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Dear Readers,

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t was at the end of a random conversation and I was saying goodbye when the person I was speaking with wished me a good year. “You should have a nice Rosh Hashana,” she said. That simple sentence stopped me in my tracks. Rosh Hashana! It’s finally here! As the editor of a newspaper, I have Rosh Hashana on my mind in the summer since we have to start thinking about things in advance. And although I was preparing divrei Torah, recipes, and articles for publication – all about Rosh Hashana – I really didn’t register that the Yomim Noraim were edging closer. And it hit me at that moment. A new year, a new beginning, an opportunity to beg for all the good that can be bestowed upon us. The responsibility is overwhelming; the possibilities are astounding. Last night, when researching something, I came across a website that listed questions one should ask themselves before Rosh Hashana. Here were some of the questions posed: When do I most feel that my life is meaningful? What would bring me more happiness than anything else in the world? What are my three most significant achievements/biggest mistakes in the past year? What are my three major goals in life? What practical steps can I take in the next few months toward these goals? There were at least 20 questions, each one more thought-provoking than the next, ending with the last question of: What do I want written on my tombstone? It was nearing midnight as I perused the questions, and I hurriedly read through them with nary a thought in my mind of attempting to answer them. Another time, I told myself. When I have more time. But when I woke up this morning, of course, there were lunches to prepare and breakfasts to be made and mitzvah notes to be written.

And then work consumes much of my day. And my nights, too. So when will I have the time to stop and think and contemplate the gift given to me last year for a fresh start? When will I have the opportunity to sit down and map out my hopes, dreams, aspirations and goals for this upcoming year? Will I just be swept up in the frothy waves of the new year rolling in or will I recalibrate, take stock, and come in with a clear picture of what I wish my year to be? But then I realized that Rosh Hashana is not just one (or two) days a year. When we come to Rosh Hashana, we are bringing with us a whole year packed inside neat little boxes for us to open and show Hashem how we’ve progressed from last year. As a working mother, my avodah is not about achieving lofty, kabbalistic goals. My job is about preparing lunches and breakfasts and doing loads of laundry. In doing so, I am building a family as an integral part of the Jewish nation. I am molding children who love and connect with their Creator and with their fellow Jews. I am shaping them into people who will continue the mesorah of our Nation. Every dish that I wash and every carpool that I drive and every dinner that I cook is G-d’s work. It is me doing the job that was assigned to me. So, perhaps, this year, I will give myself the gift of a few moments – no cooking, no cleaning, no shopping, no interruptions – to recalibrate and be certain that I am heading in the right direction. But I will also look back at all the loads of laundry that I folded and remember that right now, I am doing what is expected of me. May this year be filled with only good things for you and your families, and may Hashem answer misha’alos libchem l’tova. Kesiva v’chasima tova, Shoshana

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Contents LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

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COMMUNITY Readers’ Poll

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Community Happenings

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NEWS Global

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That’s Odd

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ISRAEL Israel News

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Seeing Clearly in the Holy Land by Rafi Sackville

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A Year of Emunah: Farmers’ Wives Reflect on the Past Shemitta Year 126

JEWISH THOUGHT

Rabbi Wein on the Parsha

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Connecting the Great Shofar by Rav Moshe Weinberger

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The Chaos Theory: Code Word for G-d By Rabbi David Sutton

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Delving into the Daf by Rabbi Avrohom Sebrow

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ROSH HASHANA The Three Stages of Teshuva by Rabbi Shmuel Reichman

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The Wonderful Buzz of the Honey by Rav Yaakov Feitman

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The Piercing Cry of the Neshama by Rabbi Daniel Glatstein

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To Meet You Face to Face by R’ Yaakov Klein

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Bringing the Truest You to the Yamim Noraim By Rabbi Benny Berlin

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PEOPLE Famous and Fighting by Avi Heiligman

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FOOD & LEISURE The Aussie Gourmet: Tsimmes Soup

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LIFESTYLES Dating Dialogue, Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW

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School of Thought by Etti Siegel

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Parenting Pearls by Sara Rayvych

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JWOW!

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Teen Talk

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Mind Your Business by Yitzchak Saftlas

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Dear Editor, I recently went to Poland to put a monument on my grandmother’s grave. She died July 26, 1939, and the Germans came into Poland in September 1939. After the Germans came into Lodz, a monument was never put on her grave. She was buried next to her mother, my great-grandmother. My father, who was the only survivor of his entire family, never went back to Poland. I, being the second generation, felt I had a mission to put a monument on my grandmother’s grave. Several people helped me on my journey. One was David from Steindel Monuments. Together, we designed a stone that would fit into my suitcase. The stone weighed around 50 pounds. The second gentleman was John Crust. He picked me up from the train station and helped me with the monument. John introduced me to Tadeusz Olubek, a Christian volunteer at the cemetery. Even though I knew the area that my grandmother was buried, I would’ve never found it without Tadeusz’s help. He not only found the grave but also cleaned up the area. I was able to find my great-grandmother’s monument, and he was able to place the two monuments together. Going to Poland I had very mixed feelings. I was apprehensive and I didn’t know what to expect. Both my parents who are Holocaust survivors went through a great deal of trauma, and as a family we lived through this trauma together. I can now go visit my father’s grave and tell him what I’ve done. That

his mother and grandmother are now together and will rest in peace for eternity. Nora (Nissy) Schnitzer Dear Editor, I heard a magical idea from Rabbi Stav of Yeshivat Kerem B’Yavneh, who was recently in the United States, that glorifies the Rosh Hashana experience. Biblically, Rosh Hashana is Yom HaZikaron and Yom Teruah. As Yom HaZicharon, we ask G-d to remember that we were His dreams and aspirations when He created the world. We ask Him to remember that. But because the world is created anew every year, there is a necessity for a Yom Teruah, symbolic of broken-up actions that we must perform to bring G-d close to us. This is a day for G-d to remember us and for us to draw Him close. Yehuda Levine Dear Editor, Thank you for your interesting and informative publication. I read with interest “A Whole New World” in last week’s issue, from Rabbi Moshe Weinberger. Near the end, on p.82, an alleged story involving Rav Gedalia Schorr zt”l of Torah Vodaath is told, about his last moments, before passing away at a sheva brachos after speaking. The problem is that much, if not all, of what is stated is incorrect. For example, it says that he went in a wheelchair – false. It states that he said that the gift Hashem gives to the chassan and kallah is forgiveness, “the husband’s ability to forgive his wife and a wife’s ability to forgive her husband.” Continued on page 8

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The Show Must Go On by Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS 175

HUMOR Centerfold

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POLITICAL CROSSFIRE Notable Quotes

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Biden’s Foolish Inflation Celebration by Marc A. Thiessen

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Biden’s MAGA Attacks are Directed at Mainstream Republicans by Marc A. Thiessen

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Will Deterrence Have a Role in the Cyberspace by David Ignatius

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The U.N. is Getting Ukraine Surprisingly Right by David Ignatius

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While Rav Schorr spoke of forgiveness, according to authoritative accounts, he spoke of Hashem’s forgiveness of the chassan and kallah, mechilas avonos, which is different from them forgiving each other. The Jewish Observer, after Rav Schorr’s passing related this in a remembrance by Rabbi Nosson Scherman of Artscroll/Mesorah Publications. It can be seen here (p.9) - The Jewish Observer Vol. 14 No. 3 October 1979/Tishrei 5739 Agudath Israel of America (agudah.org) Someone from his family also pointed me to the sefer Migdal Ohr, by his son, R. Yitzchok Meir z”l, p. 179, for the same info. Hopefully in the future, people will be more careful to include only accurate, verified information. Wishing you a good year. Sincerely, A longtime reader Dear Editor, My kids know how I love to relax reading your paper with my cup of coffee on Shabbos. This Shabbos, I was quite disappointed and somewhat dumbfounded ,to be honest. I think that what stories are highlighted on the front page should reflect the essence of the paper and the community that it represents. I understand that the Queen’s demise was significant to the world, but in my humble opinion, it should not have taken precedence over other important stories. One such story was that of the untimely demise of Yanky Meyer, a”h, the founder of Misaskim. Many of us, baruch Hashem, have not needed the help of this worthy

organization, but I have heard firsthand from close friends how important of a role they played in their lives at a time of such pain. My own son-in-law is a Misaskim volunteer and has told me of the chesed that is done daily and hourly, all because of this giant of a man. I just feel that we all need to give our children the right chinuch and lead by example. If they see the Queen on the front page but need to turn to page 76 to read about a giant of a man, then maybe there is something wrong with the message we are conveying. As we are approaching Rosh Hashana, I hope that we can all be more aware of what is important in our lives and what makes Hashem happy. May we all have a kesiva v’chasima tova and a gut gebenched yor. Sheri Zimmermann Dear Editor, The question in your dating column this week should not have been in the dating column; it should have been in your parenting column. These children were obviously brought up looking at what others have, wanting what others have, and getting what others have… it’s a bit too late to change them. The only thing that parents can do is just close the purse. You can buy presents occasionally or even chip in for gifts when there’s a major event (baby, bar mitzvah, graduation) but do not feel the need or pressure to float their lifestyle. This is why they’re adults now and have their own families. They need to learn to stand on their own two feet. Chani Sussman

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The Week In News

Hurricane Havoc

Hurricane Maria, when it made landfall five years ago. Still, some are saying that Fiona could be even worse. In Puerto Rico, more than 1.18 million of the island’s roughly 1.47 million utility customers still were without power as of early Tuesday. It will be days before power is restored. Many of those without power also have no water, as rain and f looding impacting filtration systems left only about 35% of customers with water service as of Monday.

Typhoon Slams Japan Hurricane Fiona has been wreaking havoc throughout the Caribbean, leaving 1 million people without running water in the Dominican Republic, slashing power lines in Puerto Rico and leaving millions without electricity, and then slamming into Turks and Caicos on Tuesday. By Tuesday it had strengthened into a major hurricane, a Category 3 with sustained winds of more than 111 mph. Its heavy rains were threatening “life-threatening f looding” through afternoon in the Turks and Caicos. At least four people have died from the severe weather, including one in the French territory of Guadeloupe, into which Fiona slammed late last week; two in Puerto Rico; and one in the Dominican Republic, according to officials. In Puerto Rico, a 58-year-old man was swept away by a swollen river behind his home in Comerío and another man in his 30s died in a fire accident that occurred while he was trying to put gasoline in his generator while it was turned on, officials said. Running water is a major concern for those in the Dominican Republic. As of Monday, at least 1,018,564 customers there had no access to running water as 59 aqueducts were out of service and several others were only partially functioning, according to Jose Luis German Mejia, a national emergency management official. Some were also without electricity as 10 electric circuits went off line, emergency management officials said. Fiona is the first major hurricane – Category 3 or higher – of this year’s Atlantic hurricane season. People in these countries still remember the catastrophe wrought by

Typhoon Nanmadol made landfall on Sunday evening onto Japan’s southernmost island of Kyushu, cutting off power to hundreds of thousands and leading to the deaths of at least two people. One person died when his car filled with water; another perished in a mudslide. Nanmadol registered as one of the strongest typhoons Japan has ever seen, according to the World Meteorological Association. More than 300,000 households across southwestern Japan have been left without power, prompting local authorities to issue a “special warning” urging residents to seek shelter from the powerful storm. By Monday evening, parts of Kyushu, Shikoku island and the region of Chugoku experienced rainfall of more than 200 millimeters in 24 hours, with several places breaking records for the most rainfall on a September day. Shikoku’s Yanase saw more than 400 mm of rain. Officials were warning residents of a “large-scale disaster” due to extensive flooding and landslides, urging them to seek shelter in sturdy buildings or move to higher ground. Nanmadol is the 14th typhoon Japan has experienced this year and comes after the country grappled with record setting heatwaves in June that caused massive power outages to millions of residents in the capital Tokyo and high numbers of heatstroke among the vulnerable elderly.


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Nanmadol is expected to travel to central Japan toward Tokyo over the coming days and will maintain much of its strength as it moves, experts warned. Ferries and bullet train services, as well as hundreds of flights, have been canceled across the country due to the dangerous weather.

Protests in Iran

Police in Iran have shot and killed at least five people during protests that have been rocking the country. At least 75 others were injured. The protests stem from the death of Mahsa Amini, who was being held in police custody and then died. Amini, 22, had been arrested by Iran’s morality police last Tuesday.

Officials say she died on Friday after suffering a “heart attack” and then falling into a coma. Her family says she did not suffer from a heart condition. Edited security camera footage released by Iran’s state media appeared to show Amini collapsing at a “re-education” center where she was taken to receive “guidance” on her attire. The UN’s Acting High Commissioner for Human Rights Nada Al-Nashif issued a statement on Tuesday expressing alarm at “the violent response by [Iranian] security forces” to the demonstrations. The governor of Tehran, Mohsen Mansouri, has accused the protesters of attacking police and destroying public property, claiming in a Twitter post late Monday that the protesters were “fully organized and trained to create disturbances in Tehran.” Iran’s morality police are part of the country’s law enforcement and are tasked with enforcing the strict social rules of the Islamic Republic, including its dress code that mandates women wear a headscarf, or hijab, in public. According to the UN Human Rights Office (OHCHR), the morality police have expanded street patrols in re-

cent months and have been subjecting women perceived to be wearing “loose hijab” to verbal and physical harassment and arrest. “Meanwhile in the Middle East” Newsletter. “(OHCHR) has received numerous, and verified, videos of violent treatment of women, including slapping women across the face, beating them with batons and throwing them into police vans,” it said. Amini’s death have sparked an outrage of protest across the country. The UN said thousands of people have taken to the streets in cities including Tehran, Isfahan, Karaj, Mashhad, Rasht, Saqqes and Sanandaj to demand justice and accountability.

Earthquake Shakes Mexico On Monday, a powerful 7.7-magnitude earthquake rocked the southwestern coast of Mexico, killing at least one person. Tremors were reported as far away as Mexico City. The epicenter was located in Michoacan state, which is home to very few people.

In Mexico City, firefighters closed some buildings to the public due to concerns of collapse.

One person lost his life in a shopping center in Manzanillo in the western state of Colima after a fence fell, President López Obrador said on social media, citing José Rafael Ojeda Durán, Secretary of the Navy. After the quake, there were warnings of a tsunami, although that threat seems to have passed peacefully. Still, waves reaching up to 3 meters (9.8 feet) were earlier predicted to hit Mexico and occur along the Pacific coasts of Colombia, Costa Rica, Ecuador, El Salvador, Guatemala, Honduras, Nicaragua, Panama and Peru. Just five years ago, in 2017, an earthquake had hit Mexico City, killing 216 people.

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Marburg outbreaks since 1967, mostly in southern and eastern Africa. Fatality rates have varied from 24% to 88% in past outbreaks depending on the virus strain and case management, according to the World Health Organization. The host of the virus is the African fruit bat. Those infected develop fever, chills, muscle aches, and a rash.

Tragedy on Quarantine Bus

Twenty-seven people died and another 20 were injured on Sunday when a bus carrying people being quarantined for Covid overturned on a mountain road in southern China. The bus was an official government bus used for transporting people to isolation centers. China has maintained a strict “zero Covid” policy, putting multiple regions in and out of lockdowns over the last two years. The measures have resulted in extreme situations, such as, in one instance, requiring 20,000 Shanghai bankers to sleep at the office for a number of days amid a breakout. In June, President Xi Jinping held firm to his commitment to the policy despite considerable economic strain. In contrast, on Sunday, President Joe Biden declare the pandemic “over.”

Ghana: No More Marburg Virus This week, Ghana declared the end of an outbreak of Marburg virus, a highly infectious disease similar to Ebola, that was confirmed in July, the president’s office said. Ghana’s Marburg outbreak was the second in West Africa. The first ever case

of the virus was detected last year in Guinea, with no further cases identified. “The Ghana Health Service (GHS) has officially declared Ghana free from the Marburg virus disease outbreak that was confirmed nearly two months ago,” the presidency tweeted on Monday. Ghana’s government confirmed its first outbreak of the disease on July 17. Three cases have been confirmed in total, of which two were fatal. The third was

asymptomatic, and the person recovered.

There have been a dozen major

Organic Matter on Mars The Perseverance rover, which landed on Mars 18 months ago, has been finding samples of organic matter near the Jezero Crater, which may have held a lake and a delta many, many years ago on the Red Planet. These samples may help scientists determine if humans ever lived on the planet. “The rocks that we have been investigating on the delta have the highest concentration of organic matter that we


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have yet found on the mission,” said Ken Farley, Perseverance project scientist at the California Institute of Technology in Pasadena.

The rover’s mission includes looking for signs of ancient microbial life. Perseverance is collecting rock samples that could have preserved these telltale biosignatures. Currently, the rover contains 12 rock samples. A series of missions called Mars Sample Return will eventually take the collection back to Earth in the 2030s. The site of the delta makes Jezero Crater, which spans 28 miles (45 kilometers), of particularly high interest to NASA scientists. The fan-shaped geological feature, once present where a river converged with a lake, preserves layers of Martian history in sedimentary rock, which formed when particles fused together in this formerly water-filled environment.

The rover investigated the crater floor and found evidence of igneous, or volcanic, rock. During its second campaign to study the delta over the past five months, Perseverance has found rich sedimentary rock layers that add more to the story of Mars’ ancient climate and environment. “The delta, with its diverse sedimentary rocks, contrasts beautifully with the igneous rocks – formed from crystallization of magma – discovered on the crater floor,” Farley said. “This juxtaposition provides us with a rich understanding of the geologic history after the crater formed and a diverse sample suite. For example, we found a sandstone that carries grains and rock fragments created far from Jezero Crater.” Organic molecules are of interest on Mars because they represent the building blocks of life, such as carbon, hydrogen and oxygen, as well as nitrogen, phosphorous and sulfur. Perseverance, as well as the Curiosity rover, had previously found organic matter on Mars. This time, though, it is in a different area on the planet.

What’s Next in Ukraine?

Since February, Ukrainians have been battling Russian forces for their lives. This week, Ukraine made a successful offensive through most of occupied Kharkiv, capturing more territory in one month than Russia has nabbed in five months. The move has galvanized Ukraine’s Western backers as much as it has led to recriminations in Moscow. But what is Putin going to do? As winter is fast approaching, it is imperative for Russia to prioritize its forces. Will it double down on the Donetsk and Luhansk regions? The Russians currently hold about 20% of Ukrainian land, including Crimea and

parts of the south. Taking Donetsk is a taller order now for the Russians. Seven months of war have shown the shortcomings in Russian logistics, which will get no easier in wetter, colder weather. Russian forces are feeling squeezed in Kherson, as Ukrainian forces cut off resupply across the River Dnipro and target command posts. Both sides are seeing issues w ith personnel. Many of Russia’s f ighters are volunteers, and bat talions have faced heav y losses. Uk raine has also lost thousands of soldiers, including many from its best units in Donbas. Ultimately, Ukraine’s battlefield success will depend on a continuing and expanded supply of Western hardware. Meetings in the next few weeks will determine what’s in that pipeline, but inventories in several countries are dwindling. Western nations – including the United States – are concerned that Ukraine will fight back too hard, in some cases, against Russia, using longer-range rockets than necessary to hit far into Russia. As such, the U.S. has so far resisted Ukrainian requests for long-range Army Tactical Missile Sys-


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tems (ATACMS) that have a range of up to 300 kilometers. Additionally, some Western officials fear humiliation for the Kremlin might provoke an unpredictable reaction, even including tactical nuclear weapons.

Raisi Doubts Holocaust

9.5M Strong

Ahead of Rosh Hashana, Israel’s population stands at just over 9.5 million residents, the Central Bureau of Statistics (CBS) said in data released on Tuesday. According to the statistics, 9.593 million people live in the country. Of those, 7.069 million (74 percent) are Jewish, 2.026 million (21%) are Arab, and 498,000 (5%) are neither. The population is expected to reach 10 million by the end of 2024, around 15 million by 2048, and 20 million by the end of 2065. Among Jews aged 20 and over in Israel, 45.3 percent define themselves as secular, 19.2% traditional but not very observant, 13.9% are traditional-religious, 10.7% are religious, and 10.5% are charedi. The population of Israel grew by around 187,000 people since Rosh Hashana 2021, at a rate of 1.8%, a slight increase on last year. Throughout the year, 177,000 babies were born in Israel. The past year also saw the arrival of around 59,000 new immigrants to Israel — a jump compared to previous years, fueled by Russia’s invasion of Ukraine. Life expectancy for men in Israel stood at 80.5 years and for women 84.6 years. In 1948, when the Jewish state was established, the population of Israel numbered 806,000 people. Since then, 3.3 million people have immigrated to the country, the CBS said.

In an interview that was aired on Sunday, Iranian President Ebrahim Raisi raised eyebrows when he doubted the Holocaust. Speaking with U.S. reporter Lesley Stahl on CBS’s “60 Minutes,” Raisi also said he couldn’t trust the United States in the nuclear talks and called Washington’s sanctions “tyrannical,” days before he headed to New York to take part in the UN General Assembly. The interview with Raisi, who took power last year, was conducted last Tuesday at the presidential compound in Tehran. Stahl was prepped on how to conduct herself. She had to wear a headscarf when meeting with the Iranian leader “I was told how to dress, not to sit before he did, and not to interrupt him,” she said. Additionally, at the end of the hourlong interview, the U.S. network’s team was surprised when “a member of Raisi’s staff reached up and blocked one of our cameramen from shooting our goodbyes.” CBS added that “another one of our cameramen’s phone was confiscated and held by President Raisi’s security team for two and a half hours.” During the interview, Stahl asked Raisi: “Do you believe the Holocaust happened? That 6 million Jews were slaughtered?” Raisi answered that “historical events should be investigated by researchers and historians. There are some signs that it happened. If so, they should allow it to be investigated and researched.” Stahl then said: “So you’re not sure; I’m getting that you’re not sure.” Raisi didn’t challenge that conclusion. Iranian leaders have a long history of Holocaust denial and Holocaust revisionism. Asked whether he supports Israel’s right to exist, Raisi said, “You see, the


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people of Palestine are the reality. This is the right of the people of Palestine who were forced to leave their houses and motherland. The Americans are supporting this false regime there to take root and to be established there.” Asked about the Abraham Accords, which have seen multiple Arab nations normalize their ties with Jerusalem, the Iranian president replied, “If a state shakes hands with the Zionist regime, then they are also an accomplice to their crimes. And they are stabbing the very idea of Palestine in the back.” Elsewhere during the interview, Raisi said that while his country wants “justice to be served” for the killing of its Quds Force terror chief Qassem Soleimani in a U.S. airstrike in 2020, it won’t retaliate by assassinating officials in former U.S. president Donald Trump’s administration. “That’s the type of the actions that the Americans and Zionist regimes are doing in the world — we are not going to carry out the same actions,” he claimed, even though the U.S. government has charged a Revolutionary Guard member with planning such an assassination. Asked about the difference between the Biden and Trump administrations, Raisi said, “The new administration in the U.S., they claim that they are different from the Trump administration. They have said it in their messages to us. But we haven’t witnessed any changes in reality.” In response to Raisi’s Holocaust remarks, Israel’s President Isaac Herzog tweeted a photograph he said he keeps on his desk of Holocaust survivor Dora Dreiblatt Eisenberg’s forearm, tattooed with her prisoner identification number. Dreiblatt Eisenberg’s arm is shown being held by that of her infant great-granddaughter Daniella Har-Tzvi, against a background of the Israeli national flag. “The numbers speak for themselves,” Herzog posted with the photograph. Military chief Aviv Kohavi added, during a visit to the Nazi death camp Auschwitz in Poland, “You don’t have to be a historian or a researcher to understand the horrors of the Holocaust — you have to be a human being. “Whoever lies and denies the painful and solid truth of history easily lies today, and will naturally lie in the future,” Kohavi added. “This is another reminder that such people should not be allowed to possess any capacity of any kind for development of weapons of mass destruction.”

Resuming Ties with Turkey

Since 2018, the Israeli slot for ambassador to Turkey has been vacant. This week, the post is being filled. Irit Lillian, a senior diplomat who has played a key role in Israel-Turkey reconciliation, will serve as the next ambassador to Turkey, the Foreign Ministry announced this week. Lillian has been Israel’s charge d’affaires in Ankara since February 2021, during which time both sides have moved slowly to restore full diplomatic relations. In 2018, Turkey recalled its ambassador and asked Israel’s to leave in protest of Israel’s response to rioting on the Gaza border, in which dozens of Palestinians were killed. Last month, the two sides announced that they would be restoring full diplomatic ties after two years of gradual rapprochement, which picked up pace noticeably this year with mutual visits by senior officials. “From the beginning, it was clear that we were building a process in which we agree to disagree,” Lillian – who was previously Israel’s ambassador to Bulgaria and also served as acting ambassador in Australia – told The Times of Israel during an August interview. “We are going into proper, positive bilateral relations that have a wide range of activities, but we know that there are points we don’t agree on,” she said. “We know we are not going into a perfect marriage.” Lillian’s appointment must now be approved by the government, and – because the country is being run by a caretaker government – Israel’s attorney general. Prime Minister Yair Lapid is slated to meet with Turkish leader Recep Tayyip Erdogan on the sidelines of the United Nations General Assembly in New York on Tuesday. He is set to speak at the assembly on Thursday. Lapid visited Ankara as foreign minister in June, where he met with his Turkish counterpart Mevlut Cavusoglu.


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Anti-Terrorism Act and alleged that Hezbollah caused the plaintiffs physical and emotional injury and damaged their property.

The judge ordered Hezbollah to pay damages of $111 million to the plaintiffs. Such civil lawsuits brought against terror groups are difficult to enforce. Still, Nitsana Darshan-Leitner, one of the lawyers representing the plaintiffs, said it was an important legal victory against the Iran-backed group. “Only by exacting a heavy price from those who engage in the business of terrorism can we prevent the suffering and loss of additional victims to their violence,” Darshan-Leitner said in a statement. Israel and Hezbollah fought a monthlong war in 2006. Israel pounded targets in Lebanon while Hezbollah launched thousands of rockets at cities and towns in Israel’s north.

Arab Joint List Splits

After the high-level talks aimed at cementing the countries’ rapprochement, Lapid hailed security cooperation with Turkey in helping foil an Iranian plot to kidnap or kill Israeli nationals in Istanbul. Israel was a long-time regional ally of Turkey before a 2010 commando raid on the Gaza-bound Mavi Marmara, part of a blockade-busting flotilla, left 10 Turkish activists dead in a violent melee after they attacked Israeli soldiers who boarded the ship.

Despite an official apology by thenPrime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu, Erdogan maintained his rage, accusing the Jewish state of “keeping Hitler’s spirit alive” during Operation Defensive Shield in July 2014 and calling it a “terrorist state.” President Isaac Herzog visited Ankara on an official trip in March and was welcomed in the capital by a full military procession.

Compensating the Victims A U.S. court has ordered the Lebanese terror group Hezbollah to pay millions of dollars in damages to a group of joint Israeli-American citizens who sued, saying they were wounded by the group’s rockets during a war with Israel in 2006. The case was brought under the U.S.

In a move that is certain to affect Israel’s upcoming elections, on Thursday, the Joint List of Arab-led parties announced that it would run in upcoming elections as two separate factions. The decision to split into separate Hadash-Ta’al and Balad lists came just an hour before final party lists were due to the Central Elections Committee and only a day after the three factions had agreed to run again as the Joint List. The move means that the parties will likely split votes from a fairly small pool


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of Arab constituents. With the Joint List polling at six seats before the break-up, it will be a struggle for either Hadash-Ta’al or Balad to garner the 3.25% of votes nationwide — equal to four seats — necessary to enter the Knesset. The rest of the 40 parties to submit candidate lists for the November 1 elections over the past two days completed the process with few surprises, though Jewish Home, now led by outgoing interior minister Ayelet Shaked, was a relatively late entrant. The Religious Zionism alliance, including Otzma Yehudit, had added the far-right party Noam to its roster just before submitting on Wednesday. The Joint List was first formed in the run-up to the 2015 elections after the vote threshold was raised to four seats, more than any Arab party had managed to get on its own. With Israel seemingly deadlocked politically and entering its fifth election in under four years, potential prime ministers have pinned hopes on pushing smaller parties to unite, keeping likely supporters from falling below the threshold. Netanyahu, who is gunning to regain the premiership after being knocked out of power in June 2021, is currently poll-

ing more strongly than Lapid, but neither has been seen to have a clear-cut path to power.

PA and Hamas Clashes

One person was killed on Tuesday when protesters clashed with Palestinian security services over the arrest of two members of the Hamas terror group in the West Bank city of Nablus. 53-year-old Firas Yaish was the person killed. According to Palestinian reports, the Palestinian was a bystander and was shot in the head. Some of the protesters had reportedly set fire to tires and fired into the air. The unrest persisted through the morning, with hundreds of youths hurling rocks

at PA armored vehicles and the sound of gunfire ringing out across the Nablus city center. The two men detained by Palestinian security services were named as Musab Shtayyeh and Ameed Tbaileh — members of Hamas wanted by Israel. The two were said to have been top targets in the wake of the killing of AlAqsa Martyrs Brigades commander Ibrahim Nabulsi by Israeli troops during an operation last month. Shtayyeh was part of an armed squad called the Nablus Battalion or Nablus Lions. He was suspected of involvement in recent shooting attacks against Israeli forces and Jewish worshipers at Joseph’s Tomb in Nablus. In the wake of the arrests, terror groups warned the Palestinian Authority of the consequences of the operation and demanded the immediate release of the men. Hamas issued a statement warning the PA security services against carrying out actions on behalf of Israel. “This is a new stain on the [Palestinian] Authority and the black record of its security coordination,” the terror group said in a statement. “The authority has positioned itself as an exclusive agent of the occupation (Israel) in the face of our Palestinian peo-

ple,” the statement said. A PA official said that the chances Ramallah’s security forces will be able to continue carrying them out without the advancement of a diplomatic initiative to end the conf lict with Israel “get smaller by the day.” Israeli security officials have warned in recent months that the PA is losing control of the northern West Bank, including Nablus.

Ports Less Busy U.S. ports are beginning to see relief from the backlog that they experienced during the pandemic and beyond. Imports into Long Beach, CA, one of the major ports in the United States, have now fallen for two months. Similarly, the port of Los Angeles registered the biggest decline in inbound cargo since the early days of the Covid-19 pandemic in August. Together, the twin operations


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handle about 40% of containerized trade with Asia. “You’re going to start seeing the economy cool down a little bit,” Port of Long Beach Executive Director Mario Cordero said in an interview on Bloomberg Television on Monday. “We expect some diminishment in what we’ve seen in this consumer demand in the last year and a half.”

The most recent data show U.S. consumer spending and retail sales rising at a sluggish pace, a sign that the highest inflation numbers in almost four decades are starting to take its toll on the economy. Ports had for months been overwhelmed by an influx of goods that triggered supply-chain logjams and delivery delays, but that is showing signs of abating due to logistics improvements and as interest-rate increases are starting to cool demand.

Long Beach is among 29 ports on the U.S. West Coast awaiting the outcome of labor talks between the International Longshore and Warehouse Union – which represents 22,000 dockworkers – and the Pacific Maritime Association, negotiating on behalf of more than 70 employers. The employees have been working without a contract since their previous pact expired July 1. Both sides have vowed to avoid a repeat of the 2014 negotiations, which resulted in the U.S. facing nine months of disruptions and shipping delays that only ended after the Obama administration intervened. Long Beach Mayor Robert Garcia said he’s “hopeful and optimistic” there won’t be major work stoppages stemming from the ongoing labor negotiations.

Food Prices Soar Your grocery bill is now way higher than it was last year – way, way higher. Food costs spiked 11.4% over the past year, the largest annual increase since May 1979, according to data released last Tuesday by the Bureau of Labor Statistics. Americans browsing the supermar-

ket aisle will notice most food items are far more expensive than they were a year ago. Egg prices soared 39.8%, while flour got 23.3% more expensive. Milk rose 17%, and the price of bread jumped 16.2%.

Meat and poultry also grew costlier. Chicken prices jumped 16.6%, while meats rose 6.7%. Fruits and vegetables were up 9.4%. Overall, grocery prices jumped 13.5%. Eating out? Restaurant menu prices increased 8%. Food prices are hard for consumers to grapple with because everyone needs to eat. Still, people are trying to shop smarter. Sales of frozen dinners and entrees have fallen about 11% by volume in August compared to the year prior. Cookie volumes and volumes of refrigerated juices fell nearly 9% and about 8%, respectively, in that period. Lower-income

households in particular are skipping items like juice, snacks and candy.

Flight Fight

Bexar County Sheriff Javier Salazar is attempting to take on Florida Governor Ron DeSantis. The Democrat from Texas says he is opening an investigation into the two flights of migrants sent to Martha’s Vineyard this week by the Republican governor. It’s unclear, though, what laws could have been broken by putting 48 Venezuelans on private planes from San Antonio. “I believe there is some criminal activity involved here,” Salazar said. “But at present we are trying to keep an open mind and we are going to investigate to find out what exact laws were broken if


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that does turn out to be the case.” DeSantis’ office responded with a statement that said the migrants had been given more options to succeed in Massachusetts. “Immigrants have been more than willing to leave Bexar County after being abandoned, homeless, and ‘left to fend for themselves,’” DeSantis spokesperson Taryn Fenske said. “Florida gave them an opportunity to seek greener pastures in a sanctuary jurisdiction that

offered greater resources for them, as we expected.” The Venezuelan migrants who were flown to the wealthy Massachusetts island from San Antonio on Wednesday said they were told they were going to Boston. Julio Henriquez, an attorney who met with several migrants, said they “had no idea of where they were going or where they were.” He said a Latina woman approached migrants at a city-run shelter in San An-

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Thousands of people – perhaps even 30,000 people – were slaughtered by the Iranian regime in 1988 during the “death commission,” a five month period of executions of political prisoners. Many were tortured before their deaths, which have been called a political purge. Because so many people were killed, people were lifted up by forklifts to be hanged by cranes in groups of six. The Iranian regime has consistently denied the killings. Now, the survivors of the death wave are speaking out and expressing their outrage over witnessing Iranian President Ebrahim Raisi attend and speak to the U.N. this week despite his alleged involvement in the commission. As the U.N. proceedings begin, the Organization of Iranian American Communities (OIAC) filled Dag Hammarskjold Park, which sits just across the street from the United Nations building in New York City, with 2,000 photos of victims of the commission. Amnesty International cited between 4,500 and 5,000 men, women and children were killed in prisons across Iran, but a former deputy of the Ayatollah later claimed as many as 30,000 may have died. Sheila, a survivor, told Fox News that the U.S. should not try to make any kind of deal with Iran, which she said is “killing people in the streets.” “Nobody wants them, so no deal, no negotiations and more sanctions against government,” she said. Sheila is one of 16 plaintiffs who have brought a lawsuit against Raisi for his involvement in the “death commission.” The lawsuit, filed in the Southern


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District of New York, charges Raisi with genocide, crimes against humanity, extrajudicial killings and torture, among other crimes. The lawsuit relies on the Alien Tort Statute and Torture Victim Protection Act to try holding Raisi responsible. “Our message is that Raisi is a murderer,” Nasser Sharif, president of the California Society for Democracy in Iran, said. “He does not belong in the United Nations. He doesn’t represent Iranian people.” He added, “The display shows he was involved in killing 30,000 prisoners, many of them members of MEK and other groups. He was involved in suppressing Iranian people for years and years, so we tell the world he does not represent the Iranian people. The people want regime change,” he continued. “You saw the picture of Masha Amini, she was killed three days ago by Iranian security forces. There’s an outcry inside Iran as we speak. People are demonstrating against the government as we speak… saying ‘Death to Raisi,’” he said. “We are just echoing Iranian people’s desires, as far as regime change and a having a democratic, non-nuclear Iran.”

