A LIFE THAT
A LIFE COUNTS
THAT COUNTS JEREMY ROLLESTON
Two-time Olympian Jeremy Rolleston invites you to join the inner circle and learn the secrets behind the success of ten famous Australians
Lydia Lassila, Dick Smith, James Tomkins, Gai Waterhouse, Louise Sauvage, Matthew Burke, Matt Shirvington, Michael Milton, Jason Stevens, Alexandra Croak
Featuring contributions from Australian legends such as Gai Waterhouse, James Tomkins, Matt Burke, Louise Sauvage, Lydia Lassila, Matt Shirvington, Jason Stevens, Dick Smith, Michael Milton & Alex Croak.
A LIFE THAT COUNTS Jeremy Rolleston
Published in 2010 by Rollo Publishing www.jeremyrolleston.com Also distributed by The Scribo Group Equinox Centre, 18 Rodborough Road Frenchs Forest NSW 2086 Australia © Jeremy Rolleston, 2010 The moral right of the author has been asserted. This book is sold subject to the condition that it will not, by way of trade or otherwise, be lent, re-sold, hired out or otherwise circulated without the publisher’s prior consent in any form of binding or cover other than that which it is published in and without a similar condition being imposed on the subsequent purchaser. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise, without the prior written permission of the publisher. Text by Jeremy Rolleston Edited by Deb Doyle, Living Proof – Book Editing Cover design by Imperial Metric (www.imperialmetric.tv) Typesetting by AtriTex Technologies (P) Ltd (www.atritex.com) Printed and bound by Shenzhen Xinlian Artistic Printing Co., Ltd. National Library of Australia Cataloguing-in-Publication entry Author: Rolleston, Jeremy Title: A Life that Counts / Jeremy Rolleston ISBN: 978-0-9808577-!-" Subjects: Motivation (Psychology) Success Successful people – Australia Dewey Number: 158 Visit us at www.jeremyrolleston.com
To my parents, Graeme and Denny Rolleston, who gave me every bit of inspiration, encouragement, support, belief and example a young man could wish for. For people everywhere â€“ have the courage to follow your dreams, be all you can be, and live the life you dream, but also live a life bigger than your own . . . a life that counts.
ith any major project, there are always many people who contribute to make it happen. To all of you – you know who you are. Thank you for believing in my vision and for working so hard to make it happen – I am so grateful! In particular I would like to thank the following very special people who helped to bring this book to life. To my family – Mum, Dad, Ben and Kirsten. Thank you for your constant love, support and encouragement. For your assistance in all the little ways – the editing, the transcribing, the printing, the feedback and the support. You can choose your friends but not your family! I am so blessed. You’re amazing and I love you very much. To the 10 amazing contributors in this book – Louise Sauvage, Alexandra Croak, Gai Waterhouse, James Tomkins, Jason Stevens, Matthew Burke, Michael Milton, Matt Shirvington, Lydia Lassila and Dick Smith – thank you. I am indebted to you. Thank you for accepting my invitation to be part of this exciting project and thank you for trusting my vision for this book. It is a real honour and privilege not only to know you but for you to be a part of this book. You have all inspired me in many and varied ways, and I am certain that thousands more will be in!uenced by your stories and the insights you have shared with me. To Alice Hammerlae, who "rst planted in my mind the idea of writing a book. Who would have thought that your initial thought and our discussions would evolve into this? ‘That’s right; very good!’ To Glen Gerryn and Dave Diggle. Thank you for your advice along the way. I always love our coffees and chats, and I am excited by what you are both doing at the Oxygen Factory and davediggle.com respectively. You are both brothers in arms. See you on the journey! To Dr Kerry Spackman, who didn’t even know it but whose book The Winners Bible was formative and very instructive for me, in particular his vi A LIFE THAT COUNTS
information about our psychology and physiology, which was the basis for the chapter ‘Understanding yourself – the psychology’. To Jessica Watson, Kerri Pottharst, Gerry Harvey and Michael Hawker – you are incredible people who have each achieved so much. Thank you for your willingness to support this book. I know it will change lives for the better. To my book distributors – Chris Makin and the crew at Scribo. Thank you for your enthusiasm about the book. Thank you for believing in the power of what it tells and for helping me activate the dream. To Deb Doyle for your editing prowess. You have been a breath of fresh air. I’m so glad we got the chance to work together. Thanks for being so easy to work with, for putting up with me and for making me look good! To Simon Ray for designing the cover. You are a talented man. It was a pleasure to work with you again. From Propeller days, to this book, and onto the workbook. Onwards and upwards! To all of my friends who helped in so many little ways along the road. Thank you for your encouragement and for your willingness to come along on this journey with me. You all make my world go round. To all the incredible people out there doing amazing things and inspiring me even though you don’t know it – thank you. You give energy to my own dreams. To God – how do I thank you for all you have done for me and all you mean to me? You give me the very breath that I breathe, and you took a young man and changed his life forever. Thank you, Jesus. To you be the glory!
