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My husband and I moved to Lawrence almost six years ago. We found the perfect house for us at the time and we unknowingly chose the best block to live on. Last summer, my son thought that he lived in our neighbors’ homes. Right after camp, he would hop on his bike and spend time with his friends eating ices, splashing in the sprinklers and jumping on the trampoline. On Shabbos afternoons, he spends his time bouncing from house to house. Over Shavuos, we got to see how much like a bungalow colony our block truly is. On the two afternoons of yom tov, the children spent their time playing dodge ball in the street. (How many hours of one game can you play? Honestly, I was never much of a “sports person.” I prefer to cheer on the players on the side.) My children, who were younger than the players, were able to sit on the sidelines and check out the action. The good, ol’ sportsmanship spirit was evident. When one team won, there were minor congratulations, and then the next game began. It was too much fun for them to stop. This week, Baila Rosenbaum takes a peek into the life of a very public man. Ezra Friedlander hobnobs with the who’s-who on Capitol Hill. He has met with all the presidents since George H. W. Bush and has the utmost admiration for Bill Clinton. Most remarkable about Ezra, though, is the fact that he is noticeably and proudly an Orthodox Jew. He dresses in his “frock” and sports a beard and large, black yarmulke. Although he never went to college, Ezra is schooled in the art of politics and knows how and what to say to the politicians and leaders he meets. A peek into his life offers insight and lessons for all Jews in and out of the public eye. Every year, the Village of Cedarhurst hosts a Memorial Day parade and service. The parade marches down Central Avenue and participants wave flags to greet the heroic veterans and leaders of our town. Two years ago, my husband and I took our two children to the parade. We had so much fun! Check out the smiles on my kids’ faces in the picture here. Wearing their red, white and blue, they waved their flags and marveled at the antique cars and trucks, marching bands and local leaders in the parade. It is an honor to salute the hardworking men and women of our country who valiantly fought for our freedoms. I urge all readers to try their utmost to attend the parade—can’t wait to see you there! Memorial Day is the start of the summer. I am looking forward to many more games played in the street on long Shabbos afternoons. I’ll be sure to cheer on the sidelines and be the one providing refreshments to our hardworking block players! As always, we look forward to hearing from our readers. For those of you who are celebrating Memorial Day at the parade or at family gatherings, send us your pictures! We’d love to feature you in our next issue! Wishing you a warm, wonderful Memorial Day, Shoshana

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Dear Editor, You can learn a lot about past history by reading “A Hero During the Battle of Custer’s Last Stand” (Forgotten Heroes by Avi Heiligman – May 9).  The article is worthy of any high school or college history class covering Lt. Col. George Custer and the 7th Cavalry at the Battle of Little Big Horn.  I never knew that one of the 24 Medal of Honor recipients from this event was a George Geiger – a Jewish soldier from Ohio.  One doesn’t have to be Jewish to appreciate the continued great written works of Avi Heiligman found in our very own The Jewish Home.  Sincerely, Larry Penner Great Neck

our community and other communities around the nation host parades and ceremonies honoring the heroes of this great nation on Memorial Day. Two years ago, my family and I joined in the parade marching down Central Avenue and proudly saluted our veterans. (Last year, the parade came out on Shavuos and we were not able to attend.) This year, I am torn. My son attends a local yeshiva and has a half day of school. I want him to attend the parade and honor our heroes but I am reluctant to take him out of school. I’d like to ask your readers and the schools of the community this question: Are our schools honoring Memorial Day by giving our children a half a day of school? If they feel that school is important and trumps the local celebration, then our children should be given a full day of school. If they feel that Memorial Day is integral to our American culture, then they should give our children a full day off with ample time to attend local events. I still do not know if I will take my son to the Memorial Day parade in town. I do know that I will be there, waving my flag proudly. I hope to see you too and I’d like to hear what other readers have to say about my dilemma. Sincerely, Atara Federman

To the Readers, This year the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum marked Holocaust remembrance by honoring the legacy of the “Liberators,” those American soldiers who liberated the Nazi concentration camps.  Many historians contend that every soldier who took up arms against the Nazis to defend this great nation in World War II deserves to be called a liberator. Every year, the villages of  Lawrence and Cedarhurst gather together to honor the memory of those who fought so bravely for us all in the Armed Forces of the United States.  Among the fallen are those who made the ultimate sacrifice in WWII.  We are proud to hold a parade every Memorial Day running from Lawrence to Cedarhurst Park.  Attendance at our parade has been less than impressive in recent years and the number of World War II veterans is dwindling.  I therefore urge you to remind your respective congregations, neighbors, and friends of the great honor that you do for the memory of the fallen, for the legacy of those still living and for our great country by participating and attending the parade on the morning of May 27th starting at 10:30 am. Just come to Central Avenue between Washington Ave and Cedarhurst Ave and grab a flag. As a community, we owe this country and those who fought for us a tremendous debt of gratitude. I look forward to seeing you there. Michael Fragin Trustee and Fire Commissioner Village of Lawrence Dear Editor, I am proud to be an American. I appreciate the freedoms that this country offers me and my family. Each year,

Dear Editor, Six months later and I am still impressed. Achiezer never ceases to amaze me. I wanted to thank South Shore Bicycles (through the help of Achiezer) for their countless efforts over this past weekend. As an observer on Friday in the hot sun and on Sunday in the pouring rain, Justin and his crew worked tirelessly to help our community receive used bikes for those affected by the hurricane. As my son happily looked at his new bright orange bike, I can honestly say that this chessed was “one for the kids.” So thank you Justin and your staff for ensuring that each used bike donated was allocated safely and properly. A proud resident

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Move over, Carlos Slim! U.S. billionaire Bill Gates has reclaimed his title as the world’s richest person. In 2007, Gates gave up the title of world’s richest person to Mexican businessman Carlos Slim but as of 4 p.m. New York time on Thursday, May 16, Gates’ fortune was valued at $72.7 billion, according to the Bloomberg Billionaires Index, making him the wealthiest person on the planet. His fortune is

with an estimated fortune of $59.7 billion, up 24.6% over a year ago.

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Venezuela has been suffering from shortages recently. At first, citizens found that there was a scarcity of milk. Then it was butter and coffee and then cornmeal. Now the country seems to be suffering from a lack of toilet paper. The government is desperately trying to import 50 million rolls of toilet paper to prevent most supermarket shelves from running out of stock. These items are staples in countries across the world, but in this nation in South America even the

most basic necessities have become luxuries. Some economists say the shortages of these essential products are the result of the socialist government’s price control policies. But President Nicolas Maduro, who was selected by the dying Hugo Chavez to carry on his “Bolivarian revolution,” insists that the shortages come from a conspiracy campaign directed by the opposition and rich sectors of society to destabilize the country. Venezuelans are not happy with their government’s efforts that may be coming too late. “This is the last straw,” said Manuel Fagundes, a shopper searching for tissue paper in downtown Caracas. “I’m 71-years-old and this is the first time I’ve seen this.” Many supermarkets are completely out of toilet tissue. When new shipments arrive, stores quickly become jammed with customers grabbing the scarce commodity. “I’ve been looking for it for two weeks,” said Cristina Ramos. “I was told that they had some here and now I’m in line.” Economists say Venezuela’s shortages stem from price controls meant to make basic goods available to the poor-

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worth more than $550 million ahead of Carlos Slim, who has a $72.1 billion net worth. The co-founder of Redmond, Washington-based Microsoft Corp. has seen his fortune increase about $10 billion this year. The software maker’s shares hit a five-year high on Thursday, and have advanced 28% year-to-date. Slim’s fortune has dropped more than $2 billion this year as Mexico’s Congress passed a bill to quash the market dominance of the 73-year-old billionaire’s America Movil SAB. Don’t agonize, Mr. Slim, you will “When they’re talking be alright! about reform in a country that’s generally poor, and the guy shows up No. 1 on the list – not a good thing,” said Greg Lesko, managing director at New Yorkbased Deltec Asset Management LLC, which oversees $750 million and has an “underweight” position in Slim’s flagship company. “He’s had a pretty good monopoly situation in Mexico, and the Mexican cellphone user has been paying more than he should. We applaud it for the country.” Warren Buffett of Berkshire Hathaway is the world’s third richest person,

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The Week est parts of society and the government’s controls on foreign currency. “State-controlled prices — prices that are set below market-clearing price — always result in shortages. The shortage problem will only get worse, as it did over the years in the Soviet Union,” said Steve Hanke, professor of economics at Johns Hopkins University. The government also announced recently it would import 760,000 tons of food.

Women’s Rights Resisted in Afghanistan Conservative religious lawmakers obstructed legislation that was intended to strengthen provisions for women’s freedoms in Afghanistan. The group argued that parts of the legislation violate Islamic principles and encourage disobedience. The aggressive opposition illustrates just how fragile women’s rights are, even over a decade after the Taliban regime was ousted. While Taliban was in power, Afghan women were basically prisoners of

their own homes. They were forced to wear burqas, not allowed to wear high heels and the windows on the first floor of their homes were painted so no one would be able to see the women inside. Even the word “women” was not permitted to be seen in public, as names like “women’s garden” were changed to “spring garden.” A woman had to be escorted everywhere by her male companion. But even now, after the Taliban is not officially in power, they are not afforded the basic rights women worldwide are afforded. Khalil Ahmad Shaheedzada, a conservative lawmaker for Herat province, said the legislation was withdrawn shortly after being introduced in parliament because of an uproar by religious parties who said parts of the law are un-Islamic. “Whatever is against Islamic law, we don’t even need to speak about it,” Shaheedzada said. The Law on Elimination of Violence Against Women has been in effect since 2009, but only by presidential decree. It is being brought before parliament now because lawmaker Fawzia Kofi, a women’s rights activist, wants to make

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The law criminalizes, among other things, child marriage and forced marriage, and bans “baad,” the traditional practice of exchanging girls and women to settle disputes. It makes domestic violence a crime punishable by up to three years in prison. Kofi, who plans to run for president in next year’s elections, said she was disappointed because among those who oppose upgrading the law from presidential decree to legislation passed by parliament are women. Afghanistan’s parliament has more than 60 female lawmakers, mostly due to constitutional provisions reserving certain seats for women. Lawmaker Shaheedzada feels that the law can potentially encourage disobedience among girls and women, saying it reflected Western values not applicable in Afghanistan. “Even now in Afghanistan, women are running from their husbands. Girls are running from home,” Shaheedzada said. “Such laws give them these ideas.” Since the U.S.-led invasion in 2001, women’s freedoms have improved vastly, but Afghanistan remains a deeply conservative culture. Lawmaker Rahmani, who said President Hamid Karzai should never have issued the decree, wants it changed, if not repealed. “We cannot have an Islamic country with basically Western laws,” he said.

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Venezuela, Egypt and Iran. The report said the increase was “of great concern.” On Monday, Secretary of State John Kerry named Ira Forman as special envoy to monitor and combat anti-Semitism around the world. Forman was the long-time executive director of the National Jewish Democratic Council. “When political leaders condoned anti-Semitism, it set the tone for its persistence and growth in countries around the world,” the report said. “Of great concern were expressions of anti-Semitism by government officials, by religious leaders and by the media, particularly in Venezuela, Egypt and Iran. At times, such statements led to desecration and violence.” In Venezuela, the report said state-controlled media published numerous anti-Semitic statements, in particular aimed at opposition presidential candidate Henrique Capriles, a devout Catholic who has Jewish ancestors. The politician was narrowly defeated by President Nicolas Maduro in the April 19 election and is contesting the result in the nation’s top court. His maternal grandparents fled anti-Semitism in Poland.

The report said anti-Semitic sentiment in the media was widespread and cited anti-Semitic comments by Egyptian President Mohamed Mursi and officials from the Muslim Brotherhood. In Iran, the government regularly vilified Judaism, the report said. Vandals desecrated several Holocaust memorials in Ukraine, and in May, vandals painted swastikas on a St Petersburg synagogue’s fence and on a synagogue in Irkutsk, Russia. In addition, the report also singled out China, North Korea, Vietnam, Myanmar, Saudi Arabia and Syria for undermining or attacking religious freedom. Kerry said the annual report was an attempt to make progress in the fight for more religious freedom around the world “even though we know that it Continued on page 14


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Although the economy has been suffering as of late, there still seems to be money out there for art. A Jean-Michel Basquiat painting entitled “Dustheads” has set a new auction record for the graffiti artist at a sale of postwar and contemporary art in New York. Christie’s

says the painting sold for $48.8 million on Wednesday. Basquiat’s “Untitled,” a painting of a black fisherman, held the previous record when it sold for $26.4 million last November. Also breaking world auction prices for artists were works by Roy Lichtenstein and Jackson Pollock. Lichtenstein’s “Woman With Flowered Hat” fetched $56 million. A classic example of pop art, the 1963 painting is based on Pablo Picasso’s portrait of Dora Maar. An important drip painting by Pollock, “Number 19,” realized a record $58.3 million. Christie’s says Wednesday’s auction brought in $495 million, the highest total at any art auction. Got any little artists in your family? Encourage them to cash in.

N. Korean Traffic Cop Mysteriously Receives Hero Award When you win North Korea’s “Hero of the Republic” award, you’ve probably

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A few weeks ago, an emotional, young, female traffic officer named Ri-Kyong Sim was honored at a military ceremony with the North Korean equivalent of the Medal of Valor. Sim was named “Hero of the Republic” for allegedly saving Kim Jong-un’s life. Although the exact deed was not revealed and remains a mystery, the Korean Central News Agency reported

that Ri dedicated herself to ensuring the traffic order in the capital city and displayed the heroic self-sacrificing spirit of safeguarding the security of the headquarters of the revolution in an unexpected circumstance.  The “Hero of the Republic” award is usually reserved for heroic acts during wartime, although it is also given to individuals who have made a major contribution to the country’s advancement. Recently, a large number were given to scientists and technicians involved in the North’s long-range rocket launch in December’s and February’s nuclear tests. Well, assuming this woman is not a secret nuclear rocket scientist hiding out in a police uniform, what could she have done to be honored for such an outstanding life during wartime? (It’s pretty much always considered wartime in North Korea.) Many suspect she heroically prevented the assassination of the country’s leader. Her traffic cop boss said, “Comrade Ri’s action was not made possible by pure accident, but made possible because she had always harbored this longing for the respected leader day and night.”

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Mubarak (Possibly) Speaks Out In his first comments to the media since he was detained more than two years ago, Egypt’s ousted leader Hosni Mubarak said he is dismayed at the country’s state of affairs and particularly the plight of the poor. The remarks were published on Sunday in the Al-Watan newspaper.

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with. Mubarak also warned against a much-negotiated loan from the International Monetary Fund, saying it would make life harder for the poor in Egypt, where over 40% of the population lives on less than $2 a day. (That’s probably less than your morning coffee.) The authenticity of the interview was questioned and could not be immediately verified. Calls by The Associated Press to Mubarak’s lawyer Farid ElDeeb went unanswered, but he was quoted as telling Ahram Online, the electronic version of the state-owned Al-Ahram, that the interview was a “fabrication.” Al-Watan’s reporter, Mohammed el-Sheik, took photos of himself near and inside Mubarak’s medical helicopter, without the ex-leader inside. ElSheik said he conducted the interview after sneaking into a waiting area where Mubarak was held during his trial Saturday, apparently before the hearing began. He claimed that he couldn’t record the interview because he had to avoid Mubarak’s tight security. You can decide for yourself if this really happened…

Wagner Opera Shocks Audiences, Imposing Ban The audience at the opening of the Wagner opera Tannhauser at a German opera house in Düsseldorf had an intense reaction to the performance depicting Nazi Germany. The show showed all the gory incidents of the Holocaust, causing viewers to literally go into shock. The Deutsche Oper am Rhein, a leading German opera house that performs in Düsseldorf, said it could not justify artistic work with such an “extreme impact.” The opera house said it had asked director Burkhard Kosminski to tone down scenes but he had refused. Forcing the performance to be revised by the opera house itself, from Thursday onwards, the opera will be performed solely as a piece of music, without the staging, the opera house said. The production was booed by audi-

ences at the premiere. Michael Szentei-Heise, head of the Jewish community in Düsseldorf, told the Associated Press the production was “tasteless and not legitimate.” He said: “This opera has nothing to do with the Holocaust. However, I think the audience has made this very clear to the opera and the producer.” In a statement, the opera house management said it was aware that the production would “arouse controversy.” The statement read: “We are responding to the fact that some scenes, especially the shooting scene depicted very realistically, have caused such physical and psychological stress that some audience members have had to receive medical treatment. After considering all the arguments we have come to the conclusion that we cannot justify our artistic work having such an extreme impact. In intensive discussions with the director Burkhard C. Kosminski we have considered the possibility of changing individual scenes. This he refuses to do for artistic reasons. Of course, we have to respect the director’s artistic freedom.”

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Pakistani Doctor Who Helped U.S. with Bin Laden Mission Seeks Asylum The doctor who aided the U.S. in capturing Osama bin Laden was convicted by a tribal court on false charges, according to a classified Pakistani government report. Portions of the voluminous 357-page Abbottobad Commission Report, which has not been made public yet, were obtained exclusively by Fox News. The report acknowledges Dr. Shakil Afridi’s conviction last year by a government-sponsored Jirga has under-

mined Pakistan’s credibility. The report calls for Afridi to be given a new trial.

The report also claims Afridi joined the CIA search for Bin Laden five years ago, while he was staying in the U.S. with a cousin. According to the report, Afridi applied for asylum after a terrorist group, Lashkar-e-Islam, stepped up its operations in Pakistan’s lawless tribal belt. The doctor was reportedly kidnapped by the group in 2008 and released after his family paid a $10,000 ransom. After helping the CIA pinpoint the location of the terror mastermind just prior to the 2011 raid in which Navy SEALs killed

Bin Laden, Afridi was arrested and convicted by the tribal court of colluding with Lashkar-e-Islam. The State Department declined to comment on the report’s claims that Afridi had applied for asylum while staying in the U.S. The commission report acknowledges Afridi was subjected to harsh treatment in prison, and moved several times to various undisclosed locations by Pakistan’s spy agency. His Pakistani handlers also note his incarceration for a year without judicial process was unfair. In a telephone interview with Fox News last year, Afridi recounted his ordeal in prison. “My clothes were removed and I was forced by a major to wear old dirty torn rags of an army conductor,” Afridi said. “It was difficult to eat food. I had to bend down on my knees to eat with only my mouth, like a dog. I sat on the floor.” He said he was blindfolded for eight months, and handcuffed with his hands behind his back for a year. For a short time in 2009, Afridi lived in San Francisco. “He came to meet my

brother and mother, who was not well at that time,” Afridi’s first cousin, a Californian resident and student based in Los Angeles, related. “He is my cousin and I love him but I don’t know what I can do to help.” During that time, Afridi agreed to work for the CIA, the report said. The deal helped lead to Bin Laden’s death in 2011, and netted Afridi a mere $13,000, according to his statement documented in the report. Afridi is currently serving a 33-year jail term and is appealing his conviction. The U.S. has called for Afridi’s release, but his supporters say the Obama administration has not done enough to press for his freedom. “Dr. Afridi is showing us, in a courageous way, that quiet diplomacy isn’t working,” said Rep. Dana Rohrabacher, R-Calif., Afridi’s most vocal supporter in Congress. Let’s hope that sometime soon the United States will come to the assistance of the one who helped execute the mastermind of global terror and our number one enemy.

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An official visit to Beijing by Israeli and Palestinian leaders last week has prompted speculation that China may finally be ready to claim its place as a world power by trying to negotiate an

end to one of world’s most caustic conflicts. Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu and Palestinian President Mahmoud Abbas met with Chinese President Xi Jinping in Beijing. Reportedly, the two Middle Eastern leaders arrived in the country within a few hours of each other. “China’s hosting of the two emphasized its active involvement in Mideast affairs and highlighted its role as a responsible power,” reported an editorial by China’s state news agency, Xinhua. A more active role in Middle East diplomacy would be a dramatic break from China’s long-held policy of non-intervention. With controversial business partners like Sudan, Libya and Iran, China has consistently ducked the political and regional strife of others to focus on natural resource extraction and trade.

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“All you need to have any KFC product is a short phone call and a few hours, then you can enjoy the great taste of fried chickens,” says Shororo. He says he doesn’t care how much it costs, “I just want it.” KFC is part of Israeli restrictions on imports to the Hamas-run territory. Ironically, one of the reasons smugglers agreed to start dealing with KFC is because of Israel’s easing of restrictions on trade since the November cease-fire with Hamas has dealt a serious blow to the tunnel business. The KFC delivery service in Gaza started with a desire rather than a business plan. Mohammed al-Madani, financial manager of al-Yamama company, says the employees of the company decided to order some meals for themselves from the KFC restaurant in the neighboring Egyptian city of al-Arish. Someone from the company contacted a friend in al-Arish, asking him to make the order and then bring it through the

tunnels; the whole process just took three hours. “Then we asked ourselves, ‘Why don’t we provide this service for Gazans?’” says Mr. al-Madani. The company got more than 20 orders a few hours after a short advertisement was posted on their Facebook fan page. Those who order are well-todo people and don’t care much about the price of the food compared to the original price at the restaurant. “Most of those who order are people who are accustomed to travel and eat KFC food around the world,” says Madani. Al-Madani says the process of smuggling the food into Gaza is not difficult at all. “After getting the orders, we call our partner in al-Arish and ask him to make the orders, after getting the meals, he goes to a specific tunnel and asks smugglers to transfer them into the other side of the tunnel; this may take a few minutes,” says al-Madani. For the tunnel owner who smuggles the KFC food, moving the meals is a bit strange. Smuggler Abu Iyad says the tunnels are meant to bring in basic food stuffs, construction materials, and sometimes people. “This is the first time to smuggle such goods,” he says. He added that since his business is suffering due to Israel’s relaxed embargo, he will take whatever he can get. “This is why I accept to smuggle anything except weapons and drugs,” Abu Iyad said. “I wonder why people pay a lot of money to buy a small meal of chicken,” asks Abu Iyad mockingly. “I can buy four chickens for the price of one meal.” It’s unbelievable that these tunnels are being used in such a mundane manner. They are not even embarrassed to be smuggling goods into the country!

Netanyahu Splurges on Custom-made Aircraft Bed Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu is getting a lot of flak from the public for a recent splurge. The Israeli leader requested that a customized bed be installed on a recent flight to London. Reportedly, he spent $127,000 in public funds to arrange the sleeping cabin for the 5-hour journey to attend Margaret Thatcher’s funeral last month. Netanyahu’s office initially defended the decision, saying the prime minister had a busy schedule ahead of the flight and needed to rest for important meetings in Britain. Some officials close to Netanyahu claim that he had been unaware of the high cost, and once in-


formed, he ordered the bed be canceled on all future flights. The officials spoke on condition of anonymity because they were not authorized to talk to the media.

Netanyahu’s Attorney Defends his Living Expenses The Israeli prime minister’s office does not have its own plane, such as the U.S. presidential aircraft Air Force One. Instead, Israeli leaders must charter a plane when traveling abroad. Some commentators claim it would be cheaper in the long run to purchase and maintain a special plane reserved for official travel of the prime minister and other officials. The uproar comes at a delicate time. Netanyahu’s government is in the process of drawing up a budget expected to include painful austerity measures and tax increases due to a widening deficit. On Saturday night, several thousand people took to the streets in Tel Aviv and other cities to protest the expected budget cuts. Netanyahu was meeting Sunday with top officials to discuss likely cutbacks in the defense budget. Micky Rosenthal of the opposition Labor Party called for an inquiry into the prime minister’s “scandalous behavior.” “We thought that nothing could surprise us anymore when it came to the Netanyahu’s personal behavior. Well, we thought wrong,” wrote Sima Kadmon, a political commentator. “It is unbelievable that not a single person in the prime minister’s inner circle saw how reprehensible this was. Not a single person showed a tiny bit of common sense. There was no one who anticipated just how angry people would be when they learned about this,” Kadmon said about the custom-made bed. Responding to the criticism over this, Netanyahu’s attorney, Yossi Cohen, said, “This is an exaggeration and an inaccuracy. The reason the plane cost about half a million shekels more is not because of the bed. We need to understand that the prime minister was busy with ceremonies before he took off for London. The bed on the plane was noth-

Even if the Israeli public would be OK with their leader’s fancy bed on international flights, they still are upset about his lifestyle when at home. Recently, Prime Minister Binyamin Netanyahu’s attorney claimed that Israel’s prime minister and his wife live a modest lifestyle. This was in response to concerns by the public regarding the increase in expense in the Prime Minister’s Residence. The attorney’s comments came in response to public anger over figures released last week that revealed that the budget of the prime minister’s residence has increased by 80% over a period of four years. “The Netanyahus do not live an extravagant life,” the attorney, Yossi Cohen, insisted. “Come to the prime minister’s home and see the modesty and the rust,” he added. “This house is no ordinary house,” he added. “In fact, much of this house serves as an office and as a place to receive guests. There is a lot of activity going on in this house. More than once I was there at 10:00 p.m. and saw the prime minister coming into the office and sitting and working until 11:00.” The figures published claim the budget was 3 million shekels in 2009, but increased to 5.4 million shekels by 2012. The numbers show an increase of tens of percentages in expenses in areas such as official hosting and food, cleaning and household, and purchases of furnishings and housewares, among others. Explaining the rise, Cohen said, “First of all, the work being done at the Prime Minister’s Residence has grown immensely. This is the most difficult job in the world. Heads of the Mossad, defense officials, ministers, presidents and prime ministers are constantly visiting this house.” When questioned about the cleaning budget, which was 553,000 shekels in 2009 but rose by 118% and is now 1.2 million shekels, Cohen explained that

the numbers do not include only cleaning expenses. “The so-called cleaning expenses include the expenses of all the employees and the food at the Prime Minister’s Residence,” he said. “There was a time period when there was no cook and food had to be ordered from outside. Due to this, there was an increase in amounts incurred.” “Our prime minister, unlike any ordinary person, never stops working,” said the lawyer. “When he comes to his private home in Caesarea on the weekends, he continues to work all the time.” “The Netanyahu family lives a modest life,” he stressed. MK Eitan Cabel (Labor) has sent a letter to State Comptroller Yosef Shapira, asking him to investigate the enormous increase in the spending budget of the Prime Minister’s official residence. “At this time, when harsh economic measures are being imposed on the Israeli public, the fact that the Prime Minister is conducting himself as if he is in a parallel universe and totally divorced from reality is particularly striking,” wrote Cabel in the letter to Shapira. “At a time when the Prime Minister is signing off on a budget that hurts al-

most every home in Israel and asking the people to tighten their belts, we expect him to set a personal example and reduce spending that is funded by tax payers,” he added. “Unfortunately, the data show that he chose the opposite way and brought about a disproportionate and ostentatious rise in the management of his residence.”

World’s Longest Shabbos Table in Bnei Brak Bnei Brak is home to the world’s longest Shabbos table. The table is197 feet long and comfortably seats more than 300 people. It is embellished with all the classic Shabbos items: a white tablecloth, challah, goblets, and candlesticks. The project is expected to set a new Guinness record as the longest Shabbos table in the world. Hundreds of people, including public figures and journalists were invited to sit at the endless table and enjoy a Shabbos meal. The meal was held on Friday and not on Shabbos in order to accommodate the media. The idea to set up the record-break-

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Jewish Bahamas-based Tottenham Hotspur FC owner Joe Lewis is also featured at sitting in 20th place with an estimated wealth of £3.2 billion ($5 billion).

National “It’s a big public and there are different styles,” says Stern, “but in general the mainstream is definitely familiar with it.” The table was dismantled after the event due to lack of space, but company officials are not ruling out the possibility that in the future visitors and customers will be invited for a Shabbos meal at the record-breaking table.I can’t imagine making knedlach for so many guests. Who will do the dishes?

