protection Agency, out of the United States’ 2,300 landfills, 520 convert some of their gas into electricity, enough to power 688,000 homes. Landfills in the United States account for 1% of natural gas demand. Last year, Sweden resorted to importing 800,000 tons of trash to burn when it had no more of its own. It borrowed from…Norway. That may explain the shortage.

Pakistanis Remember Bin Laden as “Islamic Hero”

In News Thursday, May 2, marked two years since bin Laden was killed by US forces. The rally was organized by a proTaliban faction of Jamiat Ulema-eIslam. The crowd of 450 was chanting, “Long live Islamic jihad and long live Mulla Omar,” and many of them waved photos of bin Laden. “We are observing [the] death anniversary of an Islamic hero, who was killed by American and Pakistani agents,” Jamiat Ulema-e-Islam’s central secretary for information, Maulana Abdul Sattar Chisti, said at the ceremony. Last year, on the first anniversary of bin Laden’s capture, President Obama warned America of future hardships in Afghanistan but told them “there is a light on the horizon. Not only were we able to drive al-Qaeda out of Afghanistan, but slowly and systematically we have been able to decimate the ranks of al-Qaeda, and a year ago we were able to finally to bring Osama bin Laden to justice,” Obama said as cheers erupted. Bin Laden was killed in a US-led operation on May 2, 2011, less than two hours’ drive from Islamabad, after 10

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Saudi Arabia Legalizes Women’s Sports

Saudi Arabian made a monumental decision on Saturday. The Kingdom’s official press agency, SPA, announced that girls in private school will now be

In News permitted to play sports. This is one of the many incremental changes that are slowly granting women rights in the ultraconservative country. Schools can now hold sports activities in accordance with Shariah law. Of course, students must adhere to “decent dress” codes and Saudi women teachers will be supervising all activities according to the Education Ministry’s requirements. This milestone comes nearly a year after two brave Saudi female athletes participated in the Olympics for the first-time. The country allowed two female athletes to compete in last summer’s Olympics only after the International Olympics Committee had put intense pressure on the government. Saudi TV stations did show the portion of the Olympics where the girls competed. “It’s about time,” said Aziza Youssef, a professor at King Saud University. “Everything is being held back in Saudi Arabia as far as women’s rights.” Education Ministry spokesman Mohammed al-Dakhini was quoted as saying that the decision to allow girls to play sports in private schools “stems from the teachings of our religion, which allow women such activities in accordance with Shariah.” Previously, the government quietly tolerated physical education in some private schools but it was not officially legal and there is no set curriculum. The Saudi government plays a role in private schools, providing textbooks and directors. The decision demands that schools provide appropriate places and equipment for sports. It is likely that public schools and universities will soon follow suit. Deputy Minister of Education for Women’s Affairs, Nora al-Fayez, was quoted saying recently that there is a plan to expand sports education in public schools. It remains unclear if girls would have access to the same level of physical education as boys. Previously, sports activities were reserve for the elite who were able to afford expensive health club memberships. But women’s gyms were closed in 2010 on grounds they were unlicensed. Now they are often attached to hospitals, for “medical need.” Saudi Arabia’s King Abdullah has been pushing for these reforms in attempt to quietly modernize the country. Although there has been progress, women are still subjected to very strict rules and laws. They are not allowed to drive nor are they allowed to travel or

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Survey Analyzes Muslims’ Reflection of Sharia Law An extensive recent survey reveals that the majority of Muslims want the Islamic legal and moral code of Sharia as the official law in their countries, but they disagree on what it includes and who should be subject to it. In the study conducted by the Washingtonbased Pew Forum, 40% support suicide bombing in the Palestinian territories, 39% in Afghanistan, 29% in Egypt, and 26% in Bangladesh. About 75% of respondents believe that abortion is morally wrong. More than three-quarters of Muslims in the Middle East, North Africa, South Asia, and Southeast Asia want Sharia courts to decide family law issues such as divorce and property disputes. Perspectives on cruel punishments such as chopping off thieves’ hands are

more evenly divided. These punishments are one of the fundamental values that have made Sharia so controversial in non-Islamic countries. Some critics suggest that radical Muslims want to impose Sharia laws on Western societies, but the survey shows views in Muslim countries are far from monolithic. “Muslims are not equally comfortable with all aspects of Sharia,” the study said. “Most do not believe it should be applied to non-Muslims.” Western law aims to be concrete while Sharia is a loosely defined set of moral and legal guidelines based on the Koran. The Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life said that more than four-fifths of the 38,000 Muslims interviewed in 39 countries said nonMuslims in their countries could practice their faith freely and approved of it. This view was strongest in South Asia, where 97% of Bangladeshis and 96% of Pakistanis agreed, while the lowest result was 77% in Egypt. The next controversial topic question was whether women should have the choice of wearing the traditional headscarf. In Tunisia, 89% said yes, in

In News Indonesia 79% also said yes, but in Iraq 45% said no and in Afghanistan 30% said no. The majority of Muslims in Lebanon (74%) and Malaysia (96%) said wives should always obey their husbands. The authors included a note in the survey regarding U.S. Muslims: “[They] sometimes more closely resemble other Americans than they do Muslims around the world.” Only about half say their closest friends are Muslim, compared to 95 percent of Muslims globally.

Israel Hamas Rejects Revised Peace Plan Hamas’s leaders in the Gaza Strip rejected a revised Middle East peace initiative put forward by the Arab League,

saying outsiders could not decide the fate of the Palestinians. In meetings this week in Washington, Arab states appeared to soften their 2002 peace plan, acknowledging that Israelis and Palestinians may have to swap land in any eventual peace deal.

The United States and the Palestinian leadership in the West Bank praised the move. US Secretary of State John Kerry, who has been hoping to resuscitate direct peace talks that ceased in 2010 over the issue of Jewish settlement building in East Jerusalem and the West Bank, said on Tuesday that the Arab League announcement is “a very big step forward.” But senior Hamas official Ismail

Haniyeh strongly rejected the proposal. He addressed hundreds of worshipers in a Gaza mosque and said it was an allowance that other Arabs were not authorized to make. “The so-called new Arab initiative is rejected by our people, by our nation and no one can accept it,” said Haniyeh, prime minister of the Hamas government. “The initiative contains numerous dangers to our people in the occupied land of 1967, 1948 and to our people in exile.” Hamas continues to refuse to recognize Israel’s right to exist and claims all the territory between the Mediterranean and the Jordan River as rightfully Palestinian. It never accepted the Arab plan which was first presented in 2002. The revised plan was announced by Qatar’s prime minister on Monday and Haniyeh’s comments represented a rare public disagreement between Hamas and one of its main supporters. The rich Gulf state has pledged over $400 million to fund housing projects in the Gaza Strip, which Hamas seized from the rival Palestinian Fatah faction in a brief civil war in 2007. “To those who speak of land swaps we say: Palestine is not a property, it is not for sale, not for a swap and cannot be traded,” Haniyeh said. So why are you demanding that we give you our land?

Israel & Canada Collaborate Over Energy

As offshore natural gas begins to flow into Israel, Canadian Natural Resources Minister Joe Oliver says this is a perfect opportunity for the two countries to move forward with cooperative ventures in the energy field. Oliver made an official call for project proposals on Tuesday under the Canada-Israel Energy Science and Technology Fund, which he and thenEnergy and Water Minister Uzi Landau established in October. Run by Dr. Henri Rothschild, president of the Canada-Israel Industrial R&D Foundation, the fund is receiving

$5 million over the course of three years from the Canadian ministry’s ecoENERGY Innovation Initiative project, as well as funding from the Israeli Energy and Water Ministry on a project-byproject basis. Each project will preferably be in a pre-commercialization stage and will involve both an Israeli and Canadian partner. “I think as government initiatives go, this has been moving at a pretty fast rate,” Oliver told The Jerusalem Post in an interview in Tel Aviv. Israel and Canada’s decision to go ahead with energy research and development collaborations is hopeful, but Oliver said he was “still troubled” by the fact that annual trade between the two countries was still only about $1.4 billion last year. Back in 2011, the number was around $1.33B and he told the Post in a Jerusalem interview that he hoped to see the figure grow rapidly. “These things don’t change overnight,” he said, acknowledging that Israel had placed tremendous focus on commerce with China, India and the United States. “We have got to continue to tell our story and tell it better,” Oliver continued. “We have a real value added now because of the offshore gas and the expertise we have there. These things don’t change immediately. I think that Canada is very well regarded in Israel and I think its diplomatic stance is well appreciated, but that does not automatically translate into business.” “We are still in early stages [of Israeli gas and oil development], so there are opportunities,” Oliver said. “Israel has a lot of thinking to do in terms of exports, in terms of royalties, in terms of the regulatory regime, in terms of developing engineering and technological capability, in terms of getting capital.” “But they’re pumping gas,” he added. “It’s kind of exciting times for the country.”

Israel’s Love for Breakfast Gets Recognized Israelis love breakfast and Americans love free Israeli hotel breakfasts. At a typical Israeli hotel or vacation destination, every morning an assortment of salads, cheeses, herrings, fruit, and breads are served. Health Officials maintain that a big balanced breakfast is a really healthy habit. Bloomberg ranked the world’s healthiest countries in May 2012 and Israel came in at sixth

In News place. So tomorrow morning, start your day Israeli-style and have some eggs, toast, fruit, and juice. And some Israeli salad too!

Hummus Makes it Big in America Love a good falafel oozing with hummus and chickpeas? Well, it’s more likely now to be found in the U.S., according to the Wall Street Journal. Sabra Dipping Co., a joint venture

of Pepsico and Israel’s Strauss Group, produces the celebrated Israeli spread. A report, titled “Hummus is conquering America,” defines the popular Middle Eastern food as a chickpea dip which is low in fat and high in protein, and is becoming a favorite amongst Americans who enjoy healthy snacks. According to the WSJ, market-research firm Information Resources Inc. reported that sales of “refrigerated flavored spreads” – a segment dominated by hummus – totaled $530 million at US food retailers in 2012, up 11% from a year earlier and a 25% jump over 2010. Sabra’s hummus sales were estimated at about $315 million last year. The company produces hummus at a plant near Richmond, Virginia. On Tuesday, Sabra inaugurated its new Center of Excellence (COE) research and development facility in its manufacturing facility there. The company said the center would further research capabilities and improve Sabra’s products in all aspects of food manufacturing and distribution, from agriculture, nutrition and food science to engineering, packaging and product delivery. The COE Continued on page 24

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Israel Strikes Syrian Military Research Center Israeli jets bombed a military research facility north of Damascus early Sunday, a senior official admitted. This was the second Israeli attack on targets in Syria in recent days. Heavy explosions shook the city, and video shot by activists showed a fireball rising into the sky after Sunday’s strikes. A Western intelligence source said the operation hit Iranian-supplied missiles that were en route to the Hezbollah militia in Lebanon. A rebel spokesman, who spoke from a “liberated area” held by the opposition in Damascus, told NBC News there were huge explosions just before 2 a.m. on Sunday in the Qaysoun Mountains on the edge of Damascus. “Around 10 locations were hit,” the spokesman said. “It was difficult to tell what was hit in the raid and what exploded afterwards. Some of the targets

were weapons and weapons depots. Secondary explosions continued for about four hours. They shook all of Damascus. There was still smoke in the air as the sun came up.” The Free Syrian Army listed nine apparent targets, including the Syrian Revolutionary Guard, the 104th brigade headquarters, a weapons depot in Qasyoun and a military research center at Jamraya. The FSA said power was cut in parts of Damascus at 1:48 am local time Sunday. A FSA spokesman said the fires and explosions “made Damascus look like the day at night.” The White House said there would be no official comment on the latest attack, but diplomatic sources and U.S. officials suggested that the administration is fully supportive of the airstrikes. United Nations Secretary General Ban Ki-moon said he spoke with the head of the Arab League, Nabil ElAraby, about the Israeli air strikes on Sunday and expressed “grave concern” for the risks to regional security. After that attack, an Israeli spokes-

man in Washington said that Israel would not comment specifically on the reports but said that “Israel is determined to prevent the transfer of chemical weapons or other game-changing weaponry by the Syrian regime to terrorists, especially to Hezbollah in Lebanon.” It wasn’t clear whether the Israelis informed the U.S. before the attack. White House officials referred all questions to the Israelis.

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When police reached the home near downtown Cleveland they found Amanda and two other women, Gina DeJesus and Michelle Knight, who

also disappeared a decade ago. Gina vanished when she was 14 on her way home from school. Michelle was kidnapped in 2002 and is 32-years-old now. A 6-year-old was also found in the home and police say she is Amanda’s daughter. Neighbors say that Castro seemed unremarkable. “There was nothing exciting about him — well, until today,” Charles Ramsey, a neighbor, said. He would give children rides on his fourwheeler up and down the block and come to community barbeques. But that changed on Monday when they heard frantic calls for help from his home. “I heard screaming,” Ramsey said. “I’m eating my McDonald’s. I come outside. I see this girl going nuts trying to get out of a house.” Amanda managed to pry open a door that would only open enough to fit a hand through. She was screaming for help to reach police. Another neighbor, Anna Tejeda, said one of her friends told Amanda to kick out the screen from the bottom of the door to get out. Amanda was dressed in pajamas and old sandals and crying. She told neighbors who she was and begged for their help in contacting police. At

In News first, they didn’t believe her; Amanda was thought to be dead. But then Tejeda gave Amanda her phone to call the police and Amanda was able to contact authorities who came immediately to rescue the three women and child. “I’m Amanda Berry. I’ve been on the news for the last 10 years,” Amanda told the dispatcher. “I’ve been kidnapped, and I’ve been missing for 10 years.” The three girls were missing for ten years but their friends and family never forgot them. “I’ve been praying, never forgot about her, ever,” Kayla Rogers, a childhood friend of Gina, said. Louwana Miller, Amanda’s mother, died in March 2006. She spent three years searching for her daughter and then passed away never seeing her daughter again. “She literally died of a broken heart,” Councilwoman Dona Brady said. The three women were found just miles away from where they disappeared. Authorities spent countless weeks searching, investigating, and using cadaver dogs, but to no avail. The community held prayer vigils and memorial walks but never found them. In January, a prisoner was sentenced for providing a false burial tip in Amanda’s disappearance. He claimed her remains were buried in a lot in Cleveland but when authorities dug up the lot, they found nothing. In 2006, police tore up a concrete floor of a garage and used cadaver dogs to search for Gina’s body. Her remains were never found. Thankfully, though, these three women will now be able to be reunited with their loved ones after their long, torturous nightmare. We hope that their family and friends will be able to provide the love and support that they truly need.

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Now you see him, now you don’t. In just a few months, New Jersey Governor Chris Christie won’t be the big man he is today. On Monday, he revealed that he underwent lap-band stomach surgery in February in an effort to slim down. He insisted that he wanted to lose the weight for the sake of his family and his health. “I’ve struggled with this issue for 20 years,” he told the New York Post. “For me, this is about turning 50 and looking at my children and wanting to be there for them.” He has

lost forty pounds since the surgery and is expected to lose more. Many believe that the governor is motivated to lose the extra pounds for a potential presidential run in the next few years. “It’s so much more important than that,” he said.

On February 16 at 7am, Christie checked into a surgery center and registered under a false name. He underwent the forty minute procedure and was home by the afternoon. The lap-band restricts the amount of food a person can eat at one time and makes them feel fuller faster. “A week or two ago, I went to a steakhouse and ordered a steak and ate about a third of it and I was full,” he said of his newly tamed appetite. He has struggled with his weight for years and sometimes makes jokes about it. Certainly, his weight is a major subject for late-night comedians. I guess they’ll have to come up with some other topics. A political donor insists that despite denials, this major loss of weight is a clear sign that Christie is anticipating a presidential bid. “This means he’s running for president. He’s showing people he can get his weight in control. It was the one thing holding him back,” he told The Post. Prior to the surgery, Christie did some research. He spoke with Jet coach Rex Ryan who has lost 100 pounds since he had the procedure done in 2010. In an effort to hide the surgery from the public, the governor had his doctor, the same surgeon as Ryan, come to his home for doctor’s visits instead of the governor visiting the doctor’s office. “I know it sounds crazy to say that running for president is minor,” the governor admitted, “but in the grand scheme of things, it was looking at Mary Pat [his wife] and the kids and going, ‘I have to do this for them, even if I don’t give a [hoot] about myself,’” he said. Christie will be running for reelection this fall.

Detroit, Most Dangerous City in the USA

48204 is the zip code of the most dangerous neighborhood in America. Detroit dominates the most dangerous neighborhood list in the country. The neighborhood is just east of the Barton-McFarland community in Detroit, Michigan. Residents of that neighborhood have a one in seven chance each year of being a victim of a violent crime. conducted the study; they analyzed FBI statistics from 17,000 local law enforcement agencies to pinpoint neighborhoods across the country with the highest predicted rates of violent crimes per 1,000 residents. Researchers analyzed towns to get specific numbers of homicides, armed robbery, and aggravated assault. Earlier this year, the public library in the town was closed. The community was devastated by this since it was a symbol of normalcy in a town plagued by crime. Children participated in remedial reading and math classes, and adults were able to use the public computers to apply for jobs. The second most dangerous neighborhood in the U.S. is also in Detroit. The Islandview community (zip code 48207) on the city’s east side has high crime and rapidly declining real estate. Recently a 3,300 square-foot property was sold for $800 (no, we’re not missing any zeroes). In 2002, that property was worth $70,000. The chances of becoming a victim of violent crime in this community over the course of a year are also one in seven. Coming in as the third most dangerous neighborhood in the country is the area between Ravendale and LaSalle College Park in zip codes 48213 and  48205, also in Detroit. The neigh-

borhood is 30% vacant and about 40 percent of households have four or more cars. That’s more cars per household than in 96 percent of the country, according to NeighborhoodScout. Some residents of the neighborhood were surprised by this conclusion. One resident said, “It’s pretty safe around here, you know, I ain’t never been a victim of crime. I don’t believe it. There’s stray dogs but that’s about it, that’s the biggest problem.” Others feel that the study is accurate. Another resident said, “Down at the corner of Joy Road and American, there’s a kid who used to stay right here and he got killed. There’s two or three more kids and a mother got shot, the kid got killed. There’s about five or six murders that have been down there. It’s too many.” Despite the debate among residents, I think I’ll be safer avoiding Detroit on my next vacation.


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Commuters and residents of New York City were excited to hear that bike sharing was finally making its way to the Big Apple. But that excitement quickly turned to frustration. The plan was announced by city officials, boasting the nation’s largest bike-sharing system. They expected to create 330 stations across Manhattan and Brooklyn with 6,000 bikes in circu-

lation with plans to eventually expand to 600 docking stations and 10,000 bikes and to another borough (including Queens). This month, excited pedestrians saw docking stations popping up but installation didn’t go as smoothly as planned. One of the first bike share docking stations is on East 11th Street. The problem is that it eliminates a loading zone used by the company, Bella Tile. “I don’t know how we’re going to be able to operate really now effectively. It’s sad, dramatic negative impact,” business owner Carlo Giurdanella said. Local business owner Glen Gaylinn initially liked the plan, “We like the idea of the bike thing. It’s a great idea and I’m sure I’ll use it, too.” But he is concerned about traffic and more congestion in an area that jams up regularly. When a docking station was erected right in front of his store, he said he was shocked. “I’m here 19 years, [and as the] block association president, I knew nothing about it,” Gaylinn said. Delivery truck driver Pedro Tavares said that the stations complicate the delivery process. “Mayor Bloomberg, this is not gonna work! I can’t park my

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The Week truck right next to it because this is in the way, so I have to come down further where I can catch a ticket in the no standing zone or I have to go around the corner and work harder because my stop is further away. These things are very much in the way of many of my stops,” Tavares said. Residents of Greenwich Village claim that their cars were towed without warning in order to make space for docking installation and were forced to pay $200 to retrieve their cars. “The docking station was there,” Jill Schulster said. “My car was gone.” The city’s Department of Transportation said No Parking signs are supposed to be put up 72 hours before work takes place. But Schulster said, “100 percent positive there were no signs there. I am very, very careful.” In addition, the vehicle owners were forced to pay their tickets and fee by check, breaking a law that requires tow companies in the city to accept credit cards. She continued, “No, they would not take a credit card. They would not take Visa or MasterCard or American Express, nothing.” As more and more people protest

the idea, New York City points to a Quinnipiac poll showing 72 percent of residents supporting the bike share concept. Despite the backlash, the formal launch is scheduled for some time in June. It seems that New Yorkers are all for bike sharing, until someone asks to share their space.

Orb Wins the Race Meet the celebrity of the week, Orb. He is the Kentucky Derby winner. The bay colt picked up speed with only a few seconds left in the race and plowed past his rivals. The annual Kentucky Derby is held on the first Saturday of May. It is the most prestigious race in the sport of horse racing and features 3-year-old thoroughbreds. The 1¼-mile race is also known as the “Run for the Roses.” The Derby was first nationally televised in 1952. Two years later, the prize purse for the winning team first exceeded $100,000.

In News a crowd of 151,616, which poured enough late money on Orb to make him the 5-1 favorite.

New John Hancock for Jack Lew Orb’s jockey, Joel Rosario, and his trainer, Shug McGaughey, marked their first Derby wins. McGaughey, a 62-year-old native of Lexington, finally got the Derby win he had been dreaming of. “It means everything to me,” McGaughey said. “I’ve always dreamed of this day and it finally came.” “I was so far behind,” Rosario said. “He was very relaxed. It’s exactly what I wanted.” Rosario added this $2 million trophy to the $10 million Dubai World cup he scored a couple of months ago. “This is awesome,” Rosario said after the race. “To win the Dubai World Cup and then to win the Derby. This is a dream…I’m so happy for Shug [McGaughey] right now.” It was a popular victory before

Months ago, TJH reported on Treasury Secretary Jack Lew’s loopy signature. His John Hancock graces dollar bills and even President Obama poked fun at his illegible scrawl. Recently, Lew debuted a new, almost legible signature on a financial report issued last month by the U.S. Treasury. Some say that you can actually make out his first name, middle initial and last name.


