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So You Followed All the Rules

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ou heard all the messages loud and clear and you followed all the rules. You listened when they told you to choose a sensible career. You crossed all your t’s and dotted all your i’s as you charted a course towards success and security. And you made it. You built a life anyone would be proud of. You bought a home and furnished it admirably. You put in the late hours. You gave up your weekends and put your family obligations second. You factored in your own needs as a distant third. You made yourself available even on vacation. You sacrificed. A master of deferred gratification, you even postponed your happiness. You figured it would come naturally once you placed the last vase in the family room and started chipping away at your student loans. You imagined that somewhere, at the end of all your effort, happiness would just fall into place along with your routine teeth cleanings and your yearly physical.

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Yet somewhere along the way, you began to feel it. Something was missing. You still aren’t quite sure you can put your finger on what went wrong. But you are searching. It’s late at night. You are restless. So you dust off that old manila folder you keep in the back of your mental file cabinet. You know the one I mean. It contains your copy of the rules.

Way down at the bottom of that agreement, you missed the disclaimer: Happiness Not Included. Happiness wasn’t exactly excluded. It just wasn’t included. It wasn’t a natural byproduct of the package you chose. In a kind of stunned silence, you place the contract back in the folder and you place the folder neatly back into the file cabinet of your mind.

As you begin to read, with a little less youthful exuberance this time, you start to see those little details you missed the first time around. Suddenly it hits you. You were so excited to get started that you never checked the fine print! Happiness wasn’t mentioned in the contract you signed. It was all about purchasing power and making life safe and manageable. And don’t forget the recognition. It was about being seen as successful. You wanted to prove you could do it.

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How Did It Go So Wrong?

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ou can’t really recall the last time something truly unexpected made it through the defense of your contingency plans and your back-up procedures. You are insured, the house is insured, the family is insured, and the car is insured. Even the family pet gets all the recommended shots. You haven’t missed a thing. Or have you? It begins to dawn on you. Even if you had read the fine print, you wouldn’t have understood. By the time you signed up for this deal, you had come to equate security with happiness, material wealth with fulfillment, and success with self-worth. You never could have imagined that you would be sitting here in the middle of the night trying to find the missing pieces just as you thought the puzzle was complete. The reason for your unhappiness is suddenly quite clear. You invested all your resources in the wrong portfolio. You invested everything you had in

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avoiding and controlling for risk and in the accumulation of assets. As it turns out you may have bet heavily on shiny objects in the riskiest portfolio of all. Now that you have really begun to think about all of this, you aren’t so sure how secure your world really is. The stability you were promised seems to come with a higher price tag every day. Jobs seem to come and go more than they used to. You have seen a few of your friends and enemies alike fall by the wayside in lay-offs and take-overs. Maybe you have even lost your job and are now wondering whether you will be able to sustain all of this. Maybe you are wondering if you even want to! Come to think of it, you have been bored for a really long time and when you look at the people above you on the ladder of “success” you can’t see anyone you really want to be in ten years time. You increasingly feel like you are applying your considerable talent in all the wrong places.

As you look around the world, you are beginning to see the toll taken by the contract you signed. You are beginning to see a world badly in need of a transition to a more sustainable and meaningful way of being and you want to be a part of creating that transition. You are also longing for real camaraderie and you are aching to make a positive difference in the world. You know that if you just had the time, resources, opportunity…you could really do something. In fact, you are aching to do something. Maybe you even know what it is. Every day you spend not doing it causes a little more heartache and you are finding it harder to ignore the pain.

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Trapped

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ow did this happen? How did you wind up working so hard for so little fulfillment at something that has come to have so little meaning for you? What happened to your passion, your enthusiasm, and the excited feeling you used to have when it was time to get out of bed in the morning? And now that you have achieved so much financially, how come you feel like you have fewer choices than ever. The answer is simple. Somewhere along the way, your dreams and desires, began to feel like a liability. You began to doubt their value and maybe even your own worth. Or maybe something happened, something that shook your world and left you scrambling for solid ground. Regardless, you certainly couldn’t imagine how you were going to pay the bills if you followed those crazy dreams!

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You didn’t trust the idea of a life founded on desires satisfied and dreams fulfilled. There wasn’t even a model for that as far as you could see. So you started making trade-offs: comfort and stability over adventure and risk, work over pleasure, material wealth and security over fulfillment, other people’s needs over your own… Now you simply don’t know when to stop because you quit listening to your instincts and your intuition a long time ago. You got really good at ignoring your own distress signals amidst the much louder voices of all the deadlines and responsibilities. You learned to live at a frantic pace never allowing yourself much time to reflect on the stress and the pressure of having too much to do. Now you find that you are trapped by expectation and by your obligations. All the things that were supposed to make you secure increasingly feel like excess baggage you have to pay to haul around.

