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01: Rat, 02: Parrot, 03: Bichon Fris, 04: Penguin, 05: Lemur, 06: Tiger, 07: Butterfly Fish, 08: Tree Python, 09: Sheep, 10: Pig, 11: Racoon, 12: Cat, 13: Zebra, 14: Orangatan, 15: Squirrel, 16: Crab, 17: Giraffe, 18: Deer, 19: Alpaca, 20: Highland Cow, 21: Robin, 22: Dolphin, 23: Panda, 24: Lion, 25: Elephant


CONTENTS: WITNESS...

04. WITNESS Protection

06. Be MY WITNESS

14. See It to Believe It

16. What did you See?

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What amazing things...?

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E M E O K LI ES EAT E AWGR OV L 24. WITNESS Intimidation Quotes

29. Defence WITNESS

Are you willing to stand up..?

38. WITNESS Statement Jokes

10. Aladdin - What does God See?

Interview with Tneek

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Protecting our eyes..?

Things aren’t always as they seem!

17. Eye WITNESS Account

Beware of the Filter!

26. Call the WITNESS

A matter of Perspective!

12. What Do You Hear?

Who are you listening to..?

22. Toy Story

Interview with GB Paraclimber Josh

How do you see yourself?

27. WITNESS for the Prosecution

28. Silent WITNESS

34. The Lion King

36. Reliable WITNESS?

How do you see God?

32. Steve’s Story

From Homeless to Hopeful

Are you listening to Truth?

40. WITNESS Impact Statement Fashion

Wordsearch

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42. WITNESS a Miracle

From the film ‘Breakthrough’

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Witness Protection Witness protection is when a witness to a crime is offered protection because their testimony may lead to the prosecution of someone who has threatened to harm them. It can be in terms of not having to appear in person at court, a safe house or even a totally new identity.

I guess most of us won’t find ourselves in that position but we all need protection from what we witness or allow ourselves to see because these things affect us. We all need to be careful what we watch and see if we want to have a healthy self image and not become desentitised to violence and oppression. Our natural eyes have eyelids, lashes and brows to protect them but we rarely think about protecting our mind’s eyes! If we continually watch violent stuff we start to see it as the norm and maybe even use it; if we are continually watching stuff that portrays a very specific form of beauty it becomes ingrained in our minds; if we continually focus on negative images they start to affect us. The Bible says in Philippians 4:8, ‘Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable — if anything is excellent or praiseworthy — think about such things and the God of peace will be with you’ Do you need to think about protecting your eyes and your mind...? Have a look at the eyes below and see if you identify which animal they come from... Answers on page 2

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Tneek - Be my Witness

In the Bible Jesus tells his disciples to go into the world and to be his witnesses, to tell other people about his love and what they have seen him do. It is called the Great Commission and is found in Matthew 28 v 18-20. Being brought up in a Christian home Tneek knew that God still wants us to do this but a change in her circumstances caused her to turn away from God. Read on to find out how God was still working in her life even when she had turned away from him and how she is now using her music to fulfil the great commission...

How would you describe yourself ?

My name is Tneek - I would say I am a female, Christian rapper who is married with 2 children. I am quite driven, ambitious and focussed.

What were you like as a child?

I grew up in a Christian household and my parents were very involved with the local church so I was always at church. I have a younger sister and brother as well as an older brother. I was quite an introvert as a young girl but somewhere along the line that changed and I became quite bubbly and definitely a people person.

What did you want to be when you were younger? I wanted to be a pharmacist. I loved science and thought something involving medicines would be interesting.

So how did you get into rapping?

My family were quite musical, I learnt the piano as a child and I also loved poetry so I was excited when I discovered rap because it combined music and poetry. And the fact that it was poetry with a bit of attitude made it even more appealing!


When did you become a Christian?

I was raised in church so my foundation was always Christianity and I did experience God in my younger years but when my parents split up and things got a bit rocky it really knocked my faith. We had been living in a perfect bubble and then it was gone and I didn’t know what to think. How could God let this happen...? I resented God and the church so I fell away from it all. I felt that we weren’t given much support and so I turned to other people and things. My life got quite out of control and I got into various relationships, making illegal money and smoking. I became someone who I didn’t think I would be. I didn’t know who I was any more and I felt traumatised and depressed. I was in a

downwards spiral and I didn’t know how to get out. But I remembered my upbringing and in the middle of the night at a friend’s house I literally went on my knees in the bathroom and cried out to God to help me. From that moment on things began to change. I was desperate and from then on it seemed that God brought people across my path who I wouldn’t have associated with church, including my husband! He was a drummer at his church and his whole family is very involved in their local church. We became friends and he invited me to church. I was sat at the back

trying not to listen but something cracked and I found myself walking to the front to recommit myself to God. When I say walking I really felt like I was floating, I don’t actually remember agreeing to go I just felt like God was drawing me to the front.

Has it all been easy since then?

No, not at all! At first when I came back I was wishing that I hadn’t had such dark, negative experiences because it has been hard to get away from the recurring negative thoughts and selfdoubt. I had loads of questions and it was hard to break habits, addictions and temptations. So it was a very long road. It was also very difficult because I felt everyone at church looked so perfect

as if they had everything sorted and I didn’t so I found it hard to relate. I have had to trust God to help me and move through all those feelings and rebuild my faith in Him alone.

Do you have a favourite Bible verse that helps you when things are tough?

Not really! My relationship with God was rekindled through crying out to God in prayer and so that is my default response when things are tough. I do read my Bible and know the value of it’s wisdom and power but prayer is my first reaction.

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What is the message behind your music?

I guess I would sum it up as, ‘You can be who you are called to be, regardless of your past!’ So don’t try to be someone else just be you.

Where do you get your inspiration from?

My life and the things I see. Before I came back to God I was with a collective called SoundBwoy Entertainment and then I went as a solo artist and did a couple of music videos. I did a couple of mix tapes but the second one never got released because it was due for release after I came back to God and He was convicting me as the lyrics were from my old life that I was now leaving behind. My first EP entitled R.I.C.H (Restored from Iniquities Clothed in Honour) was about my struggles and

being transparent about who I am now with God on my side having now been restored from my sins and transformed into the Royal Family of Christ. Despite what I have been through God is with me and I can overcome things with his help.