The Invasion of the Lanternfly

The spotted lanternfly, originating from China, is now appearing across the United States. Swarms of the invasive insect first appeared in the U.S. in 2014 in Pennsylvania. But now, the bugs have infested 14 states on the East Coast and in the Midwest: Pennsylvania, Connecticut, Delaware, Indiana, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, New Jersey, New York, North Carolina, Ohio, Rhode Island, Virginia, and West Virginia. “I’ve seen lanternflies build to populations where you can’t even see the bark of the tree through the insect bodies,” Emilie Swackhamer, a plant science expert at Penn State Extension in Collegeville, Pennsylvania, said. “It’s unnerving be-

cause you wonder what that’s doing to the health of the tree.” The spotted lanternfly only measures around 1 inch. It has characteristic gray forewings with black spots, and red hindwings also with black spots. They feed on a wide range of fruit, ornamental and woody trees, according to the U.S. Department of Agriculture Animal and Plant Health Inspection Service (APHIS). If allowed to spread across the U.S., they could decimate important trees from over 70 species, including almond, grapes, apple, peach, maple, oak, willow, and pine. When the insects infest a tree, they suck the fluids from the plant tissue, which can eventually kill the plant. These trees being infected could cost the country millions of dollars: in New York alone, the wine and grape industry is worth $6.65 billion. Signs a tree that has been affected by the lanternflies include oozing or weeping, a fermented odor, a buildup of sticky honeydew, and sooty mold visible on the plant. Some states, including Delaware and New York, are encouraging residents to stomp on and kill the bugs if they spot them.

Murders Spike in New Orleans

New Orleans is now the murder capital of the nation – and Starbucks doesn’t want to be there. Sam Jeffries, a spokesperson for Starbucks, told WWL-TV in New Orleans that the popular coffee chain location on Canal Street was determined to be a “high incident store” and closed recently. “Our stores are windows into America, and every day, our partners witness the challenges facing our communities – challenges to personal safety and security, racism, a growing mental health crisis, and issues magnified by COVID. These challenges play out within our stores – affecting our partners, our communities, and our customers alike,” Jeffries said.


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The closure of the store comes as New Orleans has faced an increase in the number of homicides, making it the murder capital of the U.S. According to data from the Major Cities Chiefs Association (MCCA), homicides have risen in a number of U.S. cities, including New Orleans, over the past year. In addition to data from the MCCA, the New Orleans Metropolitan Crime Commission reported a rise in homicides. “Homicides are now up 44% compared with 2021,” the commission said in a crime data report ending on September 18. It also said in a previous report that as of September 11, the city had at least 205 homicides, which is “an increase of 141% compared with 2019 and 46% compared with last year to date.” According to an analysis of data from the Wall Street Journal, New Orleans has the highest homicide rate of any city in the U.S. There are 41 homicides per 100,000 residents in the city. Prior to the closure of the shop, Starbucks sent out a letter to storeowners discussing safety. “You’ve been open and honest with us about your experience – from what you need to feel your best at work, to the many inspirational and heartfelt exam-

ples of how you are creating memorable moments for one another and our customers,” the letter said. “With stores in thousands of communities across the country, we know these challenges can, at times, play out within our stores too. We read every incident report you file – it’s a lot.” The letter went on to detail a number of new directives Starbucks was implementing to ensure the safety of employees, such as “robust safety training,” “modifying operations,” like closing restrooms, and benefits to support employees’ mental health.

“Serial” Convict Released

On Monday, the murder conviction of Adnan Syed, a subject of the popular

“Serial” podcast, was vacated by prosecutors. Syed has maintained his innocence in the killing of Hae Min Lee in 1999. Baltimore prosecutors filed the motion last week asking for a new trial for Syed, who has been serving a life sentence after he was convicted of first-degree murder, robbery, kidnapping and false imprisonment in connection to the killing of Lee. In explaining her decision to vacate, Baltimore City Circuit Judge Melissa Phinn cited material in the state investigation ​t hat was not properly turned over to defense attorneys​, as well as​ the existence of two suspects ​w ho may have been improperly cleared as part of the investigation. “We’re not yet declaring Adnan Syed is innocent,” Baltimore City State’s Attorney Marilyn Mosby said following the judge’s ruling. “But we are declaring that in the interest of fairness and justice he is entitled to a new trial.” Prosecutors have 30 days to decide whether to pursue a new trial; they are waiting for DNA analysis that they are trying to expedite to determine whether Adnan’s case is dismissed or the case is set for trial. That mandate, Mosby noted, is “separate and apart” from the

investigation into who killed Lee. For now, Syed will wear an ankle monitor with tracking, according to Becky Feldman, chief of the Sentencing Review Unit of the Baltimore City State’s Attorney’s Office. Twenty-three years after he went to prison, “we now know what Adnan and his loved ones have always known, that Adnan’s trial was profoundly and outrageously unfair. Evidence was hidden from him, evidence that pointed to other people as the killers,” Assistant Public Defender Erica Suter, Syed’s attorney and director of the Innocence Project Clinic, said in a statement following the ruling. The hearing comes nearly eight years after the “Serial” podcast dug into his case, raising questions about the conviction and his legal representation. In doing so, the podcast reached a huge audience and set off a true-crime podcasting boom as well as further examinations of the case, including the HBO docuseries, “The Case Against Adnan Syed.” The ruling is a stab in the back for Lee’s family. “This isn’t a podcast for me. It’s real life,” Yung Lee, the brother of Hae Min Lee, said in court, adding he felt “be-


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trayed” by the state. “Whenever I think it’s over, it’s ended, it always comes back,” he said. Lee’s family is considering filing an appeal but is “still in shock,” their attorney, Steve Kelly, said. “The family is principally interested in justice,” he said outside court. “For the past 22 years, the world and they have been told that Adnan Syed is the murderer of their daughter and sister Hae Min Lee. Now the court and prosecutors have a different view. The family seeks truth and a just process and result.” Adnan and Lee were seniors at Woodlawn High School in Baltimore County in January 1999 when she disappeared. Her body was discovered in a city forest three weeks later.

Facebook Bad for Mental Health Now in: Facebook is bad for your health. New research has found a direct link between Facebook use and a “worsening” in reports of anxiety and depression among college students.

The study, published by the American Economic Review, discovered that in the first two and a half years of the platform’s existence, college students who had an account on the site were 7 percent more likely to suffer from depression and 20% more likely to suffer from anxiety.

Facebook’s initial 2004 rollout was staggered, with Harvard students gaining access first, followed by Columbia, Stanford, and Yale universities. Researchers utilized medical data from these campuses, comparing their mental health surveys with mental health surveys from college campuses without access to the platform. While there have been hundreds of studies showing a correlation between social media use and a decline in mental health, researchers say that their unique methodology has allowed them to con-

firm the link. The study, produced in part by Ro’ee Levy of Tel Aviv University, suggested that “unfavorable social comparisons” were likely to blame for the increase in anxiety and depression among young people. “Today, as we know, all of us recognize social media platforms very well. They create jealousy, and users find it difficult to understand that what they see online does not necessarily reflect reality. How much more so 16-18 years ago, when the phenomenon was completely new,” Levy told Channel 12 news. “The effects seem to increase with time,” noted Alexey Makarin, assistant professor at MIT Sloan, another contributor to the study. “If, in late fall 2004, a freshman at Harvard had Facebook available to him for one semester and a sophomore for two semesters, it appears as though the effect is stronger with the sophomore, who had greater exposure.” Makarin said he initially viewed mental health as “just one more” element of social media use, but after conducting his research, he reflected, “I came to realize how truly bad the situation is, and that stuck with me.” Today, Facebook boasts 2.5 billion

daily users. More than half the world’s population, 4.3 billion people, maintain at least one social media account. According to the American Economic Review study, in 2021, the average user spent two and a half hours per day on social media.

47 Arrested in Covid Fraud Scheme

Forty-seven people in Minnesota have been charged with conspiracy and other counts in what authorities say is the largest fraud scheme yet to take advantage of the Covid-19 pandemic by stealing $250 million from a federal program that provides meals to low-income children.


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for reimbursement that claimed a site served exactly 2,500 meals each day Monday through Friday — with no children ever getting sick or otherwise missing from the program. “These children were simply invented,” Luger noted.

Jail for Kidnapping Hoax

Prosecutors say the defendants created companies that claimed to be offering food to tens of thousands of children across the state and then sought reimbursement for those meals through the U.S. Department of Agriculture’s food nutrition programs. Few meals were actually served; the defendants used the money to buy luxury cars, property and jewelry. “This $250 million is the floor,” Andy Luger, the U.S. attorney for Minnesota,

said at a news conference this week. “Our investigation continues.” Earlier this year, the U.S. Department of Justice made prosecuting pandemic-related fraud a priority. The department has already taken enforcement actions related to more than $8 billion in suspected pandemic fraud, including bringing charges in more than 1,000 criminal cases involving losses in excess of $1.1 billion. Federal officials repeatedly described

the fraud in Minnesota as “brazen” and decried that it involved a program intended to feed children who needed help during the pandemic. Michael Paul, special agent in charge of the Minneapolis FBI office, called it “an astonishing display of deceit.” Luger said the government was billed for more than 125 million fake meals, with some defendants making up names for children by using an online random name generator. He displayed one form

Sherri Papini is heading to jail. The Californian woman had orchestrated an elaborate hoax a few years ago about being kidnapped – even searing herself with a branding iron to mislead authorities about the plan. This week, a judge sentenced the 40-year-old mother of two to serve 18 months in prison – more than double the amount of time federal prosecutors recommended. In addition to prison time, the judge ordered Papini to serve three years of supervised probation when she gets out and pay $309,000 in restitution, which the judge said will likely never be paid. Prior to learning her fate, Papini publicly apologized in court, saying, “I am choosing to humbly accept responsibility. “I am guilty of lying. I am guilty of dishonor. I stand before you willing to accept, to repent and to concede,” Papini said. “What was done cannot be undone. It can never be erased. I am not choosing to stay frozen like I was in 2016. I am choosing to commit to healing the parts of myself that were so very broken.” Papini “vanished” on November 2, 2016, while out for a jog in her Redding, California, neighborhood. A massive search was launched for her and family members – including her husband, Keith Papini, who has since filed for divorce – pleaded with the public for information on her whereabouts. A few weeks later, on Thanksgiving Day, Papini resurfaced on a freeway more than 100 miles away from her home. She told investigators that she was kidnapped at gunpoint by two Hispanic women, who tortured and branded her. Papini’s story, though, was all a hoax. She had been staying with a friend all


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A Tall Order

Rumeysa Gelgi is tall and proud. The 25-year-old is 7 feet and 0.7 inches tall. A rare genetic condition, Weaver syndrome, has caused her extreme growth. Gelgi’s lofty status has earned her many awards. She was named the world’s tallest living teenager at one time. In February, it was confirmed Gelgi held two other records including registering the longest finger on a living female at 4.40 inches and the longest back on a living woman at 23.58 inches, according the Guinness World Records. She’s also got the largest female hands with her right measuring 9.81 inches and her left at 9.55 inches. Gelgi didn’t always have it easy. She says that she was bullied and teased because of her tall stature. Still, she said that has made her a stronger person. “I like being different from everyone else,” she said. Due to her rare condition, Gelgi suffers from limited mobility and struggles with stability when she walks. She also experiences difficulties swallowing and breathing. The determined 25-year-old, who hails from Turkey, uses a wheelchair to get around and a walker for short periods. Gelgi says that her height “provides me with easy access to high places and looking down at people from above isn’t a bad thing either!” And that’s a tall order.

A Long Drink Nathan Crimp can’t walk a straight line. The English man is now the proud

bearer of the Guinness World Record for having a drink at the most pubs in a single 24-hour period.

The 22-year-old visited a whopping 67 pubs in Brighton, England, in a mere 17 hours. That’s dedication for you. Crimp was not alone. He came with a pair of friends with the goal of beating the previous record of 56 pubs in 10 hours. Think drinking at loads of places is easy? Think again. “It was easily the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I completely underestimated just how hard it was actually going to be,”

Crimp said. Guinness rules required Crimp to have a drink at each pub and collect evidence including receipts and witness signatures. “The plan was to try and keep it sober for the first 25 pubs,” Crimp said, “but that went out the window 15 pubs in. I had to mix it up a little bit. I tried to drink alcohol in one and non-alcoholic drink in another – trying to space it out,” he said. “The hardest part was constantly


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having to go to the toilet, which took up the majority of the time,” Crimp said. We’ll raise a glass (of water) to you!

Snail Trail

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goods store in western Germany. The snails were handed to an animal rescue service in Duesseldorf, and the meat was destroyed, customs officials said. “Never in the history of the Duesseldorf customs office has a trail of slime led us to smuggled goods,” said its spokesman Michael Walk. That’s a snail of a tale.

Science is Fun Sam Curry was a richer man – until he wasn’t. The staff security engineer at Yuga Labs had done some work for Google at one point and then he noticed something big in his bank account: $249,999. The self-proclaimed “hacker” couldn’t understand why he was receiving the dough. Attempting to connect to Google took three weeks until the company admitted that the funds were the “result of human error.” Now, Curry is giving back the money. Talk about the law of diminishing returns.

It was a slimy trail that led German authorities to a mound of smuggled goods. Customs officials at Duesseldorf Airport said that earlier this month they noticed a large snail in a baggage truck. Initially, they thought it was a toy, until the gastropod began to move. By following the trail left by the 20-centimeter (8-inch) snail, they found a bag with a hole, with another snail already peeping out of it — possibly preparing for a dash for freedom. In total, officials found six bags containing 93 giant snails, 62 pounds of fish and smoked meat, and a suitcase full of rotting meat. All had been imported from Nigeria and were destined for an African

That’s the premise behind the annual Ig Nobel awards – that science and the study of certain phenomena can be fun. The Ig Nobel ceremony is held one

month before the Nobel Prizes are announced. Winners gather at Harvard University and are awarded in 10 different categories. The prize? A worthless Zimbabwean $10 trillion bill – and the notoriety that you’ve won something fun. Want to know what makes scientists chuckle? Frank Fish, a biology professor at West Chester University in Pennsylvania, won the Ig Nobel this year for researching why ducklings follow their mother in single-file formation. He says it’s about energy conservation. His specialty is studying how animals swim. “Science is fun. My sort of a tagline is you’re not doing science if you’re not having fun,” he said. Magnus Gers made a moose “crash test dummy” for his master’s thesis. He noted that many times cars crash into the large animals on Swedish roads and yet automobile makers rarely include animal crashes in their safety testing. Shigeru Watanabe, another winner, researched the estimated total saliva volume produced per day by a typical fiveyear-old. Sounds like really ig-portant concepts that were explored.


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Community Father-Son Shofar Workshop at YOSS

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his past Sunday, Rabbi Moshe Shonek, eighth grade rebbi at YOSS, led a father-son shofar workshop. They began by learning maarei mekomos on hilchos shofar. Together, they learned the sugya of which kinds of horns are kosher for the mitzvah of shofar. Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky expounded on the inyan of shofar and then Rabbi Shonek gave shiur on hilchos shofar. He brought in horns from rams, cows, and many other kosher animals that could be used as a shofar. Rabbi Shonek, a ba’al tokea in his own right, demonstrated the different sounds each horn makes and how the fashioning of the shofar has an impact on halacha. After the shiur, everyone went outside to make their own shofar. Each talmid was given a raw, uncut shofar, and together with their fathers and grandfathers they cut, drilled, and sanded the shofar until it was kosher and ready for use! “This was a great experience for my son and I,” one parent commented. “A real hands-on approach to chinuch!” Special thanks to Mr. Vaiselberg for providing the equipment and support needed for this project.


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Selichos at Aish Kodesh

5 Towns Flag Football League: Week 2

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ouchdown! This past Friday was week 2 of FM Home Loans 5 Towns Flag Football. We had an excellent, intense, and competitive week of games. In the Pre1A division under the direction of Rabbi Jeremy Fine, the boys practiced drills for running, tagging, and catching. They are already on track to be all stars! In the 1st grade division, the Patriots defeated the Giants with an amazing interception that led to a touchdown by Baruch Samuels. And the Jets defeated the Broncos. In the 2nd grade division, the Broncos defeated the Jets. The Vikings defeated the Eagles. And the Giants defeated the Patriots with the help of Shai Makowsky’s amazing short catches. In the 3rd and 4th grade division, the Jets defeated the Patriots. The Raiders defeated the Falcons with an amazing touchdown by Shai Well. The Saints tied the Com-

manders. The Eagles defeated the Packers. The Giants defeated the Panthers. The Seahawks defeated the Steelers with a TDP by Avrumi Kapnick. The Dolphins defeated the Vikings. And the Broncos defeated the Texans. In the 5th and 6th grade division, the Patriots defeated the Jets. The Falcons defeated the Giants with a game winning touchdown by Dovid Sax. The Saints defeated the Dolphins. The Steelers defeated the Vikings. The Seahawks defeated the Packers. The Panthers defeated the Raiders with David Yamar’s game winning touchdown. And the Eagles defeated the Broncos. In the 7th and 8th grade division, the Commanders defeated the Eagles with. The Jets defeated the Giants with Zev Brenners 3 picks and consistent flag pulls. The Vikings defeated the Broncos. And the Texans defeated the Patriots with amazing catches and flag pulls by Avi Berger.

Wishing everyone a good year and a great season.

Central/Yeshiva University High School for Girls Commemorates 9/11 On Monday, September 12, students at Central had the privilege of hearing from Deputy Chief James McNally, who served with the FDNY during 9/11. Mrs. Amy Katz opened the program with a moving slideshow about the quickly-unfolding events of the morning of 9/11 when the world changed in the span of only 149 minutes. Chief McNally was then introduced, and he described his traumatic experiences from the day, sharing details about his role as a fireman and how he lost many close friends during the attack. He showed the students a metal bolt that someone had kept from one of the Towers. Additionally, he described the significance of 9/11 to the FDNY community. Instead of running away from the tragedy, they were running into it, rescuing as many people as possible. Firemen spent many days following the tragedy sifting through the rubble, trying to find human remains, which was a long, hard, and tiring pro-

cess. The officers worked 24-hour shifts on and off for days. Many workers unfortunately developed sicknesses from the toxic air. After sharing his story, Deputy Chief McNally opened the floor to all questions, allowing the students and faculty the opportunity to learn more about that day. Meira Schuck, a junior, remarked, “Hearing from Mr. McNally was eye-opening. I had never heard a firsthand account from someone who had been through what happened on 9/11. It was amazing to hear how all these incredible people were so brave and did everything that they could to help save others.” Mr. Louis Garza, a retired NYPD detective and Central’s very own security guard, reflected, “Even in the darkest of times, you should look for the helpers because there’s always someone who is willing to help.”

Thank you to Mrs. April McNally for helping to facilitate the program!

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Rav Aaron Wahl’s fifth grade talmidim at Yeshiva Darchei Torah, who are learning Gemara Eilu Metzios, measuring a kav of grain that fell in an area measuring four amos

The cases of the first Mishnah in Bava Metzia came to life in Rav Aaron Wahl’s fifth grade class at Yeshiva Darchei Torah

Likras Shabbos Grand Siyum

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or 15 years, dozens of boys have greeted Shabbos with a sense of calm and purpose. Likras Shabbos is a national organization which coordinates centrally located erev Shabbos learning programs, in which boys in grades 5 through 8 learn hilchos Shabbos, enjoy delicious kugel, and participate in exciting raffles. Last year, Far Rockaway/Five Towns boasted five strong groups – three in Far Rockaway, one in Inwood and one in Woodmere. Dynamic rebbeim invested heart and soul to make the learning engaging and relevant. Likras Shabbos thanks Rabbi Yonasan Posnick, Rabbi

Benyomin Jacobi, Rabbi Avrohom Chaim Nobel, Rabbi Yaakov Weinberg, and Rabbi Yosef Richtman for making this year’s sessions so meaningful. The boys now possess a keen understanding of Hilchos Muktzeh. An estimated 60 boys participated in the Grand Siyum, which was held last Sunday in Yeshiva Gedolah of Five Towns. Rabbi Ephraim Perlstein introduced the event and explained that the laws of Muktzeh are rooted in the Kedusha of Shabbos, as every davar she’bikedusha needs proper preparation. Similarly, the purpose of Likras Shabbos learning is to prepare for that kedusha.

Rav Moshe Zev Katzenstein, Rosh Yeshiva of Yeshiva Gedolah of Five Towns, shared that when the Hashem presented the mitzvah of Shabbos to Klal Yisroel, He instructed Moshe to inform the Jews of this great gift called Shabbos so they will appreciate it. Through learning the laws of Shabbos and preparing for it with anticipation, the participants of Likras Shabbos declare, “Message received!” The boys enjoyed a delicious catered meal from Oldak Caterers and participated in exciting raffles. Prizes included a set of Chumashim, a set of P’nei Yehoshua, an electric scooter, and an electric guitar with an amplifier. There

was even a special raffle for the boys who scored well on the test at the end of the program. This year’s groups will begin learning Hilchos Shehiya, Chazara, and Hatmana starting erev Shabbos Parshas Noach, October 28, 2022. It is open for boys grades 5-8. For more information or to organize a group in your neighborhood or shul, please contact Ephraim Perlstein at 646-346-0269 or epmohel@ gmail.com. In the zchus of so many children demonstrating love, respect, and appreciation for hilchos Shabbos, may we merit to see the Yom She’kulo Shabbos very soon.


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HALB’s Sports Club, run by Rabbi Lieberman, attended the Jets game last week. Teachers, parents, and students had a great time and had the opportunity to go on the field

Rabbi Eytan Feiner, rav of the White Shul, speaking at the Tehillim on Klaf global Tefilah Selichos

Regional Directors Convene for Chai Lifeline Global Conference

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hai Lifeline directors from across the United States and around the world gathered in Eatontown, NJ, September 13-14 for Chai Lifeline’s Annual Regional Directors Conference. The twoday program convened directors from New York, New Jersey/Pennsylvania, Mid-Atlantic, Southeast, Midwest, and West Coast, as well as Toronto, Montreal, Israel, Belgium, and the United Kingdom. The group, representing more than 6,000 global Chai Lifeline families, discussed a wide range of topics, including organizational values and vision, programs and services, marketing and development, staff and volunteer training, community engagement, case management, and more. “As a global leader in children’s health support and trauma response, it is critical for us to regularly evaluate and assess the current landscape, and strategize for

the future of the organization,” said Rabbi Simcha Scholar, CEO of Chai Lifeline. “This conference is an opportunity for our talented team of directors to connect, share ideas, and explore new ways to broaden Chai Lifeline’s reach, strengthen its impact, and improve services for our families.” Participants heard from a variety of speakers, including Rabbi Scholar, National Director of Client Services Rabbi Mordechai Gobioff, CFO Esther Bergman, CDO Elliot Halperin, CMO Matt Yaniv, and Director of Camp Simcha Nachman Maimon. “Each of our selfless directors brings a unique perspective and is dedicated to helping our children, families, and communities. It was great to be able to meet with our colleagues from around the world and work together to advance the mission of Chai Lifeline and improve the important

work we all do,” said Rabbi Gobioff. Participating regional directors included: Rabbi Shlomo Crandall, Midwest; Racheli Daniel, Mid-Atlantic; Rabbi Sruli Fried, NJ/PA; Randi Grossman, West Coast; Esther Leah Sandhaus, Southeast; Yaacov Blanshay, Montreal; Rabbi Mordy Rothman, Toronto; Neville

Goldschneider, UK; Avi Maier, Belgium; and Elad Maimon, Israel. Chai Lifeline is an international children’s health support network providing social, emotional, and financial assistance to children with life-threatening or lifelong illnesses and their families. To learn more, visit www.chailifeline.org.

Mesivta Netzach HaTorah Visits Rav Oelbaum in Queens

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his past Thursday, after Shacharis and regular morning learning, the talmidim and rebbeim of Netzach traveled to Queens for a special shiur on Elul and divrei bracha from Rabbi Noach Oelbaum. After the shiur, the talmidim had the opportunity to ask questions to Rav Oelbaum, seeing firsthand the brilliance and depth of the Rav. Following Mincha and pizza in Queens, the Mesivta headed to Sky Zone in New Rochelle for their annual beginning of the year team building and fun with rebbeim and friends.


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A Special Parade at TAG

Bais Yaakov Ateres Miriam High School Begins Its Inaugural Year

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here are many parades that pass through our streets during the year, but leave it to TAG’s Ganger Early Childhood Division to come up with a unique parade for their talmidos. All kindergarten talmidos were invited to a special Alef Beis Parade of letters to kick off their curriculum for this coming school year.

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n September 7, the very first ninth grade class of BYAM HS entered the front doors of their new home, located at the Young Israel of Hewlett. They were greeted by music, fanfare and, of course, their principal, Mrs. Ruchie Sokoloff, and Menahel, Rabbi Nosson Neuman. This was after their orientation the previous day, including a review of their school day with Mrs. Sokoloff and a fabulous G.O. breakout created and implemented by Ms. Hodayah Kuighadoush (G.O. Coordinator). It included dancing and refreshments and gift of a tote bag emblazoned with the G. O. theme “What’s Cooking with G. O. in BYAM HS?” That theme was hinted at in a June teambuilding event that the girls had previously attended at Apron Masters. The first week of school was notable at BYAM HS for the rapt attention to new learning skills as

the girls found their way into their classrooms. They met with new teachers and were acclimated to the impressive variety of subjects, both Kodesh and Chol, and the relatable, warm, and masterful teachers who they are getting to know on a daily basis. “Most remarkable,” commented Mrs. Sokoloff at Parent Orientation this past Monday, “is the cohesiveness that has formed within the class almost immediately. Rarely, in many years of chinuch, have I ever seen such marvelous achdus among ninth graders so early on in

the year.” With Boruch Hashem that encouraging and exciting start, positivity radiates from staff and students alike. Upcoming events include Open House (for current 8th graders and their parents) scheduled for Wednesday evening, November 2nd, 7:30 PM at Beth Sholom in Lawrence. That will be followed by the Entrance Exam, Sunday, November 6, at 10 AM. For further information about BYAM HS, kindly contact our school office at hsoffice@baisyaakovam.org.

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Assemblywoman Amato to Oppose Seagirt Plan

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ssemblywoman Stacey Pheffer Amato met with school administrators and parents to discuss the hazards of the potential Seagirt Boulevard redesign. The city-based project has garnered extreme pushback from local and non-local residents and has been openly opposed by Assemblywoman Pheffer Amato. The Assemblywoman referred to the plan as “nuts” and insisted that the NYC Department of Transportation must “go back to the drawing board and create a plan that reflects the will of the community” as the project was moved ahead without community support.

Lev Chana is very excited to have their own Grow Torah Garden this year! Grow Torah enables students to experience the awe and wonder of nature while connecting the miracle of Hashem’s world to the parsha, yomim tovim and middot tovot

HANC High School Back in Action

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o kick off the year, HANC High School held its annual Opening Ceremony and back to school Senate Event. Seniors, freshmen, and new faculty were introduced to the student body with warm welcomes. Prior to the ceremony, the Class of 2023 received their senior shirts and then made their grand entrance into the auditorium with ruach and excitement. A first at the ceremony was the parade of departments down the aisle, props in hand, celebrating the new academic year. Students had the opportunity to hear from Rabbi Slomnicki, who, in his multi-media presentation, discussed stu-

dent commitment to academics, extracurricular, and to their personal lives. The student body also heard from Student Senate Co-Presidents Oriel Atias and Lea Bassali who each addressed the students and informed them of the many exciting ideas and events that the senate has in store this coming school year. HANC students were treated to a pizza lunch and a dessert buffet of Rita’s Italian Ices and popcorn organized by the Student Senate. It was so nice to see everyone again after the summer vacation. We can’t wait to see what this year has in store for us.


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Members of the Five Towns community joined together at the home of Dr. and Mrs. Rabin Rahmani to help YATAR, an authorized division of the Israeli police force

The Special Children’s Center Now in The Five Towns

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hat does the wife of a world-famous singer, the niece of a renowned rosh yeshiva, and 750 special-needs children and their families have in common? One place that brings light into all of their lives: The Special Children’s Center. Since its inception in 1996, founders Jenine Shwekey and Chaya Bender knew that they needed to fill a void in servicing local differently-abled kids during afterschool hours as well as Sundays so that their families could continue to thrive and function while raising their special needs child. Their motivation dated back to high school when, as teenagers, they volunteered working with special-needs children for many hours each week. These experiences not only left Jenine and Chaya with a strong impression, but they also served as the impetus for their life’s mission – helping special neshamos of Klal Yisrael. After triumphantly piloting the program in New

Jersey and then in Brooklyn seven years ago, The Center answered the call for help from parents in the Five Towns. With their highly-trained and motivated staff, all members of the Center’s team (children, parents, and staff) benefit from their programming including after school, Sundays, legal holidays, integrated daycare, inhome programs and community habilitation in making an unbelievable mark on these precious lives. Rochel Levy, Five Towns mom of an 8-year-old Center participant, boasts of her gratitude and appreciation for The Special Children’s Center, which has literally been life-altering. “I’m not exaggerating when I say that my life revolves around when the Center is open,” Mrs. Levy exclaims. “My son is safe and happy and surrounded by positive energy. The staff gets it, and they deliver fabulously for the kids. The positive impact on the families cannot be explained to someone who

doesn’t live our reality. It has been nothing less than life-changing.” Julie Saal, mother of 6-year-old Center attendee, also agrees. “The Special Children’s Center of the Five Towns is a loving, energetic, and exciting space for my son while simultaneously providing myself and the rest of my family a respite to recharge.” Now in their new 14,000 square-foot facility (formerly Life Fitness in Lawrence), the Five Towns branch of The Special Children’s Center hosts a huge sensory gym, music room, art room, movement room, and classrooms for Jewish learning – with more to come! Please look out for our GRAND OPENING, when we will welcome the community to celebrate and share in our beautiful new home. For more inquiries on how to be a part of The Special Children’s Center (as a participant, volunteer, or donor), please call/text 917-780-5012 or email fivetowns@thecenterny.org.

Hands-On Learning at Yeshiva Ateres Eitz Chaim

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hazal teach, “Eino dome reya l’shmiah,” one cannot compare hearing about something to actually seeing it. Yeshiva Ateres Eitz Chaim gives their talmidim this unique opportunity, when learning about different concepts, providing the talmidim with incredible hands-on experiences. When learning about the special minhagim, such as Tashlich and the Rosh Hashana Simanim, the talmidim experienced an amazing “hands on” lesson. They were treated to a special boating ride where each talmid had the opportunity to catch his own fish and use it for the “Siman.” They also enjoyed an awesome shiur on the boat learning and discussing many topics in Chazal about fish, rivers, and oceans. Talmidim were also zoche to hear divrei chizuk and bracha before the Yomim Noraim from the Krula Rebbe in Williamsburg. The Rebbe was thrilled to meet the talmidim and encouraged the Yeshiva to continue their “hands-on” educational trips. In Yeshiva Ateres Eitz Chaim’s Life Skills Program, the talmidim had the opportunity to learn the skills of note-taking from one of the best, Honorable Ronald Goldman, Village Administrator-Clerk/Treasurer of

Lawrence. Honey is sweet, but it is much sweeter when you experience the process. Talmidim enjoyed a tour at Rockland Bee Tours to learn about the process of how bees

make honey. They also learned why we specifically use honey, as opposed to other sweet things, on Rosh Hashana. L’Shana tova u’mesuka!


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Assemblywoman Stacey Pheffer Amato, Mayor Ben Weinstock, Trustee Izzy Wasser, Pesach Osina, representative of the NYC Council Speaker Adrienne Adams, and Pinny Hikind of the NYC Comptroller’s Office at the local Chasdei Lev food distribution event this week

Getting To Know You: SKA Freshmen Experience

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he ninth graders of the Stella K. Abraham High School for Girls had a wonderful opportunity to start the school year in a relaxed and convivial atmosphere at their Freshmen Experience held on Wednesday, September 14, on the beautiful grounds of Camp Kaylie. Spending time making new friends and meeting administrators and grade level advisors in a cozy setting gave the girls a comfortable foundation to their first year of high school. The getaway was a great way for the grade to bond! Building Balloon Towers and Bucket Brigade competitions together with other games, activities and workshops enabled the girls to once again mingle and meet students from other elementary schools. “Grade Achdut,” a session presented by SKA Associate Principal Ms. Elena Flaumenhaft, who

works directly with the freshmen, focused on each girl’s individual strengths and talents combining to make the Class of ‘27 one of the best yet. The new students also took the time to write letters to themselves reflecting on their hopes for their year, opening their correspondence in the final month of school. In addition to Ms. Flaumenhaft, SKA’s Freshmen Experience was also enhanced by the presence of Director of Student Programming Rabbi Yosef Zakutinsky, who organized this amazing event, Dean of Students Mrs. Shira Englander, 9th Grade Level Advisors Mrs. Tzippy Calm, Mrs. Rachel Josef and Mrs. Gabby Shultz, and SKA’s Student Council members and their advisor, Ms. Sydney Daitch. SKA’s Class of 2027 is off to a great start!


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A Sweet Start for BY5T

Shulamith SWO Back-to-School Carnival

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ouncy houses, cotton candy, face-painting – oh my! Shulamith SWO hosted a back-to-school carnival to welcome new and returning students on Sunday, September 18. The turnout was incredible! Hundreds of participants enjoyed the many exciting attractions and carnival booths, run by our own SHS students. It was wonderful to see all the smiling faces of our students and their families, energized and excited for the year ahead.

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he girls at Bais Yaakov of the Five Towns have been preparing for Rosh Hashana with plenty of hands-on learning experiences! From tasting apples dipped in honey to learning the brachos we make on all of the simanin, the students are going to be more than ready to enthusiastically participate in every aspect of the Yom Tov. The talmidos were treated to a very special visitor this week. Chaim Shalom

Leibowitz, the Baal Tokeah at Kehilas Ahavas Yisrael, brought his shofar to school for an interactive workshop. The girls listened attentively as he practiced blowing all of the kolos, and they were amazed by how much effort it takes to make the sounds come out just right. The girls are eagerly entering the Yomim Noraim with great excitement thanks to the creativity and commitment of their amazing moros.

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First graders in Mrs. Esther Parnes’ CAHAL class at Yeshiva Ketana of Long Island play a “Touch and Read” matching game to help improve reading fluency and decoding skills.