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Americans Refuse to Move Michelle Obama has been urging Americans to exercise in her “Let’s Move” campaign. But many Americans are telling the First Lady to take a hike. According to Gallup reports last month, 52% of Americans claimed they exercised for at least 30 minutes three or more times a week. That number is down from the nearly 54% who said

that last April. And it’s not just statistics from April that prove that Americans are not enamored with getting off their couch. Every month this year, exercise habits of Americans were down comparably from last year’s numbers. For example, the numbers in March were down to 51.2% from 53.3% last year and February’s numbers were down to 49.2% from 51% last year. As if to prove the point, the federal Centers for Disease Control reported that 80% of Americans exercise insufficiently. The official Physical Activity Guidelines of the feds require 150 minutes of walking or 75 minutes of jogging per week, in additional to other exercise such as sit-ups. Does walking from my car to Dunkin’ Donuts count?

In News house Buffett @WarrenBuffett.” He picked up more than 45,000 followers in just under 45 minutes. That’s about 1,000 a minute. The handle was not officially verified by Twitter, but was confirmed by Fortune magazine, which hosted Buffett for a live webcast Thursday. If followers were dollars, Buffett is having even more success on Twitter than he had with one of his best investments ever, his 2008 stake in Goldman Sachs Group Inc. That famous deal gave him preferred stock that paid dividends at $900 a minute. On Twitter, he gathered 1,000 followers a minute.

Warren Buffett Creates Twitter Frenzy Warren Buffett took the plunge on Thursday into the world of social media. On that day, the 82-year-old sent his first tweet. It read, “Warren is in the

Previously other big names made news when joining Twitter like News Corp CEO Rupert Murdoch (@RupertMurdoch) and former U.S. President Bill Clinton (@BillClinton). #DontYouHaveMoreImportantThingsToDoWithYourTime @TJH

lost it,” Young told “I was just weeping.” Owen had been waiting at the finish line with Young’s wife, Sue Casey, when the bombs exploded. Thankfully, they were unharmed, but Young wanted to replace Owen’s terrifying memories of the marathon with a happy memory. “He said, ‘Dad, all I want to do is put the medal around your neck when you cross the finish line,’” Young said. “I’m amazed at how strong he was.” Young’s journey to the marathon began seven years ago when he was having difficulty breathing while sleeping and was diagnosed with sleep apnea, which is a common complication of dwarfism. It’s also common in people who are overweight, which Young was at the time. He sought treatment for sleep apnea and began to feel more energetic and started to exercise by swimming and riding his bike. One day, Young came across a YouTube video of Team Hoyt. Rick Hoyt, 51, has cerebral palsy, but his father, Dick Hoyt, 72, pushes him in a wheelchair during runs, pulls him in a special boat during swims, and rides with him on a tandem bike. They did dozens of distance races a year, including 247 triathlons and 70 marathons – 30 of which were in Boston. “I got very emotional watching,” Young said. “I thought if this father can do this with his son, I think I can do a triathlon.”

Finishing the Race, Despite All Odds John Young had a dream. He was determined to complete a marathon. But Young was born with achondroplasia, the most common form of dwarfism. He is limited in his physical activity and early on in his life doctors told him he couldn’t run. The 47-year-old is a teacher at the Pingree School in South Hamilton, Massachusetts, and on Tuesday, he finally fulfilled his life-long dream. At 4-foot-4-inches tall, he finished the final half mile of his first Boston Marathon more than two weeks after the April 15 bombing that ended it half a mile early for him. He was surrounded by his family as he touched the finish line. His ten-year-old son, Owen, put the marathon medal over his head. “I

He signed up for his first triathlon in 2009, but he skipped the running part. “When I saw everyone else getting off the bike and running, I thought, ‘I really need to do a full triathlon,’” he said. Individuals with achondroplasia have narrow spinal columns at the base of the spine so they often experience numbness or back pain while running.

But Young claims that running never caused him any pain. Although many doctors tell people with dwarfism to avoid running entirely, Young’s doctor was supportive. “His adage is, ‘If it doesn’t hurt, don’t stop,’” Young said. Four weeks later, Young raced in a triathlon with a 3-mile running portion. Since then, he’s done more than 20 triathlons, including two half- “Iron Man” distances, which included a 1.2 mile swim, a 56-mile bike ride and a half marathon, which is 13.1 miles. It takes him about 8 and a half hours to complete the race. In order to prepare for a full Iron Man, he needed to do a marathon, so he signed up for the New York City Marathon, which was canceled because of Superstorm Sandy. Two weeks later, he did one in Plymouth, Massachusetts, finishing in 6 hours and 20 minutes. To his surprise, he qualified for the mobility-impaired division of the Boston Marathon. “I think a lot of people limit themselves either by what other people are telling them or other people’s ideas. A lot of times, limits are false, and you can push yourself a lot further,” Young said. Young was five miles from the Boston Marathon finish line when he experienced his proudest of his athletic achievements. He jogged passed a young son and his father. The naive boy said loudly to his father, “Look at that little man running.” “Sometimes parents ignore them or get embarrassed,” Young said. But this father explained to his son that he’d read about Young in the newspaper, and that he was going to be the first man with dwarfism to complete the Boston Marathon. Young was so proud, he could have stopped right then, he said. “There’s no type of marathon body,” Young said. “If you train, put in hard work and follow through, you can do it.” Mind over body!

claims the game he was playing was rigged. He was desperate to win an Xbox Kinect at the Manchester carnival when one thing led to another.

The game he was playing is called Tubs of Fun in which contestants toss balls into a tub, but the balls kept popping out. “It’s not possible that it wasn’t rigged,” the determined man said. “You just get caught up in the whole ‘I’ve got to win my money back.’” Initially, Gribbohm lost $300, then he went home to get $2,300 more. Eventually, he lost that too. Gribbohm reported the event to Manchester police; they are investigating the incident. In the meantime, New Hampshire-based Fiesta Shows, which produces the traveling carnival, is pulling the game Tubs of Fun for the time being, which is run by an independent contractor. Gribbohm didn’t go home emptyhanded. He won a stuffed banana with dreadlocks. He is now threatening to sue. Seems like it’s not all fun and games.

Wallet Returned After 23 Years

That’s Odd Man Blows his Savings at Carnival Henry Gribbohm, 30, worked hard to save $2,600. So imagine his disappointment when he lost it all at a carnival game. The New Hampshire man

Jeri Cox Chastain, 52, of Reidville, South Carolina, clearly remembers the day her wallet was stolen 23 years ago in 1990. Her navy blue wallet disappeared from the hospital where she worked as a medical transcriber. At the time, she had suspicions of the culprit but never did anything about it because she was afraid

In News of making a false accusation. “I worked at the hospital and it was payday and the check was in my pocketbook,” she explained. “I got some money out of my wallet and went downstairs for a Coke and some crackers, and when I came back my wallet was gone.” She was most devastated about the loss of items that had sentimental value. “There was one picture of me and my son when he was only 3-months-old,” Chastain explained. “And one of him leaving the hospital in the same outfit his father wore when he left the hospital. His birth certificate and Social Security card, and my driver’s license. I wouldn’t buy a wallet for a long time, because I didn’t want to put all my precious belongings in one place again, just to be easily snatched,” she said. Chastain still lives in the same town. She got a shocking phone call last Wednesday from the Spartanburg Police Department; her wallet was found. “At first I thought it was a trick when he said he needed me to come down to the police station,” Chastain said. “He said, ‘I’m holding your blue wallet,’ and I thought, ‘Are you kidding me?’”

Police informed her that a maintenance man had recovered the wallet hidden above the ceiling tiles in the women’s restroom of a building only a few miles away from the hospital. “We don’t have a clue how it got there,” Chastain said. “She was really grateful,” Chastain’s husband, Roger, said. “It was a not so good a deed when someone stole it, but it was returned in an exceptionally good deed when this contractor took the time to return it. So that overrides the negative of it being stolen.” Aside for the cash, all of the other items were still intact. “I’m just so glad it’s back with all my memories in it,” said Chastain.

Baby Found on Beach A newborn baby girl weighing 8 pounds was found crying in the sand at a Hawaii beach. The full-term baby was “abandoned immediately after birth,” state Department of Human Services Director Patricia McManaman said. Continued on page 36

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A woman parked at Sandy Beach in east Honolulu sometime between 11 p.m. on Sunday and midnight and heard several people screaming, police spokeswoman Michelle Yu said. A few minutes later, the screaming stopped and the woman heard a baby crying. As she walked toward the ocean, she saw the infant laying on the sand. The woman took the baby to a hospital. Police are investigating the case; endangering the welfare of a minor and child abandonment is a crime. The baby, who had been found unclothed, was doing well and drinking formula at the Queen’s Medical Center, McManaman said. “We’re just very grateful this child is alive and doing well,” she said. If no one comes forward to claim the child, the Department of Human Services will file a petition this week with family court, asking for custody. A hearing will be held by Monday. If no family is identified, the state will ask the court for permission to release a photo of the infant on Monday, McManaman said. In 2007, Hawaii became the 48th state with a baby safe haven law, said state Rep. John Mizuno. The law provides immunity from prosecution for leaving an unharmed newborn within 72 hours of birth at a fire department, police station or hospital or with emergency services. No one has taken advantage of the law since it was enacted, McManaman said. Let us hope that this beautiful baby will be adopted by a loving family and be well taken care of and loved.

Eleven Years Later, A Woman Reappears Brenda Heist, 54, went missing eleven years ago. She disappeared after dropping off her two kids at a Pennsylvania school. Nobody knew where she was; her husband was left to care for the children on his own. But the case of the missing mother was solved when she reappeared in the Florida Keys last week. However, the details surrounding her disappearance and the reason she disappeared remain a mystery. In 2002, Brenda abandoned her husband and two children. Her husband, who she left to care for their two children and fight allegations that he was responsible for her disappearance, has forgiven her. “[Her re-emergence] Continued on page 40


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neighborhood who would not let their children play with my children that hurt me more than anything else,” he said. “The kids are doing much better. This is a little bump in the road we’re going to work through it.” At the time, Heist says she was going through a messy divorce and applying for housing assistance in 2002 when she was approached by a trio of drifters who told her they were heading to Florida. The mother of two, who worked at a car dealership bookkeeper, decided to join the group and vanished without a trace. “She decided to go with them on a whim,” Schofield explained. “She told me that it was two males and female. They drove to York, Pennsylvania, with her car, parked it and abandoned it, and met up with another group, who were traveling down to Florida. It was a community down there living together.” Schofield has been working on Heist’s missing person case for years. When she showed up at the Monroe County Sheriff’s Office in the Florida Keys on April 26, Schofield flew to Florida and interviewed her. She told

In News him that she was at the end of her rope and tired of running, the officer said. “She turned herself in to the sheriff down there on a criminal warrant that she thought was out for her under an assumed name,” Schofield said. “Then she handed them a Pennsylvania ID for Brenda Heist, and told them that she was wanted in Pennsylvania.” Police quickly figured out that she was the same woman who had vanished in 2002. Her disappearance led to an extensive investigation involving local, state and federal agencies. Heist’s missing person case eventually went cold, only to be reopened in 2008. “We interviewed neighbors, friends, coworkers, family members. The one consistent thing was that they said there’s no way she would have left her children,” Schofield said. In 2010, Heist was declared dead. And now she is very much alive.

Is Stealing OK in this Store? Ruben Pavon takes everything literally. Or maybe he doesn’t, but he sure took a store’s name a little too seriously. Pavon was accused of shoplifting from a Derry, New Hampshire, store called Finders Keepers. He claims that he was confused and mislead by the store’s name. Surveillance videos show Pavon taking a grill from the store’s porch. Pavon said, “I grabbed the box. It was a fire pit, something like that. It turned into a grill, and I took it home.” Apparently, he thought it was there for the taking. I guess he never heard the saying, “Nothing is for free.” This isn’t the first time that Pavon made this “mistake.” He was under the impression that all merchandise was free. He explains, “The sign did say, ‘Finders Keepers.’ So I took that DVD player, took it home. A couple of weeks later, the stuff is still there on the porch, so I’m thinking to myself, ‘Finders Keepers. They probably just put stuff out there for people to take.’” Store owner Laura Barker remains unconvinced about Pavon’s reasoning: “I don’t know of any stores where there’s free stuff. It would be nice if there were. I’d be there on a regular basis myself,” Barker said. The official site for Finders Keepers explains that a portion of its items “are donations, in which the proceeds of those items go to help purchasing

‘needs’ of local community organizations specifically to help children in need.” Since the incident, Pavon has returned all the items to the store. Local police are continuing to investigate. Pavon has just been crowned with The Amelia Bedelia Crown. I guess he never knew the end of the saying: “Finders keepers, losers weepers.” He’ll be crying in jail now after losing his freedom.

Orthodox Woman Sues Lancôme for False Advertising Shabbos makeup is the best thing that ever happened since a hot water urn. It stays on through Shabbos morning and sometimes doesn’t rub off until after Shabbos. Last week, it was reported that Rorie Weisberg of Monsey, NY, is suing Lancôme for false advertising. The French luxury-cosmetics maker claims that its “Teint Idole Ultra 24H” foundation in fact lasts 24 hours. The slogan boasts that it provides a full day and night of “lasting perfection.” Ms. Weisberg purchased this foundation, excited that it would last the entire Shabbos. But she was not happy with the results. “The 24-hour claim was central to plaintiff’s purchase decision, as a longlasting makeup assists with her dual objectives of compliance with religious law and enhancement to her natural appearance,” her suit claims. Court notes state that Weisberg “is an Orthodox Jew and abides by Jewish law by not applying makeup from sundown on Friday until nighttime on Saturday….Specifically, plaintiff’s eldest son is having his bar mitzvah celebration in June and plaintiff was looking for a long-lasting foundation that would achieve the foregoing dual objectives over the bar mitzvah Sabbath,” the suit says. The 1-ounce bottle costs $45. The Manhattan federal-court filing accuses Lancôme of violating New York business law through “deceptive acts and practices.” Weisberg is seeking unspecified damages from Lancôme and parent company L’Oreal, as well as ensuring that the company engage in a “corrective advertising campaign.” “Lancôme strongly believes that this lawsuit has no merit and stands proudly

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Delta—Flying the Streets of NYC A fake Delta Airlines Terminal popped up on Broome Street in Manhattan’s Soho district this week. Terminal T4X offers a peek at the new amenities and sleek design you’ll find at Delta’s new home at John F. Kennedy International Airport’s Terminal 4 (T4), which opens on May 24. Passengers will enjoy new check-in areas with additional kiosks, a dedicated Delta Sky Priority check-in area, and a new flagship Sky Club, the carrier’s largest. T4’s Concourse B will boast nine new gates and seven renovated gates, dual taxiways, and upgraded baggage claim areas with more carousels. T4X, open from 11 a.m. to 3 p.m., showcases T4’s $4 lunch menu by James Beard Foundation Award-winning Chef Michelle Bernstein, checkin kiosks where travelers can check or book flights, a preview of their Sky Club lounge, and the airline’s simulated Sky Deck outdoor terrace. The exhibit will be open until May 22; after that you will just have to check out the real deal at JFK. Manhattan, you’re cleared for takeoff.

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Turkish Air Bans Red Nail Polish & Lipstick

Flight attendants have always worn uniforms and are groomed to look a certain way. After all, they are the people who represent the airline to most passengers on a flight. This week, Turkey’s national airline has barred female flight attendants from wearing red lipstick and nail polish. This new imposition had angered secular Turks who are worried the country is becoming more Islamic.

Turkish Airlines, Europe’s fourthbiggest carrier, said the ban was aimed at keeping crews “artless and wellgroomed with makeup in pastel tones,” as a natural look improved communication with passengers. “As a consequence of our current cabin uniforms not including red, dark pink, et cetera, the use of lipstick and nail polish in these colors by our cabin crew impairs visual integrity,” the statement said. The guideline follows other restrictions on employees’ appearance and on serving alcohol. No alcohol is served on

In News planes flying to most domestic destinations and some Islamic countries. Critics feel these guidelines reflect the influence of the government’s conservative religious values. “This new guideline is totally down to Turkish Airlines management’s desire to shape the company to fit its own political and ideological stance,” Atilay Aycin, president of the airline’s Hava-Is labour union, told Reuters. “No one can deny that Turkey has become a more conservative, religious country.” Turkey is 99 percent Muslim but the

NATO state and European Union candidate has a secular constitution. “They are objecting to the lipstick and nail polish that we have been using for years,” said Asli Gokmen, 30, a flight attendant who lost her job with more than 300 others last year during a union protest and is petitioning for her position back. Turkish Airlines declined a request for further comment and no current employees were available for comment. I guess the airline went cold turkey on the color red.

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Annual Rabenstein Breakfast Draws Impressive Crowd By Chaia Frishman Photos courtesy of Tsemach Glenn

The young man who stands before breakfast to benefit both the Rabenstein you is a welcome sight. He makes your Learning Center – which serves Yeshiva life easier, safer, and more beautiful. He Darchei Torah talmidim with special education needs through onemight install your on-one tutoring and selfdishwasher, fix contained classes -- and your computer, or the Weiss Vocational Cenbuild you custom ter was held at the home of bookcases. Best of Yosef and Faigy Lowinger all, he is a product on a beautiful sunny mornof your commuing this past Sunday. nity. He is a Weiss The guests were welVocational Center comed by their host Yosef graduate. who likened being a strugAn offshoot gling student to sitting in a of the Rabenstein room with a teacher who Learning Center, only spoke Chinese. The the Weiss Vocastudent doesn’t only feel tional Center is the Rabbi Moshe Tuvia Lieff, guest speaker alone because he can’t brainstorm of Rabcomprehend the teacher, bi Yaakov Bender, Darchei Torah’s Rosh HaYeshiva; and Mr. but sits with the shame that his classmates Ronald Lowinger, the Yeshiva’s president; do understand and he doesn’t belong. Rabbi Yaakov Bender continued who wanted to provide an afternoon opwith this idea in discussing why the word “se’u” is used to say “count” in the parshios before Shavuos. Why “se’u”? According to Rav Moshe Feinstein, he explained, “we use the terminology of count that also means ‘to uplift.’ A child can get lost and ask: where do L-R: Rabbi Eytan Feiner, Rabbi Moshe Tuvia Lieff and Rabbi Yaakov Bender I belong? When it comes to Torah tion for talmidim whose proclivities tend every Jew counts, and when he learns, he to the vocational trades. After studying gets elevated. Count, se’u, in a way he with their rebbeim and peers in their morning shiur and three general-studies periods, talmidim in the program learn trades including electrical construction, plumbing, carpentry, home wiring and automobile repair, amongst others. This year’s L-R: Dovid Bloom, Rabbi Moshe Bender and Aron Solomon

L-R: Ronald Lowinger, president of YDT and founder of the Weiss Vocational Center; Yosef Lowinger, YDT board member and host; Rabbi Yaakov Bender, Rosh HaYeshiva; Nechemia Rabenstein, founder of the Rabenstein Learning Center and Rabbi Baruch Rothman, YDT director of institutional advancement

will get elevated.” The way to do that is to include him in the Yeshiva. That can be done by helping him to learn the best way he can though the Rabenstein Learning Center, and training him to develop a productive talent that makes him a part of

A special moment in the program came when an alumnus of the Weiss Vocational Center, Mordechai Yormark, spoke. Mordechai entered yeshiva in seventh grade and graduated Mesivta Chaim Shlomo in 2009. He began working as an apprentice

L-R: Rabbi Baruch Rothman, Pesach Osina, Shloimy Reich, Naftoli Solomon and Rabbi Shimon Dachs

the community. When he feels good about himself he will start feeling good about learning again. The guest speaker, Rabbi Moshe Tuvia Lieff, rav of Agudas Yisroel Beis Binyomin in Brooklyn, NY, encapsulated this concept when he remarked: “Take a boy who is failing and give him chiyus; that person is greater than a navi.” He added, “Harness the natural resources of life to build kids from within and make life geshmak for them – that is Rabbi Bender.”

and currently is employed by a company that installs security systems in nursing homes in the Tri-State area. He attended the program with his wife, who he married in January. The inspiration of the breakfast was seeing the two programs’ successes, welcoming all their supporters and envisioning future success that is sure to come from a hub of Torah and Chesed in our community that always puts the children first.

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Celebrating 91 Years at the Dinner of The White Shul, Far Rockaway, NY

Brian Nadata - Dinner Chairman, Rabbi Raphael Pelcovitz - Rabbi Emeritus, Heshy Lazar - Man of the Year Award Recipient, Rabbi Eytan Feiner - Rabbi, Chaim Leibtag - President

Rebbitzen Aviva Feiner, Faigie & Yudi Hochheiser - Young Leadership Awardees, Rabbi Feiner - Rabbi, Chaim Leibtag - President

Rendering of new Ezras Nashim Entrance in Memory of Sharon Schultz

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Community Bais Yaakov of Queens Hosts an Artifact Fair for its Families

Bais Yaakov’s cafeteria was transformed into a museum when the sixth grade students presented their collection of artifacts they culled from their families’ histories. The room was filled with tables displaying the precious objects and the framed explanations composed by the students. Grandparents, parents and students were enthralled with the collection and the presentations made by the students.  The students were well-informed, poised, welcoming and able to discuss their artifacts’ history. It was obvious they were well prepared and practiced. The time allotted for the event passed quickly because there was so much to fill the senses. Hearing the stories behind the more than 75 artifacts as the students proudly explained what they were showing and seeing the beautiful objects made the hour pass all too quickly.  The sixth grade social studies students have become museum curators.  Mrs. Naomi Pacht, the sixth grade social studies teacher and creator of this event, said, “This project takes a lot of time and energy to prepare, but the students become passionate about the project, so it’s well worth it!”  Mrs. Sarah Bergman added, “Through this project learning experience

the students gained an appreciation of what it takes to become a curator. Visiting a museum has new meaning as they understand the effort in the presentation of each and every artifact in a museum.” The project began with each student finding an artifact belonging to her family. Through research, interviews and writing, the students prepared their exhibits. Since the students selected artifacts from their families, each exhibit bears a meaningful story to the presenter.  The students worked diligently for several weeks to research, analyze and perfect their presentation.  Rabbi Mordechai Gewirtz, the dean of Bais Yaakov, said, “Many of the exhibits are truly inspiring, and the girls’ explanations were a credit to them.”   In addition to the displayed artifacts, the students assembled a collection of their interviews and photographs of their exhibit.  Reading their stories brings each of the exhibits to life, and they gave the visitors a glimpse of relevant history. Mrs. Karen Reisbaum had the opportunity to look at the collection commenting, “The story behind each item was captured in a way that one could not help but be moved, and not only by the artifacts and their stories, but on the entire event.”