Do you have a favourite song to perform? ‘No Stress, No Drama’ which is my latest music video - it has a real dancey, afro Caribbean vibe and enables people to loosen up and have fun!

Where are you looking to ‘go’ with your music?

I am hoping to go international! I feel like the UK is somewhat saturated and although I want to gain some recognition here, I feel there is huge international potential, particularly for Christian/ Gospel music. I would also love to go into the UK secular arena to uplift and inspire young people. I am in the process of working out how to do this rather than going back to my job in construction. So I am really looking for God to open a door.

What is the most amazing thing you have ever witnessed? I would say seeing how God has transformed my life!

What is the best advice you have been given?

Just to be yourself. It is very cliche but still so true. Even as an artist it is very easy to look at others and think maybe I should do what they are doing or this is what is ‘in’ so I need to follow trend. You’d think it should be easy to be yourself but it is actually hard because we want to fit in and be validated by others. It is so easy to just follow trends and let other people dictate who we are rather than being yourself!


Do you have any examples of God’s protection in your life...?

Yes! When I finished university and my parents had split up I got involved with the wrong crowd. Money was tight and when someone suggested credit card fraud it seemed an easy way to make ends meet. I would go into stores and buy expensive things with other people’s cards and sell them for quick cash. I was good at it! But I stopped and they got another girl to do it right after me and they all got arrested and sentenced to time inside – this is ONE of the many testimonies of God’s grace I have. Looking back I was so close to my life ending up going down a completely different path! Even though I wasn’t following God’s plan for my life he was still protecting me.

What about any examples of God’s leading in your life...?

My entire life! We all like to plan out how we want life to go but often it just doesn’t happen that way. But I have seen God open so many doors and bless me and my family so much with his favour in situations. I’m just following his lead. My daughter was born at 29 weeks, she weighed just 2lb because I had severe pre-eclampsia and we were both lucky to make it. I liked to be in control and this certainly threw everything out the window, I felt like I had no control. I knew I had to leave it all with God and let him pull it all together. It can be hard at times but he really

does know what he is doing! So now I try to put 100% trust in God, he knows best.

Do you have any advice for young people who are not sure about all this ‘God’ stuff...?

Try him, give him a go! It will transform your life but it won’t be easy, in fact it can be quite tough but you will experience his protection and favour. Without God I wouldn’t be here so persevere, be patient and see what God will do!

Do you have any causes close to your heart that you don’t want to be silent about...? I want young people, everyone, to know that God loves them and that they should love themselves

too. With social media people are under such pressure to be a certain way, to follow certain fashions and trends, to fit in – and even as Christians we can fall into that way of thinking. We look for validation and acceptance from the wrong places. We need to understand that God loves us as we are and make that our foundation.

You can check out Tneek at www.tneek.com Insta @tneek Facebook @tneek Twitter @iamtneek

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Only one may enter here! One whose worth lies deep within, the diamond in the rough!

Photo credits: Daniel Smith

This is a live-action re-telling of the 1992 animated version – it looks like they have pretty much stuck to the same story and hopefully the same songs! Aladdin is a street urchin who falls in love with Princess Jasmine, the daughter of the Sultan of Agrabah. Together they foil a plot by the sultan’s wicked advisor, Jafar, who plans to overthrow the Sultan by getting his hands on the magic lamp. There are various twists and turns in the plot as not everything is as it appears. Jafar isn’t a reliable confidante to the Sultan, Jasmine is a princess and Aladdin is not a prince. Thankfully the characters manage to see beneath the outward appearances and a happy ending ensues!

Photo credits: Daniel Smith


What does God see...?

Photo Credits: Walt Disney Studios Motion Pictures UK

We only witness the outside of a person rather than what is inside. We make assumptions or

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totally wrong. Obviously it would be gross if we could see the physical insides but I’m talking

about the emotional insides and what goes on in our minds.

I can’t see what is going on in your head and whether you are doing well or not – but one

thing I do know is that God loves you and has a plan for you. The Bible tells us that only Jesus

was able to take the punishment for the wrong stuff we have done because he was perfect. In Aladdin only one could enter the cave of

wonders but God’s invitation to be part of his family is not limited – he thinks we all have worth!

So don’t let anyone tell you that you don’t matter...

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What we hear is as important as what we see and can sometimes be more important. If we hear negative comments all the time it affects how we see ourselves. The more we hear something the more we start to believe it and live it. So who or what are you listening to? Are you listening to people who are always making negative comments or trying to put you down? Are you listening to the world’s definition of happiness or beauty? Are you listening to what other people say about you?

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Or are you listening to what God says about you? Maybe you don’t know what he does say about each of us...? In the Bible God says: We see that anyone united with Jesus gets a fresh start, is created new. The old life is gone; a new life begins! 2 Corinthians 5 v 17 Our friends, we know that God loves you and has chosen you. 1 Thessalonians 1 v 4 Even the hairs of your head have all been counted. So do not be afraid; you are worth much more than many sparrows! Luke 12:7 And my God will supply your every need according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19 Now everyone who calls on the name of Jesus will be saved. Romans 10:13 Cast all your anxieties and worries on him, because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Psalm 139:14 For I know the plans and thoughts that I have for you, says the Lord, plans for peace and well-being and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11 For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. Ephesains 2 v 10 Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go. Joshua 1:9

And in John 3 v 16 it says that he loved us so much that he sent his son to die for us – why not listen to what he says and see 13 the difference it makes to your life!