Cedarhurst Mayor Benjamin Weinstock and Trustees Ari Brown, Israel Wasser and Daniel Plaut along with DA Anne Donnelly attended a press conference for all Nassau Villages calling on the Governor and State Legislature to repeal bail reform

MTA talmidim and parents gathered together to learn about the Yomim Noraim

DRS Freshmen Shabbaton

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he excitement was palpable as freshmen at DRS Yeshiva High School eagerly boarded the buses on Thursday evening, ready to head to the annual Freshman Shabbaton, held at Camp Kaylie. “The goal of the Shabbaton is for everyone meet each other and create a sense of achdut within the grade in an enjoyable and fun way,” said DRS Menahel Rabbi Yisroel Kaminetsky to the freshman class. Upon arrival, students unpacked, davened Maariv, and headed to the gym for “Wacky Olympics.” Students faced off in shiur-vs.-shiur competitions in a variety of events, in which every student had a unique role. The night was far from over, as students enjoyed a latenight barbecue and basketball in the gym

with their new friends. Students woke up Friday morning, eager for the events to come. After Shacharis, breakfast and shiur with the freshmen Rabbeim, students took to the gridiron for a competitive flag football tournament, while bonding with new friends. After the tournament, the class enjoyed the camp’s spacious facilities, and went go-carting, swimming and played sports before preparing for an amazing Shabbat to come. All 100 members of this year’s freshmen class – the largest in the school’s history – headed into Shabbos unified as one with tremendous energy and unity. After davening and a festive seuda with zemirot and divrei Torah, the freshmen enjoyed a DRS-style tisch with Rabbi Kaminetsky and their reb-

beim, as they sung, enjoyed cholent, kugel and candy and experienced the joy and ruach of Shabbos together as one class. The spirit continued the next morning, as a lively Shacharis, kiddush and intriguing shiurim highlighted the day. After a scrumptious Shabbos lunch with zemirot and singing, students continued forming unbreakable friendships with one another and learned

together in the Beis Medrash. Following Mincha and Shalosh Seudos, students gathered for an inspirational and memorable kumzitz, joining together to usher the Shabbos out with song, achdut and ruach. Following a beautiful Maariv and Havdalah, students boarded the busses and left the Shabbaton with a dose of ruach and achdut for the year to come.


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Ezra Academy – A Weekend of Chizuk

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s the Yamim Noraim approach, the Queens students and alumni of Ezra Academy were treated to a special weekend of chizuk with the Mashgiach Ruchani of the Yeshiva, Rabbi Elie Geller, beginning with a young couple’s shiur on Thursday evening, September 15, at the home of graduates Gabriel Borokhov (class of ’19) and Abigail Aronova-Borokhov (class of ’19), and continuing through Shabbos with beautiful onegim and seudot where words of Torah were shared and singing could be heard for miles. The meals were hosted by graduates and families of Ezra Academy who wanted to help the men and wom-

en of Queens prepare spiritually for the Rosh Hashana holiday. (Special thank you to the Aminov and Sofiev families.) Rabbi Geller spoke at several different places in the Fresh Meadows and Jamaica Estates neighborhoods. Each lecture was met with enthusiasm as people took the messages to heart. Although this was not a typical planned and sponsored Ezra event, as Mashgiach Ruchani, Rabbi Elie Geller (and family) put forth tremendous efforts to reach out to and positively affect the extended Ezra family whenever possible. Ezra Academy thanks the Gellers for going above and beyond.

YOSS Honors Our Heroes

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rs. Sebag’s second grade class at YOSS learned about the terrible events that took place on September 11, 2001. They spent time remembering the day and honoring its heroes. They read the book Fireboat, written by Maira Kalman, which tells the true story of the John J Harvey, a decommissioned 1930’s fire boat that went back into action on that day and was used to save lives and put out the fires at the site where the buildings collapsed. The class was then visited by the renowned Inspector Richie Taylor. Inspector Taylor is the highest ranking frum police officer in the New York Police De-

partment. He spoke to the class about being an Orthodox Jewish police officer and specifically about the role he played as an EMT on the scene during 9/11. The boys found his stories to be fascinating and tremendously moving. The boys then wrote letters to first responders and members of the military, thanking them for their brave service to our country and for keeping us safe. Although these second-grade boys are not old enough to remember the events of September 11th, the lessons learned in Mrs. Sebag’s class, as well as their firsthand interaction with Inspector Taylor, will be etched into their memories forever.

The children at Gan Chamesh enjoyed a hands-on, fun-filled Rosh Hashana fair that helped them to internalize the meaning of Rosh Hashana using all their senses. The Rosh Hashana fair is an innovative experience where children explore, experiment, and love to learn in a meaningful way.

The JSL Regular Season Tips Off

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SL’s regular season began, and there were some memorable performances! The day kicked off with K/P Soccer, where David Ghoori had a hat trick to lead team Simcha Day Camp over Gourmet Glatt. Shimmy Greenspan had 2 goals in Home & Stone’s game against Hewlett Auto Body. In K/P Hockey, Yumi Ehrlichman was the game MVP of the morning matchup. In 1st/2nd grade indoor Football, Yehuda Yakubov had an incredible sliding touchdown for Westwood Realty in their game against The Rebbe’s Choice. Gavriel Selengut of team KolSave made a one-handed catch against team ARG. The afternoon slate of basketball games kicked off with a 14-8 win for team Maidenbaum. Eli Oratz was the game MVP. Triple Net Group held off Island Roofing 20-14. In 4th/5th, Alpert Financial snuck past Town Appliance 1715. 925 Sterling defeated Carving Block 22-14. In 6th-8th Basketball, Game MVP Eli Davidowitz scored 7 straight points in the last 1:30 of play to give Paradigm the narrow win over Wieder Orthodontics in a back-and-forth game. Aviv Shatay continued his JSL dominance from last season with a monster performance, leading 5 Towns Pediatric Dentistry to 64 points in their win over 5 Towns Orthodontics! The hockey slate featured some great games. Additionally, every boy received a hockey water bottle courtesy of JSL and Town Appliance. In 1st Grade Hockey, Judaica Plus and Built by Nate tied 3-3. In 2nd/3rd, JNT tied Sharona Beck Realty after a three-round shootout. Yosef

Wielgus had an incredible effort in goal and Aaron Silverman played great defense to give Paradigm the 5-2 win over ARG. Elegant Lawns shut out Posh Home & Bath 3-0. In 4th/5th, Gavriel Abittan scored 4 goals to give 5 Towns Pediatric Dentistry the win over 925 Sterling. Benji Somerstein of Alpert Financial scored a hat trick against Town Appliance. Cheskel Jeidel scored 2 goals for AutoClick against Meat & Board. In 6th-8th, 5 Towns Central held on to defeat BayRock Insurance 7-5 behind Yechiel Taitlebaum’s hat trick. Posh Home & Bath escaped with a 6-5 victory over Wieder Orthodontics. Five Towns Orthodontics shut out JNT 5-0. JSL is the premier local sports league for boys from Darchei, YKLI and across the community. Games are played each Sunday indoors in local gyms. Winter Registration opens soon for the next season that starts in December. Visit 5tjsl.com to see more info about the league!


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Madraigos Presents “How To Help Our Children Develop Resilience”

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his past Monday evening, Madraigos, the organization that tirelessly works to meet the needs of the community, held an educational event for the community, an initiative of its Parenting Matters program. The event, held in Young Israel of Lawrence Cedarhurst, featured Rav Chaim Aryeh Zev Ginzburg, shlita, rav of the Chofetz Chaim Torah Center of Cedarhurst, as well as Matis Miller, LCSW ACT, DBTLBC, Founder and Director of The Center for Cognitive & Behavioral Therapy of New Jersey. Rabbi Dov Silver, Founder and Executive V.P., Madraigos, welcomed the attendees and thanked the people who helped bring the program to fruition. The first speaker, Rabbi Ginzburg, shlita, focused on the concept of resilience in the Torah. He shared countless stories about his experiences with raising children which highlighted the importance of building a strong future generation. The event continued with a special presentation from Matis Miller, LCSW who focused on strategies and skills

which can instill that resilience in children. He explained the danger involved in enabling negative behaviors in their children and the importance of letting them learn how to deal with the little frustrations that come their way as a way of preparing them for real-world challenges. Matis’s words were inspiring and practical as he offered concrete suggestions to everyone in the room. One parent remarked, “It was very enlightening. I am walking out with a new mindset and an array of practical tools to help strengthen and guide my children.” A therapist who attended commented, “I see from my clients that this topic specifically is one which needs to be talked about more and Madraigos filled that exact need.” Mrs. Mindi Werblowsky, LCSW, Clinical Director, Madraigos, commented, “This event was borne from the questions that we are hearing from our clients and our desire to provide them with the answers and resources they are seeking. We are just here to assist them on their journey.”

Overall, the feeling at this Parenting Matters event was learning and growth for parents and professionals alike. Madraigos extends sincere hakaros hatov to the event’s speakers as well as the venue for enabling us to continue servicing our community. Parents are encouraged to register for

the Parenting Matters weekly support group, Effective Parenting of Teens and Young Adults, Group #12, which will be starting this fall. To register or learn more about upcoming Madraigos’ Parenting Matters programs, please contact Mindi Werblowsky at mwerblowsky@ madraigos.org or 516-371-3250 x 112.


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ercaz Academy’s GrowTorah program has started, and the Mercaz students reaped the benefit. Farmer Menuchah Schuman arrived for her first outdoor lessons connecting conservation and agriculture to the Torah portion and holidays. Students from nursery through sixth grade learned about Torah and the natural world, with different methodology and content but the same significant lessons. The fifth and sixth grades suggested many occasions where Torah and nature intersect, including Mishnah Zeraim, dealing with laws of agriculture; Gan Eden, and the trees growing there; and the midrash of how Har Sinai flowered when the Torah was given. A student cited a pasuk remembered from the Torah reading, etz chaim he lamachazikim bah, comparing the Torah to a tree of life. With Rosh Hashana approaching, connections were drawn be-

tween the agricultural cycle and the cycle of the year. Farmer Menuchah mentioned the shalosh regalim, the three festivals that are associated with a specific harvest time. Last week’s parsha, Ki Tavo, tells of the mitzvah of bikkurim and the importance of sharing portions of our harvest with those in need, so Farmer Menuchah discussed how we could achieve the values of this mitzvah. Mercaz Academy students of all ages realized that they can give tzedakah in the form of fresh produce from our GrowTorah garden to people who are hungry. Students harvested golden, ripe squash to be donated to those in need. Farmer Menuchah will bring them to the food pantry at the Jewish Family Services in Teaneck, NJ, along with harvests from many other schools’ GrowTorah gardens. Mercaz Academy students also picked sprigs of rosemary, sage, and basil and performed the mitzvah of making a bracha on the beautiful

smell, borei isvei besamim. Students who chose to bring their herbs home had the ability to do another mitzvah with them by using them to season their food. In this way, the herbs can be included in the bracha over the food as well, and Mercaz Academy appreciates the number of mitzvot that have grown in our garden along with the produce.


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HANC Prepares for the New Year

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t was an eventful week at the Samuel and Elizabeth Bass Golding Elementary School in West Hempstead. Heralding the upcoming holiday of Rosh Hashana, the school welcomed Tzivos Hashem’s Shofar Factory to give their annual presentation to the sixth graders on how a shofar is created. Thanks to the generous support of the HANC PTA, the shofar factory has become an annual tradition that truly rings in the Yamim Noaraim. In keeping with this year’s theme of “Let’s Grow Together,” the students at HANC have begun tending to the newly planted Grow Torah Garden where the children will be participating in lessons connecting the weekly Parsha to agriculture and sustainable farming. Grow Torah aims to cultivate a more passionate, compassionate and sustainable future driven by Torah values. The organization develops experiential environment education programs for Jewish institutions throughout the country. This national program has planted gardens for seven schools and five camps and provides

guidance in maintaining the gardens and in teaching the children about the importance of caring for the plants in Hashem’s magnificent world. Thanks to a generous donation from HANC’s Grandparents Giving Circle, the school is privileged to have seven large planters filled with flowers and herbs that the students are now stewarding and curating under the guidance of Mrs. Rachel Steinberg, HANC Library Media Specialist. The students will be given monthly lessons connecting Torah and nature by Mrs. Michal Wasser, Assistant Principal, and Mrs. Lisa Lowy, Director of Admissions. As the year progresses, the students will get to see how their efforts help affect the growth of the communal garden. Later in the week, the entire student body participated in a unique art experience. Through a grant from the Grandparent Giving Circle, with a goal to provide special and unique programs for the students, HANC welcomed the famous Pop Art Rabbi, Rabbi Yitzchok Moully, who engaged each and every child in the school to help cre-

ate a school- wide original work of art. Demonstrating his multi-disciplinary conceptual art skills, Rabbi Moully explained that all of our energy emanates from the Torah. To illustrate this concept, each student was invited to spray paint on a large canvas to create a

magnificent mural depicting our Torah values. Every person in the school was given the opportunity to add their own letters and flourishes of color and the collective effort created a truly unique work of art that will be hung prominently in the school hallway.


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HANC High School Freshman Retreat

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he HANC High School Class of 2026 was inaugurated into high school at the annual Freshman Retreat last Monday and Tuesday, September 12 and 13, at Camp Nageela in Fallsburg, NY. The students participated in two days of amazing activities, entertainment and “just getting to know one another.” The trip was chaperoned by administrators, mechnachim, and members of HANC’s Student Life Team. The retreat started with an incredible hike in the Englewood Cliffs, where students challenged themselves by climbing steep stone steps that descended to “Peanut Leap Cascade.” Students were awed by the beautiful waterfalls and cliffs surrounding them, and took pictures at lookout points along the path. They finished their morning with a delicious pizza lunch at Sheli’s in Monsey, NY, and relaxed on the bus as they made their way to Dave and Busters in the Palisades mall. Students spent their time shooting hoops, playing video games and amassing tickets to buy items at the concession. Once the group arrived at Camp Nageela, Rabbi Hulkower welcomed the class and encouraged them to take advantage of the opportunity to bond with

classmates and make new friends. Students relaxed before returning to the Dining Hall for a barbeque dinner. A highlight of the evening was a game show “Let’s Make a Deal” hosted by Rabbi Hulkhower. Students competed in various challenges and were coaxed to decide between monies earned and mystery prizes. The Freshmen then took advantage of the beautiful fields, playing sports before lights out. The second day of the retreat began with tefilla, a hearty breakfast, and meaningful learning sessions. This was followed by an amazing group team-building activity of boat building. Everyone had an awesome time and made new friends. Yashar koach to Rabbi Daniel Mezei, Director of Student Life, and his team, Rabbi Judah Hulkhower and Rabbi Aharon Friedler for organizing the entire program. Thank you to Rabbi Slomnicki, Ms. Zucker, Mr. Smus, Ms. Ganchrow and to grade mechanchim Mrs. Jenna Zelka and Rabbi Nafi Orlofsky for joining the retreat. This event could not have been possible without the team of senior advisors: Ben Goldstein, Devorah Woznica, Dovid Rahmanou, Lea Bassali, Nava Talitian, Oriel Atias and Tehilla Rabanipour.

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SHS JOHing Strong

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HS launched “Just One Hour” last week, a powerful and game changing initiative that capitalizes on the openness to change and growth we all experience at this time of year, as the Yamim Noraim approach. The idea is to commit to one hour a day during which you put away your phone, reclaiming your control over it. It doesn’t have to be the same hour every day, and it doesn’t require any public commitment; this is simply an opportunity for students and faculty alike to recognize that as beholden as we sometimes are to our devices, we are stronger than the impulse to constantly check our screens. JOH was introduced in teacher-led small group sessions, during which students shared their struggles with overcoming the attachment to their phones. They recognized that to some extent it had taken ownership of them and dis-

cussed strategies of taking back that control. Utilizing Catherine Price’s “How to Break Up With Your Phone,” a piece primarily geared toward adults, the groups considered achievable, sustainable steps to move in a positive direction. The whole school then gathered for a finale to the program, where the initiative was officially launched. They were encouraged to join a WhatsApp chat to build momentum, where each participant could post when she completed her hour. The chat is populated by students and faculty, all working together to make this habit stick. Feedback has already been exceptionally positive, with students reporting that they have rediscovered hobbies long ago discarded and have found time in their day for responsibilities previously relegated to the sidelines of their schedules.

Remembering All Our Singles at the Gural JCC

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hat comes to mind when someone asks you if you know of any singles? Perhaps your brother who is just starting to date or your best friend’s daughter who has been dating for a while. Unfortunately, there are singles out there of every age and older singles often get relegated to the backs of our minds. The Marion and Aaron Gural JCC has been providing a wide range of services to our community for over four decades. Through our Jewish Women’s Leadership Council (JWLC), and our Kadima program for single Jewish parents, we are acutely aware and particularly sensitive to the needs of the older singles in our neighborhood. To that end, this

past weekend, we hosted a Game Night for Orthodox Jewish singles ages 50-65, where over seventy singles from neighborhoods near and far attended. Some of the singles were divorced, others widows, and some never married but they all came with smiles on their faces and an appreciation for an evening planned just for them. The program included light refreshments and a wine tasting event courtesy of Spruce d ‘Vine in Cedarhurst, entertainment by Daniel Stroock and a JCC moderator who spoke to the large crowd with warmth and humor about dating experiences and the audience’s take on what works and does not. “Thank you for arranging such a fun

and well-organized event,” one grateful single exclaimed. “This was a long-overdue and much-needed program,” exclaimed yet another participant. “It was much more entertaining and offered more comfortable ice-breaking talks than any other event I have been at,” claimed another enthusiastic attendee. The evening ended with more conversation, the exchange of numbers, and sincere expressions of appreciation by the singles. The large group of JCC volunteers who worked hard on the program and wanted so much for it to be a success included Debra and David Brody who mar-

ried after meeting at our last mixer several years ago. JCC Cultural Arts Director Rachayle Deutsch explains: “We don’t know if any matches will have been made tonight. If so, wonderful! What we were more interested in is that the older singles feel good about themselves and enjoy an evening out. We hope many good things emerge from tonight’s program, including networking and new friendships. We hope tonight’s participants will realize that they are in our minds and in our thoughts. They are not forgotten.” To find out more about this or any other of our JCC events, call the JCC at (516)569-6733 or visit our website www.guraljcc.org.


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ip the apple in the honey…”. The beginning of the new year is as sweet as honey at Shulamith Early Childhood Center. The children are delighted to be reunited with their friends and devoted morot. Each day at Shulamith ECC brings new opportunities to learn and discover in every curriculum area. As Rosh Hashana approaches, the children are immersed in the sights, smells and sounds of the upcoming Chag. They use all of their senses to learn about apples and honey. Using tools of inves-

tigation, our young scientists examine a variety of colored apples from peel to core and use rich adjectives to describe the differences in taste. They taste the sticky honey and watch its slow drip in complete fascination. They compare the taste of honey to pickles and spicy potato chips and conclude that they want to ask Hashem for a sweet new year, not a sour or spicy one! Since research shows that young children learn best through hands-on experiences, the children are given many opportunities to examine a real shofar in

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the classroom science center and think about where it came from. A real Ba’al Tokeyah, Mr. Hillel Tuchman, came to Shulamith ECC and showed the children many different shofarot; from a tiny shofar to a very long twisty one. As the

children sat in rapt silence, Mr. Tuchman blew all of the different kolot for them. We at Shulamth ECC wish the community a shana tova u’metukah; a wonderful year filled with sweetness, good health and happiness for all.

YSZ HS for Girls Kicks Off Year With Student Retreat

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hulamith mothers enjoyed a beautiful and inspiring evening at our annual SWO kickoff event, featuring speaker Jackie Bitton, who was absolutely captivating! We are so grateful to Elisheva and Avishai Neuman for opening their home to us and to Ahava Feld-

man for heading the beautiful decor. A big thank you to our incredible sponsors who made this event possible: Yael and Ari Cukier, Sara Honikman, Perel Ash, Devorah Wachsler, Arthur and Leah Gutman, and Daniella Graff.

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n Wednesday, September 14, students arrived bright and early to YSZ HS for Girls in Queens and boarded a bus for a trip they knew they would soon not forget. With Mrs. Zerykier, Morah Balakhaneh, and Ms. Greenberg in tow, students looked forward to feeling the warmth and encouragement that YSZ is famous for in a new and exciting venue. The retreat was located in beautiful and scenic Pennsylvania where students could participate in many different types of bonding activities. These activities focused on team building, fostering friendships, and motivating students to step out of their comfort zones. With the theme of “stretching yourself,” students had the opportunity to find and hone their own unique strengths and abilities. As soon as the students arrived at the SkyTop Lodge, they were led by grade to the first set of activities. Freshmen were tasked with boat building, while sophomores participated in a scavenger hunt. Naomi Mordukhaev, a sophomore, appreciated how each activity allowed the girls to bond together while at the same time allowing them to work on their team-building skills. Students then participated in what many considered the highlight of the retreat. Students engaged in a ropes course activity that truly encapsulated the theme of retreat. For many students, the ropes course was new and unchartered territory. With the encouragement and positivity radiating from both grades, many students conquered their fears and walked away feeling empowered and strong. The rest of the night was spent reflecting, relaxing, and sharing how accom-

plished everyone felt. Morah Balakhaneh shared how much nachat it gave her to see how “mature, deep, and real each of the students’ reflections were.” Thursday was another wonderful and action-packed day. Students participated in a variety of activities such as water coloring, keychain crafting, and a delicious salad-making “Chopped” style competition. Hodaya Yaacobov expressed how meaningful minchah by the lake was. “Looking at the water and seeing how Hashem created everything made me feel so connected to Hashem,” she said. Before dinner, Mrs. Zerykier gave the girls an inspiring Torah chat. With Rosh Hashana approaching, students were given the tools on how they can continue to become their best selves this year. The day ended with a moving and meaningful kumzits. Ms. Greenberg shared how wonderful it was to see “all the girls coming together and how much of their heart they gave to each activity.” The memories made on this year’s retreat will surely be the stepping stones to a wonderful and growth-filled year at YSZ HS for Girls!


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The Battle Over Holocaust Memory in Lithuania Comes to Rambam

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n Thursday, the students at Rambam were honored to see a sneak peek of the opening minutes of an incredibly important film: “J’Accuse!: A Cry from the Killing Pits of Lithuania.” One of the makers of the film, Grant Gochin of Los Angeles, addressed the students about the horrors that befell Lithuanian Jews during the Holocaust and what he and others are doing to set the facts straight and bring justice to the memory of those who were murdered. Grant Gochin is leading the fight against Lithuania’s Center for the Study of the Genocide and Resistance of Residents of Lithuania, or Genocide Center. They posit that Lithuanian Nazi collaborator Jonas Noreika was actually an anti-Nazi hero in disguise. Gochin, however, maintains that Noreika was “directly responsible for the murder of his relatives in Šiauliai” and calls for Genocide Center apologies and the end of “equivocations of Holocaust denial.” The nature of Mr. Gochin’s film follows his quest for justice and how it is paralleled by the story of a writer, Sil-

via Foti, currently living in Chicago. The personal account of how Mr. Gochin visited the killing pits of Lithuania and discovered that Noreika was behind it, converges with Ms. Foti’s story as she learns about her personal history. Ms. Foti’s story has been published in her book, The Nazi’s Granddaughter: How I Discovered My Grandfather Was a War Criminal, and tells the shocking story of how she discovered that her childhood hero, her grandfather, Jonas Noreika, was actually a war criminal involved in the deaths of some 14,000 Jews (many in the town of Telsai whose survivors later transplanted to the Telz Yeshiva) included the Lithuanian relatives of Mr. Gochin. The Lithuanian government and people have not come to terms with their atrocious past and have made Noreika a national hero, named schools named after him, and have monuments honoring his memory. Mr. Gochin spoke to the Rambam students about the horrific history of anti-Semitism in Lithuania and how centuries of lies about Jews sowed the

seeds of hatred. When the opportunity to murder Jews presented itself thanks to the Nazis, Mr. Gochin remarked that “in a typical village there was fifty-percent participation in the killing of the Jews and the rest of the Lithuanian people did nothing.” The assembly was informative, moving, and the message from Mr. Gochin to never forget, get involved, and fight for

the truth is paramount. He concluded by saying that “not honoring the memories of the dead would be killing them all over again.” Rabbi Zev Meir Friedman, Rosh Mesivta of Rambam, who introduced the film and Mr. Gochin, also pledged on behalf of Rambam that they would do their part to let the Lithuanians know that they have not forgotten.


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he sounds of the shofar are heard loud and clear in the halls of IVDU 5 Towns as the students and staff are busy preparing for Rosh Hashana. The students have been busy learning all the different minhagim of Rosh Hashana and the importance of them. The students in Morah Frumit and Morah Karina’s classes have been tasting all different kinds of apples and voting on their favorite ones. They have been using a multi-sensory approach to learning about the upcoming Yom Tov; tasting the foods, feeling the bumpy and smooth shofar, and coloring their own arts and crafts projects. Morah Tova’s students have made beautiful honey dishes that will adorn their yom tov tables. Rabbi Maman has been teaching the older boys about teshuva and

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JEP/REN A Resounding Success

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ne of the original charity-sponsored real estate networking events in NY, JEP/REN, reached a new level of impact this year. Last week, about four hundred people from the real estate field spent an evening in Manhattan networking, making business connections, enjoying great food and drink, and ultimately benefiting JEP and Camp Nageela. In the weeks leading up to JEP/ REN7, the excitement kept building as more and more sponsors jumped on board. The sponsors wanted to use the event to spread their influence and bring

clients and potential clients to a classy venue with upscale food and a focus on business. As the event drew closer, the word began spreading in the media that a must-go event was happening, and the reservations started pouring in. The excitement really grew when it was announced that Steven Vegh, of Westwood Realty, would be receiving the Mark Ramer Building People Award. By the afternoon before the event, registration had to be closed. The longtime main sponsors of JEP/ REN, Meridian Capital and Riverside Abstract, were joined by over 20 other

sponsors. Yoel Zagelbaum of Riverside, who presented the award to Steven Vegh, said, “We are proud to partner with JEP and Camp Nageela and all the good work they do.” Kevan Tague of Media Sponsor The Real Deal said, “The Real Deal was proud to partner with JEP/REN and had a great time attending. We met great people in real estate and can’t wait to partner again on a larger scale” Rivka Lock, coordinator of the entire event, was thrilled with the outcome. She reported, “So many of the participants were enthused about the quality of the crowd. There were many big players of the industry there, and there were discussions of deals going on all over. I can’t even count how many people left telling me that it was really worth their coming.” Michael Schick, who is president of JEP-Long Island, once again presented a masterful spread of delicious food, paired with fine wines. For Michael, “Bringing together real estate leaders who are on top of their field, to help Jewish kids who are striving to grow, is the best thing I can do.”

Each year, JEP/REN presents an award to someone from the real estate industry, who exemplifies the ideal of using their talent and resources to better people’s lives in both real estate and philanthropy. This year’s awardee was Steven Vegh, of Westwood Realty. The award is named after Mark Ramer, who was a Camp Nageela board member and used his creativity to find many ways to help children and families. The event will have many long-lasting effects. Of course, there are the potential deals that could come to fruition. There is also the effect that the funds raised will have on Jewish children. Rabbi David Shenker, Director of JEP/Naggela said, “This event highlights the strength of the JEP/Nageela concept – to harness the power of community to support our youth. With the funds raised at REN7, we are hiring a camper recruitment specialist who will work with our volunteers and participants to introduce them to our unique approach to Jewish camping.” Stay tuned soon for an announcement on the date and location of JEP/REN8.


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t was the Second Lebanon War. A battalion of IDF soldiers was moving forward on a city street as enemy fire rained upon them from a position above them. Ari Fuld and his unit ran into the field of fire to assist those soldiers. After 30 minutes, Ari’s unit was called back to help their own platoon, when some of the soldiers who had stayed behind sustained wounds from mortar fire. Returning to his foxhole, Ari put his equipment bag back on when he suddenly felt something dripping out from underneath his combat vest. Fearing he was hit, Ari’s fellow soldiers checked to see if Ari was shot. But what they found was a larger mortar fragment that had landed in Ari’s foxhole and penetrated his equipment and water bag. Heroism was one of Ari’s defining characteristics. Protecting Israel, Judaism, and the Jewish people, whether in combat, on the streets, or on social media was always paramount to Ari Fuld. The incident in Lebanon strengthened Ari’s conviction that he had to redouble his efforts to teach Torah, support IDF soldiers, and defend the Jewish people. But on 7 Tishrei 5779 (Sept. 16, 2018), while shopping in Gush Etzion, Ari was stabbed in the back by an Arab terrorist and mortally wounded. Ari’s last act of heroism was to chase down and shoot the Arab terrorist before the terrorist could harm the next victim he was running to stab. Ari was posthumously awarded the very rare Medal of Valor by the Israeli police. Ari’s family and friends established The Ari Fuld Project to continue Ari’s mission and to keep his memory alive. The Ari Fuld Project is working not just to support IDF reservists, security units, and spread Ari’s popular “Grill & Torah” series and Torah teachings but to help other Zionist activists and defenders of Israel succeed in their missions, too. The Ari Fuld Project is proud to announce The First Annual Ari Fuld Lion of Zion Prize for 2022/5783. The prize will be awarded to activists who have dedicated themselves to building Eretz Yisrael and defending the Jewish people. After much deliberation, it was unanimously decided that the most worthy recipients for the first prize would be two people who have selflessly dedicat-

ed their lives, time, money and efforts to building the Land of Israel and teaching Judaism to the masses, exemplifying the exact message Ari always worked to convey. The Ari Fuld Project is proud to announce that this year’s recipients are Jeremy Gimpel and Ari Abramowitz, partners in building the Arugot Farm in Gush Etzion. In 2017, Ari Fuld visited the fledgling farm, just after they had started to build and protect this strategic region of then-barren land in Gush Etzion. Even then, it was evident that what they were doing was amazing but also incredibly challenging. Miriam Fuld, Ari’s wife, said, “My Ari was so excited and proud to see the great work Ari and Jeremy were doing on the Arugot farm when he visited there in 2017. Ari and Jeremy love the land and people of Israel. They are builders of Israel, Zionist activists, and teachers of Torah. It was obvious they had to be our first recipients of The Ari Fuld Lion of Zion Prize.” On Ari’s fourth Yahrzeit, Sunday, 7 Tishrei 5783 (October 2, 2022), The Ari Fuld Lion of Zion Prize 2022/5783 ceremony will be held live in Gush Etzion and livestreamed online for all to see. Other new and major projects that are in the works will also be announced. We hope you join our mission and help support The Ari Fuld Project so we can continue spreading Ari’s message and his projects and continue to award The Ari Fuld Lion of Zion Prize well into the future. To donate and to view the livestream, go to: www.AriFuld.org/2022

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Learning for Life at Lander College for Men Beis Medrash L’Talmud Up Close with Rosh HaYeshiva Rav Yonason Sacks

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tudents who spend a year or two learning in Israel post high school often feel that is where they grow to become their best selves. Many are concerned they will lose their momentum when they return to begin what their parents may call “real life.” Rabbi Yonason Sacks, Rosh HaYeshiva of Touro’s Lander College for Men Beis Medrash L’Talmud, is passionate about helping his talmidim continue their personal and spiritual growth trajectory once they touch down in the States. A rosh yeshiva, rebbe, leading posek, rav and author of over 40 seforim, Rabbi Sacks shares his thoughts on preparing students for a real life that fuses Torah study, professional success, ethical conduct and family and communal responsibilities. He talks about varied programming to serve a diverse student population and new initiatives designed to meet the needs of students who wish to devote more time to Torah learning while still pursuing college studies. What are your goals for the students at Lander College for Men Beis Medrash L’Talmud? First and foremost, we know our students are looking for a continuation of their Israel experience. They seek high level learning, a connection with rebbeim, and an immersive yeshiva environment. When a student says, “I feel like I’m in Eretz Yisrael,” that is the biggest compliment. We work to offer this full-service one-stop yeshiva, combined with college and professional tracks. The students

at Lander get a fully integrated experience. Premed and bio students start the first day of class learning the Rambam’s thoughts on key medical issues. I believe integration is vital – we don’t create walls between the Torah learning and college classes. The Lander dean, Dr. Moshe Sokol, and I communicate daily and work to create a holistic environment where our values are reflected in all secular studies. The curriculum and extracurricular activities are all conducive to growth as a ben Torah. What are the defining features and unique offerings students can find at Lander College for Men Beis Medrash L’Talmud? We are deeply committed to enabling students to pursue professions al taharas hakadosh, through our convergence of the yeshiva and the career track. One of the unique requirements at Lander College is for all students to take a full semester of shiurim where they learn the halachos of their major and future career, whether it be business and finance, psychology, or medicine. We also offer a broad range of shiurim so students can learn at a level that’s right for them. We have nine different shiurim, so everyone finds the right fit. Personal relationships with our rebbeim is another hallmark of Lander College for Men Beis Medrash L’Talmid. Each rebbe is creative and talented, and most important, they all want to forge those meaningful connections that will outlast the students’ time at the yeshiva. Our

talmidim have constant face time with their rebbeim. What do you view as your most important role at the yeshiva? Our talmidim are at a crossroads in their lives. They are poised to get married and embark on professional careers. These are likely the most significant decisions they will ever make, with far-reaching ramifications. My key role is to guide them as they make these choices and to prepare them for life as a ben Torah and all that entails – from interacting with their wives to anticipating challenges in the workplace and balancing personal and communal responsibilities. I and the other Lander rebbeim are not just teaching Gemara, we are showing them how to live a life where Torah values inform all they do. My talmidim are like my children. When they leave, we still consider them a part of the yeshiva family and we stay in touch for years. More than 400 alumni come back to daven at the yeshiva for the Yomim Noraim, and our annual alumni family events draws nearly 800 people. What new programs and initiatives are you launching for those seeking to spend more time learning, even as they pursue college studies and career preparation? This year, we launched a new Masmidim Program, headed by veteran mechanech Rabbi Yosef Sonnenschein who is our menahel. This program is for those who want to dedicate more time to serious learning beyond their regular daily learning schedule. It is structured to enable these talmidim to build in additional sedorim into their schedule without interfering with their college studies. The Masmidim meet for an afternoon seder on Sundays, Tuesday, and Thursdays when they learn a set limud of Gemara bekiyus of the Yeshiva’s Masechta. Additionally, they have a special mishmar seder once a week as well as a machshava chabura given by rotating Masmidim to develop their speaking skills and ability to present on topics in Torah and machshava. In addition to Masmidim, we now offer the College 2nd Seder Program which offers students the opportunity to learn an optional 2nd seder, in addition to morning and night sedarim. The

2nd seder program runs throughout the week during the 1st period of college classes and students work their college courseload into different time slots. For students who choose to spend additional time learning after graduating college, we offer a Beis Medrash gap year that enables non-semicha students to learn full time after college, before entering the workforce or pursuing graduate and professional studies. At Lander College for Men, our Smicha program attracts future congregational rabbis and rebbeim as well as future dentists, doctors and business professionals who seek to attain this knowledge and proficiency for themselves and their future families. The students finish their college studies and enter the workforce. How do you prepare them to incorporate Torah study into their professional lives, once they are no longer in the yeshiva? Part of what we teach is how to balance and integrate the different aspects of our lives. We talk to students about what may arise and how to handle these challenges from halachic and hashkafic perspectives. We give shiurim that cover shidduchim, marriage and chinuch. We focus on the Torah’s perspective on these issues so they gain clarity and understand where it differs from norms of today’s society. We talk often about their future lives as husbands, professionals, baalei batim and bnei Torah and how to manage all those roles. One of my talmidim shared that being at Lander College for Men and juggling college, learning, lab, and night seder was the best preparation for life as it taught him how to balance multiple responsibilities and was truly a model for what he encountered later on in life. For more information, visit lcm.touro.edu.


