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Re-Connecting to Love One Persons method of re -connecting to Love. Copyright 2014 Jonathan W. Errington Published by Jonathan W. Errington Smashwords Edition License Notes This ebook is licensed for your personal enjoyment only. This ebook may not be re-sold or given away to other people. If you would like to share this book with another person, please purchase an additional copy for each recipient. If youâ€™re reading this book and did not purchase it, or it was not purchased for your enjoyment only, then please return to Smashwords.com or your favorite retailer and purchase your own copy. Thank you for respecting the hard work of this author.
Dedication Dedicated to my family, Katy and Samantha
First and foremost I want to thank my parents for instilling in me solid Faith based values. I want to thank Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, whose books have been an inspiration. I want to thank Katy and Samantha for their love and support throughout the years.
I was raised in a Christian home, in fact I was a preacher's kid and for the first thirty years of my life I lived, breathed and ate “church”. I went to VBS, Sunday school, Wednesday night services. There was even a time when I traveled with my father as he went from church to church preaching and evangelizing via revival services. I was part of one of those “holy roller” denominations; you know where we spoke in tongues, danced in the spirit and yes even rolled on the floor occasionally. It was all normal to me as I was a third generation Pentecostal on top of being a preacher's kid. Now I was raised with a strict code of beliefs termed “The Practical Commitments” which contained such edicts as no wearing of jewelry, Don't wear pants, men keep your hair short’ women keep it long. We took these commitments very seriously (they were practical after all) and habitual breaking of these commitments would lead to “disfellowshipping” the equivalent of excommunication. I held to these beliefs well into my teen years and at the age of 15 I felt a divine call to preach and for the next 12 years pursued that life working in my local church then pasturing, briefly, a church of my own. Then the unthinkable happened, something that literally changed my life and beliefs forever; divorce! One did NOT get a divorce in my church! Well in theory anyway. The fact is that the divorce rate in the church was nearly as high as outside of the church, nonetheless it was strongly frowned upon and intentional, or not, I lost my standing in the church and left the fellowship (largely due to my own perceptions and misconceptions). I said it changed my beliefs, well to be honest, my beliefs (i.e The practical commitments ) had slowly been changing. As I matured, both in age and spiritually, I realized that serving God was much more than a set of rules and edicts. I begin to understand that God was about Mercy, Grace – and most importantly- Love. My beliefs now reflect that. I believe that we are His cherished children, that Love is God and God is Love, furthermore God is Holy and so, in my opinion, to love is to be Holy for when we truly love as God loves us we are the most Godlike we can be. Note: The whole idea behind the Practical Commitments was that adhering to them made us holy. Just thought I would mention that. That realization, that God loved me, despite being divorced, despite leaving the fellowship, despite “backsliding” is what truly changed my beliefs, deeply and profoundly. There really is no need for a Declaration of faith or a formal set of beliefs designed to define us. To paraphrase Apostle Paul, If you don’t have love you have NOTHING, all your fancy words contained in your formal statement of beliefs are just a bunch of noise! So my personal faith and personal beliefs can be summed up in these words By Saint John: 7 Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. 8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. 9 This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. 10 This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. 11 Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12 No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us. 13 This is how we know that we live in him and he in us: He has given us of his Spirit.14 And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. 15 If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in them and they in God. 16 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 17 This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are
like Jesus. 18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. 19 We love because he first loved us. 20 Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen,cannot love God, whom they have not seen. 21 And he has given us this command: Anyone who loves God must also love their brother and sister.
1 John 4:7-21 New International Version (NIV) From that realization this book was born. I try not to be over religious, nonetheless, due to my up bringing, there is a distinct undertone of Christianity although not the brand I was taught growing up. In is my hope that you will realize that Love really is a living breathing force for good in this world and that if we can, somehow reconnect with Love we too can be a force for good.