S SE EE E IIT T TO TO B BE ELLIIE EV VE E IIT T!! If you watch the news you could be forgiven for thinking that the world is full of horrible people, places and things but there are also some spectacular ones too. There are some really inspiring people, some breathtaking places and some amazing things that we can witness. Sometimes we take them for granted though and forget how amazing they really are. They just become part of our every day lives and the magic is lost. For some things we want to see it for ourselves before we believe it – maybe we have seen someone else’s photos or heard them talking about something but it is not the same as actually experiencing it for ourselves. In the Bible, in John 20:2429, it says that one of Jesus’s disciples, Thomas, was like that. He had heard from the others that Jesus was alive but he didn’t believe it because he hadn’t seen him and thought it couldn’t possibly be true. But then he meets with Jesus and sees for himself that he is alive and his world is changed! Maybe you have heard people talking about Jesus but haven’t experienced him for yourself. Maybe you think it couldn’t possibly be true that he could love someone like you. Or maybe you just don’t think it is relevant to you. Wherever you find yourself why not give God a go and see for yourself how amazing he is...? Rather than just looking at someone elses ‘photos’ and thinking it looks nice but I’m not sure it would be the same for me, why not take a decision to find out more...? We asked some of you to tell us the most amazing thing, person or place that you have ever seen and here is what you said.... Thanks to Ellie and the group from Minehead.

Looking down and around at the ski slopes and seeing the snowy mountains.

My PE teacher inspires me to always try my hardest and do my best.


Standing on Tower Bridge looking at the view of London on either side.

In Kefalonia, seeing the Ancient Greek ruins.

My mum because she gives me confidence and is a good role model.

The view on the hills in Corsica. My mum because she cooks really nice food.

Swimming in the Secret Lagoon in Iceland.

Being in the sun in Spain.

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What did you see...? If you have ever been unfortunate enough to witness an accident the police are likely to have asked you what you saw. They want to know what you saw happen so they can piece everything together. The trouble is that often we don’t see things clearly or certain bits stick out and others are left out. Some people remember the colours whilst others remember the sounds. Some will remember minute details whilst others focus on the bigger picture. And so sometimes accounts of an event can differ because we all see things through our own filter even though we don’t notice or acknowledge it’s there. Life can be the same and without realising it we view people, events and words through OUR filter. We assign certain characteristics or feelings towards people we haven’t met because we use OUR filter. When we hear certain words or see different events we make assumptions through OUR filter. Of course sometimes OUR filter is correct but there are other times when we miss out, feel hurt or misjudge others because it is a filtered view rather than reality. This can often be the case when we hear about God or Christian things. OUR filter can immediately come into play and we assign whatever is being said to the boring or irrelvant pile. But what if it is true and God really does love you and want to be part of your life? Why not take a closer look at God and you may realise he isn’t boring at all!

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Eye Witness Account It is hard to witness a major accident and not be affected in some way but for most of us that is the worse it will be, we won’t actually be in an accident. When Josh Senior, a climbing instructor from Kent, was in his twenties his life was changed dramatically when all his ‘what would happen if I fall’ thoughts became reality. Josh gives us his account of what it has been like and how his faith in God has helped him not only to cope but to live life to the full...

Can you tell us a bit about yourself?

I am 30 and married with two little boys and another child on the way. I’m a climber so that is how I spend a huge amount of my time.

Were you always into climbing?

Yes and no. I was always very active as a child but real rock climbing wasn’t something I did until I was about 16. However if there was something to climb I would be there whether it was a tree or a building. So I was very excited to find out it was actually a sport and I spent too much of my study leave for GCSEs at the climbing wall that had just opened down the road from me. I was never very academic, not dim but none of the subjects really excited me so the idea that I could do climbing was great. I wanted to get my A levels then get a job as an outdoor instructor and teach people to climb. I got a job at a Christian outdoor centre and I loved

it. Being able to climb and have Christian support around me was an incredible privilege. But in reality the job has a fairly short shelf life and so in my mid twenties I was starting to wonder what my next step would be. The fire service was something that appealed especially as you work shifts and I could spend my days off still climbing but then things changed and life took a very different turn.

Can you tell us about that ?

I had an accident. I was up a tower installing some new equipment that the manufacturers said had been tested but it hadn’t. I fell 35 feet, hitting the ground incredibly hard and I don’t remember much of next week! As they brought me round I found my ankle had metal rods sticking out and an external cage, my wrist had a metal plate and I had broken my back in two places so nothing worked from my waist down. continued overleaf...

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happy with it and said they needed to redo it to hopefully give me more flexibility and movement. Another 8 hour operation didn’t sound fun and there was a 10% mortality risk as well as a 40% chance of no improvement or making it worse. I remember ranting at God and feeling hard done by, where was the justice in this and what had I done to deserve it. But generally I managed to keep well balanced and remember I was lucky to be alive.

When and why did you become a Christian?

It was classed as an incomplete spinal injury which means that although the spinal cord wasn’t completely severed they couldn’t be sure what my recovery would be like so it was a question of wait and see. I would need to learn to operate a wheel chair as the likelihood of walking was very remote. It was a massively life changing moment for me and my fiancée.

How did you get your head round all that?

It has definitely been a process with pretty dramatic peaks and troughs but I like to think that I handled it as well as possible – my wife might say differently! Fairly early on I recognised the extent of my injuries as I had spent a lot of time climbing and wondering what would happen if I fell off here. I knew I was lucky to be alive at all and I used that as a positive driving force to move forward. Life might be very different to what I had expected but it can still be good so what steps can I take to do that. When I was transferred to Stoke Mandeville I took every opportunity, whether it was talks, lessons, workshops or sports, to be first in the queue because I saw it as a way to learn and optimise my chances. That makes it sound like it was all positive but there were long nights on the ward with nothing but my thoughts to occupy me and there were some really bleak moments. Before I arrived there I had already had an 8 hour operation but the doctors there weren’t

It is not a very dramatic story because I grew up in committed Christian family. My dad is a vicar so I never had a major experience it was just something I accepted as I grew up. In my teens I started to question whether Christianity was something for me to take on board for myself. I never rebelled in any big way but I definitely had questions that needed to be processed. By my late teens I found that for me faith was the only way I could explain life. There were lots of moments that could be put down to coincidence but seemed to me to be divine influence. Life just seems more together and to make more sense with God. Getting a job at the outdoor centre helped consolidate my faith as each day started with prayer and bible study. After my accident I guess I could have taken a different stance. I could have decided that God wasn’t fair and been angry or I could trust that God knows what he is doing and can use this.