Chapter One Chapter Two Chapter Three
Purpose Driven Dare to Dream Impossible is nothing – removing limitations
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Chapter Four Chapter Five
Understanding yourself – the psychology You’ve got to ‘get it’ before you get it !
Chapter Six The daily process Chapter Seven It takes commitment
Chapter Eight Chapter Nine
The little voice Enjoying the journey
To what end?
The Last Word
n many ways, the world doesn’t need another book about following your dreams; you only need to go onto the Internet or go to any bookstore to know that. What we do need, though, and what we can never have enough of in our life is inspiration. Inspiration to be all we can be, and inspiration to live a life that counts and makes a difference in the world. And this is what I hope I give you in this book. Life offers us many opportunities, possibilities and adventures, but we are often so busy doing what we think we have to do that we never get around to doing what we really want to do. This is your life, your one and only life. You don’t have to take life entirely the way it comes to you - you can make your life what you want it to be. This book celebrates the ‘want to’s’, the ‘choose to’s’, the ‘I can’t wait to’s’ and the ‘dream ofs’ in your life, and if you let me, I’ll help start you on your journey to realising your dreams. But more than just inspiring you, I want to show you, in a practical way, how to put your inspiration and motivation into action successfully. We’ve all read plenty of books that promise to "nally transform our life and turn us into happy, rich and successful people. We’ve read the brilliant ideas and said the clever phrases, yet nothing really changes. Most authors tell you what you should do but not how to do it, and yet the way you put any new knowledge into practice is just as important as the knowledge itself. Having been an elite athlete over a long period, I know this to be the case from personal experience. It’s the difference between knowing and truly understanding, between theory and practice and, in many cases, the difference between trying and achieving. So, what I’ve sought to do in this book is pull together the process, the principles, the strategies, the tools and the techniques that actually make a difference and that will help you make lasting changes so you can be successful in what you turn your hand and heart to. The ‘meat’ rather than the Preface
‘froth and bubble’ we’re accustomed to reading and hearing. A handbookcum-toolbox with inspiration for you! And to prove that these work and will be of help to you in your own life, I’ve gathered together the "rst-hand experiences of 10 famous and successful Australians. This illustrious group of contributors includes one Australian of the Year; two OAMs (Medals of the Order of Australia) and one OA (Of"cer of the Order of Australia); two Australian National Living Treasures; two Olympic gold medallists; six world champions; and two World Athletes of the Year with a Disability. Among their many accomplishments and awards, between them they’ve won a staggering four Olympic gold medals and 15 Paralympic gold medals. They have generously donated their time, expertise and experiences for your bene"t. You’ll see how they’ve used these very same strategies, principles, tools and techniques. You’ll have the privilege of getting behind their reputations and successes to "nd out what really makes them tick. You’ll discover what they thought and felt when they were facing their own fears, setbacks and tough times, and you’ll discover how they found the inner strength to ultimately come out on top. You’ll see that in many ways, they’re not that different from you and I. They also started out with a dream in their heart, and along the way to their success, they had to face the same fears, obstacles, insecurities and inner voice we all face. Sure, they were blessed with talent, but talent alone wasn’t enough for them to do what they’ve done and achieve what they’ve achieved. There is, of course, no one thing you need to know in order to be successful, no one principle you can apply so you can live the life you dream of. However, the principles of success that underpin performance at the highest level in competitive sport are the same principles of success that underpin performance in any avenue