Many Jews Make the “Rich List” of the Sunday Times Each year, the Sunday Times publishes its own “rich list,” with many Jews making the coveted list. This year, Alisher Usmanov, who hails from Uzbekistan, leads the way with a fortune of £13.3 billion (about $20.7 billion). Usmanov holds 30% of shares of the Arsenal Football Club. Britain’s wealthiest man is married to Irina Viner, who is the Russian national team gymnastics coach. Russia-born Jewish businessman Len Blavatnik, who owns Warner Music, came in second place on the rich list with £11 billion ($17 billion). Blavatnik, who now lives in the United States, sponsors

Tornado Rips through Oklahoma Town, Killing at Least 24 On Monday, one of the deadliest tornadoes in U.S. history blasted through Oklahoma City and its suburbs killing at least 24 people, including nine children. The twister may have only been on the ground for a few minutes, but the width and strength of its winds ravaged the city and ripped up miles of homes and roads. The cyclone tore down a hospital and ravaged two elementary schools in the area. The winds were measured at 200mph; it is amazing that anyone was able to survive its ferocity. Initially, among the confusion, it was confirmed that the death toll was 51. After another count, the death toll was lowered to 24, although authorities caution that that number could unfortunately rise again. Seven children drowned in a pool of water at the Plaza Towers Elementary School. One child was killed at Briarwood Elementary School. At least 237 people were injured. In Moore, 19 people were killed; entire blocks were flattened and cars were shredded. Piles of woods, clothes, glass and metal stood where homes used to be. Continued on page 26


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ing, ‘I love you, I love you, please don’t die with me, please don’t die with me.’ But we’re OK,” she told reporters. “And we made it out, and it finally stopped.” Oklahoma City Mayor Mick Cornett called the twister “the storm of all storms.” It was a mile wide at its base and kicked up debris perhaps two miles wide. It was initially categorized as an EF4, the second-strongest type, with 166-200 mph. winds.

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Dogs can be man’s best friend, but sometimes they can be dangerous. Royal Oak, Michigan, has released new laws for dog owners that may have them getting collared if they don’t comply. Owners must comply with seven pages worth of requirements to keep their pets in the city. The new rules require owners of “dangerous dogs” to carry $1 million in liability insurance, post signs, complete an obedience class with the dog, and keep the dog in a locked, fenced-in area.

reason for the new ordinance, but still thinks that it goes too far. “Look at this dog, who goes to schools and has kids lay all over him. I have a really hard time with [the ordinance] because how do you decide what’s dangerous,” she said. Violation of the dog ordinance is a misdemeanor offense, punishable by a fine up to $500 and 90 days in jail. Officials say a dog is deemed dangerous if it bites or attacks a person, or causes serious injury to another domestic animal. Exceptions include dogs protecting an owner or a homeowner’s property. City leaders say they created the ordinance after receiving 32 reports of dog bites and attacks during 2012 in Royal Oak. Royal Oak resident John Scott said the ordinance is a good move for the city, putting the responsibility on the owners instead of the dogs. “If you’re a dog owner, you know that dogs are protective of their territory. There’s an old saying that there’s no bad dogs, just bad owners,” he said. Lori Wosnicki, who has a Bernese Mountain Dog, says she understands the

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Madoff Interviewed From Jail      Bernard Madoff once had billions of dollars and hundreds of employees. Now he is employed by the federal government and makes $40 a month doing menial prison labor.

The former businessman was interviewed over the phone last week from a federal prison in North Carolina.  His prison phone account didn’t have any money in it, so he had to call collect in order to be interviewed. It’s a far cry from his former life. Once head of his own finance firm, Madoff is now identified as inmate #62727-054 at Butner Federal Correctional Complex. He’s serving a 150-year sentence after pleading guilty in 2009 to siphoning $17.5 billion from thousands of investors, wiping them out in a long-running, pyramid-style deception. He said he only works “a few hours” a day, which leaves him plenty of time

In News to ponder his undoing. “I’m usually up at 4:30 in the morning because I can’t sleep,” said Madoff, 75, who is scheduled for released in 2139. Certainly his surroundings in a medium-security prison are a lot less comfortable. When his massive Ponzi scheme unraveled in 2008, Madoff had to give up his $7 million Manhattan penthouse, a beach house in Montauk, N.Y, his homes in Florida and France, as well as a yacht named “The Bull.” Madoff took great pains to insulate his family from his financial wrongdoings, but it didn’t work. He’s especially haunted by the 2010 suicide of his oldest son, Mark, who hanged himself on the second anniversary of his father’s arrest. “I was responsible for my son Mark’s death and that’s very, very difficult,” he said. “I live with that. I live with the remorse, the pain I caused everybody, certainly my family, and the victims.” His younger brother, Peter, 67, is serving a 10-year sentence at a medium-security federal prison in South Carolina, after pleading guilty to covering up the financial wrongdoing. “Obviously, the main concern that I have

is being away from my family,” he said. “Married for 50 years, I had a very close family.” Madoff said that his deception began after the Black Monday crash of 1987, a massive stock market sell-off from which he never truly recovered. He said that’s when he turned his investors into victims, but he insists that his crime was never supposed to go on for so long. “It was certainly never my intention for this to happen,” said Madoff. “I thought I could work myself out of a temporary situation but it kept getting worse and worse and I didn’t have the courage to admit what I had done. It created a major problem.” From all the pain that he caused, he doesn’t seem regretful enough.

Horrific Train Crash in Connecticut A two-train collision in Connecticut injured dozens of people and halted rail traffic from New York to Boston this week. Officials are searching for exactly

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Area hospitals reported seeing 70 people after the rush-hour collision. Two remain in critical condition. “The damage is absolutely staggering,” Senator Richard Blumenthal told reporters after a tour of the scene. “Ribbons on the sides of cars are torn away like ribbons of clothes. Tons of metal tossed around like toy things. The insides of cars are shattered. We are fortunate that even more injuries were not the result of this very tragic and unfortunate accident.” An eastbound Metro-North train derailed at 6:10 p.m. and was struck by a westbound train between the Bridge-

port and Fairfield stations, National Transportation Safety Board member Earl Weener reported. Investigators plan to spend between seven to ten days on scene, and will conduct interviews with the train’s crewmembers, passengers, and witnesses. “We will not be determining the probable cause of the accident while we’re here on the scene, nor will we speculate on what may have caused the accident,” Weener said. Later, investigators said they had zeroed in on a fractured part of the rail line as being of particular interest. It has not been determined whether that fracture happened before or as a result of the accident, they said. St. Vincent Hospital in Bridgeport, Connecticut, said on that it saw a total of 44 patients, six of whom were admitted for treatment. All those patients remained in the hospital for at least a short while and were reported to be in stable condition. Bridgeport Hospital saw a total of 26 patients and admitted three. Two of those patients were in critical condition a day after the accident, and a third was being held for further treatment.

In News Passengers who were on the two trains described the rending collision in vivid terms. Passenger Alex Cohen, a Canadian who was riding the westbound train toward New York, recalled, “Coming to a sudden halt, we were jerked—there was smoke. People were screaming, people were really nervous. We were pretty shaken up. They had to smash a window to get us out.” A heroic female conductor helped other passengers evacuate the train despite herself sustaining back injuries, authorities said at a press conference late Saturday afternoon. Metro-North, which runs between New York City and its northern suburbs in New York and Connecticut, is one of the busiest commuter rail services in the U.S. There are four tracks on that segment of the New Haven Line, an MTA statement said, but two are out of service for replacement of overhead wires. There was “extensive damage” to the track and the wire from the collision. The train cars will remain in place until the investigation is completed.

identified the ethnic Chechen brothers as suspects from video and pictures at the scene. Dzhokhar Tsarnaev was arrested in Watertown, Massachusetts, on April 19 after a daylong manhunt and lockdown of much of the Boston area. He is being held in a prison hospital west of Boston and faces charges that could carry the death penalty if he is convicted. Tamerlan Tsarnaev had been on a U.S. government database of potential terrorism suspects and the United States had twice been warned by Russia that he might be an Islamic militant, according to U.S. security officials.  

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Message Found with Boston Bomber It has been discovered that accused Boston Marathon bomber Dzhokhar Tsarnaev, who was found hiding in a boat days after the blasts, left a handwritten message found where he was uncovered. The note described the attack as retribution for U.S. wars in Muslim countries. Tsarnaev used a pen to write the message on an interior wall of the boat, where police found him bleeding from gunshot wounds four days after the April 15 bombing. The note concluded with the words, “When you attack one Muslim, you attack all Muslims.” It also described Dzhokhar’s older brother and fellow suspect Tamerlan Tsarnaev, 26, who died in a gun battle with police, as “a martyr.” “Basically, the note says ... the bombings were retribution for the U.S. crimes against Muslims in places like Iraq and Afghanistan and that the victims of the Boston bombing were ‘collateral damage,’ the same way innocent victims have been collateral damage in U.S. wars around the world,” said news reporter John Miller, who is a former spokesman for the FBI. The bombings at the finish line of the world-famous marathon killed three people and injured 264 others. The FBI

 It was definitely one of the more creative “State of the City” addresses ever given. Mayor Anthony Silva of Stockton, California, dressed up in battlegear while he asked his audience, “Who’s willing? If you are willing, stand up and show me you are willing to fight for the city!” The theme of the address was “Leave your ego at the door.” After his almost hour-long speech, Silva pulled out armor with a helmet and battle mace while asking the crowd to go to war for the broke and crime-ridden city. It was a dramatic finish to the new mayor’s first ever State of the City address. “I have a question for you. Did all of you leave your egos at the door or did some of you sneak them in?” said Silva. I have a feeling he definitely left his ego at the door…

California and New York Show Huge Layoffs California and New York had more mass layoffs in the first quarter of 2013 than other states. Despite the massive


According to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics, the number of layoff actions fell 29% from the same threemonth period last year, and dropped 56% from the last quarter of 2012 when there were 2,123 mass layoffs in the private sector. The total number of jobs lost is off 37% from a year ago when it totaled 246,958, and down 64% from 424,492 in the fourth quarter of 2012. These are the lowest first-quarter layoff and job loss levels since 1996. The BLS defines a mass layoff event as a filing of 50 or more initial claims for unemployment insurance benefits from an employer during a 5-week period. In order to exclude temporary furloughs, separation had to exceed 30 days to qualify. The average size of a layoff was 169 workers during the first quarter of 2013, however, events were largely concentrated at the lower end of the spectrum, with 71% involving fewer than 150 workers. Only 4% of the mass layoffs last quarter involved 500 or more people. As it turns out, more than half the first-quarter layoffs were a function of workers completing a contract or seasonality. Other common reasons: reorganization or restructuring of a company, cost cutting, and bankruptcy. Among the industries that took the biggest hits, construction had 178 extended mass layoff events resulting in 20,071 job losses, largely due to contract completion. The administrative and waste services sector reported 143 layoff events and 23,284 separations for the

three-month period. In California, the most populous state in the U.S., 254 mass layoffs in the private sector affected 58,304 people. This represents 28% of the total major layoffs.  Hewlett-Packard employees were among those affected by mass layoffs in California. A year ago the Palo Alto-based company announced plans to reduce its workforce by about 27,000 people. As of March, the tech giant had 15,000 layoffs to go. Shockingly, The Golden State is home to five of the 10 metro areas with the largest number of layoffs in the first quarter. The Los Angeles-Long Beach-Santa Ana, Calif. area ranks as the No. 1 ‘Pink Slip Capital’ with 27,042 initial claimants. The New York metro area—which includes New York City, Northern New Jersey, and Long Island—ranks second with 8,693 initial claimants as it continues to struggle with job losses in the financial services industry. Earlier this year, BlackRock and Morgan Stanley, for example, announced plans to cut 300 and 1,600 workers, respectively. This was a 3% staff reduction for both firms. Other places with large job loss numbers include Chicago and San Francisco.

Barbara Walters to Retire

but television,’” she said. “I want to find out if there’s something I can do besides television.” But for the next year, Walters, 83, assured her View colleagues, “I’m not walking into the sunset!” She will continue to anchor and report for ABC News and appear on The View and in specials throughout the year, including a “20 Years of 10 Most Fascinating People” special in December. Walters has interviewed every U.S. president and first lady since Richard and Pat Nixon through Barack and Michelle Obama. “I did not sleep last night,” she said of announcing her plans to retire. “I thought, ‘Am I doing it now? Should I do it later?’ But then I thought it was better to go when people are saying, ‘Why is she leaving?’ than, ‘Thank goodness she’s leaving!’” Walters added that if the decision had been left to her daughter, Jacqueline, she would have quit a long time ago. “For 25 years, she wanted me to do this,” she said. “She keeps me sane, she keeps me grounded. Children do that. My daughter’s in her forties and I’m very

proud of her. I think a lot of working women struggle with the job and being home – and there’s never a right answer. Whatever you do is wrong, but whatever you do will turn out eventually to be OK.” Hope she’s been saving for retirement all these years…that’s really a joke. She’s worth an estimated $150 million.

Dr. Joyce Brothers, Psychologist for the Masses, Dies at 85 Decades before Dr. Phil and Dr. Oz became household names, there was Dr. Joyce Brothers. The popular psychologist pioneered the television advice show in the 1950s, opening the airwaves to discussions of marriage and parenting, as well as other topics. For almost four decades, Brothers was a columnist for Good Housekeeping. She also wrote a daily syndicated advice column that appeared in more than 350 newspapers. Dr. Brothers wrote numerous advice

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Last Monday, Brothers died at the age of 85 from respiratory failure at her home in Fort Lee, New Jersey. Her television career started in 1955 when she won the television quiz show, The $64,000 Question. She became the second person and the only women to ever done so. Amazingly, the questions were all about boxing and she studied for weeks to learn every bit of knowledge there was on the subject. She also won a spinoff show called, The $64,000 Challenge, also on the topic of boxing. After appearing on numerous shows and dispensing advice to thousands, she became one of America’s most admired women. Viewers loved her advice and ideas. There were times that she dissuaded callers from committing suicide with her reassuring advice and demeanor. Dr. Phil McGraw called Brothers “a pioneer in the field of mental health.” “Decades before I came along, Dr. Joyce was able to get people talking about their emotional issues and problems. In her own gentle and caring way she let people know it was OK to discuss their feelings and emotions. She had a great sense of humor and gave very sound advice in her column and whenever she appeared on TV. I owe her a great deal for what she did for the mental health profession and society owes her a big thank you.” Brothers is survived by sister Elaine Goldsmith, daughter Dr. Lisa Brothers Arbisser, four grandchildren and two great-grandchildren.

This Job Makes You Fat It has long been said that Americans are gaining weight at a fast clip. But did

you know that the type of job you’re in can contribute to your weight gain? It turns out that transportation workers have a 36-percent obesity rate, the highest rate among 14 occupation groups measured by a Gallup survey conducted among 139,000 Americans last year. Manufacturing and production workers suffer from a 30-percent obesity rate and installation or repair workers face obesity at a 28-percent rate. Office workers follow close behind with a 26-percent obesity rate.

On the slimmer side of the scale, only 14 percent of physicians are considered obese; 20 percent of business owners and 21 percent of teachers suffer from obesity. The obvious culprits for the high levels of worker obesity are to blame. Lack of exercise, unhealthy eating habits, a history of depression and skipping annual dental visits top the list. Ed Watt is now the Director of Health and Safety for the Transport Workers Union of America. For 20 years, Mr. Watt drove a bus in Brooklyn, a job that can lead to a greater risk of diabetes, high blood pressure and lung disease. “First the sedentary nature of the work, sitting much of the day with the inability to move around, even for bathroom breaks,” Watt noted in an email. “The second is the mobile nature of the job leaves poor food choices. So fast food rules.” “The other factor is that these jobs are highly stressful,” he added. “The stress of the jobs results from high demand and low control over the work. Traffic, people and schedule are all big items that are beyond your control as a driver. As a result of the stress, many are inclined to mal-adaptive coping mechanism.” Now Watt is in charge of looking for solutions to American workers’ obesity problems. Let’s hope he can put the pedal to the metal in finding the right solutions.

In News Bloomberg’s Cupcake Nemesis Mayor Bloomberg is not a fan of The House of Cupcakes, the Greenwich Village bakery that mocked his fight against obesity campaign. But in his honor, the bakery recently revealed its “Mayor Bloomberg cupcake.” The confection is hardly low-fat or sugar-free. “It’s got over 12 pounds of sugar, five pounds of butter, four pounds of flour, six cups of cocoa powder, 24 eggs, two cups of milk,” owner and cupcake creator Ron Bzdewk bragged. With an edible photo of the mayor on top, the sweet treat boasts 35,800 calories.

The intention was to get a few laughs but the health-conscious politician couldn’t find the humor. “This is one of the dumbest things people have done, but if they can get some publicity…” Bloomberg commented. He added that it’s not a joking matter that obesity kills. But baker Bzdewk admits that it was all in good fun. “It’s just all in fun, it’s not like we’re trying to, you know, go against him, it’s just a fun thing, like I said I’m a big guy, I do big things,” Bzdewk said. He also said that he sent smaller, sugar-free cupcakes to City Hall. Those were met with a positive reaction. I guess money can’t buy you a sense of humor, but Bzdewk sure had me laughing!

Californians Find it Hard to Breathe In the last several years, awareness about pollution has grown tremendously as well as stricter legislation and improved technology, improving our air and water quality significantly. In fact, the nation’s overall air quality is much cleaner than it was in some of the

worst-affected areas, according to a recent report by the American Lung Association. Air emissions that contribute to pollutants have fallen since 1970 thanks to the Clean Air Act. Yet, it is still a serious issue across the country (especially in California). A shocking statistic reveals that 4 in 10 Americans live where pollution levels are often dangerous to breathe. The ALA’s 2013 “State of the Air” report measures cities based on low-lying ozone pollution, as well as both shortand long-term particle pollution.

Here are America’s most polluted cities: Cincinnati, Ohio; Middletown, Kentucky; and Wilmington, Indiana, tied for tenth worst polluted cities. Out of a population of 2,179,965, about 215,984 reported that they suffer from asthma. El Centro, California, ranked ninth worst city with 14,253 residents with asthma out of 177,057. At number eight is Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, and New Castle, Pennsylvania. There, 224,567 residents reported asthma out of a population of 2,450,281. Visalia and Porterville, California, came in at number seven. Residents with asthma came out at 35,957 out of 449,253. At number six is Modesto, California, with 41,791 suffering from asthma from a population of 518,522. Los Angeles, Long Beach, and Riverside, California, all tied for the fifth worst polluted cities. A staggering 1,464,217 residents reported asthma, from a population of 18,081,569. Wow, California is seriously hogging this list. At number four is Hanford and Corcoran, California, where 12,388 residents have asthma from a population of 153,765. The third worst polluted cities are Fresno and Madera, California. Out of a population of 1,095,829 more than 88,000 have asthma. Merced, California, ranked second to worst for pollution. In Merced, residents with asthma total 20,837 with its population at 259,898. And now for the worst of the worst:


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That’s Odd World’s Most Durable Bat Boy

spends most of his time in a steel cage next to the dugout which was constructed especially for him. It’s called “Bronson’s Bungalow.” At the end of the seventh inning of every game, Bronson comes out to home plate, tips his hat to the crowd and takes a bow. Some fans stay through the seventh inning just to see Bronson salute the crowd. The university has become a family for Bronson, who has no living close relatives. The school unofficially oversees his care, and he has a lifetime pass to the dining halls. “I remember his mother telling us one time, that when Stan was a very young child, the family physician told her that Stan’s life expectancy would be eight or nine years,” Winn said. “We think, really, quite frankly, that athletics has kept Stan alive and going.”

The Worst Room in NYC Stan Bronson Jr. spent more than half a century on the diamond at the University of Memphis. At the Tiger’s end of the season last week, they saluted Bronson for being more than just a batboy, but an institution on their team. You see, Bronson is concluding his 55th year as the team’s batboy. He currently holds a Guinness World Record for “most durable bat boy” and his jersey is retired on the outfield wall. Eddie Cantler, who has been Memphis’ athletic trainer for 35 years, said that Bronson is an “icon of the institution.” “Stan is everything that is innocent and pure,” Cantler said. “And that’s what he is. From the president on down, everybody knows that Stan is one of us.” Bronson originally scored the job at Memphis after getting fired from a position in the athletic department at Rhodes College. Now Bronson, 84, is making headlines. Bronson recalls when his mom brought him to meet Memphis’ football coach, Billy “Spook” Murphy, in 1958. Bob Winn, an associate athletic director at Memphis, remembers when Bronson met the storied coach. “Coach Murphy said, ‘Well, son, I’m sorry but I don’t have money in my budget to pay for anybody else.’” Winn said. “And Stan said, ‘Don’t need money. Need a job.’” From that moment on, Bronson became a staple at every Memphis baseball game. He spent decades chasing foul balls and fetched bats, but now he

While searching for a decent place to live, Ryan Nethery stumbled across many apartments—but those were places he knew he did not want to hang his hat. Apparently, New York City may be home to some of the most expensive abodes, but there are also myriad small, cramped, decrepit and expensive places that some may call home. “This is a blog created for me to share the Craigslist postings I sift through on a daily basis trying to find decent, affordable housing in New York City,” were Ryan Nethery’s opening words on his Tumblr account. The blog, The Worst Room, was dedicated to unaffordable housing in New York City. Manhattan is the most expensive city in the U.S.; the cost of living is double the national average. Nethery was simply expressing his frustrations but got a lot more attention than he intended. His housing blog quickly went viral. He posted photos of living spaces and what you can expect on a modest budget. For many New Yorkers, it wasn’t that shocking because it is a reality, but for many other Americans

In News and foreigners, it was quite surprising. One of his posts showcases a small, windowless apartment in Park Slope with the caption, “Almost a studio.” The asking price for this abode? $800 a month. Nethery awarded his worst room on his blog to a listing for a small room in Prospect Lefferts Gardens. The space offers a cheap-looking bunk bed and the listing reads: “Top bunk is $500 per month, bottom bunk is $600 per month.” Nethery writes, “The only thing more ridiculous than asking someone to pay $500 per month to share a bed is asking someone else to pay $600 per month to share the same bed. Would you live there?” he asked. Umm, no thanks. Nethery is a 25-year-old freelance cinematographer originally from Kentucky. He has lived in the city for five years and he currently declares himself homeless. His belongings are stuffed into a car given to him by his grandmother and he’s crashed on his friend’s floors and couches. (That’s what I call a freeloader.) He said, “I am still looking for a decent place to live. If you have a room opening up in your house, or an apartment that is available, please feel free to e-mail me.” Hey, I was looking for a roommate…

Grand Central Terminal Finds a Home This is every little girl’s dream. Two weeks ago, Target built a life-size Cape Cod-style dollhouse in Manhattan’s Grand Central Terminal. The home is decked out with furniture and showcases more than 3,000 items from its real-life Threshold collection. On May 6, delighted girls and young-at-heart adults were able to view the dollhouse for two days. About 40,000 people acting as the “dolls” visited the dollhouse. Visitors were free to roam around and purchase items displayed in the house from their mobile devices.

Now you’re thinking, what makes this a doll house as opposed to just a house, right?

The home has some optical illusions and obvious omissions. The most prominent faux pas is the fourth wall. The fake hinges imply that the house opens and closes. The second floor is inaccessible. And to prevent misunderstandings amongst visitors, there is no toilet in the bathroom. The makers’ goal was to meld fantasy and reality, according to Daniel Chu, executive vice president-experiential creative director at Deutsch LA, the agency that came up with the installation. He said, “Target is about the balance of the thrill of expecting more, and the reality of paying less. We wanted to take these two brands, Grand Central and Target, and look at them as connectors of fantasy and reality.” It took a crew of 50 people 54 hours to assemble the 1,600-square-foot house made of 4-by-8 interlocking panels.

Man Pays Restaurant Check Over a Decade Later Back in the late ‘90s, Don Juan and his friend went out for dinner at an upscale restaurant. Upon receiving the check, Juan realized he was $40 short. The teenager respectfully spoke with the restaurant’s owner and chef, Claus Hjortkjaer, explaining his situation. Chef Claus was compassionate and gave the teenage boy $40 from his own pocket to pay his tab. “Don’t worry about paying me back. If you’re in the position to pay me back, pay me back, but don’t worry about it,” the chef said. Juan gratefully accepted the money, left Le Café Miche with a simple thank you and never returned until last week. Hjortkjaer recently reopened his restaurant in Albuquerque, New Mexico. A mysterious gentleman asked to speak with the chef. Juan then explained who he was and handed Hjortkjaer a $100 bill to pay off his debt including interest. “I didn’t remember him until he told me the story,” Hjortkjaer said. “But people change in their looks after 16 years.” “Sometimes it pays off to be a nice guy,” Hjortkjaer said. “It made me feel good. I went and bought myself a bouquet of flowers,” the chef added. He then said that Juan is welcome back to his restaurant for a glass of wine, on the house. It’s nice to see the circle of kindness going round and round.


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Cicadas for Dinner and Maybe for Snack Too While the East Coast is frantically preparing for the invasion of cicadas, one resourceful Connecticut chef is looking forward to the attack of the insects and exploring his culinary cre-

“I’ve been dreaming about putting cicadas on the menu for a long time,” Lai revealed recently. “There are billions that are going to [emerge] and they are going to be dying anyway. It’s not with joy that I kill any animal, but I’m definitely not a vegetarian.” Lai has served insects at his restaurant before, and in 2011, he hosted a popular family event at the Peabody Museum that included a cooking demonstration and tasting for kids. He extols the flavor of bugs as well as their small carbon footprint. “If people were less skittish about eating insects, farmers could use a lot less pesticide on their crops,” he says. Lai has scientific evidence that insects may very well be edible protein. A recent report by the United Nations Food and Agriculture Organization says that harvesting more insects for consumption could help improve nutrition worldwide and reduce the environmental impact of farming other types of animals. According to the report, “Insects are everywhere and they reproduce quickly, and they have high growth and feed conversion rates and a low environmental footprint.” For a Mexican-style snack, Lai plans on dehydrating the cicadas and preserving them in jars. “I would also boil them Maryland crab boil-style, but with Ethiopian spices. Maybe I’d throw in some baby corn. A big pile of spiced cicadas with baby corn would be a beautiful presentation.” Lai was born in Hong Kong to a Jap-

anese mother and Chinese father. “To tip my hat to my own culture,” he says, “I’d cook cicadas yakitori style. I’d make a nice teriyaki marinade with local mugwort [a bitter tasting plant used in Eastern cuisine and traditional medicine] and maple syrup and then skewer and grill them.” Umm, eww.

fee to literally throw their names in a hat during the yearly mayoral election at the festival. The position is only symbolic since the town is actually run by a group of five local business owners.

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You know what they say, “Hey, you never know!” But Richard Cerezo really did not know that he had won the lottery. He was doing a little spring cleaning and going through old lotto tickets which were stacked in a cookie jar. He decided to double check and brought the bunch to his local 7-11 in Geneva, Illinois, to see if he had any winning tickets. Well, this time there was more than just cookies in the cookie jar. Cerezo discovered that one of the tickets he found was worth more than $600 and he needed to file a claim. But that’s all he was told. When he returned home, he checked the number online and discovered that he had won $4.8M Cerezo said, “As each number kept matching, the smile kept going higher and higher. And when I realized we had all six numbers, it was that shocking moment of, ‘Whoa, can this really be?’” he said. “Fast forward to the next day, Monday: Called in sick ... went down into Chicago. It’s one of feelings where it’s okay if they fire me.” Cerezo spoke to lottery officials, who told him the ticket was worth $4.85 million. Cerezo told reporters that he purchased the ticket in February, which meant he’d been sitting on the fortune for months without realizing it, all this while stressing over his house going into foreclosure. “It couldn’t have happened at a better time,” Cerezo said. “I just thought, this is how G-d works.” Cerezo said his main priority is paying off his home although I am sure he can now fill his cookie jar with some cookies.

ativity. For Bun Lai, a 2013 James Beard Award nominee and owner of Miya Sushi in New Haven, eating bugs is gourmet and delicious. He promises that all his foods are sustainable and his menu includes ingredients such as foraged wild mushrooms and soup made from seaweed he hand harvests. His sushi contains “trash fish,” species that are perfectly tasty and edible but not commercially popular and, therefore, are not over-fished. He also supplies the restaurant from his own hundred-acre shellfish bed.

