The Importance to Reward Your Child to Create Success in Your Child’s Life Written By Julie M. Armenta, M.A., Educational & Family Specialist & Founder of Armenta Learning Academy
Raising children is not an easy task. It truly takes a village to shape, impress and nurture a child into a produc ve and welladjusted adult. Helping our children realize their mistakes and correct them is one of the most important jobs we have as parents, teachers and mentors. However, posi ve reinforcement is a must for good behavior and important for success in your child’s life. On an average day, a child receives 20 cri cisms or correc ons for every accolade or compliment they receive. Here are a few recommenda ons for how to administer rewards to your children in an eﬀec ve and mely manner for a successful and promising outcome. Be Posi ve: Posi ve reinforcement is the best behavioral strategy and tool from a parent, mentor or teacher. In order to create balanced or posi ve behavior, it is important to look for the good in your child. It’s as simple as a pat on the back, a quick smile or a high-ﬁve for making the bed or helping a sibling, these li le posi ve gestures will resonate for your child. Be Speciﬁc: Be speciﬁc about what success looks like, such as sta ng, “I like how you cleaned up your room today. Your bed is made, your trash is picked up and your clothes are put away.” It is eﬀec ve and important to be speciﬁc on the behaviors that are being no ced and reinforced to keep your children on the right track of good behavior. Be in the Moment: Spend me daily with your children to connect and build communica on and respect with them. I have no ced many children will act out to get the a en on they need. Just a li le bit of your me goes a long way. We all need quality me with the ones we love. It’s also good to model appropriate behavior to our children during that quality me. Be in Control: At a very young age, parents must make it clear to their children that they, as parents, are the ones in charge. It is a privilege for children to have their own room or a TV or many of the other luxuries provided to them in their in lives. It is alright to have your child’s input, but overall, it is up to the parent to make the ﬁnal decisions with no room for discussion or argument. Children must understand that all they receive must be earned by showing posi ve behavior and a good a tude. Be Crea ve: Reinforce their good behaviors with tokens or anything that tracks the good behavior and has meaning to them, such as a star chart or coins in the jar. This is especially eﬀec ve for younger children. Younger children need the reward to be more immediate to stay focused and disciplined. For older children, reward them with something that has value and meaning to them, such as video game me, TV me, sleepovers with friends or trips to the movies. Daily, weekly and monthly rewards all need to be implemented for all ages. Be Consistent: It is not only important to reward your children, but taking away rewards for poor behavior is a very eﬀec ve tool. If they do not do their homework, they will lose their TV, phone, computer or friend me. Children over eight should receive me outs of 30 minutes and adolescents for over an hour for poor behaviors. If the behavior is severe enough, privileges should be removed for the remainder of the day or week. Be consistent and always stay focused. Children will try to push, but don’t give in to behaviors you don’t want them to exhibit. We don’t want our children to persist with nega ve behaviors and get worse. I highly recommend a schedule be put together for your children. For example, se ng speciﬁc guidelines. School ends and the children get home around 3:00pm. At 3:30pm, homework will be done and if no homework is assigned, read or pre-study for a test is required. Always have them s ck to a study schedule to help them build this habit into their college years and adulthood. At 5:30pm, dinner and family me will commence. Then, a er 6:00pm, children can play games, use the phone or watch TV. It is important to reward the children a er they have done their required work to earn their privileges. It is important to create balance for children in the family to compliment and reinforce good behavior. Make it fun and crea ve! Enjoy your children and you will see great results with all the hard work you put in for consistency, con nuity and communica on. We have a responsibility to our children to give them the tools they need to be eﬀec ve adults and dynamic members of society. The habits, disciplines and behaviors their parents, teachers and mentors ins ll in them will help your children achieve their goals in life. Mrs. Armenta looks forward to working with your child on their academic journey, and having a successful school year. 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Published on Nov 14, 2016
This academic article was written by our founder, Mrs. Julie Armenta about the importance of rewarding your child to create success in your...