in life. So I encourage you to learn from these Australian legends and to model yourself on them so you can fast track your learning. I encourage you to apply the same processes, strategies, tools and techniques they use, because they’re as effective in daily life as they are in the heat of Olympic competition. And as you do, I’m sure you’ll "nd you have everything you need to unlock the potential inside yourself and to pursue your dreams successfully. Beyond all this, though, my wish is that along the way to successfully achieving your dreams and living a passionate and ful"lled life, you’ll be challenged and inspired to live a life that goes beyond your own ful"llment. xii A LIFE THAT COUNTS
A life that makes a difference to others in some way. A life of signi"cance that leaves a legacy. A life that counts. For surely, more than ever, the world needs people who look beyond themselves and live their life in this way. I didn’t ever plan to write a book, but here I am. I hope you enjoy reading it as much as I’ve enjoyed putting it together. And who knows? Maybe one day we’ll be reading your story and you’ll be inspiring other people to live ‘A Life That Counts’. Dare to dream! Jeremy
knew it would soon be over. These moments only occur once every four years – if you’re lucky, and if everything goes according to plan. Here I am again. I’m surprisingly calm. I can hear the crowd cheering and the cow bells ringing and I can feel the butter!ies starting to rise up in my stomach. But I only half hear the noise, like a dull sound in the back of my head. I just concentrate on taking deep breaths and staying calm. Almost like a caged animal waiting to be set free, I’m walking around in circles in the small space behind the barrier that screens from view what lies beyond. I’m not looking at anyone and waiting for my turn to go. This is one of those moments when time seems to slow down but your thoughts seem to speed up. Relax, Jeremy. Breathe. Every breath gives you more and more energy and power. Store it up before you let it explode out of you. Before I know it the team in front of me are at the starting block and it’s time to put my helmet on. I don’t remember which team they are and I don’t care; I only care about what I have to do now. Everything I’ve done previously to get to this point is irrelevant and means nothing. Now is what counts. This is where it begins. Putting my helmet on means ‘game time’ – a whole different level of focus. Time to do it. Here we go. You’ve got this. Do what you know. This is what I’ve made all the sacri"ces for. This is what I’ve trained so hard for. I know I won’t be back; I’ll retire after these Olympic Games. It’s time to let my actions speak for themselves. I’m at the starting block at the infamous Whistler bobsleigh track, at the Vancouver Olympic Games. I’m the last bobsleigh off in the "rst heat. I’m in the best physical shape of my life: 98 kilograms and extremely strong. It’s a dangerous, dif"cult and fast track – the fastest in the world. Our sled will get up to 150 kilometres per hour, a speed that helps to make it one of the hardest courses in the world to drive. There’s been a huge amount of publicity around the danger of this track after the tragic death of luge athlete Nodar Kumaritashvili on the track 10 days earlier. And on top of that, but unknown to the world’s media at this stage, the world number one ranked pilot pulled out overnight, following a big crash in training a few days before. The track has certainly taken its fair share of casualties. From the "rst corner it is technical, and you never get a chance to relax. But I’m feeling con"dent; strangely calm. Overall, I’ve been driving the track well in training and I’m feeling like I’m once again driving as I know I can. All I need to do is drive a bit ‘less’ and have the courage to let the sled run more. 1