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Pint-Sized Politician Bobby Tufts is the honorary mayor of Dorset, Minnesota. He has enjoyed his success and the benefits of political power even at the age of 4. Tufts was given the gift of an oak plaque symbolizing the key to the city. The tot gets lots of extras because of his title. “His biggest perks are that he gets to give hugs and gets lots of free ice cream,’’ his mother, Emma Tufts, said proudly. Bobby became the mayor of Dorset in August of 2012 when he was only 3-years-old after his name was picked out of a hat at the annual “Taste of Dorset’’ festival. In the seasonal town of 26 residents, candidates pay the $1 ballot

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Photographer Uses Neighbors as Subjects, Without Their Consent Residents at a luxury Manhattan apartment block are livid after finding

out that one of their fellow neighbors has been photographing them without their knowledge. The photographer who calls himself an artist is now displaying the images in a gallery and they are for sale. Artist Arne Svenson openly admits to photographing his neighbors without their permission at the exclusive 475 Greenwich Street apartment block in TriBeCa. Except, he insists that he did nothing wrong or illegal. His photographs deliberately don’t completely show anyone’s face but they do show residents engaged in personal activities including cleaning, taking a nap, watching television and carrying their sleeping children to bed.  The photographs are currently on display at the Julie Saul Gallery in Manhattan as part of an exhibition called “The Neighbors” which opened on Saturday. Prints are available to buy for up to $7,500 and in sizes up to 5 feet by 2 feet.  Penthouses in the Greenwich Street building sell for up to $6 million and residents are flaming mad. They are calling it a complete invasion of privacy and

In News say they are deeply concerned for the safety of their children. “A grown man should not be able to photograph kids in their rooms with a telephoto lens,” resident Clifford Finn proclaimed. “You can argue artistic license all you want, but that’s really the issue here. I’m sorry, but I’m really bothered by this.” A number of residents who are featured in the exhibition are considering legal action. Svenson, 60, who lives on the second floor of the nearby 125 Watt St building, is unapologetic. “For my subjects, there is no question of privacy,” he said in a statement accompanying the exhibit. “They are performing behind a transparent scrim on a stage of their own creation with the curtain raised high. The neighbors don’t know they are being photographed; I carefully shoot from the shadows of my home into theirs. I am not unlike the birder, quietly waiting for hours, watching for the flutter of a hand or a movement of a curtain as an indication that there is life within.” Creepy or creeeepy?

Women Finds her Stolen Car…at McDonalds Virginia Maiden’s Toyota SUV was stolen from her apartment complex on Tuesday morning. After filing a police report, she was shocked to spot her vehicle at a McDonald’s drive-thru where she worked in Kennewick, Washington. After Maiden spotted her car, she quickly phoned the local police who responded to the scene as the thief, Katherine York, was pulling out of the drive-thru. York and a male passenger were detained, but the unidentified man was later released. Kennewick authorities say that 22-year-old Katherine York was driving Virginia Maiden’s stolen Toyota SUV while going through the McDonald’s drive-thru on Tuesday. Police also discovered stolen clothes from Sears and JC Penney in the vehicle. Who can blame her? After all that stealing, York must have gotten hungry.

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Sometimes I want to be a waitress. Well, not really, but this story makes me cheer for the hardworking waiters and waitresses across the country. Recently, a woman posted a receipt on her blog highlighting a huge tip that her mother, also a waitress, received from a very generous customer. The user who posted the receipt goes by the name “Casual Cynic.” But this story made her a little less cynical (we hope). It seems that Casual Cynic’s mother was chatting with a customer about her dream to visit Italy, where her ancestors hail from. The generous

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Sometimes when I’m traveling with my husband, I have a feeling that we are going the wrong way. Because I am a good wife, I generally try to keep my “feeling” to myself, until he realizes on his own that instead of driving to Manhattan, we are suddenly ending up in Staten Island. At that point, he utters many choice words before turning around and heading in the right direction.

Well, a couple had this terrible feeling of misdirection while traveling to their native country in Africa from Los Angeles. This time, they ended up hundreds of miles away, thanks to a computerized airport error. Sandy Valdivieso and her husband, Triet Vo, had planned to fly home to their country of Senegal in Africa. They received their boarding passes and noted that they were flying from Los Angeles (LAX) to DAC through Istanbul. They assumed that their final destination would be Dakar, Senegal. They were wrong. You see, the code DAC actually refers to Dhaka, Bangladesh. They should have been heading to DKR, in Senegal. But, as Valdivieso, pointed out, most travelers don’t know the airport initials for their destination. “You just assume that everything is correct,” she said. On the plane, they heard the flight attendant announce the destination as Dhaka but assumed that they just pronounced “Dakar” with an interesting accent. Hours later, when Valdivieso woke up, she knew something was wrong when she spotted the plane on the travel map on the screen in front of her hover-

ing over the Middle East—nowhere near Africa! After nine hours of convincing the airline that a mistake like this came from the airline and not the vacationing couple, they were finally put on a plane headed to Senegal. “From now on, I’ll triple-check everything,” Valdivieso said. That’s good advice, unless you want to end up in Timbuktu on your next vacation.

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Rabbi Paysach Krohn and the boys of Mesivta Tiferet Torah in Queens On Rabbi Krohn’s right and left are the Roshei Yeshiva, Rabbi Nir Aminov and Rabbi Nachum Zlotnick. Rabbi Krohn spoke at the father and son breakfast on Sunday before Shavous discussing how one prepares for Kabolas Hatorah. The fathers who attended were so moved that afterwards they asked the rabbis to make these breakfasts more often!

Rav Lieff Welcomes Agudath Israel of West Hempstead to its New Home

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Tuesday May 7 witnessed the first public event of the new Agudath Israel of West Hempstead (AIWH). The renowned Talmid Chacham and speaker, Rav Moshe Tuvia Lieff, Shlit”a, Rabbi of Agudas Yisroel Bais Binyomin of Brooklyn, spoke to the attendees on “The Challenges of Shavuos for the Individual and the Family.” His words of Torah, chizuk, and bracha gave welcome support to AIWH’s leadership and to those who aspire to learn and daven in an Agudah shul in West Hempstead. The West Hempstead community is located a short drive from the Five Towns, Queens, and Brooklyn. With its affordable housing and suburban environment, West Hempstead provides good opportunities for families looking to purchase a home of their own. It is a “full-service” community, with an eiruv,

a mikvah, kosher restaurants and markets, a Judaica store and a local Hatzolah. Many neighborhood children attend the local day school, and there is town-provided bus service to yeshivas and girls’ schools located in the Five Towns, Queens, Brooklyn, and Manhattan. The motivation for bringing Agudath Israel of America to West Hempstead is to expand on the many strengths its Orthodox Jewish community already possesses, and to provide another path for its residents to grow in Torah and tefillah. For any questions concerning Agudath Israel of West Hempstead, please call Rabbi Moshe Finkelstein at (516) 489-1913, or send e-mail to agudathisraelwh@gmail.com

Being Prepared is the Best Way to Save Lives

Achiezer in conjunction with Hatzalah is in the midst of a community-wide health series for men, women and Spanish-speaking caregivers. CPR and choking procedures are being taught in order to be best prepared in case of an emergency until professional help arrives. The first class for women was held last Sunday, May 12th at the Hatzalah garage in Far Rockaway

and was attended by 40 women who came away very confident in their ability to perform these crucial skills should they become needed. A class for Spanish-speaking caregivers will be given on Thursday, May 23rd. A class for men is scheduled as well. Contact Achiezer for more info at (516) 791-4444 or email cprcourse@ achiezer.org.


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On Sunday May 12 , in Young Israel of Kew Gardens Hills, Yeshiva Chofetz Chaim held their annual community breakfast. The guest speaker was Rabbi Peretz Steinberg of Young Israel of Queens Valley.

Yom Yerushalayim at Yeshiva Har Torah Yom Yerushalayim was celebrated last week at YHT with many meaningful and exciting programs. After a spirited Tefillah and Hallel, the middle school students enjoyed a special breakfast followed by a shiur by Rabbi Yaakov Lerner of the Young Israel of Great Neck. Rabbi Lerner spoke beautifully about our special connection to Eretz Yisrael and read to the students a letter that Rabbi Tzvi Yehudah Kook had written. The letter amazingly describes that the day of Rav Kook’s Aliyah (and what he had wanted inscribed on his tombstone) would later be the day of the re-unification of Jerusalem. Grades 1-5 had the opportunity to visit the Kotel, right inside YHT! Rabbi Ahron Rosenthal, with the help of Orit Lax, the art director, designed a beautiful miniature Kotel for

the students to visit. Each class visited the Kotel and said Tehillim together with their teacher, followed by the placing of notes into the cracks of the wall. The students really found the experience very inspiring as they had a chance to really feel like they were at the Kotel, davening and placing a note with a prayer to Hashem.

Join Gesher for an Evening of Excellence This Tuesday, May 28th, the Five Towns community will have the opportunity to enjoy a unique and exciting event. An Experience of Excellence and Grace is sure to produce much delight. The attractive appeal of elegant décor combined with fine wines and foods is true to Gesher’s hallmark of effective synergy. In only its first year, the Gesher Early Childhood Center has earned accolades for its formulated method of individualized education. In a recent interview with the Gesher staff, they explained the basic principles that they use to develop each student’s goals. “The first step in individualization is to forge a bond with each child so that they feel unconditionally loved and safe. We are then able to imbed their personalized goals into the general curriculum and into our specific lesson plans.” The staff continued to explain how they implement specific goals for each student into every part of the day: circle time, center time, and even while transitioning between activities. “Every child has a preferred way of learning and playing. We key in to each child’s needs and preferences in order to create a positive and productive learning environment.” The Gesher model has won strong approval from related service providers who have worked with the staff. A speech therapist had the following observation, “Intervention plans that I create are inte-

grated into the classroom for functional communication. The teacher provides extensive carry-over of clinician’s suggestions and strategies. We are a team in providing multi-disciplinary/multi-sensory services for the child.” Parents have also showered Gesher with praise and gratitude. The following few quotes are a strong indication. “My child’s development at Gesher has been phenomenal! The staff at Gesher is amazing, dedicated, hard working and inspiring. Their care for the curriculum and the meticulous planning of each lesson and project is apparent.” “My child’s development at Gesher has been incredible. They have exceeded our expectations by leaps and bounds, and my child is, B”H, flourishing.” “The implementation of services at Gesher has been a parent’s dream. The therapists and teachers work closely as a team, to implement and encourage all skills and development.” Join Gesher on Tuesday evening, May 28th, at The Studio showroom of elegant interior design, 287R Central Avenue in Cedarhurst. Enjoy fine wines by Mark Glicksman and Delicious food from The Upper Crust while learning more about Gesher’s program. For more information, please contact Gesher at 516-730-7377 or at gesherschool@gmail.com.


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Around the Community HANC’s Hurricane Sandy Bike Drive The Fifth Grade girls in Morah Elana Jacobs’ class at HANC’s Samuel & Elizabeth Bass Golding Elementary School in West Hempstead are excited for springtime! They are excited about the warm weather and the sunny afternoons that they can spend outside bikeriding and having fun with friends. But when the girls started thinking about how much they were looking forward to spending time outdoors bike riding, they remembered all the children in the Five Towns and Far Rockaway who would be unable to enjoy the outdoors because Hurricane Sandy destroyed their bikes. So, with the leadership of Morah Jacobs, the girls decided to hold a “Bike Drive”! On Sunday, May 5th, the girls and Morah Jacobs met on the front lawn of the 5th grader Sarah Oppenheim’s house to hold the drive!  Bikes in all sizes and

colors were donated and lined up next to riding toys, scooters and roller skates. The girls worked hard, washing and cleaning the bikes, pumping the tires, and shining the frames!  When the drive was over, they loaded the bikes onto the van that would be taking the bikes to Far Rockaway to be given out to people who needed them! The girls felt so good about their chessed and enthusiastically asked for more opportunities to give to others in this way. Exclaimed one girl from the class, “It was a very special mitzvah that was so much fun!” We are so proud of our students! A special “thank you” to the Oppenheim’s for hosting and to Dr. Roffe for helping with pumping the tires and fixing up bikes. To everyone who helped at the drive and donated bikes: Tizku L’mitzvot!


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Thousands of Belz chassidim from Israel and around the world gathered by the traffic circle in the center of the Kikar Belz neighborhood of Yerushalayim to participate in the chuppah of the Belzer Rebbe’s oldest grandson. The chosson, eighteenyear-old Shalom Rokeach, is the son of the Belzer Rebbe’s only son,  Rabbi Aharon Mordechai Rokeach. The kallah, nineteenyear-old Batya Paneth, is the daughter of R’ Yechiel Meir Paneth, a magid shiur in Yeshivas Nadvorna Bnei Brak.

Digging in the Rain: Yeshiva Zichron Aryeh Groundbreaking a Huge Success On Sunday morning, May 19th, Yeshiva Zichron Aryeh (“YZA”) held a groundbreaking at the site of their new campus in Bayswater, NY. The yeshiva has been displaced since Hurricane Sandy flooded the yeshiva’s home in the Agudah of Bayswater and an adjacent building which housed the dining room and kitchen facilities. The rebbeim and talmidim have persevered and continue learning and growing, but a solution had to be found. The yeshiva decided to build a modular building, which could be completed quickly and serve the needs of the yeshiva. Early on Sunday morning, a light drizzle began, which continued throughout the day. The yeshiva’s administration decided to hold the event despite the weather. The rain refused to subside, but

nevertheless nearly two hundred people came to the event from the local community, the Five Towns and as far away as Cleveland, Ohio. Several members of the local Rockaway Citizens Safety Patrol were in attendance to ensure the security of the event. Families came out in the rain and the children were treated to toy shovels and hard hats, along with cotton candy. Delicious refreshments were provided by Cravingz of Cedarhurst and music was playing, creating a mood that was incredibly light and uplifting for a gray Sunday morning. It was a tremendous success, especially in light of the circumstances. Hillel Adelman, a local community activist and former president of the Young Israel of Bayswater, served as the emcee for the event. He began

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by recounting his own experiences in spoke next. Standing under his umbrelZichron Aryeh and the positive impact the yeshiva has had on his life and the Bayswater community. He emphasized the importance of having a yeshiva in our town and the benefits the yeshiva has received from the community. Rabbi Shaya Cohen, the Rosh HaYeshiva of YZA, then addressed the crowd, speaking about the growth of the yeshiva and the idea of focusing on the individual talmid, helping each one grow to his full potential. He conveyed the yeshiva’s thanks to all of those who braved the bad weather and came out for the event and to the supporters that have stood by the yeshiva over the years. The yeshiva owes a tremendous debt of (L-R) Avraham Burger - administrative director of YZA, Assemblyman Phil Goldfeder and Rabbi Shaya Cohen gratitude to the various institutions that have hosted it over the years and especially in the last la, he noted how the falling rain was an few months, including the Young Israel auspicious harbinger of growth for the of Bayswater, Khal Chesed V’Emes (Bay yeshiva and the community. Just as wa24th Street Shul), the Agudah of Bay- ter is needed for growth in nature, our swater, and the Jewish Heritage Center community educational institutions in Flushing, Queens. are essential to the growth of another Congressman Gregory W. Meeks generation of leader and educators. He of the 5th congressional district, which referenced the yeshiva’s mission of eduencompasses the Bayswater community, cating future teachers and stressed how


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Rabbi Yaakov Bender, Rosh HaYeshiva of Yeshiva Darchei Torah, was the final speaker. He spoke of his relationship with Rabbi Cohen over many years and how deserving the yeshiva is of a new campus. He wished the yeshiva well in its growth and urged the community to help the yeshiva by donating generously to help with the completion of the building. The building is slated for delivery and installation this summer. The 7,200 sq. ft. facility will house Yeshiva Zichron Aryeh’s Beis Medrash and Kollel Ner Yehoshua and provide a forum for teacher training courses offered in the yeshiva and via webcast around the country. The facility will include a beis medrash, dining room, kitchen, offices, shiur rooms, library and exercise room along with an outdoor basketball court and recreation area. For dedication opportunities or to find out more about Yeshiva Zichron Aryeh, visit www.zacampus.com or call Avraham Burger at 516-295-5700 x 17.

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Pointers For Parents Regarding Recent Tragedies Unfortunately, there has been a spate of catastrophic events in the last few months. The Sandy Hook shooting, Boston marathon terror attack and now most recently, the devastating tornadoes in Oklahoma cumulatively pose a threat to the sense of safety and equanimity that we desire for our children and us. In light of this clustering of horror and misfortune, OHEL’s trauma team has revised its “pointers” in its ongoing effort and commitment to preserve our children’s sense of safety. Normalize any fear and concern. Assure your children that being frightened after such events is just part of being human. It is probably futile to try to hide or insulate your child from what has happened. News today is readily accessible and rapidly disseminated even among children While commiserating with your child that the recurrence of scary events in such close proximity is frightening, cast it in the context of the breadth of humanity and time with the accurate

assurances that tragedy and misfortune remains the exception not the rule. Preschool-aged children do not understand the concept of “rare” and should be told unequivocally that they are safe and that such horror will not occur to them. If applicable, assure them that these events took place far away from their home despite the immediacy of images and pictures. Since these recent events involved the death of children and grave injuries, it may be advisable to reiterate that death and infirmity are more typically and normally associated with aging and the elderly. This type of clarification is generally relevant only to children 6 and older who can understand this aspect of life. Limit your children’s exposure to media coverage and viewing that is known to only exacerbate such horror and fear. This is particularly important with regard to the tornados for which live and frightening footage is readily available. Do not be surprised if your child seems unfazed by this event but man-

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ifests or expresses fears at a later date. There is not uncommonly a dormant period following exposure to such potentially destabilizing occurrences. Elementary school aged children are often preoccupied with the facts or details of such tragedy. This is age-typical and refraining from a tempered and accurate response leaves them prone to more scary rumors and distortions. It is not uncommon for children to fear inclement weather especially accompanied by thunder and lightning. Such children may be particularly horrified by the events in Oklahoma. If such fears recur, address them promptly before they become entrenched. Children who are generally beset by anxiety or fears are also more at risk for an adverse response. All of these children deemed more at risk should be carefully observed for changes in their mood, behavior and even play. We hope this advice is of assistance to you and please feel free to contact OHEL’s Rapid Response Trauma team for more assistance. We can be reached at 1800-603-OHEL

Dr. Norman Blumenthal, Ph.D. OHEL’s Director of Trauma, Bereavement & Rapid Response Team Dr. Norman Blumenthal is a wellknown specialist and speaker in trauma. A licensed clinical psychologist in private practice in Cedarhurst, NY, Dr. Blumenthal is the former Director of Bereavement and Crisis Intervention Services for Chai Lifeline. Dr. Blumenthal also serves as Educational Director of the Bella and Harry Wexner Kollel Elyon and Semikha Honors Program at the Rabbi Isaac Elchanan Theological Seminary of Yeshiva University. Dr. Blumenthal is past Vice President of NEFESH. (An International Network of Mental Health Professionals). OHEL TRAUMA SERVICES OHEL TRAUMA Services Meets the Immediate Needs of Individuals, Families and Communities Facing Trauma. We offer Experienced Trauma Specialists, Provide Comfort and Professional Counseling, Resources  and Referrals. Please contact OHEL at 1800-603OHEL or trauma@ohelfamily.org

Shabbos-of-Inspiration Program

Schedule of Shiurim

Shabbos-of-Inspiration Program with Rabbi Doniel Pransky

Friday Night Oneg (for men & women): 9:30 p.m.

Rosh Kollel, Atlanta Scholars Kollel

at the home of Daniella & Chaim Wieder, 366 Barnard Avenue in Woodmere

Topic: ‫לא תעמוד על דם רעך‬

‫ונשמרתם את נפשותכם‬

Shabbos Day Shiur for Women: 4:00 p.m.*

‫פרשת בהעלותך‬ May 24-25, 2013

at the home of Briendy & Danial Jacobson, 526 Island Avenue in Woodmere

Topic: When ‫ חסד‬is truly ‫חסד‬ *shiur given by Rabbi Doniel Pransky & Reb. Esther Pransky

Shabbos Day Shiur for Men: 5:45 p.m. at Cong. Bais Ephraim Yitzchok, 812 Peninsula Blvd. in Woodmere Cong. Bais Ephraim Yitzchok 812 Peninsula Blvd. Woodmere, NY 11598

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Wheels To Lease Announces Winner of a Free Two-Year Honda Car Lease Through Hatzolah May Auction in Boro Park Wheels To Lease, a car leasing company in Brooklyn, was a corporate sponsor in this year’s Hatzolah auction, held on May 4th – May 6th. The auction, which takes place every year, also included prizes such as iPods, magazines, scooters, rollerblades, and more from various sponsors. “We are so proud to announce our corporate sponsorship of Hatzolah for their yearly auction event. We’ve decided to offer a car lease as a grand prize to support the Hatzolah ambulance services and the dedicated employees who devote their time to saving peoples’ lives every day. Our winner, Ari Haas, was in total shock, and we are looking forward to getting Mr. Haas into some brand new wheels,” said Shlomie Hershkop, owner of Wheels To Lease. Ari and his wife, Miriam Haas, will enjoy a two-year car lease courtesy of Wheels To Lease. Mr. Haas has never purchased or owned his very own new car; winning came as a total surprise. “I was in such shock that I won, I’ve pur-

chased tickets in previous auctions and have never won anything,” said the enthusiastic winner, Mr. Haas. He went on to say that he is interested in a white 2013 Honda Accord for his family, and added that the large trunk space in the Accord will allow him to transfer his musical instruments, as Mr. Haas is in a band and plays keyboard. “I’m a Brooklyn man, born and raised, and have known about Wheels To Lease my entire life. I see the ads posted everywhere, and almost every other car on my block has the Wheels To Lease bumper guards on the back of the cars,” said Mr. Haas. Mr. Haas added, “What really surprised me most was that I purchased just one ticket and it was online, just 2 hours before the auction ended!” The three-day spectacular, called “Moments,” was held at the Ateres Golda Ballrooms at 1362 50th Street in Brooklyn, N.Y. from May 4-6. Over $350,000 worth of prizes were auctioned over the course of the three days, including the car lease deal from Wheels To Lease, one

of three grand prizes. In addition to the auctions, a men’s gala and Melava Malka dinner was held on May 4, a family program took place on May 5, and a women’s evening of inspiration closed the event out on May 6. As a sponsor of the event, Wheels To Lease generously provided a two-year car lease of a desirable Honda vehicle. The prize is worth up to $6,000, and will afford the winner both convenience and pleasure. In addition to Honda models, the dealership also lets customers buy a new Toyota or Acura model from its wide inventory, and its competitive deals are sure to save individuals money. Wheels To Lease also runs a monthly iPad raffle, which anyone can enter just by joining their email list: http://www. wheelstolease.com/joinemaillist/. For more information about Wheels To Lease, curious individuals can visit the company’s website at http://www. WheelsToLease.com or reach a customer service representative at 718-871-8181.

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NIVNEH Appreciation Event this Sunday Project NIVNEH will be having an Appreciation Event iy�H this upcoming Sunday, May 26th at 8:00 PM in the White Shul. All women of the community are invited. You do not want to miss the opportunity to hear the inspirational stories from the women of our community including hurricane victims, committee heads, team leaders and partners. The presentation is testimony to how OUR amazing community, along with volunteers from all over the world, rose to the challenge for the last six months to help each other! NIVNEH will recognize the 500 volun-

teers who gave up so much of their time to perform tremendous acts of chessed for the families impacted by Hurricane Sandy to help rebuild the community! The event will include a delicious dessert buffet, provided by Sharmel Caterers, and we will have music by Baila Caller. Event Sponsors: PRISM, Sharmel Caterers, AHC Appliances, Gourmet Glatt, The White Shul, Comfort Bedding, Five Towns Jewish Times, Dina Rogoff, Baila Caller. There will be no solicitation of funds at this event.

The preschool students of YCQ learned all about Shavuot as they made beautiful flower arrangements to grace their Yom Tov tables and count down the days until Matan Torah.

Young Israel of Long Beach Presents Simply Tsfat in Concert The Young Israel of Long Beach, New York will be hosting Simply Tzfat on Shabbos Parshas Shelach, June 1st 2013. The Simply Tsfat Chassidic musicians stem from the Breslov community in Tsfat, Israel. A town located in the northern Galilee, Tsfat is famous for its mountain air and Jewish mysticism. This year they will be unable to perform as they traditionally do on the July 4th weekend as part of the City of Long Beach Summer Concert Series because of the Three Weeks. However, the Young Israel will be hosting a summer

concert on the Boardwalk following the Three Weeks. They have arrived in the United States to perform at the concert following the Israeli Day Parade A special Motzaei Shabbos performance is being presented at the Young Israel of Long Beach. The concert will take place on Motzaei Shabbos, June 1st 2013 at 10:00 PM. This event will serves as a welcome to the many families who come to Long Beach to enjoy their summer vacations. It is also designed as another opportunity to raise the spirits of the community following the aftermath

of Hurricane Sandy. It is just one on the many activities and special events being

planned at the Young Israel this summer. Simply Tsfat fuses together heaven and earth through music. Stories, personal anecdotes and Chassidic teachings are interwoven with powerful lyrics and enchanting music inherited from an authentic tradition handed down from the time of Rebbe Nachman. Acoustic guitarist/vocalist Elyahu Reiter, violinist Yehonason Lipshutz, and classical guitarist Yonatan Tzarum join forces to present an evening of Breslov Chassidic music, storytelling and teachings of Rebbe Nachman After receiving degrees from Tufts and Stanford Universities, Reiter moved to Israel to delve deeper into the Torah. Also a university graduate, Lipshutz moved to Tsfat with his family two weeks before the Gulf war. Israeli-born Tzarum learned classical flamenco guitar from his father. Simply Tsfat conveys a deep love of chassidic life and its music. Their style is warm and intimate, drawing listeners into the air of Tsfat and a living Chassidic tradition.


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In their first season joining the with” throughout the entire season. AfLeague, the Ateres Yaakov Eagles took ter a playoff win in a hometown rivalry home the intermediate division (9th and against the Young Israel of Woodmere, the Eagles were slated to 10th grades) chamtake on the Young Israel pionship in the Naof Jamaica Estates in the tional Council of championship game. Young Israel’s BasWhat began as a slow ketball League. The starting game quickly dechampionship culveloped into an intense minated an intense matchup between the top 10 game season, in two teams in the League. which the Eagles At the close of the first finished with a diquarter, however, the Eavision leading 8-2 gles had taken a domirecord. 9th grade rebbe Rabbi Shmuel Oratz with 10th graders Yaakov Puderbeutel and Ari Shaulson nating lead, 21-11, which “We promote they would not lose the entire game. healthy outlets for our talmidim whenAt the close, the ever and wherever we can,” final score was commented Rabbi Yossi Ben71-47. Eagles’ nett, Assistant Menahel and captain and 10th Athletic Director at MAY. “When we got wind of this grader, Yaakov league and the kosher, effiPuderbeutel, led cient and professional way in the team in scorwhich it was run, we decided ing and led the to join on the intermediate Eagles in their level.” amazing first Expertly coached by local season. alumni Zack Hatten and Na- 9th grade point guard Yossi Malek bringing Rabbi Bendown the ball flanked by 10th graders tan Cohen, the team proved nett remarked, Yaakov Puderbeutel and Ari Shaulson to be a “force to be reckoned “We are so proud

of our talmidim, both for the incredible commitment and dedication they demonstrated to their team, but more so for the menschlech and classy manner in

which they conducted themselves. We hope to join the League’s senior division next year as well.”