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I Have an Amazing Story for You! 4 ArtScroll/Mesorah Publications By Rabbi Nachman Seltzer

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n London. On Broadway. In an American army base in the Philippines during the Second World War. Wherever there are Jews … there are stories. And wherever there are stories … there is Rabbi Nachman Seltzer, keeping us spellbound and inspired. It’s actually quite amazing how many stories Rabbi Seltzer finds. Even more amazing is how amazing those amazing stories are! In I Have an Amazing Story for You! 4, we will read, in fascinating detail, about one woman’s near-death experience. We will watch the legendary Rav Yitzchok Dovid Grossman dancing – on a sidewalk on Broadway. We will discover almost unbelievable hashgachah pratis in a shul whose aron kodesh was, for no apparent reason, locked on Shabbos afternoon. And as we read the incredible stories, we will find ourselves uplifted, inspired and, yes, amazed. The following is one story from the book, titled The Direction Change. ••••• My daughter Sara had been dating for a long time. I felt as if I’d become acquainted with every shadchan in Eretz Yisrael, and all of them had become my personal friends. Though I had tried for a long time to narrow down what Sara was looking for, the only thing I knew for sure was that the boy had to be a fluent English speaker and not Israeli-born. At some point, I realized that I didn’t know what to do anymore. I no longer felt comfortable calling shadchanim when my daughter was so unclear about what she wanted. One afternoon, I traveled to the Kosel to pour out my heart to Hashem. “I cannot do this anymore,” I said to Hashem. “I don’t know what she wants, and neither does she. You, however, know exactly what she wants. Please send him!” I davened for a while longer and then I left the Kosel, satisfied that I had told Hashem what I’d come to say. ••••• The situation took a twist in a different direction a few months later. We had been scheduled to go to the

Beit Shemesh home of one of our daughters for a Chanukah party that night and were already on the way when Sara’s phone rang. She answered, and her face froze. There was no question in my mind that she’d just received bad news — the only question was, what kind. When she finally got off the phone, she told us, “Tonight’s plans are changed. The party is not happening at Avigail’s house.” We asked her what had happened. She explained that our other daughter had called to tell us that Avigail had just been taken to the hospital. Avigail was expecting a baby at the time, and clearly something had gone wrong. It looked like Avigail was going to lose the baby. ••••• As we drove toward Beit Shemesh, I could see that Sara was lost in thought. Soon she turned to me and said, “I’ve been saving up my money for a while. I’d planned on making a major donation to one of the big tzedakah sites in the merit of finding my zivug soon. But now I think I’m going to change my mind and donate the money as a zechus that Avigail’s baby should be born healthy and complete.” She then turned to her brother, who was also in the car, and suggested that he do the same. I was very impressed that Sara would take so much money — money that she had planned to use for herself — and use it for something else. But there was no question in her mind that this was what she wanted to do. Baruch Hashem, the baby survived. His parents called him Ariel. Sara was naturally thrilled by the turn of events and went out of her way to develop a relationship with her nephew. ••••• About eight months after his birth, Ariel developed an infection and had to be hospitalized. With four other children at home, it was very complicated for Avigail to stay with him at the hospital during the nighttime hours. To ease the load, Sara stayed in the hospital with Ariel during the daytime hours and slept overnight with him as well. Sara was there for him when he woke up and cried because he was in a strange place, and she was there to hold him and comfort him. Every morning, the doctor

would make his rounds and ask the family members what had occurred during the night. Since Sara was the family member who had been with Ariel, it was she who gave the doctor the report. After a week, Ariel recovered from his infection. The doctor gave him a clean bill of health and permission to return home. With her nephew back in his daily routine, Sara returned to her life, too. ••••• A few days later, Avigail’s husband Yehuda received a phone call. “Hello?” “Hi, is this Yehuda?” “Speaking. Who is this?” “It’s your baby’s doctor, Itamar.” Now it just so happened that Yehuda and Itamar had gone to the same yeshiva together and had known each other for years. “Thank you for taking such good care of my baby,” Yehuda told his old friend. “You’re very welcome.” “So, what can I do for you?” “This is going to come as a little bit of a surprise,” the doctor said, “but I would appreciate it very much if you’d be willing to ask your in-laws if they would look into me as a prospective husband for your sister-in-law.” “You mean the sister-in-law who stayed with my baby at the hospital?” “Yes. I’ll send you my resume, and of course you can check with our rebbeim whom I’ve kept in touch with over the last ten years…” ••••• Yehuda didn’t waste any time. After he got off the phone, he called me up and told me the entire story. “But Yehuda,” I said, “you know what the problem is going to be?” “Yes, I know. Itamar is Israeli, and Sara only wants someone English-speaking.” “Exactly.” “Still, maybe tell Sara what happened

and ask her. Let me know what she says.” So I called Sara and told her that someone had expressed interest in meeting her. “Who, Mommy?” “The doctor who took care of Ariel in the hospital.” “Tell him yes!” “But he’s Israeli.” “Doesn’t matter.” And it didn’t. ••••• From time to time, I think about my daughter’s shidduch and how it came about. I think about the fact that she’d always insisted that Israelis weren’t for her and how she ended up marrying one. I think about the fact that I told Hashem that I didn’t know what to do and asked Him to take over – and He did. Of course, I also think about the fact that my daughter took all the money she’d intended to give to tzedakah as a merit for herself and gave it instead as a merit for her sister and unborn nephew. And how that baby was the one who actually introduced her to her husband. I think about all these things from time to time. Then I smile. Because it is just so obvious that there is Someone up there running the world. - As heard from Sara’s mother

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Rav Nosson Tzvi Speaks Insights on Chumash from the Beloved Mir Rosh Hayeshivah Published by ArtScroll/Mesorah Publications

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ll who were privileged to attend the Erev Shabbos shmuessen of Rav Nosson Tzvi Finkel zt”l, rosh yeshiva of Yeshivas Mir Yerushalayim, understands that it was much more than a simple parasha shiur. The experience for every English-speaking bachur was that of the warmth and love of a father sharing his love of Torah. With his trademark smile and delight in Torah, Rav Nosson Tzvi would share thoughts on the parsha and personal insights on life. Indeed, so many miss Rav Nosson Tzvi. His warmth. His authentic caring for every talmid; indeed, for every Jew. His ahavas haTorah, his vision, his humility, and his extraordinary determination not to let a debilitating illness stop him from teaching – and building – Torah. Now, we can still be enriched by Rav Nosson Tzvi’s teachings in the new Rav Nosson Tzvi Speaks, published by ArtScroll/Mesorah. This volume contains the aforementioned shmuessen, carefully chosen and adapted for print. As you read these beautifully thoughtout pieces, you will be treated not only to Rav Nosson Tzvi’s chiddushim but also those of his rabbeim, Rav Chaim Shmulevitz and Rav Chaim Kamiel, whose teachings influenced him so greatly. Few people in our time have had such a profound influence on adults and talmidim as Rav Nosson Tzvi. That an “American boy from Chicago” could not only become the head of a great yeshiva but make it the largest Torah institution in the world would be astounding enough. But that he did so while delivering shiurim and despite a severe physical handicap is what made him one of the most beloved and inspiring Torah leaders in the world. This collection of his Chumash shmuessen are profound and illuminating. They show us how to achieve major levels of ameilus and hasmadah, and lofty levels of bein adam lachaveiro, urging us to seek and achieve greatness. They will help us feel and, yes, emulate

the achrayus, ahavas haTorah and ahavas Yisroel that defined Rav Nosson Tzvi. The following is an excerpt from the book relevant to this time of year. ••••• An Expression of Gratitude You shall take of the first of every fruit of the ground that you bring in from your Land that Hashem, your G-d, gives you (Devarim 26:2). The foundation of the mitzvah of bikkurim is expressing gratitude to Hashem. When a person carries that precious first fruit of his crop to the Beis HaMikdash, he recalls that these fruits — along with all other delights of Olam Hazeh — are gifts of his Creator, and this insight fills him with profound sentiments of gratitude to Hashem. The mitzvah of bikkurim thus illustrates the overriding imperative of hakaras hatov to Hakadosh Baruch Hu for the countless miracles and wonders that He performs for us every moment of every day, and conversely, the gravity of spurning His everlasting kindness. Moreover, just as the mitzvah of bikkurim highlights our obligation to feel and express gratitude to Hashem, it likewise points to our moral duty to express appreciation to our fellow man. Some believe that hakaras hatov means repaying a kindness to another, yet its true definition is actually discerning the kindness that someone did on your behalf, and this recognition is truly the greatest recompense that the giver can receive from the recipient. The same applies to the hakaras hatov that we owe Hakadosh Baruch Hu; the very recognition of the kindness that He performs for us every hour of every day is the ultimate manifestation of hakaras hatov. We are currently at the height of the days of mercy and atonement, when Hakadosh Baruch Hu showers Klal Yisrael with love and closeness and grants us the process of teshuvah. Rabbeinu Yonah writes (Shaarei Te-

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shuvah 1:1): “Among the great kindnesses that Hashem bestows upon His creations is preparing for them a path to rise from their lowly actions and flee the abyss of sin… And if they sinned greatly and rebelled against Him, He still does not close the doors of repentance to them.” Teshuvah is an unparalleled gift from Hakadosh Baruch Hu. Kovetz He’aros (Yevamos Ch. 21 §24) notes that whereas the repentance of a gentile takes effect at the time that he repents and impacts his future so that he will not be punished in Olam Hazeh, the repentance of a Yid works retroactively as well, erasing his misdeeds as if he never sinned at all. This is an incredible idea, as logic dictates that a person who sinned and rebelled against Hakadosh Baruch Hu should be undeserving of any clemency. Yet Hakadosh Baruch Hu, Who is a loving and compassionate Father, bequeathed to His children the priceless gift of teshuvah, which uproots sins retroactively at their source, and we must value this deeply. Let us examine why Hashem saw fit to create the power of teshuvah and what we can learn from His ways. Man experiences many ups and downs throughout life and can be considered “alive” during his good periods and “dead” during his difficult periods. His temperament and feelings shift constantly, especially since the yeitzer hara baits him day and night. Yet Man’s duty is

to choose life — u’vacharta bachayim — and this is a recurring choice that presents itself every day anew. It’s a choice we face every morning as we recite Modeh Ani, and a choice we face before every tefillah, and during every moment of life. The novelty of teshuvah is not that a sinner can erase his sins, as this is but a consequence of teshuvah. Rather, it is the fact that a person who sinned previously, but now faces new choices at each and every juncture, can still choose the proper path. And it is this choice and yearning for spiritual life that bring about the erasure of his sins. Had the world been created for life in Olam Hazeh alone, there would have been no purpose in the concept of teshuvah. Yet Man’s purpose in this world is to prepare for Olam Haba, as Chazal teach that this world is compared to a corridor to Olam Haba (Avos 4:16). Life in this world is about choosing between good and evil: If Man chooses good, then he merits to enter Olam Haba — which is the ultimate objective of teshuvah.


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Proposed Additions to the English Language Aqualibrium (ak wa lib’re um) - n. The point where the stream of drinking fountain water is at its perfect height, thus relieving the drinker from (a) having to suck the nozzle, or (b) squirting himself in the eye. Bowlikinetics (boh lih kih neh’ tiks) - n. The act of trying to control a released bowling ball by twisting one’s body in the direction one wants it to go.

Ellacelleration - n. The mistaken belief that repeatedly pressing the elevator button will make it go faster. Flopcorn (flop’ korn) - n. The un-popped kernels at the bottom of the cooker.

Carcreak - n. Those crackling, tinkling, creaky noises your car makes after you park and turn it off.

Flosstitution - v. Using anything other than real floss to clean between your teeth.

Carperpetuation (kar’pur pet u a shun) - n. The act, when vacuuming, of running over a string at least a dozen times, reaching over and picking it up, examining it, then putting it back down to give the vacuum one more chance.

Intaxication - n. Euphoria at getting a tax refund, even though it was your money to start with.

Cheeriomagnetism – n. The quality of cereal that causes the last five Cheerios in the bowl to clump together. Chipfault (chip’ fawlt) - n. The stress point on a potato chip where it breaks off and stays behind in the dip. Destinesia (des tin e sha) - n. When you go somewhere, and then upon arrival you forget why you went there.

Memnents - n. The small broken pieces at the bottom of an M&M bag Mittsquinter - n. The guy who looks into his baseball glove after dropping the fly ball, as if he dropped the ball because something was wrong with his glove. Phonesia (fo nee’ zhuh) - n. The affliction of dialing a phone number and forgetting whom you were calling just as they answer.

You Gotta Be Kidding Me! Yankel was talking to his psychiatrist. “I had a weird dream recently,” he said. “I saw my mother but then I noticed she had your face. I found this so worrying that I immediately awoke and couldn’t get back to sleep. I just stayed there thinking about it until 8 AM. I got up, made myself a slice of toast and some coffee, and came straight

here. Can you please help me explain the meaning of my dream?” The psychiatrist was silent for a moment, and then said, “What? One slice of toast and coffee? Do you really call that a breakfast?!”


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1. What is contained in an apple seed? a. Fulvic acid b. Copper c. Lycopene, which is a cancerpreventative phytonutrient d. Vitamin B17, which is a cyanide-containing molecule 2. Approximately how many varieties of apples are there around the world? a. 250 b. 600 c. 2,000 d. 7,500 3. Apples are made up of 25 percent of which substance? a. Air b. Oil c. Vitamin C d. Acid 4. How old is an apple tree when it begins to bear fruit? a. 2 to 3 years b. 4 to 5 years c. 6 to 8 years d. 10 to 12 years 5. The U.S produces the secondmost apples in the world. Which company produces the most apples annually? a. Guatemala

b. Mexico c. Vietnam d. China 6. What is the science of apple growing called? a. Apiology b. Pomology c. Atmology d. Onomasiology 7. How many pounds of apples does the average American eat annually? a. 19 pounds b. 23 pounds c. 47 pounds d. 52 pounds 8. What is the most grown apple? a. Granny Smith b. Red Delicious c. Fuji d. Golden Delicious e. Answers: 1) D - That is right, apple seeds do contain the compound amygdalin, also known as Vitamin B17. This compound can produce cyanide. However, it is not dangerous to eat apple seeds because the cyanide that is being released is usually in small enough

doses that it either passes through the digestive system or the body can combat it. 2) D 3) A - Apples float because they are 25% air. 4) C 5) D - China not only makes the most Apple Inc. products, it also produces 43 million tons of edible apples a year; the U.S. produces 41 million tons of apples annually. 6) B 7) A - The average American eats 19 pounds of apples per year. That comes out to approximately 65 apples. So, you have your work cut out for you, my friend! 8) B Wisdom Key: 6-8 correct: Crunch…crunch. You really know your apples from your oranges! 3-5 correct: You are not exactly a pomologist but not bad. 0-2 correct: Is that apple seed cyanide getting to your brain?

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Parshas Nitzavim By Rabbi Berel Wein

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n emphasizing once again the eternal validity of G-d’s covenant with the Jewish people, Moshe addresses his words to the entire nation. All classes of society are included in the covenant – the heads of the people, the judges, the wealthy and powerful, the poor, menial and manual laborers, and those

whochop the wood and draw the water. No one is excluded from the terms of the covenant and no one is allowed the luxury of assuring one’s self that Jewish destiny will not apply to him or her. Judaism does not have two sets of rules, one for the elite and the other for the masses. It is an equal opportunity

faith. Its leaders, be they temporal or spiritual, are bound to the same code of behavior. There may be exceptional people in every generation, but there are no exceptions to the efficacy of the covenant on all of Israel. Unlike other faiths that have different rules and mores for their clergy than they do for the lay population, Judaism does not even recognize the existence of a clergy class. There is no separate Shulchan Aruch for rabbis. The covenant binds and governs us all equally. We see throughout Tanach that kings and prophets were held to the same standards and requirements of the covenant that apply to the ordinary citizen as well. The power of the covenant is all encompassing and embraces all genera-

for the Jewish people. The covenant of the rainbow exists to remind us of the wonders of the natural world in which we are temporary guests. The covenant of history, of which the Jewish people is the primary example in the human story, reminds us of the Creator’s involvement in human affairs, unseen but omnipresent. The covenant is the great net which encloses us all, even those who somehow have convinced themselves that they swim freely in the waters of life. The binding, and many times, tragic effects of the covenant are part of the Torah readings of this week’s parsha and that of last week as well. The events that befell the Jewish people over the last century amply show that the dread en-

Judaism does not have two sets of rules, one for the elite and the other for the masses.

tions – those that have gone before us, those that are currently present, and those that will yet come after us. This is the key to understanding the Jewish story from the time of Moshe until today. The Torah recognizes the nature of human beings. It knows that we all procrastinate and make rational excuses for our shortcomings. Therefore, the concept of the covenant is a necessary facet of all human existence and especially so

gendered by the force of the covenant is justified and real. But the covenant has an optimistic and hopeful side to it, in its promise of redemption and restitution to greatness and tranquility. We are a covenantal people. And though we each possess freedom of will, the terms of the covenant control our national destiny and our personal lives as well. Shabbat shalom and shana tova.


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Connecting the Great Shofar with the Small Shofar By Rav Moshe Weinberger Adapted for publication by Binyomin Wolf

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n Parshas Nitzavim (Devarim 29:11), the pasuk says that Moshe, on the last day of his life, brought the entire Jewish people together “that you may enter into the covenant and oath…” Why was this necessary? In last week’s parsha, Ki Savo, Moshe had already gathered everyone together to induct them into a covenant (ibid. 28:69): “These are the words of the covenant…” What is the purpose of these two covenants? Separately, how are these two covenants related to Rosh Hashana? Parshas Nitzavim is always read before Rosh Hashana. The Gemara (Megillah 31b) explains why the blessings and curses of Parshas Ki Savo are read before Rosh Hashana – to ensure that one year’s curses are finished before beginning a new year. But it does not explain why Parshas Nitzavim, which comes after Ki Savo, is also read before Rosh Hashana. Rabbeinu Nissim Gaon, zt”l, and others therefore ask why Chazal instituted that Nitzavim is read before Rosh Hashana. How does it help us prepare for Rosh Hashana? One of my rebbes, Rav Yoshe Ber Soloveitchik, zt”l, explains in his sefer Al HaTeshuvah – On Repentance that there are two levels to the holiness of the Jewish people: the sanctity of the individual and the sanctity of the nation. Parshas Ki Savo, with all of its particular blessings and curses, contains the covenant between Hashem and the individual Jew. But Nitzavim contains Hashem’s covenant with the Jewish people as a nation – “in order to establish you today to Him as a nation…” (Devarim 29:12). Rashi explains Moshe’s words of consolation following the curses of last

week’s parsha: “Because Hashem has spoken to you and sworn to your fathers not to exchange their children for another nation, He therefore binds you with these oaths…” To strengthen this irreplaceable connection with the Jewish people, Moshe gathered everyone together, even the babies. The Ramban (on ibid. 10) explains this: “And he mentions even the babies… to bring them into the covenant because the covenant was even being entered into with the future generations…” Because the covenant of Parshas Nitzavim was with the entire nation, not simply all of the individual Jews of the time, it was possible to bind even generations which had not yet been born. We can now understand the nature of Moshe’s comfort of the Jewish people based on Rashi’s explanation (on ibid. 12): “When the Jewish people heard the [nine-

ty-eight] curses [in Parshas Ki Savo]… their faces turned white and they said, ‘Who can possibly endure these?’ Moshe [therefore] began to appease them.” But how did he comfort them? He did not remove those serious and difficult curses. But based on what we have said, we now understand that he was comforting them as a People, as a nation. He was telling them that with all of the individual suffering that Jews might endure, Hashem’s covenant with the Jewish people as a nation would be eternal. He said, according to Rashi (ibid.), “You have angered the Omnipresent many times, but He did not destroy you, and indeed, you still stand before Him… Just as the day exists [even though] it becomes dark, it shines again. So too, G-d has made light for you, and He will make light for you again in the future.”

Because of this eternal national covenant, Rav Soloveitchik writes (Al HaTeshuva, 132), “In connection with the holiness of the Avos, this sanctity passes by inheritance from Avraham and from Moshe. No sinning person has the power to destroy this vision. The covenant was given over to the totality of the Jewish people…and there is no power that cannot nullify it.” This was how Moshe comforted us after we heard all of the curses that would befall us. He was telling us that no matter what happens, Hashem would never sever His connection with us. We would always remain connected with Him, and no matter what happens, our light would shine again. Based on this, we can also understand the beginning of next week’s parsha, Parshas Vayelech (Devarim 31:1): “And Moshe went and spoke all of these words to the entire Jewish people.” All of the commentaries ask: Where did Moshe go? What was the purpose of going to the Jewish people on that occasion? According to the Seforno, “He was inspired to comfort the Jewish people over his [impending] death.” How did he comfort them? He was telling them: In a short time, I will die. Everything I prayed for was to enter Eretz Yisroel. But Hashem did not answer my prayers. I am the head of the nation, its leader – ostensibly I might be considered the greatest Jew. But even I make mistakes, suffer setbacks, and endure suffering. Even I am punished for my sins. But I know that “the Eternity of the Jewish people will not die” (Shmuel I 15:29). An individual Jew may have his failings, but the Jewish people as a nation will make it to the end. They are eternal.


power [of the nation’s holiness] must manifest itself in the character traits and in one’s actions [the shevarim-teruah of life]. From the root [the tekiyah], the personality traits and actions [the shevarim-teruah blasts] are rejuvenated.” The great shofar is our national existence.

Your city, with mercy” and “Sound the great shofar of our liberation.” We continually return to our national vision. But the Torah teaches us to join together our own individual small shofars, the details of our lives with all of our failings, difficulties, successes, and suffering, with the

An individual Jew may have his failings, but the Jewish people as a nation will make it to the end.

And the small shofar is each Jew’s individual existence. Rav Kook is teaching us that the former must illuminate the latter. We must have both in order to be whole. The simple, deep sound of the tekiyah is our eternal national destiny. That is our great shofar, the holiness of the Jewish people as a nation. As the haftorah after Tisha B’Av says, “Nachamu, nachamu ami – be comforted, be comforted, my nation.” And as we say in Shemonah Esrei every day, “Return to Yerushalayim,

great shofar of our national destiny, with all of its hope and promise. This is the greatest comfort. Unfortunately, many Jewish people live with only one of these two shofars. Some Jews feel very connected to the wellbeing and future of the Jewish people. They follow the news, feel the pain of our people, and recognize that their destiny is bound up with the rest of the Jewish nation. But when it comes to the small shofars of their lives, they do not

rectify those with the light of the great shofar. They do not keep Shabbos, eat kosher, or concern themselves with the details of halacha. And there are other Jews who emphasize all of the fine points of halacha. They worry about their own parochial concerns and try to rectify their own personal religious lives. But they never concern themselves with the wellbeing, destiny, or future of the Jewish people as a whole. The time has come to join together the covenants of Ki Savo with Nitzavim, the welfare of the individual with the welfare of the nation, the great shofar with the small shofar, and the sanctity of the part with the sanctity of the whole. May we merit to make this connection and thereby see the actualization here on earth of that which we say in Shemonah Esrei during Minchah on Shabbos, “You are one, and Your name is one, and who is like Your nation Israel, one nation in the land.”

Rav Moshe Weinberger, shlita, is the founding Morah d’Asrah of Congregation Aish Kodesh in Woodmere, NY, and serves as leader of the new mechina Emek HaMelech.

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That is why these parshios are read before Rosh Hashana. When we are filled with a fear of “who will live and who will die” and everyone is consumed with his own circumstances and personal suffering, Hashem comforts us by causing us to hear Parshas Nitzavim, in which we are reminded that Hashem made an eternal covenant with us as a nation. We no longer look to our own personal salvation as our sole source of hope. Rather, we look to and live for our national vision, our people’s wondrous future. The covenant of Parshas Nitzavim between the Master of the World and His beloved, between Hashem and the Congregation of Israel, will never be abrogated. In life, there is the “great shofar” mentioned in Shemonah Esrei, “Sound the great shofar of our liberation,” and there is the “small shofar.” Indeed, if there is a great shofar, it implies that there must also be a small shofar. Rav Kook explains (Igros Haraya II p. 326), “[During] the [shofar] blasts… one must contemplate the fact that the primary strength of the holiness of the Jewish people lies in the eternal world. The root of their holiness is there… This is the simple [shofar blast – tekiyah] before [the broken-sounding shevarim and teruah blasts]. But this


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Rosh Hashana: The Three Stages of Teshuva By Rabbi Shmuel Reichman

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he birth of a new year is a time of reflection and resolution, when hope and inspiration fill the air. We dream about what this upcoming year holds in store for us, how we can make the rest of our life the best of our life. We all have ideas, ambitions, and aspirations that we yearn to bring to fruition, and the new year gives us “permission” to revisit these goals and breathe new life into them. For a brief moment, everything is crystal clear, we see our purpose and our path with vivid clarity. However, there is an underlying frustration that accompanies this time period as well. If we reflect honestly, we often realize that our new year’s resolutions are awfully similar to those of last year, and the year before, and the year before… We have brief moments of inspiration, but they soon fade into oblivion, only to be resuscitated for a few more days the next year in the hopes that somehow this year might be different. However, there is another option, a way to actually make this year different. By truly understanding this time of year and fully tapping into powerful themes, we can we can turn what was previously fleeting inspiration into lasting, eternal change.

The Deeper Themes of Teshuva Elul and Rosh Hashanah center around the concept of teshuva, and Parshas Nitzavim is clearly linked to this theme as well. The pesukim in Nitzavim discuss the theme of teshuva, the importance of choosing life – choosing what is right and connecting ourselves back to Hashem. As Parshas Nitzavim is connected to the transition from Elul into Rosh Hashana, let us delve into the idea of teshuva. Teshuva literally means “return” – but whom, or perhaps what, are we re-

turning to? The Gemara (Kiddushin 39b) explains that Hashem created teshuva before creating the world itself. What is the meaning of this enigmatic statement, and what lessons and implications does it have for us as we proceed through the teshuva process? The Rambam (Hilchos Teshuva 1:1) discusses the three-step process of teshuva: • First, one must reflect on their past and acknowledge that a problem exists; • One must then transition into the present and strongly feel the pain of their mistake, regretting it wholeheartedly; • Finally, one must look towards the future and resolve to never commit this same mistake again. This three-step guide is the practical process of teshuva. However, the essence of teshuva is the deep foundation for these three steps and understanding this essence is the key to truly transforming ourselves through these three steps.

True Teshuva: Returning to Your Higher Self Genuine teshuva is not just about selftransformation; it’s about self-expression, returning to your true and higher self. As the Gemara (Niddah 30b) states, while we were in the womb, we were in a perfect and transcendent state of being, and a malach teaches us kol ha’Torah kulah. As the Vilna Gaon explains, this refers to the deepest realms of Torah, a transcendent Torah that lies far beyond this world, beyond the confines of space and time. This Torah is the very root of reality, and you were granted complete understanding of its every detail. Not only were you shown this level of Torah, but you also learned your specific share of Torah – you were shown your unique purpose in the world and how your unique role fits into the larger scheme of the human story as a whole. You were given a taste of your own perfection, of what you could, should, and hopefully will become. And

from this transcendent realm, you were birthed into the physical world with the mission to actualize everything you were shown in the womb, while in your perfect, primordial state. In essence, your job in this world is not to create yourself, but rather to recreate yourself; to re-attain your original state of perfection, as you were shown by the malach. This time, however, it must be done through free will, by choosing to become great. Only by overcoming challenge and difficulty, only by asserting your willpower, can you fulfill your true potential. In essence, our entire life is a story of teshuva – returning to our original, higher, and true self. The shofar is a wake-up blast, meant to shake us from our stupor and return us to our true self. When we hear the shofar’s piercing cry, we yearn to return to our source, to our higher selves. The word “shofar” shares a root with “l’shaper,” to perfect and beautify. Strikingly, it also shares a root with “mei shafir,” the amniotic fluid which surrounds the fetus while in the womb. When we blow the shofar, we are reminded to improve and perfect ourselves, to return to our fetal state of perfection we once knew, to return to our true selves.

Three Stages of Teshuva There are three stages of genuine teshuva: The first is individual teshuva, whereby we return to our higher selves, our fetal selves, our true selves. The second stage of teshuva goes beyond the limited self, turning the focus from individual to community. The Rambam, in discussing the laws of teshuva, states that someone who removes himself from the Jewish community has no share in Olam Habah (the


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World to Come). In other words, even if this person keeps all of Torah and mitzvos and is an upstanding Jew, if he disconnects himself from the community, he loses his eternal existence. This requires explanation. After all, this person didn’t commit a heinous or evil act; he merely chose a life of isolation. Why should this warrant such extreme punishment? The answer is profound. As human beings, we begin our lives as completely self-centered creatures, perceiving ourselves as isolated, separate, and disconnected from everyone else. As we progress through life, we learn to break down those walls and psychological barriers, recognizing that we are part of a bigger self, a collective self, a higher consciousness. At root, all of Klal Yisrael is one, an interconnected self. Each of our individual neshamos are part of a bigger whole, like individual cells that make up a single human body. A central aspect of the experience of Olam Habah is experiencing yourself as part of Klal Yisrael, as part of your true, collective reality. If, however, one disconnects themselves from Klal Yisrael, they have uprooted themselves from reality itself and simply cannot exist. Just as if you

unplug a light bulb from its electric circuit, the light extinguishes, if a soul is disconnected from its root, it ceases to exist. This is not a punishment, merely a consequence. This is the second stage of teshuva, returning to our collective self, to the single soul of Klal Yisrael. The third stage of teshuva is returning to our absolute root and source, to the Source of all sources, to Hashem Himself. The Nefesh Ha’Chaim refers to Hashem as the “Neshama shel neshamos,” the Soul of all souls. Hashem is the root of existence, the absolute root of all our souls. Our entire journey through life is about sourcing our existence back to Hashem – this is the ultimate teshuva. We can now explain the Gemara which states that teshuva preceded Creation. This not merely a chronological phenomenon; this is a fundamental principle: teshuva is the root of this world, all of existence is created with the purpose of returning to its source, to fully reflect its absolute root, Hashem Himself. The three themes of the Rosh Hashana davening are Shofros, Zichronos, and Malchuyos. Shofros relates to the blowing of the shofar, Zichronos relates to remembering seminal events from

Jewish history and Hashem’s covenant with the Jewish People, and Malchuyos is the process by which we crown Hashem King The shofar represents one’s individual spiritual yearning. It is a haunting, wordless cry that returns us to our higher self, our fetal self. Zichronos refers to the concept of memory, building upon this same theme. Memory represents tracing something from the present back into the past. It is an exercise in sourcing something back to its root. On Rosh Hashana, as we discuss the Akeidah and other seminal moments in Jewish history, we connect back to our collective self, the root soul of all of Klal Yisrael. Malchuyos is where we crown Hashem as our Melech, our King. We declare Hashem to be the source of everything, our ultimate root. While all three of these themes are connected to all three forms of teshuva, Shofros most deeply reflects our individual teshuva, Zichronos most deeply reflects our collective teshuva back to our collective self, and Malchuyos most deeply reflects our ultimate teshuva, sourcing ourselves back to Hashem Himself. May we be inspired to fully actualize

all three forms of teshuva this Rosh Hashana and seal ourselves in the Book of Life, the book of true existence.

Rabbi Shmuel Reichman is the author of the bestselling book, “The Journey to Your Ultimate Self,” which serves as an inspiring gateway into deeper Jewish thought. He is an educator and speaker who has lectured internationally on topics of Torah thought, Jewish medical ethics, psychology, and leadership. He is also the founder and CEO of Self-Mastery Academy, the transformative online self-development course based on the principles of high-performance psychology and Torah. After obtaining his BA from Yeshiva University, he received Semicha from Yeshiva University’s RIETS, a master’s degree in education from Azrieli Graduate School, and a master’s degree in Jewish Thought from Bernard Revel Graduate School. He then spent a year studying at Harvard as an Ivy Plus Scholar. He currently lives in Chicago with his wife and son where he is pursuing a PhD at the University of Chicago. To invite Rabbi Reichman to speak in your community or to enjoy more of his deep and inspiring content, visit his website: ShmuelReichman.com.


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The Wonderful Buzz of the Honey By Rav Yaakov Feitman

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lmost everyone dips the challah into honey on Rosh Hashana. We all want a sweet year. Some also dip into salt; some do not. However, no one – at least that I know of – uses date honey. We all use bee honey, which has actually become quite expensive, so maybe we should switch, since not only is date honey also called devash in the Torah, but in fact it is one of the Seven Species by which Eretz Yisrael is praised and factors into the order of blessings on various fruits. Furthermore, it would seem that date honey should be preferable because it was never a forbidden food. On the other hand, bee honey begins its existence as a yotzi min hatamei – a derivative of something non kosher (Bechoros 5b). Come to think of it, why is bee honey permitted at all, let alone as the centerpiece of our Rosh Hashana eve meal? The Gemara’s answer (ibid 7b) to this last question is that although the date honey is made from the date itself, the bee honey is not made from the body of the bee. It is the result of a great deal of gathering in which the busy bee engages, from various fruits and other sources. It then digests the results, expelling it in its final form of delicious and completely kosher honey. But still, why even give preferential treatment to something which required this laborious process? Why not just harvest the dates, and their honey will be instantly available? The answer is that bee honey goes to the heart of what Rosh Hashana is all about. We don’t claim or even think for a moment that we have been completely pure all year long. However, the honey into which we dip is a reminder that everything can be changed, even that which began impure and seems to be yotzi min hatamei. The honey speaks to us even as it reminds the heavenly court that we change for the better at every stage of our lives. In fact, as we know, (Berachos 34) baalei teshuvah are on a higher level than those who have never sinned. The bee honey, therefore, acts as a subtle and subliminal incentive for us to do a complete and effective teshuvah. Another approach to the bee honey

issue is based upon a question raised by the Klausenberger Rebbe, zt”l. He asked why we wish each other a good and sweet year. Surely it would be sufficient to wish each other a good year. Why sweet? He answers, and we cannot forget who is. The rebbe was one the great heroes of Churban Europe, known as the Holocaust. He was beaten to a pulp countless times and was moser nefesh to remain as pure and sinless as he was in his Chassidic court before

we add the “sweet.” This could also be the answer to our question about the bee honey. Although we would certainly prefer to be good all the time and receive openly beneficent blessings constantly, we dip the challah into bee honey. This reflects the reality that we are not yet perfect. We do our best, try our hardest, and then ask Hashem to remember that we are sometimes no better than the bee who gathers from many sources

We are sometimes no better than the bee who gathers from many sources but comes out kosher and sweet in the end.

the war. Yet, he never uttered a complaint or, G-d forbid, blasphemous thought. He therefore concludes that we as Jews are obligated to thank Hashem for the “bad” as well as the good” (Berachos 54a). Just giving the blessing of “good” or even “happy” could be misinterpreted as asking for a year where we thank Hashem and bless him despite what is happening. That’s why

but comes out kosher and sweet in the end. Interestingly, Rav Dovid, the Lelover Rebbe, always said that we “ask for a good year with Kiddush Levanah letters.” By this he meant that just as we recite Kiddush Levanah in the dark of night and so require cards with large visible letters, we ask for Hashem to grant us a year which will be obviously good, not just with explanations

and interpretations. On another level, this approach may help us understand the order of the shofar sounds. It has been explained that the first tekiah represents the straight perfection with which Hashem created man. Shlomo Hamelech says (Koheles 7:29) that Hashem made human beings yashar, which means straight as an arrow. However, then we act improperly and broken, represented by the shevarim. But then we do teshuvah with a broken heart, not broken actions, and we are restored to the last tekiah ,which is straight once again. This is the lesson of the bee honey as well. It is not like the date honey which stays the same throughout. The bee honey goes through a dynamic and even wrenching process, but it emerges sweet, pure, and totally kosher despite where it’s been. To conclude with a final analogy, there is much said on Rosh Hashana about remembering and forgetting. We actually hope that Hashem will forget the bad and recall only the good. Perhaps, following the example of the Klausenberger Rebbe, if we can bring ourselves to think of Hashem as the Benevolent G-d Who does only good for us, whether we always understand or not, our Creator will reciprocate as well. He will look away from our sins, accept our teshuvah and see only the good in us, which is really our true essence. This, too, is the quiet song of the bee and its honey. Although all we see is sometimes a sheretz and its sting, it provides us with a savory and luscious condiment that can take the edge off anything negative we might have thought or felt. This is what the Chassidim based upon kabbalah refer to as mamtik es hadinim – sweetening the rigors of justice. May Hashem truly send us a sweet New Year in every way, allowing us to serve Him with joy and pleasure throughout long and productive lives, replete with Torah accomplishments and true gratitude for Hashem’s constant brachos.