Lost and Forgotten
I truly wonder if we really know who we are, what we are. In my opinion, we have forgotten. Who and what we are has become so muddled and downplayed over the last few thousand years. It really is no surprise that mankind is so confused and divided. We have forgotten who and what we are because we have forgotten what Love is. I feel that Love is an all powerful, all knowing, force of pure spirit and energy that is the cohesiveness that holds this universe together right down to the smallest organism. It is written that Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love does not end. So why have we forgotten Love? It seems to me this is why we are lost. Why? We have replaced Love with Fear. Fear is a weapon that is used to compel people into conforming a certain way of thinking or dogma. If anything, love should remind us of who and what we are. We are NOT sinners in the hands of some angry deity, but rather children of Love, The Spirit of Love bears witness with our spirit that we are indeed the children of Love.
Remembering Our Love So what is this Love to whom we are connected? Earlier I stated that Love is the all pervasive force that holds us and the universe together. This Love formed us out of the dust of the earth and breathed LIFE into us (See Genesis 2)! The very essence of Love itself has been imbued into the very fabric of our being! It is what animates us, without our Love we are zombies! But those of us who are connected to love know full well the power of Love and abiding in it. We are told the very Spirit of Love dwells in those whose mind is set on the things of the Spirit and that this brings LIFE and peace. We are Love!
One with Love
When we choose to dwell, abide and set our mind on the things of the Spirit and choose to dwell and Abide in Love â€“ Our Love â€“ and allow it to dwell in us and come to the full knowledge of what it can do for us and that He and Love are one and that He dwells in us, then we can understand that we are in, of and One with Love, The Divine Love. We are one and the same with Love. We should walk IN Love we should exhibit these characteristics; joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. We should clothe ourselves with compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience. But above ALL we should walk in Love, this is what is truly means to be connected to Love, to BE Love is, then and only then are we truly living LIFE as the children of Love.
BE Love – How? To be love we must first give up the “Mood of Unlove.” John Welwood in his book Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships: Healing the Wound of the Heart describes the mood of unlove thus: “All the most intractable problems in human relationships can be traced back to what I call the mood of unlove¬ a deep-seated suspicion most of us harbor within ourselves that we cannot be loved, or that we are not truly lovable, just for who we are. This basic insecurity makes it hard to trust in ourselves, in other people, or in life itself. Sometimes the mood of unlove shows up in the form of endless bickering and petty irritation, as though both partners were continually looking for reasons to grumble... For example, one couple I worked with described the following incident that led to a week long estrangement. The woman had made her husband tea. When he became upset with her for putting milk in it: “Haven't I told you before that I like to let it steep for a long time first?” The only way to understand how something so trivial could trigger a major conflict is through recognizing what her action signifies for him: In his eyes, she has shown once again that she is not attuned to him and his needs¬ like all the other women in his life, starting with his mother. And for her, when even making him tea becomes an occasion for blame and resentment, this shows, once again, that no matter what she does, she can never win his love. Lurking in the background of this petty incident is the age-old pain of feeling uncared for and unappreciated, which both partners are reenacting once again. ... I have been intrigued by the tenacity and intransigence of the mood of unlove, which can live on in spite of plenty of evidence to the contrary (even when people in our lives do love us) or in spite of many years of psychotherapy or spiritual practice What's worse, the mood of unlove has the power to repel, belittle, or sabotage whatever love is there. … Somehow it fails to convince us that we are truly loved or lovable. In this way the mood of unlove¬ as an expectation that we won't or can't be fully embraced or accepted¬ makes us impervious to letting in the love that might actually free us from its grip.” Above all we must release, once and for all – this perception that we are unlovable. The greatest lie ever perpetrated is that we are unlovable. Nothing could be father from the truth, yet this lie is at the root most dysfunctions not only internally but externally as well.