10th grader Ari Shaulson shooting a free throw

DRS Friendship Circle Awardees The award ceremonies have begun this past Sunday May 19th, and it was a privilege to participate in the DRS Nedivei Lev Service Society. The induction ceremony honored members of the senior class who have served their school and larger community above and beyond. The ceremony was attended by the student body, as well as faculty and parents. The Jean Fischman Chabad of the Five Towns’ Friendship Circle was honored to present three outstanding volunteers with a certificate and gift for their dedication, commitment and heart.  We are so proud of you Aaron Meir Rubel, Josh Libin and Yaakov Hagler.  Each of you has truly made a difference.  Like your special friend said, “The boys have been very nice! I know them for two years. They play with me every Shabbos. They walk all the way from Cedarhurst to Woodmere! They come in

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rain, in cold weather, in snowy weather, in hot weather, in stormy weather. They are sweet not sour.” “When Chabad’s Friendship Circle opened its doors six years ago, our goal was to reach out and extend a helping hand to families who have children with special needs,” From Left to right: Rabbi Yisroel Kaminetsky, Josh Libin, Batsheva Borenstein, Yaakov Hagler, Aaron Meir Rubel stated Batsheva Borenstein, Friendship Circle director.  “The Friendship families and 155 volunteers we strive to To place an ad in our Volunteer Circle is made up of five parts: the vol- expand and strengthen our circle.” Commemorative book, for more inforunteers, children, parents, supporters, An exciting award ceremony for mation or to make a reservation go to and staff.  The true beauty of it is how we ALL the Friendship Circle volunteers www.FC5towns.com/VolunteerAppreall link together to form a seamless cir- will take place Tuesday May 28, 2013 at ciation or email Batsheva@chabadcle of friendship.  Today with over 135 Chabad.  5towns.com.


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The Yeshiva of South Shore preschool enjoyed their annual Middos Parade, as the marched together displaying the songs, costumes, and art that they created while learning about V’ahavta l’reacha kamocha, derech eretz, and simcha.

250 Happy, Ice Cream-Smudged Faces Celebrated Shavuos with Chabad Of Hewlett On Wednesday, the first day of Shavuos, at the campus of the SKA High

School for girls in Hewlett Bay Park, 250 smiling faces filled the room for the Hewlett community’s grand Shavuos celebration arranged by Chabad of Hewlett to honor the giving of the Torah on Mount Sinai 3326 years ago. Men, women and children came to hear the reading of the Ten Commandments in unity. Afterwards, the crowd was treated to eight flavors of scrumptious ice cream with twelve

types of toppings and a wide array of blintzes, cheesecakes and a dairy buffet. “You should have seen the smiles on those faces,” said Rabbi Tenenboim, Chabad of Hewlett Director. “This party really revealed the beauty and joy of Shavuos in a fun and enjoyable way. The community was able to get together from all different backgrounds, enjoy each other’s company, and relive the giving of the Torah as one.” Rabbi Tenenboim began the party with a message about the importance of Jewish unity, and its connection to Shavuos. After the Ten Commandments were read, the crowd enjoyed the delicious food, while the kids had a special

children’s program with stories and games in honor of the holiday. “Although this was my first time ever hearing about this holiday,” said Adam Cohen, “I really felt welcome and at home thanks to Rabbi and Rivkie Tenenboim.” A special thanks to SKA High School, to the volunteers, and to Mr. Joel Baruch from Gotta-Getta-Bagel.   Chabad of Hewlett is an affiliated of Chabad of Five Towns, for more info and for dedication opportunities email chabad@jewishhewlett.com www.jewishhewlett.com or call 516-537-8770.


Bnot Yaakov Math Olympiad 2013

Although the Math Olympiad primarily reinforces math facts and tables, girls are also tested on an array of foundational skills and procedures. Conducting any “contest” is tricky, however, because although it’s important to reinforce those students who worked hard to achieve excellence, it’s also important to reinforce industry for all students who demonstrate good work habits. In the spirit of maintaining that delicate balance, Bnot Yaakov held an Awards Assembly where all students received “Math Masters Awards” along with the two school “winners” who received their own “Math Olympiad Winner Awards.” We’re proud to announce Shira Deil and Michal Bezelely as the Bnot Yaakov 2013 Math Olympiad winners! We’re also very proud of the rest of our students—all flashing for five nightly—solidly on their way to math mastery!

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Young Israel of Woodmere to Host Dine ‘N Meet, a Shabbos for Singles Dine ‘N Meet is coming to Woodmere on June 8th! The Young Israel of Woodmere Singles Initiative Committee, in conjunction with YUConnects and SawYouAtSinai, is hosting this very special Shabbos for eligible single men and women. Dine ‘N Meet is a brand new concept initiated by SawYouatSinai that allows singles to meet other compatible singles while enjoying a Shabbos meal experience. The Young Israel of Woodmere is proud to sponsor this weekend which is yet another in a series of events and programs that facilitate matchmaking. Past events have included the popular “Salad Wars and BBQ” for singles, “Meet the Matchmaker Night,” the “Newlywed Network” for young married couples helping their friends and two Matchmaking Brainstorming sessions for the community. At Dine ‘N Meet, a minimum of 6 12 singles attend a Shabbos meal, equally divided between men and women, with placement based on profile and computer algorithms. Meals are pre-screened and exclusive so participants will enjoy meeting many new and compatible singles. Volunteer, friendly families in various communities host the meals and facilitate conversation as well as the follow-up matchmaking. In addition,

the Woodmere event will have a special Shalosh Seudos meal at a Woodmere home where all the attendees will have an opportunity to meet each other. Dine ‘N Meet meals for approximately 300 singles of various age ranges and hashkafas took place this spring in the Upper West Side, Washington Heights and Kew Gardens Hills. Many couples are dating and matches continue to materialize. The Woodmere Dine ‘N Meet is open to Orthodox singles ages 23 -35. In lieu of an event fee, Dine ‘N Meet requests that participants make a minimum donation to tzedakah of at least $18. The charity that will benefit from the Woodmere event is Achiezer Community Resource Center which provided invaluable resources to the community after Hurricane Sandy. To register your interest for the event, please go to www.dinenmeet.com by June 3rd at 12:00pm. There is limited availability and acceptances issued based on compatibility of the registrants. Questions? Contact support@dinenmeet.com. Anyone that wants to be included in future updates of Young Israel of Woodmere singles programming can email yiwmeet@gmail.com.

You’ve Heard About It, But What Exactly Is Camp Menucha For Women? You can take this new, exciting trend for face value: It’s a genuine day camp – for women! There are four structured activities per day, including live musical and comedy entertainment, dessert design, drama, art, dance, flower arrangement, Once-AWeek Boutique, a daily Laughing Activity with C.D., the Friday Pirkei Avos shiur, Custom Beauty Spa, incredible workshops, trips, and more. Who would have thought? The hours are from 10:00 am to 2:00 pm Monday to Friday, beginning Monday July 8, iy”H. Lunch should be brown-

bagged, but hot coffee and cold drinks will be graciously provided. No children or infants, but babysitting is available in the neighborhood. Any unregistered guests who want to participate in major events must pay per activity – no exceptions. Choose the weeks that work best for you! Early bird savings before May 30th, registration closes June 30th. Worth a trip from anywhere! Call today to be sure you are in! Call 718-755-7224, or email cdurbach@gmail.com.

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Bnot Yaakov believes that success in higher math requires a strong foundation in what they’ve termed “memorization math.” All teachers drill students, send flashcards home and award prizes for nightly review to assure that students memorize all math facts and tables. At an evening parent conference held earlier this school year, Mrs. Friedman, Associate Principal in Bnot Yaakov, stressed “flashing for five” each night as a routine part of homework. She explained that “flashing for five” means drilling your child on a specific series of math facts, going from smaller to larger increments of information, until mastery is achieved. The drills can be conducted more formally with flashcards or concurrent with other activities such as preparing dinner, washing dishes, driving in the car or even while getting ready for bed. How daily math reviews occur isn’t as important as that they occur. In support of this developmental process, Bnot Yaakov held its first Math Olympiad! All classes focused on their curriculum’s math facts and tables and conducted their own math drills that produced class winners to compete in the school-wide contest. First graders competed alongside third graders; however, each student was given grade-appropriate questions. Aside from basic math facts and tables, students were also tested on money and numerical equivalency, word problems and math “procedures” such as “re-grouping” with double digit addition and subtraction.

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The Young Israel of Woodmere held its fifty-third Annual Dinner Banquet at the Sands in Long Beach on Sunday evening, May 12.


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women tried to get representatives from as many classes as possible. Although this did not happen in the early stages, by the time the reunion program was printed, 50 class representatives had helped in some way with the reunion. Miss Chaya Feldstein from the class of 2000 dedicated much of her time to this effort. On the night of the event, thanks to Mrs. Eileen Fine, 7th graders were giving tours around the new TAG. Oh, how the school has changed through the years! Gone were the playground and trailers. In were the new gym, new classrooms, rooftop playgrounds and a pool. Current high school students, thanks to Morah

Judowitz, set up the gym, which was bathed in blue lights, courtesy of Mrs. Dina Rogoff (Tempelman). The current students then greeted the former students as they entered the event. Mrs. Sax opened up the program by thanking her co-chairwoman, Mrs. Edna Ershowsky, and all of those that made the reunion a reality. She then introduced Rabbi Meyer Weitman. Rabbi Weitman reminisced about his father, Rabbi Moshe Weitman, z”l. He told them about his father’s experience in the early days of TAG. He then gave his own thoughts about the alumnae coming back to TAG. He noted that the Torah was given in the midbar. For the Jews to thrive in the midbar, they had to work together. He expressed his hope that the newly formed alumnae association functions as a group that will help each other in areas of need, as well as share each other’s simchos. It was a special zchus to have Rebbetzin Toby Weitman in attendance that night. Rabbi Weitman then introduced Dr. Moshe Katz, one of the founders and current president of TAG. Dr. Katz expressed his amazement at what TAG had become since its inception. David Jasse, a current parent at TAG, produced a video about the history of TAG. It was, indeed, very moving to see how TAG evolved over the course of fifty years. Rabbi Lovett than addressed the crowd. He noted that there were families that represent three generations of students in the school. There are also many alumnae that have started their second generation here. He observed that many former talmidos have taken what they have learned in TAG and now are teaching new generations. Mrs. Michal Klerer (Zakheim) from the class of 1996 was the last speaker. She read a letter from Mr. Aufrichtig who could not be there that night, to his students. He noted that this was his own 40th anniversary with TAG. The audience laughed and waxed nostalgic as Mrs. Klerer then expressed her own thoughts on how her own perspective changed throughout the years. She contrasted the thoughts she had when she was a student and her understanding of those same events eighteen

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On May 5th, 250 TAG alumnae joined together and celebrated fifty years of shared memories. Mrs. Tziporah Sax (Goldstein) from the class of 1998 and Mrs. Edna Ershowsky (Naamat) from the class of 2005 co-hosted a truly wonderful evening. Students representing classes from the 1970s through 2012 were there to meet their classmates and teachers. (Our very first graduates from the class of 1969 actually had their reunion at our annual dinner.) The attendees came from many locations. While many alumnae still live locally, there were those who travelled from Lakewood, Edison, Monsey, Brooklyn, and Queens to celebrate TAG’s 50th anniversary. Mrs. Esther Katz (Erps) from the class of 1980 even came from Kiamisha Lake in upstate New York. Rabbi Meyer Weitman, Rabbi Baruch Lovett, Mrs. Tzipporah Sax, and Mrs. Edna Ershowsky had a meeting many months ago. It was agreed that the 50th anniversary was an opportune time to bring everyone home! They decided that rather than greet the alumnae at TAG’s annual dinner, there would be an event exclusively for them. Next, a reunion committee was formed. The co-chair-

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years later. She spoke of her warm bond with the administration, morahs and teachers. She also spoke of friendships that started in TAG that now spread out across the country. She expressed her hakaras hatov for her years here. The program ended with an alumnae video that was produced by our very own Rabbi Yair Hoffman. It was a look back at

TAG’s former students in all their glory. The reunion was a resounding success. Even though the official program was over about 8:10, many were not in a rush to leave; not even the ones that travelled to be there. The last one out was gone at about 9:30. Mrs. Dassy Kwestel (Sohn) remarked, “The best part of the night was seeing the growth of TAG.  As fun as it was to see ‘old’ friends and ‘young’ teachers, the tour of the building was the highlight.  When I graduated in 1985 with

27 other girls, the building did not look like it does now! The physical growth of the building as well as the growth in the number of students is astounding. They say that a parent reaps what it sows – and nowhere is that saying more evident than in Rabbi Moshe Weitman pouring his heart and soul into the girls that have now become Jewish mothers. The only thing missing from the night was him!”   Mrs. Rivky Keilson (Brickman) who is a former talmidah and current first grade teacher in TAG, said, “The reunion was a truly special evening. The feeling of friendship was quite palpable. It rekindled the sparks that were ignited so many years ago. To see our beloved teachers of yesteryear was amazing. We were able to awaken within us all the lessons that they inculcated into us that now truly shape who we and our families have become.” Many are inquiring as to what is next. Now that everyone was back together, when can we do it again? Mrs. Sax and Mrs. Ershowsky hope soon. They are now brainstorming about the next event. Stay tuned. At the end of the evening, many people, many years later, were back in high school. Maybe the old saying is wrong. Maybe you can go home again.


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Top Row (L-R) DRS Menahel Rabbi Yisroel Kaminetsky, Ahron Rubel, Alex Selesny, Benji Fink, Josh Libin, Yaakov Hawk, Zack Weiss, Yaakov Hagler, Benjamin Watman, DRS Principal Dr. Gerald Kirshenbaum, DRS Student Activities Director Rabbi Eli Brazil. Bottom Row (L-R) Josh Friedman, Elly Deutsch, Daniel Schein, David Lauer, Josh Fagin

This past Sunday, DRS held its third annual Nidivei Lev Service Society induction ceremony. This special ceremony recognizes those DRS students that have shown exemplary service to their community and school through extraordinary acts of chessed and kindness. The ceremony honored thirteen members of the senior class who have served their school and larger community with great distinction. The ceremony was attended by the entire student body, as well as faculty and parents. Rabbi Moshe Teitelbaum, Mora D’Asra of the Young Israel of Lawrence and Cedarhurst, served as the keynote speaker, and he praised the students on their commitment to serving others. What made the program truly unique was that the students were given awards by the directors and founders of many of the organizations that were the beneficiaries of the great chessed.   Mr. Jonathan Cooper, Director of Student Services/Administrator at KULANU, presented an award to Benjamin Watman for his four years of volunteer work with the organization. Rabbi Natan Farber and Rabbi Dov Emerson acknowledged the hard work and efforts that both Daniel Schein and Zack Weiss do on behalf of the students of DRS by going above and beyond, helping out in school in any way possible. David Lauer was honored by Mrs. Jessica Katz of the Yad Leah organization, for his hard work in running a clothing driver to collect coats for the needy in Eretz Yisroel. Yaakov Hawk’s

tremendous fundraising efforts on behalf of the Masbiah Soup Kitchen was recognized by its director, Mr. Alexander Rappaport. Dr. Neal Goldberg of the Lev Laytzan Foundation recognized the work of Benji Fink, Josh Fagin, and Josh Friedman who put smiles on children’s faces in hospitals by acting as hospital clowns. Mrs. Batsheva Borenstein spoke of Yaakov Hagler, Ahron Rubel, and Josh Libin’s amazing work with the children of the Chabad Friendship Circle. Finally, Mr. Andy Lauber of Chai Lifeline’s iShine program for siblings and children of those fighting cancer commended Elly Deutsch and Alex Selesny on their exemplary leadership and selflessness in working with the children on the program. DRS Menahel Rabbi Kaminetsky noted that all of the participants and guests were profoundly moved by the event: “Having been the beneficiaries of our students’ chessed programs here today has shown all of our students that when they give of themselves, they can absolutely change another person’s life.” Rabbi Kaminetsky began the program by thanking DRS Director of Student Activities, Rabbi Eli Brazil, who coordinates all of the chessed activities that happen in DRS. Rabbi Brazil noted that “this program is important not only because it gives recognition to those have who have devoted their energy to helping others, but it also serves as an inspiration for our younger students to hopefully follow in the footsteps of these student leaders in giving back to the community.”


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L-R Rabbi Korn, Rabbi Bressler, and Rabbi Goldwasser

The annual breakfast of Kollel Tiferes Avos under the leadership of Rabbi Dov Bressler brought out a banner crowd as all groups within the Far Rockaway-Five Towns communities were represented. A plethora of rabbonim graced the dais as the MC, Rabbi Bezalel Korn, introduced the honorees, Mr. Yossie Ross and Mr. Nathan Finkiel, who both spoke expansively about the contribution that the Kollel has made to their lives. Mr. Ross, an insurance executive, elaborated on the in-depth learning he engages in until almost noon, when he begins his business day. The input of his learning carries him through the day and has even improved his business. Mr. Finkiel, a retired mathematician, spoke about the clarity, depth, and halachic implication of each gemara studied at the Kollel. The highlight of the morning was the

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Community Hands On Study of the Benefits of Trees at Kulanu

Ms. Kraker and her students at Kulanu celebrated Earth Day by planting a tree in Kulanu’s Center for Special Services side yard. As a class, they have been studying the benefits of trees to our environment. The students have learned that trees are a necessary part of life since they provide us fresh air to breathe, a provider of shade when it is hot outside and our best natural resource for making a variety of everyday items. The students worked collaboratively to plant the beautiful Japanese Flowering Cherry Tree. Max, a student whom is graduating this year, stated, “Digging through the soil and rocks was hard work, but a lot of fun.”  Kulanu students and staff plan to plant another tree next year and are eager to watch their first tree grow.

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Rabbi Bressler and Mr. Ross

featured address by Rabbi Dovid Goldwasser, Morah D’asra of Kahal Bnai Yitzchok, Brooklyn who elaborated on the elevated life experience by those who learn every day. He commended all those who participate in the Kollel which provides sessions on gemara, Halacha, and Parsha during weekday mornings, evenings, and Shabbos. For those who are interested in participating, please contact Rabbi Dov Bressler at BBRESSLER@Touro.Edu.

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Rav Dressler explains, in discussing the concept of being “nosei b’ol,” sharing your friend’s burden, that Hashem gave each person a talent of artistry, what we would call “imagination.” This was given to man to help him interact properly with other people. When interacting with another person one can “activate” the power of imagination and try to figure out how this person is feeling now and what would be helpful for him in this situation. “Imagine how it feels” is a technique that takes a person out of his own perspective and helps to put him in the “shoes” of the other person. “Experiencing” the situation from the other’s point of view leads to understanding. Many interactions with other people can have some element of negativity which can cause one to walk away feeling hurt or angry. When trying to “imagine how it feels,” to be the other person, the result is a better understanding of the situation. Often, there can also be a lower intensity in the anger, frustration or hurt felt from the interaction, and at times, even kinder feelings towards the other. This skill is helpful in many cases, whether one is dealing with a grumpy checkout clerk, an angry delivery man, a demanding customer, a late repair man, a collector at the door, etc. It can help one act and react in

a proper manner to the situation at hand. This is an especially effective technique in marriage. This is because the better one knows a person and a situation, the more complete and detailed picture one can imagine, and clarity and understanding will be all the greater. There are very few people that one knows as well as a spouse and although it may be hard to honestly put one in his/her shoes; doing so can be very enlightening and helpful to the relationship.  When a person works on stopping the “first reaction” to a situation, and tries to view it from “in the others shoes”  instead, he will succeed in not only avoiding unnecessary arguments, but also, increasing closeness which comes from a better understanding of the other.  Five Towns Marriage Initiative provides educational programs, workshops and referrals to top marriage therapists. FTMI will help offset counseling costs when necessary and also runs an anonymous shalom bayis hotline for the entire community Sunday, Tuesday and Thursday evenings, 10:00-11:00 p.m. For the hotline or more information, call 516-430-5280 or email dsgarry@ msn.com.


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Students Rally to Call for the Ouster of United Nations Human Rights Representative For His Anti-Semitic and Anti-American Bias Approximately 200 students and faculty members from the Rambam Mesivta rallied outside of the United Nations today to call for the immediate ouster of Richard Falk, the Human Rights Special Appointee who recently stated that the terrorist attack in Boston was a form of “retribution” that we in the United States should expect for our support of Israel and for the “torture” that American soldiers inflict with drone attacks in Afghanistan. Richard Falk has a long-standing history of anti-American and antiSemitic vitriol. Last year he posted a cartoon on his website that depicted a dog wearing a Star of David as a skullcap and an emblazoned USA

sweater urinating on the Lady of Justice and devouring a child. Falk denied that the cartoon was anti-Semitic before he removed the cartoon from his website. The Rambam students received letters of support from members of Congress including representative Mike Kelly of Pennsylvania who wrote, “As our country deals with the aftermath the Boston bombings, it is outrageous and unacceptable that an appointed official at the United Nations Human Rights Council would assert that the attack was in any way justified. As an elected official who cares deeply about the defense of our country’s dignity, I thank you for you are doing today and pray that it will help lead to change.”

Congressman Doug Lamborn of Colorado joined the students “in expressing outrage and indignation over the remarks of the top United Nations Human Rights official who blamed the Boston terror attacks on ‘American global dominion and Tel Aviv.’” At the rally, students chanted forcefully and in unison “Kick him out,” “Stop the bias— stop the hate,” “Falk—take a walk,” and “Blame the terrorists not the victims.” According to rally organizer, Rabbi Zev Meir Friedman, “It is an important part of chinuch to teach talmidim to speak out against anti-Semitism and defend Klal Yisrael. We are about to celebrate Chag haShavous by learning night and day but we also

must remember that the same Moshe Rabbeinu who was sent by Hashem to give us the Torah was the same Moshe Rabbeinu who killed the Mitzri who threatened the Jew. Learning Torah is of paramount importance but we cannot turn a blind eye to the suffering of another Jew or of a potential threat to Klal Yisrael.” Students hope that the pressure created by the rally which was covered by many New York news outlets coupled with the outrage expressed by members of Congress contacted by the students will culminate in the removal of Falk from his position as a Human Rights Representative of the United Nations.


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Harry tells his doctor that he is very concerned that his wife Sadie is losing her hearing. “I’ll have my nurse make an appointment for her, but in the meantime, there’s a simple, informal test you can run to give us an idea how bad the problem is,” his doctor says. “Here’s what you do: start out about 40 feet away from her, and in a normal, conversational, speaking tone say something and see if she hears you. If not, go to 30 feet, then 20 feet, and so on until you get a response.” That evening, Sadie is in the kitchen cooking dinner, and Harry is in the living room. In a normal tone, Harry asks, “Honey, what’s for supper?” No response. So Harry moves to the other end of the room and repeats, “Honey, what’s for supper?” Still no response. Next he moves into the dining room. “Honey, what’s for supper? Sadie, do you hear me?” No response, so he walks up to the kitchen door. “What’s for supper?” Again there is no response, so he walks right up behind her. “Honey, what’s for supper?” To which Sadie responds: “For the fifth time, Harry, MEATBALLS!”

Riddle Ms. Greatmom bought each of her four children two candies at a Memorial Day fair. Yosef had an orange candy. The child who had a red candy also had a blue one. No child had two candies of the same color. The child who had a green candy also had a red one. Aviva didn’t have a red candy and Dovid had a green one. Miri didn’t have an orange one and Yosef had no blue candy. Knowing that there were two candies of each color, can you tell the colors of the sweets each child had? Answers on next page

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1. Wife goes to the supermarket to buy the food. 2. Wife makes the salad, prepares the vegetables, and makes dessert. 3. Wife prepares the meat for cooking, places it on a tray along with the necessary cooking utensils and sauces, and takes it to Husband who is lounging beside the grill. 4. HUSBAND PLACES THE MEAT ON THE GRILL. 5. Wife goes inside to organize the plates and cutlery. 6. Wife comes out to tell Husband that the meat is burning. He thanks her and says, “This is some serious work!” after taking a sip of his iced tea. 7. HUSBAND TAKES SOME OF THE MEAT OFF THE GRILL AND HANDS IT TO WIFE.

8. Wife prepares the plates, salad, bread, utensils, napkins, sauces and brings them to the table. 9. HUSBAND WIPES HIS FORWHEAD WITH THE DISH TOWEL SHOVED IN HIS WASTEBAND... KNOCKS DOWN A HOTDOG IN THREE BITES, WHILE POURING HIMSELF A CUP OF FRESCA AND HYSTERICALLY SHAKING HIS HEAD FROM SIDE TO SIDE IN ADMIRATION OF HIS OWN BARBEQUEING SKILLS. 10. Wife entertains the guests. 11. Everyone at barbeque showers man with praise. “Nobody knows how to BBQ like you,” they say (knowing that if they don’t say that, they won’t be invited back for another barbeque next year). 12. HUSBAND ASKS WIFE HOW SHE ENJOYED HER NIGHT OFF.


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2. Who did the U.S. fight in the War of 1812? a. Mexico b. Spain c. France d. Britain

4. What was Woodrow Wilson’s campaign slogan when he ran for re-election in 1916? a. Peace, Progress, Prosperity b. Secure Our Homeland First c. Don’t Swap Horses in the Middle of the Stream d. He Kept Us out of War 5. Which U.S. soldier was the highest ranking officer captured by North Korean troops in the Korean War? a. Major General William F. Dean b. Lt. General Levon D. Smeth c. Lt. General Jean McArthur d. Sergeant John McCain

3. On June 6th, 1944, American troops invaded the beaches of Normandy during World War II. What country is Normandy in? a. France b. Japan c. Italy d. Poland

6. In which war did the U.S. suffer the most deaths? a. World War II b. Vietnam War c. Civil War d. World War I

Answers: 1. C- In 1964, as the Civil War raged and thousands of soldiers were dying, the Union government needed a cemetery to bury its dead. The Union occupied Arlington and the Arlington Estate of Confederate General Robert E. Lee was the most suitable property in the area. The property was high and free from floods, it had a view of the District of Columbia, and it was aesthetically pleasing. Denying Robert E. Lee use of his home after the war was also a valuable political consideration. 2. D- The War of 1812 is often considered to be the “forgotten war.” Some facts that were not forgotten: The White House and Capitol were burned to the ground during the invasion of Washington, DC. First Lady Dolly Madison garnered fame for saving a portrait of George Washington before flames engulfed the president’s home. In 1814, Francis Scott Key wrote “The Star Spangled Banner” while watching the British bombardment of Fort McHenry in Baltimore Harbor.

3. A 4. D 5. A- On July 20, 1950, Major General Dean became separated from his men during battle. He hid alone in the woods around the countryside during the day and traveled at night for over a month. On August 25, 1950, after a hand-to-hand struggle with fifteen North Koreans, he was captured. General Dean had no contact with the outside world until he was interviewed on December 18, 1951 by an Australian, Wilfred Burchett, who was a correspondent for Le Soir, a French left-wing newspaper. This was the first time that anyone had any idea that General Dean was alive since being reported missing in action. He was released in 1953 and showered with military and civilian honors. General Dean, however, insisted he was no hero but “just a dogface soldier.” 6. C- 625,000 soldiers died in the Civil War, amounting to 1.988% of the total population of 32,000,000 American citizens. The second deadliest war was World

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7. In World War II, who was the Supreme Commander of the Allied Forces who directed the D-Day invasion and announced its start by saying, “OK, we’ll go”? a. Dwight D. Eisenhower b. George S. Patton c. Matthew B. Ridgway d. Douglas Macarthur 8. Which of the following was the U.S.’s longest war? a. Vietnam War b. World War II c. Revolutionary War d. War in Afghanistan

War II, in which we lost 405,399 soldiers, amounting to .307% of the total population. 7. A-Plans were delayed for a couple days because of bad weather, until Gen. Eisenhower finally gave the order. 8. A-The Vietnam conflict between the communist government of North Vietnam and its allies in South Vietnam, known as the Viet Cong, against the government of South and its principal ally, the United States, lasted from 1954 through 1975. America’s direct military involvement was from 1965 to 1973. The second longest is the Afghanistan War, which started in 2001 and is still being fought. Wisdom key: 6-8 correct: You are a war buff! 3-5 correct: You are wishy washy. You probably think the “Cold War” has something to do with a beer commercial. 3-5 correct: You dodged the intelligence draft.