Rav Yaakov Feitman is the rav of Kehillas Bais Yehudah Tzvi in Cedarhurst, NY.


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The Shofar of Rosh Hashana The Piercing Cry of the Neshama by Rabbi Daniel Glatstein

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n Parshas Va’eschanan, Moshe Rabbeinu declares the praise of Klal Yisrael. “For which is a great nation that has a G-d Who is close to it, as is Hashem, our G-d, whenever we call out to Him?” (Devarim 4:7). Moshe Rabbeinu is saying that Klal Yisrael is a great nation because we have the gift of tefillah — the ability to call out to Hashem and know that He will answer us. The Brisker Rav wonders why this is considered a unique and special quality of the Bnei Yisrael, since even non-Jews can pray to Hashem. Moshe Rabbeinu mentions the special quality that is unique to the Bnei Yisrael: “For which is a great nation.” Moshe Rabbeinu could have mentioned a mitzvah such as tzitzis, tefillin, talmud Torah, mezuzah, or Shabbos, which is truly unique to Klal Yisrael; the umos ha’olam don’t have these. Why choose tefillah, which belongs not only to the Jewish people but also to the umos ha’olam? On the rare occasion in the Torah that Moshe Rabbeinu declares the uniqueness of Klal Yisrael, he chooses the one mitzvah that is applicable to non-Jews as well! In Selichos we say, “For My House will be called a house of prayer for all the peoples” (Yeshayah 56:7). When Shlomo HaMelech inaugurated the first Beis HaMikdash, he asked Hashem to accept the prayers of non-Jews who would come there to pray. On Yom Kippur we read Maftir Yonah, and we learn that the people

of Nineveh were mispallel to the Ribbono Shel Olam and Hashem accepted their tefillos. Clearly, then, tefillah is not a feature unique to the Bnei Yisrael. Moshe Rabbeinu is discussing the distinctive quality of Klal Yisrael, and he picks one of the few mitzvos enjoyed by all mankind.

Hashem is Our Teruah Let us endeavor to discover the meaning behind Moshe’s praise of the Bnei Yisrael. One of the pesukim we recite in Mussaf on Rosh Hashana, as part of Shofaros, is a verse in Parshas Balak. When Bilaam speaks about the admirable qualities of Klal Yisrael, he says: “He [Hashem] perceived no iniquity in Yaakov, and saw no perversity in Yisrael. Hashem, his G-d, is with him, and teruas melech bo — the friendship of the King is in him (Bamidbar 23:21). Klal Yisrael’s special status is that teruas melech bo. What is meant by teruas melech? To which special trait in Klal Yisrael does this term refer? Rashi explains the term to mean “chibah and rei’us, love and friendship.” Bilaam was jealous of the fact that the Jewish people are blessed with the friendship of the Ribbono Shel Olam. Hashem is the Borei, Creator, Manhig, Leader, and Mefarneis, Provider, for the umos ha’olam as well, but the concept that Hashem is teruah, a close

and dear friend, is applicable only to the Bnei Yisrael. Bilaam is pointing out that this level of closeness, this endearing friendship exists solely between Hashem and Klal Yisrael. The Ibn Ezra, however, interprets this phrase differently, stating that Bilaam is highlighting something else entirely. He says that Bilaam is bothered by the fact that the Bnei Yisrael have the mitzvah of tekias shofar. That is what he envied: the mitzvah of shofar. Of all the mitzvos of the Torah, of all the mitzvos that Klal Yisrael does that demonstrate the greatness of the Jewish people, why, asks the Brisker Rav, is the one mitzvah Bilaam selects the mitzvah of shofar? Why is this the one mitzvah that Bilaam is jealous of? What is unique about the mitzvah of shofar that Bilaam singled it out as the catalyst for his ire? Let us try to uncover the inner dimension of the mitzvah of shofar.

The Right Horn for the Best Defense The Gemara discusses the type of horn that can be used for the mitzvah of shofar on Rosh Hashanah. When the Kohen Gadol enters the Kodesh HaKodashim on Yom Kippur he does not wear his bigdei zahav, golden vestments, to do the avodah. The reason for this is based on the principle of ein kateigor naaseh


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Does Hashem Listen to the Shofar? There is an important principle employed in tefillah. When the Anshei Knesses HaGedolah arranged the text of our prayers, they did not randomly choose nice words to be incorporated into the tefillos. Each word of the Shemoneh Esrei is based on a pasuk in Tanach. This is especially true of the chasimos, conclusions, of the brachos. However, there seems to be an exception to this rule. The bracha of Shofaros, recited as part of Mussaf on Rosh Hashanah, contains wording that does not seem to appear anywhere in Tanach. We conclude the bracha of Shofaros by saying, “For You hear the sound of shofar, and listen to the teruah, and there is none like You…. Bless-

ed are You, Hashem, Who hears the sound of the teruah of His people, Yisrael, with compassion.” However, there is no source in Tanach for the concept that Hashem listens to our shofar-blowing. Furthermore, what is the meaning of this bracha? Hashem is not the One Who listens to the teruah — it is we who are required to listen to the teruah! That is our mitzvah of shofar on Rosh Hashana: to listen and hear the sounds of the shofar. The Rambam writes in at least eight placesthat there is a mitzvah for us to hear the sound of the shofar on Rosh Hashana. What do we mean when we say that Hashem listens mercifully to our teruos?

Bent or Straight

There is a machlokes as to whether the shofar should be bent or straight. The Gemara explains the two viewpoints. One opinion is that on Rosh Hashana, the more bent and humble one’s mindset, the better it is. Therefore, the shofar should be bent. The other opinion is that on Rosh Hashana a person’s outlook and mindset should be straight, and therefore the shofar should be straight as well. The shape of the shofar is intended to resemble the kind of da’as a person should have on Rosh Hashana. Should one feel humbled and bent over, or should one

It is tefillah without utilizing the faculty of speech. focus on being straight and upright, rather than bent? Interestingly, this same machlokes is found in the Gemara with regard to how a person should stand while davening Shemoneh Esrei. Should a person daven with a bent-over posture, with his eyes cast downward as a sign of a humble mindset, or should one daven standing upright, with one’s eyes toward the heavens as he davens, because as one stands before Hashem he should be standing straight, not bent? Furthermore, Rashi in Rosh Hashana, in explaining the two views as to the halachically correct shape of the shofar, cites pesukim in support of each respective position — the very same pesukim quoted in Yevamos. Rashi applies the pesukim that the Gemara used to explain how a person should stand as he prays to the shape the shofar should have on Rosh Hashana. Rashi writes that the position that holds that the shofar should be bent maintains that the more a person bends his face toward the ground while he is davening, the better, which is sourced in the pasuk, “My eyes and My heart shall be there” (I Melachim 9:3); that is, when a person davens, his eyes and his heart should be bent downward. This opinion would likewise hold on Rosh Hashana that the shofar should be bent. The dissenting opinion holds that the shofar should be straight, as the pasuk states, “Let us lift our hearts with our hands” (Eichah 3:41). This is the very pasuk from which the view emanates

that one should be in a completely erect position when davening. Therefore, on Rosh Hashana, one should utilize a straight shofar.

The Deeper Meaning of Tekias Shofar The sefer Hararei Kedem of Rav Michel Shurkin advances that from this sugya in Rosh Hashana, we glean a significant yesod. If the shape of the shofar is akin to our posture during tefillah, clearly there is another, deeper, component to the shofar! It shows us that the shofar is, in fact, a cheftzah shel tefillah and tekias shofar is an aspect of prayer! More than just producing stirring sounds to listen to, it is actually a form of tefillah. This concept is further reinforced by the fact that we sound the shofar during Shemoneh Esrei. One does not shake his lulav and esrog during Shemoneh Esrei; it would be highly inappropriate. One cannot even give tzedakah while davening Shemoneh Esrei. Yet, minhag Sefard does blow shofar during Shemoneh Esrei. Minhag Ashkenaz does not blow shofar during the silent Shemoneh Esrei, but the shofar is sounded during chazaras hashatz. This, too, is a deviation from the norm. During the chazzan’s repetition of Shemoneh Esrei one is not permitted to perform other mitzvos; even learning Torah is not allowed. During the chazzan’s repetition, one must pay full attention to the words the chazzan is saying, as if he himself were davening Shemoneh Esrei. How then can we blow the shofar during Shemoneh Esrei and during chazaras hashatz? It is apparent, then, that blowing the shofar is in itself tefillah. Blowing the shofar is not an interruption of tefillah — it is tefillah! The sound of the shofar is tza’akah, it is crying out to Hashem.

Ein Kateigor Naaseh Saneigor

The sefer Hararei Kedeim uses this to explain why ein kateigor naaseh saneigor applies to the shofar even though the shofar is not used in the Kodesh HaKodashim. The Rambam writes that when one stands to daven Shemoneh Esrei, he should envision himself as if he were standing directly in front of the Shechinah. Further, the Rambam adds that when one davens, his heart should be meditating about Hashem, as if standing before Him in Heaven. During Shemoneh Esrei, one should be thinking that he is standing in Shamayim, and he should consider himself as if he is standing directly in front of Hashem. When the shofar is sounded, it is also tefillah, and, just like Shemoneh Esrei, it is to be viewed as if it were being sounded directly before Hashem, as if it were being blown in Shamayim. This, posits the Hararei Kedem, is equivalent to standing lifnei v’lifnim in the Kodesh HaKodashim! It is as if the shofar is being blown in the actual Kodesh HaKodashim! No wonder we can apply the principle of ein kateigor naaseh saneigor to the shofar! It is considered tefillah, and tefillah is regarded as taking place in the Kodesh HaKodashim. I would add an even more explicit support to this idea. The Shulchan Aruch tells us that when one davens Shemoneh Esrei he should have intention toward Yerushalayim, toward the Beis HaMikdash, and toward the Kodesh HaKodashim. The Mishnah Berurah explains that this means that one’s frame of mind should


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112 be as if he were physically standing in the Beis HaMikdash, in the Kodesh HaKodashim. He must envision himself as standing in the Kodesh HaKodashim as he davens. By the same token, blowing the shofar, too, should be imagined as if it is taking place in the Kodesh HaKodashim. Using a shofar that recalls the sin of the Eigel would then be inappropriate, because ein kateigor naaseh saneigor would apply.

The Tandem of the Shofar and Tefillah Rabbi Shlomo Wahrman points out that this explains the tefillah, “May the utterances of our lips be pleasing unto You, Al-mighty, Most High and Uplifted, Who understands, and gives ear, Who perceives and listens to the sound of our shofar blast.” This tefillah starts with a reference to tefillah: “Areshes s’faseinu, May our tefillah be sweet to You.” We then ask Hashem to listen to the sounds of our shofar blasts, l’kol tekiyaseinu. Which are we asking Hashem for? The answer is that since sounding the shofar is a form of tefillah, it is really only one request: We are asking Hashem to listen to our tefillos in all their forms — in the form of the shofar blasts and in the form of the words that we pray with our mouths.

Tekiah is the Praise An original thought was presented by Rabbi Isaac Bernstein, a renowned rav and master orator. The Gemara says that teruah can be translated as either a moan or a wailing. Either way, it is a form of crying: a tefillah. The tekiah serves a different purpose. In Tehillim, we say, “Halleluhu be-seika shofar, praise Hashem with the tekiah of the shofar.” Tekiah is shevach, praise of Hashem. We know that a person is always supposed to first praise Hashem and only then begin to daven. Therefore, we first blow a tekiah, as praise of Hashem. This is then followed with the teruah, which is the actual tefillah of the shofar: either a moan or a wailing. Then, since tefillah also concludes with shevach to Hashem, we conclude with a second tekiah. Each tefillah of the shofar, each teruah, is sandwiched between two tekios, two praises of Hashem. Thus, the blowing of the shofar follows the halachic format of tefillah.

Why Do We Need the Shofar’s Tefillah? Rosh Hashana is a day in which we spend many hours davening to Hashem. What does the tefillah of the shofar add to the numerous tefillos we already recite? The Beis HaLevi offers a very profound approach. On Rosh Hashana, as we stand before Hashem being judged, we daven extensively, hoping for a good year. We do not want to use any items that may remind Hashem of our aveiros, and that is why, as we mentioned above, we don’t use a shofar made from a cow’s horn. We apply the principle of ein kateigor

naaseh saneigor, which also explains why the Kohen Gadol would not serve in the Kodesh HaKodashim while garbed in his gold vestments. Both the shofar of the cow and the gold garments would remind Hashem of the sin of the Eigel. We do whatever we can to avoid recalling and highlighting aveiros we may have committed in the past, so that they cannot be held against us. We possess a faculty that is used consistently throughout the year, and not always in the right way. At times, we use our mouths to speak lashon hara, rechilus, motzi shem ra, sheker, etc. The last thing we want to do on Rosh Hashana is remind Hashem of the improper ways in which we have used our mouths over the past year. There is probably a much greater concern of ein kateigor naaseh saneigor with regard to our own mouths than there is for the Eigel with which our ancestors had sinned. When our tefillos come up to Hash-

He was jealous of the purity of the yearning that lies in the deepest recesses of the heart of a Jew, the desire that emanates from the power of the tefillah of the shofar. em on Rosh Hashana, beseeching Hashem, “Zachreinu l’chaim,” the malachim will highlight the other words our mouths have said, words we are likely less than proud of, and which may steer our judgment in an unfavorable direction. We therefore are gifted with a form of tefillah that bypasses the mouth. The Beis HaLevi writes that the shofar is tefillah that arises from the depths of the heart, and it does not use the mouth in the same manner that it had been used to commit the aveiros that involve speech. Its tefillah goes straight from the heart to Hashem. It can be termed a quadruple bypass — bypassing the larynx, tongue, teeth, and lips — and it allows our tefillos to come before Hashem without the downside of being offered through the same vehicle that had been used for sin. It is tefillah without utilizing the faculty of speech. The shofar is the cry from the heart of a Jew.

And the heart of a Jew is holy and pure.

Bilaam’s Jealousy Explained

As we noted above, tekias shofar is the mitzvah of which Bilaam was envious. Why specifically the shofar? We have many mitzvos. We also asked why Moshe Rabbeinu praised the Bnei Yisrael by focusing on a unique ability of Klal Yisrael: the koach ha’tefillah. But nonJews can also pray, so why is this a praise of Klal Yisrael? The shofar is a unique, special type of tefillah. It is a cry to Hashem m’umka d’liba, from the deepest recesses of the heart. The content of this cry to Hashem depends on what is in the heart of the person who is sounding the shofar. Innately, the heart of a Jew contains the deepest desire to serve Hashem. When a person does not agree to divorce his wife and beis din rules that he should, “kofin oso ad sheyomar rotzah ani, we force him until he says that he wants to give the get.” The Rambam explains that even though he is being forced, this person’s get is still considered as having been given of his own will, because, deep down, every Jew has the same desire: Ritzoneinu la’asos ritzonecha, Our will is to do the will of Hashem. When the shofar is in the mouth of a Jew, sounding teruos to Hashem, what emanates from his heart is pure desire to serve Hashem and do His will. The tefillah of the shofar is therefore the purest of tefillos. But the heart of a non-Jew does not have this deep-rooted innate desire to serve Hashem and do His will. When the heart of a non-Jew is tapped and its desires are revealed, it would not prove to be as worthy and meritorious. The tefillah of the shofar, which comes m’umka d’liba, is the deepest, most intense desire of a Jew: namely, to come closer to Avinu she’baShamayim, to do the will of Hashem. This is what Bilaam envied. He was jealous of the purity of the yearning that lies in the deepest recesses of the heart of a Jew, the desire that emanates from the power of the tefillah of the shofar. This uniqueness of our spiritual character and DNA is what made Bilaam envious. This, perhaps, is also the special power of tefillah that Moshe Rabbeinu referred to when he said, “For which is a great nation that has a God Who is close to it, as is Hashem, our God, whenever we call to Him?” (Devarim 4:7). The tefillah of the shofar that emanates directly from the neshama of the Jew is the form of tefillah that exemplifies the praise of Klal Yisrael. When we recite the bracha of Shofaros, we conclude by stating, “Ki atah shomea kol shofar u’maazin teruah.” Where in Tanach does it say that Hashem listens to the sound of the shofar? It is the pasuk that states, “O Heeder of prayer, unto You does all flesh come” (Tehillim 65:3). May HaKadosh Baruch Hu be attentive to the piercing cry of our shofar, accompanied by all of our tefillos and accept them with mercy and good will, and may we all merit a gut gebentched yahr.

Rabbi Daniel Glatstein is the Mara D’asra of Kehilas Tiferes Mordechai in Cedarhurst, NY, and author of numerous seforim in Lashon Hakodesh and in English for ArtScroll. He is an international lecturer and maggid shiur. His thousands of recorded shiurim are available on Torahanytime.com, podcast, his website rabbidg. com, and other venues. This article has been reprinted with permission from The Mystery and The Majesty by Rabbi Daniel Glatstein, published by Artscroll.


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To Meet You Face to Face By R’ yaakov klein

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the summer comes to a close and we approach the threshold of a new year, we are gifted a period of reflection, a unique time of introspection. The very name “Rosh Hashana” implies that this special day is bound up with the “rosh,” the head, and its capacity for meaningful cognition. More broadly, Tosafos (Rosh Hashana 27a) synthesize the contrasting opinions of Rebbe Eliezer and Rebbe Yehoshua regarding the date of the world’s creation by teaching that although the world was created in Nissan, Tishrei captures the energy of the moment the Primordial Thought arose in Hashem’s Mind to create the world; the formative spark that preceded the creative action. Before launching into the next 12-month cycle with which our all-too-brief time on this earth are marked, Rosh Hashana grants us the opportunity to pause, to think deeply about the purpose of our passionate pursuits, to turn inward and assess the degree of our alignment with the underlying ideals upon which our lives are founded. In this essay, with Hashem’s help, we will endeavor to explore a foundational perspective on some of life’s most important questions through the lens of the glorious day of Rosh Hashana itself. In the Rosh Hashana davening, we say, “Hayom ha-

ras olam, today is the birthday of the world.” However, as we know, the world was actually created on the 25th of Elul. (Midrash Rabbah, Devarim) Rosh Hashana was the day not of creation’s genesis, but of the origin of Man, as well as his swift failure to align with the ideal for which he was created – the sin of the Eitz HaDaas. The tzaddikim teach that the way in which the first man and woman were created holds a deep secret that touches on the very premise of their existence and the emanation of the physical realm. Chazal reveal (Berachos 61a, Bereishis Rabbah 8a, Zohar Shemos 55a) that, originally, Adam and Chava were created as a single being, unified at the back and facing away from one another. After breathing life into this human, named “Adam,” Hashem placed it in a deep slumber (the “tardeimah,” described in Bereishis 2:21) and proceeded to saw the halves apart in a process referred to as the “nesirah,” producing two separate beings – the male “Adam” and the female “Chava.” On the surface, this event seems tragic, perhaps even barbaric. What a heart-wrenching scene! Can you imagine how Adam and Chava, conscious of their sudden separateness, must have felt in their new state of disunity?

How much they must have yearned for the total oneness they previously experienced? Can you imagine the sense of loss and incompleteness they must have experienced as only half a picture when they had had previously reflected the image in all of its glory? The question begs: How could the infinitely compassionate Creator be so cruel to the crowning jewel of his creation? As troubling as this problem is, it becomes magnified when we understand the wider significance of this event. In addition to the historical reality of Adam and Chava’s existence, the first man and woman are interpreted as symbols for all masculine and feminine energies in their manifold expressions throughout the entirety of existence. Chief among these expressions, of course, is the relationship between Hashem and His nation, Am Yisrael, who are compared to lovers throughout Shir HaShirim and as bride and groom in the context of Matan Torah (see Rashi to Devarim 33:2, and Taanis 26b). Looking back at the “nesirah,” the sundering apart, that produced the separate beings of Adam and Chava through this new, more expansive lens (see Zohar Vol. 3, 132b), we naturally grow all the more confused. For what purpose did Hashem choose to create the illusion in


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116 which a part of Himself, a “cheilek Eloka m’maal,” would perceive itself as a separate consciousness – existing as an autonomous being experiencing life in an independent realm? Wouldn’t it have been better for our collective national soul, “Knesses Yisrael,” which manifests within each Jewish individual (represented by Chava), to have remained part and parcel of the infinite light of Hashem (represented by Adam), subsumed within His Being? In more direct terms, what is the ultimate purpose of Creation and Am Yisrael’s role within it?

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answer to this existential question is as fundamental as it is deep. It is certainly true that as a single conjoined being, Adam and Chava enjoyed an incredible degree of closeness. But as close as they were, this level of intimacy was limited and could bear no fruit; connected at the back, Adam and Chava could never see each other face to face. Paradoxically, it was their physical detachment that allowed for a far deeper connection to be forged, that opened vistas of depth, passion, and understanding that could have never otherwise been achieved. The tzaddikim explain that the same is true about the relationship between the Jewish nation and their Source, the Infinite One. In their pre-creation state, Am Yisrael were one with Hashem, “kudsha b’rich hu v’Yisrael kulo chad.” However, this ultimate unity produced a state of annihilating nullification so great that the Jewish soul was bereft of the capacity to perceive Hashem. Absorbed within Him, we were so entirely overwhelmed by His Presence that we couldn’t possibly grasp His Glory. When Hashem constricted His Essence and made room for a seemingly separate creation within which human beings with an apparently independent consciousness could abide, this “sawing apart” afforded the Jewish soul with the remarkable ability to turn themselves around and gaze into the eyes of Hashem like the two keruvim atop the Aron who capture this relationship, meeting face to face. (See Zohar, Vol. 3, 44b.) As a result of the ostensibly tragic concealment of Hashem’s Presence and distancing from us, we are granted the opportunity to engage with the created world in accordance with the guidelines and perspectives of the Torah, encountering Hashem and forging an even deeper level of unity. This, then, is perhaps the underpinning of the entire Jewish enterprise: it is our task, duty, and privilege to use our apparent independence for the purpose of willfully and joyously “turning ourselves around” to construct a deep and direct relationship with our Creator. Unfortunately, the circumstances that afford us this great opportunity also present a grave challenge. Ironically, should we so choose, the independence of our individual consciousness can enable us to connect with Hashem in a way that is face to face; it also makes it possible for a Jew to fall prey to the illusion and continue marching in the opposite direction. Freedom to choose, the benchmark of our individuality, can quickly become slavery to egotistic gratification, the deification of our sense of self. Indeed, the pasuk tells us that while “G-d created Man straight, they sought our varied calculations.” (Koheles 7:29) Formed for the purpose of using our independence for the singular purpose of turning

around and engaging with Hashem, we soon begin pursuing a variety of different goals, making calculations that do not align with our grand mission. This fundamental error is encapsulated within every cheit, every sin, which involves man prioritizing his own will over the Will of Hashem, choosing to face the world instead of using the human condition as a tool which enables him to turn around to face his Creator. Indeed, the word “cheit” literally means “to miss” – to turn away from the “yashrus” with which Hashem created us and veer off our charted path into the labyrinth of “varied calculations.” As the introduction of sin into creation, Adam and Chava’s eating from the Eitz HaDaas Tov V’Ra is the root of all subsequent deviations from the will of Hashem. Only a few hours after their creation and emblematic separation from one another, Adam and Chava are unable to maximize on the opportunity afforded them by their circumstances. Instead of collectively serving as an “eizer k’negdo,” “helping” Hashem to reveal His G-dliness in the lower realms and thus perceiving, relating to, and achieving intimacy with Him in the deepest possible way, they stumble over the challenge inherent to the ego

Looking up from our siddur with tear-filled eyes, we find ourselves enveloped by the majesty of Hashem’s Presence, the depth of His Desire to bond with us, to express His Love for us face-to-face.

and begin to seek personal gain, “varied calculations” instead of the joy of “straightness,” “Ul’yishrei lev, simcha.” (Tehillim 97:11) The progression of events during the sixth day of Creation and the speed with which Adam and Chava failed seem quite discouraging. Reflecting upon this almost immediate descent into spiritual ruin causes us to wonder. Is it possible that the opportunity to live in alignment with the purpose of Creation and relate to Hashem face to face is eclipsed by the challenge of our illusory independence? Is it possible that we are simply unable to leverage our situation as individual beings outfitted with a separate consciousness and freedom of choice in order to grow close to Hashem? Perhaps the draw toward egotistic pursuits and physical gratification is simply too powerful!

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Rosh Hashana is the shining response to this bleak sentiment. On the very day of both Chava’s creation and humanity’s first disastrous encounter with the ego, Hashem has

granted us the gift of recalibration, an opportunity to recapture the sense of “yashrus” with which we were created. Before launching into a new year with all the facets of experience the future holds, we pause to reconnect with the premise of all, the prayer with which all of our pursuits in the physical realm are intended to reverberate: “Our G-d and the G-d of our forefathers, reign over the entire universe in Your Glory, be exalted over the entire world in Your Splendor… let everything that has been made know that You are its Maker, let everything that has been molded understand that You are its Molder, and let everything with a life’s breath in its nostrils exclaim: ‘Hashem, G-d of am Yisrael, is King, and His Kingship rules over everything!’” (Shemoneh Esrei for Rosh Hashana) On Rosh Hashana, we are permeated by an infusion of Hashem’s belief in our ability to fulfill the purpose of Creation. As the cry of “HaMelech” fills our souls, we find ourselves repositioned on the path of our essential holiness, our wanderings a thing of the past. Looking up from our siddur with tear-filled eyes, we find ourselves enveloped by the majesty of Hashem’s Presence, the depth of His Desire to bond with us, to express His Love for us face-to-face. And we, too, are reminded that no matter the odds, and come what may, we can succeed, we shall succeed – “netzach Yisrael lo yeshakeir.” (Shmuel I, 15:29) We are all familiar with the various mnemonics for which the word “Elul” may be seen to represent. “Ani L’Dodi V’Dodi Li” and “Es Levovcha V’es Levav” are among the more famous of these rashei teivos, but there are many others as well. One of the most unique, which I heard from my father, shlita, is found in an unlikely place: the bracha of Asher Yatzar. In Asher Yatzer, we say, “Im yipasei’ach echad mei’hem, oh yisaseim echad meihem, ee efshar l’hiskayeim v’laamod lifanecha afilu sha’ah achas – if one of them (the bodily cavities) were to be punctured, or if one of them were to be sealed, it would be impossible for us to exist and to stand before You.” Now, if we drop the word “ee,” and select only the words “Efshar l’hiskayeim v’laamod lifanecha, It is indeed possible to exist and to stand before You!” we find another set of four words whose opening letters spell “Elul”. The days of Elul, which culminate in the recalibration and existential clarity of Rosh Hashana, echo with this foundational message: “Efshar l’hiskayeim” – despite the challenges involved, it is indeed possible to exist with a separate consciousness, having been sawed away from your essence in Hashem and placed within a physical universe seemingly detached from the spiritual realm, and yet “v’laamod lifanecha” – to stand before You, Hashem, using all of life an opportunity to encounter You, face to face. Wishing all of Am Yisrael a kesiva v’chasimcha tova and a gut gebentchte yohr!

R’ Yaakov Klein is an author, musician, and lecturer devoted to sharing the inner light of Torah through his books, music, and lectures. He is the founding director of Eilecha, a UK-based organization focused on creating opportunities for spiritual growth and experiential education in the local community and beyond.


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Sparks of Light

Bringing the Truest You to the Yamim Noraim By Rabbi Benny Berlin

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hy is it that emes is considered one of Hashem’s 13 famous characteristics of compassion? After all, it would seem that truth might often lead to precisely the opposite. Truth can often reveal individuals’ darkest motivations and actions, generating harsh judgment and criticism from those around them. And yet, we find truth front and center in Jewish law and liturgy, dotted throughout the Yamim Noraim davening, detailed and codified down to minutia in Jewish law. Bnei Yisrael’s identity is interwoven in the fabric of peace and truth. It is being truthful to others – and even more importantly, to ourselves – that will unlock our ability to understand, empathize, and offer compassion for others. However, we all know that the lofty idea of emes is challenging to practice, especially once we have been negligent, spiteful, and committed wrongdoing. Even one of the originators of the twelve Shevatim of Israel, the great Yehuda, found himself in a truth quandary. Bereishis 38:1 says, “And it was at that time, that Yehuda went down from his brothers…” Rashi comments there that the idea that Yehuda “went down” is that his prestige declined in his brother’s eyes after Yehuda told them to sell their brother Yosef. This decline occurred when they realized it would have been better to just come clean to their father Yaakov and tell him the truth about what had transpired between them and their brother. When analyzing why Yehuda didn’t suggest lifting Yosef out of the pit and returning him to their father unharmed,

it’s possible that Yehuda was afraid to face the truth. He was scared that if Yosef would return to his father, he would undoubtedly tell Yaakov the entire gruesome story of the pit and the maltreatment at the hand of his close kin, thus damning the brothers and especially Yehuda in the process. Better to cover up the story by silencing Yosef, by making him disappear before he could turn the other brothers in for their misdeeds. In choosing this course of deceit, Yehuda failed the test of leadership causing himself to “go down” (Bereishis 38:1) in the eyes of his brothers and essentially become the first member of the family to be sent into “galus.” And yet, this is not the end of Yehuda’s story, since we all know he later became the leader of the tribe, the progenitor of our nation’s kings, and the namesake of our religion, our iden-

tity! How does he accomplish this remarkable turnaround? The answer, the hidden gemstone of the story, is that he does teshuva precisely in the area in which he sinned. In the uncomfortable episode with his widowed daughter-in-law Tamar, he doesn’t take the easy way out this time by lying. Instead, Yehuda emerges as the leader of the family, a person worthy of rule, because he admits the truth to others and to himself. “She is more righteous than I,” he famously declares (Bereishis 38:26). With this willingness to acknowledge the truth, Yehuda, the first Jew to enter galus, was declared to become the father of the Moshiach, the final, ultimate heralder of geulah. This revelation sheds new light on Yehuda’s name. The Torah tells us that Leah gave her fourth son the name “Ye-

huda” because “this time, I will thank (modeh) G-d.” But perhaps we now have a complementary insight to the name of Yehuda. The word “modeh” can mean “to thank,” but it can also mean “to admit” or “to acknowledge.” By acknowledging that he is the father of Tamar’s unborn child, he performs an act of “acknowledgment” or “admission.” Jews are called “Yehudim,” Jews. We are named after Yehuda. Collectively, it is incumbent upon us to live up to our name. Surely, we should be thankful (“modeh”) to Hashem for the many blessings we have. That is easy. But let us not forget that sometimes, no matter how painful or difficult, no matter what the ramifications, we should be willing to face up to our own truths. On the Yamim Noraim, we strive to identify what choices have fostered truth in our lives over the past year and what choices have not. We seek out behaviors that will bring us closer to our true purpose in the world and the barriers in our way, what caused us to hurt others and do wrong, and what has improved our relationships and aided us in doing good. Truth can act as a beacon of light and thereby bring compassion, but only if we choose to view it as a purifying element. Emes has the power to heal if we let it transform us and elevate our lives, thus changing us and helping us emulate Hashem in His compassion.

Rabbi Benny Berlin is the rabbi of BACH Jewish Center located in Long Beach, New York. For more information, visit: https:// www.bachlongbeach.com/.


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Jewish Thought

The Chaos Theory: Code Word for G-d By Rabbi David Sutton

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hovos HaLevavos quotes the following pasuk: “Praiseworthy is the man who has made Hashem his trust and turned not to the arrogant and to strayers after falsehood” (Tehillim 40:5). A Midrash says that this pasuk refers to Yosef HaTzaddik. It depicts the slight fault he exhibited when he was imprisoned — a flaw that Hashem judged according to the standard expected of this exalted figure. Yosef’s mistake was that he relied too heavily on the advocacy of the wine steward, his fellow inmate in Pharaoh’s dungeon. Because Yosef told the wine steward, who was slated to be released, to remember him to Pharaoh, Yosef was forgotten for two more years. Asking this favor might seem like hishtadlus, but for Yosef, who felt Hashem’s Presence so keenly, it showed an inappropriate feeling of dependence on others. Because Yosef illustrated that he thought that the wine steward could get him released from the dungeon, Hashem showed him otherwise. When we stop to consider the wine steward’s forgetfulness, another question emerges. How and why are some things remembered while others are forgotten? We might think this is random, but it is totally in the hands of Hashem. An article entitled, “Why Do We Forget Things,” published in the magazine Scientific American, questions how our mind, which can store myriad memories, sometimes fails us when we try to recall specific things. The article points to a study by Edward K. Vogel,

who notes that our brain can recognize items more easily than it can retrieve them. For example, if you were sent to the store to buy a specific type and brand of peanut butter, you may not be able to recall the

up at another unpredictable phenomenon — the weather. The article “Why Can’t Scientists Accurately Predict the Weather?” related that in the 1960s an MIT meteorologist named Edward Lawrence

Any time we hear scientists saying, “We don’t know why” or “We can’t explain it,” that is code for G-d.

name “Skippy, natural, chunky peanut butter.” But if you were shown two jars, you’d be able to identify the correct one. The article reports that we have an untold amount of information stored in our brain, but we can’t always retrieve what we want — and the scientists don’t know why. Science throws its collective hands

coined the term “the butterfly effect” to explain why meteorologists could never predict the weather with 100 percent certainty. He stated that a butterfly flapping its wings in Asia could actually alter the weather in New York, due to all the unpredictable factors set in motion. Lawrence is also known as the

This article was excerpted from A Daily Dose of Bitachon by Rabbi David Sutton, ArtScroll/Mesorah.

father of the Chaos Theory, a set of scientific principles used to describe highly complex systems, such as weather, that can’t be predicted with complete accuracy. Even with all the technology available, meteorologists can accurately predict the weather only about twelve hours in advance. “Chaos theory” is their name for their inability to account for all the factors that lead to a specific outcome. What science calls “Chaos Theory,” the Torah calls Hashem’s unfathomable intelligence. Scientists realize that “chaos” can break any natural rule and cause any outcome; they simply cannot admit that chaos is not really chaos. It is Hashem running His world: pure hashgachah pratis. There are certain areas in which Hashem outwardly shows His control, and weather is one of those areas. We can try to predict it but it’s all in Hashem’s hands. We should be aware that any time we hear scientists saying, “We don’t know why” or “We can’t explain it,” that is code for G-d. This is fairly obvious with regard to the weather, but it applies to memory as well: Why is a certain phrase suddenly forgotten mid-speech? Mishlei (16:1) expresses this concept: “To man belongs the arrangements [of thoughts in] his heart, but from Hashem comes the tongue’s reply.” That is our point. We do our hishtadlus, put forth the effort, call the buyer, apply for the job, speak to the shadchan, talk to the “wine steward” who can put in a good word for us, but — is he going to remember our name at the right time? That’s in the hands of G-d, and that’s the bitachon approach to the “Chaos Theory.”