By now you have taken every measure possible to overcome your failing will and an ever-increasing sense of emptiness and boredom. You have put in a valiant effort to continue with things just as they are. Maybe you have taken up exercise and meditation only to find that those things felt like one more item on an already extended To-Do List. Do you shop a lot to remind yourself why you work so hard and then wonder why you needed just one more…? Or maybe you have started having affairs or drinking a lot more? Have spiritual retreats and self-improvement workshops taken the place of real vacations even though the feelings of warmth and possibility seem to fade before you are halfway through your caffeine infusion on your second day back to work?

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It doesn’t really matter. Until now you didn’t know what was wrong anyway. You just wanted to feel good enough to keep showing up so you could keep receiving those direct deposits. You couldn’t see any other alternative. This is different. Today you have come to the very clear realization that none of this is working. You stop and look around. Slowly you begin to realize the full weight of what you have chosen to maintain. You make a mental note of the many things you must accomplish in a day just to keep up and of all the things you will need to do tomorrow. You take stock of your worldly goods and you come to realize the absolute insufficiency of your estate as a measure of your happiness.

inside an empty refuge, a refuge that increasingly looks like an opulent prison cell. In this moment you are finally willing to pay some heed to the feelings inside of you that are urging you to find a more sustaining and a more sustainable way of life. You are ready to listen to the voice of your instincts and your intuition. You are finally ready to do something different and you don’t care what it costs you. .

You wanted the safety and ease of financial security, and indeed, all your material needs have been met. Yet, despite the many physical possessions that surround you, in this moment of truth you finally understand: You built a life that left you “safe”

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A New Kind of Investment

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t is time to make the most important investment of your life: an investment in your own happiness. You are ready to step off the path to material success and take the first steps towards creating a rich life. I am not going to promise that this new investment in yourself will offer quick fixes. I am not going to tell you that the journey will be short and the going always easy. You and I both know that would be a lie. What I am going to tell you is that you will finally get to decide. Up until now, you have been operating on autopilot as you continued to march along on the conveyor belt to nowhere you want to be. Now you will begin to make empowered, conscious choices rooted in your values and your vision for your life. It will be worth it! It was worth it for me.

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At the age of 38, I made a decision. In order to fulfill my life purpose I walked away from my sixfigure career as a successful attorney, my beautiful house, and just about everything I owned. I traded in the security of a reliable paycheck and the prestige of my high-profile legal career in order to move to Southern Mexico where I have pursued my calling – to guide others in the process of reconnecting with themselves and their dreams so that they can unleash their authentic power and create sustainable and fulfilling lives.! I walked briskly and resolutely in the direction of my dreams because I could see a brighter future for us all. I could see a future in which the best and the brightest minds of the world applied their talents to create a more meaningful and sustaining life experience for themselves and those around them. I made this transition because I heard the voice of community calling me to real collaboration and participation and to the creation of novel solutions for the challenges that lie ahead for our generation and the next.

Slowly the layers of stress have unraveled. I am enjoying life. There is time for a stroll through town after dinner. I have time to breathe in the mountain air and take in the beauty all around me. I even have time for a little nap in my hammock. There is stillness in my day. I am finding joy in the movement of my body. I look forward to my exercise routine as something I truly want to do rather than a stop gap measure against too many sedentary hours – another “have to” on a long list dictated by external factors. My relationships are no longer something to be maintained, but something to be enjoyed. Meditation is about connecting with myself, not about calming my mind and discharging anxiety. Perhaps most importantly, my life is no longer organized around what I am supposed to do. I am neither acquiescing to the rules nor rebelling against them. I am finally free to execute around my vision, my values, and my priorities. I can focus on what is important instead of focusing on the urgencies. The frantic pace at which I once lived seems like a

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distant memory. I feel alive with energy and with the wealth of so many possibilities. Best of all, I am making real contributions to the world around me. I now measure success by the quality of those contributions not by the outward trappings of “success.” What if you could create this kind of empowered and fulfilling experience for yourself? What if you could live with this degree of freedom? I know you can and I am longing to see you do it. I can’t wait to see you uncover the limitless potential that awaits you on the other side of committing to yourself.