Answer to riddle: Yosef had an orange and a green candy. Aviva had orange and a blue candies. Miri had a red and a blue candy. Dovid had a green and a red one.

1. What was the grounds of Arlington National Cemetery before it became a cemetery? a. It was Thomas Jefferson’s farm b. It was an army base c. It was Confederate General Robert E. Lee’s plantation d. It was a hunting grounds

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Hishtadlus for a Dvar Mitzvah This is the workmanship of the menorah, hammered out of gold, from it base to its flower, it is hammered out; according to the vision that HASHEM showed Moshe, so did he make the Menorah. — Bamidbar 8:4 Moshe Rabbeinu was charged with the construction of the Mishkan, the dwelling place of Hashem in this world. While the components of the structure are physically complex, the kavanos — the specific intentions required during the process of building it — are even more intricate. The most complicated of all of the vessels was the menorah. Its design was so elaborate that even after Hashem taught Moshe how it was to be built, Moshe still didn’t understand its unique nature and was unable to form it. Therefore, Hashem showed Moshe an image of a menorah made of fire so that Moshe could actually see the finished form and imitate it. Yet Rashi tells us that when it came time for the construction of the menorah, Moshe still could not fathom its structure and was unable to fabricate it. Hashem said, “Throw the clump of gold into the fire, and it will form by itself.” This is how the menorah was created — on its own. This Rashi is perplexing. Since the menorah was so intricate that Moshe could not understand its inner nature and how to form it, then why did Hashem bother to show him the image of the menorah in fire? Hashem knew that Moshe wasn’t going to be able to create the menorah himself. He knew that in the end it would have to come about by Moshe’s throwing the clump of gold

into the fire. If so, why did Hashem show Moshe the image of the menorah so that he should understand how it was to be formed? Clearly, creating the menorah was beyond human capacity. Why did Moshe need to have a clear image of what it was to look like?

has been set on Rosh Hashanah. We go to doctors when we are sick, even though we know that our health is determined solely by Hashem. We are obligated to go to great lengths to protect ourselves even though we know that whether we live or die has been predetermined. We put in our effort, knowing all the while that it is

We put in our effort, knowing all the while that it is Hashem’s world and that He alone determines the outcome. Balance of Bitachon and Hishtadlus The answer to this question is predicated on understanding the balance between Hashem’s involvement in the running of the world and man’s obligation to put in his effort — the balance between bitachon and hishtadlus. One of the basic facts of life is that Hashem runs this world. While it may appear that man is in charge, Hashem orchestrates every activity on the planet. As we say in the first Ani Mamin: “Hashem did, does and will do all actions.” The question is: what is man’s part? If Hashem determines all outcomes, how is man supposed to act? What is his role? The Chovos Ha’Levovos teaches us that we are obligated to act b’derech hatevah – in the ways of the world. In other words, we are obligated to go through the motions as if the results are dependent upon us, knowing all the while that the outcome is completely out of our hands. We work for a living, knowing that the amount of money we are to make

Hashem’s world and that He alone determines the outcome. When we accomplish something, the results are credited to us even though we are fully aware that Hashem was the One Who did it all. We merely went through the motions. We use Hashem’s system, and are credited with having done it. If I feed my family, I am considered their supporter. If I give tzedakah, it is considered that I gave my own money and I am credited with having saved a poor man from starvation. In Hashem’s system, we are credited with the outcome. This seems to be the answer to the question on Rashi. Hashem wanted the menorah to be constructed by man. However, even the greatest of men couldn’t comprehend how to make it. So his hishtadlus was to do all that he could and then rely on Hashem for the rest. Moshe would put the gold into the fire, and the menorah would form on its own. Moshe used the system that Hashem created to bring forth the menorah. However, for the creation of the menorah to be credited to man, Moshe had to at least have a vision of what it was that he was creating. Once he had that concept in mind, throwing the clump of gold into the fire was considered as if he made the menorah himself. It was then considered as if he used Hashem’s system to bring about this result. If Moshe didn’t have a clear vision of what it was that he was creating, then in no sense could it be considered something he made — it would have been the fire that made it. Once he knew what it was that he was setting out to make, he then harnessed a force that Hashem created to bring about that result. In this case, the force was the

fire bringing about the menorah. In Our Lives This concept has great relevance to us in a number of ways. The first is that in all of our involvement in this world, we need to have a clear plan of action, a “business plan” that according to the ways of the world makes sense. With that in hand, we set off on a path with a vision of its fulfillment, all the while knowing that the outcome is completely in the hands of Hashem. Nevertheless, there are many situations in which we reach a point where there is no clear path to follow. Whether it be deciding from two almost identical career choices, determining which medical “expert” to listen to, or deciding which school to enroll our children in, we are obligated to be responsible, use our best judgment, and determine according to the ways of the world what is the best approach. Once we have reached that point, we “throw our clump of gold into the fire.” We rely on Hashem to bring about the results that He has predetermined to be the best for us. However, this Rashi seems to be showing us that when it comes to a Dvar Mitzvah, the rules change somewhat. There will be times when a person sets out to accomplish something for the tzibbur, whether it be starting a Yeshiva, giving a shiur, or beginning a chessed project, and he sees no clear path to follow. Either the odds against it are too great, or the mountain is too high to climb, and he can’t see how to make this happen. If this were a mundane project, it could be that he wouldn’t be allowed to move forward. However, if this is a holy project, then the rules of engagement change a bit. Provided, that he has a clear image of what it is that he setting out to accomplish, and he has an image of the finished product, he may be permitted to step forward and allow Hashem to bring things about. He has to throw his lump of gold into the fire, relying on Hashem to bring his efforts into fruition.

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If at First You Don’t Succeed callousness and lack of respect for her. “If he can’t even get out of the car to come get me,” she said, “I’m not going.” Her cousin dutifully brought the message back down to the waiting young man. “Suri says she isn’t coming down.”

you ask the same question again? If you would clarify your question, and say, ‘OK, but can you tell me…’ perhaps you would get what you want. This way, she will just respond as she did before.” I thought about this during sefira,

Disappointments may just be G-d’s way of saying, “You need to try something else.”

Perturbed, the young man smacked the steering wheel and said, “Oh, come on! They ALWAYS say that!” While we may chuckle at this poor fellow’s oblivion to what he was doing wrong, we should realize that we’re not all that different. Albert Einstein is quoted as saying: “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results.” I noticed that in real life, we do just that. When my girls were younger, I had an epiphany one day when one asked the other a question. Her sister answered with a generic reply, but the questioner, looking for precise information, began to get annoyed. She raised her voice and asked THE EXACT SAME QUESTION! I asked her, “Sweetie, if you didn’t like the answer she gave you, why did

when I counted the same way I have counted for years, making my way to forty-nine nights, but not really feeling a difference. Shouldn’t something have happened? Shouldn’t I have seen some result after another year of counting? But that’s just it – it was “another year of counting.” My Shemona Esrai isn’t much different. Do I think about what I’m saying or just expect that saying the words is enough? We often feel that if we go through the motions of something, a result will magically appear

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from some external force and we will receive a great benefit. What we often fail to realize is that we can’t change the world; we can only change our reactions to it. If we don’t get what we hoped, then we need to change how we go about our attempts to get it, or at least our expectations of what we need to get. One of the most useful products in the “home handyman’s toolkit” is WD40. As they say, all you need is duct tape and WD-40. If something moves, duct tape it. If it won’t, use WD-40. Do you know why it’s called WD-40? Because it took the staff of Rocket Chemical Company forty tries to get the Water Displacement formula worked out. Phillips 76 got its name because the drillers came up dry 75 times in 75 other places before striking oil and finding success. What if they had kept making batches of WD-1? Or if Phillips tried drilling in the same hole time and time again, getting more and more upset that they hadn’t struck oil already? Do you think we’d have heard of these companies? Of course not. There’s a lesson in that. If we meet with disappointment, we can and should recognize that it might not have been meant to be. At the same time, that’s not to say we shouldn’t try again in a different way. Disappointments may just be G-d’s way of saying, “You need to try something else.” There’s a great quote that I’ve used as my signature on my e-mails that encapsulates this idea. “When things don’t go according to plan, change the plan.” Not to would just be insane. Jonathan Gewirtz is a freelance writer whose work has appeared in publications around the world. He also operates Jewish SpeechWriter.com, where you can order a custom-made speech for your next special occasion. For more information, or to sign up for the Migdal Ohr, his weekly PDF Dvar Torah in English, e-mail info@JewishSpeechWriter.com and put Subscribe in the subject. © 2013 by Jonathan Gewirtz. All rights reserved.

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lmost anyone who’s ever gone out on a date has some sort of “date story” about the nightmares they encountered when meeting someone for the purpose of spending their lives together. You’ll find dates who got arrested, ones who fell asleep, and everything in between. Perhaps my favorite date story is one that didn’t happen to me. A friend who lived in Brooklyn had a cousin come in from “out of town,” which for the purposes of this article shall geographically refer to any locale with fewer than six pizza shops per capita and only four shuls to choose from on your block. She was to go out with a fellow from the Brooklyn area so she traveled into New York to make it easier for him. As they waited in her cousin’s second-floor apartment, the time arrived for her date to pick her up, but he didn’t show up. After a few minutes, they heard a car unceremoniously honk outside. Now, as it was Brooklyn, a car honking was not uncommon, but after a few more tootles, my friend went down to the car. The guy behind the wheel rolled down the window and called out to him, “Yeah, I’m here to pick up Suri. Is she ready?” Stunned, my friend walked upstairs and told her this was, indeed, her date for the evening. Suri was floored by the man’s pure

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Cover Story Baila Rosenbaum

EZRA FRIEDLANDER OF THE FRIEDLANDER GROUP

The scene is the majestic Kennedy Caucus Room of the United States Senate where a gourmet luncheon is taking place; it is the Iron Dome Congressional Tribute Luncheon. There is the clink of cutlery, ubiquitous waiters and a low murmur of conversation as Members of the House of Representatives and Senators trade ideas and network with one another. The event was chaired by Robert Rechnitz, a prominent Los Angeles-based Jewish philanthropist and businessman. He is the first in a lineup of speakers who represent states across America, coming together to express their solidarity with the State of Israel and to receive tribute for their support. The luncheon progresses flawlessly, with speakers appearing in coordination, faultless sound systems, and seamless food services. Standing to the side is a man in Chassidish attire, impeccably dressed, with sharp eyes and an unobtrusive but assured demeanor. Ezra Friedlander, founder and CEO of the Friedlander Group, is running this show and, not surprisingly, it’s a success. Who is Ezra Friedlander and what exactly does he do? with President Barack Obama

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DETERMINED TO ASSIST THE JEWISH COMMUNITY

Ezra Friedlander’s journey into the world of politics began out of sheer curiosity. As a child, he was deeply influenced by the Holocaust. He never knew his grandfather, the previous Liska Rebbe, but spent many hours with his grandmother, talking over the war years and the world that had been left behind. He was equally fascinated with American history. The indifference of America to act in defense of the Jews in war-torn Europe and the lack of leadership shown by top United States officials rankled in this young man. “I always thought, ‘What would I have done if I had been alive at that time? How could I have helped?” The image of the Rabbanim that staged the “March on Washington” and whose efforts were rebuffed impressed and inspired him. The young Ezra began tracking current events and writing letters to elected officials, sharing his thoughts. “It was an innocent time,” Mr. Friedlander explains. “A time where a letter posted on a Monday brought a response a few days later. You could buy a youth-fare ticket to Washington and walk right up the steps of the Capitol.” He started building relationships and learning his way around Washington. The odyssey that would culminate in “The Friedlander Group” had begun. As an adult, Ezra Friedlander’s career started as a hobby. As a single young man, he volunteered his services. Eventually, he started working on an ad hoc basis to help organizations in need of representation. With hard work and persistence he gained expertise and acquired the techniques necessary to navigate government channels on behalf of both for-profit and non-profit clients. In time, he was working at higher and higher levels and his labor evolved into a company he named The Friedlander Group. He is completely self- taught, without a college education or internship experience and makes it a point to attribute his success to “hard work and lots and lots of mistakes.” Many of the clients that the Friedlander Group represents belong to the finest of New York’s network of chesed organizations. But Mr. Friedlander eschews the label “askan” in relation to the work he does for them. “I’m a businessman. I provide a service. If I do my job well, with professionalism and integrity, both my clients and I walk out a winner.” Ultimately, the pedigree Mr. Friedlander is most proud of is his illustrious Chassidic lineage. The label he most prefers is that of the son of the present Liska Rebbe, the Admor Rav Tzvi Hersh Friedlander shlita. Liska is a revered name in the Chasidic world and is universally regarded as one of the prominent Hungarian Chasidic courts that has appealed to the masses for close to two hundred years and is known by scholars for its sharp and vast Torah scholarship. Adhering to his father’s advice, Mr. Friedlander has never altered his traditional Chassidish style and appears on Capitol Hill in frock coat and beard. He maintains that he has never suffered from discrimination and finds official Washington very respectful of who he is. “People are professional and deferen-

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tial. When they realize I’m open about it, they are inquisitive. My look is not an advantage or a disadvantage. It does bother me a little when I’m judged by my appearance – people often assume I’m a rabbi. But I think it’s coming from a good place; it’s well-intentioned. I try to stay aware that because of my appearance I’m in a position of great responsibility. Capitol Hill is not 13th Avenue! I open doors for women; I say ‘Thank You’ and try to be extremely polite. People are more knowledgeable than you might think. I would say that in New York politics today, 99% of people on the political scene know not to shake hands among the genders.”

AN ORTHODOX MAN IN AN UNORTHODOX WORLD

On Capitol Hill, Mr. Friedlander is accustomed to meeting with members of Congress and elected officials in the highest positions. While cognizant that it is a privilege to confer with Senators and members of the House of Representatives, for Mr. Friedlander it remains “business as usual.” Meeting with the Presidents of the United States, however, falls into a far higher category. Over the course of his work Mr. Friedlander has been introduced to both Presidents Bush (“both friendly and humble men”), President Obama (“charming”), and President Clinton. “Of all the Presidents I’ve met, Bill Clinton is in a class of his own. I attended the signing ceremony for the Religious Freedom Restoration Act on the South Lawn of the White House, during the early part of the Clinton Administration. I was standing and chatting with an American-Indian woman who was there representing her reservation. When the president arrived, the atmosphere became instantly electric, vibrant! He greeted each and every guest, making direct eye contact and connecting with each individual. ‘Isn’t America a great country!’ he boomed when he met us. ‘An American-Indian and Ezra from Brooklyn standing side by side and working together!’ Mr. Clinton had this magical ability to connect emotionally; there is no rational explanation for it. I’ve met governors, senators and celebrities but have never encountered anyone as imposing and charismatic as Bill Clinton.” Meeting Bill Clinton made a deep impression but it was nowhere near the surprise the Mr. Friedlander and his wife got when they attended the White House Chanuka reception. To accommodate its many Orthodox guests, the reception was strictly kosher. A sign in the Grand Foyer assured the guests, including Supreme Courts Justices, Cabinet members and members of Congress, that all food was prepared under strict rabbinical supervision with a “mashgiach temidi, Rabbi Levi Shemtov of Chabad of Washington, DC,” and that all meats were “Chassidishe Shechitiah,” baked goods were “Pas Yisroel,” and wines were “mevushal.” Though this was remarkable in its own right, it did not compare with the

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startling conversation that followed. As Mr. Friedlander and his wife waited on the reception line in the Map Room of the White House, a military cadet, acting as usher, approached them. “Are you shomer nigiya?” he asked politely. With their astounded, “Yes!” he thanked them politely and moved off. When their turn came to greet the president, Mr. Obama extended a hand in greeting to Mr. Friedlander and First Lady Michelle Obama shook his wife’s hand. “I was blown away!” Ezra Friedlander admitted. “The cadet was deferential and discreet. The president and his wife were very cordial. This is such a great country – where our traditions are respected at this highest level of government. It should encourage us to be deserving of that respect.” Later, Mr. Friedlander’s youthful roots were evident when he was quoted describing the reception, “Attending the White House Chanukah reception is in many ways an affirmation of the how far the American Jewish community have come from the days of the pleading Rabbis on behalf of European Jewry who were refused entry through its front gates during the dark days of the Holocaust. Having a glatt kosher reception is indicative of how far Orthodox Jewry has come–and that is truly a miracle.”

“WE NEED A VOICE IN EVERY CAMP”

Ezra Friedlander’s work is both political and public; but what exactly does he do? The Friedlander Group calls itself a “boutique political firm” specializing in government advocacy, public & media relations, and political event management. Since 2001, the Friedlander Group has provided government and public relations counsel to non-profit organizations as well as corporate and foreign entities. Their list of clients is varied, including the Agudath Israel, ICare4Autism, the Flushing Bank, the Japanese Embassy and an array of political figures. The goal of the Friedlander Group is to work with their clients, helping them to advance their own unique mission. Whether the objective is a closer relationship to City Hall, assistance with state funding regulations, or a political event in Washington, the Friedlander Group knows how to connect with legislators and key decision makers relevant to their client’s cause. The company’s philosophy is that government responds to those who present themselves in a creative, imaginative, and substantive way. Just as an organization might hire an attorney to ensure the best possible legal representation, in today’s politically charged climate, many entities may feel it is important to engage a government relations specialist to represent them. Though competent to act for his clients no matter where their political affiliations lie, Mr. Friedlander clarifies his own position. “I’m not an ideologue. I think Jewish leadership should extend its influence across the board – right, left and center. We need everyone. Politically, the Jewish community is not in the

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position to dictate, control or demand the conversation. We are a minority, and the Orthodox community is a minority within a minority. We need to make sure that the issues that our communities face resonate in as many sectors as possible. We need a voice in every camp.” In the earliest years of government, when a citizen, business or organization wanted to influence a member of Congress or a senator, their representative would wait in the lobby of the House or Senate to catch their man on his way out – hence the name lobbyist. The goal was to persuade or influence a man of government to vote a certain way. Today’s lobbyists may use different techniques but the goals are the same. Mr. Friedlander and his team understand how government operates, how the delicate relationship between the public and private sector is maintained, and how individual members of government reach decisions. The staff at the Friedlander Group works with media technology on the Internet through blogs and social networks, and with print and broadcast media. Their goal is to carry their client’s message in an appropriate and professional manner to the rest of the world. Whether a candidate is running for citywide, statewide or national office, the Friedlander Group can identify sources of support that will strengthen that campaign. They connect candidates to the right people and organizations and make sure they are favorably viewed and visible, as they make their case to the people of New York and the United States. It’s not rare to find Ezra Friedlander publicly escorting political figures to chesed functions, high profile shiva visits and organized gatherings. He and his company strive to be effective liaisons that successfully bridge government and public interests.

EXPRESSING GRATITUDE FOR THOSE WHO HAVE GIVEN

The Friedlander Group has successfully coordinated events on behalf of clients to help build momentum for their programs. Some of these events include Capitol Hill luncheons, legislative breakfasts, and tours of nonprofit facilities. Most recently, the Friedlander Group coordinated an exceptional event honoring those who supported America’s commitment to help fund the State of Israel with the resources to implement the famous Iron Dome technology. Since 2009, the Obama administration and the U.S. Congress have allocated an unprecedented $275 million in funding for the Iron Dome. The Iron Dome Defense System has saved hundreds of Jewish lives threatened by a constant barrage of rocket fire. The Iron Dome Congressional Tribute was spearheaded by Robert Rechnitz, a leading Los Angeles-based Jewish philanthropist who is the principal of Bomel Companies. Mr. Rechnitz’s vision was to formally express hakorat hatov to the

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United States for standing behind the State of Israel. His objective was purely benevolent and though, at the end of the day, this was a commercial venture for the Friedlander Group, Mr. Friedlander expressed his satisfaction with the event. “It was a monumental accomplishment. The U.S./Israel relationship is as American as apple pie, and it is fitting to publicly express our gratitude for that relationship. The members of Congress and the White House officials came away from the event with a clear sense of just how much the Jewish community appreciates their support and their commitment to the Jewish State.” Another project of the Friedlander Group that remains close to Ezra Friedlander’s heart is the establishment of the Raoul Wallenberg Centennial Celebration Commission, chaired by Peter Rebenwurzel, commemorating the 100th year since the birth of Raoul Wallenberg. The Friedlander Group advocated the passage of legislation to posthumously award Wallenberg with a Congressional Gold Medal. The Group’s website describes Wallenberg and his accomplishments, “Raoul Wallenberg was a Swedish diplomat recruited by U.S. War Refugee Board to save Hungarian Jews from deportation in 1944 and was given a diplomatic passport, a large sum of money and instructions to save as many lives as possible, using any means at his disposal. He is credited with saving more than 100,000 Hungarian Jews over a period of six months by creating multiple safe houses, removing Jews from trains departing to Auschwitz, pursuing convoys carrying Jews, threatening and bribing both German and Hungarian officers, and issuing forged identification papers, including the Schutzpass, an impressive-looking but counterfeit Swedish passports.” Ezra Friedlander’s grandfather was a recipient of a “Schutzpass” passport and was among the tens of thousands of Jews saved by them. “Wallenberg was such a remarkable figure,” Ezra Friedlander elaborates. “It’s such a sad story. He saved thousands of lives and was paid by imprisonment. His death was never confirmed; there was no closure. He suffered terribly – after he had saved the lives of so many. The last known communication from him was a quote released from a Soviet prison. He asked, ‘Does the world remember me?’ This haunts me. I decided to make sure that world would indeed remember Raoul Wallenberg. There are hundreds and thousands of us who are direct descendants of the people he saved. Imagine—that’s about the entire population of Boro Park!” Lobbyist, businessman, staunch Liska Chassid, young father and devoted husband: Ezra Frielander is a multifaceted personality. Perhaps he can best be understood, not by his political persona or his professional affiliations, but by his self described philosophy. “It’s a big, complicated world – and there’s enough

“Isn’t America a great country? An American-Indian and Ezra from Brooklyn standing side by side and working together!”

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out there for everybody. Don’t be petty and small-minded. You can live and work in an honorable way and still be a success. Work hard, be professional; be kind and considerate. The world is a very round place and you never know when something might come back at you. We can all improve; I’ve certainly made my share of mistakes. You can rise above mistakes. Be humble; be easy, accessible and welcoming. I’m amazed when I meet some of the most powerful people in Washington, people that control billions of dollars, and they’re humble and unassuming. Conversely, I’ve met many a local official who are full of themselves and need to make a big noise. Belong to the former category. Be a role model. Serve your community and your country.” It’s a tall order, but Ezra Friedlander is a self-made man who puts these lessons into practice and lives up to the model he endorses.

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Rabbi Chaplain Herschel Schacter 1917-2013

Healer of the Broken Spirits of the Jews of Buchenwald

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any soldiers that are sent into Herschel attended YU and graduated He was directed to a battle are actually behind the in 1938 and three years later received barracks in a smaller lines. smicha from enclosed area that was During WWII, Rav Yosef Dov jammed with Jews who only one in sevS o l o v e i t c h i k . were barely alive. As he en American He joined the stood there trying to figservicemen and army and having ure out what these Jews women actually the proper cre- had gone through, he fought. The ones dentials (an ad- shouted, “Shalom alethat were sent to vanced Talmudic ichem, Yidden, yir zent the front lines degree, smicha), frey (you are free)!” The were trained and was appointed Yidden still couldn’t behad first-rate as a chaplain in lieve that their gehenweapons. (This the VIII Corps in nom on earth was finally is generally true, General Patton’s over, and kept on asking Children and youths being led by American soldiers to a hospital although Amerhim if the Nazis were Third Army. after liberation of the Buchenwald concentration camp ican weapons The Allies really gone. He repeated during WWII is a invaded France “yir zent frey” throughout the camp unWalking through the mound of story for another in June 1944 til many people were walking behind corpses, the chaplain saw movement Rabbi Chaplain Herschel Schacter time.) However, and were soon him savoring their first taste of free- and approached a little boy. The boy there were two types of men (women pushing forward towards Germany. dom in many years. Another survivor was afraid because he had never seen weren’t allowed on the front) that were The Nazis made one last offensive in recounts seeing an American tank driv- an American in uniform before and sent to the front but had no weapons thought it was another man who was training and weren’t armed. These going to inflict a new type of torture. were the medics and chaplains of the Schacter picked up the little boy and army. Medics were despised during asked him his name. “Lulek” was the “I haven’t laughed in a long time, training but were universally praised reply. and I don’t even cry anymore. So which one during battle where they displayed Schacter then asked him age. Luamazing bravery and heroism trying to lek replied, “What difference does it of us is older?” Lulek answered. save the lives of their fellow soldiers. make? I am older than you.” (He was Chaplains were there to provide relieight-years-old.) gious services to the dead and dying “Why do you think that you are and to provide hope and comfort to older?” There were tears in the rabbi’s men who were wounded or just need- December 1944 called the Battle of the ing around the camp, and the voice of eyes. ed to hear a consoling voice. They also Bulge. With the defeat of his best forc- Rabbi Schacter was heard saying, “Yid“Because you cry and laugh like showed amazing amounts of bravery es and the Russians coming in a venge- den kim aheim” (Yidden come home). a child,” Lulek answered. “I haven’t in battle, like the chaplain on D-Day ful force from the east, Hitler ym”sh (June 6, 1944) who dodged bullets to and his armies were shattered. The bring medical supplies for the criti- dictator committed suicide on April 30, cally wounded and helped the medics 1945, and the German army signed the in every way. Chaplain Alexander D. unconditional surrender documents on Goode drowned when he gave his life May 7, 1945. The war was over but the Allies vest to another sailor. Rabbi Chaplain Herschel Schacter (not to be confused were just starting to uncover the tragwith the current Rosh Yeshiva of Ye- edy and horrors of the Holocaust. On shiva University) was one of the first April 11, the Third Army entered Buto liberate Buchenwald and stayed to chenwald located near Weimar, Gerprovide all types of services for fellow many, and Rabbi Schacter was the first Yidden who had suffered terrible trag- chaplain to accompany the troops into the camp. He arrived about an hour afedies during the Holocaust. Rabbi Schacter was born in 1917 in ter liberation. As Schacter entered the camp, he Brownsville, New York, as the youngest of ten children, and his father was saw no sign of life and asked an army Rabbi Schacter leading Shavuos davening in Buchenwald in 1945 a seventh generation shochet. Young officer if any Jews were still alive.


great love for the Jews but when he saw Buchenwald, he ordered all the citizens of Weimar to march through the camp and see for themselves what their “great” leader had done for humanity just a short distance from their own homes. (The citizens claimed that they never knew it was a concentration camp.) After helping the Yidden in postwar Europe as much as he was able to, Herschel Schacter left the army with the rank of captain. He returned to the Bronx in 1947 and was the rav of the Mosholu Jewish Center until its closing in 1999. Even though he was out of the

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army, Rabbi Schacter still was helping Jews worldwide. In 1956, he went to the USSR to lead a rabbinic delegation and came back to the US with a group of Hungarian refugees from Austria. He was niftar on March 21, 2013 at the age of 95. Herschel Schacter will always be remembered for his kind and loving demeanor that was so badly needed by the survivors of Buchenwald in 1945.