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Delving into the Daf

A G-d-Based Moral Bucket List By Rabbi Avrohom Sebrow

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avid Brooks, a columnist for the New York Times, wrote an article entitled “The Moral Bucket List.” Soon after it was published, it climbed to number one on the list of New York Time’s most emailed articles. David Brooks comes to grips with the realization that there is more to life than material success. Upon witnessing individuals who have excelled at refining their character traits, he writes, “But I confess I often have a sadder thought: It occurs to me that I’ve achieved a decent level of career success, but I have not achieved…that generosity of spirit, or that depth of character.” From the comments on his article, the vast majority concur with his sentiments. He laments that our generation is too focused on perfecting our career resumes but not our eulogy resumes. This resonates with the public at large who have a craving for more meaning in their lives. He writes further, “But if you live for external achievement, years pass and the deepest parts of you go unexplored and unstructured… You figure as long as you are not obviously hurting anybody and people seem to like you, you must be O.K. But you live with an unconscious boredom, separated from the deepest meaning of life and the highest moral joys.” Who can argue with this? One word that is missing from his article though is G-d. He talks of being moral. But moral using what gauge? Say, for example, a woman withstands unbelievable temptation. She displays tremendous fortitude and strength of character to refrain from entering into an inappropriate relationship. Certainly, she can be assured of having a great eulogy! Not so fast, according to Brooks! One of the “positive” traits Brooks recommends emulating is that of a woman who had the “courage” to go into an inappropriate relationship. The woman in our example could have struggled her entire life working on her eulogy resume. Yet how dismayed will she be to discover that at the end of her life, the morals had changed! That is the fallacy of leaving Hashem out of a discussion about morals. Torah values

never change. They are timeless. Morals based on man’s whims are fleeting and subject to change. Still, Brooks does make other good points in his article. His first example of a trait that can be learned is that of humility. “But all the people I’ve ever deeply admired are profoundly honest about their own weaknesses. They have identified their core sin, whether it is selfishness, the desperate need for approval, cowardice, hardheartedness or whatever…. They have achieved a profound humility, which has best been defined as an intense self-awareness from a position of other-centeredness.” We have written previously a similar idea. Humility is not deceiving oneself into denying his strengths. Instead, it is being brutally honest and seeing the entire picture. The Gemara records (Kesuvos 77b) that Rebbe Yehoshua Ben Levi met the great sage Rebbe Shimon bar Yochai in Gan Eden. Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai immediately challenged Rabbi Yehoshua: “Are you the famous son of Levi that is so well-known for your righteousness? Tell me, did a rainbow ever appear during your lifetime?” Hashem promised after the Great Flood that he would not destroy the entire world again. The rainbow is a sign to remind

us of Hashem’s promise. However, a holy tzaddik can save the world with his merit alone. There is no need to remind us of Hashem’s promise, because even without the guarantee, the merits of the tzaddik would save the world. During Rebbe Shimon Bar Yochai’s lifetime, rainbows were not seen. According to Rebbe Yehonoson Eibshitz, this does not refer to the standard rainbow but some other rainbow-like sign. The Rema writes that it does indeed refer to the common rainbow. The Rema explains that Hashem promised us after the Flood that the world would continue following the laws of nature. He wouldn’t suspend them to bring a flood. A rainbow is a natural phenomenon and is an indication that the world is following the natural order. During Rebbe Shimon Bar Yochai’s lifetime, a great miracle happened. The common rainbow was not seen. The laws of nature were suspended, yet Hashem still did not bring a flood. This demonstrated that the merit of Rebbe Shimon Bar Yochai sufficed to save the entire world from destruction. Rebbe Yehoshua ben Levi responded to Rebbe Shimon Bar Yochai that rainbows were indeed seen in his lifetime. Whereupon, Rebbe Shimon Bar Yochai exclaimed, “You cannot possibly be Ben Levi.” Ben Levi was righteous enough to save the entire world in his merit. The GEmara concludes that, in fact, no rainbow was seen during Rebbe Yehoshua ben Levi’s lifetime.

He only told Rebbe Shimon Bar Yochai that a rainbow was seen because he didn’t want to show off. The Chida writes that we find a precedent for lying for the sake of humility. The Gemara (Bava Metzia 23b) says that if a Talmid Chacham is asked if he is an expert in a particular tractate of Talmud, he is allowed to lie and say that he is not. The natural tendency of a person is to focus on his accomplishments and ignore his weaknesses. A humble person doesn’t want to fall into this trap. Therefore, he is allowed to lie rather than bring unwanted attention and focus to one of his successes. Yet the commentators are puzzled, that practice is understandable in this world. In the World To Come, everything will be revealed. There will be no need for humility. Whatever a person achieved or whatever he failed at will be crystal clear. A person cannot be arrogant in the World To Come, because it will be impossible to focus solely on one’s achievements when his shortcomings will be self-evident. Why, then, did Rebbe Yehoshua Ben Levi feel the need to lie about the rainbows? The conversation took place soon after Rebbe Yehoshua Ben Levi entered into Gan Eden. The Gemara notes that he didn’t have to go through the normal process of death. He entered Gan Eden alive. The Chochmas Hamitzpun therefore suggests that Rebbe Yehoshua Ben Levi’s conduct had not yet changed to reflect his new home! He was continuing the humble practices that he employed while he was still living as a mortal. Humility was so ingrained into his nature that he practiced it even in Gan Eden! Rebbe Yehoshua Ben Levi certainly belongs on the list of people to learn positive character traits from.

Rabbi Avrohom Sebrow is a rebbe at Yeshiva Ateres Shimon in Far Rockaway. In addition, Rabbi Sebrow leads a daf yomi chaburah at Eitz Chayim of Dogwood Park in West Hempstead, NY. He can be contacted at ASebrow@ gmail.com.


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Israel Today

Seeing Clearly in the Holy Land By Rafi Sackville

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should have listened to my wife. A year ago, I told her about my increasing difficulties seeing long distances. For months, I dismissed her pleas to make an appointment with the eye doctor in Nahariya. It was June by the time I saw Doctor Zvi. He informed me I needed cataract surgery in both eyes. He initially told me he wouldn’t be able to operate until August unless there was a cancellation, which there was the following day. He called me to tell me. I was surprised to hear his voice, as I was in the naive belief his secretary would call instead. Before I had a chance to gather my thoughts, I was lying on a bed in an operating theater in a medical center at the Check Post in Haifa. After he’d finished the procedure, I asked him when I could do the right eye (it was worse than the left). He told me he’d speak to me the following day when I came for a checkup. I did just that, but he wasn’t certain and asked me to contact him. The number he gave me took me on a circuitous route back to his recorded announcements. I tried another number, and it did the same thing. I tried calling from the private number he’d called me from, but that also went unanswered. I started to worry. We were flying out to New York to visit our kids, and I wanted the appointment penciled in before we left. I tried emailing, but he didn’t answer. I tried calling the hospital he worked in but got the same result. I then discovered his secretary was an ex-student of mine. I WhatsApped her. She immediately replied. It took her a couple of days to coordinate with him, but she eventually got back to me with the happy news that my second cataract procedure would take place a week after my return from New York, some two months after the first. Upon entering the clinic at the Check

Post in Haifa on the given date, I told the doctor that he was impossible to contact directly. When he reminded me he’d given me his email, I pointed out that were he to check his inbox, he’d find three emails from me. I was wearing a cloak, lying on the table. Marked above my right eye was a black cross, I was covered by a heavy sheet, they were swabbing my eye with alcohol, when the doctor walked in. He took a look at my already operated eye and said, “You’ve got an infection. I’m not operating. I’ll give you drops.” It took me a moment to register. When I did and asked him when we could reschedule, he replied nonchalantly, “End of November.” That took me longer to register. “How do I arrange that?” I asked him. He was in the middle of telling me that I had his email address when he caught himself and told me, “I’ll call you.” That had a sound of non-believability about it. The point isn’t my eye. In fact, it has nothing to do with me. It’s the cavalier

way business is regularly done in Israel that oftentimes has me questioning the efficacy of the system. In New York or Melbourne, the point person, the secretary, acts as a barrier between doctors and their patients. They direct traffic. They keep calendars clutter-free. They maintain order. There are doctors in Israel who do have efficient gatekeepers, but there are those who enjoy being autonomous, and when they do, the inevitable clutter and discombobulation occurs. My eye doctor uses the occasional post-it notes to keep his appointment diary orderly, but once I left the medical center, I realized that I’d have to initiate the process of rescheduling myself, and I recalled the day he had called me months before when he commented, “Who are you? I don’t remember you because I have so many patients.” The Israeli health experience can oftentimes feel like a game of unnecessary risk. Why is it that the roll-out of the Covid vaccine was run like a military operation and yet dealing with a specialist

can often boil down to a hit or miss series of negotiations? This all happened on a Tuesday. I wasn’t a happy camper through the following day. Then, on Thursday morning, my former student WhatsApped me saying there’d been a cancellation and “would next week be okay?” Before I knew it, I was back on the same operating table. “Ah, the drops have worked well,” said Doctor Zvi as he prepped for the operation. Then he went through his checklist; I was asked my name, then my personal identity number, then he asked me why I was there. I couldn’t resist. “I’m here for a hair transplant. Make me blond.” He replied almost instantly, “I’m sorry, but if I’m taking the hair off your chest, it’s all white.” The following morning, I took off the bandages, and within a day I was amazed at how clear the world looked. I had a follow-up call that afternoon. Doctor Zvi was in a jovial mood. He asked me what I thought after he proudly announced I now had 20/20 vision. “I’ve got two things to say,” I told him. “The first is that I should learn to listen to my wife,” to which he readily agreed. “The second is that she thinks I look quite handsome without glasses.” Doctor Zvi lifted his head and looked at me with a glint in his eye. “She thinks you look quite handsome without glasses? Tell her she ought to see me as soon as possible. She might be having trouble with her vision.” I laughed aloud. Walking outside, I caught the smell of the Mediterranean a short block away. I looked around at the tree-lined street. Nature had never looked so beautiful and so clear.

Rafi Sackville, formerly of Cedarhurst, teaches in Ort Maalot in Western Galil.


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A Year of Emunah

Farmers’ Wives Reflect on the Past Shemitta Year BY MAlkiE SchulMAn

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or some farmers and their families, keeping Shemitta according to Jewish law is not a question. “Do I keep Shabbat?” asks Ayalet Hacohen of Yitzhar in the Shomron. “Do I dress tzanua? It’s the same thing with Shemitta. It is a mitzvah like every other mitzvah that I have to keep.” Not everybody shares her approach, though. To some, it is a real decision – and a hard decision. Kerren Koch of Moshav Tekuma and Chagit Eskozido of K’far Maimon, settlements in the Negev near Gaza, for example, like most, if not all, of their neighbors, always relied on heter mechira, the questionable heter that allows the State of Israel to sell the land to non-Jews for the year of Shemitta. When they changed their ways and began keeping Shemitta laws, some of their neighbors thought they were crazy or making a big mistake. They felt that Shemitta observed not through heter mechira was an archaic mitzvah, not relevant to today. It was actually the Kochs’ 13-year-old son who convinced them to keep Shemitta properly. It was his bar mitzvah, shares Kerren, and he had read a story in a children’s newspaper about someone who kept Shemitta and experienced blessing from it. “He came home and asked us if we could keep Shemitta as his bar mitzvah present! We were amazed (in a good way) by his request and decided to agree to it.”

Chagit shares that it was her husband’s idea originally to keep Shemitta. When they were first married, they were not farmers, but after the Jews were chased out of Gush Katif, Chagit’s husband felt a yearning to return to the land, his roots. His father was a farmer, and he felt strongly about not only settling the land but actually working it. That’s when they decided to purchase a farm in K’far Maimon, a moshav (settlement) near Gaza. Their first year farming was actually a Shemitta year, but not knowing any better, they did the heter mechira like everybody around them. “It was a bad year for us,” Chagit admits. “We lost all our money. My husband was even considering leaving farming altogether, at that point. But I encouraged him to speak to the rabbi who told him, ‘Don’t worry, leave the greenhouses you’re renting in the moshav nearby, build new ones on your property in Kfar Maimon, and everything will be okay.’ And that’s what happened. We built new greenhouses and grew cherries, cabbages, cucumbers and watermelon and, baruch Hashem, we did well.” However, after that incident, Chagit’s husband learned about the proper way of observing Shemitta and kept urging Chagit to join with him in keeping it. But Chagit was afraid, especially because of their initial challenges. The next Shemitta cycle came around,

and they did not observe Shemitta because still Chagit was very nervous. But her husband persisted. And then, she shares, this past Shemitta cycle, the Keren Hashvi’is organization (an organization that supports farmers in Israel that observe Shemitta) contacted them and explained how they financially help farmers who keep Shemitta. “So, finally, I said OK,” relates Chagit. Deciding to keep Shemitta is one thing, but following through on it despite the fears and difficulties is quite another. Everyone agrees that farming is a difficult profession and farming in the land of Israel is perhaps even harder because of the sometimes extreme weather conditions. You have to have emunah (faith) just to be a farmer here. But, even though you may theoretically know it’s beneficial for the land to rest, watching your land lay fallow for an entire year, watching the greenhouses and vineyards go into disrepair and become overgrown, watching ripe produce rot on the field or become damaged from people removing it at all hours of the day requires another level of emunah altogether.

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ed like every other mitzvah in the Torah or because they were willing to take on the mitzvah for the first time, the challenges of keeping Shemitta can be daunting. Ayalet compares preparing for Shemitta to erev Shabbat when we’re bustling around trying to get all the last-minute things done because on Shabbat we can’t do the work anymore. Just multiply that by 365, and you get the picture. It’s a lot of work, she explains, for example, in the Hacohens’ case (they have a flour mill and vineyards), trimming all the vines in the vineyard as much as possible to minimize damage, finding place to store their wheat, and then the actual work of storing it so it doesn’t get ruined. Farm work goes by seasons. In every season, there are different farming tasks to be done. Once that season passes, the opportunity passes as well. Especially once winter arrives, a lot of opportunities are over for that year. So, if Rosh Hashana comes early the year of Shemitta or late the year after Shemitta, it makes a difference in how much time you have to prepare the land for the Shemitta year and for the year afterwards. Another challenge is that during Shemitta, anybody is allowed to come to the fields and pick the fruit or vegetables. Not everyone is careful to make sure not to damage the vines or the stalks when they remove the produce. Sometimes, much damage is done, and the farmers can only stand by and watch. “Of course, we post signs with rules but not everybody listens to them, and we can’t be there 24/7 watching to make sure,” says Ayalet. “Sometimes people will leave the gate open, and animals will come in and damage the water pipes.” Other risks include the possibility losing your buyers. Stores and vendors may decide to go elsewhere for their produce if they can’t buy from a farmer for a whole year. It’s the same with trying to find farm workers after Shemitta year. Nobody is going to hang around for a year if you have no work for them. It becomes a challenge after each Shemitta to find new workers. “This year, the government promised to send us new workers,” shares Kerren, “but not for another six months! That’s not helpful, so my husband is planning on switching the types of organic fruits and vegetables we will grow that don’t require as many workers.” Then there is the expense for bringing the land back up to snuff – to repair the greenhouses, the vineyards, it all costs money. But, emotionally, at least, perhaps the hardest part is seeing your land after Shemitta and thinking, “Oh my gosh, where are we going to start? It’s so overwhelming just thinking about all the work involved.”

to do that. “Actually,” Ayalet continues, “when we started farming, a lot of people told me that you will see miracles when you keep Shemitta. But I can’t say that’s what happened with us.”

Perhaps the hardest part is seeing your land after Shemitta and thinking, “Oh my gosh, where are we going to start? It’s so overwhelming just thinking about all the work involved.”

Miracles Big and Small Nevertheless, none of these women and their families have any regrets that they have chosen to keep Shemitta – this year and any other year. Some people claim they’ve seen miracles from the beginning, and others say they see blessing, yes, but miracles, no. Ayalet insists, “It’s enough that we’re doing what we’re supposed to be doing, observing a very important mitzvah in the Torah. We feel blessed to be able

In fact, one Shemitta year, the Hacohens lost a lot of money. At that point, in the sixth year, the year before Shemitta, they bought double the amount of wheat because they weren’t going to be growing wheat during Shemitta. “My husband said, ‘Don’t worry, it’ll be fine’ but it turns out it wasn’t fine. We had to sell it at a loss,”

says Ayalet. Kerren, on the other hand, has seen miracles through their Shemitta observance. “I knew it would be too hard for my husband to stay at home and watch the farm fall apart; he’s so connected to the land,” shares Kerren, “so I suggested we go to America for that first Shemitta.” From the beginning, Keren observes, she saw miracles big and small. For example, Kerren is a teacher and wanted to teach while in the U.S., so she had to apply to do that through the sochnut (Jewish agency). “Usually, it takes them a year to process all the paperwork but, in our case, not only did it go smoothly, but it only took a month. Which, for anybody familiar with Israeli bureaucracy, is truly miraculous!” Then she continues, “My husband got a job in security with El Al in America. However, after he was working for them for a while, they demanded he work on Shabbat.” Kerren’s husband said, “I did not decide to keep Shemitta so I could come to America to work on Shabbat!” He was fired but the executive in the El Al office was so impressed by his convictions that she said she was going to ensure he got paid as if he was still their employee. Not only that, but it was at that point that Keren Hashvi’is called, not even knowing that he was in America, and asked him to work for them (in the U.S.). Chagit admits it was scary when they first started. Their oldest son got married that August before Shemitta, and she and her husband were very tense, wondering how they would pay their bills for the coming year especially with the added expense of the wedding. It was also a leap year, which made things harder for the year after Shemitta. There is only a limited amount of growing time until winter begins, Chagit explains, and when Shemitta falls out on a leap year, then Rosh Hashana comes out later and the winter comes earlier so there is less time to prepare the land for the


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Avichai asked him why he was still working with him on his farm, he replied, “The bracha I see on your farm, I have never seen on mine.” Another unexplainable incident, bordering on the miraculous, occurred with the Kochs’ pumpkins. A few months before Rosh Hashana prior to this past Shemitta, Avichai planted pumpkins in his greenhouses. When he went to harvest them a few weeks before Rosh Hashana, he saw there were so many of them, much more than he had anticipated. He called the seed company and asked them to come down to see what had happened; he said he wanted to use the same variety of seed again! When they came down

“I see Hashem walking with me, holding my hand, giving me a smile even when it’s hard.”

and measured the field, they discovered that the yield was double what he would’ve normally gotten with that variety. Nobody had any scientific explanation for it.

A Year of Faith All the women we spoke with report their emunah

has been tremendously strengthened but not only in Hakadosh Baruch Hu. They feel that through observance of Shemitta, their faith in their fellow Jew has been renewed as well. Coming to America and going around speaking to different Jewish communities around the country was so heartwarming, says Kerren. “I loved the Shabbatot where we met wonderful and supportive people. It was like we were all in this mitzvah together.” Chagit adds that when they decided to keep Shemitta, she thought it was a mitzvah just for the benefit of her family. After this experience of keeping Shemitta, she understands that it is a mitzvah for the whole am Yisroel. “The response from Jews around the world has been amazing and has given me so much chizuk and koach,” Chagit avers. “We could not have done it without the Jews in chutz l’Aretz, they are for sure all shutafim (partners) with us.” Wherever they go and speak, Jews ask them to give them a blessing. “I have taken upon myself every Friday before I light candles to pray for all those who’ve given me their names,” shares Chagit. She’s also taken upon herself to recite birchot hashachar (the morning blessings) every day. “It has been a very spiritual year for us, and we are grateful we merited this mitzvah for our family and, b’emet, for all of am Yisrael.” Kerren says she and her husband feel their faith has been greatly strengthened. But, she says, their children, now that they’re older, were worried about what would happen to them financially. “I spoke to them and explained that we saw such blessing seven years ago, this time it will also be fine. And it was.” Although she does admit to being a bit concerned about where their new workers will come, Kerren, nevertheless, feels confident it will all work out. The other women echo a similar sentiment. Despite the many problems and issues still to be overcome now that Shemitta is over, they all firmly assert, it will be fine. Ayalet shares a different perspective in the faith and miracle department. Not seeing miracles from observing this mitzvah has only served to strengthen her emunah, she maintains. It brings home the idea that none of us have any clue what’s going on in this world, why Hashem does what He does. What we might think is bad for us may be exactly what is good for us. We may see that soon or never (in this world). She also maintains that the whole experience of keeping Shemitta for her is about having a real relationship with Hakadosh Baruch Hu. It’s not about reward and punishment; it’s the next level up. It’s not about if I’m good and do what you say, you’ll give me a candy. It’s about – I love you even though I don’t understand what’s going on. Even though, I may think, this is not how it should be, it’s understanding that yes, this is how it should be. “These kind of experiences (where I didn’t see the miracle),” stresses Ayalet, “are what brought me to a higher level of emunah than I had. I see Hashem walking with me, holding my hand, giving me a smile even when it’s hard. That’s my biggest takeaway.”


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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

Dear Navidaters,

I feel like I’m tainted by my family. My father is socially awkward, and my siblings are what most people would call “weird.” I had to beg my parents to send me to the mainstream school because that’s where most of my

neighborhood sends. Since I was little, I have always wanted to fit in, but as much as I try to, it backfires (if I get too close to a friend and she’d come over, she’d see my family, realize I don’t have a life like everyone else’s normal lives). I went to sem in Israel for a year, and it was the most amazing experience. I could just make friends and be myself without having to worry about people knowing my family. I’m going back to Israel for shana bet, but as I try to think about shidduchim, I shut down. Thinking about all the potential rejection because of my family is enough to make me want to stay single forever. Is there anything I can do that could help me? Thanks in advance. - Rivka

Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions. Our intention is not to offer any definitive conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.


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The Panel The Rebbetzin Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S.

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ivka, I feel bad that you feel that your family is “weird” and that this is harming you in shidduchim. Your family may be dysfunctional, out of the box, living a life different than your community’s norms, and some members may have serious issues. They may simply wear the wrong clothes. I don’t know. You are using very loose terminology. I suggest that you go to someone experienced in your school and/or shul community who knows your family. This could be a teacher, principal, rav, or school guidance counselor. Ask them for a recommendation for a therapist to help you deal with shidduchim and more. It will be helpful to you to understand your family better and to understand your own reaction to them. Then, together with the support of

the therapist, you will be able to choose some strategies for dealing with your own shidduchim. Invest in yourself first so that you are in a strong position to deal with shidduchim.

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our question reminded me of one of my favorite quotes: “Everybody is someone else’s weirdo.” How true?! Your family might be weirder than some, but that does not make you unmarriageable! Chances are there is someone out there waiting for an amazing, worked-through young woman like yourself. How many times do you hear stories of couples with incredibly colorful backgrounds describing their path to finding their bashert? If you haven’t heard these

stories, go out and ask couples you meet what their backstory is. You will be very surprised! Rivka, Hashem takes care of singles with all types of families and backgrounds, not just run-of-the-mill stereotypicals. My advice to you is soak up shana bet! Dating should not be on your radar before you’re emotionally ready for it. In addition to growing in your Yiddishkeit, work through your relationship with your family and your relationship with yourself. Nurture your self-worth and build your self-confidence. You will come to realize that your family is a mere puzzle piece within the masterful grand plan your life has yet to become. When you are truly ready, you will feel confident to start dating without your family feeling like shackles holding you down.

Lastly, it sounds like there is probably a lot more going on than you feel comfortable sharing. I always recommend a good cup of therapy as it can help facilitate all these goals that are important towards life enhancement and discovery.

The Zaidy The Single Tzipora Grodko

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Let me reassure you that people from “weird” families get married all the time.

eeling limited from opportunities because of circumstances out of your control can feel very painful. There are so many topics I want to address here. Firstly, it sounds like you feel trapped by your family reputation. The best way to learn happiness and self-confidence is through acceptance of what life has given you. I know it’s not easy, but it is truly life changing. To learn how to develop a positive relationship with the things that make you “different” or are “challenging” and find a way for them to fit comfortably in your life. Secondly, a true friend should not be ditching you if your family is simply awkward or comes with an unconventional flavor. A true friend will only respect you more and appreciate who you are despite your differences. The same works for a life partner as well (which brings me to my third topic). Relying on society or nature to “meet your bashert” is discrediting G-d’s influence in your life. The same G-d Who gave you your family is the same G-d Who will get you married. It’s not “harder” for Him because of your package. HE gave YOU that package. Nobody else can interfere with His plan.

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ews flash to Rivka: Every family has some eccentricities, or some weird family members, or some embarrassing skeletons in their closets. Yes, of course, some families can seem more bizarre than others. But, what worries me is that you, personally, might be so insecure about your family that it affects how you present yourself to others. Please don’t be insulted, but it’s very possible that your difficulty making friends has more to do with your own insecurities than with your family’s weirdness. (I feel certain that at least one of my fellow columnists will recommend that you see a therapist. If you choose to do so, subsequently, when a young man wants to date you and asks, “So, are you seeing someone?” you’ll be able to answer, “Yes, a therapist.”) Instead of viewing your father’s social awkwardness with embarrassment, how about viewing it with affection and amusement? Instead of thinking of yourself as tainted by your unusual family background, how about viewing yourself as exceptional and remarkable for becoming such an incredible young lady, in spite of your family background? Further, consider the following: You seem to have made some wonderful friendships while living abroad, in Israel. When these new friends eventually meet


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your family, they won’t stop being your friend. Instead, these new friends are likely to think, “Wow, it’s incredible how my amazing, good friend, Rivka, turned out so great, in spite of her unusual family.” Heed the advice of George Burns, who suggested, “Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city.”

So, when you return after your second seminary year, perhaps you should consider not living at home. Instead, think about renting an apartment with a couple of your girlfriends. Then, when you start dating, young men will have met you, dated you a few times, and gotten to know and admire you before actually meeting your family. And, once they

Pulling It All Together The Navidaters Dating and Relationship Coaches and Therapists

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ear Rivka, Thank you for writing! I really like your question at the end of your email. Is there anything I can do that could help me? While you are away and individuating from your family, creating your own identity and looking at the very adult next chapters of your life, shidduchim and marriage, I suggest being in therapy for the entire year, as a gift to yourself. In therapy, you will process your experience of your family, your role in your family, how you differ from your family, what it has been like for you to be a member of your family; you will process all the rejection you’ve experienced as a result of your family, and you will learn to love yourself so much that your focus naturally shifts from Oh no! How am I going to get married with my weird family in tow? to: I deserve a man who is going to love me and my weird family! And I will not settle for anything less! (And journal... journaling is one of the greatest ways of working through our thoughts and feelings.) I believe you may have some trauma around all the rejection you’ve experienced in your life, and understandably so. And so, when you think about dating, you are shutting down because you go into somewhat of a “freeze” state. For what

it’s wor t h, let me reassure you that people f rom “ wei rd” families get married all the time. Your work is to work through this “shut down” and to love yourself... hard! And also, to accept your family. I can feel the shame you’re carrying around. When I feel shame, I often recommend the book The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown. It’s an oldie but a goodie. Brene Brown is a shame researcher. You may find the book helpful. I’d also like to recommend Love Warrior by Glennon Doyle Melton. Glennon is a person. An amazing person who has lived and experienced and feels deeply, and she shares her story to help others feel better about theirs. I just reread her book for the umpteenth time last Shabbos, and she always helps me get myself in emotional order. We live in a society of trying to “fit in.” In many Orthodox circles (I think it’s worse in NY than anywhere else, but feel free to let me know of other places where it’s this bad), people spend their lives trying to fit into the box and removing themselves from anyone who does not fit into the box. For what it’s worth, so many of us can’t stand the box. So much nonsense

get to know and appreciate you, it won’t really matter when they eventually meet your family. Please take to heart William Shakespeare’s sonnet (#116), “Let me not to the marriage of true minds admit impediments.” Professor David Ginsberg explains what that means: When two friends feel a strong kinship or attraction to each other (“Marriage of true minds”), they won’t allow minor impediments or drawbacks (like unusual family backgrounds) hinder that closeness.

Every family has some eccentricities, or some weird family members, or some embarrassing skeletons in their closets.

is going on inside of these boxes that at this point in my life, you couldn’t pay me to get anywhere near that box! That box is stifling. And believe me, there is a lot of suffering going on inside of these boxes! When you stop trying to fit into that box (and that box is different for all of us), and you work toward acceptance of yourself and surrender to the realities of the life and the path Hashem has put you on, you breathe. You inhale. Deeply. And you lift your head up and look around. And you see others who for their own reasons have either given up trying to get in, or who had no interest in it at all, from the beginning. And let me tell you… those are some of the wisest, kindest, most accepting, most beautiful souls on Hashem’s earth. They have no agenda other than to love you and accept you. (There are so many agendas inside some of these boxes, I hear they’ve hired secretaries to take notes and keep a log!) And P.S., some of them are very much accepted in the box’s tightknit circle, and have access, and come and go as they please, but they know the truth: one’s value is not determined by the people in the box and G-d certainly does not live in that box. G-d is everywhere. The people in that box don’t have the exclusive rights to G-d. Because Hashem is outside the box, too! I am wondering how many people reading this right now at their Shabbos tables or on their couches are thinking, I feel the same way as Rivka. Rivka, I believe so many people relate to you in their own ways. So many people have the same

or very similar fears as they look toward dating. They are wondering, Will anyone love me? Am I even worthy? Am I loveable? Do not hide. Love yourself so hard solely for yourself. And also, to attract someone who will love all the parts of you. And be there for you, to help you when your family is getting you down; when life is getting you down. Love yourself so much and know your inherent worth so you attract someone who will feel the same way about you. Have a wonderful shana bet! I think that may be the best thing you could have done for yourself; giving yourself the opportunity to work on yourself in your own space. Enjoy every second, and please feel free to write back and update us as you move along on your journey! Sincerely, Jennifer P.S. Wishing the readership a shana tovah u’metukah! Every now and again, when I introduce myself in varying social settings, I will get a “You’re Jennifer Mann? The one who writes the column? We love reading your column on Shabbos!” I can’t tell you how much this means to me to be let into your homes every Shabbos. I love that I have this platform to bring attention and awareness to different dating and relationship issues and to spread my message which is twofold and always the same: Trust your intuition! And, you are worthy!

Jennifer Mann, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and certified trauma healing life coach, as well as a dating and relationship coach working with individuals, couples, and families in private practice at 123 Maple Avenue in Cedarhurst, NY. She also teaches a psychology course at Touro College. To set up a consultation or to ask questions, please call 718-908-0512. Visit www. thenavidaters.com for more information. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email JenniferMannLCSW@gmail.com. You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram for dating and relationship advice.


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School of

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By Etti Siegel

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Dear Etti, I couldn’t wait for school to start! The kids were home without a schedule, and it was so hard. Now, my daughter is suddenly having stomachaches, and I can’t deny that she is probably anxious about school. My neighbor can’t stop telling me how excited her kids are, but even school supply shopping didn’t help get my daughter in the mood. How can I help her look forward to going back? - Mom of an anxious child

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Dear Mom, You don’t say what grade your daughter is in, but being anxious for school is common for all age children! While many are excited, like your neighbors, some children are uneasy. Is your child entering a transition year (Pre1A, middle school, junior high school?) Is your child going to a new school? Is there a chance the classes will be mixed, and she is worried about not being with her friends? Dr. Rachel Busman, a clinical psychologist who specializes in anxiety, says that for most children, this nervousness will pass. Parents should be supportive without making the anxiety worse. Here are some tips: 1. Don’t project your anxiety. Are you feeling anxious, and your child is picking up on those vibes? There is stress when beginning the school year. The return to routine; the expectations on the parents for supplies, snacks, lunch, and uniforms in some schools can be a lot to deal with. Anxiety can be contagious! 2. Just listen. Find ways your children can share their thoughts and don’t dismiss their concerns or try to fix the issue they are bringing up. Often, children just want to work it out for themselves, which they do out loud with a trusted adult. You can guide them in a neutral way by repeating information back and asking them if they have any ideas on what they could do about it. Show confidence in your children’s ability to think it through. Don’t add to their anxiety with leading questions. “Are you worried about the lunchroom? About having Mrs. Bellings?” They might not have thought about those issues…and now they will! 3. Pick times to talk/listen that are not put-

6. Write or draw a ting the child on the story with your child spot. I used to find that time “At the end of the day, the about the experience in the car was a great chance coming up. You do not to have my child share, bemost overwhelming key cause I was not focusing on have to be an artist to have to a child’s success is the her and therefore she felt less your child call you one! If judged and could talk freely. you really can’t draw, cut positive involvement of Washing dishes was another pictures out of magazines, parents.” time that I had a different fonewspapers, or find piccus, so a younger child might tures online, and make stand near me or sit on the your own Social Story! counter near me and talk and 7. Be a partner to an older child might choose to dry dishes and share. the teacher. If your child has an issue that the school 4. Do what you can to make the unfamiliar can help with, tell the teacher when he/she calls, or conmore familiar. Try to introduce your child to some tact the school. Teachers are grateful to know of issues other children who will be in her class, if possible. Don’t your child struggles within advance. This helps them be shy; do this for your child. Chances are that the other understand your child quickly, instead of wasting preparents will be happy you reached out! Take your child cious months as he/she figures the matter out for themto see the school; your child might be intimidated by the selves. Present the issue neutrally so the teacher does not new situation (preschool, junior high, high school) and subconsciously label your child. The teacher is doing an just being familiar with the building will help alleviate amazing job, teaching your child and trying to make a the fear of the unknown. difference; make sure they are not working in the dark. 5. Read some stories about starting school 8. Help your child fit in during learning with your anxious preschooler. I Go to School by time. It is hard for your child when she does not have Rikki Benefield is an example of a “social story” that is her homework done, or he does not have the permission calming for children. Social Stories are stories that help slip filled in. Being different than the class in this way a child know what a situation will look like, feel like, and causes anxiety. Check that your child has his/her suphelps children understand what is expected of them in plies. Supplies will need replenishing. the situation. Though it was developed by Carol Gray in Jane D. Hull, Governor of Arizona (1997–2003), Secthe late 1980’s for autistic children, parents and teachers retary of State of Arizona (1995–1997), famously said: all over find that such stories help children with anxiety. “At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a You can find books about going to the dentist, going to child’s success is the positive involvement of parents.” shul, going to a zoo, and going to a wedding in your local Let’s work together, home and school, to make it a Judaica store. stress-free school year!