I chose the latter and I have kept going back to this over the years, that God has a purpose for me! Of course I wanted to be healed and for everything to go back to the way things were, but I also wanted God to use me in the situation I found myself in. My physical body is not as important as my relationship with God and having that mindset has helped me focus on being me and wanting to be used by God rather than just viewing myself as disabled. I am still trying to figure it all out and some days are easier than others but I don’t want to be defined by my injuries. There is no verse in the Bible that says life will all be rosy as a Christian, we need to trust God and see what he will do.

What do you do when life is tough or you’ve had difficult decisions to make?

Pray! One of the biggest decisions I have had to make was whether to have my ankle amputated. As I was going through recovery I was more and more on my feet which was great as they thought this might not be possible but my ankle was in agony. The consultants advised me that amputation was the best option which obviously left me with a very difficult decision. It would have been easier if it just affected me because I was sick of the pain. If it went well it would unlock more mobility and I would be able to do more, be in less pain and function better. However the counter argument was that if it went wrong I would be disabling myself further and that

would have a knock on effect on my wife and any family we might have. So I took a lot of time to think and pray and we asked lots of other people to pray and advise too. It was a hard process as we had to be really honest with people about where we were at and how we felt. We had some fascinating conversations, some were great, some not so good and some confusing and amusing! One person was adamant that to cut off my ankle was not allowing God to heal me, but I believe in a miracle working God and I believe he could grow my ankle back if he wanted to do so. But it did make me consider how we all put limits on God and how he works. I decided to trust that God had put the right consultants around me and I went with their advice.

How did you get into to climbing for GB?

This was a fair amount of time down the line. The amputation gave me a new lease of life. I’d had 6 months of inpatient rehab two years earlier so I knew it is best to be in good shape beforehand to aid your recovery. So in the run up to the operation I got in to as good a shape as possible. It worked because I was in and out of hospital in a month! I was chomping at the bit to see what I could do. I took a personal training course and there was a climbing wall there so I gave it a try. I heard about a national para-climbing series which was open to anyone and I decided to give it a try.

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I was appalling to be honest and it hammered home that my body was not the same and nothing moved instinctively any more. It was a very different sensation altogether but I caught the bug and was excited to be climbing again. It felt like a big step and I enjoyed competing so I decided to do some training for the next year. I came third and was invited to join Team GB. I have just been selected for my third year on the team.

Where do you think that might go?

I am just taking it as it comes. I love climbing and it is the World Championships year which is the biggest event bar the Olympics. Climbing will make it’s debut at the 2020 Olympics but not the Paralympics. I’m hoping I will still be on the scene when it does. So I am training for the Worlds but also enjoying other sports. I love pushing myself and experimenting so for 2019 I have set myself 12 monthly challenges to raise money for the Air Ambulance that helped me back in 2010. I am doing obstacle courses, half marathons and a marathon row, all of which looked impossible in the early days after my accident. Just being able to contemplate doing them is fantastic. They are all different and require different training but I love a challenge and who knows where it will lead. I often go into schools and talk to staff and pupils about my experiences as part of Inspire in Sport. I want to help them recognise their own capabilities and options.

Do you have a favourite Bible verse & why?

Before my injuries it was Isaiah 40 v 28 to the end and it became even more meaningful after my accident. Going through rehab it felt so significant and I was able to see that God has this in hand and has got a plan. He will renew my strength and enable me to do stuff that literally seemed impossible. ‘Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.’

What is the best thing you have done or the thing you’re most proud of?

Definitely my kids – they are wonderful and I wouldn’t change a thing about them – which is easier to say when they are quiet and in bed! I’m so proud to be part of their upbringing and helping them. After that it would be learning to walk again. When I talk in schools I’m often asked what is my greatest achievement and people expect it to be some medal


Check out Josh on twitter @senior_josh or on facebook @paraclimbingjosh or on Insta @Josh_Senior but it is still walking because it seemed so unlikely. My consultant is still amazed when I go for my yearly check ups that I managed, with the help of the medics and God to make such progress. It was such hard work doing the same exercises over and over and seeing little change on a day to day basis but over time those minute improvements all added up. It would have been easy to give up and think it was too difficult but all those frustrations were worth it.

operation day in prayer and that peace followed me for the whole two weeks. I felt at peace and fine with what was about to happen as I knew God was in control. When I was wheeled down to theatre the nurse stopped to check I understood what was going to take place as I seemed so calm! God had changed my mindset and although it was just a fleeting prayer, that I had no expectation of even working, he heard me.

What is the most amazing thing you have Do you have any advice for young people who are not sure about all this witnessed, heard or seen...? ‘God’ stuff ? I’m not sure it is the most amazing but it is probably the most significant thing and that is my second operation. The day I was told that I would need another 8 hour operation was horrendous. I hit rock bottom. I definitely hit the angry stage and was ranting and shouting at God. But even in all that pain and sense of bleakness there was a tiny part of me that cried out to God for peace. It was going to be at least a couple of weeks and I didn’t need this anxiety and stress. I went to bed still upset and angry but I woke up completely at peace. Someone at church had organised a prayer chain to cover every hour of the

I think it would be that it is OK to ask questions. If you have been brought up in a Christian family there is almost an expectation that you will just follow but it is important to recognise that it is OK to have questions and doubts. So seek out people you trust and who you deem to be wiser than yourself, that was easy for me, and ask! Have those conversations and be honest about what you are thinking because then faith is more real and powerful because you have made it your own rather than just following someone else.

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How do you see yourself...? Toy Story 4 sees Tom Hanks reprise his role as Woody. The cowboy has always seen his role as being there for and taking care of his owner, whether that was the now grown up Andy or more recently Bonnie. This adventure introduces Bonnie’s new ‘toy’, Forky, who struggles with his identity and sense of belonging. Bonnie takes all the toys on her family road trip and they meet some new friends as well as reuniting with Bo Peep, who has a very different experience as a toy to the rest of Andy’s gang.