It’s a strange feeling whenever you’re standing at the top of a bobsleigh track, especially as a pilot. For an Australian, it’s a bit surreal in some ways and you can’t help thinking, What the hell am I doing? Am I really about to do this? I should be on the beach right now. But in other ways, you feel comfortable, because this is what you’ve trained for, this is what you know, and this is what you know you do well. You know it’s dangerous and you know it will take every bit of focus and concentration and skill you have. But that’s the challenge: to conquer the track and conquer yourself, one more time. My current coach Dallas and former coach Graham !ip the sled over, and I rip my jacket and pants off. There are many Australians in the crowd and the crowd’s going wild. They’re loud, and only a couple of metres away. I walk up to the sled and go through my normal routine. I lean over, pull my push handle up, and double check that everything’s working. I check that the handle will go down again as I push the release inside the sled. I then look inside the sled and check that the D-rings I steer with aren’t crossed. And I do another quick visual check of everything. You are strong, explosive and powerful. Smash the sled. Here we go. Do what you know. You’ve got this. C’mon. Explode! I’m standing at the front of the sled, rubbing my hands together and staring down the track. It’s a steep take-off and the track falls away fast towards the "rst corner before twisting and turning 1.45 kilometres down the mountain between two famous ski resorts - Whistler on my left and Blackcomb on my right. It’s early evening. The sky is dark and the lights of the track blast down on to the ice. It’s a beautiful winter’s night. I’m just waiting for the bell to ring, signalling that we have up to 60 seconds to go. What I’m feeling is a mix of nerves, fear, adrenaline, anticipation and concentration. In these moments it is as though you feel more alive than at any other time in your life. You’re in your own world and you notice nothing and everything. Nothing else matters except this next minute. Why hasn’t the bell gone to signal the countdown? I look up at the clock to see why it hasn’t started the minute countdown for us to go. But, to my surprise, it’s already counting down. We have only 12 seconds to go! In all the noise I mustn’t have heard it ring. If we don’t go and also get past the "rst timing light at the 15 metre mark within the next 12 seconds, we’ll be disquali"ed. What?! Quick! Time to go NOW. Just do it! 2 A LIFE THAT COUNTS
I quickly turn around; clap Duncan on the shoulder, as is our normal starting routine; get my legs into position; dig my ice spikes into the ice; position my "ngers around my push handle; and crouch, ready to explode with everything I have. Yep Yep Back Set Up Hit. My whole body explodes with every ounce of energy I’ve been storing up and I hit the sled as hard as I can. The sled is 190 kilograms of metal and "breglass, so it’s not easy to move. But if time seemed to slow down before, time seems to speed up now. Everything happens on autopilot. My body takes over. I do what I’ve done at training so many times. We push the sled as fast as we can. Off the block, past the screaming crowd in the stand, over the crest, and down the hill. Faster and faster. I am ready to have the race of my life. To put down a great "rst heat, get it out of the way, relax, and pave the foundation for the remaining three heats. And in the process, I plan to smash the Australian record I equalled in the Olympics four years before. Time to get in. I’m living my dream. But the next thing I know . . . my nightmare begins, and my dream shatters and slides down the track with me . . . It was this devastating crash of mine, in the two-man bobsleigh at the 2010 Winter Olympic Games in Vancouver, that was the catalyst for this book. As I worked through my disappointment and answered everybody’s inevitable questions, I realised that I did have a story to share. A story not just of the Vancouver Olympics but one that encompassed my whole sporting journey. A story of successes and failures; of highs and lows; of moments of elation but also moments of heartbreak. A story to encourage you to realise there’s a big difference between disappointment and regret. A story to inspire you to dare to dream and follow your dreams, regardless of the outcome. So, join me as I share some of what I’ve learnt along my own personal journey and while I share some of the lessons from 10 other famous and successful Australians who have also followed their dreams. And in doing so, I hope I inspire you 3
and equip you to chart a course to personal and professional achievement, and that I illuminate a path for you to live a life bigger than your own â€“ a life that counts. But letâ€™s start at the beginning . . .