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el to become the Ashkenazi chief rabbi. Rabbi Schacter stayed in Buchenwald for two months helping the Yidden put their lives back together. April 27, 1945 was Pesach Sheini, and since the prisoners couldn’t celebrate Pesach a month earlier, Schacter distributed matzah to the survivors. He started delivering a speech that he prepared when of the prisoners became visibly upset. He said how dare anyone stand up there and say, “We know what you have gone through” when he himself didn’t suffer through the atrocities. Schacter then moved his fist to his chest and said, “Chatosi, uvisi, poshati… Please may have I your forgiveness?” The man ran up to him and hugged him for a while. After that everyone made the brocha of achilas matzah for the first time in years. As a chaplain in the army, he was expected to tend to the spiritual needs of American servicemen, but during those two months in Buchenwald it was about helping the suffering Yidden in any way possible. There is a photo (presumably taken by a non-Jewish American soldier) of Schacter leading the Shavuos davening in the camp. Schacter was instrumental in helping thousands of Yidden relocate from war-torn Europe (it was very hard for many of them because it was the only home they had even known). Most of the Jews were sent to Eretz Yisrael or to the United States. In June 1945, he accompanied a group of children from Buchenwald to Switzerland. The Swiss government said that only 350 children under the age of 16 would be allowed in but Rabbi Schacter only found 250 children in Buchenwald. With the help of another chaplain, more children were found and the train left with 279 chil-

dren but another 171 Jewish children including older teenagers found their way as stowaways with the chaplain’s help. About of 100 were left in France (Schacter made sure that they were cared for properly), and the train entered Switzerland with 348 passengers. Initially they were detained because there were teens above sixteen-yearsold onboard but eventually they were let into the country. (The heroic efforts of other American Jewish chaplains is a topic for another time.) The American response to the horrors of the death and concentration camps was that of shock and disbelief. General Patton wasn’t known for his

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Jewish History Larry Domnitch

The Twentieth of Sivan

A Day Commemorating the Tragedies of Eastern and Western Europe

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he 20th of day of the month of Sivan (chof Sivan) has been designated by sages in two different eras to be a day of fasting and commemoration. There are certainly other days devoted to Jewish remembrance. The ninth of Av commemorates many tragedies that befell the Jews—the destruction of the two Temples of Jerusalem and the fall of the Judean commonwealth to Rome. In modern times, the twenty-seventh day of Nissan has been designated as Yom HaShoah to commemorate the victims of the Nazi Holocaust. The 20th of Sivan commemorates tragedies that befell the Jews of Western and Eastern Europe in different eras. In 1171, tragedy struck the Jewish community of Blois, France. Horrific blood libel accusations which had been leveled on several occasions in England had made its way to France. A local Christian claimed that he saw a Jew throw the corpse of a child into the river Loire. The corpse was never found, but the testimony was accepted. The town’s approximately forty Jews were arrested, and offered the choice of accepting baptism or death. Despite threats and torture, they did not yield. On the 20th of Sivan, thirty-two Jews, seventeen of them women, were burnt at the stake. Rabbi Ephraim Ben Yaakov of Bonn wrote that the 20th of Sivan was decreed by the greatest Torah sage of that era, Rabbi Yaakov son of Meir Tam (Rabbeinu Tam), as a fast day for Jews living in France, the Rhineland, (Western Germany), and England. Rabbeinu Tam wrote letters to Jewish communities declaring that day to be one of “atonement.” The decree of Rabbeinu Tam was foreboding. Many more such tragic events followed causing immense suffering and torment to Jewish communities throughout Europe. Many Jews fled to Eastern Europe where they continued to observe that fast day. Tragically, blood libels eventually made their way to that region as well. The Jews of Eastern Europe would also be compelled to observe this date of remembrance for other tragedies in their own region. In 1648, the Ukrainian Cossack leader Bogdan Chmielnizki incited a rebellion against Poland. Chmielnitzki’s forces combined with Tartar allies of Mongolia routing the Polish army at Yellow River on May 19, 1648, and Hard Plank on May 26. The Polish defeat was a disaster for the Jews of the Ukraine. During the revolt, Chmielnitzki’s Cossacks unleashed their fury against the Jews of the Ukraine and surrounding areas. In the ensuing pogroms, many Jewish communities were wiped out. Hundreds of thousands were murdered, severely wounded, or refugees facing

starvation and disease. Rabbi Nathan Neta Hanover , a contemporary chronicler of the events of this era known as Tach VeTat, an acronym for the years (1648-1649), reported that the first attack against a large Jewish community was in the city of Nemirov. Jews from surrounding villages had gathered there from smaller villages for refuge. Just days earlier on Shabbos, the head of the city’s Yeshiva, Rabbi Yechiel Michael son of Rabbi Eliezer, told the community that if the enemy should arrive, the people must defy them if they demand baptism— even at the cost of their lives. As Cossacks troops were nearing Nemirov, its Jews trembled in fear as they locked themselves within the city walls. As the soldiers drew nearer, they unfurled Polish flags to give the impression that they

ta” massacres of 1767-1768, in which the Jewish community lost tens of thousands in and around the city of Uman. In 1881, and in 1903-1905, pogroms were again unleashed in which Ukrainian nationalists participated. During the First World War, Ukrainian Cossacks initiated pogroms against Jewish communities in Poland and Galitzia causing massive devastation. In 1919, a civil war positioned Ukrainians in pursuit of independence, and Russian nationalists, against the revolutionary Red Army. Again Ukrainian Jewry was caught in the middle, and forced to suffer horrific massacres. Hundreds of thousands of the over one million Jews of the Ukraine were again devastated by massacres, starvation, disease, and homelessness. Again, in 1941/1942, Ukrainian Nationalists assisted the Nazis in conducting horrific “aktions” against the Jews.

During the First World War, Ukrainian Cossacks initiated pogroms against Jewish communities in Poland and Galitzia causing massive devastation.

were Polish troops coming to their rescue. The Poles within the city were notified of this ruse and collaborated with the Cossacks in order to save their own lives. They falsely informed the Jews guarding the gates that the approaching soldiers were indeed Polish and that they should open the gates. As the Cossacks entered the city with drawn swords, slaughter ensued. Over six-thousand Jews were martyred on that day. From Nemirov, the Cossacks attacked the cities of Tulshin, Polannoe, and then Ostrog and Zaslow. At each city, horrors followed. After less than two years, the Tartar allies withdrew from the conflict, forcing Chmielnitzki into a truce which lasted for eighteen months followed by more violence which continued intermittently until his death in 1657. In the winter of 1650, Rabbinic and lay leaders known as the “Council of the Four Lands” gathered in Lublin and declared, the twentieth of Sivan, the day the city of Nemerov was attacked, as a day of fasting and commemoration for the many martyrs of the Chmielnizki pogroms. The massacres by Ukrainian nationalists did not end with Chmielnitzki’s death. There were a series of attacks in the eighteenth century, including the “Gon-

Most Ukrainians did not take part in these many attacks. There were also Ukrainians who saved Jewish lives, sometimes at great personal risk, but those who did participate caused untold suffering. The tragic events between France and the Ukraine are five hundred years apart, but famed Rabbinic scholar Rabbi Yom Tov Lipmann Heller also known by his pen name, “Tosafot Yom Tov,” the name for his commentary on the Mishnah, ordained that those selichot prayers composed in commemoration of the victims in France in the twelfth century be recited also for the victims of the Chmielnitzki massacres. Today, there are some prayer books that contain those memorial prayers for recitation on the Twentieth of Sivan. Rabbi Lipmann stated in the context of the tragedies encountered by European Jewry: “What has occurred now is similar to days of old. All that happened to the forefathers happened to their descendants.” Although the 20th of Sivan is not observed on a wide scale and the memory of the many victims may have diminished somewhat due to the passage of time. This commemorative day is an opportunity to pay homage to those who died al Kiddush Hashem during two critical eras in European Jewish history. 


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“Say What?” We needed a bill that was going to confiscate, confiscate, confiscate. - From a secret recording of a New Jersey state senator discussing gun legislation with a colleague My thinking was when we beat them in 2012 that might break the fever, and it’s not quite broken yet. I genuinely believe there are Republicans out there who would like to work with us but they’re fearful of their base and they’re concerned about what Rush Limbaugh might say about them. And as a consequence we get the kind of gridlock that makes people cynical about government. - President Obama at a recent Manhattan fundraiser I don’t want to compare this in any way to Watergate … but I have to tell you, that is exactly the approach the Nixon administration took. You’re taking exactly the same line. - CBS newsman Bob Schieffer to White House senior adviser Dan Pfeiffer, after he said that the president would not get bogged down by the IRS and other scandals It’s a big mess, obviously. I know there have been these comparisons to Watergate. I would say not yet. - Bob Woodward on MSNBC, discussing the IRS scandal

One popular way to describe this generation is to say you’re connected. Some refer to you as “Generation C,” but others say you’re increasingly disconnected from the things that matter – that instead of collecting friends, you spend time collecting friend requests. - Melinda Gates at Duke University graduation ceremony

I want to wish Hillary a Happy Mother’s Day. She has her child. I don’t have mine because of her. - Pat Smith, who lost her son in the Benghazi attack

I really like your idea. If we had guns that shot chocolate, not only would our country be safer, it would be happier. People love chocolate. You are a good boy. - Vice President Joe Biden responding to 7-year-old Myles Nelson’s letter to him suggesting that the world would be safer if bullets were made of chocolate

A new report just came out. It says someone close to the president knew about the IRS scandal and kept his mouth shut. In other words, we can rule out Joe Biden. - Conan O’Brien

I’m not going to cry in my beer. - Former MA Senator Scott Brown discussing his recent defeat

Last April, in the most devastating outbreak of tornadoes ever recorded, 148 twisters killed more than 300 people and caused half a billion dollars’ worth of damage in thirteen U.S. states. - From a 1975 Newsweek article titled “The Cooling World,” which discussed the devastating effects of cooling world temperatures This is climate change. We were warned about extreme weather. Not just hot weather. But extreme weather. When I had my hearings ... the scientists all agreed that what we’d start to see was extreme weather. And people looked at one another and said, “What do you mean? It’s gonna get hot?” Yeah, it’s gonna get hot. But you’re also going to see snow in the summer in some places. You’re gonna have terrible storms. You’re going to have tornados and all the rest. We need to protect our people. That’s our number one obligation and we have to deal with this threat that is upon us and that is gonna get worse and worse though the years. - Sen. Barbara Boxer (D-CA), the day after the Oklahoma tornado Why do you care? Why do you, Sheldon Whitehouse, Democrat of Rhode Island, care if we Republicans run off the climate cliff like a bunch of proverbial lemmings and disgrace ourselves? I’ll tell you why. We’re stuck in this together. We are stuck in this together. When cyclones tear up Oklahoma and hurricanes swamp Alabama and wildfires scorch Texas, you come to us, the rest of the country, for billions of dollars to recover. And the damage that your polluters and deniers are doing doesn’t just hit Oklahoma and Alabama and Texas. It hits Rhode Island with floods and storms. It hits Oregon with acidified seas, it hits Montana with dying forests. So, like it or not, we’re in this together. - Senate floor tirade by Senator Sheldon Whitehouse (D-RI), the day after the tornado

It is odd that nothing changed on my tax return and I was never audited until I publicly criticized Obamacare. - Dr. Hal Scherz, a Georgia physician in an interview with ABC News, discussing his recent IRS audit They came within one minute. They were fast— three policemen and a sergeant. - A clerk at a 7-11 recalling what happened after he called police to report someone stealing doughnuts from his store

I wouldn’t let Mark Sanchez throw me a paper bag sandwich. - Carolina Panthers wide receiver Steve Smith on WFNZ Sports Radio

Lamborghini is celebrating its 50th anniversary. Lamborghini is so freaked out by turning 50, it just bought itself a Lamborghini. - Conan O’Brien

I know a lot of people in this room thought I was done. - Tiger Woods, after winning the Players Championship


WALLACE: Let’s turn to Benghazi. [President Obama] had a meeting with [Sec. of Defense] Panetta in the afternoon...the next time he shows up, Hillary Clinton says she spoke to him at around 10:00 that night after the attack at the consulate, not the next, but the night the attack at the consulate had ended. Question, what did the president do the rest of that night to pursue Benghazi? PFEIFFER: The president was kept up to date throughout the entire night, from the moment it started till the end. This is a horrible tragedy, people that he sent abroad whose lives are at risk, people who work for him. I recognize that there’s a series of conspiracy theories the Republicans are spinning about this since the night it happened, but there’s been an independent review of this, Congress has held hearings; we provided 250,000 pages of … 250,000 pages of documents up there. There’s been 11 hearings, 20 staff briefings. Everyone has found the same thing. This is a tragedy. The question is not what happened that night. The question is what are we going to do to move forward and ensure it doesn’t happen again. Congress should act on what the president called for earlier this week, to pass legislation to actually allow us to implement the recommendations of the accountability review board. When we send diplomats off into far-flung places, there’sinherent risk. We need to mitigate that risk. WALLACE: With all due respect, you didn’t answer my question. What did the president do that night? PFEIFFER: Kept up to date with the events as they were happening. WALLACE: He didn’t talk to the Secretary of State except for the one time when the first attack was over. He didn’t talk to the Secretary of Defense. He didn’t talk to the Chairman of the Joint Chiefs. Who was he talking to? PFEIFFER: His national security staff, his national security council. WALLACE: Was he in the Situation Room? PFEIFFER: He was kept up to date throughout the day. WALLACE: Do you know whether he was in the Situation Room? PFEIFFER: I don’t know what room he was in that night. That’s a largely irrelevant fact. WALLCE: Here’s the point, though. The ambassador goes missing; the first ambassador in more than 30 years is killed. Four Americans, including the ambassador, are killed. Dozens of Americans are in jeopardy. The president at 4:00 in the afternoon says to the Chairman of the Joint Chiefs to deploy forces. No forces are deployed. Where is he while all this is going on? PFEIFFER: The suggestion of your question that somehow the president -WALLACE: I just want to know the answer. PFEIFFER: The assertions from Republicans that the president didn’t take action is offensive. There’s no evidence to support it. WALLACE: I’m simply asking a question. Where was he? What did he do? How did he respond and who told him you can’t deploy forces and what was his response? PFEIFFER: The president was in the White House that day, kept up to date by his national security team, spoke to the Joint Chiefs of Staff earlier, Secretary of State, and as events unfolded, he was kept up to date.

A lot of critics are now comparing President Obama to President Nixon. The good news for Obama? At least he’s no longer being compared to President Carter. - Jay Leno The Philadelphia Eagles new coach, Chip Kelly, recently got rid of the team’s longrunning tradition of having fast-food Fridays. He says that he wants his players to live healthier lives. Then he sends them out to hit other people with their heads. - Jimmy Fallon

I’m offended by a government that convenes a hearing to bully one of America’s greatest success stories. If anyone should be on trial here, it should be Congress. - Senator Rand Paul (R-Ky) during a Senate committee hearing convened to discuss Apple’s tax practices, despite the fact that the company paid $7 billion in taxes last year

There’s no there, there. - President Obama deflecting the Benghazi scandal during a press conference

It has not been a good week for President Obama. You’ve got Benghazi, the IRS scandal, this AP records scandal, and, worst of all, his Chicago Bulls got eliminated by the Miami Heat. Do you know what that means? LeBron James is going to get audited by the IRS. - Jay Leno How long has Obama known about this tornado? This tornado is in Oklahoma so clearly it has been ordered to only target Conservatives. - Sarcastic tweet sent out by liberal journalist Lisa Winstead shortly after the Oklahoma tornado

In a new interview, Joe Biden says he spends four or five hours every day with President Obama. In response, Obama said hiring that Obama impersonator was the best decision he’s ever made. - Conan O’Brien

These White House scandals are not going away any time soon. I’ll tell you how bad it’s looking for President Obama: people in Kenya are now saying he’s 100 percent American. - Jay Leno President Obama is in a lot of hot water lately. Despite the scandals, 53 percent of Americans say they approve of the job he’s doing. The other 47 percent are being audited. - Conan O’Brien

No, No. That’s what you do. I’m not going to stop talking now... That is inappropriate and is too consistent with the way in which you conduct yourself as a member of Congress. It’s unacceptable, and it’s shameful. - Attorney General Holder to Congressman Darrel Issa when Issa attempted cut him off while he was talking at a hearing

During a fundraiser yesterday, President Obama said there is a shortage of common sense right now in Washington. At which point the people who paid $5,000 a plate for their dinner applauded in agreement. - Jimmy Fallon

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In the Kitchen Naomi Nachman I love to barbecue. In fact I have been known to do it with three feet of snow on the ground. I barbecue chicken, lamb chops, vegetables and even fruit. Now that the BBQ season officially opens this weekend with Memorial Day, I have tried to come up with new BBQ ideas for my friends, family and readers. Here are a few ideas for your barbecue that I often do at mine: I find that lamb has its own natural flavors and doesn’t need a marinade; you can just throw it from the package straight onto the grill. (Yay, no extra work!) Sliders are very popular nowadays; I buy all kinds of great chutneys, sauces and flavored mustards to go as a complement. My favorite sausages are Jack’s Gourmet Sausages. Try buying a variety of them. You can also buy some “fakin’ bacon” and place them on the grill for a few minutes until they are crispy; it makes a great topping for hot dogs or sliders. I make a platter of all kinds of pickles (half-sour and sour pickles, sauerkraut and pickled tomatoes). I serve platters of sliced of tomatoes, red onion, and shredded lettuce and some sautéed onion. No bbq is ever complete without coleslaw (either homemade or store-bought). I always have big, fresh garden salad, corn on the cob and French fries. (I love the 5-minute McCain’s fries.) Fresh pineapple and mango are delicious on the grill. 3-4 minutes per side, max. The marinade below is great for chicken or vegetables. For the meat, let it soak for two hours or overnight. If you are using it for vegetables, leave out the ketchup and marinade for up to two hours.

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Preparation In a small bowl, whisk all ingredients together except the meat. Place the meat in a shallow pan in one layer and pour over the marinade. Try to marinate for several hours; it helps tenderize the meat. Place the meat on a medium-hot grill about four inches above the fire and cook on both sides until cooked through. Cool for a few minutes before slicing. Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website,www.theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.


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Ingredients 2 avocados 1 ripe tomato, chopped ¼ cup red onion, chopped 1 ½ tsp lemon juice ½ tsp garlic powder Salt, to taste 2 tortillas Preparation Smash the avocado with a fork and then add the tomato and red onion. Once the ingredients are mixed together, gently add the lemon juice and spices. Set aside. If not serving immediately, keep the avocado pit in the salad. Some say it prevents the guacamole from turning brown. Cut the tortilla into wedges using a knife or cooking shears. Heat oil in a frying pan until hot. Fry the tortilla wedges on both sides, approximately 1 minute on each side. Let cool and serve with the guacamole.

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Preparation Boil potatoes in salted water until soft, approximately 10 minutes. Drain and let cool. While the potatoes are boiling, combine red onion, green pepper, mustard, oln ive oil, vinegar and mayonnaise and season with salt and pepper. Mix well and let the flavors marinade while the potatoes cook. Once the potatoes are done and cool, mix into the bowl and add scallions and additional salt and pepper to taste. Serve at room temperature or refrigerate until ready to serve.

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Preparation In a large bowl, mix the beans, celery, onion, parsley and rosemary. In a separate small bowl, whisk together the vinegar, sugar, olive oil, salt, and pepper. Add the dressing to the beans. Toss to coat. Chill beans in the refrigerator for several hours, to allow the beans to soak up the flavor of the dressing.

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Unconventional former-Senator Joe Lieberman >>> Uniting America and its Political Parties >>> Education Reform: What Should we be Doing? >>> The Vaad of Lakewood >>> Is Lakewood a Monolithic Voting Bloc?

The following are excerpts from the weekly on-line show, Spin Class: Politics with Michael Fragin. Listen weekly on Thursday nights on jmintheam.org. Michael Fragin: Good evening everyone. Welcome to Spin Class. We are talking politics. I am Michael Fragin on the Nachum Segal Network. Welcome to another Thursday night of good talk, discussion and a little bit of insight. First I want to welcome Dan Gerstein to the show, a long-time friend and CEO of Gotham Ghost Writers. If you want to communicate with somebody and you’re not really sure how to do it, Dan Gerstein is your man. Dan, welcome to Spin Class. Dan Gerstein: Thank you, Michael, for that generous introduction. It’s great to talk with you. Michael Fragin: Dan, let’s talk about Senator Lieberman for a second. Whether you’re a Democrat or Republican, Joe Lieberman is a hero to those in the Jewish community and you served in his office for quite a few years. Give us a little bit of the inside viewpoint and the insight into Senator Joe Lieberman. Dan Gerstein: I’m always happy to talk about my time with Senator Lieberman. He personifies the term “mensch.” He is exactly what he seems like. That’s one of the first questions I get asked: “Is he as nice a guy as he seems?” He is, and that’s one of the reasons why I worked for him for ten years. Unlike a lot of people in politics, he is the same person in a private meeting as he is in public. One of my favorite things about him was when he was running for vice president, he’d travel all around the country. He’d go to an event and the first thing he’d do, is walk through the kitchen on the way to a hotel speech and he’d say hello to all the workers. When he got in the elevator at the Capitol, he’d say hello to all the cops. That says something about someone who values the work that the people behind the scenes do and doesn’t treat them as the “help.” I had a great experience working for him. He is a rare breed; an increasingly rare breed in politics where he doesn’t care about party affiliation, he doesn’t care about conventional wisdom or where the idea came from. He was always hungry for new ideas, for innovative approaches and trying to get people together to get things done for the good of his state and the country, and that ethic I’m afraid is increasingly in short supply in Washington. That’s one of the reasons why there is such dysfunction and frustration in

American people. Michael Fragin: It kind of reminds me of a time I was campaigning with Governor Pataki in 2004. We were in Florida. We went to a famous dinner in North Miami Beach and we had a little campaign stop there. All the Jewish “refugees” from up north were there and so instantly a New York governor is very recognizable but on the way out, Governor Pa-

“WE HAVE TO EVOLVE IN OUR POSITIONS. WE HAVE TO BE ABLE TO SHOW SOME FLEXIBILITY AND COMPROMISE OR WE’RE GOING TO BECOME IRRELEVANT.”

ty legislation and it primarily was about background checks. There he had an opportunity—something that 90% of the American people support—and you had bipartisan effort trying to find common ground and move this forward and it got blown up. It’s fallen apart because of the partisan divisions and the typical reflexive position taking where Conservatives have to play up to the NRA just like the Democrats play up to the teachers’ unions and nothing got done. I’m afraid that’s the way it’s going to continue to be until the American people rise up and demand something better. You’ve got to hold people accountable or nothing is going to change. Don’t misunderstand me. This is a problem that’s endemic in both parties but I will say this, over the last five years Obama has been president, the Republicans have been much more intransigent and extremist because of their fear in many respects. There is going to be a need for a class of leaders to rise up, somewhat like Marco Rubio is doing on immigration, and say, “Look, we have to evolve in our positions. We have to be able to show some flexibility and compromise or we’re going to become irrelevant.” I mean that not just with the party but with the country, that we’re not going to be able to compete on the world stage or in the world economy the way we have taken it for granted. If we keep going down this road where every big problem comes and we go at each other like the Democrats and Republicans are enemies, we won’t get anything done.

taki insisted on going into the kitchen and shaking hands with all of the workers in the back. They probably weren’t voters, if you know what I mean, but we came upon a guy who was actually washing dishes. He probably was not from America, he probably possibly didn’t speak any English but Governor Pataki stuck out his hand to him and the guy was washing dishes. His hands were probably not so clean and he didn’t really know what to do. He just kind of looked blankly for a couple of seconds and Pataki still had his hand out and he shook his hand. He was going to shake everybody’s hand and that’s the mark of a great politician and somebody who really connects with everybody out there. The retirement of Joe Lieberman kind of exemplifies the fact that we’re missing that person who looks for common ground in politics. What do you see as the future of an institution like the Senate without those people in the middle, those senators who are willing to kind of be right in the middle there? Dan Gerstein: I just saw Joe Manchin, the senator from West Virginia who is kind of a Former Senator Joe Lieberman--a mensch and an anamoly in politics “Lieberman Democrat” in that mold—it’s in his character and his makeup and how he approaches politics. He’s very bipartisan; he is always Michael Fragin: We don’t need to look much looking to see how do we bring people together. He further than your old boss Senator Lieberman who spoke about his experience with the recent gun safe- fought for his convictions with regards to the Iraq


Michael Fragin: So that should be cautionary to everybody out there. Dan Gerstein: There is a problem on the left like it is on right. Right now the fever is much more extreme on the right, unfortunately. Michael Fragin: Let’s keep it as a hypothetical. If you were advising a moderate-type politician, would you advise them to go the middle of the road? They say the middle of the road has a lot of traffic in it and you might get hit by a car. Dan Gerstein: I don’t think people want moderation. I think what they want is leadership and they want character and part of that is compromising when it’s for the good of the country. The ideologues and the partisans on both sides, they say the moderate is splitting the difference always between the two parties and I don’t think that’s the case at all. What I would advise someone who wants to try and break the stranglehold of partisanship and special interests in Washington is to not make it about ideology; to sort of say, “This system is broken. We have to change the system, we have to change the incentives,” and part of that means being willing to stand up for special interests on both sides and really focus on the common good of the country. For the Democrats, the issue that’s closest to me is education reform. We need courageous Democrats to stand up and say, “Listen, we love teachers. We should be paying teachers more, treating them like the professionals they are but we have to change our work rules. We have to change our public education system or we’re going to continue to fail our kids going forward.” With the Republicans, you could say it’s a range of issues on immigration, on gun legislation, on taxes. You saw some common sense seep into the Republican position on taxes when they reached a compromise last year or I should say early this year but that’s sadly the exception, not the norm. Michael Fragin: Let’s talk about education reform for a second. Why is it so difficult to gain meaningful assistance? In some states it’s apparently not, there was actually just a very successful case in Indiana with regard to vouchers and the system but why is it so difficult to break through on meaningful education reform that really allows the money to follow a student? You’re really changing the paradigm of how education is funded in the United States but even in the state by state level. You have so many people out there who really need it, whether they are currently in private school, whether they are looking for a Catholic school education, whether they be inner-city kids who just want to get out of failing schools. There is so much inequality and issues with the current education paradigm as it is governmentally out there. Dan Gerstein: I think there are two separate issues here. There are the vouchers as a means towards a short-term solution to get kids out of failing schools which Senator Lieberman supported, but I don’t think that is a solution to our larger education problems. It’s a tool that we should be exploring where we can but I don’t think politically it’s realistic to expect that to get

Does the town of Lakewood always vote according to the Vaad's recommendations?

wide purchase in large part because regardless of its merits and whatever evidence we have that it can help, it amounts to an abandonment in the eyes of many of the public schools and there is such a strong emotional connection to the public schools that it’s seen as an admission of failure on the ideal of public education, and I think for that reason it’s probably not going to be any kind of large-scale solution.