Photo Credits: Walt Disney Studios Motion Pictures UK


Maybe you are like Woody and know what your role is and where you fit in...? Maybe you are like Forky and don’t think you fit in...? Or maybe you are somewhere in the middle because some days you figure you have everything sorted but other days life seems to get the better of you and you feel like nothing is going right...? The good news is that wherever you find yourself on that scale God knows and he has a plan for you. You may not think you are anything special or that you have any value but God does. Your value isn’t based on what you can do or where you ‘fit’ but just on the fact that he loves you and that never changes! So whether you feel like a ‘Woody’ or a ‘Forky’ just remember that

GOD LOVES YOU AS YOU ARE!

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Witness Intimidation Witness intimidation is when a witness is put under pressure not to testify at a trial. They or their family may be threatened with violence to stop them taking to the witness box and justice being done. The accused or their associates use fear to try and pervert the outcome of a trial.

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I think we can all suffer from witness intimidation. It is something that we probably don’t even really acknowledge and yet it can have a real impact in our lives – social media! For example the ‘like’ button on our posts! Our lives can be disrupted by this one very small thing. How many ‘likes’ did your post get? Who liked it? Should I post this? Do I look good in this? Will people think I’m cool? We are intimidated by what others might think!

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Then there are other people’s posts! Their lives look so together and so great that we assume nothing is wrong and everything is fine. We can assume that our lives should look the same and if they don’t then there is something wrong with us, or we need to change. We can be fearful that we don’t live up to their standard whatever that might be... We can forget too that other people’s posts are only edited hi-lights of their lives.

So next time you are feeling intimidated just remember that God loves you and thinks you are worth dying for, no matter what anyone else thinks! Take a look at the quotes below and see if you would give them a ‘LIKE’ ...

Sometimes, in the midst of a tragedy like the Newton massacre, we witness incredible acts of valour, tenderness, grace, and decency. We saw it from Sandy Hook Elementary School’s teachers, students, and parents, as well as from their community and country. The outpouring of sympathy and help has been touching and, at times, inspiring. Campbell Brown

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Vision is the art of seeing what is invisible to others. Jonathan Swift

There’s beauty everywhere. There are amazing things everywhere, you just have to be able to open your eyes and witness it. Some days, that’s harder than others. Sarah McLachlan

Most conversations are simply monologues delivered in the presence of a witness. Margaret Millar

Contrary to popular assumptions, the Bible is not a record of the blessed good, but rather the blessed bad. That’s not a typo. The Bible is not a witness to the best people making it up to God; it’s a witness to God making it down to the worst people. Tullian Tchividjian

We buy the tabloids to witness someone else’s life go wrong, so we can feel a bit better about our own troubles. Taylor Negron

The man who insists upon seeing with perfect clearness before he decides, never decides. Accept life and you must accept regret. Henri Frederic Amiel


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You witness a lot as a journalist, and what you witness becomes a part of you. Francisco Goldman Nothing makes it easier to resist temptation than a proper bringing-up, a sound set of values - and witnesses. Franklin P. Jones

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You can become blind by seeing each day as a similar one. Each day is a different one, each day brings a miracle of its own. It’s just a matter of paying attention to this miracle. Paulo Coelho

E M E O W K T O I S W L E EAOW E E W M E R E V AIKG SO OE T M L EILKEASO T E A L W E R A G WOVRE VE AL G O E L Perfect valour consists in doing without witnesses that which we would be capable of doing before everyone. Francois de La Rochefoucauld The next time you see a spider web, please, pause and look a little closer. You’ll be seeing one of the most high-performance materials known to man. Cheryl Hayashi

Empathy is about standing in someone else’s shoes, feeling with his or her heart, seeing with his or her eyes. Not only is empathy hard to outsource and automate, but it makes the world a better place. Daniel H. Pink The world is the true classroom. The most rewarding and important type of learning is through experience, seeing something with our own eyes. Jack Hanna Worship is a way of seeing the world in the light of God. Abraham Joshua Heschel

Seeing things from a different point of view can help us understand why other people act the way they do. We too often judge people without having all the facts. Sean Covey

Not everyone has been a bully or the victim of bullies, but everyone has seen bullying, and seeing it, has responded to it by joining in or objecting, by laughing or keeping silent, by feeling disgusted or feeling interested. Octavia E. Butler

Judgements prevent us from seeing the good that lies beyond appearances. Wayne Dyer Courage consists not in blindly overlooking danger, but in seeing it, and conquering it. Jean Paul

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‘Call the witness’ is what a judge might say to the lawyers in court. Depending on whether they are a defence or prosecution witness may mean their version of events will vary. It can be the same in day to day life. When you listen to somebody talking about an event that you attended you can be left thinking where was I? The way they tell it seems to be completely different to the way you saw it. And yet it was the same event. So are they wrong or are you? Or could you both be right? Sometimes we see things one way and we assume that our way is the only way of seeing it. But other people may see it from a different angle. We can dismiss their views as incorrect or we can realise that there are differing opinions and views on virtually everything. It can be based on whether you are naturally a positive or negative thinker. Are we a glass half full or half empty thinker? Do we see a mistake as an opportunity to learn or as a failure? For all of us there will be times when things are good and life seems easy but there will also be times when they are bad and life is difficult. But how we respond to it can make all the difference. The Bible says in Romans 8 v 28, ‘All things work together for the good of those who love God.’ If we remember this it could make a difference to the way we respond to our circumstances. So next time things aren’t going well or you feel upset and disappointed take a moment to see if there is another way of looking at it...?