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PURPOSE DRIVEN ‘If you don’t have a dream, how are you going to make it come true?’ – OSCAR HAMMERSTEIN1
e all have dreams for our life: visions for the quality of life we desire and deserve. Yet for many of us, those dreams have become so shrouded in the frustrations and routines of daily life that we no longer make an effort to accomplish them. Our dreams have dissipated, and with them, so has the will to shape our destiny. I want this book to help you rediscover and re-awaken your dreams; to ignite the unique and incredible potential inside you; and to encourage you to live your life with everything you have . . . with purpose. Throughout history, all the great men and women we’ve admired were driven by purpose – from Nelson Mandela, to Bill Gates, Mother Teresa, Mahatma Gandhi, Winston Churchill, Isaac Newton, Christopher Columbus, Jesus Christ, Martin Luther King, Michelangelo, Florence Nightingale and so on. When you’re living with purpose, you’ve set your sights higher than on simply paying the rent and getting to the next weekend. Rather than live aimlessly and take whatever life throws at you, you have a grander vision and bigger goal to propel you towards greater action. You’re energised, passionate and focused, and every morning, when you get out of bed, you’re fuelled by something worthwhile. You have a dream to inspire you and you’re compelled by meaning and purpose. I believe it’s no accident that deep down in our soul we have the desire to live life with purpose and meaning – that inkling that we were born for something bigger. Think about it. Each of us is so amazing that we had Purpose Driven
to have been created with design and on purpose. Our sense of touch is more re"ned than any device ever created. Our hearing is so sensitive we can distinguish between hundreds of thousands of different sounds. Using our eyes, we can distinguish up to a million colour surfaces and take in an amount of information that surpasses the amount distinguished by the largest telescope. Each person’s tongue has its own unique imprint. Our brain is more complex than the most powerful of computers and has more than 100 billion nerve cells. Within 6.5 square centimetres of each of our hands, we have 2.7 metres of blood vessels, 600 pain sensors, 9000 nerve endings, 36 heat sensors and 75 pressure sensors. On average, we breathe 25,000 times a day and 10 million times a year, which means we take about 600 million breaths during our lifetime. On average, our heart beats about three billion times in our lifetime. An adult is made up of about 100 trillion cells, each one of which contains about one or two metres of DNA. The aorta, our largest artery, is almost the diameter of a garden hose. Our capillaries, on the other hand, are so small that 10 of them are equal to the thickness of a human hair. The human brain is made up of about 30 billion cells, called neurones, and each neurone is capable of handling about a million bits of information. If we were to write down that information as a number, we’d include 6.5 million miles of zeroes that would stretch from earth to the moon and back 13 times. Human bone is as strong as granite as a supporter of weight. A block of bone the size of a matchbox can support nine tonnes, and that’s four times as much as concrete can support. We generate 100 billion red blood cells every day and about two million of them every second. Cna yuo raed tihs? So phaonmneal is the pweor of the hmuan mnid taht it dseno’t mtaetr in waht oerdr the ltteres are in a wrod; the olny iproamtnt tihng is taht the frsit and lsat ltteer are in the rghit pclae. More than these mind-boggling statistics, though, is the fact that each of us is not only amazing; we’re uniquely amazing. You’re one of a kind, a ‘once in all history’ event. There’s no one else like you in the entire world. You’re completely unique. Sure, you might be similar to your brother or sister, and your environment and upbringing might’ve been similar to his or hers, but each of us is uniquely different with our own individual physical, mental and emotional characteristics. Not even identical twins are the same as each other. 6 A LIFE THAT COUNTS
This means you’re no accident or random event; your life matters, and you were born and fashioned on purpose and for a purpose. In my opinion, it’s this understanding that makes a difference because it is both the foundation and the impetus for wanting to explore I think every human being is good at and discover your unique dreams and purpose – after all, you’ll never live something. The dif!culty your best life with a question mark is sometimes !nding out above your head. You have only one what that is. life, and it’s not a dress rehearsal!