Science Comes to Life at Yeshiva Har Torah The Yeshiva Har Torah 2013 Science Fair was held this past Thursday, April 24, 2013.  The seventh grade submitted unique research projects which reflected current topics of interest.  There were 26 projects presented in total.  The top five winners will go on to compete in the Inter Yeshiva Congress held at HALB, May 5, 2013.   All projects involved independent research and experiment design.   Topics were varied and addressed current

issues effecting students in this culture.  Violence and its influence on cognitive learning, violence affecting the body’s physiology, and food’s relationship with life expectancy were some of the topics.    Students examined primate and human behavior, authenticity of calorie information in the marketing of foods, and the effect of lead poisoning on brain tissue.  Student presented written reports and poster presentations.  They presented oral reports on their data and background research.  Some projects explored and demonstrated the use of Hydrogen and solar power as alternative energy sources for the future.  

The seventh grade proved that with determination and hard work they can be our future leaders and improve our understanding of what will be required to make our planet safer and better.

Rabbi Yakov Horowitz Speaks about Our Children’s Safety in Inwood On Sunday evening April 14th, 2013 when most people would be indulging in their last few hours of respite before the grind of the coming workweek, the Inwood Jewish Community came together at an outpouring event hosted by Mr. and

Mrs. Avraham Mayer of Inwood. The presentation that evening was given by Rabbi Yakov Horowitz, the renowned educator, speaker and authority on raising children in the modern society we now find ourselves engulfed. The Mayers opened their home to over forty local Inwood couples, most of whom are raising families of young children, for an eye-opening presentation discussing why safety and security is so critical to the growth and development of children and methods by which parents can ensure that their children remain vigilant and secure. Rabbi Horowitz touched upon many topics such as ex-

plaining Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, how predators operate and how the child grooming process works. He also explained how the safest families are those whose children feel secure in communicating with their parents and elders. Rabbi Horowitz did a phenomenal job balancing very sensitive issues with enough humor to make it more impactful than just a candid warning speech on the concerns of molestation and abuse. The crowd of parents was also able to query Rabbi Horowitz afterwards during a question/answer session that proved to be both informative and entertaining. Rabbi Horowitz also provided the attendees with a sheet of resources and information both during the presentation and afterwards with an informative e-mail with links to materials that he has published and collated. Rabbi Pinchas Weinberger,shlita , Rav of Bais Tefila of Inwood, is keenly aware of the prevalent issues that

arise daily in his service to the greater Jewish community and had the foresight to plan, arrange and organize the event on behalf of his growing kehillah based in the Inwood community. Due to both the unfortunate reality that one cannot assume they are immune to an issue even when raised in a sheltered community and with an increasing number of incidents being publicized, the timing

for such an event could not be more fitting. A planned future event featuring another speaker with a more clinical approach to these matters is in the works as well. For more information on the future event or to be e-mailed a copy of Rabbi Yakov Horowitz’s resources, please email

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Blind Civil Rights Attorney Richard Bernstein to Speak in The Five Towns Richard Bernstein, a civil rights attorney, marathon runner and triathlete, is coming to Chabad of the Five Towns to talk at The Friendship Circle’s Evening of Volunteer Appreciation. He will share his life challenges and successes,

his passion for sports and his dedication to fighting legal battles on behalf of individuals with disabilities. Blind since birth and born with Retinitis Pigmentosa, Richard is a graduate of the University of Michigan

and Northwestern University School of Law. He is an attorney with The Sam Bernstein Law Firm in Farmington Hills, Michigan, who has won numerous lawsuits on behalf of individuals with disabilities including a recent cir-





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cuit court win to enforce ADA compliance with all airlines in the US. The Friendship Circle is an organization that provides support and friendship to children with special needs, and their families. By empowering today’s teens to bridge the gap between children with special needs and the rest of the community, everyone in the circle benefits. The evening will pay tribute to the outstanding teenagers in our community who have committed themselves to our mission. Each volunteer is a hero in the eyes of their special friends. On May 28 we will recognize and award our Heroes. Richard also has a passion for sports and has completed 17 marathons, one full Ironman triathlon, and a half-Ironman in Israel. Instead of training for his 18th marathon, however, he is focused on recuperating from a major accident he suffered in August in New York’s Central Park when he was run over by a bicyclist traveling 35 mph. He is spending his recovery time traveling the country speaking about his life’s work. Mrs. Batsheva Borenstein, director of The Friendship Circle, says, “Richard’s presentation will be very inspiring for the entire community. Like the indistinguishable fractions of a circle, each part of our community will obtain tools for their daily lives. Parents of children with special needs, educators, our teen volunteers and the community at large will gain a new perspective and passion for life. When harnessed, we can change a feeling of apprehension, from ‘I can’t’ to ‘I’m ready!’ Tuesday, May 28, 7:30 PM (Couvert $50, Please register in advance) Sponsorship Opportunities available. For more information, please call Rabbi Wolowik at 516-295-2478 x 11.





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Rabbi Shlomo Amar, the Sephardi Chief Rabbi of Israel, paid a visit to Yeshiva University-affiliated Rabbi Isaac Elchanan Theological Seminary (RIETS) last week. The Rishon LeZion was welcomed to campus with a performance by YU’s Sephardi choir before delivering a shiur to students.

Wearing “farmers’ hats,” children in Yeshiva Darchei Torah’s preschool learn about the bracha of Borei Piri Ha’Adama.

The Power of Humility Rabbi Noach Weinberg taught that true humility is about realizing that nothing else matters except doing the right thing. When a person has humility it helps to remove the blockages that can be found at times in interpersonal relationships. When there is a lack of ego involved and there is not a feeling of selfcenteredness, there is room to let other people in to the picture. The Orchos Tzadikim explains another powerful aspect of humility. A person with humility finds favor before Hashem, and therefore when he cries out, his prayers are answered immediately. Who doesn’t have needs in life, be it bringing in an income, marrying off children, completing tasks one has set out to do, improving relationships, and more? To know that all you have to do is cry out, and you have a guarantee that you’ll be heard, is an amazing concept. The following pointers can help one to acquire this character trait. One thing to contemplate is the idea that all the good things one does is like a drop in the bucket compared to what one is obligated to do. Additionally, it is natural that at a time of illness, old age, or at any point of hardship and difficulty a person is likely to turn to Hashem and humble himself. While that is a level of humility, the ideal way to reach such a state should be when matters are going well for a person. At that time one should con-

template how to become a more humble individual. Another approach to reaching humility is through subduing oneself to those that are lower, be it hired help, paupers, and even other members of the household (Orchos Tzadikim). As children, we were all taught the Midrash about the mountains that were all vying for the chance to host the occasion of the giving of the Torah. Mount Sinai was chosen despite its lack of outward glory as it seemed small and simple. The reason for the choice was to teach us a lesson in humility. Now is the time to put that lesson of humility into practice. By subduing to the will of one’s spouse, by realizing how through humility one can improve the relationship with one’s spouse, and by understanding all the benefits one can accrue when humility is present, one will be on the way to becoming a better and happier person with a more fulfilling marriage. Five Towns Marriage Initiative provides educational programs, workshops and referrals to top marriage therapists. FTMI will help offset counseling costs when necessary and also runs an anonymous shalom bayis hotline for the entire community Sunday, Tuesday and Thursday evenings, 10:00-11:00 p.m. For the hotline or more information, call 516430-5280 or email

RCCS Annual Five Towns Event this Sunday The Rofeh Cholim Cancer Society (RCCS) will be holding its 11th annual Garden breakfast at the home of Shlomo Weiss at 130 Central Ave, Lawrence on Sunday, May 12th in support of the hundreds of cancer-stricken patients in our communities. All proceeds are being used to subsidize insurance policies for cancer patients within the Five Towns and Far Rockaway. For the past 10 years, RCCS had its Annual Garden BBQ hosted by community and committee members and chaired by Shlomo Weiss. Eleven years ago, a group of young people sought the need to make a difference for the cancer-stricken patients in our community. The Young Initiative Committee (YIC) of Queens was formed by Chaim Kurz in an effort to support the Rofeh Cholim Cancer Society (RCCS). Since then, the committee has expanded and contributed to an ever

spreading cause, raising a few million dollars over the past decade. This year, the guest speaker will be Rabbi Dovid Weinberger. In addition, a video presentation showing the miracles that, with Hashem’s help, RCCS does, describing the life-saving efforts on behalf of the patients being helped right here in our community. Every dollar contributed to RCCS can make a difference in a patient’s life. Over the past 17 years, the Rofeh Cholim Cancer Society has paid approximately $25 million dollars on behalf of cancer-stricken patients, resulting in half a BILLION dollars of medical care. Please help us continue this important and holy work. In the past twelve months, a total of 1,100 patients have turned to RCCS for help, 112 of them from the Five Towns and Far Rockaway. On behalf of the cancer-stricken patients who are YOUR friends and neigh-

Want to Hear More About Camp Menucha, a Camp for Women? Q. What are a few of the activities we will be doing at Camp Menucha? A. All this and more! Flower Arrangement, Dessert Design, E.F. T. workshops, Pirkei Avos shiur, Sheitel Tips, Customized Beauty Consults, Free Spa, Kumsitz (with keyboard and guitar!), Dancing, Self-Esteem workshop, Live Performances, Cool Art projects, Outdoor Trips, Daily Comedy Hour, Talent Showcase…. Important:

No children or infants, please Coffee and cold drinks provided (you bring lunch) Unregistered guests pay per activity—no exceptions Remember: Applicants who confirm before May 30th will receive a major discount, and registration closes June 30th (for real!) Contact or call 718-755-7224.



Standing Together to Protect Our Torah Community: Agudath Israel’s 91st Annual Dinner By: Aryeh David The importance of creating a koach ha’rabbim to safeguard the Torah community was the theme that dominated the evening at the 91st annual dinner of Agudath Israel of America. The dinner, which attracted well over 1,000 people, took place in the grand ballroom of the Hilton New York. The evening’s three main speakers included Rabbi Yaakov Perlow, Novominsker Rebbe and Rosh Agudas Yisroel, who lamented the threats to our spiritual and physical well-being both here and abroad; Senator Dan Coats (R-IN)  who outlined the importance of values and the ability of communities to transmit those values to their children without fear of government intrusion; and Rabbi Chaim Dovid Zwiebel, Agudath Israel’s Executive Vice President, who detailed recent incidents which smack of an increasing

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intolerance towards Torah Jews. Each of the speakers underscored the need to band together in unity. The program began with introductory remarks by the evening’s dinner chairman, Dr. David Diamond. Rabbi Abba Cohen, Agudath Israel’s Vice President for Federal Affairs and Washington Director, then introduced the eve-

ning’s guest speaker, Senator Coats. Senator Coats, a conservative Republican from Indiana who is not shy about his belief in a Creator, spoke of his long history of collaboration with the Agudah on legislation which is important to our community. He described several of his legislative initiatives in the area of religious freedom and school choice. The Senator alluded to the terrible threats facing the State and People of Israel, particularly from the prospect of a nuclear Iran, and pledged that he would do all in his power to help assure that such a threat would never materialize. He concluded his remarks by quoting verses from Psalms (Tehillim) speaking of faith in the Al-mighty. Shortly after Senator Coats concluded his remarks, he was joined on the podium by one of his colleagues from the United States Senate, New York’s own Charles Schumer.  Senator Schumer spoke of his own family background, his early days representing the community, and echoed his colleague’s expression of concern for the safety of Israel. In the Novominsker Rebbe’s address, he referenced the founding mission of Agudath Israel: to serve Klal Yisroel in being mechaven libam la’avihem shebaShamayim, to increase kvod Shamayim. “Unfortunately,” lamented the Rebbe, “we cannot focus only on this mission, due to disturbing developments. There are forces in Eretz Yisroel which seek to abridge and undermine the Torah and its learners. We at the Agudah express anguish and protest at this,” he said. He also alluded to threats to our religious liberties here at home, and underscored the need for banding together

to combat these affronts. He then passionately implored the assembled: “I appeal to you to join us. Not to have more members, but to have more participants,” he said, and wished those in attendance, “May we live up to the mission of Agudas Yisroel to be marbeh kvod shomayim, and to see it revealed in our time.” In his remarks, Rabbi Chaim Dovid Zwiebel cited a column that appeared recently in the Ha’aretz describing “ultra-orthodox Jews” as second class citizens in Israel. He continued; “Well, at least here in America we’re respected and protected – right? Not so fast,” said Rabbi Zwiebel. He referred to a legal brief filed by the Becket Fund for Religious Liberty detailing the numerous intrusions on orthodox Jewish religious rights in the Unites States The Agudah leader raised the issue of Mayor Bloomberg’s crusade against metzitzah b’peh, and the mayor’s now infamous comments in an interview with Atlantic Magazine on his readiness to take on 10,000 “black-hatters” protesting outside his office. He then stepped away from the podium, and retrieved his hat, as though to express pride in being one of those despised black-hatters (at which the audience erupted in applause), and continued to address the audience. “People often ask me, why do we need Agudath Israel today when we’re so established? Ha’aretz knows the answer, the Becket Fund knows the answer, readers of the Atlantic know the answer, and now you here tonight know the answer. We are all in this together, and we’re all strengthened when join together. Agudath Israel urgently needs every one of us, because every one of us urgently needs

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Agudath Israel,” he concluded.   The program included a special audio-visual tribute in memory of Reb Yosef Friedenson z”l, and finished with a stirring video presentation of the highlights of the 12th Siyum Hashas of Daf Yomi. Honorees at the dinner included Reb Mordechai Friedman, who received the Rabbi Moshe Sherer Memorial Award, for lifelong devotion to Klal Yisroel; Rabbi Ronald Greenwald who received the recipient of the Harav Aaron Kotler Memorial Award for distinguished service to Torah; and Mr. Aaron Tessler, who received the Moreinu Rav Yaakov Rosenheim Memorial Award for distinguished service to Agudath Israel Avodas Hakodesh awardees were Rabbi Binyomin Babad, Rafi Hassan, Meir Kagan, Yaakov Paneth, and Zvi Richman.  Passaic Assemblyman Gary Schaer received a special Public Service Award and Rabbi Eli David was the recipient of the Wolf Friedman Leadership Award. 

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Yeshiva Tifereth Moshe Travels the World Yeshiva Tifereth Moshe’s sixth grade held an International Fair this past week. Each boy created a showboard about a different country and included items of traditional dress or other artifacts. During the school day, many classes had the opportunity to walk through to view the displays. The sixth graders  stayed  after school that day to play in the gym and have and American dinner. They were then joined by their parents, grandparents and family members who enjoyed viewing the show boards and artifacts while admiring the effort and creativity which had gone into the country projects. YTM is grateful to Mrs. Sharon Mark and Mrs. Sigalit Nissanov, dedicated 6th grade teachers whose hard work enabled the fair’s success.





 The Mesivta’s beautiful, air-conditioned Bais Medrash will be open all night on Leil Shavuos. The entire community is invited to take advantage of the Mesivta’s spacious Bais Medrash and expansive library. Yeshiva Gedolah and Mesivta Rabbeim will be available to learn with Talmidim and Alumni throughout the evening. Refreshments will be served. Shacharis at 5:00 AM.




JCCRP First Time Homebuyer Workshop

On Monday, May 6th 2013, the Jewish Community Council of the Rockaway Peninsula (JCCRP) held a First Time Home Buyer Workshop in partnership with Knesseth Israel (the White Shul). The workshop was held at the White Shul and was very well attended and informative. Participants were walked through the preparatory steps of purchasing a home: budgeting, qualifying for financing, grant program availability, tax ramifications, homeowners/ flood insurance, legal aspects and much more. The panel of experts imparted a tremendous amount of useful information in a clear and understandable way, answering many questions throughout the evening. The JCCRP would like to thank: Henoch Grumet of SBCO; Lydia Kowalski, Associate Broker at Marjorie Hausman Realty; Michael Lukin, Vice President Apple Bank for Savings; Paul Mernick, Esq. of the Law Office of Paul Mernick; Naftali Solomon, Principal of 718 Insurance. This workshop is one of the valu-

able services the JCCRP provides to the Rockaway/Five Towns community. The following information and assistance is available at the JCCRP: • Medicaid/ Family Health Plus enrollment, recertification, and advocacy • Medicare advocacy, enrollment, and recertification • Food stamp advocacy and enrollment Information and assistance with government benefits, including Social Security, • HEAP, SSI, and SCRIE • Housing issues including eviction prevention and housing court assistance • Crisis Intervention • Kosher food pantry • Counseling services • Referral to New York Legal Assistance Group for legal assistance To support the JCCRP and ensure future programs like this, please mail your tax deductible donation to: JCCRP, 1525 Central Avenue, Far Rockaway, NY 11691. 100% of your donations go to those in need. For information on upcoming events or to make a donation online, visit the JCCRP website:


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At Ateret Cohanim/Jerusalem Chai Dinner Lt. Col. Ralph Peters, noted writer, strategist and media commentator was the dynamic Guest Speaker at the 34th Anniversary Dinner of Ateret Cohanim/Jerusalem Chai. He is flanked by Dr. Joe Frager (at left), Chairman of the Executive Council, who introduced him, and by Dr. Paul Brody, Member of the Executive Council and one of the Dinner Chairpersons, who opened the evening’s program with “HaTikvah.”

The CAHAL 6th grade class at Yeshiva Ketana of Long Island participated in the school’s 6th grade Science Fair. The CAHAL students worked in pairs to create three projects that were judged along with all the other projects created by the mainstream 6th graders. Yechiel Jacobs and Yidele Wiener worked together on a project exploring camouflage. The boys used different colored Mike and Ike candies and construction paper to show the effects that camouflage can have on one’s visual perception. Many students from other classes took the opportunity to participate in the experiment and help the boys test their hypothesis. Everyone enjoyed partaking in the project as well as devouring the candy. Yussi Yakubov, along with another student, examined the viscosity of certain liquids. They worked with different substances such as water, caramel, syrup, vinegar, and honey in order to learn about which substances had a high viscosity and which ones had a lower

viscosity. Chaim Zylberminc and David Ambalu used different tools to study the impact they would have on melting ice. The boys were so engaged in their experiment that they lost track of time and did not even get up until the ice fully melted. All the boys worked hard and displayed great teamwork throughout the completion and presentation of their projects. CAHAL is a coalition of twelve yeshivas sponsoring classes and related services for children with various learning disabilities. By establishing special education classes in the local yeshivas, CAHAL children can receive the education they require and deserve without being isolated in a separate school. The CAHAL program prides itself on integrating our children within each school in order to mainstream them and allow them to participate in all activities of the yeshiva they attend, such as the Science Fair at Yeshiva Ketana.

Lag B’Omer at YCQ The students of Yeshiva of Central Queens had a fun and exciting Lag B’Omer. The pre-school built their own “bonfire” out of blocks and tissue paper where they “roasted” delicious marshmallows. The first through fifth grade students participated in a Maccabiah where they were split up into two teams, blue and white. They competed in various sporting events and exciting relay races. The students all displayed outstanding sportsmanship during each of the events making everyone proud. At the end of the day, everyone celebrated at a concert where they sang and danced to live music. Lag B’Omer was a day filled with ruach and Maccabiah Team Spirit for the elementary school. The junior high school spent an exciting day at Cunningham Park competing in their annual Color War: After playing various games of football, dodge ball and kickball, they all enjoyed a delicious barbeque lunch. The students participated in a Torah Bowl competition, said divrei Torah, as well as a grand finale banner, skit, and song. Ultimately, the blue team “Ben adam l’chavero” defeated the green team “Ben adam l’Makom.”  All in all, Lab B’omer certainly was a day of achdut and fun in YCQ.



NCSY Shoots and Scores: New York NCSY Hosts 7th Annual Community-Wide Basketball Tournament New York NCSY recently hosted its annual community-wide basketball tournament in the Five Towns with more than 200 participants from the New York and New Jersey area. The winner of the 3-on-3 tournament was “Approved Funding,” with players Kenny Sicklick, David Jesselson and Jared Solomon.  The winner of the 5-on-5 tournament was “Lightwave Energy,” with players Jared Stein, Shelby Rosenberg, Yisrael Feld, Yosef Rosenthal, Eitan Potash and Yehuda Guttman. NCSY is the international youth movement of the Orthodox Union. The goal of the tournament was to build awareness and gain community support for NCSY programming. Money raised from the tournament will go towards providing scholarships to study in Israel post-high school or attend an NCSY Summer Program. According to Rabbi Aryeh Lightstone, regional director of New York NCSY, each year the level of competition improves; the enthusiasm is greater; and the community support has become stronger. “It has really been an honor working with our outstanding

basketball committee and dedicated NCSY professional and lay staff in putting on the most popular Jewish basketball tournament,” he stated. The games began at 9:00 a.m. and were held in various gyms around the community, including Hebrew Academy of the Five Towns & Rockaway (HAFTR), Stella K. Abraham High School for Girls (SKA), Davis Renov Stahler Yeshiva High School for Boys (DRS), Life Fitness and Lawrence High School. After a long and exciting day of 3-on-3 and 5-on-5 games, all participants gathered at Lawrence High School for a lunch catered by Shula’s Pizza and the final rounds of the tournament.  “There was a great crowd. The level of play on the court was amazing, probably the highest it has ever been,” said Kenny Sicklick, chairman of New York NCSY’s board and basketball tournament. “The best part is that the community helped to raise money that will be used to light a flame in many Jewish neshamot (souls). We thank everyone who was involved with this event.” During the final rounds, children

The winning team of this year’s 5-on-5 tournament proudly displays its trophies. From left to right: Jared Stein, Shelby Rosenberg, Yosef Rosenthal, Yisroel Feld, Eitan Potash and Yehudah Guttman (front).

were treated to entertainment, including arts & crafts, a moon bounce and a baseball-slugging booth. Food was also available for purchase from David Kay of Prime Time Caterers. “The tournament was extremely successful, not

only as an enjoyable Sunday event for the community, but more importantly, it helped raise much needed scholarship dollars for our precious Jewish teens,” reflected Carol Rhine, chief operating officer of New York NCSY.