Mrs. Etti Siegel holds an MS in Teaching and Learning/Educational Leadership and brings sound teaching advice to her audiences culled from her over 35 years of teaching and administrative experience. She is an Adjunct at the College of Mount Saint Vincent/Sara Shenirer. She is a coach and educational consultant for Catapult Learning, is a sought-after mentor and workshop presenter around the country, and a popular presenter for Sayan (a teacher-mentoring program), Hidden Sparks, and the Consortium of Jewish Day Schools. She is a frequent contributor to Hamechanech Magazine and The Journal for Jewish Day School leaders. She will be answering your education-based questions and writing articles weekly for The Jewish Home. Mrs. Siegel can be reached at ettisiegel@gmail.com.


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Parenting Pearls

Shul Beginnings By Sara Rayvych, MSEd

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any years ago, I overheard a conversation involving a gentile who had just heard that Yomim Noraim seats are usually prepaid. Her shock was obvious until the details were more thoroughly explained. What most surprised her was finding out just how many hours we are spending in those prepaid seats. She assumed we had a brief prayer session or two, not that we spent hours davening together with emotion and tears. When you do the math, it quickly becomes apparent that we spend many hours davening, especially during these upcoming Days of Awe. Many easily find meaning in these hours of silent devotion, while others find it more challenging. It is every parent’s dream to sit in shul alongside their child dressed in their Shabbos or yom tov best. While it’s a source of nachas every parent awaits, for others, the reality hits hard. Those parents may find their child’s Shabbos outfit no longer looks so fine after the chocolate cake was discovered. Perhaps their child thinks shul ends after the candy-man has given the requested treat. Knowing when and how to bring children to shul is an important chinuch decision. I am not a rav nor have I ever been confused for one. I am certainly not here to pasken any of these important con-

cepts and urge you to address those to your family’s personal rav. In this article, I would just like to bring up some of my personal thoughts and experiences regarding children and davening in shul. Rosh Hashana seemed like the perfect time to begin this discussion due to the central role our makom tefilla will play over these upcoming yomim tovim. B’ezras Hashem, members of our kehillos will be spending hours in their assigned shul seats. Even those unable to attend throughout the year make an extra effort at this time. Those unable to be present for tefillos will still come for shofar blowing, often with very little ones tagging along.

Is Your Child Ready? This is the big question, and it’s important that we ask it. It’s easy to assume that a child is ready just because a child is a certain age, the parent is ready, or the kids need a Shabbos morning outing. There is no preset age that indicates shul readiness nor do the needs of the parent mean the child is prepared. It goes without saying that a makom tefilla is not a babysitting service. A child who is currently jumping off the bookshelf at home may do similarly in a shul. The truth is that, like most milestones, each child will reach this one at their own time. It’s really not that dif-

ferent from walking, talking, or riding a bike in that age is merely a suggestion. More important than their birthday is attention span and emotional readiness. Davening involves a lot of time spent in one place quietly (or saying nothing more than the tefilla). Can the child sit still? Sitting in a chair for long periods of time is harder than we assume. Kids are used to lots of movement and suppressing that can be impossible for some youngsters. Can your child control themselves from talking, singing, whistling, stomping their feet, or any other method of noise production? It’s amazing how the smallest of bodies can produce the loudest of noises. Try to think of what shul attendance involves and use your best judgment to see if your child meets those criteria. Often a child needs a little longer – sometimes just months – before they’re ready to join the adults.

Provide Accommodations Schools provide accommodations all the time; parents can, too. Some children are not ready to attend shul like an adult but can be present for some, or all, of the tefilla. With some minor accommodations, these children can be slowly brought into the beautiful world of shul attendance. I’ll make a few suggestions, but there are

many more options available. Choose a shorter tefilla. As important as Shabbos Shacharis is, it can be too long for some children. If your child has limited sitting time, you may want to pick a shorter option. Mincha is generally the shortest, and kabbalas Shabbos involves lots of singing. Some children are thrilled by the singing and dancing of Shabbos davening, but others may find the noise overwhelming. Use your child’s personality as a guide. Gauge your child’s limits and consider allowing them to attend only part of the tefilla or take a break in the middle. A brief walk in the hallway can do wonders to help an antsy child regroup. In school, many teachers will give bouncy students an errand or quick stroll to help them refocus. Children will usually find it helpful to sit with an adult. At times, the same gendered parent is unable to attend. Grandparents, aunts/uncles or family friends are usually willing to have your sweet little one join them. It may feel uncomfortable to ask, but shul can be very lonely for a child sitting by themselves. Some shuls are more child-friendly than others. I am not paskening as to whether or not you should switch your makom tefilla, just acknowledging that some children may benefit from a more child-friendly environment.


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Ensure your child isn’t hungry, thirsty, or tired. If they are any of the above, then it’s unfair to expect positive behavior. It may be helpful for some children to have a (non-messy) snack with them. Please make sure any wrappers or trash are disposed of properly.

Feeling Prepared Many adults find it distracting when children run around in shul or create a ruckus. Someone makpid on hearing 100 kolos will find it very upsetting to miss even one because of a child making noise. Additionally, it may not be good for the child’s chinuch to think a makom tefilla is “hefker.” Children are a tremendous bracha, and nothing in the above paragraph is meant to detract from that, chas v’shalom. It’s important for us to first look at the issue from the eyes of the other mispallelim before we discuss this topic. Children don’t inherently know how to behave in shul and need to be educated beforehand on what to expect and how to act. New shul-goers should be given advanced preparation before the big day arrives – even if they only will drop in for shofar blowing. Younger children enjoy acting out

and rehearsing what they will do. You can practice walking into a room quietly and sitting or standing while listening – whatever you anticipate they will need. You can even make pretend shofar noises. Physical cues such as showing you have your finger over your lips can silently remind them to be quiet. Many youngsters benefit from placing their own finger over their lips as an extra reminder.

tov. Most likely, the school has already covered this part, but it never hurts to make sure your child remembers.

Shofar Tips It’s customary for everyone to hear shofar, and even young children will make a timely appearance during davening. Keeping little ones quiet for the duration of shofar blowing is a yearly chal-

It goes without saying that a makom tefilla is not a babysitting service.

Even children old enough to have their own seat for davening will benefit from a little prior preparation. Ideally, your child will have already become comfortable with sitting during Shabbos davening before attempting yom tov tefillos. Still, the tefillos are longer, and there are other differences such as shofar, birkas kohanim and prostrating on the floor. You also may want to introduce your child to the prayers that are unique to the yom

lenge. Often, one baby cries and a toddler decides to imitate the tekiyos. Here, too, a little preparation can go a long way. Try to not skip the pre-shofar nap – I know it’s hard. Bring any pacifiers, snacks, or drinks your children may need. As mentioned before, avoid messy snacks and dispose of trash. Little ones are usually calmer when closer to a parent. Holding your child or wearing them in a carrier can help.

Slightly older children may want to hold an adult’s hand or remain nearby. The crowds can be scary for some youngsters, and some children may become fearful. Most shuls have a second series of tekiyos and that can be helpful for parents. One year I had a child that was sick (and contagious!), and a thoughtful neighbor was brave enough to blow shofar in my home. There are many options for families with children that will permit everyone to be inspired by the tekiyos. Joining the kehilla, our voices united in tefilla, is a special experience we all want to share with the next generation. Maintaining a positive atmosphere will make our children want to come back again and again. May Hashem answer all our tefillos l’tova. I want to wish all of klal Yisroel a wonderful year of simcha, bracha and nachas from our children – kesiva v’chasima tova!

Sara Rayvych, MSEd, has her master’s in general and special education. She has been homeschooling for over 10 years in Far Rockaway. She can be contacted at RayvychHomeschool@gmail.com.


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Teen Talk

By Mrs. C. Isbee

Dear Teen Talk,

We are two sisters writing. We would be very grateful if you gave us some insight on how to resolve our predicament. Now that the Yomim Noraim are almost here, we are faced with a dilemma. Our parents would like to buy shul seats for us for Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur, however, for various reasons, we are more comfortable with davening at home.

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Let’s give you some background as to why we feel this way. Two years ago, due to COVID restrictions, we davened at home for Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur for the first time. We found that we had more kavanah and were able to get through all the tefilos without getting sidetracked. The fancy clothes, crying kids, and people talking incessantly are the distractions that we have been able to avoid. Furthermore, as much as we know it’s holy, we found ourselves spacing out, at times, over the few hours we were there. Last year, even though our shul was offering seating, we opted to daven at home. Once again, it was a very fulfilling experience. We know our parents will be disappointed with us if we decline their offer. In addition, our grandmother will be with us for yom tov. We know she loves to go to shul and will likely be upset with us if we don’t join her. As these days are fast approaching, time is of the essence and we would like some hadracha for this situation. -Chani and Avigayil R.

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ear Chani and Avigayil, I appreciate the importance you place on proper tefillah. The Yomim Noraim, The Days of Awe, are a time of serious introspection. This is the time where we aim to do our due diligence in making the most out of our connection to the Ribbono Shel Olam. I remember clearly the days when we were homebound due to COVID restrictions. Even though it was a very difficult period, I do have some special memories, specifically congregating together in my dining room to daven. I also remember how sad it was not to be exposed to the complete tefillah that normally takes place only when gathering in shul. There was no leining (reading of the Torah out loud) to listen to. The beautiful melodies of Chazaras Hashatz (repetition of the prayers by the chazzan) were absent. Duchening by the kohanim (recitation of the priestly bless-

ings) was missing, as well as hearing the recitation of the kaddish by mourners. The feeling of detachment from our brethren being unable to congregate together in a mikdash me’at was real. We longed for the day when we could gather together again and proclaim our allegiance to Hashem in unison. It’s understandable why you believe your davening is more potent at home versus at shul. Your desire to concentrate without any interference is commendable. Since the unfortunate virus erupted, it sounds as though you have made peace with davening at home and have reached great heights in doing so. In Parshas Terumah, Hakadosh Baruch Hu says to Klal Yisroel, “V’asu li mikdash v’shachanti b’socham, And let them make Me a sanctuary, that I may dwell among them.” Hashem told us that He would like for us to build houses of worship, so that He can rest His Shechina upon

us. When we assemble all together in a building designated for praying to our Creator, we elevate ourselves. One of the reasons why Hashem’s Shechina settles on those who gather in shul to daven is because of the achdus (togetherness) of the congregants, as it says in Sefer Mishlei, “B’rov am hadras melech, In multitudes, there is the glorification of Hashem.” When we assemble together to serve Hashem, the impact it has on Him is so great. We are the chosen nation gathering in scores, in groups across the universe; of course, Hashem’s glory is revealed, then! Men rush to daven with a minyan three times a day, even though davening b’yechidus is allowed. Surrounded by ehrliche Yidden in talleisim, hearing the “kolos” (voices) of tefillah, answering “Amen,” listening to the rav’s speech, and even noticing the majestic aron kodesh are all part of the spiritual experience of shul. My father, Harav Yonasan Binyomin Jun-


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simply cannot be attained by davening at home. As far as the distractions you may have in shul, I get it. Yes, there are people wearing fancy clothes. Sometimes, there could be crying babies. And unfortunately, sometimes, there may be people talking in shul. Truth be told, we are supposed to wear our finest to shul as our King is being exalted there. Most people who go to shul, go there to daven. If there is talking, you can always move to another side. If you feel it’s excessive and poses a problem, perhaps you can speak to the rav or the gabbai about addressing the issue. As you both indicated, you’ve encountered times when you zoned out, and it was hard for you to keep up nor be in sync with the davening. Certainly, the more consistently you attend shul services, the greater your ability to keep pace will be. Davening with a minyan at shul is a most glorious experience! There is so much more than enunciating the words of the tefilos that takes place there. Once your attendance is more consistent, instead of drifting off, you will “be in the moment” as you appreciate all that is happening. There is a “seder” throughout the davening. You will surely heed to maintain proper attention as you listen to the Chazzan saying over the tefilos. You will be aware when to say “Zos HaTorah” as they hold up the Torah at Hagbah. You will take in, not just the leining, but the haftorah and the recitation of the brachos of the haftorah, as well. And, you will treasure Birkas Kohanim as you notice the Leviyim lining up to wash the Kohanim’s hands. How fortunate you both are to have your grandmother staying with you for yom tov! What a nachas it would be for her to have you both sitting beside her during davening. As she is older, and I’m sure wiser than you, there is so much you can learn from her. Even walking to shul together can jumpstart the experience into something memorable. It’s a time where you can ask her to share her early memories of going to shul as a young girl. Be”H, you both will marry and have families. During the times of raising young children, you will probably not be able to venture out to dav-

Mrs. Chayala Isbee is a long-time educator and school counselor at Bais Yaakov of Baltimore.

en in shul. Your place during the Yomim Noraim will be at home. I can tell you, though, that your davening at that time will be much more significant and meaningful if you have the background and foundation of shul davening. As illustrated above, the experience of davening in shul is incomparable to that of davening at home. Only the Bais Haknesses experience can provide you with: 1. Being in the presence of Hashem’s Shechina in His dwelling place 2. Assembling as one group all doing the same thing at once: serving Hashem 3. Valuing koach hatefilla of the tzibbur (group) 4. Hearing the voices of the congregants as they ask Hashem for rachamim (mercy) and praise Him for all that He has done 5. Listening to the chazzan repeat over the davening 6. Answering Amen Yehai Shmai Rabbah to the kaddish 7. Taking in the duchening 8. Gleaning the messages of the rav’s speech first-hand 9. Listening to the leining 10. A greater appreciation for what you learn in limudei kodesh at school, such as Chumash and Navi as you hear the Baal Korei lein 11. Understanding what Yizkor is all about; thus appreciating your loved ones 12. The opportunity to observe others’ kavanah and learn from them 13. Noticing the klei kodesh and structural beauty of this mikdash me’at 14. Building a repertoire of the holy tunes of the many tefillos And so much more…. Chani and Avigayil, I want to wish you a kesivah v’chasima tova. Your desire to do the right thing is definitely appreciated by Hakadosh Baruch Hu. Hashem will surely listen to your heartfelt tefillos and grant you a sweet year. Sincerely, Mrs. Chayala Isbee

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greis, zt”l, was the rav of the shul, Yeshiva Ateres Yisroel, in the Canarsie section of Brooklyn, NY. We were fortunate to live on the block of our shul. My experiences of davening in shul as a child till I married and moved away are precious and shaped who I am today. I fondly remember my friend, Jennifer, knocking on my door every Shabbos and yom tov morning to get me out of bed to go to shul with her. Sure, we could have davened at home, but the feeling of kedusha that came from being part of a group serving Hashem together gave greater strength and meaning to our tefillos. As the rabbi’s daughter, my job every Yom Kippur was to give the Yizkor cards out to the women. The memories of observing them with tears in their eyes is something that will forever be etched in my memory. Being grateful that I had my beloved parents while leaving during Yizkor is a deep emotion that I remember vividly. I would return to my seat in shul, renewed and ready to daven with more sentiment and fervor. I also remember how exciting it was to learn parshas hashavua every week in my alma mater, Prospect Park Yeshiva, knowing that I would eventually be hearing the corresponding leining while at shul in its melodious tune on Shabbos. As important as it to go to shul on Shabbos, how much more worthwhile and significant it is for you girls to attend on the Yomim Noraim! Listening to the haunting melodies of the chazzan, especially during U’nesaneh Tokef, Kol Nidrei, and of course during the Kaddish at the outset of the Shemona Esrei stirs the soul. The sounds of the shofar awaken us to do teshuva. Is there a better way to have the kavanah that you desire than by observing elderly women, especially the Holocaust survivors, wiping the tears from their red-rimmed eyes? I find myself singing the sweet songs of my youth as I prepare for the yomim tovim. Humming “K’vakaras Edro” or “V’chol Maaminim,” or “Ochila La’Kel” as I cook, bake, and set the table transports me to the mikdash me’at on 8101 Avenue K. Even though, the building is no longer our family shul, and it’s been many years since I davened there, the tefillos are alive within me. The appreciation I have for the Yomim Noraim is so very strong because of my experiences davening at shul. This cherishment


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Postcard and Letters from the Past By Miriam Hendeles

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s the summer fades away, my mind turns to letter writing. Letters that we send – to friends, family and acquaintances. Thank you cards, postcards, congratulations messages, sympathy notes, and newsy letters to loved ones expressing caring and what is going on. The summer is that time – when we tend to write more letters. Kids are in camp, families go on vacation, and the desire to keep up in writing is prevalent. Letters these days are written (actually typed) and sent off as a computer email. Letters in the “old days” (read: my days) were written by hand with care, using a pen or pencil. They were placed in an envelope, sealed and sent off with a stamp. The receiver of the letter had the opportunity to read and re-read the letter, thus relishing the connection and the relationship between reader and writer. Both of my grandmothers were avid letter writers. And during the summer, they tended to write – or type (on their typewriters!) – more letters than usual. One of my aunts has gathered all of my maternal grandmother’s letters – skillfully handwritten or typed with her typewriter – into a large binder for all the grandchildren. Many of those letters were written specifically during the summer period of the Nine Days before the fast day of Tisha B’Av. As my Oma (grandmother) had said, “The Nine Days are a perfect time for getting these things done - -organizing pictures, writing letters, cleaning drawers.” Ever the practical one, she viewed the Nine Days as a time to accomplish. Things that we would normally push off now we can finally do, because so many pleasurable things (swimming, listening to music, shopping) are off limits to Jewish people who are mourning the destruction of the Holy Second Temple

destroyed almost 2,000 years ago. Some people claim letter writing – as we know it with paper, pen, envelope, stationery and postage stamp – is on the decline. These people bemoan the loss of writing by hand. They say letters – those cards, aerogrammes (remember them??)

Others claim that letters are still alive and well – not to worry; they are just displayed these days in a different format: the e-mail or text format which one shoots off to cyberspace with the simple press of the send button. Although it is unlikely that Hallmark

I want to hold onto the fantasy that my own grandkids will be going to camp someday and will write me “Dear Omi” letters.

and stationery that we filled with our thoughts in handwriting – are a relic of the past. That for the receiver, the pleasure of reading and re-reading a letter is a thing of the past – unless one takes the time to print out an email received, something many don’t bother to do.

is about to go out of business, I do believe writing letters has diminished. So even though I still enjoy browsing the card section at the supermarket, and I still own a package of personalized thank-you cards, I tend to only occasionally write by hand.

I think back to the summer times of my childhood and how I would sit on my bed in sleepaway camp during rest period and write long letters to my parents, family and cousins. I recall the excitement of tearing open a letter from my mom during lunch time when we got our mail and reading my mom’s news and thoughts. Nowadays, if a kid writes a letter from camp, it is a sign of maladjustment! (I once heard a camp director declare that to a parent who complained the kid never wrote letters.) Well, all kidding aside, I like to think letter writing will never really fade completely away. That there will always be a need for writing by hand. That there will always be kids and adults who write to each other by hand. (Positive or negative news!) I guess I am in slight denial regarding the death of the letter as we know it (just as I am in denial of the demise of the print in books and newspapers to be replaced by digital formats – Kindle and the like). I want to hold onto the fantasy that my own grandkids will be going to camp someday and will write me “Dear Omi” letters. In the meantime, I will continue to write letters – occasionally. As I clear out the clutter of my desk and shelves during this period of “getting things done” (which includes cleaning and throwing out), I will hold onto the old and new stationery and keep it where I can find it. Even if it is not used every day, or even every week, or even so much during the summer, I know it will be used – someday.

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Tzimmes Soup By Naomi Nachman

I developed this recipe a couple months ago in preparation for the upcoming chagim. I am so excited that I can finally reveal this recipe. It’s a great twist on the traditional tzimmes by making it into a soup. I am sure you will want to add this to your menu repertoire. The soup makes a large quantity, so you can set some aside to freeze for Sukkot. Ingredients

◦ 2 tablespoon canola oil, plus 1 tablespoon ◦ 2 medium onions, cut into half-moon rings ◦ 2 pounds second cut brisket or strips of flanken on the bone ◦ 1 tablespoon sumac ◦ 1 tablespoon cinnamon ◦ 1 teaspoons kosher salt ◦ 1 teaspoon cumin ◦ 3 large loose carrots, sliced ◦ 3 sweet potatoes, small cubed ◦ 1 cup dried prunes, pitted ◦ 8 cups broth ◦ 2 cups crushed tomatoes ◦ Salt and pepper to taste

Preparation In a small bowl mix sumac, cinnamon, salt, and cumin and then rub the mixture all over the brisket. Heat the canola oil in a large soup pot over a high flame. When the oil is hot, sear the brisket for a few minutes on each side until it forms a nice brown crust. Remove from heat and set aside. In the same pot, lower heat to medium and add 1 tablespoon oil; sauté onions until translucent. Add carrots, sweet potatoes, and dried prunes and sauté for five minutes. Add the briskest back to the pot along with crushed tomatoes and 8 cups of broth. Bring to a boil and then lower to a simmer. Cook for on low for 3 hours. Remove meat from pot and shred it with two forks. Add the meat back to the pot and bring back to boil. Enjoy!

Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website, www.theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.


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his column features business insights from a recent “Mind Your Business with Yitzchok Saftlas” radio show. The weekly “Mind Your Business” show – broadcasting since 2015 – features interviews with Fortune 500 executives, business leaders and marketing gurus. Prominent guests include John Sculley, former CEO of Apple and Pepsi; Dick Schulze, founder and Chairman Emeritus of Best Buy; and Beth Comstock, former Vice Chair of GE; among over

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n a recent 710 WOR “Mind Your Business” broadcast, Yitzchok Saftlas (YS) spoke with guest Ruvane Ribiat (RR), president of OnlineKosherWine.com. * * *

YS: My understanding is that when you came into OnlineKosherWine. com, it was to deal with succession. Can you share some tips for transitioning a business from one generation to the next? RR: You have to respect the vast amount of experience and wisdom that whoever handed it over to you has. In this case, it was my father-in-law, a very easy person to respect. He was extremely knowledgeable, and above all, extremely

honest. He didn’t say anything unless he knew for a fact that it was true. And if he didn’t know for sure it was true, he would tell you that. There’s nothing more valuable than that. Respecting that is going to make it a lot easier for you to take over because it shows a willingness on your part to listen. After all, this person has spent 25-30 years building up the business, they don’t want to see you crash it into the wall. So, they’re going to want to feel confident in your ability. Ask yourself, “Am I listening to what they’re saying?” After you start having your own management style, if they come to you to say, “You know what? I think you might be better off doing it this way,” you have to pay attention. That’s really the primary common sense in knowing how to deal with people. Of course, a new perspective is always valuable, but you have

to make sure that it fits in within the parameters of what you’re trying to do.

Let’s talk about wine itself – the experience of people that enjoy wine and the range that is out there for people to enjoy. Well, people euphemistically consider traditional wine (for the seder, for kiddish) as being sweet wine. Actually, I don’t think there’s a lot of truth to that. I’ve spoken to people who came from Europe before the war, and the wine they had was not sweet. It was a drier one. I suspect that when people came to the United States, the only grapes they could find in the Italian market were concord grapes. Well, concord grapes are table grapes, and you have to keep on adding sugar until it’s palatable. I think that

might have been what happened. If you fast forward up until the mid‘60s, that’s pretty much all there was. In fact, when I was a kid, you went to the seder and you had Concord, Mulago, Cream Red (if you were lucky), or maybe natural sweet, and you basically had a stomachache by the end of the seder. When I got married, my father-in-law sold wine. I was learning in yeshiva and knew nothing about wine. I used grape juice for the seder because I couldn’t stomach the wine. One of my brothers told me that it’s much better to use wine than grape juice to do the mitzvah correctly, and so I decided to start drinking wine. And what I discovered wasn’t that I didn’t like wine; I just can’t drink bad wine. Concord is not a wine really. It’s grape juice that has sugar added to it and is fermented so there is a lot of alco-


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150 hol in it. However, people like it. People are selling a lot of Manischewitz and a lot of Kedem Concords; there’s nothing wrong with that. But there’s so many other options available. I mean, you get probably over 1,200-1,300 different kinds of brands and wines that are available. Countless Cabernets, almost as many Merlots, a bunch of Pinot Noirs and Malbecs. There’s no real reason why anybody has to settle for wine they can barely stomach. All these wines could be fit to the way you like things, the way your taste is, and to what you’re eating.

I saw that either yourself or someone on your team tries every single bottle before it’s sold. What a lesson in customer service! Well, that’s true. I can’t try nearly all the wines because there are so many of them. But we have a group of people, and we know what each other’s palates are like and what we prefer as a taste profile, how we look at things. And it’s not just every new wine; it’s also new vintages. For example, you have Castel 2016, which was considered one of the 100 best wines in the world, I think, by The Wall Street Journal. I think they put it out in 2018. That’s incredible. But you try 2017 or 2018, it’s not exactly the same. When you’re spending $60, $70, $80, or maybe even $90 for a bottle of wine, you want to make sure you’re getting what you expect. So, we try pretty much every one that comes in. If somebody asks me if I tried the difference between, let’s say, one vintage of a lower end wine and another vintage, no. Because when it comes to wines that are, $15, maybe $20 a bottle, the winemaker styles the wines to be consistent. I’ll give you an example. If you take Manischewitz Concord, one a bottle from 1990 and another from 2020, they should taste identical. Their labs are that good. Well, there’s no reason for me to try the Manischewitz. I know what it tastes like. That’s the same idea here.

Have you seen any major shifts in the wine industry over the last 10-20 years? There are two different dynamics that are happening. The first is the fact that, for some reason, kosher has become extremely hot in the general market. I don’t know if people are aware of this, but in the last 10-15 years, there have been consistent years where the growth in every kosher product has been double digit.

People believe, and it’s true, that kosher is better. It’s higher quality, they’re more careful, they’re more meticulous. People are willing to spend the money for it. The numbers show it. The second thing is that the baal teshuva movement has had a tremendous impact on the wine industry. I get phone calls all the time from people, “When I wasn’t frum, I drank this wine. Is there anything like that available?” Usually, I’d have to tell them no. But now there are so many wines that used to not be available that are now available. And it’s driven the kinds of big categories themselves higher, because it’s not just the people that are chozer b’teshuva that are interested. We’re getting orders from people in Monroe, Williamsburg, Crown Heights. These people are Chassidim that are much more interested in higher end kosher wine. I can’t begin to tell you the amount of wine that some people buy because they just like wine, and it doesn’t make any difference. You have wine stores in Williamsburg and

critical customer service is for any company. RR: Most people don’t realize it, but almost any business you’re in, you’re really not selling a product; you’re really selling a service. That’s the way we look at it. All the wines that we have, you can get someplace else. Every one of them. The difference between us and everybody else is service. We cross all our T’s, dot our I’s, as much as humanly possible. To us, the customer is why we’re in business. We’re only a business because of you, and as far as we’re concerned, nothing else is important. All we care about is what is going to make the customer happy. We’ll bend over backwards for our customers. We’ll do things that other companies wouldn’t consider doing, because we feel that the customer might be right.

Can you share a strategy for when a company transitions from brick-andmortar to online? With brick-and-mortar, you have the

“You’re really not selling a product; you’re really selling a service”

Monsey selling wines for $150- $200, no problem. People are buying them. It’s a huge change in the industry.

What advice would you recommend to someone who’s new to wine? Go to a good wine store and the first question you should ask is along the lines of, “Listen, I only drink traditional types of wine, but I really would like to start getting into wines that are drier. But I’m afraid that if I take a wine that’s super dry, I won’t like it, my kids won’t like, and my wife won’t like it, and that’ll be the end of it. Can you give me something that will be a good segue between sweet and dry?” The person at the wine store should be able to tell you that. It doesn’t have to be a semi-sweet. It can be a dry wine. There are a number of dry wines out there that don’t taste dry but are actually dry wines that don’t have that cloying sweetness at the end.

Perhaps you could talk about how

advantage of being able to have a personal relationship with customers. However, when you’re talking to one customer and there are four other customers in the store, you can’t have that relationship with the other four customers. Online business is not like that. It’s true you can’t talk to them all at the same time. But the ability to communicate with them either by email or by calling them is still there. And that’s something that’s so important. To be able to have the customer feel that they have somebody to talk to. You don’t end up calling somebody, let’s say General Motors, where you have to wait and go through about 10 people, and hopefully you’ll get to the right person. It’s not like that at all with us. Once you get on the line with us, once you send an email, we answer within a timely fashion and let you know what our answer is. We try to help you as much as possible. That is a huge advantage in online business. When you’re talking about a brickand-mortar, you don’t have that ability to have that kind of relationship with as many people as you have with online

businesses. Just the idea of knowing that customers are what your purpose is. You’re there for them. You’re there to provide them with a service. Once you understand that, the transition is much more understandable.

Is there any type of strategy behind new products and labels as they as they enter the market? The impetus behind having new labels is what grapes are available, depending on the weather or the area of the world the grapes are coming from. Let’s say there’s a tremendous amount of Sauvignon Blanc grapes available. Somebody who has all these grapes is going to think, “Well, there’s a glut of Sauvignon Blanc on the market. Let’s try to make a wine that has mostly Sauvignon Blanc and call it something else.” That would be the purpose of them having a new label. That’s the strategy from the producer’s viewpoint. From the retailer’s viewpoint, anything new has an advantage. Somebody comes in, “I tried all these whites, what do you suggest?” He’ll say, “Try this; it’s new.” Hopefully, you’ve tried it, you like it, and you can describe it. These are the primary questions as far as new wines are concerned. This strategy is simple. Make sure you know what your product is, make sure you understand the product, and make sure you have people who will like the product. If you don’t have the clientele for it, there’s no point in buying that product. But new products are constantly coming out. Probably between 150-200 different wines come out every year, maybe more.


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Top 10 Small Business Tips By Chaim Homnick MA MBA

Editor’s Note: We are proud to bring back a popular columnist, Chaim Homnick, who wrote previously for TJH and returns now with a column focused on business and entrepreneurialism. Enjoy an edifying read as he covers topics of interest, interviews local industry leaders, mentors small businesses, and answers reader-submitted business questions.

mographic and methods to improve your customer acquisition and retention. Are you in retail? Do you capture emails via your POS system? Is your business mostly fueled by social media, and if so, have you compared campaigns to determine which generate more leads and sales?

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any small businesses were walloped by the pandemic era, whereas others survived or even thrived. The shutdowns proved disastrous for businesses that subsisted month to month, while other companies found ways to pivot successfully or to weather the storm and recover when the world reopened. Of course, supply chain crises and inflation woes have presented new challenges for companies to surmount. Consequently, most entrepreneurs are more cautious and deliberate now than they were two years ago. It is more vital than ever to be strategic and tactical with your business and its success. Here are some tips to help your business flourish!

Chase Growth the Right Way Many businesses pursue topline revenue while forgetting that net profits are the goal. Doing $1 million in sales with $900k expenses is more work for less reward than emphasizing healthy margins and achieving $600k in sales against $400k in expenses. So, aim to grow strategically and remember that it is always easy to grow your costs – the challenge is growing your profits.

Maximize Efficiency Efficiency is how you accomplish successful growth. There is a well-known 80/20 rule, and it manifests in a variety of ways within a company. The theory posits something like this: 80% of the work gets done by 20% of your employees. 80% of your profit/success comes from 20% of your customers. Figure out where your best results are coming from

There are many resources available to small business owners. Try to learn about any industry-specific resources and also try to become knowledgeable of the various technology systems, loans, grants, mentorship programs, special business pricing and other services or resources that may be useful for you. Don’t just muddle along; seek out ways to thrive!

Know your Numbers and double down on those areas!

Provide Maximum Value This seems obvious but often it is overlooked by business owners. In most industries, there is rampant competition. Standing out in a crowded business climate requires determining your core competencies or unique product or service that provides genuine value to your customer. Elon Musk has asserted that a company exists to provide a superior product or service. If you have an inferior product or service, you aren’t going to succeed long-term. Constantly seek ways

knowing your target demographic. Whether your business sells products or provides a service, you need to determine who your primary consumer is and where the market is.

Target Your Advertising The next step, once you identify your potential clientele demographic, is reaching them. This is another tip that seems obvious. But there is a reason why this quote from wealthy retailer and pioneer of advertising John Wanamaker still resonates 100 years after he said it: “Half my advertising spend is wasted; the trouble

Foster an environment that lends itself to productivity and positivity.

to innovate and generate value for your consumer.

Know Your Customer/Market Providing maximum value means

is, I don’t know which half.” That quote is advertising in a nutshell. Determine what the appropriate advertising budget is for your business and then consider ways to hit your target de-

There are so many small business owners who don’t even know what their business is earning (or losing). If numbers aren’t your thing, make sure you have real systems in place or people who understand your business’ finances. You may need a good bookkeeper or accountant or both, but make sure you know the ins and outs of your business backend and your own financial structure. Can you afford that capital investment or a more expensive lease or are you overloaded with debt? Knowing your numbers will also come in handy if you ever decide to sell your business or pursue investment. Investors need balance sheets and P & L statements, not your hastily scribbled guesstimates.

Know Your Cash Flow Health This is the related corollary to the tip above. It seems obvious, but many businesses were devastated during the pandemic because they were one slow month away from closing. Restaurants and retail were hit particularly hard. Restaurants churn through cash rapidly and often operate month to month, while some retail is cash flow intensive and many retail stores have to forecast and


Emphasize Employee Morale Employee retention has become difficult in today’s market. There seem like an infinite number of available jobs, and employee loyalty is at an all-time low. In some industries, finding motivated employees with a good work ethic has become challenging. Therefore, take care of your employees! Look for good staff and then do what it takes to retain your staff. Foster an environment that lends itself to productivity and positivity.

Schedule Meetings with Yourself This last one may seem unnecessary, but try it! Lori Greiner, of Shark Tank Fame, said that “an entrepreneur is someone who works eighty-hour weeks to not work forty hour weeks.” Many small

business owners feel swamped by their workload and find themselves constantly preoccupied by the myriad small details requisite for keeping the business afloat and operational. But stepping back and assessing your business at a macro level is vital to ensure your business remains healthy and efficient. Take time out to analyze your numbers or your operations, then follow up to improve areas of concern or try new things. Never lose sight of the big picture! When it comes to small businesses (and big businesses), there are no hard rules. There are innumerable ways to earn money or even to become fabulously wealthy. So, with no set formulas, the best you can do is utilize some of the approaches above to aim for efficiency and professionalism and hopefully that will help you navigate your way through the challenging financial climate we face currently.

Chaim Homnick is a serial entrepreneur who owns several businesses. He also mentors small business owners. If you have questions you would like to see answered in a future column, or other feedback, email chomnick@ gmail.com.

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THE EXPERTS WEIGH IN… What is something every business owner needs to know when starting out? Pinny Ackerman, co-founder of PEYD

Just because you understand your product or service very well, doesn’t mean your customers will understand it right away. I know what I do and the value my company can bring to clients, but have I gotten that message out to the public? A top priority must be educating the public on what you are offering them and what differentiates you from the competition.

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Owner of Extreme Vent Cleaning & Sperling Productions

In both of my businesses, I have learned that customer service has to be your primary concern. The service you provide or the way you communicate with customers is what will make or break your business. It is also how you differentiate yourself from the competition.