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SILENT WITNESS

Silent Witness is a TV drama series that looks at the work of pathologists and scene of crime investigators in solving crimes. The case is not solved through listening to statements from witnesses but from silent witnessess such as fibres, blood, prints and the like. But there is another type of silent witness and I think we all often fall into this category. We witness something that we know isn’t right, though not necessarily criminal and we do nothing about it – we keep silent... In the Bible Jesus talks about how we can be the sort of people who do the right thing or not. It is called the parable of the sheep and the goats and can be found in Matthew 25:31–46. It is not saying that doing right things makes you a Christian but if we say we are a Christian then we shouldn’t be silent or do nothing when people are in need. Doing nothing is often the easy option and therefore many of us take this position. Maybe if we try to put ourselves in other people’s situations we will understand the need to do something, however small, to help. See if you can find the words and phrases associated with witness in the grid below... A CRIME

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Defence Witness

A defence witness is someone who comes and speaks on behalf of the accused and gives them an alibi or character reference. They are there to help the lawyers defend their client against whatever accusations have been brought. But justice isn’t always done and sometimes it seems that those who can afford the best defence lawyer get off whilst those who can’t afford one are found gulity. You might never be called to be a defence witness in a court of law but we are all called to defend those who can’t, for whatever reason, defend themselves. We are all supposed to think about others and especially the most vulnerable in society, not just assume it isn’t our concern. This is what led a group from Birmingham to sleep rough for the night – to support the homeless... Birmingham City Mission has worked with Birmingham’s homeless community since its very beginning in 1966, offering food, friendship and support to some of our city’s most vulnerable and marginalised people via it’s care centre. To raise money for the work of the centre 96 hardy souls aged 10 to 77 years slept out to help Birmingham’s homeless in the middle of February. A BCM staff member, Steve, said on the night: ‘The money that you raise this evening is allowing us to get people off the streets. Homelessness is real but it’s also solvable. There are success stories and what you are doing this evening is creating more of those success stories.’ We asked some of those involved to tell us what it was like...

Please tell us a bit about yourself?

Lydia - I’m 15, one of five kids, brought up in a Christian family and have always attended a local church. I became a christian at about the age of 12. I am so thankful to God for giving me everything I have, including my home and family. Amelie - I’m 16 years old and live with my mother. I enjoy art and movies. I have always been a Christian and was baptised when I was 8 years old. Paige - I am an 18 year old girl. I have a big family - 3 siblings, 2 dogs, and a degu, on top of

the rest of my family! I don’t have a lot of spare time at the minute, as I work 4 days a week and am at college 1 day. When I do have spare time, I enjoy writing, art and reading. I believe in a God, and in looking after earth, our fellow humans, ourselves and animals; however, I am not completely on board with Christian beliefs. Gabriel - I’m 11 years old and I have two older sisters and a little brother. My hobbies are swimming, sketching, reading. I go to church with my family.

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How did you get involved in the Sleep Out & why?

Lydia - I got involved in the BCM sleepout through my old church. The pastor asked my older brother if he wanted to do this thing where you sleep in a cardboard box in the freezing cold for the night and raise money for the homeless. As my brother was doing it, I suppose I had to do it and raise more money than him because, anything he can do – I can always do better! And I have been going to the sleepouts ever since. Amelie - The people from my church have gone to the sleepout for the last few years but I have been busy, although I wanted to do it. So this year, I went to experience what it is like and also raise some money for the cause. Paige - I got involved in the sleep out originally 2 years ago. I noticed it pinned to the church board, and so me, my dad and a few others from my dad’s church came with us. I wanted to get involved as I believe that homeless people are suffering so much, and other people have been indoctrinated into the belief that homeless people are drug addicts, should get a job etc. So I wanted to do what little I could to help. Gabriel – My older sisters had been before, it looked interesting and you got to raise money for BCM – I like raising money! This was my second year doing it.

What was it like sleeping out in a cardboard box?

Lydia - It was super exciting sleeping outside with lots of other young people in cardboard boxes. I suppose it was cold, but with lots of hot chocolate, four layers of clothes (and two sleeping bags!), Greg’s tomato soup and trips to get more doughnuts inside I didn’t even notice it! But obviously it would be totally different if it was something I had to do every night by myself. Amelie - The night that we were sleeping out was very cold and you could hear the cars, trains, and lorries go by, which made it extremely difficult to sleep. Also some of the people in the surrounding area were talking and shouting all night. This only gives you a small idea of what homeless people and rough sleepers go through. It was only one night and we were fed and we don’t have any of the issues that they might face on the day-to-day. Paige - It was cold, tiring. and hard, but no one expects it to be easy. On the other hand, it was refreshing to meet so many new people with different interests and goals Gabriel - I was cold and tired. The ground was rough and it was hard to get comfortable. There was a lot of noise because we were in the city. I was hungry but we got a big pizza! There wasn’t a bad smell this year (last year we were above a drain!). I was right next to a road and there weren’t so many people running passed our boxes this year; we made a semi circle of boxes to keep warm.


How has the experience impacted you or your faith?

Lydia - This amazing experience has really made me think how we all unconsciously judge people with no homes. Hearing the stories from a few homeless people about their life with no home or family made me sad but then happy realising that these people are now receiving help and are now part of God’s family – the biggest and most loving family ever which beats any human family! Amelie - Throughout my walk in faith, I have had experience with poverty and homelessness after spending some months in India. This paired with the experience of sleeping out in a cardboard box gives you only a small insight into what other people go through. It strengthens your faith and allows you to see God’s grace but that it needs to be shared with all people, without judging their situations. Paige - It impacted me deeply. I started to think how could I help out more? What can I do to help? It also really helped cement my belief in the fundamental goodness of a person, and how we should all help each other out. I’m still in the planning stage of this, but I am thinking of becoming a social worker, and volunteering in my spare time. I did want to do BCM’s internship, but as I don’t go to a church, I can’t. Gabriel - I go outside a bit more because it’s good to have fresh air and even if it’s cold, homeless people are always outside in the cold. Now I know how it feels for homeless people.

What was the reaction of friends & family?

Lydia - The reactions of family and friends was very mixed with some people thinking you’re crazy and others being really supportive and generously sponsoring BCM. Amelie - My family was supportive and donated. My friends were also supportive, although surprised. Paige - Everyone thought I was nuts! They asked why I would sleep outside, especially in Birmingham. But it also opened up others to the idea of doing it. Gabriel - My friends said it was a good thing to do! My school were really surprised I was doing it and they were waiting to for me to tell them what it was like! It was ‘highlights’ in school assembly! Everyone really encouraged me to do it.

We might not be able to take part in a sleep out but what could we do to help those less fortunate than ourselves? We need to look out for people to help whether it is homeless people, those struggling to buy food or the lonely who could do with someone to talk to. The world is full of people who need help so why not be the answer for them...? We may not be able to solve the whole crisis but we can all help someone! www.birminghamcitymission.org.uk

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Steve’s Story

Steve is just one person who has been helped by the work Birmingham City Mission do with the homeless. This is his story... Taking the plunge What was your childhood like?