OHEL’s Dating and Social Skills Evening Leaves Everyone Feeling Like a Star! This was no ordinary date. It was lively and fun – and everyone left feeling like a star! As part of the The Morris Pinsky A”H Simcha Program, OHEL recently held a dating evening at The Essen on Coney Island. Amongst private tables, OHEL staff and program participants enjoyed a charming evening of delicious food, lovely conversation, and fun. The Morris Pinsky A”H Simcha Program provides single men and women with psychiatric and/or developmental disabilities the same opportunity as anyone else to engage in social and dating activities that can lead to marriage. This was just one of recent events, where Simcha Program singles meet collectively in restaurants, reception halls, sporting facilities, parks and other places where single people typically go to meet and socialize. Prior to the evening, staff and par-

ticipants discussed proper dating etiquette such as who should pay for the meal, appropriate attire for the date, and what to do if you feel nervous before the date. The preparation paid off, and for over two hours, everybody enjoyed themselves and conversation was comfortably flowing. OHEL has made great strides in helping individuals challenged with different disabilities improve their social skills and confidence - so that they can additionally be successful in the dating world. A few days after the date, everybody met to discuss the experience. Participants discussed what parts of the date they believed went well, what parts needed improvement, and they discussed what they would try to do differently next time. Everybody learnt a lot about themselves, and about the dating process. The participants are all looking

forward to their next practice date, as well as applying the skills they developed through OHEL’s social skills development program to a real date. After receiving some self-confidence by the success of his date, one gentleman shared with the group, “I’m not such a bad guy after all!” Another gentleman shared, “By getting dressed up and going out, I forgot about my illness and the date allowed me to feel normal.” All in all, it was a very positive experience. While some people are naturally ready to date, many others are unsure of how to proceed. Dating and socializing is an extremely important part of anybody’s life, so why not join OHEL at our next workshop, and have the time of your life! OHEL provides a range of innovative programs and services. Their dating and social skills workshops are just one of the many programs which you can benefit from.

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Around the Community Kollel Tiferes Avos to Hold Its Annual Breakfast This Sunday On May 12, 2013, Kollel Tiferes Avos, under the leadership of Rabbi Dov Bressler, will hold its third annual breakfast at Congregation Shaaray Tefila, Central Ave, Lawrence. The guest speaker will be the inspiring Rabbi Dovid Goldwasser, Morah D’Asra of Kahal Bnai Yitzchok, Brooklyn, NY. He will have a dynamic message which will prepare us for the forthcoming Yom Tov of Shevuos. The Torah V’Avodah Award will be presented to Yossie Ross, a successful businessman who learns b’chavrusah every morning at the Kollel. The Eitz Chaim Award will be given to Mr. Nathan Finkel, a retired school teacher who regularly attends and contributes to the daily shiurim. All members of the Far RockawayFive Town Community are urged to

attend to reinforce this bond with this Kollel which has its mission “uniting generations through Torah.” The Kollel has injected an air of enjoyment, interactive learning and stimulation into the regular study of the Torah. Kollel Tiferes Avos hold sessions weekdays at Shaaray Tefila. The day begins with a 9:45 AM Shiur in Halacha given by Rabbi Dovid Scheiner. It is followed by a daily 10:00 AM Shiur in Mesechta Sanhedrin given by Rabbi Dov Bressler, Rav of the HILI Bais Medrash. Simultaneously, chavrusos study the same mesechta at a more advanced level. Shiurim are also given every Tuesday and Thursday evening and on Shabbos. For more details, please call Rabbi Bressler at 718-327-8903.

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In just its first year, the Gesher Early Childhood Center has earned a reputation for achieving a standard of excellence. Gesher utilizes the highest quality yeshiva day school preschool curriculum instructed by teachers who are proficient in curriculum development, effectively incorporating the educational objectives of each student. A parent of a four-year-old boy in the program had the following reaction, “My child’s development has been incredible. They have exceeded our expectations by leaps and bounds and my child is baruch Hashem flourishing.” On Tuesday, May 28th, Gesher will be organizing a special event, showcasing the different elements that make up its unique program. Participants will have the opportunity to observe the effective synergy of Gesher’s trans-disci-






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Kollel Tiferes Avos to Hold Its Annual Breakfast This Sunday On May 12, 2013, Kollel Tiferes Avos, under the leadership of Rabbi Dov Bressler, will hold its third annual breakfast at Congregation Shaaray Tefila, Central Ave, Lawrence. The guest speaker will be the inspiring Rabbi Dovid Goldwasser, Morah D’Asra of Kahal Bnai Yitzchok, Brooklyn, NY. He will have a dynamic message which will prepare us for the forthcoming Yom Tov of Shevuos. The Torah V’Avodah Award will be presented to Yossie Ross, a successful businessman who learns b’chavrusah every morning at the Kollel. The Eitz Chaim Award will be given to Mr. Nathan Finkel, a retired school teacher who regularly attends and contributes to the daily shiurim. All members of the Far RockawayFive Town Community are urged to

attend to reinforce this bond with this Kollel which has its mission “uniting generations through Torah.” The Kollel has injected an air of enjoyment, interactive learning and stimulation into the regular study of the Torah. Kollel Tiferes Avos hold sessions weekdays at Shaaray Tefila. The day begins with a 9:45 AM Shiur in Halacha given by Rabbi Dovid Scheiner. It is followed by a daily 10:00 AM Shiur in Mesechta Sanhedrin given by Rabbi Dov Bressler, Rav of the HILI Bais Medrash. Simultaneously, chavrusos study the same mesechta at a more advanced level. Shiurim are also given every Tuesday and Thursday evening and on Shabbos. For more details, please call Rabbi Bressler at 718-327-8903.

Science at HANC Fifth graders at the HANC Samuel & Elizabeth Bass Golding Elementary School in West Hempstead have been learning about light and the science behind how their eyes work. As part of the unit, students also learned that the eye can sometimes be tricked by the brain and they explored why 3-D glasses work. As part of the unit, each student crafted his/her very own 3-D glasses! The students had a blast and learned a lot from this fun and educational lesson.


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Kidding! Submitted by Alana Krupka

Submitted by Ari Ziskind Aliza and her mother Laura were on Central Avenue shopping when they decided to split up to save time. (They had to get back to the car before getting a ticket!) They agreed to meet back at the pizza store at 2:00 PM. Aliza realized several minutes later that she had forgotten her watch and asked a lady nearby for the correct time. The lady’s watch was five minutes fast, but she thought it was ten minutes slow. Laura also forgot her watch so she asked a passing gentleman for the time. The man’s watch was ten minutes slow, but he thought it was 15 minutes fast. Taking into account the errors in the watches, who arrived at the restaurant first, and what time did they arrive? Answer on next page

A young Jewish mother walks her son to the school bus stop corner on his first day of kindergarten. “Behave, my tattaleh,” she says. “Take good care of yourself and think about your mother, zeeskeit!” “And come right back home on the bus, schein kindaleh.” “Your Mommy loves you a lot, my tzatzkele!” At the end of the school day, the bus comes back and she runs to her son and hugs him. “So what did mein kint learn on his first day of school?” The boy answers, “I learned that my name is Yossie.”

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Down 1. What mom reminds you to say when going to your friend’s house 2. Mom knows the lyrics to all his songs 3. After-school snack 4. Favorite morning pick-me-up 5. What you should buy mom as often as possible 6. What mom drives 7. Confirmed by hand to forehead 12. What Mom would love to do on Shabbos afternoon, once in a blue moon, at least 13. Meatball’s natural partner 15. What all children should give their parents on silver platters 19. When parents get to hear what really goes on in school Across 8. Song that puts you to sleep 9. Every night chumash, spelling, math and science 10. Moms need an endless stream 11. Don’t forget to add the fabric softener 14. Letters to nursery teachers 16. First attempt to heal a boo boo 17. Nobody braids them better than mom 18. Unconditional ___________ 20. What you wear when she is cold 21. Tomato pincushion Answers on opposite page

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MONA LISA’S MOTHER: “After all that money your father and I spent on braces, that’s the biggest smile you can give us?”

but I would like to know how he got a better grade than you.”

COLUMBUS’ MOTHER: “I don’t care what you’ve discovered, you still could have written!”

ALBERT EINSTEIN’S MOTHER: “But it’s your senior picture. Can’t you do something about your hair? Styling gel, mousse, something...?”

ABRAHAM LINCOLN’S MOTHER: “Again with the stovepipe hat? Can’t you just wear a baseball cap like the other kids?” ALEXANDER GRAHAM BELL: “You have school tomorrow; hang up the phone!” BENJAMIN FRANKLIN: Benny, get inside! What, do you want to be hit by lightning?” MARY’S MOTHER: “I’m not upset that your lamb followed you to school,

GEORGE WASHINGTON’S MOTHER: “The next time I catch you throwing money across the Potomac, you can kiss your allowance good-bye!” THOMAS EDISON’S MOTHER: “Of course I’m proud that you invented the electric light bulb. Now turn it off and get to bed!” PAUL REVERE’S MOTHER: “I don’t care where you think you have to go, young man, midnight is past your curfew.” LUDWIG VAN BEETHOVEN’S MOTHER: “Stop playing that music so loud!”

Things Mom Would Never Say “Homework can wait; why don’t you play a couple of more videogames first?”

“Go ahead and keep that stray dog, honey. I’ll be glad to feed and walk him every day.”

“That’s fine, I used to skip school a lot, too.”

“Well, if Dave says it’s okay, then it’s good enough for me.”

“If you need more sugar and caffeine I’ll get you that 46 oz. Coke.” “Just leave all the lights on … it makes the house look more cheery.” “Let me smell that shirt – yeah, that’s good for another week.”

“The curfew is just a general time to shoot for. It’s not like I’m running a prison around here.” “Please take that jacket off; the wind chill is bound to improve.” “No, I don’t have a tissue. Oh, well, just use your sleeve.”

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Answers to Crossword Puzzle DOWN 1. Thank You 2. Uncle Moishy 3. Milk and Cookies 4. Coffee 5. Flowers 6. Carpool 7. Fever 12. Nap 13. Spaghetti 15. Nachas 19. PTA ACROSS 8. Lullaby 9. Homework 10. Patience 11. Laundry 14. Mitzvah Notes 16. Kiss 17. Challah 18. Love 20. Sweater 21. Sewing Kit

Answer to riddle: Aliza got there first at a quarter to two. She was told a time that was actually 15 minutes faster than the true time. Laura, however, arrived at twenty five after two, as she was told a time that was 25 minutes slower than the true time.

MICHELANGELO’S MOTHER: “Can’t you paint on walls like other children? Do you have any idea how hard it is to get that stuff off the ceiling?”

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The Shmuz

R’ Ben Tzion Shafier

Parshas Bamidbar

Choose Your Friends Wisely “The families of the children of Korach would encamp on the side of the Tabernacle, to the south.” — Bamidbar 3:29 The Teachers and Supporters of Torah Rashi quotes the Medrash, “Yissochor and Zevulun became great in Torah because their tents were placed next to the tents of Moshe, Aharon, and his sons. The 250 individuals who joined Korach in his rebellion against Hashem, on the other hand, did so because their tents were located next to Korach’s.” From here Chazal learn, “Praise be a tzaddik, and praise be his neighbors. Woe to the rasha, and woe to his neighbors.” The Medrash seems to attribute both the great success of Yissochor and Zevulun as well as the utter destruction of Korach’s congregation to the influence of neighbors. This seems to imply that the pivot point for both groups was who they associated with. What makes this statement startling is the distance between the fate of each group. Throughout the generations, the role of Torah teachers was given to Yissochor, and the role of supporting Torah went to Zevulun. In this way, they reached the heights of greatness. On the flip side, the people who followed Korach in rebellion against Hashem are depicted as still burning in Gehinom to this day. Yet this Medrash

seems to be saying that the followers of Yissochor, Zevulun, and Korach all began at the same starting point. The difference was where they dwelled. It seems difficult to understand how such a stark difference in results could be caused simply by living in close proximity to one person. This question becomes compounded when we take

proclaimed for the entire world to hear, “I am Hashem, your G-d,” every man, woman and child standing there reached a level of seeing Hashem greater than a Navi. They experienced Hashem’s presence firsthand. With that experience came a clear understanding of the purpose of life. The Jews at Sinai fully recognized that

We need friendships, we crave associations, and we hunger for a sense of community.

into account the circumstances and the times. These events were taking place during the forty years in the midbar. Rather than bringing the Jewish people directly to Eretz Yisroel, Hashem cloistered them within the confines of the Clouds of Glory. Locking them away from the world allowed them to become spiritual giants. All of their physical needs were taken care of: they ate the mon delivered to the doors of their tents; they drank water from the be’er; their clothes didn’t tatter; and their shoes didn’t wear out. They experienced countless overt miracles. Furthermore, all of the individuals involved had not long before stood at the foot of Har Sinai. When Hashem

we are put on the planet for a few short years with a specific mission to grow, to accomplish, and to shape ourselves into what we will be for eternity. They knew that whatever state of perfection we reach here, we will enjoy forever. How then is it possible that something as seemingly inconsequential as living next to a tzaddik or a rasha could spell ruination or great success? The Human: A Social Being The answer to this question seems to be that we humans are social beings, and because of this, we are exquisitely sensitive to influence from others. One of our needs is to belong. We need friendships, we crave associations, and we hunger for a sense of community. When we fit into a group that we feel a part of, we identify with that group. This is our chevra, our circle of friends, and it becomes almost an extension of us. Our circle of friends affects our value systems, the way we view ourselves, and our roles in all that we do. But it’s a double-edged sword. It can be one of the greatest aids to a person’s spiritual growth or the greatest liability . . . Because the 250 men who rebelled lived in Korach’s vicinity, this became their community, their peer group. As such, it created their social environment. Korach yielded great social equity in that group, and he led the march to its abysmal failure. But those who lived in the immediate proximity of Moshe and Aharon were affected by a different force. The presence of Moshe

Rabbeinu shaped the social fabric of that group. Its norms and ideals were shaped by a Torah giant. The social atmosphere had such an effect that Yissochor and Zevulun were changed for generations. Chazal are teaching us that the great heights one group reached and the low depths to which the other sank were due to one factor — peer pressure. This is an eye-opening revelation as to the power of influence. The Average Person is Smarter than the Average Person One of the quirks of human nature is that the average person assumes that he is smarter than the average person. Often times, when we are confronted by the foibles of human nature, we exclaim, “How strange is the human!” But we forget to take that next critical step — remembering that “I too am a human.” When it comes to issues like the influence of friends, we may agree that it is significant in the lives of some, and certainly in the lives of teenagers. However, once we are fully-formed adults with a mature understanding of life and the world, we think these concepts no longer apply to us. What we see from this Chazal is a very different perspective. The 250 men who joined Korach were men of greatness. They were distinct and illustrious, singled out by name in the beginning of Bamidbar, yet they were influenced to rebel against Hashem. The tribes of Yissochor and Zevulun included many fully mature adults, and they became great Torah leaders, all because of the influence of others. This is a powerful insight into the effect of the friends that we keep and their impact upon who we wish to become. Get the new Shmuz APP! Access hundreds of audio, videos, and articles from the Shmuz. Simply go to the App store or Google Play and search for “TheShmuz.” Or go to www.

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the dishes, the appliances, the table and chairs, the cabinets and all the things in them and whisper, “Wow. Thank you, Hashem, for all this STUFF.” I find it overwhelming thinking about how much “stuff” we own – peelers and crockpots and even special little yellow holders for corn on the cob that we only use like two or three times a year! I ask for more stuff, and that we

I bet if you took some time to reflect on the world around you, some moment when all is quiet, still, and nobody else is with you, you’d find much more than a midnight snack. I bet you’d find your fill of food for thought. So go ahead and snack away, and while you’re enjoying a bit of nosh with your ice cold soda, take a minute to thank Hashem for the nosh. It will have you saying, “How sweet it is!”

tive. It has a sturdy peel to protect the fruit, yet it can be opened with your fingers. Inside, the peel is white, for there is no need to waste bright color on the part that’s inside and not seen until you’re already halfway to eating it. The fruit is also bright, tasty, and it has delightful juice in it. Inside, there are seeds which contain millions and billions of pieces of data in a biological

If you found a dime when you cut open an orange you’d be surprised, but a seed which is worth so much more we take for granted. should always be able to have stuff. It becomes an auspicious time for prayer. You see, it’s not a binge when I go into the kitchen all alone, it’s a pilgrimage! Have you ever cut yourself? I don’t mean badly, I mean just a little slice of the finger, perhaps when you were cutting a piece of frozen brownie at say, 1 am, while the whole house was snoozing. Now think about what you did to heal it. Perhaps you put on a Band-Aid, maybe some kind of ointment, but how did you instruct your skin to grow and knit perfectly so the finger looks like the cut never happened? Of course, you didn’t do anything. It just happened by itself. Your skin cells know how to grow to close the space, rewire the nerve endings, and even put your fingerprints back in order. That’s not a small thing at all, and yet we don’t often hear people saying, “Ribono Shel Olam, thank You for giving my body the wisdom to heal itself, please continue to grant me good health and appreciation for it.” The more you look at things, and not just look at them, but into them, the more in awe of how blessed we are you will become. R’ Avigdor Miller z”l was famous for his discussion of fruit. For example, an orange is bright and attrac-

Jonathan Gewirtz is a freelance writer whose work has appeared in publications around the world. He also operates, where you can order a custom-made speech for your next special occasion. For more information, or to sign up for the Migdal Ohr, his weekly PDF Dvar Torah in English, e-mail info@ and put Subscribe in the subject. © 2013 by Jonathan Gewirtz. All rights reserved.

format that when planted, know how to create wood, roots, bark, leaves, fruit, and more seeds! It’s amazing. If you found a dime when you cut open an orange you’d be surprised, but a seed which is worth so much more we take for granted.

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ometimes, when it’s late at night and the whole world is still, you can feel like you’re the only one alive. As you roam around, you can sense the solitude, taste the peace and quiet, and usually, you go to the kitchen for a midnight snack. OK, so maybe that’s just me, and for some reason, I imagine that those of you who know me aren’t surprised. Anyway, there I was, getting myself a nice cold drink, when I realized that we didn’t have any cold soda in the fridge. No problem. I opened a fresh bottle, poured it into a glass, and reached into the freezer for a handful of ice cubes. I thought, “Hashem, thank You for ice!” Now, maybe you’ve never really given ice much thought, I mean, it just kind of sits there in the freezer waiting for you. If you’ve ever had to fill ice cube trays and try to find a relatively flat space to put them in, you probably have a lot more respect for your automatic icemaker. If not, you think about it only occasionally, when the sound of the cubes falling into the bucket seems like an intruder which the man of the house inevitably has to go check out at two in the morning. In truth, ice is an amazing thing. It’s the very first “energy water.” It’s got cold stored within, and it can share that reduced temperature with other things. When you put it in a drink, it slowly melts and cools your drink to a much more enjoyable temperature. In fact, before air conditioning, people used to put a bucket of ice in front of a fan to let the ice cool down the air around it. It seems like a very mundane thing to be in awe of, but when you think deeply into it, you realize how much better your life is because of ice. Truth be told, we really could be in awe of everything. In fact, sometimes, I’m just in awe of how much “everything” we have. Often, on my middle-of-thenight treks into the kitchen, I’ll just look around in wonderment at the glasses,

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Mother’s Day is here and although every day should be a celebration for all that our moms do for us, Mother’s Day is a wonderful time to honor that special woman in our lives. Here are some brunch ideas to serve in her honor.

Honey Butter on Toasted Rolls Ingredients Package of rolls or English muffins ¾ cup butter, room temperature ¼ cup honey Preparation In a small bowl, combine the butter and honey. Store in the refrigerator until ready to use. Split rolls or English muffins in half and toast. Serve with honey butter on the side.

Asparagus, Spinach, & Feta Quiche Ingredients ½ tablespoon olive oil 8 asparagus spears, ends removed and cut into 1-inch pieces 4 cups fresh baby spinach 5 large eggs 1 cup milk 3/4 cup crumbled feta cheese 1/4 cup shredded mozzarella cheese Salt and pepper, to taste 4 green onions, chopped 1 9-inch pie crust Preparation Preheat the oven to 375°. Prepare the pie crust according to instructions. In a large skillet, heat olive oil over medium heat. Add the asparagus spears and spinach. Cook until asparagus spears are slightly tender and spinach is wilted. Transfer spinach to a colander. Press firmly with the back of a spoon to squeeze out as much liquid as possible. Set aside. In a large bowl, whisk together eggs and milk. Stir in the feta and mozzarella cheese. Season with salt and pepper, to taste. Place as-

paragus pieces, spinach, and green onions on the bottom of the pie crust. Pour the egg and cheese mixture over the vegetables and into the crust. Bake the quiche for 45 minutes or until quiche is set and slightly golden brown. Let quiche stand for 15 minutes before serving.

Strawberry Spinach Salad Ingredients 1 package fresh spinach 4 cups fresh strawberries, sliced ¼ cup chopped pecans or sliced almonds, toasted 1/3 cup olive oil ¼ cup sugar 3 Tbsp balsamic vinegar 2 Tbsp sesame seeds

1 Tbsp poppy seeds 1 Tbsp red onion, chopped ¼ tsp paprika ¼ tsp Worcestershire Sauce Preparation Place all dressing ingredients in a jar with a fitted lid and shake well. Refrigerate for one hour. Right before serving, toss the spinach,

strawberries and pecans in a large bowl. Shake dressing and then drizzle over salad. Toss to coat and serve immediately.