– Dick Smith
What is a dream? Simply put, a dream is a desire or an aspiration you might have for a speci"c aspect of your life. It’s a true, genuine longing for your life. We all have dreams. They might be related to your personal development and ful"lment; to your family; to your relationships or romances; to your "tness or health; to your school, education or career; to your hobbies or recreation; to travel; to your charity work or philanthropy; to your spiritual life; to your experiences; or to an interest or passion you have – they can be anything you desire or aspire to. Dreams don’t have to be grand ideas or sound impressive to other people. They’re as individual as each one of us – just as each of us has a unique personality, likes and dislikes, and talents and abilities. They’re shaped along the way according to our own unique background, characteristics, culture, family and environment. They’re not subject to rules or limitations. They’re about what you desire, not what other people think of them. ‘There are many things that will catch my eye, but there are only a few that catch my heart. It is those things I consider to pursue.’ – TIM REDMOND Dreams come from your heart. They come from deep inside you. You’re excited by them. When you think about them, you come alive, and have a Purpose Driven
passion that helps motivate you over the long term. They’re not the images you see in your sleep; they’re the things that cause you sleepless nights! Let me tell you about one of my childhood dreams: to become an Olympian. I remember clearly one day in particular when I was growing up at my home in the north-western Sydney suburb of Pennant Hills. Some time in the morning I can remember the sun streaming through the curtains. I was by myself, sitting on a wooden chair by the window, watching the tiny little TV we had in the kitchen. I was viewing the opening ceremony of the Summer Olympic Games in Los Angeles. The year was 1984, and I was 11. I remember seeing all the athletes walking behind their !ags into the stadium. And I remember seeing the Australian team walk in. All the athletes were waving to the crowd, and laughing and smiling. They were taking photos, playing up to the camera, holding up signs for loved ones at home, and having a great time with their team mates. They looked so "t and healthy, so happy and excited. But I also remember that they looked so proud: proud to be representing their country, proud of themselves, proud of being at the Olympics, and proud of what they’d achieved to get there. I sat in front of the TV trans"xed; nothing else existed around me, and time stood still. I didn’t recognise it at the time, but at that moment a dream was born inside me; a dream to become an Olympian. I dreamt of one day being one of those "t, proud athletes walking into the stadium, waving and smiling and laughing. I dreamt of representing my country and of walking proudly behind the Australian !ag, in front of the world. I dreamt of competing against the world’s best athletes. A !ame was lit deep inside me. I didn’t tell anyone, so no one knew what that moment meant to me. From then onwards, though, I dreamt of being one of those people. I didn’t know how I’d become like them. I didn’t know whether I had either the ability or the talent. In fact, I didn’t even think of those two things; I just dreamt of one day being like them. Big dreams start with small moments and small beginnings. For me, that morning watching the TV was a small but signi"cant moment during which a dream was born inside me – so much so that here I am, more than 25 years later, and I can recall that very moment as if it were yesterday. I can see what I was seeing and hear what I was hearing. I can hear the commentary. I can see the athletes smiling and waving. I can feel the same emotions I felt. And during each and every Olympic Games that followed 8 A LIFE THAT COUNTS
– both summer and winter – I always watched the opening ceremony. While I watched the athletes compete and then stand on the dais to receive their Olympic medal, that little !ame was fuelled inside me and my dream continued to grow. I wonder whether you’ve had any similar moments. What are the dreams inside you – or what were the dreams inside you that have long since died? Do you wish you had a dream to fuel you, and do you wonder how to even "nd out what it might be?
Four ways to !nd your passion/s and discover your dreams Here are four ways to "nd out what you’re passionate about and to discover what some of your dreams are. Remember that like anything, dreams evolve. They often start small, and grow and unfold more clearly as you start following them, as you nurture them, and as they develop over time.
1. Look inside your heart
Your dream and purpose are things you discover within you, not things you just make up. What do you spend your time thinking about? What do you imagine when you’re at home doing nothing, or when you’re in the shower I don’t need a or in bed by yourself? What would you reminder about my love to do in your wildest dreams if dream, about where I there were no barriers and no limitations, and if you weren’t limited by time, want to go and what I con"dence, age, money, resources or want to achieve . . . It’s experience? What are you passionate always in me, and it’s about? Where would you really like to always in the back of go? What would you want to be like? my mind. I feel it every What would you really like to have? day. What would you really like to do? What are you excited by? What would need to – Alex Croak happen or come true for you to become happy beyond recognition? These Purpose Driven
are the sorts of questions you can ask in order to help shine a light on the dreams inside you. In the workbook that will accompany this book, I list a series of questions to help you undertake this process by clarifying your passions, what you like and what’s inside your heart. In the meantime, however, please re!ect on some of the aforementioned questions and search your heart. As you do, and while you think about some of the answers, I’m sure you’ll reveal the seeds of some of your dreams. Remember though, that while you’re asking these questions, you need to make sure that whatever you’re passionate about it is something you’ve got a measure of talent for. There still has to be a matching of your skills/talents and your desires. The reverse applies as well: just because you’re talented in a speci"c area doesn’t mean you’ll be passionate about it. Our passion and our ability have to be congruent if we’re ultimately to realise our dreams.