I DIDN’T GROW UP WANTING for anything. My parents worked in Africa so a brief part of my childhood was spent there until we returned to Birmingham. They divorced when I was 14. I did reasonably well at school and I played football and golf to a fairly high standard. Then after further education I went on to find a job within the recruitment industry.

So you had a good job?

Yes, most of my twenties was spent working hard and playing hard. I was never a bad person but I often made bad and selfish decisions. Then in 2010 I was offered a job in Australia and whilst this was a wonderful experience, the work hard, play hard lifestyle continued. When I returned from Australia in 2014 and I very quickly entered a downward spiral of depression.

What happened then?

In January 2015 I made the decision to take my

own life. I gave up all my possessions, I gave up my place to live and I purposely lost touch with all my family and friends. Obviously I was unsuccessful in my attempt but I awoke in hospital disappointed that I was still here. It was then that reality hit me - I was now homeless. I felt embarrassed, ashamed and still depressed with no idea what to do next.

So what did you do?

The hospital released me into a homeless hostel which was a completely new experience to me. I found myself living with ex-offenders, people struggling with addiction and others with mental health issues. I very quickly had to adapt to my new surroundings. After 3 months I was given a studio flat close to the city centre and the hostel pointed me towards Birmingham City Mission Resource Centre to obtain a food parcel. I remember asking them if they needed any help volunteering and thankfully they said yes. So I began working with them the following week.


What did that involve?

It involved being out on the van, collecting donations and delivering furniture. This gave me a new sense of purpose and I was surrounded by good people. A year later I went to a convention at a local church, our job for the evening was to help collect the lighting and audio equipment afterwards. However we arrived early so decided to sit at the back and listen to the service. A man called John Blanchard was speaking and everything just clicked into place for me that night. It all made sense and I became a Christian that very evening!

So what happened next?

I was still only a volunteer with BCM so I had to make the tough decision to leave and find permanent work. My chosen field was working within supported accommodation, offering the same practical and emotional support that I received when I needed it most. Then in December 2016 I received a call to say that a position was available with BCM, working with both the Resource Centre and the Care Centre. It was an easy decision to return! Every day here has been a blessing and I can never forget how fortunate I am as a new Christian that I am

constantly surrounded by fellow Christians in my working life.

Can you tell us about something you have witnessed that has had an impact on you?

We have witnessed several baptisms earlier this year from people closely linked with BCM and I realised that was the one thing I hadn’t yet done. The Resource Centre Manager, Chris Fisher, had recently returned to work after suffering a cardiac arrest and I thought it would be wonderful to be baptised by him along with a select few from BCM. When the word spread I quickly realised that it wouldn’t be a select few! It was only in the days leading up to my baptism that I truly began to realise what it meant. It was a public declaration that I am a follower of Jesus and that I wanted to obey what Jesus told us to do in the Bible. As I did that evening, I would like to thank everyone who has helped me in my journey of faith whether through conversations, services, prayer or simply through their actions and it’s an honour to spend every day offering the same in return to others.

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Photo Credits: Walt Disney Studios Motion Pictures UK

Another firm favourite from my kids’ childhood is set to hit the big screens again in Jon Favreau’s ‘The Lion King’. Though most of the story will follow the original story line there are some new characters in this computer generated animation, so there maybe some tweaks! It is said that some of the original songs have been included which I am glad about – I don’t think it would be the same without ‘Circle of Life’, ‘I just can’t wait to be king’, ‘Hakuna Matata’ and ‘Can you feel the love tonight’! If you don’t know the story it is based in the African Savanna where Simba is set to become the future king of the Pridelands, following in his father, Mufasa’s, footsteps. His uncle Scar has other plans, and in an attempt to take the crown for himself, he tricks Simba into thinking he is responsible for Mufasa’s untimely death. With the help of some unusual friends Simba makes it back and takes on Scar and his troops, to reclaim his throne.

What is the truth...?

The whole basis of the story is founded on the fact that Scar manages to convince Simba that he is responsible for his father’s death and not worthy to be king. He lies and manipulates the truth and Simba believes him. It makes a great story but this can sadly be the situation we find ourselves in too... We can allow what other people tell us to become our reality rather than seeing the truth. We find it easier to believe our faults and problems than to see our attributes and strengths. Instead of knowing we are loved by God we can believe that either we are so bad, worthless or unlovable that God couldn’t possibly want us, or that we are fine by ourselves and have no need of God – Neither is true but that is what many are led to believe. Why not have a look at the Bible and see what God has to say about life for yourself rather than believing the often distorted view of others...?

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RELIABLE WITNESS...? Reliable witnesses are people who takes things in and can be trusted to tell the whole truth. They are observant and notice things that might pass others by. They are not so wrapped up in their own stuff that they fail to notice how someone else is feeling or whether something needs doing. I wonder how many of us could be described as a reliable witness or whether we would miss stuff out or not think it was relevant. Are you the sort of person that can be relied on to do or get the right things or does your laid back approach land you in trouble? Why not take the quiz and see what you are like? You witness an accident, do you…..

A) Re-tell what happened in detail? B) Manage to re-tell some of it but miss bits out? C) Not manage to re-tell anything of note, you weren’t paying attention?

A friend asks what happened at a party, do you……

A) Tell them who said what and what everyone was wearing? B) Tell them about most of it but are a bit vague about some things? C) Just say, ‘Nothing much!’?

Your parent asks what you did at school, do you…...

A) Fill them in on everything? B) Give edited hi-lights of what you think they want to hear? C) Say, ‘Nothing...’?

A friend asks if a film is worth seeing, do you…... A) Tell them your honest opinion? B) Say yes or no with a few details but no spoilers? C) Tell them it’s up to them and shrug?

Your sibling asks for a specific present, do you..….

A) Get exactly what they asked for? B) Try your best but you can’t remember what size they said? C) Buy whatever catches your eye when out shopping?


Your teacher asks you to summarise the lesson, do you…… A) Do it with ease? B) Struggle to recall some bits but remember most of it? C) They wouldn’t ask you, they know you weren’t listening?