It has been suggested that we love our neighbors as ourselves. I cannot help but wonder if this mood of unlove is why we have so much trouble loving and relating positively with others. For how can we love anyone if we hate ourselves? Start loving yourself! Dr Wayne Dyer recommends “To begin to change what’s inside you, become more loving toward yourself. In your thoughts, cultivate an inner voice and attitude that’s 100 percent on your team. Imagine an inner self that only supports and loves you. You might schedule a certain time of day when that’s the only thought that you allow yourself to pay attention to. Gradually this loving attitude will extend to other people. You’ll begin to receive this energy back and ultimately be able to send thoughts of love and joy to everyone and everything in your world.” Connecting to Love – BEING Love - starts on the inside with our thoughts, Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change! We must change the way we see ourselves, we are NOT miserable, unworthy wretches. We have been created in the Image of Love, We were fearfully and wonderfully made. When we were being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. His eyes saw our unformed substance; in His book were written, every one of them ,the days that were formed for you and me, when as yet there was none of them That is how much Love loves us whilst we were still without form he saw us and knew us! In a recent article on You Can Heal Your Life Madisyn Taylor the co founder and editor in chief of DailyOM had this to say about loving ourselves:
We have all heard it countless times before: “To experience true love, we first must love ourselves,” or some such variation. However it is stated, the importance of self-love is vital to becoming a healthy, whole human being. We are all children of the universe, created out of love. We accept and love other people, animals, nature . . . all that comes from the same Love we do. We too, then, are worthy of our own love. To honor oneself with caring and acceptance is to honor the universe that created us. Self-love is about fully embracing ourselves, realizing our strengths and accepting our flaws. It is not about being self-centered or self-absorbed, which is based on insecurity and not knowing ourselves. True self-love is a guarantee that we will not succumb to such selfish pursuits. For if we truly love ourselves, we know that we do not need to be the best looking or most talented or have the most possessions. When we love ourselves, we are able to give love freely to others without fear of being hurt or used. We love ourselves enough not to allow others to take advantage of us. And when we are secure in our love of self, we attract the love of others. To learn to love yourself, treat yourself the way you treat those you care about. Be kind to yourself, giving yourself all you need to be happy and healthy. Show yourself a good time by doing things you like. Eat well and take care of your body. Say nice things to yourself. Compliment and praise yourself, just as you would a friend, family member, or lover. Encourage yourself when you are feeling down. And most important, say the words that we all long to hear. Look in the mirror and tell yourself, “I love you.” This can be difficult, but it is a powerful tool in acceptance and self-love. It may not be easy—you may feel foolish at first—but you can do it. Even if you do not feel it right away, keep doing it. Love yourself first, and you will be able to truly love others and to be truly loved in return. Where does her quote stop and your writing resume? Many of us do not take the time to notice and acknowledge how beautiful we are as human beings. We may be great lovers of beauty, seeing it in the people, places, and things around us, while completely missing it in ourselves. Some of us feel that it is vain to consider our appearance too much, or we may find that when we look at ourselves, all we see are imperfections. Often we look in the mirror with expectations and preconceived notions that blind us from seeing ourselves clearly. As a result, we miss the beauty that is closest to us, the beauty we are. Sometimes we see beauty in a shallow way, noticing how well we are conforming to social norms, but failing to see the deeper kind that shines out from within and will continue to do so regardless of how we measure up to society’s ideals. If we can cut through all these obstacles and simply appreciate how beautiful we are, we free up so much energy. We also become less dependent upon the opinions and feedback of others since we become our own greatest admirers. Many of us know that after a great yoga practice or a long, deep meditation, we are better able to see how beautiful we are. This is because we have released some of our baggage, thus unburdening ourselves and summoning forth the spirit that dwells within us. It is the heady combination of the divine spirit and the human body that conveys beauty more accurately than anything else. To keep ourselves in touch with our own beauty, we can surround ourselves with images that reflect it back to us—photos of a relative who has our eyes, images of teachers who embody the same spirit, or self-portraits that capture our essence in a way that allows us to see ourselves anew. The best way to stay in touch with our beauty is to keep looking deeply into our own souls and opening our eyes to the human beings we see in the mirror every day. I urge you to start this practice of looking in the mirror and telling yourself “I Love You! Do it I triple dog dare you! Think on it, dwell on it, conceive it, believe it, and achieve it!