Ingredients 2/3 cup sugar Zest of two lemons Juice of 1 lemon 2 cups all-purpose flour 2 teaspoons baking powder 1/4 teaspoon baking soda 1/4 teaspoon salt 3/4 cup sour cream 2 large eggs 1 1/2 teaspoon pure vanilla extract 1 stick unsalted butter, melted and cooled 2 tablespoons poppy seeds For the Icing 1 cup confectioners’ sugar, sifted 2-3 tablespoons fresh lemon juice Preparation Preheat oven to 400°. Line 12 molds in a regular-size muffin pan with paper muffin cups. Place the muffin pan on a baking sheet. In a large bowl, rub the sugar and lemon zest together with your fingertips until the sugar is moist with the lemon. Whisk in the flour, baking powder, baking soda and salt. In another bowl, whisk the sour cream, eggs, vanilla, lemon juice and melted butter together until well blended. Pour the liquid ingredients over the dry ingredients and, with a rubber spatula, gently but quickly stir to blend. Do not over-mix. Stir in the poppy seeds. Divide the batter evenly among the muffin cups. Bake for 18 to 20 minutes, or until the tops are golden and a thin knife inserted into the center of the muffins comes out clean. Let muffins cool completely before icing them. To make the icing: Put the confectioners’ sugar in a small bowl and add about 1 ½ tablespoons of the lemon juice. Stir with a spoon to moisten the sugar, then add enough lemon juice, a dribble at a time, to get an icing that is thin enough to drizzle from the tip of the spoon. Then drizzle lines of icing over the tops of the muffins or coat the tops entirely.

Strawberry Banana Frozen Smoothie Ingredients 1 cup milk 1 cup water 1 package frozen strawberries 1 firm banana, chunked 1 tsp vanilla 6 ice cubes Preparation Combine all ingredients in a blender until smooth. Pour into chilled glasses and garnish with a berry. Serve immediately with a straw.

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yrian President Bashar al-Assad’s ascent to power took place through an unexpected path, and his descent may be taking place in much the same way. Assad’s father, Ḥafiz al-Assad, became ruler of Syria in 1971 when he and his Ba’th Party took over via a coup. He was “reelected” seven times and ruled with an iron fist until his death in 2000. As the third son, Assad was not in the line of succession. He studied medicine at the University of Damascus and graduated as an ophthalmologist in 1988. He went on to serve as an army doctor at a Damascus military hospital and in 1992 moved to London to continue his studies. But he was called back to Syria in 1994 when his older brother, Basil, who had been designated his father’s heir apparent, was killed in an automobile accident. When his father died in 2000, Assad became president. He was reelected in 2007. In each election he ran unopposed, much as his father ran. For a while it appeared as if this new president would usher in an era of modern westernism, and increased freedom. After all, he was educated, young and seemed to live a modern lifestyle; his wife who is British was the subject of glowing Vogue magazine article titled “A Rose in the Desert.” However, his response to the “Arab Spring” shows that, like others in the region, tyranny reigns supreme in his political DNA.

If the rebels prevail, weapons will end up in the hands of Muslim extremists

SYRIA Israel’s Attack and Assad’s Red Line Problem

Arab Spring and Civil War

Several years ago when the “Arab Spring” was brewing in full force, the prevailing belief was that Syria, which has a population of approximately 18 million people, would be the next domino to fall and Assad would quickly be removed from power. Much like Tunisia, Egypt and Libya, Syria was deeply impoverished and ruled by a single party system under permanent emergency law, the very complaints that led millions throughout the Arab world to revolt. Yet, surprisingly, unlike other leaders such as Hosni Mubarak and Muammar Gaddafi, Assad has shown an uncanny ability to withstand the surging tide of revolution—which has since turned into an all-out civil war—and two years later, he still holds onto his grip of power, although tenuously. It is estimated that approximately 100,000 people have been killed in Syria’s civil war and over 1 million have fled to neighboring countries. Stories of horror have emerged from Syria depicting atrocities committed on men, women and children. Although both sides have committed unspeakable crimes, western sympathies seem to lay with the rebels, despite the presence of radical Sunni Islamists (including al Qaeda) within their ranks. To date, the U.S. and its allies have backed the Syrian rebels with non-military aid such as money, food, medical supplies and defensive military equipment.

The Rebels

Middle Eastern conflicts generally must be analyzed within the prism of the 1,400-year conflict between the two main sects of Islam: the Sunnis and the Shias. The conflict dates back to who the rightful successor was to Islam’s founder, Muhammad. An overwhelming majority of the world’s Muslims are Sunnis, while an estimated 10-13% are Shiites. Iran and Iraq are amongst a small group of countries where the majority of the populations are Shiites. Any shift in the balance of power between Sunnis and Shiites can change the whole dynamic of the Middle East. For example, in Iraq Saddam Hussein ruled through the Sunni minority, thus Iraq counted as a Sunni country. Once Saddam was toppled, the Shia majority in Iraq came to power and formed a close alliance with Iraq’s former enemy and neighbor: Iran. After all, both countries were now ruled by the Shiites. This increased Iran’s influence in the region. The axis of Shia power is rounded out by Syria and Hezbollah, a Shia Islamic militant group based in Lebanon. President Assad belongs to the minority Alawite sect, an offshoot of Shiite Islam, which makes up approximately 13% of the Syria. Sunni Muslims make up approximately 75% of Syria. Approximately 10% of Syria is Christian. Officially, Syria is a secular state. Assad has declared his commitment to secularism and deemed religious extremism the greatest threat to Syrian security. His government routinely imprisons Sunni citizens with ties to Islamist movements, and Islamist political parties are banned. In 2010, Assad’s government increased oversight of Sunni mosques and schools, requiring imams to submit Friday sermons to government officials for approval. Assad briefly prohibited teachers from wearing the face veil, until he capitulated to demonstrations in an effort to appease the

Israel: Stuck Between a Rock and a Hard Place

Both major sects of Islam pose existential threat to Israel, as, despite their different ideologies, they have a mutual hatred for Israel. Israel faces an immediate threat from the Shia bloc via Iran, which continues to inch closer to obtaining nuclear weapons and Hezbollah which operates on Israel’s northern border. During the 2006 war, Hezbollah fired over 4,000 rockets into Israel. Israel believes Hezbollah has restocked its arsenal with tens of thousands of rockets – albeit unguided, but some putting Tel Aviv within range. The alternative is equally as dangerous. It is believed that militant Sunni groups such as al Qaeda have taken up the Syrian cause and are operating on the rebel’s side. If they prevail, Syria’s stockpiles of weapons would be in the hands of Muslim extremists. Additionally, a new powerful alliance would be Israel has deployed its anti-missile Iron Dome system created between Syria’s and along its border near Syria Egypt’s ruling party, the Muslim Brotherhood, which operates as a political organization, but is understood to be a masked extremist group which believes that the world should be governed by Islamic principles. Regardless of who prevails in Syria, Israel is going to continue to have an enemy at its border. Trying to sway the outcome of the civil war would be tantamount to picking your poison. As such, it would seem that Israel’s interests would be best served by a protracted civil war between the two sides. Perhaps that is why for the past two years, Israel has mostly stood on the sidelines and played observer to Syrian’s civil war. That is, up until last week. Although Assad’s reign was believed to be numbered a long time ago, the morbid ebb and flow of Syria’s civil war may soon give way to tidal waves which can serve as the final blow to Assad. This is due to the crossing by the Assad regime of a couple of “red lines.”

Converging “Red Lines”

In August 2012, United States President Barack Obama stated that the use of chemical weapons by Assad would be a “red line” which would cause the U.S to reconsider its opposition to military involvement in the Syrian civil war. It appears that chemical weapons were recently used in Syria, but it is unclear who used them—Assad’s military or the rebels. A U.N. report stated that their investigation indicates that the rebels were the ones to use chemical weapons, in the form of sarin gas. However, the White House believes that the Assad regime was responsible for any use of chemical weaponry, which would mean that Assad crossed America’s “red line.” Last week, U.S. Defense Secretary Chuck Hagel said the Obama administration is reconsidering the possibility of arming the rebels. Senator Bob Corker, R-Tenn., ranking member on the Senate Foreign Relations committee, similarly stated, “I do think we’ll be arming the opposition shortly.” At this point, America seems to be considering its options which may result in varying levels of involvement in the Syrian conflict. Obviously, many Americans who suffer from war fatigue are rightfully weary of entering another conflict in the Middle East where America is being called upon to aide rebels who may need us now, but who hate us and everything we stand for. The Obama administration itself seems to be grappling with this conundrum and appears to be fully engaged in an effort to blur its stance on the red line, perhaps in an effort to bide time. According to White House Spokesman Jay Carney, although the administration considers the use of chemical weapons to be the crossing of a red line, the president “has never said what reaction he would take at a policy level to the crossing of the red line.” Despite America’s reluctance, if Assad continues to use chemical weapons—which he may have to do in order to hold onto power—America may have no choice but to enter the conflict. In the meantime, Israel too laid out what it considers to be a “red line,” which

was that it would not allow the shipment of advanced anti-aircraft weapons, advanced missiles, and chemical or unconventional weapons to Hezbollah. Although Iran has for a long time been funneling weapons to Hezbollah through Syria, the prevailing belief is that currently, due to Assad’s precarious situation, he would need to quickly transfer weapons to Hezbollah in order to prevent them from falling into rebels’ hands. Additionally, Assad must reciprocate and show support to Hezbollah, which has been actively engaged on his behalf in the civil war. When the “red line” was crossed, Israel struck.

Israel Attacks

Although details remain murky, Israeli jets struck targets inside Syria on two occasions last weekend. The first airstrike on Friday night was against a shipment of weapons headed for Hezbollah and is said to have taken place at a Damascus airport. The second airstrike, which took place on Sunday night, occurred at a military research facility north of Damascus causing heavy explosions which rocked the city. AccordRegardless of who prevails in ing to Israeli officials, both attacks targeted Syria, Israel is going to continue sophisticated, Iranianto have an enemy at its border. made guided missiles believed to be bound for Hezbollah in Lebanon. Had the missiles reached Hezbollah, it would have enabled them to launch precise attacks on Israeli targets such as Ben Gurion Airport and Tel Aviv from launch pads as far north as central Lebanon. According to reports, all of the missiles were destroyed in the two strikes. According to Syrian reports, the second attack killed 42 soldiers and an additional hundred soldiers remain unaccounted for. Syrian leaders have called the attack a “declaration of war” and have threatened retaliation against Israel. Israeli commanders responded by deploying its Iron Dome anti-missile defense system near their border with Syria. Despite the escalating tensions, Prime Minister Netanyahu proceeded with a pre-scheduled visit to China, signaling “business as usual.” If recent history is a guide, Israel does not have much reason for concern—in 2007 Israel destroyed a suspected nuclear reactor in northeast Syria and Syria never followed through on its vow to retaliate. In fact, despite longtime animosity between Israel and Syria, the two neighbors have almost never come to direct blows. After the attack, Israel sought to avoid a direct confrontation with the Syrian reagime by stressing that the air strikes were not intended to further destabilize the Assad government,, rather they were meant to prevent weapons from reaching Hezbollah in Lebanon. In fact, according to Israeli newspaper reports, Prime Minister Netanyahu used diplomatic channels to deliver that message directly to Assad.

No Easy Road The general intelligence consensus is that after two years of civil war, Assad’s days are numbered. James Clapper, Director of National Intelligence, agreed with that assessment during ConAssad is a Shia Muslim ruling a Sunni majority in Syria gressional testimony, but noted, “We just don’t know the number.” Although President Obama and other high ranking officials have been saying for the past two years that Assad’s days are numbered, perhaps now that Assad has crossed the U.S and Israel’s red lines, his reign on power will finally buckle under the weight of international operations’ support to the rebels. Assad’s fall from power would not signal an end to the conflict; it would merely usher in a new phase of the struggle, perhaps an even more deadly phase. As the recent history of Iraq and Afghanistan show, America’s engagement cannot prevent sectarian violence and lawlessness. Thus, although Assad’s days may be numbered, this conflict is merely in its infancy and may further destabilize the entire Middle Eastern region. This may be why America’s posture seems to be “deer in the headlights, looking to the right and left” and why immediately after striking Assad’s army, Israel quickly reassured him that it was not aimed at him.

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opposition. Despite the fact that the majority of Syria is Sunni, its government is aligned with Shia, which makes it a Shia-powered state. Syria’s two year old crisis has largely broken along sectarian lines: the Sunni majority forms the backbone of the rebellion, while Shiites support Assad. Other minorities, such as Christians, largely support Assad or stand on the sidelines, worried that the regime’s fall would bring about a more Islamist rule, via Sunni control.

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Disorganized and Overwhelmed It’s very hard for me to admit this, but I am terrible at organization: my children’s lunches, my bills, my kitchen, and even my clothing. My life just feels so out of control. Are there distinct steps that I can take to get more organized? It just seems so overwhelming right now. Organizing yourself is a very tough task – especially if it something that you struggle with across the spectrum. Organization requires discipline, time – and something else that you might not be aware of – executive function skills. Executive skills allow us to organize our behavior over time and override immediate demands in favor of longer-term goals. Through these skills, we learn to sustain attention, plan and organize activities, and follow through on a task. Sometimes, people might think that they are simply disorganized, but in reality, they could be impaired by Executive Function Disorder. Those with Executive Function Disorder lack many skills such as planning, time management, and working memory. This in turn can lead to persistent lateness, impulsive behavior, and the inability to finish any task completely. It’s very possible that you are disorganized because you simply have never tried to be organized. However, there is also the possibility that you are disorganized because you are missing executive function skills. In that case, what can you do to help yourself get this done well and in a timely manner? The Center for Learning Disabilities suggests multiple ways to improve your life and overall organization for people with or without Executive Function Disorder: • Use tools like time organizers, computers, and watches with alarms in order to give yourself reminders to help you get things done on time. Because your brain might not be programmed to give you these repeated reminders, setting up external cues can keep you on track. • Create checklists and to do lists. On these lists, estimate how long each activity will take you to accomplish. Then, break the longer tasks into small changes and assign time frames

for completing each section. Breaking apart larger tasks will allow you to stay focused the mission at hand. • Remove clutter from your workspace (or kitchen). If this feels too scary to handle on your own, ask a friend, or family member, to set aside a few hours to help you clear your space. If they do not have time, consider hiring an organizer to come in and do the work with you. Then, once the workspace is clean, set aside ten minutes daily to making sure it stays clutter free. • Use visual calendars to keep track of long term projects, appointments, and bill invoices. Keep this calendar posted in a central location and ensure that you look at it at the same time nightly. This way, you will have time to prepare for any different events taking place the next day. For people with Executive Function Disorder, getting organized can be daunting and almost impossible. Regardless, with a plan and a goal, you can take small steps towards organization and order in your life. And, remember, nobody’s perfect – even with checklists and calendars – life might get a bit disorganized every now and then. The opinions expressed in this article reflect the view of the author and those cited by her. In all matters of hashkafah and chinuch, readers should seek reliable rabbinical guidance. Mrs. Rifka Schonfeld, founder and director of Strategies for Optimum Success (S.O.S.) in 1980, services all grade levels in secular as well as Hebrew studies. A long-time kriah and reading specialist, she offers evaluations, as well as G.E.D. preparation, social skills training and shidduch coaching. She can be reached at 718-382-5437 or at

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The Single’s Top Seven Warning Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship

hen people have long-term marriages and things are bad, there are ways to fix them. It’s better to resolve problems so kids can grow up in a home with two loving parents. But you aren’t married and you have your life ahead of you, so why get bogged down with something hurtful when you don’t have to? Why suffer? Life was not meant for suffering, not in my opinion. Are you shocked to hear me say this? Aren’t we in the middle of a shidduch crisis? Shouldn’t I be promoting marriage? If you’ve read my articles or if you know me, you know I am very pro-marriage. If you want to save your marriage, I will do everything in my power to help you. On the other hand, perhaps one of the reasons for the shidduch crisis is fear. Perhaps people have seen their recently-married friends get divorced within a year. Perhaps their own parents divorced or were unhappy. I have figured out a way around this fear. If singles would know exactly what to look for – and avoid it like the plague – then they can relax about their dating experience with everyone else. I think we were meant, like the Constitution says, to pursue happiness. Maybe it doesn’t come easily, not on a silver platter. But that doesn’t mean we can’t go for it. That’s why I wrote this. I want you to have a simple blueprint for your relationships that will help you stay on the road to pursuing happiness rather than being stuck in misery. I’ve boiled it down to the top seven signs that something is not right. Sign 1: You can’t put your finger on it, but you are miserable in your relationship. Another way of saying this is, “trust your gut,” or “don’t ignore your inner wisdom.” If something inside is telling you things are not right, it’s easier to push it aside. It’s easier to say, “Oh, that isn’t important.” But then, you are not honoring your own inner voice. And that voice is important. If it’s telling you that this person is making you miserable, then listen to it. Don’t push it aside. You might want to argue that this person you’re with is really nice, really good, a wonderful person. And to prove it, you list the many gifts you are

given and the sweet things you’re told. But you know what? If some voice inside you is telling you you are unhappy, that’s the real voice to listen to. And I’ll tell you why: Because what is deep inside you speaks the truth. It has access to little things that you want to ignore: things that are said that hurt at the moment but you forget later, or things that were not said but should have been that hurt and you forget about them also. Sure you forget them. Who wants to remember pain? But that inner voice does remember; it comes from your subconscious where everything is

was sarcastic, like, “Oh yeah; great fun,” then you know you’re being put down. Don’t take it! Don’t allow anyone to treat you like that. Whether it’s name calling, sarcasm, or other put downs, it’s not a message those who care about you should ever give you. Another way that someone can give you a message that something is wrong with you is through constant criticism and blame. Sometimes, this is very subtle and it looks like mere disagreement or even humor. But watch out for these types of corrections: “No, honey, we take a left at the next light.

I want you to have a simple blueprint for your relationships that will help you stay on the road to pursuing happiness rather than being stuck in misery. stored. That’s why you need to listen to it—and honor it. Sign 2: The person in your life is giving you a message that something is wrong with you. Some people are very obvious in how they put others down. They call them names, they use disgusting language; they roll their eyeballs at them. If you’re getting that message from your boyfriend or girlfriend, that’s clearly unhealthy. Get out of that relationship. Fast. But the whole process of putting someone down can be very subtle. You can offer an idea and it just gets ignored without a word. That’s a putdown. You say, “Here’s a fun thing to do,” and you offer a suggestion, but there is no response at all. If that happens a lot, I’d start to wonder. For sure if the response

You really have a bad sense of direction.” If it’s unbalanced and you can never tease back, watch out. No one is perfect, but the person who wants to draw attention to your imperfections—while ignoring his or her own—is using you for target practice. You don’t need that. Sign 3: You get left out half the time. There is no excuse for someone in a relationship to leave you out of important events in their lives. Friends wouldn’t do that. How do you let your special person do that to you? Do you start to think maybe you deserve it? See, that’s exactly what you must never do. If someone treats you badly it’s because they’re not a good person. Period. It’s not because you deserve it. No one deserves to be mistreated. Even crimi-

nals have rights! Being included is the whole reason for being connected to someone. A connection that’s not connected isn’t much of a connection, after all. No need to blame yourself; just consider the relationship not to be worth keeping. Sign 4: You’re being isolated. This one is the opposite of #3. There, you didn’t feel “part of.” Here, you’re “all of.” In the beginning, this seems very flattering. You are the center of attention. But after a while, you look around and notice that there is no one else in your circle. Just you and this person. You realize that your family has been cut off and so have your friends. That’s a big warning sign that something is wrong. When someone does that, they take away your support system. When they have you to themselves, they can start to convince you that everyone else is wrong, sick, or no good. And without being able to talk to anyone about it, you start to become confused. That’s the goal. When you’re confused, you can turn to them more and more for answers. I hate to say it, but it’s a form of mind control. When you have no one else to turn to, then this person has so much more power over your thoughts and opinions and how you spend your time. After a while, you don’t even quite know who you are. It is because we can express ourselves to others–and hear their reaction—that we clarify our ideas. And our ideas are the basis of who we are. So, don’t let anyone cut you off from your friends and family. To be continued. Stay tuned for next week’s issue of TJH for the last three warning signs. Dr. Deb Hirschhorn has had over 35 years clinical experience. She has been in numerous publications, both professional and for the public, and has appeared on TV and has been featured on radio. She practices Marriage-Friendly Therapy. She has a local practice in Woodmere, N.Y. See her website,, or call her at 646-54-DRDEB.

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“Say What?” According to a new report, Al Gore now has more money than Mitt Romney. Gore said Mitt and I are living proof that if you’re a boring white guy, anything is possible. - Conan O’Brien

Our insurance department is in power to protect families. We’re going to watch them like a hawk to make sure they do that. And if they don’t, those rates could go through the roof... It’s in part because of Obamacare. – New York Senator Chuck Schumer Last night the very junior senator from Texas said Republicans would agree to go to conference only if Democrats first would give in to their demands... My friend from Texas is like a schoolyard bully. - Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid (D-Nev.) to Sen. Ted Cruz (R-Texas) during a contentious exchange on the Senate floor

There was sufficient evidence to sustain a verdict of murder in the first degree in this case. - Judge Belvin Perry, who presided over the Casey Anthony case, on ABC News

Investigators are saying that on the night Dzhokhar Tsarnaev’s picture was first made public, one of his college friends who was arrested on Wednesday texted Tsarnaev joking that he looked like one of the suspects. You know, when they say, “If you see something, say something?” they don’t mean to the terrorist. – Seth Meyers

An elementary school here in New York City has become the first school in the country to serve only vegetarian food. Apparently the school board wants to give kids a head start in being difficult at restaurants. - Jimmy Fallon

It’s nobody else’s business. From my perspective and my family’s perspective, the steps I’ve taken recently are for me, Mary Pat and the kids. I would have never lied about it but, you know, it’s not anybody else’s business but mine. - New Jersey Governor Chris Christie at a press conference on Tuesday explaining why he underwent lap band surgery earlier this year

Max said unless we implement this properly it’s going to be a train wreck and I agree with him. - Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid, echoing a warning delivered last month by Senate Finance Committee Chairman Max Baucus (D-Mont.).