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Freedom

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ake a moment and imagine pulling that contract out again. This is the old agreement that kept you constantly striving for more. No matter how much you accumulated, your life never felt full. You never felt satisfied. These old rules informed an old way of living that left you feeling impoverished, alone, and insecure despite all the outward trappings of success and security. Now hold that contract there in your mind’s eye and take a match to it. That’s right. Burn it. Make space for a new contract founded on a new set of values. Let this new contract be about the things that mean the most to you rather than about measuring up to external definitions of what you are supposed to want. Redefine success in terms of your own genuine fulfillment and the quality of your experiences instead of working so hard to fulfill expectations. Move towards a life of overflowing fullness and away from a life that just never seems to deliver satisfaction no matter how much you put into it. Let go of the feelings of confinement and restriction that sap your energy and restore the ease © 2013 Rebecka Eggers


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and suppleness of movement that once inspired you to greet the day with excitement. Confront those old fears that caused you to bury your dreams in a never ending search for security so you can create a new life in which you can finally really live again. In this new life, your work won’t be about security and accumulation. It will be about creating the material wealth that supports your enjoyment of life. Under your new contract, your strength, willpower, and intelligence will work in tandem with your intuition and your inner guidance to allow you to take innovative and impactful actions in all areas of your life. Your choices will be steeped in the wisdom that comes from truly knowing and accepting yourself. Your passion, your faith, and your creativity will be more powerful than your obstacles. Insecurity will give way to a sense of real competence and confidence that will make it possible for you to participate and collaborate with others. Most importantly, you will be free. Your life will be your own. FIVE – FREEDOM © 2013 Rebecka Eggers


The Quest For Freedom

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f you truly want your freedom you have to take action.

You have to be willing to sacrifice a little of that treasured security to find out what life really has to offer you. You’ve been living in a bubble and it’s time to come out into the world. Any great evolutionary experience requires a quest. When you started your last contract, your quest was to discover what was expected of you and to fulfill those expectations. This quest is different. This quest requires you to discover who you are and what you are really made of. The time for following the rules is past. It is time to find out what YOU want! And what you have to offer. It is time to step outside of everything that gives you a sense of who you are.

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It is time to step into a place where your old selfdefinition (the one handed to you along with that old contract) is no longer relevant. I invite you to leave behind the things you should do for a moment. I am asking you to give yourself some space that isn’t filled with all the things everyone else needs and expects from you. Some space where your old self-definition won’t get in the way of the life you are aching to create. And that means getting away from your home, your work, your friends and family – everything that locks you into the you of today. By stepping into a new environment you will very easily be able to explore who you could really be. This isn’t another spiritual retreat or a stop-gap measure designed to patch you up and send you back to the status quo. This is the stepping off place.

This path will allow you to decide who you really want to be and what you want to contribute to this world. Once you know, there won’t be any other choice. You will simply do it. I was once where you are, searching for the courage to embrace a whole new way of living. I understand your fear and the longing you feel when you connect with the half formed vision of what could be. I know what it feels like to strike a match and burn out all the rules you once thought would deliver your happiness. I have stood in the void space left behind by the fire. Most importantly, I know what it is like to finally choose this new vision with all of your heart and to plant the seeds of a better tomorrow. I will be your guide as you take the first steps toward your freedom and fulfillment.

I am urging you to embark on a bold path that will leave you no choice but to change that outmoded self-definition that no longer serves you. SIX - THE QUEST FOR FREEDOM © 2013 Rebecka Eggers


Heeding the Call

“Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing.” - Helen Keller

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uccess didn’t deliver happiness. Security didn’t turn out to be the panacea you were hoping for.

Now it is time to embark on the daring adventure that will ultimately unleash your passion and open the door to a life that you can really love. Haven’t you waited long enough? Of course you have! You know you have. The only remaining question to be answered is how do you begin. What is the first step? It is really very simple. Passion and adventure are calling you. Answer the call. Start by devoting one

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hour of your life to a process designed to bring you to the edge of your Passion Path where you will: ! Uncover and release some of the limitations that are holding you back; ! Align with the path forward; ! Gain insight into the journey that lies ahead; and ! Make a real commitment to yourself. The hardest part about heeding this call is that you don’t know where the Passion Path will take you. All you really know at this point is that you no longer resonate with the life you have created and that something new is calling you forward.

The first thing I do with my clients is a guided meditation that is designed to fling the doors of the possible wide open. This meditation will allow you to uncover extremely valuable information that will strengthen and guide you as you take the first adventurous steps towards a life you can really love. It will also bring you into full alignment with the future you want to create. Finally, it will help you create a more profound connection to your Higher Self and to the wisdom that will guide you to the resources and opportunities that will sustain you along the path ahead. Click here to answer the call of your Passion Path.

I don’t just want you to walk blindly towards a future you don’t yet understand because you can no longer tolerate the life you have. I want you to answer the call of passion and adventure from a place of peaceful knowing and empowerment. I want you to walk into the future with purpose and vision. That is why I am offering this opportunity to you. SEVEN – HEEDING THE CALL © 2013 Rebecka Eggers

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