I Am the Love That I Seek
I am the Love that I seek, now what? Re-connecting to Love does not end with learning to love ourselves; this is just the foundation on which we build the energy to send out to others. Consider this statement by Dr. Dyer: “Low energy attracts low energy. Low energy thoughts, such as anger, hate, shame, guilt, and fear, weaken you. And they attract more of the same. By changing your inner thoughts to the higher frequencies of love, harmony, kindness, peace, and joy, you’ll attract more of the same, and you’ll have those higher energies to give away.” Becoming one with Love is not meant to be solely for self improvement and enlightenment. The very essence of its purpose is to serve others. In the above quote Dr. Dyer talks about the “Higher frequencies” of Love, Joy, Harmony, Kindness and Peace. He is not the first one to mention these attributes. The Apostle Paul once said that the manifestation of Love is joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self- control; against such things there is no law.” Again Paul stated “Put on then, as Love's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience.” This was after another dissertation on Spirit or Love. The Term Spirit can be defined the rational spirit, the power by which the human being feels, thinks, decides, the soul, i.e. a simple essence, devoid of all or at least all grosser matter, and possessed of the power of knowing, desiring, deciding, and acting, life giving the spiritual nature of Love, higher than the highest angels and equal to Love, the divine nature of Love, the disposition or influence which fills and governs the soul of any one, the efficient Love of any power, affection, emotion, desire, etc. In essence – Love. Laying aside semantics and religious phrasings Paul’s instructions are to attune to theses Higher Frequencies for the benefit of others! He warns that attuning to the lower frequencies will result in extremely negative consequences! The idea of low energies making one weak and higher energies make one stronger has been around for centuries. Furthermore the idea that attuning to these Higher Frequencies or the Spirit or Love for the betterment of one self and others has been around just as long. This is no “new age” mumbo jumbo but a concept rooted and grounded in history itself. The idea that “what goes around, comes around” as it relates to energy has also been around. Paul tells the Galatians “Do not be deceived: Love is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life.” When we reconnect to Love we are reconnecting to life one filled with vibrancy and energy. Gradually we find ourselves filled with compassion, we find peace and joy, and we find happiness. We discover we are no longer prone to fits of anger, hate or jealously, we see start to see others in a new light, the light of Love. Those mountains in our life become molehills, those obstacles to be avoided become challenges to be overcome. Now people find us a pleasure to be around, find it a comfort to chat with us and generally feel better after talking to us. Then we realize we are living our purpose, at last we are living a life that edifies others and in Christian terms “brings Glory to Love” As we begin to bless others, blessing begin to flow into our lives and we wonder why we ever choose to attune to the lower energies in the first place.
Taking Personal Responsability
In re-connecting to Love we must take responsibility for the choices we have made in our lives. Whilst it is easy to blame a outside influences, when you get right down to it the blame lies at our own feet. Honestly it took a while for this to sink in for me. I wanted to blame society, the church, my parents, my ex, Doctors ETC for the bad things in my life. Finally I realized that I attracted the things in my life. There is no one to blame but me for my obesity. I choose to eat things that I should not in amounts that I should not. I did this, ME no one else. Choice is very powerful it can bind you or it can set you free. If you want to stir things up try to take away someone’s right to choose, you will find that you have a fight on your hands. Love gave us this power and I am sure Love sometimes just shakes his head at the choices we make, nonetheless He allows us to make them, good or bad. With this power comes great responsibility, making a good or bad choice can determine the quality of our lives! As I sit here and reflect on my life choices I can see where some of my choices have not been great ones. With one eye removed and the other eye’s vision severely impaired I find that that I am responsible for the condition of my vision and that of my health in general. The good news is that it is never too late to make a change and as I do, as I constantly renew my connection to Love I find a plethora of options and choices opening up for me. Choosing to connect to Love and maintaining that connection is very rewarding. Love is inexhaustible, Love is perpetual and when we connect we find power and strength that is beyond all understanding. With this magnitude of power it is no wonder that Jesus Christ told us that we could accomplish even more than He did if we simply ask and believe. Did He not say that if we believe, all things are possible, to those that believe? And here we are back to choice and accepting the responsibility of that choice. We can choose to have faith and believe or we can choose to scoff cynically and question if this power exists much less available to us. If we choose Faith we are choosing one of the most powerful forces in the Universe! Jesus talked a lot about Faith. What he was able to do for anyone was based on their faith. For some their great faith resulted in instant healing, for others, lacking faith He could do nothing. Jesus taught that “if you have faith like a grain of mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move, and nothing will be impossible for you.” He also said “whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith. I was taught that “Faith is the substance of things hoped and the evidence of things not seen.” You have heard the old adage “I’ll believe it when I see it” well consider this axiom “I’ll see it when I believe it!” This is the very essence of faith accepting those unseen, unrealized dreams and goals as having already happened. “By faith we understand that the universe was created by the word of Love, so that what is seen was not made out of things that are visible.” We must choose to walk by faith and not by sight, we must choose to tune out doubt and attune to to Love which is the foundation of our faith. And if we choose to waver we must accept personal responsibility when are dreams and desires are not realized.