Unfortunately, you’ve grown up hearing voices that incessantly warn of government as nothing more than some separate, sinister entity that’s at the root of all our problems. Some of these same voices also do their best to gum up the works. They’ll warn that tyranny always lurking just around the corner. You should reject these voices. Because what they suggest is that our brave, and creative, and unique experiment in self-rule is somehow just a sham with which we can’t be trusted. - President Obama at the commencement address to the graduating class of The Ohio State University on May 5th Yesterday President Obama spoke at Ohio State’s graduation, and told students that it’s their responsibility to make the world a better place. It got awkward when students were like, “Wait, isn’t that literally your responsibility?” - Jimmy Fallon

President Obama is in Mexico. He’ll be on hand to celebrate Mexico’s economic successes over the last few years. See, that’s how it works now. If President Obama wants to celebrate an economic success, he actually has to leave the country. - Jay Leno

Vice President Joe Biden’s plane is apparently stuck in Arizona because of problems with its engine. Officials say they’re trying to fix it as fast as they can. But Obama was like, “No rush.” - Jimmy Fallon

Woke up to Sarah Palin’s voice. She’s taken up chewing tobacco now ‘cuz LIBRULS [sic]or Bloomberg or something. Now seeing upside of oral cancers. - Tweet by Dan Savage, head of a White House-backed antibullying campaign named “It Gets Better”

The Bush Presidential Library is beautiful, and they have a huge section devoted to weapons of mass destruction, but nobody can find it. – David Letterman

You should have seen what [Hillary Clinton] tried to do to us that night. - State Department counter-terrorism bureau official to colleagues discussing the Benghazi incident and cover-up, according to a recently released report Warren is in the house. - Text of first tweet ever sent by Warren Buffett, earlier this week

Excerpts of – now famous – Charles Ramsey’s 911 call after Amanda Berry escaped from her captives:

Ramsey: Yeah, hey bro. I’m at 2207 Seymore, West 25th. Hey, check this out. I just came from McDonald’s, right. I’m on my porch eatin’ my lil’ food, right. This [girl] is tryna break out the ... house next door to me. So, it’s a bunch of people street right now and ... So we like, what’s wrong, what’s the problem? She like, this [guy] done kidnapped me and my daughter and we been in this [place]. She said her name was Linda Berry or some[thing]. I don’t know who... that is. I just moved over here, bruh. I don’t ... that, you know what I mean. Dispatcher: Do you know the address next door, that she said she was in?

Russia has announced that for the 2014 Olympics it will send the Olympic torch up to the International Space Station. They’ve also announced a new Olympic Event— “Watching Six Astronauts Have All Their Oxygen Used up by a Burning Torch.” – Conan O’Brien

Sunday was Cinco de Mayo... the day we honor people that we’re trying to keep out of the country. - David Letterman

Ramsey: Yeah, 2207, I’m lookin’ at it. Dispatcher: Okay, I thought that was your address.... Ramsey: No, no. I’m smarter than that, bruh. I’m telling you where the crime was, not my house. Dispatcher: Are the people she said that did this, are they still in the house? Ramsey: I don’t have a... clue, bruh. I’m just standin’ out here with McDonald’s. Dispatcher: Can you ask her if she needs an ambulance? Ramsey: You need an ambulance, or what? She need everything. She’s, she’s in a panic, bruh. I bet she been kidnapped, so put yourself in her shoes. We will never surrender our guns, never. - Executive Vice President Wayne LaPierre at the annual NRA convention in Houston The [New York City] mayor and celebrities are protected by their bodyguards with guns. It’s the old, “What’s right for thee is not right for me.” - Sara Palin at the NRA Convention It’s not a bill of needs – it’s a bill of rights. The Second Amendment is included. - Mark Levin at the NRA Convention Palin has most appealed to mean, dumb, angry crowds exactly like the one she found in Houston [at the NRA Convention]. They don’t even speak to the spirit of the Second Amendment, written about a thousand years ago for single-shot muskets. They just continue to pound away at the same insane theme: Gun control is the beginning of the government coming to take their guns. - Mike Lupica, The Daily News

There’s a new summer camp for adults where using cellphones and computers is banned. The camp has an interesting name: North Korea. - Jimmy Fallon

A new study found that certain fish use sign language to communicate. Apparently they have a sign for everything – except for “big metal hook.” - Jimmy Fallon

C’mon, this is the U.S.A., we’re pretty good at putting people in prison. We have a higher incarceration rate than Iran or China, or for that matter every other country on Earth. We’re also pretty good at executing people. Ninety percent of the countries in the world don’t but we do. So, yes, I’m afraid little Dzhokhar [messed] with the wrong peace-loving Christian people. - Bill Maher

President Obama held a press conference today. He said he still wants to close the Guantanamo Bay prison facility, but he doesn’t know how to do it. He should do what he always does. Declare it a small business and tax it out of existence. - Jay Leno

He probably did it without thinking. Some people put the spider outside, but spiders are often scary to people, and that can prevent them from pondering their worth. - PETA statement regarding a viral video showing Governor Chris Christie smashing a spider on his desk in front of a group of visiting school children

There is no relationship at all between what Weather Underground members did and the bombings that two brothers allegedly committed on April 15 in Massachusetts. No one died in the Weather Underground bombings. - Bill Ayers, founder of the Weather Underground terrorist group which carried out numerous bombings in the 1960s, to the Akron Beacon Journal This afternoon, the president, who has the highest handicap of the foursome, paired with up Senator Udal [D-NM], who has the lowest. Senators Chambliss [R-GA] and Corker [R-Tenn], aided by Chambliss’s hole-in-one on the 11th, won the match. - White House statement about a recent golf outing President Obama had with three senators

We’re just burying a dead body. We’re not buying a cause. We’re not doing anything else. ... The guy is a terrorist, whatever he did. Still dead. - Frustrated funeral director Peter Stefan who has possession of the dead Boston Marathon bomber’s body but can’t find a cemetery to accept it for burial

Open borders attacks the root cause of Muslim extremism–young, impoverished men in Muslim countries. Men with no future are more easily radicalized. Muslim poverty is what threatens our security, not our immigration system. Giving these men the chance to work here could diminish their poverty, their anger, and their misunderstanding of the U.S. before they are radicalized. - MSNBC’s Toure Neblett advocating for open borders

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In the Kitchen Naomi Nachman

Each Shavuot meal we start off with Kiddush and then move onto our dairy courses. Hopefully, the wines we choose for each course will bring out the very best in the foods we have selected to serve. Last week on my radio show, “Table for Two with Naomi Nachman” on the Nachum Segal Network, we had a wine-and-cheese show featuring Jay Buchsbaum, from Royal Wine Corp. (which owns the Kedem, Bartenura and Herzog brands, just to name a few), and Brent Delman, The Cheese

Onion Soup - The Fa mous Classic! The key to imitating the real beef flavor of traditional onion soup is adding miso into the soup. This really enhances the flavor of the soup. WINE: The wine I use in the soup recipe is Jeunesse, Carbernat Sauvignon, a young semi-sweet wine from California (Jeunesse means young, flavorful and fun). I then use the leftover wine from the bottle at the table for the first course. The red wine is a great marriage of flavor in the soup and as an accompaniment to the soup course.

Guy. Each of them brought in some amazing samples from their companies and we discussed wine and cheese pairings. You can catch the show on the archives (www. and learn more about wine and cheese production too. In this article, I have paired my family’s favorite Shavuot recipes with some fantastic suggestions of wines. Hope you enjoy!

I am a big fan of white wines. I recommend white wines with fish courses and salads. I recommend serving Sauvignon Blanc, a dry white, Israeli wine from Binyamina Reserve. This goes really well with this salad and gravlax and will combine all the delicious flavors of this recipe together.

Goat Cheese Salad with Raspberry Vinaigrette Ingredients 1 log goat cheese about 10oz, grated or crumbled 2 heads romine lettuce, finely chopped 1 small red onion, sliced into half moon rings Handful of terra chip sticks

Ingredients 3 pounds yellow onions, peeled and sliced ½ tsp freshly ground pepper 1 tablespoon butter salt to taste 2 Tbsp paprika ¼ cup flour ½ cup miso 1 cup red wine 6 cups vegetable broth 2 Tbsp onion soup mix with no MSG Preparation Slice onions 1/8 inch thick. Melt butter; add onions and sauté very slowly for 1 hour in a large saucepan. Then, add pepper, salt, paprika, miso and flour and sauté over low heat for 10 minutes. Add water or broth, onion soup mix and wine. Simmer for two hours. If you want a stronger flavor, add more onion soup powder.

Preparation Place salad greens on a large platter, scatter red onions and terra chips sticks over the top. Add the cheese around them and drizzle with dressing. (I have included two dressings to choose from.) Toss and serve immediately.

Quick and Easy Raspberry Dressing Ingredients 1 bottle Garlic Expression salad dressing 12oz jar seedless raspberry jam Preparation Blend dressing in a food processor until smooth. Then add the jam and process until smooth.

Homemade Raspberry Dressing Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website,www. or at (516) 295-9669.

Ingredients 1 Tbsp shallots, finely minced 3 Tbsp raspberry preserves 2 Tbsp balsamic vinegar 1/3 cup olive oil Salt and ground black pepper Preparation Place shallots in food processor and mince finely. Add preserves and vinegar. In a steady stream while machine is running, add the olive oil. Add salt and pepper to taste. You can do this by hand with a whisk but it is a smoother consistency in a food processor.

Ingredients 2 sides whole salmon fillet (about 2 pounds per side) 2 Tbsp salt 2 Tbsp sugar 1 Tbsp white pepper 1 large bunch dill Preparation Place the two salmon sides, skin side down, on a large cookie sheet, both sides next to each other. Set aside. Mix spices together and sprinkle over both salmons, making sure there is thick coating over the entire salmon. Place dill over spices covering the salmon flesh. Place fish halves together one on top of the other, skin side out on both so the flesh is touching each other. Cover the entire salmon tightly in heavy duty foil and place the cookie sheet in the refrigerator for two days. Place heavy weights (such as cans) on the covered salmon to weight it down. After 24 hours, turn the salmon over for another 24 hours. After 48 hours, rinse off the dill. You can slice the gravlax and eat it immediately or freeze the well-wrapped halves for up to a month. NOTE: It’s best to slice the gravlax while it’s slightly frozen; you’ll get thinner slices that way.

Room for Design Naftali Landau

Choosing the Right Bathroom Sink I am in the process of updating my bathroom and understand there are a lot more options in sinks nowadays. What are the choices of sinks that I can use in my bathroom? J.P. Updating your bathroom is one of the nicest projects you can do when renovating your space. There are many choices in different items that can really add some character and style into your bathroom, one of which is the bathroom sink, which is available today with a multitude of choices to choose from and each with their own style.

Dessert wines are my husband’s favorite. His favorite is another wine from the Binyamina Reserve from Israel: the Gewurztraminer Late Harvest. It has a golden color and a fruity aroma that goes so well with a final course of cheese cake.

Chocolate Chip Cheesecake with Oreo Crust Ingredients Crust 2-3 cups Oreo cookies Filling 16oz cream cheese 2 eggs ½ cup sugar 1 teaspoon lemon juice ½ teaspoon vanilla extract ½ cup chocolate chips (optional) Preparation In a food processor, chop up the cookies until you get a coarse crumble. Press the crumble evenly into the bottom of an 8x8 square pan, forming crust. In medium bowl, beat cream cheese, eggs, sugar, lemon juice and vanilla extract until smooth. Slowly add in chocolate chips. Pour into prepared crust and bake at 350° for 45 minutes. After 45 minutes, shut off the oven and let the cheesecake cool inside the oven for another hour. This prevents the top from cracking. Remove and cool. Chill until firm.

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One of the most popular choices for bathroom sinks is called a self-rimming sink which is often times called a dropin sink or a top mount sink. These sinks are placed directly into a cutout in the top of the bathroom vanity cabinet and secured tightly into place. This option is popular because it gives the consumer the most flexibility as to the size and placement of the sink. Usually the countertop can be made with the sink installed already or with some manufacturers, the sink can be made from the same material as the counter making it a really nice clean and seamless look. Self-rimming sinks can also be made out of ceramic, stainless steel or even cast iron giving you a range of styles to match the rest of your bathroom. Another option in sinks which gives a really nice touch is a wall mounted sink. These sinks are perfect for a bathroom that is limited in space, and allows for you to use the space below the sink as opposed to having a cabinet in that area – freeing up room in tight quarters for a wastebasket, etc. A wall mounted

sink can make small bathrooms look bigger, and there are decorative covers available that will hide the drain pipe and plumbing from sight as well. Wall mounted sinks also come in a wide array of sizes and shapes making the sink a focal point on its own. Another variation of this is a pedestal sink which is a wall mounted sink that rest on a pedestal beneath. This is a very trendy look and can lend a more Colonial feel to your bathroom. The next option that has become an increasingly popular style for the bathroom is the vessel sink. These sinks sit on top of your counter and come in in any size, price range, and style. They can be constructed of virtually any material, which makes it possible to fit a vessel sink in any type of decor. Frequently used materials include wood, glass, ceramic, various types of stone, and various metals such as copper, bronze, pewter, and stainless steel. Since vessel sinks are placed on top of the counter. You will need a vessel filler faucet which is tall or you would need to mount the faucet on the wall above. Also, keep in mind that if you are going to use this type of sink, you have to get a vanity at a lower height to accommodate the vessel sink height. In summary, while updating your bathroom there are many items to consider to give your bathroom that extra kick in style and one of those includes the sink. There are so many styles to choose from and so many materials from which they can be made that you can really make your bathroom into something beautiful. Good luck. Please note: I am still offering 20% off on all orders to anyone unfortunately affected by the storm. Naftali Landau is owner and chief designer of Exclusive Cabinetry and Design and has been designing kitchens for the past 12 years. For questions or ideas for future articles, he can be reached at 917-468-7693 or at

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A Hero During the Battle of Custer’s Last Stand

ollowing the American Civil other had officially ended, the American War was a period called the fighting man turned his attention to Reconstruction. It was a term the west. Many of these men became outlaws in mainly used what became in the South known as the where most Wild West. of the fighting There was a took place. large group Although that remained there was no with the fighting during army which this period, soon found tensions ran good use for very deep. The them. Native U.S. Army had Americans gained a lot of were causing good fighting problems in men in the areas like the war who were Dakotas and eager to keep Custer’s Last Stand, painting by Alton Tobey Montana, and on fighting. Since, the war of one brother against the the U.S. wanted a large presence of

cavalry (soldiers on horseback) sent to problems for settlers in the west, and the U.S. Army sent an expedition in the area. For the most part, the units sent 1874 under General Terry to solve the to fight the uprisings succeeded with situation. After much politics with some great bravado and courage. However, high ranking officers in the opinion that there was one engagement that ended he should not be sent, Custer was given in a stunning and very bloody defeat command of the 7th Cavalry and sent for the Americans. The Battle of Little on the expedition. Two years later, the Bighorn, also known as Custer’s Last Indians were resisting any peace terms Stand, has been studied by historians with the government and under Lakota for the past 140 years and still there are chief Sitting Bull planned an assault many unknowns about the battle. What on the soldiers. The Lakota, Northern is known is that Lt. Col. George Custer Cheyenne, and Arapaho Indian tribes gathered together at was ambushed by an the site of the largest overwhelming force Indian encampment of Indians and his at a place called the column was comLittle Bighorn River, pletely annihilated. Montana. There were 24 Medal Custer had the of Honor recipients 12 companies of the for bravery awarded, 7th Cavalry under including a Jewish his immediate comsoldier from Ohio, mand as well as some George Geiger. Crow Indian scouts George Armwith a total of about strong Custer was a 650 men. He made cavalry officer and a many blunders inCivil War hero who cluding miscalculasaw much action durtions of enemy troop ing the war. He was strength, the position particularly noticed Chief Sitting Bull of the enemy, and the during the Battle of Gettysburg when his command lost failure to call on reserves from several more men than other cavalry brigade other regiments in the area including a during the war. He was full of bravado Gatling gun (an early version of rapid but in a sense very reckless. After the fire crew served weapon—a machine war, his temporary rank of general was gun in a sense) unit. The Indians were reduced to captain as was normal prac- thought to have only about 800 warriors tice during that era. He stayed with the in camp that morning, and the Ameriregular army after the war and soon was cans thought they were unprepared and promoted to lieutenant colonel and as- sleeping. The truth was that many Nasigned to the newly created 7th Cavalry tive Americans had left their reservations and joined Sitting Bull and that Regiment based in Fort Riley, Kansas. The Lakota Indians were creating up to 3,500 Native Americans were at Little Bighorn. The biggest mistake of all was that Custer divided his forces. Major Marcus Reno had three companies and was sent into battle first. The battle began on June 25, 1876 with Reno coming in from the south. Neither he nor Custer had any idea of what they faced in front of them. When Reno realized that he was falling into a trap, he stopped short of the village The Little Bighorn Battlefield National Monument and set up a skirmish line with in Montana every fourth man taking care


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of the horses. Even though this reduced his firepower, it enabled him to escape with most of his men. They beat a hasty retreat as the Indians pushed forward with 500 men. In the “every man for himself” escape, most of the soldiers made it back to the other side of the river. Custer and his men were not as lucky. The second part of the 7th Cavalry Regiment was under Captain Frederick Benteen. His command was involved in a skirmish that tried to break through to the Indian lines. He pushed them back after he had linked up Reno and the pack train. They had heard a fierce gunfight in the distance. It was assumed that this was from Custer’s fight because he never showed up. Custer had about 210 men under his

along with three other soldiers placed the Indians were defeated, Sitting Bull themselves in exposed positions while escaped to Canada, and the Great Sioux fifteen other men ran 80 yards to the War was over. river to obtain water so badly needed The 7th Cavalry was to fight in sevfor the wounded. For four hours, they eral more battles of the Indian Wars and dodged bullets and provided covering 45 troopers were awarded the Medal of fire as none of the men getting the water Honor. The unit also fought in WWII, were killed. Their valiant actions earned the Korean War, Vietnam War, Desert them the highest Storm and most award for bravery recently, Operaon the battlefield. tion Iraqi FreeThe battle dom. They will be continued for most remembered another day unfor their actions til General Terry during The Battle came with a large of Little Bighorn column of soland for the brave diers and rescued actions of men the survivors of like George Geithe 7th Calvary. ger and the solMany of the surdiers who were viving men were wiped out durwounded and had ing Custer’s Last to be evacuated. Stand. Altogether, 268 George Armstrong Custer American soldiers were killed, most from Custer’s Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to command, and an estimated 100 Native The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comAmericans were killed (their number ments and suggestions.for future columns will never be known because no accu- and can be reached at aviheiligman@ rate records were kept). Two days after the battle, the Native American camp broke up and many returned to their reservations. About a year later, the last of

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command. The details of how the command became surrounded is debated but they were enveloped in a pincer movement with the Indians charging in from all sides. Custer ordered his soldiers to shoot their horses and use the carcasses for protection. It wasn’t enough as all the men including the Indian scouts and translators that were with the army were killed. A hilltop, appropriately called “Last Stand Hill,” was the site of the last efforts of Custer and his remaining soldiers. Indian gunfire prevented the soldiers from reuniting and attempting a breakout. Many of the details from the Last Stand are unknown and disputed by Native Americans, scouts, men from Reno’s and Benteen’s command, and archeologists. What is known, is that there were many heroes from the fight that kept the rest of the regiment together as a fighting unit. One of these heroes was George Geiger from Cincinnati. A Civil War veteran who spent time in the notorious Andersonville Prison Camp, Geiger was awarded the Congressional Medal of Honor. He was with the “M” Troop from Reno’s command and

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The Redline >>> John Liu: Can He Win the Race? >>> Anthony Weiner: Does He Have a Future? >>> Six Months After Hurricane Sandy >>> George W. Bush Presidential Library >>> Republican Jewish Coalition: Holding Events on Shabbos

The following are excerpts from the weekly on-line show, Spin Class: Politics with Michael Fragin. Listen weekly on Thursday nights on

afterwards study it for a little while. I was kind of hoping that the US had it prepared and should have made preparations beforehand to say okay, it will provoke this reaction. You don’t have Michael Fragin: Good evening ev- to say what the reaction would be, but eryone. Welcome to Spin Class. We’re they probably should do something but talking politics. I’m Michael Fragin so far we have not seen much and I on the Nachum Segal Network, Na- have to say what is a redline, or what is not a redline. Is it a line of any other The first thing I want to quickly color, maybe they should just pick it discuss is the idea of redlines; what and say you know what, we’re going to call this a yellow line; it’s cautionary. And it’s incredible when you think about how long the Syrian conflict has dragged on. So we are going to pivot for one second and I want to go ahead and talk very quickly about what might happened with the mayoral race now. Why is it John Liu--Is he anticipating a loss in the upcoming election? exactly that John Liu decided, despite is the redline? And what am I refer- all his legal troubles, to go ahead and ring to? What I’m referring to is the run for mayor? So my theory here is US administration’s policy or lack of John Liu wanted to run for controlpolicy on Syria. Syria is in the throes ler again but because he thought the of a civil war and they may or may not scandal might bring him down, better have used chemical weapons on their to run for a higher office and say, well own citizens. Now months ago, the I gave it a shot, I ran for a higher ofpresident proclaimed that if they do fice, and then run for controller again. use chemical weapons, it is a redline, So that’s my theory there, I think it’s meaning that if Assad goes ahead and one way of kind of avoiding a potential crosses that line it would provoke in- crisis. There is no shame of running ternational intervention, US interven- for mayor and not winning but get untion and the like. But we got a report seating in your current position, that’s last week that said that Syria may have not quite as good. used chemical weapons, although it’s So I want to welcome our first guest not a perfect certainty because noth- who is an expert in what’s known as ing in the intelligence world is really crisis communications and other types a perfect certainty. Apparently they’re of public relations. Matthew Hiltzik still studying the issue. You have got has a long and distinguished history to think about that. You can’t say you and is a political spokesman as well can’t cross this line or else and then for various public figures out there.