A friend had to miss an important meeting about a school trip, do you…… A) Take notes and any handouts so you can tell them exactly what was said? B) Tell them the major points and a rough outline of the rest? C) Forget to go yourself?

You are supposed to be emptying the dishwasher, do you…… A) Put everything away in the correct place? B) Get everything out but leave some stuff on the side? C) Just take out what you need and leave the rest?

There is a fight at school and you are asked what happened, do you…… A) Tell the truth and give specific details? B) Try to remember what happened but get a bit confused? C) Just make stuff up?

A classmate has had a new haircut, do you……

A) Notice immediately and compliment them on it? B) Realise something is different but take a while to think what is? C) Not notice at all, they aren’t in your group?

A friend is really down, do you…...

A) Ask loads of questions and try to get to the bottom of it? B) Make sure they know you are concerned and available if they want to talk? C) Down...? Who’s down?

If you answered mostly A – You can be relied on to know what is

happening and what you should be doing. You are always attentive and can remember stuff with ease. You are concerned about other people and don’t just live in your own world. When you are asked to do something you give it your best shot and are not afraid of hard work.

If you answered mostly B – You are fairly reliable but sometimes other

things get in the way. You don’t deliberately forget stuff but you can get distracted by ‘more important’ ideas. If we are honest I suspect most of us fit this category!

If you answered mostly C – You could be described as an unreliable witness!

You are so wrapped up in your own stuff that you hardly ever notice what is going on around you. The house could be on fire and you would be oblivious!

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Witness Impact Statement A witness impact statement is about the effect a crime has had on a witness. This could be the emotional or physical effects. It is used in a court of law to show the severity of the crime and the impact it has had. So the judge takes into consideration the impact as well as the crime itself when sentencing. Ellie is a 6th form student interested in media and fashion – we asked her to tell us how she thinks what we wear is impacted by what we witness other people wearing and their opinions. This is what she had to say:

We all care about what other people say and think. And that’s definitely the case with our clothes. Whether your mum likes your new top, your friends say it looks cool, or your sister says she would borrow it, we care. But it’s not just people that you know who judge your appearance. As sad as it is to say, we are being judged all the time by everybody. Or at least it feels like we are. It’s easy to say, ‘just think of the good comments and experiences’, but in reality, it’s not so easy. What people say does affect how we feel about ourselves as well as what we wear.

When walking through town, a person can simply snigger in our direction making us reconsider our opinion of our jacket. Or on non school uniform day, a teacher might say something like ‘aren’t you cold?’ making us question our whole outfit. Maybe our nan makes a typical ‘do you need new jeans, those have got holes in’ joke, but it makes us uncomfortable and we don’t want to wear them again in front of her. All small comments and actions but they do affect our opinion of ourselves and our clothing.


But it might just be a coincidence. We may have passed that person on the street just as their friend told them the ending to a funny story. On non school uniform day, a fire bell might have been planned and the teacher was just preparing us. And nan probably really thinks she’s funny, no harm intended. It’s easy to take everything to heart because insecurity is a part of human nature, so it is not only peoples actions that affect what we wear, but also our perceptions of these actions. So remember this - we are not only the person being judged, but we are also the ones doing the judging, intentionally or not. We need to be careful what we say and do in terms of another persons appearance because opinions can be toxic. The golden rule applies here ‘treat others as you wish to be treated’. As far as possible, we should aim to be inclusive and accepting of other people along with their fashion choices. Clothing is a form of expression. What a person wears can say a lot about that person. But not always. Just because somebody wears sports leggings, it doesn’t make them an aspiring athlete. If somebody wears black, it doesn’t make them secretive and shy. When somebody wears a shirt, they are not guaranteed to be an intellect. Fashion is personal. Not all athletes wear the same clothing, neither do shy people or clever people. Clothing can say a lot about a person, but it does not tell us the crucial elements of a persons identity. It is so important to understand that personality is of a

much higher rank than fashion sense. As cliché as it might sound, it is what’s on the inside that matters. Social media makes it so easy to see what people are wearing. Fashion inspiration could always be found by simply seeing people, but since new trends such as #OOTD (outfit of the day) have flooded our screens, it has become even easier to not only see it, but to find and buy it. What we see on Instagram affects what we wear. When scrolling through our feed with a friend, they might say ‘I hate that colour’ or ‘those shoes look trampy’ and their words may stop us from wearing our top in a similar colour, or we may feel the need to return the shoes that we just ordered. We all need to be aware of what we say and do. And the key to all of this is comfort and confidence. We should wear what we feel comfortable and confident in. We must learn to take what people say ‘with a pinch of salt’ and understand that it is more important to value our own comfort and confidence than another’s opinion. What people say can and does affect what we wear, but it is our choice to let this happen. Express yourself through clothing and don’t hinder other’s expression. Most importantly, we need to be ourselves and not let anything other than our own opinion change that. Thanks to Ellie Scyner!

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‘Breakthrough’

is a film about the real life story of The Smiths from St Louis, Missouri, and is based on the book by Joyce Smith called ‘The Impossible’. Joyce and Brian have an adopted son called John but in January 2015 it looked like their family would be destroyed. John fell through the ice of a frozen lake and had no pulse for 45 minutes. The medics called the parents so they could say goodbye before calling the time of death, having performed CPR for nearly 30 minutes. But their faith in a miracle working God wasn’t going to derailed by this seemingly impossible situation. They kept praying and asking God for a miracle and that is what they got – John’s pulse returned! Doctors warned that they certainly weren’t ‘out of the woods’ yet and that there was a huge chance that John would be left in a vegetative state. Thankfully God had other ideas and John was out of hospital within 3 weeks and discharged with a clean bill of health after 6 weeks. I have never seen a miracle on this scale but I have certainly seen God answer my prayers and there are plenty of ‘miracle’ answers if you look for them. Praying isn’t always the ‘quick fix’ answer we are looking for and God doesn’t always answer as we expect but why not try praying and asking God to work in your life and see what he does...? You might just

Witness a Miracle!


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JAM Issue 50 - Full Mag Theme : WITNESS Printed : May '19

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