All Things Possible
Now that we have taken responsibility for our actions and their consequences we have the freedom, the power and the strength to accomplish whatsoever we set our minds to. If you can conceive it, you will achieve it, when you believe it! W. Clement Stone, who turned a $100.00 a week income into millions was a firm believer in having a Positive Mental Attitude and is accredited with saying: “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve with a PMA." He is also noted for saying “A positive mental attitude is necessary for achieving worthwhile success. We in America know what it is for us, for we have inherited the tenets of the Judeo-Christian faiths on which our Constitution, laws and customs have been based...Strive to understand and apply the Golden Rule...Believe that any goal that doesn’t violate the laws of Love or the rights of your fellow men can be achieved” One only had to research his life to see that he walked what he talked! What greater example of connecting and dwelling in Love then to actually manifest our own dreams and desire in our life! As walking in the Love serves to benefit others it is imperative that we put our faith in action, for faith without action is worthless. What has your mind conceived? What Dream do you have and are you dreaming BIG? There isn't anything that can keep you from realizing your dreams, except you! Don’t limit yourself thereby limiting Love, we can overcome and conquer every challenge that comes our way, even if it is self that is getting in the way. When we realize that when we are fully connected to Love that nothing can disconnect us? How many blessings have we robbed ourselves and others of by not coming to a full realization of the core of our strength – Love! Paul told Timothy that we have not been given a spirit of fear, but of power, of love and of a sound mind! We have been given his gift freely! Love, Power and a sound mind go hand and hand. Our power comes from Love and walking in Love brings us peace and harmony which in turn brings a sound mind, a mind that is set on the things of Love! Maintaining a connection to Love requires of us “right” thinking (A Sound Mind) When we begin to change the way we see ourselves as it relates to love we see how much we are loved, how much we are valued and as we think on this we become more like love, it permeates our thoughts and colors our thinking and as we dwell on Love, Love dwells in us and we in turn dwell in Love and before you know it We are one with Love, we BECOME Love. To me, this, above all, shows that we have a sound mind. This way of thinking gives us Power and from this power we get strength, the strength to over come any thoughts of a negative nature, strength to overcome drama, pain, illness and financial troubles. This power and strength allows us to look fear and death in the face without wavering. We can watch the news about all the world's woes and not be afraid because we have the power and the strength to face any challenge, rather it be social or personal! How we think can be the difference between living in harmony with love or operating out of sync with love, As a man thinks, is the core of what and how I feel about Life affirming thoughts. In Proverbs 23: Solomon wrote, "As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he." This is a profound statement, What we think.. We are or we become. I have proven this in my life over and over again, with very negative results. I think "I never have enough money" And guess what.. I never do. I think "I am fat, worthless piece of crap" and guess what? I act like a worthless piece of crap! Dr. Wayne Dyer in his book The power of Intention makes this statement (paraphrased): My inner speech(thoughts) helps me stay focused on what I intend to create now. I release my past circumstances and history. I choose to eliminate thoughts that weaken me, in order to create a match with the universal, supreme intention of Love. He goes on to say: I release all negative feelings and affirm that I have enough, am enough, and do enough. I remember that the sun shines behind every cloud. In essence what Dr Dyer is suggesting is that we can reverse the negative quality of our lives by changing the way the way that we think! And why not? If thinking in a negative way about myself, about others and about life in general has produced a bleak outlook on life thus creating a dismal quality of life (and I KNOW this to be true) then thinking positive things about my life, myself and others can only produce a cheerful, happy outlook which will result in a happy, optimistic, joyful life! So join me is declaring that we are NOT failures. Lets say yes to Love! Here are some Affirmations that will help you in saying yes to Love and Living a life of Power and Strength:
I change the way I look at things, and the things I look at change. I can change what is by changing the way I see it. I attract what I think about, so I only think about what I know will happen. I become what I think about all day. I let go of old habits of limited and negative thinking and open myself up to the possibilities of greatness. My inner speech (thoughts) is relaxed, eliminating thoughts of resistance and allowing the spirit of light and love to flow through me. I align my energy to, and focus my attention on what I want more of.