And so Matt, just jumping right into it, welcome to Spin Class. Matthew: Well, thank you having me; it’s always good to be with a fellow law school graduate. Michael Fragin: I imagine people turn to you for opinions on what people who need to be rehabilitated have to do. The first rule, I guess, is to try not to get into it in the first place but once you’re in it, you know they turn to you, and what is it that you tell them? Matthew: Well, I think the first thing is really understanding the scope of the problem, understanding whether providing a statement upfront is going to be helpful or whether it could be detrimental because of the other facts that are going to come up that will require further extended responses. It’s really understanding the essence of what the problem is. Michael Fragin: From your perspective, from your vantage point, what does Anthony Weiner have to do [to win the race] or is it a given that he is a lost cause politically? Matthew: He’s obviously someone who had a pretty extended success in his career, someone whose perspective and advocacy and passion resonated well with his constituents and certainly had a platform. But looking at the circumstances now, you really hit on the problem which is visual. It’s very rare that you have the photos that he has, it’s just something that it keeps coming back to that and becomes a lot more difficult to deal with. Michael Fragin: Can we skip to John Liu for a second? John Liu how does he contain this politically? It’s not him, it’s the people who work for him, how do you contain the damage even from a process perspective? Matthew: I respect the loyalty that he had in the members of his team but

I think that it sort of would suggest that perhaps that confidence was misguided and suddenly leaves questions about what he did or didn’t know. I’m not really sure how many you know directions he really has to go. I think he has a lot of things to be proud of in terms of his career but I think it’s debatable because if you say it’s not you then it suggests that you were not aware of and not in control of things. What kind of leadership is that if he can’t actually control your own campaign and what is that mean? Michael Fragin: Well, thank you very much. Matt, thank you for joining us here on Spin Class. Hurricane Sandy, on October 29th of 2012, was a devastating day for New York City. We have William Rapfogel, the CEO of the Metropolitan Council on Jewish Poverty, joining us. Willy, welcome to Spin Class. William Rapfogel: Thanks, Michael. Thanks so much for having us. Michael Fragin: So six months later, is life back to normal? William Rapfogel: For many people it is, but I think there’s still a serious number of hundreds of people and households that are still suffering. They still have not fully recovered. Their homes are not ready for occupancy, they still have lots of causes that they have undertaken that they have no way of paying, they’re still deciding with insurance companies and deal with the whole host of issues they were concerned about. At the same time, we’re reading about how the state and the city are being approved for spending large amounts of money and hopefully some of that will make its way to help people regain their lives. Michael Fragin: There’s no question that government without organi-

Michael Fragin: We have a very prominent government official on the line, Assemblyman Phil Goldfeder who represents the Rockaways and was at the forefront of much of the recovery and is actually still at the forefront of a lot of the response and recovery efforts. Phil, tell us a little bit about coordinating between different levels because I think that’s a challenge that you had. You took the lead in a big way in the Rockaway area but you had to coordinate between so many layers of government to different people who had different plans. Phil Goldfeder: Unfortunately, I think the city and the state were both caught unprepared and the federal government was still recovering in trying to rebuild their resources post-Katrina. So I think on all levels of government, there are various challenges, particularly in the city we saw very little coordination in the various agencies and other various entities. I don’t take anything away from the first responders and certain agencies who did step up and did the best they can. But as a whole, there was a serious lack of coordination and it really required many organizations, nonprofit organizations like Met Council to step up and say in absence of any form or response, we’re going to take control, we’re going to help people and that’s exactly what happened. Michael Fragin: Willy, how many people right now would you estimate

are still without some of the basics, not living in their houses or are still relying on others for food, clothing, and the essentials? William Rapfogel: A few hundred households, which could mean as many as a thousand people that are literally without the basics. Our handyman program is still making repairs, dealing with things like drywalls. On the other hand, they do have the electricity; they do have their water back on. There are still issues and some problems and many of the people have maxed out their credit cards in anticipation of getting money back from either FEMA or the insurance companies and suddenly find that those dollars are not coming and they are coming to the food pantry for food. Michael Fragin: Phil, you’ve highlighted the issue with regard to insurance companies and banks and mortgage companies not giving homeowners their necessary insurance dollars in a timely fashion. Is that still a major league problem in the areas that you represent? Phil Goldfeder: It is still a problem but it was all the lack of coordination. That’s the one area we’re seeing a lot of success now. Whereas we saw tremendous problems with the industry two or three months out, now most of those issues are being resolved. I actually have staff from the Met Council based in my office to handle crisis and family intervention. There are a lot of partnerships that were created before the storm, during the storm and continue well after the storm and we make sure our neighborhoods can recover. Michael Fragin: That’s very interesting. Willy, how does that work when the nonprofits are assisting government in a real way. William Rapfogel: I think the partnership between nonprofits and government is extraordinary. Remember, nonprofits are given grants and funding contracts. Whether it’s enrolling people in Medicaid or food stamps or to assists people with crisis, that’s really the role of the government is supposed to play and government is in effect contracting out that role to us the way they might contract out the role of paying tolls to a private company. And when you have people like Assemblyman Goldfeder and like Superintendent Lawsky, people who understand that role and how important it is to ensure that the collaboration between local elected officials and government agencies make everybody more efficient. Phil Goldfeder: I couldn’t agree more in saying that you always want to make sure that there is transparency

when you’re spending government dol- gratulate himself for a program welllars. Met Council is a perfect example done when it wasn’t working. It wasn’t of money well spent. There’s no better working at the time and yet the mayor person to allocate funding and the fo- didn’t come out to talk about how it’s cus in the communities, and the elected officials can know their communities best and where the funding needs to go. We’re the ones who are on the ground. After the storm, we heard the mayor say that the piles of debris are being cleaned up and that everyMayor Bloomberg was booed by Rockaway residents after Hurricane Sandy body was moving on as normal but when you’re on the not working, and how we can make it ground, you can actually see that things better. And when the mayor came out weren’t moving on as normal and there here and marching during the Rockaare still tremendous piles of debris and way St. Patrick’s Day Parade, he got it’s almost like a tale of two cities—the booed and I think that he’ll continue to mayor and those who weren’t see this get booed until he shows that he’s going whole world behind us when so many to pay attention to what the community families are still struggling.. wants. Michael Fragin: Talk for a second about Mayor Bloomberg. He’s got about 240 days left. In many ways he’s been a fantastic mayor but possibly one of the shortcomings out there was that in addition to that blizzard that he wasn’t there for us during Sandy. I know in your district, Assemblyman, when he went to the Rockaways, St. Patrick Day Parade, he was booed heavily, so, what’s the feeling out there? Is it still very sour on city government and on the mayor? Phil Goldfeder: I think it was a lack of sensitivity to what was actually taking place in the community. An example of that are programs like Rapid Repair which was a great program in theory but the only time we saw the mayor come out to Rockaway was essentially to con

Michael Fragin: Willy, you’ve been around for a little while. Would you advise the mayor to go for the third term? Willy Rapfogel: I think term limits are a mistake because I think term limits particularly on the legislature make no sense because you want a legislature with individuals who stay in the job and win the respect of their colleagues and are inspired to become committee chairs and ultimately even a majority leader or the speaker. And you can’t do that in eight years. So there are a lot of interesting debates about term limits and whether or not you should have or you shouldn’t have them. I think there are different issues also in terms of the mayor’s performance. I think we work with most of his agencies and I know,



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zations like Met Council and the nonprofits--government was in some cases nowhere to be found. I don’t ask you to criticize your colleagues but what can government do better? William Rapfogel: I want to say that you know we were very fortunate, having somebody like yourself as recovery coordinators for about four months. It meant a difference having understood government agency the way that city and state and federal government operates and it certainly help us do a better job of getting our services to people and being able to respond to the needs quicker. Government itself is an inefficient mechanism. You’ve got in some cases government, a city government, state government and federal government who often are tripping over one another. And one of the things that government really needs to do is to figure out during times of crisis and emergency like this that everybody need to get together and follow one entity’s lead. Everybody has to get in line and follow whoever is supposed to be in charge. I imagine we do that with a military, we do that with the police department when there are certain types of crisis.

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for example, on affordable and low income housing he’s had tremendous success. As an organization we’ve been able to help build and renovate hundreds of units of affordable housing for needy people in the city. Having said that, I think that there has been sort of tenure when it comes to listening to the issues of community boards and local elected officials. A very recent issue is the the rent-a-bike situation. In my neighborhood, across the street from a bike store the city installed the city bike system. Why would you want to compete with a local community business bike store with the rent-a-bike? It makes no sense. I tell people that as we start to look at the next mayor and who it should be, these are the kinds of question that you be thinking about especially in Sandyaffected areas and I say that in Rockaway and Howard Beach all the time. We need a mayor who’s going to focus on the long term recovery efforts, who’s really going to give this recovery the extension it deserves as oppose to hoping it all goes away. Michael Fragin: Willy Rapfogel, CEO of MET Council, Assemblyman Goldfeder for the 23rd Assembly district in the Southern Queens, Rockaway, Howard Beach, I want to thank you for joining us here on Spin Class. We have on the line Tevi Troy, Deputy Chief Of Staff for Domestic Policy as well as Deputy Secretary for Health and Human Services and Fellow at Hudson Institute. The Bush Library is opening. It’s one of those few times that you see all the living presidents together. You went down there. Tell us a little bit about that experience. Tevi Troy: It was tremendous. I have taken pictures of the five presidents together in the past, the Obama Inauguration and seeing the five First Ladies together is something I had never seen and that was really something. I thought it was some sort of a great bipartisan, where everybody came together and said nice things about each other, recognized that we are part of a larger institute that is American, that is a larger entity, and something that we all love and appreciate even though we may have parts and differences, we can all join together to celebrate the president. Michael Fragin: A lot of the criticism of George W. Bush has been coming from the right. Do you want to tell us about that? Tevi Troy: Actually it’s been going on for a while. I remember when I was in the White House and trying to get immigration done and we were getting a lot of incoming from the right. I remember even two people who were at my wed-

ding party sign a petition against the immigration bill that we were working out. So the right had some issues with him for a while but I think as time goes on, they get more comfortable with his legacy and I think the rest of the country are getting more comfortable as well. I would say Bill Clinton was tremendous, very impressive with great remarks, spoke without a teleprompter which was funny. He won the Republicans over. He was the most impressive speaker there. I tweeted right after the event that the winner of the funniest living president definitely goes to Bill Clinton hands down. Michael Fragin: So talk to us about a presidential library from historians’

stan and you could click on the respective country and it shows you videos of things that were happening in those countries during the time of the administration. The second one was the decision room. Where you are presented with the information that President Bush was presented with and you’re given the options he was given, and you get to push the button and decide which one you would have taken. If you are interested in presidential libraries, you can fly into Dallas and Dallas has a George W. Bush one, you can drive to College Station and you get to the George H. W. Bush Library and then a little more than hour later, you can go to the LBJ one. You can knock off three presidential libraries with one visit.


perspective for somebody who worked [in the White House]. How do you capture the flavor of the White House of the Presidency in a library? I’ve been to FDR’s, I’ve been to Reagan’s in California, I’ve been Kennedy’s in Boston but how do you capture the presidency in the library? Tevi Troy: Yeah, I’ve been to a bunch as well and it’s very difficult just from an architectural standpoint. You want it to be timeless but also modern. I think that Bush did a pretty good job with that. Then within it you need to capture the presidency somehow and there are two aspects: one is the actual documents. President Bush said a funny joke about how they’re somewhere like 25 million emails in the library and he said to his staff, none of them mine, a lot of them yours, I look forward to reading that. So it does capture what was going on inside the presidency and I’ve spent a lot of time in those archives looking at the different memos. At the same time you also have the museum aspects. The thing that’s most interesting about the new Bush Library and museum was the picture-perfect recreation of the Oval Office that looks exactly as it did when Bush was in the White House and I know because I visited Oval Office a bunch of time and I saw him in the White House. So it looks exactly like the Oval Office was then and this is the only presidential library to have that two scale recreation. This one was really well-done. Tevi Troy: I saw two things that were interesting. One was there was an exhibit that showed the War on Terror and there’s a focus on Iraq and Afghani-

Michael Fragin: I see a great opportunity for a tour potentially. Senator Ted Cruz is the keynote speaker of the New York State Republican Party Lincoln Day Dinner coming up. He is kind of considered a little bit conservative, not your typical Republican, and there’s been some criticism saying this is the wrong message for the party especially since he voted against the Sandy Bill, aid for Sandy. What does this point to in your mind? Tevi Troy: I know Ted Cruz a long time. I saw him in Texas when I was down there and I know his wife, she worked in the same office with me. He’s conservative and he makes the most about it but I don’t think that should preclude him from having opportunities. It is a free country and if you don’t have this exchange of views, how are you going to understand where the other side is coming from? So I don’t really have a problem, I don’t think it binds the New York Republican Party as everyone subscribing to Ted Cruz’s view. Michael Fragin: There was a little debate over the last week or so between some bloggers with the regard to the Republican Jewish Coalition having their meetings on Shabbos which I think they’ve always had, so I’m not sure exactly why this year all of a sudden it became a big deal. Some say the Republican Jewish Coalition really should be trying to reach out to orthodox Jews, those are probably most of the Republican leading voters and if you’re having your events on Shabbos, then you’re probably not doing a very good job of

that reach. What do you think? Tevi Troy: How about this: they need to reach out to the non-Orthodox. In the 2004 election, for example, 70% of Orthodox Jewish voters voted for the Republican, George W. Bush, whereas only 16% of the Reform Jews did and only 15% of the Conservative Jews. I think if you have a professional who needs to go to one of these types of events on Shabbos, if you don’t obviously violate Shabbos directly that some people are comfortable with that. It’s a slightly different equation in a Jewish organization but I don’t think this is a change in their policy because they have been doing this for a long time and I know they arose accommodating at their events. So as long as they’re not forcing people to violate Shab, it’s probably not a big deal. Michael Fragin: Tevi, thanks for coming once again on Spin Class. We have Jacob Kornbluth from Brooklyn on the line. It’s been a busy week for you. Jacob Kornbluth: I try to fill up my days and hours with valuable work. Michael Fragin: Jacob, we had Tevi Troy on here earlier, we talked about the Republic Jewish Coalition. He said it’s no big deal having their meetings on Shabbos, they’ve been doing it for a long time, why this year did you choose to make a big issue of it? Jacob Kornbluth: I didn’t choose this year to make a big issue about it. Michael Fragin: You’ve made an issue in the past about it? Jacob Kornbluth: Yes. And this year it picked up because it got some reaction from some tweets. So it just drew a little more attention about what Orthodox Jews see that the RJC is not doing enough to reach out to voters who have not yet voted nationally or city-state wide for Republicans, who had not registered to vote or not motivated to go out to vote Republican, or even encourage Republican candidates to run for office. Michael Fragin: They’re not encouraging Republican candidates to run for office? What’s the point exactly? Jacob Kornbluth: Show me a viable Republican candidate in New York City, or in New York State that was encourage by the RJC to run for office or even helped by the RJC. Michael Fragin: Interesting point. I want to say in fairness we did invite the RJC on the show and they declined to be on the show. Jacob, thanks for calling in. This is Spin Class. Tune in next week for more political entertainment.

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The Rabbi Responds: Although you haven’t conveyed this sentiment in your letter, I can only imagine that it must be extremely confusing, frustrating, and hurtful to have your Jewishness challenged. Furthermore, if indeed there really was a problem with those who performed your first conversion, it must compound the feelings of anger and betrayal. It is most admirable that you are doing your utmost to put your emotions aside to deal with the issue. I am not qualified to deal with questions in conversions (like a cardiologist shouldn’t be diagnosing a patient’s tumor biopsy). I can give you some references to contact who deal with these issues. If indeed the validity of your conversion is questionable, that could mean that although your conversion may have been valid, you would still need to take some additional steps un-

der the direction of a recognized and bona fide Jewish Beth Din to remove all doubt. Over the past decade you have made great sacrifices to keep kosher, Shabbos, and other mitzvos, and that is commendable to say the least. The problem is that you never received a comprehensive Jewish education and you need to first study Jewish law in order to undergo a legitimate conversion. While you tried to keep Shabbos all these years, you were unaware that writing is forbidden on Shabbos— even religious poetry. We also don’t play musical instruments on Shabbos. My suggestion is that if you can take off some time to join a program for Jewish adults to learn more about Judaism, Torah, and Jewish law, you will be in a much better position to undergo a proper conversion. Ideally, if you can go to Israel, there are many wonderful institutions, such as Aish HaTorah, that have programs that are tailor-made for people like you. If your fiancée is also willing to also join a program abroad, that would help you both to get on the same page in terms of your goals, observance, and living a Jewish life together. If this is not practical, there are many local outreach organizations (besides ours). I will be glad to help in finding the right place(s) for you (and her), whether in Israel or here, that can help you learn more about Judaism, and facilitate the process. Yours truly, Yehoshua Levy

Please note, the information written above is not meant as a rabbinic ruling. If you have any questions, please consult your rabbinic authority for clarification. Yehoshua Levy, a teacher of Torah, is a writer and lecturer who dares to think outside the box to bring his thought-provoking insights and facts to his readers. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at

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I have been dating a woman for almost a year now, and we would like to get engaged and married. We both come from traditional Jewish homes, but not strictly observant. I was raised by my father and stepmom who are both Jewish, but my biological mother was not. When my father remarried, my stepmom had me converted by an Orthodox Beth Din in XX. Since my 20’s I have tried to observe as much as I can. I keep kosher and put on tefillin. There is no synagogue within walking distance, so I can’t attend, but I keep Shabbos by engaging in spiritual activities like praying, playing classical music, and even writing religious poems... My fiancée’s family did some research and discovered that this Beth Din is controversial and their conversions are not accepted by many Rabbis. We can’t get married until I have another “glatt kosher” conversion. This is putting stress on our relationship and I’m afraid it may cause things to fall apart. Can you give me some direction in finding a Beth Din and helping me with this process?

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Shavuos Dairy Delights

Personal Gourmet Eggplant Parmesan

Crea my Cheesy Lasagna Roll

Crisp and Savory Mozzarella Sticks

Because this recipe will not be baked, try to make sure that mozzarella, tomato, and eggplant are of similar width and that they are all cut straight, with even thickness (as this recipe calls to be served in a tower form). I do not call for amounts as it depends on many factors including width of product used and desired thickness.

Ingredients 6 lasagna noodles boiled according to instruction on package Pasta sauce of choice 1 tablespoon garlic powder 2 cups ricotta cheese plus more for coating rolls 1 ½ cups shredded dry cheese such as mozzarella and cheddar or pizza cheese 1 cup light whipped cream cheese Steamed spinach, optional 1/2 cup of shredded parmesan (if intending to eat meat directly afterward consult a rabbinical authority, as law and custom are beyond scope of this article)

Ingredients One bar of cold mozzarella cheese 3 eggs 1 1/2 tablespoons of whole grain deli mustard Flavored breaded crumbs 1 cup flour Salt and pepper to taste Oil, for frying

Ingredients 1 large eggplant ½ cup flour 1 egg ½ cup flavored bread crumbs Oil for frying

Fresh mozzarella Ripe but firm tomato Pesto sauce of choice Shredded Parmesan Baby tomatoes Basil leaves for garnish

Preparation Remove peel from eggplant. Slice into 3/4 inch slices. Dip into flour, egg, then bread crumbs. Heat oil. When properly heated, lower fire slightly. Fry all slices of eggplant until golden brown. Sprinkle eggplant with parmesan cheese. Cool eggplant slices. Slice tomato 1/5 inch and cheese to 1/3 to 1/2 inch rounds (depending on richness desired). Smear pesto onto tomato. Layer eggplant, tomato and cheese and repeat once or twice for a “tower” effect. Stick skewer in center of tower so it won’t collapse. Garnish with baby tomato and basil leaves and stick another skewer in to hold the garnish. Note: Although I think that there is no real substitute for the authentic Parmigiano-Reggiano, I think the parmesan comes in real well, and many times I substitute it myself. However, when using it as a garnish or finishing of a dish, I would put more of an effort to get the real Parmigiano-Reggiano as it also enhances the dish with a unique aroma.

Preparation Preheat oven to 350°. Mix cheeses and garlic powder to uniform consistency. (At this point I taste to make sure that I am fine with the amount of each ingredient and modify accordingly.) Working with three noodles at once, lay noodles out on a clean surface leaving 1/3 of inch perimeter on both sides of noodle. Smear or pipe mixture 1/3 inch height until last 2 inches which should be left uncoated. Roll noodle with mixture inside leaving seam on bottom of roll. Cover with pasta sauce and place a layer of shredded cheese. (Place according to desired thickness. Sauce should not be visible.) Bake for 10 minutes covered and 10-15 minutes uncovered till well heated.

Preparation Combine egg and mustard until uniform. Set up breading station with three shallow dishes. One for flour, one for egg, and one for bread crumbs. Cut mozzarella into sticks of 1/2 inch x 1/2 inch by desired length. (I suggest 2.5 or 3 inches). Using one hand for flour and bread crumbs and one hand for egg, dip mozzarella stick in each station making sure to coat the stick well in each step. (Repeat egg and bread crumbs for thicker crust.) Heat oil on high fire until a nice “zzz” sound is heard when dipped. Lower heat to medium, so that sticks don’t burn. Gently turn from side to side (without puncturing crust). Work quickly and gently, so that sticks don’t break. Alternatively, use a deep fryer at 350° and fry until golden brown. Serve warm.