“PEOPLE WHO WEAR A YARMULKA HAVE TO REMEMBER THAT WE’RE STILL IN THE MINORITY; WE’RE NOT IN THE MAJORITY.” The bigger issue is the idea of money following the child. It is really relevant to public charter schools which I’ve done a lot of work for, and there, I think there is a very strong case to be made but it’s going to take some courageous people to stand up and say, “Listen, the unions, the defenders or the status quo are not entitled to that money. That money is there to help children get a quality education which they are not getting right now,” and we should be exploring every new idea, every good idea, every workable idea that will help improve public education, particularly for disadvantaged kids who need it the most. That’s not the posture we have right now particularly in New York, so when you say, “Why is it hard?” I think in a large part it’s because you have so many people who are scared to cross the teachers’ unions and others’ vested interests. They want to keep the things the way they are. Again, I think there is plenty of evidence to show that you can stand up to those interests and win but it’s going to take more people to do that to kind of reach a tipping point. Michael Fragin: There is a big controversy going onwith regards to East Ramapo School District which is up in Rockland County. East Ramapo has

21,000 mostly yeshiva kids, private school students and they have about 9,000 public school students. They have a majority Orthodox/Orthodox-Hasidic school board and that school board is accused by the liberal media of looting the school district. In my view, I think the paradigm just doesn’t work. You can’t have a situation where you’re relying on people for funding, for a very significant funding I think to the tune of like $26,000 per student, that they don’t have any vested interest in and they don’t have any incentive. I’m not saying you shouldn’t have incentive of the greater good but in the end, crushing suburban taxes are going to win out every time over a sense of civic responsibility. Dan Gerstein: I think you hit on an extremely important point that’s very relevant to New York City and it’s one of the reasons why our schools despite Mayor Bloomberg’s best efforts. I am a fan of the work he’s tried to do to change our public schools for the better but because so many middle class and upper middle class, largely white families have abandoned the public schools and just refuse to even consider them as an option, they don’t have a vested interest in standing up and expressing their outrage at how bad some of these schools are and therefore the politically connected, active, influential voices are totally silent and not engaged in the debate. That is a recipe for continuing to have that vacuum filled by the special interests that control the system now and want it to stay the same. This city is just beginning for a political leader to stand up and I’d actually love to work for a candidate who would do this, who’ll stand up and go to the brownstones in Brooklyn, the Upper West Side, Forest Hills, the real heart of the middle class of New York, Staten Island and go to these people and say, “It’s outrageous that you have to pay double taxes. You have to pay once for public schools that you don’t use and then pay another fee to send your kids to private school. You’re paying taxes for the schools; you deserve to get quality education for those tax dollars,” and engage those people in a revolt to demand changes in the public schools. You’d see a revolution. You would see politicians fold like a house of cards because they would see that those people vote and they are in much greater numbers than the teachers’ union. Michael Fragin: Dan Gerstein, CEO of Gotham of Ghost Writers, Former Communications Director for Senator Joe Lieberman. Thank you for joining us here on Spin Class and we hope to have you again very soon. I want to welcome Former Deputy Mayor and Committeeman Steve Langert from Lakewood, New Jersey. Steve, welcome to Spin Class. Tell us about the political entity of the Lakewood Township. Steve Langert: Lakewood is governed by a committee form of government. There are different forms of government in the State of New Jersey. We are governed by five people. A person is elected to the Committee and the Committee actually chooses the Mayor and the Deputy Mayor on a yearly basis. Committee terms are three years, so a person would run for election or re-election every three years, and it’s on a rotating basis. So while there are five of us who serve on the Committee, it would be a 2-2 and 1. Every year, you have an election. Every year, there are either two seats or in the off-year, there is one seat up for election. Michael Fragin: How many of the five are Orthodox?

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Steve Langert: Four. The first Orthodox person was elected was a person by the name of P. G. Waxman. He was elected in 1999, and in 2001, the second Orthodox person appointed and then elected was Meir Lichtenstein; he currently serves on the Township Committee. He is a Democrat. We have Menashe Miller who came on that year as well. A lot of people know him; he is a Chaplain in the Air Force. He was elected that year also, he is a Republican. We have Ray Coles who is the longest serving member on the Committee. He is not Jewish, and we have Isaac Akerman who serves as our Mayor this year. He is also up for re-election this year. He is the only one up for re-election in the cycle. He is the person who runs individually and then there is myself. I am currently in my second term. I was first elected in 2008 and I took office in January 2009. Is there a voting bloc in Lakewood? There absolutely is. Is it wrong for political Lakewood leaders to be able to say, “Lakewood needs certain things,” and for politicians to say, “If I want to be able to count on the votes that are going to come out of Lakewood, then I have to be sensitive to the issues and needs of the community in Lakewood.” Is that wrong? I don’t think it’s wrong. I think that when you have people who are looking for the best interest of the community or serving the best interest of the community and want the community to be able to be healthy and grow, then it’s okay. Michael Fragin: Well, I don’t see anything wrong with that. I think it’s entirely positive. I have no issue with the idea when people of common interests vote together and they vote monolithically. If they vote strongly, then they deserve a lot of credit for doing so and having a high vote of participation is definitely a credit. Steve Langert: In Lakewood, you have two large communities. There is the Orthodox community and there is the senior citizen or the adult community. There is a very large adult community in Lakewood. In fact, outside of Florida and Arizona, Ocean County, New Jersey, has one of the largest adult community in the country. When I was elected and especially when I was reelected, I personally enjoyed great support across the board and people here know that when I sit up on the dais or when I’m deciding, I am looking out for the best interest of what Lakewood is about. Lakewood includes not only the adult community and not only the Jewish community but there are other communities here as well. There is a large Latino community. We have people from Eastern Europe here, not so large but we are truly a microcosm of a melting pot here in Lakewood, and I’m proud to say that. I will tell you that in my initial inauguration, my speech was all about representing all of Lakewood because I told people at the end of my term, whether it is three years, six years, one year, two years, ten years, however long that term may be, I want people to be able to point their finger at me and say, “Steve Langert was a credit to the Orthodox people. He served everybody fairly and he served everybody justly,” and I think that as an Orthodox Jew, I think that it’s important for us to remember. People who wear a yarmulka have to remember that we’re still in the minority; we’re not in the majority. When people see a yarmulka on your head, they look at you a certain way and they automatically

judge you and they automatically hold you to a higher standard. I recognize that they are judging us differently, they are holding us to a higher standard and it’s up to us to recognize that, to be cognizant of that fact and to make sure that we are governing in a way that is true and just for everybody who lives in our town. That’s the credo that I follow in the morning and I’m proud to say that I’ve had those from outside the Orthodox community say to me, “Steve, you are living up to your campaign promises. You are living up to that motto that you treat everybody the same. You look at the issues and at the end of the day you do what you feel is the best for Lakewood.” Now Lakewood includes all those communities, so you need to able to balance the needs of each community and govern accordingly. Michael Fragin: What about unity within the Orthodox community itself? You know, when there are two Jews on an island, you have three shuls or ten Jews have eleven opinions. How do you maintain a political unity even amongst the Jewish community? How do you ensure that there is not all kinds of competition amongst different sub-groups? Steve Langert: Sometimes it’s very hard to do and I will tell you that unfortunately, that’s the issue facing not only politicians but I think that’s the issue facing us as Jews. I think that if we were in times of crisis, in times of war, everybody bends together. There is no, “I’m this way, you’re that way. I’m a leather yarmulke; you’re a kippa sruga; I’m a black hat.” Everyone bands together because they recognize and they realize that there is a danger and it’s from outside forces. Unfortunately, when things are quiet people don’t feel that way and I think that we all have to be cognizant of the fact that we need to be unified, we need to be able to disagree politely and respectfully. Like you said, you have two Jews, you have three opinions. I mean that’s certainly the case and it’s okay to disagree with somebody else. Every person is different, every person is a unique individual and that’s what makes us all great and that’s what makes it beautiful. We need to be able to be civil, we need to be able to understand that we’re allowed disagree and disagree respectfully but we need to listen to each other and perhaps when you listen to somebody they’ll say something that makes sense and then you’ll want to listen to and do what they want to do, do what they are asking you to do. Michael Fragin: Talk for a second about the Lakewood Vaad. The Vaad is the community organization made up of different heads of community organizations that advises the community on different candidates and their importance. Steve Langert: The Lakewood Vaad was actually established by the Roshei Yeshiva. It’s a council of people who serve at his request to advise him on political decisions that they feel are best for the Lakewood community. That’s what the Lakewood Vaad was meant to be and that’s what they have been. They are a group of people who serve at the request of the Roshei Yeshiva of Lakewood in order to counsel themon matters that he feels are important. Michael Fragin: So to a certain degree the political power resides with that group. Steve Langert: Yes. You can say that. That would be fair to say.

Michael Fragin: Back in the last gubernatorial election, the Vaad endorsed Jon Corzine but Chris Christie won most of the vote. Steve Langert: Chris Christie won Lakewood by about a 2-1 margin. Michael Fragin: So can you give me some perspective on that? Steve Langert: At the time, the Vaad’s decision was that Governor Corzine had been good to Lakewood; he had been a friend of Lakewood and their main emphasis is on repaying kindness measure for measure and they felt they owed it to him to support him. There were many, many people here in the community that felt that given his personal views on moral issues, they were more aligned with Governor Christie and they felt that it wasn’t the right choice. That goes back to what people say about voting as a monolithic bloc, that just goes to prove that the people of Lakewood are not just sheep being led to the slaughter, so to speak. Michael Fragin: That’s a little bit exaggerated but that’s fine. Steve Langert: But that’s the way people talk about it. Mindless people just going and doing as they are told, which obviously was not the casePeople said, “You know what? We don’t agree. We don’t agree with the decision that was made. We feel very strongly about it and we’re going to show our displeasure and we’re going to vote for the candidate who we think represents an Orthodox Jew morally and socially in a better light” and therefore they voted for Governor Christine over former Governor Corzine. The point I wanted to bring across is that yes, for the most part we vote as a bloc because we believe that the recommendations that are made are good and just. When people believe they are not good as you mentioned in the Christie-Corzine election, they say, “No, we’re not going to follow the recommendation. We’re going to vote our conscience.” Michael Fragin: Talk to me about public education in Lakewood because we’ve discussed public education in the East Ramapo School District. Steve Langert: Lakewood School District has 5,600, maybe 6,000 public school students in it and the private school system has 22,000 to 23,000 students. The inverse relationship is just astronomical and as discussed by your previous guest, it causes significant challenges to the taxpayers of Lakewood. It causes a tremendous hardship for the people of Lakewood because there really is no way for the state to figure out how to take care of Lakewood. In every school district, we’ve got “X” amount of public school students, maybe we’ve got 10% private school students and this is the formula that we’re going to use and they apply it across the state. Lakewood is the only one that’s not that way and it’s unique, and we’ve been asking but it’s going to come to a head eventually and something is going to definitely be needed in order to look at that situation. Michael Fragin: Thank you very, very much for joining us. It’s good to get a perspective out there. You know, all politics is local folks. This is the most local form of government that you can get, the village, the school district, the fire district and the like, and I want to thank you all for joining us and giving us that perspective. This is Spin Class with Michael Fragin.


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Strained Relationships relate to the lyrics. If so, what is it about those lyrics that is meaningful to them? I’d like to venture a guess. Profiles on pedophiles show that these monsters target lonely and alone children, children without a support system and without close supervision. The piercings, in particular on the eyebrow, that Ms. Berry had, indicate that she felt out of the mainstream, off the beaten path. When you take these clues together with the music she listened to, it creates a view of a girl alone and fighting her way in a tough world. (Perhaps that was a blessing in its own way because she was tough enough to finally extricate

tion. This translates into: They do not love me because I am not good enough. Not only am I not a good person in my parents’ eyes, but I am worthless. Of course, the parents never intended such a message but there is a huge gap between the giving and the getting. The parents often think they are giving discipline but the children are getting a different message. We get an even clearer idea of what the children hear as opposed to what parents thought they deliver when we study children who cut themselves. These adolescents report a dead feeling inside, an emptiness that can be filled

Without parental love, it is hard to feel G-dly love and without the love by parents and G-d, it is even more difficult to feel self-love. herself from her prison, never giving up on freedom.) A bit of information on another of the three girls who escaped, Michelle Knight, sheds even more light on this difficult problem. The news states that “because of the strained relationship between Ms. Knight and the family, a missing-persons report wasn’t filed.” Therefore, her family did not know that this young woman had been kidnapped and just assumed she had left home on her own volition. Locked up and mistreated for ten years, no effort was made to find her. Research shows that children who run away have been abused either physically or emotionally. Emotional abuse can be “merely” emotional neglect: not listening and not caring. Often, these children themselves think that the rules at home were too strict. However, working with these children myself has shown that the problem is not at all that the rules were too strict but rather the strictness was not paired with love. Discipline must be delivered lovingly to work. What the children experience, instead, is a feeling of personal rejec-

for a brief moment with a sharp pain that is the only thing that feels real to them. Why do they feel so empty? The one thing that fills a person and makes him feel alive is a sense of being loved: by parents, by G-d and by himself. Without parental love, it is hard to feel G-dly love and without the love by parents and G-d, it is even more difficult to feel self-love. Other children may not resort to such drastic measures but their unhappiness is no less important to attend to. Their unhappiness comes from the same source: a perception of worthlessness coming from messages they believe mean their parents do not love and value them. These children may “only” go off the derech in the search for something that lifts them up out of their pain and emptiness. So the real question is what are parents doing that causes such a terrible reaction and what can they do differently? Let me give you just one example. I’ve had a blog for many years, even from before people called it a blog. Once, a teen emailed me in response to an article I had posted on my website to explain how she started cutting herself.

She said that she could not get attention from her mother. On Fridays, when her mother was preparing for Shabbos and the teen wanted something, her mother would say, “Don’t bother me unless you’re bleeding.” That parent worked hard to prepare a beautiful Shabbos table and everything was on it but love. A parent simply cannot speak in such harsh terms to her child. The statement above does not translate into a joke that says, “I’m busy.” It translates into, “Your needs are not important to me.” Now, for argument’s sake, let us suppose that this particular child was always the whiney type who demanded more attention than was appropriate. How should a parent wean such a child off of that without being rejecting? One possibility would be to smile lovingly at the child and say, “I will give you attention at the Shabbos table but I must continue my work right now.” Alternatively, the mother could triage for the seriousness of the problem first, even while working, by just asking what the problem is and then responding accordingly. On the other hand, it is also critical that parents understand that what may seem minor to them may be major to the child. A girl who is ignored by her peers, a boy who doesn’t make the team, a child who is made fun of, a teen who didn’t get the grade he expected may be quite upset and feel as though this problem is in the category of “bleeding.” What should the busy parent do? The answer is that the child’s feelings really are more important than whether every side dish gets made or whether all the dust is well vacuumed. The parent should stop to be a good listener, hear the pain in the child’s story, and respond with kindness, not brusqueness. If doing that is something difficult for the parent, there are two sources of help available. One is to learn Torah and the other is to get assistance from a counselor. And the time is right away. Dr. Deb Hirschhorn, a Marriage & Family Therapist and best-selling author of The Healing Is Mutual--Marriage Empowerment Tools to Rebuild Trust and Respect--Together, is proud to announce that readers of The Jewish Home will receive a $50 discount on every visit to her Woodmere office. For more information, call 646-54-DRDEB or check out her website at drdeb.com.

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n reviewing the issues surrounding the horrible revelation in Cleveland two weeks ago, several news outlets reviewed the way the missing persons list functions. “Hundreds of thousands of people are reported missing each year,” the Wall Street Journal stated, “the vast majority of whom turn out to have run away, FBI data show.” Those numbers are misleading. Actually, the data is worse. According to the National Runaway Safeline which obtained statistics from peer-reviewed journals, “Between 1.6 and 2.8 million [that’s not a typo] youth run away in a year. 47% of runaway / homeless youth indicated that conflict between them and their parent or guardian was a major problem.” “Over 50% of youth in shelters and on the streets reported that their parents either told them to leave or knew they were leaving but did not care.” “32% of runaway and homeless youth have attempted suicide at some point in their lives.” More frequently for us, there is the “off the derech” problem that the rabbis refer to as a “crisis in spirituality.” Why do they run away? Why do they get into drugs or at the very “least” (which is no small matter) do they go off the derech? Is there a connection among all these youth problems? To get an idea of the answer, let’s look a little closer at the history of two of the three girls who were held captive for a decade and how they came to be kidnapped. First, let’s look at Amanda Berry, the brave girl who orchestrated their escape. According to news reports, she had piercings in her ears and eyebrows and liked Eminem’s music. For those who wouldn’t know Eminem from an Oreo, Wikipedia explains that this “artist” shot to stardom on the basis of lyrics featuring “drug use, sexual acts, mental instability, and overthe-top violence.” For example, one of his songs “ends with his encouraging a man to murder his wife and her boyfriend.” What is the attraction of such so-called music? Our beautiful Torah and our customs are filled with music for it speaks to the heart. And that is the answer. To what inside these children does Eminem’s music speak? Perhaps an interesting way to learn the answer is to conduct a little research. Ask your children if they ever listen to Eminem and whether they

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or many of us, using our smartphone, iPad, Xbox and computer have become second nature. We rely heavily on our electronics to carry us through the workweek, entertain our children, and help us relax. However, technology has an emerging new benefit: weight-loss. Many new apps, devices and games are being specifically designed to make eating healthy and working out easy, fun, and effective. There are many options available to help you kick-start a healthier lifestyle. From free to expensive, practical to still in production, here are my top technology picks: MyFitnessPal. This free and user-friendly website allows subscribers to easily track their caloric intake. A food database of almost 3 million items allows you to easily calculate the calories in almost any food and store them in your personalized profile. In addition, you can even enter and store your own recipes and diet staples for easy future access. There are also apps for your mobile devices and smart phones making it as simple as possible to journal your consumption in real time, which many of us fail to do. Food journaling can be one of the most successful tools to aid in weight-loss or weight-management, but only when done in real time. Trying to recall every nibble after a long exhausting day is generally a difficult feat. Seeing and storing your daily nutrition choices will help to give you a better handle on what, when, why and how much you

eat. Fitbit One. This multi-tasking gaget, about the size of a beeper (remember those?), not only counts steps taken, distance traveled, stairs climbed and calories burned, but it also tracks your sleep patterns to aid in better rest for increased benefits and results. As a small bonus, it has a built in alarm clock that will gently and silently wake you with a gentle vibration as well. What I like most about the Fitbit One, is that it not only tracks the duration of your sleep, but the quality too. Each night’s rest is given a sleep score based on the length of time slept and the number of times woken during that period. Sleep is the most commonly discounted contributor to weight, and this device helps users remember that it’s not

than its fair share of gizmos and apps to help you track calories burned, and even log those consumed. But what about tracking the way you consume those calories? Enter the HAPIfork. Introduced in January 2013 (but still in the production/ prototype phase), this eating utensil is poised to be the next big thing in weight management. With built-in sensors to track the pace of your bites, this electronic fork sends you a gentle vibration to let you know

You wouldn’t likely ditch your trainer if you had to shell out cash each time you did, so remember that when you work out at home.

only the activity you expend daily, but also the rest you redeem nightly. The information tracked by this tiny device is wirelessly synched to your computer in real time, appearing in clear graphs and charts to help you stay educated and motivated. HAPIfork. The market has more

when you are eating too fast. The forks designers built it off of the proven science that shoveling your food too quickly results in higher caloric intake. The fork is designed to train you to take smaller bites and slow down in order to trim down. Since the fork isn’t available just yet, another piece of advice I give patients is to eat with an appetizer fork, not an entrée fork. This small trick will help eat less food per bite, ultimately slowing your meal down. Xbox + Kinect. With its emphasis on fun and fitness, this pricey console may be just the thing to get you and your family moving. The Kinect system uses your body as the controller, making you an active participant in the games you’re playing. Once you see the workout you get, you may actually find yourself encouraging your kids to play videogames. With games including sports like football and skiing to Zumba and dance classes, you will be able to work up a sweat in your own home and have fun in the process.

More recently, Kinect partnered with Nike for an interactive personal training program. The results are an effective program that tracks your progress, including strength and endurance, from day one. Trainers provide you with motivation and direct feedback regarding your movements and form, giving you tips for improvement. While the device and games are definitely on the expensive side, if used regularly, they can substitute the need for a personal trainer or a trip to the gym – but that’s a big if. Just like you get too busy to go to the gym, you will let this item collect dust in your living room unless you schedule time to exercise. Put your workouts into your calendar and treat them as if you are paying for them each time. You wouldn’t likely ditch your trainer if you had to shell out cash each time you did, so remember that when you work out at home. While new advances in technology make weight-loss tracking devices more accessible and easier to use, the one thing they can’t do is make you use them. With everything in the marketplace, there are still no tools to do the work for you. The same archaic need for human intervention exists, so even if you buy the products or sign up for the programs the key is still…using them. Dr. Bo Rosenblat is a board-certified medical doctor and Chief Physician of Dr. Bo’s Diet Center with office locations in Hewlett & Manhasset. For more information about Dr. Bo’s Diet program, please call 516284-8248 or visit www.DrBosDiet.com.


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Dear Devorah, I read with interest your article about a child who is fidgety in class. I work in the field of special education providing SEIT and SETTS service to pre-school and schoolage children respectively. Figure A Figure B A number of children I work and have worked with share similar tion to stand instead of sit. If the student issues of fidgeting in class (not all were does not currently sit in the last seat of necessarily receiving OT). Can you kind- the row, it may be a good idea to leave a ly provide a couple of suggestions to be small desk in the back of the classroom utilized in class particularly for school- for these standing breaks. age students who like to move around a 5. Chair pushups. Train the child lot? (I am talking about fidgety in terms on how to do a chair pushup and encourof fiddling with their hands; I’m seeking age him/her to carry them out when he/ ideas for the type of child who twists, she feels the need to move. turns and craves to get out of their seat.) 6. Integrate Movement. This -Ariella N. comment is more for the teacher in the Dear Ariella, classroom. Teachers should integrate Thank you for reading my article. movement in the lesson. This may be The children you provide service for are elaborately and creatively woven into the lucky to have such a devoted therapist lesson. (Think: discussing Tom Sawyer who clearly is continually seeking ways and then partnering students up singing to help them perform their best in school. “Row, row, row your boat” while sitting The following will provide a list of ideas face-to-face and pushing/tugging each you may find helpful: other’s arms….reenacting Paul Revere 1. Movin Sit Junior. This is one of by having students gallop around the my favorite seat cushions (picture A). classroom.) Or simply providing interIt is not as obvious as a big ball chair, mittent movement breaks such as having which many students may be self-con- students do jumping jacks, jogging in scious using. I like the fact that it is place or stretches. wedge shaped, which assists the user Providing the student with “assignwith sitting more upright. (One of my ments” which give him/her the opportupet peeves are classroom chairs with nity to move around. This can include bucket-like seats; it promotes a slumped errands to the school office, handing out posture.) papers to classmates, or erasing the dry 2. Theraband. (picture B) Fasten a erase board. piece of Theraband between the two front The need to move around is univerlegs of the student’s chair, give it some sal. Every child needs movement and degree of slack. The student can “fidget” movement is critical to learning. The with his/her legs in class by bouncing or above suggestions can benefit every stretching the Theraband downward or child and is not specific for the child with forward. It’s also a good workout! special needs. 3. Tennis balls. Make a slit into Wishing you much success in your two tennis balls and attach them to the work! Hope these tips are helpful. bottom of the back legs of the student’s -Devorah chair. Given the unevenness, the student now has the ability to rock back and Devorah (Gerber) Schmeltz, MS OTR/L is a forth in their chair. To soften the sound 2003 alumnus of Downstate Medical Center’s of the clunking down of the front legs of OT Program. She worked as a senior occuthe chair, place a piece of felt on these pational therapist at United Cerebral Palsy’s legs. (Felt protector for furniture can be Brooklyn Children’s Program for 9 years. purchased in stores like Home Depot and Currently, Devorah runs a private practice, Bumble & Tumble Occupational Therapy P.C Lowes.) 4. Standing. Did you ever walk into in Far Rockaway. Your questions and coma Bais Medrash were all the men are sit- ments are welcome. She can be reached at ting while learning? Certainly not, many BumbleTumbleTherapy@gmail.com or 917are standing. Provide the student the op- 971-5327.

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n a very short notice right before Shavuos, I was told that I was to prepare dinner for a family who had a member in the hospital. Even if you were to serve cardboard to a person in need, you will almost always get a call in return, thanking you for the wonderful food you sent. So I could not judge by that. However, when a family member accused me of making better food for strangers, that hit home, and I repeated the same recipe (with minor variations) for my family. The salmon speaks for itself, well, actually it did not speak, but if you like the sweet and sour Asian profile this may be up your alley. I like the contrast with the orzo primavera as it is not so bold in flavors, yet it is a beautiful translation of

Asian Styled Sweet and Sour Salmon Ingredients 4 salmon fillets ½ cup ketchup 4 minced garlic cloves ¼ cup orange juice concentrate 1/3 cup soy sauce 2-3 scallions 1-inch fresh ginger root, shredded 3 tablespoons brown sugar ¼ cup chopped roasted unsalted cashews Preparation Preheat oven to 400°. Mix all ingredients besides salmon, scallions, and cashews and then place in a pot on the stove. Simmer until slightly bubbling and all ingredients are blended well. Wash and discard scales from salmon. Coat the fish with the simmered mixture and reserve the remainder, taking caution not to bring sauce in contact with raw fish. In the event that the sauce did come in contact with the raw fish, bring sauce to 140 degrees for 15 seconds. Place salmon in pan or casserole dish and bake in the oven for 12 minutes. Salmon is done when slightly brown on outside, slightly opaque inside and flakes easily. When done, glaze fillets with remaining mixture. Cut scallions on diagonal in quarter inch slices. Serve salmon on bed of orzo primavera and garnished with cashews and scallions.

Orzo Primavera Ingredients

1 pound package of orzo 1/3 cup of canola oil 1 large Spanish onion 6 cloves garlic, minced 1 large carrot, julienned or shredded 2 green zucchini squash, julienned (1/8”x1/8”x2”) 24 ounce package of broccoli florets (if frozen – defrost) Few dill sprigs Optional: good quality extra virgin olive oil, to finish Salt and pepper to taste Preparation Prepare orzo according to package directions. (Because this is a salad, I suggest cooking it al dente, as it will pair better with the vegetables.)

spring (primavera means spring in Italian) and the sweet potato pie matches the salmon nicely. If you would like to drink wine with this meal, if it is a casual meal I would suggest a rose wine. For a more formal meal, I would suggest a prosecco. I particularly like these wines as they usually contain nice citrus notes, which match this meal beautifully. Note: If you are serving the salmon as an entrée, be certain that the entree does not overpower the main course. Flavors should become more bold as the courses advance. Coat bottom of pan with canola oil. Finely dice onion to 1/4-inch pieces (or smallest possible). Sweat onions over medium high heat until transparent add garlic and stir quickly so that it only sweats and does not burn. Lower heat to medium; add carrots. Once carrots are soft, add broccoli and cover for additional 4-5 minutes. (Broccoli becomes very bright when done.) Add zucchini to pan for 1-2 minutes until it is slightly cooked but not mushy. Strain vegetable juices. Mix with orzo and add salt and pepper to taste. Optionally add a few drops of extra virgin olive oil to finish and mix well. Garnish with dill.

Sweet Potato Pecan Casserole or Pie Ingredients 10-12 sweet potatoes, or as many as can fit in the pan 1 package of candied pecans 5 eggs 1/3 cup orange juice concentrate 1/3 cup of flour (if mixture feels very watery, I usually add an additional 1/3 cup flour to get a better consistency) 1/3 cup brown sugar If sweet potatoes are not sweet, consider adding additional sweetener of choice (like ½ cup Splenda, sugar or 1/3 cup honey) Preparation The following is the way I prepare the casserole: Fill to heap one 9x13 pan with sweet potatoes. Cover each sweet potato with aluminum foil. Place in 350° oven until tender. Once potatoes are cooked, smash them and then mix all above ingredients with the potatoes besides the pecans. Place in 9x13 pan. Place pecans on top of the pie approximately at a distance of 1.5” apart. Bake for approximately 45 minutes at 375° until top starts browning. Variation: For more formal presentation, place mixture in pie crust to bake. If using crust, pre-bake according to directions. If you don’t pre-bake the pie shell, it will absorb the moisture of the sweet potato mixture which will not allow the shell to form proper crust during baking.