We Are Not Failures
Because of Love I can say with full confidence and assurance that I am NOT a failure. In fact I can say, boldly that I have never failed. And so can YOU. Yes it is that simple, Conceive, Believe and achieve! So the Good News is this, there is NO criticism for those that abide in Love (Jesus) and there is nothing that can disconnect us from Love! There is no longer a need for us to think in terms of failure, we no longer have to be subject to harsh criticism and false accusations of worthless. Living a life of Power â€“ Reconnecting to Love gives us a Purpose and that Purpose is to BE Love and in doing so Love and serve others! MADE PERFECT IN OUR WEAKNESS
OK so we should serve others, but I have so many problems and struggles of my own, so much weakness and so many cares, I worry and I am anxious all the time. How can I possibly be of service to others?? This is a valid question one that deserves a valid answer. This is one of the major areas in which we need to re-train ourselves to focus on Love and not on our shortcomings. When you focus on something, when you dwell on it, think on it the object of your focus will loom large in your view, in some cases overwhelming us to the point of hopelessness and despair. The good news I bring today is that in love we can serve others despite any perceived shortcomings! This is GREAT news! We do not have to be perfect Love makes no such demands. When we eagerly, with zeal and enthusiasm put others before ourselves then we are pursuing the highest calling of the Life and as such Love will take care of us!! Love is our strength, a mighty fortress in the time of trouble Love is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear though the earth gives way, though the mountains be moved into the heart of the sea,though its waters roar and foam, though the mountains tremble at its swelling. Love is sufficient for us and in our weakness Love is made perfect! We can do all things through love which is our strength!
Serve One Another
Through Love serve each other. A powerful statement if ever I have heard one. If Love is our highest goal then to serve each other is our highest calling! Service to others requires that we have our minds set on the things of the Spirit and not the things of the flesh. Yes our failures have been forgiven and forgotten through the Grace of Love however this does not mean that we should be selfish even though Love and grace may overlook it. We are now made alive in Love and are indeed enslaved to Love. This is why we are told to walk in Love. That we love one another. Now that we are dead to selfishness and are alive in and walk in Love there is absolutely no reason NOT to serve each other. Because we can do all things through Loveserving will be as easy as breathing and should be just as natural. Folks it truly is all about Love, abiding in Love allowing that Love to be in us and walking in that Love, BEING Love. We should eagerly devote ourselves to one another, with zeal and enthusiasm honor one other! Cry and laugh with one another, live in harmony with one another! We could even go so far as to pray for those that persecute us and to attend to the needs of our enemies! Beloved, we are the salt and the light of this world, Love has provided a free gift to ALL people and as Ambassadors of Love it our duty is to love each other hereby showing them we are Disciples of Love! After all Jesus said: “I give you a new commandment – to love one another. Just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. Everyone will know by this that you are my disciples – if you have love for one another.” If we are connected to Love then people will see the Love when they see us and how we treat each other! Now there is nothing wrong with standing up for ourselves or taking a stand on behalf of what we believe. But when our passion and zeal for self compels us to fits of anger and causes us to add to or to stir up strife, dissension, discord, divisions, enmity or rivalries then we are giving in to the nature of self, rather than walking in the Spirit or in Love. Jesus said that “Love is a Spirit and those that worship Him must so in truth and Spirit. Paul tells us we should “Walk in the Spirit” If there is anything in we are passionate about it is our freedom especially personal freedom. However we are warned not to let our freedom be used to destroy one another! Man, oh man how some folks get so angry at each other over such petty things! We get soooo mad and irate at this or that political leader or party and the words and rhetoric start to fly – not to mention the fur! Before we know it we are slandering one another, condemning one another, backbiting, arguing, protesting and in some cases physically fighting each other all because we think we are right and the other guy or gal is just so very very wrong! We get so wrapped up in the “right fight” or “taking a stand” that we forget we are here to serve each other! We should love ourselves then our Neighbor!