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purchase a season ahead. Analyze your business and stay ahead of your cash flow requirements. You don’t want to end up in a position where your business should be making money but your cash flow is negative and you end up over-leveraged and taking on bad debt at bad interest rates just to fund operations or because you are draining your company’s coffers too quickly for personal needs.


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Notable Quotes “Say What?!”

Well, I think you’re right about reparations. In terms of if people want it, though, what they need to do is you always need to go back to the beginning of a supply chain. Where was the beginning of the supply chain? That was in Africa. - Royal commentator Hilary Fordwich when asked by CNN’s Don Lemon whether the British should pay reparations for slavery

And when – across the entire world – when slavery was taking place, which was the first nation in the world that abolished slavery? It was started by William Wilberforce – it was the British. In Great Britain, they abolished slavery. Two thousand naval men died on the high seas trying to stop slavery. Why? Because the African kings were rounding up their own people. They had them on cages, waiting in the beaches. No one was running to Africa to get them. - Ibid.

My name is John Fetterwoman. -Pennsylvania Democratic Senate candidate John Fetterman, introducing himself at a pro-abortion event

We already had a plan to repay student debt. It’s called a job, and it was working just fine before President Biden decided to transfer debt from coastal elites who chose to take out loans to hardworking Americans who didn’t. - Sen. John Kennedy (R-LA)

Our democracy is at stake. There’s millions and millions of dollars from outside our region and outside our state that are coming here to try to steal our elections. - Rep. Vicente Gonzalez (D-TX) at a campaign with Rep. Adam Schiff (D-CA), claiming that Republicans steal elections, days after President Biden called Republicans fascists who claim that elections are stolen


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156 The Democrats did not think it was a humanitarian crisis when we pulled over 50 bodies in body bags out of a truck in Texas of illegal immigrants who died because the smugglers let them die of heat exposure. And yet, suddenly, 50 illegal immigrants show up in lily-white Martha’s Vineyard, where rich liberals and billionaires sip Chardonnay, and it is World War III, they lose their stuff all over the place, and it just shows what utter nonsense it was. – Sen Ted Cruz (R-TX) on Fox News commenting on liberal outrage caused by Gov. Ron DeSantis sending a plane of illegal aliens to Martha’s Vineyard

There were more …corporate journalists in Martha’s Vineyard today than have ever gone down to the Southern border to look at what’s going on. Why don’t you go down there and look at what those communities have to deal with every day? – Gov. DeSantis

I think his hair gel is interfering with his brain function. - Ibid., responding to criticism from California Governor Gavin Newsom, who seems very proud of his coiffed hair

It’s like me taking my trash out and just driving to different areas where I live and just throwing my trash there. - Founder of a group that helps refugees, quoted in an NBC article about Gov. DeSantis’s action

A reminder that what @GovRonDeSantis did wasn’t a “stunt.” It was kidnapping and human trafficking. These are federal crimes. The sentence is five years – per victim. – Radical leftist Keith Olbermann, convicting and sentencing Gov. DeSantis on Twitter

I thought Martha’s Vineyard was a “sanctuary city”? I thought they declared themselves a “haven” for illegal immigrants?? Just 50 arrive, and the socialist billionaires send them away – to a military base, no less – in JUST 24 hours. -Tweet by Sen. Ted Cruz (R-TX) after the illegals were quickly bussed off of Martha’s Vineyard by over 100 National Guard troops

Martha’s Vineyard might be the most racist place in America. They called the national guard over 50 non-white people. Gross. – Tweet by Jon Fitch

You aren’t allowed to compare vaccine passports to the leadup to the Holocaust, but Ken Burns can compare sending illegal immigrants to a vacation island to the Holocaust. - Tweet in response to filmmaker Ken Burns comparing Gov. DeSantis to the Nazis

Ron DeSantis…may be a more competent Trump in terms of his ability to use the levers of state to amass power, but he’s also meaner and more rigid, without the soft edges and eccentricity of the actual Donald Trump. - Jamelle Bouie, The New York Times

I think when Democrats realize there’s a new formidable Republican, you know, out there, suddenly you have a new Hitler. Then the old Hitler, well, maybe he’s not so bad. Suddenly, The New York Times is saying how Trump is kinder and gentler, and is funny, and he never took himself seriously, and charming. That’s…so now, the guy they called Hitler is now not Hitler, because DeSantis — you can’t — you can’t — not everybody can be Hitler at once, right? - Greg Gutfeld, Fox News

This is obviously what happened when they demonized Romney, and then when Trump came along, then Romney became a statesman. When it was Romney, he was evil before McCain became a moderate. So they do this all the time. - Ibid.


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I hold two contradictory things [in mind] at the same time. One is just the relentless belief that anything is possible. But at the same time, my experience here has given me a front-row seat to how deeply and unconsciously, as well as consciously, so many people in this country hate women. And they hate women of color .- Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez (Dem/Socialist-NY) when asked whether she could ever be president

Well, first of all, let’s put this in perspective. Inflation rate month to month was just– just an inch, hardly at all. - President Joe, Biden to Scott Pelley on “60 Minutes”

You’re not arguing that 8.3% is good news? – Pelley in response

No, I’m not saying it is good news. But it was 8.2% or — 8.2% before. I mean, it’s not — you’re ac — we act — make it sound like all of a sudden, “My god, it went to 8.2%.”

Ron DeSantis is that guy you went to high school with who desperately wanted to be prom king but didn’t have any charisma, so instead, he just pulled the fire alarm and ruined the dance for everybody.

– Pres. Biden

— Jimmy Kimmel, who hosts a nightly show that is supposed to be humorous


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Sorry, Biden’s MAGA Attacks are Directed at Mainstream Republicans By Marc A. Thiessen

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hom does President Joe Biden consider a “MAGA Republican?” In his Sept. 1 primetime address from Philadelphia, the president claimed he was not tarring the entire GOP – or even the majority of Republicans – as followers of “extreme MAGA ideology.” He was attacking only “election deniers” who “do not believe in the rule of law” and refuse to “recognize the will of the people.” If he had limited his critique to those who refuse to accept legitimate election results – including Rep. Bennie G. Thompson, D-Miss., chairman of the House Jan. 6 committee, who voted on Jan. 6, 2005, in objection to the counting of Ohio’s electoral votes, and Stacey Abrams, who still refuses to concede the 2016 Georgia governor’s race – then he might have had a point. But that is not what Biden is saying. Even in his speech outside Independence Hall, he expanded his definition of “MAGA Republicans” to include every American who supports the right to life. “MAGA forces are determined to take this country backwards – backwards to an America where there is no right to choose,” Biden thundered. He said the same thing after the Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade, declaring in a tweet: “The ultra-MAGA agenda has always been about taking away women’s rights, in every single state.” Sorry, but long before Donald Trump, the mainstream of the Republican Party has been pro-life. According to Gallup, 7 in 10 Republicans consider themselves pro-life. And since 1980, the Republican Party platform has always included a pro-life plank. In 1984, when Ronald Reagan sought reelection, the GOP platform declared that “the unborn child has a fundamental individual right to

life which cannot be infringed” and called for “the appointment of judges at all levels of the judiciary who respect … the sanctity of innocent human life.” In 1988, when George H.W. Bush ran to succeed Reagan, he declared in his convention address: “Is it right to believe in

That’s not all. Biden also says that “MAGA forces” include Republicans who support pro-growth tax cuts. Last week, he tweeted, “We understand something that MAGA Republicans in Congress don’t. Wall Street didn’t build this country. Working people did.” In a Labor Day

By that definition, the entire Reagan Revolution was part of the MAGA movement.

the sanctity of life and protect the lives of innocent children? My opponent says no, but I say yes.” In 2000, when George W. Bush ran for president, he pledged to “lead our nation toward a culture that values life – the life of the elderly and the sick, the life of the young, and the life of the unborn.” If Biden defines “MAGA forces” as anyone who believes in the sanctity of human life, then that means Reagan and both Bushes were all MAGA Republicans – as are 70 percent of Republican voters.

speech, he declared that MAGA Republicans “threaten … our economic security,” adding, “I’m so sick and tired of trickle-down economics.” Put aside for a moment that he is the one forcing working people to pay for the business school loans of people in households making under $250,000. Apparently now, in Biden’s telling, if you support supply-side economics, you’re a threat to “the very foundations of our republic.” By that definition, the entire Reagan Revolution was part of the MAGA movement.

Also in the Labor Day speech, Biden declared that “the ‘Trumpies’ … these MAGA Republicans in Congress are coming for your Social Security.” This has been a Democratic line against Republicans who support entitlement reform for years. In 2012, a Democratic Super PAC ran ads in swing states showing GOP vice presidential nominee Paul D. Ryan pushing an old lady in a wheelchair over a cliff, as his running-mate, Mitt Romney, sang “America the Beautiful.” So, by Biden’s definition, Ryan and Romney are MAGA Republicans, too. Never mind that the MAGA movement has jettisoned the Ryan-Romney push for entitlement reform. “Every Republican wants to do a big number on Social Security, they want to do it on Medicare, they want to do it on Medicaid,” Trump said in 2015. “And we can’t do that. And it’s not fair to the people that have been paying in for years.” So, let’s be clear: When Biden talks about “MAGA forces” who threaten “America’s soul” he does not just mean politicians who don’t accept the 2020 election results. He does not mean the people who stormed the Capitol on Jan. 6. He does not even mean Trump supporters. He means all mainstream Republicans who support life, limited government, fiscal responsibility, and pro-growth economic policies. He’s using his “MAGA” slur to attack the entire conservative movement. If anything threatens the foundations of our republic, it is a president who promises to put his “whole soul” into uniting the country but then denounces 74 million fellow Americans who disagree with his policies and voted for his opponent as “semi-fascist” and “a threat to this country.” (c) 2022, Washington Post Writers Group


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Biden’s Foolish Inflation Celebration By Marc A. Thiessen

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f you want a window into the utter incompetence of the Biden administration, look no further than last Tuesday’s celebration of the Inflation Reduction Act. Some genius at the White House decided it would be a brilliant idea to gather thousands of supporters for a big party on the South Lawn to celebrate the law on the exact day new inflation figures came out. Just hours before the event, we learned that inflation hit 8.3% in August –prompting the Dow Jones industrial average to nosedive more than 1,200 points, the market’s biggest one-day collapse in more than two years. Americans learned that inflation rose for food to 11.4% since last year, the largest increase since 1979. Year over year, the price of chicken went up 16.57%, baby food up 12.58%, milk up 16.96%, bread up 16.23%, and fresh fruits and vegetables up 7.93%. The cost of shelter rose 6.2%, the most since 1984. And energy prices remained stubbornly high, with gasoline up 25.64% from the year before and the cost of fuel oil rising 68.77% just as many Americans prepare to buy it to heat their homes this winter. What a great time to have an “inflation reduction” celebration at the White House – and to invite James Taylor to come and perform a song partially about suicide. “This is your victory!” the president told the crowd, adding, “And you deserve a huge round of applause!” For the 78% of Americans who say they have faced hardships because of inflation, it all must have seemed bizarre and out of touch. Even if the disastrous consumer price numbers had not come out the same day, it would have been farcical to celebrate the Inflation Reduction Act in the wake of Biden’s announcement on student-loan forgiveness. We already knew that the Inflation Reduction Act would not actually

reduce inflation. The nonpartisan Penn Wharton Budget Model estimates the law’s impact on inflation to be “not statistically different from zero,” while the Congressional Budget Office and Moody’s

Model estimates will cost between $605 billion and $1 trillion. None of that is paid for. It’s all deficit spending. So right after claiming credit for reducing the deficit by $275 billion, Biden announced a plan to

For the 78% of Americans who say they have faced hardships because of inflation, it all must have seemed bizarre and out of touch.

Analytics also found the law would have marginal to no effect on inflation this decade. The only reason the Inflation Reduction Act’s impact on inflation was neutral is because the massive climate spending in the law is offset by even larger tax increases, which purportedly reduced the federal budget deficit by $275 billion. But right after signing it into law, Biden announced his student-loan forgiveness plan, which the Penn Wharton Budget

spend more than two or three times that amount – nullifying all the deficit reduction in the bill he had just signed – and then some. According to the nonpartisan Committee for a Responsible Federal Budget, Biden’s debt cancellation will “wipe out the disinflationary benefits of the IRA” and “boost near-term inflation far more than the IRA will lower it.” If you eliminate the deficit reduction in the Inflation Reduction Act, then all you’re left with

is the climate spending – which means Biden’s policies will make inflation worse. The hypocrisy does not end there. After celebrating a bill that spends $369 billion on climate and clean energy, Biden left his White House party for Joint Base Andrews, then making a half-hour flight on Air Force One to vote in the Delaware primary – rather than casting an absentee ballot or voting early on any of his dozens of visits to his home state. In recent weeks, climate activists have been roasting Kylie Jenner and other celebrities as “climate criminals” for flying on their private jets on short flights. Yet Biden took two military flights aboard a Boeing VC-25 to vote. Why didn’t he just vote on Saturday, when he was home in Wilmington? Biden has spent the past year championing mail-in and absentee voting, even accusing Republicans of standing with racists, traitors, and segregationists for opposing his proposed federal takeover of our elections. Yet when it came time to vote, rather than licking a stamp (whose price rose 3.4% on his watch), he cast his ballot in person at great cost to taxpayers – unnecessarily emitting vast amounts of carbon dioxide into the atmosphere just hours after boasting on the South Lawn how he was taking “the most aggressive action ever, ever, ever to confront the climate crisis.” The whole day was a farce. If the Biden White House can’t manage to get the president an absentee ballot – or see that holding a party to celebrate his inflation reduction “victory” on the day disastrous inflation numbers are released would be a PR disaster – then it’s little wonder it is incapable of solving the serial disasters, from Afghanistan to the border to runaway inflation, it has unleashed on the American people. (c) 2022, Washington Post Writers Group


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Will Deterrence Have a Role in the Cyberspace “Forever War”? By David Ignatius

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t a time of growing concern about possible nuclear threats from Russia, some prominent defense strategists are arguing for a new theory of deterrence. They argue that military conflict is now so pervasive in cyberspace that the United States should seek to shift away from deterrence in this domain – and more aggressively exploit the opportunities it presents. Beware, reader, in exploring this topic: Deterrence strategy is one of the wooliest and most abstract areas of defense analysis. In the early Cold War decades, it was the province of professors such as Herman Kahn at the Rand Corp., and Thomas Schelling and Henry Kissinger at Harvard – sometimes collectively known as the “wizards of Armageddon.” They “thought about the unthinkable” when it came to nuclear war, partly to dissuade the Soviet Union from ever launching an attack. Times have changed, argues the new book, “Cyber Persistence Theory: Redefining National Security in Cyberspace.” Its three authors have all worked closely on cyber strategy for the Pentagon: Michael P. Fischerkeller as a cyber expert with the Institute for Defense Analyses; Emily O. Goldman as a strategist at U.S. Cyber Command; and Richard J. Harknett as a cyber expert at the University of Cincinnati and the first scholar-in-residence at Cyber Command. The book isn’t an official policy document. But a foreword from Gen. Paul Nakasone, the head of Cyber Command and the National Security Agency, notes that the three authors have been “laying the foundations for the Command’s approach of Persistent Engagement” and that their book offers a “framework for understanding . . . operational effective-

ness moving forward.” To sum up the authors’ arguments: Cyberweapons fundamentally change the nature of warfare. Borders don’t matter much to digital code. And cyberwar is a continuum (and always happening at a low level), rather than an on-off switch. It’s a new domain, with new rules. “Cyberspace must be understood primarily as an environment of exploitation rather than coercion,” the authors write. “Achieving strategic gains in the cyber strategic environment does not require concession of the opponent.” In other words, much of what we think we know about war doesn’t apply in this domain. I had a chance to explore this esoteric subject in August, when the authors asked me to moderate a public discussion of their book at the National Defense University. The gathering produced a lively exchange among military cyber strategists. To get an overview of the evolution of deterrence thinking, let’s start with

Harknett’s vision of three phases in the history of warfare, culminating in cyber. The first period, beginning in ancient history, involved “conventional” weapons – rocks at first, then eventually guns, cannons, battleships, bombers – to coerce the adversary into submission. Nation states zealously defended their borders, and the goal of warfare was coercion and victory. Deterrence involved having more and better cannons, bigger battleships, more planes. But obviously, looking at the two World Wars in the 20th century, that version of deterrence didn’t work very well. The arsenals almost invited war. That first period lasted until 1945, when the United States introduced nuclear weapons that, soon enough, were duplicated by the Soviet Union. With the potential to kill hundreds of millions of people in a quick exchange, these weapons could effectively destroy civilization. The culmination of war became not victory but doomsday. Nuclear war, as was often said, cannot be won and should never be fought.

So, the goal of nuclear strategy was not to win wars but to prevent them. This nuclear version of deterrence has worked quite well for 73 years and counting. The third period involves cyberweapons, and the assumptions are fundamentally different. Weapons can’t be counted, identified, tracked, or easily controlled. They are used in a borderless electronic world where traditional ideas of sovereignty don’t work very well. The authors argue that this domain is “micro-vulnerable (and inherently exploitable),” in that targets can be hit easily, but “macro-resilient (and thus stable),” because nations will persist, even if targeted. Two lessons of the Ukraine war are that cyber defenses appear to work better than might have been expected and that cyber offense works worse. That’s one explanation for Ukraine’s amazing resilience against the Russian onslaught. The authors offer some suggestions for this new domain: Strategists should have rules for continuous engagement, rather than plan for contingencies; they should prepare for continuous operations not “episodic” ones; and they should seek “cumulative” gains, rather than final victory. As the authors wrote in a recent article in the National Interest: “Because of the fluidity of digital technology, security rests on seizing and sustaining the initiative.” Cyberspace might prove to be the ultimate version of forever war. But if these strategists are right, it could be less dangerous, and ultimately more stable, than the convulsive explosions we’ve known as war for millennia. (c) 2022, Washington Post Writers Group


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The U.N. is Getting Ukraine Surprisingly Right By David Ignatius

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s President Biden and other world leaders gather in New York this week to address the U.N. General Assembly, there’s an unusual twist: The United Nations, so often derided as a useless forum for debate rather than action, is working aggressively to contain the damage from Russia’s invasion of Ukraine. This is a diplomatic version of “man bites dog.” “I would have predicted that the U.N. would act as ineffectively as the League of Nations in the 1930s, but the opposite has happened,” says Jeffrey Feltman, a former State Department official who served as the United Nations’ under-secretary-general for political affairs. He told me that in the Ukraine crisis, the United Nations “has shown more coherence than I’ve ever seen from the organization in my career.” The United Nations can’t stop this grinding war because of Russia’s veto power in the Security Council. But it has worked to address some of the side effects, such as the Russian blockade of Ukrainian grain exports, which has exacerbated the global food shortage, and Russian threats to the big Ukrainian nuclear power plant at Zaporizhzhia. Secretary General António Guterres brokered a July 22 deal that allowed Ukraine to resume exports of grain through the Black Sea, in tandem with Russian exports of grain and fertilizer. In the first six weeks after the agreement was signed, Feltman estimates that about 4 million metric tons of grain left Odessa, just below the pre-war monthly average of about 5 million metric tons. Diplomats will huddle on the sidelines in New York this week to try to extend the four-month grain deal. As a sweetener, the United Nations is close to negotiating a new plan to ship Rus-

sian ammonia to the West, via a pipeline through Ukraine; the ammonia is desperately needed to produce fertilizer that would help ease the global food shortage. The U.N.-mediated grain deal – the only major diplomatic success since the war began in February – came about partly through several of the United Nations’ often powerless agencies. UNCTAD, the organization’s trade and development group, dramatized the global food shortage and pushed Russia, Turkey, and Ukraine to negotiate. The day after the deal was signed in July, the United Nations’ International Maritime Organization appointed a former U.S. Coast Guard rear admiral to oversee implementation details in Istanbul. The International Atomic Energy Agency, meanwhile, has worked to prevent a catastrophe at the Zaporizhzhia power plant. Rafael Grossi, the IAEA director general, visited the plant, which Russian forces seized early in the war, and has stationed IAEA inspectors there

to try to prevent what could be cataclysmic damage to its reactors. In the Ukraine crisis, “the U.N. is not the sort of obstructed graveyard you might think,” says Mark Malloch-Brown, a former U.N. deputy secretary general. “The big political questions are still nogo areas,” because of Security Council vetoes. But the organization has been able to operate effectively at the margins, he notes. Russia’s invasion of Ukraine shocked the sometimes-slumbering General Assembly. In March, 141 of the assembly’s 193 members voted to condemn the invasion and demand that Russia “unconditionally withdraw.” A U.S.-sponsored road map for dealing with the food crisis is supported by 103 countries. Just last week, 101 countries voted to give Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelensky special permission to address the General Assembly by video. Guterres’s balancing act in the Ukraine crisis has been to embrace the U.N. Charter’s principles of nonin-

tervention and territorial sovereignty, while also preserving the organization’s neutrality. And he has occasionally been quite blunt. During an April trip to Moscow, he publicly chided Russian Foreign Minister Sergei Lavrov at a news conference, saying it was “true and obvious” that there were no Ukrainian troops in Russia but Russian troops in Ukraine. For the Biden administration, the United Nations’ new energy validates a strategy to reengage the international organization after years of U.S. frustration and neglect. A senior State Department official explained that the administration reckoned that U.N. agencies still had a “unique capability” to deal with problems if they were mobilized, and that “we can’t do it alone” in responding to global crises. The biggest obstacle to U.N. peacemaking is the rule that allows any of the five permanent members of the Security Council – the United States, Russia, China, Britain and France – to veto resolutions they oppose. The United States has tolerated this formula for inaction in part because it wanted to preserve its ability to veto resolutions that unfairly attacked Israel. But Linda Thomas-Greenfield, the U.S. ambassador to the United Nations, this month proposed a new code for Council members, including a pledge to use the veto power only in “rare and extraordinary situations.” “The weapon of choice of a diplomat is a microphone,” Thomas-Greenfield observed in announcing her reform plan. And we’ll certainly hear a lot of diplomatic verbiage this week at the General Assembly. But, for a change, the United Nations is producing not just words but also deeds. (c) 2022, Washington Post Writers Group


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Forgotten Her es

Famous and Fighting By Avi Heiligman

JFK, center, in training at the US Navy PT training facility

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edia coverage of the recent passing of Queen Elizabeth II of England had brought forth memories of her service during World War II. Although she was discouraged by her father from entering the service, she nevertheless joined the Auxiliary Territorial Service (ATS) in 1945. Queen Elizabeth was just one of many famous celebrities to have served with the Allies. Presidents, politicians, and other famous people served in the armed forces, and some have incredible stories of courage of their service. When Great Britain entered World War II in September 1939, then-Princess Elizabeth and her mother refused to be evacuated to Canada for their safety. Elizabeth was just 14 years old in 1940 when she made a speech on the BBC, addressing the children that had been evacuated. Her message was filled with hope and courage. In 1942, she was appointed as honorary colonel of the Grenadier Guards, and in 1945, she entered the service with the ATS. There, she trained as a mechanic and truck driver and was not given a special rank despite being the king’s daughter. Hundreds of thousands of British women joined the ATS, filling roles such as cooks, telephone operators, drivers, postal workers, searchlight operators and ammunition inspectors. Elizabeth

Moshe Dayan with his trademark black eye patch

was soon dubbed “Princess Auto Mechanic.” Queen Elizabeth became the British monarch in 1952 and by the time of her death was the colonel-in-chief of 16 British regiments and corps. Never before had a female of the royal family been an active member of the military. She was last surviving head of state to have served during World War II. Other British royals served during the war as well. Prince Henry, Duke of Gloucester, was the fourth son of King George V and uncle of Elizabeth. Prince Henry had joined the army and spent a lot of the early war months in France boosting the morale of the troops and acting as a chief liaison officer for the commanding officer. He had been very close to the action and several times had witnessed the Nazi bombings. In one air raid in Belgium, Henry needed medical attention after being wounded when the car he was in caught fire. Several American presidents served during World War II, with John F. Kennedy and George H.W. Bush having close calls during their time in the Pacific. Kennedy was the skipper of PT-109 on the night of August 2, 1943 while patrolling near the Solomon Islands. The boat was approached by the Japanese destroyer Amagiri, which apparently did not see the small PT (patrol torpedo)

Future president George HW Bush, center, with his radioman and turret gunner

boat. The destroyer rammed her headon and cut her in half, which caused an explosion which killed two sailors. JFK then rallied his sailors to hang on to the remaining pieces of the boat. Then he told them to paddle towards an island, while he swam three miles to shore with the straps of the life jacket of one of his badly burned sailors in his mouth. There, they made contact with native coastwatchers and several days later were rescued by PT-157. George H. W. Bush was a pilot of a Grumman TBF Avenger torpedo bomber on the light carrier USS San Jacinto (CVL-30). On September 2, 1944, Bush’s plane was hit, and the engine caught fire, filling the cockpit with smoke. The future president managed to parachute out of the stricken plane and was later rescued by the submarine USS Finback. Before Israel became a country in 1948, it was under British rule, and as such, many Jews from Mandate Palestine served and fought with the British Army during World War II. Future Israeli military leader Moshe Dayan suffered an injury that cost him his left eye while fighting with the British Army. Dayan was born in 1915 on a kibbutz when Eretz Yisrael was still under the Ottoman Empire. In his teens, he had joined the Haganah and then served under British General Orde Wingate’s

Princess Elizabeth in her ATS uniform

Special Night Squads. In 1941, Dayan was part of a unit that was attached to the Australian 7 th Division, which was part of the British Army. The division was fighting in Syria against the Vichy French (part of France that collaborated with the Nazis), and Dayan was appointed as the commander of Company B of Palmach soldiers that went to assist the British Army. A French sniper hit Dayan’s binoculars as he was holding them up to look for the enemy. The glass on the binoculars shattered, and he lost his eyesight in his left eye. Dayan covered his eye with a black eye patch that he became famous for wearing while he was the defense minister during the Six Day War and the Yom Kippur War. Politicians and heads of state have to make critical military decisions while in office. Being in charge of military decisions meant a great deal to those who knew what it meant to serve in the military. While they may be known for their later careers, their military background often goes unnoticed by the public and is history that is to be remembered.

Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@gmail.com.


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NORTH WOODMERE NEW TO THE MARKET Bright and sunny 3 bedrooms, 3 bathrooms split level home. Features central air conditioning, gas heat, solar panels, eat in kitchen with stainless steel appliances, formal dining room and living room, den, finished bsmt with playroom and 2 additional rooms, master bedroom –fbath and 2 walk in closets, custom window treatments, new garage door, alarm, IGS, hardwood floors, 200 AMP service, gasline BBQ, new insulation, close to schools, shopping and so much more. $899K Mark Lipner Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Laffey International 516-298-8457 mlipner@bhhslaffey.com

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CEDARHURST Magnificent Bright & Sunny furnished 6 Bedroom, 5 Bath Home Prime location in Cedarhurst Features Dream Kitchen With Granite Countertops, Two Sinks, Two Ovens, Two Microwaves, Formal Dining Room With Washing Station, Formal Living Room. Smart Home, Radiant Heat, Speaker System, Timers, Cameras Inside + Outside, Master Bedroom Suite With Jacuzzi Tub + Shower. Two Large Walk-in Closets, Central Air Conditioning, Gas Heat, Two Car Garage, Great Corner Property, Large Side + Backyard, Finished Basement, Close To All. A Must See. Close To Shopping And Houses Of Worship. Mark Lipner Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Laffey International 516-298-8457 mlipner@bhhslaffey.com

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HEWLETT Bright and sunny 2 bedroom 2 bathroom co-op, elevator, doorman building, in ground pool storage, card room, indoor and outdoor parking, washer/dryer in the apartment, renovated kitchen with granite countertops, ss appliances, master bedroom with en-suite bathroom, formal living room and dining room, close to all $479k Mark Lipner Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Laffey International 516-298-8457 mlipner@bhhslaffey.com

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DEVELOPMENT ASSISTANT A multi-tasker needed for general office work. The ideal candidate is someone who is detail-oriented, responsible, and can take ownership. Looking for someone who is eager to learn, and expand his/her skill set while possessing the ability to work independently and as part of a team. Experience with Excel required. Five Towns location. In-office position only, not remote. Please send resume to 5tpart.timecareer@gmail.com

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MDS REGIONAL NURSE: 5 Towns area Nursing Home management office seeking a Regional/Corporate level MDS Nurse to work in our office. Must be an RN. Regional experience preferred. 2-3 years MDS experience with good computer skills required. Position is Full Time but Part Time can be considered. Great Shomer Shabbos environment with some remote options as well. Email: officejob2019@gmail.com

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is looking for an experienced part/ full time secretary, 2-year-old morah, kindergarten morah, kindergarten morah assistant and Pre-1A English teacher for the 2022-2023 school year. Nice and timely pay. Please email resume to mshelt613@gmail.com or call/text 718-971-9799. ASSISTANT TEACHER CAHAL is seeking an Assistant Teacher for KINDERGARTEN class at HANC in West Hempstead. 2 full days and every other Friday. Please send

ARBA MINIM DISTRIBUTOR Looking for a go-getter to help run seasonal operations for 2-3 weeks. Good pay, good future potential. Starting immediately. Call 631-392-8820 SEEKING SPECIAL EDUCATION teacher to homeschool a 5 year old child. 2-3 hours per day for pre-k/k curriculum. Private pay and flexible. 5 Towns area. If interested please call 917-826-2696

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MISC. GEMACH ZICHRON YEHUDA In memory of R’ Yehuda Aryeh Leib ben R’ Yisroel Dov. We have a library of books on the subjects of loss, aveilus, grief, & kaddish. We have sets of ArtScroll Mishnayos to assist with finishing Shisha Sidrei Mishna for Shloshim or yahrtzeit. Locations in Brooklyn, Far Rockaway, & Lakewood. Email: zichronyehuda@yahoo.com

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Keep Calm and Carry On By Allan Rolnick, CPA

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he death of Queen Elizabeth II at age 96 last week is truly one of those moments that marks the passing of an era. The longest-serving Queen’s reign lasted through 14 prime ministers and fully 30% of our own country’s entire history. She was best-known for keeping calm and carrying on with a typically British stiff upper lip. Yet her subjects also loved seeing her sly wit, like when “she” parachuted into the 2012 Olympics opening ceremony with James Bond or shared marmalade sandwiches with Paddington Bear. Benjamin Franklin once said, “Nothing can be said to be certain except death and taxes.” (Ironic, considering Franklin cemented his legacy rebelling against taxes levied by the Queen’s 3rd-great grandfather, George III.) It’s especially true when it comes to estate taxes that governments levy on the privilege of dying. Naturally, we wondered what role taxes might play as her heir ascends to his grown-up job at an age when most of us have long since retired. England’s steep estate tax makes ours look like afternoon tea. The base exemption is a stingy £325,000 (about $377,000), growing to £500,000 for assets passing to surviving children and

grandchildren. That contrasts with a far-more-generous $12,060,000 here. Anything above that is taxed at 40%, with exemptions for money passing to surviving spouses, certain business assets, farmland, and charitable gifts. Forbes pegs the royal family’s overall holdings at 28$ billion. The Crown Estate, which generates income to pay the royals’ allowance, is a business entity

assets also include Buckingham Palace, Kensington Palace, and the Crown Estate of Scotland. Together, those portfolios generated £134.3 million last year. That’s a lot of crumpets! But while family members share much of that income, they can’t sell the underlying assets. That means they aren’t subject to the usual transfer tax at the monarch’s death. In that sense, they

Forbes pegs the royal family’s overall holdings at $28 billion.

established by Parliament to manage land and seabeds around England, Wales, and Ireland. The Duchy of Lancaster, which belongs to the monarch, includes farmland and commercial properties throughout the Kingdom. And the Duchy of Cornwall, which belongs to the monarch’s heir, includes properties in 20 counties of England and Wales, along with the right to any unclaimed shipwrecks on Cornish shores and all the treasure buried in Cornwall. Royal

resemble so-called “dynasty trusts” that some Americans with royal pretensions are using to shield family assets from tax at any particular member’s death. The Queen held another £500 million in her own name: her personal jewelry, art, and lesser residences, including Balmoral and Sandringham. (You can rent parts of Sandringham on Airbnb!) That would still be a lot for His Majesty’s Treasury to tax. However, in 1993 – when the Queen agreed to pay tax on her person-

al income – Prime Minister John Major agreed that sovereign-to-sovereign inheritances would remain tax-exempt. Finally, dog lovers worldwide have wondered what will become of the royal canines: two corgis, a cocker spaniel, and a dorgi (wiener dog-corgi mix). The Queen has owned corgis since age seven and bred 14 generations of the ridiculously-engineered beasts. They’ve loved her unconditionally and never embarrassed her by palling around with the wrong crowd or giving tell-all interviews to Oprah. The corgis, at least, are headed to live with Andrew and Sarah, Duke and Duchess of York. But will the pampered pooches still sleep in elevated wicker beds and dine on fresh rabbit? The lesson here is that while the Queen’s passing opens the door to a new vision of the British empire, it won’t, for the most part, be a taxable event. And isn’t that what you want for yourself? We’re here to help you plan for it, down to your crown and scepter! Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 years in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.


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The Show Must Go On By Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., LMFT, CLC, SDS

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um, da, dum, dum… The big moment you’ve been waiting for, or perhaps dreading, is almost here. You are deciding, am I in or am I out? Am I ready for another year? Do I want to work toward the mission I was brought here to dedicate myself to? And then your Supervisor is deciding if you mean it. Kind of like the toughest interview you’ve ever prepped for. The good news is you’ve had a month

up all our sins, mistakes, foul thoughts and behaviors and launch them far out into the waters for the fish to devour and for us to walk away free and clear. Honestly, not much of a meal for the fish but a real coup for us! And then we get another 10 days after the New Year holiday to just keep doting on improving. And after that, are we through, finished, kaput? Have we done all we can to ensure an awesome year? Absolutely not.

Honestly, not much of a meal for the fish but a real coup for us!

of reminders to focus on it. The month of Elul is the get-ready month. Lectures, parshas, prayers all move us toward it. And the men have even had at least an extra week to add in some formal prayers called Selichot. Or maybe it’s possible that they’re more distracted so they need more reminders to do teshuva? (Sound like any man you know?) Either way, there’s that extra prep time. Then there’s this great big added gift. Good, bad, or otherwise, we get to pack

We dress up in our “Sunday Best,” so to speak. Pure white ,actually! Almost like an angelic bride at her wedding… We go to the wedding hall, which usually is our shul. We finish our smorgasbord at home. And we basically settle in for an extended ceremony where we bond with our Groom. We make all our commitments and get ready to start out on the road together in the fresh new year. We don’t even have to prove anything. We just need to commit to do better. And we’re already celebrating a

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few days later. So, get ready for the holiday of the cleansing, the recommitting… That moment when we wipe the slate clean and try again. Yes, it might be daunting, yet we need to recognize that it’s a gift. Let’s embrace it.

There’s nothing like a second chance, a do-over. We get to catapult ourselves forward more successfully. We should look back and learn from the past, but we must remember not be burdened by it! So tada! It’s showing up this Sunday night for you. Let’s stop and think: How am I showing up for it?!


The Jewish Home | SEPTEMBER 22, 2022

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