2. Tears of inspiration
Think about a time you’ve cried. It might have been while you were watching a movie, listening to a song, looking at a picture, reading a book or hearing someone say something to you. What was it about that moment that caused you to be emotional? We’re moved to tears when we’re most self-actualised – or, to say it another way, we’re moved by something at a deep level when it means a lot to us. If you can "gure out why you were moved, you’ll help yourself recognise the things that mean a lot to you, the things you’re passionate about and that you care about. In "guring them out, as well as discovering more about yourself and what matters to you, you might "nd you have dreams locked up in similar emotions, thoughts and cares.
Keeping a journal of your thoughts and feelings is a good way to "nd out the main focus of your thoughts over a time. It can often be a great way of identifying some of your passions and dreams. Remember, though, that you mightn’t know exactly and immediately what you want in life, and that dreams start as seeds and often take time to evolve, mature, grow and take shape. Also, journalling becomes helpful when you recognise that your dreams can change over time, during the natural journey of life. As you go about your normal daily life, or as you go out and try different activities and 10 A LIFE THAT COUNTS
experience different things, try keeping a journal about things such as how you felt, what you liked, what you didn’t like and what you thought. As you journal and re!ect on what you’ve written, your journal might contain revelations about your predominant thoughts, cares, passions and feelings over a speci"c period. In keeping the journal, you might be better able to draw out some dreams that are locked up inside you.
4. Common passions and their drivers: why? why? why?
In this process, you list all your passions and the things you enjoy doing. Then, for each passion and interest, you start to identify its intrinsic drivers. Why do you like doing that thing? You keep asking why until you’ve worked out what truly drives you to follow that passion or interest. You then consolidate all the drivers into a single list in order You’ve got to love what to see whether there’s much overlap – you do, and you’ve got to have a passion about and without doubt, there will be. You’re essentially using your pas- what you do. I’m all sions as a sort of mirror so you can anal- those things. I really yse yourself without being subject to enjoy working with the any natural prejudices or mindsets. So, horses. I love getting what are your passions? What do you them !t. I love training like doing? What leads you to feel inthem to win races. I ner satisfaction? Why do you like doing that? Why are you passionate about love the people I work that? Why do you derive inner satisfac- with. tion and enjoyment from that? Why is it – Gai Waterhouse so? Why is that important to you? Keep asking why in order to drill down into the drivers of your passions. While you’re analysing your passions, you’ll gain a deeper understanding of your authentic self, achieve more clarity about your drivers, and potentially illuminate some dreams you might have. You see, when you’re doing what you’re passionate about and when your dreams and drivers are aligned, your goals aren’t burdensome at all, and you "nd it easier to stay motivated over the long term. Also, by undertaking this process, you’ll help ensure that your existing goals are aligned with your true nature and your true drivers, as well as provide yourself with a good checklist for when you’re making decisions in the future. Purpose Driven
Below is a list of four steps and a table, to give you an example of how I began to analyse my own passions and the drivers behind them. Step 1 List all your passions and pursuits and the things you really enjoy. Step 2 For each passion, identify the intrinsic drivers â€“ ask, Why? and keep asking it so you can distil your drivers down to as basic and core a reason as possible. Step 3 Consolidate all your drivers into a single list. Step 4 Is there any overlap? What are your common drivers, regardless of the speci"c passion?
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In summary, then, to pursue your dreams and be purpose driven are both a great way to live your life and a great foundation for living a signi"cant and exceptional life. So, what do you dream of doing? What do you love doing? What are your passions? Find them "rst, because they’re the starting point. From there, as I discuss in the following nine chapters, you can set about actually making your dreams come true and ultimately making a difference. That is, you’ll learn to deal with limiting beliefs and fears and to use the various mental tools and techniques in order to develop an unshakeable belief in yourself and your goals. Then, when you combine this process with a lot of hard work, commitment, discipline, perseverance, preparation, mental toughness and an alignment of your skills and talents, I have no doubt you’ll achieve your dreams – but "rst things "rst!