Just who is our Neighbor? To my way of thinking any other man irrespective of nation or religion with whom we live or whom we chance to meet. A wider interpretation includes in it those outside the tie of nation or kindred. Let me put it this way, your fellow man! We don't have to agree with their way of thinking or their assessment of life, their policies or personal beliefs but we do have to love them. Not just pay lip service to an abstract concept of love, but actually be patient and kind; show them a love that does not envy or boast; that it is not arrogant or rude. That does not insist on its own way; that is not irritable or resentful; that does not rejoice at wrongdoing (especially our own), but rejoices with the truth. WE must show them a Love that bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things and that never ends. In Love there are no “Races, Sexes, Religions, ETC” no male or female, no Christians, no Muslims, no Catholics, ETC. Love is all and is in all. We ALL are Love's chosen and when we do find in necessary to correct or rebuke one another we should do so in gentleness, being careful not to fall to the same error or temptation! So do not allow your love for and zeal for yourself or your “rights” to lead you to error! It is by our love for one another that should be known.
Overcoming Life's Challenges
One of the greatest challenges we can face is learning to be content. We Can Do All Things The secret to being content is that we can do ALL THINGS in Love!! Moreover we should focus on Love the core of our strength instead of our problems! The secret is relying on Love, The secret is Letting go and letting Love! Embrace the secret of contentment!!! LET GO AND BE Love!!! Believing
Folks we have received Love therefore we should walk by faith and not by sight! Therein lies the challenge, to truly walk in faith we have to overcome our senses at times. Despite of what may be right in front of us concerning fear (false evidence appearing real) we must learn that faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen! Move Forward in Faith! We should strive to demonstrate an absolute, unwavering trust in the power of Love. No matter the situation, no matter how dire the circumstances we must trust that love will see us through!! We must hold fast to the promises of Love, it will never forsake us, it will never allow us to beg for bread. If we trust in love it will not turn away! So fight the good fight, run the good race and press toward the mark. Cast out fear through perfect love, overcome doubt by seizing firmly onto Love's promises! It is not enough to merely read these words and say we believe, it is not enough to think we are overcomers or that we can do all things through love! We must put actions to our thoughts and beliefs. We must take that "leap of faith" We must obey Love and be doers if we are to overcome fear and doubt and be successful in our doings! We Can overcome doubt! Anger
Another one of life's challenges can be overwhelming, chronic anger. I have been told that anger is a tool Love gave us to prompt us into action. A tool from the Divine? Maybe, maybe not. A tool that motivates us into action? Indeed! Anger was a key provocateur behind the 9/11 attacks. Anger is the provocateur behind a hefty number of crimes. Anger is the impetus behind child and spousal abuse. Anger is the foundation of road rage, going postal, and school shootings. Anger is why there are Anger Management programs, so yeah anger is a great motivator! All Anger is not bad!
However not all anger is bad or to the above extremes. Anger is an all to common human emotion and can have serious negative effects on your health. Harmful anger can be overcome. So is anger a tool from Love? In the right spirit, yes. Chronic Anger (getting angry over and over about the same thing or holding on to anger over anything) NO. Can it motive us into action? Yes, but it should be RIGHT action tempered by LOVE. Right Action!