Enjoy! Sh a u l Ch e f

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Lola's Story

Lola Lieber Schwartz

A World After This

A Memoir of Loss and Redemption Lola Lieber Schwartz is a world-renowned artist whose paintings have been exhibited in art galleries throughout the United States and are part of the Yad Vashem archives in Jerusalem. Most importantly, Lola is a mother, grandmother and great-grandmother to many. She has myriad friends and sees life in all its vibrancy and vitality. But life was not always easy. Lola was only sixteen-yearsold when Hitler ym”sh invaded Poland, and Lola was forced into hiding and spent years on the run with her husband, Mechel. Through six years of trying times, near

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echel and I were no longer physically fit and were not in shape for such a climb, but the older people were in much worse trouble. We needed to reach the woodsman’s cottage. Not long into the climb, our primary financier said, “Please leave me here to die alone. I just can’t make it. Go ahead. Save yourselves. Forget me. Leave me in peace,” and he started to slide down the path. Mechel grabbed him and said, “We are a group and we go together. Stay with me and I will help you.” The truth was that everyone needed help. Every few feet, we would slide back a few inches because the pathway was slick from the rain. We kept skidding and sliding. Mechel and I quickly realized the only way to make it was to use our hands like animals’ paws. We showed the older ones how to crawl up the trail on all fours to the woodsman’s cottage. When we arrived, he and his family were quite friendly and their welcome seemed sincere. And there we found Rose Glazer who had arrived the previous night, according to our instructions. The hunter’s wife had prepared a simple but nourishing meal. They had very little themselves and were generous in their offering. We couldn’t eat everything they put out for us because there were things forbidden to us by the laws of kashrus (keeping kosher), but we made sure that they did not feel we were ungrateful. After the meal we washed up and sat by the warm fire the hunter had built in his fireplace. We were relaxing in preparation for a predawn descent down the other side of the mountain. Our time for relaxation was not long. The hunt-

er’s wife began to shriek at the top of her lungs, as if she had been scalded with boiling water. “Nobody move. You are not going anywhere. Someone has stolen my 2,000 dollars.” We looked at each other and turned pale with dismay. The money belonged to the Millionaires. It was part of the escape ransom they had paid. The 2,000 dollars was the hunter’s share. Obviously, he had given it to his wife for safekeeping. The prime suspect was Rose. She had been there a day ahead of us.

starvation and brutality, Lola and her husband held onto their faith and values. It was Mechel’s words of encouragement, “There will be a world after this,” that helped them cling to the hope that there will be a life of light and joy waiting for them at the end. This is the story of Lola’s life—from her grandparents’ “enchanted garden” to meeting Eichmann ym”sh to making the Pesach seder for the Bobover Rebbe during the war—her words will take you back to a different world.

Mechel came over to me and Rose and said firmly to her, “Go back into the bedroom and either give Lola the money or she will undress you. If she has to do it, she will take every piece of clothing off your body.” These were extraordinary words for an Orthodox Jewish man to utter to a woman. We went back into the room. I was gentle and told her I knew she had seen enough humiliation in her life and that I did not want to be responsible for any further shame. She had to return the money to me. She began to cry. She had

“No, I can’t go on with this. I want to die. Please leave me alone here. I want to die.” I said to her quietly, “Rose, you need to give me the money if you took it. Please. No questions asked, just give it to me privately.” She became belligerent and even swore on her parents’ graves she knew nothing about any money. I doubted she was telling the truth. Her oath on her parents’ graves only served to indicate to me that her parents had perished, nothing more. Mechel came over and asked to speak with me. “She has the money. I know she has the money. It can’t be anyone else. Take her into the bedroom and pat her down.” I did what Mechel said, but I could not find any trace of money. Now we figured that the hunter’s wife had made up the whole story to extort another 2,000 dollars from seven hapless Jews on their way to nowhere. I became quite insolent to the hunter’s wife. “This is a rabbi’s daughter. Maybe you want to look again in your home. Perhaps you misplaced the money.” She screamed back at me, “No. Don’t you dare say such a thing to me! I have only one hiding place and my money is gone.”

sewn the money into the hem of her under-slip. Where had she found a needle and thread? I wondered. She said she had taken the money only because she was afraid otherwise she would end up where she had been in Bochnia. All of her defenses were down. Having been compromised by the Nazis physically, she had now compromised herself morally by stealing. She had taken the two thousand dollars because she was so terrified that she might have to experience more awful things in order to survive. I could not judge her. I did not know the dimensions of degradation she had endured. I simply was relieved we had the money back. Before leaving the room, I hugged Rose and told her I would figure out how to protect her. I took the hundred dollar bills back to Mechel and very discreetly spoke to him about how to handle the matter. I told him the whole story. He called all of us together and said he would speak for the group. He suggested that he tell the hunter and his wife that we had worked things out among us and that we would replace the money. Not everyone in our party felt as

sympathetic to Rose as I. Some felt she should be exposed as a crook. Mechel and I explained that doing so might endanger the next truckload of escaping Jews. If Jews were found to be untrustworthy, it would hurt all the others trying to get out through the mountains. They finally agreed that Mechel would be our spokesman. Mechel told the hunter and his wife that despite appearances, Rose had not taken the money. We did not know what happened to it, but we certainly did not want them to suffer any loss on our behalf. Mechel said we had all chipped in again. Then he gave the hunter’s wife the same hundred dollar bills Rose had taken. Mechel, always thinking ahead, had crumpled them up and shuffled the order they were in. Possibly the hunter’s wife would believe an intruder had come in and taken her money rather than one of us. She professed to believe Mechel’s story and let it pass without further comment or drama. Rose’s escapade had eaten up the entire night. Nobody had slept and now it was almost too late to leave. There would be no breakfast. We had to depart immediately with the hunter guiding us down a treacherous trail. We followed behind cautiously, watching his every move and step. At some point, one of the older people stopped to rest and smoke a cigarette. He struck a match. In the flash of light from the one match, we saw that most of us were standing on the edge of a steep cliff. Some of us were within inches of plunging to our deaths. Our financier lost heart again and once more said almost the same words, “No, I can’t go on with this. I want to die. Please leave me alone here. I want to die.” The hunter had absolutely no patience with the man. He was sick and tired of all of us. We were not worth his fee of 2,000 dollars. Although the light of the match had saved us from slipping


side of the border and waited for their group to come across. They waited for the guards to turn their backs, but they must have timed it exactly wrong. Or perhaps they looked a little too Polish, or too Jewish, or maybe someone said a word in Polish. We will never know if all or any of these things caused their arrest. They were seized and sent back to the Polish side of the checkpoint. We watched as the guards used their field telephones to summon the authorities.

Their fate was sealed. Death in the mountains might not have been the cruelest end. yes, yes.” I had figured out that if we were questioned we were going to say we were immigrants from Kosice, Czechoslovakia. People there would speak Hungarian, but not perfectly. The guards didn’t bother to ask any questions or give us more than a passing glance. I had tried to teach the financier, his wife, and his friends a few words of Hungarian. It wasn’t so difficult, but by then they were just too weary to pay attention to the finer details of survival. Mechel, Rose, and I hid on the other

They would be returned to the Germans. Their fate was sealed. Death in the mountains might not have been the cruelest end. Mechel and I were crushed. Rose didn’t show any concern at all. She was free and that was as far as she could think. And she wasn’t beholden to the Millionaires, so she did not understand how Mechel and I felt. The couple that had made it possible for my entire family to escape had been lost in the enterprise. Their money had saved our lives. We made our way to Bardjov, Slovakia,

where my Uncle Beri had relatives. Here we received another kind of shock to our systems. Uncle Beri and his relatives had been living there for a year as part of the plan to help Jews get out of Poland. They took the three of us in and gave us a meal and fresh clothing. We told them everything we had experienced and all that was happening in Poland. They listened politely but they didn’t ask any questions. They were skeptical about our stories. When forced to understand that we were not embellishing our struggles and the enormous losses, they took an even more upsetting stance with us. “Such things as this will never happen to Hungarian Jews,” one of them said. We had not been exposed to this kind of thinking until then, but it would not be the last time our stories would be met with outright disbelief: we were Poylishe Yidden, Polish Jews, given to fanatical leanings. Who would be foolish enough to believe everything we said? Continued next week Lola wrote this book with the help of Alida Brill. A World After This was published in 2010 by Devora Publishing.

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into oblivion, Nazi sympathizers were always lurking around escape routes and might also have observed the light. And now there was the emotional outburst of a man wailing that he wanted to die. The hunter hissed angrily at the older man, “Shut up! We are almost there.” We reached a place the hunter said was safe. He directed us to a small pool of rainwater where we could wash up from the hike. We did so. I noticed how dirty all of our boots were. They were totally caked with mud. Mechel saw it as well. We looked exactly like what we were – an unlikely collection of Jews who had been slogging through forests and mountains running away from our captors. There was only one solution. I took off my boots and quietly licked the mud off the heels and the fronts. Everyone else did the same. What had we come to! I suppose it wasn’t that shocking when you think of everything else we had experienced and so far survived. Below us we saw the glow of daybreak and the checkpoint that signified the Polish border. The hunter told us how to cross without detection and avoid interrogation. We needed to speak Hungarian, not Polish, to each other. The uniformed men marched back and forth, two by two. They were Hungarians, dressed in the traditional Hussar costume, red jackets with ostrich feath-


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Ask the Rabbi Yehoshua Levy

Solving the Sabbatical Year and the Age of the Earth Have the Jewish people always observed the Sabbatical year even while exiled from Israel, or only once they re-occupied the Holy Land? Are we sure we accurately calculated which year is the Sabbatical? The Rabbi Responds: Being that the laws of Shemitta (the Sabbatical) are only applicable to the land and produce of Israel, it was impossible for any substantial group of Jewish farmers to observe the Shemitta during the years when Israel lacked significant Jewish presence. Only in the last couple of centuries have Jews begun returning to their homeland, enabling us to once again observe this great mitzvah. Every seven year cycle, more Jewish farmers are joining those who observe the laws of Shemitta, and awareness of its laws and centrality in Jewish life are growing both among Jews residing in Israel and in the Diaspora. The truth is that we are not absolute-

The fact that we actually observed the Shemitta in 5768 was not a mistake.

ly certain of the accuracy of our calculations. The Tur (C.M. 67) writes that the calculation of the Shemitta cycle is a matter of contention between Rashi and Tosfos (pre-eminent Medieval Talmudic authorities). Their dispute revolves around how many years the Second Temple stood. According to Rashi, it seems that the Shemitta would have fallen out in the Jewish year 5766 (2005-2006). The law follows the opinion of Tosfos which would have es-

tablished 5767 (2006-2007) as the Shemitta, and the next one in 5774. The problem is that the last Shemitta we observed was the Jewish year of 5768 (Sept. 0708) and the next Shemitta will be in 5775 (2014-2015). It does seem that our calculation is at least one year off! However, the fact that we actually observed the Shemitta in 5768 was not a mistake; Tosfos’s calendar counts the years of the world’s existence from the

creation of Adam, the first man. Our calendars begin calculating the age of the earth from the first day of creation, and being that the sixth day of creation is Rosh Hashanah, (the Jewish New year), Adam was created on the first day of the second year. In short, Tosfos would refer to our 5768 as 5767, and so, we observed Shemitta on the correct year. We’re just not sure how many candles to put on the world’s birthday cake. All the best, Yehoshua Levy   Please note, the information written above is not meant as a rabbinic ruling. If you have any questions, please consult your rabbinic authority for clarification. Yehoshua Levy, a teacher of Torah, is a writer and lecturer who dares to think outside the box to bring his thought-provoking insights and facts to his readers. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at editor@fivetownsjewishhome.com.

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From Sea to Shining Sea: New York

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hen Ol’ Blue Eyes sang about “New York, New York,” you knew you wanted to be part of the action. Although I may be biased since I have lived in the Empire State all my life, New York is the unofficial capital of the world. Here, cultures and people from different nations and countries clash and collide and then merge into a fun, exciting melting pot. Nobody said New Yorkers have time for tourists, but they humor them with their large cameras and floppy hats. (Here’s a tip: if you don’t want to seem like a tourist, leave the large water bottle at the hotel and stop gawking at the tall buildings. There will be many to see on your trip here.) Things You Won’t Want to Miss The Crossroads of the World Did you know that New York State is not just about New York City? But, if you’re going to write about the Big Apple, you might as well include its most famous— and busiest—borough: New York City. When visiting the City, spend time in Times Square, visiting the shops, taking a ride on the huge Ferris wheel in Toys R Us, drinking a cold soda from a street cart and perhaps getting tickets to a matinee Broadway show at TKTS. The Great White Way hosts almost a million people each year on New Year’s Eve. I prefer to go when there’s less people and it’s a little warmer…but that’s just me. While you’re here, don’t forget about the shopping. Fifth Avenue is home to many luxurious stores where the clothes are probably worth way more than you’re interested in spending…unless you stop into Zara. Looking for some green in NYC? Central Park is the perfect place to relax, read a book or take a bike ride. There’s so much to do in this oasis in the city—you can spend days here strolling its roads. Niagara Falls No matter how many times one visits the falls, the beauty and grandeur of the falls is breathtaking. Approximately 150,000 gallons of water crashes down below every second, although the amount varies depending on the time of year. The best time to go is during the summer months. The weather is warm and the flow of the water is greatest at that point. Make sure to take a Maid of the Mist voyage while you’re here; you can’t fathom the majesty of the falls without getting close to them. Numerous daredevils have tried to conquer the falls, some without success. In 1901, Annie Taylor was the first person to survive the falls in a barrel. She thought it would

bring her fame and fortune; she died penniless. In 1911, Bobby Leach broke both kneecaps and his jaw during his plunge over the falls in a steel barrel. Years later, he slipped on an orange peel and died from gangrene. In 2003, Kirk Jones became the first stunter to survive the falls with only the clothes on his back. Unfortunately, he and his friends were so drunk when he performed the stunt that they couldn’t figure out how to work the video camera, and his stunt was never recorded. Take Me Out to the Ballgame If you love baseball and just can’t get enough of the game, make sure to head over to Cooperstown. Here you’ll get more than enough info about the game and its famous players. Marvel at the 135,000 baseball cards with major players and spend time in its National Baseball Hall of Fame. There’s even a wax museum with over 30 of your favorite players ready for their photo ops. While you’re spending time with Joe DiMaggio and the Babe, your kids will have a ball at the Sandlot Kids’ Clubhouse. There’s more than just baseball in Cooperstown. You can enjoy the butterflies at the butterfly conservatory in town and go back in history at the Farmers’ Museum. Just make sure to pack some peanuts and Cracker Jacks. The Great Adirondacks With six million acres, Adirondack Park mixes the spirit of the wild with the charming atmosphere of quaint Adirondack towns and villages. Spring comes slowly to the region, shaking off winter white for emerald meadows, blue skies and brilliant flowers. Rafting and rock climbing are popular activities in the region. During the winter, the snowcapped mountains offer challenges to those on sleds and skis. Lake Placid and Lake George offer visitors sparkling lakes with a small-town feel. There is nothing that says “America” more than eating hot dogs while watching fireworks over a lake on July 4th.

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Artistic and Creative Outdoor Games Just in Time for Summer

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o your children love to use creative energy but always complain that there is never enough time to spend exploring new ideas and concepts? Summer playtime is just around the corner. There are so many novel ideas that can be used for the purpose of experimentation. Children who attend summer camps will probably receive a large dose of creativity in a structured environment. For those children who are at home a good part of the day, there is a large amount of time that can be spent on creativity with a minimal amount of parental involvement. Just spend a little time pre-planning, and you will create a creative experience for your children. White vinyl that can be purchased by the yard from variety and hardware stores can be used as a backdrop to create an exciting outdoor play mat. This is an inexpensive and practical way of designing a play activity for your children that they will enjoy. Bold permanent markers will work just fine to create the board for the game. Use any existing board game that your children like to play indoors and copy the board onto the sturdy plastic. Plan out all the lines and boxes first with a ruler and pencil, draw the necessary lines and then go over them with bold permanent markers. With a little imagination, any game can be adjusted a little to create a wonderful outdoor game for the children to play. Create the board large enough to place on a concrete slab, patio or driveway. Or, if you so choose, make it the size of an outdoor table of any size or shape. Your children will really enjoy these types of games that can be played outdoors. You should use some ingenuity in choosing all different types of outdoor equipment as markers and pieces for these outdoor games. Try shopping for oversized plastic items that are used as toys at the beach or in sand boxes. Do not use anything that is sharp or not child-proof. These safe pieces will make excellent choices for game pieces. It is also a great idea to create jumping or skipping games on these pieces of rolled vinyl. Coloring books provide wonderful creative ideas that can be easily copied. (These permanent bold markers should only be used outdoors or in a well-ventilated area with open

windows. They give off an odor that is not good to use in small areas. They are the only type of markers that will hold up on the vinyl and remain intact after much fun and games.) There are so many games that can be created in English and Hebrew or any other language. Skip, jump, hop, and enjoy the summer time. Be creative and adventurous by inventing artistic, creative and inventive outdoor games just in time for summer. P.S. Learning can be incorporated into these games by using some of the material that you want to review with your children and using the information as part of the game. Examples of questions with oversized question marks being the winning spot if you land on it will stimulate and fascinate your children. Use some of the workbooks that they already have and create games that will help your children improve vocabulary or math skills over the summer. It becomes so much fun when combined with outdoor play. Have a wonderful and creative summer with your children. Adults will also gain from these activities. Just remember, a little imagination goes a long way! Customize your games to match your personal needs. Rebbetzin Naomi N. Herzberg is a professional art educator, artist and designer. Among her known artwork is a floral sculpture presented to Tipper Gore, Blair House, Washington, D.C. Presently she is the Director of Operations at Shulamith School for Girls. Please feel free to email nherzberg@ optonline.net with questions and suggestions for future columns.


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What is the Difference Between a Will and a Living Will?

Will (Last Will and Testament): The purpose of a Will is to distribute your assets after you pass. If you have ever seen a movie with a lawyer reading a document to the family of a rich uncle who died, the lawyer is reading from this type of a will. A Will allows you to decide what you would like to go to whom, when, and how. Without a Will, New York State law will determine who inherits your assets and handles your estate. A Will, as well as a living trust, allows you to structure the asset distribution to help

avoid estate taxes, protect your heirs from creditors, and space out the distribution over time. Family heirlooms can be expressly left to a beneficiary in a will to avoid fights. Only a Will can also be used to nominate guardians for your minor children if both of their parents pass away, although the court still has final discretion. A Will also allows the testator (person making the Will) to appoint executor(s) who will oversee the administration of the estate. It is important to know that, unlike a living will, the last will and testament only takes effect after you die and can be changed, or revoked, any time prior to your death. To have any effect, your Will must be probated in the Surrogate’s Court where you last resided after you die.

Living Will: The purpose of a living will is to memorialize your healthcare wishes so that your family, doctors, and/or healthcare proxy (the person making your healthcare decisions) know what you want done if you are not able to make decisions for yourself. You are able to specify whether you would like to be kept alive by artificial means if there is no hope of recovery. You are also able

Both a Will and a living will are important pieces of any estate plan. Each should be prepared under the guidance of an attorney and both need to be witnessed by two disinterested witnesses. That is where the similarities end. It is important for clients to understand that while a living will deals with health care decisions, a Will deals with distribution of property and the appointment of guardians and fiduciaries.

An Observant Jew should also have a form which designates an agent to carry out his burial wishes in accordance with halacha. to specify the level of care that you want to receive if you are in an accident or a coma. A living will, although not officially authorized by New York State law, is enforceable as long as it provides clear and convincing evidence of your desires. Since it is hard to draft instructions for all the different possibilities which may arise, I generally advise clients to also prepare a healthcare proxy which appoints a trusted person to make decisions on your behalf. The healthcare proxy should be given a copy of your living will so that they can use it as a guide as they make decisions. For individuals who wish to have decisions made according to the laws of their religion, such as organ donation and cremation, it is important to appoint a proxy who is sensitive to those wishes and to specify those wishes in the living will. The Agudath Israel of America has a free form which incorporates a healthcare proxy with a living will in accordance with halacha. Similar to a power of attorney, which is used by your agent for financial and business transactions, a living will ceases to be effective after you pass away. Additionally, an observant Jew should also have a form which designates an agent to carry out his burial wishes in accordance with halacha. Such a designation, which is sanctioned by NY Public Health Law, is superior to instructions in a Will which take time to access.

Roman Aminov is a trusts and estates attorney concentrating in estate planning, elder law, and probate. He is experienced in the drafting of wills, powers of attorney, health

care proxies, and trusts of all types. Contact Roman Aminov at (347)ROMAN-85 or visit www.AminovLaw.com to schedule a free consultation. CNG Networking Group is an Orthodox Jewish networking group which meets in Queens and Long Island. The attorney subgroup of CNG has 8 members with various specialties: Trusts & Estates, Real Estate, Matrimonial, Criminal, Personal Injury, Trademarks/Copyright, Tax, Non-profits, Litigation. We welcome questions from readers on a wide range of legal matters. Please submit your legal questions to SchechterLaw@gmail.com. While we do not provide specific legal advice, we hope to present readers with a greater understanding of the issues presented and potential means of resolving difficulties. No column is a substitute for competent legal advice. Please consult with the attorney of your choice concerning specific legal questions you may have.

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n my estate planning practice, as well as during the seminars that I give, I regularly speak to clients who are unsure of the distinction between a will, also known as a last will and testament, and a living will. I have even had one client who had told me that she had a will, when in reality all she had was a living will. The difference between the two is vast, and not knowing the difference could have cost my client tens of thousands of dollars.

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Who’s Afraid of the Big Bad Wolf?

ur federal government devotes millions of man-hours and billions of dollars each year to law enforcement. The FBI, DEA, and Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, and Firearms, along with lesser-known agencies like the U.S. FDA’s Office of Criminal Investigations (pursuing criminal violations of food and drug laws), the Department of Commerce’s Office of Export Enforcement (responsible for keeping dangerous technology out of the wrong hands), and NOAA’s Fisheries Office for Law Enforcement (charged with protecting the ecosystem and marine life) all strike fear in at least somebody’s heart. But there’s one agency that has an almost mythical power in most minds, and that’s the IRS. The tax cops put Pete Rose and Wesley Snipes in jail. They put Al Capone in jail, for pete’s sake! We’d all better watch out, right? Well, you be the judge. Last week, the IRS Criminal Investigation unit released their Fiscal 2012 annual report – and the findings might surprise you. Here are some of the highlights: Investigators cover a wide variety of tax-related crimes beyond the garden-variety tax fraud and celebrity “failure to file” cases that command the biggest headlines. Their work also includes identity theft, offshore tax evasion, tax treaty cases, tax protestors, money laundering, terrorist financing, public corruption, and drug enforcement cases. Business is booming – but numbers are still relatively small considering the 100 million+ returns the IRS collects every year. For Fiscal 2012, the Service initiated just 5,125 investigations, up from 4,720 in 2011. Out of those 5,125 investigations, they recommended 3,710 prosecutions. (IRS investigators don’t actually prosecute offenders themselves; they turn that job over to the Department of Justice.) There were 3,390 indictments and 2,634 convictions – the Feds generally don’t take you to court if they’re not already sure they can win. 2,466 lucky winners drew all-expense-paid trips to “Club Fed.” Investigators spend a lot of time chasing down crooked tax preparers. For 2012, they investigated 443 suspi-

cious-looking characters, recommended 276 prosecutions, and won 178 convictions. The average convicted preparer earns 29 months in jail, up from 25 months in 2011. The IRS continues to uncover people who really just ought to know better. Take Jimmy Dimora, for example, a former Cuyahoga County (Ohio) Commissioner, who found himself looking for ways to supplement his county pay. Dimora took more than $166,000 in bribes to steer contracts to allies, get jobs and

raises for associates, intercede with judges on pending cases, and generally abuse his office. Naturally, he forgot to pay tax on those bribes. Jimmy wound up drawing a 336 month sentence for his sideline business. (For those of you who try not to use math on a daily basis, that’s 28 years behind bars.) Do any of these points strike a chord with you? Of course they don’t. The average American has nothing to fear from the Criminal Investigations unit. As far as most of us are concerned, the IRS is just the federal government’s collection agency, nothing scarier. You’ve got to do something really outrageous to draw one of those 5,000 case investigations. We all know taxes are going up this year, and we all know nobody wants to pay. That’s the bad news. The good news is you don’t have to flirt with IRS Criminal Investigations to pay less. You just need a plan. There’s no shortage of court-tested, IRS-approved strategies for minimizing your tax. So make sure to plan for next year…right now! Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 years in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@ aol.com.

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“Till” I “Rake” Again!

t’s planting season! That time of the year you find that perfect little corner of your yard that gets the right amount of sun and water, and start clearing the shrubs. Then you go looking for some little plants that capture your fancy! I know, you can certainly go down the aisles at Gourmet Glatt or Supersol and find the same exact things three months more mature: no digging, no dirt, how soon you will probably be able to no davening over them, but where’s the pluck them and use them. A fantastic day is when you find a fun in that? This is playing G-d for a little bit. hidden treasure of vegetables you didn’t That feeling of “yaish mai’ayin.” You notice growing, in a fully grown state. start with dirt and leaves and suddenly Somehow they were intermingled in the a vegetable appears. Euphoria? Honestly branches of your tree. It’s a windfall. though, you are humbled pretty quickly Like winning the lottery. Seriously— you’ve become that nuts! and recognize you are nothing like G-d. You think to yourself, “Next year I’m Because all the plants you buy look almost exactly alike. Unless you are removing the swing set, throwing out the some kind of “leaf-ologist” only then, lounge chairs, and raking up the whole maybe, do you know which leaves will yard. Who needs grass? I was born to yield which veggies. But assuming you be a farmer!!” You are out of control are just the run of the mill grocery shop- with this sense of excitement, you’re per, the plant people sell the plants with a powerful, you can create from nothing. Yet ultimately you trusty pointy paper recognize you are I.D. badge. Your nothing like G-d. job is to place the “Next year I’m Because when he plant in the ground plants a tomato and then stick this removing the swing bush, He gets a little paper prop tomato bush. You, inside the ground set, throwing out on the other hand, right next to it. the lounge chairs, are at the mercy of Perfect—now you very flimsy markknow exactly what and raking up the er. But you do get will grow there! a definite high. “I Wrong! The whole yard. Who started with an aspaper flies away, needs grass? I was sortment of leaves, the plant grows and got something over it, the wind born to be a farmer!!” real and edible. moves it to anMaybe I’m no other spot. You’re G-d, but for one left a little in surprise-mode. G-d probably does a little little moment of time, I’m a pretty close second.” What a wonderful feeling. G-d better than that. The buds start emerging a month has given us the power to emulate Him or two months later, and finally a pea, and create—and it feels pretty good. Take advantage of your creative abila pepper, a cucumber, begins to appear. You are completely blown away. You ities, and even if you don’t have the urge just can’t believe you have created some- to go out and rip up your entire front thing. It’s honestly as exciting as giving lawn…I hope I’ve planted in you the birth. You have brought something new realization that we have access to many tools to make things happen. and useful into the world. Go for it! And have a great, “growthYou are sooo proud of it! You want everyone to eat it, to enjoy it, and simul- ful” and creative week! taneously to keep clear of it so you can Rivki Rosenwald is a certified life coach and preserve your achievement forever! Each day you survey your plot. You relationship counselor, as well as a space dehave a sense of how many cucumbers, sign consultant. She can be contacted at 917zucchini, tomatoes, etc. are growing, and 705-2004 or rivki@rosenwalds.com.


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Congratulations to our last raffle winner, Jonathan Thurm!


Five Towns Jewish Home May 23 2013