Enjoy! Sh a v u ot H a ppy Sh a u l Ch e f

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Fidgeting in School Dear Devorah, My daughter is having difficulty in her morning class at school. (She is in third grade.) The teacher has told me she is very fidgety to the extent she will get up and walk around the room. She doesn’t exhibit these types of behaviors in the afternoon. She is a good student and enjoys learning. I asked her why she doesn’t

stay in her seat like the rest of her class. She answered she feels like

she has to move around. Her teacher recommended I speak to an occupational therapist because this may be related to sensory-type issues. What do you think—do you have any recommendations? -Ruchie Dear Ruchie, A comprehensive evaluation including discussion with your daughter’s teacher(s) as well as observation of her in class would be needed to help determine if indeed her behaviors stem from a sensory processing disorder (SPD). It is important to note that we all have sensory needs. It is when they become chronic and disrupt daily life that they began to fall into the category of SPD. I will provide some general recommendations which can benefit not just your daughter but many other children. 1. Heavy work. This includes any


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activity which involves sustained pulling, pushing and tugging. Incorporating at home: stripping bed linen, gathering everyone’s backpacks around the house, eating thick liquids through a straw (milkshake, Leben) Incorporating at school: discuss with your child’s teacher about providing ‘assignments’ to your daughter such as arranging the chairs in the classroom before class or carrying heavy books to/ from the classroom/office 2. Other Strategies in the classroom- Make sure to discuss with your child’s teacher first. Use a cushion or a ball chair. Although not conscious of it, your daughter is constantly making small movements to stay upright Fidget toy. Supplying a fidget toy to keep her hands busy may make a big difference. Be sure it is the type of toy that doesn’t distract. Some examples include a piece of curly phone wire attached to her desk and Tangles. There are count-

less other fidgets including ones that attach to a pencil/pen. If these strategies do not produce changes in her behavior, you may want to consider having your daughter evaluated by an occupational therapist. Speak with your daughter’s teacher and the school’s resource room director. It is likely your school’s district can provide an evaluation at no cost. Wishing you and your daughter much hatzlacha! Devorah (Gerber) Schmeltz, MS OTR/L is a 2003 alumnus of Downstate Medical Center’s OT Program. She is a senior occupational therapist at United Cerebral Palsy’s Brooklyn Children’s Program. Devorah maintains a private practice, Bumble & Tumble Occupational Therapy P.C., in Far Rockaway, NY providing pediatric occupational and physical therapy. Department of Education vouchers/RSAs are gladly accepted. Your questions and comments are welcome. She can be reached at BumbleTumble or 917-971-5327.


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How to Hug a Porcupine without Getting Pricked A Discussion on Safe Communication


he North American Porcupine is the largest of the hedgehog family. When thinking about a porcupine, our minds immediately shift to the porcupine’s infamous spikes and quills, the dangerous sharp hairs found all over their bodies. The upper body is covered with thousands of quills used as the animal’s primary defense mechanism, their natural response to perceived danger. When this small animal feels threatened, attacked, or fearful, it will respond by raising thousands of these tiny swords in order to protect itself. It is fascinating to recognize that in actuality, by nature, porcupines are pleasant and non-aggressive animals. In fact, porcupines are known as defensive animals and have no offensive weapons at all. These quiet vegetarians wish only to be left alone to eat in peace. The human defense mechanism works in similar ways. In researching the psychological outcome of how we relate with each other, mental health professionals have identified the first step to achieving effective communication is creating a safe environment. “Metacommunication,” the term used for nonverbal messages, focuses on emotional reactions rather than the content of messages. Steven Stoncy, PhD explains, “Communication in a love relationship is a function of emotional connection. When people feel connected and safe with each other they communicate fine, and when they feel disconnected, they communicate poorly, regardless of their choice of words and communication techniques.” Let us examine this further. We have all had the unpleasant experience of being emotionally assaulted, whether it was in reaction to an unwanted question or perhaps a question to explain a behavior for which we ourselves lack clarity. Or, there might be occasions when people approached us at the wrong moment; when we were preoccupied with a job, activity, or simply deep in thought. At these moments, when we feel judged or attacked, our natural defense mechanism goes into action. We retreat out of fear, raising our own “quills” in order to protect ourselves. When our emotional barricade goes up, we are unable to continue with the conversation and often respond aggressively. This aggression, or counter-attack, is merely an expression of selfdefense. It is a natural response to danger.

So, how do we overcome this difficult obstacle in our relationships? The first step in realizing safe communication is to acknowledge our own emotions and more importantly, the perspectives of the person to whom we are speaking. After identifying the psychological needs of the other individual, we can respond more appropriately and work towards creating the necessary safe environment. Perhaps, when we are faced with a situation in which we don’t ap-

When we feel judged or attacked, our natural defense mechanism goes into action.

prove of another person’s actions, rather than passing critical judgment, we can gently express concern or disagreement about that person’s behavior. If we find ourselves in the middle of a yelling match or an antagonistic discussion, we have the capability to change the tone by focusing on this need for safety. Adolescents in particular experience extreme emotional, psychological, and physical changes. At this normal developmental stage, defense mechanisms are intensified. Teenagers constantly feel at greater risk and are prepared at all times for an incoming threat. Fear is a very normal response when not equipped with a proper answer. Therefore, establishing emotional safety is paramount, and is critical in ensuring open and honest communication. At “The Lounge,” located at Madraigos, we focus on the essential need for emotional safety. Our staff is trained to facilitate open and secure communication. Teens and young adults who regularly

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Lola Lieber Schwartz

A World After This

A Memoir of Loss and Redemption Lola Lieber Schwartz is a world-renowned artist whose paintings have been exhibited in art galleries throughout the United States and are part of the Yad Vashem archives in Jerusalem. Most importantly, Lola is a mother, grandmother and great-grandmother to many. She has myriad friends and sees life in all its vibrancy and vitality. But life was not always easy. Lola was only sixteen-yearsold when Hitler ym”sh invaded Poland, and Lola was forced into hiding and spent years on the run with her husband, Mechel. Through six years of trying times, near

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ur plans for escape were now completed and in place. We no longer had to spend all of our time discussing various escape strategies. It had taken so much out of us that we were exhausted most of the time. We didn’t read much any longer and we certainly no longer played our personal version of charades. We

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whole past flashed before my eyes: the image of the safe in our old Krakow apartment being opened and robbed

When all hope is gone, a Jew recites the “Shema.”


starvation and brutality, Lola and her husband held onto their faith and values. It was Mechel’s words of encouragement, “There will be a world after this,” that helped them cling to the hope that there will be a life of light and joy waiting for them at the end. This is the story of Lola’s life—from her grandparents’ “enchanted garden” to meeting Eichmann ym”sh to making the Pesach seder for the Bobover Rebbe during the war—her words will take you back to a different world.

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of its silver in front of our eyes; of the Nazi throwing me on the bed and trying to abuse me; and the worst memory of all, of the infant the Nazi soldier murdered by slamming him against a door. Images I had consciously worked to suppress flooded my awareness. This was the end. There would be no truck. No mountains. No woodsman guiding us to liberty. There would be nothing now. It was over. And so I said the “Shema” (the basic Jewish prayer) over and over again in a whisper. Only my lips moved. When all hope is gone, a Jew recites the “Shema.” Wondrously, the Gestapo men did not harm us. They were rough and cruel, but they did not beat us or seem to want to shoot us. Instead, we were marched down the street in an aggressive fashion and taken into a building we recognized immediately. It was a jail. We were thrown into a cell with a dozen or so others, including my brother Moishe and his wife, Frieda. We knew almost everyone else in the cell. Many of them had been part of our false documents operation in the ghetto. Ideas of all sorts crossed my mind. Had informers tipped off Schomburg? Had he figured it out himself? Or did he have nothing to do with our imprisonment? I didn’t know then and I don’t know now. What I suspected was that we had been too confident in our escape plans and we had been betrayed. Maybe our broker was responsible for

this, Mechel’s test letter notwithstanding. We expected the next step would be one of their infamous interrogation sessions. We assumed it would be about either the papers or our plans to leave. Then a terrible thought flashed through my mind. I had been the person responsible for the idea of forging documents. If our fellow prisoners, under the stress of Nazi interrogation, told the truth, I would be the one responsible. They could easily denounce me and set themselves free. I instantly disliked myself for such thinking. I had become paranoid because of the Nazis. Not everyone was a Moishe Schiller or worse. I took hold of my vivid imagination and looked around me. I saw that everyone in the cell was quietly trying to comfort one another. We were all captives. We waited and waited but the Nazis did not return. No one was dragged away for interrogation and beating. The torture came in a different form. It was the Schadenfreude (the pleasure from another’s misery) of the prisoners in a cell across from ours. They were all Polish women and none of them were upstanding citizens. Some were drunk and no doubt had been arrested for disorderly conduct in public. Others were part of a ring of petty thieves. Some were women of ill repute. There was a ringleader who appeared to be quite familiar with the jail and had a confidence the others lacked. She orchestrated the responses of the other women. They chose to entertain themselves by humiliating us and deriding our faith with scorn. They screeched at us that we were going to Hell and we were going there quickly. They all joined in the game of making fun of us. You could feel the hatred and contempt dripping from their lips. It wasn’t just what they said; it was the tone they used. Then the most upsetting part be-

to help Jews. Maybe he was the same Landau and maybe not. In any event, he had bribe money and he paid off the Gestapo, and they let us out of jail. We were free. This was not the end of the story, however, and the ending was not happy. Everyone was released except my brother Moishe. So obviously it must have been about the forging of documents. I think that Moishe had become

I left the jail knowing I would never see my brother again.

and did not start up with us again. We prayed and prayed without pause, like Mordechai in Shushan. Finally on the fourth day of our imprisonment, one of the men in the cell began to talk about what we needed to do. His name was apparently Lazer Landau. Landau was not a surname I felt good about, remembering with distaste the Kapo Landau in Krakow. However the others said this was a man with pull in the Gestapo who used it

overconfident in his power to save people and had become careless. People were frantic to get papers other than Polish ones. It would not have taken too many errors for Moishe, in an overzealous frame of mind, to make big mistakes that would have led to him being fingered by someone. One too many Czech documents in the hands of people who didn’t know a word of Czech or the names of any of the cities in that country could have spelled

Moishe’s doom. Then too he might have been turned in by someone for a large or even a small bribe. Moishe was sent to Plaszow. I left the jail knowing I would never see my brother again. Frieda was released with us. Neither Mechel nor I said what we thought. We told her Moishe would be released after they interrogated him, and that we would be reunited. I am sure Frieda knew he would be murdered eventually, but we did not speak in these terms to one another. Moishe never returned. He was lost to us forever. Plaszow was a stop on the Nazi death route; it was where Jews were murdered systematically and in vast numbers. Our family was getting smaller and smaller. Once again, we had no time for the luxury of grief. One does not ordinarily think of bereavement as a luxury, but in this darkness it would have been that. Numbed and terrified, Mechel and I returned to our room to resurrect our escape plans. Continued next week

Lola wrote this book with the help of Alida Brill. A World After This was published in 2010 by Devora Publishing.

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‫בעניני מגילת רות‬ ‫וחג השבועות‬ ‫השיעור יקיף בעזהשי"ת בטוב טעם ודעת‬ ‫ביאורים נפלאים במגילת רות ובענינא דיומא דזמן מתן תורתינו‬

‫ע"י הרב ארי' משה לייזער שליט"א‬  ‫ביום ראשון פר' נשא הבעל"ט‬

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leader of the women prisoners started up again, “You hear that don’t you? You Jews better start to pray. And you better cross yourselves and believe in our God right now, because you are going to be murdered. Pray for your salvation. Get down on your knees and pray for your salvation.” We did not get down on our knees. We prayed. We all prayed together, reciting the ancient words of our faith in unison. The women became quiet

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gan. They started to sing (or scream) sacred hymns from their own religious liturgy, as derisively as they could in order to aggravate us. The others had no idea what they were singing, but I knew enough to know that they were Catholic chants. They ended with the “Ave Maria,” one of their most sacred songs, practically spitting out the words and then roaring with laugher. One of the older women in our cell just crouched down on the floor and cried. I will never know the reasons why she was crying. I now think that it was the sorrow of our situation coupled with the horror of observing the blasphemy coming at us from the cell across the hall. The “Ave Maria” is a song of sacred love and prayerful pleading to their Virgin Mary. For them to use their most holy words and the music written by Schubert as a form of weapon was horrific to witness. They had lost their own faith in their hatred of all Jews. We were shocked and shaken. At midnight we were still awake and awaiting execution. We had decided that there hadn’t been an interrogation because they had decided to kill us and were just waiting for dawn. As if to foreshadow our fate, we heard gunfire just before sunrise. The ring-

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ew Hampshire is serious about its freedom. It’s so serious, its official state motto is: “Live Free or Die.” In fact, of the thirteen original colonies, New Hampshire was the first to declare its independence from Mother England—a full six months before the Declaration of Independence was signed. Because of their eagerness to sever their ties with Great Britain and because they were leaders in the revolutionary cause, the delegates from New Hampshire received the honor of being the first to vote for the Declaration of Independence on July 4, 1776. Known as the Granite State for its vast amounts of granite, New Hampshire boasts beautiful mountain peaks. How could one visit New Hampshire without braving the winds on top of Mt. Washington? The Old Man of the Mountain is one of the most famous natural landmarks in the state. His head measures 40 feet from chin to forehead; this natural formation overlooks Echo Lake from 1,200 feet above. New Hampshire is the perfect trip in the winter and summer seasons. In the colder months, skiers and snowmobilers dot the landscape, and sledding is the perfect activity for the family. Ice fishing a popular activity for the locals who stay in their ice fishing ice houses, called “bobhouses.” Make sure to pack the hot cocoa and marshmallows! In the summer, New Hampshire boasts warm, comfortable weather to enjoy the scenery and foliage. It’s the best time to visit the state, with its myriad fairs, festivals and farmers’ markets. Things You Won’t Want to Miss High Peaks and Blustery Winds When visiting, make sure to hold onto your hat. The highest wind speed was recorded at ground level at Mt. Washington on April 12, 1934. At that time, the winds were three times as fast as those in most hurricanes. Visitors can take the train up the mountain or drive their own vehicle— just make sure to check the brakes before you go—these roads are steep! Mt. Washington is the highest spot in the Northeast and has a tundra-type climate. The weather in the winter is dangerously cold on the mountain. But when visiting in the summer months, Mt. Washington offers visitors a beautiful view. Every year, the mountain is home to runners’ and bikers’ races.

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From My Private Art Collection

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Rebbetzin Naomi N. Herzberg

An Artistic Project Just In Time for Mother’s Day


wanted to come up with something to witness me treating her with kibud unusual for my mother, amush. em, so I specifically think of ideas that What do you give your mother who will demonstrate the proper kavod for is content with what she already owns my mother. I like to think of gifts that and constantly take time and efsays that she fort—not just does not need something that I anything for can pick up in a I like to think of gifts Mother’s Day? store. What can you do Pictures of that take time and for a mother who one’s children is independent are always weleffort – not just and always takes come. A simple something that I can care of herself, but nice decoupnever wanting age can be easily pick up in a store. you to waste done on any suryour money on face. Go through her? your collection I once made of valuable fammy mother a cane as a Chanukah ily pictures. Make copies of them in gift that turned out to be quite an eye color. Cut out pieces with a small, catcher. I took photographs of sharp scissors. Find wooden all of my children and their objects that can be used as spouses, grandchildren, my a tray, jewelry box, tea box, husband, myself and did a stamp box, etc. This can be decoupage application of the kept in the kitchen or den as pictures onto a cane. Before a beloved family conversaapplying them, I first sanded tion piece. Using sandpaper, down the wooden cane. This rough up the surface, which allowed me to glue the picwill help the pictures to stick tures onto the cane securely. well. Use a hot glue gun, I decorated the spaces in bewood glue or gorilla glue to tween the pictures with minattach the pictures and all iature roses and beads of all other pieces of trim to the kinds. This was all done by surface. With a sponge brush, hand and each piece was lovapply modge podge to the ingly applied. Using a sponge surface. Let each layer dry brush, I painted modge podge before applying another layer all over the surface. This was of modge podge. This process done as a glaze to serve as an will secure the finishing coat added protection. After each and add a glaze to the surcoat dried, I applied another face. Your mother will love coat until I had at least six her family photos that will be layers of modge podge. I did available to her for sharing not want any water to possimemories at any time. bly penetrate to the pictures, if and when it was used in Rebbetzin Naomi N. Herzberg the rain, so this was done as a protective measure. She loves her is a professional art educator, artist and cane, as it has pictures of some of designer. Among her known artwork is a her children, grandchildren and great- floral sculpture presented to Tipper Gore, Blair House, Washington, D.C. Presently grandchildren on it. Mother’s Day is very soon and I she is the Director of Operations at Shhave come up with a similar idea. My ulamith School for Girls. Please feel free mother, just like most mothers, prefers to email with that I spend on myself and not on her. questions and suggestions for future colI, on the other hand, want my children umns.

Choosing the Right Bathroom Sink I am in the process of updating my bathroom and understand there are a lot more options in sinks nowadays. What are the choices of sinks that I can use in my bathroom? J.P. Updating your bathroom is one of the nicest projects you can do when renovating your space. There are many choices in different items that can really add some character and style into your bathroom, one of which is the bathroom sink, which is available today with a multitude of choices to choose from and each with their own style.

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sink can make small bathrooms look bigger, and there are decorative covers available that will hide the drain pipe and plumbing from sight as well. Wall mounted sinks also come in a wide array of sizes and shapes making the sink a focal point on its own. Another variation of this is a pedestal sink which is a wall mounted sink that rest on a pedestal beneath. This is a very trendy look and can lend a more Colonial feel to your bathroom. The next option that has become an increasingly popular style for the bathroom is the vessel sink. These sinks sit on top of your counter and come in in any size, price range, and style. They can be constructed of virtually any material, which makes it possible to fit a vessel sink in any type of decor. Frequently used materials include wood, glass, ceramic, various types of stone, and various metals such as copper, bronze, pewter, and stainless steel. Since vessel sinks are placed on top of the counter. You will need a vessel filler faucet which is tall or you would need to mount the faucet on the wall above. Also, keep in mind that if you are going to use this type of sink, you have to get a vanity at a lower height to accommodate the vessel sink height. In summary, while updating your bathroom there are many items to consider to give your bathroom that extra kick in style and one of those includes the sink. There are so many styles to choose from and so many materials from which they can be made that you can really make your bathroom into something beautiful. Good luck. Please note: I am still offering 20% off on all orders to anyone unfortunately affected by the storm. Naftali Landau is owner and chief designer of Exclusive Cabinetry and Design and has been designing kitchens for the past 12 years. For questions or ideas for future articles, he can be reached at 917-468-7693 or at

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n our society, with so much information stored on computers, original documents have become less important. However, a last will and testament is one original document that must be kept in a safe and findable location. What happens when a person dies and his or her will is missing? There is a legal presumption that a will has been revoked when it cannot be found after death. In other words, somebody trying to enforce the will is left with what is known as a difficult “burden of proof.” In order to have the missing will validated by the Court and enforced, it is necessary to show that the will was actually fraudulently destroyed. If the burden of proof is not satisfied, then the Court refuses to validate the will. The impact this can have on a family is illustrated in a recent decision that we may call The Case of the Lost Will. Mrs. Angela Disiena had disinherited one of her four adult children, Mario, in other words left him out of her will. She had taken the original will back from her attorney, who retained a copy. Upon her death, the original will was missing. What happened to it? Her daughter Carole, who was the executor under the missing will, filed the copy that had been in the attorney’s possession. Nevertheless, the court applied the presumption that the missing will had been revoked. Under New York law applicable in the absence of a will, Mario would have inherited an equal one-quarter share with Carole and the other two children. However, Carole appealed the decision. The appellate court sent the matter back to the lower court for a hearing. It rendered the decision based on evidence that Mrs. Disiena had taken numerous actions in connection with her long-term estate plan to disinherit Mario, including the execution of three wills over a period of years disinheriting him, a codicil (a separate document amending the will)

after the date of the missing will, the mother had been engaged in court proceedings with Mario before her death to prevent him from regaining an interest in the family business which was the primary subject of her estate planning, and had met with her attorney to discuss gifting her interest in the family business to the identical three children named in her prior wills. She also signed a recent power of attorney appointing her three inheriting children as her agents, but not Mario. In sum, losing an original will can be a major problem. In Angela’s situation, taking the original will from her attorney turned out to be a mistake. This illustrates that an attorney should be consulted about every aspect of the estate planning process. Stephen H. Weiner has practiced law for twenty-seven years. His office is at 750 Third Avenue, Ninth Floor, New York, New York 10017. He can be contacted at or 212-566-4669. CNG Networking Group is an Orthodox Jewish networking group which meets in Queens and Long Island. The attorney sub-group of CNG specializes in the following areas of law: Trusts & Estates, Real Estate, Matrimonial, Criminal, Personal Injury, Trademarks/Copyright, Tax, Non-profits, Bankruptcy, and Litigation. We welcome questions from readers on a wide range of legal matters. Please submit your legal questions to While we do not provide specific legal advice, we hope to present readers with a greater understanding of the issues presented and potential means of resolving difficulties. No column is a substitute for competent legal advice. Please consult with the attorney of your choice concerning specific legal questions you may have.






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REPLACED THEIR BELONGINGS! It’s a big problem, a site where hard-earned money has been poured down the drain and where many fellow Jews have lost hundreds of thousands of dollars in property and suffered much anguish. The topic, of course, is “commercial storage rentals”, where so many of our brethren, living without an inch of extra space, find themselves leasing units to house their precious goods. Recently, a father of a bride months before her wedding found himself in a predicament. He had been storing his daughter’s clothing and home furnishings in a rental unit until an apartment was obtained for the future couple. But after losing his job and falling behind in payments to the storage company, they seized his rental space from one day the next. To top it all off, they confiscated the possessions in the unit to pay off his overdue balance! He found himself weeks before the wedding, without work, struggling to pay for the wedding and now this tragedy! “How will I be able to marry off my daughter when most of her possessions are gone?” He decided to sign on as a partner to “Kollel Chatzos” to be able to benefit from its many merits and effects. His name was mentioned each night during learning and praying, as well as when the holy “Ketorahs Segulahs” were read and we just received this message: “Distinguished kollel learners! It is now after the wedding and b”H everything went off without a hitch. The newlyweds’ belongings have been replaced and the wedding was celebrated in grand style. I have no doubt it was through the great influence that “Chatzos” has up above!

ALL OF KLAL YISROEL CELEBRATE CHATZOS! For one night in the year, everyone will participate in what “Kollel Chatzos” does all year long! And that is Shavous night! The first night of this festive Yom Tov will be spent by most men in the halls of every Beth Hamedresh immersed in Torah learning, just like the “Kollel Chatzos” members do every night! “Kollel Chatzos” is preparing to learn not just the first night, but the second one as well and the one after that etc. with great concentration and fervor in hopes of positively affecting all of Klal Yisroel and especially the Chatzos-partners! The Torah Centers of Kollel Chatzos:



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