What might a right action be? Here are some handy tips from The Mayo Clinic No. 1: Take a timeout Counting to 10 isn't just for kids. Before reacting to a tense situation, take a few moments to breathe deeply and count to 10. Slowing down can help defuse your temper. If necessary, take a break from the person or situation until your frustration subsides a bit. No. 2: Once you're calm, express your anger As soon as you're thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but nonconfrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them. No. 3: Get some exercise Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other favorite physical activities. Physical activity stimulates various brain chemicals that can leave you feeling happier and more relaxed than you were before you worked out. No. 4: Think before you speak In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you'll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others involved in the situation to do the same. No. 5: Identify possible solutions Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Does your child's messy room drive you crazy? Close the door. Is your partner late for dinner every night? Schedule meals later in the evening — or agree to eat on your own a few times a week. Remind yourself that anger won't fix anything, and might only make it worse. No. 6: Stick with 'I' statements To avoid criticizing or placing blame — which might only increase tension — use "I" statements to describe the problem. Be respectful and specific. For example, say, "I'm upset that you left the table without offering to help with the dishes," instead of, "You never do any housework." No. 7: Don't hold a grudge Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want at all times. No. 8: Use humor to release tension Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Don't use sarcasm, though — it can hurt feelings and make things worse. No. 9: Practice relaxation skills When your temper flares, put relaxation skills to work. Practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase, such as, "Take it easy." You might also listen to music, write in a journal or do a few yoga poses — whatever it takes to encourage relaxation. No. 10: Know when to seek help Learning to control anger is a challenge for everyone at times. Consider seeking help for anger issues if your anger seems out of control, causes you to do things you regret or hurts those around you. You might explore local anger management classes or anger management counseling. With professional help, you can: • Learn what anger is • Identify what triggers your anger • Recognize signs that you're becoming angry • Learn to respond to frustration and anger in a controlled, healthy way • Explore underlying feelings, such as sadness or depression Anger management classes and counseling can be done individually, with your partner or other family members, or in a group. Request a referral from your doctor to a counselor specializing in anger management, or ask family members, friends or other contacts for recommendations. Your health insurer, employee assistance program (EAP), clergy, or state or local agencies also might offer recommendations.
Live and Let Live
Live and let live .TheFreeDictionary.com defines it this way: ‘believing that other people should be allowed to live their lives in the way that they want.’ Pretty much sums up how I see it. Honestly I don't want someone telling me how I should live, what I should eat or what I should wear. Therefore I am not going to presume to instruct others. Nonetheless, this portion of Scripture from Romans 7:15 comes to mind: "I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do." I can truly relate to what Paul was saying here I want to live and let live all the time, but sometimes I open my mouth and insert foot and arrogantly foist my opinion of what someone should do or how someone should live. In essence I am speaking against them and passing judgment. In Conclusion, when it comes to Live and Let Live I am compelled NOT to judge or slander. If I am in a situation where I do state an opinion, I should do so with love and compassion, ensuring that my words edify the person reading or hearing them.
We are not alone, nor are we separate from each other or Love. If we abide in Love and allow love to abide in us then in essence we become Love and can BE Love. What ever mistakes we have made or will make are blotted out by Love. They are like the mist here one moment. and gone the next. We have no need to fear punishment or judgment. No longer must we bear our troubles alone for not only do we have Love to go to we have each other. When we reconnect to Love we reconnect to Power, Strength and Purpose – Serving others. Accomplishing our Purpose all boils down to one thing: Desire. All of the positive thoughts and affirmations will fall short without desire. Honestly, our desire has to be stronger than our doubts, our fears. It has to be stronger than the naysayers and haters. Our desire must fuel our drive and determination, it is the foundation on which we carry out our Purpose. When we want something bad enough we find a way to make it happen. Sometimes the things we want are small, other times they are big, yet our desire propels us to obtain the object of our desire. I echo this word of Paul and urge you to Pursue Loveliness, faithfulness, love, endurance, and gentleness. Finally, brothers and sisters whatever is true, whatever is worthy of respect, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if something is excellent or praiseworthy, think about these things. Let this be your desire.t or praiseworthy, think about these things. Let this be your desire. The End